1 00:00:04,480 --> 00:00:07,440 I've been talking about missions a lot and I I remember my time 2 00:00:07,440 --> 00:00:12,400 in Thailand and probably the more stressful part was trying 3 00:00:12,400 --> 00:00:17,800 to get a taxi on my own But but they have something kind of like 4 00:00:17,800 --> 00:00:20,120 Uber but I just didn't know how to make the count. 5 00:00:20,680 --> 00:00:24,560 It's called Grab and you know, taxes are hard because language 6 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:26,600 barrier and they try to RIP you off and you got to always 7 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:29,360 negotiate and grab. It's like Uber, you have an app 8 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:30,560 and then you kind of book it right. 9 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:35,400 And I understand why they named it Grab because Grab is easy 10 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:39,800 like like Grab a bite is Grab a taxi Grab is easy. 11 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:44,400 But someone told me kind of the the irony of, of naming the 12 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:48,760 service Grab, because originally up until maybe 100 years ago, 13 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:53,120 Grab meant to take something forcibly. 14 00:00:54,320 --> 00:00:58,040 To take something that's not yours was the meaning of grab 15 00:00:58,040 --> 00:01:03,000 until maybe 20th century. I think the original meaning of 16 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:09,640 grab, it fits perfectly with what we're tempted in in our 17 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:12,800 life. Maybe, you know, not money, but 18 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:16,000 with control. There are moments where 19 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:19,960 something is right in front of you and you're tempted to just 20 00:01:19,960 --> 00:01:22,760 take it. Maybe it's an opportunity. 21 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:27,560 Maybe it's a shortcut, a way to get what you want right now. 22 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:29,800 Something. That opportunity just kind of 23 00:01:29,800 --> 00:01:35,600 presents itself and the question is, will you trust God with it 24 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:40,400 or will you grab it, forcibly take it? 25 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:46,960 In today's passage, David has a chance to grab what's not his or 26 00:01:46,960 --> 00:01:51,560 not his yet anyway. And we learned how he responded 27 00:01:51,560 --> 00:01:55,400 to the opportunity. So that's the question we want 28 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:58,400 to answer today. How should we respond when we 29 00:01:58,400 --> 00:02:01,720 have the opportunity to take control? 30 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:10,960 To take control, You know, instead of trusting God #1 we 31 00:02:10,960 --> 00:02:15,840 must refuse to take what God has not given to us yet. 32 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:19,240 We must refuse to take what God has been given. 33 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:24,560 If you have every Bibles, please turn to First Samuel 24 and I'll 34 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:33,640 be reading the first 7 verses. We've skipped a few chapters 35 00:02:33,640 --> 00:02:39,040 since our last sermon, and during this time, mainly to set 36 00:02:39,040 --> 00:02:44,480 up the story, is Saul still chasing after David more and 37 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:47,760 more as a parent. David is the king, the next 38 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:52,880 anointed king. Saul is insecure because of that 39 00:02:53,440 --> 00:02:59,920 and now he he's really trying to capture David first one. 40 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:04,280 When Saul returned from pursuing the Philistines, he was told 41 00:03:04,640 --> 00:03:07,320 David is in the wilderness near and Getty. 42 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:12,960 So Saul took 3000 of Israel's fit young men and went to look 43 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:16,240 for David and his men in front of the rocks of the wild goats. 44 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:20,840 When Saul came to the sheep pens along the road, a cave was there 45 00:03:21,080 --> 00:03:23,160 and he went in to relieve himself. 46 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:26,720 David and his men were staying in the recesses of The Cave. 47 00:03:27,120 --> 00:03:31,000 So they said to him, Look, this is the day the Lord told you 48 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:36,040 about our hand, your enemy over to you, so that you can do to 49 00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:40,080 him whatever you desire. Then David got up and secretly 50 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:42,920 cut off the corner of Saul's robe. 51 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:49,000 Afterward, David's conscience bothered him because he had cut 52 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:52,960 off the corner of Saul's robe. He said to his men, As the Lord 53 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:56,080 is my witness, I will never do such a thing to my Lord. 54 00:03:56,440 --> 00:03:59,440 The Lord's anointed. I will never lift my hand 55 00:03:59,440 --> 00:04:02,280 against him, since he's the Lord's anointed. 56 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:05,960 With these words, David persuaded his men, and he did 57 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:08,040 not let him rise the buck in Saul. 58 00:04:08,480 --> 00:04:11,160 Then Saul left The Cave and went on his way. 59 00:04:13,600 --> 00:04:15,600 We go back to the slide before this. 60 00:04:22,880 --> 00:04:25,200 God has already promised to David that he'll be the next 61 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:27,160 king. That promise is already there. 62 00:04:29,480 --> 00:04:32,840 And, and David's job was to just trust God with it. 63 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:38,360 I actually had to research, did God ever tell David that it was 64 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:41,200 going to take like almost 20 years before he became the king? 65 00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:44,960 And apparently God never did tell him that. 66 00:04:45,560 --> 00:04:49,640 God wanted to, you know, all the, the times he's in the 67 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:52,640 wilderness running away, you know, God wanted to train him up 68 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:55,520 and, and, and so David could trust, learn how to trust in 69 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:58,480 God. So David didn't know the time 70 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:02,520 frame, but it says here that, hey, Saul's the Lord's anointed. 71 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:06,920 OK, He may be an evil king, but still God anointed him to be the 72 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:08,800 king for now, so I have to trust him. 73 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:13,000 So David knew that, So he knew that he's king someday. 74 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:16,280 And then the current king is still God's anointed. 75 00:05:17,200 --> 00:05:20,080 So I, I start to respect the authority. 76 00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:27,440 So he knows all of that. And this happens, David is 77 00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:31,520 hiding out in The Cave and Saul is just right there. 78 00:05:32,400 --> 00:05:37,440 And Saul comes into the actual cave where David was and his men 79 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:40,800 were, and he is using the restroom. 80 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:46,520 Saul enters The Cave to use the restroom. 81 00:05:46,760 --> 00:05:50,520 And for everyone else, this is God's will. 82 00:05:51,600 --> 00:05:57,920 Verse 4, This is the day the Lord told you about. 83 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:00,720 This is what God has promised you. 84 00:06:00,960 --> 00:06:07,560 The opportunities here, take it, grab it, But not every 85 00:06:07,560 --> 00:06:10,120 opportunity. It's God's will. 86 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:14,480 And clearly this is not God opening the door for David to 87 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:18,920 become king. But oftentimes when something 88 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:24,320 like this happens to us, we trick ourselves to think it is, 89 00:06:25,360 --> 00:06:31,520 it is God, it is for me to take. And often times we grab it. 90 00:06:32,760 --> 00:06:37,400 We take something God hasn't given us yet, and we justify 91 00:06:37,560 --> 00:06:42,040 this grabbing in just several different ways. 92 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:47,480 One of the main ways that we justify taking something God has 93 00:06:47,480 --> 00:06:51,480 not given us yet is using spiritual language to justify it 94 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:54,960 as we see here. Hey, David's men that don't say, 95 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:57,680 hey, this is our chance. We don't have to run away 96 00:06:57,680 --> 00:06:58,680 anymore. We could, we could live in the 97 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:00,800 palace. David, let's do this. 98 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:03,600 They don't say that. They say, ah, this is the day 99 00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:09,960 the Lord has promised you. We use spiritual language, we 100 00:07:09,960 --> 00:07:14,120 say to our ourselves and to others, oh, God opened the door. 101 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:17,560 If God didn't want me to take this, why did he open the the 102 00:07:17,600 --> 00:07:19,200 store? He must have opened it so I 103 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:23,280 could take it. We must be careful. 104 00:07:24,560 --> 00:07:27,480 Circumstances do not always mean God's will. 105 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:32,520 Another way we justify grabbing is using the majority opinion. 106 00:07:34,440 --> 00:07:36,680 You know in verse 4, David's men say this. 107 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:39,600 You know this spiritual oh, the day of the Lord has told you 108 00:07:39,600 --> 00:07:43,160 about came and immediately David moves to action. 109 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:49,400 Even David, he has hindered. He's moved by this for a bit 110 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:52,960 now. He only ends up cutting the 111 00:07:52,960 --> 00:07:55,800 rope, the robe, and I don't think he was close to killing 112 00:07:55,800 --> 00:08:00,480 Saul, but at least he knew that he had evil intentions at least 113 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:03,240 a little bit. Because later on we see him that 114 00:08:03,240 --> 00:08:08,160 he he feels bad for it. Majority opinion is powerful. 115 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:13,360 His men are like, Hey, this is the time something an 116 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:15,800 opportunity comes and we say, hey, everyone else thinks I 117 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:19,560 should do it. Hey, this is what's considered 118 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:21,520 normal. This is considered right by 119 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:23,640 everyone else. I maybe I should do it. 120 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:29,200 But this majority opinion, it's kind of usually flows with what 121 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:33,600 people in the culture believe that the rules of culture not 122 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:35,320 always align with the rules of God. 123 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:40,520 The rules of culture tell us to get even and that would be the 124 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:42,840 advice that you'll get. You have a chance to get even. 125 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:49,080 Doesn't get even. Take your chance if it means 126 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:51,600 advancement of your goals. If it means obtaining your 127 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:56,520 goals, don't do it. Look out for yourself 1st and 128 00:08:56,520 --> 00:08:57,880 then you could worry about later. 129 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:03,680 These don't always align with what God thinks. 130 00:09:06,160 --> 00:09:09,960 And one more thing I'll mention is to justify the way we justify 131 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:13,880 grabbing things God hasn't yet given us is that we ignore our 132 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:17,840 conscience. We say it must be OK because you 133 00:09:17,840 --> 00:09:19,440 know what? I don't feel that bad about it. 134 00:09:21,920 --> 00:09:24,640 Well, sometimes we don't feel bad about it because we've been 135 00:09:24,640 --> 00:09:26,680 ignoring our conscious for a while. 136 00:09:28,520 --> 00:09:31,080 You know, if you're a Christian, the Holy Spirit lives inside 137 00:09:31,080 --> 00:09:36,480 you, and the Holy Spirit will give you a nudge when you're 138 00:09:36,480 --> 00:09:37,760 doing something that's not right. 139 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:44,360 Holy Spirit does guide you, but many of us have learned to 140 00:09:44,360 --> 00:09:48,400 ignore that nudging. So we say, well, I feel OK about 141 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:49,560 it. It's probably OK. 142 00:09:49,560 --> 00:09:56,920 Maybe if God promised it. You don't have to force it. 143 00:09:56,920 --> 00:10:01,000 You don't have to grab it. You don't have to force God's 144 00:10:01,320 --> 00:10:03,000 promise. You don't have to speed up his 145 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:08,000 timeline. David could have easily harmed 146 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:10,800 Saul here and could have justified it, and everyone would 147 00:10:10,800 --> 00:10:13,600 have been OK with it. They would have even been happy 148 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:16,320 with it. Saul was evil. 149 00:10:16,320 --> 00:10:17,480 Of course. You should have done that, 150 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:20,440 David. Hey, God already promised you 151 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:25,840 the throne, of course, but David's conscience bothered him. 152 00:10:29,280 --> 00:10:34,360 In the 23 years that I've been a pastor and I see kind of the 153 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:37,200 ways people have been doing, I kind of noticed patterns and one 154 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:40,760 of them is they rush the timeline when it comes to 155 00:10:40,760 --> 00:10:46,600 romantic relationships. God does promise you that he 156 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:50,000 loves you and you are his beloved and, and, and that God 157 00:10:50,000 --> 00:10:51,920 is all you ever need for everlasting joy. 158 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:54,640 He doesn't quite promise you that you will have a girlfriend 159 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:57,240 or a husband or wife at this time, at this age. 160 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:03,760 And sometimes the opportunity to find love is right there and 161 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:06,760 then we take it. Even if that person is the wrong 162 00:11:06,760 --> 00:11:11,160 person for you, sometimes it's the right person for you, but 163 00:11:11,160 --> 00:11:14,720 you grab the benefits of marriage too early. 164 00:11:14,920 --> 00:11:21,440 While you're dating, God has promised things. 165 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:24,560 There are things that are promised for married couples. 166 00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:27,920 God has promised you that you will be His beloved, that He is 167 00:11:27,920 --> 00:11:33,120 all you need to feel loved. Sometimes you just have to trust 168 00:11:33,120 --> 00:11:37,680 Him and wait. Of course, another area where 169 00:11:37,680 --> 00:11:41,640 people tend to grab is pretty much everything. 170 00:11:41,640 --> 00:11:45,000 Money, you know, finance related, your work, your 171 00:11:45,000 --> 00:11:48,320 investments, you know, moving or buying homes and everything 172 00:11:48,320 --> 00:11:52,120 money related. Of course, God doesn't promise 173 00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:56,280 you that you'll be rich, but Jesus taught us very clearly, 174 00:11:56,280 --> 00:11:59,480 Hey, do not worry, I'll take care of you. 175 00:12:00,960 --> 00:12:05,040 God takes care of the birds, the flowers, wouldn't he? 176 00:12:05,320 --> 00:12:07,040 How much more would he take care of you? 177 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:16,040 But we want more sometimes We want advancement. 178 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:18,520 We want a better position, we want better pay. 179 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:22,560 And an opportunity comes, and perhaps it requires you to 180 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:26,400 compromise your integrity. Maybe you have to cut corners. 181 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:33,600 Maybe to get that opportunity you have to step on somebody you 182 00:12:33,600 --> 00:12:37,120 might think and justify to yourself, hey, nobody I know 183 00:12:37,120 --> 00:12:39,200 would turn this opportunity down. 184 00:12:42,240 --> 00:12:46,760 Sometimes you have to consider, is this something that God wants 185 00:12:46,760 --> 00:12:51,880 me to have? A lot of us dream of having a 186 00:12:51,880 --> 00:12:54,640 home, a nice home. Even if you have a home, you 187 00:12:54,640 --> 00:12:56,920 know, it's maybe not your your dream or maybe it's your 188 00:12:56,920 --> 00:12:59,120 temporary home. Maybe it's your five year old 189 00:12:59,120 --> 00:13:03,480 home and you're driving around and you we all have that, right? 190 00:13:03,800 --> 00:13:06,520 Like, oh man, that house, if that house ever came on sale, I 191 00:13:06,520 --> 00:13:08,560 mean, I don't buy you that. I have some of those houses 192 00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:11,760 drive around. Oh man, that's a perfect house. 193 00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:16,880 And I start with a flat, you know, like the parking area has 194 00:13:17,120 --> 00:13:20,520 to be flat so kids could play basketball. 195 00:13:21,160 --> 00:13:24,000 You miss a shot. You don't have to run to the 196 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:27,280 down the street to grab. You have to be flat, right? 197 00:13:27,800 --> 00:13:30,440 Can you play basketball? And is there a big backyard? 198 00:13:30,440 --> 00:13:37,560 And just because your dream home is on is up for sale, it doesn't 199 00:13:37,560 --> 00:13:41,240 mean you have to get it. You have to consider, can I 200 00:13:41,240 --> 00:13:43,800 afford it? Am I going to be house support 201 00:13:43,800 --> 00:13:47,080 for the next 30 years? What? 202 00:13:47,560 --> 00:13:52,400 Yeah. What am I sacrificing just 203 00:13:52,400 --> 00:13:54,600 because there's a better job? You don't have to take it. 204 00:13:55,080 --> 00:13:57,400 We're almost conditioned to take it. 205 00:13:57,600 --> 00:13:59,560 Take it and figure out everything else. 206 00:14:02,680 --> 00:14:05,080 How about pastors? People put pastors on a 207 00:14:05,080 --> 00:14:11,160 different like measuring scale. What if this week I got a job 208 00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:15,680 offer that pays me a lot of money My my dreams to have my 209 00:14:15,720 --> 00:14:20,280 own office. OK, SPMCI have not even a six 210 00:14:20,280 --> 00:14:22,280 foot the the four foot folding table. 211 00:14:22,680 --> 00:14:25,360 And then when there's an event, some people take it and it's not 212 00:14:25,360 --> 00:14:28,920 even there, right? I got a job offer, right? 213 00:14:29,160 --> 00:14:32,080 A lot of money. I got a big old desk that no 214 00:14:32,080 --> 00:14:35,640 one's going to take during events and an office. 215 00:14:36,200 --> 00:14:39,040 And I say I took it. I was off for that Monday and 216 00:14:39,040 --> 00:14:43,240 Tuesday I took it and Tuesday night I sent a message on the 217 00:14:43,240 --> 00:14:45,320 app. I'm saying bye guys. 218 00:14:45,320 --> 00:14:49,240 Thank you. Most of you guys, some of you 219 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:52,040 guys will be like, yes, finally God asked my first, but most of 220 00:14:52,040 --> 00:14:55,840 you guys will be like what you just one day, that's it. 221 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:59,760 You guys will be very upset, really not very upset. 222 00:14:59,760 --> 00:15:02,040 Some of you guys will be like you just make that decision like 223 00:15:02,040 --> 00:15:07,400 that. You would say Pastor Tim, I'm 224 00:15:07,440 --> 00:15:10,720 I'm known pastor, but shouldn't you like pray about it for like 225 00:15:11,240 --> 00:15:13,440 the day week, I don't know, months? 226 00:15:13,840 --> 00:15:15,800 Shouldn't you consider it more carefully? 227 00:15:15,800 --> 00:15:20,000 I mean, I mean, like, is money in a big office, is that worth 228 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:22,640 just just throwing away? You know, the past 13 years, 229 00:15:23,080 --> 00:15:25,280 some of you guys would ask me those questions. 230 00:15:27,480 --> 00:15:29,240 Now, my thing is, you, you guys should. 231 00:15:30,960 --> 00:15:33,120 But why don't you ask yourself those questions? 232 00:15:35,920 --> 00:15:37,720 Oh, I got a better job offer. Bye. 233 00:15:37,920 --> 00:15:39,600 It's two hours away. Bye, everyone. 234 00:15:40,120 --> 00:15:43,920 Yeah, we're going to find the friends, you know, family, my 235 00:15:43,920 --> 00:15:44,480 kids. Ready. 236 00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:45,240 We're going to. Yeah. 237 00:15:45,240 --> 00:15:46,480 We're going to make new ones over there. 238 00:15:46,480 --> 00:15:51,120 It's fine. How come you guys don't ask 239 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:53,680 yourself those questions? Over generalizing? 240 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:57,320 Of course. The same way you expect me to 241 00:15:57,360 --> 00:16:00,680 carefully consider a new job opportunity. 242 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:04,280 We should all have the same mentality. 243 00:16:06,520 --> 00:16:09,040 For the record, I do not get any job offers ever. 244 00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:12,960 So don't worry about it. Our other pastors do all the 245 00:16:12,960 --> 00:16:14,160 time. Not me. 246 00:16:17,680 --> 00:16:21,160 Just because you can't take it, just because it's there, it does 247 00:16:21,160 --> 00:16:23,800 not mean God has given it. Sometimes it is. 248 00:16:23,800 --> 00:16:27,400 Sometimes you do take it. But to figure that out, you need 249 00:16:27,400 --> 00:16:29,400 prayer. It takes counsel from wise 250 00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:31,400 people that God has put in your life. 251 00:16:32,680 --> 00:16:37,200 It's involving other people in your decision process and also 252 00:16:37,200 --> 00:16:40,800 to see if do I have any sinful desires that that's going to 253 00:16:40,800 --> 00:16:46,520 make me want to take that maybe we have a simple desire of of I 254 00:16:46,520 --> 00:16:48,800 don't want to trust God. I want to be so comfortable. 255 00:16:48,960 --> 00:16:50,920 I don't have to rely on God for security. 256 00:16:52,240 --> 00:16:55,000 You got to ask yourself, and am I forcing outcomes? 257 00:16:55,000 --> 00:16:57,560 Am I speeding up God's timelines? 258 00:17:01,600 --> 00:17:06,680 David, instead of grabbing what God hasn't given, he does the 259 00:17:06,680 --> 00:17:09,000 opposite. And that's number two. 260 00:17:12,160 --> 00:17:15,400 What he does is he leaves the results up to God. 261 00:17:16,400 --> 00:17:17,640 Hey, I'm going to be king someday. 262 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:22,240 I don't know how I'm running for my life, but I I'll leave that 263 00:17:22,240 --> 00:17:25,359 up to God. You leave the results up to God 264 00:17:25,359 --> 00:17:28,000 first, 8 to 15. Actually, I'm going to be 8 to 265 00:17:28,000 --> 00:17:39,080 12. OK, so let's find out how David 266 00:17:39,080 --> 00:17:40,920 leaves the outcome in God's hands. 267 00:17:42,720 --> 00:17:46,880 After that, David got up, excuse me, went out of The Cave and 268 00:17:46,880 --> 00:17:51,480 called to Saul, my Lord the king, and Saul looked behind 269 00:17:51,480 --> 00:17:53,760 him. David knelt low with his face to 270 00:17:53,760 --> 00:17:59,800 the ground and paid homage. David said to Saul, Why do you 271 00:17:59,800 --> 00:18:04,600 listen to the words of people who say, look, David intends to 272 00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:06,920 harm you? You can see with your own eyes 273 00:18:06,920 --> 00:18:09,680 that the Lord handed you over to me today in The Cave. 274 00:18:10,120 --> 00:18:14,000 Someone actually advised me to kill you, but I took pity on you 275 00:18:14,040 --> 00:18:18,080 and said I won't lift my hand against my Lord since he's the 276 00:18:18,080 --> 00:18:22,200 Lord's anointed. Look, my father, look at the 277 00:18:22,200 --> 00:18:24,560 corner of your robe in my hand, for I cut it off. 278 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:28,400 But I didn't kill you. Recognize that I've committed no 279 00:18:28,400 --> 00:18:31,520 crime or rebellion. I haven't sinned against you 280 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:33,960 even though you are hunting me down to take my life. 281 00:18:34,960 --> 00:18:41,040 May the Lord judge between me and you and may the Lord take 282 00:18:41,040 --> 00:18:45,960 vengeance on you for me, but my hand will never be against you. 283 00:18:48,880 --> 00:18:52,200 God may do something, but I'm not going to force that. 284 00:18:52,200 --> 00:18:57,200 That's what David is saying and for him to get to that 285 00:18:57,200 --> 00:19:02,200 conclusion. Really, You see a a posture in 286 00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:06,480 verse 8. He says, my king, this is a guy 287 00:19:06,480 --> 00:19:09,720 that's trying to kill him. This is a this is an insane man. 288 00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:14,720 But he says my king. And then he kneels before him 289 00:19:14,720 --> 00:19:19,280 face to the ground. This is humility. 290 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:25,880 This is a humble posture. In verse 9 to 11, pretty much 291 00:19:25,880 --> 00:19:28,680 David is saying I could have killed you, but I didn't. 292 00:19:29,840 --> 00:19:34,680 David is showing self-control. He's saying I'm willing to wait. 293 00:19:35,120 --> 00:19:39,800 Why? Because may the Lord judge 294 00:19:39,800 --> 00:19:44,600 between me and you. My hand will never be not my 295 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:47,240 hand. God's hand may do something. 296 00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:52,240 If I'm king, it's because God did something, not because I did 297 00:19:52,240 --> 00:19:57,520 something. Instead of trying to control the 298 00:19:57,520 --> 00:20:01,440 outcome, which he could have easily done, David chooses to 299 00:20:01,440 --> 00:20:06,640 trust to surrender. And to have patience to wait for 300 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:10,760 the Lord to act. And after this day, David still 301 00:20:10,760 --> 00:20:13,320 won't be king for another 10 years. 302 00:20:15,400 --> 00:20:19,400 In about 5 years, he'll be king of a of a ruler of area. 303 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:21,240 Actually it will be this area, Judah. 304 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:25,360 And then it won't be another 10 years where he's actual king of 305 00:20:25,400 --> 00:20:28,800 Israel. How does he wait that long? 306 00:20:29,600 --> 00:20:35,280 Because he had humility, he was willing to wait and he was 307 00:20:35,280 --> 00:20:38,960 willing to say God will take care of the outcome. 308 00:20:42,760 --> 00:20:46,040 And what David done has done is really, actually really hard for 309 00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:49,040 us. We don't like to wait. 310 00:20:50,320 --> 00:20:52,120 We don't like slow. We like fast. 311 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:57,080 We don't like slow service. Soon as your phone slows down 312 00:20:57,080 --> 00:20:59,720 even a little bit, you guys will get new phones. 313 00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:04,760 A lot of us, the Apple owners were so mad their phones were 314 00:21:04,760 --> 00:21:10,040 getting too slow and they all soothed Apple and y'all one good 315 00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:16,560 job. But God is asking us to go slow 316 00:21:17,120 --> 00:21:21,400 at times. Slow so you could seek God's 317 00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:26,160 will. God was asking David to go slow 318 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:28,240 because he was teaching him those 20 years. 319 00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:35,880 He needed God or David to learn something slow. 320 00:21:40,120 --> 00:21:43,560 Sometimes we we need to go slow in our parenting. 321 00:21:45,800 --> 00:21:47,880 Let's say our child, your child is struggling. 322 00:21:48,120 --> 00:21:51,880 Whatever behavior, attitude, grades, whatever the struggle, 323 00:21:52,840 --> 00:21:56,840 what do we want to do? We want to fix our kids 324 00:21:56,840 --> 00:22:01,600 immediately. We use pressure, fear, anger, 325 00:22:01,840 --> 00:22:04,560 threats, whatever to get results. 326 00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:08,280 When they're younger, I'm going to take away your iPad. 327 00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:10,600 When they're older, I'm going to take, I'm not paying for your 328 00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:15,240 wedding, whatever. I'm going to give the down 329 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:17,120 payment of your house, I'm going to give it to your, your, you 330 00:22:17,120 --> 00:22:24,640 know, sister or brother. We want immediate fixes. 331 00:22:25,120 --> 00:22:30,360 Last thing we want to do as a parent is to wait a lot of the 332 00:22:30,360 --> 00:22:31,880 things that our children go through. 333 00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:35,760 It's a heart issue. You can't force that, it takes 334 00:22:35,760 --> 00:22:40,160 time. This is why we see so many 335 00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:44,280 harmful parenting styles. When I was younger the only 336 00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:48,360 thing I've heard was tiger mom right usually Asian parents and 337 00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:52,000 and basically they were the over demanding parents needed to get 338 00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:55,800 straight A's. But now there are so many types 339 00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:59,360 of harmful parenting. I found a long list. 340 00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:03,720 The only ones I've heard about is helicopter parents, right? 341 00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:07,280 Helicopter hovering over their child and soon as their child 342 00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:10,640 gets into any kind of conflict, any problem, they land the 343 00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:13,920 helicopter, solve their problem and then gets on the helicopter 344 00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:17,320 again, right. And I mentioned this before, 345 00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:20,080 it's and this is a new type that I've heard recently, lot more 346 00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:22,920 parents. That one is worse. 347 00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:27,560 I think this one you clear the way, you remove all possible 348 00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:31,800 issues so the child could go problem free in life. 349 00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:34,520 You preemptively remove conflict. 350 00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:46,520 It's all based on controlling a child's heart takes time, takes 351 00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:50,080 prayer. It takes a reliance on God. 352 00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:55,200 God, this is what I could do. The rest of it I leave it up to 353 00:23:55,200 --> 00:24:02,920 you of control behavior results. But teaching God's ways is not 354 00:24:02,920 --> 00:24:07,720 immediate. Sometimes parenting is that 355 00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:13,200 wilderness period. It's five years, 10 years longer 356 00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:19,120 waiting on God instead of a controlling we are to wait on 357 00:24:19,120 --> 00:24:22,760 God and waiting means don't control what you cannot control. 358 00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:27,720 If you think about it, there's so little that we control. 359 00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:31,680 Even the parents who think they're doing a good job, like 360 00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:37,240 oh, my kids behavior is all set. If it's forced, if it's like 361 00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:41,640 threats to make them behave well, oh, soon as they go to 362 00:24:41,640 --> 00:24:46,680 college, see what happens. Waiting on God means don't 363 00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:52,440 control what you can't control and and waiting on God doesn't 364 00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:56,600 mean do nothing. It means stop trying to control 365 00:24:56,600 --> 00:24:59,800 things. Meanwhile, be faithful to the 366 00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:02,760 things that God has already asked you to do. 367 00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:08,240 So if it means in parenting, hey, what are the things that 368 00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:13,200 you already know you're to do? Show them the gospel to your 369 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:17,400 marriage, right? Show them what forgiveness is. 370 00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:20,080 You and your husband, you and your wife, you fight, that's 371 00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:23,400 fine, that happens. But see how you guys apologize 372 00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:26,280 to each other, forgive each other, teach them the word of 373 00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:30,000 God, pray for them. Just do the things that you're 374 00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:34,520 already supposed to do. Of course, these two things that 375 00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:38,640 what I just mentioned applies to all areas of our life, your 376 00:25:38,640 --> 00:25:41,880 business, your jobs, your dating. 377 00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:44,360 You cannot control most things in life. 378 00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:51,040 Instead of worrying and having anxiety, just be faithful to the 379 00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:52,680 things that God already asked you to do. 380 00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:57,680 I know we want to do more. I see your problem. 381 00:25:57,840 --> 00:26:00,760 I see everywhere I'm that gives me anxiety. 382 00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:03,280 We want to do more. I want to do more so I could 383 00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:11,960 figure it out more to solve it. You want to do more, love God 384 00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:16,720 more, spend time in the Word more, pray more, serve more, be 385 00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:21,440 faithful in your current season. Don't do more to control 386 00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:25,040 something. Do more where you could see 387 00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:30,360 God's love and plan for you so you could rest, so you could 388 00:26:30,360 --> 00:26:41,500 have peace. Jesus faced this moment as well 389 00:26:41,900 --> 00:26:47,100 that David faced where he could have taken control and he could 390 00:26:47,100 --> 00:26:50,940 have got him out of a pretty big jam on the cross. 391 00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:57,840 He was humiliated on the cross with two other criminals. 392 00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:01,280 Everyone's yelling, including the guy next to him. 393 00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:04,200 If you are the Christ, save yourself. 394 00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:08,960 And Jesus actually had the power to save himself. 395 00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:12,280 But he trusted the Father. He knew there had to be a 396 00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:19,000 process. In this story we see how David 397 00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:25,240 spares his enemy. Bad, insane King David spares 398 00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:29,560 him. Jesus did more than just spare. 399 00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:35,520 He died for his enemies and gave us the rights to become children 400 00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:38,920 of God. Jesus didn't grab the crown. 401 00:27:40,120 --> 00:27:42,680 He didn't use his God powers to grab the crown. 402 00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:45,840 He went through the cross to get his crown. 403 00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:54,480 I know trusting God is scary just every stage of our life, 404 00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:58,360 it's never gets better. It's scary every, every aspect. 405 00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:03,120 I thought at a certain age I'll be like, like, finally things 406 00:28:03,120 --> 00:28:04,720 will be settled down. And then you start worrying 407 00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:08,680 about whole new set of things. Oh, parents are getting older. 408 00:28:08,680 --> 00:28:10,560 Oh, my retirement is not big enough. 409 00:28:10,560 --> 00:28:13,600 It's whole new things to worry about, whole new things you 410 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:21,160 can't control and living life to control. 411 00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:24,680 These worries seem like the easy thing to do and the right thing 412 00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:27,480 to do. But God is calling you. 413 00:28:29,000 --> 00:28:31,240 Trust Him. Wait. 414 00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:37,200 Surrender to His plan. Main point. 415 00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:45,000 When we have the opportunity to grab control, we must surrender 416 00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:49,360 the outcome to God. Let's take time to pray.