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What is up? I'll use sexy motherfuckers out
there in radioland. It should girls Sapphire with
another your place special, and I am so thrilled to have my
guest of honor today. Her name is Tara Galliano.
And I am so excited because we're talking about something
different here on ear. Play psychedelics, if you will
DMT in orgasms and what do these two have in common?
What is the two? Mutual beautiful relationship
between them so Tara, I am so excited to have you.
You're a license sex therapist. We've worked with women couples
for over two decades, which is crazy to me because I feel like
in the past decade alone, sexuality and just the fluidity
Me and the studies have just been more prominent than ever,
and maybe you can agree or disagree with me on this.
She is also the author of rediscovering my body, which
teaches us to show up for our pleasure something that I truly
believe in as far as, like, sexual healing and getting to
know yourself, through the power of orgasms and just sexuality in
general, if we cannot know ourselves, how can we give
ourselves to others in our partners?
So without further Ado, it's hard.
Thank you so much for joining me on the show.
Today. Yes, thank you so much Sapphire.
It's a pleasure to be here. Yes.
Oh my goodness, so much. So much to discuss.
First of all, rediscovering my body, this book, this journal,
if you will, I love how it is like a self-guidance if you
will. And I'm going to add it into my
own practice because lately, I've been very very open about
mental health and wellness especially during the times of
covid and what brought me back to therapy itself, but I have
been been really taking lessons for my own body and intuitions
and rediscovering, my own body sexually and trying to get more
comfortable in my skin. And I love how your Journal.
This book has really helped women.
It seems like to kind of get in touch with that the questions
that you ask and just I love how it is.
Very in tune, it's something that everybody needs to put to
their practices. What made you, you know, write
this like wit just said, you know, what?
It's time now. Give out some self-help, some
stuff tips on how to reel of yourself.
And again, rediscovering your body.
Yeah, they and thank you. I really appreciate you diving
into that book. And the reason why I wrote that
book is because I was working with women who had cancer and
these women. These amazing courageous
Amazonian women really were coming to terms with their own
mortality and they were struggling with this diagnosis
of cancer and feeling seen and objectified by the medical
community that they were just Experiments.
They weren't feeling like they were in touch with their sexual
selves and so what I did was I began to teach this course
called ReDiscover my body where women could really tap into a
sense of themselves, their body image their intimacy, their
pleasure. And then I decided to write this
book for all women, because every woman that I talked to you
about this class or like, hey, I want some of that.
I want to know more about that. I want to do that.
You and so then it just made sense to create this invitation
and really work on this book to make sure that it was available
to all women. I love that.
And if it's good that you make this point about, you know,
women rediscovery because I feel that as women, you know, whether
we are assigned at Birth as a woman, or we are rediscovering
ourselves later on and saying, my true identity is a woman.
We are so taught that our These are not our own, you know?
And so I love that you are giving women this power to be
like no this is my body. This is a journal for me to kind
of come back reflect on the sex of them.
Having that was one of the chapters that you had, you know,
talking about how do you feel sexually today and what me, you
change later on in telling us if he could deep breath, getting in
touch with ourselves, I think that is just something genuinely
that were Missing in our own sexuality, in our own practices.
So thank you for just giving that space to women to
ReDiscover, its being all rediscovering.
I feel like lately in the past, probably five, almost 10 years.
Now people are now rediscovering their sexual be late beings and
health through holistic health with the help of psychedelics.
Now here's something interesting about myself until recently.
I never really took psychedelics.
You know, I've had my wild whole face and experimented with
cocaine in college and insects with that, and And it's a mess.
I do not course Advocate, you know, sex and cocaine.
And I also never really consent and condone sex when you're
inebriated like. Yes, I like to be high and smoke
a little weed or, you know intake, marijuana products
during sex, but anything harder than that.
I kind of feel like there's a level it consent.
That's just never really met but now I feel like with the new
studies and psychedelics, In particular DMT, I've been
hearing this conversation a lot so when you reached out to me
with your team saying that you wanted to talk about the
connections with DMT and orgasms on like holy shit this is never
been talked about on air play, Let's get into it.
So going into DMT what exactly for the average listener
listening? Right now what exactly is DMT
and what is the connection with orgasms?
Yeah. So DMT is the substance that is
actually released within our own brain.
And so there is endogenous DMT which means that the body makes
it and that DMT, I would say, cultivates experience of
euphoria and that there's this Oneness.
And with that experience, often times, there's a sense of God,
or I would say a spiritual connection and so, then
combining that with Ooh, ality is a really potent experience.
However my yeah, my way that I'm learning this that I'm teaching
this and I just want to give a shout out to my teacher
specifically Jenny Martin who is bringing this to the Forefront
because she is a researcher and a scientist and that that's
really an important access point.
For a lot of people is that there's scientific studies
validating this practice This experience and also that there's
been research in terms of what DMT does to the body, how we
experience it and that it is endogenous.
And because it's in Dodges, it means that we can access it
pretty much at any time at any place as long as we are willing
to. So there really needs to be some
some permission within ourselves and there is an opportunity to
have this psychedelic orgasm without the use of substances.
Eternally without taking a pill without smoking without
ingesting DMT. At all, because it is already
within our body that is amazing. So what is it about the body
that kind of releases this like, is there a certain position?
Because I feel that you know, when we're talking about orgasms
in particular and talking about sexual pleasure, I feel that The
things that are being released. We always hear like it has to be
an uncertain position, you got to be relaxed, you got to let
things go. Just like when they're talking
about sporting for instance, like you gotta lay on your back,
you gotta relax the muscles, let me fight.
No, no, that just makes me more scared so you don't want to
release and have that type of orgasm.
So what is it about? The DMT side that is being
written, you know, released into the body because when I'm, when
I was doing my research about it this week, you know, I was
finding out about you know, the true evidence or the pure Bliss
that comes with this release of DMT and talking about how you
know, of course our cervix being the spongy patch that it is
being 3 to 6 inches away. From the vagina is where the
power of DMT is really released. But what does that say?
For women who may experience cervical pain, when they are
orgasming with cervical orgasms because until recently I didn't
even Know that there was a real difference between a vaginal
orgasm versus a cervical orgasm and I'd say that's probably true
for a lot of us as women is that as we become more Curious and
give ourselves more permission to explore.
I mean, and just coming back to my book.
That's why I wrote the book because I like, I'm I'm
researcher. I'm curious, and I'm a man.
Tentative and I want to know more but I don't want to dictate
to others what is true for them and this opportunity to explore
cervical vaginal orgasms. Yes.
And do I know that to be true? Yes so I can speak about my
experience and point to what it is that I've seen what it is to
have it. What did I what I have
experienced and what I've taught other women but I don't I feel
like it's really important not to dictate like this is the
path. Path.
And this is the way it is because that is the way that sex
has been portrayed for so many thousands of years for so many
of us is that this linear progression, that it's
penile-vaginal intercourse and we just know that that's not
true anymore. Is that there's so many more
vast ways to connect as a human being with another human being,
if you choose but also as ourselves that particularly for
those of us who identify as women that We have this amazing
power within ourselves that actually creates life and it's
not just that we get to create life but we get to create so
much because we're that powerful and that the opportunity to
experience pleasure. It I mean its inherent in the
experience of having a clitoris that means so many people have
said now that there's 8,000 nerve endings and the only
purpose is for pleasure. As I just want to highlight
that. Pleasure is so important to our
well-being and that we often times, see it as Superfluous or
a luxury, and it actually is essential.
And so they've done research with women, who've had cancer
actually, tapping into their life force energy by having
orgasms more regularly and seeing the healing potential
that is inherent within that. And I just think that, that's
really powerful for all of us to know and that 2003 there was a
study done for people who are wanting to lose weight and they
took out a part of their brain so they could lose weight.
But what actually happened as well was it people lost their
sense of pleasure. Wow and with that 20% of those
participants unfortunately became suicidal Because again it
releases that oxytocin. So when you don't have that
oxytocin, oh my goodness. Wow!
Wow. And that we are meant to have
experiences of pleasure on a regular ongoing basis that there
is a innocence and a naturalness to that.
And so when we get into the inner kind of the fine-tuned
cervical or reject orgasm vaginal orgasm, it's like yes
and what the opportunity is. Experience, each of, those are
all of those and release the shame that has been so
oppressive to so many of us on so many levels.
I mean just race class, sex, religion.
I mean, so many ways we have been oppressed and that it lies
within our physiology. There are physical overlays of
Shame within our body that actually need to be released.
Now, Now, on the subject of of race and sexuality, I do feel
that in my experience that more black and Latin X, identifying
women are the ones that are more open to talk about and go into
the rituals of like holistic health when it comes to
sexuality and it seems like my white you know.
Counterparts. No offense.
It's like the it's becoming now a later thing.
Like now they're, they're starting to Car lessons but it's
like we've been saying this for centuries for centuries for
decades and talking about holistic health him in getting
in tune with your chakras and getting in tune with your body.
So again that connection that's being made as far as like the
dialogue of sex and sexuality and owning your sexuality.
How do you talk about that with your practices with other
clients that may feel that same shame or Or, you know, have that
disadvantage that they weren't taught until they came to you.
I mean I think that it's important that it's validated.
I that is a real experience. And that often times what I find
is that women, who are identifying as women of color
are more embodied, there's a sense of being in their body, in
a different way, than I would say, my white sisters.
And I think part of that is because goodness, this, we live
in a Cartesian Society. I think therefore I am and that
there's this validation, that happens that we From the
shoulders up and so if we can think it then it must be and
that is very powerful and not to dismiss that because we all live
in so many different thought-forms, belief systems
and and Concepts and also being in the body.
And the ways that we perceive through the body, is
fundamentally powerful and inherent for us, particularly as
women. And I think that whether we're
Conscious of of it are or not. If we have a lineage that we can
identify and we feel to be true that we are connected to our
ancestors healed and whole that they are actually supporting us.
I'm adopted, I was raised by a family who identifies as white.
I'm not of my people per se but I feel my Colombian ancestry.
Every moment I feel the lineage of my Cooter and that is and
it's not just an imagination. But I feel them that they have
strategically supported me so I can show up here in this land at
this time in a woman's body to talk about sacred sexuality
because that is the truth of their experience and that is a
wisdom that they've shared with me.
And I know I know. And was I raised sex-positive?
No. Wow, yeah, so what at one point
and again, we're I love that we're having this conversation.
Relation and it is bringing it all back to the subject matter
of psychedelics and all that. Because again, we have to tap in
to the beginning, in order to get to where we're at, in our
sexual experience, we do have to tap into our lineage, we have to
tap into the beginnings. So at what point for you did you
say? Okay this is an Awakening moment
that everything that I've been taught I have to unlearn at what
point. Did you say?
I want to explore this. More.
I'm taking my body back and I'm taking my control back and I
want to freely express myself sexually to educate the masses
of what was your Turning Point. I mean, I know, I wish I could
say that it was one moment in time, but like that, everybody
else is kind of not, it's just yes.
Okay, there's a layer of this layers up and I was raised
Catholic and for me, the Catholic religion offered this
immense vast power, which was very intoxicating and also, the
depth of ritual that mesmerised me.
And I have a deep love for Jesus.
And mother Mary and I know that their wisdom may not have been
the truth of what the Catholic Church presents.
Hmm. And and it's um something was
usurped their and yet I have followed it, loved it, until I
was 13 and challenged, a priest of like what is going on here.
We're not talking about sex not same-sex couples like what
happens when a person gets pregnant and, and then they
still want to be a part of the church.
So there were a lot of conversations that my priests
weren't Happy with. And so then I went elsewhere to
seek on my journey and that's the pieces that I've just been
seeking again and again and I've been married one time the first
time for 25 years and my former husband would say that he was a
sex addict and I'm six therapist.
And so recognizing the suppression and the layers of
ignorance that I chose to live in because I didn't know the
truth. And so there was a lot of
accepting of norms and ways of being in the world where
actually didn't support me in terms of heterosexual marriage.
In terms of male-female relations in terms of being a
woman of color and being married to a white man we just on and on
and on and on the layers. And that was really my true
education and then once that marriage was dissolved, that
everything that came to light instantaneously but the pathway
began to open for me and with that open - I released myself
from whatever Val, wow, that I imagine that I needed to be
under which was kind of a spell that I did not need to accept
that anymore because I have sovereignty of my own being.
And in order to be fully responsible for everything that
I create, I need to be responsible for everything I
have created. It's just I'm in awe.
I'm in awe because everything you just said kind of relates to
me in a sense I too was raised Catholic and you know, I've
definitely discussed my own Catholic guilt growing up in
questioning my faith and my belief.
Like now I feel like I take a little bit of spirituality from
each and every religion that I've ever listened and read up
on to and I definitely feel like it has brought me closer and
into a spiritual sense into my own sexuality because the body
is a church, the body is a temple.
So when you're into with all those things that you learned
from Catholicism Buddhism Judaism, it's amazing.
What it can do to your sex life and making it a more.
I don't want to say sacrificial but it is definitely a ritual
sex. Is a ritual moment, it releases
so much with depending upon, you know, how many people are
involved? It's a very, very spiritual
journey and I think you don't even bring it back to the use of
psychedelics in the bedroom. Like I did a poll earlier this
week asking, people have they taken psychedelics, you know, in
the bedroom and it was a draw fifty percent.
You know, it was a 50% drop between people saying, no, I
don't use anything in the bedroom versus those who are
have gone down the rabbit hole. And so, when I was asking people
they said you know, it was more of a Spiritual listing being
closer to their partner, they felt closer using, you know, DMT
shrooming, if you will, and then adding on to their pleasure in
orgasms now, maybe you can debunk.
This, would you say that because the body releases DMT and then
you put synthetic DMT, if you will into your body, does that
necessarily heightened? In or does it kind of, you know,
sir, press in orgasm, or does it just depend upon the body
itself? I would say that I don't have
enough research or experience to say anything other than it
depends on the body itself. What I do know about
psychedelics is that they point the way for what is a truth or
reality is that we absolutely can experience those high levels
of Oneness with God within our being.
And I think DMT is an excellent example, that when we part Take
in these sacraments if you will, that there is an opportunity to
expand beyond our Consciousness or limited everyday mundane
experience. And also what I would say we
have the opportunity to experience that without those as
well. I mean just you know the that
practitioners of Tantra the Buddhist monks that can
levitate. I mean, it just really there are
Transcendent practitioners of all.
All denominations that have experienced this Rapture and
Oneness of Spirit. And the also can happen through
the sexual act with one cell or with another.
And that it is a powerful experience.
And that it is not predicated on, taking are ingesting it
psychedelic, but it is a Way Forward because so many of us
are so Constricted and and again so much in our head that there
is an opportunity there that probably is more needed now than
ever before. Wow, now when people talk about
their experience with a cervical orgasm with the release of DMT,
some women have said that it's been a full body experience of
elation and Bliss. Others have said it is just
deeply relaxing its Ting pulsating that they become one
with their partner. If not themselves.
Spiritually, spiritually, profound again, all these
things. It does sound like it's this
magical drug and then I was also reading that the release of DMT
can help those with PTSD. How does that interact?
Like, how is how is that even possible?
Especially for someone who may have PTSD through sex?
So how does that the natural release DMT in the body?
Help? You know, people overcome PTSD
especially for those who kind of are scared to explore their
bodies. Like what is that connection?
I love that. I think that's those are great
questions and certainly I've not done the research and what I can
begin to sense is that there is this opportunity for
neuroplasticity that can. Happen.
So the million nation of the brain can change when we have
these euphoric experiences and is it right for everybody?
No. And does the person need to feel
into their own sense of agency that this is something that we
might work for them. Yes.
Because if they don't, then it can just be a set up for another
violation of something that absolutely doesn't work for them
again and that is re-traumatizing and that is
antithetical, I would say. Treatments, I don't do what
doesn't feel right, the opportunity is to step into
something that may feel a little bit more expansive, a little bit
more exciting and maybe a little bit more nerve-racking but the
opportunity is to step into that and be okay and know that you're
going to be safe. And these are two elements that
are talked about all the time in psychedelic work is set and
setting and that is the big difference.
And so even referencing Maybe The past where you might have
been engaged with recreational drug use, while you're engaged
with sexual activity. Like, yeah.
And that was fun. And it was more party and that's
fine, right? We've all had those experiences
to some extent or not, and that's fine too.
That is that's a valid reason. Yay I'm glad you put that.
Just look at. And then the opportunity is to
really begin to figure out set and setting and hold the space
because that is the big piece of who is holding the space.
How is it container being said? And it just coming back to the
sense of Catholicism. It's like if you go to a church
in Europe where Of people have prayed for hundreds of years.
It's whatever ideology you subscribe to.
You can feel that I would suggest that most people can
feel. There's a sense of reverence
there, there's a sense of worship there that, and it
doesn't need to necessarily be that church, but it could be a
sacred space and that is because of the container that has been
set there and that we have the opportunity to set that as well
for ourselves. So when we're going into these
sexual experiences and we want to have this heightened level
that we begin to consider the set and the setting and often
times, people aren't considering that and I used to work at the
University of Colorado at Boulder.
And what I would say is that a lot of the people I was working
with were interested in random hookups and that yeah, they
didn't even know the person. They didn't know their last name
they didn't maybe they knew. First name and and again there's
nothing wrong with that. However, there was often times
its expectation that they have a relationship after that.
And I thought that was kind of interesting.
When it really was just a sexual experience is not necessary
relationship material. And then what kind of
conversations did you have around safe sex and consent and
can you be fully conscious and own?
That, that is important because you are a value and and then
have an experience that is sexual or that is pleasurable
for. That is absolutely orgasmic and
divine and, and most of those young people just didn't have
the maturity level and they certainly didn't have the skill,
they didn't have the capacity to have those conversations and now
because the world is changing, we are learning how to claim our
pleasure, and to speak it. Because if we don't have words
for it, then it makes it really difficult to communicate it and
to own it. It's interesting.
You have that observation because again, Harper hook up
culture is specially, has become a Resurgence as well, because,
you know, people are coming out of, you know, quarantine and all
that hookup culture is coming back.
You know, the dating apps are seeing a surge.
There's different conversations that we're seeing now
surrounding sex because now, we're not just asking people,
have you been tested for the common STDs and STIs but now
we're seeing more people having a Open conversations about HIV
more conversations that are talking about Herpes and of
course now even talking about have you been vaccinated?
But it is also very interesting that people will even say
sometimes digging into those types of just very standard
questions is still too evasive or that.
It's still asking for too much, so then when you're having a
deep meaningful connection insects or that person gave You
that deep meaningful orgasm? People are questioning like am I
falling in love with this person?
Or is it just? I'm experiencing a hell of an
orgasm that I've just never been able to achieve with another
partner. Let alone myself.
So it also makes you wonder like, okay, does this DMT is it?
The love drug if you will? I would see not comparison.
And I'm like, huh, this is very interesting and why are we not
talking about it more? Why are there not Not enough
studies surrounding orgasms in general because the more I keep
looking and deeping, you know, going into the death of it in my
research, you know I've only been able to pinpoint maybe
three or four scientists and doctors through their research.
One in particular, I'm going to butcher his last name but we'll
go with it. But dr.
Barry I want to say Thomas Iraq. Had found a soul Pathway to
orgasm within the cervix and he said His subjects could
experience orgasms and pleasure do the vaginosis nerve and that
the discovery proves of the cervix.
It's very own Pathway to orgasm in pleasure, independent of our
other pleasure capabilities, which, to Me Mine fucking blown.
Because again, when we talk about orgasms, we don't talk
about the cervix, the cervix. We only talked about with labor,
labor and delivery, we don't talk about it with with the
pleasure is that So makes you wonder, why are we not having
that conversation about the entire existence of a vagina and
the entire basis of what defines an orgasm to the vagina?
My battle. Yeah, I mean I would speculate
that that comes back to how it is that.
We're framing these conversations around consent and
really how we frame sexual education and if we receive
sexual education, we're getting this information about
reproductive health and don't get pregnant right, abstinence
culture. And then if we get a little bit
more than, it's okay, don't get any STIs.
And then how do you have that conversation?
Use a condom. Hmm.
This information focused on Pleasure is absent from our
conversation so we're not even sure how to speak about.
Well well that really turns me on or I really like when you do
that or more of that please, or what I really like is this or to
get me really office and we don't know how to frame that.
And so it makes sense that really the larger systems that
are in place like the Medicals, the allopathic medicine man.
Well, system are not studying pleasure either, and if they
are, they're not studying it from a female perspective
because we had not been valued, we have not been honored in the
recent centuries as a powerful being that we are.
And so that shift of claiming pleasure is a powerful shift
from the conversations that we have in these dyadic or
experience with triadic experience with another person
to experience pleasure. Not just about consent of, what
are you bringing to the table that I need to be concerned
about? But what are you bringing to the
table that I can actually be pleased about that?
What are you? What are your experiences?
What are your skills? What are your desires?
What can how do we juice this up, right?
Those conversations aren't necessarily happening and it's
not happening in the larger scientific medical community
where they're looking at. And what is this about pleasure
that can actually make us feel Field.
So much better in our world because we probably could
transform the experience of people who are experiencing
PTSD. If there were more pleasure, and
for example and cultures, where the Goddess were was revered.
There were temples and these temples women were trained to
bring forth Sexual Energy through their own vehicle,
through their own body and administer.
You others, but particular to Warriors who were coming back
from war, this healing, love, sexual, erotic love.
And that there was a great pleasure and healing in that
power. And that this woman, this
Priestess, this goddess was trained from a young age to be
able to do that with her sisters and there's temples all over the
world that have been dead. Educated previously to these
women. And and that, that was part of
the cultures passed in, you know, in countries in Africa and
countries in Europe and countries in what is now South
America all over the world? As I'm like thinking about this,
it just makes you wonder again. We are taking all these sex
practices from other cultures that are again, POC base.
I didn't hear any Eastern European.
I didn't hear you know, Angelo Saxon culture in all this and
again it makes you wonder is the war on sex.
Technically the war on people of color is everything that we have
been fighting for especially. Now today there's a women's
march today is Saturday for us. Of course, the earbuds, you guys
are getting this Morrow on Sunday but we are still battling
the war on our vaginas and whether or not an abortion
should be legal. If the things that we are
putting into our body to, you know, enable us to have an
abortion, is that supposed to be illegal?
It makes me wonder. Now when you're saying all this
is the war on sex just because of the fact that because white
men and women do not Discover this.
I don't know. And I also know that this was a
part of Celtic Society as well, with The Druids who were very
peaceful people who were decimated by the Catholics as
well, that there is some history of this lineage of this in the
gnostics of the Catholic church. So when Jesus and Mary, when
Jesus rose again, Is this is a story of which I believe and
then traveled from Middle East to France southern France.
They set up again the temples and she taught Mary Magdalene
taught the sacred sexuality, the hero squamous gamos.
And so, there is that lineage and I would say yes, there are
systems of Oppression at play that Goodness, put us at at each
other's enemy. I mean, I really that's what I
say to you, huge disadvantage. It's a huge disadvantage because
again, it's all connected, the body, the human body is all
connected. So when we are, you know,
limiting the knowledge of our own bodies, it really does a
number on us, so not too late come from a racist point of view
because that is not my intention hjs.
I think that we've been talking about it all comes down to the
fact that there is such a limited, a limited space.
There's such a limited allowance of learning our bodies and that,
you know, people like yourself and like others who have come
before you you know, we are all just trying to reclaim and
ReDiscover. So when we're hearing about
these things that are so limiting to our bodies, and why
can't we learn more about our own pleasure or why are there
such limiting studies to it? It just makes you wonder the
true history of where it all comes down to because again,
it's all connected. And it's a rabbit hole.
Hey, hey say, that's talking about, bringing it all back to
the subject matter. It is one big rabbit hole.
It really is. So in your experience with DMT
and orgasms. And something that you talk
about in your practices, what do you tell your clients as far as?
Like, when they're trying to unlock the the secret, if you
all in your own practice like what made you at one point?
So you know what, I want to discover this more like was it
an Of your own was it just something that you know in your
practice you were learning where did it all come down to?
Because again you in fact you were like let's talk about this
more. Yes.
Well, I mean a few things that I see again and again, as I see
this pervasive shame that lies in the body, particularly of the
women that I'm seeing, and I see a lot of heterosexual couples.
And in these Partnerships, the woman is struggling with some
form of Shame. And because of that, she's also
not exploring her own sense of pleasure.
And when she doesn't know her own pleasure, then she really
can't share pleasure with her paw.
Partner, regardless of who our partners because she doesn't
know it for herself and that there's a vast knowledge that a
woman can unlock when she knows her own pleasure.
And that the opportunity is not only for her to know it and to
own it, but actually begin to lead her partner into that
experience. So when women and men are coming
to me and they want better sex, but they want to be able to
connect sexually. It's often the woman.
Who needs to lead, which is somewhat crazy in our culture.
Because often so oftentimes are seeing the man is more sexual
and that he needs initiate and yeah, and those things pervade
and are pervasive in our thoughts, in our bodies, and our
beings. And so it's really unlearning
The Mis-Education disrupting the myths and really providing some
good education and it begins Jeans, with the woman really
owning her own pleasure, and recognizing that nobody's
responsible for her orgasm, but her hoof.
And then she gets the claim that Gotta Give the Applause on that
one. She can't hear it y'all, but the
Applause of the studio is real. But seriously my God, I tell
people this all the time. It's like you know whether
you're having partners like sir solo sex until you can pinpoint
what you want, you cannot say to your partner, what you want?
You might like what the partner dies, what if you can't
ReDiscover that and reclaim that in the bedroom, in your own
practice is your Your own know that is your partner's orgasm,
that is your partner giving themselves to you a pleasurable
experience, but what do you claim as your own?
So I love that you're able to really tap that in and I'm
really glad that you mentioned that.
Because again when we hear about it I'm sure like you said in
your practices, you have heard your clients time and time
again, say it but my pleasure is not my own that my partner is
the one giving me. The orgasm.
I only like, I only know what my partner likes to give me but I
don't know what I like. So it's good that we are able to
have this practice with you and have, you know, your resources,
your bought your book to really tap in and just Center people to
be like look, Sit down with yourself and what do you like
about your body? What do you like about your
pleasure? What Pleasures?
You I love that. I absolutely just the one
takeaway that I want people to understand from this episode.
It's like your body is your own. It is your body.
Does matter who you're sharing it with.
It is your body. It is your pleasure.
You should be allowed to say how you like things so to unlock
that DMT in your body. You got to start liking
yourself. Am I correct with this?
Yes, absolutely. Yes, I start at the very least
by liking yourself and then maybe even knowing a little bit
more about what brings you pleasure just for yourself.
I mean so many any of us as women have been conditioned that
we need to be sexual for our partners and that we're living
within this performative Paradigm.
And that it's the other person's pleasure that we need to focus
on. And one of my mentors, Tammy
Kent. She talks about hosting a party
for nine-year-olds, and the 9 year old boys are kicking back
and telling jokes and hanging out and the nine-year-old girls
are up with the hostesses and the hosts and saying, what can
we do to be helpful and she's Go play by.
Yeah your kids but we can see where the conditioning begin.
So, yeah, absolutely. Now what would you say about the
Kink lifestyle? Because I feel like when you're
dealing with Kink and a lot of the lifestyle parties that I go
to, it seems like everybody is more in tune with their
pleasure. People are more open to talk
about what they like, what they don't like their yeses and their
nose. Yes.
So how would you say even with the rise of sex parties?
The rise of Kink Lifestyles, it's not no longer.
I mean, yes, it's still taboo, you know, people say swinger
parties and it's like, oh how could you just go into swap
partners and it's not like that all the time.
Y'all like people go to swing parties and they just have fun
people. Use it as a social thing.
I use as a social thing. I'm not always busting wide open
for Everybody at the sex party, you know, it just gives me
pleasure to see my partners in pleasure and vice versa.
But how would you say even like the help of cake lifestyle can
help people? You know, unlock their sexual
pleasure. And in fact, a mock, the
deepening effects of DMT to be released into the body.
But that's a great question. And so, I'm just coming back to
one of my teachers and the, which you reminded me this week
is, you don't need to say yes, or you don't need to accept
everything that's offered and just coming back to that because
that is true and that is a really potent message if we
could hold on to that. So I don't need to accept
everything that's offered and I know that then I can go into
lots of different environments. Lots of It parties.
Lots of different social situations, and just explore and
be curious and playful and kind. And, you know, like just
checking it out because it's a different scene.
Because when we do the same thing over and over again, and
we expect different results, that's the definition of
insanity. And that's what.
Yeah, that's what Einstein said. And it's true.
And I see that from my clients again.
And again, it's like, they're having vanilla heterosexual sex,
and they think that's okay. And it Is until it's not working
for them anymore and then we need novelty is it, that is a
huge drive for endorphins in our life is novelty.
And we need that novelty, whether it's being offered by
our partner or by other people and that whoever we get it, we
need to know that we know, we need to know that there's more
expansion and how we're being in the world, particularly
sexually. And I think because there is
again, a lot of shame, it prevents a lot, a lot of us from
having these experiences. And what we really need to know
is that they're okay they're great, they're fun 1000% and
would you even say toys can be that that extra boost of
enhancement to the DMT or would you say you know, fingers some
women are scared to figure themselves or scared to pull
back the lips of the labia and just look themselves in the
mirror. And be like, right there.
Right there is where I like to be licked.
That's where I like to be. Penetrated and what not.
So would you say even the use of toys could help unlock that next
level to DMT being released into the body?
Or is it more like a mental thing?
Aha those are great questions and so technique isn't as
important as it is, the set and the setting also.
Yeah, hi, yeah. And so that's kind of that
that's a pointer that I'll give you and that it is so much more
about how the woman is showing up for herself and yeah, fingers
are fine and toys are fun but it is so much more.
More about how she showing up for herself.
And also, I would say this invocation of the Goddess within
her. So that she has this experience
that she is all of who she is and so much more, and that's a
powerful spiritual component. And that's a lot for one being
to hold onto. And I think when we ingest DMT,
we often have that experience. And then we forget, we come back
to our mundane reality. And then the opportunity through
that psychedelic cervical, orgasm is to remember that, but
begin to cultivate that on a regular basis.
So it's kind of like meditation and that it's a practice, that's
not one and done. It's like okay I'm coming back
to the cushion because I'm doing this again.
I was just about to ask you because you know, when people
talk about like their first hi, you know whether it be with
weed, shrooms whatnot that they always say your first high is
never going. To be the secondary, the third.
So would you say that a DMT release naturally from the body
is almost like the same way, because that's what I'm getting
from from that last comment where you were saying, you know,
you just have to keep going back on the horse and just keep
trying it over and over again. Yes.
And I mean, and I would say that the more that you come back to
this practice, or to this experience, the more that
unfolds, the more that is revealed.
And I mean, here I am, I like Emma expert in the, I'm an
expert, right? But sex is this wild dangerous
mystery that we as Simple humans, get to an act and step
into and we like to control and imagine that we know how it's
going to go and really follow this linear progression.
Like we like to mechanize it we like to imagine that we can then
have influence or power over it and the opportunity is to really
surrender to really surrender to that mystery surrender to that
deep pleasure. And that when we I actually can
do more of that, that we experience more and do we need
to be safe? Yes, utmost.
And at the Forefront and when we do that first, then we can have
this allowance in this receptivity.
Because that's where the Psychedelic orgasm is, is in
this true surrender. I'm going to end it on that
because I doesn't get better than that.
Oh, my God, Torrid. Thank you.
Because again, I want people to
take away from this and I think they're really going to unlock a
certain self of them. It's that awareness.
And I've been saying this time and time again, you know?
And as we were talking off air, if you do not like yourself, if
you cannot give yourself self-gratification self-love,
how are you going to be able to? Hear that in partnered sides.
How are you going to be unlocking your own orgasm?
If you can't even like the body, the vessel that is about to
release that orgasm itself. So thank you.
Thank you for that. Where can my earbuds get in
touch with you? They can check me out on my
website. Rediscovering my body.com?
Or my other website, which is Tara, Galliano.com and are you
taking new clients by chance? I am and I just got licensed in
Arizona. So I see clients in Colorado and
in Arizona, and next month, I will be licensed in California.
So big and I take coaching clients all over the world.
Awesome, awesome. I absolutely love it.
Well, thank you so much for taking time to spend it with us
today. Earbuds, you're in for another
treat because I'm just going to keep giving you abundance of
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