1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:03,600 Warning, the following program is not for the weak hearted, 2 00:00:04,320 --> 00:00:07,800 those who are close minded or in general you're scared to learn 3 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:10,720 what's behind closed doors. Here at Sapphires Airplay. 4 00:00:10,720 --> 00:00:13,840 I want you to pour the wine, grab somebody that you want to 5 00:00:13,840 --> 00:00:17,880 hold on to, or better yet, get the vibration stimulated through 6 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:19,960 your body. Get ready for one hell of an 7 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:28,360 orgasm in 54321. What is up on my sexy 8 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:29,840 motherfuckers out there in Radioland? 9 00:00:29,840 --> 00:00:33,160 It's your girl Sapphire, back at it again just in time for 10 00:00:33,160 --> 00:00:35,560 Valentine's Day. You know it's the annual Fuck 11 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:39,320 Your Valentine's Day special and I am so excited for this one 12 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:44,360 because I have the CEO of Desert Harvest, Heather Florio in the 13 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:46,680 house. For past 30 years, her company 14 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:50,560 has pioneered research back sexual Wellness products from pH 15 00:00:50,560 --> 00:00:55,080 Balance, aloe lubricants, skin repair creams and pelvic therapy 16 00:00:55,080 --> 00:00:58,400 wands. Y'all, this is, it's the episode 17 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:02,120 for you, especially if you're wondering why does it hurt so 18 00:01:02,120 --> 00:01:04,920 damn much during sites. If I didn't ask for the pain and 19 00:01:04,920 --> 00:01:07,840 pleasure mix. Well, Heather Florio is here to 20 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:09,800 help. Let's bring him the Roddy Froude 21 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:12,200 Boys of Sapphires Airplay to bring you all in. 22 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:18,920 Thank you so much, Heather, for your time being here. 23 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:25,160 Thank you for having me. Yes, so I I mean when I saw this 24 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:30,120 pitch about painful sex and you out of all people, you know, 25 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:33,560 being a woman who's backed up desert harvest one, I love the 26 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:37,760 fact that it's a woman LED. It seems like a woman LED brand, 27 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:41,360 which is great. And I really love the fact that 28 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:45,400 it seems like you are just the go to woman when to talk about 29 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:50,040 vaginousness and all the other possible ways why sex can be so, 30 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:53,080 so painful for women. In fact, when I was doing my own 31 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:56,560 research, I was like, huh, Come to think of it, I've definitely 32 00:01:56,560 --> 00:01:58,680 had some moments where sex has been painful. 33 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:02,160 But of course, you know, with a little bit of Lube, a little bit 34 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:04,840 more relaxation, that has always helped. 35 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:07,640 But that's not always the case for every woman. 36 00:02:07,640 --> 00:02:10,560 And I know we're going to probably get into it, So what 37 00:02:10,560 --> 00:02:13,080 better wait? What are some of the main causes 38 00:02:13,480 --> 00:02:17,200 of why sex can be so damn painful, especially for us 39 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:21,160 ladies? Well, there's so many different 40 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:25,200 reasons why sex can be painful. It can be that you don't fit 41 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:28,640 together, It can be that there you have pelvic floor 42 00:02:28,640 --> 00:02:30,760 dysfunction. There are so many other 43 00:02:30,760 --> 00:02:32,720 conditions. You mentioned vaginous, 44 00:02:33,120 --> 00:02:42,240 ulvidinia, vestibulidinia. There are veronic in which you 45 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:46,160 might experience oral sex. You can be due to trauma. 46 00:02:46,680 --> 00:02:49,040 These can be due to your pelvic floor itself. 47 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:52,360 These can be due to trauma somewhere else in your body. 48 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:58,240 There are so many different reasons why we can experience 49 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:03,080 pain with sex, but what we should realize is pain with sex 50 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:06,040 is not normal. Not need to trudge through it. 51 00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:09,800 You don't need to. We need to use our voice and we 52 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:14,240 need to communicate and when things are uncomfortable. 53 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:17,960 Absolutely. I think that's the most, I mean, 54 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:21,160 that is one of our themes here on Sapphire's earplate is 55 00:03:21,160 --> 00:03:23,880 communication. And I always try to tell people 56 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:28,280 that, you know, sometimes it's the conversations that hurt the 57 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:31,160 most that we have to have in relationships in order to go 58 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:34,200 forward. Especially, like you said, how 59 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:38,120 do you even tell your partner like, hey, it's not technically 60 00:03:38,400 --> 00:03:42,760 you, It's me. I'm the problem, unfortunately. 61 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:46,920 And they're probably women right now who are listening, who 62 00:03:46,920 --> 00:03:48,680 probably have gone through this whole thing. 63 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:52,200 Like, you know, come to think of it, yeah, sex is a little bit 64 00:03:52,200 --> 00:03:54,600 painful. Even just to stick a finger in 65 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:56,960 or, you know, tampons. It hurts. 66 00:03:57,280 --> 00:04:01,200 But I don't know why. And so I really want women, 67 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:05,800 especially just all vulva owners to really take this, you know, 68 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:10,000 episode to heart and know that it's not a you thing. 69 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:13,240 It is a thing there. I mean, hell, there are like 70 00:04:13,240 --> 00:04:18,279 14-15 different reasons why your vagina could possibly be 71 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:19,920 hurting. I mean, even from the most 72 00:04:19,920 --> 00:04:23,200 common things, St. DS can make, you know, sex 73 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:27,040 extremely painful. I just had probably one of the 74 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:33,080 worst herpes outbreaks since my diagnosis 6 years ago. 2020 was 75 00:04:33,080 --> 00:04:39,160 my first herpes outbreak, genital herpes and I I was I was 76 00:04:39,440 --> 00:04:41,920 good. I mean, not to say that my 77 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:44,760 stress levels haven't been through the roof, but for six 78 00:04:44,760 --> 00:04:48,200 years I was able to kind of maintain it until recently. 79 00:04:48,600 --> 00:04:56,000 And it was to the point where my left leg just nerve pain 80 00:04:56,000 --> 00:04:59,520 endings, my clitoris, you know, here we go. 81 00:04:59,520 --> 00:05:01,440 This is sapphires your place. So it's going to get graphic, 82 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:05,800 y'all, but it looked like somebody cut a chunk of my clip 83 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:11,920 and left the rest on one side and the sores on the left and it 84 00:05:11,920 --> 00:05:15,400 was just, it's it was painful to walk, it was painful to just 85 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:18,360 cross my legs, sit down and watch a movie. 86 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:21,760 It was just too painful. And yet. 87 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:24,120 And that that's doesn't stress response. 88 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:27,080 Mm hmm. Mm, hmm. 89 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:30,280 It's crazy. It is crazy how everything can. 90 00:05:30,280 --> 00:05:34,920 Just be connected of the conditions are stress response 91 00:05:35,160 --> 00:05:39,720 when you talk about Volvadenia unspecified, you know, ovular 92 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:44,760 vaginal pain like you know you're you're dealing with 93 00:05:44,760 --> 00:05:48,880 unspecified pain and a lot of cases can be related to a stress 94 00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:53,600 response in your your exogenousness and put in a 95 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:58,320 tampon press response when you have a herpes outbreak and 96 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:01,240 you've already had herpes, you've already been exposed to 97 00:06:01,240 --> 00:06:03,520 the infection. And then down the road you get a 98 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:06,240 flare up like that press response. 99 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:11,040 Stress is such a big piece of this and it goes back to the 100 00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:17,400 ideas of Tantra on the Tantra response and and utilizing 101 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:23,040 mantra related practices to be able to calm both your autatomic 102 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:26,280 nervous system. It is up regulated because of 103 00:06:26,280 --> 00:06:27,360 the stress. Response. 104 00:06:27,760 --> 00:06:32,560 But then also your pelvic floor that is probably like this, you 105 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:38,200 know, I'm not in a dish rag. So, you know, turn so tight that 106 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:41,480 that can be your pelvic floor. And that's called hyperbicity. 107 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:46,360 And when that happens, you know, everybody thinks, oh, my pelvic 108 00:06:46,360 --> 00:06:48,880 floor is in pain, I need to go start my Kegel. 109 00:06:49,560 --> 00:06:51,200 Don't do that. Really. 110 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:57,680 Oh yes, so when you are hyper, you have hydroponic pelvic floor 111 00:06:58,040 --> 00:07:01,640 and you start doing Kegel exercises, you are making it 112 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:06,240 worse. OK, that's the thing they don't 113 00:07:06,240 --> 00:07:08,880 talk about. Let's let's get into that, 114 00:07:08,880 --> 00:07:12,520 please. Yes, because everybody, you 115 00:07:12,520 --> 00:07:15,800 know, you have this idea that I just need to do my kegels and 116 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:18,360 I'm going to be good. And that's not the case. 117 00:07:18,480 --> 00:07:23,880 You have to learn how to relax your food floor and bring it 118 00:07:23,880 --> 00:07:27,720 down into relaxed state. And then once you've got it in a 119 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:31,760 relaxed state, you've got to build it back up. 120 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:35,560 So one of the best ways to do that is you get with a pelvic 121 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:38,440 floor physical therapist. You don't have to stay with them 122 00:07:38,440 --> 00:07:42,960 long term, but you can learn your own musculature. 123 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:47,680 You can learn what it feels like and feel yourself and you can 124 00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:52,400 feel when your muscles are tense and then you can feel when 125 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:55,480 they're relax. When then you know then when not 126 00:07:55,480 --> 00:07:59,680 relax, then you can hit your cheek exercises and start 127 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:04,040 strengthening your public floor because this is your hammock, 128 00:08:04,280 --> 00:08:06,600 ladies. Like this is this is holding 129 00:08:06,600 --> 00:08:09,560 your bladder, your uterus, all of your organs. 130 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:14,640 Here it is, your hammock holding everything in and you need to 131 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:18,280 make sure that hammock is strong, especially before you're 132 00:08:18,280 --> 00:08:21,840 engaging in and, and I mean technically, sex itself is a 133 00:08:21,840 --> 00:08:24,760 problem for exercise when we're orgasming. 134 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:27,880 Think about it, you're tightening up and then you're 135 00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:31,680 relaxing down. Exactly. 136 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:34,880 Oh gosh, ladies, are y'all listening? 137 00:08:34,919 --> 00:08:38,000 Fellas, are you listening? I'm so glad because again, 138 00:08:38,200 --> 00:08:40,840 everybody talks about kegels, but we don't talk about the 139 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:44,240 pelvic floor exercise. Or they try to say, oh, doing 140 00:08:44,240 --> 00:08:47,960 your kegels coincides with pelvic floor exercise. 141 00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:50,040 I'm like, no, that doesn't make sense. 142 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:56,040 Pelvis, vagina, vagina muscles, the pelvic muscles. 143 00:08:56,320 --> 00:08:58,880 So yeah, I might be having the great. 144 00:08:58,880 --> 00:09:03,120 I, I, I know that my pelvic floor muscles can sometimes be 145 00:09:03,120 --> 00:09:05,720 weakened and that's because I'm a couch potato. 146 00:09:06,400 --> 00:09:09,040 I'm a couch potato and I need to stop doing that. 147 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:12,520 I need to start getting up more and walk and like getting up and 148 00:09:12,520 --> 00:09:15,120 walking. So for somebody, you know, like 149 00:09:15,120 --> 00:09:19,560 myself, who may have more time on their hands, what are the 150 00:09:19,560 --> 00:09:22,040 best ways, you know, in affordable ways, especially 151 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:26,800 because everything costs money. Now, how can we, you know, cheat 152 00:09:26,800 --> 00:09:30,520 the system but also take care of our our bodies the cheap way? 153 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:35,640 Not yet. So one of the best things you 154 00:09:35,640 --> 00:09:40,560 can do is is there are easy things that you can do at home 155 00:09:40,640 --> 00:09:42,680 and then there there's more technical things. 156 00:09:42,920 --> 00:09:47,840 OK, so one of the best things that you could do with yourself 157 00:09:48,240 --> 00:09:55,120 or with a partner, with or without penetrative sex is go 158 00:09:55,120 --> 00:09:58,880 into your your area, whatever that might be, the area that 159 00:09:58,880 --> 00:10:01,320 relaxes you, your bedroom, whatever. 160 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:06,120 Like that mood experience all the senses, whether it's touch 161 00:10:06,120 --> 00:10:10,160 and you have to spell sheets, you've got put on mute mood 162 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:15,400 music that makes you feel good. And then maybe also, you know, 163 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:19,560 initiate and put some candles for said, you know, things that 164 00:10:19,560 --> 00:10:23,960 ignite your senses and then lay down on your bed. 165 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:27,000 And if you're doing this, partner, you both lay down on 166 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:32,400 the bed by face, side by side. You do not touch completely 167 00:10:32,400 --> 00:10:34,080 naked. All right. 168 00:10:34,560 --> 00:10:40,000 And then you, you at a timer, look down your cell phone for 20 169 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:43,720 minutes. And then what you do is you 170 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:48,680 begin touching yourself. Touch yourself in your breast, 171 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:51,160 touch your stomach, touch your thighs. 172 00:10:51,720 --> 00:10:55,840 Learn all of the different parts of your body really and gay 173 00:10:56,000 --> 00:11:01,880 which little good to you. close your eyes and and pull that 174 00:11:01,920 --> 00:11:04,960 area. You can literally grab the top 175 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:09,760 of your mom's pubis, the top part of of that volvular area, 176 00:11:10,240 --> 00:11:14,920 and we can literally grab it, hold it, see it sensations, grab 177 00:11:14,920 --> 00:11:20,360 the sides, your labia, you know, and and your your majora and 178 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:22,960 your minora. You can grab both Hold on to it, 179 00:11:22,960 --> 00:11:25,560 feel it, touch it. You don't need to go for your 180 00:11:25,560 --> 00:11:28,520 clitoris right now. You don't need to go for your, 181 00:11:29,280 --> 00:11:32,280 your, you know that vagina. You don't need to insert 182 00:11:32,280 --> 00:11:35,640 anything in there. Just feel yourself and then 183 00:11:36,120 --> 00:11:41,640 slowly begin to build up by touching your clitoris either 184 00:11:41,640 --> 00:11:46,760 with your fingers or with something like a bullet and and 185 00:11:47,040 --> 00:11:53,840 create that sensation going to build yourself up and then stop 186 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:58,960 and go back to feeling your body, feeling other part. 187 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:04,400 And then so you want to bring yourself up and then you want to 188 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:06,560 back off and then start feeling your body. 189 00:12:06,560 --> 00:12:08,680 You continually do this back and forth. 190 00:12:08,920 --> 00:12:10,880 Don't get yourself to orgasm level. 191 00:12:11,400 --> 00:12:13,960 You start to feel that. And one of the things that you 192 00:12:13,960 --> 00:12:17,880 can do when you start to get to that level, back off and you do 193 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:23,120 something called Ocean brief. So this is a a practice in which 194 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:31,480 you can literally like release your entire body, do that over 195 00:12:31,480 --> 00:12:33,760 and over again. Like that, right? 196 00:12:33,920 --> 00:12:39,000 Yes, that deep diaphragmatic breathing and then release it. 197 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:43,640 That deep, deep breathing, bring all the air down and then just 198 00:12:43,760 --> 00:12:48,640 release it and that will calm down that that that autotomic 199 00:12:48,640 --> 00:12:52,040 nervous. Just keep doing that. 200 00:12:52,200 --> 00:12:56,640 Hide yourself that build yourself back up ocean, breathe 201 00:12:56,640 --> 00:13:00,840 back down and and keep doing this for 20 minutes. 202 00:13:00,840 --> 00:13:07,360 And then once that timer goes off, then whether it's with 203 00:13:07,360 --> 00:13:12,120 yourself and that bullet, whether you feel that you can 204 00:13:12,120 --> 00:13:16,320 have penetrated sex and feel comfortable at that part, maybe 205 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:20,320 you and your partner finish each other off, but not with 206 00:13:20,320 --> 00:13:23,040 penetrated sex. You know, there's all different 207 00:13:23,040 --> 00:13:27,840 ways you can do this, but this is an easy way in which one, 208 00:13:27,840 --> 00:13:32,080 you're engaging with your own body 1st and then you can engage 209 00:13:32,080 --> 00:13:35,440 with another body or you can just finish and engage with 210 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:37,720 yourself. But at the same time, when 211 00:13:37,720 --> 00:13:42,160 you're finishing, you're going up tightening and responding and 212 00:13:42,160 --> 00:13:45,640 calming down. And and so you're, you're 213 00:13:45,720 --> 00:13:50,360 creating a relaxing response for your body that might allow 214 00:13:50,360 --> 00:13:54,720 penetration at that point or might lead to other ways in 215 00:13:54,720 --> 00:14:01,120 which you can you can fish. I like that because you're not 216 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:05,680 only just giving another way for couples or just, you know, 217 00:14:05,680 --> 00:14:08,280 individuals to enjoy self pleasure. 218 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:11,480 Something that especially as a black woman, here it is Black 219 00:14:11,480 --> 00:14:12,800 History Month. Let's get into it. 220 00:14:13,240 --> 00:14:16,320 Black women a lot of times feel a lot of shame touching 221 00:14:16,320 --> 00:14:20,800 themselves or you know, having the need to have a partner 222 00:14:20,800 --> 00:14:23,840 finish them off. Nothing irks me more than 223 00:14:23,840 --> 00:14:27,640 talking to my girls and they're like, I don't understand the 224 00:14:27,640 --> 00:14:30,280 point of masturbation if it's just myself. 225 00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:33,520 And I'm like, what do you mean? Like it's the whole get in there 226 00:14:33,520 --> 00:14:35,600 and then it's like what? I'm done. 227 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:37,680 I'm like, I'm good. Yes. 228 00:14:38,040 --> 00:14:41,000 Don't you feel good? Relaxed, You know, you feel like 229 00:14:41,000 --> 00:14:43,600 you can conquer the world. You don't have to kick somebody 230 00:14:43,600 --> 00:14:45,440 out of your bed. You just got to toss the 231 00:14:45,440 --> 00:14:48,760 batteries that the batteries are dead, you know, clean it up. 232 00:14:48,760 --> 00:14:52,440 I'm like, what do you mean? And you know, there's this whole 233 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:55,680 taboo of like, in order to have sex, I got to have someone 234 00:14:55,680 --> 00:14:58,960 finish me off. And it's like sometimes the 235 00:14:58,960 --> 00:15:02,560 finishing is not as satisfying as the build up. 236 00:15:02,560 --> 00:15:06,320 Sometimes I like to say even with penetrative sex we 237 00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:07,960 shouldn't. But we focus so much on the 238 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:13,000 coming and then the actual, like being together, sometimes even 239 00:15:13,000 --> 00:15:16,520 like edging each other off, you know, start it a little playful, 240 00:15:16,520 --> 00:15:20,280 have a nice session, then go finish each other off later on 241 00:15:20,280 --> 00:15:22,880 in the day, building that tension up and keeping that 242 00:15:22,880 --> 00:15:25,720 tension throughout the day until you're ready to release. 243 00:15:25,720 --> 00:15:27,880 I love that. The fact that you even brought 244 00:15:27,880 --> 00:15:30,480 up Tantra. I love Tantra sex. 245 00:15:30,520 --> 00:15:34,240 I want to get back into Tantra sex now that I'm in this new 246 00:15:34,640 --> 00:15:38,360 like newlywed trying to have babies kind of thing. 247 00:15:38,360 --> 00:15:41,960 I'm like, I kind of want to revisit, you know, touching and 248 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:45,960 the sensation of non penetrative sex and getting to the finish 249 00:15:45,960 --> 00:15:48,120 line. I want that that tension. 250 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:49,760 So I really love that you brought that up. 251 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:55,360 Now, do you deal with black clients often who come to you 252 00:15:55,760 --> 00:15:59,600 with any of these problems? And if so, you know, let's talk 253 00:15:59,600 --> 00:16:02,600 about it. Yeah, definitely. 254 00:16:02,600 --> 00:16:07,280 Especially for black women historically and in society, in 255 00:16:07,360 --> 00:16:11,720 in the American Society, they've been hypersexualized from beyond 256 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:17,000 that, that that we are very sexual beings, that black women 257 00:16:17,200 --> 00:16:19,720 just love to have sex. They're hypersexual. 258 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:25,040 That's not the case. And and so we have to in in 259 00:16:25,160 --> 00:16:29,760 society, even today and in mass culture, sell shows very 260 00:16:29,760 --> 00:16:35,120 hypersexualized black women. And as a result, it needs 261 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:38,440 especially, I feel like black women and historically and 262 00:16:38,440 --> 00:16:43,800 research data, it shows that more risky behaviors, less 263 00:16:43,800 --> 00:16:48,640 likely to speak up, less likely to engage with girls bodies 264 00:16:48,680 --> 00:16:52,240 feeling that they're but also at the same time feeling like you 265 00:16:52,240 --> 00:16:54,760 need to meet a need of someone else. 266 00:16:55,280 --> 00:17:00,120 That need is your own and you coming together with a partner, 267 00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:03,480 it's an experience that you can choose to have. 268 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:07,200 You have no requirements to everybody else, anybody else 269 00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:09,920 when it comes to sex. The only person you have a 270 00:17:09,920 --> 00:17:15,520 requirement to is yourself and that is the most important thing 271 00:17:15,520 --> 00:17:18,200 to remember. Like I will tell you if you can 272 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:23,000 do this 20 minute thing with a partner and you do choose to 273 00:17:23,000 --> 00:17:27,200 engage and and finish off with penetrative sex, it will be the 274 00:17:27,200 --> 00:17:30,200 most orgasmic experience you've might of your entire life. 275 00:17:30,520 --> 00:17:33,840 I will tell you that right now. But at the same time, an 276 00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:36,480 experience with yourself is called self-care. 277 00:17:37,200 --> 00:17:40,000 And and there's nothing wrong with self-care. 278 00:17:40,000 --> 00:17:43,600 We don't need to think about masturbation in terms of, yeah, 279 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:48,080 do I love to orgasm with my husband more than anything else? 280 00:17:48,200 --> 00:17:51,240 Yes. That is the experience that you 281 00:17:51,240 --> 00:17:53,840 know, when you talk about your friend being like, I don't need 282 00:17:53,840 --> 00:17:56,360 to masturbate, you know, I get all the sex I need. 283 00:17:56,920 --> 00:18:00,240 Well, that has nothing to do with the sex that we're getting 284 00:18:00,240 --> 00:18:03,800 with a partner. This masturbation is about 285 00:18:03,800 --> 00:18:08,080 self-care and understanding your body, engaging with your body 286 00:18:08,440 --> 00:18:12,360 and then and then coming together with a partner that you 287 00:18:12,600 --> 00:18:16,080 feel a level of the comfort and trust. 288 00:18:16,080 --> 00:18:20,640 We've all though have a one in hand and 1:00, but that doesn't 289 00:18:20,640 --> 00:18:25,200 have anything new with when you choose to engage with a partner 290 00:18:25,200 --> 00:18:31,920 and maybe have a higher level and that is what turbines that 291 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:36,480 is what even things like there's Ishta yoga. 292 00:18:37,360 --> 00:18:41,160 You've got a thing Tantra, yes. So Tantra is yoga. 293 00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:45,720 And so we're going into breath work, we're going into 294 00:18:45,720 --> 00:18:49,680 exercises, we're going into the one we think of Tantra. 295 00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:56,560 Ishta Yoga incorporates Hoffa and Tantra and it's a very 296 00:18:56,560 --> 00:18:58,720 relaxing, it's not like legs curling. 297 00:18:58,720 --> 00:19:03,400 It's a hot groom and hot yoga and try to be the best and push 298 00:19:03,400 --> 00:19:09,000 ourselves as far as we can. Ishta yoga is about a slow 299 00:19:09,040 --> 00:19:14,520 engagement with your own body and it experiences tantric 300 00:19:14,520 --> 00:19:18,760 practices at the same time. So you can do the things where 301 00:19:18,760 --> 00:19:22,720 you're running the line by chakra through meditation. 302 00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:26,960 And at the same time you're what you're doing is you're engaging 303 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:31,680 the vagus nerve in your body that runs up and down to your 304 00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:35,880 roots to your vagina. So you're, you're connected, 305 00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:40,360 connecting from here to down. And, and so when you think about 306 00:19:40,360 --> 00:19:44,560 engaging with your chakras, you're engaging with your vagus 307 00:19:44,560 --> 00:19:48,320 nerve, you're engaging with your body, you're calming that that 308 00:19:48,320 --> 00:19:52,760 atomic nervous response system so that when you do get to that 309 00:19:52,800 --> 00:19:55,880 orgasm, it's going to be explosive. 310 00:19:57,520 --> 00:20:02,080 I'm, I'm about to add that to my list, like Tantra Ishta, that's 311 00:20:02,080 --> 00:20:02,960 it. We're going to do it. 312 00:20:02,960 --> 00:20:06,200 Like boom, boom. My husband and I, he's like, we 313 00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:08,400 got to start getting fit. If we're going to have babies, 314 00:20:08,400 --> 00:20:10,960 we got to start getting fit. My thing is I need to get off 315 00:20:10,960 --> 00:20:13,400 the damn couch now. I need to get some Ishta yoga in 316 00:20:13,400 --> 00:20:16,160 my, in my life. Like I'm about to YouTube that 317 00:20:16,160 --> 00:20:19,320 and see who's got who's got the best tutorials on there. 318 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:26,200 So Alan Finger and Sarah Finger are the founders of Ishta Yoga 319 00:20:26,200 --> 00:20:31,120 versus 50 something years ago. Sarah Finger has videos on 320 00:20:31,120 --> 00:20:36,000 YouTube 30-40 minutes do it at home. 321 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:38,080 You don't even have to go to a class. 322 00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:43,600 She has online further online content that can be utilized. 323 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:48,040 So there there are in her base at New York, Florida. 324 00:20:48,040 --> 00:20:52,080 So literally you can, you can, there are ish to classes within 325 00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:56,840 and you're in the New York City area, There's a whole studio 326 00:20:56,840 --> 00:21:00,200 within the city. But if not, you can engage 327 00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:05,360 online and have these experiences where you begin 328 00:21:05,360 --> 00:21:10,760 engaging with your body and slow movements that are, that are 329 00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:15,920 strengthening your body from head to toe and at the same time 330 00:21:16,200 --> 00:21:20,720 learning to calm that vagus nerve and that atomic nervous 331 00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:24,800 response. And the the the calmer you are 332 00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:28,600 here and the more in control you are here, the more in control 333 00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:31,400 you are down there. I am so glad that you brought 334 00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:35,960 that up because again, we talk about orgasms and the achieving, 335 00:21:37,360 --> 00:21:41,880 achieving that orgasm, but also, you know, being attracted to who 336 00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:46,480 the body is and all these things are mental and we never think 337 00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:51,160 about how mental sex can be. I always like to be, I'm a 338 00:21:51,160 --> 00:21:54,560 sapiosexual first and foremost. It's like got to penetrate my 339 00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:56,880 mind first, then penetrate my body. 340 00:21:57,440 --> 00:22:00,640 And it's very true. You got to put yourself in that 341 00:22:00,640 --> 00:22:05,120 mental state sometimes to even just be in the sexual, you know, 342 00:22:05,120 --> 00:22:07,760 aura of yourself. So I'm so glad that you're 343 00:22:07,760 --> 00:22:10,240 saying everything is connected because it is. 344 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:12,600 You know, earlier I was talking about my herpes. 345 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:15,760 It's like that stressor. Those things are on my mind. 346 00:22:16,080 --> 00:22:19,520 It's connected to the spine going down towards my genitalia. 347 00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:22,000 There we go. That's where that nerve center 348 00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:25,200 is starting to be broken. Something's broken down there. 349 00:22:25,360 --> 00:22:27,040 We're going to have a triggered response. 350 00:22:27,560 --> 00:22:31,040 You said, you know, with vaginismus, the tightening of 351 00:22:31,040 --> 00:22:34,920 those muscles, you know, the unable, you know, to even put 352 00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:37,960 the smallest thing. That's that mental block right 353 00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:40,800 there. That's that physical block, you 354 00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:45,680 know, even when we talk about ovarian cysts and fibroids, I 355 00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:50,800 didn't realize how much fibroids and the the cysts of the 356 00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:54,160 ovarian, ovarian cysts can be so painful. 357 00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:56,840 I've had ovarian cysts, but fibroids. 358 00:22:56,840 --> 00:23:00,720 I know that something as a black woman, I, I need to be more 359 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:03,640 intuitive because I know that we are some of the highest 360 00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:06,720 recipients for, you know, these fibroids. 361 00:23:07,120 --> 00:23:12,600 So with those how do we, I mean now we're getting more internal 362 00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:15,480 in. So what are some signs of relief 363 00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:17,120 for like, how do we, how do we deal? 364 00:23:17,120 --> 00:23:21,000 How do we maintain? And that becomes a little bit 365 00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:26,560 more difficult when you get into uterine fibroids, ovarian cysts, 366 00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:33,360 endometriosis, angiomyosis. Majority of the time you can 367 00:23:33,360 --> 00:23:39,680 have enjoyable sex and and even menopausal symptoms, which you 368 00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:43,440 know, black women and women of color are going to it's actually 369 00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:47,800 shown in clinical research they are going to experience more 370 00:23:47,800 --> 00:23:51,520 strength and earlier onset things like that. 371 00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:58,240 And so understand half your body and they might have times, 372 00:23:58,680 --> 00:24:01,000 especially around our menstrual cycle. 373 00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:04,440 We know that this is built around, you know, our hormones 374 00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:08,520 and around our menstrual cycle. There's probably a chance in 375 00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:12,120 hell you're going to want to have sex or even think about sex 376 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:14,840 or talk about sex. Are you, are you just like were 377 00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:19,120 you in my my diary this week? Because I am having literally 378 00:24:19,120 --> 00:24:22,520 the worst period right now. I am on like day three and I 379 00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:26,760 want to kill myself. It has been so bad and yet I was 380 00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:31,640 like ridiculously horny, you know, the two nights before had 381 00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:33,880 great sex afterwards. Now it's like I can't even I 382 00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:36,640 don't even want to think about penetration because it hurts so 383 00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:39,160 much. And now even that you said that 384 00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:42,000 I'm noticing putting tampons as of lately. 385 00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:45,080 I don't know what it is. Tampons are now hurting me a 386 00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:48,800 little bit more and it's not like as easy to push in. 387 00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:53,760 So I'm wondering do I, I do I have something maybe going on or 388 00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:56,920 is it just because with the period, does that happen like 389 00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:01,600 sometimes with flow, can that also 'cause that that blockage? 390 00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:05,920 Yes. So usually, you know, especially 391 00:25:05,920 --> 00:25:08,880 when you're experiencing A chronic pain state that is 392 00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:12,360 heightened as the result of menstruation, you're, you're, 393 00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:16,160 you know, you think about it when something feel doesn't feel 394 00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:19,640 good and you're just tight and that's happening to your pelvic 395 00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:22,920 floor at the same time. And this is just kind of the 396 00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:24,880 plan. One of those responses. 397 00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:29,400 It's really hard when you're in that moment and you're not being 398 00:25:30,120 --> 00:25:34,760 should do a lot to even feel comfortable, to be able to 399 00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:37,920 meditate, be able to feel comfortable. 400 00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:44,440 We have to do a lot more research, be able to address 401 00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:46,880 these conditions. We don't know crap. 402 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:49,160 And most of the time they're going to come in there and 403 00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:51,760 they're going to be like, well, we can talk about the birth 404 00:25:51,800 --> 00:25:57,960 control or we can talk about it just directly and, or have an 405 00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:02,080 ablation and then two years later, you know, six months 406 00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:07,320 later, have it all back. And we have very little tools in 407 00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:11,040 the toolbox for these conditions that affect women because we 408 00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:14,840 have not researched for over 100 years behind in women's 409 00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:18,360 healthcare research. We have a lot of work for you. 410 00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:22,840 And unfortunately we've lot, a lot lost a lot of our research 411 00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:29,880 funding in in the past year or so that was working towards 412 00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:35,000 options for these conditions. So we have a lot of work to do 413 00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:38,520 and there there isn't really much when you're in that moment, 414 00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:42,040 you know, there were there were you know, there are people that 415 00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:45,840 will sell you things and do things and there are all these 416 00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:49,560 supplements that say that will do supplement manufacturer 417 00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:54,680 myself. No, I'm glad that you said that 418 00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:57,600 because anytime people are like, well, I got the cure for herpes, 419 00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:00,200 you know, you got to take the what is it, the doctor Umar 420 00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:03,720 pills? I'm like, no, no, no, you start 421 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:05,560 mumbling. Dr. Umar, I'm going to tell you 422 00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:08,960 to fuck off right now because no, all right. 423 00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:12,920 They're still exactly, exactly there are there are ingredients 424 00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:17,920 that we know can can affect different parts of our body in 425 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:20,640 different ways. We know that if you take a 426 00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:25,160 lysine, it could potentially calm the stress response that 427 00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:29,040 causes herpes and help lessen the cycle of the herpes 428 00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:32,200 outbreak. But it's not going to have a big 429 00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:35,200 major difference. Maybe taking a long term will 430 00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:38,280 lessen your outbreak, but it's not going to do anything when 431 00:27:38,280 --> 00:27:42,400 you're actively in an outbreak and feeling miserable. 432 00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:45,600 And and it's no longer going to cure your herpes. 433 00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:50,040 And you know, when we talk about menopause symptoms, it's not 434 00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:55,000 maka maka and yams. They lessen some of your your 435 00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:59,120 nights a little bit something like that or hot flashes. 436 00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:05,200 It's it's it's not going to have an overwhelming fun and it's not 437 00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:07,280 going to make some big massive difference. 438 00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:11,960 So just realize that we're just very limited and you're 439 00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,800 miserable and you're looking for options. 440 00:28:15,120 --> 00:28:19,320 The armor not a lot sense related to this. 441 00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:23,120 You can definitely when you are feeling good though, you should 442 00:28:23,120 --> 00:28:26,600 be working on relaxing and it's great being out the floor 443 00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:30,640 because when you do get to those, you know, episodes, the 444 00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:34,840 word administration is really heavily affecting a thing. 445 00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:40,240 You know you have made yourself stronger from when you get there 446 00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:46,760 and and know that all the times outside of that are the better 447 00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:50,280 times to engage with sexual intercourse and looking you 448 00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:53,880 don't mean nobody needs no man needs to go earn their Red Wings 449 00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:56,280 and have anything to produce to anybody. 450 00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,800 OK, you you too was good for you. 451 00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:05,040 And and in those times, if you have endometriosis, angiomyosis, 452 00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:10,160 uterine fibroids, PCOS, you've got cysts on your ovaries. 453 00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:15,280 Those are not good, good times to have sex and and they're very 454 00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:21,360 limited options and also know that lubrication, let's talk 455 00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:23,640 lubricate. Let's let's talk about Lube. 456 00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:27,560 I I love to talk about Lube this like Lube is literally one of my 457 00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:30,960 favorite topics and I love it and I'm loving that you are 458 00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:33,520 already like, because that was going to be my next question 459 00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:36,200 because again, your products, that's what you got. 460 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:38,480 So let's let's talk about lubing it out. 461 00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:44,160 Yes, because here's the thing, ladies, if you're having sex 462 00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:48,320 with a partner, penetrative sex and you're not making less 463 00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:50,440 lubrication, there is nothing wrong with you. 464 00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:53,400 That is just the response in your body. 465 00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:55,560 It doesn't mean you're not having good sex with your 466 00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:57,800 partner. You don't love your partner, you 467 00:29:57,800 --> 00:29:59,480 don't want to engage with your partner. 468 00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:03,640 It is just naturally how our bodies work and they and our 469 00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:07,200 bodies are only going to produce so much lubrication and every 470 00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:11,440 woman is different. But you have no to little bad to 471 00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:15,000 say, Hey, I might use glue. This might be coming. 472 00:30:15,080 --> 00:30:18,520 This might be coming too much. Hey, I'm not in it for America. 473 00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:25,000 You know, it's it's not about how long, it's about the quality 474 00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:27,600 not wanting thank. You. 475 00:30:27,600 --> 00:30:31,760 Oh, my gosh, Sometimes some of the best sex is the quick ones. 476 00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:34,840 I mean, I used to say exactly. I used to say like, I couldn't 477 00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:37,600 master the art of quickies, But then when I started to realize I 478 00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:40,000 could put, you know, some art into it. 479 00:30:40,000 --> 00:30:42,960 Yeah, yeah, mastering the art of a quickie can be beautiful. 480 00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:47,280 What's not beautiful is not having Lube on deck and you know 481 00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:51,280 you're spitting in my pussy, which is an absolute no no. 482 00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:55,240 Stop spitting in the vagina, in the butt. 483 00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:57,040 I just. Like your bacteria today? 484 00:30:57,240 --> 00:31:00,760 Yes, like please, we're already swapping so many germs as it is. 485 00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:05,760 I don't want, you know, your leftover burger going into my 486 00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:08,640 vagina or into my booty. I don't want that. 487 00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:12,520 I don't want that. No, and let's let's talk about 488 00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:15,440 the two different locations because they also require 489 00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:20,360 different types of Lube. So very important. 490 00:31:20,840 --> 00:31:24,960 So not all lubes are made the same when it comes to a vaginal 491 00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:27,800 lubricant. I will tell you that there are 492 00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:33,160 only two in the world. Yes, mine is one of them that 493 00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:38,480 are actually meant to go into a vagina and that is because we 494 00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:42,920 focus so much on pH when we talk about pH. 495 00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:46,240 Yes, the vagina is an acidic Biome. 496 00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:51,760 You need acidic products and your tissues are unhealthy. 497 00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:58,240 That acidic product might burn, but because you micro tears 498 00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:01,520 other things like that, it doesn't matter if your tissues 499 00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:05,680 are unhealthy, it's going to be uncomfortable no matter what you 500 00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:09,640 put down. But understand that you need an 501 00:32:09,960 --> 00:32:17,880 igloo, but then second to that you need an ISO osmolar, so and. 502 00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:22,120 I was going to say ISO, ISO molar, you said. 503 00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:26,200 ISO Osmolar. ISO osmolar, now this. 504 00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:30,640 Now this is not the same as water based I'm assuming. 505 00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:35,960 So water based just talks about the different types of lubes 506 00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:38,680 that are out there. So we have like a silicone based 507 00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:43,800 which is pH neutral. It has no water, it has no 508 00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:47,480 osmolality. It is it is very inert. 509 00:32:47,840 --> 00:32:53,880 The only problem with it for the vaginal bio is, is that it's 510 00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:57,240 chemicals and we're putting chemicals in our body and we 511 00:32:57,240 --> 00:32:59,400 don't know the long term extent of that. 512 00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:04,760 But on that, when we talk about water based lubes, which are a 513 00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:07,560 majority of the lubes that we have out there and that we 514 00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:13,000 really, you know, should be utilizing, But our vaginal wall 515 00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:19,840 epithelial cell layer Varvagina. When you use a Lube that is 516 00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:24,160 hyper or high O osmolar, too high or too low on the 517 00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:29,880 osmolality scale, your cells begin to dry out your vaginal 518 00:33:29,880 --> 00:33:33,400 wall, your epithelial cells, and they literally fall out. 519 00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:35,480 What? Yes. 520 00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:37,680 So you've just lost your barrier protection. 521 00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:41,560 Get STI's bacteria, fungus, take your pick. 522 00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:47,200 And and the only study that has been done in regards to 523 00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:52,360 osmolality was by the World Health Organization in 2016 for 524 00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:55,880 third country, third world country sex workers. 525 00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:59,560 They wanted to figure out how to reach the instance of the best 526 00:33:59,640 --> 00:34:05,560 guys and how they could make them in safer because and they 527 00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:10,560 found that in they tested. I will name names, but let's 528 00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:13,159 just say they're the majority of the ones you get in the stores, 529 00:34:13,159 --> 00:34:15,320 especially the big box stores. Oh. 530 00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:18,880 And it's probably one of the brands that I absolutely tell 531 00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:21,239 people, don't ever bring it to the bedroom. 532 00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:24,080 Don't bring it to my bedroom. Get rid of them now. 533 00:34:24,320 --> 00:34:29,440 Get rid of them now. Yes, and because every lubricant 534 00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:34,880 in the United States is required to be a medical device, and so 535 00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:38,600 as part of being a medical device, they have to learn their 536 00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:43,480 osmolality. So just tell you 290 is the 537 00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:48,159 ideal vaginal osmolality for being the World Health 538 00:34:48,159 --> 00:34:52,679 Organization. You only want to be ±80 point on 539 00:34:52,679 --> 00:34:57,240 that scale away from that. So how do you, how can you 540 00:34:57,240 --> 00:34:59,840 measure that? Like if someone were to say 541 00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:02,440 like, I want to check that out on myself, how can we? 542 00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:06,960 How can we know? We have no test the test. 543 00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:13,760 So what we need is, is we need transparency from the lubricant 544 00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:16,040 company. You should be able to go up on 545 00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:19,080 there and look up their osmolality number back to that 546 00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:22,240 conversation about those ones that are in the big box scores 547 00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:26,280 when the World Health Organization did their study on 548 00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:34,160 lubricants 2010 thousand 9000. I mean, and then we've got ones 549 00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:38,280 way low at like 80 things like that that are hypolossible. 550 00:35:39,200 --> 00:35:44,960 So we're we're completely destroying our vaginal lion a 551 00:35:44,960 --> 00:35:47,080 lot of the times. So Libra Kent. 552 00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:50,520 So just to give you an idea, Desert harvest aloe glide with 553 00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:56,120 regard Libra Kent is three O 8. So that is that a deal Range is 554 00:35:56,120 --> 00:35:57,640 OK. There we go. 555 00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:01,480 And is it like, you know, some people like to say, well, aloe 556 00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:02,840 is a little bit too sticky for me. 557 00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:07,640 Is it a sticky base or is it, you know, relatively fair? 558 00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:12,840 It's relatively anything becomes sticky at a point you can feel 559 00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:15,880 kind of that tackiness. But what it should do is like 560 00:36:15,880 --> 00:36:18,800 for instance, with the desert harvest aloe blight, it's going 561 00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:22,000 to go down through the layers of tissue and help you make your 562 00:36:22,000 --> 00:36:24,240 own richer. It's going to soothe those 563 00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:26,360 tissues. Think about when you put aloe 564 00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:28,480 Vera on a sunburn. It's going to be 565 00:36:28,480 --> 00:36:32,920 anti-inflammatory analgesics. It's going to help moisturize 566 00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:36,840 those tissue foods. You have micro tears, you know 567 00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:42,760 help with, you know, skin regeneration and things micro 568 00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:46,760 tears and it is uncomfortable. You can get past that point by 569 00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:51,120 making your tissues healthy, but understand that if your dryness 570 00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:56,880 and your unhealthy tissues are related to menopause, you can 571 00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:59,560 keep adding moisture. That's going to make a 572 00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:04,160 difference in the shorter term, but in the long term, the only 573 00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:05,960 thing that's going to make a difference is hormone 574 00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:08,400 replacement therapy. Interesting. 575 00:37:08,800 --> 00:37:13,240 Now if we're going into play, because with we, if we're going 576 00:37:13,240 --> 00:37:16,120 to talk about lubes, we got to talk about condoms and and 577 00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:19,840 mixing in the both of those. I've noticed over the years 578 00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:23,520 there's only one particular brand of condoms that I do not 579 00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:26,240 break out on and it doesn't cause a lot of friction and 580 00:37:26,240 --> 00:37:31,120 that's the skin condoms. I can't use the big branded 581 00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:36,480 condoms like Trojan Trojan, I break out on Durex, can't use 582 00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:39,160 those. Also doesn't match well with my 583 00:37:39,160 --> 00:37:42,160 pH but also causes breakouts believe it or not. 584 00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:44,920 And those are supposed to be the non latex ones even. 585 00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:49,640 But you know, when we talk about condoms and Lube, those are also 586 00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:52,360 2 dangerous combinations that could be for our vagina. 587 00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:55,600 Do you agree on that? Because like you said, the 588 00:37:55,600 --> 00:37:58,600 friction of the burning and I've noticed if you don't have the 589 00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:01,320 right Lube, you're going to break down that condom and the 590 00:38:01,560 --> 00:38:03,880 the concentrates on the condom itself. 591 00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:08,800 So then the condoms ineffective. So have that at Miss Florio. 592 00:38:09,720 --> 00:38:13,520 And so that's where realistically, yes, there are a 593 00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:17,320 lot of materials, the substrates that we're using, we're using 594 00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:22,120 petroleum based, you know, condoms and things like that. 595 00:38:22,120 --> 00:38:25,400 I'll tell you right now, no, no research has been done on that 596 00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:28,720 and then on the toxicology or the effects that that has on a 597 00:38:28,720 --> 00:38:31,200 woman's microbiome, vaginal microbiome. 598 00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:37,920 But The thing is, is that there are products unique that give us 599 00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:39,760 a different sense of empowerment. 600 00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:44,040 Whether you know, we're we're good to look at Eva would have 601 00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:47,280 we're going to look at there are actually female condoms. 602 00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:50,920 Yes. That that you can utilize. 603 00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:56,440 You can put in before you even get to that and and find out 604 00:38:56,440 --> 00:38:58,760 what works for you. Personally for me with the 605 00:38:58,760 --> 00:39:01,760 female condoms, I always say I feel like I'm fucking a trash 606 00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:09,760 bag just because just the way that they sound like, if any, 607 00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:13,280 like, I don't know, somebody's got to agree with me because I'm 608 00:39:13,280 --> 00:39:15,880 like, I, I'm. So I remember the first few 609 00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:18,880 times I tried it and then I tried it with a female, I was 610 00:39:18,880 --> 00:39:21,880 like, OK, now I'm curious. Let me see how lesbian sex with 611 00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:24,840 a female condom will work. And I just kept hearing this 612 00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:27,560 noise. I'm like, is there a trash bag 613 00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:30,040 or is there is there some plastic around? 614 00:39:30,040 --> 00:39:35,240 She's like, no, it's me. I said oh God, like never again. 615 00:39:35,520 --> 00:39:37,360 Never to be put out of a scene again. 616 00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:39,280 No more female condoms for Sapphire? 617 00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:43,600 Like no. And it's it's, it's really hard 618 00:39:43,600 --> 00:39:47,720 because we haven't found a substrate yet that can act as a 619 00:39:47,720 --> 00:39:51,440 barrier of protection and still be made of natural material. 620 00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:53,640 Maybe that's something I'll and got. 621 00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:56,160 Fingers crossed. I'm going to keep you. 622 00:39:56,160 --> 00:39:57,640 I'm going to keep tabs on you for that. 623 00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:02,360 Perfect, perfect. But there are there are options 624 00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:06,880 but then when we get to let's say the anal microbiome, yes, 625 00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:12,640 you should never use anesthetic, vaginal lubricant in your anal 626 00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:17,200 Biome. So when I talk about osmolality, 627 00:40:17,200 --> 00:40:20,000 it's a part of the issue, but actually. 628 00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:25,240 The anal Biome is more sensitive to TH if you put an acidic 629 00:40:25,240 --> 00:40:32,120 lubricant in your alkaline in your epithelial cell layer, 630 00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:35,800 tedious falls out. It does seem like to dry out. 631 00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:40,320 It's just right out. And so if you're having anal sex 632 00:40:40,480 --> 00:40:42,800 again, you could have instantaneously. 633 00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:47,880 I know it's it's kind of it's being like, oh, don't we're 634 00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:51,440 going to anal sex, but that is weird. 635 00:40:51,600 --> 00:40:54,600 It's like silicone. Will you make sense because 636 00:40:54,600 --> 00:40:57,000 those are going to be your alkaline glutes. 637 00:40:57,080 --> 00:41:02,600 That's the only Lube that can meet the outline of the need of 638 00:41:02,600 --> 00:41:05,720 the you know, my bio. There you go guys. 639 00:41:05,960 --> 00:41:11,000 So now you know, and I'm glad that you that we talked about 640 00:41:11,000 --> 00:41:14,360 both because again, some people think that the same Lube for the 641 00:41:14,360 --> 00:41:17,000 vagina is the same Lube for the buttocks. 642 00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:19,280 And it's like no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. 643 00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:23,040 And especially for all my gay boys out there, it's like, you 644 00:41:23,040 --> 00:41:27,240 know, there is the anal Lube and you got to get the good anal 645 00:41:27,240 --> 00:41:30,480 Lube. I I like to What is it? 646 00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:34,640 I think it's called analyze. I think the Lube is called anal. 647 00:41:35,720 --> 00:41:39,440 There's that one and gun oil. There's so many. 648 00:41:39,920 --> 00:41:42,880 I use fuck water As for vaginal, which is great. 649 00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:48,480 But yeah, yeah, it's like the everything is a science, you 650 00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:50,640 guys. And I love that we have Heather 651 00:41:50,640 --> 00:41:55,000 on here because again, it's all to a science, sex, mental. 652 00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:59,120 You got the sex on the scientific side of sex, the 653 00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,600 acidity of our our vaginas, of our anuses. 654 00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:05,880 I never even thought about that. You know, I always thought 655 00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:09,640 about, you know, the protective Jelly that we already have, you 656 00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:12,240 know, already that we produce. But then when you think about 657 00:42:12,240 --> 00:42:15,200 it, yeah, you got to have more lubrication. 658 00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:18,360 Have to be careful with that lubrication too. 659 00:42:18,920 --> 00:42:22,600 So I'm so glad. Yeah, the yeah, the even natural 660 00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:27,360 isn't necessarily, but your olive oils, your coconut oils. 661 00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:30,440 Get them out. Get rid of them. 662 00:42:31,640 --> 00:42:35,280 Destroy your vaginal microbiome. We think they're safe, but 663 00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:39,000 they're going to have pH issues. They're going to affect the 664 00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:40,920 vaginal microbiome. We can. 665 00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:43,760 Natural isn't necessarily the best thing. 666 00:42:44,200 --> 00:42:48,400 It is very important for you to think about what goes into your 667 00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:53,320 vagina and nothing should that is not acidic and ISO or 668 00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:57,000 smaller, no matter what it is. Now I got to ask you about this 669 00:42:57,000 --> 00:43:00,480 latest fad and I I feel like it's not a latest fad, but I 670 00:43:00,480 --> 00:43:03,440 feel like it's just becoming up and more people keep asking me 671 00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:11,000 the vaginal dabbing, vaginal dabbing. 672 00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:22,680 What are our thoughts on that? So I think that yeah, I'm like. 673 00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:31,320 Yeah, I because it's like, Oh yeah, no, please. 674 00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:36,080 There is nothing wrong with it. It's it's going into the ideas 675 00:43:36,080 --> 00:43:42,200 of pheromones and in attracting pheromones and, and putting that 676 00:43:42,240 --> 00:43:43,880 on. I mean, it doesn't hurt 677 00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:47,480 anything. It's just, yeah, it's not my 678 00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:52,640 thing and it might be somewhat on the thing, but I mean, are 679 00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:58,680 are we like going so like animal mating and the right season of 680 00:43:59,680 --> 00:44:03,760 and also right? I'm I'm just over here and like 681 00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:08,160 more, more and more even just like the sex positive folks that 682 00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:11,320 I am in community with and online. 683 00:44:11,320 --> 00:44:15,960 It's just like everybody's now talking about vabbing, vaginal 684 00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:17,880 dabbing. And I'm like, I don't know, 685 00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:22,280 there's something about sticking my fingers up in my Hua and 686 00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:24,840 either licking it for myself for my own pleasure. 687 00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:28,320 But then if you're telling me to walk around with the whiff of my 688 00:44:28,320 --> 00:44:34,000 pussy on my neck to see if somebody is going to come closer 689 00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:39,440 to be like that smells good. I think anybody else besides my 690 00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:41,840 husband and maybe my girlfriend, they'll be fine with it. 691 00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:46,040 Everybody else is probably going to be like, girl, what is that 692 00:44:46,040 --> 00:44:52,360 smell? Well, and he already secrete the 693 00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:56,080 hormones, the pheromones naturally. 694 00:44:56,080 --> 00:45:00,920 So you, you, you know, when it, when, when man seems so 695 00:45:01,000 --> 00:45:06,080 animalistic and we're like, girl, you know, you're already 696 00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:09,960 putting off those hormones. You're already saying, I'm open 697 00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:15,160 for business. And when you know your hormones 698 00:45:15,160 --> 00:45:18,520 are activated and you're, you know, you talked about I'm so 699 00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:23,480 horny and, and, and engaging, that's you, your hormones are 700 00:45:23,480 --> 00:45:25,160 secreting at that point naturally. 701 00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:28,440 Why do? Why do you need to dab it on so? 702 00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:32,080 I'm like unless if it's going to just like bring out even the the 703 00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:35,440 Chanel #5 I have on. I just, I don't know if that's 704 00:45:35,440 --> 00:45:37,480 for me. I just don't know. 705 00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:40,120 Like. I just there. 706 00:45:40,320 --> 00:45:43,360 Are plenty. There are plenty of you know 707 00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:46,760 this. This is in research for for 708 00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:48,920 eons. You know, we can go back to 709 00:45:48,920 --> 00:45:53,840 Egyptian times and utilizing different scents as pheromone 710 00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:56,560 attractors. We don't necessarily have to do 711 00:45:56,560 --> 00:45:59,600 it with our own vaginal fluids. There are better, you know, 712 00:45:59,760 --> 00:46:04,880 filling options out there that can naturally act as as 713 00:46:04,880 --> 00:46:09,640 pheromone attractors that are naturally in both perfumes, 714 00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:12,040 colognes, things like that. Exactly. 715 00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:14,680 Without having to dab your own vaginal fluids under bowel. 716 00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:17,880 I have to mention I'm like, unless you're going to try to, 717 00:46:18,240 --> 00:46:22,680 you know, bottle it in a perfume or you know, like Erykah Badu 718 00:46:22,680 --> 00:46:26,080 did it with her own. She had a Badu pussy, which was 719 00:46:26,080 --> 00:46:28,920 the incense. And then when a Paltrow followed 720 00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:32,200 off with her own goop, you know, candle. 721 00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:35,320 And I'm like, listen to each their own. 722 00:46:35,640 --> 00:46:40,360 I just know my pussy is my pussy smell is for me and my partners. 723 00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:46,800 It is not for everybody. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. 724 00:46:46,920 --> 00:46:51,120 And, and sometimes those scents can be aggravated by other 725 00:46:51,120 --> 00:46:54,760 conditions and they may not need necessarily the bad scents. 726 00:46:54,760 --> 00:46:59,160 If a woman has a, you know, bacterial infection, that's not 727 00:46:59,160 --> 00:47:01,080 going to be a tractor. It's going to be a detract. 728 00:47:01,240 --> 00:47:04,200 Exactly. So yeah, let you know what? 729 00:47:04,520 --> 00:47:08,280 There we go, people. The verdict is vabbing is not 730 00:47:08,280 --> 00:47:14,200 for us, just just. There are other ways. 731 00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:17,200 And we'll go on that same front steaming when we talk about 732 00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:18,600 vaginal steam. Thank. 733 00:47:18,600 --> 00:47:23,680 You. Thank you, I will never forget I 734 00:47:23,680 --> 00:47:26,040 did it for radio. Eggs stay away. 735 00:47:26,080 --> 00:47:28,200 Stay, Oh my gosh. Stay away from the eggs. 736 00:47:28,200 --> 00:47:31,400 Stay away from what is it? Yeah, the Yoni steamer. 737 00:47:31,400 --> 00:47:35,480 I I did it and I just said my vagina smells like ramen. 738 00:47:35,920 --> 00:47:38,200 I said it just smells like ramen. 739 00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:41,640 Coochie in the room. I did it as a radio bit for like 740 00:47:41,640 --> 00:47:44,600 2 hours with three of my two other hosts and we're just 741 00:47:44,600 --> 00:47:48,040 sitting here Like I don't feel a difference other than it's very 742 00:47:48,040 --> 00:47:52,480 hot, I'm very sweaty, and I want ramen because it smells like 743 00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:54,880 vagina ramen in here. Ramen. 744 00:47:56,520 --> 00:48:03,200 Out of all things. Some and and you know they it 745 00:48:03,280 --> 00:48:05,400 kills. They talk about it killing bad 746 00:48:05,400 --> 00:48:10,080 bacteria, but it's also killing your good bacteria vagina self 747 00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:12,480 cleaning. It doesn't need anything to 748 00:48:12,480 --> 00:48:14,160 clean it. It doesn't need steaming. 749 00:48:14,160 --> 00:48:17,440 It doesn't need douching, it doesn't need washes. 750 00:48:17,440 --> 00:48:21,560 It's naturally self clean. OK, now that you said about the 751 00:48:21,560 --> 00:48:25,000 not needing the washing, I sometimes and I had to stop 752 00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:28,760 because I feel like it was maybe causing a possible outbreak. 753 00:48:29,040 --> 00:48:34,640 But using like the vaginal washes in particular honeypot, 754 00:48:34,640 --> 00:48:37,400 they have like a, a vulva wash, if you will. 755 00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:40,080 What are you? What are your takes on the vulva 756 00:48:40,080 --> 00:48:44,280 washes now? So I, we have one too. 757 00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:49,720 It's called aloe rebalance and it's not necessarily anything. 758 00:48:49,720 --> 00:48:54,160 It's only for the vulva. So it's almost like washing your 759 00:48:54,160 --> 00:48:57,440 hair, except for washing your hair down there. 760 00:48:57,840 --> 00:49:05,520 And, and as long as, again, it's acidic because it is going near 761 00:49:05,520 --> 00:49:09,120 your pragmal opening, it is going to be near your, you know, 762 00:49:09,160 --> 00:49:13,000 you're, you're using Dove. There are some other products 763 00:49:13,200 --> 00:49:15,880 that off the shelves. Those are all awkward. 764 00:49:17,240 --> 00:49:23,360 And so those are all going to slowly help degrade your vaginal 765 00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:27,080 microbiome just because it's an open hole, ladies. 766 00:49:27,520 --> 00:49:30,840 And, and even if you just, since you're washing your vulva, 767 00:49:30,840 --> 00:49:32,360 you're washing a little bit more. 768 00:49:32,360 --> 00:49:37,080 So where is no reason, you know, it's, it's almost more about 769 00:49:37,080 --> 00:49:39,240 cleaning the hair and having that fence. 770 00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:43,440 We've been programmed as a society, You know, when we, when 771 00:49:43,440 --> 00:49:47,120 we wash our hair, we think that it needs to suds and it needs to 772 00:49:47,120 --> 00:49:50,240 do all this stuff. This is all a chemical reaction 773 00:49:50,240 --> 00:49:53,800 and then it's been created. So in the same sense, we feel 774 00:49:53,800 --> 00:49:56,960 like we need to wash with something down there besides 775 00:49:57,200 --> 00:50:00,360 toothwater. But and, and like honey pot, 776 00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:02,960 like our aloe rebalance, those kind of things. 777 00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:08,520 Those are acidic and and so they There's nothing wrong with 778 00:50:08,560 --> 00:50:11,720 washing off your vulva, you just don't need to go inside. 779 00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:15,800 I'm glad that she's thank you for noting that because I feel 780 00:50:15,800 --> 00:50:19,520 like sometimes a lot of ice as women, we get embarrassed. 781 00:50:19,520 --> 00:50:23,520 Like, how do we wash down there? You know, it's the Siri 782 00:50:23,520 --> 00:50:25,200 question. There's so many products out 783 00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:27,680 there. You know, people are suggesting 784 00:50:27,720 --> 00:50:32,600 vaginal washes and suppositories and creams, and there's just so 785 00:50:32,600 --> 00:50:35,760 much out there. And yet, like you said earlier, 786 00:50:36,000 --> 00:50:40,400 there's not enough research. And I wonder why a certain 787 00:50:40,400 --> 00:50:44,160 administration wanted to get rid of all this funding. 788 00:50:44,480 --> 00:50:49,320 If we only just learned. If we only were. 789 00:50:49,320 --> 00:50:50,680 Just able. To learn. 790 00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:55,440 So I'm so glad that you and your products are definitely changing 791 00:50:55,440 --> 00:50:58,120 the game out there. And Speaking of, where can 792 00:50:58,120 --> 00:51:03,200 people find your products? So on our website, 793 00:51:03,200 --> 00:51:08,160 isdesertharvest.com, they're always welcome to even call us 794 00:51:08,160 --> 00:51:14,120 to 800-322-3901. We are happy to talk about our 795 00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:17,240 products, explain that they do what they don't do. 796 00:51:17,960 --> 00:51:19,760 We're not going to. We're just not going to feed you 797 00:51:19,760 --> 00:51:22,680 something to sell you something. We're going to tell you what 798 00:51:22,680 --> 00:51:25,680 works, what doesn't work, why you need this, why we don't. 799 00:51:26,360 --> 00:51:28,120 I can't wait to check out myself. 800 00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:31,560 I'm going to definitely drop the phone number and the link for 801 00:51:31,560 --> 00:51:36,640 this episode so you guys can all get a taste of that desert, that 802 00:51:36,640 --> 00:51:38,240 desert. I don't want to say that desert 803 00:51:38,240 --> 00:51:41,240 dryness, but you know, I want to, I want people to taste that 804 00:51:41,240 --> 00:51:45,400 desert harvest. And so, Heather, where can 805 00:51:45,400 --> 00:51:47,160 people get in touch with you as well? 806 00:51:48,880 --> 00:51:52,120 So they can definitely check me out on Instagram. 807 00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:55,440 HM Florio. I'm always happy to answer 808 00:51:55,440 --> 00:51:58,440 questions as well. I actually teach women all over 809 00:51:58,440 --> 00:52:01,400 the world. So I've I've taught the first 810 00:52:01,760 --> 00:52:04,360 public and sexual health course for women in Turkey. 811 00:52:04,360 --> 00:52:10,240 I've done Peru, although I got arrested now like so I. 812 00:52:10,240 --> 00:52:12,520 Hope for good things. I hope for the goodness of good 813 00:52:12,520 --> 00:52:15,680 things. Yeah, it was because I was 814 00:52:15,680 --> 00:52:18,560 teaching women. I'm sure we'll be here in the US 815 00:52:18,560 --> 00:52:21,600 that way soon. I don't know, let's hope not 816 00:52:21,600 --> 00:52:24,400 because listen, we need some pioneers like yourself out 817 00:52:24,400 --> 00:52:27,360 there. And really, I am just so honored 818 00:52:27,360 --> 00:52:29,240 to have you. And I definitely want to bring 819 00:52:29,240 --> 00:52:32,120 you back in the future because I feel like there's so much that 820 00:52:32,120 --> 00:52:34,680 we could talk about with our women's bodies and our health. 821 00:52:34,960 --> 00:52:37,360 And just to even just talk about just on the surface, the 822 00:52:37,360 --> 00:52:41,120 painfulness of sex and that it doesn't have to be painful. 823 00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:45,360 I'm so glad that you took time and to educate us a little bit 824 00:52:45,360 --> 00:52:49,320 more about our bodies. Aw, thank you for having me. 825 00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:51,320 This is this is what I love to do. 826 00:52:51,320 --> 00:52:54,520 And of course, yeah, like you said, I have so much more I'd 827 00:52:54,520 --> 00:52:56,480 love to download, so maybe in the future. 828 00:52:56,560 --> 00:52:58,880 Absolutely. You're already a certified 829 00:52:58,880 --> 00:53:00,000 earbuds. So that's it. 830 00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:01,520 We're we're going to keep in touch. 831 00:53:01,520 --> 00:53:04,840 I definitely want to bring you in for more future episodes. 832 00:53:05,400 --> 00:53:08,680 With that said, everybody remember that safe sex is the 833 00:53:08,680 --> 00:53:11,640 best hot sex. You can reach me at Miss Radio 834 00:53:11,640 --> 00:53:17,160 Sapphire, that's MSRADIOSAPPHIRE on Instagram and of course Miss 835 00:53:17,160 --> 00:53:21,480 Radio sapphire.com. Until the next time, good. 836 00:53:22,200 --> 00:53:26,880 Night. That was the show all you sexy 837 00:53:26,880 --> 00:53:29,480 motherfuckers out there, remember to follow at Miss Radio 838 00:53:29,480 --> 00:53:32,200 Sapphire and Sapphires Ear Play on Instagram. 839 00:53:32,200 --> 00:53:34,160 Want some ear gasms of the past and future? 840 00:53:34,160 --> 00:53:37,800 Make sure to follow on Apple Podcast, Spotify, iHeartRadio 841 00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:39,560 and all streaming platforms.