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To evaluate that and, and I 
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wife can talk together and, and,
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together and, and determine what
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But most parents are not too 
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Most parents are too soft on 
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it comes to this idea of, of, of
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teaching them the things that 
they, that they should know when

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it comes to this idea of respect
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We talked a lot about discipline
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think it's important to 
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baby your children. 
Children need a mother that they

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can run to when they skin a knee
and, you know, they're bleeding 

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and or they got a broken arm and
dad's like, let me feel it. 

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All right, you're fine. 
Go play. 

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And it's dangling by a thread. 
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been in that situation before. 
It's, you know, kids need a 

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mother to, to, to give them a 
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nothing wrong with, you know, 
with the dad that is tender 

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toward his daughter especially, 
but even maybe toward his sons 

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when they're young. 
But the, you know, life is not 

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easy. 
And when you baby your children 

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and you just, everything is a 
featherbed for them. 

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And you just, you know, you lift
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them from one place to the next.
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they're going to get hit in the 
face with reality when they 

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finally make it out on their 
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And they realize that mom is not
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anymore. 
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sure that they have a little 
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they go to bed. 
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warm milk to, to make sure their
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other things. 
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balance, right? 
It's it's mothers are, are more 

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naturally tender toward those 
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Dads are not. 
Go get your own milk. 

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You know, if you get your own 
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you want, right? 
And you can go work for it. 

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In fact, go down to the store 
and get me one too. 

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But you know, don't, don't baby 
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And I think I think an important
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your responsibility is to 
oversee the discipline in your 

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home, right? 
You set the rules. 

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You set what what what things 
are are there to be disciplined 

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for, right? 
And it's up to the mother then 

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to make sure that she is 
upholding what the father set in

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place when it comes to 
discipline. 

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Just because you don't think 
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that or just just because you 
don't think that, you know, you 

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thought it was too hard saying 
that he couldn't go to that 

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thing because he didn't do what 
you told him to do. 

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And Dad's not here. 
Well, I'm going to let him go 

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because I think that was too 
hard. 

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Anyway, that's, that's not your 
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You can talk about it amongst 
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think it was too hard. 
I think you should have let him 

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go and I think next time you 
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But once that law is laid down, 
that is, that is complete 

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disrespect to your husband. 
We're going to talk about some 

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of this a little bit more 
tonight. 

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It's complete disrespect for you
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what your husband laid down as 
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too hard. 
He's going to be the one that 

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answers to God for that. 
You're going to answer to God 

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for whether you submit it or 
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But don't baby your children, 
you know, you know, Mamas 

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especially don't get in the way 
of discipline. 

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Let the dad do the work. 
You're too. 

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You're soft. 
You're soft and you should be 

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your mother, right? 
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be soft. 
Your kids don't need soft all 

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the time. 
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And dad has a much easier time 
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because they're less soft than 
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it comes to boys. 
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With my boys especially. 
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early on. 
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doesn't say anything about it. 
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young men need. 
I was a young man, right? 

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I understand what young boys 
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I was a young boy. 
My wife was never a young boy. 

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She didn't have to go out and 
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She didn't go out and, you know,
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She didn't do all of those 
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that that made me part at least 
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I know what my boys need and I 
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somebody to sit around and 
cuddle them and, and hug them 

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every time something happens 
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too hard for them, right? 
They need dad to be hard on them

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sometimes. 
Let him let him be hard on them.

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They need it, especially the 
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But he's the ultimately the one 
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Now, if, if dad can take it too 
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And it's not your, it's not your
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middle of it and say what you're
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Talk about it. 
Do it behind closed doors. 

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And I'll explain why in a little
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But it's very, very important, 
you know, that, that you don't 

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make excuses for your children. 
Well, they're this or well, 

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they're that. 
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is excuses. 
Right now he's tired or, well, 

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he just, you know, he didn't 
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Kids are a lot smarter than you 
think they are #1 and many times

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they're playing you and you 
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getting played and they're 
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winning when what they need is 
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What they need is for somebody 
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say, no, you're not doing that. 
I don't care if you think you're

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right. 
I don't care if you think this 

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or you think that. 
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excuse. 
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kids. 
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are in control. 
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Your kids don't tell you what 
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agree to it or not. 
You tell your kids what they're 

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going to do, especially if 
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your home, right? 
19202540 They're still living in

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your home, right? 
Hopefully by that point they're 

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not anymore. 
But it's your home and it's your

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rules, right? 
They want to bring some woman 

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into the house. 
No, you're not bringing some 

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woman into the house, right? 
You want to bring alcohol or 

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something in that? 
No, you're not bringing that 

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stuff in there. 
Now, hopefully you've raised 

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them right to the point where 
they don't want to bring those 

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things in. 
But it's still your house and 

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it's still your rules. 
And when they're home, they 

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follow your rules, right? 
If they're living at home, I 

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should say, and I'll you got a 
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to visit for Thanksgiving and 
you tell him to take out the 

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trash and he doesn't. 
You take him to the bed bedroom 

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and give him Swatch. 
That's a little different, 

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right? 
But I'm, I'm talking about if 

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they're still living at home, 
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That, so that goes down all the 
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up to 2223 year olds. 
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they're under your rules and you
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still your responsibility. 
So you must be in control. 

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You tell them what to do, not 
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And discipline will come 
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It'll be easy for you to to 
discipline them the way that 

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they need to be disciplined, but
it'll also that they'll respond 

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to that discipline in the right 
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So we said, first of all, expect
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The number 2, I want to get into
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Reward, respect, reward, 
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One of the greatest and one of 
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children for being respectful is
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noticed them. 
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have no greater joy than to hear
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In truth, I was just talking to 
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and I said, you know, one of 
the, one of the toughest things 

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has got to be to have children 
that know better, that grow up 

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and don't live for the Lord. 
I can't, you know, I can't 

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imagine my kids are not old 
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I can't imagine what it's like 
to have a child that does not 

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want to live for the Lord and 
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But I can imagine that one of 
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greatest blessings is to have 
children that do follow the Lord

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and and John here is talking 
about, you know, his children in

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the faith, I believe. 
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it, I think it's still it, it 
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I have no greater joy than to 
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truth. 
So first of all, I want to say 

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this, praise your children for 
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Praise is a powerful motivator. 
Mark Twain said I can live for 

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two months on a good compliment 
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You know, if somebody gives you 
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long way, You know how it makes 
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compliments you for doing 
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right or something like that. 
But when children are praised 

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for doing what's honorable, then
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doing those things that are 
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Turn over to Proverbs chapter 
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Got a good number of verses for 
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Try to turn with me to as many 
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We'll see how far we get. 
I may, I may. 

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I've got a kind of a section at 
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you, but we'll see. 
We'll see what time it gets to 

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be and how far we get into this.
I may save that for next time. 

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I'd rather, I'd rather go 
through this a little bit slowly

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and help you get it and make 
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Then try to speed through just 
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But Proverbs chapter 12 and 
verse #25 heaviness in the heart

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of man make it a stoop, but a 
good word maketh it glad. 

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Proverbs 2525 few pages over 
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A word fitly spoken is like 
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silver. 
Sometimes that that fitly 

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spoken, that word fitly spoken 
is well timed. 

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Sometimes that word is yours, 
and it can go a long way in 

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helping your son or your 
daughter show honor when you see

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your child show respect towards 
somebody else. 

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Whether your son is holding the 
door open for somebody or you 

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know, your daughter saying yes 
ma'am to a teacher or whatever 

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it happens to be, strike up the 
band. 

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Let them know that you noticed 
that, right? 

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Especially when they're young. 
Now, after a while, it gets to 

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the point where they should just
know better, right? 

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And and you know, you don't get 
a cookie for saying yes ma'am 

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when you're 12 years old. 
They're holding the door for a 

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lady, right? 
Congratulations, here's your 

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cookie. 
You're 18, but you did a 

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wonderful job holding that door 
for that Lady, right? 

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At that age, you expect them to 
do those things. 

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There's other things that you 
can notice and other things that

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you can praise them for besides 
the things that they ought to be

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doing all the time. 
But especially when they're 

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young and you're trying to teach
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Those are important things to 
make sure that you know, to make

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sure that they know that you 
noticed that they did those 

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things the right way. 
Our world praises disrespect. 

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That's one of the reasons why 
there's so much of it today, you

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know, and, and in their 
immaturity, peers often praise 

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disrespect as well. 
You know, when a kid is, is 

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saying something to a teacher 
or, you know, being 

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disrespectful to a teacher and 
the other kids in there videoing

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it and all the rest of them are 
laughing about it and everything

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else. 
I mean, they're praising that 

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disrespect, right? 
They're, they're, they're 

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showing everybody that they 
think it's funny and that, you 

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know, they're encouraging that 
behavior. 

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So when your child has you on 
one hand always on his case, 

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telling him how disrespectful 
he's become, and then he has 

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friends that are, you know, 
praising him for standing up for

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himself or showing him who's 
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are going to to praise him for 
all these things. 

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That motivation is going to be a
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Them their friends praising them
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to be a lot more powerful than 
you always criticizing them for 

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that disrespect. 
Hope it makes sense. 

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But that doesn't mean that 
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We already established that. 
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your teenager talking back or 
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you're wrong and you're hurting 
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But at the same time, if you 
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respect by correction alone, 
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especially as children grow into
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need a lot of correction. 
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they do where you're just like, 
I've told you this 1000 times. 

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Why are you still not doing what
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Or why you, why are you still 
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supposed to do? 
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you're like, finally you, you 
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That's what you should have been
doing all along. 

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But you think about the the way 
that, the way that you train a 

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dog, right? 
What is the what is the best way

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to train a dog? 
Now, obviously they need to be 

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smacked on the nose when they, 
you know, go to the bathroom in 

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the house, right? 
Smack them on the nose and take 

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them outside. 
But then they go to the bathroom

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in the yard and what do you do? 
Oh, you're such a good boy. 

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Oh, so, you know, wonderful 
about treating your kids like a 

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dog every now and then. 
All right, let them know that 

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you that they that they did what
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Show them that praise. 
Give them the reward of your 

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noticing that they did what you 
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Do You think about that in your 
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Who do you? 
Who do you strive the hardest to

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please? 
A boss that is constantly on 

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your case, telling you 
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wrong, or a boss who mostly 
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you do right. 
Right. 

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I'll tell you what happens when 
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for doing what's right. 
It's much easier to take the 

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criticism from that boss, right?
That boss comes to you and says,

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hey, you need to do this 
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Then you're like, yes, Sir, I'll
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I just want you to be pleased, 
right? 

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My father-in-law was that way 
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for him. 
And I can always tell when he 

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was about to get on me because 
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what I would tell my own sons. 
And I'm like, OK, what did I do 

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wrong this time? 
You know, but but I, I, I 

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appreciate it so much the way 
that he led and the way that he 

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praised the things that I did 
right, that when he came to me 

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and said, you need to do this 
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with that. 
No problem changing the things 

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that he wanted me to change and 
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that if I did them right, I was,
he would notice it and, and, 

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and, and he would honor that, 
you know that or, or at least 

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notice that respect and it's not
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giving, but whatever it happened
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Hey, I really appreciate how you
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how you do that and I really 
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And sometimes I didn't have the 
greatest attitude when I would 

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go in there, sit down at the 
desk and, and, you know, we 

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talked and, and he would tell me
all these things that are wrong 

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and we would have discussions 
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why I'm doing it this way. 
Don't you think that this would 

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end? 
He allowed some of those 

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discussions, but then he would 
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we're going to do it. 
We're going to do it this way. 

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And then, you know, he could 
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this. 
I really appreciate the way you 

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have such a good attitude. 
And I'm like, all right, how can

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you have a bad attitude when 
you're saying that, You know? 

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But again, that's what I'm 
saying. 

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Praise is a powerful motivator 
when it comes to your children, 

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right? 
And, and it's a powerful 

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motivator for you. 
So imagine how much more it can 

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be for your kids who are just 
many times just trying to please

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you. 
So you should be on constant 

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lookout for opportunities to 
praise that obedience, praise 

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that respect, especially in 
situations where it would have 

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been very easy for your children
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disobey. 
Point out to your children that 

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you know it isn't easy to show 
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of them for doing it. 
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respect. 
But I would say this also reward

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your children for respect. 
Turn over to Psalm 84. 

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I think it's important to 
verbally praise them when they 

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show respect. 
And maybe occasionally you can 

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consider giving them something 
that's kind of a reward to show 

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them that you noticed their good
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I think this is especially 
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but it's but, but, but for the 
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know, they have attitudes when 
they're younger, but they have 

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attitudes when they're older 
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there's a, there's a fight that 
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young men, but there's a fight 
that happens because from the 

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moment your kids are born, they 
needed you, right? 

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They can't change their own 
diaper when they're a month old.

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They scream, they cry, they need
you. 

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You go change the diaper, they 
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them. 
They need you. 

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They scream, they cry and you 
give them a bath and you get 

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them clean and now you can 
snuggle with them and everything

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else. 
They need you all right. 

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But when they start getting 
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need you anymore, right? 
You're not changing their 

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clothes for them. 
I hope you're not doing their 

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laundry for them, making their 
beds and doing all of those 

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things. 
But what happens is parents, 

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especially mothers, still need 
to be needed. 

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Young men especially, but even 
young ladies are growing into 

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that independence where they're 
saying, I don't need you 

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anymore. 
I can do this on my own. 

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And so a fight happens. 
The parents are like, you're not

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going, you're not going to be 
independent. 

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I'm going to still keep doing 
everything for you. 

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And the kid is saying, I don't 
need you. 

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I've got my independence. 
I need my independence. 

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I can do this on my own. 
And that's where the fight takes

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place. 
And if the parents don't handle 

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that transition the right way, 
it can very easily turn into 

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rebellion, can very easily turn 
into disrespect. 

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And many times it's the parent 
that causes that to happen 

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because you didn't give them the
independence that they were. 

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You know, a bird needs to leave 
the nest, right? 

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I mean, you don't have 15 grown 
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There's a reason why, right? 
They're made to fly. 

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They're made to go out and be on
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It's the job of the mother to 
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prepared to go out on his own 
and to have that independence 

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and make sure that he's prepared
to not get eaten the second he 

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flies from the nest and to be 
able to handle gathering his own

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food and all of those things. 
That's the job of the mother, to

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make sure that that young, that 
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But at some point, it's time to 
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right? 
You cannot keep them in the nest

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forever, and so you have to let 
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Now, how you do that many times 
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But that's a lot of times why 
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you're holding on so tight 
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And they're pushing away so hard
because they need their 

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independence. 
And that's where the fight takes

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place. 
And that's many times where the 

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attitude comes in and the 
rebellion comes in and 

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everything else. 
Just give me my independence. 

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I can handle it. 
No, you can't have your 

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independence. 
I need to be needed. 

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How you handle that transition 
many times determines whether 

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they're going to rebel or not. 
Now that's that's completely on 

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them. 
They shouldn't rebel even if you

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don't give them the independence
that they want. 

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But at the same time, many times
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And so we should many times give
our children that verbal praise,

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but at the same time, we should 
also be looking for things that 

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we can do to give them as a way 
to say, I appreciate your good 

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attitude. 
Our heavenly Father rewards 

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obedience. 
We should do the same thing. 

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It's Psalm 84, verse 11. 
For the Lord God is a son and 

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shield. 
The Lord will give grace and 

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glory. 
Look at this. 

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No good thing will he withhold 
from them that walk uprightly. 

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You take the opposite of that, 
then you can say that God does 

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uphold some withhold some things
from people who don't walk 

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uprightly. 
So he gives us rewards, if you 

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will, for walking uprightly, for
doing it his way, for doing what

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he wants us to do. 
So if God does that, and there's

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a lot of other things, I mean, 
look, the the crowns that we 

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earn in heaven, those are 
rewards for living for him, 

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right? 
There's going to be people who 

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don't get those crowns because 
they didn't live the way that he

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wanted them to live. 
So the fact that God does it for

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us, we ought to be doing that 
for our children. 

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When your child is respectful to
an authority figure, commend 

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them for that. 
They need you to provide that 

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affirmation and that 
encouragement. 

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So reward respect. 
Here's #3 show respect. 

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Show respect. 
Turn over to Romans chapter 13. 

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Not only should you expect and 
reward respect from your 

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children, but you should model 
that respect for them. 

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As they see you respecting 
others and honoring others, 

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they'll see that respect isn't 
just something that's required 

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of them because they're a child.
It's it's a lifelong virtue. 

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Respect is something that does 
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Respect is something that, that 
that should go with you for the 

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rest of your life. 
Every one of us who are in 

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authority are also under 
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Romans chapter 13 and verse #1 
Let every soul be subject unto 

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the higher powers, for there is 
no power but of God. 

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The powers that be are ordained 
of God. 

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Whosoever therefore resisteth 
the power resisteth the 

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ordinance of God, and they that 
resist shall receive to 

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themselves damnation. 
Now, these verses are referring 

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to civil authority, but they 
point out that even as adults we

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have somebody that's in 
authority over us. 

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And as parents model the respect
to authorities that are in their

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life or to anybody in general 
for that matter, they're 

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teaching their children the 
value of respect and how they 

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should give it to others. 
Show your kids what it looks 

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like to give respect. 
There's five areas I think that 

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that we can show respect. 
And so first of all, it's to the

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authority of Scripture. 
Turn over to 1st Corinthians 

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Chapter 11. 
We should be giving respect to 

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the authority of Scripture. 
Our ultimate authority is God. 

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You might be the president of 
the United States, and that's 

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kind of considered the top of 
the power world, right? 

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The most powerful nation in the 
world, the most powerful man in 

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that nation. 
Nobody is greater than the 

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president of the United States 
on earth. 

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Well, whether that's true or 
not, you still have God as your 

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ultimate authority. 
So you're under authority no 

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matter what. 
Even if you have all the 

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authority, you are still under 
authority. 

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You come down to our level. 
We have a lot of authority over 

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us, right? 
But our ultimate authority is 

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God. 
When we seek out what His Word 

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has to say in any area of our 
lives and then obey His 

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instructions, we're 
demonstrating to our children 

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that we are putting ourselves 
under the authority of 

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Scripture. 
By the way, here's the dangerous

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thing. 
When you bring your children to 

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church and they hear me preach 
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And that's one of the reasons I 
use so many verses in the Bible.

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00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:13,400
It's not my authority, it's the 
Bible's authority. 

452
00:22:14,480 --> 00:22:17,920
And they hear the same messages 
that you hear, and then you go 

453
00:22:17,920 --> 00:22:22,200
home and you do things that go 
directly against God's Word. 

454
00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:26,960
You're tearing down your own 
authority at the same time. 

455
00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:34,000
And don't think that your kids 
don't notice that we just heard 

456
00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:36,560
that on Sunday and pastor 
preached against that and we're 

457
00:22:36,560 --> 00:22:38,240
doing it. 
Is this right? 

458
00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:44,520
They know it's not. 
They know it's not, it's a great

459
00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:49,240
position to put yourself in 
because what you're doing is, is

460
00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:53,400
essentially holding yourself 
accountable, but it's holding 

461
00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:57,040
you accountable. 
And So what you hear in messages

462
00:22:57,040 --> 00:22:59,680
and what you listen to in church
and all of those other things, 

463
00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:03,000
when you, when you see that it's
from the Word of God, it's 

464
00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:05,560
important that you do it because
your kids are watching. 

465
00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:11,040
And we have a responsibility to 
respect the authority of the 

466
00:23:11,040 --> 00:23:12,920
Scriptures. 
And if we read it in the Bible, 

467
00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:16,720
then we ought to be doing it. 
In fact, any authority that we 

468
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:19,480
have in the home comes from God.
And so the apostle Paul stressed

469
00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:23,720
to the people that he led that 
they were to follow him as he 

470
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:25,640
followed the Lord. 
First Corinthians Chapter 11 and

471
00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:30,520
verse #1 be you followers of me 
even as I also am of Christ. 

472
00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:33,760
Now turn over to Deuteronomy 17.
I want you to see this as well. 

473
00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:37,200
God instructed the Old Testament
kings of Israel to show honor to

474
00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:42,880
His Word, and He told them that 
doing that would have a direct 

475
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:48,640
bearing on their children's 
continuing in God's Word 

476
00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:52,320
themself. 
What the king does is many times

477
00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:56,080
what the followers of that king 
are going to do, right? 

478
00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:58,480
I think it's true in a church 
what the pastor does and what 

479
00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:00,520
the pastor allows many of the 
people in the church are going 

480
00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:04,160
to do and allow. 
But taking it down another step,

481
00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:08,960
what the Father does in the 
home, you are essentially saying

482
00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:11,400
this is OK and you're allowing 
the children to do that. 

483
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:14,840
So whether you are showing 
respect to the authority of 

484
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:17,160
God's word or not is going to 
determine whether your children 

485
00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:19,440
show the respect to the 
authority of God's word or not. 

486
00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:21,520
And that's why I say it's so 
important this, the whole 

487
00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:25,360
purpose of this point is to say 
that you need to show respect 

488
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:29,640
because you are a model to your 
children and how you handle the 

489
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:32,760
Scriptures and how you handle 
the respect of the authority of 

490
00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:36,360
Scriptures is many times going 
to determine how your kids 

491
00:24:36,360 --> 00:24:38,120
handle the authority of the 
scriptures. 

492
00:24:38,120 --> 00:24:40,720
And I'll tell you what happens. 
Many times his parents are like,

493
00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:43,080
well, I know that's what the 
Bible says and I know that's 

494
00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:46,240
what the pastor said, but we, 
and guess what your kids are 

495
00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:47,480
going to do for the rest of 
their life? 

496
00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:51,760
The exact same thing. 
Well, I know that's what the 

497
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:56,200
Bible says, but I right, you 
make an excuse, your kids are 

498
00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:59,000
going to make an excuse for why 
they can't follow it either. 

499
00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:03,320
Deuteronomy 17, and verse #18 
And it shall be when he sitteth 

500
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:06,160
upon the throne of his Kingdom, 
that he shall write him a copy 

501
00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:09,280
of this law in a book, out of 
that which is before the Priest,

502
00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:13,000
the Levites, And it shall be 
with him, and he shall read 

503
00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:15,800
therein all the days of his 
life, that he may learn to fear.

504
00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:18,440
The Lord is God to keep all the 
words of this law and these 

505
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:22,080
statutes to do them, that his 
heart be not lifted up above his

506
00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:24,920
brethren, and that he turned not
aside from the commandments to 

507
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:28,200
the right hand or to the left, 
to the end that he may prolong 

508
00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:33,520
his days in this Kingdom, he and
his children in the midst of 

509
00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:37,200
Israel. 
The king was actually to make a 

510
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:40,880
painstaking copy of God's word 
for himself. 

511
00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:45,120
Show your children what it looks
like to give honor and reverence

512
00:25:45,120 --> 00:25:49,200
to the written word of God. 
Teach them to respect every word

513
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:51,680
of God, but even the physical 
copy of God's Word. 

514
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:54,800
Your Bible ought to be something
that you protect at all costs. 

515
00:25:55,720 --> 00:26:00,000
I've told you this before this I
got this Bible in 1998. 

516
00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:05,520
I use it for everything. 
I take care of it. 

517
00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:08,360
That's why it still looks like 
it's in this shape. 

518
00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:12,160
It's not unread. 
I take care of it because it's 

519
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:16,080
God's Word and it's a, it's a 
physical copy of God's Word, 

520
00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:17,400
yes. 
And we can go buy a bunch of 

521
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:18,920
copies of God's Word. 
We can get it. 

522
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:20,880
But this is something that we 
ought to show the ultimate 

523
00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:23,920
respect to. 
You would never let your kids 

524
00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:28,120
throw a flag around. 
You'd never let them just throw 

525
00:26:28,120 --> 00:26:30,960
it under a pile of clothes or 
throw it on the floor or any of 

526
00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:34,360
those other things, right? 
And yet we show many times more 

527
00:26:34,360 --> 00:26:37,160
respect for the American flag 
than we do for the Bible. 

528
00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:40,600
Yes, I did. 
I've had this as a, as a rule 

529
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:42,480
in, in my life for a very long 
time. 

530
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:43,920
I don't set my Bible on the 
floor. 

531
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:47,840
I don't put it under my seat. 
It goes on the top of the stack.

532
00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:51,320
If I'm carrying a pile of books 
and I got a little tiny book 

533
00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:53,920
underneath of it, it's going to 
be underneath of it because the 

534
00:26:53,920 --> 00:27:00,360
Bible sits on the top. 
I respect God's word and I want 

535
00:27:00,360 --> 00:27:03,720
my kids to respect God's word. 
And I want you to respect God's 

536
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:06,240
Word. 
I know it's just a written copy 

537
00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:07,960
of it. 
And we are blessed in America 

538
00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:10,360
that we can go get a ton of 
copies of God's Word anytime we 

539
00:27:10,360 --> 00:27:11,720
want. 
In fact, I think I have probably

540
00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:15,960
35 or 40 Bibles myself, all 
different study Bibles and 

541
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:19,840
everything else. 
This is God's Word and I want to

542
00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:22,600
respect it and I want to show my
children that I respect it. 

543
00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:25,560
And I want them to see me 
reading the Bible. 

544
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:27,760
And I want them to understand 
that it's important for them to 

545
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:31,080
read the Bible and not just read
it, but follow it and live it 

546
00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:34,680
and obey it and treat it as 
something that is sacred because

547
00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:37,320
the IT is sacred. 
It's God's word to us. 

548
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:39,800
And it's very, very important 
that we do that. 

549
00:27:39,800 --> 00:27:42,680
You do that with your words, 
yes, but you do it more 

550
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:47,960
significantly with your actions.
How you make God's word a 

551
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:51,240
priority in your own life. 
Reading it, teaching it to your 

552
00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:55,760
family during family devotions, 
bringing your Bible with you as 

553
00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:57,600
you faithfully attend the 
church. 

554
00:27:57,600 --> 00:28:01,280
Those are those are things that 
are showing your children the 

555
00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:03,800
importance of respecting the 
authority of God's Word. 

556
00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:07,160
Your children are going to learn
to esteem the Word of God highly

557
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:10,520
as well as you esteem the Word 
of God highly. 

558
00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:13,960
So we ought to be showing 
authority, Respect, sorry to the

559
00:28:13,960 --> 00:28:16,720
authority of Scriptures, but 
also respect to your spouse. 

560
00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:18,360
Turn over to Ephesians chapter 
5. 

561
00:28:20,360 --> 00:28:24,720
I think the greatest gift that a
father can give to his children 

562
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:31,040
is to love their mother and vice
versa, the greatest gift the 

563
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:33,520
mother can give to her children 
is to love their father. 

564
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:38,400
When you honor your spouse, you 
are modeling your children the 

565
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:41,200
respect that they need for a 
healthy marriage. 

566
00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:44,600
You know, one of the, one of the
one of the biggest things that 

567
00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:47,600
determines whether somebody is 
is happy or miserable in their 

568
00:28:47,600 --> 00:28:52,520
life is who they marry. 
Especially if you are a 

569
00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:55,240
Christian and divorce is out of 
the option for you. 

570
00:28:57,480 --> 00:28:59,560
You're going to stay with the 
person you married. 

571
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:05,480
But if it's miserable, 
everything's going to be 

572
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:10,240
miserable. 
And I know many times we, well, 

573
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:13,040
you don't understand what I have
to deal with my husband. 

574
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:16,000
You don't understand what I have
to deal with my wife. 

575
00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:19,160
Never fill in the blank. 
You can come up with all the 

576
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:22,040
excuses that you want to, but 
you have to determine that 

577
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:24,600
you're going to make it work and
you have to work out what you 

578
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:26,480
need to work out. 
Listen, if your wife needs to be

579
00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:28,920
treated like a queen in order 
for her to start treating you 

580
00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:30,840
like a king, then start treating
her like a queen. 

581
00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:35,200
Many times what happens in a 
relationship is a husband 

582
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:37,560
doesn't want to start treating 
his wife the right way until she

583
00:29:37,560 --> 00:29:39,880
starts treating him the right 
way, and she doesn't want to 

584
00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:42,120
treat him the right way until he
starts treating her the right 

585
00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:43,240
way. 
So then they both treat each 

586
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:45,440
other like dirt and they're 
miserable. 

587
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:51,680
You know, one of these days your
kids are going to be gone and 

588
00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:53,520
the only thing you're going to 
be left with is your spouse. 

589
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:56,680
And if you don't develop that 
relationship with them while 

590
00:29:56,680 --> 00:29:59,440
your kids are at home, by the 
way, your kids are not the most 

591
00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:03,160
important thing in your home. 
Your kids are not the most 

592
00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:05,800
important thing in your home. 
Your spouse is the most 

593
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:08,360
important thing in your home. 
And if you have a choice between

594
00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:10,800
spending time with your kids or 
spending time with your spouse, 

595
00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:12,120
you better spend time with your 
spouse. 

596
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:14,760
I think you ought to spend time 
with your kids too. 

597
00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:19,120
But you get 18/20/25 years 
depending on how many kids you 

598
00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:22,600
have of your children being in 
the home. 

599
00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:26,040
And then they're gone. 
And I always used to wonder, how

600
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:28,760
in the world can you be married 
for 25 or 30 years and then go 

601
00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:32,360
get a divorce? 
Can't you figure it out by now? 

602
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:33,840
You've been there 30 years. 
You can't. 

603
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:36,040
I mean, you can't just work out 
the differences, right? 

604
00:30:36,520 --> 00:30:41,200
But I'll tell you what happens. 
For 25 of those 30 years, maybe 

605
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:44,240
more, there was kids there and 
the kids were everything. 

606
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:46,960
It was the priority. 
Kids, kids, kids, kids, kids, 

607
00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:49,160
kids, kids. 
Then the kids are gone. 

608
00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:51,240
It's an empty nest. 
And the only thing that you have

609
00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:53,560
left is this person that you 
have no idea who they are 

610
00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:55,760
because you never spent any time
together. 

611
00:30:56,480 --> 00:30:58,760
And now you're trying to relearn
each other again. 

612
00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:00,240
And you're like, who is this 
person? 

613
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:03,720
I don't know how I ended up with
him 25 years, but you don't, you

614
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:07,560
don't even know him. 
And you know, obviously people 

615
00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:10,680
in the world who don't have that
commitment because of the word 

616
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:13,400
of God to the marriage or 
they're saying, I don't even 

617
00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:17,040
know this person anymore. 
I'm, I'm, I'm out, they go get 

618
00:31:17,040 --> 00:31:19,240
divorced and they've been 
married 2530 years because they 

619
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:22,800
put the kids first. 
The kids were the priority, not 

620
00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:25,480
the not the marriage, not that, 
not that relationship. 

621
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:29,840
The thing is, when you have a 
loving marriage, you're going to

622
00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:32,720
love your kids. 
It's better than you would if 

623
00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:34,000
you didn't have a loving 
marriage. 

624
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:38,000
Because what happens is husband 
gets all frustrated because his 

625
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:39,880
wife is not what she wants him 
to be. 

626
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:44,240
And wife is all frustrated 
because he's not what she wants 

627
00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:46,720
him to be. 
And I say that backwards. 

628
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:48,480
I don't know either way. 
You understand what I'm saying 

629
00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:51,640
that the, the husband and wife 
are both frustrated and many 

630
00:31:51,640 --> 00:31:54,200
times they take it out on the 
children, right? 

631
00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:56,360
Because they're mad. 
They're, they're not getting 

632
00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:57,760
what they want. 
They're not getting what they 

633
00:31:57,760 --> 00:31:59,480
need. 
And they're not, you know, they,

634
00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:01,960
they don't love me the way that 
I need to be loved and he 

635
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:03,120
doesn't love me and blah, blah, 
blah. 

636
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:06,680
And, and then they then the kids
are out there fighting and they 

637
00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:09,720
blow up. 
And then the kids are the ones 

638
00:32:09,720 --> 00:32:11,960
that suffer for it because you 
have a horrible marriage. 

639
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:15,240
One of the best things that you 
can do for your kids is to love 

640
00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:18,360
your spouse. 
That's a that's a tremendous 

641
00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:21,400
gift to give them because not 
only are you modeling what it is

642
00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:24,600
to have a healthy marriage, to 
have a godly marriage, but 

643
00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:28,120
there's peace in the home. 
And when there's peace in the 

644
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:31,160
home, the kids grow up in a 
great environment. 

645
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:35,840
And the only way that happens is
by you showing respect to your 

646
00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:37,320
spouse. 
That's how it happens. 

647
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:41,400
Ephesians chapter 5, because the
Scripture actually commands us 

648
00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:46,000
respect from both wives to 
husbands and husbands to wives. 

649
00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:49,280
Ephesians chapter 5 and verse 
#33 nevertheless, that everyone 

650
00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:53,240
of you in particular particular 
so love his wife even as himself

651
00:32:53,280 --> 00:32:57,360
and the wife see that she 
reference her husband. 

652
00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:01,640
That's respect from the husband 
to the wife, and that's respect 

653
00:33:01,640 --> 00:33:03,840
from the wife to the husband. 
All right? 

654
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:05,760
It's exactly the way that it 
should be. 

655
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:07,240
Turn over to first Peter chapter
3. 

656
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:19,800
First Peter, chapter 3. 
Likewise he husbands dwell with 

657
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:22,280
them according to knowledge, 
talking about the wives giving 

658
00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:27,600
honor unto the wife as unto the 
weaker vessel, as being heirs 

659
00:33:27,600 --> 00:33:32,080
together of the grace of life. 
That your prayers be not 

660
00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:36,360
hindered. 1 Psychologist and a 
marriage counselor even 

661
00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:41,440
suggested that if he sees one or
both of the spouses in a 

662
00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:44,880
marriage showing contempt to one
or the other, he considers that 

663
00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:47,240
to be the greatest indicator 
that the marriage is in trouble.

664
00:33:47,600 --> 00:33:49,800
And you might think that 
everything's fine, everything's 

665
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:52,320
fine on the outside, but you 
show contempt to your husband or

666
00:33:52,320 --> 00:33:55,400
to your wife, that's a great 
indication that your marriage is

667
00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:57,320
in trouble. 
That's a complete lack of 

668
00:33:57,320 --> 00:33:59,640
respect. 
And not only are you not 

669
00:33:59,640 --> 00:34:04,240
modeling respect to your 
children, if contempt is the 

670
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:06,480
greatest predictor of divorce, 
then respect should be the 

671
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,480
greatest strengthener of a 
healthy marriage. 

672
00:34:09,159 --> 00:34:12,679
Not only are are you undermining
your own authority by not 

673
00:34:12,679 --> 00:34:16,360
showing respect and, and being a
bad example to your children 

674
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:19,280
about what respect should be. 
Why would you want to live a 

675
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:21,080
miserable life? 
Why would you want to let you 

676
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:22,679
know that you're going to be 
together for the rest of your 

677
00:34:22,679 --> 00:34:23,679
life? 
Why would you want to live the 

678
00:34:23,679 --> 00:34:27,120
next 25 years miserable? 
Would you just get to the bottom

679
00:34:27,120 --> 00:34:31,760
of it and, and, and humble 
yourself and start showing 

680
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:34,440
respect to your spouse and just 
learn how to get along? 

681
00:34:34,800 --> 00:34:36,840
I, I heard a story. 
There was a wife who was trying 

682
00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:41,320
so hard to please her husband, 
but anything she did, he was 

683
00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:45,280
never happy. 
And you know, that included how 

684
00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:47,639
she made his breakfast. 
He, she, she made him eggs 

685
00:34:47,639 --> 00:34:49,360
basically every morning because 
that's what he liked. 

686
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:52,159
And one day she would scramble 
the eggs and he would come in 

687
00:34:52,159 --> 00:34:53,920
and get mad. 
I don't want these scrambled. 

688
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:56,880
I wanted these fried. 
So the next day she would fry 

689
00:34:56,880 --> 00:34:58,720
the eggs and he would come in 
and he said, I don't want these 

690
00:34:58,720 --> 00:35:01,600
fried, I want them scrambled. 
So she said, all right, I'm 

691
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:04,160
going to get him the next day. 
She made one scrambled and one 

692
00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:08,160
fried, and he sat down at the 
table and he said, you scrambled

693
00:35:08,160 --> 00:35:12,840
the wrong egg. 
It's very easy. 

694
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:15,320
You know, sometimes we're 
ridiculous in our in our 

695
00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:19,720
disagreements with our spouses. 
And the danger is that our 

696
00:35:19,720 --> 00:35:23,800
children pick that up. 
Not not just the ridiculous of 

697
00:35:23,800 --> 00:35:27,840
that, but the disrespect of it. 
If a dad is constantly 

698
00:35:27,840 --> 00:35:32,800
belittling his wife, should he 
be surprised that when his son 

699
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:35,480
gets to be a teenager, he's 
disrespectful to his mother? 

700
00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:41,560
It's not a surprise at all if 
you're belittling the same woman

701
00:35:41,560 --> 00:35:44,800
that he is disrespecting. 
You disrespected her long before

702
00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:48,520
he started doing it, so why 
would he show respect to his 

703
00:35:48,520 --> 00:35:52,640
mother if his father is not even
showing respect to his mother? 

704
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:55,800
You are that model and that's 
why I say it's so important. 

705
00:35:55,800 --> 00:35:59,040
Vice versa, right? 
If a if a wife is not showing 

706
00:35:59,040 --> 00:36:02,080
respect to her husband, then why
would you expect that the 

707
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:04,480
daughter is going to show 
respect to her father later on 

708
00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:07,480
or the son respect to his father
later on? 

709
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:09,960
My mom doesn't even respect my 
dad, why should I show him 

710
00:36:09,960 --> 00:36:12,960
respect? 
Parents have to model respect to

711
00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:15,200
one another if they want to 
teach their children to respect 

712
00:36:15,200 --> 00:36:18,040
their parents. 
Turn over to Acts chapter 5. 

713
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:22,560
We should model respect. 
Show respect to the authority of

714
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:26,000
Scripture to your spouse. 
Let's say this number three, we 

715
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:31,240
should show respect in society. 
We're commanded to honor 

716
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:35,160
government authorities. 
Sometimes it's difficult, but 

717
00:36:35,160 --> 00:36:37,840
Romans chapter 13 we already we 
already read a couple of those 

718
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:40,400
verses, but it teaches us that 
the authorities are placed in 

719
00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:44,320
our lives by God and we ought to
teach our children to respect 

720
00:36:44,320 --> 00:36:46,320
and obey law enforcement 
officers to obey elected 

721
00:36:46,320 --> 00:36:47,880
officials, right? 
That's, that's one of the 

722
00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:51,000
reasons why so many of these 
people are bringing all these 

723
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:53,760
things on themselves when it 
comes to their problems, right? 

724
00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:58,440
They have 0 respect for law 
enforcement, man, I'll tell you 

725
00:36:58,440 --> 00:37:01,200
this, number one, I'm not doing 
things to break the law to have 

726
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:03,240
an interaction with a law 
enforcement officer anyway. 

727
00:37:03,240 --> 00:37:05,520
But I can promise you, if a law 
enforcement officer told me to 

728
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:07,280
do something, I'm going to do 
it, right? 

729
00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:10,520
All these things that are 
happening, that that blow up, 

730
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:13,520
that 'cause these people to go, 
you know, blow cities up and 

731
00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:16,200
burn them to the ground is 
because they don't know how to 

732
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:18,800
respect authority. 
A police officer told them, hey,

733
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:22,240
stop jumping on my car. 
And they got all mad about it 

734
00:37:22,240 --> 00:37:23,840
because they don't know how to 
obey and they don't know how to 

735
00:37:23,840 --> 00:37:27,000
show any respect, right? 
And then it turns into all of 

736
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:28,600
this. 
I mean, it's just, you're seeing

737
00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:29,760
it. 
It's what you, what you're 

738
00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:32,600
seeing in a lot of these cities,
especially these big mobs of 

739
00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:34,040
these people that are just going
through. 

740
00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:36,680
And you saw a lot of it during 
COVID, especially. 

741
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:39,680
But you know, Antifa and all of 
these, these groups that are 

742
00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:42,920
just going through and just 
decimating a city. 

743
00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:48,520
It's, it is the product of the 
disrespect culture that has been

744
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:50,400
allowed to develop for a long 
time. 

745
00:37:50,960 --> 00:37:55,480
And when we don't show respect 
to authority, then that 

746
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:57,840
authority, we're tearing down 
our own authority too. 

747
00:37:57,840 --> 00:38:01,680
So as the leadership in our 
nation becomes increasingly 

748
00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:05,640
defiant against God and hostile 
toward the truth, it's sometimes

749
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:06,880
a challenge for us to honor 
them. 

750
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:10,560
But we have to honor them. 
We should never waver in our 

751
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:16,320
biblical positions. 
If they are trying to, you know,

752
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:19,960
forced abortion or homosexuality
or transgender or anything, any 

753
00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:23,160
number of these other issues on 
us, then we have a duty to stand

754
00:38:23,160 --> 00:38:28,200
up against those things, right? 
We obey man as they obey God, 

755
00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:30,720
right? 
I would rather obey God than to 

756
00:38:30,720 --> 00:38:32,320
obey man. 
That's what that's what Peter 

757
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:34,240
said, right? 
And I think that's true. 

758
00:38:34,240 --> 00:38:37,880
We, but we should pray for those
who are in authority and honor 

759
00:38:37,880 --> 00:38:40,960
and respect their office. 
Acts chapter 5 and verse #29 

760
00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:45,840
Then Peter and the other 
apostles answered and said we 

761
00:38:45,840 --> 00:38:49,480
ought to obey God rather than 
men. 

762
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:52,120
So that's the first thing that 
we have to establish. 

763
00:38:52,240 --> 00:38:56,640
Truth comes over government. 
Truth comes over government. 

764
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:59,400
Bible principles come over 
government. 

765
00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:02,000
But let's turn over to first 
Timothy chapter 2. 

766
00:39:05,880 --> 00:39:12,200
First Timothy chapter 2, verse 
#1 I exhort, therefore, that 

767
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:16,240
first of all, supplications, 
prayers, intercessions, and 

768
00:39:16,240 --> 00:39:20,920
giving of thanks be made for all
men, for kings, and for all that

769
00:39:20,920 --> 00:39:24,200
are in authority, that we may 
lead a quiet and peaceable life 

770
00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:31,440
in all godliness and honesty. 
For years now we've been praying

771
00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:34,080
in our devotions every night for
whoever the president of the 

772
00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:36,840
United States is. 
And actually, many times the 

773
00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:39,440
kids still pray for Joe Biden to
be saved. 

774
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:42,360
He's still, he's a former 
president who needs Christ, and 

775
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:44,000
I know he doesn't have any 
authority and he probably 

776
00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:47,760
doesn't even have any mental 
ability anymore, but he still 

777
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:51,640
needs to be saved. 
And I don't have to like what he

778
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:54,080
does, but I'm commanded to pray 
for him. 

779
00:39:55,520 --> 00:39:59,560
I'm commanded to go before God 
and offer supplications, 

780
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:03,440
prayers, intercessions, giving 
of thanks for all men, the Bible

781
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:05,200
says. 
And then he very specifically 

782
00:40:05,200 --> 00:40:09,040
says for kings and for all that 
are in authority, that we may 

783
00:40:09,040 --> 00:40:11,800
lead a quiet and peaceable life 
in all godliness and honesty. 

784
00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:16,480
Hey, political activism is, is 
nothing wrong with that. 

785
00:40:16,920 --> 00:40:20,800
Being involved in politics is is
a good thing in a lot of ways. 

786
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:23,840
But the way that we're really 
going to see this nation come 

787
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:26,040
back to Christ is not our 
political activism. 

788
00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:29,800
It's not Turning Point USA, It's
not all these conservative 

789
00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:33,960
groups that are getting started.
It's seeing them come to Christ.

790
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:36,400
You want to live a quiet and 
peaceable life? 

791
00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:38,640
Yeah. 
Do what you can to influence 

792
00:40:38,640 --> 00:40:41,800
policy. 
Do what you can to influence the

793
00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:45,960
politicians who have the the 
votes that are going to 

794
00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:47,920
influence policy, but pray for 
them. 

795
00:40:48,440 --> 00:40:52,400
That's what God says, pray, pray
for kings, pray for all that own

796
00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:54,400
authority so that we can live a 
quiet and peaceful life. 

797
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:58,720
Do what we can, but a lot of it 
rests on prayer and we need to 

798
00:40:58,720 --> 00:41:00,720
make sure that we're doing that.
And by the way, turn over to 

799
00:41:00,720 --> 00:41:02,680
Proverbs chapter 16. 
Another group of people in 

800
00:41:02,680 --> 00:41:04,600
society that we should honor is 
the elderly. 

801
00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:12,480
I'll let you decide where 
elderly is because it's getting 

802
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:15,120
elderly is getting older and 
older, and I'll tell you that 

803
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:16,840
much. 
It used to be 60. 

804
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:22,760
Now it's more like 85 or 90, but
here's what the Bible says. 

805
00:41:23,720 --> 00:41:28,320
The Hori head, the white hair, 
Proverbs 1631. 

806
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:32,720
The Hori head is a crown of 
glory if it be found in the way 

807
00:41:32,720 --> 00:41:35,320
of righteousness. 
I tell you what, especially in 

808
00:41:35,320 --> 00:41:39,520
church, you ought to teach your 
kids to respect their elders. 

809
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:44,760
Now, you can always tell the 
kids who are taught respect at 

810
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:47,440
home and taught to respect their
parents because they usually 

811
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:50,200
treat the rest of the people 
that are older than them the 

812
00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:52,960
same way. 
But I think it's important. 

813
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:57,320
Help them write a note to an 
older godly person in the 

814
00:41:57,320 --> 00:41:58,520
church. 
Thank them for their 

815
00:41:58,520 --> 00:42:03,080
faithfulness, right? 
Notice and thank veterans for 

816
00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:05,480
their sacrifice. 
We do that often. 

817
00:42:05,720 --> 00:42:08,160
You know, you see a veteran, 
he's wearing a cap and you say 

818
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:11,400
thank you for your service, you 
know, pay for their meals. 

819
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:14,440
When I see police officers 
sitting in a, in a restaurant is

820
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:16,600
if I, if there's any way that I 
can do it, I pay for their 

821
00:42:16,600 --> 00:42:18,400
meals. 
They don't even know who did it.

822
00:42:18,640 --> 00:42:19,720
They don't need to know who did 
it. 

823
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:23,000
They're just showing respect to 
the people in our society, the 

824
00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:25,240
people who are doing things for 
us. 

825
00:42:25,240 --> 00:42:28,040
But be honoring of your parents 
in front of your children, 

826
00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:30,320
right? 
It's it's very easy to criticize

827
00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:32,600
your parents a lot of times for 
things that they did that were 

828
00:42:32,600 --> 00:42:34,520
not right. 
That's their grandparents. 

829
00:42:35,600 --> 00:42:38,000
It's their grandparents, right? 
There were things that my 

830
00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:41,640
grandparents did growing up that
I had no idea about because my 

831
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:43,760
parents didn't talk about it. 
I didn't find out till years 

832
00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:45,800
later. 
There were things that I'm like 

833
00:42:45,800 --> 00:42:48,000
when I didn't even know that 
they were, we loved our 

834
00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:50,400
grandparents and we we thought 
they were the greatest things 

835
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:54,560
that ever walked on earth 
because that's the way my 

836
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:57,800
parents treated them. 
And they gave them that respect,

837
00:42:57,920 --> 00:42:59,720
at least in front of us. 
I don't know what happened 

838
00:42:59,720 --> 00:43:01,800
behind closed doors, but at 
least in front of us, they gave 

839
00:43:01,800 --> 00:43:04,520
them that respect. 
And, and that's the way we ought

840
00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:07,240
to do it if we're if we, if you 
want to be respected yourself, 

841
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:10,040
then you have to give respect 
because when you tear somebody 

842
00:43:10,040 --> 00:43:12,200
else's authority down, you are 
tearing your own authority down 

843
00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:15,120
at the same time. 
Turn over to Philippians 

844
00:43:15,120 --> 00:43:18,280
Shepherd too. 
I'm not going to make it all the

845
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:20,040
way through this. 
We'll save some of this for next

846
00:43:20,040 --> 00:43:24,080
time, but we're coming to a 
close here because you ought to 

847
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:29,760
show respect not only to the 
authority of Scripture, not only

848
00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:33,360
to your spouse, not only in 
society, but also in the church.

849
00:43:34,280 --> 00:43:37,360
We're commanded to give honor 
and deference to others in the 

850
00:43:37,360 --> 00:43:39,280
church. 
Philippians chapter 2 and verse 

851
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:43,520
#3 Let nothing be done through 
strife or vain glory, but in 

852
00:43:43,520 --> 00:43:47,960
lowliness of mind let each 
esteem other better than 

853
00:43:47,960 --> 00:43:51,680
themselves. 
Let's look at Romans chapter 12.

854
00:43:53,240 --> 00:44:03,560
Romans chapter 12 verse #10 Be 
kindly affectioned 1 to another 

855
00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:08,120
with brotherly love in honor, 
preferring one another. 

856
00:44:09,320 --> 00:44:12,560
Now there would be no disputes 
in the church if we would follow

857
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:14,680
just these two verses about 
brotherly love. 

858
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:18,440
If you in honor prefer somebody 
else, you'll never have a 

859
00:44:18,440 --> 00:44:21,440
dispute with them because, Oh 
well, I mean, that's what they 

860
00:44:21,440 --> 00:44:23,800
decided to do. 
Let them do it right. 

861
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:26,880
Let each esteem other better 
themselves. 

862
00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:29,720
Look for ways to show 
appreciation and care for others

863
00:44:29,720 --> 00:44:32,920
in the church. 
Don't allow offenses to build in

864
00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:34,920
these relationships. 
Your children should see that 

865
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:39,040
you value your church family. 
I'll be honest with you, I know 

866
00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:42,920
a lot of people. 
I know a lot of people, but 

867
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:45,280
there's nobody that I'd rather 
be around than the people that 

868
00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:46,720
are sitting in front of me right
now. 

869
00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:52,480
And my friends, my, my true 
friends, 90, probably 98%, 

870
00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:58,200
probably 99% of my friends are 
people that I've gone to church 

871
00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:05,040
with either here or in in 
Chesterfield or in Indiana. 99% 

872
00:45:05,040 --> 00:45:09,560
of my friends are in church or I
made in church, I should say. 

873
00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:15,440
Many of them are in church. 
But you know, our church family 

874
00:45:15,440 --> 00:45:18,920
is, is very, very necessary. 
This is a whole group of people 

875
00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:22,160
and, and it's a family of 
families, but it's a whole group

876
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:24,360
of people that are going in the 
same direction that you should 

877
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:27,040
be going in. 
You need that encouragement, you

878
00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:30,520
need that fellowship. 
You need to have a group of 

879
00:45:30,520 --> 00:45:32,320
Christians that you are going 
forward with. 

880
00:45:32,320 --> 00:45:34,840
It's a whole lot easier. 
Could you imagine if you were 

881
00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:37,800
trying to do the Christian life 
on your own, if you didn't know 

882
00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:39,840
any other Christians and you 
were just trying to struggle 

883
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:41,960
through this by yourself, Could 
you imagine what that would be 

884
00:45:41,960 --> 00:45:46,200
like? 
That would be difficult. 

885
00:45:46,360 --> 00:45:49,800
But we take for granted so often
that we can come to church every

886
00:45:49,800 --> 00:45:52,160
Sunday morning, every Sunday 
night, every Wednesday night, 

887
00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:55,400
that we can be together, that we
can gather around God's Word and

888
00:45:55,400 --> 00:45:57,840
be encouraged to go out and do 
more for the Lord. 

889
00:45:57,840 --> 00:45:59,840
And when you know that there's a
bunch of other people walking 

890
00:45:59,840 --> 00:46:05,080
out that heard the same thing 
you heard and are going in the 

891
00:46:05,080 --> 00:46:07,640
same direction that you're going
in and are trying to live for 

892
00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:10,600
the Lord, that's an 
encouragement because there's 

893
00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:12,240
not a lot of churches out there 
that are doing it. 

894
00:46:12,240 --> 00:46:14,280
There's not a lot of Christians 
out there that are doing it 

895
00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:16,280
anymore. 
We need each other. 

896
00:46:16,280 --> 00:46:18,920
We need the church. 
And it's important that we show 

897
00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:21,120
that respect. 
The Bible instructs Christians 

898
00:46:21,120 --> 00:46:23,880
to respect those that are in the
church. 

899
00:46:23,920 --> 00:46:27,160
And also the Bible instructs us 
to respect the office of the 

900
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:29,200
pastor. 
Turn over to Hebrews chapter 13,

901
00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:39,320
the word remember that we read 
here in Hebrews chapter 13 means

902
00:46:39,320 --> 00:46:40,960
to acknowledge. 
In this case, it's to 

903
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:43,520
acknowledge the spiritual 
authority of the pastor. 

904
00:46:44,280 --> 00:46:46,600
And listen, I didn't ask for 
this position. 

905
00:46:46,600 --> 00:46:50,320
God called me to be a pastor. 
I would much rather sit in a 

906
00:46:50,320 --> 00:46:52,800
corner somewhere and let 
somebody else do all the work. 

907
00:46:53,280 --> 00:46:56,080
It's a lot of work. 
It's a lot of it's a lot of a 

908
00:46:56,080 --> 00:46:58,400
lot more heartache than what 
people realize. 

909
00:47:00,480 --> 00:47:05,400
There's a lot of things that a 
pastor deals with in a church 

910
00:47:05,400 --> 00:47:10,080
that most people have no idea 
about, not the least of which is

911
00:47:10,080 --> 00:47:13,520
a tremendous, tremendous burden 
and a responsibility to make 

912
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:15,280
sure that this church goes in 
the right direction. 

913
00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:19,280
And when you start getting off 
of that direction, it's my job 

914
00:47:19,280 --> 00:47:21,320
and it's my responsibility to 
bring you back. 

915
00:47:22,760 --> 00:47:26,240
And that's not my personality. 
I don't, I don't like doing 

916
00:47:26,240 --> 00:47:29,760
that, but I have to. 
I'm commanded to do that. 

917
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:36,480
And I know that that, you know, 
messages that I preach that I 

918
00:47:36,480 --> 00:47:39,240
don't, I don't hold back when I 
preach many times because I'm 

919
00:47:39,240 --> 00:47:43,040
not afraid of you as much as I'm
afraid of of God. 

920
00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:47,160
But that's never been my 
personality. 

921
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:51,920
And it's a very difficult thing 
for me to do to preach a hard 

922
00:47:51,920 --> 00:47:54,080
message because I know that 
there's going to be people that 

923
00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:55,600
don't like it. 
And I know there's going to 

924
00:47:55,600 --> 00:47:56,680
people that are going to get 
mad. 

925
00:47:57,280 --> 00:47:59,440
And I know there's going to be 
people that are, you know, going

926
00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:04,800
home and talking about me and my
message and everything else. 

927
00:48:04,800 --> 00:48:07,080
And, and I don't really care 
really doesn't bother me that 

928
00:48:07,080 --> 00:48:09,840
much. 
Talk about me all you want. 

929
00:48:09,840 --> 00:48:11,760
I don't care really. 
I mean, I'm not there to hear 

930
00:48:11,760 --> 00:48:12,880
it. 
So who cares, right? 

931
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:18,240
But at the same time, at the 
same time, I know that that some

932
00:48:18,240 --> 00:48:22,600
of that happens. 
And there's times when I have 

933
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:24,240
things written down in my notes 
to say. 

934
00:48:24,240 --> 00:48:28,360
And I'm like, I know if I say 
this, I know that person is 

935
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:31,080
going to get upset. 
I know they are not going to 

936
00:48:31,080 --> 00:48:34,120
like that. 
And there's times when I wrestle

937
00:48:34,120 --> 00:48:36,920
back and forth in a message 
while I'm preaching should I say

938
00:48:36,920 --> 00:48:39,400
that or not? 
And all the way until I get to 

939
00:48:39,400 --> 00:48:40,960
that point, I'm wrestling with 
it. 

940
00:48:40,960 --> 00:48:44,560
And 99% of the time I say it 
because God gave it to me and I 

941
00:48:44,560 --> 00:48:48,120
believe it needs to be said. 
But at the same time, the Bible 

942
00:48:48,120 --> 00:48:50,960
says this in Hebrews 713 and 
verse #7 remember them which 

943
00:48:50,960 --> 00:48:53,800
have the rule over you, who have
spoken unto you the word of God,

944
00:48:54,000 --> 00:48:57,000
whose faith follow, considering 
the end of their conversation. 

945
00:48:58,120 --> 00:49:00,160
See, one of the most profound 
ways that you can help your 

946
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:03,400
children is by having a good 
relationship with your pastor. 

947
00:49:06,000 --> 00:49:08,440
I want to have a good 
relationship with you. 

948
00:49:09,360 --> 00:49:12,240
I do. 
I want you to come talk to me. 

949
00:49:12,240 --> 00:49:16,280
I want to help you spiritually. 
That's what my job is. 

950
00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:19,800
That's that's that's part of my 
position is to help you. 

951
00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:23,560
I can't help you if you don't 
want help because I can come to 

952
00:49:23,560 --> 00:49:26,000
you and I can say you need to 
change this and you need to stop

953
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:28,760
doing that. 
But many times if I come to you 

954
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:31,640
and do it, nothing's going to 
happen. 

955
00:49:31,640 --> 00:49:33,760
You're just going to get mad and
leave, right? 

956
00:49:33,920 --> 00:49:36,160
If you come to me and say, 
pastor, what, what do you think 

957
00:49:36,160 --> 00:49:37,680
I can change? 
What do you think I need to do 

958
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:40,320
differently? 
I told you this morning, my job 

959
00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:43,720
is to study my people. 
I know most of you better than 

960
00:49:43,720 --> 00:49:46,360
you think. 
I know you and I and I'm, I 

961
00:49:46,360 --> 00:49:48,160
don't say that in a prideful way
at all. 

962
00:49:48,240 --> 00:49:51,080
It's not, it's not that. 
It's just that I care about you 

963
00:49:52,120 --> 00:49:53,880
and I want to see you do what's 
right. 

964
00:49:53,880 --> 00:49:56,560
And sadly, I think I want to see
you do what's right many times 

965
00:49:56,560 --> 00:49:58,600
more than you want to see 
yourself do what's right. 

966
00:49:58,600 --> 00:50:00,840
And I want you to have God's 
blessing many times more than 

967
00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:04,200
you want God's blessing. 
I want to see this church be 

968
00:50:04,200 --> 00:50:07,440
successful for the Lord. 
I don't care what size it is. 

969
00:50:08,240 --> 00:50:10,040
We're not trying to build a big 
church. 

970
00:50:10,520 --> 00:50:12,560
Certainly bring more people in. 
It's great. 

971
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:14,640
The more people you have, the 
more people that are serving the

972
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:17,160
Lord, the greater impact we can 
have in this community. 

973
00:50:17,960 --> 00:50:20,080
The important thing is not how 
big the church is. 

974
00:50:20,080 --> 00:50:23,720
The important thing is how 
spiritual is this church and how

975
00:50:23,720 --> 00:50:26,240
spiritual are the people that 
make this church up. 

976
00:50:27,160 --> 00:50:30,440
And it's my job to get you from 
this level to this level. 

977
00:50:30,440 --> 00:50:33,480
And that's a hard thing to do. 
It's like pulling teeth 

978
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:39,560
sometimes the easiest thing that
you can do is just follow, just 

979
00:50:39,560 --> 00:50:42,520
obey the word of God. 
Just just do what's being 

980
00:50:42,520 --> 00:50:45,240
preached. 
And you're teaching that to your

981
00:50:45,240 --> 00:50:48,440
children. 
You know, you go home and the 

982
00:50:48,440 --> 00:50:50,760
whole time you're on your way 
home, you're complaining about 

983
00:50:50,760 --> 00:50:53,040
the message. 
And oh, well, he said this. 

984
00:50:53,040 --> 00:50:56,120
But I know that, blah, blah. 
Listen, I know more than more 

985
00:50:56,120 --> 00:50:58,720
than anybody else in this 
auditorium that I'm not perfect.

986
00:50:58,720 --> 00:51:02,160
And when I'm talking about the 
family, I know more than anybody

987
00:51:02,160 --> 00:51:03,960
else that my kids are not 
perfect. 

988
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:09,840
My wife is, but the kids are not
right. 

989
00:51:09,840 --> 00:51:11,560
I'm not. 
I'm not. 

990
00:51:11,560 --> 00:51:14,360
I'm not up here because I'm 
perfect and I've got everything 

991
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:16,440
figured out. 
I'm up here because God made me 

992
00:51:16,440 --> 00:51:19,400
do this. 
I didn't ask for this position, 

993
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:23,600
but I'm trying to take us as a 
church forward. 

994
00:51:24,600 --> 00:51:27,080
And if you would follow and and 
I'm not, I'm not saying this 

995
00:51:27,080 --> 00:51:30,680
because you're not, I think the 
majority of you are, but as you 

996
00:51:30,680 --> 00:51:34,280
follow, not only are you an 
example to your children of how 

997
00:51:34,280 --> 00:51:37,520
to follow their pastor later on,
whether it's me or somebody 

998
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:39,400
else, it probably will be 
somebody else. 

999
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:44,600
But how to follow the Lord and 
how to follow his leadership and

1000
00:51:44,600 --> 00:51:47,680
how to follow his will for your 
life and how to find what he 

1001
00:51:47,680 --> 00:51:49,720
wants you to do. 
Those are those are the things 

1002
00:51:49,720 --> 00:51:55,040
that I'm trying to, to, to help 
us as a church to do teach your 

1003
00:51:55,040 --> 00:51:56,920
children to pray for their 
pastor. 

1004
00:51:57,040 --> 00:51:59,640
I need prayer. 
You know, the devil attacks and 

1005
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:03,800
attacks and attacks. 
There's, there's somebody else 

1006
00:52:03,800 --> 00:52:06,720
that'll come along and lead this
church in a, in a, in a good 

1007
00:52:06,720 --> 00:52:08,960
direction. 
If something ever were to happen

1008
00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:11,840
to me, God forbid that I fall 
into sin or something like that,

1009
00:52:11,840 --> 00:52:14,760
somebody would come in behind me
and this church would go forward

1010
00:52:14,760 --> 00:52:18,120
because I think you, you're, 
you're a godly enough people 

1011
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:20,320
that you would, you would find 
the right pastor and get 

1012
00:52:20,320 --> 00:52:24,480
somebody in this place. 
But this is where God called me 

1013
00:52:24,480 --> 00:52:28,280
to be. 
And I plan to be here as long as

1014
00:52:28,280 --> 00:52:30,480
God keeps me here. 
And if that's 50 years, then I'm

1015
00:52:30,480 --> 00:52:33,200
going to do it. 
I don't have any plans to go 

1016
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:35,160
anywhere else. 
I'm not looking for a higher 

1017
00:52:35,160 --> 00:52:36,720
position. 
I'm not looking for a church. 

1018
00:52:36,880 --> 00:52:39,840
I'm not waiting for a call from 
a church with 200 people to give

1019
00:52:39,840 --> 00:52:41,720
me a promotion. 
I don't need a promotion. 

1020
00:52:42,640 --> 00:52:45,640
I don't want to, I don't, I 
don't have any desire to be 

1021
00:52:45,640 --> 00:52:49,520
anywhere else. 
So I'm going to be here forever 

1022
00:52:49,680 --> 00:52:51,440
if this is what God wants me to 
do. 

1023
00:52:53,200 --> 00:52:55,400
But that only happens by your 
prayers. 

1024
00:52:56,600 --> 00:52:59,000
And you need to teach your 
children to pray for your pastor

1025
00:53:00,080 --> 00:53:03,720
because I need it. 
And, and, and this church needs 

1026
00:53:03,720 --> 00:53:10,440
it. 
We, we are examples to our 

1027
00:53:10,440 --> 00:53:13,120
children. 
And what you do, your kids are 

1028
00:53:13,120 --> 00:53:16,520
going to do what you say your 
kids are going to say what you 

1029
00:53:16,520 --> 00:53:20,280
allow, your kids are going to 
allow what you promote, your 

1030
00:53:20,280 --> 00:53:23,520
kids are going to promote. 
What do you want your kids to 

1031
00:53:23,520 --> 00:53:25,640
be? 
Because what you, whatever you 

1032
00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:27,360
want your kids to be, you better
be that. 

1033
00:53:28,360 --> 00:53:31,720
If you wanted to be nominal 
halfway half hearted Christians,

1034
00:53:31,840 --> 00:53:35,160
then go be 1/2 hearted Christian
if that's what you want your 

1035
00:53:35,160 --> 00:53:36,440
kids to be. 
No, I'll tell you this. 

1036
00:53:36,440 --> 00:53:38,640
If you're 1/2 hearted Christian,
your kids are going to be 1/4 

1037
00:53:38,640 --> 00:53:40,520
hearted Christian because 
they're not even going to get 

1038
00:53:40,520 --> 00:53:43,080
that, that they're not even 
going to make it halfway if 

1039
00:53:43,080 --> 00:53:45,920
you're just a halfway Christian.
But if you're sold out for the 

1040
00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:48,800
Lord and you're living your life
to do everything you can to 

1041
00:53:48,800 --> 00:53:51,680
please Him, then you're probably
going to have kids that are not 

1042
00:53:51,680 --> 00:53:54,440
only sold out for the Lord, but 
exceed us. 

1043
00:53:55,640 --> 00:53:59,360
And that's what I want. 
I want our kids to grow up and 

1044
00:53:59,360 --> 00:54:01,840
love the Lord just as much or 
more than we do. 

1045
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:05,240
I want them to accomplish just 
as much or more than we do. 

1046
00:54:08,600 --> 00:54:11,040
Planting a church is not an easy
thing at all. 

1047
00:54:12,560 --> 00:54:16,160
Most of you are not here in the 
beginning, but what we're doing 

1048
00:54:16,160 --> 00:54:19,880
is establishing something that 
hopefully will go on for many, 

1049
00:54:19,880 --> 00:54:23,280
many, many years and many, many,
many generations if the Lord 

1050
00:54:23,280 --> 00:54:26,320
tarries. 
The sad thing is most churches 

1051
00:54:26,320 --> 00:54:28,080
make it one generation and then 
they die. 

1052
00:54:30,200 --> 00:54:34,720
This is not about, this is not 
about creating a legacy or 

1053
00:54:34,720 --> 00:54:37,400
anything like that. 
I don't listen. 

1054
00:54:37,560 --> 00:54:39,000
I said. 
I tell my wife this all the 

1055
00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:39,520
time. 
Why? 

1056
00:54:39,800 --> 00:54:41,360
Why do we even care about a 
legacy? 

1057
00:54:41,760 --> 00:54:44,800
When I'm gone, I'm not going to 
know anything that you're doing,

1058
00:54:45,400 --> 00:54:47,400
right? 
You put a big statue of me out 

1059
00:54:47,400 --> 00:54:49,720
in the foyer after I'm gone. 
I don't know it's there. 

1060
00:54:49,800 --> 00:54:51,720
Who cares if it's there or not, 
right? 

1061
00:54:52,040 --> 00:54:54,680
You have a big plaque with my 
name on it and all founding 

1062
00:54:54,680 --> 00:54:56,920
pastor and all this stuff. 
You put it out in the foyer to 

1063
00:54:56,920 --> 00:54:59,000
honor me after I'm gone. 
Who cares? 

1064
00:54:59,000 --> 00:55:01,240
I'm I don't know that it's 
there, right? 

1065
00:55:01,240 --> 00:55:06,160
Wherever I'm at, hopefully 
heaven trying to get there. 

1066
00:55:06,920 --> 00:55:08,280
No, I know that I'm going to be 
in heaven. 

1067
00:55:08,280 --> 00:55:11,880
But if I'm in heaven, listen, if
I'm in heaven, I'm not going to 

1068
00:55:11,880 --> 00:55:13,360
be worried about what's going on
down here. 

1069
00:55:14,600 --> 00:55:16,520
And the same thing for the, for 
the people who are in hell. 

1070
00:55:16,520 --> 00:55:18,400
They're not going to care what's
going on in the earth. 

1071
00:55:18,400 --> 00:55:20,960
All the honor and the, and 
everything that they left behind

1072
00:55:20,960 --> 00:55:23,440
him and all people, you know, 
talking about all the good 

1073
00:55:23,440 --> 00:55:26,320
things that they did and you're 
not going to know it. 

1074
00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:29,240
It's not, it's not for those 
things. 

1075
00:55:29,240 --> 00:55:32,080
It's not about those things. 
It's about what impact can we 

1076
00:55:32,080 --> 00:55:37,240
make for Christ and how can we 
influence the next generation to

1077
00:55:37,240 --> 00:55:40,640
continue what we've started. 
That's the important thing. 

1078
00:55:40,640 --> 00:55:45,080
That's what's going to last. 
Not my legacy or your legacy or 

1079
00:55:45,160 --> 00:55:48,080
whatever you're leaving behind. 
Certainly I want to, I want to 

1080
00:55:48,080 --> 00:55:49,960
leave an impact. 
Certainly I know I don't want to

1081
00:55:50,160 --> 00:55:52,240
live a whole life that that 
accounted for nothing. 

1082
00:55:52,840 --> 00:55:54,760
But at the same time, it's not 
about that. 

1083
00:55:56,400 --> 00:55:59,800
It's about the the legacy is 
who's coming behind us. 

1084
00:55:59,800 --> 00:56:03,520
That's still continuing on who's
who's coming behind us. 

1085
00:56:03,520 --> 00:56:05,760
That's going to keep living for 
the Lord because we live for the

1086
00:56:05,760 --> 00:56:09,560
Lord and it and it all starts 
with us being the example in the

1087
00:56:09,560 --> 00:56:12,320
model and showing our respect to
these different things. 

1088
00:56:12,320 --> 00:56:15,040
And I'll just finish by saying 
this. 

1089
00:56:16,000 --> 00:56:21,040
When it comes to being showing 
respect to the position of the 

1090
00:56:21,040 --> 00:56:28,240
pastor, you know, I don't, I 
don't need to, I don't need to 

1091
00:56:28,240 --> 00:56:30,960
help you figure out which car 
you're going to buy. 

1092
00:56:31,720 --> 00:56:33,800
You don't need to come ask me. 
I don't, you don't need my 

1093
00:56:33,800 --> 00:56:36,840
opinion on What Car to buy or 
what house to live in or any of 

1094
00:56:36,840 --> 00:56:39,480
those kind of things. 
I'm not my, my job is not here 

1095
00:56:39,480 --> 00:56:42,520
to, to micromanage your life and
tell you what you need to do. 

1096
00:56:43,040 --> 00:56:45,960
But I, but I will say this. 
When you have major decisions 

1097
00:56:45,960 --> 00:56:47,920
that need to be made, it'd be 
wise to come talk to your 

1098
00:56:47,920 --> 00:56:50,960
pastor. 
I'm not, I don't claim to have 

1099
00:56:50,960 --> 00:56:53,560
all the wisdom or anything like 
that, but I do believe that God 

1100
00:56:53,560 --> 00:56:59,000
gives wisdom to a pastor who who
loves his people and cares about

1101
00:56:59,000 --> 00:57:00,960
his people. 
And you're about to make a 

1102
00:57:00,960 --> 00:57:02,440
decision that's going to ruin 
your life. 

1103
00:57:02,440 --> 00:57:04,280
I think you at least you ought 
to give me the option to say, 

1104
00:57:04,280 --> 00:57:05,480
hey, you're going to ruin your 
life. 

1105
00:57:06,160 --> 00:57:18,010
Don't do that. 
The church is what Christ gave 

1106
00:57:18,010 --> 00:57:21,130
his life for. 
It's important. 

1107
00:57:22,370 --> 00:57:25,450
The church ought to be important
to you and it ought to be 

1108
00:57:25,450 --> 00:57:28,010
important to your children. 
And I've said this many times 

1109
00:57:28,010 --> 00:57:30,130
when I was growing up, I could 
count on one hand the number of 

1110
00:57:30,130 --> 00:57:31,570
times I miss church. 
And I mean it. 

1111
00:57:31,850 --> 00:57:34,920
We didn't miss and that's one of
the greatest things that my 

1112
00:57:34,920 --> 00:57:38,520
parents could do for me. 
My parents loved each other. 

1113
00:57:39,480 --> 00:57:41,200
It's one of the greatest things 
that they could have done for 

1114
00:57:41,200 --> 00:57:43,280
us. 
They gave us that godly 

1115
00:57:43,280 --> 00:57:44,880
heritage. 
Were they perfect? 

1116
00:57:45,800 --> 00:57:48,520
Not by any stretch. 
And there's things that my 

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00:57:48,520 --> 00:57:51,520
parents did growing up that I 
said I will never do that in my 

1118
00:57:51,520 --> 00:57:54,760
house. 
I'm never going to do that. 

1119
00:57:55,520 --> 00:57:57,920
Take all the good things and 
make them stronger. 

1120
00:57:58,000 --> 00:58:00,360
Take the bad things and throw 
them out and do do something 

1121
00:58:00,360 --> 00:58:03,360
different with them, right? 
It's just the way it goes. 

1122
00:58:04,080 --> 00:58:06,680
I'm not perfect and my kids are 
going to grow up and say I'm 

1123
00:58:06,680 --> 00:58:10,920
never going to do that. 
Probably my my goal is to make 

1124
00:58:10,920 --> 00:58:13,040
it so they can say, well, there 
was a couple things that I 

1125
00:58:13,040 --> 00:58:16,560
didn't really like. 
But other than that, everything 

1126
00:58:16,560 --> 00:58:18,560
they taught me is exactly what I
want to do in my home. 

1127
00:58:18,760 --> 00:58:24,560
I want my kids. 
I want my kids to want their 

1128
00:58:24,560 --> 00:58:27,160
home to be exactly the way that 
our home is now. 

1129
00:58:29,360 --> 00:58:34,560
I want I want my kids to grow up
and say if we can have in our 

1130
00:58:34,560 --> 00:58:39,000
home what we had growing up, 
then we'll be we'll be happy. 

1131
00:58:42,200 --> 00:58:44,280
But that that that does not come
an accident. 

1132
00:58:45,240 --> 00:58:47,920
It's something that you have to 
try so hard at. 

1133
00:58:49,040 --> 00:58:51,440
You have to you have to do 
everything you can to keep the 

1134
00:58:51,440 --> 00:58:55,480
ungodly influences out. 
Put the godly influences in. 

1135
00:58:56,200 --> 00:59:00,400
Make church your life. 
The church is not going to raise

1136
00:59:00,400 --> 00:59:01,480
your kids. 
You are. 

1137
00:59:01,560 --> 00:59:03,960
But the more you have them 
around this and the more that 

1138
00:59:03,960 --> 00:59:05,720
you have them around other 
Christians who are doing the 

1139
00:59:05,720 --> 00:59:08,040
same thing, the better off 
you're going to be. 

1140
00:59:09,600 --> 00:59:11,840
And you ought to give respect to
your children. 

1141
00:59:12,080 --> 00:59:14,280
I'll end with that. 
Your children deserve your 

1142
00:59:14,280 --> 00:59:17,600
respect as well. 
Don't, don't demean them, don't 

1143
00:59:17,600 --> 00:59:21,680
humiliate them. 
Don't be contemptuous toward 

1144
00:59:21,680 --> 00:59:23,000
them. 
The Bible is very plain in 

1145
00:59:23,000 --> 00:59:28,520
Ephesians that tells the fathers
not to do those types of things 

1146
00:59:28,520 --> 00:59:31,840
to your children, right? 
If you're always looking for 

1147
00:59:31,840 --> 00:59:35,160
ways to laugh at your kids in 
front of everybody else, you're 

1148
00:59:35,160 --> 00:59:37,840
going to teach them contempt, 
right? 

1149
00:59:37,840 --> 00:59:40,000
Oh, you should have seen what my
kid did today. 

1150
00:59:40,000 --> 00:59:42,280
He was so stupid. 
I can't believe he did this. 

1151
00:59:42,640 --> 00:59:45,560
I've made a point to never do 
that to my kids. 

1152
00:59:46,240 --> 00:59:49,280
Now, sometimes I use them as an 
example, but you know, 10 years 

1153
00:59:49,280 --> 00:59:52,720
later, not last week. 
And most of the time, they don't

1154
00:59:52,720 --> 00:59:54,480
even remember the things that 
I'm talking about. 

1155
00:59:55,600 --> 00:59:57,280
But you, you ought to show your 
kids respect. 

1156
00:59:57,280 --> 01:00:00,720
They deserve respect. 
They're humans too, all right? 

1157
01:00:00,880 --> 01:00:02,920
Just because they're little 
humans doesn't mean that they 

1158
01:00:02,920 --> 01:00:06,880
don't deserve respect. 
Go to treat them with respect. 

1159
01:00:06,880 --> 01:00:09,800
First Thessalonians chapter 2 
and verse #7 But we were gentle 

1160
01:00:09,800 --> 01:00:13,200
among you. 
Even as a nurse cherisheth her 

1161
01:00:13,200 --> 01:00:18,560
children, insisting on obedience
and respect is very important. 

1162
01:00:19,400 --> 01:00:23,520
And this is kind of the the the 
opposite of what we talked about

1163
01:00:23,520 --> 01:00:26,200
last week. 
Right, talking about being hard 

1164
01:00:26,200 --> 01:00:27,800
and discipline, and you need 
that. 

1165
01:00:27,800 --> 01:00:30,760
That's absolutely part of it. 
But the balance side of that is 

1166
01:00:30,760 --> 01:00:33,680
the respect. 
And the respect only happens 

1167
01:00:33,680 --> 01:00:39,280
when you show that respect. 
So demonstrating respect gives 

1168
01:00:39,280 --> 01:00:41,680
your children a visible example 
to follow. 

1169
01:00:42,200 --> 01:00:47,040
Both are equally important, 
discipline, obedience, demanding

1170
01:00:47,040 --> 01:00:49,840
that obedience and respect, but 
also modeling and showing that 

1171
01:00:49,840 --> 01:00:51,400
obedience and that respect 
yourself. 

1172
01:00:51,880 --> 01:00:54,760
Both of those are very, very 
important and they'll go a long 

1173
01:00:54,760 --> 01:00:59,560
way in helping your kids to be 
what they need to be for Christ.

1174
01:01:00,120 --> 01:01:02,960
We're going to stop there. 
I've got another lesson that 

1175
01:01:02,960 --> 01:01:05,160
I'll give you next week that 
will finish this out. 

1176
01:01:06,160 --> 01:01:09,440
I don't it's, it's already late,
but I hope it's a help to you 

1177
01:01:09,760 --> 01:01:11,480
and I hope there's some things 
that you can take. 

1178
01:01:11,480 --> 01:01:15,360
Let's pray and then we'll have a
a short invitation and then 

1179
01:01:16,120 --> 01:01:17,280
we'll finish out and be 
dismissed. 

1180
01:01:17,280 --> 01:01:19,280
Father, again, we thank you so 
much for your goodness to us. 

1181
01:01:19,280 --> 01:01:21,920
So thank you for the time we can
spend together tonight. 

1182
01:01:22,760 --> 01:01:25,720
So thank you for the opportunity
we have to have so many families

1183
01:01:25,720 --> 01:01:27,760
in this church that have a 
desire to please you and live 

1184
01:01:27,760 --> 01:01:30,480
for you. 
God, may our desire be strong 

1185
01:01:30,480 --> 01:01:33,440
enough that it moves us into 
action for you. 

1186
01:01:34,120 --> 01:01:37,520
God, may you help us to be 
people of respect, model those 

1187
01:01:37,520 --> 01:01:40,960
things that we want our children
to be and understand that what 

1188
01:01:40,960 --> 01:01:44,520
we do, our children are going to
do, what we allow our children 

1189
01:01:44,520 --> 01:01:47,120
are going to allow. 
What we what we are strong on, 

1190
01:01:47,120 --> 01:01:49,160
hopefully our children will be 
strong on as well. 

1191
01:01:49,160 --> 01:01:52,800
God, may you make us strong in 
every aspect of our lives so we 

1192
01:01:52,800 --> 01:01:55,200
can raise this next generation 
to continue on for you. 

1193
01:01:55,200 --> 01:01:57,440
But thank you again for all you 
do for us. 

1194
01:01:57,440 --> 01:01:59,440
In Jesus name, Amen, Let's 
stand.