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Warning, the following program 
is not for the weak-hearted 

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those who are close minded. 
When General, you're scared to 

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learn. 
What's behind closed. 

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Doors here at sapphires are 
play. 

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I want you to pour the wine. 
Grab somebody that you want to 

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hold onto or better yet. 
Get the vibration stimulated 

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through your body. 
Get ready for one, hell of an 

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eargasm in five, four, three, 
two one. 

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What is up? 
All you sexy motherfucker is out

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there in radioland. 
It's your girl South a fire and 

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oh my gosh, I'm just going to 
tell you this right now. 

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Your girl is already dripping a 
little way from today's guest 

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because he's just coming in with
his spine, Sexual Chocolate self

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and we're actually going to tap 
into the male intellect today. 

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Talking about toxic masculinity 
and proper King Behavior by 

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another none other than a king 
himself, some of y'all know him 

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as cuck Matchmaker from the mo 
nap. 

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NWO, some of y'all may have met 
him during Splash mocha, but 

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let's just call him Pharaoh 
because that's who the fuck he 

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is. 
Pharaoh, welcome, welcome. 

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Welcome to e.r. perfect. 
Thank you for having me but I 

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love. 
Let's get into it. 

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Let's get it. 
Okay, yeah, let's get into it. 

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I don't even know where to begin
with you because out of the 

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time. 
So we've connected on loan, you 

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know, thanks to Kingdom. 
I mean, I just feel I've been 

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just very penetrated by your 
mind and you said that word 

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penetrated, okay? 
I love my mind being stimulated,

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and, you know, full disclaimer. 
I'm usually not attracted to men

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anymore, like that, but it's 
like, there's something about a 

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man who speaks his mind in. 
Intellect shares to similarities

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where I'm just like, oh of 
Splash panties. 

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Go to the floor the whole thing.
So thank you for just being one 

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of the few main. 
Got it. 

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Speaking about it, from a woman 
who's already Women are my 

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thing, but situations come 
around people, come with us. 

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That's why I want you to pick. 
All right. 

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So go ahead. 
I got it. 

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I got you. 
So, let's talk about this 

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Pharaoh. 
You are a man of many trades. 

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But let's talk about why you're 
here. 

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You specifically wanted to 
address toxic masculinity and 

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especially in your case, talking
back toxic masculinity in the 

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world of cuckolding in just the 
world at being a black man in a 

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big. 
Big fetish world, you know, 

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talking about being, women's, 
Bulls, white, woman's bowls. 

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You know, to be exactly what I 
was doing by picking that topic 

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because it is going to catch the
eye. 

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And that is the the talking 
point right now. 

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Top and bottom line. 
It's like this, are you kind of 

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just touched on it anyway, Men 
built the world fam, like like 

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like I'm really and truly men 
real me and I'm not talking 

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about the lames, ain't about the
beta cells, none of that meant 

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that give a fuck about women 
only want life to be comfortable

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for you... 
Right? 

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So we make these things 
comfortable for you, so that it 

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has so much to the point that I 
wouldn't like, no, I want to 

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complain a lot. 
No, I want to tell you what's up

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and it's like, okay, and you're 
well within your rights to do 

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it. 
Because babe we made the tampon 

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for you babe. 
We don't we don't we don't need 

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that bitch. 
A man create that for a woman 

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near our said we go through 
countless of advances that meant

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that create. 
So it's like It's toxic and, you

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know, whatever the words they're
using now but it's so essential 

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like just like what you're 
talking about. 

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Not so when I hold that, that 
topic until later but it's like 

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just like what you're saying so 
many women who identify and 

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present as such and such you 
know, they already have their 

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ideas their Paradigm or 
whatever. 

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But it's like they still have a 
great level of respect for me 

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and what I'm doing it. 
They may not agree with 

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everything they might fight 
whatever but it's still like if 

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there's some bullshit was to go 
down because that's really what 

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it all boils. 
Boils down to whatever. 

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All of this, you know, whatever 
is made up of, whatever it all, 

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boils down to the molecules like
this some shit goes down. 

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Do you want me to be around you 
to protect you, or you'll also 

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see it goes out? 
Or do you want to be around? 

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You know what, we can say, 
whatever we want to lose 

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societal Norms. 
All that shit, all that shit. 

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And Kobe kind of showed you. 
I'll give you an example. 

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Toxic masculinity. 
I'm going into this, you know, I

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live in Miami beat so we got, 
like, smaller stores or 

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whatever. 
That's on the beach or whatever.

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So, and this is Colby right 
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Two men, one woman, one package 
of toilet paper. 

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Hmm okay hmm. 
The two men look at each other 

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and it's an unspoken 
communication because men 

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automatically know was 
competition between us. 

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This is Perry and we thrived in 
it does the real men you low 

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competition and make you 
understand but in the middle of 

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them is a woman. 
Like like they automatically 

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have a comment like like an 
unspoken. 

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Yeah we bout to get in but it's 
also a competition. 

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She's not going to give you 
cause you can't compete. 

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Oh yeah, I do as much. 
That's in the ground. 

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She done you call it. 
Toxic masculinity. 

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But at both of those dudes are 
fighting for a woman that's back

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at home. 
Is it really so bad? 

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I think it comes down to an ego 
thing that's because I've 

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definitely thought because I've 
talked about this with my man 

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before and you know, Out of the 
men that I do have sex with. 

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There's another partner that I 
do have, like, sex with often 

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and even though they get along 
with each other, there is, you 

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know, almost a competition with 
main especially at sex parties 

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when they think about it comes 
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They comes down to is this man, 
making my lady feel comfortable,

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do I have to intervene there's 
always some type of unspoken 

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tension when you bring in group 
sex Kink and Name. 

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And I think that could be almost
a form of toxic masculinity 

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within itself even though in a 
sex positive environment because

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end goal is. 
Yeah, they're not technically 

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fighting but they might perform 
a little harder to make sure, 

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you know, the woman at hand. 
Might be reminded like, oh, her 

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partner puts in work, 
regardless. 

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Unless that turns bad. 
Hey, I don't see that in the 

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situation now there is that 
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And that's what this whole 
cooking thing is about to a 

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certain degree and again, I'm 
speaking primarily from that but

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we could talk about Nuance when 
it comes to maybe just regular 

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and that type of thing but it's 
like of course I'm going to make

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your woman make noises that she 
never met before. 

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Okay. 
And when you speak about the 

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male ego of sorts again, you 
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checked. 
Then they of course within the 

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safe space or whatever like 
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But it's like those things are 
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You gotta have like like if you 
don't have a guy that wants to 

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be the best with your and you're
familiar with hypergamy right? 

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No. 
Are you familiar know as a woman

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as a woman biologically? 
Genetically? 

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And I'm talking it look, you 
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you know, I don't talk in 
absolutes. 

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I'm talking to Jenna Robin's. 
Right? 

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I know. 
I don't have to say that with 

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you but, you know, no, listen, 
we got a treat, but you try So 

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like a learning moment, so some 
people might be new to this 

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ideology. 
So there we go. 

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Okay, well well when intelligent
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beautiful creature talk, we 
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We're speaking in generalities 
and life is about the 

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generality. 
Of course we can talk till we're

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blue in the face about the the 
small amounts of things that 

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happen. 
But mainly we want to talk about

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the majority of things that's 
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So it's like, okay With this 
hypergamy thing, usually women 

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want the best guy, hmm, because 
the to makes and be with the 

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best guy because that guy can 
protect her provide for her and 

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her offspring, that type of 
thing, there's nothing wrong 

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with that. 
I mean, it's biology. 

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Now, flip it on his head. 
What do you guys have? 

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What do you guys want now? 
Because we're in 2023, the 

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things that guys want our shame.
The you know if guys have 

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standards and all this kind of 
other than stuff, no, but a 

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woman. 
Can you know, that type of 

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thing. 
So, it's only because, and 

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again, the toxic masculinity men
have allowed that, you know, to 

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because right now things are 
uneven. 

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You know, it's totally suede 
panel another way. 

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So it's like, with this toxic, 
toxic masculinity and you spoke 

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about in beginning, like, You as
a woman you're given leeway. 

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The condo you can do what you 
want. 

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You want to be like they were 
allowed to do what we want. 

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What we are allowed to do, what 
we want with certain 

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limitations, let's not get that 
Twisted. 

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Okay. 
All right, so let's go with 

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that. 
What what, what exceptions get 

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you have within the law that I 
do not, maybe. 

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So, So, not even is that, I do 
not. 

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He said what, what do I have of 
what, what what advantage is be 

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at the law? 
What advantages have you been 

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giving me of the law that I have
now honestly? 

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Yeah, it's not good. 
It's nothing to be honest. 

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I think nothing you don't. 
And again you know how we're 

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talking but let's say me and you
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Right? 
Hmm. 

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Thanks right. 
And You get pregnant I would say

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again that's it. 
That's within reason because the

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fact that I do live in a state 
that allows me to have those 

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options but right now we're 
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abortions alternative birthing 
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So what you can still go I can 
still go. 

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Right? 
Yeah. 

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So with that easy, 
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Men have been stepped up and 
been have allowed themselves to 

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be punching bag. 
Men have, you know, all of these

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things I'll take full 
accountability, you know? 

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I mean top to bottom. 
The whole. 

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Fortunately, we have to add some
very weak women to because it 

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makes no sense where a woman is 
stepping into office regulating 

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my body, my choice period. 
Hey, what will, you know what? 

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Let's look fabulous today, let's
really get into that, right? 

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So this is there is toxic female
energy. 

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Tip, what is I feel it? 
As a man, like, I'm used to. 

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I'm used to like people. 
That's not like us. 

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They have this birthrate 
terminal and it's all fucked up 

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and they're like, hey I need to 
control policy. 

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I need to control media and your
car control, all these things. 

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So that Our numbers. 
I mean, it is genetic 

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Annihilation who doesn't fear 
that, we don't have that fear, 

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but if it like you used to put 
yourself in those shoes, if you 

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knew that the son hates you and 
that if a million black men got 

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together and fucked a million 
white women impregnated them. 

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Like they already are out the 
door already but that just 

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expedited. 
So it's like, okay, yeah, I'm 

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going to pull all these policies
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Yeah, I'm going to put all these
things in every Walk of Life to 

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limit that. 
And what it's about is me and 

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you You understanding that and 
whatever, they me against you, 

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whatever they try to give you a 
token or symbolic leadership. 

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Just to kind of make you feel 
good when it's not really. 

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That is just a, you know, I'm 
just dividing conquer but you 

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understand that a lot of other 
women and people do not and 

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they're like, oh yeah, I got me 
a position. 

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It's like, oh no, your be, you 
fucking Ploy and they don't know

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it. 
But you know, what's worse? 

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The ones that do know that their
employer, just like in the first

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Matrix I think His name of 
whatever he was like, yeah, I do

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this, see this face, I know, 
it's not real. 

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I want to go back in, that's it.
So, you got all of those people 

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and it's just like, you know. 
So that's, that's why we have 

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these conversations to, like, 
absolutely expose all the time. 

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And it's funny because even in 
the world of King, there is that

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feeling because we've touched 
upon this being seen as just a 

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sexual object, you know, being a
conquering moment to say, like, 

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oh, I had sex with my first, 
Black person, you know it 

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becomes that that if saying you 
know even like as I've told 

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Kingdom in our episode talking 
about BMW, oh you know 

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personally for me anything with 
race play anything where my 

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myself is not being as Divine. 
It's only the fact that I have 

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black pussy and that I'm a black
woman. 

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I don't like, any of it. 
I don't like to be reminded and 

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be basically, We picked apart 
these fuckers. 

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Think Savvy like baby. 
All right, look that's why I 

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give respect to you and you know
Kingdom because again like I 

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have nothing against I Have 
Nothing Gets You Brothers. 

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You know, you Kings doing what 
you do as far as being someone's

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bull already cut you off but 
love II know that you're 

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awesome. 
I know that your soul is 

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awesome. 
I know that every cell about you

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is fucking spectacular but when 
them fuckers see you, that is 

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all they see, of course, I can't
hear you. 

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So it's like for me and I guess 
don't feel the same way is just 

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like I'm from Louisiana, right? 
I'm used to I'm used to like in 

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your face racism, like we don't 
do that. 

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I'm a smile with, you know, I 
don't like you know, like that's

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what it is. 
So That's how I like it. 

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And, and as much as we try to 
get away from it, or whatever, 

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it's like, yeah, they are coming
to us because I am a black man 

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in black dick and I was kind of 
other good stuff. 

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I mean, I can go look at the 
white on white Corner. 

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That's, that's what they want 
but they're coming in for a 

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certain reason. 
And again, it is where you were 

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here. 
I'm okay with them stating the 

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obvious because I'm gonna fuck 
his faith, the obvious because 

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that's why your ear, you know 
what I'm saying, they want to 

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hear that she. 
And I like saying that shit your

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white ass is only coming around 
because you want to be around. 

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Black king, huh? 
Tell the truth. 

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Oh my God, laughs. 
Yeah, yeah, yeah. 

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Like no make that shit. 
No, I definitely see what you're

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meaning on that because again, 
they did come there for a 

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specific reason. 
My thing is, is also is Shay's 

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does, is it a form of toxic 
masculinity, especially when 

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white main approach black women,
or any woman of color in general

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Wayne? 
It's no longer seen as they're 

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just a person. 
It's their fetishizing. 

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And again this seems to be like 
an ongoing theme as I'm 

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realizing these past couple of 
episodes of ear play. 

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Talking about sexual 
fetishization, especially in the

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world of cuckolding. 
Because again, that's what we're

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presented with the facts, you 
know, speaking to black men, 

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like yourself who are either the
bull or the cuff or both and 

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then talking about the women who
might be involved, whether it be

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white women, black women, Latina
women, Asian women. 

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All those things, you know, 
again, is it a form of toxic 

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masculinity, Wayne they State 
what they want? 

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Or is it just something that's 
tolerated? 

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Or maybe I'm just confused by 
the the whole idea itself 

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because to me it comes off a 
little toxic. 

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If you're talking about your 
goals and it's no longer reduced

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to the woman at Han it only 
solely due to the fact that 

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she's a woman of color. 
All right, well, let me ask you 

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this. 
You've heard women talk and say 

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the different things that they 
want to happen at a particular 

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night. 
How they want that to look how 

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they want to get stroked out. 
How did want to get slutted out?

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If I talk about it all the time?
I don't think we want true 

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equality. 
I don't think we want that as 

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men. 
We have to have a responsibility

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accountability that type of 
thing, part of all the Earth is 

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going to fall to. 
She, we have to like I think I 

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think that was in a Godfather 
movie men and women could do 

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whatever the fuck they want. 
It's men. 

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Who look, look, I got to go. 
I got to go be out there on the 

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oil rig to make sure they've got
oil for the rest of the country.

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I got to make sure that the 
power grid is working all this 

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stuff or whatever. 
Like all I'm saying is fam, 

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like, it's a big responsibility.
It's a lot of really considering

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this Like, it's not going to 
stop. 

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Hmm. 
Oh, you're okay. 

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Or can it stop? 
Or do you think that we are just

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so far gone off to making 
things? 

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Self-righteous because again, 
I'm only stirring the pot 

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because it has been a constant 
thing that I've been seeing a 

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repeated pattern because you 
know, just as much as civil 

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rights, are taking a turn right 
now. 

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We do have to think about our 
own civil rights in the bedroom 

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as well. 
To, you know, they try to say 

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that sex and politics. 
Mix. 

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But I think they absolutely do 
with cases like this, you know, 

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definitely what we think about 
like this. 

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Oh, what did I say everything is
about sex except sex? 

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Sex is about power, right? 
Hmm. 

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Okay, go ahead. 
No, I'm agreeing. 

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I'm saying. 
Yeah, it's true with fetish. 

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Fetish is actually, again, 
stating the obvious. 

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Like, okay, I'm going to 
dominate you in this. 

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This area BDSM just depending on
which area you're going. 

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And so it's like again, like 
there's nothing wrong with a 

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woman saying, I want to have 
this experience and we don't 

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call it toxic. 
Hmm, we call this hot see, 

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that's what the fuck she wants 
and just to speak about 

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objectivity. 
Again, I'm looking to empathize 

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with women. 
Okay. 

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But since Antiquity, women have 
been and we talked about it in 

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the beginning, guys, only get 
Access to to get the benefits to

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win. 
For the most part, we ready to 

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be out in the wilderness and 
we're not brushing our teeth. 

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We are at me, like whatever you 
think with me. 

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So it's like, okay, with that 
being said, it's, uh, let's go 

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do a body like, like, women want
something and it's not going to 

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change men, want something? 
And it's not going to change. 

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However, How is said to a woman?
I can say these are be said or 

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certain way. 
I'm not a cobbler to women. 

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I'm not gonna call you. 
I'll I'm gonna tell you 

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something. 
Truthful in a player type way, 

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but I'm not going to like lie to
you, then I'm not gonna give it 

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to you to where you can't digest
it. 

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But it's just like, women have 
desires. 

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They want certain things. 
So do men, do, and we just have 

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to kind of learn how to 
communicate to each other 

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because like babe, I'm 
objectified. 

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Every time I step outside the 
door, I know that for my buddy. 

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For My Success, what? 
I'm driving the whole night. 

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Now, some women may feel like 
Maybe that shouldn't happen to 

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whatever is going on, to make 
them feel a certain way to make 

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them feel like they are 
objectified. 

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But it's like I don't want to 
say that's the way of the world 

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but it's just like All right, so
let's say like this, when they 

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come into this world already 
have it, there value, whatever 

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you are is whatever you are, you
can work out, you can better 

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yourself, whatever. 
Whereas men I got to go and get 

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this money. 
I gotta make myself good. 

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I gotta get to the a nice status
to attract a woman. 

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Let me say it like that. 
So attractive woman women don't 

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like like babe. 
You could be working in RVs. 

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If I do think you fly enough, he
got the money and you like him 

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vice versa, you go, you are 
today. 

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It's not gonna happen on. 
Opposite way. 

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If a millionaire woman comes in 
our B's and C's, a cool dude at 

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the register. 
Oh, so she don't take him home. 

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This is Chic. 
She might. 

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Yeah. 
In the boing, I see what that 

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is. 
Yeah. 

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And then on top of that, you 
know, flip the script because I 

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was just watching a documentary 
series wrap caviar on Hulu and 

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they were doing a segment on 
pussy rap, talking about the 

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city girls in particular, okay? 
All right. 

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Yeah. 
I call it femdom rap, like Fair 

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female domination wrap, it is 
femdom wrap pussy, Rob, whatever

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you want to fucking call it, you
know, right. 

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They definitely have Society, 
you know, they had little Kim 

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sweetie. 
All, you know, the female 

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rappers Rhapsody talking about 
this and you know, the fact that

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city girls kind of put the map 
on pussy rap of this day and 

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age. 
You know, cardi B yes has her 

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dues to but when city girls came
out it was a whole Whole 

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different vibe and even the 
hip-hop Moguls of this Earth 

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Jermaine Dupree. 
Even say I don't want to hear 

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strippers talking about sex. 
I'm tired of these women talking

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about their good. 
Coochie, if you got to talk 

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about good coochie and having, 
you know, good pussy, chances 

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are the pussy is trash and I'm 
like no, fuck you. 

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That's a double standard because
I have to hear, you know, the 

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men's lyrics talking about how 
many bitches they fucked. 

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Yeah, I got to hear about your 
dick all the time, how your dick

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be plummeting and all this, you 
know, fucking hose and all this 

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again, that's not my mind say 
but it's like why can't a woman 

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freely talk about sex without 
being labeled a fucking ho? 

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Yes, I could be a 
self-proclaimed ho if I want to,

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okay? 
But I can't be, you can't just 

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put me in a category because I'm
talking about my pussy. 

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So much. 
Let that be said, I can't walk 

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around and call you a fuck-boy 
for every time you Talk about 

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your motherfucking dick because 
that's what the fuk Boi de is 

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you talk about your fucking dick
but how dare we disrespect the 

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Kings? 
How dare we disrespect Kings? 

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We're talking about their pussy.
I mean for talking about their 

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dick game, but how dare me as a 
fucking ho talk about my pussy 

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game. 
You know what I mean? 

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That's the double standard yet. 
The double standard. 

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Oh my gosh. 
It's amazing. 

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Like it is when you sit back and
look at it, it's like, okay. 

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Wow. 
Like this is okay for what? 

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Go, but it ain't okay. 
Okay, exactly. 

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And then he even broke it down 
by class. 

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If a white woman talks about her
pussy, she's not technically a 

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ho, she might be classified as a
porn star, or she might be, you 

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know, an escort. 
But if a black woman, does it? 

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Oh hell. 
We are every derogatory name to 

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man on top of porn star HUD see 
Heathen, you know? 

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Oh broke bitch. 
All this happened shit. 

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So it It all comes into play 
with toxic masculinity because 

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women can be fucking toxic to 
two other women. 

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We got toxic women in the 
fucking government right now, 

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but are we talking about it? 
Fuck, no, we're not. 

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Fuck, no, we're not. 
And and it's not really my place

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you know like we try to keep 
things separate but I have for 

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women and the things that be 
going on how do you like that 

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means show Sis's like she's not 
she's not for you. 

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Wow you know what I'm say, I'll 
be established. 

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I can't get into it. 
It's amazing And it's like, okay

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the women that are intuitive the
women that that pay attention 

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those women they can relate to 
each other. 

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They can hang out nothing and 
it's a small group of very 

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smart. 
These other women are just like 

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yeah and they're dead. 
Weight drinking the Kool-Aid. 

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They think they will sell you 
out for minute for anything and 

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it's just like why I'm saying 
why for what reason because I 

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mean, think about it. 
Those women would rather have 

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voted for Trump. 
There's somebody who has a 

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uterus, like, you or I don't 
know how to say her biological, 

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but you get, she's a woman like 
you, and you about to go with 

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this mofo and knowing all the 
stuff you did to women like you,

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you cool with that. 
So it's just Everybody would 

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hope that some people would try 
to be on the team and be down, 

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but it's like, bam can stay out 
of there. 

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It does suck, it does suck. 
Let's get into King Behavior 

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because, you know, especially in
the black community. 

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Whenever we hear main women, 
referred to Kings, we're like a 

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holdup, is this hotep? 
Yeah, sure. 

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You know, and hotel in hotel for
the folks that don't know. 

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I did my little research, okay, 
because I had to, because 

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Talking about whole tip culture.
Some people bring it back to 

447
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,200
that one specific episode in 
insecure. 

448
00:26:26,300 --> 00:26:29,800
I think it was like season 2 or 
3 and Molly basically flat all 

449
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:31,700
set. 
I'm there's no way in fuck I'm 

450
00:26:31,700 --> 00:26:32,900
dating. 
Another hotep. 

451
00:26:33,100 --> 00:26:38,500
Get rid of the hotel now in the 
Afrocentric circles. 

452
00:26:38,500 --> 00:26:43,100
Okay hotep is and still like why
is it still is? 

453
00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:46,700
It's basically meaning I come in
peace. 

454
00:26:46,700 --> 00:26:49,100
All right, that's that's the 
original phrasing. 

455
00:26:49,700 --> 00:26:53,500
All right, it gets traced back 
to ancient Egypt and again, 

456
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:57,900
yeah, to be right and hotel. 
Yeah, to be to be at rest to be 

457
00:26:57,900 --> 00:27:01,000
satisfied to be content. 
That's what hotep means. 

458
00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:04,900
So where, in the fuck did I come
in? 

459
00:27:04,900 --> 00:27:11,900
Peace, come into fuck-boy. 
Yeah, toxic masculinity. 

460
00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:20,700
There it is, they can fuck it up
but yeah but Your question about

461
00:27:20,700 --> 00:27:23,200
about that kick behavioral, 
because I want to, I want to. 

462
00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:27,900
So, where does the line be cross
between a man who classifies 

463
00:27:27,900 --> 00:27:31,300
himself as Hotel versus a man 
who was a king? 

464
00:27:31,500 --> 00:27:35,400
Because, for me, personally, I'd
be like anybody who addresses 

465
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:40,200
themselves as King was a whole 
time, but then I start, then I 

466
00:27:40,208 --> 00:27:45,000
meet you and Dom who both refer 
to themselves as king. 

467
00:27:45,300 --> 00:27:47,600
I mean, fair. 
Oh for Christ's sake, the name 

468
00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:49,500
Pharaoh means king. 
Okay. 

469
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:54,500
Okay, so I need y'all and it's 
like wow wait a second you're 

470
00:27:54,500 --> 00:27:57,600
not calling me Queen every 5 
minutes because you know my 

471
00:27:57,600 --> 00:28:02,200
fucking name you're not trying 
to press your penis on to me 

472
00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:06,800
because you have respect. 
So maybe the fact is hotel and 

473
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:09,000
King, two different separate 
things. 

474
00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:12,200
You didn't just come in peace. 
You came in with royal fucking 

475
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:15,300
Behavior, you came in like a 
fucking gentleman. 

476
00:28:15,500 --> 00:28:18,800
So where do we change the 
narrative in the Black Culture 

477
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:20,400
with hotel pan? 
King ism. 

478
00:28:21,500 --> 00:28:24,500
All right. 
So as we said at the top for, as

479
00:28:24,500 --> 00:28:29,700
I said, in the top, I have a 
responsibility as to what I am 

480
00:28:29,700 --> 00:28:33,700
to take the standard for me as a
man. 

481
00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:38,000
I'm tasked with creating safe 
environments because by Iron Man

482
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:39,800
Is it safe? 
Don't know. 

483
00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:42,700
Woman want to be around that. 
I can't have no babies. 

484
00:28:42,700 --> 00:28:46,900
I can't do nothing if the if I 
don't fixate to the environment,

485
00:28:46,900 --> 00:28:49,200
a peaceful surrounding a safe 
space, right? 

486
00:28:49,300 --> 00:28:51,200
So that is so by doing Doing 
that. 

487
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:52,400
I have to have some things in 
place. 

488
00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:56,000
I need to be disciplined in with
my mind, with my body, with my 

489
00:28:56,000 --> 00:28:58,900
money, with my spirit, all of 
that, all that has to be right? 

490
00:28:59,100 --> 00:29:02,000
Because the minute you sent some
of that shit, ain't right as a 

491
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:05,900
woman like when you since 
there's insecurity or whatever 

492
00:29:05,900 --> 00:29:08,200
that makes you act a certain 
way, then that's gonna make me. 

493
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:09,400
It's a chain reaction type 
thing. 

494
00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:15,400
So, with that being said, like, 
I have responsibilities because 

495
00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:21,500
if a woman sees a black man and 
to don't know him from Adam and 

496
00:29:21,500 --> 00:29:25,300
I've given her a good 
experience, she will more than 

497
00:29:25,300 --> 00:29:27,900
likely think that she's going to
get another experience from a 

498
00:29:27,900 --> 00:29:31,400
black now, right? 
But if she had a bad experience 

499
00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:33,800
before she met me and I need 
her, she's going to 

500
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:36,500
automatically assume you're on 
especially if she hasn't done 

501
00:29:36,500 --> 00:29:38,300
the work to fix the hurt or 
whatever. 

502
00:29:38,900 --> 00:29:42,000
I like clean up to a certain 
degree, you want to be and 

503
00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:45,100
that's what's kind of going on. 
In our integral interpersonal 

504
00:29:45,100 --> 00:29:47,400
relationships, you know, 
everybody was saying, who are 

505
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:48,800
you? 
Well, somebody has hurt, 

506
00:29:48,800 --> 00:29:52,500
everybody men and women. 
They've hurt themselves on the 

507
00:29:52,508 --> 00:29:56,000
inside and, you know, you're 
never supposed to come into a 

508
00:29:56,000 --> 00:29:58,600
relationship with past her. 
Hmm, you know what I mean? 

509
00:29:59,100 --> 00:30:02,000
All of this anything from the 
past as - we're supposed to 

510
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:05,600
clean slate, the end that person
is out there to complete 

511
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:07,600
you/your coming into their 
relationship as a complete 

512
00:30:07,600 --> 00:30:09,200
person. 
So you're not coming in there 

513
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:11,900
with lack scarcity, fear, none 
of that shit. 

514
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:13,200
This wasn't coming into it like 
that. 

515
00:30:13,300 --> 00:30:15,000
That. 
So I think a lot of us are 

516
00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:17,700
coming into it at that it did we
have all kind of insecurities 

517
00:30:17,700 --> 00:30:19,600
with in a relationship. 
So that's why we have all of 

518
00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:22,300
these issues and shit. 
And that's why it's to the point

519
00:30:22,300 --> 00:30:26,100
that good relationships are such
a foreign going to lose weight 

520
00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:28,300
y'all together. 
Wait, y'all still got the way 

521
00:30:28,300 --> 00:30:30,900
y'all got that. 
It's like, oh yeah, like 

522
00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:33,700
newsflash humans weren't meant 
to be alone. 

523
00:30:33,700 --> 00:30:37,800
That this experience is so much 
better as a human when you got 

524
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:41,100
somebody or somebodies your own,
I'm saying that you have a 

525
00:30:41,108 --> 00:30:44,900
genuine connection with period. 
I keep saying this. 

526
00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:50,000
You know, even though they're 
saying right now, the covid is 

527
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:52,000
the days of covid are over, 
okay? 

528
00:30:52,500 --> 00:30:56,400
One lesson that we have to take 
from it from being in quarantine

529
00:30:56,400 --> 00:31:02,100
is the fact that a lot of people
started realizing how lonely 

530
00:31:02,100 --> 00:31:04,800
they were in. 
Physical touch is taken away 

531
00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:07,600
from them. 
Why are you so angry all the 

532
00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:09,500
time? 
When's the last time, someone 

533
00:31:09,500 --> 00:31:10,200
hugged? 
You. 

534
00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:13,200
And the fact of the matter is 
it's like sex. 

535
00:31:13,300 --> 00:31:16,300
X can also be seen as 
therapeutic because you are 

536
00:31:16,300 --> 00:31:19,000
giving your body to someone 
else. 

537
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:25,000
And I think we tend to forget, 
we tend to forget a lot about 

538
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:31,800
human touch in sexual relations 
but I like to have sex with 

539
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:35,100
intention now because that feels
good to the soul. 

540
00:31:35,700 --> 00:31:40,600
Before I get I use sex and I was
like it's recreational but now 

541
00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:45,200
it's like sex with their tasty. 
Yeah sex with him tension now oh

542
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:48,900
my God this sex is not for 
everybody. 

543
00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:55,500
It's not for everybody. 
You are who you are. 

544
00:31:55,500 --> 00:31:58,000
My love. 
Well let me ask you this. 

545
00:31:58,100 --> 00:31:59,500
Well, let me propose this to 
you. 

546
00:31:59,500 --> 00:32:06,500
Yeah, your driest least 
attention-getting day like like 

547
00:32:06,500 --> 00:32:09,800
wherever that day was I know you
can't fathom that because, you 

548
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:13,600
know, whatever but whatever that
day is, because we bring it, you

549
00:32:13,600 --> 00:32:16,900
know, all time and whatever type
of masculinity and explaining 

550
00:32:16,900 --> 00:32:20,100
things. 
Those that day when You got your

551
00:32:20,100 --> 00:32:23,700
lowest amount of attention, 
DM's, whatever. 

552
00:32:23,700 --> 00:32:28,800
The fuck there are some guys. 
Most guys, they don't even get 

553
00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:31,500
that when it comes to attention.
I want you I want to impart that

554
00:32:31,500 --> 00:32:35,000
important like men don't get 
unless they're a guy that has 

555
00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:38,100
set himself apart. 
Take my gun to work and good to 

556
00:32:38,100 --> 00:32:39,600
go. 
And even those guys don't get 

557
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:41,600
the attention that I average 
water would get. 

558
00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:45,300
But anyway, the average and 
below average, guys. 

559
00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:50,500
Oh my God, they to In toxic 
masculinity. 

560
00:32:50,900 --> 00:32:52,800
Why? 
He liked and mid need to have 

561
00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:54,100
sex. 
It's like how you said you need 

562
00:32:54,100 --> 00:32:58,000
that attention. 
And like, like men biologically 

563
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,400
need to put their dick. 
In the hole, they need to 

564
00:33:00,700 --> 00:33:04,300
calculate. 
They need to historically. 

565
00:33:04,300 --> 00:33:09,600
Historically speaking like only 
only what 40% of men have been 

566
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:13,300
able to reproduce so the other 
60% have never been able to. 

567
00:33:13,300 --> 00:33:17,200
And again we talked about 
hypergamy, women are going to 

568
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:18,700
choose the best man with the 
best. 

569
00:33:18,700 --> 00:33:21,400
Geez. 
The best situation, the best all

570
00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:22,600
of that. 
So they can impart that to their

571
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:24,900
kids. 
So if you're do this, not doing 

572
00:33:24,900 --> 00:33:27,700
shit, you ain't got nothing 
going on or whatever, you're not

573
00:33:27,700 --> 00:33:29,800
permitted to go to pussy heavy 
it's not happening. 

574
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:39,600
Right? 
So Dude, it's very important 

575
00:33:39,600 --> 00:33:42,800
that you as a man and you know, 
life has kind of changed but 

576
00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:46,000
it's still the same. 
Like back in the day had to be a

577
00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:48,200
strongest so he can go out and 
go kill this. 

578
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:52,200
Mastodon killed this, whatever 
to bring the food back to the 

579
00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:54,300
which college life is kind of 
changed in the sense that you 

580
00:33:54,300 --> 00:33:57,100
know women are more so in the 
workforce but I'll be God, 

581
00:33:57,100 --> 00:34:00,500
damned women. 
Still want that bread when I 

582
00:34:00,508 --> 00:34:03,700
don't care if she's one of the 
women that has 12 degrees or 

583
00:34:03,700 --> 00:34:05,200
whatever. 
That woman want to sit on her 

584
00:34:05,200 --> 00:34:06,900
ass. 
Really, she don't want to have 

585
00:34:06,900 --> 00:34:09,600
to work. 
Are you talking about like we 

586
00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:12,900
always had interaction that we 
could interact but the moment 

587
00:34:12,900 --> 00:34:15,800
that's taken away and I was like
oh I want to do it. 

588
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:22,000
So you know when you have these 
things to where women can't get 

589
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:25,400
the guy that they really want 
because look attention all day 

590
00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:29,100
long all day everyday whatever. 
But it's the guy that wrote back

591
00:34:29,100 --> 00:34:32,699
that you really want a he wants 
you and he wants to have a life 

592
00:34:32,699 --> 00:34:34,600
with you. 
You can get anybody to fuck you 

593
00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:37,000
too. 
Anybody wants to fuck you but 

594
00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:38,199
that That's not really an 
option. 

595
00:34:38,199 --> 00:34:39,699
A Woman's belt. 
That's nothing. 

596
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:42,300
Can you get a guy that's gonna 
hold you down and take care of 

597
00:34:42,300 --> 00:34:44,400
your motherfucking ass for the 
rest of your life and really 

598
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:47,600
fuck with you forever? 
Every woman, can't say that 

599
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:50,199
mathematically every woman, 
can't say that we think about it

600
00:34:50,199 --> 00:34:52,699
mathematically. 
There's only a certain amount of

601
00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:55,199
everyone to go black. 
We can leave us narrow it down, 

602
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:57,300
just only a certain amount of 
black me. 

603
00:34:57,500 --> 00:34:59,400
There's only a certain amount of
matte black men that got the 

604
00:34:59,400 --> 00:35:00,900
money. 
They got only a certain amount 

605
00:35:00,900 --> 00:35:03,000
of black men that's gonna like 
you because some dude is gay. 

606
00:35:03,700 --> 00:35:06,900
A certain amount of black dudes,
that's got the buddy likes you. 

607
00:35:07,300 --> 00:35:09,800
All these other things. 
It's like two percent of guys. 

608
00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:13,100
So now you got to share a guy 
mathematically. 

609
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:15,500
And there's also women to the 
same way. 

610
00:35:15,500 --> 00:35:19,900
It's like, it's hard to find 
connection with just anybody. 

611
00:35:19,900 --> 00:35:24,500
In general, it's hard. 
People are afraid to be 

612
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:26,900
vulnerable. 
Okay. 

613
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:28,900
Yeah. 
Vulnerability is a very hard 

614
00:35:28,900 --> 00:35:31,500
thing to come by. 
Add everything else, you know, 

615
00:35:31,500 --> 00:35:34,700
especially for a woman like me, 
some people are not going to be 

616
00:35:34,700 --> 00:35:37,100
down with the fact that I'm 
queer or that I'm Polly. 

617
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:38,900
Amorous. 
And I, if you want to get in 

618
00:35:38,900 --> 00:35:42,000
relationships with me, you have 
to remember the fact that there 

619
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:46,800
are others before you, you know,
I don't like to put hierarchy as

620
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:50,600
a thing but there are things 
such as I have. 

621
00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:53,000
A relationship deep 
relationships with two other 

622
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:57,700
individuals. 
And my time I available time is 

623
00:35:57,700 --> 00:36:00,000
going to go to them first, you 
know? 

624
00:36:00,700 --> 00:36:04,600
So there's so many different 
vulnerabilities. 

625
00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:16,500
Also like hurt feelings like I 
do and it's not a bad thing to 

626
00:36:16,500 --> 00:36:19,200
have standards. 
I think people, you know, think 

627
00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:22,800
that be having standards or, 
like, leveling up is being 

628
00:36:22,800 --> 00:36:26,800
bougie and I'm like, no, it's 
called you're sick of the 

629
00:36:26,800 --> 00:36:31,400
bullshit. 
You sick of bullshit. 

630
00:36:32,300 --> 00:36:35,500
Sometimes we in order to level 
up, you got to stop making the 

631
00:36:35,500 --> 00:36:39,300
same fucking mistake. 
That's the Saturday right to do 

632
00:36:39,300 --> 00:36:40,600
the same thing over and over 
again. 

633
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:43,200
I hope for a different outcome. 
That's Insanity in every sense, 

634
00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:47,100
there were, and is also a thing 
of okay, we talked about 

635
00:36:47,100 --> 00:36:49,500
hypergamy, women are going to 
want what they want. 

636
00:36:49,500 --> 00:36:53,600
They want the best . 
Now, what does she can get that 

637
00:36:53,600 --> 00:36:56,000
or not? 
That's all her example to say. 

638
00:36:56,000 --> 00:37:00,000
And we say she's like okay, you 
don't want what you want but 

639
00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:01,900
reality is reality. 
You know what I'm saying? 

640
00:37:01,900 --> 00:37:05,000
You go get, whatever is whatever
you actually work for whatever 

641
00:37:05,000 --> 00:37:07,500
you did to work for and that 
type of thing, you can wear 

642
00:37:07,500 --> 00:37:10,000
whatever you want, and don't be 
bitter and nobody else because 

643
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:11,400
you didn't get what you didn't 
work for. 

644
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:15,300
You know what I mean? 
Facts. 

645
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:20,500
Facts is facts now as we're 
drawing a close to time. 

646
00:37:21,100 --> 00:37:25,700
I didn't forget that. 
Yeah, first of all, I have to 

647
00:37:25,700 --> 00:37:28,500
say all of this that you're 
saying, I love how everything 

648
00:37:28,500 --> 00:37:32,000
has gone hand-in-hand, the toxic
Max's, your masculinity, the 

649
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:36,400
behavior, but let's talk about 
penetration of the mine. 

650
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:40,200
Okay, but let's bring it back to
that because again, it's a 

651
00:37:40,207 --> 00:37:44,500
factor of being vulnerable is if
you He ain't, it's not mine 

652
00:37:44,500 --> 00:37:46,300
games. 
I want people to understand 

653
00:37:46,300 --> 00:37:50,800
that, you know, penetration of 
the mind, is not a mind game, 

654
00:37:51,900 --> 00:37:55,600
okay? 
If I can't connect with you on a

655
00:37:55,900 --> 00:37:59,300
intellectual level, with the 
fuck, am I doing here? 

656
00:37:59,500 --> 00:38:04,300
Sometimes even if it's just 
Mindless sex, okay, even if it's

657
00:38:04,300 --> 00:38:06,600
just like a hit it and quit, it 
kind of moment. 

658
00:38:06,900 --> 00:38:10,600
I still want my mind being 
penetrated first because if I 

659
00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:13,800
can't have a decent conversation
with you, If I can't get a 

660
00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:16,800
little deep with you, what makes
you think, I want you to could 

661
00:38:16,800 --> 00:38:19,900
be deep inside of me. 
I don't care if you're a man 

662
00:38:19,900 --> 00:38:24,200
woman transgendered, I don't 
care who the fuck you are. 

663
00:38:24,900 --> 00:38:27,400
What I care about is, how are 
you going to penetrate my mind 

664
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:33,100
and then to penetrate my body? 
So, so that comes from an 

665
00:38:33,100 --> 00:38:35,800
initial respect for the person 
that you're going to be sharing 

666
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:39,700
energy with, to actually want to
know where they're coming from. 

667
00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:41,600
Like, you know, we get this 
question all the time. 

668
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:47,500
Well, you know, how do you know 
if you're dealing with a couple 

669
00:38:48,100 --> 00:38:50,300
because I always say, oh 
whatever they just see you as 

670
00:38:50,300 --> 00:38:55,300
BBC. 
And right now I'm having a 

671
00:38:55,308 --> 00:38:59,000
conversation with the mofos. 
Do they actually regard me as a 

672
00:38:59,008 --> 00:39:02,200
human being? 
I could tell her off the bed I'm

673
00:39:02,200 --> 00:39:05,700
not going to fuck them if I feel
like that's so it the screening 

674
00:39:05,700 --> 00:39:09,400
process the vetting process you 
know just like you're saying 

675
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:15,400
like if we don't connect you had
dick and pussy situation but 

676
00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:18,900
it's like I know for me again, 
I'm a man, right? 

677
00:39:19,300 --> 00:39:23,000
I know that when I interact with
a woman even even on a porn set.

678
00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:27,800
Hmm, if I conversation with that
woman before, maybe make her 

679
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:32,600
laugh, Relate with her, that 
scene is going to be 10 times 

680
00:39:32,600 --> 00:39:36,900
better back then. 
If I die, you Autumn sex facts. 

681
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:39,000
And let's not get it twisted 
either. 

682
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:42,200
Because I think some people are 
actually scared when you connect

683
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:44,500
with somebody like that and then
you have sex with them and it's 

684
00:39:44,500 --> 00:39:48,200
like, oh, fuck, not only am I 
right? 

685
00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:51,200
Am I falling in love with them? 
And it's like, no, it's the fact

686
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:54,900
that you just got penetrated on 
a different level other than 

687
00:39:54,900 --> 00:39:57,200
sex, it's not just the 
physicality of sex. 

688
00:39:57,500 --> 00:40:00,800
You actually let somebody else. 
In and it made it feel good 

689
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:03,800
because again, sex with a 
connection. 

690
00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:06,600
It's does not. 
Like, we need to. 

691
00:40:06,700 --> 00:40:10,200
We need to stop thinking that 
sex and making a connection with

692
00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:13,000
somebody automatically means 
like, okay, we got to marry 

693
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:16,000
them. 
No, you can have. 

694
00:40:17,200 --> 00:40:19,200
Yeah, it's Just Energy that's 
being exchanged. 

695
00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:21,600
That's good energy. 
That's a good connection. 

696
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:26,400
And I rather have that than 
trashed dick or pussy or trash 

697
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:30,800
toy game because the person 
didn't an intellectually tap-in 

698
00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:36,700
and like, look me in their eyes 
when were fucking Yeah, that 

699
00:40:36,700 --> 00:40:39,000
shit is weird. 
That shit is weird. 

700
00:40:40,900 --> 00:40:47,000
And then to. 
So there's the creek are I'm, 

701
00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:51,000
we're talking to make sure that 
we're on the same level during 

702
00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:52,200
it. 
We're having some type of 

703
00:40:52,200 --> 00:40:54,000
exchange you good. 
I'm good. 

704
00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:58,200
That just like, are you like I'm
a staunch proponent for have it 

705
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:00,300
after crap that just a regular. 
Fuck session. 

706
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:02,600
How are you? 
Are you good? 

707
00:41:03,100 --> 00:41:05,800
You know I'm saying we had a 
nice little moment, you know, 

708
00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:08,300
understand are you feeling any 
type of way anything you want to

709
00:41:08,300 --> 00:41:12,700
talk about now? 
Talk about toxic masculinity at 

710
00:41:12,707 --> 00:41:17,100
the whole thing or whatever. 
Like I really With the climate 

711
00:41:17,100 --> 00:41:19,900
of everything right now. 
And again, most of the most of 

712
00:41:19,900 --> 00:41:23,100
my dealings, most of my play 
situations are in lifestyle 

713
00:41:23,100 --> 00:41:24,300
things. 
So, I don't really deal with 

714
00:41:24,300 --> 00:41:26,900
vanilla when they like that. 
But let's say I was, let's say I

715
00:41:26,900 --> 00:41:30,800
was up for the little guy. 
It will probably be real smart. 

716
00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:33,400
And again, she could say 
anything after the fact, but at 

717
00:41:33,400 --> 00:41:35,700
least you put forth the effort 
to say, after you have a 

718
00:41:35,707 --> 00:41:40,600
session, how you feel that, 
what's up? 

719
00:41:41,700 --> 00:41:44,700
And maybe and again, I know 
that, you know, a chick could 

720
00:41:44,700 --> 00:41:47,700
say anything she could do 
anything at the she can even lie

721
00:41:47,700 --> 00:41:49,500
to you to your face. 
Oh great. 

722
00:41:49,500 --> 00:41:51,900
And then go run down to 
interpreting this a supposed to 

723
00:41:51,908 --> 00:41:53,700
happen. 
That's what the hell person. 

724
00:41:53,700 --> 00:41:57,200
I guess you could do whatever. 
But at least you're like, you 

725
00:41:57,200 --> 00:42:01,400
know, let's say it was a group 
situation, you know, I'm 

726
00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:04,600
thinking of, I'm thinking about 
that Tennessee cop, you know, 

727
00:42:04,600 --> 00:42:09,700
that got caught that woman, 
copper, whatever superiors and 

728
00:42:09,700 --> 00:42:13,200
all the other stuff, right? 
They had done it right? 

729
00:42:13,500 --> 00:42:16,400
Okay. 
Hey How are you trying to feel? 

730
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:18,400
Because you know, the husband 
knows about this your to already

731
00:42:18,400 --> 00:42:23,100
anyway. 
So why not have conversations? 

732
00:42:23,500 --> 00:42:26,000
Talk about it, don't do it on 
the job. 

733
00:42:26,000 --> 00:42:28,000
I'm paying taxes for it. 
Hello. 

734
00:42:28,500 --> 00:42:31,800
Hello style. 
Kind of avoid embarrassment. 

735
00:42:31,800 --> 00:42:34,300
This, I don't want you to be 
dead, get all the ten thousand 

736
00:42:34,300 --> 00:42:37,900
dollars to dance at a local 
strip club just because we 

737
00:42:37,900 --> 00:42:39,900
couldn't keep this thing under 
wraps. 

738
00:42:41,900 --> 00:42:43,200
You know what? 
I need safe space. 

739
00:42:43,300 --> 00:42:45,900
If you catch my drift. 
No, I 1000%. 

740
00:42:45,900 --> 00:42:49,700
And I think that couples need to
realize this too, because again,

741
00:42:49,900 --> 00:42:52,400
if you are in a relationship, 
okay? 

742
00:42:52,700 --> 00:42:57,600
Whether it's polyamorous 
monogamous open, you're in a 

743
00:42:57,600 --> 00:43:03,500
relationship, okay? 
And it's a 2-way 3-way 4-way, 

744
00:43:03,600 --> 00:43:07,400
however, situation and maybe 
because I'm not trying to 

745
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:10,800
generalize this to monogamous 
folks, but I hear a lot. 

746
00:43:10,900 --> 00:43:15,200
A lot of this especially from 
the cooking world lately, okay? 

747
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:19,000
On the motor space that I you 
know, I'm hearing more 

748
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:21,900
one-sided. 
Oh my wife will be okay, even if

749
00:43:21,900 --> 00:43:25,200
I spring it on her. 
No, never spring. 

750
00:43:25,500 --> 00:43:31,300
Please stop springing group sex 
or settings or bringing in 

751
00:43:31,300 --> 00:43:35,900
random main thinking your lady 
that night wants to be put in a 

752
00:43:35,900 --> 00:43:37,900
cup situation. 
And I'm glad that you reacted 

753
00:43:37,900 --> 00:43:40,500
that way because I had to sit 
somebody straight on the 

754
00:43:40,900 --> 00:43:43,600
Recently, they shut down their 
room because they probably 

755
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:45,000
didn't, like, what they were 
hearing. 

756
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:49,400
But I'm like, listen fool. 
Like you cannot say, oh, I'm 

757
00:43:49,400 --> 00:43:53,600
gonna have a dude in the closet.
Watch me. 

758
00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:59,600
Fuck you and be okay with it. 
Oh, I'm not going to be safe as 

759
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:03,500
a woman, and especially if like,
again, if this is a partnership,

760
00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:08,200
I don't care here, my husband, 
my boyfriend, my girlfriend, 

761
00:44:08,300 --> 00:44:10,700
there's no way in fuck if I'm 
connected to you. 

762
00:44:10,900 --> 00:44:14,600
You that you're ever gonna 
spring up any group like 

763
00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:17,200
situation? 
I have to be in the mind space. 

764
00:44:17,500 --> 00:44:20,400
Okay, give me at least a heads 
up to be like, oh, by the way, 

765
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:23,900
on Saturday? 
How would you feel if we just 

766
00:44:23,900 --> 00:44:29,400
sporadically, have a three-way 
with somebody or I have home in 

767
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:32,000
the closet and you act like 
they're not there because they 

768
00:44:32,000 --> 00:44:34,100
want to get off to that? 
I you know what I mean? 

769
00:44:35,300 --> 00:44:40,400
You know, one more time I think 
that was mold but I talk about 

770
00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:45,700
the the unsafety. 
This is so unsafe for a black 

771
00:44:45,700 --> 00:44:49,900
man to even do a session with 
and a lot of people I've never 

772
00:44:49,900 --> 00:44:52,500
thought about this. 
I was like look man and that's 

773
00:44:52,500 --> 00:44:54,800
why it's so important to have 
the conversation with them and 

774
00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:58,000
of course they can still live 
with it but at least you you 

775
00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:00,700
won't be fucking no races. 
Don't know KKK motherfuckers 

776
00:45:00,700 --> 00:45:03,200
that's just trying to set you up
like hello. 

777
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:07,600
So it's like okay. 
Let's say like the scenario. 

778
00:45:07,600 --> 00:45:11,000
You saying the husband wants to 
do they call it the blindfold 

779
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:12,500
right? 
When they try to blindfold, 

780
00:45:12,500 --> 00:45:16,500
they're white and then, you 
know, some or husband, you know,

781
00:45:16,500 --> 00:45:21,100
the wife, they swing. 
And it's just a black dick in 

782
00:45:21,100 --> 00:45:24,600
her mouth. 
Just like so many cups have that

783
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:27,900
fantasy or whatever. 
And it's like, okay, let's hash 

784
00:45:27,900 --> 00:45:30,300
that out. 
Like we could we could pretend 

785
00:45:30,300 --> 00:45:32,000
like it's a fucking thing or 
whatever. 

786
00:45:32,000 --> 00:45:34,700
Maybe tell you why. 
Hey, we may do something maybe 

787
00:45:34,700 --> 00:45:36,300
this. 
Squeaking as she said has a 

788
00:45:36,308 --> 00:45:39,300
heads up but still let's say 
that shit happens at, she's not 

789
00:45:39,300 --> 00:45:42,000
down with you, she makes us 
think about it, you're at a 

790
00:45:42,008 --> 00:45:45,100
hotel or whatever the hell that 
the police got to get called the

791
00:45:45,100 --> 00:45:47,000
only person that's gonna get 
fucked up. 

792
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:49,300
Potentially is that black dude 
that you brought in there? 

793
00:45:49,800 --> 00:45:52,200
You know what I mean? 
Not even the husband because 

794
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:54,800
she'll be like, oh, when he was 
just trying to do whatever, but 

795
00:45:54,800 --> 00:45:56,400
that black dudes gonna get a 
charge. 

796
00:45:56,400 --> 00:46:00,100
So it's just like know 
everything consensual everybody 

797
00:46:00,100 --> 00:46:02,900
to know everything that's going 
on and even in the middle I'm 

798
00:46:02,900 --> 00:46:04,600
like, hey, that's still good. 
We sell. 

799
00:46:04,600 --> 00:46:05,700
All right. 
Yes. 

800
00:46:05,700 --> 00:46:08,500
Because no, I'm glad you brought
that up. 

801
00:46:08,500 --> 00:46:12,400
Because again I feel like that 
is a thing that people need to 

802
00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:16,000
take in consideration because a 
lot of cooks, you know, want 

803
00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:19,800
this fantasy of, you know, their
wives, their girlfriends being 

804
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:23,200
fucked by black Mane. 
But also, you got his happen 

805
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:26,700
with the fact that these are 
scenarios that can and will 

806
00:46:26,700 --> 00:46:33,400
happen. you know, and even just 
in a, if we take one part, I'm 

807
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:36,200
sorry for the most part, the 
Cubs are going to be the guys, 

808
00:46:36,200 --> 00:46:37,500
they're going to get that in a 
partnership. 

809
00:46:37,500 --> 00:46:39,300
They're going to be the person 
who introduced it to their 

810
00:46:39,300 --> 00:46:42,600
wives, but whenever I'm doing 
this, I'm happy. 

811
00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:45,100
Please believe I'm having a 
conversation with the wife over 

812
00:46:45,100 --> 00:46:47,600
and over and over again to make 
sure that she's down like 

813
00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:50,300
because I know that the husband 
wants it and that's fine, baby. 

814
00:46:51,100 --> 00:46:53,700
But do you want it? 
My girl, do you actually want 

815
00:46:53,700 --> 00:46:56,600
this like look your husband off 
to the side here, not here. 

816
00:46:57,500 --> 00:46:59,000
Do you wanna have sex with a 
black guy? 

817
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:03,500
And if she gives me any type of 
went Done. 

818
00:47:03,600 --> 00:47:05,600
Yes. 
Oh no. 

819
00:47:05,600 --> 00:47:07,400
No. 
You don't have to do this at 

820
00:47:07,400 --> 00:47:09,300
all. 
In fact, I don't want you to do 

821
00:47:09,300 --> 00:47:11,700
it until you really want to do. 
Like, don't go do it. 

822
00:47:11,800 --> 00:47:12,600
It's off. 
Don't worry. 

823
00:47:12,600 --> 00:47:14,200
Exactly. 
And I'm glad that you bring that

824
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:17,700
up because again, it is a, pat 
of fact, of a mindfuck to 

825
00:47:17,900 --> 00:47:22,400
because men will manipulate 
their women into doing things, 

826
00:47:22,400 --> 00:47:27,100
that is not sexual, you know, 
even vice versa women will 

827
00:47:27,100 --> 00:47:31,000
sometimes pressure the man to be
like I need you to be okay with 

828
00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:32,800
the fact that I want to have 
sex. 

829
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:36,000
With another man and maybe have 
you walked? 

830
00:47:36,500 --> 00:47:40,100
That's a mindfuck to because, 
okay, in his mind, he's like, 

831
00:47:40,100 --> 00:47:43,500
well, she loves me and I want to
provide for her but I'm giving 

832
00:47:43,500 --> 00:47:45,100
her something. 
I can't provide. 

833
00:47:45,200 --> 00:47:49,100
And even the man might see, vice
versa like I want to give her 

834
00:47:49,100 --> 00:47:52,400
something that she's never had, 
has expressed to it. 

835
00:47:52,500 --> 00:47:56,200
But no matter how many times we 
express things expressing things

836
00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:59,900
and actually going through with 
things are two different things 

837
00:47:59,900 --> 00:48:02,800
and that's why it is so vital to
check-in. 

838
00:48:02,900 --> 00:48:09,800
Like you said with the partners 
before during and after that, my

839
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:14,500
worst fear, my worst fear and I 
want to illustrate it for you 

840
00:48:15,500 --> 00:48:17,600
you gotta cook in the Cub chair,
right? 

841
00:48:18,300 --> 00:48:20,200
Me. 
And his wife are in the bed, my 

842
00:48:20,200 --> 00:48:22,800
back is to him because he's in a
co-chair. 

843
00:48:23,700 --> 00:48:29,200
I'm about to insert and he has 
this click out woman like what 

844
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:32,800
the fuck am I doing them all 
pandemonium breaks. 

845
00:48:33,400 --> 00:48:37,400
That is that, that is that it's 
more likely to happen than that.

846
00:48:38,200 --> 00:48:43,400
I can't really be a true. 
So it's like, I put my life on 

847
00:48:43,400 --> 00:48:45,300
the line. 
You put your life on the line 

848
00:48:45,300 --> 00:48:47,200
every fight. 
This is not know nothing. 

849
00:48:47,200 --> 00:48:50,500
You want to just play with 
Sharon energy, like no, you want

850
00:48:50,500 --> 00:48:53,700
to make sure sure, sure sure, 
sure, sure that who you're 

851
00:48:53,700 --> 00:48:56,100
dealing with and still, you 
never know, you could only be a 

852
00:48:56,100 --> 00:48:58,700
99% sure, because anything can 
happen. 

853
00:48:58,900 --> 00:49:02,800
But it's just like This is what 
we're dealing with and that's 

854
00:49:02,800 --> 00:49:04,000
why these motherfuckers got to 
pee. 

855
00:49:05,100 --> 00:49:06,800
That's why I said luxury, that's
why. 

856
00:49:06,800 --> 00:49:10,600
It's like, like know, if I'm 
going to spend my energy my time

857
00:49:10,600 --> 00:49:12,100
with you cuz I'm not gonna get 
it back. 

858
00:49:12,100 --> 00:49:16,300
Mmm, ever money back, but I 
can't get this time back. 

859
00:49:16,700 --> 00:49:18,700
So if I'm gonna do it, you're 
gonna pay top dollar. 

860
00:49:18,700 --> 00:49:24,600
That's why I said loves you. 
Facts facts man. 

861
00:49:25,100 --> 00:49:29,300
So, how often would you say you 
know, because we didn't tap into

862
00:49:29,300 --> 00:49:33,100
your side of the business and 
could you you seem like you you 

863
00:49:33,100 --> 00:49:42,700
are o DD on demand deck, okay? 
Or should I say oh a lady coping

864
00:49:42,700 --> 00:49:49,500
appointment? 
Dick only appointment dick if 

865
00:49:49,500 --> 00:49:53,400
people want to book this Is 
Dick, how do they go about to 

866
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:59,100
book the dick? 
Well, it's a they comes the 

867
00:49:59,100 --> 00:50:04,100
variety and how you want to do 
it, whatever be like. 

868
00:50:04,100 --> 00:50:07,000
Right now I'm really getting 
into this this hugging and 

869
00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:10,700
cuddling now like, it's like no 
sex, like my eyes really want me

870
00:50:10,700 --> 00:50:14,300
to come over like sleep in the 
bed with them husband sleeps on 

871
00:50:14,300 --> 00:50:18,600
the floor and they pay me just 
to cuddle them like they just 

872
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:23,500
want to feel Man Bones like 
collarbones on a back like that.

873
00:50:23,500 --> 00:50:26,800
That's a new thing for me. 
But anyway so I A website of 

874
00:50:26,800 --> 00:50:29,100
your, I think I'll put my link 
Tree on there so they can get to

875
00:50:29,100 --> 00:50:35,400
be that way or whatever. 
But I'm here to provide a 

876
00:50:35,400 --> 00:50:40,500
certain experience that is very 
rare and it's like I have an 

877
00:50:40,500 --> 00:50:44,900
understanding of nuance. 
I have an understanding of 

878
00:50:44,900 --> 00:50:50,300
relationship Dynamics and you 
don't have to wonder, you don't 

879
00:50:50,300 --> 00:50:54,100
have to wish you don't have to 
only see it in videos whatever 

880
00:50:54,100 --> 00:50:56,000
it's actually here. 
You know what I mean? 

881
00:50:56,100 --> 00:51:00,300
Mmm, I love that what's coming 
up for you so people can start 

882
00:51:00,300 --> 00:51:02,900
to I follow you get in touch 
with you. 

883
00:51:04,000 --> 00:51:06,700
All right? 
So what's ongoing is I have a 

884
00:51:06,707 --> 00:51:12,000
condo in South Florida, where I 
do sessions Cooks, can come by 

885
00:51:12,000 --> 00:51:15,900
be made, I trained bunnies. 
I even have this kingmaker 

886
00:51:15,900 --> 00:51:18,200
program where I talked to Kings 
and make them better. 

887
00:51:18,300 --> 00:51:21,500
As far as how to, you know, 
demonstrate their kingliness 

888
00:51:21,500 --> 00:51:23,400
that type of thing. 
I have a condo. 

889
00:51:23,400 --> 00:51:27,000
So I do like weekly events. 
There some free events so much 

890
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:32,100
as it's tough and on, let me see
this weekend coming up. 

891
00:51:32,100 --> 00:51:36,100
I'll be in Orlando for this 
three-day mansion party that 

892
00:51:36,100 --> 00:51:38,000
people that's coming in from all
over the world. 

893
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:41,300
This is on the the weekend of 
the 28th correct. 

894
00:51:41,300 --> 00:51:43,500
Correct. 
That's what we cannot 28. 

895
00:51:43,500 --> 00:51:45,700
A big three-day party in 
Orlando. 

896
00:51:47,000 --> 00:51:49,100
You know, this girl. 
Very eyes. 

897
00:51:49,300 --> 00:51:53,100
I put some videos and things 
ever but that is you have the 

898
00:51:53,100 --> 00:51:55,500
online version, you have the 
online community and then you 

899
00:51:55,508 --> 00:51:59,500
have the in-person community and
in order for you to move to the 

900
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:02,600
in-person community, it's a 
vetting process, you know, to 

901
00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:04,500
make sure that you're good. 
But you also need to have these 

902
00:52:04,500 --> 00:52:07,700
interpersonal skills to. 
You can be a superstar online. 

903
00:52:07,700 --> 00:52:09,900
But that you give any person 
people like, well, like a 

904
00:52:09,900 --> 00:52:10,500
person. 
Right. 

905
00:52:10,500 --> 00:52:16,100
So process is we do it here? 
So that's on this, not this 

906
00:52:16,100 --> 00:52:20,000
weekend, but the next to 28, and
N on Cinco de Mayo. 

907
00:52:20,100 --> 00:52:23,300
I have another house party 
that's just going to be for two 

908
00:52:23,300 --> 00:52:25,700
days over the weekend. 
Very nice. 

909
00:52:25,700 --> 00:52:28,200
Look at you. 
Mr. Kargh Matchmaker. 

910
00:52:28,600 --> 00:52:33,200
I love it. 
Babe, I'm actually whatever 

911
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:36,800
think that this is a fantasy and
I make the fantasy reality, I 

912
00:52:36,800 --> 00:52:39,200
don't want to ever make it seem 
like you can't reach out and 

913
00:52:39,200 --> 00:52:40,800
touch it. 
You got to spend something for 

914
00:52:40,800 --> 00:52:43,200
it is not free. 
You gotta sacrifice for it, but 

915
00:52:43,200 --> 00:52:45,100
it is here. 
You can't even touch you. 

916
00:52:45,100 --> 00:52:48,400
You see? 
I swear, I wish y'all can see He

917
00:52:48,400 --> 00:52:51,500
just did, he just basically give
me the Suave the week ago. 

918
00:52:51,500 --> 00:52:54,100
So I like let me just lick my 
lips and just deep into your 

919
00:52:54,100 --> 00:52:55,900
soul. 
Stop it. 

920
00:52:55,900 --> 00:52:58,600
Not him for rusyn, his aunt. 
Yes. 

921
00:52:58,600 --> 00:53:03,800
Okay. 
Like I said, it's a rare thing. 

922
00:53:03,800 --> 00:53:06,200
It's a rare thing to make 
sapphire blush. 

923
00:53:06,200 --> 00:53:09,800
So good job, that's a good 
thing. 

924
00:53:11,400 --> 00:53:13,700
Oh my goodness. 
Well again, where can they get 

925
00:53:13,700 --> 00:53:15,900
in touch with you on Instagram 
and Twitter? 

926
00:53:17,100 --> 00:53:21,000
Okay so Instagram you can hit me
at Cup match maker one. 

927
00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:24,400
Twitter. 
I'm also cut Matchmaker you 

928
00:53:24,400 --> 00:53:26,200
can't be there. 
I'm sure it's a prize going to 

929
00:53:26,207 --> 00:53:28,400
figure out my links and things 
so y'all see me. 

930
00:53:29,000 --> 00:53:30,700
Yeah babe everything. 
Oh dear. 

931
00:53:30,800 --> 00:53:35,100
Essential service.com, you get 
your cup, matchmaking events, 

932
00:53:35,400 --> 00:53:37,800
even got clothing on, that 
Sapphire got some gear for you 

933
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:39,600
on the way, don't trip? 
Oh, sure. 

934
00:53:40,400 --> 00:53:45,000
Yay, it's all good because the 
whole thing is a lifestyle. 

935
00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:47,300
So situation you come down, the 
south Florida, we can give you 

936
00:53:47,300 --> 00:53:49,600
the experience to. 
So bring that ass, I would love 

937
00:53:49,600 --> 00:53:52,900
to bring my ass to Miami honey. 
This ass needs to get a little 

938
00:53:52,900 --> 00:53:56,800
bit more tan. 
So yes, compete. 

939
00:53:56,800 --> 00:53:58,600
ASAP you coming? 
Those headlines. 

940
00:53:58,700 --> 00:54:00,300
I'm within. 
I'm with it. 

941
00:54:00,800 --> 00:54:03,100
Right. 
Well, earbuds, you guys are in 

942
00:54:03,100 --> 00:54:06,400
for a treat because next week 
things are gonna get a little 

943
00:54:06,400 --> 00:54:08,100
furry. 
Yes. 

944
00:54:08,200 --> 00:54:13,000
For the monsters who know Barry 
is one of the first furries that

945
00:54:13,000 --> 00:54:16,100
we had on the monat and he's a 
black furry, if that's what 

946
00:54:16,100 --> 00:54:20,500
we're gonna get into it, talking
about black furry, do you said 

947
00:54:22,900 --> 00:54:26,300
Yes, black Freedom, that's where
it's going to be at next week. 

948
00:54:26,300 --> 00:54:30,600
So be on the lookout for that 
episode coming on April 30th 

949
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:34,400
with that said you know where to
reach me at Miz radio Sapphire. 

950
00:54:34,400 --> 00:54:40,200
That's MSR ADI osep Phi, re on 
Instagram as sapphires are play 

951
00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:43,700
on Instagram Ms. Radio, 
Sapphire.com is still under 

952
00:54:43,700 --> 00:54:47,300
construction, but let me tell 
you the changes that are coming.

953
00:54:47,300 --> 00:54:50,700
We're talking to sizzle reel 
where you can hire me my latest 

954
00:54:50,700 --> 00:54:53,300
latest drops and everything. 
Oh, but of course sapphires, 

955
00:54:53,300 --> 00:54:55,500
your play is everywhere. 
You want to be just like Visa 

956
00:54:55,500 --> 00:54:58,500
Mastercard, let's get me to that
one percentile. 

957
00:54:58,500 --> 00:55:02,300
If not point five percent, I'll 
simply write a review wherever 

958
00:55:02,300 --> 00:55:05,900
you're listening to the podcast 
right now. 5 Stars, write me 

959
00:55:05,900 --> 00:55:08,900
some some reviews. 
Let's get the shout out of going

960
00:55:09,200 --> 00:55:11,700
earbuds, remember that safe? 
Sex is the best. 

961
00:55:11,700 --> 00:55:17,800
Hot sex till next week, good. 
That was the show. 

962
00:55:17,800 --> 00:55:19,300
All you sexy motherfuckers out 
there. 

963
00:55:19,300 --> 00:55:23,100
Remember to follow at Miz radio,
Sapphire and Buyers are play on 

964
00:55:23,100 --> 00:55:25,700
Instagram, one, Samir orgasms of
the past and future. 

965
00:55:25,700 --> 00:55:28,900
Make sure to follow on Apple 
podcasts, anchor Spotify, 

966
00:55:28,900 --> 00:55:31,700
iHeartRadio and all streaming 
platforms.