1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,480 Let me turn in our Bibles tonight to first Timothy, first 2 00:00:02,480 --> 00:00:06,440 Timothy chapter 6 and we're going to get there in just a 3 00:00:06,440 --> 00:00:08,880 second. But I'm going to kind of give 4 00:00:08,880 --> 00:00:13,200 you a little bit of a run into what we started feels like a 5 00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:17,720 long time ago now, but been a lot of Sunday nights between now 6 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:19,280 when when we started this lesson. 7 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:25,360 But if you remember the, the whole title of the message, if 8 00:00:25,360 --> 00:00:28,800 you will, is cultivating contentment in a consumerist 9 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:31,160 culture. And I'm not going to take very 10 00:00:31,160 --> 00:00:36,080 long to to review because you can always go back and watch 11 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:38,920 that message again. And we got a lot to try to cover 12 00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:40,320 tonight. I don't even know how far I'm 13 00:00:40,320 --> 00:00:43,200 going to get in this tonight, but we may, we may do another 14 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:44,400 one. These are very, very important 15 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:46,040 things, not just for those with kids. 16 00:00:46,480 --> 00:00:48,760 It's very important for you to understand these things in your 17 00:00:48,760 --> 00:00:52,040 own life, obviously #1 because we are the examples to our kids. 18 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:54,600 But #2 you need to get these things straightened out in your 19 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:56,040 own life. We all need to get these things 20 00:00:56,040 --> 00:00:57,200 straightened out in our own life. 21 00:00:57,200 --> 00:01:02,320 So just just by way of quick review, I gave you 3 myths when 22 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:07,560 it comes to the philosophy of this consumerist culture. 23 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:10,040 Myth #1 is that prosperity is a divine right. 24 00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:12,080 It's not you go out and work for it. 25 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:13,960 You make something out of yourself and then you can be 26 00:01:13,960 --> 00:01:16,520 prosperous, right #2 myth is it's my money. 27 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:18,800 I worked hard for it. So it's mine, right? 28 00:01:18,800 --> 00:01:22,240 No, it's, it's, we're stewards, we're managers of the money that 29 00:01:22,240 --> 00:01:24,280 God gave us #3 is that money is evil. 30 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:26,360 And that's not correct either. Money is not evil. 31 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:30,040 The love of money is the root of all evil, the Bible says. 32 00:01:30,040 --> 00:01:33,280 And so you have to work you and, and you should work and you 33 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:37,280 should try to make them the, the, the most that you can and 34 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:40,680 be as successful as you possibly can within the right balance. 35 00:01:40,960 --> 00:01:43,760 But then we said number one, that we should be modeling 36 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:46,520 contentment in our homes. We should be modeling 37 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:49,080 contentment in our homes. If we want to raise kids that 38 00:01:49,080 --> 00:01:50,560 are content, we ought to be content. 39 00:01:50,560 --> 00:01:53,000 And that's why I say this is for all of us, right? 40 00:01:53,000 --> 00:01:55,440 It's important that our kids grow up and learn how to be 41 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:57,760 content, but it's important that we do the same thing too. 42 00:01:57,760 --> 00:01:59,080 The Bible talks about that a lot. 43 00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:04,080 Godliness with contentment is great gain, right? 44 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:07,600 And so this is not just something that we should be only 45 00:02:07,600 --> 00:02:09,120 teaching our kids. It's something that we should be 46 00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:11,440 doing ourselves. And I said #1 you model 47 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:14,960 contentment in the home by living below your means and #2 48 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:17,320 by providing for basic necessities. 49 00:02:17,320 --> 00:02:19,440 And I think this is where we left off, because I don't 50 00:02:19,440 --> 00:02:21,080 remember talking too much about this. 51 00:02:21,280 --> 00:02:22,520 So I'm going to jump in right there. 52 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:24,640 There's a few things that I wanted to add to this anyway, 53 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:25,920 and then we'll move on from here. 54 00:02:25,920 --> 00:02:29,000 But the Bible says this in first Timothy chapter 6 and verse #7 55 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:32,520 For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain that we 56 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:37,240 can carry nothing out. And having food and raiment let 57 00:02:37,240 --> 00:02:43,920 us be there with content. So if you have food and 58 00:02:43,920 --> 00:02:48,800 clothing, you should be content. That's that's, that's a really 59 00:02:48,800 --> 00:02:51,440 low bar, isn't it? It's a really low bar. 60 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:54,760 So what exactly do we need to be content according to this verse? 61 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:56,800 Well, the point here is not so much that we need only food and 62 00:02:56,800 --> 00:03:00,640 clothing as much as it is contrasting contentment with 63 00:03:00,640 --> 00:03:05,520 covetousness, the goal of life. The goal of life is not to amass 64 00:03:05,680 --> 00:03:09,120 things, but to be able to meet our family's needs and to give 65 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:10,880 to others. Proverbs chapter 23. 66 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:12,760 You can turn to as many of these as you want to. 67 00:03:12,760 --> 00:03:15,600 We're going to be jumping around a little bit, but Proverbs 68 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:19,680 chapter 23 and verse #4 the Bible says labor not to be rich. 69 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:23,840 Cease from thine own wisdom. Wilt thou set thine eyes upon 70 00:03:23,840 --> 00:03:27,280 that which is not for riches? Certainly make themselves wings. 71 00:03:27,360 --> 00:03:29,440 They fly away as an eagle toward heaven. 72 00:03:29,600 --> 00:03:31,840 By the way, what's the purpose of being rich anyway? 73 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:35,720 What's the purpose of being rich? 74 00:03:37,760 --> 00:03:42,520 Is it so you can say I'm rich? Is it so you can say I've got a 75 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:46,120 lot of money? Is it so you can say what I 76 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:48,600 mean? You can make a lot of money and 77 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:51,840 still not be rich, right? And I think that's probably the 78 00:03:51,840 --> 00:03:54,680 way that it ought to be. If God is giving you all that 79 00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:57,960 money, you hoarding it and having a bank account that is so 80 00:03:57,960 --> 00:04:01,440 full of money that you can call yourself rich, you're probably 81 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:05,280 not stewarding what God gave you very well, right, because you're 82 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:07,640 hoarding it. I was talking to a pastor and he 83 00:04:07,640 --> 00:04:09,800 actually just became a pastor. He's a very successful 84 00:04:09,800 --> 00:04:12,120 businessman. And I won't tell you who it is, 85 00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:14,680 but it's it's somebody that I was talking to and I was talking 86 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:16,640 to him about some of these different things with Belize. 87 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:22,200 And he said, he said we make a lot of money, but we don't have 88 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:23,680 a lot of money because we give a lot of it away. 89 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:26,040 And he wasn't saying it because he was trying to, you know, he 90 00:04:26,040 --> 00:04:28,320 was trying to say, I don't have a lot of money that I can give 91 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:30,480 you for this belief thing right now, because we give it all 92 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:32,240 away. And I and I believe that's 93 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:34,840 exactly what God does want us to do with it, right? 94 00:04:35,000 --> 00:04:36,920 Why does God give you a ton of money? 95 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:39,840 Is it so that you can put it all in your bank account so that you 96 00:04:39,840 --> 00:04:42,920 can be very rich, so that you can die with $1,000,000, so that 97 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:46,560 you can, you know, pass it on down to the next generation? 98 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:48,200 Well, some of that is true, right? 99 00:04:48,200 --> 00:04:51,200 And if you're just wasting it, if you're just throwing it away 100 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:54,640 on, on stupid stuff and buying really expensive fancy cars and, 101 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:57,440 and buying extravagant houses and all of those other things, 102 00:04:57,440 --> 00:05:00,480 then yes, you're wasting the money that God gave you, right? 103 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:02,960 I do think the Bible does say that, that, that you should make 104 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:04,640 enough to pass down to the next generation. 105 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:08,400 There's nothing wrong with that. But at the same time, why do you 106 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:13,160 want to be rich, right? Why are you trying to amass all 107 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:15,160 of this money? And I'm just asking that in 108 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:17,560 general, I'm not, I'm not asking you in particular, right? 109 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:20,240 But I'm just saying you got to think about those things because 110 00:05:20,320 --> 00:05:21,960 what is the purpose of making money? 111 00:05:23,680 --> 00:05:25,000 What is the purpose of being rich? 112 00:05:25,000 --> 00:05:27,160 What is the purpose of going out and working and having all these 113 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:29,440 things? Well, godliness with contentment 114 00:05:29,440 --> 00:05:31,840 is great gain. So godliness without 115 00:05:31,840 --> 00:05:35,360 contentment, I got to have another dollar, right? 116 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:39,360 That's not great gain, right? Great gain is when you have 117 00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:41,760 godliness and you are content with what God gave you. 118 00:05:41,920 --> 00:05:45,480 OK, so wilt thou set thine eyes upon that which is not riches? 119 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:48,400 Take wings, right? You could have $1,000,000 in 120 00:05:48,400 --> 00:05:50,440 your bank account. Go get sick with cancer and see 121 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:54,440 how long that lasts, right? Takes wings and flies away, 122 00:05:55,240 --> 00:05:56,880 right? Your house burns down, You got 123 00:05:56,880 --> 00:05:58,760 to go replace the house. I mean, obviously there's 124 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:01,640 insurance and everything else, but but riches take wings. 125 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:04,280 There are things that just come up that make those things go 126 00:06:04,280 --> 00:06:06,320 very quickly. So one of the ways that you help 127 00:06:06,320 --> 00:06:08,520 cultivate contentment in the heart of your children is by 128 00:06:08,680 --> 00:06:11,080 ensuring that you're going to provide for their basic needs. 129 00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:13,520 In fact, look at the Bible says in the chapter before that if 130 00:06:13,520 --> 00:06:15,840 you're still there in First Timothy 6, go to First Timothy 131 00:06:15,840 --> 00:06:24,320 chapter 5 verse #8. But if any provide not for his 132 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:28,520 house and especially those for those of his own house, he hath 133 00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:33,280 denied the faith and is worse than an infidel. 134 00:06:34,040 --> 00:06:35,720 That's some pretty strong language. 135 00:06:36,360 --> 00:06:38,440 Deny the faith and worse than an infidel. 136 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:40,720 If you don't provide for your house, especially the ones that 137 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:44,000 are in your own house. So let's look at the 55 basic 138 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:47,880 needs that your children have. Turn over to Proverbs 31 #1 is 139 00:06:47,880 --> 00:06:49,880 shelter. Your kids need to have a roof 140 00:06:49,880 --> 00:06:52,480 over their heads and a place to sleep. 141 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:56,280 Doesn't have to be a palace, but it should be a place to call 142 00:06:56,280 --> 00:07:01,800 home, right? I grew up doing the bus ministry 143 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:05,360 and, and going and visiting kids and it was not uncommon at all 144 00:07:05,640 --> 00:07:07,560 for them to come to church on Sunday. 145 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:09,760 And when you go back to visit them the following Saturday, the 146 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:12,960 house is completely empty. And you find out that they moved 147 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:15,320 three blocks over because they got kicked out of their house 148 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:17,120 because they weren't paying the rent and everything else. 149 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:19,960 And they moved everything over and they lived there for six 150 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:20,920 months. And the next thing you know, 151 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:22,880 they're in a different house and then they're in a different 152 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:24,560 house and then they're in a different state and then they 153 00:07:24,560 --> 00:07:26,480 come back. It's just the way that a lot of 154 00:07:26,480 --> 00:07:28,960 them lived. And that's not that's not 155 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:30,840 providing a place that your kids can call home. 156 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:32,600 And I get it. I understand that, that that 157 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:34,680 there are difficult circumstances and things like 158 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:36,680 that. They come up, but if you're 159 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:38,840 providing for your for your family, then you ought to 160 00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:40,960 provide shelter. You ought to provide food. 161 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:43,560 Look what Proverbs 31 says about a virtuous woman. 162 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:48,320 She verse 30, chapter 31, verse 16, she considereth a field and 163 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:50,880 buyeth it with the fruit of her hands. 164 00:07:50,880 --> 00:07:53,360 She planted the vineyard. Why she planted the vineyard? 165 00:07:53,600 --> 00:07:55,120 Because she's providing for her house. 166 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:57,440 She's providing food, right? Clothing. 167 00:07:57,440 --> 00:07:59,720 That's another one that's a basic need, shelter, food, 168 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:02,080 clothing. Now, by the way, having name 169 00:08:02,080 --> 00:08:05,080 brand clothing is not a need, right? 170 00:08:05,840 --> 00:08:07,960 Your kids don't have to look like they just walked out of a 171 00:08:07,960 --> 00:08:11,280 magazine. OK, You can shop at Goodwill. 172 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:13,440 That's what we did all the way growing up. 173 00:08:13,440 --> 00:08:16,560 I didn't I didn't have anything brand new for a long time, not 174 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:19,040 until I started buying my own stuff that I have anything brand 175 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:20,640 new. We got it new. 176 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:23,120 We got shoes that Payless, right? 177 00:08:23,120 --> 00:08:25,360 I remember. Does anybody remember and, and 178 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:27,640 this is the dumbest thing, but does anybody remember the brand 179 00:08:27,720 --> 00:08:31,080 Etonic? Man, I used to think those were 180 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:34,520 the coolest shoes in the world and I wanted a pair all the way 181 00:08:34,520 --> 00:08:36,039 growing up. I mean, nobody's ever even heard 182 00:08:36,039 --> 00:08:39,080 of Etonic, right? But they had thick bottoms and 183 00:08:39,080 --> 00:08:40,880 they looked soft and they looked comfortable. 184 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:43,919 And mine were plastic. When I, when I smacked my shoes 185 00:08:43,919 --> 00:08:46,200 in the ground, you can hear the plastic on the bottom of my 186 00:08:46,200 --> 00:08:47,920 shoes. And I'm telling you, more than 187 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:52,080 once, more than once growing up, probably more than five times 188 00:08:52,080 --> 00:08:55,960 growing up, the shoes that I had cracked all the way across the 189 00:08:55,960 --> 00:08:58,200 bottom. That's how plastic they were a, 190 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:01,440 a crack right across the, the, the, the like the ball of my 191 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:05,520 feet to the point where I wrapped duct tape around it to 192 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:08,280 keep him from falling apart and to keep water from getting in. 193 00:09:08,800 --> 00:09:10,320 I remember it like it was yesterday. 194 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:12,600 And, you know, we'd get a new pair of shoes at the beginning 195 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:14,800 of the school year. And it was such a big deal to 196 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:17,320 get a new pair of shoes that every time we came home, we 197 00:09:17,320 --> 00:09:20,520 would ask our mom if we could sleep in those shoes because 198 00:09:20,520 --> 00:09:22,400 they were brand new. I don't know if you ever did 199 00:09:22,400 --> 00:09:23,560 that. We did, right. 200 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:26,040 We didn't have Nike. We didn't have all of those 201 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:29,280 things. We got Payless shoes and we got 202 00:09:29,280 --> 00:09:31,400 Goodwill clothes. And you know what? 203 00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:34,120 When I got into 7th grade, my dad said, I'm, I'm going to give 204 00:09:34,120 --> 00:09:36,400 you a place to sleep. Obviously you have your bed and 205 00:09:36,400 --> 00:09:37,920 all that kind of stuff. I'm going to put food on the 206 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:39,920 table. You want anything else, you're 207 00:09:39,920 --> 00:09:42,880 paying for it. Guess what I learned how to do? 208 00:09:43,560 --> 00:09:48,040 I shopped at Goodwill. I got my, I got my first suit 209 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:50,120 off of the racket Goodwill for $7.00. 210 00:09:50,120 --> 00:09:53,280 I remember it and I wore that thing for for a couple years, 211 00:09:53,280 --> 00:09:55,240 right? I used to buy all my ties in my 212 00:09:55,240 --> 00:09:57,880 shoes and everything there. I learned how to be a good 213 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:00,920 steward of the money that I made because I didn't have a lot of 214 00:10:00,920 --> 00:10:04,160 it, right? Education, it's another thing 215 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:07,440 that you should provide for your children, your kids. 216 00:10:07,440 --> 00:10:10,360 Education is a necessity in the day that we live in now. 217 00:10:10,560 --> 00:10:12,120 Not everybody has to go to college. 218 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:15,400 I think that's a myth that's been perpetuated over and over 219 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:17,880 and over and over again that if you don't have a college degree 220 00:10:17,880 --> 00:10:21,040 and you're not $150,000 in debt by the time you graduate, that 221 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:23,880 you can't go anywhere in life. And what people are finding out 222 00:10:23,880 --> 00:10:26,400 is that piece of paper hanging on the wall is not worth 223 00:10:26,400 --> 00:10:30,440 $150,000, right? You can go and, and get a good 224 00:10:30,440 --> 00:10:34,000 job in a trade somewhere and they'll pay you to, to let them 225 00:10:34,000 --> 00:10:37,000 teach you how to do it and pay you really well to let them 226 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:39,120 teach you how to do it, right. There's a lot of other things 227 00:10:39,120 --> 00:10:42,760 that you can do now. I think it's important that you 228 00:10:42,880 --> 00:10:45,040 that you go on and get some higher education. 229 00:10:45,040 --> 00:10:47,880 If you just get out of high school or don't even finish high 230 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:50,760 school and you drop out, that's that's not helping anything 231 00:10:50,800 --> 00:10:52,520 either. But think beyond high school. 232 00:10:52,520 --> 00:10:55,480 And in some cases, you know, you ought to be saving your money up 233 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:57,600 to be able to help your children a little bit with college. 234 00:10:57,600 --> 00:11:00,520 Now, I don't think it's a great idea for you to pay for all of 235 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:02,880 college for them. They don't take it seriously, 236 00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:04,880 right? I had to pay for my entire 237 00:11:04,880 --> 00:11:07,000 college. Guess how many classes I failed 238 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:11,120 in college? 0 because I was paying for it, 239 00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:13,240 right? Guess what I did during college? 240 00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:15,960 I took it seriously. I studied, I worked hard because 241 00:11:15,960 --> 00:11:19,440 I was paying for it. And if I failed a class, Oh 242 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:23,840 well, that'll pay for it. No, I was paying for it, right? 243 00:11:23,920 --> 00:11:26,760 So I'm not saying that you can't help your children with college, 244 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:30,000 but I think they need to learn the value of their education, 245 00:11:30,480 --> 00:11:32,960 right? It is something that you, this 246 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:35,600 is just true across the board. If you don't pay for it, you're 247 00:11:35,600 --> 00:11:38,080 not going to value at the same way, right? 248 00:11:38,400 --> 00:11:41,000 If you have to pay something for it, you're going to have you 249 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:43,120 have some skin in the game and you're going to value it. 250 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:45,280 Even if you only had to pay a little bit for it, you're going 251 00:11:45,280 --> 00:11:48,120 to value it because you paid for some of it, right? 252 00:11:48,680 --> 00:11:53,040 And so it's, it's important that that you budget, if you will, 253 00:11:53,040 --> 00:11:55,840 for your kids education, but also teach them the value of 254 00:11:55,840 --> 00:11:59,720 that by letting them pay for some of it or most of it, or in 255 00:11:59,720 --> 00:12:03,080 my case, all of it, right? I mean, hey, I, I lived, I 256 00:12:03,080 --> 00:12:06,080 survived, I, I paid for four years of college and by the time 257 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:07,920 I graduated, I had my entire bill paid off. 258 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:10,400 You know how much student debt I had when I got out of college? 259 00:12:10,680 --> 00:12:13,120 0 right? Because I learned how to work 260 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:14,600 through College in order to pay for it. 261 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:18,280 And I, I was able to do it And, and I, and anybody can, you just 262 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:21,000 have to put your mind to it. But here's another one that I 263 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:24,600 think a lot of times we don't look at as a basic need, but it 264 00:12:24,600 --> 00:12:26,200 is a basic need for our families. 265 00:12:26,200 --> 00:12:28,120 Shelter, food, clothing, education. 266 00:12:28,280 --> 00:12:32,120 But recreation, Recreation is a basic need for your family. 267 00:12:32,520 --> 00:12:36,120 And you can do recreation. You can have family time very 268 00:12:36,120 --> 00:12:38,640 inexpensively, especially when your kids are young and 269 00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:40,760 especially if you're enthusiastic about what you're 270 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:41,800 doing. You don't have to. 271 00:12:41,800 --> 00:12:43,200 You don't have to go to Disney World. 272 00:12:43,200 --> 00:12:44,920 I've never been to Disney World in my life. 273 00:12:44,920 --> 00:12:46,840 And honestly, I'll be honest with you, don't somebody go buy 274 00:12:46,840 --> 00:12:48,840 me a ticket. I have no desire to go to Disney 275 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:51,000 World, all right. I've never been there in my 276 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:52,920 life. And if, if I if if somebody 277 00:12:52,920 --> 00:12:55,280 throws me over the gate and I land in there, then fine, I'll 278 00:12:55,280 --> 00:12:56,600 walk around in there for a few minutes. 279 00:12:56,600 --> 00:12:58,000 But that's the only way that I'm going. 280 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:00,600 All right. But you don't have to spend 281 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:04,760 $1000 or $10,000 to go on some fancy vacation in order for your 282 00:13:04,760 --> 00:13:08,080 kids to enjoy recreation. Go up to the mountains and hike 283 00:13:08,680 --> 00:13:12,240 cost you 100 bucks for no cost. You it cost you a 50 bucks for 284 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:15,480 the entire year to get a pass. And you can go up there and hike 285 00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:18,800 as much as you want on the Appalachian Trail and you can 286 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:20,320 you can make it as fun as you go. 287 00:13:20,320 --> 00:13:22,360 Go bring your lunches up there. Go camp. 288 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:24,640 I doesn't cost anything to do those kind of things. 289 00:13:24,960 --> 00:13:27,920 I'm not saying that you have to spend a lot of money, but it's a 290 00:13:27,920 --> 00:13:31,320 great idea to plan a family budget that includes saving for 291 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:34,720 some of those extra special times as a family, right? 292 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:36,840 And I do think it's helpful to go on vacation. 293 00:13:36,840 --> 00:13:39,120 Sometimes that does cost a little bit of money. 294 00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:42,280 But you know, we've started doing that with our kids for for 295 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:44,960 Christmas instead of buying them all kinds of stuff that's going 296 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:46,480 to break that they're not even going to remember. 297 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:50,240 We do a trip, we do an activity and some of it's only been one 298 00:13:50,240 --> 00:13:53,040 overnight or two nights somewhere or doing something 299 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:55,040 like that. You can make it as inexpensive 300 00:13:55,040 --> 00:13:58,960 as possible, but but give them the experience rather than than 301 00:13:58,960 --> 00:14:01,080 just throwing things at them, right? 302 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:04,320 And that's not just a gift for Christmas or whatever else. 303 00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:09,080 Investing in recreation as a family tells your children that 304 00:14:09,080 --> 00:14:11,240 that family time is important to you and that you want to make 305 00:14:11,240 --> 00:14:12,480 some of the best memories together. 306 00:14:12,640 --> 00:14:15,200 You know what I've learned? My kids are, they're growing up. 307 00:14:16,120 --> 00:14:18,640 Jackson, 16, is not going to, he's not going to be in the home 308 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:20,920 very much longer. Alex and Riley are right behind 309 00:14:20,920 --> 00:14:21,800 him. You know what I've learned? 310 00:14:22,360 --> 00:14:24,160 You can't make memories with them when they're gone. 311 00:14:26,160 --> 00:14:28,000 You can't make memories with them when they're gone. 312 00:14:28,120 --> 00:14:31,880 You can only make memories while they're at home, right? 313 00:14:31,960 --> 00:14:34,720 And some of the memories that that we made growing up, we're 314 00:14:34,720 --> 00:14:39,360 all in, in the house, right, playing foosball and darts and, 315 00:14:39,360 --> 00:14:42,040 and, you know, throwing the football and all those kind of 316 00:14:42,040 --> 00:14:43,640 things. Those are, those are things that 317 00:14:43,640 --> 00:14:47,160 my dad did with us that because we had 10 kids, we didn't go on 318 00:14:47,160 --> 00:14:50,000 vacation very much, right? We didn't go out to eat very 319 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:52,560 much. But I but, but I look back on my 320 00:14:52,560 --> 00:14:56,720 time growing up and my dad spent time with us and I realized now 321 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:58,280 it didn't really cost a lot of money. 322 00:14:58,880 --> 00:15:01,880 But at the same time, those were, those were things that we 323 00:15:01,880 --> 00:15:03,640 enjoyed. And I remember them like they 324 00:15:03,640 --> 00:15:08,360 were yesterday, 2530 years later, because my dad spent time 325 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:11,160 with us and put the effort into making it fun growing up. 326 00:15:11,480 --> 00:15:13,240 You can't make memories when they're gone. 327 00:15:13,400 --> 00:15:14,880 You have to make the memories now. 328 00:15:15,000 --> 00:15:17,560 So well, I'll wait until I have a little bit more money and 329 00:15:17,560 --> 00:15:19,840 then, and then when I have grandkids, then we'll take them 330 00:15:19,840 --> 00:15:21,120 all. Probably not going to happen. 331 00:15:21,120 --> 00:15:22,200 Their lives are going to get busy. 332 00:15:22,200 --> 00:15:24,040 You don't know what, what, what happens if they end up in the 333 00:15:24,040 --> 00:15:27,400 Philippines as missionaries and you can't take them somewhere? 334 00:15:27,400 --> 00:15:29,960 What happens if they end up in Africa or Australia or someplace 335 00:15:29,960 --> 00:15:31,920 where it's not very easy to go back and forth? 336 00:15:32,440 --> 00:15:35,240 You can't just, you'll wish that you can spend money on them and 337 00:15:35,240 --> 00:15:37,360 you're not going to be able to, right? 338 00:15:37,840 --> 00:15:40,400 Or what happens if, God forbid, they die and you don't have the 339 00:15:40,400 --> 00:15:43,040 opportunity to do anything with them, right? 340 00:15:43,040 --> 00:15:44,960 It happens. It happens. 341 00:15:45,080 --> 00:15:47,360 Make the memories while you have the opportunity to make the 342 00:15:47,360 --> 00:15:49,880 memories. That's a necessity that your 343 00:15:49,880 --> 00:15:52,040 children need. You want them to grow up in a 344 00:15:52,040 --> 00:15:53,720 happy home. You want to you want them to 345 00:15:53,720 --> 00:15:56,200 grow up remembering all of the good times that you had and all 346 00:15:56,200 --> 00:15:58,240 the all the things that you did that were enjoyable. 347 00:15:58,360 --> 00:16:00,240 And you want them to forget all the times that you got mad and 348 00:16:00,240 --> 00:16:02,760 blew up, right? So you just go buy them a 349 00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:04,120 vacation and they'll forget everything. 350 00:16:04,360 --> 00:16:07,360 No, I'm just kidding. But at the same time, that's it. 351 00:16:07,360 --> 00:16:09,240 That's something that's that's necessary. 352 00:16:09,440 --> 00:16:11,680 So when it comes to providing for your family's needs, 353 00:16:11,680 --> 00:16:15,240 remember that your children want you more than they want stuff. 354 00:16:16,280 --> 00:16:19,400 They don't know it yet. Maybe they may not know it yet, 355 00:16:19,400 --> 00:16:21,200 but they want you more than they want stuff. 356 00:16:21,480 --> 00:16:23,840 And I look back and I don't hardly remember many of the 357 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:26,760 things that my dad bought us or my mom bought us. 358 00:16:27,360 --> 00:16:29,160 I remember the stuff that we did together. 359 00:16:29,920 --> 00:16:32,240 And I remember the time and I, and I've told you this before, 360 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:34,480 but one of the things that I remember the most is my dad had 361 00:16:34,480 --> 00:16:35,840 his own business and he was busy. 362 00:16:35,840 --> 00:16:39,000 He was, he was, he was constantly, you know, working 363 00:16:39,000 --> 00:16:40,360 during the day. Now we were in school and 364 00:16:40,360 --> 00:16:41,840 everything else. It wasn't like he was never 365 00:16:41,840 --> 00:16:42,560 home. He was. 366 00:16:42,560 --> 00:16:45,920 But, you know, we had a soccer game at 3 o'clock 3:30 in the 367 00:16:45,920 --> 00:16:48,880 afternoon. And, you know, we're all warming 368 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:50,960 up on the field. That time goes down to 0. 369 00:16:50,960 --> 00:16:53,000 We're ready to start. And there comes my dad walking 370 00:16:53,000 --> 00:16:54,240 up the track from the parking lot. 371 00:16:54,720 --> 00:16:56,520 And he, he was there. And I remember that. 372 00:16:56,520 --> 00:16:58,960 I, I mean, I remember him being there for almost all of our 373 00:16:58,960 --> 00:17:01,080 wrestling tournaments. I remember him being there for a 374 00:17:01,080 --> 00:17:04,640 basketball game, you know, and I didn't realize it then, but 375 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:07,520 looking back on it now, that's what I value more than anything 376 00:17:07,520 --> 00:17:10,480 else, is not the stuff that he gave me, but the time that he 377 00:17:10,480 --> 00:17:13,040 spent with me, right? That's what your kids want. 378 00:17:13,040 --> 00:17:15,480 Even even when they're asking for stuff, they need your time 379 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:18,359 more. So while you do need to do what 380 00:17:18,359 --> 00:17:22,160 it takes to provide for their needs, you have to be cautious 381 00:17:22,160 --> 00:17:26,480 about taking that extra, you know, overtime or the added jobs 382 00:17:26,480 --> 00:17:30,320 just for discretionary money. Well, it's so nice to have this 383 00:17:30,320 --> 00:17:32,840 extra money, right? But for what? 384 00:17:33,760 --> 00:17:35,920 For what? For you to miss the time of your 385 00:17:35,920 --> 00:17:38,280 kids growing up. Now, if you have to take it 386 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:41,320 because you absolutely have to have that money, then, you know, 387 00:17:41,720 --> 00:17:44,440 don't let them go hungry. Just say, well, kids, sorry, but 388 00:17:45,280 --> 00:17:47,680 we'll sit here around the table. There's nothing to eat tonight, 389 00:17:47,680 --> 00:17:50,840 but we'll enjoy the time anyway, right? 390 00:17:51,120 --> 00:17:53,960 We went through the White House of the Confederacy with, with 391 00:17:53,960 --> 00:17:56,920 the pastors that were here and what do they call it a 392 00:17:56,920 --> 00:18:00,680 starvation, starvation party or something like that. 393 00:18:01,000 --> 00:18:03,280 During the war there was, I mean, they were, they were 394 00:18:03,280 --> 00:18:04,440 struggling. There was no food. 395 00:18:04,440 --> 00:18:06,440 There was no, there was nothing. There was everything was being 396 00:18:06,440 --> 00:18:09,400 blockaded into the South. And so they had starvation 397 00:18:09,400 --> 00:18:11,840 parties. You know what a starvation party 398 00:18:11,840 --> 00:18:15,040 was at the White House? Everybody was there. 399 00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:17,480 They had only, they called it a starvation dinner. 400 00:18:17,480 --> 00:18:19,520 That's what they called it a starvation dinner. 401 00:18:19,840 --> 00:18:23,120 No food, only drinks. And all the drinks were water 402 00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:25,400 and the water was from the river. 403 00:18:25,760 --> 00:18:28,200 Can you imagine that? Come to my party at the White 404 00:18:28,200 --> 00:18:29,480 House. We've got water for you. 405 00:18:29,840 --> 00:18:32,960 It's not clean, but it's from the river, you know, I mean, but 406 00:18:32,960 --> 00:18:34,520 that's what they were doing. And that's that's what I'm 407 00:18:34,520 --> 00:18:36,720 saying. That's not if you have to work 408 00:18:36,720 --> 00:18:39,280 to be able to provide food for your family, then provide food 409 00:18:39,280 --> 00:18:41,760 for your family. But what I am saying is that you 410 00:18:41,760 --> 00:18:44,400 need to figure out the balance and make sure that you're taking 411 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:48,480 the time to spend that with your kids instead of, well, it sure 412 00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:51,400 would be nice to have that extra, you know, 500 bucks this 413 00:18:51,400 --> 00:18:53,880 month to go, you know, do whatever and you're gone and 414 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:58,360 you're not there for them. Careful budgeting, frugal living 415 00:18:58,360 --> 00:19:01,640 can buy you quality time with your children, right? 416 00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:03,400 You don't have to have that overtime. 417 00:19:03,400 --> 00:19:05,160 Work the overtime when the kids are gone. 418 00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:08,280 If you really need the money, if you really want the money, work, 419 00:19:08,280 --> 00:19:10,040 work the overtime when the kids are gone. 420 00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:13,800 If you want to teach contentment to your children, you have to 421 00:19:13,800 --> 00:19:16,000 model it yourself in your home for your children to see. 422 00:19:16,000 --> 00:19:18,120 But if they're going to learn to be content, they need to 423 00:19:18,120 --> 00:19:20,920 understand the importance of working for something rather 424 00:19:20,920 --> 00:19:22,440 than having it just given to them. 425 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:25,440 So that's number two. Then mentor workers in the home. 426 00:19:26,360 --> 00:19:28,000 Turn over to Proverbs chapter 13. 427 00:19:28,800 --> 00:19:33,920 Proverbs chapter 13 see the the entitlement mentality and that's 428 00:19:33,920 --> 00:19:36,440 one of the myths is that you are entitled to all of this because 429 00:19:36,440 --> 00:19:38,720 you live in America the entitlement mentality of a lot 430 00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:42,000 of Americans runs absolutely contrary to contentment. 431 00:19:43,800 --> 00:19:48,800 The attitudes start to take shape in in, in hearts, kids 432 00:19:48,800 --> 00:19:53,040 hearts when they're very young, as they develop the expectations 433 00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:56,280 that that everything in life is just handed to them. 434 00:19:58,240 --> 00:20:03,000 And there's a balance because. I feel like pretty much 435 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:05,600 everybody wants their kids to have it better than they had it, 436 00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:08,640 right? Ah, life without was rough 437 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:10,760 growing up. I want my kids to have more than 438 00:20:10,760 --> 00:20:12,560 what I had or, you know, I had to. 439 00:20:12,560 --> 00:20:15,840 I had to quit school at 15 and go to work because this and that 440 00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:17,640 and I want my kids to have it better than I have it. 441 00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:20,640 So you just give them everything that doesn't teach them. 442 00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:25,040 Contentment doesn't help them. Now they don't have to quit 443 00:20:25,040 --> 00:20:27,560 school and go to work at 15. If you have the opportunity to 444 00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:29,880 let them stay in school and finish and everything else, 445 00:20:30,120 --> 00:20:33,400 right, Give them some of those advantages, but don't spoil them 446 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:35,800 to the point where they just expect that everything's going 447 00:20:35,800 --> 00:20:37,680 to land in their lap on a silver platter. 448 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:39,720 You know why America's in the condition that it's in? 449 00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:43,920 Because kids graduate from high school at 18 and they've been 450 00:20:43,920 --> 00:20:45,200 given everything up to that point. 451 00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:47,520 Then they go to college and their parents pay the entire 452 00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:50,000 college debt offer them for those four years. 453 00:20:50,000 --> 00:20:52,600 And then they graduate and they're saying, well, look, mom 454 00:20:52,600 --> 00:20:54,960 and dad have a really nice house and they they both drive really 455 00:20:54,960 --> 00:20:56,400 nice cars and they have a lot of money. 456 00:20:56,400 --> 00:20:57,720 So that's what I should have too. 457 00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:00,360 So they go out and they buy a really nice house and they go 458 00:21:00,360 --> 00:21:01,760 out and they buy really nice cars. 459 00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:04,080 And then there's so deep in debt they can't ever get out of it 460 00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:06,440 for the rest of their lives. But what they don't realize, it 461 00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:08,840 took their parents 30 years to get to that point where they 462 00:21:08,840 --> 00:21:11,000 have a really nice house and they drive really nice cars. 463 00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:13,720 What they didn't see is that their parents were in a little 464 00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:16,760 one bedroom, 600 square foot apartment for the first five 465 00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:19,360 years and they drove a little beater that barely started and 466 00:21:19,360 --> 00:21:21,280 barely got them from point A to point B. 467 00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:24,600 And they worked to get to the point that they're in now. 468 00:21:25,200 --> 00:21:28,320 But we've taught our children that this is what you can 469 00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:31,560 expect. So when you graduate at 18, 470 00:21:31,560 --> 00:21:33,160 we're going to pay for all of your college. 471 00:21:33,160 --> 00:21:35,440 And when you graduate from college, everything's going to 472 00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:37,720 be handed to you on a silver platter because this is what you 473 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:39,200 deserve. You're entitled to this. 474 00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:42,720 You're an American, right? No, you're not entitled to it. 475 00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:46,200 Start small like everybody did and work your way up there. 476 00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:49,800 And you're doing your kids a disservice if you don't let them 477 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:52,040 start small. If you give them everything, OK, 478 00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:54,280 you might have the money to be able to do it. 479 00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:57,520 Even if you have the money to do it, it's not it's not helping 480 00:21:57,520 --> 00:22:00,440 them to just give them everything on a silver platter, 481 00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:03,040 Right. You know what, Shaq? 482 00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:07,920 Shaquille O'Neal, one of his kids said something one day to 483 00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:10,000 him and he was talking and he said, yeah, because we're rich. 484 00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:12,960 And Shaq said, hang on a second, we're not rich. 485 00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:17,480 I'm rich. Not we're, I'm rich. 486 00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:19,800 You're going to work for what you have. 487 00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:22,320 And, and you know what? Shaq is done with his kids. 488 00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:24,960 He gives his kids a loan for a business. 489 00:22:25,440 --> 00:22:26,800 He said I will loan you the money. 490 00:22:27,120 --> 00:22:28,520 You're going to pay that money back. 491 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,440 If you make something out of yourself, then you'll have the 492 00:22:31,440 --> 00:22:33,160 money to pay back. If you don't, then you're going 493 00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:34,760 to be paying for it. And I'm not just going to hand 494 00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:36,800 it to you on a silver platter, right? 495 00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:43,200 I think it was one of these actors, Chinese guy that did all 496 00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:46,760 the martial arts stuff, Jackie Chan, Jackie Chan. 497 00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:51,600 He said, when I die, I'm not leaving my kids any of my money. 498 00:22:52,480 --> 00:22:55,240 He said if they have learned to make something out of themselves 499 00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:57,560 and they can make their money for themselves and they'll be 500 00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:02,120 just fine, if they're not worth it, then I would have just 501 00:23:02,120 --> 00:23:04,320 wasted my money by giving it to them and handed it to them on a 502 00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:07,960 silver platter anyway. I mean, maybe I'd give my kid 503 00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:10,120 some money, but at the same time, I think it's a great 504 00:23:10,120 --> 00:23:11,800 philosophy. Go work for it, right? 505 00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:14,880 Go earn it. So, because here's what the 506 00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:18,840 Bible says in Proverbs chapter 13 and verse #4 The soul of the 507 00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:22,800 sluggard desireth and hath nothing, but the soul of the 508 00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:27,600 diligent shall be made fact. See, a wise parent is going to 509 00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:30,200 teach their son or their daughter the value of hard work 510 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:34,240 and help their child understand the correlation between labor 511 00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:37,960 and reward. You work, you get paid for it. 512 00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:41,200 You work hard, you get paid more for it, right? 513 00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:43,240 That's the that's the that's the benefit of it. 514 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:46,720 So couple things underneath this number one work is a means for 515 00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:49,160 our provision turn over to keep your finger there in Proverbs 516 00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:50,840 13, because I'm coming back to that in a second. 517 00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:54,080 But first, second Timothy a second Thessalonians chapter 3, 518 00:23:56,080 --> 00:24:00,240 2nd Thessalonians, chapter 3. I wanted to get farther than 519 00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:01,600 this tonight. I don't think I'm going to I'll 520 00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:05,720 finish up with this and then we'll I want to focus on the the 521 00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:08,880 next part for a longer than just mentioning it and being done 522 00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:12,160 with it. But we'll move it to next week. 523 00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:15,480 Maybe work number 1 is a means for our provision. 524 00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:18,520 You have to help your under your child understand that work, not 525 00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:20,920 handouts, is the means for our provision. 526 00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:25,520 Second Thessalonians, chapter 3, verse #10 For even when we were 527 00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:29,760 with you this week, commanded you that if any would not work, 528 00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:37,400 neither should he eat. If America followed this 529 00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:40,480 principle, there would be no welfare system. 530 00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:43,120 There would be no welfare system. 531 00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:48,400 Now there are people who get down on their luck, so to speak. 532 00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:52,560 There are people who struggle because things that are outside 533 00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:55,240 of their control happened. They lost their job, their 534 00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:57,440 whatever. Different things like that come 535 00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:01,320 up, right? But that's where the church 536 00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:03,760 comes in and is willing to help somebody out. 537 00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:07,760 The problem is the welfare mentality has created so many 538 00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:11,800 empty positions in workplaces, right? 539 00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:15,320 Why should I work? Why should I work if I can just 540 00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:17,560 sit at home and you're going to pay me to not work? 541 00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:21,840 Where's the motivation in that? There's zero motivation, right? 542 00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:25,640 But I can go buy drugs, I can go drink, I can smoke, I can do 543 00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:27,760 whatever I want to, and I don't have to work. 544 00:25:30,360 --> 00:25:33,320 Man, that sounded better all along, all the time, right? 545 00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:34,520 I mean, that's the way they look at it. 546 00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:39,240 So, so the welfare system creates the that you get 547 00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:43,160 rewarded with no labor. So why would you, right? 548 00:25:43,360 --> 00:25:47,000 But here's the thing, you may not be, you may not have your 549 00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:50,000 kids on welfare, but you give them that same mentality when 550 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:54,080 you don't teach them that labor reward correlation, right? 551 00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:59,200 Second Thessalonians chapter 3, verse 10 For even when we were 552 00:25:59,200 --> 00:26:01,600 with you this, we commanded you that if we would not work, 553 00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:04,520 neither should he eat. If any would not work, neither 554 00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:06,360 should he eat. For we hear that there are some 555 00:26:06,360 --> 00:26:09,320 which walk among you disorderly, working not at all. 556 00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:12,840 But our busy bodies. Now them that are such we 557 00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:15,360 command and exhort by our Lord Jesus Christ, that with 558 00:26:15,360 --> 00:26:18,120 quietness they work and eat their own bread. 559 00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:22,240 This this is teaching us some pretty valuable principles about 560 00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:23,960 work, right? Verse 10 makes it very clear 561 00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:25,520 that work comes before provision. 562 00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:28,040 You work and then you eat, right? 563 00:26:28,120 --> 00:26:31,560 You work, you get, you get you can have you work, you get you 564 00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:33,240 get food. Verse 11. 565 00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:37,360 This is what teaches teaches us what happens when we don't work, 566 00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:39,680 right? We become busy bodies. 567 00:26:40,360 --> 00:26:43,520 We put we put our interest in other people's affairs. 568 00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:46,640 That's what he says, right? There are some among you which 569 00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:50,320 are walk among you disorderly working not at all, but are busy 570 00:26:50,320 --> 00:26:52,120 bodies. They're not busy. 571 00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:55,000 So they're busy and everybody else's business, right? 572 00:26:56,240 --> 00:26:58,440 Teach your children to avoid that. 573 00:26:58,440 --> 00:27:01,160 They need to be diligently working back over. 574 00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:03,520 In Proverbs chapter 13, we read verse 4. 575 00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:06,080 The soul of the slug or desireth and hath nothing, but the soul 576 00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:07,360 of the diligence shall be made fat. 577 00:27:07,360 --> 00:27:13,880 But look at verse #11 Wealth gotten by vanity shall be 578 00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:18,240 diminished, but he that gathereth by labor shall 579 00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:21,160 increase. So you got to teach your kids 580 00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:26,080 that money just doesn't just appear via Dad's checkbook or 581 00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:29,640 dad's credit card, right? Go out and spend whatever you 582 00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:32,640 want. Just just, you know, whatever. 583 00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:35,640 It's the result of somebody spending time and somebody 584 00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:39,360 investing their their strength into earning it, right? 585 00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:42,560 When you just hand it to your kids, they don't understand the 586 00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:45,160 value of it. You worked for that money, 587 00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:46,880 right? You had to earn it. 588 00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:49,720 You went out there and spent your time and your effort and 589 00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:53,800 your labor and your life to earn that money just to hand it to 590 00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:56,480 them so they can go blow it on nothing, right? 591 00:27:57,520 --> 00:28:00,040 That's a vital lesson for your children, not just because work 592 00:28:00,040 --> 00:28:03,680 is a means for a provision, but because #2 work is ordained of 593 00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:07,120 God. We tend to dread work and, and, 594 00:28:07,120 --> 00:28:09,760 and what happens is by our example, we teach our kids to 595 00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:13,000 dread work, right? But work is ordained by God. 596 00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:15,760 It's a gift. And I don't, I don't, you don't 597 00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:17,840 have to turn all the way back to Genesis chapter 2 unless you 598 00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:19,080 want to. But one of the first 599 00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:22,720 instructions that God gave to Adam in the Garden of Eden. 600 00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:25,000 What's the work? Right? 601 00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:27,320 Look, this was Genesis 2 verse 15. 602 00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:29,680 This was before the fall. The Lord God took the man and 603 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:32,280 put him into the Garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it. 604 00:28:32,840 --> 00:28:34,800 That was the instruction to Adam before sin. 605 00:28:34,800 --> 00:28:41,040 All right, I know you know. In other words, work is not the 606 00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:44,360 result of sin, right? Work is not the result of sin. 607 00:28:44,360 --> 00:28:47,480 Now we think about it that way. Oh, childbirth, you got to work 608 00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:49,120 for your stuff. Well, no work. 609 00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:51,880 Work was given us as something that was ordained by God, that 610 00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:53,920 was supposed to be something that was a gift to us, the 611 00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:55,960 ability to work and to do things right. 612 00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:59,160 Some of the added difficulties to work are a result of the 613 00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:02,640 fall, but work itself is a gift and and that's what leads to 614 00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:05,720 success. In fact, diligence is the best 615 00:29:05,800 --> 00:29:08,360 vehicle to success. Proverbs chapter 22 and verse 616 00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:11,080 29. Seest thou a man diligent in his 617 00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:13,680 business? He shall stand before kings. 618 00:29:14,280 --> 00:29:17,600 He shall not, he shall not stand before mean men. 619 00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:20,760 Let me give you 3 examples real quick. 620 00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:23,960 Turn over to Genesis 37. I'm going to end with this. 621 00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:29,440 There's some of the some of the young men in Scriptures who rose 622 00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:32,360 to the top of their field by hard work. 623 00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:38,400 God used it. Genesis chapter 37 and verse #13 624 00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:43,480 And Israel said unto Joseph, Do not thy brethren feed the flock 625 00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:46,000 in Shechem, come, and I will send thee unto them. 626 00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:51,120 And he said to him, here am I Joseph, Joseph in Genesis 627 00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:53,440 chapter 13. He was, he was working in the 628 00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:56,120 fields, right? We get this idea many times that 629 00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:58,080 Joseph would just handed everything on a silver platter 630 00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:00,680 because he had the coat of many colors and he was the baby of 631 00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:02,080 the family and all these other things. 632 00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:05,760 But he was working. He was working and, and, and, 633 00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:08,840 and Joseph was a dependable messenger for his father as 634 00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:10,320 well. Turn over to First Samuel 635 00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:19,160 chapter 3, First Samuel chapter 3, because not only do you have 636 00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:21,600 Joseph, you have Samuel. Samuel worked in the Tabernacle 637 00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:25,720 as a young child right from from a very early age he was working 638 00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:29,920 the child Samuel verse number one, first Samuel 3 one and the 639 00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:33,440 child Samuel ministered unto the Lord before Eli and the word of 640 00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:35,120 the Lord was precious in those days. 641 00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:38,160 There was no open vision. He was working. 642 00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:41,320 He worked in the in the in the service of God, right? 643 00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:43,400 And there was a lot of work that was to be done. 644 00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:47,240 But at five years old around there, he was brought to the to 645 00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:52,080 the Tabernacle by his mother and he worked turn over to the first 646 00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:54,160 Samuel 16. You're not too far from there. 647 00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:57,280 Here's another one that I know that you're very familiar with. 648 00:30:57,280 --> 00:31:00,920 This is the story of David. And I don't, I'm not going to 649 00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:02,640 take time to read all of it. We're just going to read one 650 00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:06,080 verse here in verse #11 Samuel said unto Jesse, Are here all 651 00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:08,040 thy children? And he said, there remains yet 652 00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:09,800 the youngest. And behold, he keepeth the 653 00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:12,640 sheep. And Samuel said unto Jesse, send 654 00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:15,200 and fetch him, for we will not sit down until he come thither. 655 00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:18,600 See, David cared for his father's sheep as a teenager. 656 00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:21,160 And it's no wonder. It's no wonder that each of 657 00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:24,520 these young men grew up to be men who were put into positions 658 00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:28,440 of responsibility later in life. Joseph as the Prime Minister of 659 00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:32,800 Egypt, Samuel as the spiritual leader of Israel, David as the 660 00:31:32,800 --> 00:31:35,680 king of Israel, Right? All of those were young men who 661 00:31:35,680 --> 00:31:39,120 had learned the value of work and they were not just thrown 662 00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:41,720 into those positions because they were given a life of 663 00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:44,440 privilege, right? They were, they were, God put 664 00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:47,160 them into those positions because they had learned how to 665 00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:50,240 work. They learned the value of of 666 00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:52,720 their labor. You don't need, you don't begin 667 00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:56,560 teaching your children diligence and the value of work when they 668 00:31:56,560 --> 00:31:59,640 turn 18. If you wait until they're 18, 669 00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:01,680 you've missed, you've missed out. 670 00:32:01,680 --> 00:32:03,560 They're not going to be hard workers if you wait until 671 00:32:03,560 --> 00:32:06,400 they're 18 years old, right? You hand them everything on a 672 00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:08,280 silver platter. And then on their 18th birthday, 673 00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:10,520 you sit them down, you say now you're 18 so you're going to 674 00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:12,040 have to go work. They're going to say no, keep 675 00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:13,320 handing it to me on a silver platter. 676 00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:14,560 You've been doing that my whole life. 677 00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:17,400 And that's what they're going to expect, right? 678 00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:22,800 Which is why some 22 year old kid can walk into a his first 679 00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:25,640 position in a job and he sits down and he demands all of his 680 00:32:25,640 --> 00:32:28,880 pay and he demands the benefits and he demands this and he 681 00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:33,360 demands that, right? Most of us when we were 22 years 682 00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:36,040 old and sat down to try to get a job, we're like, please, Sir, I 683 00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:38,720 don't care what it looks like. If you pay me $8 an hour, I'll 684 00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:40,520 take it. Just give me a job, right? 685 00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:42,240 But, but that's the way that it is. 686 00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:45,200 We've trained our young people in America especially, right? 687 00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:47,040 This is why they're out there demanding now I should get 688 00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:49,920 $15.00 an hour to make a hamburger, right? 689 00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:53,480 $15.00 an hour minimum wage. I mean, I know things have gone 690 00:32:53,480 --> 00:32:56,680 up and, and things are more expensive, but the, the reason 691 00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:59,440 why things are more expensive is because you got all these kids 692 00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:03,200 that want a 15 dollar, $15.00 an hour minimum wage to flip 693 00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:06,720 hamburgers, right? It would cost you $15.00 to, to 694 00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:08,840 buy a hamburger because that's what they're paying them an 695 00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:10,880 hour. Everything else has to go up 696 00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:13,160 too, right? And, and, and you wonder why, 697 00:33:13,320 --> 00:33:16,040 Oh, it's a great, it, it sounds great on paper. 698 00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:18,720 Let's pay everybody $15. In fact, why don't we make the 699 00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:21,400 minimum wage $30.00 an hour, right? 700 00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:23,440 Fact. Let's just make it 50. 701 00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:26,400 Why not? Then everybody can have all the 702 00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:28,840 money they want and doesn't work that way. 703 00:33:29,280 --> 00:33:31,720 Everything else goes up because you're paying $40.00 for a 704 00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:34,720 hamburger at McDonald's because he wants $50.00 an hour to work, 705 00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:37,080 right? And that's what's happened. 706 00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:38,920 That's how you, you wonder why. I mean, obviously there's 707 00:33:38,920 --> 00:33:41,200 economic things, but that's a lot of what it is, right? 708 00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:43,680 You got all these justice warriors out there, there that 709 00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:46,680 are, that are championing the cause of the underdog and want 710 00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:51,120 everybody to have, you know, you know, all this, all this money 711 00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:53,720 for, for doing a nothing job, right? 712 00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:55,960 If you want to, if you want money, go make something out of 713 00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:57,200 yourself. I'm not saying that you can't 714 00:33:57,200 --> 00:34:00,160 work at McDonald's, right? But if that's your ambition is 715 00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:03,800 to stay there for the rest of your life, then you should be 716 00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:06,480 making $10.00 an hour for the rest of your life, right? 717 00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:07,840 Go make something out of yourself. 718 00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:10,120 We live in America. You have the opportunity to do 719 00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:12,600 those things if you're willing to work, right? 720 00:34:13,120 --> 00:34:17,120 But all that to say that you start teaching your kids when 721 00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:20,960 they're 345 years old, when you let them help you clean out the 722 00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:23,000 garage, right? Come help me. 723 00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:28,520 I'm come help me, right? You're not helping me because 724 00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:30,679 I'm doing all the work and you're actually more in the way 725 00:34:30,679 --> 00:34:33,120 than you realize you are. But you need to learn how to 726 00:34:33,120 --> 00:34:36,000 work, right? They ought to be assigned jobs 727 00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:39,239 at home, right? They're the ones making the 728 00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:42,400 messes anyway, right? They ought to know how to do 729 00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:45,280 their laundry when they're 678 years old, and you can help them 730 00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:48,239 do that, but they ought to learn how to do it, right? 731 00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:49,560 Guess what they're not going to do? 732 00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:51,000 I don't feel like putting that away. 733 00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:53,800 I'm throwing in the hamper. Guess what happens when they're 734 00:34:53,800 --> 00:34:57,480 the ones doing laundry? And maybe that's not so dirty 735 00:34:57,480 --> 00:34:59,960 after all. Right, Let me put it away, 736 00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:03,520 right? That's what that's what happens, 737 00:35:03,720 --> 00:35:05,360 right? Oh, he dropped something on the 738 00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:06,760 floor. Oh, well, Mom's going to sweep 739 00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:08,080 the floor later. She'll pick it up. 740 00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:10,360 No, if you're the one sweeping the floor, guess what you're 741 00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:12,120 going to do? Hey, you drop some on the floor, 742 00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:15,560 pick that up, right? They're going to be the one 743 00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:17,840 saying that because they know that they're responsible for it, 744 00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:21,280 right? That the, the trash is full. 745 00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:22,840 They're the ones filling the trash can out. 746 00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:25,680 Let them be the ones that empty it, right? 747 00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:26,920 They're the ones making all the messages. 748 00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:30,480 Let them clean the toilet in the bathroom that they use, right? 749 00:35:30,480 --> 00:35:33,080 Let them be the ones that that that do all that kind of stuff. 750 00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:36,080 Oh, I'm not saying that that you as parents turn them into 751 00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:38,960 slaves, but they need to learn how to work. 752 00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:41,880 They ought to make their beds. Their bedrooms ought to be 753 00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:45,720 clean, right? Those that that's how you teach 754 00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:49,800 them to work at a very young age and the way that a 5 year old 755 00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:52,200 makes a bed is going to be very different than the way that you 756 00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:57,560 make the bed. But if they're doing a 5 year 757 00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:00,920 old's what what a 5 year old can do. 758 00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:04,760 You praise him for it, right? You're doing what you can do 759 00:36:05,040 --> 00:36:08,080 that looks really nice And then if it really looks bad, you just 760 00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:11,000 go straighten it out, right? But show them, hey, this little 761 00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:13,720 spot down here, right? Pull it down a little bit 762 00:36:13,720 --> 00:36:15,080 further. You want to cover this up. 763 00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:17,040 You want to tuck this in, whatever it happens to be, 764 00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:18,360 right? Teach them how to work. 765 00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:23,040 That's your job as a parent. And if you're going to make them 766 00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:26,800 work, then you follow up and make sure that it's done right. 767 00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:30,000 If they have the job of washing the clothes and they they're not 768 00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:34,360 getting it done, you can't just go, oh, here he is again. 769 00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:36,040 I told him to do it. Oh, well, let me do it. 770 00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:39,360 No, let it build up until the point where they're like, I need 771 00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:40,600 socks. Well, you should have washed 772 00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:43,000 your clothes, right? You can either put on a dirty 773 00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:44,520 pair or you don't wear socks today. 774 00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:49,000 That's, that's on you, right? If you bail them out every time 775 00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:52,080 that, that they, they didn't keep their responsibilities the 776 00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:55,200 way that they should be and now they don't have what they need. 777 00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:58,880 And you just, well, you spend all your money on bubble gum and 778 00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:00,240 now you need 5 bucks for something. 779 00:37:00,240 --> 00:37:02,120 All here is 5 bucks go, you know, whatever. 780 00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:04,520 No, teach them the value of those things. 781 00:37:04,520 --> 00:37:06,160 We'll talk about that a little bit more because that's what 782 00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:08,360 we're going to talk about #3 and I'm not going to get into it 783 00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:12,200 tonight, but managing stewardship habits in the home 784 00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:15,000 teach them how to handle their money. 785 00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:17,480 And it's important that you know how to handle your money if 786 00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:18,960 you're going to teach your kids how to do it, too. 787 00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:22,080 But mentor your children as workers, and they'll reap the 788 00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:24,560 benefits of that the rest of their lives. 789 00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:27,320 My uncle said this at the funeral. 790 00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:33,520 My, my dad, my mom's, one of my mom's brothers, we were talking 791 00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:34,800 and I don't even remember what he said. 792 00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:36,800 He might have even said it actually in the funeral, but I 793 00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:38,200 know he said it the night before. 794 00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:41,480 And he said one of the things, one of the things that that all 795 00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:44,920 of you guys, all 10 of you said, if there's anything about you, 796 00:37:44,920 --> 00:37:48,800 you guys all know how to work. Your dad taught you guys how to 797 00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:51,000 work. And he did because you know what 798 00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:55,560 happened more than once? We hated our house with wood and 799 00:37:56,160 --> 00:38:01,120 snow came covered the whole pile and we bring some wood. 800 00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:02,760 We bring in three or four pieces for the night. 801 00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:05,280 My dad would wake up at 2O clock in the morning to go put some 802 00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:08,120 wood into the fireplace to keep the heat going. 803 00:38:08,120 --> 00:38:09,520 And there was no wood in the house. 804 00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:11,920 And guess what happened at 2O clock in the morning more than 805 00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:16,400 once. Hey, get down here, no wood in 806 00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:19,840 the house. Get out there and get wood. 2:30 807 00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:22,080 in the morning, we're down there trudging through the snow, 808 00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:25,640 hacking in with a shovel, trying to RIP up pieces that are buried 809 00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:28,560 under under ice and bring them into the house. 810 00:38:28,720 --> 00:38:30,760 But you know what? It didn't happen too many times 811 00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:32,280 before. We were like, all right, you 812 00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:34,120 know what? I'm getting wood in the house 813 00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:36,600 before I go to bed. So I don't get woke up at 2:30 814 00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:39,520 in the morning to go down there and find wood that's not there, 815 00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:42,120 right? But my dad taught us how to work 816 00:38:42,120 --> 00:38:46,000 and we worked hard and he taught us how to work hard. 817 00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:48,680 And it's and it's, it's, it's a benefit that we've had for the 818 00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:52,960 rest of our lives, right? You don't know how to work hard. 819 00:38:53,040 --> 00:38:56,800 You you had a huge, huge, huge disadvantage in life. 820 00:38:57,920 --> 00:39:01,400 You're going to expect that you can just do this and stuff's 821 00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:05,120 going to land in it. And when the real world sees you 822 00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:07,200 do that, they're going to take that hand and they're going to 823 00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:09,120 slap you in the face with it, right? 824 00:39:09,320 --> 00:39:11,560 Because that's not how the real world works. 825 00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:14,600 Go work for it if you want it, right? 826 00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:17,480 And if we could get back to that with our entire country and 827 00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:19,920 completely get rid of the welfare system and everything 828 00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:22,880 else, our country would be a whole lot more prosperous than 829 00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:25,440 it is now. But that's what's happened is 830 00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:27,680 we've trained people that you can just stick your hand out and 831 00:39:27,680 --> 00:39:29,760 something will land in it, right? 832 00:39:30,480 --> 00:39:33,920 I need a few more slaps in the face and a few more, few less, 833 00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:36,960 you know, $20 bills in their hand when they stick it out. 834 00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:40,760 And people will learn very quickly to go work, right? 835 00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:43,720 It's important. And, and it's up to you as the 836 00:39:43,720 --> 00:39:46,080 parents to teach that to your children in the home. 837 00:39:46,720 --> 00:39:49,880 But how do you teach that to your kids in the home? 838 00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:55,520 Got to model it yourself, right? You have to learn the balance of 839 00:39:55,520 --> 00:39:57,360 work. What you don't want is for your 840 00:39:57,360 --> 00:40:02,320 kids to think that work is everything either, right? 841 00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:04,560 Dad was never home because he always worked. 842 00:40:05,520 --> 00:40:08,160 That's not healthy either. It's not giving your kids what 843 00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:10,480 they need. That's taking the time away from 844 00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:12,440 them, spending it with you so you can go work. 845 00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:14,920 So you got to find the balance. Everything is about finding the 846 00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:17,360 right balance. Right, There's a ditch on both 847 00:40:17,360 --> 00:40:19,040 sides of the road. Here's the guy that that's a 848 00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:20,960 lazy bum and won't get out there and do anything. 849 00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:23,920 Here's the guy that is worked so hard, he's a workaholic and he's 850 00:40:23,920 --> 00:40:27,880 never home, right? It's not good to be in a ditch 851 00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:29,520 on either side of the road, right? 852 00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:30,920 You need to be in the middle of the road. 853 00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:35,080 So work hard and provide for your family, but find that 854 00:40:35,080 --> 00:40:38,240 balance to where you're actually home with your family and, and, 855 00:40:38,240 --> 00:40:40,880 and enjoying the things that you're able to provide with your 856 00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:42,840 work, right? So anyway, it's our 857 00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:47,120 responsibility to mentor those young, the young kids in our 858 00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:50,080 home, mainly by example, but also just by teaching them, 859 00:40:50,240 --> 00:40:51,920 right? You can't just stick your hand 860 00:40:51,920 --> 00:40:53,480 out and expect that something's going to land in it. 861 00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:56,880 Go work for it, you want it, go work for it, you want it. 862 00:40:57,000 --> 00:41:02,160 Save up your money, you want it, you can have it, go work for it, 863 00:41:02,600 --> 00:41:03,800 right? I'll give you a little bit of 864 00:41:03,800 --> 00:41:06,840 money toward it, but you're going to earn it too, right? 865 00:41:07,520 --> 00:41:10,520 That's how we teach it to them. So what we'll talk about 866 00:41:10,520 --> 00:41:14,400 managing stewardship in the home next week. 867 00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:16,840 Actually, next week we have our fifth Sunday and Jackson's going 868 00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:18,440 to preach for us. Next week will be the week after 869 00:41:18,440 --> 00:41:20,160 that. All right, but let's pray. 870 00:41:20,160 --> 00:41:22,160 Father, again, we thank you so much for your goodness to us. 871 00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:25,200 Thank you for the opportunity that you've given us to be here 872 00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:26,480 tonight. I pray that you'd help us have 873 00:41:26,480 --> 00:41:28,280 strong families. God, I pray that you'd help us 874 00:41:28,280 --> 00:41:31,240 to be parents. But but, but even more than 875 00:41:31,240 --> 00:41:35,840 parents, it'd just be Christians that have a proper perspective 876 00:41:35,840 --> 00:41:38,840 on work and that we would be hard workers for the cause of 877 00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:41,280 Christ. And that that obviously 878 00:41:41,280 --> 00:41:44,040 translates into being hard workers with getting the gospel 879 00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:46,120 out translates into hard workers in the church and in the 880 00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:49,760 ministries and everything else. And when we don't, it translates 881 00:41:49,760 --> 00:41:52,480 that way as well. Lazy, lazy workers are going to 882 00:41:52,480 --> 00:41:55,080 be lazy and ministries are going to be lazy and everything else 883 00:41:55,080 --> 00:41:56,800 in their life as well. So I pray that you'd help us 884 00:41:56,800 --> 00:41:57,880 all. Pray that you help us all the 885 00:41:57,880 --> 00:42:00,200 work, work for the night is coming. 886 00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:04,960 I pray that you'd help us to be laborers in our Christian lives, 887 00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:08,080 be laborers in our physical lives, and that we we'd help our 888 00:42:08,080 --> 00:42:10,720 children grow up to be profitable servants for you. 889 00:42:10,720 --> 00:42:13,160 And again, we thank you for all that you do for us. 890 00:42:13,160 --> 00:42:14,560 In Jesus name, Amen.