1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:01,960 Take your Bibles tonight, if you will, and turning them to 2 00:00:01,960 --> 00:00:04,760 Ephesians chapter 6. Ephesians chapter 6. 3 00:00:06,440 --> 00:00:10,240 It's been a little while since we have done one of the 4 00:00:10,240 --> 00:00:11,680 discovering the stories of the Bible. 5 00:00:11,680 --> 00:00:14,280 We just had so many other things that have that have come up and 6 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:17,240 so many different messages that I've preached and I'm not doing 7 00:00:17,240 --> 00:00:19,440 it tonight either. I will get back to it very soon 8 00:00:19,440 --> 00:00:21,560 though. I'm going to give you a message 9 00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:26,560 tonight on the family and we're going to begin here in Ephesians 10 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:28,360 chapter 6. I think this is probably going 11 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:33,480 to go till next week as well. But there's there's so many 12 00:00:33,480 --> 00:00:36,040 things and it's it's a tremendous, tremendous thing, I 13 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:37,520 believe to have young people in our church. 14 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:41,480 And I'm so thankful for that. And you know, I say it so often 15 00:00:41,480 --> 00:00:43,480 they are the next generation. And I think a lot of the 16 00:00:43,480 --> 00:00:45,560 messages that we preach out to be on the family. 17 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:49,440 And I know that some of you are, you know, you have kids that are 18 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:52,240 grown and gone and you have grandkids that are grown and 19 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:54,400 gone and you have great grandkids that are grown and 20 00:00:54,400 --> 00:00:55,480 gone. I'm just kidding. 21 00:00:55,480 --> 00:00:57,360 You don't have that old. Nobody's in here that old, but 22 00:00:57,680 --> 00:01:00,400 you have your kids are gone. And, and, you know, sometimes 23 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:03,080 all this is not for us, you know, but I think all of these 24 00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:07,080 things are things that we can learn from because not only is 25 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:09,720 it for the parents who are doing it and, and raising their 26 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:13,240 children now, but you are an example to the parents who are 27 00:01:13,240 --> 00:01:16,040 raising their kids and you're an example to the kids themselves. 28 00:01:16,640 --> 00:01:20,160 And I mean, you can not only that, but you can be, you can be 29 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:22,560 a help to your grandkids on top of it. 30 00:01:22,560 --> 00:01:25,640 You know, sometimes you get opportunities here and there to 31 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:27,800 spend some time with them, just you and them. 32 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:30,200 And man, they look up to you. You're their grandparents. 33 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:34,200 You know, you can do no wrong and you don't have to spank them 34 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:36,600 and send them back. You know, you can just be so 35 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:38,200 nice. And but this is a great 36 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:40,160 opportunity for you to kind of get some of these things in 37 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:43,480 there and, and you know, have a heart to heart talk, if you 38 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:45,920 will, with them about some of these things. 39 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:48,000 That'll just be a big help to them as well. 40 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:50,840 So, but not only that, these are all things that we can improve 41 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:54,640 on in our own lives and not only so that we can be an example, 42 00:01:54,640 --> 00:01:56,200 but so that we can be pleasing to the Lord. 43 00:01:56,600 --> 00:01:59,080 And all of these things are things that I believe will help 44 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:01,920 us. So I appreciate you being here 45 00:02:02,280 --> 00:02:04,440 and I hope this will be a help to you tonight. 46 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:07,120 But I'll tell you this. Well, let's just read Ephesians 47 00:02:07,120 --> 00:02:08,600 chapter 6. I'm just going to read the first 48 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:11,600 2 verses there tonight. This is for the parents, but 49 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:15,280 this is also for the children's, for both, maybe directed more at 50 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:19,160 the parents than the kids, but it's definitely, definitely for 51 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:21,880 the young people as well. Children, obey your parents and 52 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:25,200 the Lord for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, 53 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:28,600 which is the first commandment with promise. 54 00:02:28,920 --> 00:02:32,480 Does it ever seem to you that respect has evaporated from our 55 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:35,640 society? I don't think that's that's not 56 00:02:35,640 --> 00:02:39,200 even really a question anymore where whether or not there's 57 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:42,680 respect, narcissism, sarcasm, disregard for authority. 58 00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:45,080 I mean, it pervades our entire society. 59 00:02:45,520 --> 00:02:48,280 And one of the sure signs I read this. 60 00:02:48,280 --> 00:02:51,080 I mean, the the bad thing is there's a lot of stories to pick 61 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:53,040 from. If you just go back into the 62 00:02:53,040 --> 00:02:56,160 news this week or the last couple weeks, you'll find 345 63 00:02:56,160 --> 00:03:01,440 stories just like this. But I heard about this 124 year 64 00:03:01,440 --> 00:03:08,480 old was at Costco and they had a sample of some crackers with 65 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:11,440 some Nutella on it. And he went over there and 66 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:14,320 started eating all of the samples, just one rat after the 67 00:03:14,320 --> 00:03:16,360 other. A 78 year old guy walked up and 68 00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:17,960 was getting ready to grab the last one. 69 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:21,440 And this guy went to grab it in front of him and the old man 70 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:23,440 said, hey, leave me, leave me at least one. 71 00:03:23,440 --> 00:03:26,240 You ate all the other samples. And this 24 hour guy turned 72 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:30,640 around and punched the 78 year old man in the face, knocked him 73 00:03:30,640 --> 00:03:31,760 out. He had to be taken to the 74 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:35,720 hospital, bleeding and everything else over a Costco 75 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:38,120 sample. You know, it used to be that a 76 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:41,440 24 year old number one wouldn't be the one gobbling up all the 77 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:43,680 samples in Costco, would be the five year olds that are doing 78 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:47,400 that, right? But it used to be that you had 79 00:03:47,400 --> 00:03:51,280 respect for your elders. You're 78, You go in front of 80 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:53,560 me, right? Let me help you with that. 81 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:56,800 Even if you're capable, you've you've earned it because of your 82 00:03:56,800 --> 00:03:59,400 age right here, let me give you a sample. 83 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:02,240 Take this, you know, it's the it's the exact opposite of that. 84 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:05,080 And you know, during the late 60s and the 70s and I wasn't 85 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:06,760 alive then, but I've read a lot about it. 86 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:10,160 The rebellion against society really was at its peak. 87 00:04:10,520 --> 00:04:13,120 And you know this, this rebellion against not just 88 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:16,160 society, but against authority. You know, the hippie movement 89 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:18,720 that came about during that whole time, the anti 90 00:04:18,720 --> 00:04:20,480 establishment, all of those things. 91 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:24,120 It isn't quite today what it was decades ago, but it's still 92 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:26,080 alive and well in different forms. 93 00:04:26,520 --> 00:04:30,200 And honestly, I mean you, what do you expect to happen? 94 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:34,000 When the 60s and 70s hippie generation raised the generation 95 00:04:34,000 --> 00:04:36,880 that grew up in the 90s and the 2000s and now they're raising 96 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:39,520 another generation, What did you expect was going to happen? 97 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:42,400 Other than what's happening, there is no respect left in our 98 00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:46,880 society. And where is it eroding? 99 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:49,320 What's eroding it? I guess that'd be the question 100 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:51,600 to ask. The loss of respect, though, 101 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:56,280 begins in the home. It shows itself in society, but 102 00:04:56,280 --> 00:04:59,040 it begins in the home and many times by parents who don't even 103 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:02,640 know or don't even realize, maybe I should say, that they 104 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:09,000 are contributing to the loss of respect in our society. 105 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:12,800 This was a study that was done in 1947, a publication that was 106 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:16,000 done by a Harvard society professor by the name of Carl 107 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:18,200 Zimmerman. And he published this this this 108 00:05:18,200 --> 00:05:20,680 study in 1947. So this tells you how far it 109 00:05:20,680 --> 00:05:23,200 goes back. But he traced the historical 110 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:25,960 disintegration of cultures to the disintegration of the 111 00:05:25,960 --> 00:05:28,360 family. And I don't know exactly how he 112 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:30,040 did all of his research and everything else. 113 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:33,720 But among the list of the indicators, indicators for the 114 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:38,040 deterioration, he said fewer children and less respect for 115 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:40,640 parents and parenthood. That's where it started. 116 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:43,840 That was back in 1947. And so it is today. 117 00:05:44,160 --> 00:05:47,720 Adults believe that that that having children is a waste and 118 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:51,280 that parenting is a burden. That's what gave rise and made 119 00:05:51,280 --> 00:05:55,760 it made abortion so such a great option for so many people. 120 00:05:56,120 --> 00:06:02,080 And now you have these women who are not just, you know, standing 121 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:06,000 up for abortion, but championing it and and parading around, 122 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:08,840 talking about how proud they are that they've had an abortion. 123 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:12,760 That is a disintegration of respect in society, not just for 124 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:16,960 other people, not just for parents, for themselves, for for 125 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:20,440 life, for everything. And parenthood today is even 126 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:22,600 viewed with less respect. You know, most of these 127 00:06:22,840 --> 00:06:25,320 Hollywood actors and things like that, they go through their 128 00:06:25,320 --> 00:06:29,160 entire careers. They're 455055 years old before 129 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:32,720 they finally decide to settle down and have kids, right? 130 00:06:32,840 --> 00:06:37,560 Because I've got a career that I'm trying to, to, you know, 131 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:41,320 establish and I've got a, a job that I'm trying to do and I just 132 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:43,800 don't have time or place for children. 133 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:45,960 Not every one of them is like that, but that's the, that's 134 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:48,120 the, that's the thinking with many of them. 135 00:06:49,080 --> 00:06:52,240 Children often have less respect for their parents as well. 136 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:56,400 And you know, the, the more sarcastic a child is to a 137 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:59,160 parent, the funnier it is. And I'll be honest with you, a 138 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:01,880 lot of it started with Hollywood because they started producing 139 00:07:01,880 --> 00:07:04,760 movies and TV shows and all of these other things that made the 140 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:07,720 dad look like the Dunts and made the mom look like she didn't 141 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:10,160 know what she was talking about and made the kids the heroes of 142 00:07:10,160 --> 00:07:12,120 all these movies. You know, the parents get 143 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:15,080 themselves into a difficult situation and it's the kids that 144 00:07:15,080 --> 00:07:17,240 have to get them out of that difficult situation because the 145 00:07:17,240 --> 00:07:19,960 parents are too dumb to know what the kids already know, 146 00:07:20,720 --> 00:07:23,680 right? It's not that way in real life, 147 00:07:23,840 --> 00:07:25,400 but that's what we've taught our children. 148 00:07:25,720 --> 00:07:28,000 That's what and and listen, that's what we've taught our 149 00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:30,880 parents. The parents have that mindset 150 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:33,680 now and so they don't demand respect. 151 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:36,480 They don't, they don't, they don't earn that respect. 152 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:40,920 And so everything just erodes. How do we turn that trend 153 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:43,520 around? How do we teach our children the 154 00:07:43,520 --> 00:07:47,120 fundamental values of respect? Well, the Bible word that's used 155 00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:49,800 most commonly for respect is honor. 156 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:52,400 We see that word all over the place in the Bible. 157 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:53,960 In fact, I've got a lot of different verses. 158 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:55,800 Turn to as many of these as you can with me. 159 00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:59,360 But wonder is a thread that runs throughout the Scripture and 160 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:01,680 it's commanded in society. It's commanded in the church, 161 00:08:01,680 --> 00:08:04,320 it's commanded in the home. So here's a here's a bunch of 162 00:08:04,320 --> 00:08:06,160 examples. Number one, turn over to Romans 163 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:09,400 13. I'll give you just a few seconds 164 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:10,840 to get there and then I'm going to read it. 165 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:13,080 If you can get there, maybe just write it down. 166 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:15,080 You can go back and look at these a little bit later if it's 167 00:08:15,080 --> 00:08:17,320 easier. But citizens are are are to 168 00:08:17,360 --> 00:08:20,120 honor their government. Now that's a, that's a place 169 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:22,320 where a lot of those things have broken down, isn't it? 170 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:27,400 Romans 13 verse #7 render therefore to all their dues, 171 00:08:27,520 --> 00:08:31,360 tribute to whom tribute is due custom to whom custom, fear to 172 00:08:31,360 --> 00:08:35,200 whom fear, honor to whom honor. And again, I'm not going to, I'm 173 00:08:35,200 --> 00:08:37,039 not going to take the time to explain every one of these 174 00:08:37,039 --> 00:08:39,320 points because we'd be here all night and this would be the end 175 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:41,799 of it. But you know, honestly, it's 176 00:08:41,799 --> 00:08:45,920 exactly what we see in our society today. 177 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:48,880 Listen, I there's a lot of politicians that I don't agree 178 00:08:48,880 --> 00:08:52,280 with, right? I was, I did not agree with Joe 179 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:55,400 Biden's policies, probably 99.9% of them. 180 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:58,800 But if I met Joe Biden in a parking lot, I wouldn't punch 181 00:08:58,800 --> 00:09:00,760 him in the face and knock him out. 182 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:04,480 I would treat him with the respect that is due the 183 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:07,160 President of the United States because of that position. 184 00:09:07,840 --> 00:09:09,480 Most people wouldn't do that, right? 185 00:09:09,640 --> 00:09:12,400 Give the opportunity and they'd shoot Donald Trump in the face 186 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:15,040 if they could do it right? Because there's no respect. 187 00:09:15,040 --> 00:09:16,240 There's no respect for the office. 188 00:09:16,240 --> 00:09:19,600 There's no respect for those that are in, in our government. 189 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:22,560 And the Bible commands it. And, and Romans 13 is a whole 190 00:09:22,560 --> 00:09:25,160 chapter about that. It's just one verse that, that, 191 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:28,360 that, that talks about that. But #2 Christian employees are 192 00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:31,560 to honor their employers. First Timothy chapter 6. 193 00:09:33,240 --> 00:09:37,560 First Timothy chapter 6. We have that obligation. 194 00:09:37,560 --> 00:09:42,320 We have that duty, right? You look at our society today, 195 00:09:43,560 --> 00:09:46,280 the employees always are demanding this and demanding 196 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:48,400 that, and you don't pay me enough and you don't give me 197 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:49,520 that. You were the one that agreed to 198 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:53,080 work for that, right? Give an honest day's wage. 199 00:09:53,320 --> 00:09:55,840 Want to sue the employer because they're trying to make more 200 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:58,080 money for nothing. First Timothy chapter 6 and 201 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:00,280 verse one. Let as many servants as are 202 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:03,440 under the yoke count their own masters worthy of all honor, 203 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:07,880 that the name of God and his doctrine be not blasphemed. 204 00:10:07,960 --> 00:10:10,880 That's pretty strong when you think about it, right? 205 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:15,480 You, you give it to your master so that you don't dishonor the 206 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:17,680 name of God, blasphemy, the name of God. 207 00:10:17,680 --> 00:10:20,440 That's that's pretty strong. Pretty strong language there. 208 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:24,720 First Timothy chapter 5, churches, that's number three 209 00:10:24,720 --> 00:10:27,520 are to honor their leaders. First Timothy chapter 5 and 210 00:10:27,520 --> 00:10:30,680 verse #17 let the elders that rule well be counted worthy of 211 00:10:30,680 --> 00:10:35,160 double honor, especially they who labor in the word and 212 00:10:35,160 --> 00:10:38,680 doctrine #4 church members are to honor one another. 213 00:10:38,680 --> 00:10:43,000 Let's go to Romans chapter 12, Romans chapter 12. 214 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:47,400 And these are just single verses, but there's many, many 215 00:10:47,400 --> 00:10:50,280 verses on each one of these things that that that give us 216 00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:54,160 these ideas and these principles and these commands because 217 00:10:54,160 --> 00:10:56,240 that's what they are. Romans chapter 12 and verse 10 218 00:10:56,440 --> 00:11:01,160 be kindly affectioned 1 to another with brotherly love in 219 00:11:01,240 --> 00:11:05,600 honor, preferring one another. It's that word again. 220 00:11:05,600 --> 00:11:07,760 And every one of these has that word honor in it. 221 00:11:07,760 --> 00:11:12,360 But it's it's the idea of respect with respect toward one 222 00:11:12,360 --> 00:11:14,440 another. How about first Timothy chapter 223 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:16,880 5? Turn back over there. 224 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:18,560 I know we were just there. I should have kept your finger 225 00:11:18,560 --> 00:11:20,080 there. But first Timothy chapter 5, 226 00:11:21,600 --> 00:11:24,080 churches are to honor their widows. 227 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:31,240 First Timothy chapter 5 and verse #3 honor or respect widows 228 00:11:31,240 --> 00:11:35,280 that are widows indeed. First Peter chapter 3. 229 00:11:36,760 --> 00:11:42,200 First Peter chapter 3 verse #7 husbands are to honor their 230 00:11:42,200 --> 00:11:44,960 wives. Likewise he husbands dwell with 231 00:11:44,960 --> 00:11:46,480 them. The wives according to 232 00:11:46,480 --> 00:11:50,960 knowledge, giving honor unto the wife as unto the weaker vessel 233 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:53,920 and as being heirs together of the grace of life that your 234 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:58,160 prayers be not hindered. We talked about prayer this 235 00:11:58,160 --> 00:12:00,520 morning, sin in our lives, right? 236 00:12:00,760 --> 00:12:05,120 The idea of not honoring your wife hindering your prayers. 237 00:12:05,120 --> 00:12:08,600 That's a pretty serious thing about Ephesians chapter 5. 238 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:13,680 Ephesians chapter 5 said that husbands are to honor their 239 00:12:13,680 --> 00:12:16,440 wives, wives are to honor their husbands. 240 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:21,080 Ephesians chapter 5 and verse #33 Nevertheless, let everyone 241 00:12:21,080 --> 00:12:24,720 of you in particular so love his wife, even as himself and the 242 00:12:24,720 --> 00:12:28,320 wife see that she reverence her husband. 243 00:12:29,080 --> 00:12:32,360 Keep your finger there in Ephesians chapter 5, and then go 244 00:12:32,360 --> 00:12:36,040 to Hebrews chapter 13. I could do him out of order, but 245 00:12:36,040 --> 00:12:37,280 then it would be out of order up here. 246 00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:42,240 Hebrews chapter 13 husbands and wives are to honor their marital 247 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:44,280 vows. Hebrews chapter 13 and verse #4 248 00:12:44,520 --> 00:12:47,480 marriage is honorable and all and the bed undefiled, but whore 249 00:12:47,480 --> 00:12:50,040 monger as an adulterer is God will judge. 250 00:12:50,480 --> 00:12:53,320 Marriage is honorable. You are there in Ephesians 251 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:56,760 chapter 6 and this is this is kind of the culmination of all 252 00:12:56,760 --> 00:13:00,240 of those things. Ephesians chapter 6 Children are 253 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:05,840 to honor their parents under thy father and mother verse #2 which 254 00:13:05,840 --> 00:13:10,640 is the first commandment with promise in every relationship, 255 00:13:10,640 --> 00:13:14,720 in every area of life, respect and honor are essential. 256 00:13:14,960 --> 00:13:20,680 But how do we, in a society that is increasingly praising 257 00:13:20,680 --> 00:13:24,680 disrespect, teach our children to value and demonstrate 258 00:13:24,680 --> 00:13:28,800 respect? It begins in the home, begins in 259 00:13:28,800 --> 00:13:32,040 the home and I'll tell you it's moved into our society and every 260 00:13:32,040 --> 00:13:33,280 aspect. And I don't have to tell you 261 00:13:33,280 --> 00:13:34,680 that because you see it everywhere. 262 00:13:34,680 --> 00:13:39,400 But you know, the kid that has the great comeback against the 263 00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:43,320 teacher, you know, everybody's like, you know, praising this 264 00:13:43,320 --> 00:13:46,240 kid for being so witty. It wouldn't, you would never 265 00:13:46,240 --> 00:13:50,120 have seen that 30-40, fifty years ago, that kid would have 266 00:13:50,120 --> 00:13:51,800 been slapped into his place so fast. 267 00:13:51,800 --> 00:13:53,880 He wouldn't have known what hit him, right? 268 00:13:53,960 --> 00:13:56,360 You wouldn't even have done it. Same thing with my parents. 269 00:13:56,360 --> 00:13:58,840 Like when I was growing up, I wouldn't even if I thought about 270 00:13:58,840 --> 00:14:01,360 it and it was a great comeback, I never would have said it to my 271 00:14:01,360 --> 00:14:04,240 dad because I wouldn't have been able to walk for a week. 272 00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:07,440 And I know it and I would, I would have deserved it if that 273 00:14:07,440 --> 00:14:09,960 was the case, right? We were taught respect. 274 00:14:10,280 --> 00:14:13,360 How do we teach that same respect to our children? 275 00:14:13,400 --> 00:14:15,320 Well, there's a few things here that I want to give you. 276 00:14:15,760 --> 00:14:18,720 And so in this lesson tonight, probably moving into next week 277 00:14:18,720 --> 00:14:22,760 as well, what what are God's instructions for raising up a 278 00:14:22,760 --> 00:14:25,200 generation that shows honor and respect? 279 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:29,160 Let's pray we'll jump into this for a little bit tonight. 280 00:14:29,160 --> 00:14:31,280 Father, again, we thank you so much for your goodness to us. 281 00:14:31,280 --> 00:14:35,680 So thank you for the the heritage that you gave me and 282 00:14:35,680 --> 00:14:38,480 for the the upbringing that many of us in this church had. 283 00:14:38,480 --> 00:14:41,040 I thank you for that God, I pray that you help that us to be able 284 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:43,320 to pass that on to the next generation that needs that 285 00:14:43,320 --> 00:14:46,800 respect that is required and that is commanded of us in God's 286 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:48,680 word. And God, may our young people 287 00:14:48,680 --> 00:14:51,080 grow up with the respect not only for their parents, but also 288 00:14:51,080 --> 00:14:54,080 for you, for your will, for the things of God, and that they 289 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:56,520 have a great desire to follow them because of it. 290 00:14:56,840 --> 00:14:59,440 And we'll thank you for what you do in Jesus name, Amen. 291 00:14:59,760 --> 00:15:03,160 First thing I want you to see is this very simply, expect 292 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:05,760 respect. Expect respect. 293 00:15:08,160 --> 00:15:10,120 You think about the instructions that were given here in 294 00:15:10,120 --> 00:15:12,440 Ephesians chapter 6. Children, obey your parents and 295 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:14,520 the Lord honor thy father and thy mother. 296 00:15:14,880 --> 00:15:18,360 Parents clearly have the obligation to expect obedience 297 00:15:18,400 --> 00:15:20,480 and respect from their children, right? 298 00:15:20,480 --> 00:15:22,560 And so the first thing that I want to give you underneath this 299 00:15:22,560 --> 00:15:25,280 is that parents should expect respect. 300 00:15:25,480 --> 00:15:27,800 And I know it's kind of the same, the same point, but I've 301 00:15:27,800 --> 00:15:30,200 got a second point that I'm going to talk to you about that 302 00:15:30,200 --> 00:15:33,560 kind of not contrast, but goes along with that think splitting 303 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:36,280 it up here is a is a help. Turn over to Joshua chapter 24. 304 00:15:37,520 --> 00:15:41,640 Godly parents are servant leaders in the home, meaning 305 00:15:41,640 --> 00:15:43,160 this. You don't and, and, and we see 306 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:45,480 this later on in verse #4 of Ephesians chapter 6. 307 00:15:45,480 --> 00:15:47,480 You fathers provoke not your children to wrath. 308 00:15:47,640 --> 00:15:49,920 Bring them up in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord. 309 00:15:50,120 --> 00:15:54,200 That's a servant leader. Parents don't Lord over your 310 00:15:54,200 --> 00:15:58,560 children as a demanding boss or this authoritarian dictator, but 311 00:15:58,560 --> 00:16:03,400 you lovingly serve them in saying that one of the ways that 312 00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:06,960 you best serve your children is by insisting on their obedience 313 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:10,040 and their respect. I'm not saying that that you 314 00:16:10,040 --> 00:16:12,520 shouldn't say anything to your children about correcting them 315 00:16:12,520 --> 00:16:15,240 because you're a servant and you're a servant should be a 316 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:17,520 leader, right? Yes, you should be a servant 317 00:16:17,520 --> 00:16:19,440 leader. But at the same time, the one of 318 00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:22,000 the best ways that you can serve your kids is teaching them that 319 00:16:22,000 --> 00:16:24,720 respect and that honor. Parents who relate to their 320 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:28,240 children as if their peers ultimately do their kids a great 321 00:16:28,240 --> 00:16:31,080 disservice. I see it happen so often that, 322 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:33,680 that that parents are buddies with their children. 323 00:16:34,200 --> 00:16:36,640 And I'll see, you know, from time to time a little Facebook 324 00:16:36,640 --> 00:16:38,560 post or something like that. Here's a dad. 325 00:16:38,560 --> 00:16:40,080 He's got his little 7 year old boy. 326 00:16:40,080 --> 00:16:43,320 This, this is my best buddy. No, you're not buddies. 327 00:16:43,720 --> 00:16:45,520 You're the dad. He's the child. 328 00:16:45,560 --> 00:16:48,800 That's the relationship. Be buddies when he gets to be 21 329 00:16:48,800 --> 00:16:51,400 years old, right? You can be buddies after you've 330 00:16:51,400 --> 00:16:54,480 raised him to be a respectful young man, after you've raised 331 00:16:54,480 --> 00:16:56,840 him to be a godly young man, then you can be buddies. 332 00:16:57,000 --> 00:16:58,640 But he doesn't need a buddy right now. 333 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:00,480 He needs a parent. He needs a dad. 334 00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:02,520 He needs somebody to tell him when he's wrong. 335 00:17:03,440 --> 00:17:05,520 And we're not. We do our kids such a huge 336 00:17:05,520 --> 00:17:08,119 disservice when when you know it. 337 00:17:08,119 --> 00:17:11,240 It's because again, and I don't, I don't mean to keep harping on 338 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:12,960 Hollywood, but that's what Hollywood has done. 339 00:17:13,079 --> 00:17:17,560 You know, this, this wonderful little story about how a father 340 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:20,760 and a son got along so well and they did this and they did that. 341 00:17:20,760 --> 00:17:22,599 And you should get along well with your children. 342 00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:25,960 But at the same time, your kids should know that you demand 343 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:30,720 respect just by the very fact that you're the father and 344 00:17:30,720 --> 00:17:32,760 you're not going to get that respect if you're the buddy and 345 00:17:32,760 --> 00:17:34,000 you're like, hey, what's up dude? 346 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:36,920 You know, I mean, fist bumping and all of those kind of things 347 00:17:36,920 --> 00:17:39,480 like you're on the same, you know, softball team together. 348 00:17:40,120 --> 00:17:42,160 You can do that with your buddies on the softball team. 349 00:17:42,160 --> 00:17:45,440 Your kids need a father. They need a they need somebody 350 00:17:45,440 --> 00:17:48,760 to be the dad and to tell them where they're wrong. 351 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:53,520 That word, father and fathers, is used over 1500 times in the 352 00:17:53,520 --> 00:17:56,720 Bible. Do you think that God has an 353 00:17:56,760 --> 00:17:58,920 importance that He's placed on that? 354 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:02,520 God instituted authority in the home, and He set it up for 355 00:18:02,520 --> 00:18:04,800 parents, not children, to leave the home. 356 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:08,920 And he called upon parents, particularly the father where 357 00:18:08,920 --> 00:18:12,920 one is present, to provide a leadership model that expects 358 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:15,560 respect. One of the strongest examples of 359 00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:18,360 strong leadership in the Old Testament is Joshua. 360 00:18:18,360 --> 00:18:21,320 He led the children of Israel into the promised land through a 361 00:18:21,320 --> 00:18:25,160 series of of military conquests. But Joshua's leadership wasn't 362 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:29,520 just national leadership. He led in his own home as well. 363 00:18:30,120 --> 00:18:32,320 And I'll tell you what happens many times the people who are 364 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:36,080 the greatest leaders of men in their field are the worst 365 00:18:36,080 --> 00:18:39,200 leaders at home. And it cannot be that way if you 366 00:18:39,200 --> 00:18:42,480 expect your children to grow up and live for the Lord, if you 367 00:18:42,480 --> 00:18:44,560 expect your children to grow up and have respect. 368 00:18:44,560 --> 00:18:49,520 Joshua chapter 24 and verse #15 And if it seem evil unto you to 369 00:18:49,520 --> 00:18:52,600 serve the Lord, choose you this day whom you will serve, whether 370 00:18:52,600 --> 00:18:54,760 the gods which your father served that were on the other 371 00:18:54,760 --> 00:18:57,440 side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land 372 00:18:57,440 --> 00:19:01,040 do you dwell? But As for me and my house, we 373 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:05,600 will serve the Lord. Providing that leadership in the 374 00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:08,440 home not only provides the direction that your children 375 00:19:08,440 --> 00:19:12,120 need, but it also helps them develop a sense of respect for 376 00:19:12,120 --> 00:19:15,440 authority. In fact, children who learn this 377 00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:19,200 in the home are light years ahead of their peers, the ones 378 00:19:19,200 --> 00:19:21,240 who are there around all the time when it comes to the 379 00:19:21,240 --> 00:19:23,200 authority figures throughout their lives. 380 00:19:23,360 --> 00:19:25,480 You learn respect in the home. You're going to have respect 381 00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:29,240 everywhere else. You learn to respect your father 382 00:19:29,240 --> 00:19:30,920 and your mother. You're going to have respect for 383 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:32,920 your pastor. You're going to have respect for 384 00:19:32,920 --> 00:19:34,800 your teacher. You're going to have respect for 385 00:19:34,800 --> 00:19:37,120 your boss, and you're going to treat them with respect because 386 00:19:37,120 --> 00:19:41,800 it was demanded of you at home. So rare that somebody knows how 387 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:44,240 to respect their parents and then goes out and disrespects 388 00:19:44,240 --> 00:19:47,360 everybody else because it starts in the home. 389 00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:51,880 Look again back there in Ephesians chapter 6, I'll be 390 00:19:51,880 --> 00:19:54,080 honest with you. Even before a child is old 391 00:19:54,080 --> 00:19:57,240 enough to understand the meaning of respect, the meaning of 392 00:19:57,240 --> 00:20:01,000 honor, the meaning of obedience, you're responsible to set that 393 00:20:01,000 --> 00:20:05,320 tone, set that tenor, if you will, of respect in your home by 394 00:20:05,320 --> 00:20:09,440 providing a leadership that insists on respect. 395 00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:13,360 Your kids are learning from before they even know what 396 00:20:13,360 --> 00:20:17,200 they're what they're doing. And I'll tell you this. 397 00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:23,600 If you wait until your kids are 23456 years old to start 398 00:20:23,600 --> 00:20:27,440 training them in this area or any other area, you are way 399 00:20:27,440 --> 00:20:32,720 behind where they need to be. Here's what we did in our home. 400 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:34,520 And I'm not saying that my kids are perfect. 401 00:20:35,120 --> 00:20:38,480 They're not. But by the time they were five, 402 00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:41,600 6-7 years old, they obeyed and they didn't even know why. 403 00:20:43,000 --> 00:20:45,480 But I'll tell you, it's exact goes back to this whole idea of, 404 00:20:45,480 --> 00:20:48,920 well, if I spank him, then he's not going to like me. 405 00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:53,280 And if he doesn't like me, then he's not going to want to sit on 406 00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:56,960 my lap all the time when I want to cuddle with him and all of 407 00:20:56,960 --> 00:20:59,920 those other things. And then I'm not going to have 408 00:20:59,920 --> 00:21:03,640 that, you know, Instagram lifestyle that everybody wants 409 00:21:03,640 --> 00:21:05,600 to see. And I'm not going to be the 410 00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:09,720 model parent to everybody. And what ends up happening is 411 00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:14,320 you're raising a little demon, and then by the time he's 678 412 00:21:14,320 --> 00:21:15,880 years old, you're going to try to fix it. 413 00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:17,240 It's going to be too late to fix. 414 00:21:18,800 --> 00:21:22,760 But if you do the hard jobs, the hard part, when they're 2345 415 00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:25,520 years old and you spank them when you say no and they don't 416 00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:29,520 obey you, you know what a kid does when they're three years 417 00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:32,680 old and you spank them 10 minutes later, they're crawling 418 00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:36,040 up in your lap anyway, right? Because they want you to be 419 00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:38,160 pleased with them. They want to do things. 420 00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:40,560 They just have to know what those boundaries are. 421 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:44,600 And if you teach them the boundaries, they're happy within 422 00:21:44,600 --> 00:21:47,840 those boundaries. And then they get to be 567 423 00:21:47,840 --> 00:21:49,320 years old. You tell them to do something, 424 00:21:49,320 --> 00:21:51,120 they do it, and they don't even know why they're doing it 425 00:21:51,120 --> 00:21:53,640 because they don't remember what happened at 2-3 and four years 426 00:21:53,640 --> 00:21:56,960 old, right? When's the, what's the earliest 427 00:21:56,960 --> 00:22:00,280 memory you have? I think for me, I was 5. 428 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:04,400 I don't remember how many times I got spanked when I was 3, but 429 00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:08,320 I knew that I better obey by the time I was 567 years old. 430 00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:12,400 And that's because my parents started early with me and they, 431 00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:15,480 they demanded that respect and they demanded that obedience 432 00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:19,720 even from a little kid. And I needed it, right? 433 00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:23,240 I mean, they went, they went out there with a 8 foot long, 2 by 434 00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:24,880 4, beating me over the head with it. 435 00:22:26,120 --> 00:22:31,720 But a spanking is what I needed and by the time I was old enough 436 00:22:31,720 --> 00:22:35,000 to know what was going on, I obeyed my parents and I 437 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:38,720 respected my parents. Ephesians chapter 6, really it 438 00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:40,560 gives it. There's 2 commands that are 439 00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:42,520 addressed here to to children in the home. 440 00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:48,000 Obedience refers to listening to instructions and heeding it. 441 00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:51,920 It's conforming to what has been required. 442 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:56,040 Honor refers to valuing or revering somebody. 443 00:22:56,320 --> 00:23:00,320 So you have two commands, obey and honor. 444 00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:03,920 So our children are not just to do what we say, but they're also 445 00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:07,320 to value that relationship, to give that respect. 446 00:23:07,320 --> 00:23:11,360 And so I say that parents should expect respect. 447 00:23:12,360 --> 00:23:14,080 You ought to expect it from your kids. 448 00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:17,960 Well, he's just a kid. No, you expect those things from 449 00:23:17,960 --> 00:23:20,000 your children. And that brings me to the second 450 00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:22,840 point then #2 parents should teach respect. 451 00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:27,280 Turn over to Proverbs chapter 4. Children don't naturally exhibit 452 00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:29,760 respect. They have to be taught the same 453 00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:31,920 way that they don't naturally tell the truth. 454 00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:33,720 They have to be taught the same way. 455 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:37,040 They don't naturally obey. They have to be taught. 456 00:23:38,120 --> 00:23:42,520 And essential to that process is a parent who cares too much 457 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:46,000 about their child to allow disobedience or disrespect. 458 00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:52,960 Again, society has trained parents that that's just the way 459 00:23:52,960 --> 00:23:55,720 the kids are. That's just what they're going 460 00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:58,240 to do because they're kids and they're growing up and that's 461 00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:00,920 the way they're going to be. And that's why they go to school 462 00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:03,200 and punch the teacher in the face when the teacher doesn't do 463 00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:06,160 what they want them to do. And the teacher says, put your 464 00:24:06,160 --> 00:24:09,240 cell phone away and they won't. And the teacher has to fight 465 00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:11,840 them for it. I mean, you see stuff like that 466 00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:14,560 all the time. And I don't know how these 467 00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:16,280 teachers do it because honestly, I couldn't. 468 00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:19,160 I couldn't. I would be in jail probably 469 00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:22,280 right now if I was a teacher in the public school because I 470 00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:24,240 can't. I can't handle the disrespect 471 00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:27,200 because I was trained to have respect. 472 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:29,000 Yeah. I don't know how Brother Paul 473 00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:30,360 does it. How do you do it? 474 00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:35,320 Yeah, pulled all his hair out. That's exactly what it is. 475 00:24:35,320 --> 00:24:36,800 That's the only way you can deal with it. 476 00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:39,960 But I'm sure you see it all the time. 477 00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:43,040 That just the disrespect because it starts, it starts at home, 478 00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:45,480 children. The Bible says in Proverbs 479 00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:51,320 chapter 4 and verse #1 Here ye children, the instruction of a 480 00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:53,960 father, and attend to no understanding. 481 00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:57,160 For I give you good doctrine, forsake ye not my law. 482 00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:00,440 For I was my father's son, tender and only beloved in the 483 00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:03,080 sight of my mother. He taught me also. 484 00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:07,680 And he said unto me, Let thine heart retain my words, keep my 485 00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:12,720 commandments, and live. That is a father that is 486 00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:17,960 teaching his child to obey, to honor, to respect. 487 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,360 One of the most loving things that you can do for your child 488 00:25:20,360 --> 00:25:22,600 is to discipline them when they disobey. 489 00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:27,360 Oh, I would never hit my kid. That's the that's the argument 490 00:25:27,360 --> 00:25:30,880 against spanking, right? I would never hit my kid. 491 00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:32,920 How can you? How can you ever think about 492 00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:39,880 doing that? That's in the Bible and we have 493 00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,120 not only that the different verses, we're going to look at 494 00:25:42,120 --> 00:25:44,320 them in just a minute that we have in the Bible, but also with 495 00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:48,080 the example of Jesus Christ God. What does God do to us as his 496 00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:51,920 children when we disobey? He chastens us. 497 00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:55,400 He chastises us, right. It's true that the words 498 00:25:55,680 --> 00:26:00,520 correction and discipline call to mind undesirable extremes, 499 00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:03,760 and maybe you grew up in a home where some of that was extreme, 500 00:26:04,200 --> 00:26:08,440 the discipline, right? Parents who hear either word 501 00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:11,280 tend to put up walls of resistance toward whichever 502 00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:15,480 extreme they've experienced or seen in the the classic extremes 503 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:19,600 are anger and passivity. Somebody who who blows up, you 504 00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:24,720 know, angry Alvin, that just that just, you know, blows up 505 00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:27,360 every time his kids do some things that he doesn't like. 506 00:26:27,360 --> 00:26:29,560 And many times that same guy doesn't think that he has a 507 00:26:29,560 --> 00:26:33,200 problem with anger. He does, and everybody can see 508 00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:36,160 it except him. And he's constantly punishing 509 00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:39,960 his children for what turns out to just be childish behavior. 510 00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:43,520 Now that that foolishness needs to be driven out of a child. 511 00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:46,440 But sometimes kids are just going to be kids, right? 512 00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:49,280 And if they're, you know, playing a little bit rough or 513 00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:52,120 they're doing something, I mean, it doesn't always demand that 514 00:26:52,120 --> 00:26:53,800 you, you know, whip your belt off. 515 00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:56,080 I'm sure you've probably heard those. 516 00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:58,000 And start whipping them and beating them with whatever you 517 00:26:58,000 --> 00:27:00,640 can, you know, whatever you can reach, right? 518 00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:04,480 Discipline ought to be done very orderly in the home, right? 519 00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:07,240 You spank your kids in anger. You've already lost. 520 00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:11,960 You just, you just go off and start start spanking them and 521 00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:14,200 spanking them and spanking them because you're mad. 522 00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:16,320 You've lost and you're going to lose your kids. 523 00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:19,360 They know that you're spanking them in anger, right? 524 00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:26,640 The other side of that coin is the passive father let his kids 525 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:28,560 burn the house down. As long as he doesn't have to 526 00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:31,640 leave the couch, he's all right with it. 527 00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:34,280 Do whatever you want to do. I don't care, right? 528 00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:36,080 Burn the house down. Do whatever. 529 00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:38,360 There's, there's two extremes, right? 530 00:27:38,360 --> 00:27:40,480 He doesn't know where his children are, who their friends 531 00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:43,640 are, and maybe he'll set boundaries for his kids, but his 532 00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:46,480 kids know that he has no intention of enforcing those 533 00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:49,280 boundaries, right? The truth is both of those 534 00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:54,000 extremes and maybe some of the, the less extremes in the middle 535 00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:57,200 are hurtful to children. Both of those things communicate 536 00:27:57,200 --> 00:28:00,440 a lack of love. You, you get angry and lose your 537 00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:02,640 temper on your kid. It's it's just illustrating and 538 00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:06,120 demonstrating a lack of love. You let them do whatever they 539 00:28:06,120 --> 00:28:09,080 want to do. That's demonstrating a lack of 540 00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:11,440 love. Oh, and that's, that's why 541 00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:14,360 parents are I just, I that's just what he decided to do. 542 00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:17,480 Listen, if my kid was running around in Broad Street, I'm 543 00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:21,480 going to do everything I can to keep him from doing that, right? 544 00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:24,360 I'm going to spank him and say don't go in Broad Street 545 00:28:24,360 --> 00:28:26,240 anymore. Well, that's just what they 546 00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:28,200 wanted to do. Yeah. 547 00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:31,360 And and you'll just be putting them in a coffin and burying 548 00:28:31,360 --> 00:28:33,680 them six feet under the ground because that's what's going to 549 00:28:33,680 --> 00:28:36,360 happen. You don't love your children if 550 00:28:36,360 --> 00:28:37,680 you don't discipline your children. 551 00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:40,200 The Bible says for whom the Lord loveth he chasing it. 552 00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:44,240 And the same is true for for us is with our kids. 553 00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:47,280 God not only calls parents to set boundaries, but to enforce 554 00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:49,200 those boundaries. Turn over to Hebrews chapter 12. 555 00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:55,360 If you give instruction to your child and he deliberately 556 00:28:55,360 --> 00:28:57,920 disobeys it, you're not loving him to look the other way. 557 00:28:59,920 --> 00:29:03,000 And by the way, this has happened with my kids before. 558 00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:06,240 I tell them something to do. They're standing right next to 559 00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:09,960 me and 5 minutes later it's not done. 560 00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:11,200 And I say, how come you didn't do that? 561 00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:13,440 Oh, I didn't hear you. I said, well, you're getting 562 00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:15,680 spanked. Listen next time, right? 563 00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:19,160 It's it's an easy excuse. I didn't hear you. 564 00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:22,520 I didn't know, right? Guess what they do the next time 565 00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:23,880 when you speak? They listen. 566 00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:25,800 And it's not it's not authoritarian. 567 00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:30,320 It's teaching them to mind their authority, teaching them exactly 568 00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:34,040 what the Bible tells them to do. Obey your parents, honor your 569 00:29:34,040 --> 00:29:36,600 parents. You're communicating a lack of 570 00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:39,600 love that's going to breed a lack of respect in his heart. 571 00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:44,360 Because Hebrews chapter 12 here tells us that even God's love, 572 00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:48,040 which God's love is absolutely perfect, there is no better love 573 00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:49,760 than the love that God has for his children. 574 00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:55,280 Even God's love is sometimes shown through chastening 575 00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:59,200 correction with pain. That's what chastening is. 576 00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:02,480 When we're disobeying, we're going our own direction. 577 00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:05,120 Hebrews chapter 12 and verse 6, For whom the Lord loveth, He 578 00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:11,080 chasteneth and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. 579 00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:15,720 That is a perfect love from a perfect father. 580 00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:20,720 And he says, I love you and that's why I'm chastening you. 581 00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:24,120 You've got to understand that you just cannot live that way 582 00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:27,080 and get away with it. When you correct the child 583 00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:31,880 lovingly, properly, biblically, your correction says I love you 584 00:30:31,880 --> 00:30:35,720 too much to allow you to make those wrong choices. 585 00:30:35,800 --> 00:30:41,600 Turn over to Proverbs chapter 13 because Scripture goes so far as 586 00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:43,800 to say that if you don't correct your children, you don't love 587 00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:46,640 them. And that's what I say. 588 00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:49,280 There's two extremes. One that goes way overboard with 589 00:30:49,280 --> 00:30:52,400 the correction, one that doesn't give the correction, and both of 590 00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:56,600 those show a lack of love. Proverbs chapter 13 and verse 591 00:30:56,600 --> 00:31:02,320 #24 These are the messages that the kids just absolutely love. 592 00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:05,840 Proverbs chapter 13 and verse 24. 593 00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:12,920 He that spareth his rod hateth his son, but he that loveth him 594 00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:16,680 chasingeth him. The times that word betimes 595 00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:22,800 means timely or within a short time or soon, right? 596 00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:25,800 It speaks to a parent who corrects their child early in 597 00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:29,440 his life when a correction can be less severe and have more 598 00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:31,040 impact. Right. 599 00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:35,920 If you're still beating your kid at 16 years old, you've missed 600 00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:41,360 the opportunity to correct him. If you still, you know, blow up 601 00:31:41,360 --> 00:31:45,720 in anger and go spank your sixteen 1718 year old kid, 602 00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:48,400 you're doing far more harm than you're doing good. 603 00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:51,240 That should have been done a long time ago. 604 00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:54,440 And what do you do if you've missed the missed the 605 00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:57,320 opportunity? Well, you pray for him and you 606 00:31:57,320 --> 00:32:00,320 have those talks where you sit down and you go through some of 607 00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:03,120 those things with them. But you know, you, you missed 608 00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:08,600 out on a lot of opportunities if you don't start early with your 609 00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:11,360 kids by loving your child enough to correct them when they're 610 00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:13,440 disobedient, you're going to you're helping them develop a 611 00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:16,080 sense of respect for authority that'll guide them throughout 612 00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:18,440 their life. But on the other hand, if you 613 00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:22,520 neglect to correct him when he's young, you're setting up, you're 614 00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:25,000 setting them up to receive a harsher correction later from 615 00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:28,120 authorities who won't have a parent's love for him, right. 616 00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:31,320 You think about the kids who are 1516, seventeen years old 617 00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:33,280 running the streets because they have no parents that are there 618 00:32:33,280 --> 00:32:37,760 to correct them. You think the, the, the guy 619 00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:41,440 doing a job in the juvenile detention center loves that kid 620 00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:42,800 the way a parent should love a kid? 621 00:32:43,760 --> 00:32:45,240 Absolutely not. He's doing a job. 622 00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:49,520 You're there because you are, you're, you know, you messed up 623 00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:53,480 and you're a hindrance to society and everything else. 624 00:32:53,720 --> 00:32:55,880 They didn't love you the way that a parent loves you. 625 00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:59,040 But he's so sweet. I can't spank him. 626 00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:02,080 You're, he's a sweet little devil. 627 00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:03,320 And that's what you're going to be raising. 628 00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:08,520 You need to get on it early and spank them, correct them the way 629 00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:10,920 the Bible says to do that. Hebrews chapter 12, turn back 630 00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:14,720 over there because Hebrews chapter 12 relates the 631 00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:17,400 correction or the chasing that we're to give to our children to 632 00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:21,160 the correction that God gives us as his children points out that 633 00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:24,680 that the parents typically correct only their own children. 634 00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:28,720 So one of the proofs that you are a child of God is that 635 00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:31,080 correction. You do wrong, God punishes you 636 00:33:31,400 --> 00:33:33,000 right. Here's what He says in verse #7 637 00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:36,520 We already read verse 6. But verse #7 if you endure 638 00:33:36,520 --> 00:33:39,920 chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons. 639 00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:45,320 For what son is he whom the Father chasteneth not This is 640 00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:48,400 God is saying this OK? For whom the Lord loveth, He 641 00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:50,960 chasteneth. He scourgeth every son whom he 642 00:33:50,960 --> 00:33:53,640 receiveth. Well, what kind of father are 643 00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:55,760 you if you don't chase in your children? 644 00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:58,120 That's what he's asking. That's the question that God is 645 00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:01,960 asking there in verse #7 if you endure chasing and God deal with 646 00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:05,320 with you the same way that that that, that he deals with sons 647 00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:07,360 the same way that a father deals with his son. 648 00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:09,960 And what son is he whom the father chasing is not? 649 00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:12,480 Are you really a son if the father doesn't chase in you? 650 00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:16,239 That's what he's asking. Verse 8 But if you be without 651 00:34:16,239 --> 00:34:19,440 chastisement, where of all our partakers then are you bastards 652 00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:21,600 and not sons? That means you're illegitimate. 653 00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:25,760 Are you even God's son if he doesn't chase you, chasing you? 654 00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:28,920 That's what he's saying. And the whole, the whole, the 655 00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:32,880 whole point that I'm making with this is it's the same for 656 00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:38,040 fathers with their children. Not is he your son if you don't 657 00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:40,080 spank him, but it's kind of that's the same question. 658 00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:44,400 God, God is saying, what kind of son is he if you're not going to 659 00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:48,120 chasten him and tell him where he's wrong and help him to fix 660 00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:49,480 the things that need to be fixed? 661 00:34:50,159 --> 00:34:52,600 That passage goes on to point out that correct in our children 662 00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:56,080 teaches them respect for us, which is eventually transferred 663 00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:59,240 to the respect for God. Verse #9 Furthermore, we have 664 00:34:59,240 --> 00:35:03,320 had fathers of our flesh which corrected us and we gave them 665 00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:06,760 reverence. Shall we not much rather be in 666 00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:12,680 subjection to the Father of spirits and live, Hey, we had 667 00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:17,000 fathers that corrected us and taught us respect, and because 668 00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:20,280 they corrected us and taught that to us, we respected them. 669 00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:25,240 How much more than if we have respect for our fathers on this 670 00:35:25,240 --> 00:35:27,040 earth, should we have for our Heavenly Father? 671 00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:31,720 That respect that comes from the discipline that's given to a 672 00:35:31,720 --> 00:35:34,480 father who will actually discipline his child in the 673 00:35:34,480 --> 00:35:37,600 right way and with the right spirit, with the right attitude, 674 00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:43,600 how much more that's transferred to our Heavenly Father? 675 00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:47,240 That's a powerful passage. And when it comes to discipline, 676 00:35:47,840 --> 00:35:50,200 that's perfect love. That's perfect love. 677 00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:54,480 That's God's love to us. And that's how he treats us as 678 00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:57,760 his sons and His daughters. Not correcting your children, 679 00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:02,360 including, by the way, threatening to correct them and 680 00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:06,440 not doing it, not correcting your children, actually causes 681 00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:08,640 them to lose that respect for you and question your love. 682 00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:11,200 My dad's just going to let me do this. 683 00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:14,320 He knew how harmful this was, and he's just going to let me do 684 00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:18,480 it, right? Would you let your kids drink 685 00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:21,520 poison because that's what they want to do? 686 00:36:22,240 --> 00:36:23,800 Well, it's their life. It's their decision. 687 00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:25,560 That's what they want to do. It's going to be harmful for 688 00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:27,880 them, but they'll find out at some point that it's harmful for 689 00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:31,280 them. That's not parenting and that's 690 00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:33,880 not love. But, you know, the same thing is 691 00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:36,880 true when it comes to threatening. 692 00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:38,680 And this is what we see all the time. 693 00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:40,400 I'm, you know, you're in a grocery store. 694 00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:44,160 Get back over here. Get back over here. 695 00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:53,760 Come here. I said come here 122 and a half. 696 00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:57,640 The kids like, alright, is he going to go to 2 3/4? 697 00:36:57,640 --> 00:36:59,720 How long do I have to get back over there and obey? 698 00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:01,680 Right? That's not demanding obedience. 699 00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:06,120 And a kid learns to play your little game and guess what, if 700 00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:08,320 you don't start counting, he's not going to obey. 701 00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:11,640 Why would he, right? You're not demanding obedience. 702 00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:15,240 You're giving him. It's it's a game to that kid, 703 00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:17,440 right? And you've taught them how to 704 00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:20,800 play it. That's not correction and 705 00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:23,760 ultimately that's not love. When your children are directly 706 00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:26,520 disobedient, you have to correct them so that they understand 707 00:37:26,520 --> 00:37:28,880 that there's freedom in submitting to authority. 708 00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:31,960 We like to think of our children as angels with occasional 709 00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:33,680 lapses. That's not the case. 710 00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:39,320 Proverbs 22 and verse 15, Proverbs 22 and verse 15. 711 00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:41,000 We're coming to a close here for tonight. 712 00:37:44,040 --> 00:37:49,760 This does not describe children. Foolishness is bound in the 713 00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:53,120 heart of a child. But the rod of correction shall 714 00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:58,880 drive it far from him. What's going to drive it from 715 00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:03,160 him? The rod of correction, right? 716 00:38:03,160 --> 00:38:06,320 It has to be applied in the right way and we go into 717 00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:08,960 Ephesians chapter 6. Ye fathers, provoke not your 718 00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:11,680 children to wrath. Bring them up in the nurture and 719 00:38:11,680 --> 00:38:14,560 the admonition of the Lord. There's a right way to do it and 720 00:38:14,560 --> 00:38:17,680 there's a wrong way to do it. But if you're doing it in the 721 00:38:17,680 --> 00:38:21,200 right way, see, our children, just like us, are born with a 722 00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:24,800 sin nature, a bent toward doing wrong. 723 00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:29,000 The foolishness that this verse says is bound in the heart of a 724 00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:32,240 child. It's it's not just childish 725 00:38:32,240 --> 00:38:35,000 behavior, spilling a glass of milk, right? 726 00:38:35,280 --> 00:38:36,640 Yeah. Should they be more careful? 727 00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:38,000 Yes, they should be more careful. 728 00:38:38,440 --> 00:38:41,120 But they spanking because they spilled milk. 729 00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:44,480 Well, maybe depends on what led to it. 730 00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:47,160 If you told them to sit down and they didn't sit down and they 731 00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:49,240 spilled the milk, well, that's not just childish behavior, 732 00:38:49,240 --> 00:38:51,840 that's disobedience. But if they were reaching for 733 00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:55,200 something across the table and knocked their milk over, it's a 734 00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:57,320 childish thing. It's an accident, right? 735 00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:02,320 People blow up and RIP the kid out of the chair and throw him 736 00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:05,760 in the bedroom and spank him until he can't stand up for 737 00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:09,880 spilling milk, right? That's, that's a that's, that's 738 00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:13,400 anger. That's anger and that's not 739 00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:15,280 love. That's not love. 740 00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:19,600 The rod of correction, though, the Bible says can refer to it 741 00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:21,920 can refer to any kind of discipline, words of correction, 742 00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:25,640 corporal punishment, loss of privileges, different things, 743 00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:30,480 but there's probably no more debated area of parenting than 744 00:39:30,480 --> 00:39:34,160 discipline, right? Especially if that includes a 745 00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:36,320 discussion on corporal punishment. 746 00:39:36,360 --> 00:39:39,680 Oh, you know, this was this is what happened back in the 70s 747 00:39:39,680 --> 00:39:44,080 at, in, in Indiana at the church that I grew up at, a mother was 748 00:39:44,080 --> 00:39:48,840 spanking her child not even not even, you know, out of line with 749 00:39:48,840 --> 00:39:50,040 the way that she spanked her child. 750 00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:53,960 He called welfare and I came and took him and long court battle 751 00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:55,880 and turns out that Hillary Clinton was the one that was 752 00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:57,800 behind all of it in the early days. 753 00:39:58,280 --> 00:40:00,600 And they won the court case. Because a parent has a right, 754 00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:02,840 according to the Bible, to spank their children. 755 00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:04,440 And you should spank your children. 756 00:40:05,240 --> 00:40:07,880 You start talking about that and oh, they don't like it. 757 00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:10,240 They don't like it. But it's important to understand 758 00:40:10,240 --> 00:40:13,200 that often the strong feelings on that issue are targeted at 759 00:40:13,200 --> 00:40:16,520 the extremes and the abuses. And they should be right. 760 00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:20,080 There's a There's a difference between discipline and child 761 00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:23,200 abuse. Right, and, and people who lose 762 00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:27,440 their temper who, who, who are not in control of the situation 763 00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:31,240 crossed into that area of child abuse. 764 00:40:31,280 --> 00:40:34,960 That's what it is, right? But discipline done God's way is 765 00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:37,680 not child abuse at all. It shows your child that you 766 00:40:37,680 --> 00:40:40,720 love him, and it's going to teach your child respect. 767 00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:45,480 And the sooner you start farther along, you're going to be with 768 00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:48,800 your kids when they turn 4567 years old, and they're going to 769 00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:51,120 have that respect. They're going to obey. 770 00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:53,440 They're going to do the things that you tell them to do. 771 00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:55,880 And many times they're not even going to know why they do it. 772 00:40:57,040 --> 00:41:00,080 But you did it God's way, and that's what God tells us to do. 773 00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:07,800 But when a child directly disobeys and you calmly 774 00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:12,920 administer swats, whatever you want to call them, get their 775 00:41:12,920 --> 00:41:16,160 attention, reach their heart in a way that a timeout is never 776 00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:20,320 going to do right? God didn't say foolishness is 777 00:41:20,320 --> 00:41:23,040 abound in the heart of a child, but a timeout will drive it far 778 00:41:23,040 --> 00:41:25,320 from him. All right, I didn't say that 779 00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:27,720 because that's that's not God's way. 780 00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:31,000 There's something wholesome for a child to having a disobedience 781 00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:34,560 dealt with quickly and then move on, right? 782 00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:37,600 You stay mad at your kid because they disobeyed all night. 783 00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:41,200 That does God do that with you after he corrects it and you get 784 00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:44,240 it right? No, you just, you take it and 785 00:41:44,240 --> 00:41:47,440 you move on. Parents should become abusive. 786 00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:50,400 Do it with their words. They do it with, you know, 787 00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:54,480 exorbitant whatever timeouts, groundings, other forms of 788 00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:56,240 correction. You can get very abusive very 789 00:41:56,240 --> 00:41:58,960 easily if you're not in control of the situation. 790 00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:01,680 But I'll tell you, I'll tell you how parents usually lose control 791 00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:06,200 because they're not consistent. They're not consistent. 792 00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:11,680 If you tell your kid do this and they don't do it, they should be 793 00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:17,120 punished, not do this. I told you to do this, I told 794 00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:19,880 you to do this. If you don't do this, you're 795 00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:23,080 going to get in trouble. And then they blow up because 796 00:42:23,080 --> 00:42:26,440 the kids still didn't do it. Because you failed. 797 00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:29,640 It's not the kids fault. It's your fault that the kid 798 00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:34,200 didn't obey because they should have gotten told one time and if 799 00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:36,360 they didn't obey, they should have been punished for it. 800 00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:42,160 There's not much room for losing your temper when you tell the 801 00:42:42,160 --> 00:42:44,520 kid once and they don't do it and you just calmly take them 802 00:42:44,520 --> 00:42:47,880 into the bedroom, give them spankings, and then bring them 803 00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:52,480 back out, right? It's, it's not you're in control 804 00:42:52,680 --> 00:42:54,720 because you're consistent. But whatever form that 805 00:42:54,720 --> 00:42:58,200 correction takes you, you as a parent have to establish respect 806 00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:01,080 in the home, and you have to rely on the Holy Spirit's 807 00:43:01,080 --> 00:43:04,360 guidance as you do that because every child is different. 808 00:43:04,360 --> 00:43:07,960 You need God's wisdom. You need the wisdom of God to 809 00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:10,400 help you with those things and applied discipline that'll reach 810 00:43:10,400 --> 00:43:12,600 that child's heart. Our children need to learn 811 00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:16,400 respect. Our children need to learn that 812 00:43:16,400 --> 00:43:21,280 as parents, we are the ones in control in the home. 813 00:43:21,600 --> 00:43:25,040 We are the ones that they obey in the home, right? 814 00:43:25,040 --> 00:43:27,440 We need to be the ones taking the responsibility to teach it 815 00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:29,320 to them. We'll stop with that tonight. 816 00:43:30,280 --> 00:43:33,920 I think it's important that that we established this, that not 817 00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:37,000 only should we expect respect, but you have to teach that 818 00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:39,680 respect to them. And if you don't teach it to 819 00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:44,000 them, who's going to who's going to Society is not going to do 820 00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:45,640 it. The movies are not going to do 821 00:43:45,640 --> 00:43:48,400 it. Most of your rock music out 822 00:43:48,400 --> 00:43:51,800 there is all about rebellion against society or rap music is 823 00:43:51,800 --> 00:43:54,760 all about, you know, rebellion against society, all of those 824 00:43:54,760 --> 00:43:57,680 things. And if you if you wait and you 825 00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:00,760 allow society to do it, it's too late and you missed out. 826 00:44:01,280 --> 00:44:03,320 And your kids are going to be one of those ones that grows up 827 00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:05,880 without respect and they're going to look back and they're 828 00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:08,160 going to say, did my parents even love me? 829 00:44:09,440 --> 00:44:13,800 Did my parents even love me? Oh no, I love them so much that 830 00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:17,120 I just couldn't bring myself to No, that's not what the Bible 831 00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:19,000 says. When the Lord loveth thee 832 00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:20,720 chasteneth. And that's what a, that's what a 833 00:44:20,720 --> 00:44:23,080 parent does for their children as well. 834 00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:26,960 We'll continue with this next week, but let's pray. 835 00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:30,120 Father, again, we thank you so much for your goodness to us. 836 00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:33,000 We thank you for the opportunity we have to discuss these things 837 00:44:33,000 --> 00:44:34,760 from your Word. God, may you help us to be 838 00:44:34,760 --> 00:44:40,160 parents who are #1 completely in control of ourselves, completely 839 00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:45,320 in line with the Word of God. And God, may you help us to be 840 00:44:45,320 --> 00:44:48,160 the disciplinarians and the authoritarians that you expect 841 00:44:48,160 --> 00:44:51,880 us to be in the home that we can raise young people who are 842 00:44:51,880 --> 00:44:55,080 raised with respect not only for authority, but for your 843 00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:58,360 authority, and that that would lead to each one of them finding 844 00:44:58,360 --> 00:45:01,400 your will for their lives. God, may you help us. 845 00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:04,440 May we have your wisdom, may we have your guidance as we do that 846 00:45:05,040 --> 00:45:06,480 well. Thank you again for all that you 847 00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:08,440 do for us. In Jesus name, Amen.