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Is masculinity the problem or is
it the lack of masculinity? 

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It's the lack of maximum 
masculinity, hands down. 

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It's the lack of it or the 
proper, I would say. 

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I, I'm not even go as far as to 
say proper masculine masculinity

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is what it is. 
It is what it is. 

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It's black or white. 
It's not going to be. 

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And the lack of correct or 
proper masculinity 

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interpretations to the world 
today and what they say 

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masculinity is, that doesn't 
make it real. 

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You know, masculinity is not 
defined by the culture, OK? 

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It's revealed by the truth. 
It's revealed by responsibility.

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That's what masculinity is. 
Yeah. 

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And what what do you think about
this term toxic masculinity 

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that's bounded around so much 
now? 

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I, I think it's a creative term.
It's a creative word. 

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And I know people say, well, all
words are created and that's 

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fine. 
But toxic masculinity starts out

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at the very beginning to degrade
masculinity in general. 

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They come up with that vague 
definition that really means 

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nothing. 
It's up to self interpretation 

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on three or four different the 
words that it is and what it is.

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It's a reactive definition. 
It's a reactive created word to 

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stifle what true, you know, 
manhood, true masculinity should

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be in our society today. 
That's what it does. 

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From what I've seen, I mean, 
this is my own personal 

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experience, it's become a weapon
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against men now to, to define 
any, any slight behaviour that 

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they don't like. 
That's toxic masculinity. 

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That's toxic masculinity. 
And now it's almost become what 

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the definition of masculinity 
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All masculinity is toxic. 
That's what that's that's how I 

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see. 
It that's, that's what the 

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world's trying to teach. 
Again, that's what the culture 

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is trying to teach. 
And again, what they're doing is

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many a times and again, I, I 
don't know 100% of the people 

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out there and who chooses to, to
use that phrase here, there and 

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everywhere else. 
I don't know if that's what 

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their, their intent is. 
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say I know what their intent is.
I do know this, when you put the

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word toxic in the front, in 
front of anything, whatever 

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follows is inherently negative. 
It doesn't matter. 

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It's a negative on that. 
If I was to say toxic car, OK, 

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toxic cow, toxic burger, 
whatever comes in the back end 

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of that toxicity is something 
that is going to be interpreted 

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as being negative. 
And that's what we find today 

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while he's just just toxic 
masculinity. 

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Well, why? 
Is it because of independency? 

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Is it because of stance? 
Because strength, you know, 

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'cause like you said, that 
definition is so wishy washy. 

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It's all over the board. 
I mean, what stereotype, what 

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interpretation, what society, 
what culture, what negativity? 

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There is no definition to it. 
And to be honest with you, I 

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find it comical that it's even 
in the dictionary. 

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I really do. 
I find it insane that it that 

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phrase is in the dictionary. 
Yeah, yeah, yeah. 

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I mean, like, so we spoke about 
sort of the manosphere and you 

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know, this toxic masculinity 
culture that that people are 

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trying to combat now, is that a 
problem or is that a result of 

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something else? 
Is this is this being caused by 

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something else? 
Is there a bigger issue at at at

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the in time now at the forefront
now? 

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I it's a result of something 
else And and by by all means, I 

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mean, here's what I say this 
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Address that question, you know,
with the issue of the 

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manosphere, with the issue of 
Louis Theroux, who does 

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typically really, really good, 
non biased work, you know, you 

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know, very informative does 
seems like he does his research.

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But that side in that group of 
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they're calling a toxic 
masculinity, which I may just 

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say they're toxic. 
Let's just leave it like that, 

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you know, but the reality is 
where there's it's not 

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masculinity. 
Masculinity again, is defined by

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by something over here by, you 
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little bit later on, not by what
somebody's interpretation is. 

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I think it's the lack of true 
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interpreting as being toxic 
today. 

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And that's the problem to be 
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It's a foundational problem. 
It is not. 

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It's not a problem that's on the
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It's not superficial. 
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pure and pure and simple. 
That's what it is today. 

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And that's what needs to be 
addressed, you know. 

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I got I got some stats now. 
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Z, the people born from 1997 to 
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high polarization on gender 
equality with a significant 

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portion of young men, 57% 
feeling that equality efforts 

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have gone too far, a higher 
percentage than any in any other

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generation. 
So this is the latest generation

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of people are sort of pushing 
back against something they're 

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influenced by online 
influencers, examples Andrew 

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Tate creating a rise in alpha 
male ideology with 24% of Gen. 

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Z men believing women shouldn't 
be too independent compared with

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just 12% of boomer generation. 
So there is there is a shift in 

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how people people's attitudes, 
especially with this younger 

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generation, What what's causing 
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Is it these manosphere 
influences or is it something 

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else? 
I think it's twofold. 

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It's the lack of something and 
then it is the influencers. 

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So the influencers, let's 
address that issue, you know, 

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you know, off the top there, 
they have found a niche, they 

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have found a sounding board, 
they they found rage bait. 

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They have found something that 
is going to bump their likes up.

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It's going to get them 
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Whether it's good, bad or 
indifferent. 

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You know, it's, it's just like 
we, you know, we had talked 

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before about the children, 
whether it's good attention or 

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negative attention, they don't 
decipher between the two. 

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It's just attention. 
And that's what these people 

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are, are, are looking at. 
That's what these influencers 

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want. 
They want attention. 

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They want numbers they won't 
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It's kind of like the old 
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in the midst of war, you know, 
it's, it's shocking it and 

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they're all, they look back and 
then there's a reaction to it. 

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That's what they want. 
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is the lack of involvement that 
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particular generation, if you 
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know, of fathers in their life. 
You know, one of the highest 

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predictors of juvenile 
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highest predictors of overall 
poverty is a fatherless or an 

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absentee father society or or 
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down. 
That's proven in, in the 

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numbers, it's proven in the 
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So you see a 2 fold culture. 
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OK. 
And then you see these guys over

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here of doing nothing, if you 
will, you know, leaving children

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to fend for themselves, leaving 
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themselves. 
Just absentee fathers, absentee 

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husbands, absentee men. 
I'm going to go to the pub, I'm 

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going to hang out. 
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to church. 
And then what's happened in our 

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country over the last 50 years, 
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We don't have enough churches 
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continue going on because the 
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was the pub, which is 
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It's it's it's insane to think 
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responsibility because they're 
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And they may, they may say, I 
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matter. 
Take your responsibility, pick 

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up the mantle and run with it. 
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they're going to run with what's
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They're going to chum the water 
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they're going to do everything 
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attention looking at them over 
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And then they're going to shift 
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something else. 
Whatever gets them the attention

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today. 
And it is, this is toxic. 

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I'm going to say that it is, but
it's not masculinity. 

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No, absolutely no. 
I mean, it's almost So what 

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you're saying is like it's an 
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teaching young boys or all men 
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traits or the being the proper 
example for them that then these

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other, these the toxic, I'm not 
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unity. 
These toxic people, they can 

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they can only seem deeply 
alluring because I don't. 

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I think certainly myself as a 
man growing up and you see it 

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with kids now, men have got a 
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I've got so in recent years, was
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taught that men are the problem 
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We've got 1/3 of schools 
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teaching about it. 
And I think that these when 

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you're, when you're told, if 
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you're bad just because of your 
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inherently bad. 
You need to rein yourself in. 

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You need to check yourself. 
It's it's no wonder when you've 

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got these people on the other 
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you. 
If you're, you're powerful, 

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you're strong, you can do these 
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deeply alluring. 
You know that that is going to 

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get your attention. 
You go, well, these people are 

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sort of they're treating me 
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They or they, they're giving me 
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Who are they going to go to? 
We, we've neglected these young 

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people, these young men. 
We haven't, we haven't brought 

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them up properly. 
You know, we haven't treated 

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them right. 
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this whole toxic masculinity or 
manistia is a reaction to our 

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negligence or putting down of 
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Absolutely. 
I idle. 

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An idle man produces destructive
men, hands down. 

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An idle man who does not do 
their job. 

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Does it take on the 
responsibility? 

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You know, the reality is this, 
you know, however your son or 

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your daughter came into this 
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intentional, whether what it was
not intentional, OK, that's 

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beside the point. 
The child's there and now you 

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pull your big, big boy trousers 
up, then you play the man. 

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You know, the Bible tells you 
quit. 

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Ye like men. 
All right. 

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And that word quickie, like men 
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The Apostle Paul said when I was
a child, I spake as a child, but

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when I became a man, I put away 
childish things. 

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There are things in our life 
that we just have to, as the 

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phrase goes, man up. 
And we got to do what we need to

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do else we're leaving our 
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children, we're leaving our 
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wives, we're leaving our 
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We're leaving them to do it on 
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And that's not fair to them. 
And what ends up happening is 

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the gang mentality. 
You know that you have the I 

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grew up in the era of when you 
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gangs that was going on the gang
wars and all of these things. 

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And the way they built their 
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their persona and built their 
numbers were they took that 

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young boy. 
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as well, you have them. 
But they took that young boy who

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had no manner of their life that
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treated like, like garbage, was 
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And they loved on them and they 
show them you belong to us. 

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And they became part of 
something that this guy, hey, 

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they're, they're, they're, 
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They're teaching me to do this 
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of them and they belong to 
something. 

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Now, even though that belonging 
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terrible things, they didn't 
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belong. 
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with the, I guess they're called
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Oh, you deserve to be, you know,
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respected. 
You deserve to you the man you 

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deserve to lead and Dada, Dada 
dad. 

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And she's lesser than you. 
No, she's not. 

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You know, the bottom line is 
today you deserve what you 

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produce and man was was created 
to produce, not to just sit 

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around and be idle. 
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You're exactly right. 
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this, these toxic people, let's 
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Maybe we can change the 
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dictionary. 
I hope you know. 

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Toxic people. 
It's not a gendered issue. 

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It's not a gender issue because 
there's plenty of toxic women, 

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There's toxic men. 
I mean, you know, good night. 

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There's toxic everybody in 
positions today. 

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But you know, I'm going to look 
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or firing, it's based on merit, 
not based on anything else. 

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But purely merit has nothing to 
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color, their eye color, their 
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If you can do the job and you're
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than all these, you get the job.
If you can't, you don't. 

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Yeah, it shouldn't be anything 
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things like gender or race or 
sexuality even like you know it.

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Can you do the bloody job I've 
got? 

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Sorry. 
So like almost a confession. 

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But there was a time BJ where I 
listened to Andrew Tate. 

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I followed him. 
It was just when he was coming 

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up. 
So it was, I think it was around

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COVID time. 
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alluring because it was, it was 
all most of his messages about 

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empowerment, motivation. 
If you want something, you know,

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you need to work hard for it. 
He's all about, he is all about 

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working hard and you, you know, 
go improve your life. 

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But then there was spatterings 
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resentment to your partners, 
like they're holding you back. 

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If they're nagging you, if they,
they're keeping on at you, they 

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don't understand you're, you're 
the man. 

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towards my partner. 
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was like, oh God, I got to, I 
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like, because it it, it changed 
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And I'm not an impressionable 
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late 30s, you know, like I mean,
and it still affected me. 

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It's it's a strong message. 
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you know, we like to be a 
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also feeling powerful, feeling 
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And if, if, if people like me 
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know, I didn't go ho ho, ho hog.
I didn't shave my head and start

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smoking cigars and stuff like 
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it was, it was attractive to me.
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the messages out there. 
It's an it's an attractive 

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message. 
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shaved my head a long time ago 
before I ever heard. 

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Nothing to do with Andrew Tate. 
No, no. 

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And, and just full confession, I
never even heard of this guy 

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until about 18 months ago maybe 
or 12 months ago. 

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And what I heard was not 
positive. 

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So I mean and I and and and and 
again, just to be full on open. 

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I I know I know very little 
about the guy. 

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You know what I know in his in a
response that he made to a a 

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very, very well known American 
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Ben Watson, one of the comments 
he made toward him very 

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derogatory. 
Who this man's a Christian man, 

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a godly man, a godly husband, a 
godly, you know, Father Ben 

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Watson is you know, I mean that 
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as well. 
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him on one of his post is what 
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guy's name out to me. 
And that was enough for me, you 

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know, the, it was a derogatory 
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him and actually toward women. 
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Yeah, so I was like, well, mark 
them off. 

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I, I'm, I can easily mark people
off. 

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I have a limited time in the day
and you know, you, you, you 

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better have something real 
strong to say to hold my 

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attention span. 
I got, I got other things I want

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to read and I have to do to it. 
So. 

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So the shaved head, I probably 
had it before he did. 

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Yeah, and and you don't drive a 
Bugatti. 

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I don't drive, I drive a Mazda 
now so it's the. 

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Mazda because I think if we talk
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attitudes towards men and maybe 
sort of why they're being alert 

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by this message is I think we 
get tarred with a bad brush 

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sometimes. 
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fringes. 
You know, if we want to talk 

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about toxic masculinity or if we
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usually the people on the very 
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scenes, they represent such a 
tiny fraction of the populace. 

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But it's like all men get tired 
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Because we ran a survey with our
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them what are the three main 
priorities in your life right 

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now? 
Number one, I've got it here 

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#162% was family, 52% was 
marriage, 47% was physical 

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health. 
That was the top three. 

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But if you were to read the 
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was all about go getting money, 
you know, taking power and stuff

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like that. 
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I think the majority of men just
want a good family life, good 

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partners and a loving home sort 
of thing. 

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But the last one was 6% was 
Korea, you know, and that's into

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terms of money and stuff like 
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So on that thought there with, 
you know, family being, you 

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know, the top one of your 
listeners who of what they 

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desire in life. 
You know, when we look at who we

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are as men, we have a desire 
because we're created to lead. 

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Men are created to lead, to 
work, to produced and that's 

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that's who we are hands down. 
From day one. 

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It is altered. 
It is changed. 

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You have this side of the coin 
who went to this extremism. 

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They threw the pendulum way over
here to where you know, they got

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they want to rule by violence, 
you know, but the reality is 

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this and you have the other side
over here. 

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They do want to do nothing. 
And I've already said that an 

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idle man produces destructive 
men. 

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And it's, it's the balance is 
where it is. 

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And when you begin to look at 
family and you begin to look at 

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taking care of yourself, you can
look at health and, and those 

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those things that are really 
important to someone. 

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That's that quality, that innate
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It has a desire of belonging. 
You've already mentioned that 

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already about belonging. 
I know in our last, the last 

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episode we did, I made a 
statement that everybody on this

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planet, everyone, they desire 
two things where they want to 

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admit it or not. 
There's two things that desire 

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that is to be loved and to be 
heard, and that is that 

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belonging. 
And that's why family is number 

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one on list. 
That's what it is. 

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Our position as men is not to 
rule the closest or with with a 

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dominating foot. 
There's a verse in the Bible, 

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there's a verse in Nehemiah 
chapter 2, and it talks about 

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King Azersius. 
Here is a Persian king, OK, that

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Nehemiah is the cup cupbearer. 
And Nehemiah's countenance had 

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changed because he had heard of 
what was going on in his 

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homeland and his people were 
were living terribly and things 

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were not going well for him and 
they're starving. 

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And so it's he was, he's broken 
hearted, all right. 

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And so, and that's a death 
sentence. 

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If you're if you're countless 
change, you look sad in front of

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the king. 
But here's the parenthetical 

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statement that is inside that 
verse. 

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It says kings or she's talked 
about him, king of his rose. 

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And here he is. 
And it said in parentheses, it 

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says and the queen by his side. 
And then it goes on to the 

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contextually speaking, zero 
purpose for that to be in the 

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Bible, zero purpose for it to be
in the verse. 

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It it she doesn't say anything. 
She doesn't interject. 

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There's doctrinally, nothing's 
there. 

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There's 9 recorded prayers in 
the book of Brook of Nehemiah. 

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It has nothing to do with the 
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God's telling us no matter who 
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Christian, no matter who you are
in life, non Christian. 

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This is the design. 
She's not at his feet and she's 

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not above his head. 
She's by his side. 

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He was created from the side, 
the rib of Adam by his side. 

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And we, we need to get back to 
that balance because what we're 

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finding in the world today is 
that we've created this, this 

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imagery of competition between 
I'm not in competition with my 

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wife, all right? 
She completes me. 

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We're a full circle together, 
you know, and that's what we 

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need. 
And I said she doesn't 

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complicate my life. 
We're not competing, you know, 

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we complement one another. 
That's the reality of it. 

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And that's, I'm convinced that's
why that parenthetical statement

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is there. 
And that's why you're the number

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one priority that people with 
their desires or what was 

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important to them of your 
listeners was their family, 

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because that family, that family
comes first. 

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It comes first. 
That is our role. 

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We have a sacrificial role, 
which we'll talk about later. 

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Yeah, and it's I think that's 
what we're seeing is the men are

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being pitted against women. 
If if you were to read 

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everything, believe everything 
you see on social media and in 

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the media, social media and the 
media, but we're not we're we're

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one unit. 
That's how I see it as that's 

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how and that's what we need to 
get back to. 

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We need to work together on 
these things. 

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It's not men V women UV me. 
It's we, we need to work 

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together on these things and 
sort of bring each other up, not

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pushing the one down just so you
can get ahead. 

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Like it doesn't work like that. 
It doesn't work like that at 

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all. 
We need to bring each other up 

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because I work in marketing so I
can sort of see how these things

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are marketed, these manospheres,
these these these masculine 

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alpha training programs or 
whatever, you know, whatever 

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they're trying to sell. 
And a lot of the time is you 

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find a problem which everyone 
faces and they do address that 

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in their stuff. 
They talk about, you know what 

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you're not making. 
You're not where you want to be 

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in life. 
Or maybe you, you feel like you 

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put down. 
It's like, yeah, maybe I'm not, 

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maybe I'm not. 
But one of the most powerful 

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ways you can get people on board
is framing an enemy, someone to 

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aim that out. 
And that's what they do. 

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They frame it at women, they 
frame it at your own partner, 

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they frame it at the government,
they frame it what they call it 

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the matrix, you know, keeping 
you a slave to the system. 

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It's a powerful technique in 
marketing. 

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And they, and that's what 
they've done. 

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They've just, all they've done 
is framed. 

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And then that's when you're 
going to get the feelings. 

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It's like they're bloody right. 
Because you've said yes, yes, 

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yes to everything they've said. 
When they're highlighting all 

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your problems, you're not where 
you want to be. 

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You're not as fit as you want to
be. 

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You haven't got the money you 
want to be. 

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You haven't got the house you 
want to be. 

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Yeah, maybe I'm not and it's 
your wife's fault. 

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Yeah, OK, let's get behind it. 
Maybe it is a fraction. 

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But no, I'm joking. 
But it's it's crazy. 

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Do you do you think that it's 
easier to sell anger than it is 

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to sell responsibility? 
100% you can gather people 

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around a pseudo cause, and I'm 
calling it a pseudo cause 

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because people create these 
things. 

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It's a pyramid scheme and, and 
the only people that are getting

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the house they want, the car 
they want, the woman they want 

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and that they're that they're 
talking about is them. 

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It's the lip, lip, lip, lip. 
And all of these drones buy into

447
00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:33,280
that thing and they destroy 
their family, they destroy their

448
00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:35,920
relationship, they destroy their
home, they destroy their job. 

449
00:22:36,480 --> 00:22:40,760
Because I, I can tell you right 
now, if if a guy shows up, you 

450
00:22:40,760 --> 00:22:43,160
know, it was was to show up in 
my office, OK? 

451
00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:45,120
And he started lipping this 
stuff. 

452
00:22:45,120 --> 00:22:47,760
He gets about one, one strike 
and you're done. 

453
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:49,440
You're out of here. 
You're not going to you're not 

454
00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:51,800
going to bring that type of 
mentality in here. 

455
00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:54,360
You know what we need to 
remember when we talked about 

456
00:22:54,360 --> 00:22:56,720
alpha males, all right? 
Everybody wants to be an alpha 

457
00:22:56,720 --> 00:22:59,240
male, all right? 
The bottom line is this. 

458
00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:02,200
Every person, every man is not 
going to be an alpha male, All 

459
00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:03,480
right? 
Now they have a choice to make, 

460
00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:07,120
OK, you can be an alpha male and
be a leader, all right, but the 

461
00:23:07,120 --> 00:23:11,080
reality of it being an alpha 
male has zero to do much of 

462
00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:14,880
times of how of how you react 
about how you choose in your 

463
00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:18,040
life what to do, OK. 
And what I mean by that is knee 

464
00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:21,880
jerk reactions are not made by 
alpha men, all right, Think 

465
00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:24,160
about the difference between a 
predator and a prey, all right? 

466
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:26,880
A predator plots and plans. 
They know what they're going to 

467
00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:30,320
do 2 to three steps down the way
a prey reacts. 

468
00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:33,040
We had horses in Tennessee. 
We had sixteen horses, OK. 

469
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:35,480
I've never wanted to be kicked 
by a horse. 

470
00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:37,080
I don't know anybody who does 
want to. 

471
00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:40,200
Doesn't feel very well. 
We had big horses, you know, we 

472
00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:42,880
had Clydesdale, we had a 
Percheron and a couple of those.

473
00:23:43,360 --> 00:23:45,120
We took on some rescues and 
everything. 

474
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:48,200
And, you know, I would hear 
stories of people saying, Oh 

475
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:50,280
yeah, that horse kicked me. 
It did this, it did that. 

476
00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:51,440
And I was like, well, where were
you? 

477
00:23:51,840 --> 00:23:54,320
Because a horse is a prey. 
A horse is not a predator. 

478
00:23:54,320 --> 00:23:56,160
A horse is not a an alpha 
leader. 

479
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,480
It's not that a horse is a prey 
animal. 

480
00:23:58,480 --> 00:24:01,400
It can be trained. 
You can train a horse when 

481
00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:04,120
they're a full, it's called 
imprinting, OK? 

482
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:08,120
And when they're 2000 lbs, they 
still think you can pick them up

483
00:24:08,120 --> 00:24:10,320
OK, and they'll go wherever you 
want them to go. 

484
00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:12,760
But what the point that I'm 
making is a horse doesn't kick 

485
00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:14,400
someone because he thought about
it. 

486
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:16,320
He kicks someone because he 
reacts. 

487
00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:19,400
And when he kicks him because 
he's reacting as a prey. 

488
00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:22,600
He thinks afterwards. 
Yeah, but he didn't plot when 

489
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:24,480
you were 10 steps back. 
They're going, yeah, you wait 

490
00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:25,640
till he gets here, I'm going to 
kick him. 

491
00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:28,080
That's not what happens. 
And that's what happens with 

492
00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:31,520
prey in businesses and homes and
families and in life. 

493
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:34,960
Prey. 
Non alpha men react. 

494
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:37,840
And what do they react to? 
They react to the situation, to 

495
00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:39,320
the circumstances, to the 
culture. 

496
00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:41,680
They're moved by the climate of 
what's going on. 

497
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:45,080
But an alpha, true alpha is 
someone who's consistent in 

498
00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:46,760
their life. 
They're living a disciplined 

499
00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:50,280
life, a dedicated commitment 
life to their position according

500
00:24:50,280 --> 00:24:53,600
to their purpose, providing and 
protecting their family, their 

501
00:24:53,600 --> 00:24:56,400
home and their ways. 
That's what a true alpha is. 

502
00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:59,480
You find someone that's always 
changing their direction left 

503
00:24:59,480 --> 00:25:00,440
and right. 
You don't know where they're 

504
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:02,040
going. 
That produces nothing but 

505
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:04,840
instability. 
And that is the perversion of 

506
00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:07,240
manhood. 
That's the perversion of 

507
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:10,080
masculinity. 
All talk, you know, Big puffing 

508
00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:13,400
up but nothing behind it. 
That's a facade. 

509
00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:16,760
What's the difference between an
alpha male and a leader? 

510
00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:19,360
I don't think anything is the 
difference between an alpha male

511
00:25:19,360 --> 00:25:22,480
and a leader. 
You know, alpha male is not this

512
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:26,000
bravado guy. 
You know, I love what Teddy 

513
00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:28,600
Roosevelt said. 
He says, he said walks off and 

514
00:25:28,600 --> 00:25:31,360
carry a big stick. 
You think about that for just a 

515
00:25:31,360 --> 00:25:32,880
second. 
He didn't need, he didn't need 

516
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:34,640
to be announcing himself that he
was coming. 

517
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:37,560
He didn't need to be the loudest
man in the room, but he sure 

518
00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:39,280
enough could be the toughest man
in the room. 

519
00:25:39,760 --> 00:25:42,360
The man was shot in the chest 
and still continued to speak for

520
00:25:42,360 --> 00:25:45,160
an hour and a half. 
And it was his speech notes that

521
00:25:46,040 --> 00:25:48,440
kept the bullet from Pierce and 
his Pierce in his chest. 

522
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:51,880
So yeah, he's the he's the one 
that's instead of the man of the

523
00:25:51,880 --> 00:25:54,320
arena, one of my favorite 
species of all time, I believe 

524
00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:57,520
from 19 O 9 in Paris. 
But you know, the man of the 

525
00:25:57,520 --> 00:25:59,400
arena is the one, the one with 
the blood, the one with the 

526
00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:01,840
sweat, the one with the the 
tears, the one who has fought 

527
00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:04,280
the battle. 
That's the one you look to, not 

528
00:26:04,280 --> 00:26:06,920
the naysayers. 
You know what I'm saying? 

529
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:09,560
ACH Spurgeon said that if you 
stop at every dog that barks, 

530
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:11,760
you'll never get your job done. 
You'll never get the job done 

531
00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:14,320
that you're called to do. 
So, you know, let a dog do what 

532
00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:16,200
a dog does. 
Let them yap and let them bark, 

533
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:19,160
but keep on moving and being the
man that you're chosen to be. 

534
00:26:19,360 --> 00:26:25,480
Yeah, see, I see almost alpha 
males are leaders, but what is a

535
00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:28,880
leader now? 
For me, a leader is someone that

536
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:31,520
doesn't bark orders and tell 
people what to do. 

537
00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:36,280
You people, you're leading, 
they're not there to work for 

538
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:38,320
you. 
You as a leader are there to 

539
00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:41,920
work for them, to get the best 
out of them, to sort of to, to 

540
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:44,880
empower those people. 
And I think that's, there's an 

541
00:26:45,120 --> 00:26:48,600
often a misconception there. 
These alphas, these leaders, 

542
00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:51,800
they need to rule with an iron 
fist or, you know, and, and I 

543
00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:55,040
don't think it's, it's all about
support and bringing people up. 

544
00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:57,880
Would you agree with that? 
I would, I'm going to, I'm going

545
00:26:57,880 --> 00:26:59,440
to change one phrase on that. 
All right. 

546
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:02,080
So a leader's not someone, you 
know, the group that's not there

547
00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:04,640
to work for the leader, they're 
there to work with leader 

548
00:27:05,160 --> 00:27:06,880
because if you're leading 
someone, you're working with 

549
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:07,920
them. 
You see what I'm saying? 

550
00:27:08,080 --> 00:27:11,720
I had a guy one time in our 
business in, in the States, I 

551
00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:16,040
had an old man in our church who
we were talking about the, the 

552
00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:18,040
business we were talking about, 
you know, where it was going. 

553
00:27:18,360 --> 00:27:21,960
And our company, our practice 
had kind of plateaued off just a

554
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:23,800
little bit. 
We wasn't, wasn't, you know, 

555
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:25,880
wasn't down, but just kind of 
plateaued off. 

556
00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:28,240
And that happens. 
I understand it happens and I 

557
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:30,160
had mentioned it one time and he
told me this story. 

558
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:33,280
He told me this story he said 
about a farmer and this guy was 

559
00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:35,360
going through the same things. 
His crops were not yielding the 

560
00:27:35,360 --> 00:27:37,560
amount of of agriculture that 
should. 

561
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:39,560
It wasn't doing what it should 
to do this that and the other. 

562
00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:42,480
And the old man said, go take 
him, put a box in every one of 

563
00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:44,760
your fields and he goes, don't 
put anything in the box, just 

564
00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:47,480
put the box there. 
And I said, OK, so he did it. 

565
00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:49,720
I went back to the old man and 
he said, well, now what do I do?

566
00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:53,000
He goes go check your boxes out.
Go look at the boxes every day 

567
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:54,640
at 3:00. 
He said, OK, I can do that. 

568
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:56,720
And he started doing. 
All of a sudden, about six 

569
00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:58,880
months later, those crops 
started yielding what they 

570
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:00,560
needed to. 
They were producing whether they

571
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:03,120
were on the money. 
And she goes to the old man. 

572
00:28:03,120 --> 00:28:04,360
He goes, what if the world 
changed? 

573
00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:06,560
He said nothing but just 
checking the boxes. 

574
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:07,440
What? 
And he goes, yeah, I was 

575
00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:08,800
checking them. 
I was inspecting them. 

576
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:11,960
Well, the staff knew that you're
going to come by sometime, 

577
00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,120
inspect those boxes. 
And they worked. 

578
00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:17,000
They're working with you. 
They're working together for 

579
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:20,000
that single goal and that 
purpose because you're part of 

580
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:22,320
them. 
The man who's the leader, who's 

581
00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:26,960
absent usually has the less 
following and has the less 

582
00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:29,120
talent on their hand that's 
going to be producing the way 

583
00:28:29,120 --> 00:28:31,160
they should. 
It's kind of like the old eye in

584
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:34,080
the sky, you know, the eye in 
the sky don't lie, you know, and

585
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:36,680
that's the reality of it is you 
got to be part of the team. 

586
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:38,720
You know, you can't just rule 
with an iron fist. 

587
00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:42,120
And that's what a true alpha is.
True alpha does not knee jerk 

588
00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:44,920
react. 
They do not have quick responses

589
00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:47,800
and and knee jerk reactions to 
this, especially in business and

590
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:51,400
especially in homes. 
You know, here's an analogy for 

591
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:53,800
I'll give you, I want you to 
think about this. 

592
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:56,680
I think if you and I got on a 
road, road trip and I said, come

593
00:28:56,680 --> 00:28:58,440
on, Terry, you jump in the car 
and you jump in the car and we 

594
00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:00,320
take off and you said, where 
were we going? 

595
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:01,840
And I don't answer the question 
right. 

596
00:29:02,360 --> 00:29:03,240
You don't know where we're 
going. 

597
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:04,320
You don't know how far it's 
going to be. 

598
00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:05,280
You don't know how long it's 
going to be. 

599
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:07,160
What's it going to in in your 
heart and your mind? 

600
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:08,840
If you don't know how long we're
going to be in the car, what's 

601
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:11,080
that going to produce? 
Being uncomfortable. 

602
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:13,560
Being very uncomfortable. 
What if we come to a junction 

603
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:17,280
and I without warning, without 
break, without indicating I just

604
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:19,640
take that junction hard. 
You hit your head on the window,

605
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:22,840
now what are you going to be? 
Hurt head. 

606
00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:26,880
Hurt head, irritated, insecure, 
unsure about what is going on. 

607
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:30,520
It's the same thing happens when
betas scholar what it is our 

608
00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:33,760
knee jerk reaction in business 
and homes and in families, if 

609
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:36,360
people don't feel secure, 
they're not going to be their 

610
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:38,040
best. 
That includes your wife, that 

611
00:29:38,040 --> 00:29:40,840
includes your children, that 
includes your employees, that 

612
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:43,240
includes your teammates, your 
staff members, whoever it may 

613
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:45,040
be. 
If they don't feel like that 

614
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:47,400
stability and that security is 
there because they don't know 

615
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:50,600
what you're going to do next, 
it's never going to be a 

616
00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:54,240
productive company, a productive
home, or at least unoptimal 

617
00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:56,440
home. 
You're going to be constantly in

618
00:29:56,440 --> 00:30:00,240
the high stress, high cortisol, 
you're never going to be in a 

619
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:03,040
relaxed state because things 
could change like that and 

620
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:05,840
that's not good for a team. 
You're going to just run those 

621
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:07,680
guys into the ground ready for 
burnout? 

622
00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:11,200
Let me add to this. 
That's what the toxic people 

623
00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:13,800
produce is. 
You never know what they're 

624
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:16,240
going to say next. 
The next statement that the rage

625
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:19,640
bait, the next thing that 
ruffles this feathers, You never

626
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:23,200
know what they're going to say. 
And what does it produce? 

627
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,840
Anger, discomfort, insecurity. 
And then it produces the 

628
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:30,000
backlash we have today with the 
creation of words like toxic 

629
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:33,120
masculinity and all men are bad 
and da da da da da. 

630
00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:38,000
It's all because of an insecure 
non alpha because those guys 

631
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:39,760
aren't alphas. 
Absolutely not I. 

632
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:42,640
Don't know what they are, but 
they're not what they should be.

633
00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:45,000
It's, I think you phrase it 
pseudo masculinity. 

634
00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:48,240
That's what it is. 
It's faux, faux masculinity. 

635
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:51,320
It's, it's, it's absolutely. 
It's, it's, it's almost like a 

636
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:54,960
caricature, isn't it, of what 
people think it should be, but 

637
00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:57,280
in reality it's not. 
I got this question because I 

638
00:30:57,280 --> 00:30:59,480
did I want I want you picked up 
on it earlier and I wanted to 

639
00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:03,240
ask you it have we removed the 
role of men without replacing 

640
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:04,840
it? 
Yes, yeah, we have. 

641
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:07,440
Yeah, we've removed it. 
And The thing is, anything in 

642
00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:10,120
life, anything that you remove, 
you need to replace it with 

643
00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:11,960
something. 
You know, you if you have an 

644
00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:14,640
empty void that's going to cause
a problem, either it has to be 

645
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:17,240
replaced. 
And so we've removed that role 

646
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:21,760
by saying man is bad, men is 
bad, masculinity is bad, da da, 

647
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:23,880
da, da. 
And the problem is I was going 

648
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:26,080
to say this just a bit a little 
bit ago when I wanted to 

649
00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:27,840
interject that part. 
Here's the problem. 

650
00:31:28,960 --> 00:31:32,640
The the other side over there, 
and I don't know what side it 

651
00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:35,400
is, left, right, middle, dot, 
bottom, whomever they are. 

652
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:38,120
But the ones that are shouting 
out the toxic masculinity and 

653
00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:40,960
are teaching the youth today 
that men are bad and they're 

654
00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:43,760
toxic and all this and that 
there's there. 

655
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:46,120
It's you're teaching negativity.
What you're doing is you're 

656
00:31:46,120 --> 00:31:49,120
teaching people what to avoid, 
what not to do, rather than 

657
00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:52,640
telling them what to do, You 
know, and I've seen that. 

658
00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:55,000
I've seen it over and over and 
over in my life. 

659
00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:58,840
I've seen people raise children 
or, or raise up employees or or 

660
00:31:58,840 --> 00:32:01,160
whomever it may be, and they've 
given them a list to follow. 

661
00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:03,240
All right. 
This is what this you don't do 

662
00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:04,960
this, you don't do that, you 
don't do, this you don't do. 

663
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:07,240
And if you, you know, if you 
don't do all these things, 

664
00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:10,280
you're good. 
But that's all negative and you 

665
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:12,320
haven't replaced it. 
Here's what you should do. 

666
00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:14,480
You should love your family. 
You should sacrifice your home. 

667
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:17,920
You should work to get a career 
to provide for your home. 

668
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:20,640
You should this is this is what 
you do all right? 

669
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:22,400
You give yourself over to your 
family. 

670
00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:25,440
You are the sacrificial role. 
You have to love them innately. 

671
00:32:25,440 --> 00:32:27,120
You know, you know. 
OK, fine. 

672
00:32:27,360 --> 00:32:29,680
I've had people talk to me and 
say, well, my wife's nagging me 

673
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:31,360
all the time telling me to take 
the rubbish out. 

674
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:34,040
My wife's nagging me all the 
time telling me to do XYZ. 

675
00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:37,680
Well, if you do XYZ without her 
saying it, she probably wouldn't

676
00:32:37,680 --> 00:32:39,760
nag you. 
And I know that may sound, that 

677
00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:42,720
may sound a bit odd because I 
understand that's not a fix all 

678
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:44,400
for everyone. 
I do understand there are 

679
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:46,680
there's toxicity on both gender 
sides. 

680
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:49,800
We understand that. 
But the reality is if we would 

681
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,640
just do our job, Bill Belichick 
said that all the time. 

682
00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:55,320
And you know, as a coach of the 
New England Patriots, do your 

683
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:57,200
job. 
It's it's that simple. 

684
00:32:57,200 --> 00:33:00,200
Today, we have a role that needs
to be played, but we don't need 

685
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:03,640
to tell children what not to be.
Why don't we teach them what to 

686
00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:07,920
be on both sides of the coin? 
That's where you find that role 

687
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:13,280
being replaced, as you say, OK, 
or the proper role being 

688
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:15,360
replaced. 
I think you're bang on because 

689
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:18,920
all those things that I read out
earlier about the school kids 

690
00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:22,120
being talked about toxic 
masculinity or being told that 

691
00:33:22,360 --> 00:33:25,640
men are the problem within 
society, it is all about what 

692
00:33:25,640 --> 00:33:28,000
not to be. 
Why aren't we empowering these 

693
00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:30,560
boys, showing them what to be? 
Because the other people who are

694
00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:32,800
showing them how to be are the 
ones that we shouldn't be 

695
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:37,880
listening to. 
Yeah, breakdown your four PS. 

696
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:40,160
Then in simple terms, you've got
4 PS. 

697
00:33:40,360 --> 00:33:41,640
What? 
What does and what does it look 

698
00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:44,360
like day-to-day? 
Is this these the four PS that 

699
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:49,280
sort of how we should be living?
Yeah, I believe so. 

700
00:33:49,280 --> 00:33:51,520
Yeah. 
And again, here's what I want to

701
00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:53,240
say on the forefront. 
I don't have the answer for 

702
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:55,600
everyone. 
I just think what I, what I do 

703
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:59,280
know is I know by where I live 
and what lens I live through 

704
00:33:59,280 --> 00:34:01,960
which we, we understand that my 
life has lived through, you 

705
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:05,360
know, the Bible. 
That's that's my life and and 

706
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:07,240
it's and it works. 
I mean, I'll tell you that 

707
00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:11,520
mankind, man in general, men, we
have we have been given a 

708
00:34:11,520 --> 00:34:14,679
position. 
We have a position before we 

709
00:34:14,679 --> 00:34:18,120
have a placement, OK. 
If you go back to the beginning,

710
00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:20,360
we talked about Adam. 
He was placed in the garden 

711
00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:21,880
before he was given 
responsibility. 

712
00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:25,840
So you have a role of who you 
are first and foremost as a man,

713
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:27,960
OK, You say, well, they didn't 
ask for that. 

714
00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:29,960
It it's not up to you whether 
you asked for it or not. 

715
00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:34,120
You're born a man, all right? 
And I get the the fluidity in 

716
00:34:34,120 --> 00:34:35,679
the world today and the 
interpretation. 

717
00:34:35,679 --> 00:34:38,760
I can be anything I can be. 
And no, you can't be anything 

718
00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:41,560
you can be. 
You can't be a bird, all right? 

719
00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:44,760
You can't be a dog, OK? 
You are who you are, all right. 

720
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:47,840
And you know, leave that one out
where it is. 

721
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:50,800
But you were placed first. 
So we have a position of who we 

722
00:34:50,800 --> 00:34:52,920
are as men. 
Men have a purpose. 

723
00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:55,800
Men's men's purpose in life was 
to produce. 

724
00:34:55,800 --> 00:34:58,040
We were created to work, to 
labor. 

725
00:34:59,120 --> 00:35:02,160
You know, any men who do 
nothing, say, well, I'm just not

726
00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:04,800
going to do anything. 
They produce an idle mind, and 

727
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:08,400
an idle man, as I said before, 
produces destructive men. 

728
00:35:09,480 --> 00:35:12,200
And that's that that is that's 
what we find. 

729
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:15,880
We find the destruction of the 
foundation of men in society to 

730
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:19,240
where they're growing up to be, 
not what member supposed to be 

731
00:35:19,720 --> 00:35:21,880
not working. 
We see an element today. 

732
00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:24,200
As a matter of fact, I just saw 
statistics the other day that 

733
00:35:24,200 --> 00:35:28,040
our our welfare program, our 
welfare and benefits program 

734
00:35:28,040 --> 00:35:32,120
here has exceeded the tax income
of our nation by like like £2 

735
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:35,200
billion. 
That that's unbelievable. 

736
00:35:35,240 --> 00:35:38,000
You know, and I understand 
there's a group out there who 

737
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:41,680
people who cannot work and I get
it but can't and won't. 

738
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:43,240
Those are two different 
spectrums. 

739
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:47,200
As a man, I'm commanded to work 
and I am commanded to provide 

740
00:35:47,200 --> 00:35:48,720
for my family, which is the next
one. 

741
00:35:48,720 --> 00:35:51,600
That's the Providence. 
I am to provide for my home. 

742
00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:55,000
I am to provide for my, my, my 
wife, my children. 

743
00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:57,640
I am to provide for them and I'm
to protect them. 

744
00:35:57,960 --> 00:35:59,760
And protection is not just 
physical. 

745
00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:02,120
Protection is both physical and 
spiritual. 

746
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:08,440
I'm to I'm to protect them from 
the toxic side of this world 

747
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:11,120
today. 
I need to have the answers. 

748
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:13,040
I need to be able to tell them 
no, that's not what it is. 

749
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:14,600
But I need to be the example as 
well. 

750
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:17,520
I need to to be the example 
who's living according to our 

751
00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:19,760
purpose. 
A person who lives without 

752
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:23,960
purpose is a person who ends up 
falling behind the lines and 

753
00:36:23,960 --> 00:36:27,200
they live in an insecure life. 
If you don't have that purpose, 

754
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:28,720
you're not being driven by 
something. 

755
00:36:28,720 --> 00:36:31,120
If you don't have that purpose, 
you can't protect and you can't 

756
00:36:31,120 --> 00:36:33,200
provide. 
You can't do any of those things

757
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:35,760
in your life that you're 
supposed to do as a man. 

758
00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:38,880
And then all of a sudden you're 
heard, well, this is who you 

759
00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:41,720
need to be and you need to do 
this and let the woman do that 

760
00:36:41,720 --> 00:36:44,480
and let this and, and what's 
happened is men have forsaken 

761
00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:47,840
their role in society and being 
leaders today. 

762
00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:51,680
That does not mean when when I 
say that here's the here's what 

763
00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:55,880
people will hear when I say, 
men, you need to get off your 

764
00:36:55,880 --> 00:36:58,600
ever widening horizon, which 
means get off your backside. 

765
00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:01,800
You need to go to work and you 
need to lead your home. 

766
00:37:02,240 --> 00:37:05,600
Now here's what the here's what 
the skewed interpretation of 

767
00:37:05,600 --> 00:37:07,880
that will be. 
Women aren't leaders. 

768
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:11,440
That's what that side hears. 
And I didn't say that at all. 

769
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:13,520
I'm saying, man, you got a role 
to do. 

770
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:18,320
Your role is not to mess around 
with anybody and everyone that 

771
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:20,040
you can. 
Your role is to be committed to 

772
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:21,600
that one. 
Want that one woman. 

773
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:24,560
Your role is to be committed to 
her in her life. 

774
00:37:24,560 --> 00:37:27,600
Your role is to treat her like 
who she is, to treat her like a 

775
00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:30,560
queen. 
You know, You know, I, again, I,

776
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:32,280
we said it earlier, we talked 
about it. 

777
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:35,040
My role is sacrificial. 
All right, I take that from 

778
00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:38,840
Ephesians 525 that I'm going to 
love my wife as Christ loved the

779
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:41,160
church and gave himself for it. 
All right? 

780
00:37:41,240 --> 00:37:44,240
He died for the church. 
And you say, well, preacher, 

781
00:37:44,240 --> 00:37:45,080
you're going to die of your 
wife. 

782
00:37:45,080 --> 00:37:48,240
I'm willing to, I'm willing to 
give up every organ I have if, 

783
00:37:48,240 --> 00:37:51,280
if it would mean to, to give my,
my wife life. 

784
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:53,160
I have no quarrems with that 
whatsoever. 

785
00:37:53,160 --> 00:37:54,720
Matter of fact, there's no 
hesitation in that. 

786
00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:58,000
You know what I'm saying? 
The reality of the of the matter

787
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:01,160
is this. 
I have a role and it's been 

788
00:38:01,160 --> 00:38:02,720
given to me. 
It's designed. 

789
00:38:02,720 --> 00:38:04,680
It's not my choice. 
It's not designed. 

790
00:38:04,720 --> 00:38:07,160
It's not defined by culture. 
It's revealed in the 

791
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:11,640
responsibility that I have. 
If I love my wife and love my 

792
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:15,960
family and that sacrificial 
position that I understand the 

793
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:18,640
house is hers. 
You decorate it the way you want

794
00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:20,320
to. 
Hands down there you go. 

795
00:38:20,840 --> 00:38:23,600
You know, it's it's her home, 
it's her abode. 

796
00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:25,160
That's where she is. 
You know, she got to get a 

797
00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:27,760
little study and I got we got 
the gym together, you know, and 

798
00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:29,600
it's nice, but I have no problem
with that. 

799
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:32,600
That's not me taking a step down
and not being a man. 

800
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:34,640
That's me sacrificing for my 
wife. 

801
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:37,160
You see what I'm saying? 
And to treat her like who and 

802
00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:38,520
what she is, you know what I'm 
saying? 

803
00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:42,160
And and I should do that. 
And so when I look at that as as

804
00:38:42,160 --> 00:38:45,600
my position, that's not, that 
was a sacrificial position in 

805
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:48,680
the home is not a lesser than or
a weak position or soft 

806
00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:51,080
position. 
It's actually a leading 

807
00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:53,360
position. 
And you are leading by example. 

808
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:56,760
We do leave the home together. 
We do make decisions together. 

809
00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:59,680
She understands. 
Yeah, you know, I'm going to 

810
00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:02,000
have the final decision. 
But I got to be honest with you.

811
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:04,960
I'm going to trust her because 
I've been married to her for 28 

812
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:08,160
years this year, you know, I 
know exactly where we are on the

813
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:10,080
page and we make these decisions
together. 

814
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:12,160
But I'm the one that's going to 
be held accountable for it. 

815
00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:14,800
OK. 
So if I relinquish that role and

816
00:39:14,800 --> 00:39:17,920
dump it on her thinking, Oh 
well, you know, it's going to be

817
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:19,960
her fault. 
No, it's my fault. 

818
00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:23,320
It's my responsibility to do the
job that I need to do. 

819
00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:28,560
And so men today need to set 
their ego to the side, all 

820
00:39:28,560 --> 00:39:32,920
right, set their bravado to the 
side, quieten down just a little

821
00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:34,960
bit. 
Lead by example. 

822
00:39:35,200 --> 00:39:38,280
Lead their family, lead their 
workplaces, lead their schools, 

823
00:39:38,280 --> 00:39:40,360
lead wherever they are, wherever
they're employed. 

824
00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:45,240
But lead by a good example, one 
that will produce good citizens,

825
00:39:45,240 --> 00:39:48,200
one that will produce boys to 
become men. 

826
00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:51,080
Not the Andrew Tates of the 
world and not the other group in

827
00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:54,320
the world who have nice little 
buzzwords, who are sitting at 

828
00:39:54,320 --> 00:39:57,400
the tip of the pyramid scheme, 
but men who are willing to get 

829
00:39:57,400 --> 00:40:00,760
in and work and sweat and fight 
and fight for their homes and 

830
00:40:00,760 --> 00:40:03,200
fight for their families and 
leave their homes in a manner 

831
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:05,600
that we were designed to do. 
That's all that. 

832
00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:07,160
That's all it is in a nutshell 
today. 

833
00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:09,120
I like it. 
And it's, I think we've lost 

834
00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:12,600
that responsibility. 
I think because we're being told

835
00:40:12,840 --> 00:40:14,880
that it's not your 
responsibility, it's everyone 

836
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:16,320
else. 
It's, it's not your fault where,

837
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:18,240
where you are, it's him or her 
or them. 

838
00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:22,920
And you people have changed 
their their concentration, then 

839
00:40:22,920 --> 00:40:25,120
they're looking at the outside 
world for all their problems. 

840
00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:27,960
When it actually lies within 
you, It is your responsibility 

841
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:30,360
to pick up that slack. 
If you're not where you want to 

842
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:32,320
be, it's on you. 
No one's coming to save you. 

843
00:40:32,720 --> 00:40:35,720
You've got to do that. 
And and there was another bit as

844
00:40:35,720 --> 00:40:37,960
well. 
That's right. 

845
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:42,920
They preach about it's almost 
like self-serving activities. 

846
00:40:43,480 --> 00:40:47,040
Get the cars, get the fast cars,
get the money, get the nice 

847
00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:48,720
clothes, get the expensive 
watch. 

848
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:51,080
These are all self-serving for 
you. 

849
00:40:51,840 --> 00:40:54,720
When in reality, the true 
purpose is found in serving 

850
00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:56,840
others. 
It's building that team around 

851
00:40:56,840 --> 00:40:58,440
you. 
It's about helping other people.

852
00:40:58,440 --> 00:41:01,760
And that's where you're actually
going to get the more fulfilment

853
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:03,880
in life. 
These materialistic things, they

854
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:09,040
they're not going to fulfil you.
They won't last because we we're

855
00:41:09,040 --> 00:41:12,240
creatures of aim of goal 
setting. 

856
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:15,600
Our whole biological system with
the dopamine system is set up 

857
00:41:15,600 --> 00:41:18,160
for achievement. 
And you'll know this as a 

858
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:23,360
student of neurology as well. 
So you've got 2 two ways the 

859
00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:26,400
dopamine can be activated. 
It's through the pursuit of 

860
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:29,360
goals and through the 
achievement of goals. 

861
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:31,520
But then you've got the 
incentive reward system. 

862
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:34,800
It's through the pursuit of 
goals that you find deep and 

863
00:41:34,800 --> 00:41:37,760
meaningful to you and you don't 
even have to actually achieve. 

864
00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:40,600
It is for something with bigger 
purpose. 

865
00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:44,880
And if you go after things with 
bigger purpose, helping people, 

866
00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:47,680
it's often it's always tied with
helping people or supporting 

867
00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:50,560
people. 
You'll find never ending buckets

868
00:41:50,560 --> 00:41:56,520
of fulfilments and just life, 
life fulfilment through 

869
00:41:57,000 --> 00:42:00,440
channeling that through the 
material ones, through achieving

870
00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:01,960
fast car. 
But once you've got it, it's 

871
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:03,560
gone. 
That dopamine's gone. 

872
00:42:04,240 --> 00:42:05,520
Do you do you see stuff like 
that? 

873
00:42:05,960 --> 00:42:07,200
Yeah. 
You know, the things with the 

874
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:10,520
materialistic, materialistic 
things in our world today, you 

875
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:13,400
know, I'll, I'll go back to us 
just just as a quick example. 

876
00:42:13,400 --> 00:42:17,200
I mean, our, our business, our 
practice in the States, you 

877
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:21,680
know, man, it grew quick. 
It grew really, really, really 

878
00:42:21,680 --> 00:42:24,280
quick. 
And I mean, I was 30 years old 

879
00:42:24,280 --> 00:42:26,280
when I hit a particular, you 
know, I'm not going to go into 

880
00:42:26,280 --> 00:42:28,200
all the numbers, I think, but I 
hit a particular number that was

881
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:30,000
really amazing. 
It was unreal. 

882
00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:34,080
And we ended up designing a 
methodology of giving, you know,

883
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:36,720
it was, you know, church based, 
obviously emissions based around

884
00:42:36,720 --> 00:42:39,920
the world to where we ended up 
living off 34% of our total 

885
00:42:39,920 --> 00:42:41,560
income. 
We were debt free, still debt 

886
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:43,640
free today. 
We were debt free at the age of,

887
00:42:43,720 --> 00:42:47,280
I was at the age of 31 and he 
was 29 and have remained debt 

888
00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:48,760
free ever since then. 
OK. 

889
00:42:49,200 --> 00:42:51,840
And except for a few things that
we've done on purpose to 

890
00:42:51,840 --> 00:42:53,440
maintain that credit score, you 
know what I'm saying? 

891
00:42:53,720 --> 00:42:56,160
But that's what we did and 
that's how we lived our life. 

892
00:42:56,160 --> 00:42:58,720
But it was based on an 
agreement. 

893
00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:00,160
You know, I'm going to work 
hard. 

894
00:43:00,240 --> 00:43:01,440
I'm going to, I'm going to do 
this. 

895
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:04,160
Lord, you provide in a great way
and I'm going to give. 

896
00:43:04,160 --> 00:43:07,040
This is what we're giving away. 
And we never wanted for we never

897
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:10,160
wanted, never hurt for anything.
We were sensible in our purchase

898
00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:12,560
and we had no problem going to 
thrift stores, going here, going

899
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:14,440
there. 
We had all that, we had all the 

900
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:16,520
cars, we had the property, had 
all those things. 

901
00:43:16,680 --> 00:43:17,960
And I'm not saying anything 
wrong with that. 

902
00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:21,440
Again, 34% of the income 
provided all of that for us. 

903
00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:23,560
And we were able to help people 
around the world. 

904
00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:25,440
It's nothing on me. 
I didn't do that. 

905
00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:28,880
That was a blessing that was 
given, but the fulfillment of 

906
00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:32,760
it, as you're talking about the 
fast cars, there's always going 

907
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:35,760
to be a car faster, all right? 
The shiny cars, there's always 

908
00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:38,440
going to be a shiny car, a 
shinier car out there, you know 

909
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:40,200
what I'm saying? 
The big house, there's going to 

910
00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:42,320
be a bigger house. 
You know, the property, there's 

911
00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:43,680
going to be more property. 
There's that. 

912
00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:47,120
Those are never, ever ending 
goals. 

913
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:50,760
And what they do is they provide
a spark of dopamine for a 

914
00:43:50,760 --> 00:43:52,600
millisecond and then they're 
gone. 

915
00:43:53,200 --> 00:43:55,040
There's no lasting legacy in 
that. 

916
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:56,880
There's no lasting fulfillment 
in that. 

917
00:43:57,240 --> 00:44:00,240
But I can tell you this right 
now, you take someone at your 

918
00:44:00,240 --> 00:44:03,520
local gym or you take someone at
your at your home or your church

919
00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:07,000
or or your neighbor. 
And they're in, they're in the 

920
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:11,680
darkest moment of their life. 
And you sit down with them in 

921
00:44:11,680 --> 00:44:16,440
the midst of their dark days and
you say, talk to me, I'm here 

922
00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:18,400
until you're done. 
You see what I'm saying? 

923
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:22,200
You're sacrificing it and you're
giving and you're not doing it 

924
00:44:22,200 --> 00:44:24,960
for praise. 
You're by all means not taking a

925
00:44:25,320 --> 00:44:28,480
silly photo and putting it out 
on, you know, social media. 

926
00:44:28,520 --> 00:44:30,080
You know, you're just in the 
moment. 

927
00:44:30,840 --> 00:44:33,160
That right there is fulfilling 
the role. 

928
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:34,880
It's both man and woman. 
I understand that. 

929
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:37,280
But that's what that's what an 
alpha does. 

930
00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:41,440
An alpha puts himself to the 
side and looks to improve. 

931
00:44:41,440 --> 00:44:45,120
The better, the better the the 
better part of the group and the

932
00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:49,360
team without him or her, but him
getting the glory. 

933
00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:52,480
That's what an alpha does. 
So we look at that masculinity 

934
00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:55,680
today and we address that moment
of, you know, the temptation of 

935
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:57,680
get the cars, get the house, get
the career, get the position, 

936
00:44:57,680 --> 00:44:59,600
get all this and that. 
You know, and again, I'm, I'm 

937
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:01,400
not necessarily against having 
this. 

938
00:45:01,400 --> 00:45:02,680
I'm not saying be I'd be against
it. 

939
00:45:02,960 --> 00:45:05,640
But if that's your goal, you're 
never going to be satisfied. 

940
00:45:06,360 --> 00:45:09,640
If your goal today is to take 
care of your family, to 

941
00:45:09,640 --> 00:45:13,320
sacrifice with them, to love 
them beyond degree and to help 

942
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:17,160
everyone that you can in your 
community, that's what's going 

943
00:45:17,160 --> 00:45:18,840
to last and it's going to 
outlast you. 

944
00:45:19,480 --> 00:45:22,360
If you live to be 80 years old, 
that is nothing but a blink on 

945
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:25,000
the eye of a turn. 
That's a grain of sand in the 

946
00:45:25,000 --> 00:45:27,920
bucket of time. 
OK, You know, our life is a as a

947
00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:31,640
vapor here today, gone tomorrow.
All right, If I, if I'm gone 

948
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:35,520
tomorrow, Terry, you're going to
continue on doing everything 

949
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:37,520
that you've done every single 
day. 

950
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:40,680
Everybody in Cardiff, everybody 
in well, you know what, they're 

951
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:42,680
not going to miss a beat. 
They're going to do everything 

952
00:45:42,680 --> 00:45:45,880
that they've always done every 
single day there, Monday through

953
00:45:45,880 --> 00:45:47,320
Saturday, that's what they're 
going to do. 

954
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:49,040
Sunday, they're going to do what
they do. 

955
00:45:49,080 --> 00:45:53,720
If when my life comes to an end.
But whilst I'm here, if I can 

956
00:45:53,720 --> 00:45:57,720
make the smallest of amount of a
difference in the people I come 

957
00:45:57,720 --> 00:46:03,000
into contact with by leading, by
being a man, then that's exactly

958
00:46:03,000 --> 00:46:06,200
what I need to do. 
What I'm not going to do is make

959
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:11,160
a positive impact on people if 
I'm filled with that manosphere 

960
00:46:11,160 --> 00:46:13,920
stuff. 
However, what I'm not going to 

961
00:46:13,920 --> 00:46:17,240
do as well is fulfill that goal 
if I'm passive. 

962
00:46:17,920 --> 00:46:20,840
So 1 is what we call the sin of 
omission. 

963
00:46:21,440 --> 00:46:24,760
Refusing to to do your job, 
becoming completely passive and 

964
00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:27,360
dumping your responsibilities on
everyone else. 

965
00:46:27,920 --> 00:46:31,160
That's that's the omission. 
And the other side is extremism.

966
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:34,280
You know we're going to buck up.
I'm the man I deserve. 

967
00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:35,680
I deserve this. 
I deserve that. 

968
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:40,280
If we all got what we deserve, 
we'd all be in a lot of trouble.

969
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:43,240
It's right down the middle. 
It's a balanced life, the way it

970
00:46:43,240 --> 00:46:46,960
should be, and it's given 
yourself to others so that you 

971
00:46:47,200 --> 00:46:50,920
improve our society, our group, 
our church, our family as a 

972
00:46:50,920 --> 00:46:53,200
whole. 
Where where does discipline fit 

973
00:46:53,480 --> 00:46:55,280
into all this? 
Discipline is the foundation of 

974
00:46:55,280 --> 00:46:57,200
it all. 
Again, discipline is doing 

975
00:46:57,200 --> 00:47:00,800
things you do not want to do to 
reach the goals that you desire 

976
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:04,840
and not doing the things that 
you want to do to continue to 

977
00:47:04,840 --> 00:47:06,440
reach those same goals that you 
desire. 

978
00:47:06,440 --> 00:47:08,600
That's what discipline is in the
nutshell. 

979
00:47:08,840 --> 00:47:10,560
So discipline is the format of 
it. 

980
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:14,040
When you're tempted to not do 
the work that you need to do to 

981
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:16,560
help your family, to provide for
your family, when you're tempted

982
00:47:16,560 --> 00:47:19,560
to, to lay down and be lazy and 
say, well, somebody else will 

983
00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:20,800
get it. 
Somebody else will do it. 

984
00:47:21,200 --> 00:47:24,480
You know, that's being that's, 
that's not being disciplined. 

985
00:47:25,040 --> 00:47:29,240
You show me someone, this is 
going to get touchy and I'm sure

986
00:47:29,240 --> 00:47:31,120
we'll get some hate mail on it, 
but I'll say it anyway. 

987
00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:36,960
But you show, show me someone 
who is undisciplined in an area 

988
00:47:36,960 --> 00:47:39,480
of their life. 
And let's just let's just say 

989
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:42,600
they're undisciplined in their 
emotions, OK? 

990
00:47:42,720 --> 00:47:45,160
They're emotionally all over the
place. 

991
00:47:45,160 --> 00:47:47,280
They're emotionally this, 
they're emotionally that. 

992
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:50,680
They're undisciplined in other 
areas in our life as well. 

993
00:47:51,600 --> 00:47:53,920
The thing with discipline is, is
it's contagious. 

994
00:47:53,920 --> 00:47:56,960
It's contagious through all four
categories in your life. 

995
00:47:56,960 --> 00:47:59,520
It's contagious to be in the 
physical well-being, the 

996
00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:01,280
emotional stability, the 
spiritual strength. 

997
00:48:01,600 --> 00:48:03,440
That's the mental discipline 
driving the bus. 

998
00:48:03,920 --> 00:48:07,080
It's got to drive the bus. 
So when you're disciplined as a 

999
00:48:07,080 --> 00:48:09,880
man, you're able to put aside 
your own feelings. 

1000
00:48:09,880 --> 00:48:12,520
You're able to put aside your 
own emotions and get done what 

1001
00:48:12,520 --> 00:48:15,120
needs to be done. 
Because sometimes, guys, the 

1002
00:48:15,280 --> 00:48:17,800
life is just the grind. 
It's just grit. 

1003
00:48:17,800 --> 00:48:20,840
It's just getting in there and 
doing it without the praise. 

1004
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:24,080
OK? 
You know, I, I, you know what, 

1005
00:48:24,160 --> 00:48:27,480
what my wife says to me, honey, 
I love you and I love doing life

1006
00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:30,040
with you, of which we tell one 
another that quite often. 

1007
00:48:30,040 --> 00:48:32,040
We do that. 
And I do that for a reason. 

1008
00:48:32,280 --> 00:48:33,520
All right? 
Do that for a reason. 

1009
00:48:33,760 --> 00:48:35,600
Because I want her to know that,
all right. 

1010
00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:37,880
And I want to be, you know, I 
don't know when my last words 

1011
00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:40,640
are going to be, but I want her 
to know that I love doing life 

1012
00:48:40,640 --> 00:48:42,560
with her. 
We, you know, all of our 

1013
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:45,360
children, every single night, no
matter how far we're away, they 

1014
00:48:45,360 --> 00:48:48,520
get a good night. 
I love you text or or if they're

1015
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:51,280
in person, I tell them in 
person, all of them without 

1016
00:48:51,280 --> 00:48:54,280
fail. 
I do that because I see that as 

1017
00:48:54,280 --> 00:48:56,200
a responsibility so that they 
know I love them. 

1018
00:48:56,480 --> 00:48:57,680
They know that I'm thinking 
about them. 

1019
00:48:57,680 --> 00:49:00,120
And then on a whim, I'll just 
say, hey, we tell matter of fact

1020
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:02,760
text all our children yesterday 
and says, Hey, I just want to 

1021
00:49:02,760 --> 00:49:04,400
let you know I love you and I'm 
proud of you. 

1022
00:49:04,680 --> 00:49:07,920
All right, Do those things. 
So I'm proactive in their life. 

1023
00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:09,960
You see what I'm saying? 
And they know that and it makes 

1024
00:49:09,960 --> 00:49:11,960
a difference and it helps them 
and it blesses them. 

1025
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:16,200
Those are the things that that 
take discipline to do because 

1026
00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:20,440
your mind goes, meh, you know, 
I'll do it tomorrow. 

1027
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:23,640
I'll do it the next day. 
You know, one thing my dad 

1028
00:49:23,640 --> 00:49:25,400
taught me is tomorrow never 
comes. 

1029
00:49:25,960 --> 00:49:28,800
Don't put off, don't put off, 
don't put off today for 

1030
00:49:28,800 --> 00:49:30,400
tomorrow. 
Get it done right now. 

1031
00:49:30,400 --> 00:49:32,960
And sometimes in our life, we 
just got to dig in. 

1032
00:49:32,960 --> 00:49:35,920
We got to, we got to get down, 
put the motions aside, put 

1033
00:49:35,920 --> 00:49:38,360
everything to a side and do what
needs to be done. 

1034
00:49:38,360 --> 00:49:41,880
That's the discipline for man 
today in this society who is 

1035
00:49:41,880 --> 00:49:47,000
tempted to lay down, to be soft,
to fit the cultural bill of what

1036
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:50,640
they say a man should be and 
what they're saying a man should

1037
00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:53,200
not be. 
You know, that's the problem is 

1038
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:55,200
you have so many things being 
told. 

1039
00:49:55,200 --> 00:49:58,520
We're not teaching our young men
to be men the way they should. 

1040
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:01,360
They think that, hey, I'm going 
to be respected. 

1041
00:50:01,360 --> 00:50:03,680
I need to be told that I'm great
and wonderful just because I'm a

1042
00:50:03,680 --> 00:50:05,280
man. 
No, you don't. 

1043
00:50:06,280 --> 00:50:09,160
You don't deserve that. 
Do something to be praised and 

1044
00:50:09,160 --> 00:50:11,160
then you'll get the praise. 
But don't look for it. 

1045
00:50:11,480 --> 00:50:13,720
You should do what you ought to 
do because it's the right thing 

1046
00:50:13,720 --> 00:50:15,480
to do. 
Not for the Atta boys or the 

1047
00:50:15,480 --> 00:50:18,600
paths on the back man. 
Absolutely. 

1048
00:50:19,440 --> 00:50:23,920
And if you fix this discipline 
and you found your purpose, what

1049
00:50:23,920 --> 00:50:27,120
could your life look like in, 
say, 666 days? 

1050
00:50:27,120 --> 00:50:29,000
There you. 
Go nice plug for the book I 

1051
00:50:29,000 --> 00:50:30,560
gotta. 
Say 60 days, but I was like, 

1052
00:50:30,560 --> 00:50:31,800
Nah, 66. 
There you go. 

1053
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:35,040
Plug for the book Renewed Total 
Transformation 66 Day Challenge.

1054
00:50:35,080 --> 00:50:36,960
There you go. 
Links below. 

1055
00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:39,240
Links below. 
Links below, please. 

1056
00:50:40,400 --> 00:50:40,760
Yeah. 
What? 

1057
00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:44,080
What could it look like? 
I think what it could look like 

1058
00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:46,400
is, is a brighter day, in all 
fairness. 

1059
00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:49,640
I mean, Terry, again, we go back
to this. 

1060
00:50:50,960 --> 00:51:00,000
If I was to ask you one word, 
one word in your life, what do 

1061
00:51:00,000 --> 00:51:01,640
you want? 
And I'm going to answer it for 

1062
00:51:01,640 --> 00:51:05,040
you, if you don't mind. 
OK, because everything in this 

1063
00:51:05,040 --> 00:51:07,520
world today, it comes down to 
one thing that you want in your 

1064
00:51:07,520 --> 00:51:10,720
life and that's peace, don't 
you? 

1065
00:51:11,320 --> 00:51:13,280
You won't be now. 
Peace is doesn't come with 

1066
00:51:13,280 --> 00:51:18,280
comfort, OK, Success. 
You got to fight for peace. 

1067
00:51:18,560 --> 00:51:22,880
No one has peace in this life. 
Sitting on the SETI playing a 

1068
00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:25,200
video game. 
No one has peace. 

1069
00:51:25,200 --> 00:51:29,920
There's complacency, all right? 
There is, you know, laziness. 

1070
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:34,640
There's that peace comes in our 
life today through work, through

1071
00:51:34,640 --> 00:51:36,920
labor, through intentional 
living. 

1072
00:51:37,600 --> 00:51:40,360
So when you say a person, you 
ask the question, what would it 

1073
00:51:40,360 --> 00:51:44,800
look like in 66 days? 
The work, the sweat, the grit, 

1074
00:51:44,800 --> 00:51:46,560
the calluses, they're all going 
to be there. 

1075
00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:48,960
But there's going to be a peace 
that's there as well. 

1076
00:51:49,360 --> 00:51:52,080
If they have exercise, the 
discipline and they do what 

1077
00:51:52,080 --> 00:51:55,360
needs to be done and they 
exercise their position as a man

1078
00:51:55,360 --> 00:51:59,200
to love their family with every 
drop, they have to sacrifice 

1079
00:51:59,200 --> 00:52:01,960
themselves to do what just do 
the right thing. 

1080
00:52:02,480 --> 00:52:05,280
You know, we talked about, you 
know, weights and all this and 

1081
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:08,720
that, you know about putting the
weights back in the trolley last

1082
00:52:08,720 --> 00:52:12,800
time. 
You know this this group, I know

1083
00:52:12,800 --> 00:52:15,040
we're acting like Andrew Tate 
and all them we're sitting over 

1084
00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:18,080
here, but you know, we're we're 
saying this right, this group 

1085
00:52:18,080 --> 00:52:20,480
that's over here, this pseudo 
masculinity. 

1086
00:52:22,040 --> 00:52:25,360
We see it in gyms today. 
You know, we see it in the guys 

1087
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:28,920
who, you know, throw their 
whopping 15K dumbbells down on 

1088
00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:31,000
the floor to make it sound like 
they're lifting more. 

1089
00:52:31,440 --> 00:52:33,360
You're not lifting more. 
It's like a fool. 

1090
00:52:33,760 --> 00:52:36,680
We see guys working on the cable
machines like bam, they let it 

1091
00:52:36,680 --> 00:52:39,640
slam to make them look like 
they're they're doing more. 

1092
00:52:39,640 --> 00:52:43,120
You're not doing more. 
Do it right, do it hard. 

1093
00:52:43,280 --> 00:52:45,760
You know I'm saying work hard 
and reap the benefits. 

1094
00:52:46,080 --> 00:52:48,400
Do it in silence sometimes. 
You see what I'm saying? 

1095
00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:52,000
That's the pseudo, that's that 
bravado, that's an exterior 

1096
00:52:52,000 --> 00:52:54,720
that's over right here and 
that's not real because you let 

1097
00:52:54,720 --> 00:52:56,760
the hard times come in their 
life, they're going to crumble 

1098
00:52:56,760 --> 00:52:58,760
like a little child. 
You see what I'm saying? 

1099
00:52:59,000 --> 00:53:01,960
It is that discipline point. 
What will it look like in 66 

1100
00:53:01,960 --> 00:53:03,840
days applying the discipline in 
your life? 

1101
00:53:04,120 --> 00:53:06,840
It's going to look like peace. 
Even in the midst of trauma, 

1102
00:53:07,120 --> 00:53:10,280
even in the midst of storms, 
it's going to look like peace. 

1103
00:53:10,320 --> 00:53:11,320
That's what it's going to be. 
I. 

1104
00:53:12,320 --> 00:53:15,400
Love that BJ, where can people 
follow you? 

1105
00:53:16,280 --> 00:53:20,480
Websitesbjstagner.com, find the 
books there, devotions there, 

1106
00:53:20,480 --> 00:53:23,480
challenges there. 
That's probably the best way 

1107
00:53:23,520 --> 00:53:25,320
right there. 
Just go to our website and reach

1108
00:53:25,320 --> 00:53:27,160
us out. 
Any questions whatsoever, shoot 

1109
00:53:27,160 --> 00:53:30,000
them to us. 
Just letting them know. 

1110
00:53:30,040 --> 00:53:31,920
I'm not a keyboard warrior. 
I'm not going to argue with 

1111
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somebody online. 
I'll show up at your door. 

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I I believe in. 
I believe in. 

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Thank you very much BJ, Enjoy 
it. 

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Thank you so much. 
Cheers. 

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