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Warning, the following program 
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Back to you guys with one of my 
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boo mistress K. 
Now, if you don't know who 

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airplay on articles aren't 
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The Deep archives because 
mistress K was actually one of 

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the first monsters. 
I did a moan chat with that. 

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We recorded I want to say was 
like last June and we were 

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talking about p&v sex and this 
time we're getting a little 

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naughty Cougar in spice. 
Now it's of course want to find 

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because they have taken my girl 
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You spread positivity and they 
just couldn't handle the 

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sexiness, that's some bullshit. 
But that is neither here. 

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Nor there we are. 
Here sex is second time and 

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motherfuckers. 
You motherfuckers can't stand 

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them but it's because of 
mistress K that we had to think 

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for today's topic. 
So why we just get into it. 

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Let the people know who is 
mistress gay, I am a hot wife, 

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cuckold rustam Primal in an flr,
I am heteroromantic, bicurious. 

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And I'm a curious kingster, the 
sexual health Advocate, a proud 

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slut sister. 
What else am I? 

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I'm a fucking Basket Case at 
times and all-around badass all 

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around you. 
Yeah yeah subscribe to the 

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theory of fuck around and find 
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That's that's who I am. 
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agrees with that too. 
So down to the nitty-gritty, why

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are we talking about cougars and
spice basically? 

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Talking about the approach of 
how we talk about sex among 

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older women. 
In particular, why do you think 

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it's a need that we got to bring
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today? 
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more prevalent and more relevant
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Aging boomer generation and this
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influential in so many ways 
throughout history and I'm Jen 

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XO like I remember hearing 
everything about like the 

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Boomers did this me? 
The Boomers were kind of the 

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trendsetters and now they're all
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older. 
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even more of these movies. 
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sexuality in in aging 
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post me to movement post, you 
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You're going to see more of it 
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kind of cool because if you go 
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80s and the 90s or 70s, there 
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sexuality but often it was Was 
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It was a punishment even in the 
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got this kind of post-feminist 
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Sexuality is tinged with a sense
of punishment. 

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You know, you've got films, like
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Instinct where you have, you 
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aggressively sexual and they are
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In fact during that time . 
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think of during that time 
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are unabashedly sexual and 
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think of, from that, kind of 
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90's is Bull, Durham a C1. 
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have started to change. 
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that I'm noticing in this trend 
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women can actually be, you know,
be unabashedly sexual and not be

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punished in some way for it. 
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like Fatal Attraction punished, 
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they're sexually shamed, they're
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considered normal, not to 
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that you mentioned, are all 
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literally for the male gaze. 
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empowerment and we're talking 
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Hang it all on camera but it's 
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so significant in sexuality, 
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they meant for us? 
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Put us on display in to say, 
here's a pair of tits and crazy 

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women have at it, you know what 
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Well, yeah, it's either, it's 
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from Fatal Attraction. 
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fear or to joke? 
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exist and you find that 
especially once the a lot of the

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movies on my list, are, 
ironically, Nancy Meyers movies.

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So, having a Female writer 
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ones that I noticed that are far
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towards women in general, are 
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by women. 
And there's one of my list of 

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particular that is directed by 
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That is. 
And I think it'll be on your 

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list to. 
It'll be interesting to will 

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have to compare the list. 
Oh, I did want to since this is 

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cougars and spice, I did find 
specific. 

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On cougars in the Journal of 
marriage and family. 

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And this was a June 2015, study,
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It's called the cougar 
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factors that influence the age, 
hypo gamest sexual relationships

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among middle-aged women, who 
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there. 
What a mouthful. 

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But one of the things that they 
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data from the national survey of
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women. 
They found that roughly 13% of 

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sexual action sexually active, 
women between the ages of 35 and

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44. 
Had slept with a man who is at 

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least five years younger. 
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Contrary to Conventional 
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show women with low incomes, and
those who self-identify as other

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race, not white or black are 
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Only to be in an age. 
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relationship, relative to all 
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previously, married. 
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choose younger partners and the 
results suggest that age have a 

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game is relationships are not 
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them. 
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sizeable share of cougars are 
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Partners. 
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to reconsider our conventional 
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All relationships at midlife. 
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kind of saying is that our pop 
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reality. 
No. 

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if you think about it, when we 
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especially the movies that I 
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most of the time, all of these 
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It is seem as A mere fantasy 
that there cannot be anything 

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related as to why a woman wants 
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Let alone have a real 
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That seems to be the ongoing 
thing to take us up even further

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than that. 
It also like hearing that quote 

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also reminds me of Real 
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Where one of the characters who 
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Caroline, Stansbury she is 
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man. 
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I think she there's like a 
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between the two of them and 
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was thrown on camera 
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That means in particular, where 
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basically says, yeah, we're 
gonna have, you know, we do want

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to have a baby and if it's too 
hard for me, we're just going to

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put it into him. 
And I'm like um y'all that's not

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how science works. 
That's not how it technically 

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Works. 
Y'all like It was a really bad 

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movie with Arnold Schwarzenegger
and when you elevate women in my

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list, Emma Thompson, where they 
discussed that. 

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And I'm like, would not be great
but hard. 

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No, that's not a thing. 
It's not a thing. 

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Yes, this is not that movie 
y'all. 

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So it's just like Caroline. 
You need EV teacher Little Cub a

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little bit of some good 
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But again, it just, you know, 
People thrive on this, in the 

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media, we want to see the cougar
fall for the dumb guy. 

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The dumb hot guy that is 
consistently the Trope. 

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So, without further Ado mr. 
Scott and I are definitely going

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to share our top three movies 
out of these types of 

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relationships. 
But without before we even go 

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into that old people in sex now 
you are a very mature age like 

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fine, wine tall. 
Less tall glass of Womanhood mr.

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Skagg, you are not geriatric. 
Okay, for the record, I'm not 

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gonna put that out there and if 
you have not reached senior 

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citizen level yet, let's I 
cannot get my free coffee at 

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McDonald's. 
Let's back it up. 

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Just a little bit. 
Now, when you get there, I'm 

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going to be rolling up like 
Molly Shannon and SNL gone. 

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I'm 50, get them. 
That's going to be me when I 

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turn. 
But I can't know. 

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I'm not there yet. 
Yes, that is not today. 

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The clarify just to clarify 
because it is hard. 

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I can't wait, I can't wait to 
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are you just a supreme badass 
but you know mrs. 

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K and I do have a little bit of 
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I am 34. 
If mistress K would like to say 

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her age that's not her 
discretion but it's not needed. 

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But you do have encounters from 
what I believe with younger men 

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at sometimes correct. 
I have yeah yeah my rule and 

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this is going to sound. 
My rule is I don't go younger 

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than 27 and the reason why is I 
don't fuck with people whose 

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brains aren't fully developed 
yet, so that's just my personal 

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rule. 
The frontal cortex does not 

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stop, developing until age 26, 
give that sucker a fucking year 

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to like, mature a little bit and
then we will then we will jump 

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on the deck but not until then 
we're going to I have a fully 

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fully developed Brain before I 
get in a bit. 

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Even even then it takes, it 
takes another like level of 

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maturity. 
I just need to hold a 

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conversation and we need to have
a similar interest. 

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It's the energy. 
You know it's like anything just

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because you're young dumb and 
full of cum does not mean I'm 

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going to jump on that. 
You know. 

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And you could be cut like, you 
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beautiful and I'll just be like,
you're pretty hush your mouth. 

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And let me wash my lingerie on 
your abs like That's kind of 

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where the that'll be where that 
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So right, right? 
No. 

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And I'm glad that you have said 
that because also there is this 

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ongoing theme where, you know, 
women from what I've seen in 

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articles and what we see on 
television, it's like, well, I 

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want to feel that sense of 
feeling young again, is that why

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you choose, you know, under the,
if it's like, twenty seven and 

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above good to go, or Do you find
it sometimes? 

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Like a little challenging when 
you as a mature more 

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experienced, women seek the 
companionship of a younger man. 

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Do you find that it could 
sometimes feel a little harder 

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because it's not going into the 
whole mommy fetish, but it's 

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also definitely going into that.
If he too young for me, even if 

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the age says, is he young, is he
young for me to experience what 

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he has to bring? 
So there's two different things 

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there that I'm going to pick 
apart. 

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So there's the idea that being 
with a younger man, makes you 

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feel young. 
And I disagree with that. 

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I think that it is being with a 
young at heart person being and 

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young at heart. 
I think the qualities that we 

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associate with being young at 
heart are open, mindedness 

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curiosity energy, and urge to 
explore. and I think you can 

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find that in people of any age 
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like you can do that again, the 
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in your 20s and you were excited
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your pussy but it also helps us 
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butterflies in the tingles 
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youth. 
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the Curiosity and that if you're
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age but you don't but you are at
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they are not at a level of 
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openness. 
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shame or preconceptions or 
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then unpack, that can then put 
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like, you know what, I love. 
I want to be the one to help you

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explore about Bobby's, but I 
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to teach you about the world. 
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that on your own. 
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So like, I'm happy to have an 
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new and that fires me up. 
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Oh and I think and I think that 
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is where the pop culture seems 
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being with someone younger can 
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qualities of Youth that you end 
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And so that's what's interesting
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well you want to got to get into
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Yeah, you know, I was going to 
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lead-in to your choices to your 
pics because you are the guest 

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of honor tonight. 
We're doing three top three. 

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Yes, top three Okay. 
So all right so I've got one 

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that was going to put. 
That was going to put higher but

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I'm going to move it to the 
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I'm going to say number three, 
I'm going to do home again. 

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Okay, home again is a Nancy 
Meyers movie, starring Reese 

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Witherspoon and Michael Sheen. 
She is a she in the movie. 

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It starts with her turning 40, 
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divorced, from her husband, 
Michael Sheen. 

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He's still in New York, she 
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her father's home. 
Who was a famous filmmaker 

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Candice Bergen plays, her mother
loved her. 

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She's great. 
She has two young girls, she 

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moves. 
She her her daughter. 

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Spend the night with her mom and
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her girlfriends for her 
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She meets three young 
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With her girlfriends and they 
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ends up, everybody comes back to
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she one makes a connection with 
one particular gentleman, huh? 

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So attractive and they end up 
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You expect them to have 
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this young man cannot hold his 
alcohol spoilers. 

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So it sets her up in the morning
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helped a little bit because like
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start a day and here's all these
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she's just like, oh god, what 
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Hey, but thinner, her mom comes 
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actually is like, you need to 
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they're tear trying to get their
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Your father would have loved 
them. 

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Like, they're, they're, they're 
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You have an empty guest house, 
why don't you let them crash? 

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That's house and Reese 
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it. 
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And then in and turns out, like,
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Unbelievable. 
But you, when you go into a 

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Nancy Meyers movie, you just 
kind of know that you're going 

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to go into a fairy tale. 
So, walk into this know, you're 

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about to go into like a little 
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course. 
So you see the, you know, the 27

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year old man he kind of anyway, 
so they ended up kind of having 

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a relationship. 
The other two are just great 

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connect with kids. 
They're all these like 20, 

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something year, old men who are 
ambitious and actually kind of 

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do have their shit together, but
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life lesson, they need to learn.
So she does form a relationship 

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with this guy. 
You know, and it's an ongoing 

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one and of course, Michael 
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Oh, the ex finds out that 
there's three, men living in his

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home. 
And did he come home for the 

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wife and daughters? 
Did he come home to try and 

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Patch it up for that? 
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As soon as he found out that 
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something year. 
Old immense amount which is 

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really attractive. 
Huh, Tex and he goes home 

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expecting to try and fix it. 
The way that this movie ends and

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it's been out for a few years. 
So are we good with spoiling the

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fuck out of this? 
Maybe boil it, we can spoil it. 

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Lets all the fuck out of this. 
Maybe. 

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So the way that it ends up is 
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that it ends up because you 
rarely find there's seems like 

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so often the woman has to end up
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When maybe that's not the lesson
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the lesson she needs to learn is
to be on her own. 

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And that is one of the things 
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it shows not only a positive 
cougar relationship, but when it

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ends because it does end, they 
are actually all able to kind of

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stay friends. 
They are able to realize the 

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benefit of just having them 
having these people in their 

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lives. 
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positive break up. 
It's always. 

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So Fairytale Land this aspect of
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don't end up at the kitchen 
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it's almost it is almost like 
they're hinting at kitchen table

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Polly. 
Hmm. 

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There are aspects of it that I'm
just like whoo I could see this.

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If it was a different script, 
this could be an interesting 

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version of kitchen table poly, 
right? 

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Kind of thing. 
So, For that aspect of it. 

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I will I I love the the sex 
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shows that it is okay to be a 
single woman who is also a 

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sexual it is okay. 
To was it the mindfully one 

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partner. 
Hmm. 

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And to be able to do that 
without animosity or in that 

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image it shows that and that's 
it's just a good lesson, you 

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know? 
So I like that. 

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That aspect of the positivity 
for it and and she's never, it 

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doesn't treat it as a joke. 
It doesn't treat her sexuality 

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is a joke. 
It treats it as a normal aspect 

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of her life and one that she 
also recognizes needs to be 

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nurtured So I those aspects it 
kind of hit my it hit my all my 

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happy parts for that but again 
it's full-on fairytale like it 

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is not this is not Cinderella 
left her shoe. 

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It's like you know let's face 
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I think that there's always 
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romantic films and real life. 
You know, there's always going 

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to be that that fantasy Element 
no matter how real a 

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relationship. 
Movie scenes. 

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There's always that letdown when
you're watching these, 

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romanticize movies that there's 
still that varies Harrell happy 

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ending that, you know, they left
ways. 

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But it's still like, are they 
going to still come back to each

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other? 
There's always that fantasy 

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element but sometimes it works. 
Yes, sometimes it works and it 

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sounds like with this movie, it 
does work and I like it because 

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go back to that study that I was
telling you about one of the 

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things that they talked about 
that is specific representation.

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Ation of cougars or other 
colloquial references to older 

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women, sexuality like MILF found
in the media or frequently 

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tainted with negative. 
Connotations that idea of women 

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dating younger, men is often 
devalued through humorous, 

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comments, and these women are 
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presenting. 
A danger for younger men, as 

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well as for themselves women. 
Dating younger men are commonly 

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presented as obsessed with 
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men or Desperately trying to 
cling to their youth. 

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And the cougar lifestyle is not 
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except as accessible and 
acceptable. 

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For all middle-aged, women only 
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trim energetic and fit, and 
those who are in their early 

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40s. 
Now, this one Falls in that 

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latter category, but it does not
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sexuality marital relationship 
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negatively but it is certainly 
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only possible because Rich 
Witherspoon is as hot as she 

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fucking is. 
That's true. 

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You know what's funny is, I was 
looking at a study that was from

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2022 from University of 
Michigan. 

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He did a poll on healthy aging 
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menopausal symptoms on older 
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And so they did a survey Between
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80 and found out that almost 
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So, 43% of these women were SLI 
accident. 

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Active, 62% were satisfied with 
their sexual activity and that 

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only 28 percent had menopausal 
symptoms that actually 

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interfered with their ability, 
to be sexually active. 

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Which I found very, very happily
because there have been studies 

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before saying, women are just 
not interested after menopause 

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which I'm like, no fuck that. 
We all remember Sex and the City

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2, when Kim Cattrall's character
was going. 

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Through the change and taking 
her bath in the fucking humason 

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putting hummus everywhere 
because that was supposed to 

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help with the change. 
But it's like, you know, we have

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to do better as far as like with
these studies, we have to do 

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better with the representation 
that once you turn old, you 

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could still be sexy, you know. 
And I think we tend to lose 

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sight of that. 
Or we have to go to movies. 

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Where Reese Witherspoon is the 
model S figure of Younger men 

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want out of an older woman which
is just not the case. 

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What are your other two? 
So, what's your first? 

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I want to know what's your 
three, okay. 

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So this, so I'll do my back and 
forth, okay? 

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So my number three is the 
rebound, this is with Catherine 

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Zeta-Jones. 
This is around 2009, this movie 

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came out and I just saw for the 
first time yesterday, I remember

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vaguely seeing previews in 
college and I was like, oh, that

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ain't for me, but basically, so,
Catherine Zeta-Jones. 

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Is is typically your, it's like,
she is your stereotypical cougar

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portrayed as hesitant to pursue 
a very younger man named arum, 

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or anyone else. 
And at first, her main focus is 

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to Simply rebuild her life and 
taking care of her children as 

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she starts over from Suburbia 
Jersey into the craziness of New

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York. 
So, basically, backstory Sandy 

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was, is a mom was a stay-at-home
mom. 

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She's really into sports into 
like building up her fantasy 

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basketball. 
Players knows all the stats and 

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comes across a video from one of
her child, child's birthday 

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parties in which the camera was 
left on. 

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And she finds her husband 
getting a blow job, while the 

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kids and Catherine Zeta-Jones 
are in the Next Room playing 

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karaoke by one of their other 
mom friends. 

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So after that, she's like Fuck 
you, taking the kids. 

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It's I'm going to New York City.
I'm rebuilding my life, mr. 

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Scales mouth is. 
Why the fuck open, honey. 

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I screamed. 
That's within 10 minutes of the 

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movie, I was like, oh, ly shit. 
Okay, so now we got that. 

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So she is a woman scorned and 
she has another friend who's 

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really promiscuous. 
She's like, you know what you 

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need. 
You just need to get some good 

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dick. 
You just gotta go get late. 

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You're a hot woman. 
Fuck that, man. 

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Fuck that husband like, you just
need to rebuild. 

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So, Sandy goes on this 
disastrous date with a 

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chiropractor who not only 
doesn't wash his hands, but in 

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going into a public, very public
bathroom touches on her, 

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caressing her. 
And he's like me, we're very 

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like hyper. 
She's very like sensitive to 

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cleanliness, so that guy got 
could put. 

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But then she meets a guy at a 
self-defense class, who is also 

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the Barista of The coffee shop 
that lives in, in which she 

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lives above the apartment of. 
And so she needs this, hot 

446
00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:37,700
Barista guy who's kind of not 
getting his shit together. 

447
00:28:37,700 --> 00:28:41,100
So kind of like what mistress K 
said, is he really an appealing 

448
00:28:41,100 --> 00:28:45,800
factor to Sandy at first? 
No, but she hires him to be his 

449
00:28:46,100 --> 00:28:52,900
the Manny and they slowly 
develop a sexual relationship 

450
00:28:52,900 --> 00:28:54,900
with each other. 
But what I loved about this 

451
00:28:54,900 --> 00:29:00,300
movie is that it It didn't Focus
so much on the fact that Sandy 

452
00:29:00,300 --> 00:29:03,800
needed Dick, Sandy needed to 
come into her own after being. 

453
00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:08,400
So deprived of being a mother, a
stay-at-home mother in a 

454
00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:14,100
Loveless sexless relationship, 
and flourishes to go out and do 

455
00:29:14,100 --> 00:29:15,500
the things that she wanted to 
do. 

456
00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:22,600
She gets a job as a stat checker
for a sports like a CNN are not 

457
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:27,300
a CNN, like an ESPN type neck 
word to TV show and So, she 

458
00:29:27,300 --> 00:29:31,200
climbs the ladder, I'm not she 
finds arum who loves and cares 

459
00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:33,300
for the children. 
Starts to fall in, love with 

460
00:29:33,300 --> 00:29:35,700
him. 
He opens her up. 

461
00:29:35,700 --> 00:29:40,200
So you just like rediscovering, 
what it felt like before kids 

462
00:29:41,100 --> 00:29:45,700
and eventually, there's a 
pregnancy scare to which again, 

463
00:29:45,700 --> 00:29:49,100
she's an older woman. 
She's convinced, she's pregnant,

464
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:51,000
come to find out. 
She was going through the 

465
00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:53,900
pregnancy changes, but she 
wasn't exactly pregnant. 

466
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:57,800
So that became almost a little 
deal breaker for Them because 

467
00:29:57,800 --> 00:29:59,800
they arm was ready to get his 
shit together. 

468
00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:03,800
Sandy was kind of like, okay, we
like each other we can go 

469
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:05,200
through the we're going to have 
a baby. 

470
00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:08,800
Let's do it. 
Real life hit some and she tells

471
00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:14,100
them, I think you and I need to 
part ways and you need to go out

472
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:17,900
and explore the world, go out 
and travel figure out what you 

473
00:30:17,900 --> 00:30:21,600
want to do with your life. 
So, over a span of five years, 

474
00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:26,800
it goes to a time, Jump five 
years since they broke up and 

475
00:30:26,900 --> 00:30:31,600
The end of the movie, it's left 
with a very unopen, like an open

476
00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:37,300
ending of whether or not Aaron 
and Sandy, actually get back 

477
00:30:37,300 --> 00:30:40,200
together. 
Aaron comes back, he adopts the 

478
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:44,700
son who was going to be the name
of the child if they had had the

479
00:30:44,700 --> 00:30:47,400
child together. 
So she realizes like, oh my God,

480
00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:49,400
you got your shit together. 
It's like, yeah, I travel the 

481
00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:50,300
world. 
I went to India. 

482
00:30:50,300 --> 00:30:52,200
I found this boy fell in love 
with each other. 

483
00:30:52,500 --> 00:30:54,500
I adopted him. 
I brought him back to the 

484
00:30:54,500 --> 00:30:56,900
States, but I have you to thank 
for telling me. 

485
00:30:56,900 --> 00:31:00,600
Me and getting me to go out and 
explore because now, I know what

486
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:05,000
I want and then the ends with 
them and, you know, their 

487
00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:08,800
children getting along together.
The parents were fucking crazy 

488
00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:11,700
of arum falling in love. 
Real. 

489
00:31:11,700 --> 00:31:15,100
Love is Sandy, even though 
again, the mother of Aaron was 

490
00:31:15,100 --> 00:31:18,700
very hesitant of why it's an 
older woman. 

491
00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:23,200
So infatuated with my son but 
she realizes, it's not the sex, 

492
00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:26,000
it's the connection, she brings 
out a good side of him. 

493
00:31:26,300 --> 00:31:29,700
He brings Something out of her 
that she was missing and that's 

494
00:31:29,700 --> 00:31:32,400
what I loved. 
I was like, fuck, finally, a 

495
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:36,500
movie that doesn't end up in 
happiness and rainbows. 

496
00:31:36,500 --> 00:31:39,700
It's more of like, are they 
going to say friends? 

497
00:31:40,300 --> 00:31:43,000
Are they going to become lovers 
or they just going to respect 

498
00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:46,900
the fact that they grew while 
being apart and that's where the

499
00:31:46,900 --> 00:31:50,400
movements and I think that was 
perfect because it wasn't 

500
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:54,800
fixated on the the cougar is MM.
It wasn't so fixated on, you 

501
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:58,700
know, the age thing. 
In fact, the only Only non sex 

502
00:31:58,700 --> 00:32:02,400
positivity was coming from 
Aaron's friend, not so much 

503
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:05,700
carom. 
Arum didn't give a fuck about 

504
00:32:05,700 --> 00:32:08,000
whether or not he's dating an 
older woman. 

505
00:32:08,300 --> 00:32:12,100
He made that very clear but 
everybody else against him was 

506
00:32:12,100 --> 00:32:15,400
like, no, dude you got to fuck 
an older woman but that's not 

507
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:18,700
what he was about. 
Yeah, that's kind of like Smith 

508
00:32:18,700 --> 00:32:22,000
and Sex and the City where it's 
like she makes a bigger deal out

509
00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:24,400
of it than he does. 
He's just like, well, I want 

510
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:25,100
you. 
Right? 

511
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:26,800
Okay. 
I'm have that but I want you 

512
00:32:26,900 --> 00:32:27,700
You. 
I love you too. 

513
00:32:28,300 --> 00:32:30,200
Yeah yeah what's your number 
two? 

514
00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:37,200
Yeah so my number two is 
Something's Gotta Give again met

515
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:39,500
other man is another Nancy 
Meyers. 

516
00:32:40,700 --> 00:32:44,800
Diane Keaton. 
Jack Nicholson. 

517
00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:47,800
Amanda Peet and I can't a 
Reeves. 

518
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:53,300
And so that one was a 
blockbuster success, may come 

519
00:32:53,300 --> 00:32:55,700
on. 
And almost everybody seen that 

520
00:32:55,700 --> 00:33:01,400
one, and I love it. 
I love, I love that that movie, 

521
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:05,700
but it is, I find it incredibly 
problematic. 

522
00:33:05,700 --> 00:33:12,000
And one of the reasons why I The
thing that would be more 

523
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:16,900
interesting to me about this 
movie is that the arc, the 

524
00:33:16,900 --> 00:33:20,300
character Arc that were 
following, and the person who 

525
00:33:20,300 --> 00:33:24,800
has the big turnaround is Harry,
it's the Jack Nicholson 

526
00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:29,500
character, right? 
You can put his character Arc, 

527
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:34,700
almost exactly in bucket list. 
It's almost like they lifted 

528
00:33:34,700 --> 00:33:37,500
that character and they slept it
in another movie. 

529
00:33:37,500 --> 00:33:42,400
It's the same fucking Character,
I was in also getting the 

530
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:45,900
reminds me of the character that
he did in terms of endearment. 

531
00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:50,600
Yeah, I mean, I love me some 
Jack Nicholson, but he's, you 

532
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:54,400
know, he plays a type and again,
this is a 2003 movie. 

533
00:33:55,200 --> 00:33:59,600
So we're, you know, we're dating
it a little bit. 

534
00:34:00,300 --> 00:34:04,400
But one of the things that I 
love about it is, I don't love 

535
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:11,100
the ending, but I do love the 
time of separation between the 

536
00:34:11,100 --> 00:34:13,900
two of them. 
They're actually, there's a 

537
00:34:13,908 --> 00:34:15,000
couple of things I love about 
this. 

538
00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:18,199
May I love the sex scene between
her and Jack Nicholson more. 

539
00:34:18,199 --> 00:34:21,300
She makes him stop and check his
heart, his blood pressure 

540
00:34:21,900 --> 00:34:24,500
because he's had the heart 
attack and she's like, I think 

541
00:34:24,500 --> 00:34:27,199
it would be irresponsible if we 
don't stop and check and he's 

542
00:34:27,199 --> 00:34:29,600
like, what? 
And he's all worried that she's 

543
00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:32,300
gonna get pregnant and she's 
like, menopause. 

544
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:37,300
I do remember that. 
Oh my God, those moments in 

545
00:34:37,300 --> 00:34:39,300
there. 
I'm just like, oh can we have 

546
00:34:39,300 --> 00:34:41,800
more of that? 
And maybe not because it's just 

547
00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:46,800
not Because it is any yeses 
played for comedy, but at the 

548
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:49,500
same time it's just like fuck 
it. 

549
00:34:49,500 --> 00:34:52,400
This is reality. 
Like sometimes you got heart 

550
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:54,600
conditions, you might need to 
check that shit. 

551
00:34:54,600 --> 00:34:56,900
But not to mention sex, can be 
very funny. 

552
00:34:56,900 --> 00:35:00,600
I think people also take out a 
context that sex is such a 

553
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:03,200
serious thing and it's like, 
honey, if I'm not laughing in 

554
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:07,000
the bedroom, are we really 
having fucking fun, right? 

555
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:11,900
And I think just seeing her 
going uh, it wasn't 120 over 80 

556
00:35:11,900 --> 00:35:18,900
and then Swinging the blood 
pressure so good, it's so good. 

557
00:35:19,600 --> 00:35:25,500
But it does have some of those 
qualities that it talked about. 

558
00:35:25,500 --> 00:35:28,700
In this article, the idea of 
like women's bodies me. 

559
00:35:28,700 --> 00:35:32,400
You see, Diane Keaton full 
frontal nudity. 

560
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:34,700
And of course, she's just walked
out of the shower. 

561
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:38,600
He sees her, he's not used to 
seeing women over 40 because 

562
00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:41,300
he's like into the the younger 
Wayne. 

563
00:35:41,300 --> 00:35:44,100
Yeah. 
Yeah, he I mean, it starts off 

564
00:35:44,100 --> 00:35:47,400
the movie with almost that line 
from dazed confused, where he's 

565
00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:50,600
like, I keep getting older, they
keep staying the same age, like 

566
00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:54,300
it starts off with him being 
this womanizing and he's just 

567
00:35:54,300 --> 00:35:59,000
picked it in the, in the plot 
thing is a swinger on the cusp 

568
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:02,800
of being a senior citizen. 
With a taste for younger woman 

569
00:36:03,100 --> 00:36:05,800
falls in love with an 
accomplished woman, closer to 

570
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:10,000
his age so they're depicting 
them as in their 50s. 

571
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:11,100
Mmm. 
Right. 

572
00:36:12,900 --> 00:36:16,600
And Diane Keaton's, a highly 
successful playwright. 

573
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:19,600
And when they take him to the, 
ER, when they take Jack 

574
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:24,000
Nicholson's character who he has
a heart attack in the midst of 

575
00:36:24,008 --> 00:36:29,400
trying to, fuck Diane Keaton's 
daughter, Riley by MIT eat, 

576
00:36:29,900 --> 00:36:33,800
right? 
And so, they take him to she 

577
00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:35,900
said, they're at the beach 
house. 

578
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:41,100
Diane Keaton shows up. 
Every then surprise surprise. 

579
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:43,400
They have to call the ambulance.
Lance and taken to the hospital.

580
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:45,600
Great. 
So her daughter is a grown ass 

581
00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:47,600
woman, no matter what Diane 
Keaton think. 

582
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:50,100
She's like, it's not my 
business, not my circus. 

583
00:36:50,100 --> 00:36:55,600
On my monkeys, they go to the 
hospital and canneries, of 

584
00:36:55,600 --> 00:37:00,500
course, plays, the, ER, doctor 
who's looking after Harry and is

585
00:37:01,300 --> 00:37:03,600
finds out that Diane. 
Keaton's, this playwright. 

586
00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:06,500
And he's just like, I love your 
plays and stuff like that and 

587
00:37:06,500 --> 00:37:09,600
dying Keith best friends like 
elbowing her arms, go back and 

588
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:15,000
get this Keanu into. 
And so they end up dating. 

589
00:37:16,500 --> 00:37:19,000
Later on. 
After she, you know, she falls 

590
00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:22,200
in love with Jack Nicholson 
because he has to stay there in 

591
00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:25,700
the house, right? 
And so they've ended up falling 

592
00:37:25,700 --> 00:37:27,800
in love with Jack Nicholson. 
Can't handle it. 

593
00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:30,200
So he breaks up and breaks her 
heart. 

594
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:33,800
She has this full-blown 
meltdown, rights ends up writing

595
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:37,400
almost like a Revenge, play 
about him that gets put on 

596
00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:40,800
Broadway and over the course of 
writing it and healing. 

597
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:46,500
She starts dating canneries his 
character and The two of them 

598
00:37:46,500 --> 00:37:51,400
together there are scenes where 
she's uncertain and he's so into

599
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:56,000
her that is fucking hot. 
Like that's the part that I go 

600
00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:58,700
and I was fast forward to that 
because I just won't key in a 

601
00:37:58,707 --> 00:38:01,400
race. 
Give me that energy, I'm here 

602
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:03,400
for that energy. 
And like I said, if we're 

603
00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:06,500
shadowed, what is to come 
because he is now in his own 

604
00:38:06,500 --> 00:38:11,500
cougar, like relationship. 
Very, I mean, she is gorgeous. 

605
00:38:11,900 --> 00:38:14,500
He's gorgeous. 
And he's so into her and I loved

606
00:38:14,500 --> 00:38:19,900
it and he has had Heartache that
he deserves this sighs but I 

607
00:38:19,900 --> 00:38:25,600
find it completely unrealistic 
that she can be she can have had

608
00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:28,100
this major heartbreak healed 
from. 

609
00:38:28,100 --> 00:38:32,900
It found connection with this 
younger guy and then as soon as 

610
00:38:32,900 --> 00:38:39,100
Jack Nicholson wanders back into
the picture, she ends up leaving

611
00:38:39,100 --> 00:38:46,200
him for Jack Nicholson. 
And I'm like, uh, I'm sorry. 

612
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:47,800
But what are you bringing to the
table? 

613
00:38:49,500 --> 00:38:53,500
What are you? 
What are you offering other than

614
00:38:53,900 --> 00:38:59,100
comparable age? 
Because the rest of the family 

615
00:38:59,100 --> 00:39:02,600
does not apparently, give a shit
that you are dating Keanu, 

616
00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:05,700
Reeves, let's face it. 
That's a fucking Coupe. 

617
00:39:05,700 --> 00:39:09,200
Well done pull it off. 
So the end of the movie bugs me,

618
00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:11,400
I get that. 
It's like, no, she ultimately 

619
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:13,800
never fell out of love with him 
and all that. 

620
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:15,700
I'm calling bullshit on that 
people. 

621
00:39:17,700 --> 00:39:21,700
So that's my down part. 
But I do think that the 

622
00:39:21,700 --> 00:39:26,600
relationship that she has with 
Keanu Reeves is a wholly 

623
00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:30,000
positive. 
Of and healing one and it is a 

624
00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:33,000
healing one on both factors. 
Like he's he is getting 

625
00:39:33,000 --> 00:39:35,300
something out of this 
relationship from her. 

626
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:40,100
She's getting it from him but 
ultimately he realizes you know 

627
00:39:40,100 --> 00:39:44,000
when Jack knows to come falls 
back into her life and she is 

628
00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:46,700
not in love with him Keanu. 
Reeves is the one with the 

629
00:39:46,700 --> 00:39:51,000
maturity to kind of say I don't 
think I'm really the one that 

630
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:54,900
you want to you and I'm not 
willing to compromise my life 

631
00:39:54,900 --> 00:39:57,800
and spend my life with someone 
who doesn't really they want me.

632
00:39:57,900 --> 00:40:01,800
So he's the one that kind of 
pulls back out of this showing 

633
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:05,300
really the more mature part of 
it. 

634
00:40:05,700 --> 00:40:11,100
And and so that's the aspect of 
that movie that I like is that 

635
00:40:11,100 --> 00:40:15,700
it does actually show that 
relationship in a positive 

636
00:40:15,700 --> 00:40:18,700
light. 
It shows her sexuality and a 

637
00:40:18,700 --> 00:40:24,400
positive light like it is. 
That she is going to have this 

638
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:26,800
sexual relationship. 
Whether it is with Jack 

639
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:32,400
Nicholson or can a Reeves, it 
doesn't make fun of her 

640
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:35,900
sexuality. 
The comedy is in the sex but sex

641
00:40:35,900 --> 00:40:38,700
is fucking funny. 
Let's let's be honest, eat and 

642
00:40:38,700 --> 00:40:44,900
be hilarious and so the things 
that I like about it that's why 

643
00:40:44,900 --> 00:40:47,400
I view it. 
As sex-positive, I just don't 

644
00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:52,700
think in 2003 they could have 
told Jack Nicholson to Once and 

645
00:40:52,700 --> 00:40:56,500
he was like I don't think that 
that that would have flown for 

646
00:40:56,500 --> 00:40:58,700
that. 
I think they would have if they 

647
00:40:58,700 --> 00:41:03,400
were which is why I think that 
home again is kind of this step.

648
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:07,200
It would have been the next step
and then if Nancy mired had 

649
00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:10,300
lived in The Next Step would 
have been you get to stay with 

650
00:41:10,300 --> 00:41:14,000
the younger guy, right? 
You know, gotta cater to those 

651
00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:18,300
audiences so yeah. 
Whoo man, what's your number to 

652
00:41:18,500 --> 00:41:20,900
my? 
Number two is actually probably 

653
00:41:20,900 --> 00:41:24,700
a surprising with Simone. 
Most but Magic Mike's last dance

654
00:41:24,900 --> 00:41:29,900
this last. 
So we are, we are running close 

655
00:41:29,900 --> 00:41:31,800
on time so I just want it. 
I'm going to get through this 

656
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:34,100
close. 
So of course, the Magic Mike's. 

657
00:41:34,100 --> 00:41:36,600
Last Dance final movie of The 
Magic. 

658
00:41:36,600 --> 00:41:40,400
Mike Trilogy came out earlier 
this year, I found it very 

659
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:44,200
interesting. 
That's ottenberg decided to take

660
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:49,400
away the whole like pleasure 
aspect of Magic. 

661
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:53,700
Mike giving us the female He's 
in a lot of I think this is also

662
00:41:53,700 --> 00:41:57,500
why to some people are like 
what's this as good as the 

663
00:41:57,500 --> 00:42:00,200
others or is this a totally 
different movie? 

664
00:42:00,400 --> 00:42:03,800
I personally feel that this was 
like a mature chapter that 

665
00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:06,100
needed to grow. 
Because after the fun is setting

666
00:42:06,100 --> 00:42:10,500
done, just like a lot of people 
in sex work, the fun sometimes 

667
00:42:10,500 --> 00:42:16,200
does have to come to an end. 
So Magic Mike opens up, we see 

668
00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:20,100
him not in his stripper is 
higher but in fact he is working

669
00:42:20,100 --> 00:42:24,000
for Salma Hayek. 
Who is pretty much a 

670
00:42:24,008 --> 00:42:27,700
billionaire. 
Husband is a very rich, 

671
00:42:27,700 --> 00:42:34,400
playwright owns a lot of Opera 
Houses that host, the boringest 

672
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:39,800
Dulles plays known to man and 
Selma just wants to stick it to 

673
00:42:39,800 --> 00:42:45,900
her ex-husband and just wants to
find something to make her feel 

674
00:42:46,100 --> 00:42:49,500
alive, and she finds that with 
Mike. 

675
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:55,700
So after a paid I have sex and 
pleasure, she finds herself 

676
00:42:55,700 --> 00:42:59,400
enlightened enormous inspired by
Mike and decides to take her 

677
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:05,800
under his wing ship, him off to 
London and say is you're going 

678
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:10,600
to give us an experience, you're
going to give what women truly 

679
00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:13,800
want. 
In fact, the ongoing theme of 

680
00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:17,100
this movie is whatever she 
wants, whenever she wants. 

681
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:19,000
And that's pretty much how the 
movie leads. 

682
00:43:19,300 --> 00:43:23,600
Now, what I liked about this was
again, The movie was not really 

683
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:26,100
focused on some Hayek and Mike 
actually fucking. 

684
00:43:26,100 --> 00:43:29,600
In fact, they only have sex 
twice in the movie, if I 

685
00:43:29,600 --> 00:43:33,000
remember correctly, if not just 
once, and there's a lot of 

686
00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:36,100
sexual tension between them, but
it's more of the fact that 

687
00:43:36,100 --> 00:43:40,000
someone wants to see, Mike, just
expand his wings, from being a 

688
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:45,300
Furniture maker, to a stripper 
to a bartender to now being just

689
00:43:45,300 --> 00:43:50,200
a great choreographer and 
revitalizing what we consider 

690
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:53,100
art. 
And so by using, Seeing sex and 

691
00:43:53,100 --> 00:43:58,600
sexuality and sensuality Selma 
and Channing Tatum's characters 

692
00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:03,200
together kind of fall in love 
and miss this whole facade of. 

693
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:08,900
What if we tell women what they 
want that they can have the 

694
00:44:08,900 --> 00:44:12,700
fantasy and soul, go home to 
their husbands and still get 

695
00:44:12,700 --> 00:44:16,000
what they want out of it. 
And that's what I loved you 

696
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:18,500
read. 
It seems like the continuation 

697
00:44:18,500 --> 00:44:21,700
of what they started with Magic 
Mike. 

698
00:44:22,300 --> 00:44:30,100
Was it extra large or something 
like that or whatever because 

699
00:44:30,100 --> 00:44:34,100
that one if you go back and 
watch that sequel compared to 

700
00:44:34,100 --> 00:44:38,700
the positive in the first one, 
women are treated like shit. 

701
00:44:38,700 --> 00:44:43,500
So yes they're talked about like
shit you go in the second one 

702
00:44:43,500 --> 00:44:49,300
and it is all sex positivity. 
It is all female sexuality like 

703
00:44:49,300 --> 00:44:54,900
Andie McDowell's character in 
that That, you know, she is 

704
00:44:54,900 --> 00:44:56,900
encouraged to be sexual. 
Yeah. 

705
00:44:56,900 --> 00:44:59,400
She's encouraging her daughter's
to be sexual. 

706
00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:04,700
She's going after what she wants
and, you know, Joe Manganiello 

707
00:45:04,700 --> 00:45:05,700
scary. 
Yes. 

708
00:45:05,700 --> 00:45:09,200
Oh, that's amazing. 
Not to mention you get the 

709
00:45:09,200 --> 00:45:11,700
guidance of Jada. 
Pinkett Smith who taught 

710
00:45:11,700 --> 00:45:16,300
migrating, he knew and you even 
get this whole like wow, shit. 

711
00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:18,900
Okay. 
This black woman is telling me 

712
00:45:19,700 --> 00:45:24,000
That the pleasure lies not just 
between my thighs, but between 

713
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:29,900
this brain of mine that we were 
my queen, you know, so it's like

714
00:45:29,900 --> 00:45:34,500
there's that that carry on to 
the mattock of okay. 

715
00:45:34,700 --> 00:45:41,000
Soma is not your typical cougar 
like Mike even makes it very 

716
00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:43,000
clear. 
We're in a business 

717
00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:47,000
relationship. 
Yeah, you know, I might like you

718
00:45:47,500 --> 00:45:49,400
but I'm not fucking up this 
back. 

719
00:45:49,700 --> 00:45:53,800
For you or for me, you know, I 
see that there's an opportunity 

720
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:59,400
not to mention, you know. 
He's also trying to, you know, 

721
00:45:59,400 --> 00:46:04,000
earn the respect of the very, 
very outspoken daughter of Salma

722
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:07,600
Hayek. 
And who could see like, yeah, 

723
00:46:07,900 --> 00:46:11,400
you're in love with my mom. 
But business first, Mike 

724
00:46:11,400 --> 00:46:14,600
business, first, foremost, in 
always and that's what I kind of

725
00:46:14,600 --> 00:46:16,800
liked. 
Now the only thing of course, 

726
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:20,400
you know, it's a fantasy movie. 
So of course, End up together 

727
00:46:20,500 --> 00:46:24,500
but also I was kind of like it 
would have been nice that I 

728
00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:29,200
might Channing Tatum and some 
height didn't get together but 

729
00:46:29,200 --> 00:46:33,400
also just fine. 
The fact that sex is a power 

730
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:35,700
thing. 
But sex isn't always have to 

731
00:46:35,700 --> 00:46:40,600
mean power and relationship. 
Sex can be leveled up as a 

732
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:43,200
resource of power, in learning 
from each other. 

733
00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:48,200
And I think Selma, as the older 
woman taught, Mike where to 

734
00:46:48,200 --> 00:46:51,500
stand in this world. 
That he is more than just a 

735
00:46:51,508 --> 00:46:53,800
stripper that he is an 
innovator. 

736
00:46:54,100 --> 00:46:57,800
That yes, he is at the hands of 
women's pleasure but at the same

737
00:46:57,800 --> 00:47:01,300
time he holds the power and the 
control of giving women what 

738
00:47:01,300 --> 00:47:05,300
they want and helping bringing 
that out almost like a therapy 

739
00:47:05,300 --> 00:47:10,200
session. 
So that was my top two, mmm. 

740
00:47:10,700 --> 00:47:15,300
So my number one is going to be 
no surprise. 

741
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:18,900
Good luck to you, Leo Grand. 
Yes. 

742
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:26,800
That is my number one sex, 
positive view of women's older 

743
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:31,800
women, sexuality, and the 
thoughtfulness with which this 

744
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:36,600
was done in those written by 
women directed by a woman, has a

745
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:39,100
very, very vulnerable and the 
Thompson. 

746
00:47:39,100 --> 00:47:42,800
I would love honestly, I really 
love to see this done as a stage

747
00:47:42,800 --> 00:47:48,900
play because it takes play the 
majority, the the full majority 

748
00:47:48,900 --> 00:47:52,500
of the movie, Takes place 
within, you know, four walls of 

749
00:47:52,508 --> 00:47:53,900
the hotel room. 
Yes. 

750
00:47:53,900 --> 00:47:59,700
So either it lends itself, 
extraordinarily well to being a 

751
00:47:59,700 --> 00:48:02,200
stage play. 
There's only one scene of a kind

752
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:05,900
of takes place out of it, where 
they go to, like, the hotel bar,

753
00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:10,300
the cause of the coffee shop. 
It's so great. 

754
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:15,200
But so for those of you who 
haven't seen it, good luck to 

755
00:48:15,200 --> 00:48:19,100
you, Leo, Grand is about Emma, 
Thompson's character. 

756
00:48:20,100 --> 00:48:26,000
Nancy. 
Nancy, in quotation marks, she 

757
00:48:26,900 --> 00:48:34,400
is, she is a woman who has lived
and been married and raised her 

758
00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:39,500
children and she taught. 
She was a college professor, and

759
00:48:39,500 --> 00:48:42,500
she has lived her entire life 
kind of for other people. 

760
00:48:42,500 --> 00:48:47,600
And her husband has passed away.
And there was no animosity, 

761
00:48:47,600 --> 00:48:49,300
there's no divorce, there's no 
anything. 

762
00:48:49,400 --> 00:48:54,000
Thing. 
But she realizes that she had a 

763
00:48:54,000 --> 00:48:58,800
very OneNote experience in terms
of sex. 

764
00:48:59,500 --> 00:49:06,500
She only had like missionary 
position in the dark. 

765
00:49:07,000 --> 00:49:13,000
You know it was you can you get 
the sense that maybe her husband

766
00:49:13,100 --> 00:49:17,600
had a whole lot of Hang-Ups 
about sex because any time she 

767
00:49:17,600 --> 00:49:22,000
wanted to explore anything else.
It got shut down and it was a 

768
00:49:22,100 --> 00:49:24,300
very much expressed in that 
movie too. 

769
00:49:25,200 --> 00:49:30,800
And so her sexuality was stifled
because the one person that 

770
00:49:30,800 --> 00:49:35,000
she's, you know, society says, 
you're supposed to be able to 

771
00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:37,800
explore, this is shutting her 
down at every turn. 

772
00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:39,800
She never even gives him a 
blowjob. 

773
00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:43,700
Like that's one of the things on
her list that she wants to do 

774
00:49:44,000 --> 00:49:48,300
not cease to give never gave her
oral and he never gave her oral.

775
00:49:48,300 --> 00:49:50,600
She needs never. 
And and one of the things that I

776
00:49:50,607 --> 00:49:55,100
love, she goes into this, she 
says, I've never had an orgasm, 

777
00:49:56,300 --> 00:49:59,700
it's not going to happen. 
That's not why we're here. 

778
00:50:00,400 --> 00:50:04,300
You know, she takes that goal, 
that kind of like I'm going to 

779
00:50:04,308 --> 00:50:07,600
make you come, you know, off the
table. 

780
00:50:08,100 --> 00:50:12,300
And she's just like the nana, I 
understand that, the orgasms can

781
00:50:12,300 --> 00:50:15,400
be very hard. 
It is, that is not what we are 

782
00:50:15,400 --> 00:50:17,700
here for. 
I am not here to an experience 

783
00:50:17,700 --> 00:50:19,600
to have you give me an orgasm. 
Mmm. 

784
00:50:19,600 --> 00:50:26,800
I'm here to have an exploration 
of sex and sexuality and doing 

785
00:50:26,800 --> 00:50:30,200
things that I want to do 
literally checking off her 

786
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:32,300
fuckit list before she dies. 
Right. 

787
00:50:32,300 --> 00:50:36,000
Yeah. 
She has a she has a literal list

788
00:50:36,000 --> 00:50:41,600
of things that she wants to do 
and orgasming is literally not 

789
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:46,500
on the list. 
I loved how this movie goes 

790
00:50:46,500 --> 00:50:50,100
into. 
Basically if you will, for acts.

791
00:50:50,300 --> 00:50:53,600
Okay, so it's four meetings that
they have with each other for 

792
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:58,900
acts, which could very much be 
like a play, but I love how 

793
00:50:58,900 --> 00:51:03,300
there's such. 
You're almost walk through the 

794
00:51:03,300 --> 00:51:08,300
process of her being so awkward.
I think for the first like, 30 

795
00:51:08,300 --> 00:51:13,100
minutes of that movie, it is so 
awkward and it's so realistic. 

796
00:51:13,200 --> 00:51:17,600
Cystic to know that this is 
speaking to a lot of women who 

797
00:51:17,600 --> 00:51:20,400
probably went to this movie, not
knowing what the fuck they were 

798
00:51:20,400 --> 00:51:24,400
walking into. 
Well, and, And to clarify, we've

799
00:51:24,400 --> 00:51:27,800
talked about her, but the weight
way she is going about achieving

800
00:51:27,800 --> 00:51:31,300
her fuckit list. 
Is she hires a younger male sex,

801
00:51:31,300 --> 00:51:36,500
worker, and coming from her 
background where she taught, I 

802
00:51:36,508 --> 00:51:41,200
think religious studies. 
Yes, she has a lot of hang ups 

803
00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:44,600
and shame about the morality. 
Of what she is doing. 

804
00:51:44,600 --> 00:51:48,300
And it several times in the film
he has to kind of pause and say,

805
00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:53,400
Nancy Nancy. 
You are not victimizing me, I am

806
00:51:53,400 --> 00:51:58,800
not a victim, you have hired me 
for an experience, please allow 

807
00:51:58,800 --> 00:52:02,600
me to give you the experience 
that you have hired me for, you 

808
00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:08,200
know, and she she is. 
So in her head, she is so out of

809
00:52:08,200 --> 00:52:13,100
touch with her own body, and he 
is so intelligent. 

810
00:52:13,200 --> 00:52:17,600
Touch with his own sexuality. 
And the way that sex can be used

811
00:52:17,600 --> 00:52:21,400
as a healing when it is, it is 
almost like watching, Sex 

812
00:52:21,400 --> 00:52:25,100
Therapy happening. 
All very much on the screen. 

813
00:52:25,100 --> 00:52:29,900
It's really, really amazing. 
But and there aren't some 

814
00:52:29,900 --> 00:52:32,200
hiccups though, it's a 
beautiful, beautiful movie. 

815
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:41,300
But ultimately, you find a woman
who discovers what it means to 

816
00:52:41,300 --> 00:52:47,300
be sexual for herself. 
And what it means to truly kind 

817
00:52:47,300 --> 00:52:52,800
of connect sexually with another
person and she's never had that 

818
00:52:52,800 --> 00:52:55,200
experience. 
Despite being married and having

819
00:52:55,200 --> 00:53:00,600
children. 
And it's just it's the and one 

820
00:53:00,600 --> 00:53:05,800
of the one of the big scenes 
that that comes from it and Emma

821
00:53:05,800 --> 00:53:07,700
Thompson's gone on record as 
saying it was the most 

822
00:53:07,700 --> 00:53:11,500
terrifying thing that she had to
do is at the end of the scene, 

823
00:53:11,600 --> 00:53:14,500
end of the movie. 
She looks at herself in the 

824
00:53:14,500 --> 00:53:18,000
mirror and she stands after 
having gone through these 

825
00:53:18,000 --> 00:53:21,300
wonderful experiences and having
this kind of healing thing, she 

826
00:53:21,300 --> 00:53:25,300
stands and she's able to stand 
naked in front of the mirror and

827
00:53:25,300 --> 00:53:30,000
look at herself. 
From a place of neutrality and 

828
00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:36,100
acceptance just being able to 
look at the body of a woman 

829
00:53:36,200 --> 00:53:40,100
who's in post-menopause. 
Does not look like the stuff on 

830
00:53:40,107 --> 00:53:45,300
the Magazine's does not look 
like society's pressure and 

831
00:53:45,300 --> 00:53:48,400
everything and she's able to 
look at it at herself in the 

832
00:53:48,400 --> 00:53:52,300
mirror and just accept and love 
herself. 

833
00:53:53,500 --> 00:53:57,400
And there's a difference between
body neutrality and body 

834
00:53:57,800 --> 00:54:02,500
positivity. 
And as much as I love body 

835
00:54:02,500 --> 00:54:05,900
positivity, I think we should be
Bazi Bobby positive. 

836
00:54:06,300 --> 00:54:10,500
I think it is more important for
us to get to a place of body 

837
00:54:10,500 --> 00:54:13,000
neutrality, where we can look at
each other. 

838
00:54:13,100 --> 00:54:16,100
Look at ourselves and just go. 
Yep, that's me. 

839
00:54:16,300 --> 00:54:19,500
Exactly. 
And I actually had just seen 

840
00:54:19,500 --> 00:54:25,700
this over the weekend, leading 
up to our He's in today but it 

841
00:54:25,700 --> 00:54:29,700
was very refreshing as someone 
who has worked in the sex 

842
00:54:29,700 --> 00:54:32,200
industry for now 15 years. 
Yes. 

843
00:54:32,200 --> 00:54:36,800
Y'all. 15 years of both radio 
and sex work. 

844
00:54:36,900 --> 00:54:41,400
It is crazy. 
But getting the almost realistic

845
00:54:41,600 --> 00:54:45,000
point. 
It even parts of that are 

846
00:54:45,000 --> 00:54:48,600
uncomfortable, as far as sex 
work because there is a point 

847
00:54:48,600 --> 00:54:54,400
where Nancy does cross, the line
of boundaries surrounding sex 

848
00:54:54,400 --> 00:54:56,400
work. 
I don't want to spoil it because

849
00:54:56,400 --> 00:55:01,600
it is a fairly new movie. 
Yeah, but suspect newest one Ro 

850
00:55:01,600 --> 00:55:02,900
us. 
Yes, definitely. 

851
00:55:02,900 --> 00:55:07,800
And I found it refreshing that 
they took it the way that they 

852
00:55:07,800 --> 00:55:12,500
did, because this is a danger 
that most sex workers face day 

853
00:55:12,500 --> 00:55:14,500
in and day out. 
Out, I'll never forget. 

854
00:55:14,500 --> 00:55:18,700
The first time I was out of my 
real name and instead of hiding 

855
00:55:18,700 --> 00:55:21,000
behind it because Megan is my 
real name. 

856
00:55:21,200 --> 00:55:26,200
I decided to add Meghan, 
Sapphire to my, my professional 

857
00:55:27,100 --> 00:55:28,700
atmosphere. 
The more I started putting 

858
00:55:28,700 --> 00:55:32,700
myself out there, not just 
because somebody tried out me, 

859
00:55:32,900 --> 00:55:36,000
but it was just more of like, 
listen, my name. 

860
00:55:36,500 --> 00:55:39,500
I made my name. 
I made my character and that's 

861
00:55:39,500 --> 00:55:41,300
kind of like what happens with 
Leo. 

862
00:55:41,700 --> 00:55:46,600
He says, you know, I am Leo 
Grand everything else about me 

863
00:55:46,600 --> 00:55:50,500
does not matter because I made 
this person who you see in front

864
00:55:50,500 --> 00:55:53,900
of you today, for me, that was 
probably one of the most 

865
00:55:53,900 --> 00:55:57,400
powerful scenes as far as like 
sex work goes, because a lot of 

866
00:55:57,400 --> 00:56:01,900
the times we see sex workers, 
very dumb Mary, very 

867
00:56:01,900 --> 00:56:07,400
money-hungry and driven and 
there's some sense of where Leo 

868
00:56:07,900 --> 00:56:10,400
is a therapist. 
Cape. 

869
00:56:10,400 --> 00:56:13,600
Yeah, sounds good. 
Sex work as therapy for this. 

870
00:56:14,200 --> 00:56:17,400
There's a thoughtfulness to it 
and the sex workers that I have 

871
00:56:17,400 --> 00:56:22,100
spoken to you know be a phone 
sex operators or former escorts 

872
00:56:22,100 --> 00:56:23,000
or whatever. 
You know. 

873
00:56:23,000 --> 00:56:26,100
One of the things that they 
talked about that is kind of 

874
00:56:26,100 --> 00:56:31,000
cool for their job. 
Is that the idea that we are 

875
00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:36,100
starving for intimacy and we are
starving for connection and so 

876
00:56:36,100 --> 00:56:42,800
often the people who Higher sex 
workers. 

877
00:56:43,300 --> 00:56:46,900
They're craving that sense of 
connection. 

878
00:56:46,900 --> 00:56:53,800
So the same smeii actually be is
part of it, certainly, but it is

879
00:56:53,800 --> 00:57:00,200
not the whole experience and it 
is not, it's usually there is, 

880
00:57:00,700 --> 00:57:06,100
there is a desire to be heard 
and be listened to and a lot of 

881
00:57:06,100 --> 00:57:09,700
what they kind of talk about is 
that great great movie. 

882
00:57:10,300 --> 00:57:14,400
So, in wrapping my last movie 
and honorable mention, I'll put 

883
00:57:14,400 --> 00:57:17,600
that in. 
But How Stella Got Her Groove 

884
00:57:17,600 --> 00:57:20,400
Back? 
So, in my research for this, I 

885
00:57:20,400 --> 00:57:22,700
watched a couple movies back to 
back. 

886
00:57:22,900 --> 00:57:25,300
I watch the rebound. 
I watch How Stella Got Her 

887
00:57:25,300 --> 00:57:28,300
Groove Back. 
I ended my night with good luck 

888
00:57:28,300 --> 00:57:32,700
to you, Leo grand grand. 
But I also watched on wine with 

889
00:57:33,300 --> 00:57:36,400
Joseph Lord, Joseph 
gordon-levitt's, and that was 

890
00:57:36,400 --> 00:57:39,800
his his directorial debut with 
Julianne Moore. 

891
00:57:40,200 --> 00:57:43,300
And Scarlett Johansson. 
But I decided not to put that on

892
00:57:43,300 --> 00:57:45,800
the list because there's so much
more of Don Juan that I wanted, 

893
00:57:45,800 --> 00:57:49,400
like peel back in a different 
episode but I also got her 

894
00:57:49,400 --> 00:57:52,100
groove back 1998. 
You got Whoopi Goldberg. 

895
00:57:52,100 --> 00:57:56,000
You got Angela Bassett and he 
got a very young fine. 

896
00:57:56,600 --> 00:58:00,500
Fun, sexy. 
Taye Diggs. 

897
00:58:01,300 --> 00:58:08,000
Yes you do, you know? 
Stella basically is in the stock

898
00:58:08,000 --> 00:58:12,100
market day in and day out, I 
believe she's a broker and she 

899
00:58:12,100 --> 00:58:15,600
is rediscovering who she is. 
After establishing a 

900
00:58:15,600 --> 00:58:18,600
relationship with a 20 year old 
man. 

901
00:58:18,800 --> 00:58:23,700
She's in her 40s and she goes to
the make Jamaica with her 

902
00:58:23,700 --> 00:58:25,200
friend. 
Delilah Whoopi Goldberg has 

903
00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:28,400
character. 
And you know what be being 

904
00:58:28,400 --> 00:58:31,500
whoopee is like the fun 
girlfriend that's like girl we 

905
00:58:31,500 --> 00:58:33,900
gon drink would have party. 
Would have a good time. 

906
00:58:34,300 --> 00:58:38,700
Found his 22 eligible main, you 
know, between them as she says, 

907
00:58:38,700 --> 00:58:42,000
they got two or four Super Bowl 
rings between the two of them 

908
00:58:42,300 --> 00:58:45,700
and I'm choosing the cuter one. 
You get the creepy one like 

909
00:58:45,700 --> 00:58:47,800
whatever. 
Fuck it. 

910
00:58:47,800 --> 00:58:49,400
We're in Jamaica. 
We're going to live our best 

911
00:58:49,400 --> 00:58:53,000
lives NoHo sparse. 
You look at Angela Bassett and 

912
00:58:53,000 --> 00:58:54,800
I'm like damn this woman is in 
her 40s. 

913
00:58:54,800 --> 00:58:57,500
Ripped up like she's in her 20s 
and there's this. 

914
00:58:58,800 --> 00:59:02,400
She was coming off of got to do 
with it. 

915
00:59:02,400 --> 00:59:04,100
So she had Tina Turner arms. 
Yeah. 

916
00:59:04,200 --> 00:59:06,400
Yes. 
Is what she has her mom's not to

917
00:59:06,400 --> 00:59:08,300
mention. 
She's coming fresh off of 

918
00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:11,900
Waiting to Exhale. 
So it's like two different 

919
00:59:11,900 --> 00:59:13,900
characters all together, she's 
playing. 

920
00:59:13,900 --> 00:59:16,200
Yeah. 
A stronger woman in those other 

921
00:59:16,200 --> 00:59:17,900
movies. 
She's a broken woman that has to

922
00:59:17,908 --> 00:59:21,000
be find yourself. 
Stella is just trying to find a 

923
00:59:21,000 --> 00:59:25,000
way of managing a good life, a 
good job. 

924
00:59:25,000 --> 00:59:30,100
But also just finding a man 
finding connection other than 

925
00:59:30,100 --> 00:59:35,300
her very Like well-mannered Son 
who's very Overprotective. 

926
00:59:35,500 --> 00:59:37,700
But she meets Taye Diggs 
character. 

927
00:59:37,700 --> 00:59:42,400
Who is a an Islander himself. 
And he even says, like, you're 

928
00:59:42,400 --> 00:59:44,700
not 40. 
You've got to be in your 20s 

929
00:59:44,700 --> 00:59:48,200
and, you know, cell is just not 
having it, but I love how they 

930
00:59:48,200 --> 00:59:52,200
have this song, a dance of 
whether or not it is possible to

931
00:59:52,200 --> 00:59:55,400
find true love with someone 
who's not even legal to drink to

932
00:59:55,400 --> 00:59:57,600
bring back to the sites and 
drink with. 

933
00:59:57,600 --> 01:00:02,300
And that's the ongoing theme is,
you know, what am I doing? 

934
01:00:02,700 --> 01:00:05,800
She keeps asking yourself, With 
and this is also based off a 

935
01:00:05,800 --> 01:00:10,900
great book by the very, just 
renowned amazing author. 

936
01:00:11,000 --> 01:00:13,500
Terry McMillan. 
Y'all need to read her books, 

937
01:00:13,500 --> 01:00:15,800
Waiting to Exhale, how solar Got
Her Groove Back. 

938
01:00:15,800 --> 01:00:21,100
Please add those to your reading
list, but again, it's just it 

939
01:00:21,100 --> 01:00:25,700
takes a decide where sex is not,
it can be the Forefront, but 

940
01:00:25,700 --> 01:00:29,000
that's not what I was seeing. 
My now, probably about 12 times 

941
01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:31,500
seen this movie. 
I was seeing a woman who was 

942
01:00:31,500 --> 01:00:34,100
just simply just trying to find 
connections. 

943
01:00:34,300 --> 01:00:38,900
In died, she had to go outside 
of America to find the perfect 

944
01:00:38,900 --> 01:00:41,600
soul mate. 
But even then, she still broken 

945
01:00:41,600 --> 01:00:42,900
because there are parts were 
t.d. 

946
01:00:42,900 --> 01:00:47,500
Jakes is trying to assure her. 
I'm not in it to chase your age,

947
01:00:48,000 --> 01:00:51,400
you know, I know that you are my
mother's age but that's not why 

948
01:00:51,400 --> 01:00:55,900
I chose you. 
I chose you because I see you, I

949
01:00:55,900 --> 01:00:59,000
see your potential. 
I see what you are capable of 

950
01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:01,200
doing and that attracts me to 
you. 

951
01:01:01,500 --> 01:01:04,000
Even when Angela goes to his 
house to me. 

952
01:01:04,200 --> 01:01:08,600
His mother who was the same age 
as her she asks, what are you 

953
01:01:08,600 --> 01:01:12,200
doing with my baby boy? 
Yeah, my my baby boy. 

954
01:01:12,900 --> 01:01:18,700
Yeah, he says he sees me. 
I've never had a man just see me

955
01:01:19,000 --> 01:01:20,800
for everything that I bring to 
the table. 

956
01:01:21,100 --> 01:01:24,500
And yeah there's the ebb and 
flow of like he can't pay for 

957
01:01:24,500 --> 01:01:29,000
the luxury that she worked very 
hard for but at the same time 

958
01:01:29,000 --> 01:01:32,000
the money is not a factor, it's 
more. 

959
01:01:32,000 --> 01:01:36,700
So of the connection that she in
him are building and him 

960
01:01:36,700 --> 01:01:41,200
embracing a son who is damn near
only probably ten years. 

961
01:01:41,200 --> 01:01:47,200
His senior You know, so I think 
we do not give this movie enough

962
01:01:47,200 --> 01:01:51,200
credit when it's due despite 
like who's watching the movie? 

963
01:01:51,800 --> 01:01:56,100
But it's a really good revisit 
damn near almost 20 years later 

964
01:01:56,800 --> 01:02:00,400
or 30 years later at this point,
30 years. 30 90. 

965
01:02:00,400 --> 01:02:04,100
Yeah, this is 1998. 
So, yeah, about 30 years, it's 

966
01:02:04,100 --> 01:02:07,500
just crazy to revisit this and 
just see it in a whole different

967
01:02:07,500 --> 01:02:09,700
light and which brings it back 
to everything that we've been 

968
01:02:09,700 --> 01:02:12,400
talking about is old. 
People need love. 

969
01:02:12,500 --> 01:02:16,900
Of to, you know. 
And that's my honorable mention.

970
01:02:16,900 --> 01:02:18,800
I'm going to do the old people 
need love too. 

971
01:02:18,800 --> 01:02:22,600
Is my honorable mention because 
you go from the depiction of 

972
01:02:22,600 --> 01:02:26,200
older people in like, cocoon 
getting all. 

973
01:02:26,500 --> 01:02:32,800
I got women in the to now you've
got something like the book 

974
01:02:32,800 --> 01:02:38,000
club, where you have this group 
of four, women getting all hot 

975
01:02:38,000 --> 01:02:41,200
and bothered because they read 
read Fifty Shades of Grey. 

976
01:02:41,500 --> 01:02:45,000
And it doesn't have the element 
of cougar ISM in it. 

977
01:02:45,200 --> 01:02:52,900
It does have this idea that 
older women do not become 

978
01:02:52,900 --> 01:02:56,300
asexual, just because they go 
through menopause that? 

979
01:02:56,300 --> 01:03:00,200
And that is a lesson of that 
movie that I love because Jane 

980
01:03:00,200 --> 01:03:03,300
Fonda is sexual. 
She is like, Samantha from Sex 

981
01:03:03,300 --> 01:03:05,900
in the City, she's smoking in 
there. 

982
01:03:06,400 --> 01:03:09,200
It is. 
Just like, here's the book were 

983
01:03:09,200 --> 01:03:12,200
reading reading Fifty Shades of 
Grey, everybody needs to go. 

984
01:03:12,200 --> 01:03:14,800
Get laid. 
Go get laid after the beginning 

985
01:03:14,800 --> 01:03:17,200
of the Movie, by the way, that 
is, like, literally in the 

986
01:03:17,207 --> 01:03:21,600
beginning of the movie and they 
read the whole trilogy, but the 

987
01:03:21,600 --> 01:03:26,100
think thankfully they don't 
dwell on those pieces of no. 

988
01:03:26,700 --> 01:03:32,000
Um, you know, it's the, the book
is the Catalyst for them to kind

989
01:03:32,000 --> 01:03:35,600
of re examine the role that 
sexuality plays in their lives. 

990
01:03:35,600 --> 01:03:39,300
And these are women, who already
accept sexuality as part of 

991
01:03:39,308 --> 01:03:43,600
their lives depending on who, 
which woman it is. 

992
01:03:44,500 --> 01:03:48,700
It's either a woman who uses 
sex, to push intimacy away, and 

993
01:03:48,700 --> 01:03:51,300
is confronted with that from the
books, because she finds. 

994
01:03:51,300 --> 01:03:54,500
She's identifying with Christian
Grey, too much, Jane Fonda, yet,

995
01:03:54,500 --> 01:04:00,000
if any of you've got that 
Candice Bergen shows up again. 

996
01:04:00,000 --> 01:04:05,900
So she's the one who is so hung 
up on her ex 40 years later. 

997
01:04:05,900 --> 01:04:08,300
However, many years later that 
she's just shut down. 

998
01:04:08,300 --> 01:04:10,900
So it's her. 
She's the one that goes through 

999
01:04:10,900 --> 01:04:13,500
kind of the discovery that she 
goes through it, very end of 

1000
01:04:13,500 --> 01:04:19,800
matter of Play which I love. 
And then you have Diane Keaton 

1001
01:04:20,100 --> 01:04:25,900
newly widowed kind of knowing 
that she had this great love 

1002
01:04:26,400 --> 01:04:29,800
realizing that her daughters are
really kind of trying to mother 

1003
01:04:29,800 --> 01:04:32,800
her and put her in this old 
person box and she's not ready 

1004
01:04:32,800 --> 01:04:37,300
to go on this old, Ryan box yet 
and then you have the the my 

1005
01:04:37,300 --> 01:04:39,700
favorite of the characters in 
this, you have Mary Steenburgen 

1006
01:04:39,700 --> 01:04:43,100
character who is still very 
vibrant. 

1007
01:04:43,100 --> 01:04:45,600
Still wants you. 
No, her husband is recently 

1008
01:04:45,600 --> 01:04:49,700
retired and he's going through 
his struggles with a lack of 

1009
01:04:49,700 --> 01:04:54,100
identity because he is retired 
and that has shown up as sexual 

1010
01:04:54,100 --> 01:04:57,200
problems. 
And she's just like this is a 

1011
01:04:57,200 --> 01:05:01,000
problem, I need sex. 
We've got to figure this out and

1012
01:05:01,000 --> 01:05:05,300
she goes about trying to figure 
it out a little bit Wrong by 

1013
01:05:05,300 --> 01:05:08,300
pushing me into it. 
And I love the resolution for 

1014
01:05:08,300 --> 01:05:13,800
their characters is really they 
talk to each other family and 

1015
01:05:13,800 --> 01:05:18,500
that's Favorite part of that 
movie is the way that these 

1016
01:05:18,500 --> 01:05:23,600
women find resolution with this 
is they actually honestly 

1017
01:05:23,600 --> 01:05:26,400
confront what it is, they're 
they're really looking for and 

1018
01:05:26,400 --> 01:05:30,600
then they speak to their 
potential Partners about it and 

1019
01:05:30,600 --> 01:05:33,700
that is why I love that as that 
sex-positive. 

1020
01:05:33,700 --> 01:05:36,200
And it's definitely my honorable
mention I was keeping it as 

1021
01:05:36,200 --> 01:05:39,300
honorable mention because 
there's not a cougar aspect of 

1022
01:05:39,300 --> 01:05:42,900
it. 
So but I feel the sexual top of 

1023
01:05:42,900 --> 01:05:47,900
the list, my My final, my final 
honorable mention, it's mrs. 

1024
01:05:47,900 --> 01:05:51,400
Fletcher, it was an HBO show a 
couple years ago. 

1025
01:05:51,600 --> 01:05:56,300
Only got one season it was based
off of a book Kathryn Hahn from 

1026
01:05:56,400 --> 01:05:59,100
gosh, One Division. 
Yes. 

1027
01:05:59,100 --> 01:06:05,000
Recently Catherine Hein lazy 
Fletcher who's a divorcee of one

1028
01:06:05,000 --> 01:06:07,000
son? 
Brandon, who is going off to 

1029
01:06:07,000 --> 01:06:09,600
college? 
And it's been 20 years since Eve

1030
01:06:09,600 --> 01:06:12,900
has actually had sex. 
And so with the departure of 

1031
01:06:12,900 --> 01:06:17,400
hers, her only Ian going off to 
college who himself is going 

1032
01:06:17,400 --> 01:06:21,900
through a weird, sexual journey.
I vaguely again, it's been years

1033
01:06:21,900 --> 01:06:24,200
since I actually been shot on 
the show but after revisiting 

1034
01:06:24,200 --> 01:06:26,700
articles I remember bits and 
pieces. 

1035
01:06:26,700 --> 01:06:31,900
Brendan was the type of guy that
we get warned about going into 

1036
01:06:31,900 --> 01:06:35,300
college that I get don't take 
lessons from porn. 

1037
01:06:35,400 --> 01:06:39,000
Not every girl that you bed 
wants to be choked wants to be 

1038
01:06:39,000 --> 01:06:42,000
called a bitch once be called a 
slut a whore at this side. 

1039
01:06:42,000 --> 01:06:46,200
And third in fact, to a point 
where We're Kathryn Hahn, Eve, 

1040
01:06:46,200 --> 01:06:51,600
walks in on her sign. 
Like, getting fellatio from a 

1041
01:06:51,600 --> 01:06:58,700
very crazy Jake and here's like 
what he's saying and takes that 

1042
01:06:58,700 --> 01:07:02,500
back to going into her own 
journey of masturbation. 

1043
01:07:02,500 --> 01:07:06,400
Through the raunchiest porn. 
As she's like, I can't do this, 

1044
01:07:07,300 --> 01:07:08,900
I can't do. 
This is not for me. 

1045
01:07:08,900 --> 01:07:12,400
Like, how do you do this? 
But then after she reads, like 

1046
01:07:12,400 --> 01:07:16,400
discovers porn, she goes To a I 
forgot the type of class. 

1047
01:07:16,400 --> 01:07:17,900
It was, I think it was a writing
class. 

1048
01:07:18,100 --> 01:07:21,600
Yes. 
It was writing class and she 

1049
01:07:21,600 --> 01:07:25,400
enrolls into like a personal 
essay course and she starts to 

1050
01:07:25,400 --> 01:07:30,100
be gained to like find herself 
through her writing but also 

1051
01:07:30,100 --> 01:07:33,500
through sexuality. 
And there's a very, very strong,

1052
01:07:33,500 --> 01:07:38,400
like porn pattern because again 
she sees the stuff that her son 

1053
01:07:38,400 --> 01:07:43,900
is into, she's also not ready to
say I'm old. 

1054
01:07:43,900 --> 01:07:46,900
I I want to have sex the way, my
son has sex. 

1055
01:07:47,200 --> 01:07:51,900
And so, she decides to have sex 
with anybody in anything that is

1056
01:07:51,900 --> 01:07:54,900
walking. 
In fact, she actually has a 

1057
01:07:54,900 --> 01:07:59,500
Enlightenment of a queer sex 
revision. 

1058
01:07:59,500 --> 01:08:03,700
Which was again, why it needed a
second season, because it ended 

1059
01:08:03,700 --> 01:08:08,300
on a cliffhanger of, did she, or
did she not do this 3 sway with 

1060
01:08:08,400 --> 01:08:12,400
her trans teacher? 
And this much younger, man, who 

1061
01:08:12,400 --> 01:08:16,000
happens to be Brendan. 
Old friend from high school. 

1062
01:08:16,200 --> 01:08:19,500
So she's in a full-blown 
relationship, sexual 

1063
01:08:19,500 --> 01:08:24,300
relationship with his sons, with
her son's friend. 

1064
01:08:24,600 --> 01:08:28,000
And he's like, I always thought 
you were hot, you know, that you

1065
01:08:28,000 --> 01:08:32,899
like you are just the definition
of what a hot, mom, wise, and I 

1066
01:08:32,899 --> 01:08:45,200
just was waiting when his mom 
About mrs. 

1067
01:08:45,200 --> 01:08:49,000
Fletcher, because again, it was 
a very short-lived series and it

1068
01:08:49,008 --> 01:08:51,700
still ended beautifully, but it 
could have deserved the second 

1069
01:08:51,700 --> 01:08:56,700
season because I really wanted 
to see the psyche of her getting

1070
01:08:56,700 --> 01:08:59,500
into her sexual for ground and 
which is a lot of things that we

1071
01:08:59,500 --> 01:09:03,899
have talked about of, you know, 
the lack of intimacy that we see

1072
01:09:03,899 --> 01:09:05,600
in films surrounding older 
adults. 

1073
01:09:05,800 --> 01:09:09,500
We need to get out of our heads,
that the only tits and ass and 

1074
01:09:09,500 --> 01:09:13,000
dick that we ever need to see is
a hot man from Bridget in Sex in

1075
01:09:13,000 --> 01:09:16,300
the City and whatnot. 
Hey old, people need love too. 

1076
01:09:16,300 --> 01:09:19,600
That is what my 94 year old 
grandmother, whatever. 

1077
01:09:19,600 --> 01:09:21,500
Tell you old people need love 
too. 

1078
01:09:21,500 --> 01:09:23,800
It might 94. 
Grandmother tells me? 

1079
01:09:23,800 --> 01:09:28,399
She masturbates heaven forbid. 
Listen, go, ahead Nana, go 

1080
01:09:28,399 --> 01:09:33,600
ahead, get you. 
So but you need again to go back

1081
01:09:33,600 --> 01:09:38,000
to that article like our pop 
culture does not reflect the 

1082
01:09:38,000 --> 01:09:44,800
reality, know what we are again 
because the demographic With the

1083
01:09:45,100 --> 01:09:50,399
highest Rising STI. 
Rates are senior citizen, it's 

1084
01:09:50,399 --> 01:09:54,100
that bleeding edge of the 
Boomers who are now in the 

1085
01:09:54,100 --> 01:09:59,500
retirement communities and they 
are fucking in gonorrhea and 

1086
01:09:59,500 --> 01:10:01,900
syphilis. 
Those are what's going down at 

1087
01:10:01,900 --> 01:10:05,100
Grandma and Grandpa's side of 
town. 

1088
01:10:05,100 --> 01:10:08,700
Yeah, yeah, yeah. 
There's a lot of exploration 

1089
01:10:08,700 --> 01:10:11,200
going on. 
I'm like, I think, you know, if 

1090
01:10:11,200 --> 01:10:14,100
I go into sex education, mama's 
going to be going into the sea. 

1091
01:10:14,200 --> 01:10:17,300
Citizen and going to be like 
this is how to put a condom on a

1092
01:10:17,300 --> 01:10:20,700
day for real. 
So you need to when you're 

1093
01:10:20,700 --> 01:10:23,300
getting your meds, and when 
you're going to your doctor's, 

1094
01:10:23,300 --> 01:10:25,800
please ask them for an STI 
tests. 

1095
01:10:26,000 --> 01:10:27,400
You know what? 
I might have to change the 

1096
01:10:27,400 --> 01:10:29,700
episode named all people need. 
Love to fuck it. 

1097
01:10:29,700 --> 01:10:31,500
That's going to be the title. 
I think. 

1098
01:10:32,300 --> 01:10:37,000
No, no, no, no spice spice makes
its way more sexier. 

1099
01:10:37,200 --> 01:10:41,100
But seriously, we just have to 
get rid of this mindset. 

1100
01:10:41,100 --> 01:10:44,300
That when you go to swinger 
parties, the reality is As 

1101
01:10:44,300 --> 01:10:48,000
you're going to see all types of
bodies, honey, I am the youngest

1102
01:10:48,000 --> 01:10:50,200
thing on the menu, but I'm not 
on the menu. 

1103
01:10:50,500 --> 01:10:52,100
I was at a swinger birthday 
party. 

1104
01:10:52,100 --> 01:10:57,000
Last are two weekends ago. 
I got in the pool naked and I 

1105
01:10:57,000 --> 01:11:03,400
saw all the old people drooling.
They're like it is cold woman 

1106
01:11:04,200 --> 01:11:06,000
and you don't care. 
We don't care. 

1107
01:11:06,000 --> 01:11:10,600
We just love seeing this 
beautiful body, just going to be

1108
01:11:10,600 --> 01:11:16,100
young, you know? 
And I you talk to me that at the

1109
01:11:16,100 --> 01:11:18,500
beginning of the episode about, 
do I date your rent? 

1110
01:11:18,500 --> 01:11:22,200
And I do I, or a, I do see and 
fucking young women. 

1111
01:11:22,200 --> 01:11:28,400
I also see in fuck older man. 
So I you know I am not 

1112
01:11:28,400 --> 01:11:31,100
race-specific. 
I am not age-specific. 

1113
01:11:31,100 --> 01:11:35,300
I think I have a window and if 
you are attractive and if I am 

1114
01:11:35,300 --> 01:11:39,700
attracted to your energy and you
are within that window, I game 

1115
01:11:39,700 --> 01:11:43,600
on motherfucker, it is. 
That's more of how I am. 

1116
01:11:44,600 --> 01:11:51,000
So like one of my long term, 
play Partners is older, he's 

1117
01:11:51,000 --> 01:11:53,600
great. 
I there's a reason he's on a 

1118
01:11:53,608 --> 01:11:57,600
long-term play partner and you 
know it's one of those people 

1119
01:11:57,600 --> 01:12:00,200
are like oh younger. 
Men have stamina. 

1120
01:12:00,200 --> 01:12:04,500
I'm like yeah. 
At my God and I love that. 

1121
01:12:04,500 --> 01:12:06,700
I love that. 
So again we just have to 

1122
01:12:06,700 --> 01:12:09,800
reconsider and be a little bit 
more empathetic. 

1123
01:12:09,800 --> 01:12:14,600
The next time that I you know, 
an older individual me approach,

1124
01:12:14,600 --> 01:12:18,700
you give them a time, you never 
know what you're gonna find. 

1125
01:12:18,700 --> 01:12:21,200
Fuck around and find out honey, 
because you just never know, 

1126
01:12:21,200 --> 01:12:25,400
right? 
You just never fucking man, mr. 

1127
01:12:25,400 --> 01:12:27,700
Some kind of on it to guess what
kind of money. 

1128
01:12:28,400 --> 01:12:31,600
Please get yourself checked. 
Make sure that the To date with 

1129
01:12:31,600 --> 01:12:34,200
their test and then, you know, 
fuck around and find out. 

1130
01:12:34,200 --> 01:12:39,500
There you go mistress K. 
Where can the people find you? 

1131
01:12:41,000 --> 01:12:45,500
On my blog headstrong 
hotwife.com and maybe this would

1132
01:12:45,508 --> 01:12:48,300
be the kick my ass. 
I need to post something new, 

1133
01:12:49,200 --> 01:12:52,700
you can find me on Twitter, 
headstrong HW, I would say 

1134
01:12:52,700 --> 01:12:54,500
Instagram, but they fucked me 
over. 

1135
01:12:54,500 --> 01:12:59,700
So I've got to get a new one on 
that and I'm on the mo nap, so I

1136
01:12:59,700 --> 01:13:03,300
do talks on that app. 
So you can find me there, got 

1137
01:13:03,300 --> 01:13:07,000
anything coming up that the 
people should know about Nope. 

1138
01:13:08,500 --> 01:13:12,800
Well, go and support, headstrong
housewife.com please. 

1139
01:13:17,600 --> 01:13:21,900
So I do have, I do a monthly. 
I do have something coming up on

1140
01:13:21,900 --> 01:13:24,200
Mon. 
I need to schedule it, so I'll 

1141
01:13:24,200 --> 01:13:26,700
get off the phone with you and 
do go schedule it. 

1142
01:13:26,900 --> 01:13:30,800
But I every month I do a moan 
mixer because I'm one of those 

1143
01:13:30,800 --> 01:13:35,700
OG monsters. 
And so I kind of do a little 

1144
01:13:35,700 --> 01:13:37,400
intro. 
Grow into what the app is a 

1145
01:13:37,407 --> 01:13:41,800
little Q&A for anybody who's new
to the app and then we have we 

1146
01:13:41,800 --> 01:13:46,100
turn the recording off when we 
play fun, six games and it's all

1147
01:13:46,100 --> 01:13:48,200
audio based and it's all very 
nice. 

1148
01:13:48,200 --> 01:13:52,400
You your any amount of 
experience is welcome because I 

1149
01:13:52,400 --> 01:13:55,600
will always have a vanilla 
option for my sexy questions you

1150
01:13:55,600 --> 01:13:59,600
can go for sex so you can go for
vanilla so I usually give a but 

1151
01:13:59,600 --> 01:14:02,200
it's a question answer game and 
it's a lot of fun. 

1152
01:14:02,200 --> 01:14:05,800
It's a lot of way to get to know
the people that are on the app 

1153
01:14:05,800 --> 01:14:10,200
and it Especially if you're new,
it's designed for new people to 

1154
01:14:10,200 --> 01:14:13,300
join the app and find out what 
it's all about, and it's so much

1155
01:14:13,300 --> 01:14:15,000
fun. 
Come on the space, y'all. 

1156
01:14:15,300 --> 01:14:17,900
And of course, you can find me 
at Miz radio, Sapphire, that's 

1157
01:14:17,900 --> 01:14:22,200
MSR 80 iOS AP Phi re on 
Instagram at Miz radio, 

1158
01:14:22,200 --> 01:14:26,500
Sapphire.com sapphires are play 
which is virtually anywhere like

1159
01:14:26,500 --> 01:14:30,200
it, love it, share it, start 
writing some fucking reviews. 

1160
01:14:30,500 --> 01:14:33,400
Give me that five-star. 
Give me the four star but just 

1161
01:14:33,400 --> 01:14:38,000
don't go any below the max. 
Yes, show me some love on the 

1162
01:14:38,000 --> 01:14:41,900
iTunes, in the Spotify where you
can, this is how you guys keep 

1163
01:14:41,900 --> 01:14:44,200
me going. 
And I am taking a break from the

1164
01:14:44,200 --> 01:14:48,400
Mona probably until at least the
summer, we'll see what happens. 

1165
01:14:48,600 --> 01:14:51,600
But I am on the phone app at Miz
radio Sapphire. 

1166
01:14:51,600 --> 01:14:53,300
So please show some love and 
follow. 

1167
01:14:53,700 --> 01:14:56,300
But please come through to 
mistress case room. 

1168
01:14:56,300 --> 01:14:59,500
This is why I get along with her
and as many times as I have 

1169
01:14:59,500 --> 01:15:03,000
fucked up, this damn name of the
website. 

1170
01:15:03,200 --> 01:15:05,500
I'm already. 
Like, I know, I'm got to punish 

1171
01:15:05,500 --> 01:15:08,300
me a good Punishment in my head.
It's great. 

1172
01:15:08,700 --> 01:15:11,300
But this is my angel you. 
So thank you so much. 

1173
01:15:11,300 --> 01:15:14,900
Mrs. K for joining us today. 
Absolutely. 

1174
01:15:15,000 --> 01:15:17,800
It's always amazing to have you.
Remember y'all that safe? 

1175
01:15:17,800 --> 01:15:21,600
Sex is the best. 
Hot sex till next time. 

1176
01:15:22,100 --> 01:15:26,600
Good night. 
That was the show, all you sexy 

1177
01:15:26,600 --> 01:15:29,200
motherfuckers out there. 
Remember to follow at Miz radio,

1178
01:15:29,200 --> 01:15:32,700
Sapphire and sapphires are play 
on Instagram one, some eargasm 

1179
01:15:32,700 --> 01:15:35,000
of the past and future. 
Make sure to follow on Apple 

1180
01:15:35,000 --> 01:15:38,900
podcasts, anchor Spotify iHeart 
radio and all streaming 

1181
01:15:38,900 --> 01:15:26,600
platforms. 
That was the show, all you sexy 

1182
01:15:26,600 --> 01:15:29,200
motherfuckers out there. 
Remember to follow at Miz radio,

1183
01:15:29,200 --> 01:15:32,700
Sapphire and sapphires are play 
on Instagram one, some eargasm 

1184
01:15:32,700 --> 01:15:35,000
of the past and future. 
Make sure to follow on Apple 

1185
01:15:35,000 --> 01:15:38,900
podcasts, anchor Spotify iHeart 
radio and all streaming 

1186
01:15:38,900 --> 01:15:39,900
platforms.