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Dear sensitive men, there is a 
time for everything and a season

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for every activity under the 
heavens. 

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A time to be born and a time to 
die, a time to plant and a time 

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to uproot. 
Some of you have left already 

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because you know this is from 
the Bible. 

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That's cool. 
Stay with me, everyone else. 

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A time to kill and a time to 
heal. 

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A time to tear down and a time 
to build. 

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A time to weep and a time to 
laugh. 

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A time to mourn and a time to 
dance. 

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A time to scatter stones and a 
time to gather them. 

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A time to embrace and a time to 
refrain from embracing. 

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Good opposite. 
I wonder what the Hebrew is 

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there? 
A time to search and a time to 

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give up. 
A time to keep and a time to 

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throw away. 
A time to tear and a time to 

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mend. 
A time to be silent and a time 

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to speak. 
A time to love and a time to 

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hate and a time for war and a 
time for peace. 

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Dear sensitive men, there's a 
time for everything. 

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And I'm on that list too, of 
sensitive gentlemen. 

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Gentlemen, sensitivity is a 
sense of gentleness. 

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And I wonder if if you felt like
this sensitivity is a burden for

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you, if it's something you've 
had to drag around, something 

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you've always had to cope with, 
work through something that gets

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in the way, something this 
sensitivity that holds you back 

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for a, for a lot of us, it holds
us back because what are we 

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taught in society today? 
If you are sensitive to the 

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elements, if you are sensitive 
to emotion, if you are sensitive

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to the external world, well, 
jeez, you walk outside, you're 

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getting hit with 1000 arrows. 
It's a lot. 

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Be quiet, watch, it's a lot. 
We can call it over stimulated. 

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You may have read the book 
Highly Sensitive people. 

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So you consider yourself an 
hospital. 

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And if you want to put yourself 
in that box, if it helps you 

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out, go for it. 
I don't do those videos anymore 

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and that's not how I I've 
decided to be of service to 

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people these days. 
I believe you are a unique 

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individual brought up with a 
certain set of circumstances. 

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You did your absolute best to 
survive and thrive. 

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And here you are now watching 
this video trying to make sense 

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of why you are the way that you 
are and the positive quality. 

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Sometimes you don't see we're 
we're we're conditioned to only 

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see the negative, to focus on 
the problems and how to fix 

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everything in ourselves. 
This is the masculine way, isn't

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it? 
You know, we got to cross the 

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river. 
All right, let's just go through

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on our boots. 
Let's build a bridge. 

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That thing's broken. 
Let me fix it. 

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I'm going to Canadian Tire. 
I'm going to get the new ratchet

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set. 
I can't wait to fix the thing. 

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It's awesome. 
We love fixing stuff 

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psychologically. 
That's why therapy doesn't work 

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for a lot of men, because in 
good therapy, in good coaching, 

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you're not fixing stuff, man. 
You come to me and say, Scott, 

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I'm too sensitive, please cure 
me of my sensitivity. 

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I can't get out in the world 
anymore. 

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Stuff's too overwhelming. 
I hate myself for feeling so 

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much. 
I'm not. 

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There's nothing to fix there. 
Can you see that? 

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Can you see that? 
There's nothing to fix within 

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yourself, only things to 
understand. 

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Only a recovering of yourself 
from all the layers of shame 

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because of your sensitivity for 
judgment, because of this 

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sensitivity for things that 
you've avoided due to the 

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sensitivity which added on to 
the shame, which added on to the

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thoughts. 
I'm not good enough. 

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I can't fit in. 
I'm too much of this, I'm not 

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enough that. 
And then we find ourselves in a 

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position where we think I'm not 
good enough for the world. 

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The world was not meant for me. 
Sometimes I walk down Queen St. 

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and you know, I think the same 
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This bar wasn't meant for me. 
I don't drink anymore, really. 

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I don't want to pay $9 for a 
fucking Bud Light, OK? 

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All these clubs on King Street, 
those weren't meant for me. 

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I never liked going. 
I just went because I thought I 

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had to because I was young. 
I never liked the music. 

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I all these weed shops on Queen 
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I don't want to get high 
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The commercial world in 
capitalism does not fit my 

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interests anymore. 
I want to play guitar, I want to

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go down by the river, I want to 
see some good music and live 

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concerts, and I just want to 
watch the Jays win the World 

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Series. 
Sometimes you feel like you're 

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not part of the world because 
the world demands a certain 

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demographic to join it. 
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sometimes that's not you. 
Maybe a lot of the time that's 

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not you. 
And then people search on Reddit

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for people like them, and then 
you're in a world of trouble 

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because those are guys in their 
basement just jerking off all 

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day and you really don't want to
be associated with that kind of 

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person anyways, even if they 
seem to be like you. 

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Stay off of Reddit, please, for 
your own mental health. 

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So what do you do with the 
sensitivity gentleman? 

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What do you do with it? 
And that's the ultimate 

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question. 
And that's the perfect question 

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to ask, which I'm sure you've 
asked yourself a bunch of times.

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What do I do with this, Scott? 
What am I supposed to do? 

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Meaning that there's some kind 
of action you have to take. 

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There's some kind of 
prescription, not in a 

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medication sense, but we're all 
for it. 

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We're not against anything for 
treatment here. 

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But what do you do? 
What do you do? 

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I bet a lot of you, like me, 
have searched for the answer for

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a long time. 
You know, in 2008 I was 

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diagnosed with generalized 
anxiety disorder, social anxiety

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disorder, major depressive 
disorder. 

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And you can imagine me, and I 
can imagine myself at 19 years 

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old not knowing what mental 
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What the hell is a psychiatrist?
Who is this guy in a suit 

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telling me I got stuff? 
What does that even mean? 

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I know I feel terrible, but 
what? 

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What? 
What? 

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There's pills for mood, Huh? 
What are you talking about? 

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You can imagine that for years 
and years, I searched. 

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I searched for the cure for 
this. 

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Yeah. 
I searched for the cure of what 

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is the right way to be because 
obviously there's something 

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wrong with me, so there must be 
something I can do about it and 

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something to make me right now 
and in a state of you trying to 

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fix this sensitivity, my 
friends, it's pushing a part of 

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you away from you. 
Instead of embracing the 

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sensitivity, we push it away 
because we don't like it. 

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And when we get angry with 
ourselves, we push it away and 

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we cry. 
We want to push that away and we

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feel embarrassed. 
We want to push that away. 

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We feel anxious. 
We want to push that away. 

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And with more pushing and less 
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well, what happens to men all 
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You've seen the news. 
You felt that yourself, that the

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world isn't meant for me. 
So I'm going to become bitter. 

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I'm going to start hating other 
people because I don't like 

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myself so much. 
I'm going to become so critical 

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of every decision I make and 
everything I feel, and therefore

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other people will be able to 
sense this judgement that comes 

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from me because I judge myself 
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Other people are mirrors into 
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You can see how this sensitivity
can lead to a whirlwind in a 

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spiral of shit. 
And it's until you realize and 

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until you come to terms with, 
not in a harsh way, but in a 

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almost a revelation that this 
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Now, right away you may have 
shut this off because you're 

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like, yeah, I've been told that 
before, Scott, one hell of a 

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gift. 
You gave me God shit. 

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And I'm 4 foot 7 and I'm 
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Thanks, God. 
Thanks for giving me a chance on

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Hinge. 
Yeah, that's the way gifts are. 

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It's the most suffering you can 
possibly take for the betterment

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of others. 
At least that's what I've 

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learned. 
You know, and, and we get into 

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trouble when this sensitivity 
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The sensitivity has turned into 
criticism rather than 

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creativity. 
This criticism is completely 

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cyclical and it just stays 
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It's consuming. 
It's consuming instead of 

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creating. 
And gentlemen, you were born to 

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create stuff. 
That's why you love fixing 

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stuff. 
That's why you've tried to fix 

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yourself for so long. 
Because in the process of that 

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self help book, you thought, I'm
really getting somewhere. 

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I'm fixing, baby. 
Yeah, Tim the toolman, Taylor, 

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let's fix it up. 
And you get that dopamine spike 

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in that rush when you see that 
quote in that book called How to

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Not Be an Ass Piece of Shit. 
And you're like, wow, this is 

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really working. 
Thanks, Deepak Chopra. 

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Then you finish the book and 
what changes, what has really 

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transformed? 
It's been a, it's been a 

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chemical high. 
And the change you're looking 

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for is a transformation. 
It has to be. 

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There's no other way. 
And I bet if you're a sensitive 

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man that you've been through 
hell. 

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I guarantee you've dealt with 
anxiety and depression like I 

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have sometimes. 
There's no way around that, only

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through it. 
And I don't mean to make make 

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light of these things. 
You know, we're just having fun.

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We're having a chat together 
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If any of my words have touched 
you in some way, actually let me

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let me talk about that after. 
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this can be a bit of a burden 
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And then we go into fix mode and
read all those books. 

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Yeah. 
And we watch all those YouTube 

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videos. 
Yes. 

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You think I'm talking to you? 
I'm talking to me. 

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I watched all those YouTube 
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You watched one. 
I watched it twice. 

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I know them all. 
You feel good in the moment. 

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You got this sweet piece of 
advice. 

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You try to integrate. 
It doesn't really happen. 

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It works for a week. 
You feel good, you will back for

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more. 
It's the same thing. 

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It's making your dopamine 
circuits real slippery and ready

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for the next one. 
We've been programmed to engage 

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and to consume and we are in 
that feedback loop. 

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The good news is you can keep 
doing that and you can get those

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momentary highs. 
But I know you're most likely 

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searching for something more 
because with sensitivity, you 

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are filled with this urge and 
this continual search for 

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something. 
And you may feel something's 

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off, you don't know what. 
And I've done everything right. 

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But why do I still feel off? 
I followed the rule book, man. 

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I did what my parents told me to
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I went to school, got a good 
education, then I got a job and 

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maybe I got married and have 
kids. 

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And what is? 
I'm still not in it. 

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I'm not. 
Where was the revelation? 

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Where was the light coming down 
from the cloud saying you did 

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it? 
You did everything you're 

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supposed to here is happiness, 
fulfillment and contentment for 

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the rest of your life. 
Shing. 

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I wish it happened that way. 
Unfortunately it doesn't because

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the external can't always and 
rarely touches the insides it 

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you know, people say you you 
watch the guys channels. 

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Yeah, you go to the gym, you get
a six pack and then you look at 

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yourself in the mirror and then 
there's this feedback loop of 

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feeling better. 
I'm sure that happens sometimes.

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I'm sure it does. 
But if you're really critical 

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about yourself and you have been
for a long time, a physical 

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transformation might spark 
something new. 

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But what'll what'll happen when 
you look in the mirror? 

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Oh, I'm not big enough. 
Three times at the gym. 

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No, you got to you got to go for
more. 

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No. 
And then you had a cheat day. 

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Oh, you asshole. 
Why G that? 

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Why G that pecan pie? 
Baby, we are on a roll with this

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thing. 
We are four months in. 

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We're doing creatine every day. 
And now you messed up. 

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Now we're going back. 
Oh, my gosh. 

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And we got to start over again. 
All right, this time I'm going 

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to do it. 
This time, I'm going to be 

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ripped. 
This time it's going to work. 

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There's there's no amount of 
worldly gain. 

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There's nothing you can possess 
that can turn off that inner 

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critic because everything you 
gain, everything you get, no 

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matter what money, no matter 
what woman, if you really don't 

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like yourself, you've gotten 
compliments from people before 

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they hit off you like a sheet, 
like you have a shield. 

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It was we've had to protect 
ourselves from the external 

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because of this sensitivity. 
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comes to us like in Superman 
Returns when that bullet slow MO

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hits his eye and just falls 
right off. 

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So why would we expect us 
getting more money, more stuff, 

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even a partner, even, you know, 
a new job that it would change 

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everything within us Because 
then you're not going to feel 

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proud of yourself. 
And then you could have done 

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better. 
You got the raise. 

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But compared to that guy, I 
wasn't good enough. 

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So what the hell am I doing? 
And I'm not doing a good enough 

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job. 
And that's where the pain is. 

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That's where it is. 
It's it's not necessarily if 

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you're watching this, you got an
Internet connection, you 

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probably have a job, you're 
probably doing OK, you are. 

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So the extent, the more stuff 
you gain, what is that I got, I 

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got like another guitar and it 
made me happy for a bit, but 

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just because I can play 
different shit, I was happy for 

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a bit and then it turned into a 
tool that I use. 

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That's really it. 
Your sensitivity is a gift when 

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you realize that it's a gift for
others. 

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And then you play the game of 
how to control this thing, how 

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to hold this thing, how to 
reassure this thing, how to tend

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to this thing. 
Picture sensitivity like a 

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wound, not in a bad way, not a 
freaking huge gash where your 

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arms falling off. 
No, that's like, that's an acute

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sensitivity where some some 
traumatic thing just happened. 

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But if you're sensitive, as 
we've been talking about, and 

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you got a little scrape on your 
shoulder, Yeah. 

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And you go outside and down the 
street here is Trinity Bellwoods

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Park. 
Beautiful park full of hipsters.

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Need to go play spike ball 
later. 

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And even the sun hitting this 
wound just burns. 

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And even just a gust of wind 
comes in. 

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Holy geez. 
And then your buddy comes and 

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Pats you on the shoulder. 
What's up, man? 

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Oh, my God. 
Sensitive. 

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Now, what do you do for this 
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Let's say it's a the gash. 
It even needs stitches. 

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Do you think you go to the 
hospital and the doctor's like, 

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what the hell are you doing? 
And knocks you in the face and 

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throws you down on the table. 
Get some stitches. 

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Put some anesthetic on them. 
Shut up, kid. 

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And then he stitches you up and 
slaps you on the face. 

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You're good to go. 
Now. 

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Suck it up now. 
Although I would pay to see a 

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doctor like that to tend it for 
yourself. 

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Even if it's not stitches or if 
you go to the hospital, a 

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regular hospital doctors will be
gentle with the damn thing. 

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OK, if it's it needs stitches. 
All right, sit down here, son. 

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Let's see what you got. 
All right, we're going to need a

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few stitches here. 
Let's clean up the wound a 

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little bit. 
Have a seat. 

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Put on the gown. 
Put on the gown to make yourself

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feel real comfortable. 
And then, you know, they clean 

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it up. 
They stitch you up. 

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All right, you're good to go. 
Maybe take these antibiotics. 

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Here's another tetanus shot. 
Hold on one, 2-3. 

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It's just going to sit. 
Just going to feel like a pinch.

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Wow. 
Did that doctor tend to your 

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needs? 
Did they treat you with respect 

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and dignity and send you on your
way to your sensitivity to your 

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wound? 
Even how would you treat it if 

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you didn't go to the hospital? 
You'd go home, you'd be like, 

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oh, damn, all right, let's get a
little cotton swab on there. 

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Well, maybe hydrogen peroxide. 
There we go. 

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OK, you know what? 
This baby just needs a Band-Aid.

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And maybe you're rich and you 
have liquid band aids. 

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Remember those? 
So you have the brush and you 

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just brush it on like that. 
Or maybe you have those big 

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freaking, I don't know, plasters
in the UK, Right? 

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And you just put the Band-Aid on
and you're good to go and you're

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but a psychological wound. 
And then the sensitivity you 

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feel when you're anxious, when 
you feel low, when you feel 

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embarrassed, left out, not 
included, when you're really 

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struggling, when the 
existentialism comes at you, 

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like a punch to the damn balls, 
Marcus Mumford says. 

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You know, then death is just so 
full and man, so small. 

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Well, I'm scared of what's 
behind and what's before. 

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That always spoke to me, that 
one death is just so full. 

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It's like it's so close 
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And sensitivity. 
How do we treat ourselves then? 

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How do you treat yourself 
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Nothing like the doctor, and 
nothing like even a physical 

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wound. 
No, you beat yourself up for 

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feeling that way. 
And if you don't, what are you 

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still doing here? 
You criticize because you 

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believe that criticism is a 
strategy. 

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You've taught yourself that 
criticism is a motivator 

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sometimes, but in this case, 
really punch yourself in the arm

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and say get along with it. 
Suck it up. 

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Don't cry, don't give it time, 
don't be patient with it. 

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It'll heal quick. 
Come on, man. 

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And that's the secret to your 
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What does it need? 
What do you need in times of 

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sensitivity? 
And when you learn how to treat 

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yourself in those moments, 
that's what transforms the rest 

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of your life. 
Because in the lows of lows and 

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the very sensitive times when 
you know what you need and you 

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know how to take care of 
yourself and you know how to 

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treat yourself well, what a good
feedback loop that is how you 

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get to treat yourself. 
People notice that, that you've 

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accepted all parts of you, even 
the quote UN quote flaws, even 

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the parts that you don't like. 
That's full confidence. 

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Confidence is that sense of 
reassurance and and admiring 

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almost the gifts that you have 
that you possess. 

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That's where the transformation 
happens. 

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Dear sensitive men, it's a gift.
Learn how to use it. 

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And the first step for that is 
be a good patient. 

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Be a good patient to yourself, 
Be a good person to yourself. 

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Be patient. 
Get it patient. 

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Be calm when that voice comes 
in, beating yourself up. 

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Chill, chill. 
If you would like to know more 

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about the specifics of dealing 
with that inner criticism, 

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especially if you've identified 
with this video and, and, and, 

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and experience this high degree 
of sensitivity as a man, there's

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a link in the description. 
And I'd love to chat with you 

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about something I'm releasing 
soon. 

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I doubt there'll be room, but 
you can go on a wait list for 

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the next program that may happen
in February, possibly late 

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January. 
But let's see where you're at. 

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And if this, if this resonates 
with you, this is the work I'm 

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specifically doing from self 
criticism to self compassion, 

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from self doubt to 
self-confidence. 

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And no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 
no, no, no. 

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I know what you're thinking. 
Confidence, Scott, You mean the 

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guys with the wife beaters at 
the gym who do fucking steroids 

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and you know they undertake that
real confidence, right, Scott? 

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You call that confidence? 
You call that confidence? 

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Well, we got to have a talk that
is called insecurity. 

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Oh man, I had fun here. 23 
minutes. 

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Geez, can we talk? 
And there's the sermon of the 

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week. 
Nice to see you all take care of

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my friends. 
Gentlemen, I'll see you in the 

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comments. 
Say hi. 

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I'll probably do another video 
this week or next week, but it's

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been many, many months since I 
did so it was a good ramble. 

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Sensitivity as a gift. 
Use it.