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It's your girl Sapphire. And Oh my goodness, I lied to
you guys. I totally lied.
I did say, you know, the Sinners from just Till Dawn episode was
actually going to be the closing ear chasm of the year.
But you know what? I lied, but you guys are going
to be happy and satisfied with my next guest.
Yes, I have a certified urologist.
Fellow Island Girl doctor Sue Lynn Hall is a trailblazer in
the urologist biz, y'all. She is an advocate for holistic
Wellness and author. And today we're going to be
talking about her latest book, which is called How to Get a
Head. Yes, emphasis on the head,
y'all. Doctor Sue Lynn Hall.
Welcome. I got to bring in the rowdy fat
boys to bring you in. Doctor Sue Lynn.
Get ready for it. Probably one of the most
interesting conversations you've ever had.
See. They love you already.
I'm glad to be here.
I'm so glad to have you on. Oh my goodness.
So where do we start? I mean, first of all, you are
one of the very few female urologists in the country,
correct? I believe 1 of 50, yes.
So. When I that's when I started, it
was 1 of 50. There are now 1000.
Oh my goodness. Still just 1% of the 10,000 male
urologists. So still a very elite group.
Now Speaking of this such elite group, for those out there,
they're like a urologist. Why do you get the penis doctor
a female peanuts penis doctor? You know, if that talk and about
my penis, I have to say, do you feel that having male clientele
and knowing that they have a female doctor to talk to you, do
you think you make the men a little bit more comfortable in
talking about, you know, their penile health, their issues?
I feel like that's a little bit more comforting that you're
easier on the eyes. To most, yes, it's so funny.
So in my 25 years of board certified urology, I've really
realized that people feel comfortable because they know I
care and they feel comfortable with being able to express their
very intimate questions and desires even to a female.
And I think maybe that makes him even more comfortable that they
have a good listening air. They really want to be heard and
men want to be respected and in my experience over the years,
what I hear from patients is that they also want to be loved
and stimulated and their desires are very important to them.
You know, it's funny and when you're saying this because I'm
like, OK man, wanting to feel loved, desired, but yet, you
know, reading your book and it seems like the men were just
flat out like I need to be pleasured.
I need to be pleased. It seems like you were saying
like the housewife effect. I myself just got married, but
my husband and I, we started as a very open, polyamorous kinky
couple. Never thought marriage was going
to be on the table. In fact, in marriage was like
the last thing off our minds. And then lo and behold, 9 years
later, COVID, we decided, you know what, let's just dive in.
Let's let's get married. But the one thing that has
stayed true, you know, one thing that has stayed true and thank
you is sex. Sex is very like I would say
probably most of our friends who are married or in heavily
monogamous relationships, we have more sex than them.
We, we have come to terms with the fact that we probably have
more sex than the average couple.
So like flipping this this with your your clientele who is
dealing with less sex, less communication.
What would you say is like the biggest thing that the biggest
hurdle that might happen for married folks out that they're
like married sex is not the fun sex anymore.
It's it's more of like a a chore.
I have to do this. Right.
So one of my main titles that I like to express is the wedding
cake is not the last time to give heck.
And so I think that men appreciate that.
They all appreciate that specific line because a lot of
people get very comfortable. They get comfortable with having
children, with business of marriage, work, everything else
rather than being egoless and caring about each other.
The wedding cake people talk about getting married.
They only talk about all the bridesmaids and everybody
involved in the wedding. And they don't talk about what
are your needs going forward? What are we going to do to help
each other continue our happiness that like we when we
first met, you know that excitement.
You know, I've been married 31 years now and that is a very
important part of our relationship in regards to being
caring for each other, but being very loving but also physical
for each other. And that is very important.
And some people deny their spouses that privilege of
enjoying each other. It actually is one of the best
ways to reduce stress. And as I will explain, dopamine,
which is the neurotransmitter that is with pleasure and
oxytocin, the love hormone, very important in reducing cortisol
or stress hormone that is, you know, responsible for immune
dysfunction, heart disease. So actually pleasing and being
pleased is so important to reducing and reducing overall
health. I mean improving overall health
and reducing stress, which we have every day, absolutely.
And I. And sexually is the most
important way to do that. Yes, and I, I love how you know,
in the book I highlighted so much and you tell me guys, I
love to read. So especially when you're giving
me something so tantalizing to read about, one of the favorite
things early on in the book is you keep saying this.
Blowjobs are not a job. Now, ladies and gentlemen,
despite of what we think, I always thought the word blowjob
is just first of all, ugly. So I agree with you And and even
just like give me some head depending upon the reference of
like, you know, like we've had the song Shauna is, you know,
getting some head. And I love that because it was
talking about female and male pleasure at the same time
talking about head. But I I just, I feel like
there's no real sexy way to suck Dick.
Say it so it really is because you are really enjoying
yourself. Right.
Like women don't realize that they can receive pleasure by
giving pleasure. And it's that's why it's not a
job. It's, you know, job for most
people just overbroke really should be just oral bliss.
That's my favorite way to describe that JOB.
I love it. I mean, she's dropping the gems.
They all just like little by little, the gems are coming.
And I love, you know, oral bliss.
You know, actually, when you think about it, yeah, there's
the oral bliss. Here I go, y'all.
I'm about to just, you know, make the doctor feel
uncomfortable. But, you know, there is the
bliss that comes with the oral fixation.
I myself have oral fixation. I love watching people smoke
weed and like the smoke expelling from their mouths.
But also I have the fixation during sex where I love to focus
on their they're just the ohms and the AWS and the the size of
pleasure. And there's something about when
you are going down there, whether it's a man or a woman,
there is a certain bliss that does come from both mouths.
First of all, it's like your mouth is saying the bliss of ah,
but also your mouth is receiving such bliss.
You know the love juices that come afterwards.
I like that so. Giving is actually receiving,
right? So that's one of the main
things, insight and touch, the five senses, touch, taste, you
know, pressure, feeling from on somebody else hearing the the
words or feeling. Those are the key things in
regards to how people really can enjoy each other through the
five senses. And that's one of the chapters
in how to get ahead. Absolutely.
Very important. Very, very.
But also, I wanted to be known for the women out there.
Like we always talk about giving up control, but you turn around
and you say women have such delicious control using their
hands and mouth. No better way.
Delicious control with your hand and mouth and learning or being
comfortable with yourself is the most important part.
I wanted people to learn the anatomy to improve their
intimacy because it's such an important part to increase
confidence and competence in the intimacy department by learning
what is pleasurable to your partner, what parts and actually
a whole chapters on female anatomy and and then also male
anatomy learning where the nerves come where the anatomy
can what's why why is under the head of the penis such a
pleasurable location? Because all the nerves coalesce
there, right on the under surface.
And so their nerves vessels and the most stimulating part there.
But also people to learn that the penis is not all, you see
there's a lot hidden underneath, right?
So there's a lot even behind the scrotum, behind the pubic bone,
just like an iceberg. You see just the tip of the
iceberg, but all of it's going beneath.
So much pleasure is even there as well.
And I love that you use that anatomy of or the example of the
iceberg because first of all, iceberg tip Titanic, but also,
you know, to paint the perfect, perfect picture.
Like you say, it's kind of like the female anatomy with our
clitoris. It's there's so many different
nerve endings, just like you said with the male with a penis,
so many different nerve endings that we seem to ignore even as
women, even who might be men who love giving head themselves.
I feel like there is, you know, we're not just sitting there
during the act of sex and like, oh, let me, let me just pull
back the perennium. Let me, you know, fondle.
But at the same time, I agree, I think that we do need to take it
up a notch in the bedroom and really rediscover each others
bodies. Maybe rediscovering that game of
doctor if you will. I love how you go into thorough
because yesterday I kid you not. Might be a little bit TMI y'all
but you know me, I'm reading this next to my husband and
we're just we you know, we had a little bit of weed, we're
listening to some reggae, enjoying he's sketching our our
Christmas cards and stuff. Yes they're coming in late so
you feel the vibe and I'm reading you talking about the
anatomy and all. I found myself saying multiple
times and telling my husband I want your cock in my mouth now.
Awesome. I'm glad it had that effect.
That's. The that's.
The premise of the book is to help you enjoy even more what
you didn't know you were missing, right?
Yes, and it's funny because I personally never really loved
giving head to men. Like I love eating pussy, I love
as a woman, I love giving the pleasure to women.
But until I met my husband and even my girlfriend's partner,
giving head wasn't really a thing that I really liked to
men. I as I would say to me giving
head, it felt like I was just sucking a balloon and I was
never really enjoying it. And even talking to my husband
and having that good communication as we like to
emphasize in our relationship, it's nice that we can have these
check insurance and talk about not just what's what's wrong in
the relationship, but also talking about what's missing.
And, you know, he did say at one point, I want you to devour my
cock the way you devour pussy. Can you put a little bit more
love, emphasis love into it, you know, passion into it.
I'm like, huh, never in my life have I been told my oral skills
were bad. But it wasn't that my oral
skills were bad. It was just more of like he
wanted more passion. Yes, it's the enjoyment of it,
the, the delight. And, you know, men are very
visual. So they're going to be looking
at your reaction of how enjoyable things are for you.
And if you are, you know, very passionate and you have, you
know, almost compassion for this amazing organ that we sometimes
don't appreciate enough, you know, you want to climb it like
Mount Everest. As I state as well in the book,
you know, it's should be revered in the history section of the
book. It really goes into here.
Egyptians talked about and wrote about this, right?
And then the people from Greece actually wore Grecian robes, so
it was more accessible. And then also from Pompeii,
there's beautiful statues everywhere that exemplify the
beauty of the organs that we have and should be happy.
Yes. Is available for pleasure I
loved and so the science behind it is is also important too.
I really liked the section about Pompeii, especially because I
have been to Pompeii now. Funny thing, I was, I have and
so I was 17 at the time. So of course now I'm reading
this and I'm like, I don't think, I think we, we got that
on the tour. And I'll tell you guys exactly
what we're talking about here. So there's a particular artwork
I might butcher this, the Latin word for brothel, which is
Lupinar. You talked about it being the
wolf den. And in the town there were
exotic painting, erotic paintings of different sexual
acts celebrating fellatio. I'm going back in my head and
I'm like did I see anybody giving head?
Did I see any? How did I miss with my 17 year
old horny brain the same year I lose my virginity on the same
trip? How did I miss the fucking
picture? Literal fucking.
Yeah, the urologist was actually very interested in all the
loveliness that was there and very interested in the fact that
these were accepted norms and really pleasurable experiences.
That they actually advertised it in their in their artwork.
And the cultural aspect of it is amazing.
And that's why it's not so taboo there.
We've made it taboo. There's still 3 states in
America that this is not. This is like a crime, right?
Right. Approved by marriage and, and,
and hidden. Even in that case, there's
issues. So until we get away from the
taboo of it and accept it as a very important part of our
lives, we won't be able to appreciate its beauty.
It's, you know, function. It's able to produce and carry
on different generations. And then it's so important for
men to feel appreciated even in this manner because it's not
about climbing ladders, using a blowjob, as you know, as a way
to get somewhere in life. It's about learning about
connection and unimaginable intimacy that you can get,
learning about the anatomy and learning about the Physiology
that happens with an erection and with relationships.
It's funny how you you use this terminology of getting ahead,
because again, when we use the term getting ahead in the social
climate, climbing the social ladder, it's literally to get
head to get that bigger pay. Now when you talk about it in
the sexual manner, now we have this bigger problem,
unfortunately, you know, with the Me Too's movement, I myself
am becoming an intimacy coordinator.
So I'm looking at sex. Awesome, thank you.
I, I'm starting to look at sex a little bit differently in that
lens. And maybe, you know, for
yourself over the years you've seen sex in a different way in a
different lens. So with your book called How to
Get Ahead and now you have things like the Me Too movement
and all that. How do you find yourself as a
urologist making it more comfortable for women to say go
and give that blowjob? The power is in your body, you
know, despite the fact that we do have men, unfortunately in
society using their penis as that, you know.
In the wrong way. Exactly.
The important thing is for
people to have the medical knowledge and the the knowledge
that this is not taboo and not to be utilized for anything else
other than great pleasure between two people that are
connected at a higher level right.
And it's not just to get ahead in jobs and you know, using it
for any kind of professional advancement.
It is really about the fun, the, the, the energy that you create
the, the enjoyment. Some women don't realize they
can probably get more stimulated and more vaginal moisture by
licking and seeing the enjoyment on their partner's face by
sucking in and and the stimulation that they can get
from from giving a blowjob that they don't realize fellatio is
such a good experience for them. They always thought it was for
that partner to accept and enjoy, but it really is almost
more enjoyment for the giver than the receiver sometimes.
I love that and it, it is a kind of ebb and flow like, you know,
talking about giving yourself to someone and sharing such an
intimate moment. There is, you know, parts of
giving head, if you will, where it can be more sensual, a mutual
type of pleasure. It's the, like you said, men
wanting to see the visualization of maybe her hand stroking his,
you know, penis while it's being devoured in her mouth and she's
slowly taking it out and putting it back in or rolling her tongue
around. And they like to see breasts and
butts and and just mobilizing and utilizing your body in a
simulating manner. Wild given head is a turn on to
you as well as him seeing the the movement and the enjoyment.
It shouldn't be a job in regards to you just doing a repetitive
motion, alternating motions, you know, corkscrewing while dipping
in, you know, decadent chocolate and then licking chocolate.
If you love chocolate or champagne, dipping the penis in
your favorite drink and licking it off and enjoying it, that's
such a pleasure to you as well as to him.
Now we got to pause and tell them, doc, when you're doing all
these things of dipping and and, you know, dabbling with the
foods and the drinks, what do we got to do first?
We got to make sure we clean it before we insert.
Very, very important that friendliness.
Every man needs to learn this is paramount before anyone will
even go there. If it doesn't smell great, if it
doesn't taste great, even asparagus, asparagus when you
when somebody drinks or eats asparagus, their Seminole fluid
tastes different. So it's not a good one before,
before fellatio or vaginal it too or vaginal pH changes.
So anyway, just like how your urine smells when you urinate
after eating asparagus, not everybody has that enzyme
asparaginous, but for those who do, those are important things.
But cleanliness Ballsy is a company that has, you know, a
nice product that they have for men.
It's called Ballsy, which I I totally love.
We talk and BLBLLS. Y ballsy ballsy It's a great
product that has charcoal and really makes men smell great.
It's a good option before you know the way you want to give.
I love that. Now going back to the historical
context and again you know, talking about this beautiful act
of of fellatio, I myself have been going back and re watching
or not re watching. I became a later fan of the show
Spartacus that is on stars and so now they have re released a
reboot if you will, House of Asher.
And one thing that is very well known of course, as we were just
briefly talking about it, you know, Greek history with sex, is
how much full frontal nudity Spartacus has and really
celebrating if you will, the cock.
They have a song that keeps going on season after season.
It's like my cock rage is on, my cock rage is on.
I may need to watch this I mean. Obviously.
Yeah, that sounds like a great option.
It's a great show if you you know, if you like the gladiator
battles and the, you know, the graphicness.
But as far as like talking about Grecian culture and talking
about the way they talk about sex and celebrate sex, again,
that's another show where I'm like, yeah, this is true to
character of how much Eroticism is in everyday life.
Sex was not this, you know, trophy thing.
It was just the thing they did, you know, you have parties they
that would turn into orgies, sex openly in the streets and women
getting pleasured in the streets, men getting pleasured
in the streets. And now you're, you know,
talking about with the Pompeii, the depictions of Eroticism in
artwork, Japanese culture. We look at the way I forgot what
they they call the specific act of the sexual art work.
But all those pictures that depicted bellatio and especially
kind of Lingus, all these things being celebrated in different
cultures. And like you said, as Americans,
we don't have that healthy celebratory sex.
We we don't celebrate sex at all.
Yes. So Andy Warhol in 1969
appropriate timing for writing that book, yes, actually wrote,
you know about a pleasure yes, but it was hidden, right.
It was hidden, but it was our first view in America to have it
acceptable on screen. And then it developed after you
know that to even more things, right.
And so that's one of the things that I think that we have to get
used to learning that this is not taboo.
And that's the key thing is learning more education on the,
you know, the slang JOB was probably one of the main
problems, right? Or the ancient cultures or the
social stigma that's been associated with giving head, as
you pointed out, using it for advancement.
But if people realize that that's definitely the taboo part
of it, not the ACT itself being taboo, you know, that I think is
very important to us. Absolutely now, as being, you
know, black girl magic over here, we got to talk about our
own, you know, culture and how our culture actually effects
sex, sex culture in the black community, especially when we
talk about oral, you know, half of the time it's mostly for the
male pleasure. You know, you flipping it to say
that giving head can be pleasurable for both parties.
How often with your clientele do you have, you know, black men
coming in and talking about, you know, their, their penile issues
and talking about, you know, getting their their lady to
please them better. Or, you know, just in general
how we have black men who are scared to talk to any doctor
about, you know, their, the genitalia.
I think that they try to stay away from it.
Worried about prostate cancer, worried about prostate
enlargement in general. And so many times when patients
are sent to me for enlargement of their prostate, I bring up
the sexual part because usually, sometimes they're afraid to.
They really want to. You can sense whether they want
to or not. And once you bring it up, then
they're open to explain what their desires are or what
they're missing. And sometimes they are really
interested, interested in, you know, even for management of
prostate cancer. They'll be worried more about
their erectile function and the cancer itself.
Yeah. And so I'll always explain.
We want to preserve erectile function.
We are the ones that manage that.
You know, we have so many options from Viagra to peanut
pumps to injection therapy. There's so many different
options that being alive and well first and managing prostate
cancer is so much more of the importance.
And then we can deal with the rest as urologists.
And so then they'll be a little bit more comfortable.
But I think that's so many men that have been diagnosing late
for prostate cancer. To her black men, it's because
they're afraid of that problem, the erectile problem, their
ability to not have pleasure in the future, but not
understanding that this is a very important disease that
needs to be managed early. Whole different management if
caught late versus early and then managing their sexual
function is what we are able to help with.
What would you say is the biggest factor or maybe not
biggest factor? What would you say is, are you
seeing a change of how younger clientele are coming in to
check, you know, on their penile health?
Because I've, as someone who's been working in the adult
industry for years and I work behind the scenes, I'm noticing
a lot of penile erectile dysfunction happening more in
the black males in this community in particular.
They're resulting to using more pills and using, you know, the
enlargement devices, but also there's this danger.
So maybe you can shed some light on that too.
Yes, I've been seeing, I've been, you know, urologist now 30
years and there are a lot of patients that were always
diagnosed with erectile dysfunction later age, sixties,
70s. Now we're seeing 2030 year olds
with erectile dysfunction. There's so much stress and
they're so focused on only fans and all the things that they see
on TV, right? And then they when the real
golfer and comes, it's like, Oh, no, that's not what I expected.
And you're not doing what I saw on on the social media.
And so then they're disappointed and they're actually needing
more devices and more supplements and more medications
than ever before. But cortisol, the stress
hormone, is what's creating a lot of these problems for the
men being isolated or not having the confidence to to approach
women sometimes lately because of their insecurities, right.
And so that's where I think a lot of the problems are
occurring. Or they see on on porn what they
don't look like and then they feel funny about that part of it
and then disconnected and think they need help.
But actually it's, it's a sad deal that the younger guys are
needing help now with erections because it should be, you know,
Breeze should blow by and they should get an erection.
And so now it's become a real social problem for young men.
Yes, I've I've definitely been noticing it a lot of you know,
and then counteracting. It's like especially again,
going on to the porn side and hopefully people listening out
there will understand like just because these men in porn have
very huge cocks, OK, even the smallest cocks in in the porn
business have these, you know, these issues.
But the the problem that we're not talking about is the abuse
that these men are doing to their penises and in injecting.
It's the injecting and the the steroid uses even I'm like when
did steroids being injected into the like what what is going on
with that like? Well, now they're doing just
like how women get fillers for their lips, there's now fallow
fill, which is the filling of the penis to make it look bigger
and fuller. And so this is, I know it's,
it's crazy how many things are out there that's available for
enlarging size. But most women don't really care
about size. They really care about function
and interaction and loving connection more than size
actually. And so this fixation with size
may have been what they you've seen and not realize, you know,
average size is 5 to 6 right inches.
So they may not be that small or most of it's underneath like the
iceberg and they they need to be stimulated behind the scrotum
extending towards the anus, which is the taint, which is
very sensitive for a lot of men and, and a lot of play can occur
there and not just what's sticking out too.
Right now for those that are like, I want to get my lady or I
want to get more comfortable with prostate play, I, I like
to, you know, tickle the taint a little bit, but my, my, my
husband particularly does not like his ass penetrated.
So I cannot give him that extra pleasure.
But I do like to, you know, try to rub in between, you know, the
crevices of the balls where the shaft meets.
And I always tell people, you know, do a little come, hit her
just like you would with the clit.
But for the men out there that are like I want my lady to be
more comfortable with backdoor play, or how do I get myself
more comfortable with backdoor play to get that achievement,
what do you suggest? So most, most guys that even
come to see a urologist are afraid just of a rectal exam
with a finger. So a lot of guys are either
uncomfortable because they don't want to feel like, Oh no, that
felt good, so then I'm gay, right?
Or oh, I'm uncomfortable because my doctor put their finger
there, right? So they may be uncomfortable in
doing play, but there's so many nerves.
The nerves that go to the penis go right along the prostate.
And so stimulation of the prostate is oftentimes a very
good feeling for some men. And maybe the reason gay men
like it so much because they are used to that nice penetration of
the area and why some men actually want to do anal
intercourse for women even because the nerves that coalesce
around the anal verge is very stimulating and the the
contractility of the wall of the rectum is so powerful that
people may like that, but they may be afraid to even explore
that Ave. What would you say as your, you
know, talking about your clientele, which I really love
that you get into your book without breaking HIPAA,
obviously, but I do love how you bring your clientele into this,
a lot of your play. I think one of them, I'm trying
to find one in particular because again, I was a person
that was just reading your book, highlighting, highlighting after
highlighting. And I'm just like, Oh my God,
this is perfect. But you know how to get ahead.
And so I love how you said, you know, everyone has the right
fit, which is great. And how you said also women, we
need to stop focusing on the girth and how we need to focus
more on the function. There are size Queens out there.
And I have to say now, in porn, it scares the living shit out of
me whenever I'm seeing women with, you know, getting head and
men wanting to stretch the mouth a little bit wider to the point
where she's like, bleeding. Yeah, accommodating.
That's not good. Yeah, the overly.
Nothing painful. Nothing painful is ever really
good. Yeah.
Learning. You know, learning what?
But you know what? It's best to talk about this
before you start exploring because sometimes somebody you
may be doing something somebody hates all the time and that's
why they've never been really happy in this relationship
because you didn't really explore what they really liked.
Like if somebody likes to be touched softly or, and, and
somebody keeps pressing harder, you may not like that or that
vice versa, somebody likes really firm pressure and you're
being soft. So sharing your likes or
dislikes before the ACT is very important because some people
really may not realize, you know, acts of service may be
their their love language, right?
Or instead of a gift being their love language, they may really
just like spending time together and enjoying the the things that
each other loves. And that's kind of what I wanted
to share in the book, is exploring beyond what you're
used to to enhance your current intimate relationship.
How much more pleasure can you get?
Maybe not ejaculating can send nerves up your spine, like David
Dita says in his like that may be even more pleasure than
actually just coming. I'm glad that you just know.
Just mention the way of the superior man.
Like you said, David, you said data.
Data data. I don't know if I say it right.
I'm the island girl so I say everything wrong.
I don't know, I love your voice, I love the island voice, but I
love how you you just talked about that because I'm always
loving and giving man advice and telling him about delayed
ejaculation. Or, you know, we need to stop
focusing on fucking to come and just fucking for the pleasure
and delaying that pleasure, elongating that pleasure.
So when we're talking to, you know, your clients, like you
have a client that's sitting down with you talking about
their ejaculation problems. Maybe they're saying like, I'm
having a partner always forcing me to want to come and I'm over
here trying to save my my semen, right.
How do you deal with those partners that have that
miscommunication of what they're trying to do of delaying the
orgasm for more pleasure? So I, I start with communication
because if the partner doesn't know that they want them to be
pleasured longer and they just think that they're not sexy
enough to make them come, then they may have that insecurity
that it's not even related to that they're really wanting to
enjoy the pleasure even more. Or if they want to ejaculate so
quickly, but they don't realize there's even more pleasure in
not ejaculating, you know, but there's medications.
If somebody has trouble, you know, with that, you can
increase oxytocin for them. So it's more of the love hormone
that's been secreted so they can last longer.
Or there's medications that we give, but not all needs to be
medication. Sometimes it's knowledge and
natural secretion of oxytocin, right?
And from the brain, which are the reward drugs in our brain
that as well as dopamine, right? So those things I think are good
to learn because some people may not be aware that that's a
component that they're maybe missing or they need help with.
But we can help with those things at Quantum Health and
Wellness Center. I actually see a lot of patients
that talk about their sexual dysfunction and you know, some
people really need testosterone replacement to help them with
fatigue, energy, libido, desire. But some people need to.
They worry that oh, I'm Jacqueline too quickly or not
quickly enough. I find out what the cause is and
try to treat it accordingly. I like that.
Now would you tell people, you know, clients, that maybe we
need to stop shifting the focus of making sex the the end goal
to come and just enjoying sex? Would you say that?
Yes, yes, I definitely think enjoying all of it is more
important than the end goal of ejaculation and just doing sex.
Because foreplay is very important for getting the mind,
body, soul into the physical act.
And that's sometimes not being explored for people's potential
and and their contributions to each other.
Sometimes it's lost if it's just let's do this and get done.
So I got to go back to work. You know, they're sometimes for
cookies. There are times they're that
they're needed. Right.
But sometimes it's more important to explore each other.
I completely agree. You know what's funny, early in
my relationship in talking about my, my marriage, not my
relationship with my girlfriend, but to make it, you know,
specific. But early on we would say we
never believed in the art of a quickie.
We just, it was just like, no, no, no, we can't do a quickie.
But now it's like, OK, we can do cookies where, you know,
sometimes it's a nice tease where you know, he'll tease me
or I'll tease him to not come. And I love that because when we
come back to each other and, you know, finish each other off,
it's the bigger gratification. But sometimes I love the fact,
like you said, end game is not to come, you know, or even how
you say at the end of your book, which is perfect about happy
endings. It's like enjoy that happy
ending. It shouldn't be like the sex is
over. You know, you're just, yes, it's
just a. Continuous ending is the ending,
right? So you may it's the the
spiritual, emotional, mental and physical well-being that's
that's so important to be explored.
Absolutely. Now I want to dive deeper with
you doc. What would you say in 2026 men
need to leave behind about their penises and what do you or how?
Let's not just even leave it to men.
What should penile owners leave in 2025?
Coming into 2026, how are we viewing sex and the penis in
2026? What do they need to leave
behind? I think it needs to be referred
and appreciated rather than utilitarian, right?
And so I think leaving behind the negative vibes and moving
into more infectious positivity, I think is what 2026 should
provide for all of us. And part of that is learning
your partner's desires through, you know, love language and or
senses. Maybe that person likes taste
and you haven't been providing enough taste for them.
Or your partner loves vision and you're not dancing in your sexy
song and, you know, and negligee walking around all hot, right?
Or playing your favorite music for your heirs, you know,
Corinne Bailey Ray or Cardi B, you know, take it, whatever,
whatever drives you, right? And sometimes this the sensual
and the sexual are are not being interplayed well.
And so think about our senses or sight for men are visual, women
are visual also smell scent. Whether you like perfumes or
just clean, whatever it is, hearing music, your favorite
song may turn or bring a good memory and that may turn you on
even and taste and touch. Do you like light pressure?
Do you like firm? You know, those are the things I
want people to learn from each other to improve their intimacy
long term. Absolutely.
And for those that are like, you know what, my penis is fine.
I don't need my penis checked out and they're scared about
getting their penises checked out.
How could we make it a little sexier in the bedroom to, you
know, do these self examinations?
Examination so one of the key things is you know STD's people
forget about that right and so like if you start in a
relationship you it's good to explore and look at the penis
maybe there's a lump on there maybe there's a divot you know
like if you have HPV there may be a sign with a you know wart
appearance or you may have discharge from the tip if it's
yellow or purulent they maybe you have gonorrhea.
So looking at the these processes to make sure you're
having safe and appropriate intercourse with this partner
is, is a good way to start looking right?
So just even looking is very important before you even engulf
or or and you know, enjoy I. Love how she's just being all
prim and proper. Like just gobble it y'all, yeah.
Gobble me, swallow me, sit on top of me.
Bring it out about the thing that dangles in the back of your
throat because that's very important.
It is. You can use salt to make it not
so sensitive so you can take it deeper.
So wait, are you saying take a shot of salt first?
Salt on the back of your throat so you can take more.
Yeah, little tricks. I might.
Have. To I might have to use that.
I just might have to use that in DMU later and say Oh my God I
saw note a whole new world with my mouth the other day.
I love that there's science based tips.
Yes, we need more science based tips.
Please. More science based tips in 2026?
Absolutely. Now.
Also, I'm glad that you mentioned early in relationships
testing. How often?
Because I cannot emphasize this enough to my earbuds.
I don't care if you are in a monogamous relationship.
I don't care that you've been married for X amount of years.
How often, especially for men, should a man get tested?
If you got a penis, how often should you get that penis
checked? So yearly over age 40, because
you should be checking for prostate cancer.
So we need to do rectal exams for for people.
And so then you get examined to make sure you don't have an HPV
that resurfaced from when you were younger or you know, you
don't have some kind of disease process that you didn't even
know existed. And if you're stressed, certain
viral illnesses that weren't around before may pop up, such
as herpes or you know, you may not have known that you had
that. And then it surfaces when you're
stressed. So even though you're in that
monogamous relationship, being evaluated is very important as
well. HIV now that's very important
because it still exists and there are lots of medications to
help HIV patients. So you may not even know
somebody has that. So if you're in a early
relationship, having people evaluated is still very
important. Thank you.
I, I mean absolutely you have to have to get checked.
I cannot express it anymore further, especially going to
2026. And we all know that healthcare
right now is on the Fritz. So if you can, get yourself to a
clinic. And black men have a different
level of prostate cancer risk. I'm sorry to interrupt, but no,
no. Please interrupt please.
Over 40, if you have a family history of prostate cancer, you
need to be checked at 40 and you need to be checked with a blood
test and an exam because that's very important.
There is a lot that are missed and caught late and then the
treatment options are fast difference, but also patients
that are at risk with family history or a brother or uncle,
they're more at risk than the regular population.
And so you don't just check the number of, you know, 4 of PSA,
you need to check velocity. How much did it go up?
Did it go from 1:00 to 2:00? That's too fast of a jump and
could be caught early. So your urologist, if your
primary care doctor misses that, a urologist or us at Quantum
Health and Wellness Center who I educate people about prostate
cancer. I have a lot of people that have
questions or consult, they don't have enough time with their
doctors at the appointment and so I do consults even for like
an hour just talking about prostate cancer risk factors and
what to do to prevent. I'm so glad that you offer that
type of telehealth. I'm assuming correct?
Yes. OK.
Telehealth. I am so glad and we'll be sure.
OK, so I'll make sure that we link your website so that people
can get in touch with me because this is extremely important.
I cannot stress it, especially as you said, you know, amongst
the black community, prostate cancer, just cancer in general.
I mean, folks, we we need colon. Yes.
These are the silent killers of a black folks yearly.
So please, please, please get checked.
Get tested. It's OK.
Get tested. Make it sexy.
Make it a date night. Get tested.
Get tested.
Cannot emphasize that in much. Oh, my goodness, Doctor Sue Lin.
Oh, my goodness, Doctor Hall. I feel like I I just need to
keep you in my back pocket. I I'm so glad that we made this
happen. Thank you so, so much.
I need everybody to get this book.
Please get the book How to Get Ahead.
It's on Barnes and Noble. Amazon.
Where else can they get it? Yes, it's it's on ebooks now as
well, so see. There you go, perfect little
Christmas wish, right there in the just in your hand, in the
dial of your hand. Stuffer, right?
Exactly. Literally a great stocking
stuffer. What can where can my people get
in touch with you? Where can the earbuds find you,
stock you? All that fun stuff.
So I'm on Instagram, Facebook, but at
quantumhealthandwellnesscenterorquantumhealthmhk@gmail.com is or or e-mail, but our website
Quantum Health, MHK, Quantum Health and Wellness Center,
sorry in Manhattan, KS as where I see and actually do Zoom even
you can live anywhere these days with Internet, right?
And still see patients in many different states.
I have my license in Florida, Kansas, Arizona so pretty
widespread and can expand my business as I get busier.
I love this and I will definitely be keeping tabs on
you in the future and and maybe bring you back on because like I
said, I feel like we only just got into the surface like we got
deep, but I feel like we can only get so much deeper.
So definitely get how to get ahead out now on all bookstore
platforms. So please check that out and I
will make sure to link you guys to Quantum Health so you can get
in touch with Doctor Sue Lin. Of course, everybody you can get
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