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All right, another yet another 
episode of suit yourself amends 

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with podcast and today, as 
always, it's and me how yes, so 

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we forgot about our private life
in the in the last. 

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Episode, literally. 
So I think that we should also 

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say that we had our first call 
up. 

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Bravo, you gentle Chinese brand 
and I have those trousers. 

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Those are from you gentle, but 
you can also guys you can see on

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our search yourself, under score
podcast and our private 

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Instagram profiles. 
At least at mine, those 

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fantastic fatigue chinos, 27 
centimeters of leg opening. 

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Wow, I can fit almost 2 legs in 
one in one trouser leg. 

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So very wide, very special, good
prices. 

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Yeah, yeah. 
And that's funny because even 

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yourself, you're quite used to 
wear the trousers. 

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But even there you were like, is
it all right? 

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It's, yeah, it's, it's very 
special because people actually 

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look at you and those trousers, 
they, they are not flashy, but 

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just the cut. 
Yeah, I mean, it's like, I think

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you Jandal had a lot of collabs 
in the past weeks with a lot of 

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European people. 
Yeah, that's real cool. 

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I would say that the first thing
is we were quite impressed by 

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the quality of the Phoenicians, 
of the fabrics, the. 

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Price, it's great. 
For that price, yeah, yeah, very

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fair price, excellent fabrics, 
quality. 

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It seems to be nicely made. 
We will see how they hold up 

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with time, how they age, also 
the fabrics. 

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But to be honest, it's a very 
good start for that. 

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And yeah, I, I, I would say they
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The only thing is to keep in 
mind that sizes exactly the body

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proportion to each. 
Cell. 

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Yeah, the the body proportions 
are quite different from us. 

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But they are working on it. 
Yeah, Yeah. 

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That's, that's what you told me 
that they were doing that. 

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And and I would say you can 
always tweakle around this, go 

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to your local tailor. 
It's still going to be quite a 

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fair price even with the 
adjustment and to be. 

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Honest, but also they have a 
really good size chart on the 

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website. 
Yeah, they are very, I mean, you

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know what you'll get so you can 
really prepare for that. 

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I would say gets a bit more 
tricky. 

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I mean, I also have a very 
special body because I have very

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large shoulders, very thin waist
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It's. 
It's better to size up. 

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Yeah, so it's better to size up.
Trousers work fantastic to be 

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honest. 
It's not so difficult to adjust 

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them. 
It's might be the length. 

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If you have long legs, you might
have to get rid of the some. 

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Issues with my behind. 
I needed to loosen them up. 

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Yeah. 
But yeah, you also built in a 

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special way I would say. 
But both of us, we have very 

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special measurement. 
Exactly. 

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And that's actually the subject 
of the very special subject, 

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mental health also. 
But I would also like to add 

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that, yeah, I'm 40. 
I started to run. 

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Yeah, my first run was 
yesterday, 15 minutes, not long.

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But yeah, I just need to start 
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And I started to take singing 
lessons and I bought a guitar. 

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So I don't know. 
It's just, it's just a 20 or. 

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It's just the middle age crisis 
that I want to just sing and 

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play guitar at the at the same 
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No, I always wanted to sing a 
song to my beloved 1 and I have,

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I have the motivation. 
So I guess that's that's that's 

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pretty good because I felt like 
I, I, I gained some weight. 

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So I would just wanted to lose 
some weight. 

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So I think it's also good for 
for the mind just to go out and 

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think. 
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actually going to the gym or 
when I used to and I'm I want to

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start again doing martial arts 
is that you switch, you don't 

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think. 
And that's exactly what I need. 

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I need to stop thinking because 
I'm a Nova thinker. 

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But, and that's also of what I 
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because, yeah, you can sync and 
I need those moments of the 

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connection disconnection. 
But on the other one for someone

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that doesn't have the 
opportunity to sync, it's the 

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other one around then it. 
But also you can sync in a very 

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special way because with all the
endorphins that you get in your 

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body and all the chemistry that 
is changing, you sync in a more 

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relaxed way. 
So I think it's very, it's very 

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nice for that. 
But yeah, like you said, the 

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episode is about mental health. 
We always try to connect our 

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episode to menswear one way or 
another, or to some kind of 

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lifestyle, I would say. 
And do you feel and that 

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dressing have had an impact on 
your mental health one way or 

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another? 
Do you feel better in certain 

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types of clothes? 
Yeah, of course that gives 

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confidence always When you're in
a suit, you feel more confident.

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When you're in a good clothes 
that sticks out, you feel like 

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sometimes you feel like you are 
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You don't fit to the 
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So it can be positive and it can
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It can be because people admire 
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in some way. 
But at the same time, in certain

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environment, maybe it's not, 
it's not something that you want

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to do, Yeah. 
It's challenging. 

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But also at work. 
For example, I wouldn't say that

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I stick out at work. 
So I would say that I don't fit 

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in in many environments because 
people in accounting, they dress

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very regular, nothing special, 
just just all same, same, all, 

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same, all. 
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So it can give you confidence, 
but it also can be seen at by 

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others that you do something 
wrong because you think that 

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you're better. 
You're in the suit. 

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Why you, dude? 
Why are you in the suit? 

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Are you going on a wedding? 
In Poland, people use. 

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Are you going on a wedding or 
something? 

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Or do you think that? 
Who do you think you are? 

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There's a lot of CEOs there 
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T-shirts and jeans and that's 
it. 

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So it can be seen positive and 
can be seen negative. 

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But I guess when you when people
know you, they know that you 

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that is fun for you to dress. 
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people should, maybe they don't 
always, but they should respect 

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that because it's a kind of 
hobby. 

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A lot of people think that is 
very feminine hobby. 

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Yeah. 
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bouncing back on this, I would 
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you said that you are from the 
80s, I'm from the 90s. 

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First of all, talking about 
those subjects, about mental 

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health for men, especially for 
our generation, it's doesn't 

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come so easy. 
It's not very natural. 

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I think, I think my generation 
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millennial that we actually 
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To talk about it, Yeah. 
And me who grew up in a small 

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environment that was quite 
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You don't really. 
You are not talking about those 

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things. 
I mean, my parents were quite, 

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especially my father. 
He was always someone that was 

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quite aware of things and but we
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angle because as a man, you need
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You need to hold on to certain 
things and you need to have 

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people that are relying on you. 
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cannot show weakness, but you, 
it's more that you need to bring

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some solution with a weakness. 
So if you have some kind of 

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problem, you always need, you 
already need to have been 

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working on it or you already, 
you know, it's not like you 

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cannot really ask for help. 
So it's not really something 

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that I grew up with, but 
nowadays it's way more open. 

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I would say it's even a bit too 
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Sometimes I feel like people are
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themself and they forget that 
one of the best way to get 

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better with yourself is also to 
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not necessarily to. 
Listening yourself doesn't mean 

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that you cut yourself from the 
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And I think it it's actually 
helpful to stay open to the 

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people around you. 
But you mean that a lot of 

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people are thinking just about 
themselves? 

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That is a bit narcissistic. 
Yeah, exactly. 

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I also I also noticed that 
narcissism is way too overused 

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in social media. 
It's very popular on YouTube. 

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Everyone that thinks about 
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But I would also say that 
setting boundaries, people think

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that when you set boundaries or 
you're a narcissist, you think 

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about themselves. 
But we all have some features of

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narcissist because we need to 
think about ourselves. 

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Yeah, yeah. 
Yeah, of course. 

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I mean, it's because. 
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have respect to to ourselves, to
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to another person. 
But I also think what's here, 

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the connection between this and 
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Clothes is a language, so when 
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you are sending signal. 
So it's one way also to connect 

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with people or to disconnect 
with them. 

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Yeah. 
I also was thinking about it 

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that for example, when you feel 
bad, usually you can see it from

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somebody can see from your 
clothes that you don't, you 

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don't take care yourself that 
for example, yeah, you, you look

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bad, you don't care about 
clothes when you just wear some 

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old T-shirt and and and jeans, 
that shows that maybe you just 

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gave up. 
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And I would say it's it goes 
both ways. 

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It's, it shows that you have 
given up so that you are maybe 

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not in a good place in your 
mind, but also it doesn't help 

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you to go out of this because 
it's like a vicious cycle. 

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You know, you just see yourself 
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yourself somewhere else. 
And I would say that to be able 

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to go better, to get better, you
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know, and if you want to. 
Dress like the person that you 

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want to be. 
Yeah, in a certain way it has an

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impact. 
You know it will influence of 

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course, if you dress like I'm 
dressed today. 

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Well, you feel that you are you 
look sharp, so you need to act 

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sharp and acting sharp and lock 
set and because there's a 

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routine, you know in feeling bad
and if everything wrong, you 

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just it's part of this routine 
of feeling bad. 

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But food, but clothes, but 
energy, yes, then of course, why

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would you inside of you get the 
the energy to get better. 

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But if you first of all, that's 
one of the easiest way to be 

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honest, to get better dressing 
nicely because it doesn't 

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require so much effort to be 
honest, not as much as maybe you

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eating well, not maybe as much 
as trying to have positive 

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relationship to your 
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This requires more effort, more 
finesse. 

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That you just look professional,
That you you look like you put 

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some outfit together, That you 
thought over it. 

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You know, at the end of the day,
you can say at least not, you 

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know, when I'm feeling bad, when
I dress up at least, OK, at 

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least I look good. 
I made an effort and I'm trying 

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to send a positive message 
around me when I see that I'm 

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feeling very bad mentally. 
But I'm going to the gym 

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regularly so my body is not 
crumbling apart. 

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So I'm thinking the body. 
Looks stuck. 

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Better and better. 
But it's also something like 

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like this, for example, when I 
have a nice outfit and I feel 

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that I look good in this outfit.
Sometimes maybe I'm tired after 

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work, but I will. 
I will make one more round 

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before I go home. 
Yeah, just to maybe go to wooden

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plan, maybe to have some square 
just people sitting just to show

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this outfit. 
But it's nice to see the look in

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the eyes of the people because 
sometimes, sometimes I know that

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I dressed up nicely. 
So I know that I will have those

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look that are positives and 
that's very nice. 

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But sometimes I don't realize 
it. 

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I just pull on some stuff and I 
get those looks and I'm like, 

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oh, that's nice. 
Yeah, that is actually the 

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indicator that your outfit is 
good. 

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Yeah. 
And that's, I mean, for you guys

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that ever experienced that, it's
more women than men. 

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But for you guys that 
experienced that or would like 

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to experience it, you should try
because it feels. 

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Freaking good, but for women 
it's maybe the the other way 

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around when they show some a bit
of their body also. 

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Yeah, but it depends because 
some women that I know maybe 

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more from traditional or Eastern
countries, if you don't look at 

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them, they're like what's going 
on? 

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But I that that that that guys, 
it must might sound shallow, but

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in war. 
So I could feel the looks on me 

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when I was, for example, a 
personal trainer, I looked good.

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Come on, It's it's not 
subjective. 

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It's kind of objective because I
was on the men's health cover 

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and here I don't see it because 
just people are so shy. 

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But it's also a cultural thing. 
Even even when they're attracted

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to you, they're not going to 
show it. 

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No, no. 
But also another thing today I, 

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I really felt, I really feel 
good right now because. 

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And still we get those looks. 
But you know, older, the ego 

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older, all the ladies actually 
are giving those looks when I 

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wear when we're at older ladies 
suit. 

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Yeah. 
But for example, today I got 

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some looks even from guys. 
I was just at the gym. 

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I feel like I'm training, I'm my
body is getting better. 

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I'm losing some weight from the 
middle, from the waist from the 

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middle section. 
And I actually saw that I was a 

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bit pumped and guys were looking
and I was dressed regularly in 

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the in the gym attire. 
And OK, so actually it's not 

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just me that I feel like I, I, I
look better. 

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Yeah, yeah. 
But I mean, it's just nice to be

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an example because again, we 
are. 

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And it runs up to what I was 
saying in the beginning. 

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We are social animals, so we 
need to focus on ourselves, but 

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we also need the appreciation of
the others. 

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Because this appreciation of the
others, whether it's what we 

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feel, what we sing, the aura 
that we give, it does an impact.

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And when we can see in the eyes 
of the others by those little 

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things that we are bringing 
something interesting to the 

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room, it feels good. 
And it should feel good because 

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that's the way we are built. 
Of course we shouldn't. 

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The work that we have to put on 
our self is not to put too much 

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importance in that because that 
would become shallow. 

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Yeah, a lot of people say that 
we we are focusing too much. 

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I don't focus that much to be 
honest. 

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But we, we, we have a menswear 
podcast. 

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Come on. 
Yeah, that also, but we. 

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Need to talk about it. 
Yeah, that's true. 

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But also we don't focus so much.
We are passionate, we love fits,

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we love culture. 
And we like to. 

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Share it. 
We like to share our knowledge 

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and we like to discuss about 
things that we love. 

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So first, we have a passion for 
those things and experience. 

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Yeah, but we don't make. 
I mean, for me, it's not like a 

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conundrum that takes my energy 
when I need to dress up in the 

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morning. 
No, after after a while is is 

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just is just natural. 
It's natural. 

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It's just. 
Happening organically. 

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Yeah, exactly. 
And it's the other world. 

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You get excited, you're like 
tomorrow I'm going to be able to

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wear this one. 
I'm super excited and I'm happy 

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about it and that's it, you 
know, and then you have your day

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and you don't think about it 
anymore. 

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No, it's we don't overthinking. 
We don't overthink about it at 

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all. 
Not much more than any passion. 

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And we are not passionate about 
looking good. 

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We are passionate about the 
garments themselves and what 

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they are sending. 
So we are not like I'm not 

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passionate about myself, I'm not
passionate about my image in the

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mirror. 
Yeah, because sometimes people 

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would think that we don't look 
good in, for example, you 

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gentle, very white trousers. 
Yeah. 

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Because it's too white for a 
lot. 

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Yeah, but when we talk about it 
to people in the streets, 

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there's not so many people that 
are ate us, so to speak of this,

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you know, and there's no, not so
many people that would say, oh, 

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it's you're saying you do you. 
Because yeah, that's also 

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indifference is another thing. 
But there's not so many people 

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like this or less than or way 
less than what we could think 

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actually, because on Internet 
and social media, people are 

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super loud on negativity. 
But in the streets, people are 

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more the other around. 
When we ask people in the street

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and we have done those 
interviews, yeah, we're going to

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do more. 
People are more like, yeah, 

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well, for me, that's good. 
That's the way it should be. 

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That's more what we receive. 
But you mentioned actually one 

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thing that we are social animals
and we want to be seen by 

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others. 
And for example, I have an 

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experience of living in a small 
town in Sweden where everyone 

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look the same. 
It it's the Yant log and the, 

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the Yant law that you shouldn't 
stick out. 

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You shouldn't think that you're 
better than anyone else, that 

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you should dress the same, have 
the same car, the same looking 

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everything in Sweden, in 
Scandinavia. 

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And actually I felt really bad 
because yeah, I know that in 

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Sweden the the the risk of. 
Sticking out. 

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No, the risk of suicide is 
pretty high. 

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So a lot of people, they are 
just alone by themselves and 

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they don't want to stick out. 
So everyone just blends in. 

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Yeah, yeah. 
Which is the. 

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Worst, Yeah. 
And guys are not seeking for 

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help. 
And I think that's the that's 

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the issue because it's it's seen
as feminine. 

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Yeah, yeah. 
But at the same time, guys just 

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understand one thing that asking
for help and talking about 

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emotions is very much masculine 
stuff to do. 

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Yeah, I completely agree with 
that. 

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And for me, I am really this 
type of guy that will never ask 

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for help. 
I will drown in it and I will 

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because I'm always stuck in this
idea. 

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I need to do it by yourself. 
You're a real man. 

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But then I have reached some 
level of despair that you cannot

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do it alone, and then you need 
to reach out for help. 

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And when you do that, then you 
realise that what the strength 

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is actually there, it's to go 
against yourself. 

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You know, it's also about talk 
with somebody about that 

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because, you know, for example, 
I'm, I'm going on a therapy and 

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sometimes I talk with my 
friends, but it's also, I don't 

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want to put too much on my 
friends. 

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Yeah, because it, because it, it
can be just too much. 

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Sometimes It's nice to pay 
somebody and just the, the 

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person just listen to you. 
I, I, I like it. 

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So we have all those tools. 
And you're supposed to. 

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I am supposed to be the 
talkative 1. 

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You are the one that is. 
Ridiculous. 

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Yeah, because. 
Because it's it's just something

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that it's just something close 
to me. 

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I I moved to a different 
country. 

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I, I divorced, I lived in the 
small town without any real 

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friends with a shitty job. 
And and I mean, I'm, I'm here 

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right now. 
So I guess I did something, 

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something correctly. 
Yeah. 

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So even the clothes, like I 
found my style in Stockholm 

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because in Stockholm you can 
freely wear whatever you want. 

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And I guess that living in 
bigger cities is just better. 

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So guys, if you like, if you 
like some menswear garments and 

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you feel like in your small city
you can, you don't have any 

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occasion or opportunity or 
you're not brave enough to 

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worry, just move to a bigger 
city because it will be just 

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easier. 
Exactly. 

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You will feel much more secure, 
safe and confident. 

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You need to move if the 
environment is not good and if 

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you feel that bad anyways, what 
can you lose to be honest? 

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I mean small small town was not 
for me. 

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No, not bad. 
And I'm coming from a small 

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town, but I mean, I, I like the 
small Dome because I like, I'm 

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quite a solitary person at the 
end of the day. 

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So I, I like discount, but I 
always need people. 

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But yeah, I'm, I'm not an 
oversharer. 

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I dislike sharing a lot, so I'm 
the. 

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Opposite I, yeah. 
Exactly, but you can always 

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improve, I would say on this. 
So that's that's also the ID. 

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But coming back a bit on on the 
menswear idea of this, there is 

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all this ID of rituals around 
dressing up. 

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And I would say that that can 
really put you in a mood. 

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You know, we're talking about 
sports before you know and. 

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Yeah, that you can think exactly
when you run or you can just 

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turn off. 
And that's what so for me, I did

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martial arts since I'm three 
years old. 

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So I was really like conditioned
to that when you were going on 

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the Datami, as we call it, it's 
an it's another word. 

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And as soon as you step in, 
you're another person. 

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You, it's not that you stop 
thinking. 

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It means that everything that is
outside stays outside and 

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everything that is inside it's 
you are and you, you. 

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So, and it's actually very 
strong to learn that from a 

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young age because then you have 
this capacity and it's a 

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capacity that I don't have in 
any circumstances. 

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But when I enter the data, me, 
I'm like, whatever happened 

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outside doesn't affect me 
anymore. 

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I'm another person. 
And that comes actually usually 

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with a lot of work of 
meditations and so on to be able

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to be in the present moment. 
And that's also something very 

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strong. 
And it comes from rituals. 

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In this case, this is the ritual
of saluting when you are 

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entering in the carpet. 
So there is a ritual that 

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assessed. 
All right, there was before 

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There's no and when you are 
dressing up, there can be a lot 

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of rituals, passing on the tie, 
shaving. 

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For me, I would say that's 
probably when I'm putting my 

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perfume. 
It's like the last thing that 

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I'm doing and I'm feeling like, 
OK, now I'm ready to go. 

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You. 
Need to you also need to choose 

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which fragrance suits. 
Yeah. 

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And that also connects me to 
nice thing positive. 

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Things and also iron ironing. 
Yeah, yeah, yeah. 

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Also a polishing shoes. 
Yeah. 

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That can be something that a 
good moment of relax. 

404
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Yeah, because it feels. 
And maybe that's also some 

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music, but it feels like fixing 
stuff, you know? 

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Generally speaking, I like 
fixing stuff. 

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It makes me relax and appease. 
It's a bit like fixing your 

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shoes when you're, you know. 
And even the, the, the smell of 

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the, of the paste or creams or 
waxes, yeah, that's, that's also

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a thing that can, if you, if you
have problems, for example with 

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stress, it can distress you. 
Distress, distress, distress. 

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No. 
Distress it would be. 

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You can, yeah. 
You can be more chill, yeah, But

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ironing, OK, maybe not when you 
have 15 shirts to iron, but it 

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can be pretty satisfying to see 
to iron shirts. 

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And it also smells good. 
Yeah. 

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You can have a nice a nice 
steamer. 

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And all those things, basically 
they come to the same idea where

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it's dressing up or taking care 
of the garment. 

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It's to make things tidy around 
you. 

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And I would say that when we 
grow up, we always grew up with 

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this idea that boys were messy 
and girls were tidy. 

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And nowadays I'm hearing 
actually more the other way 

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around. 
A lot of girls that I meet, 

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they're like, wow, it's so tidy 
at your place. 

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I'm not used to that. 
And because they don't have 

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just. 
Just open wardrobe. 

428
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Exactly. 
And I think it completely 

429
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disregarding your genre, it's so
good, so important to have 

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things tidy around you. 
It doesn't mean that you need to

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live in a EKR or fake house, you
know. 

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Yeah, Yeah. 
But just to have things tidy 

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around you of such. 
A But it's just those rituals, 

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just just that you have, for 
example, you take care of your 

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body, you take care of your 
clothes, you take care, you just

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eat food prep, you exercise 
regularly, you take care of your

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clothes regularly. 
You make do the laundry, you 

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hang your, for example, trousers
correct on the in the correct 

439
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:03,400
way on the hanger. 
You steam your, for example, 

440
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:07,520
trousers when they when you see 
creases or you feel that they 

441
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are maybe not so fresh. 
So all those rituals, and I 

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think it's important with 
rituals because then you then 

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you have control over your body.
Sometimes I feel like people are

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asking me, OK, how you, how you 
have, how we have motivation to 

445
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do all those stuff. 
I don't have motivation. 

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It's just rituals. 
It's just I have, I need to do 

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that and I'm not thinking about,
OK, so for example, tomorrow, 

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not tomorrow. 
Today I woke up at 8:00. 

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00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:39,440
I slept so well, like a baby. 
I don't think I slept that well 

450
00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:43,400
for a long, for a long time. 
I think it was before May 

451
00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:49,160
because maybe of the of the run 
I did yesterday and 15 minutes 

452
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:53,400
it's enough. 15 minutes. 15 
minutes, yeah, but I thought 

453
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:55,640
that OK, maybe I can sleep a bit
more. 

454
00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:58,320
No, I will be mad at myself. 
So I went to the gym. 

455
00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:00,120
Yeah, yeah. 
In the morning. 

456
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:03,320
Yeah. 
And I, yeah, yeah, I agree with 

457
00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:07,320
that. 
I am, I love to usually 

458
00:27:07,360 --> 00:27:12,840
oversleep just to have more time
to, to to oversing during my 

459
00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:16,520
dreams. 
But generally speaking is just 

460
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:18,760
better to have control over what
you are doing. 

461
00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:22,480
So instead of staying in bed, 
yeah, get up and do some stuff 

462
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:27,880
tends to just give you migraine.
I would say too over sleep. 

463
00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:33,800
But but yeah, I would say that 
and to wrap up a bit, all this 

464
00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:40,440
topic, it's the ID that the, 
there's some kind of elegance in

465
00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:43,840
taking care of yourself, not 
only physically, but mentally, 

466
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:46,760
because this is something that 
you share with the others, 

467
00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:49,680
because you provide for the 
others. 

468
00:27:49,800 --> 00:27:54,720
And what you provide, well, you 
just provide better ideas, more 

469
00:27:54,720 --> 00:28:00,400
positive, more positivity around
you and you are more capable to 

470
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:04,120
build things. 
And that's, that's a provider 

471
00:28:04,120 --> 00:28:08,640
idea. 
And I, I think that's, that's 

472
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:12,440
something that it's not only for
men to do that it's for men and 

473
00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:16,160
women. 
So it's not only for for us, 

474
00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:20,360
but, but it's definitely 
something that that is super 

475
00:28:20,360 --> 00:28:22,320
important and that is super 
elegant. 

476
00:28:22,440 --> 00:28:26,640
So many times we mentioned that 
it really doesn't matter how 

477
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:29,360
good you look if you're an 
asshole. 

478
00:28:30,040 --> 00:28:33,160
And I would say that if you're a
depressed asshole, it's not even

479
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:36,520
better. 
But just at least make people 

480
00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:41,440
see your good outfits. 
But that's one step towards 

481
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:42,880
bringing some nice stuff around 
you. 

482
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:47,280
Yeah, yeah. 
But yeah, pretty much like this 

483
00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:49,720
I would say with. 
Aesthetic asshole is still 

484
00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:51,080
better than just a regular. 
One. 

485
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:53,840
Yeah, exactly. 
It's, you know, it's like you, 

486
00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:57,120
you'd rather be depressed in 
your Ferrari than in the subway.

487
00:28:57,400 --> 00:28:59,560
Yeah, exactly. 
You would rather cry in your 

488
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:04,560
Ferrari than than taking. 
Yeah, I'd rather be depressed in

489
00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:08,760
a in a nice suit or with a nice 
outfit than being depressed with

490
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:10,120
rags. 
That's. 

491
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:13,800
True, but you know you can have 
the perfect suit and still feel 

492
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:16,200
really bad. 
So just it's important just to 

493
00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:18,760
take care of yourself. 
If you have some some issues 

494
00:29:18,760 --> 00:29:21,760
just go to to to some 
professional. 

495
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:25,520
Yeah, go to some professional, 
but first also talk to your 

496
00:29:25,520 --> 00:29:27,880
friends. 
I mean we all went through this 

497
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:34,480
can be nice to mentioned that. 
I mean, if you have real 

498
00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:38,240
friends, you should have a 
possibility to talk about those 

499
00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:39,920
things with them. 
Or family. 

500
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:43,960
Yeah, because those are things, 
you know, we feel stupid, but 

501
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:47,760
it's because we never dare. 
It's like when you learn things 

502
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:49,720
in life, when you are a 
teenager, there are certain 

503
00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:52,920
things you don't dare to talk 
about it and but then they 

504
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:57,680
become very natural and and you 
feel stupid that you didn't ask 

505
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,280
before. 
But in that aspect, I think 

506
00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:04,480
especially men, we are acting 
like kids. 

507
00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:06,440
We don't dare to talk about it. 
Yeah. 

508
00:30:06,560 --> 00:30:08,720
That's, that is actually what 
kids would do. 

509
00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:12,000
They would never seek help. 
They would never go to anyone. 

510
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:17,920
They would never even say that 
something is wrong and that 

511
00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:21,000
that's the issue. 
But also it's good to have a 

512
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:24,560
partner that actually helps you 
because I had some partners that

513
00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:27,680
told me, for example, when I 
said that I've, OK, maybe I'm a 

514
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:29,880
bit down because I'm looking for
a new job. 

515
00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:34,240
Like you should be in your 
masculine era. 

516
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:37,080
You should be more masculine in 
your masculine. 

517
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:41,640
You like what? 
That is just just clear gas 

518
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:43,360
lighting. 
Yeah. 

519
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:46,320
So if you have a partner like 
that, like it's not a good 

520
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:48,600
partner for you because your 
partner should say, OK, I 

521
00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:51,760
understand you. 
Like, do you want just to talk 

522
00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:55,840
about it or you should you want 
to have some advice, get some 

523
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,200
advice or something how I can 
help you? 

524
00:30:58,240 --> 00:30:59,880
That should be the correct 
answer. 

525
00:30:59,880 --> 00:31:03,760
Not that you need to be a man, 
because what to be a man is to 

526
00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:07,000
look for help. 
Yeah, and actually, at the end 

527
00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:11,280
of the day, trust me, you'll be 
a man because no one can do 

528
00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:14,480
things for you. 
So getting help doesn't mean 

529
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:18,200
that anyone will do it for you. 
It means that someone will bring

530
00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:21,080
you in the right past you will. 
Give give you tools. 

531
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:23,200
Exactly will give you the tools 
to get better. 

532
00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:29,520
Well, I am preaching that and 
I'm the first one to do this 

533
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:31,840
mistakes. 
I I wouldn't go there. 

534
00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:35,880
I wouldn't I because I'm too 
stubborn and I. 

535
00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:38,760
But you know what helps right 
now guys? 

536
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:41,240
A lot of people just ask 
ChatGPT. 

537
00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:45,440
Yeah. 
You can laugh, but if you if you

538
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,880
don't have the balls to go to 
therapist, yeah, that's better 

539
00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:51,880
because ChatGPT is based on 
something that is actually 

540
00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:55,200
written somewhere. 
So the sources are correct. 

541
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:58,680
And if you if you if you don't 
dare to go to therapist, it's 

542
00:31:58,680 --> 00:32:02,840
better to to use ChatGPT than do
nothing or YouTube. 

543
00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:04,960
I would say that yeah, exactly 
since some. 

544
00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:08,680
Psych therapist Psychologist not
like coaches because. 

545
00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:10,760
No, no, no. 
A lot of coach something 

546
00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:12,600
different. 
Yeah, that's just we don't have 

547
00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:15,960
the the actual knowledge. 
No, I would say I'm a learner. 

548
00:32:15,960 --> 00:32:21,520
So the way I've been doing it to
get better is I'm also an 

549
00:32:21,520 --> 00:32:24,400
artist. 
So creating things help me 

550
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:28,360
process the the things that 
makes me feel bad in life. 

551
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:29,800
So you need to find your own 
things. 

552
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:33,720
That help you with that kind of 
hobby and menswear can be nice. 

553
00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:38,920
But I would say that in my part,
for example, it's reading 

554
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:43,440
philosophy because philosophy is
all about at the end of the day,

555
00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:47,240
how the mind function. 
So you it gives you a better 

556
00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:49,680
grasp on those things. 
Doesn't mean that you will fix 

557
00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:53,600
yourself on your own, but it 
means that it's a lonely or a 

558
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:58,280
solitary step that can you bring
bring you forward a bit more 

559
00:32:58,280 --> 00:33:02,720
consciousness. 
At the end of the day, depending

560
00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:05,560
on how bad you feel, it might 
not be enough. 

561
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:09,560
And then you, you need to get 
actual help. 

562
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:13,200
But yes, again, at the end of 
the day, you're not going to. 

563
00:33:14,040 --> 00:33:17,440
It's only you who can fix things
and it can only come from you. 

564
00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:20,640
So, and sometimes you don't need
to. 

565
00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:23,960
I mean, at the end of the day, 
in most situations, you know 

566
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:25,720
what's wrong. 
You know that you are doing 

567
00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:28,760
something wrong and you have to.
It's an accumulation of wrong 

568
00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:31,120
things. 
So it's the same like with 

569
00:33:31,120 --> 00:33:34,120
clothes. 
When it's a simple, simple 

570
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:38,800
thing, for example, you need to 
reattach the button, then you're

571
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:43,520
doing it by yourself. 
But when you want to adjust to 

572
00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:49,280
something, I don't know, maybe, 
maybe your jacket is too wide, 

573
00:33:49,280 --> 00:33:51,200
then you go to the tailor. 
Yeah, exactly. 

574
00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:53,160
No, exactly. 
But that's that's a good 

575
00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:55,720
analogy. 
I would be curious to hear you 

576
00:33:55,720 --> 00:34:01,480
guys actually to know how I 
mean. 

577
00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:05,040
How many may be impacted? 
Exactly how did that impact and 

578
00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:08,639
you, do you have some kind of 
anecdote like this moment? 

579
00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:12,480
I wasn't that good, but I was 
wearing this piece or I was 

580
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:15,560
wearing this perfume and then 
that changed my mood or it has 

581
00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:18,679
an impact on me even. 
On on a, for example, job 

582
00:34:18,679 --> 00:34:20,719
interview, it just gives you the
confidence. 

583
00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:23,199
Yeah, yeah, we're talking about 
it with Linus. 

584
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:27,080
Yeah, yeah, exactly. 
Share with us and share with the

585
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:34,040
others what how your patient for
menswear had actually a positive

586
00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:37,480
impact on you and how we can 
have a positive impact on anyone

587
00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:40,639
else. 
And also guys, just take care of

588
00:34:40,639 --> 00:34:44,520
yourself if you have some 
issues, just don't be scared. 

589
00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:48,280
Just ask for help. 
And remember, just good clothes,

590
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:54,239
it's not always the thing that 
will make things better often, 

591
00:34:54,639 --> 00:34:58,800
but you know, the retail therapy
that a lot of people are talking

592
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:03,480
about buying things, but it's 
also running away from your 

593
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:06,160
issues. 
They, they, they give you just a

594
00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:11,920
dopamine cake, but just for 515 
minutes and then you're still 

595
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:14,360
feeling bad. 
So take care of yourselves. 

596
00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:18,760
Just do sports. 
Remember your routines. 

597
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:21,720
We were talking also about some 
some. 

598
00:35:21,720 --> 00:35:25,680
Of the spiritual issues. 
But also do journaling for 

599
00:35:25,680 --> 00:35:29,840
example, that helps. 
Yeah, spirituality is something 

600
00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:32,680
that we didn't really talked 
about because I mean it's a 

601
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:36,360
world topic in itself, but I 
mean and I'm not necessarily 

602
00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:39,760
talking about religion, but it's
part of the spirituality. 

603
00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:42,720
But that will connect you a bit 
more with things. 

604
00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:47,320
And I would say that's one of 
the most important things that 

605
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:51,640
you can experience. 
And that's quite solitary in 

606
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:54,680
many ways in order to to get 
better. 

607
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:58,840
And I would say that's a very 
important things to very 

608
00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:02,280
important thing to to be aware 
of. 

609
00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:07,800
And I mean, usually it comes 
with age, you get a bit more 

610
00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:10,840
open to those things, you 
understand them, you understand 

611
00:36:10,840 --> 00:36:15,400
a bit more their importance. 
So yeah, stay open to those kind

612
00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:18,440
of IDs as well. 
Yeah, super important. 

613
00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:23,080
OK guys, so that was the wrap of
this episode. 

614
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:27,240
We don't know which number was 
it, but yeah, I hope that it 

615
00:36:27,240 --> 00:36:29,760
will. 
It will help you somehow. 

616
00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:33,920
Yeah. 
Because we in our episodes don't

617
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:37,680
want to talk just about clothes,
but or something lifestyle, 

618
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:40,920
something broader, yeah. 
We are building a community, 

619
00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:43,240
there's a lot of people 
following us, more and more 

620
00:36:43,240 --> 00:36:47,440
thousands, and if we can help 
each others just by talking 

621
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:48,960
about those things, yeah, it's 
important. 

622
00:36:48,960 --> 00:36:51,040
To share your share your 
experiences. 

623
00:36:51,040 --> 00:36:54,440
Have you ever been through a 
therapist or some someone some 

624
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:57,960
professional? 
Send us Adm Yeah. 

625
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:01,200
OK. 
Thank you guys and bye bye. 

626
00:37:01,240 --> 00:37:05,280
See you next time. 
Ciao guys.