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Welcome back my friends, every 
single Monday and episode, 

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helping you on your mental 
health journeys and offering you

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a compassionate voice. 
Some things that you may not 

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have dared say to yourself 
because it feels so awkward and 

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strange and new. 
So I hope to massage the muscle 

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of compassion within you with a 
few questions here in a short 

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video. 
OK #1 would you trust somebody? 

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And this has everything to do 
with anxiety, by the way. 

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This is everything to do with 
anxiety. 

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Millions of people are in 
therapy right now for this very 

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reason. 
The whole therapeutic process is

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how do we get you to trust 
yourself more, to trust your 

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ability to perform, to deal with
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So let me ask you two questions.
One, would you trust somebody 

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that you don't know? 
And two, would you trust 

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somebody that you don't like, 
that you don't respect, that 

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almost your repulsed by and 
disgusted by? 

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What do you think? 
And you might be like sometimes,

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Scott, it depends on the 
situation. 

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What's the scenario going on 
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Am I dropping my Benz off at 
valet and I give the guy the 

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keys? 
So I trust a stranger in 

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general, do you trust someone 
you don't know it all and that 

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you don't like? 
For me, it's a no. 

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For me it's a no. 
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So if we don't trust people in 
that scenario, then why would we

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expect to trust ourselves if we 
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completely and don't even like 
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How about that one? 
If you don't like yourself and 

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you don't really know yourself, 
how do you expect to be able to 

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trust yourself in given 
situations that might cause you 

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anxiety that make you 
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How are you going to trust 
yourself to be able to rise to 

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the occasion? 
But I got good news for you. 

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You're not at the end of the 
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You're just starting. 
You're just starting in order to

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trust yourself. 
It's a process. 

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It's a process. 
And it's not like, OK, I'm going

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to go skydiving and if I 
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myself. 
No, you really just trust the 

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parachute, OK? 
To trust yourself, you have to 

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do 2 things. 
It's just what I said. 

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So imagine, imagine you're 
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going to a, going to a 
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something. 
I, I wonder if any of you travel

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for work or, you know, you have 
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the boss comes and you have to 
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and you're passionate about that
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So this happens, but you're 
nervous the night before, you're

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nervous the week before. 
And I coach people who deal with

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this kind of anxiety, OK. 
And you can imagine for a second

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if you were going to be in that 
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with anxiety, but you don't 
trust yourself O you see this 

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person in the future. 
So this is you now you see this 

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person trying to deal with the 
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And in your mind, you're just 
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You don't know which way to 
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And then you're making bathroom 
breaks and you're like, oh, 

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there's a hotel nearby that 
we're staying at, and I'm just 

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going to go there. 
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anybody because I'm embarrassed.
If I tell them about my anxiety,

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they're going to judge me. 
I'm going to get fired. 

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The boss is going to judge. 
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And we become overwhelmed and we
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But imagine you had a 
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not every time, but a lot of the
time you put yourself in that 

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scenario and you say, oh, I like
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That guy knows what he's going 
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That guy, I know him, I know 
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outside. 
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to tell somebody in that moment.
So he's going to text a buddy 

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that he's there at the event. 
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I know that he's going to need a
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for beers after with the team, 
but he's going to need to get to

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bed early because that's what he
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I know what he needs. 
I trust that he knows how to 

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handle the situation. 
I trust that he knows how to 

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perform in that situation for 
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I know that he will know how to 
rise to the no matter what, no 

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matter what the expectation, no 
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matter what the environment 
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enough to be able to deal. 
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forecast into the future, if we 
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take care of ourselves, that's 
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anything. 
That's not to mean that we won't

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actually need to leave the room 
in a panic, but it means that in

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the present moment, now, we will
trust future self so that 

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present self can now chill about
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That's what that's all about. 
That's what that's all about. 

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So if you know yourself well 
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need. 
You will know what you need to 

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feel safe. 
You'll know what you need to to 

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feel comfortable. 
You'll know what you need to 

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actually maybe calm yourself 
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You'll know what kind of self 
talk you'll need to move through

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certain moments and situations. 
You'll know maybe that you need 

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to take benzo before the event. 
You think I'm anti meds? 

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Absolutely not. 
I'm here for the world. 

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Some of us take medication, 
others don't. 

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Who am I to judge? 
It's up to you to know what's 

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best for you and to not let 
anybody get in your mind about 

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what you should do to calm down.
Knowing yourself means trusting 

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yourself. 
Liking yourself then means 

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trusting yourself. 
There's so much about you. 

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And the part of knowing 
yourself, my friends, is not 

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just knowing, OK, what am I 
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I going to do in that situation?
The whole process of getting to 

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know yourself again, my Zen 
teacher was like, I forget the 

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call we were on, but we were 
talking about, oh, this is a 

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totally a next episode. 
I can't wait to tell you this 

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one. 
It's about not thinking too 

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deeply all the time. 
And if you'd like that episode 

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next week, please like this 
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So if it gets more likes, I'll 
know to make a video about you 

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all who are really deep thinkers
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existentialism and what's life 
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And it catches you off guard and
it's really not good for you. 

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But it's very attractive. 
And you like to go into the 

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drama. 
If that is an episode that you 

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would like, please like this 
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And I'd love to make it to you 
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Make it for you next week. 
So I was talking to my teacher 

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and I'm like, yeah, I like to go
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I like to go into the dark. 
And she's like, well, in Zen, in

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some certain practices, we head 
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That's exactly where we want to 
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So part of you knowing yourself 
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you know, the Goo Goo Dolls. 
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Is that the band? 
I was just listening to them. 

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Goo Goo Dolls. 

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I like the Goo Goo Dolls and I 
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It's like, all right, let's go a
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What are you scared of? 
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Are you, what are you afraid of?
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Like, are you afraid of failing?
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What's your relationship with 
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siblings, friends? 
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All these things that's getting 
to know yourself and through 

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that, through looking at 
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length or a non judge mental 
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what's there. 
Not just the good parts, but all

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of you. 
This is the therapeutic process.

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This is the process I've been on
for a long time and which is why

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I teach it. 
So to trust yourself, think 

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about how now that you love 
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really know yourself and what 
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You know you are you ever 
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You're like, I just don't know 
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I'm just all over the place and 
I've tried this and I've tried 

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this and nothing's working. 
Think about how trusting 

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yourself eliminates some 
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Think about that. 
Write down why trusting 

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yourself? 
Why really trusting who you are,

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what you stand for, what you can
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Write this down on a piece of 
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How does trusting yourself and 
how will trusting yourself and 

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how will learning to trust 
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will that help lower anxiety? 
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The crashing waves become a 
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softer. 
OK, that's the project for this 

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week. 
OK, now obviously this isn't 

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enough to get you to the next 
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Oh, that sounded so bad. 
Oh, that sounded so bad. 

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I was about to plug in a course 
in what I'm building, but that 

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sounded bad. 
Do you want to take your anxiety

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to the next level or join me? 
Oh, that's so bad. 

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Listen, take that with you for 
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Love you all so much learning to
trust yourself is a massive part

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of of not feeling itchy in the 
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That's a big part of it. 
And I know you can get there and

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the path is a long one. 
And, you know, change takes 

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time. 
So don't beat yourself up for, 

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you know, if you have that 
meeting next week to be like, 

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oh, well, I thought about what I
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feel safe, but I'm still 
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Damn it, Scott, it didn't work. 
Give yourself time. 

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Give yourself time. 
Give yourself grace. 

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Give yourself time. 
Give yourself time. 

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Be patient. 
What do you want to cultivate? 

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Patience will be patient with 
yourself. 

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What do you want to cultivate? 
Kindness will be kind to 

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yourself. 
What do you want to cultivate? 

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Good listening skills will 
listen to others. 

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And don't keep yapping, OK? 
What we are and what we want to 

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cultivate, we should be to 
ourselves and other people 

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notice this. 
It's so easy to notice this in 

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other people. 
OK? 

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So take that with you this week 
and all the links are below. 

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Sign up for the 8 weeks with 
Scott thing. 

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You'll be on the wait list. 
You'll get the first e-mail when

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I come out with myself. 
Compassion. 

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Work with groups and it will 
change your life for the better.

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And I'm not quite sure in my 
program as it's being built and 

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I'm, you know, almost finishing 
school now. 

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If I want it just for men, for 
highly sensitive men like myself

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who struggle to be in the world 
of toxic masculinity, I'm going 

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to put it on. 
I'm not going to say it that way

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too. 
I really am. 

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The the men I see online, which 
is the comedian's name, Jimmy 

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Carr, the guy from the UK, he 
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He's like those alpha males that
you see online and who, who sell

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their courses, are like a 13 
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man is. 
And I love that so much. 

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And being a man, being a human 
being is so much more than that.

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So I'm just building the course.
I'm figuring a few things out 

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and I am here to serve and help 
you so much. 

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And I really hope that this 
video was a benefit to you. 

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Trust yourself, learn it, answer
those questions, start to get to

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know yourself, start to get to 
like yourself. 

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And a great resource if you need
something right now is the 

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Conquer Anxiety course I put 
together to get to know 

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yourself. 
There's nothing better. 

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We go through the hierarchy of 
values. 

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We go through, Oh my gosh, we go
through CBT, we go through ACT, 

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we go through different 
meditations to sit with anxiety 

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and what pops up like it's got 
everything. 

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It's 8 hours of content. 
So if that sounds good to you, 

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the link's also in the 
description for you. 

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And thanks a lot for listening. 
God bless you all. 

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Take care. 
See you in the comments and.