1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:05,200 I am going to give you a message kind of in in our series that 2 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:07,960 we've been doing and it's not, I don't know if it's a series, I 3 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:09,840 will. There's not really any specific 4 00:00:10,040 --> 00:00:12,520 length or anything like that, but just the topic of the 5 00:00:12,520 --> 00:00:17,000 family. But there this is this is 6 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:20,240 something that applies to everyone, not just those who 7 00:00:20,240 --> 00:00:25,800 have kids, not just those who are have kids in the home or 8 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:29,120 grandkids or whatever this is. This is honestly something that 9 00:00:29,120 --> 00:00:33,120 all of us can take tonight and use in our lives. 10 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:35,560 But I'm going to apply it particularly to those with 11 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:38,920 families because it's important for us to understand that we've 12 00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:41,600 got to teach these things to our kids as well. 13 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:44,880 But obviously the the way that we teach it to our kids is by 14 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:48,320 modeling it ourselves. And obviously we've got a lot of 15 00:00:48,320 --> 00:00:52,680 people in our church that that either don't have kids or your 16 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:55,480 kids are grown or you're, you know, that your family doesn't 17 00:00:55,480 --> 00:00:58,200 live here and you are a testimony. 18 00:00:58,200 --> 00:01:01,760 You're an example to the young people in our church. 19 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:05,000 And even even more than just the young people, you're example to 20 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:07,840 the younger people, right? There's, there's plenty of 21 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:10,760 people who are in that, that, that age where they've got 22 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:12,960 younger kids. And you're an example to help 23 00:01:12,960 --> 00:01:15,880 with those things as well. I, I, I'm sure you've heard of 24 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:19,160 this before, but every year on the 4th of July, Nathan's Hot 25 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:22,320 Dogs has their, their famous hot dog eating contest. 26 00:01:22,800 --> 00:01:24,800 Right. And if, if I were to ask you, 27 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:27,440 who is the guy that always wins the hot dog contest? 28 00:01:29,960 --> 00:01:31,160 Yeah. Well, yeah, the guy that eats 29 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:33,120 the most. But there's a person, there is a 30 00:01:33,120 --> 00:01:35,480 specific person that eats the most every time. 31 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:37,880 Joey Chestnut. Does that ring a bell? 32 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:42,600 All right, so Joey Chestnut has he's he holds the record. 33 00:01:43,720 --> 00:01:45,920 It's 10 minutes. All right, this hot dog eating 34 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:49,880 contest last for 10 minutes. He set the record at Joey's hot 35 00:01:49,880 --> 00:01:53,040 dog eating contest with 76 hot dogs. 36 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:56,360 And it's not just hot dogs, it's 76 hot dogs and buns. 37 00:01:56,680 --> 00:02:00,360 You have to eat all of them in 10 minutes, 76 hot dogs. 38 00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:03,480 Now he's that's the record that he said he actually won. 39 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:06,120 He won the event for the 17th time. 40 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:09,280 OK, He's, he's done it 20 * 20 years in a row. 41 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:12,680 He, he was not in it in 2024 because in 2024 there was 42 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:18,280 actually a sponsorship dispute. So he didn't, he didn't go into 43 00:02:18,280 --> 00:02:20,880 the hot dog eating contest in 2024, but he's been, he's 44 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:24,160 entered 20 times, he's won 17 out of those 20 times. 45 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:26,120 He won. He won in 2025. 46 00:02:26,120 --> 00:02:29,760 On July 4th, he ate 7070 hot dogs in 10 minutes. 47 00:02:30,240 --> 00:02:34,920 His actual record, his record, apparently Netflix did some kind 48 00:02:34,920 --> 00:02:38,640 of hot dog eating contest for some special and he ate 83 hot 49 00:02:38,640 --> 00:02:41,280 dogs in 10 minutes. Could you imagine that? 50 00:02:41,600 --> 00:02:44,240 I have no idea how you, how you do all that. 51 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:47,600 But they say that in the course of those of, of his years of 52 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:50,480 eating and just in that, that, and he's a he's what they call a 53 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:52,120 competitive eater. By the way, I looked it up 54 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:56,680 because I was interested. He makes 5 to $6 million doing 55 00:02:56,680 --> 00:03:01,040 this a year because of, because of appearances and because, you 56 00:03:01,040 --> 00:03:03,280 know, I mean, he's the, the world champion eater. 57 00:03:03,480 --> 00:03:05,280 And, and by the way, he's not £500. 58 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:07,520 He's like my size, you know, he's not a big guy at all. 59 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:10,840 I have no idea where you put 80 hot dogs and you know, in 10 60 00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:12,720 minutes and then get rid of it. But he does. 61 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:16,720 And anyway, in those, in just in those competitions that he's 62 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:19,680 been involved in the last 20 years, he's eaten 12112 hundred 63 00:03:19,680 --> 00:03:23,480 hot dogs in what, 200 minutes, 1200 hot dogs. 64 00:03:23,640 --> 00:03:24,960 That's that's unbelievable to me. 65 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:29,120 But anyway, I say all that to say that that hopefully you're 66 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:32,120 not, your children are not in danger of eating 73 hot dogs at 67 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:36,400 1 sitting and you know, in or even in one day, let alone 7 a 68 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:39,160 minute for 10 minutes straight. But they are most certainly in 69 00:03:39,160 --> 00:03:42,160 danger, as we all are, of falling prey to the 70 00:03:42,160 --> 00:03:46,160 materialistic values of a consumerist culture, right? 71 00:03:46,160 --> 00:03:48,480 That's what the world is trying to tell us now. 72 00:03:48,480 --> 00:03:50,440 You've got to have more. If you're going to get ahead, 73 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:52,120 you've got to go out there and make it happen. 74 00:03:52,200 --> 00:03:54,600 We live in a consumerist culture. 75 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:58,240 Everything about it means I've got to have more, right? 76 00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:00,920 Amazon came along and it changed everything. 77 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:02,880 I don't know what life is like without Amazon. 78 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:05,560 I mean, you know, it used to be that you would order something 79 00:04:05,560 --> 00:04:07,920 through a catalog. You'd have to call them up. 80 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:10,720 And, you know, hey, I'm looking at order number, such and such, 81 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:12,720 and I'd like to place this order, OK? 82 00:04:12,720 --> 00:04:15,000 It should be there in about 12 to 14 days. 83 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:17,200 And we're like, oh, yes, that's going to get here quick. 84 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:20,880 You know, now it's like if it's not overnight between 4:00 AM 85 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:22,800 and 8:00 AM, what's what's wrong with this? 86 00:04:22,960 --> 00:04:24,360 You know what's wrong with this picture? 87 00:04:25,360 --> 00:04:27,760 You know, I just, I ordered something and I didn't even, I 88 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:30,400 didn't even need it, but the only option was to get it 89 00:04:30,400 --> 00:04:32,600 overnight between 4:00 AM and 8:00 AM. 90 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:34,960 And I was like, all right, click, I guess I'll get it at 91 00:04:34,960 --> 00:04:36,800 4:00 AM. And sure enough, the ring goes 92 00:04:36,800 --> 00:04:40,400 off at like 6:00 and there's the box sitting on my porch, you 93 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:43,480 know, and but that's, that's what we live in a world where 94 00:04:43,480 --> 00:04:47,640 enough is never enough anymore. And a lot of people devote their 95 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:51,240 entire lives to acquiring wealth and possessions. 96 00:04:51,480 --> 00:04:53,760 And like I talked about this morning that the problem with 97 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:57,320 all of that is that's going to go away, right? 98 00:04:57,480 --> 00:05:00,560 You can acquire everything. You leave it behind when you go, 99 00:05:01,320 --> 00:05:03,920 somebody else is going to be enjoying that beautiful house 100 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:06,160 that you built. Somebody else is going to have 101 00:05:06,160 --> 00:05:09,160 all that money that you stashed away in that bank account for 102 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:11,320 all of those years. Somebody else is going to drive 103 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:13,680 that car or it's going to be sitting in the junkyard 104 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:16,640 somewhere, right? Enough is never enough. 105 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:19,200 When is enough enough? When have you when do you have 106 00:05:19,200 --> 00:05:20,880 enough? That's that's the question for a 107 00:05:20,880 --> 00:05:23,520 lot of people. But living with a focus on the 108 00:05:23,520 --> 00:05:27,600 temporal doesn't begin when a person hits a a certain age, 109 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:30,440 right? You don't all the sudden switch 110 00:05:30,440 --> 00:05:33,960 to a mindset of I've got to have more when you turn 23 years old 111 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:38,080 or 30 years old. You know, some kid sets his 112 00:05:38,080 --> 00:05:42,560 sights at 20 years old on a career, on career success or 40 113 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:44,600 when you hit a midlife crisis and then all of a sudden you're 114 00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:47,280 worried about money. No, it starts way, way, way, way 115 00:05:47,280 --> 00:05:50,440 before that. It begins at a very young age 116 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:53,160 when a child believes in his heart that happiness and 117 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:55,800 identity are found in possessions. 118 00:05:56,000 --> 00:06:00,080 When, when happiness and identity are found in things or 119 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:04,520 in the acceptance that comes by having those things, you know 120 00:06:04,520 --> 00:06:09,120 that a lot of marketing is actually done to children. 121 00:06:10,080 --> 00:06:13,800 A lot of your commercials on TV are actually marketed to kids 122 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:16,920 because the kids have such a powerful influence over the 123 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:18,920 parents in deciding what the parents buy. 124 00:06:19,520 --> 00:06:23,160 So they're, they, you know, just children ages 2 to 5. 125 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:25,480 And now I hope this is different for you and your house. 126 00:06:25,480 --> 00:06:29,760 But children ages 2 to 5 watch more than 32 hours of television 127 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:34,720 a week and they see more than 40,000 commercials a year. 128 00:06:35,640 --> 00:06:38,200 40,000 commercials. Turns out the kids watch 129 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:42,480 commercials and television programs with attention to the 130 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:45,840 point that they they can't even, they don't even know exactly 131 00:06:45,840 --> 00:06:47,200 what those commercials are about. 132 00:06:47,560 --> 00:06:50,160 But they are starting to establish brand loyalties at a 133 00:06:50,160 --> 00:06:54,960 very, very early age. By first grade, most children 134 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:59,200 can recognize 200 brand logos. They don't have to see. 135 00:06:59,200 --> 00:07:01,480 They can't even read. I remember, I remember when 136 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:04,160 Jackson was like 3 years old and we're driving by and he said 137 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:06,120 there's McDonald's. And I was like, how does he know 138 00:07:06,120 --> 00:07:08,800 that that's McDonald's? He can't even read, right? 139 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:11,200 But you see the big M and they know what it is, right? 140 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:13,840 It's just the logo. And by by first grade, they can 141 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:18,040 recognize 200 logos, which is why, OK, when I was growing up, 142 00:07:18,520 --> 00:07:21,760 we got our shoes that payless. But you know what I always 143 00:07:21,760 --> 00:07:23,680 wanted? I just wanted a shoe that had a 144 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:26,360 big swoosh on it. That's all I wanted, right? 145 00:07:26,400 --> 00:07:29,640 Because those kids had Nikes and I was buying my shoes at 146 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:31,640 Payless. And they're probably the same 147 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:32,680 shoes. They're probably made in the 148 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:34,400 same factory. One of them goes one way and 149 00:07:34,400 --> 00:07:36,080 gets a swoosh on it. The other one goes the other way 150 00:07:36,080 --> 00:07:38,640 and gets nothing on it. And that's what I got was the 151 00:07:38,640 --> 00:07:41,680 nothings, right? There was no difference, right? 152 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:44,600 And as I got older and I finally was what, you know, had enough 153 00:07:44,600 --> 00:07:47,880 money to buy my own pair of Nikes and I wore them and they 154 00:07:47,880 --> 00:07:51,400 broke down faster than the Payless shoes did, or maybe not 155 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:55,040 quite as fast. But you understand, I, I, I 156 00:07:55,040 --> 00:07:58,360 thought this was pretty funny because I saw this, they did a 157 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:01,560 social experiment and in Hollywood or somewhere like 158 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:05,560 that, they took Payless shoes and they, and they took all of 159 00:08:05,560 --> 00:08:10,000 them and put them in this really fancy store and, and set them up 160 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:13,080 on the shelf with a light shining on it, mirrors all the 161 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:14,840 way around it. And they brought all these 162 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:17,120 elites, all these Hollywood elites in there. 163 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:19,040 And they were like, Hey, we're starting a new brand. 164 00:08:19,440 --> 00:08:22,320 We just want you to try these shoes on, wear them and let let 165 00:08:22,320 --> 00:08:24,240 us know what you think about them from Payless. 166 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:27,120 And they're putting these things on and they're asking, what do 167 00:08:27,120 --> 00:08:29,320 you think about this? Oh, I mean, this feels like, I 168 00:08:29,320 --> 00:08:31,440 mean, this feels like a $600.00 pair of shoes. 169 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:33,320 These are, these are so nice. You like them? 170 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:35,919 Yeah, these are great, man. How much are these? 171 00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:37,799 Well, these are on sale for $400.00. 172 00:08:37,919 --> 00:08:40,200 Oh, I'd pay $400.00 for those things in a heartbeat. 173 00:08:40,200 --> 00:08:42,679 Wow, this is really nice. And at the end, they revealed it 174 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:43,679 to them and they were like, what? 175 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:46,920 Those are from Payless. You know, it's because it's, it 176 00:08:46,920 --> 00:08:48,600 doesn't have anything to do with the quality. 177 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:51,360 It has everything to do with the consumerist mindset. 178 00:08:51,680 --> 00:08:54,760 If I think that I am buying something that's going to give 179 00:08:54,760 --> 00:08:57,320 me status, then I want it, right? 180 00:08:57,320 --> 00:08:59,800 And we've been trained because of commercials and because of 181 00:08:59,800 --> 00:09:03,480 everything else, that that consumerist mindset is what I 182 00:09:03,480 --> 00:09:05,440 have to have. I'm not successful unless I have 183 00:09:05,440 --> 00:09:07,760 a huge house. I'm not successful unless I 184 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:09,080 drive. What kind of car? 185 00:09:10,120 --> 00:09:14,880 Cadillac, Mercedes, you know, Lamborghini, if you drive a 186 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:17,560 Lamborghini, well, man, you've hit the top of the line, right? 187 00:09:17,560 --> 00:09:19,480 I mean, that's, that's what they, that's what they make you 188 00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:21,480 think. I was just telling my boys the 189 00:09:21,480 --> 00:09:23,680 other day, I wouldn't even want a Lamborghini, right? 190 00:09:23,680 --> 00:09:27,280 Because you can't drive it fast. It's, it's from everything I've 191 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:29,320 read, one of the most uncomfortable cars in the world, 192 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:31,320 right? Because it's, it's made to go 193 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:33,320 fast and you can't even use it, right. 194 00:09:33,600 --> 00:09:36,200 And not only that, but how many times are you tempted to just go 195 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:38,520 flying down the road and get a ticket because you're driving 196 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:40,880 faster than you should with a Lamborghini, right? 197 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:43,000 Doesn't it's a status symbol and that's it. 198 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:46,040 But that's what we're training our young people to do, right? 199 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:49,280 11 research. They did it, done a ton of 200 00:09:49,280 --> 00:09:51,600 research on this. But one of them said kids 201 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:54,520 represent an important demographic to marketers because 202 00:09:54,520 --> 00:09:57,440 in addition to their own purchasing power, they influence 203 00:09:57,440 --> 00:10:00,720 their parents buying decisions and are the adult consumers of 204 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:03,480 the future. So according to this marketing 205 00:10:03,480 --> 00:10:06,280 report, kids have a very heavy influence on their parents 206 00:10:06,280 --> 00:10:09,520 spending choices in these areas. And I've got some, I've got some 207 00:10:09,920 --> 00:10:11,840 statistics that I'm going to give you in a second, but that's 208 00:10:11,840 --> 00:10:14,480 exactly that. They are, they are, they are 209 00:10:14,600 --> 00:10:17,640 marketing to your kids. Because if they get a kid early 210 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:20,360 on to make them feel like at 3rd grade you got to go to Starbucks 211 00:10:20,360 --> 00:10:23,040 every morning and get a coffee, guess what they're going to be 212 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:24,720 doing for the rest of their life. 213 00:10:25,720 --> 00:10:28,360 If it's not Starbucks, I don't want it, right? 214 00:10:28,840 --> 00:10:31,480 Early age Nike, if it's not Nike, I don't want it. 215 00:10:31,480 --> 00:10:33,720 If it's not fill in the blank, I don't want it. 216 00:10:33,720 --> 00:10:36,760 So not only are they marketing it the kids because the kids are 217 00:10:36,760 --> 00:10:38,720 like, no, I don't want that store brand. 218 00:10:38,720 --> 00:10:40,320 I want this one. And the parents are like, OK, 219 00:10:40,320 --> 00:10:42,720 fine, whatever. You know, that's that's what 220 00:10:42,800 --> 00:10:45,880 that's what they're, you know, training kids to do, but then 221 00:10:45,880 --> 00:10:48,680 also their customers for life because they recognize that 222 00:10:48,680 --> 00:10:50,320 brand and that's what they want, right? 223 00:10:51,080 --> 00:10:55,400 So when it comes to breakfast choices, they say that 97% of 224 00:10:55,400 --> 00:10:58,880 the time the kids are the ones who decide or or or convince 225 00:10:58,880 --> 00:11:02,360 their parents what to get for breakfast. 95% of the time for 226 00:11:02,360 --> 00:11:06,680 lunch choices where where to go for casual family meals. 98% of 227 00:11:06,680 --> 00:11:10,400 the time the kids are the ones that influence that. 228 00:11:11,560 --> 00:11:15,480 My poor kids are in the 2%. But anyway 34% of the kids 229 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:18,400 always having a say on the choice of casual restaurant 230 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:22,200 clothing purchases. 95% of the time the kids have the have the 231 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:24,160 at the very least the influence on the parents. 232 00:11:24,360 --> 00:11:27,200 Software purchases 76% of the time. 233 00:11:27,200 --> 00:11:30,760 Computer purchases 60% of the time family entertainment 234 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:35,080 choices 98% family trips and excursions 94% of the time. 235 00:11:35,600 --> 00:11:39,680 I tell you this, a home should not be kid driven, right? 236 00:11:40,840 --> 00:11:45,160 It's it's not, it's not the kids responsibility to decide what is 237 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:47,600 going to happen in the house. But the problem is we've allowed 238 00:11:47,600 --> 00:11:53,200 our kids to become so consumerist focused that that 239 00:11:53,280 --> 00:11:55,520 that's why those numbers are so high, right? 240 00:11:56,320 --> 00:11:59,080 My kids like, hey, I want, you know, Captain Crunch. 241 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:01,480 I'm like, whatever the store brand of Captain Crunch is, 242 00:12:01,480 --> 00:12:04,320 that's what you can have, you know, comes in a big dog food 243 00:12:04,320 --> 00:12:05,880 bag at Walmart. You ever seen those? 244 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:08,160 That's what they get. And we're looking at like, all 245 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:10,360 right, how much is that is the cents per oz? 246 00:12:10,360 --> 00:12:12,480 All right, this one's 15.1 cents per oz. 247 00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:14,520 You can have that one. I don't know what it is, but you 248 00:12:14,520 --> 00:12:17,320 can have it, right? And that's what you get because 249 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:20,040 it's, you know, it's about, about, I don't care about brands 250 00:12:20,040 --> 00:12:22,600 and everything else, but that's why that's what marketing is all 251 00:12:22,600 --> 00:12:25,160 about, right? You ever go into a store, you 252 00:12:25,160 --> 00:12:33,840 know the, that, that retail or, or certain brands buy shelf 253 00:12:33,840 --> 00:12:36,280 space, right? Because what are you looking at? 254 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:38,920 First you walk up there and you're like, OK, here's all the, 255 00:12:39,280 --> 00:12:42,480 you know, cereal, whatever is that eye level is usually what 256 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:44,920 you're going to buy first. So, so those those companies 257 00:12:44,920 --> 00:12:48,080 will pay for that shelf space because they know that most 258 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:50,360 people are just going to see it, recognize it and grab it, right. 259 00:12:50,640 --> 00:12:53,400 You want the great value, you got to go dig down in the bottom 260 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:57,000 and crawl behind everything and grab it and get that if that's 261 00:12:57,000 --> 00:12:58,600 what you want. But that's what it is. 262 00:12:58,600 --> 00:13:02,080 And it's because we live in a consumerist culture, right from 263 00:13:02,080 --> 00:13:05,080 our children's early ages. We are teaching them when we 264 00:13:05,080 --> 00:13:07,480 are, when we go along with that thinking, we're teaching them 265 00:13:07,480 --> 00:13:11,200 that happiness comes from things and that identity is found in 266 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:14,400 brand names, current fads, whatever it happens to be. 267 00:13:14,880 --> 00:13:19,520 And so I guess the question for us tonight is how can we 268 00:13:19,920 --> 00:13:23,680 cultivate an attitude of contentment in our children's 269 00:13:23,680 --> 00:13:26,760 hearts, right? Instead of, instead of, instead 270 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:30,320 of cultivating this mindset of I've got to have, I've got to 271 00:13:30,320 --> 00:13:33,240 have, I've got to have, how can we cultivate this attitude of 272 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:35,160 contentment? How can we break the, the 273 00:13:35,160 --> 00:13:38,560 materialistic influence that's grabbing for their attention and 274 00:13:38,560 --> 00:13:41,440 teach them the joy of having enough? 275 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:44,280 And I'll tell you exactly what I said at the very beginning. 276 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:46,760 For starters, we have to model that ourselves. 277 00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:52,280 We have to model that ourselves. I know as you get older and as 278 00:13:52,280 --> 00:13:55,160 you have a little bit more money available to you, you want to 279 00:13:55,160 --> 00:13:56,800 buy things that are a little bit nicer brands. 280 00:13:56,800 --> 00:13:58,880 I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with that there. 281 00:13:58,880 --> 00:14:02,920 There is a difference sometimes in the brand choice, right? 282 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:06,240 There are brands that are more expensive because they are 283 00:14:06,240 --> 00:14:08,720 better quality, not just because they have a name on it. 284 00:14:08,720 --> 00:14:10,720 Many times you are paying for the name, right? 285 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:14,680 But there are times when my wife will bring something home from 286 00:14:14,680 --> 00:14:16,680 the grocery store and I'll eat it and I'll say what? 287 00:14:17,360 --> 00:14:19,160 That's got to be a store brand. What is that? 288 00:14:19,160 --> 00:14:20,240 She said, yeah, it's a store brand. 289 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:21,760 I said don't buy the store brand anymore. 290 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:25,040 Does not taste the same, right? There's a difference sometimes 291 00:14:25,040 --> 00:14:28,360 between those things. But but the whole point is it's 292 00:14:28,360 --> 00:14:30,160 not. It's not just marketers that 293 00:14:30,160 --> 00:14:32,480 teach us that consumerist discontent. 294 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:34,960 It's the natural tendency of our hearts. 295 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:37,920 And it's exactly what we find in First Timothy chapter 6 and 296 00:14:37,920 --> 00:14:44,720 verse #6 But godliness with contentment is great gain. 297 00:14:45,320 --> 00:14:48,160 For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can 298 00:14:48,160 --> 00:14:51,240 carry nothing out. And having food and raiment, let 299 00:14:51,240 --> 00:14:54,520 us be there with content. Boy, that's it. 300 00:14:54,520 --> 00:14:56,600 That's a big statement right there, isn't it? 301 00:14:57,600 --> 00:15:01,520 Verse 8, having food and raiment, let us be there with 302 00:15:01,520 --> 00:15:03,080 content. You have food and you got 303 00:15:03,080 --> 00:15:04,880 clothes, that's enough. What are you saying? 304 00:15:06,600 --> 00:15:10,560 But they that will be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and 305 00:15:10,560 --> 00:15:13,520 into many foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown men in 306 00:15:13,520 --> 00:15:16,600 destruction and perdition. For the love of money is the 307 00:15:16,600 --> 00:15:20,720 root of all evil, which while some coveted after they have 308 00:15:20,720 --> 00:15:24,680 erred from the faith and pierced themselves through with many 309 00:15:25,240 --> 00:15:28,440 sorrows. So if we as parents are going to 310 00:15:28,440 --> 00:15:32,880 teach our children contentment, we have to have a firm grasp on 311 00:15:32,880 --> 00:15:34,680 that idea of contentment ourselves. 312 00:15:34,680 --> 00:15:37,680 And that's why I say, yes, this is for parents who have kids, 313 00:15:37,840 --> 00:15:41,160 but this is for all of us. Contentment is something that 314 00:15:41,160 --> 00:15:44,760 all of us need to work on. A lot of Christian adults have 315 00:15:44,760 --> 00:15:48,320 bought into this subtle and sometimes not so subtle myths 316 00:15:48,320 --> 00:15:51,040 concerning money and possessions. 317 00:15:51,040 --> 00:15:54,560 And I think sometimes it's subconscious, but we actually 318 00:15:54,560 --> 00:15:58,000 then go on and perpetuate these false philosophies to the next 319 00:15:58,000 --> 00:15:59,560 generation. I want to give you 3 myths 320 00:16:00,160 --> 00:16:02,560 before we jump into our message tonight. 321 00:16:02,560 --> 00:16:03,960 And I'm, we're not going to finish this. 322 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:05,960 I'm going to, I'm going to do it over the, over a couple weeks 323 00:16:05,960 --> 00:16:07,800 here. But, but here's a few myths and 324 00:16:07,800 --> 00:16:09,280 I want you to turn to a couple of passages. 325 00:16:09,280 --> 00:16:14,000 Go to Job chapter 34. Here's myth #1 prosperity is a 326 00:16:14,000 --> 00:16:16,960 divine right. Prosperity is a divine right. 327 00:16:16,960 --> 00:16:23,040 And not only is this being perpetuated by media, right? 328 00:16:23,040 --> 00:16:26,400 Where you watch commercials on TV and they're telling you, you 329 00:16:26,400 --> 00:16:28,360 have to buy this. And if you don't, what's wrong 330 00:16:28,360 --> 00:16:31,560 with you, right? This is this is the, the 331 00:16:31,560 --> 00:16:34,840 prosperity gospel that's being promoted by all kinds of 332 00:16:34,840 --> 00:16:38,520 churches. God wants you to be wealthy. 333 00:16:39,320 --> 00:16:42,400 And if you're a living right, if you're doing what God wants you 334 00:16:42,400 --> 00:16:45,880 to do, then you'll have all the money in the world right now. 335 00:16:45,880 --> 00:16:48,880 Most of it is plant this little seed of money in my pocket and 336 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:51,240 God will grow you a great wealthy fortune. 337 00:16:51,240 --> 00:16:54,400 And it never happens except for the person who is getting all 338 00:16:54,400 --> 00:16:56,440 the seeds, right? That's who I want to be. 339 00:16:56,440 --> 00:16:57,880 I want to be the one getting all the seeds. 340 00:16:57,880 --> 00:17:01,160 But call it the American dream, call it the, the, the health and 341 00:17:01,160 --> 00:17:02,760 wealth gospel, getting what I deserve. 342 00:17:02,760 --> 00:17:04,040 Whatever you call it, it's a lie. 343 00:17:04,040 --> 00:17:05,920 Prosperity is not a divine right. 344 00:17:06,200 --> 00:17:08,880 It's a divine gift. There were godly men in the 345 00:17:08,880 --> 00:17:13,880 Bible who were wealthy. You think about Abraham, think 346 00:17:13,880 --> 00:17:17,079 about Job, you think about David, you think about Solomon. 347 00:17:17,079 --> 00:17:19,079 But they were also godly men who were poor. 348 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:23,960 I think the, the probably the prime example is Jesus, right? 349 00:17:24,079 --> 00:17:26,000 He, the son of man hath not where to lay his head. 350 00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:28,680 He didn't even have a house. He didn't have anything right. 351 00:17:29,640 --> 00:17:33,200 You, you think about Paul, Paul was a tent maker and he had to 352 00:17:33,360 --> 00:17:36,680 he had to work to make ends meet as he traveled on his missionary 353 00:17:36,680 --> 00:17:38,920 journeys. Obviously they depended on other 354 00:17:38,920 --> 00:17:41,480 people for their basic sustenance, but they were they 355 00:17:41,480 --> 00:17:42,960 were godly. I mean, there's nobody more 356 00:17:42,960 --> 00:17:45,680 godly than Jesus, right? Paul is one of the greatest 357 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:47,840 missionaries that ever lived. Neither one of them were wealthy 358 00:17:47,840 --> 00:17:50,000 and there's others in the Bible that we can point to that they, 359 00:17:50,000 --> 00:17:53,760 they didn't have a lot of money. So wealth that's gained by 360 00:17:53,760 --> 00:17:57,680 wisdom and diligence and, and, and God's favor is a blessing to 361 00:17:57,680 --> 00:18:01,920 enjoy, But it's there to invest in eternal things, right? 362 00:18:01,920 --> 00:18:04,640 It's, it's not so we can hoard it all to ourselves and say, 363 00:18:04,640 --> 00:18:08,320 look at everything I have. It's there so we can say God 364 00:18:08,320 --> 00:18:11,560 gave this to me so I can give it back out and I can use it for 365 00:18:11,560 --> 00:18:13,080 things that are going to last for eternity. 366 00:18:13,280 --> 00:18:16,240 Now, I'm not saying, because the Bible does say that, that, you 367 00:18:16,240 --> 00:18:18,360 know, we ought to be leaving something to the next 368 00:18:18,360 --> 00:18:19,600 generation. We ought to leave something to 369 00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:22,040 our family, right? So it's, it's certainly not 370 00:18:22,040 --> 00:18:23,800 wrong to have money. It's certainly not even wrong to 371 00:18:23,800 --> 00:18:26,240 have generational wealth, but it's a matter of what are you 372 00:18:26,240 --> 00:18:30,200 doing with that wealth? The myth is that that prosperity 373 00:18:30,200 --> 00:18:33,800 is a divine right and it's not, it's not owed to us by God. 374 00:18:34,240 --> 00:18:37,080 God doesn't owe us money because we're living for him, because 375 00:18:37,080 --> 00:18:39,480 we're serving him, right? There's millions of Christians 376 00:18:39,480 --> 00:18:43,080 around the world living godly lives who are barely making it 377 00:18:43,080 --> 00:18:46,080 by, especially in some of these third world countries, right? 378 00:18:46,240 --> 00:18:48,680 They have nothing. They don't even know where 379 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:50,680 they're literally OK. They say this in America. 380 00:18:50,920 --> 00:18:53,040 Oh, there's so many people that don't even know where their next 381 00:18:53,040 --> 00:18:55,840 meal is going to come from. And that may be true, but that's 382 00:18:55,840 --> 00:18:59,240 that that is not because that's because of a lot of other very, 383 00:18:59,240 --> 00:19:02,760 very poor choices, right? In America, you have no excuse 384 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:05,160 to not know where your next meal is going to come from. 385 00:19:05,320 --> 00:19:07,520 But literally around the world, there are many, there are 386 00:19:07,520 --> 00:19:10,040 billions of people who don't know where their next meal is 387 00:19:10,040 --> 00:19:11,920 going to come from. And many times they have to skip 388 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:14,720 it because there is no food for them to eat, right? 389 00:19:15,680 --> 00:19:18,160 We have to be careful not to assume that wealth is a sign of 390 00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:21,520 God's pleasure or that lean times are a sign of God's 391 00:19:21,520 --> 00:19:24,080 displeasure, right? We can have both. 392 00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:28,480 Doesn't mean that God, God is looking down on the person that 393 00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:32,360 doesn't have wealth or he's looking looking up to or you 394 00:19:32,360 --> 00:19:35,160 know the person that does you know that the truth is that God 395 00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:37,640 doesn't view the rich any differently than he views the 396 00:19:37,640 --> 00:19:39,280 poor. He's no respecter of persons. 397 00:19:39,520 --> 00:19:42,360 Job chapter 34 and verse 19. How much less to him that 398 00:19:42,360 --> 00:19:45,520 accepteth not the persons of Princess, no regardeth the rich 399 00:19:45,520 --> 00:19:49,440 more than the poor, for they all are the work of his hands. 400 00:19:50,240 --> 00:19:52,920 Acts chapter 10 and verse 34, Peter opened his mouth and said 401 00:19:52,920 --> 00:19:56,240 of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons. 402 00:19:57,000 --> 00:20:00,560 He promises to provide for our needs, not necessarily our 403 00:20:00,560 --> 00:20:04,360 wants. We honor him, we put Him first, 404 00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:06,560 He'll take care of our needs, and that's what he says in 405 00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:08,040 Philippians chapter 4 and verse 19. 406 00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:12,480 But my God shall supply all your needs according to his riches in 407 00:20:12,480 --> 00:20:15,400 Christ Jesus, right? In America, we've been trained 408 00:20:15,400 --> 00:20:19,360 to have a lot of wants. Most of them are not needs, 409 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:21,760 their wants. They're things that I have to 410 00:20:21,760 --> 00:20:23,960 have. Matthew 633 But seek ye first 411 00:20:23,960 --> 00:20:26,000 the Kingdom of God in his righteousness. 412 00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:28,720 And all these things shall be added unto you. 413 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:31,240 That's not wealth. What's the all these things? 414 00:20:32,960 --> 00:20:37,880 Food raiment. Therewith you can be be content, 415 00:20:38,120 --> 00:20:40,000 right? You seek him first. 416 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:41,480 He'll make sure you're taken care of. 417 00:20:41,720 --> 00:20:43,640 He doesn't promise that he's going to make you wealthy. 418 00:20:43,920 --> 00:20:46,640 That's a myth. Prosperity is a divine, right? 419 00:20:46,640 --> 00:20:50,160 No, it's a divine gift #2 myth. It's my money. 420 00:20:50,520 --> 00:20:54,720 Turn over to James chapter 1. You worked hard for it, so it's 421 00:20:54,720 --> 00:20:57,960 yours, right? Actually wrong. 422 00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:01,440 We are stewards. We are managers of our own 423 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:04,240 money, not owners. Everything that we have comes 424 00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:09,000 from the hand of God, right? And God could take that away 425 00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:14,480 from you in a heartbeat, right? Oh, you got a billion dollars in 426 00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:17,280 the bank? Go get sick with cancer. 427 00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:19,560 See how fast that money goes away. 428 00:21:20,640 --> 00:21:23,680 All right, Have a business deal go the wrong direction and see 429 00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:26,680 how fast that money goes away. God can take it away in a 430 00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:29,240 heartbeat because it's not yours. 431 00:21:29,880 --> 00:21:35,240 He's lending it to you to be a steward of what He has given you 432 00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:39,080 for the time that you have it. Everything that we have comes 433 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:41,360 from the hand of God. Verse James chapter 1 and verse 434 00:21:41,360 --> 00:21:45,640 #17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above and 435 00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:48,640 cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no 436 00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:51,480 variableness either. Shadow of turning. 437 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:54,520 It's God who gave us the ability and the opportunity to work and 438 00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:55,800 earn that money in the 1st place. 439 00:21:55,800 --> 00:22:00,640 It's it's God that calls us to steward our resources for Him. 440 00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:03,600 It's not yours. It's not my money. 441 00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:07,880 It's money that He's let me borrow for the time being. 442 00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:10,720 And I think the way that we handle it in the way that we use 443 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:13,000 it for His service is how He determines whether or not He's 444 00:22:13,000 --> 00:22:14,320 going to keep giving it to us or not. 445 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:17,000 Here's the third myth that a lot of people have. 446 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:19,560 And back in First Timothy chapter 6, if you'll turn over 447 00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:24,280 there, money is evil. Money is evil. 448 00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:27,080 That's a myth, right? It's a tricky one because it's 449 00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:31,520 close to the truth. Possessing money is not a sin. 450 00:22:31,720 --> 00:22:35,720 What is a sin is being possessed by that money, right? 451 00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:39,880 First Timothy chapter 6 and verse #10 says for the love of 452 00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:43,200 money is the root of all evil, right? 453 00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:45,040 Oh, you've heard people say that all the time. 454 00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:47,200 Well, you know that money is the root of all evil. 455 00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:48,480 And that's not what the Bible says. 456 00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:50,960 The love of money is the root of all evil. 457 00:22:51,120 --> 00:22:53,240 They say that because they want to get at the rich. 458 00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:56,600 Money is the root of all evil. And, and, and, and it, and it's, 459 00:22:56,640 --> 00:22:59,080 I mean there's, there's a lot of truth to that when it comes to 460 00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:01,040 some of those things, especially, I mean, especially 461 00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:02,800 now you look at everything that's coming out in the Epstein 462 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:05,720 files and all of those kind of things that money is money 463 00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:09,320 corrupts, right? Money really corrupts, and the 464 00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:12,600 people who have a lot of it have used it in a lot of wrong ways 465 00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:15,520 for a lot of wrong things. But money is not evil. 466 00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:17,680 We can use money for the glory of God. 467 00:23:18,120 --> 00:23:21,000 We can use money to accomplish a lot of things that God wants us 468 00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:23,600 to accomplish, right? It's not money that's the root 469 00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:25,120 of all evil. It's the love of money. 470 00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:27,600 And that could go from the person who has the most money in 471 00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:30,080 the entire world to the person who has the least money in the 472 00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:32,680 entire world, right? The love of money can be from 473 00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:36,280 can somebody who's poor can love money. 474 00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:40,040 You don't have a lot of it, but you love it and everything in 475 00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:41,600 your life is about how can I get more? 476 00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:45,440 Same way that people who are rich can have a love of money 477 00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:48,360 and everything in their life is about how can I get more, right? 478 00:23:48,560 --> 00:23:50,600 It's the love of money that's the root of all evil. 479 00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:53,120 So learning contentment isn't about hating money. 480 00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:55,160 It's about learning what matters most. 481 00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:57,520 It's about putting those things in the right place and having 482 00:23:57,520 --> 00:23:59,360 the right priority. So how do we teach that to our 483 00:23:59,360 --> 00:24:01,080 children? How do we help them to have a 484 00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:04,080 proper perspective on money and a material things? 485 00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:07,240 I want to, I want to give you probably just two points tonight 486 00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:09,120 and I'll probably give you 2 points next week. 487 00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:11,480 Well, next week we have our young men's service. 488 00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:15,440 But after that, I want to look at some of God's instructions to 489 00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:18,080 parents for teaching our children to be content. 490 00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:23,160 And as I said before, a lot of it hinges on us making sure that 491 00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:26,600 we are content so we can model those things to our children if 492 00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:29,360 we want to be, if we want our children to be content with what 493 00:24:29,360 --> 00:24:31,200 they have. I think there's there's some 494 00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:34,640 scriptural practices that we have to follow in our homes. 495 00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:36,800 Let's pray and then we'll jump into this. 496 00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:39,400 Father, again, we thank you for an opportunity tonight to go 497 00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:41,440 through some of these things. I pray that it will be a help to 498 00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:44,560 not only our families, but to us as individuals and to our 499 00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:46,800 church. God, I pray that you bless our 500 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:48,680 time together in Jesus name, Amen. 501 00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:51,400 Number one, I want you to see this, and I've already kind of 502 00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:53,720 alluded to this, but model contentment in the home. 503 00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:56,760 How do we teach our children? How do we cultivate contentment 504 00:24:56,960 --> 00:25:00,120 in a consumerist culture? Number one, we have to model 505 00:25:00,120 --> 00:25:02,600 that contentment in the home. Well, what is contentment? 506 00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:05,920 Contentment is having enough, right? 507 00:25:05,920 --> 00:25:07,920 That's that's what contentment is having enough. 508 00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:12,120 It's the opposite of covetousness, always calling for 509 00:25:12,120 --> 00:25:13,600 more. I've got to have more. 510 00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:16,920 Just just one more dollar, just one more thing, just a little 511 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:20,040 bit bigger house, just a little bit nicer car, just just a 512 00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:22,960 little bit higher up that rung, just a little bit higher up that 513 00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:25,080 ladder of success. And then I'll be OK. 514 00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:29,200 But contentment is where we recognize that what I have is 515 00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:32,040 enough, right? First Timothy chapter 6 and 516 00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:34,760 verse 6. But godliness with contentment 517 00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:38,400 is great gain. That's what everybody wants. 518 00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:39,800 I want to gain. I want things. 519 00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:42,040 Godliness with contentment is great gain. 520 00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:45,400 Charles Spurgeon wrote this. You say if I had a little more I 521 00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:48,000 should be very satisfied. But you make a mistake. 522 00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:50,480 If you're not content with what you have, you would not be 523 00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:54,520 satisfied if it were doubled. And that's exactly the truth. 524 00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:56,840 How many people have fit into that exact category? 525 00:25:57,280 --> 00:26:00,720 Millionaires, billionaires. How much is enough? 526 00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:02,000 One is enough. Enough. 527 00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:05,440 Just one more dollar, just one more deal and I'm done. 528 00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:07,440 All right? I just got to have a little bit 529 00:26:07,440 --> 00:26:11,480 more. And could you imagine what I 530 00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:13,880 don't want to get off track, but you think about how much money a 531 00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:18,800 billion dollars is. A billion dollars is $999 532 00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:22,480 million plus another millionaire on top of it. 533 00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:26,400 That's a lot of money. And yet these billionaires I've 534 00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:29,400 got to have, you know, I got to be the first trillionaire in the 535 00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:32,360 world, you know, I mean, and, and it's just, it's just not 536 00:26:32,360 --> 00:26:33,400 enough. It's not enough. 537 00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:36,160 I got to have more. That's amazing to me. 538 00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:38,560 But Charles Spurgeon has a good point. 539 00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:40,720 How many people do you know who have more money than they need, 540 00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:42,840 but they never feel like they have enough. 541 00:26:43,120 --> 00:26:45,360 And I'll be honest with you, you go around to the different we, 542 00:26:45,360 --> 00:26:47,800 we knock doors in the in the neighborhoods around here and 543 00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:49,200 some of these houses are massive. 544 00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:51,360 And you know how many people we get home? 545 00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:55,320 Almost none because they don't even live there because they're 546 00:26:55,320 --> 00:26:57,520 out there working to pay for the house that they don't even live 547 00:26:57,520 --> 00:26:59,960 in, right? And they're, they're sitting in 548 00:26:59,960 --> 00:27:02,640 the office because they, you know, they're not, they're not 549 00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:04,560 in the fancy car that they're driving because they're sitting 550 00:27:04,560 --> 00:27:06,520 in the office trying to pay for the car that they're driving to 551 00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:09,080 get to the house that they don't live in, that they, that they're 552 00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:12,120 trying to pay for, right? And, and you knock on their 553 00:27:12,120 --> 00:27:14,320 doors and you try to give them the gospel and they're not home. 554 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:15,720 They leave at 6:00 in the morning. 555 00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:18,480 They get home at 8:00 at night because they're making that 556 00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:19,360 money. Got to have it. 557 00:27:19,360 --> 00:27:22,640 And they get one day a week just to to spend their money and to 558 00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:25,960 enjoy it, right? And they have nice things, but 559 00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:28,200 you can't even enjoy it, let alone to have your family, 560 00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:30,160 right? Most of these people put their 561 00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:32,320 kids in a daycare for 60 hours a week. 562 00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:34,440 They're not. They don't even know who their 563 00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:36,800 kids are. Kids don't even know who their 564 00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:39,200 parents are. That's not teaching contentment 565 00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:41,800 to our kids. And I'm not saying that we have 566 00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:43,920 that in here. I know that nobody, nobody keeps 567 00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,960 their kids in daycare for 60 hours a week here, right? 568 00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:50,640 But but that's the that's the danger that if we pass that off 569 00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:54,360 to somebody else and let them raise our kids because we're 570 00:27:54,360 --> 00:27:56,560 trying to make money, it's going to be hollow. 571 00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:59,440 It's going to be empty. And you're going to wish that 572 00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:03,200 you hadn't done that right. You are what you're cultivating 573 00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:06,680 in the home. You you are raising your 574 00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:08,520 teenage. Your teenagers are almost 575 00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:11,240 completely raised by the time they're five years old. 576 00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:18,080 Let that sink in. Your teenagers are who they are 577 00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:21,080 going to be by the time they're 3456 years old. 578 00:28:22,120 --> 00:28:25,440 Who they are when they're little and what you teach them when 579 00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:28,000 they're little is what's ingrained in them for most of 580 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:30,000 the rest of their life. All right. 581 00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:32,600 And not that God can't get a hold of their heart and not that 582 00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:35,000 you know, they can't go to a youth conference and God can get 583 00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:37,120 a hold of them. God got a hold of my heart when 584 00:28:37,120 --> 00:28:42,320 I was in when I was a teenager. But barring that, your kids are 585 00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:45,280 who they're going to be by the time they're 567 years old. 586 00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:49,480 It is so important. It is so important that you be 587 00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:51,760 involved in their life when they're young. 588 00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:56,520 Don't give that to a daycare person who does not care about 589 00:28:56,520 --> 00:28:59,320 your kids. Don't give it to a babysitter 590 00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:03,160 who doesn't have the same desires for your kids that you 591 00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:07,080 have for your kids, right. You give that to somebody else, 592 00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:09,880 they are going to turn. They are going to be raising 593 00:29:09,880 --> 00:29:14,160 your teenagers. What you, what you want them to 594 00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:17,400 be when they're teenagers is who you train them to be by the time 595 00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:18,600 they're young. And that's what I'm saying, it's 596 00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:21,760 so important. You know, most parents, even if 597 00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:25,720 even if they're home with them, what do they stick them front of 598 00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:29,400 ATV, Let the kid, let the let the TV be the babysitter, shove 599 00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:32,000 an iPad in their face and let them just play games all day 600 00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:34,480 long and watch all those commercials that come across in 601 00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:36,600 the games and all the advertisements and all of those 602 00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:38,800 things. That is what's raising your 603 00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:42,720 children and that is what is training your kids to be a 604 00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:44,960 teenager because that's who they're going to be. 605 00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:48,160 It's very hard to turn. You get a big ship moving in One 606 00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:49,640 Direction. It's very hard to turn it. 607 00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:51,760 And that's exactly what's happening. 608 00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:54,520 You are training your young people from the time that 609 00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:57,360 they're very, very little to who they're going to be when they're 610 00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:59,080 teenagers. And that's not exactly what my 611 00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:02,360 point is tonight. But my point is that if we're 612 00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:04,560 trained, if we're going to train our kids to be content, it 613 00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:08,480 starts when they're little kids, it starts when they're little. 614 00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:11,080 And it's going to it's, it's going to continue on. 615 00:30:11,080 --> 00:30:13,200 But what does enough look like in plain terms? 616 00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:17,400 It's, it's many times it's living below your means, right? 617 00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:23,040 What, what caused that huge bubble to break in 2008 when all 618 00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:25,600 these people lost their houses and their house went into 619 00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:28,440 foreclosure and everything else? How did that happen? 620 00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:30,680 Because they were living way above their means. 621 00:30:31,280 --> 00:30:35,400 They were living on that edge of disaster and the bubble popped 622 00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:38,960 and they lost everything, right? And, and, and people who had 623 00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:44,360 really good jobs lost their house, went into foreclosure 624 00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:47,080 because they were living way above their means. 625 00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:49,880 Everything was on credit, all of those other things. 626 00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:53,400 But spending less than you bring in too many parents are modeling 627 00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:55,120 discontentment. In fact, turn over to Proverbs 628 00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:59,040 chapter 22. I think too many parents and, 629 00:30:59,040 --> 00:31:01,560 and, and the and The thing is, maybe not all of your kids know 630 00:31:01,560 --> 00:31:03,560 everything about your finances and everything else. 631 00:31:03,560 --> 00:31:06,240 Not like I sit down and talk to my kids about my financial 632 00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:09,320 situation and ask them what I should do about it, right? 633 00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:12,040 They don't know, you know what, what credit cards we have and 634 00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:14,240 what our bank accounts look like and everything else. 635 00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:16,520 But they hear the discussions and they know the things that 636 00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:18,920 are going on in your family. And too many parents are 637 00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:21,480 modeling discontentment for their children by accumulating 638 00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:25,360 debt over non necessities and then having to take on extra 639 00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:30,320 hours at work to to, you know, or extra jobs to pay for their 640 00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:34,280 undisciplined spending. And in our culture of plenty, we 641 00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:36,680 live by the assumption that if we want it, we should have it. 642 00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:42,080 By the way, by the way, that's a mistake that a lot of young 643 00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:45,080 people make too. They they get out of high 644 00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,320 school, they get out of college, they get married, and they think 645 00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:50,240 they should have everything that their parents had when they were 646 00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:53,120 growing up. It took your parents 30 years to 647 00:31:53,120 --> 00:31:55,840 get that. OK, you're not going to drive a 648 00:31:55,840 --> 00:31:58,880 fancy car. OK, you, you should drive a 649 00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:01,880 beater around for a while and learn what it's like, right? 650 00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:03,560 It'll teach you how to fix a car. 651 00:32:03,560 --> 00:32:08,040 I can tell you that much, right? Drive a beater, right? 652 00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:10,360 Live in a tiny little cracker box of a house. 653 00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:12,840 Everybody expects that the day they graduate, they should be 654 00:32:12,840 --> 00:32:16,280 able to go buy a $500,000 house. And both the husband and the 655 00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:19,720 wife have a, a fancy car that they're driving and, and it, you 656 00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:22,280 know, if it's not brand new, it should only be a year or two 657 00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:25,040 old, right? It took your parents years to 658 00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:27,640 get that. The problem is parents are 659 00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:31,200 teaching their kids that it's OK to have that mindset, right? 660 00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:34,480 Jackson just got his license a couple weeks ago. 661 00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:37,240 You know what he's driving? Well, he's not even driving it 662 00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:39,080 yet because it doesn't run. We're trying to get it running. 663 00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:43,840 A 2007 Toyota 4 Runner with 325,000 miles on it. 664 00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:45,800 Guess what he's going to learn how to do? 665 00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:48,240 He ain't going to be squealing the tires in that thing. 666 00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:51,680 I can promise you that because #1 the tires probably aren't 667 00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:54,640 even going to squeal. But #2 if he does, he's not 668 00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:56,800 going to have a car to drive, right? 669 00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:58,960 It teaches you how to learn those things. 670 00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:00,920 It, it, it forces you to be content. 671 00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:03,960 He can go buy a car if he wants to, but he doesn't have the 672 00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:05,840 money to buy a car. So he's going to drive what's 673 00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:09,160 there, right? And, and, and honestly, I don't 674 00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:12,480 even think it's a wise thing for parents to allow your kids to go 675 00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:15,440 buy a Mustang, even if they're working and they have the money 676 00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:18,320 to buy it, right? Save it and use it for something 677 00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:22,360 else. Learn how to get by on living 678 00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:26,880 below your means, right. Well, this, this kid is working 679 00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:29,320 a job and he saved up his money over the summer. 680 00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:33,680 And so he wants to spend every last dime that he has on a brand 681 00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:35,160 new Mustang. It's his money. 682 00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:39,080 Let him go spend it. No, man, I, I was riding with 683 00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:42,440 the police officer just three or four months ago and we pulled 684 00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:46,080 this kid over. He was 17 years old and he had 685 00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:49,960 15 points on his driving record. He was driving a, a Mustang, 686 00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:54,080 driving a Mustang and he was going 60 miles an hour in a 35 687 00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:57,680 when we pulled him over with 15 points on his driving record. 688 00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:00,320 Do you think he'd be doing that if he was driving a little 689 00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:03,840 beater that barely got to 35 miles an hour, let alone be able 690 00:34:03,840 --> 00:34:05,960 to go 60 in a Mustang? Right. 691 00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:09,440 And, and, and it turned out that his, his dad was on the title 692 00:34:09,440 --> 00:34:12,040 with him and everything else. So it's the worst thing you 693 00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:13,639 could do for your kid. Doesn't matter if you have 694 00:34:13,639 --> 00:34:15,760 money, let him start at the bottom. 695 00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:20,800 Some of the some of the guys who were the most successful have 696 00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,520 taught that lesson to their kids by making them start at the 697 00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:26,040 bottom and work their way up, right. 698 00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:29,280 Some of the worst things that could happen is I'm the CEO or 699 00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:31,600 I'm the president or I'm the owner of this big company. 700 00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:34,639 And so your kid graduates from college and now he's the vice 701 00:34:34,639 --> 00:34:36,719 president and he's going to be the president next day. 702 00:34:37,199 --> 00:34:39,520 Soon as I decide to retire, he's going to be the president of 703 00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:42,040 this company. No, he should start off as a day 704 00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:45,800 laborer and work his way up and prove that he can do it. 705 00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:48,080 And all I'm saying is that's that's the mindset that we 706 00:34:48,080 --> 00:34:50,159 should be teaching to our children, right? 707 00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:52,040 It doesn't matter if you can afford it. 708 00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:57,200 Live below your means. Show them what contentment is, 709 00:34:57,280 --> 00:34:58,400 right? It doesn't mean that you can't 710 00:34:58,400 --> 00:35:01,640 enjoy things. But all I'm saying is in this, 711 00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:06,800 in this culture of of plenty, we shouldn't just have this mindset 712 00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:09,560 that I want it, so I should be able to have it right? 713 00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:12,320 Sometimes it's good for us not to have. 714 00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:14,760 And that's that's especially true if it's going to put us 715 00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:17,960 into debt. This guy was a journalist, Earl 716 00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:21,280 Wilson. He lived from 19 O 7 to 1987. 717 00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:24,920 He died a long time ago. He said this nowadays people can 718 00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:28,600 be divided into three classes. And that was nowadays a long 719 00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:33,200 time ago, the haves, the have nots and the have not paid for 720 00:35:33,200 --> 00:35:36,760 what they haves. And he said in his article, it's 721 00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:39,320 better to be in the second group than the third, right? 722 00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:42,480 It's better to be in the have nots than to be in the have not 723 00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:46,640 paid for what you have, right? Proverbs 22 seven, the Bible 724 00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:52,640 says this, the rich ruleth over the poor and the borrower is 725 00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:56,400 servant to the lender. One of the most important 726 00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:59,200 lessons that a kid can learn and one of the most important things 727 00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:01,640 that a parent can teach to their children when it comes to this 728 00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:04,720 idea is to learn to differentiate between needs, 729 00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:09,520 wants and desires, right? There are, there are some things 730 00:36:09,520 --> 00:36:12,240 as a parent, you should provide for your children's needs, 731 00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:14,760 right? Well, son, you're in 7th grade 732 00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:17,280 now. So if you want a place to live, 733 00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:19,880 you're going to have to pay me $500 a month for that bedroom, 734 00:36:20,720 --> 00:36:22,240 right? And if you can't afford it, I 735 00:36:22,240 --> 00:36:25,600 guess you can go find a place in the woods to stay, right? 736 00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:28,880 No, you should provide a place for them to, to, to, to sleep. 737 00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:31,760 You should provide food and, and, and the basic necessities 738 00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:34,680 when it comes to clothes and those kind of things, OK. 739 00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:38,200 But when it comes to wants and desires, there are times when 740 00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:40,360 that restraint is good for us, right? 741 00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:44,240 OK, I'll, I'll buy you a pair of basketball shoes from Payless. 742 00:36:44,240 --> 00:36:47,160 But if you want a pair of of shoes that says Nike on it, I'm 743 00:36:47,160 --> 00:36:48,800 not paying $150.00 for those shoes. 744 00:36:48,800 --> 00:36:51,000 You go buy it if you want it, right? 745 00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:54,560 I remember growing up with those same thing. 746 00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:58,280 I had a pair of shoes. Kmart doesn't even exist 747 00:36:58,280 --> 00:36:59,520 anymore. Actually it does, it's in 748 00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:02,680 Australia. We saw Kmart in Australia, same 749 00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:06,160 logo and everything, but here in the US it doesn't exist anymore. 750 00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:10,080 When I was in 7th grade, when I got into 7th grade, my dad said, 751 00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:13,920 I'll give you a place to sleep and I'll put food on the table. 752 00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:15,680 You want anything else, you're paying for it. 753 00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:18,560 And then he paid me $2.00 an hour to go work for him. 754 00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:22,040 There's a lot of, you know what I learned how to do? 755 00:37:22,240 --> 00:37:26,280 I shopped at Goodwill. I took care of my stuff. 756 00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:28,880 I didn't, I didn't leave it laying all over the place. 757 00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:32,840 I, you know, no, no longer did I run around and slide on my knees 758 00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:35,680 and put holes in my pants. Of course, now you could sell it 759 00:37:35,680 --> 00:37:39,240 for a lot more if you did that, but that wasn't cool. 760 00:37:39,240 --> 00:37:41,200 Back then you had holes in your jeans. 761 00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:42,240 There was something wrong with you. 762 00:37:42,240 --> 00:37:45,080 Now it wasn't cool. You know, it'll RIP them up on 763 00:37:45,080 --> 00:37:46,960 purpose and sell them for twice as much. 764 00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:50,560 But I went to Kmart when I got into 7th grade. 765 00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:53,160 I went to Kmart because I needed a pair of shoes for basketball. 766 00:37:53,160 --> 00:37:56,280 Actually, this was ninth grade. We wrestled all the way up until 767 00:37:56,280 --> 00:37:58,680 9th grade, and then our school switched from wrestling to 768 00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:01,800 basketball and so we'd I'd never bought a pair of basketball 769 00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:03,800 shoes before. I went to Kmart and I found a 770 00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:07,360 pair of Warner Brothers basketball shoes. 771 00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:10,520 Never even heard of it before, and I've never seen them since. 772 00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:16,240 But they were on clearance at Kmart for $16 and I took such 773 00:38:16,240 --> 00:38:18,440 good care of those things that, you know, by the time I was in 774 00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:21,080 9th grade at my feet had grown to kind of the size that they 775 00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:23,320 were going to be. I think I grew a little bit 776 00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:25,600 after that. But I kept those things from 9th 777 00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:28,320 grade all the way until the end of my 11th grade basketball 778 00:38:28,320 --> 00:38:29,880 season. I had to buy a new pair when I 779 00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:32,920 got it into my senior year. I didn't wear them outside. 780 00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:35,640 I didn't wear them anywhere except on the basketball court. 781 00:38:35,640 --> 00:38:39,600 I took care of those things like they were a baby because I spent 782 00:38:39,600 --> 00:38:43,960 $16.00 on those basketball shoes and I was not going to spend 783 00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:45,800 more money on that than I needed to. 784 00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:49,840 It taught me responsibility because I was paying for it, 785 00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:52,520 right? I had to pay for those things. 786 00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:56,040 Now it's not just oh, well that broke, buy me another one, 787 00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:58,040 right? Most parents are like, oh, OK, 788 00:38:58,040 --> 00:39:00,280 well here here's some money, go buy another one, right? 789 00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:04,920 No, we'll, we'll provide for your needs, but your wants, you 790 00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:09,960 go pay for it, your desires, save up the money and go buy it, 791 00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:11,680 right. Teach your kids and we'll talk 792 00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:13,440 about this later. Teach them how to have a budget, 793 00:39:14,720 --> 00:39:16,320 right? You want to, you want to buy 794 00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:20,240 something, save up for it, put it in that envelope and and 795 00:39:20,240 --> 00:39:23,240 keep, keep saving up until you can actually afford to buy it. 796 00:39:24,080 --> 00:39:27,720 And, and here's what happens. They see something in a magazine 797 00:39:27,720 --> 00:39:30,040 or what not magazine, I don't know, wherever you see it. 798 00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:32,480 Oh, I really want that. All right, save up your money 799 00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:33,720 and go buy it. Guess what happens? 800 00:39:33,720 --> 00:39:35,720 They start saving up their money and eventually they're like, 801 00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:38,680 that's a lot of money. I don't think I need that 802 00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:41,080 anymore, right? That's what happens. 803 00:39:41,080 --> 00:39:42,960 You teach them that responsibility and it's teaching 804 00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:44,680 them that contentment at the same time. 805 00:39:44,720 --> 00:39:50,720 Turn over to Hebrews chapter 13. So you'll many you'll often be 806 00:39:50,720 --> 00:39:53,760 able to provide for your beyond your children's needs. 807 00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:58,240 But there should be a time when you just say no, as well as 808 00:39:58,240 --> 00:40:01,760 times you allow them to earn and save and understand the value of 809 00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:04,080 what they have, right? I I'm not. 810 00:40:04,160 --> 00:40:07,320 I mean I'm not. Dirt poor where I have nothing 811 00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:10,360 in a bank account, I could probably afford to buy my kids a 812 00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:13,920 pair of basketball shoes once every other year, right? 813 00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:17,600 But it's the it's the importance of teaching them the value of 814 00:40:17,640 --> 00:40:20,200 it's not a need, it's a one, right? 815 00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:23,200 You got to have Under Armour basketball shoes then guess 816 00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:25,760 what? Go find them on sale at the 817 00:40:25,760 --> 00:40:29,200 outlet, right? Alex just learned that lesson 818 00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:31,640 the other day. We were at the outlets and we 819 00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:34,440 found the they had the basketball shoes. 820 00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:38,760 We were, we were down in well, oh, and it was up in Lancaster 821 00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:40,240 when we went up there for the marriage conference. 822 00:40:40,240 --> 00:40:42,880 And so Saturday afternoon after everything was finished, we 823 00:40:42,880 --> 00:40:45,960 decided to swing by the outlets and just see we were looking for 824 00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:48,760 a couple different things. And we went into, we went into 825 00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:51,520 the Under Armour store and they had their basketball shoes on 826 00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:56,200 clearance for 30 bucks. So my wife called Alex. 827 00:40:56,240 --> 00:40:59,600 Alex, I know you got a pair of shoes for basketball season 828 00:40:59,600 --> 00:41:02,840 right now, but do you want to spend money to buy a pair of 829 00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:05,280 shoes right now that you can have for next year if we buy the 830 00:41:05,280 --> 00:41:07,680 bigger size and you're only spending 30 bucks, He said buy 831 00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:10,680 them, I'll get them $30.00, right? 832 00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:13,560 I mean, it's, it's teaching them the value of those things. 833 00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:16,760 And when you have to pay for your needs, I mean, sorry, your 834 00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:20,080 wants, then you're they're going to be they're going to be a lot 835 00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:23,560 more pay a lot more careful attention to those things. 836 00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:26,880 And so as you as a parent live below your means, you're going 837 00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:30,320 to model to your children the the essence of contentment. 838 00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:32,800 And you need to teach them that you don't need more stuff to be 839 00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:35,080 happy. You only need what God provides. 840 00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:39,120 All right, even more accurately, you only need God himself. 841 00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:42,440 Hebrews chapter 13 and verse 5. Let your conversation be without 842 00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:45,160 covetousness. What does conversation mean? 843 00:41:46,040 --> 00:41:48,800 Your lifestyle. Let your lifestyle be without 844 00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:52,040 covetousness and be content with such things as you have. 845 00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:54,920 For he has said I will never leave you. 846 00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:56,640 I will never leave thee nor forsake thee. 847 00:41:56,880 --> 00:41:59,280 You have God. That's enough, right? 848 00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:02,360 We talked about that a couple weeks ago and the message that I 849 00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:04,200 preached stay at the top of the righteous list. 850 00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:07,920 I've never seen the righteous forsaken nor seed begging bread 851 00:42:08,920 --> 00:42:11,560 and say I've never seen the righteous forsaken, nor not in a 852 00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:14,200 name brand pair of basketball shoes, right? 853 00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:16,640 It says your needs are going to be taken care of. 854 00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:20,400 And I'm here to provide those those for you because I'm your 855 00:42:20,400 --> 00:42:23,320 father. But how do we teach that 856 00:42:23,320 --> 00:42:25,120 contentment? How do we model contentment in 857 00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:26,480 the home? Well, first of all, by living 858 00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:29,560 below your means, but secondly, by providing for basic 859 00:42:29,560 --> 00:42:31,800 necessities. And we kind of touched on this 860 00:42:31,800 --> 00:42:35,720 already, but First Timothy chapter 6, the Bible says this 861 00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:39,760 in verse #7 For we brought nothing into this world, and it 862 00:42:39,760 --> 00:42:43,160 is certain we can carry nothing out. 863 00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:46,640 And having food and raiment, let us be there with content. 864 00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:50,840 Turn over to Proverbs 23. What exactly do we need to be 865 00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:54,280 content according to this verse? We already kind of highlighted 866 00:42:54,280 --> 00:42:56,080 it a little bit. But the point here is not so 867 00:42:56,080 --> 00:43:00,040 much that we need only food and clothing as much as it is 868 00:43:00,040 --> 00:43:02,960 contrasting contentment with covetousness. 869 00:43:03,760 --> 00:43:06,320 Right. The goal of life and work is not 870 00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:10,720 to just amass things, but to be able to meet our family's needs 871 00:43:10,720 --> 00:43:14,200 and then to give to others. Proverbs chapter 23 and verse #4 872 00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:19,200 Labor not to be rich. Cease from thine own wisdom. 873 00:43:19,440 --> 00:43:22,480 Wilt thou set thine eyes upon that which is not? 874 00:43:22,640 --> 00:43:25,720 For riches certainly make themselves wings. 875 00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:28,320 They fly away as an eagle toward heaven. 876 00:43:28,680 --> 00:43:31,640 One of the ways that you can help cultivate contentment in 877 00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:33,840 the heart of your children is by assuring them that you're going 878 00:43:33,840 --> 00:43:35,520 to provide for their basic necessities. 879 00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:39,400 First Timothy 5 and verse #8 But if any provide not for his for 880 00:43:39,400 --> 00:43:42,760 his own and especially for those of his own house hath denied the 881 00:43:42,760 --> 00:43:44,960 faith and is worse than an infidel. 882 00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:49,040 Well, unfortunately, children, we're we're learning 883 00:43:49,040 --> 00:43:50,960 contentment. So I'm just quitting my job and 884 00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:52,760 we're not going to have anything right. 885 00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:56,120 That's not what he's saying. Which means then you can work, 886 00:43:56,120 --> 00:43:58,600 you can, you can make money, you can provide for your house. 887 00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:00,480 And not only that you can, but you should. 888 00:44:01,280 --> 00:44:05,240 Your job as a parent, especially as a father, is to provide for 889 00:44:05,240 --> 00:44:07,720 your children's basic needs, right? 890 00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:10,120 First Timothy 5 says that very plainly. 891 00:44:10,960 --> 00:44:13,120 What are those basic needs? Well, let's turn over to 892 00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:17,120 Proverbs 31. Shelter, obviously, that's one 893 00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:18,480 of them. Your children need a roof over 894 00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:20,560 their heads, right? A place to sleep. 895 00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:22,680 It doesn't have to be a palace, but it should be a place to call 896 00:44:22,680 --> 00:44:24,880 home. We didn't, we didn't, we didn't 897 00:44:24,880 --> 00:44:28,640 grow up in a mansion. In fact, you know, the older you 898 00:44:28,640 --> 00:44:30,520 get, you go back there and you see it again and you're like, 899 00:44:30,520 --> 00:44:33,520 wow, that was that's way smaller than I remember it, right. 900 00:44:33,520 --> 00:44:35,160 It's the way it always goes, it seems like. 901 00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:38,800 But shelter, food. Consider what Proverbs 31 says 902 00:44:38,800 --> 00:44:40,640 about the virtuous woman, verse 16. 903 00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:44,640 She considereth a field and buyeth it with the fruit of her 904 00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:46,800 hands. She planted the vineyard. 905 00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:51,240 So you should provide for them shelter, food, clothing, OK, 906 00:44:51,240 --> 00:44:55,360 having, having name brand clothing is not a a need, right? 907 00:44:55,360 --> 00:44:58,920 But having clothing is you should provide for your kids 908 00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:00,600 when it comes to wearing clothes. 909 00:45:00,600 --> 00:45:04,320 Obviously education, your child's education is a necessity 910 00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:07,720 in the day that we live in. You know, think beyond high 911 00:45:07,720 --> 00:45:10,320 school and doing what you can to help them through college. 912 00:45:10,760 --> 00:45:13,800 But at the same time, look, my, my parents didn't spend a dime 913 00:45:13,800 --> 00:45:16,520 for my college. I had to work my way through. 914 00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:20,120 And you know what, by the time I graduated, the the day that I 915 00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:23,160 graduated, I paid the final amount that I owed on my bill. 916 00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:27,320 And I tell you one thing, I didn't, I didn't Slough off 917 00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:30,120 through college. I did not care what grades I 918 00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:31,520 got. I was paying for it. 919 00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:34,240 I certainly wasn't going to pay for a second time through that 920 00:45:34,240 --> 00:45:36,960 class, right? But I was in college with people 921 00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:38,760 whose parents were paying for it and they didn't care. 922 00:45:38,760 --> 00:45:41,040 They never studied. They laid around and slept all 923 00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:43,520 day and did nothing and then failed the class. 924 00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:45,040 And they're like, oh, well, I failed again. 925 00:45:45,240 --> 00:45:47,440 Well, my parents will pay for it, right? 926 00:45:48,080 --> 00:45:50,360 It's, you know, there ought to be some incentives and things 927 00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:51,600 like that's not the point tonight. 928 00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:53,800 But but I think the other thing that that would kind of be a 929 00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:56,040 basic need for our children is recreation. 930 00:45:56,480 --> 00:46:00,200 You can have family time very inexpensively, right? 931 00:46:00,560 --> 00:46:04,720 Use the use the opportunities for Christmas and birthdays and 932 00:46:04,720 --> 00:46:08,640 things like that to buy them things that they can use for 933 00:46:09,200 --> 00:46:11,760 recreation. And my kids got a pickleball set 934 00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:15,920 for Christmas and we went down to Florida with my parents over, 935 00:46:15,920 --> 00:46:18,600 over the Christmas, after Christmas. 936 00:46:18,600 --> 00:46:20,760 And we played pickleball a lot, right. 937 00:46:20,880 --> 00:46:23,520 I think the other thing is too, your kids don't need more stuff. 938 00:46:23,720 --> 00:46:26,240 I did this with my kids and I, they're, they're getting picked 939 00:46:26,240 --> 00:46:30,320 on tonight a lot. But I asked them, what did you, 940 00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:32,200 what did you get for Christmas last year? 941 00:46:34,120 --> 00:46:37,320 And they couldn't remember. I said, what did we do for 942 00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:39,400 Christmas last year? What was the gift that we bought 943 00:46:39,400 --> 00:46:41,600 you to do for Christmas? And they remembered everything, 944 00:46:41,600 --> 00:46:44,320 all about it last, I don't know, 3-4, five years. 945 00:46:44,320 --> 00:46:46,560 Instead of buying them stuff, we've been buying them. 946 00:46:47,240 --> 00:46:50,200 A trip or an experience doesn't have to be that expensive. 947 00:46:50,600 --> 00:46:54,400 Hey, last year we went and stayed at the Drury Hotel and 948 00:46:54,400 --> 00:46:57,600 went to the trampoline park. But they loved it and they 949 00:46:57,600 --> 00:46:59,360 remembered everything about it, right? 950 00:46:59,360 --> 00:47:03,400 The Drury Plaza right here has a pool that's inside and outside, 951 00:47:04,200 --> 00:47:09,160 and they have free popcorn 24 hours a day and free soda 24 952 00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:12,520 hours a day. They would rather have that than 953 00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:16,120 a $500 something, you know, because you can, you can eat all 954 00:47:16,120 --> 00:47:18,840 the popcorn you want. You can drink all the, the, the 955 00:47:18,840 --> 00:47:22,120 Mountain Dew you want anytime you want it, right? 956 00:47:22,320 --> 00:47:25,320 This one actually has dinner too, which is even a, a bigger 957 00:47:25,320 --> 00:47:26,960 bonus, right? We went down and ate dinner 958 00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:30,000 twice that night because they had hot dogs and everything 959 00:47:30,000 --> 00:47:31,160 else. And they went back down and got 960 00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:34,000 nachos and cheese and everything else later, right? 961 00:47:34,080 --> 00:47:37,960 It doesn't have to be anything crazy expensive, but it's, it's 962 00:47:37,960 --> 00:47:40,000 the things that are making memories and it's, it's, it's, 963 00:47:40,120 --> 00:47:43,960 you know, especially when your children are young, especially 964 00:47:44,720 --> 00:47:46,440 if you're enthusiastic about what you're doing. 965 00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:49,200 But it's a great idea to plan a family budget that has some 966 00:47:49,200 --> 00:47:52,640 extra savings in it to be able to do things with your family. 967 00:47:53,040 --> 00:47:55,000 Right? Doesn't cost, it doesn't cost 968 00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:57,760 anything to go out and hike in the woods. 969 00:47:58,240 --> 00:48:00,000 Right? Doesn't, doesn't cost anything 970 00:48:00,000 --> 00:48:04,880 to, to, to go out and and play tennis or go play a pickleball 971 00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:06,640 chord, other than the cost of some of the materials. 972 00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:08,160 And if you had to, you can probably borrow it from 973 00:48:08,160 --> 00:48:11,920 somebody, right? Investing in recreation as a 974 00:48:11,920 --> 00:48:14,800 family tells your children that family time is more important 975 00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:18,840 than anything else, right? And, and so many people think 976 00:48:18,840 --> 00:48:21,800 that family time is sitting around the TV watching a movie 977 00:48:21,800 --> 00:48:24,960 or something like that. That's, I mean, yes, you're, 978 00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:27,400 you're, you're together, but that's, that's really not family 979 00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:30,320 time, right? Go spend some time outside, get 980 00:48:30,320 --> 00:48:33,080 them away from all the consumerist mindset and all the 981 00:48:33,760 --> 00:48:36,560 all the things that are trying to tell your kids not to be 982 00:48:36,560 --> 00:48:39,720 content with what they have and just go out and do do some 983 00:48:39,720 --> 00:48:42,840 things together as a family. When it comes to providing for 984 00:48:42,840 --> 00:48:45,000 your family's needs. You have to remember that your 985 00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:47,120 children want you more than they want stuff. 986 00:48:48,280 --> 00:48:50,080 And they may not think of it that way right now. 987 00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:52,360 I mean, my parents are going to be there no matter what. 988 00:48:52,360 --> 00:48:54,720 Give me give me the thing that I want, right? 989 00:48:54,720 --> 00:48:56,720 I've got a whole list of all the things that I want. 990 00:48:56,720 --> 00:48:58,480 I'd rather have that. And you're going to be here 991 00:48:58,480 --> 00:49:02,200 anyway, right? But you look back and, and, and 992 00:49:02,200 --> 00:49:05,320 the thing, I'll be honest with you, I remember some of the 993 00:49:05,320 --> 00:49:06,880 gifts that my parents gave us growing up. 994 00:49:06,880 --> 00:49:10,240 We got a lot of books. We got a lot of things, you 995 00:49:10,240 --> 00:49:12,480 know, that were kind of necessities. 996 00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:14,960 They gave those things to us for gifts for Christmas and 997 00:49:14,960 --> 00:49:16,320 everything else. But you know what I remember the 998 00:49:16,320 --> 00:49:20,080 most when I was growing up and it and it, and it almost makes 999 00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:22,040 me a little bit emotional thinking about it because it, 1000 00:49:22,040 --> 00:49:24,560 it's, it's one of those things. My dad owned his own business 1001 00:49:25,200 --> 00:49:28,760 and he was so nice that he didn't charge anybody anything 1002 00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:30,320 for it. So he didn't, he, he wasn't 1003 00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:35,680 wealthy, but we had a soccer game, had soccer games and, and 1004 00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:38,240 some of the things that have burned into my mind the most is 1005 00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:41,560 seeing my dad walking up the track. 1006 00:49:42,200 --> 00:49:43,600 The game's getting ready to start. 1007 00:49:43,600 --> 00:49:46,720 I don't see my dad in the in the crowd, but there he comes. 1008 00:49:46,720 --> 00:49:50,200 The game starts at 3:00. There he is at 3:00, walking 1009 00:49:50,200 --> 00:49:52,760 over there and standing along the sideline watching the game, 1010 00:49:53,120 --> 00:49:55,040 being there for the basketball games, being there at the 1011 00:49:55,040 --> 00:49:58,880 wrestling tournaments, right? We go way in early in the 1012 00:49:58,880 --> 00:50:00,880 morning and my dad can't be there because he's got to go to 1013 00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:03,360 work and everything else. And I'm not expecting to be, He 1014 00:50:03,360 --> 00:50:07,440 comes walking in the door, right that I remember that he was 1015 00:50:07,440 --> 00:50:10,760 there for almost all of the, the sports events that we had. 1016 00:50:11,440 --> 00:50:14,760 And, and that has burned into my mind far more than any of the 1017 00:50:14,760 --> 00:50:17,320 things that they ever gave us. I, I couldn't, I mean, I could 1018 00:50:17,320 --> 00:50:19,280 probably, if I sat here and thought about, I could tell you 1019 00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:21,680 a few of the gifts that I got over all of those years. 1020 00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:25,520 But I remember it like it was yesterday, seeing him walk into 1021 00:50:25,520 --> 00:50:28,840 that gym, seeing him walk up up to the soccer field to watch us 1022 00:50:28,840 --> 00:50:31,360 play the games. And man, we used to do stuff 1023 00:50:31,360 --> 00:50:34,040 growing up. I mean the run across game, I'm 1024 00:50:34,040 --> 00:50:36,120 just my brother. Remember we had a, we had a Tri 1025 00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:40,200 level house and we, we had a, we had an upstairs that went into a 1026 00:50:40,200 --> 00:50:42,560 downstairs living room kitchen and then it went down into the 1027 00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:44,200 basement. And so the, there was two 1028 00:50:44,200 --> 00:50:46,520 stories, but one of them was half buried because it was the 1029 00:50:46,520 --> 00:50:49,400 basement, right? We, we played this game 1030 00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:52,200 non-stop. It was a little soft that like 1031 00:50:52,200 --> 00:50:55,720 stuffed soccer ball and at the top of the steps you had to run 1032 00:50:55,720 --> 00:50:57,920 across and if and if he threw the ball and you got hit, you 1033 00:50:57,920 --> 00:50:59,840 were out. And we played that game for 1034 00:50:59,840 --> 00:51:02,720 hours. We used to love it. 1035 00:51:02,720 --> 00:51:06,440 I mean, we had we had foosball and we played foosball every 1036 00:51:06,440 --> 00:51:08,520 night for I don't know how many years. 1037 00:51:08,880 --> 00:51:10,560 My mom's like, all right, everybody get up. 1038 00:51:10,560 --> 00:51:12,880 It's time to clear the table. My dad was like foosball. 1039 00:51:12,880 --> 00:51:15,720 We're like, yes, we went over there and played. 1040 00:51:15,720 --> 00:51:17,440 So he was done playing. And then we had to clean 1041 00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:20,800 everything up. We had a dartboard that was on 1042 00:51:20,800 --> 00:51:22,920 the back of the door that led out to the garage. 1043 00:51:22,920 --> 00:51:27,200 It was a wooden door and there was a giant hole with nothing in 1044 00:51:27,200 --> 00:51:29,480 it. And then all the way around it, 1045 00:51:29,480 --> 00:51:32,720 holes on that dart board, right? I'm sure it drove my mom crazy, 1046 00:51:32,720 --> 00:51:36,080 but but we, we played darts just standing there next to the 1047 00:51:36,080 --> 00:51:38,440 kitchen table throwing darts after dinner. 1048 00:51:38,640 --> 00:51:41,400 I mean, those are the things we wrestled in the living room. 1049 00:51:41,600 --> 00:51:43,840 My dad would get down on the floor with us and wrestle. 1050 00:51:44,120 --> 00:51:45,240 I mean, all kinds of those things. 1051 00:51:45,240 --> 00:51:47,360 We had, we had a football game that we played outside. 1052 00:51:47,360 --> 00:51:49,560 Of course there was, there was enough for three football teams 1053 00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:51,480 in our family. So it was, it was a lot of fun, 1054 00:51:51,480 --> 00:51:53,600 but we played the interception game. 1055 00:51:54,480 --> 00:51:56,960 It was somebody's turn to catch the ball and my dad would throw 1056 00:51:56,960 --> 00:51:59,600 it and you had to get 10 first one to get ten wins, but you had 1057 00:51:59,600 --> 00:52:01,600 to try to intercept it. If you intercepted, it was your 1058 00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:02,920 turn. I think it was a game that he 1059 00:52:02,920 --> 00:52:05,680 made-up, but we loved it and we still do it. 1060 00:52:05,680 --> 00:52:07,280 We do it. We play it now. 1061 00:52:07,600 --> 00:52:10,200 I mean all of those things are things that that I remember 1062 00:52:10,200 --> 00:52:15,440 because we most of those things didn't cost anything, right? 1063 00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:17,360 I mean, how much is a dart board? 1064 00:52:17,360 --> 00:52:20,120 It wasn't very much, right. How much does it cost for a 1065 00:52:20,120 --> 00:52:21,400 foosball table? We got it. 1066 00:52:21,400 --> 00:52:24,160 We got it used somewhere. How much does it cost for a 1067 00:52:24,160 --> 00:52:26,560 little nerf ball that you're throwing up against the wall? 1068 00:52:27,040 --> 00:52:29,720 But those are the things that that that I remember and those 1069 00:52:29,720 --> 00:52:31,880 are the things that mattered, right? 1070 00:52:31,960 --> 00:52:35,640 And, and, and honestly, I would say that those things are 1071 00:52:35,640 --> 00:52:39,720 necessities, right? Your kids need those things far 1072 00:52:39,720 --> 00:52:42,240 more than they need you to go buy them a brand new car and let 1073 00:52:42,240 --> 00:52:46,360 them squeal the tires and get tickets, all right? 1074 00:52:46,480 --> 00:52:48,560 They need those things. They need food, they need 1075 00:52:48,560 --> 00:52:52,600 clothing, they need shelter, but they need you to be there for 1076 00:52:52,600 --> 00:52:54,280 them. And that those are the things 1077 00:52:54,280 --> 00:52:55,840 they're going to teach them that contentment. 1078 00:52:56,160 --> 00:52:57,720 We're out of time, so I'm going to stop there. 1079 00:52:57,720 --> 00:53:00,920 I didn't even get to the second point tonight, but if they're 1080 00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:03,080 going to learn contentment, they need to understand the 1081 00:53:03,080 --> 00:53:05,360 importance of working for something rather than just 1082 00:53:05,520 --> 00:53:08,760 having it simply given to them, right? 1083 00:53:09,160 --> 00:53:12,840 The easiest thing for you to do is to just give it to your kids, 1084 00:53:13,200 --> 00:53:15,560 right? Because you want to you, you 1085 00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:19,320 want to give to your kids. You love them and you and you 1086 00:53:19,320 --> 00:53:21,920 care for them and you want to take care of them. 1087 00:53:21,920 --> 00:53:27,760 I guess you're done listening. I shouldn't have said I'm done 1088 00:53:29,040 --> 00:53:31,560 because I'm really not, but I'm, I'm close. 1089 00:53:31,560 --> 00:53:34,960 I'm close. But The thing is, you want your 1090 00:53:34,960 --> 00:53:37,480 kids to have more than what you had, right? 1091 00:53:37,960 --> 00:53:39,760 I think that's a desire for all of us. 1092 00:53:39,760 --> 00:53:43,040 I want to give my kids more. I want to do better for them 1093 00:53:43,040 --> 00:53:46,360 than, than what I had growing up because we we missed out. 1094 00:53:46,360 --> 00:53:49,160 I mean, we didn't have the name brand stuff, right? 1095 00:53:50,600 --> 00:53:52,240 We didn't have everything given to us. 1096 00:53:52,240 --> 00:53:55,280 But I look back and I realized, you know what, that was one of 1097 00:53:55,280 --> 00:54:02,200 the best things for me, me having to go find work in 7th 1098 00:54:02,200 --> 00:54:03,720 grade. You know what happened? 1099 00:54:04,040 --> 00:54:06,280 My dad paid me $2.00 an hour to work with him. 1100 00:54:07,240 --> 00:54:10,400 We went to a we, we put it, he did invisible fence. 1101 00:54:10,400 --> 00:54:13,000 It's, it's bearing the line for the dogs, you know, and that dog 1102 00:54:13,000 --> 00:54:14,240 wears the collar and everything else. 1103 00:54:14,240 --> 00:54:16,160 That's what he did and he owned his own business doing. 1104 00:54:16,160 --> 00:54:17,800 They paid me $2.00 an hour to help him. 1105 00:54:18,480 --> 00:54:21,080 It was like pulling teeth to try to get my $2.00 an hour from 1106 00:54:21,080 --> 00:54:23,400 him. But I mean, once a summer we got 1107 00:54:23,400 --> 00:54:27,280 paid, you know, and he's like, you know, I said, Dad, I got, I 1108 00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:31,320 got 300 hours that I worked for with you this summer, 300 hours. 1109 00:54:32,160 --> 00:54:35,240 No, I was like all day, every day for the entire summer, you 1110 00:54:35,240 --> 00:54:37,480 know, I mean, it's, that is $2.00 an hour, you know. 1111 00:54:39,040 --> 00:54:44,520 But all that to say that I, I was working at somebody's house 1112 00:54:44,840 --> 00:54:47,120 and they were like, hey, do you know of anybody that could do 1113 00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:51,960 landscaping? I was like, yeah, me, we'll pay 1114 00:54:51,960 --> 00:54:54,480 you $8 an hour. I was like $8 an hour. 1115 00:54:55,120 --> 00:54:58,080 When do you want me to start? I started doing landscaping for 1116 00:54:58,080 --> 00:55:00,560 them and they told somebody else and they told somebody else. 1117 00:55:00,560 --> 00:55:02,720 The next thing you know, I was doing all this landscaping and, 1118 00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:05,240 and my dad was like, Hey, I'm paying you $2 an hour. 1119 00:55:05,240 --> 00:55:07,560 How come, you know, I said, I'm making $8 an hour over here, 1120 00:55:08,640 --> 00:55:10,800 right? But I learned how to do it 1121 00:55:11,560 --> 00:55:14,240 right. And, and, and I learned how to 1122 00:55:14,240 --> 00:55:16,360 work. That's what it, that's what it 1123 00:55:16,360 --> 00:55:18,560 taught me. If I just got to sit at home and 1124 00:55:18,560 --> 00:55:21,120 play video games all day every day, guess what I would not be 1125 00:55:21,120 --> 00:55:22,800 doing. Why should I work? 1126 00:55:23,120 --> 00:55:24,640 I don't have any motivation to do it. 1127 00:55:25,240 --> 00:55:27,920 All right, So I know you want to give, give, give, give, give to 1128 00:55:27,920 --> 00:55:30,320 your kids, but many times the best thing is to say no. 1129 00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:33,280 If you want that, go work for it, right? 1130 00:55:33,360 --> 00:55:36,800 You don't have to go get a job, you know, working 9:00 to 5:00 1131 00:55:37,160 --> 00:55:38,840 to be able to pay for some of the things you want. 1132 00:55:39,240 --> 00:55:41,240 Go out and you know, you know what we did during the winter, 1133 00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:45,440 man, we loved it when it snowed. We'd go out and shovel driveways 1134 00:55:45,440 --> 00:55:48,720 for 20 bucks a driveway and everybody is like take my money, 1135 00:55:49,440 --> 00:55:50,240 right? Cost. 1136 00:55:50,240 --> 00:55:53,240 It took took us an hour, 20 dollars, $20 was pretty good for 1137 00:55:53,240 --> 00:55:56,600 an hour back back in the 90s, right or the early to the well, 1138 00:55:56,600 --> 00:55:59,760 yeah, it was the nineties, $20.00 for a driveway was pretty 1139 00:55:59,760 --> 00:56:01,960 good, especially if you if you had two guys and you're just 1140 00:56:01,960 --> 00:56:03,920 going from house to house with a couple of shovels. 1141 00:56:04,360 --> 00:56:07,880 I mean, that was we were entrepreneurs because my parents 1142 00:56:07,880 --> 00:56:11,800 didn't just give me everything. If I wanted it, I had to work 1143 00:56:11,800 --> 00:56:13,200 for it. And they were teaching me 1144 00:56:13,360 --> 00:56:15,640 contentment. They never sat down and said I'm 1145 00:56:15,640 --> 00:56:17,800 going to teach you contentment. So if you want to learn how to 1146 00:56:17,800 --> 00:56:19,360 be content, then you got to go do this. 1147 00:56:19,520 --> 00:56:21,800 But they taught, they modeled that, right? 1148 00:56:22,080 --> 00:56:25,240 My parents probably could have, could have lived very well. 1149 00:56:25,920 --> 00:56:28,520 I don't know what kind of money they made, but I know how many, 1150 00:56:28,520 --> 00:56:32,000 how much a job cost and I know how many fences they put in and 1151 00:56:32,000 --> 00:56:33,880 I know how much course they had 10 kids. 1152 00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:37,320 So they probably all went pretty quick, but at the same time, 1153 00:56:38,120 --> 00:56:41,000 they could have lived really, really well if they wanted to. 1154 00:56:41,840 --> 00:56:45,840 They lived below their means. They were modeling contentment 1155 00:56:45,840 --> 00:56:48,320 to us. And I learned how to be content 1156 00:56:48,320 --> 00:56:51,600 with way less than probably I could have had, right. 1157 00:56:51,880 --> 00:56:53,960 My dad didn't buy my first car for me. 1158 00:56:54,520 --> 00:56:58,440 I bought it was a 1991 Ford Crown Victoria. 1159 00:56:59,040 --> 00:57:01,800 I paid $500 in a case of Mountain Dew for that thing. 1160 00:57:02,960 --> 00:57:05,880 I had a friend of mine who knew there was a used car dealership 1161 00:57:05,880 --> 00:57:09,000 and he was like, hey, 500 bucks and I was like, man 5, he can't 1162 00:57:09,000 --> 00:57:11,040 come down any lower. He said, I'll, I'll talk to him 1163 00:57:11,040 --> 00:57:13,320 for you. He comes back and he said I told 1164 00:57:13,320 --> 00:57:15,320 him you'd throw in a case of Mountain Dew and he, he had 1165 00:57:15,320 --> 00:57:18,640 agreed to it. I was like, all right, paid $500 1166 00:57:18,640 --> 00:57:22,240 in a case of Mountain Dew for my first car, Man, I took care of 1167 00:57:22,240 --> 00:57:25,960 that thing, right? I, I, it had a 5 point O is AV8 1168 00:57:25,960 --> 00:57:27,760 had a 5 point O. And it was like one of those old 1169 00:57:27,760 --> 00:57:30,480 police cars. I could squeal the tires in 1170 00:57:30,480 --> 00:57:32,760 there, but I didn't because I knew I was going to have to pay 1171 00:57:32,760 --> 00:57:34,680 for them if I squealed the tires in those things. 1172 00:57:35,080 --> 00:57:39,080 Did it once just to see if I could, but I took care of it, 1173 00:57:39,440 --> 00:57:41,160 right? And, and my parents modeled that 1174 00:57:41,160 --> 00:57:43,560 contentment. They taught me what contentment 1175 00:57:43,560 --> 00:57:47,680 was by not just giving me everything right. 1176 00:57:47,680 --> 00:57:50,800 And, and so that, that's the point that we're going to spend 1177 00:57:50,800 --> 00:57:54,200 the most time on. It's it's the importance of it 1178 00:57:54,200 --> 00:57:57,760 is that we have to model contentment in the home, right? 1179 00:57:58,200 --> 00:58:03,160 You might be able to afford more than what you have, but it's 1180 00:58:03,160 --> 00:58:05,600 good, right? You don't need it just because 1181 00:58:05,600 --> 00:58:07,880 you want it. You don't need it just because 1182 00:58:07,880 --> 00:58:09,880 you can have it. Sometimes it's good to tell 1183 00:58:09,880 --> 00:58:13,360 yourself no. All right, I want that piece of 1184 00:58:13,360 --> 00:58:17,480 cake. No, it's good to tell yourself 1185 00:58:17,480 --> 00:58:20,080 no, right? I want to go buy that. 1186 00:58:20,400 --> 00:58:22,320 Man, look at that. Oh, could you imagine if I had 1187 00:58:22,320 --> 00:58:23,560 that? You know what? 1188 00:58:23,800 --> 00:58:26,840 I know I could afford it, but no, I'm content with what I 1189 00:58:26,840 --> 00:58:28,040 have. I don't have to have that, 1190 00:58:28,720 --> 00:58:30,960 right? Let's, let's give it to missions 1191 00:58:30,960 --> 00:58:33,720 or let's give it to whatever, right? 1192 00:58:33,720 --> 00:58:34,920 There's a lot of things that we can do it. 1193 00:58:34,920 --> 00:58:37,760 We'll talk some more about that. But the important thing tonight 1194 00:58:37,760 --> 00:58:40,240 for us to understand is that if we want our kids to grow up and 1195 00:58:40,240 --> 00:58:43,960 be content, if we want our kids to grow up and not then not be 1196 00:58:43,960 --> 00:58:49,960 so consumed with things, then we can't, we have to be content and 1197 00:58:49,960 --> 00:58:51,560 we cannot be consumed with things. 1198 00:58:51,560 --> 00:58:53,840 How do you think you're going to pass that on to your kids if 1199 00:58:53,840 --> 00:58:55,640 that's the only mindset that you have? 1200 00:58:56,040 --> 00:58:59,440 This is not just, this is not just some abstract that we find 1201 00:58:59,440 --> 00:59:01,440 this all the way throughout the Bible, right? 1202 00:59:02,080 --> 00:59:04,760 Be content, be content. What do you think Be content 1203 00:59:04,760 --> 00:59:08,160 means I've got enough. I don't need more. 1204 00:59:09,000 --> 00:59:11,520 And we should be modeling that for our kids if we expect them 1205 00:59:11,520 --> 00:59:14,600 to grow up and be content the way the Bible commands them to 1206 00:59:14,600 --> 00:59:17,360 do as well. The love of money is the root of 1207 00:59:17,360 --> 00:59:22,520 all evil, which while some coveted after, they have erred 1208 00:59:22,600 --> 00:59:26,960 from the faith and pierced themselves through with many 1209 00:59:26,960 --> 00:59:30,360 sorrows. You got what you wanted, but you 1210 00:59:30,360 --> 00:59:34,200 lost what you had. I'd rather have what I have than 1211 00:59:34,200 --> 00:59:37,640 get what I want sometimes. Let's pray. 1212 00:59:37,640 --> 00:59:39,760 Father, again, we thank you so much for Your goodness to us. 1213 00:59:40,600 --> 00:59:44,200 I thank You for the opportunity to dig into God's word about 1214 00:59:44,200 --> 00:59:47,240 this idea of contentment. God, may we, may we be content 1215 00:59:47,240 --> 00:59:49,480 in our own lives. May we model that and teach that 1216 00:59:49,480 --> 00:59:52,480 to our kids as well. And may they grow up with the 1217 00:59:52,480 --> 00:59:57,240 mindset of doing everything they can, not to hoard and to be 1218 00:59:57,240 --> 01:00:00,560 wealthy, to have all the money that they want to at their 1219 01:00:00,560 --> 01:00:04,560 disposal, but that we'd be able to teach them to give and we'd 1220 01:00:04,560 --> 01:00:08,080 be able to teach them to. Serve you with the money that 1221 01:00:08,080 --> 01:00:11,240 you allow them to have, that you allow us to have God. 1222 01:00:11,240 --> 01:00:14,600 May we use that money for your service and may you use us in a 1223 01:00:14,600 --> 01:00:17,800 great way because of it. We thank you again for all that 1224 01:00:17,800 --> 01:00:19,720 you do for us in Jesus name, Amen.