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Hi, I'm Amy Shepherd. 
I'm looking through it and 

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although we have different last 
names, we're married. 

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Now we've been told the secret 
to a successful marriage is 

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communication. 
So we're going to talk it out 

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every week. 
Share our challenges, and pet 

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peeves. 
Then we're setting each other. 

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Some goals, some couple goals, 
couple goals. 

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The podcast is for those who 
might be looking to life their 

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way through challenging 
scenarios that all couples. 

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Go through occasionally. 
We might even get some other 

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couples to join in. 
Yeah, you'd like that. 

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Hit, subscribe and tune in. 
Every week to hear our weekly 

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couple goals. 
Amy still, very poor being 

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present getting prepared for the
podcast. 

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This is a new way of doing it. 
We haven't used these fancy 

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little Mike's before know. 
We're testing pilot headsets on,

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I bought them off Amazon because
quite frankly I just got sick of

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setting up. 
Because obviously, we've moved 

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out a home. 
Everyone knows that right? 

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Episode 25, we've moved out of 
home and at the moment, we're in

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a temporary Studio. 
And it's quite a pain in the 

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ass, to keep setting up and 
packing up the podcast gear. 

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Yeah. 
So so hopefully this works out 

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really is of Amazon and there I 
don't even know what brand they 

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are. 
But anyway, I Googled Wireless 

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the little baby wireless 
microphones. 

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You can hold between your finger
and your thumb and they do they 

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are lapel mics they do clip-on. 
But yeah there's just a bit, 

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they work better but yeah, when 
you just hold them plus you look

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cooler. 
Do you? 

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I think it. 
Will you with your turtle had 

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on? 
You look pretty gnarly. 

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Yeah, I've got hat hair to do 
like full-on Incognito today. 

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Well, I had to go into the city.
I would trap side and the city 

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today. 
So I put black hat because my 

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brother is getting married to 
Kathleen and The Big Wedding is 

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in a couple of weeks and my mum 
didn't have an outfit if she was

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trying to stress and I said, 
look, I've got it. 

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Day off today, I'll come with 
you chopping. 

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And we spent all day looking for
an outfit for her and then we 

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just went upstairs. 
So your home at like 5:30 June 

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buy anything. 
Then we went upstairs and she 

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got all her outfits, what you're
kidding. 

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So that my friends is why I 
don't go shopping. 

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That's it. 
Dumb. 

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Do you know what? 
I'm just realizing. 

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I really enjoy having the 
microphones on it. 

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Feels like you're actually in 
application here. 

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Yeah, you can hear it so much 
better. 

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Where is that? 
The moment it's like, Well, 

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that's why radio people where 
headsets? 

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Yeah. 
Well I feel like in the pot. 

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Yeah. 
You're in like it blocks it. 

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Whereas right now I feel like 
we're just talkin to ya to each 

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other. 
Yeah. 

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Just what we always do. 
But it just feels like as if 

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going to trial and error. 
Also how these go? 

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Maybe that's a relationship 
hack. 

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If you want to give your partner
undivided attention, you should 

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have the microphones on and like
that. 

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Headsets Good work. 
I think I really do. 

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I'm currently not enjoying doing
it this way, so far, which is 

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weird, right? 
So what have we been up to since

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last episode we had bucks 
parties and hens parties? 

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I've been in Port Douglas which 
was just magical. 

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How was it magical? 
Why did we do too? 

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Because the first one was like 
one one day one night and we 

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just had like we put on a lunch,
it was kind of an axe accident 

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because Kathleen's got two 
sisters, and that's George, 

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Don't say Kathleen. 
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don't live in Brisbane, one 
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in Melbourne, and she's the one 
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make it for the, the lunch that 
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So we were like, we just decided
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separately close to the wedding.
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So, we've already had the hectic
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into partying, but Port. 
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Bridesmaids. 
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So Emma, myself and Kathleen's 
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And we stayed at this just 
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Villa in Port Douglas, which is 
north of Cairns for anyone 

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listening overseas. 
It's at the very top far, North 

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Queensland, North North 
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Great Barrier. 
Reef is and it's Heavenly. 

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It's I just live for that kind 
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humidity. 
It's just warm, but it's just 

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was like a warm hug all the 
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It's not like a dry heat. 
I get, I don't like dry hit at 

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all. 
Yeah, and so we just we didn't 

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even have a big night on any 
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We just yeah, I was really 
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fuckin sent it. 
I think we all just really 

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needed a break. 
Like I'm your partner's just 

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from life in general. 
It's been so busy and her 

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sisters, like one's a doctor 
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Kathleen's a Physio and Emma, 
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So we've all just been 
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So the first I like arrived 
revived be like, we had a really

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nice dinner and then the first 
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and poor Rosie. 
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She slept until like 11, she 
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whole year. 
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And then that day we literally 
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nothing. 
We just ordered a couple of 

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cocktails. 
It was, it was just the best. 

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I'm done that a long time so. 
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on a holiday and you're running 
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Everywhere. 
It's actually not that relaxing.

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No, you're right. 
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Then we also obviously hit the 
Great Barrier Reef on one of the

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days which was so fun. 
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hasn't done that, it's just one 
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well. 
History, snorkeling. 

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Hang out at them tropical 
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Pretend you're a mermaid. 
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We saw totals like he's the 
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scared. 
They just come right up for are 

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like right next to you. 
I would have been gulping for 

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air around you. 
Thank you sharks. 

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There are no, it was great right
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Yeah, back to reality. 
Now, here we are. 

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And your back into it, back into
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What have you got up on your 
phone? 

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Have you got Amy's little Reddit
yesterday, I read them. 

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Read it. 
Let's go there, ready? 

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That's actually how is the box? 
It was fantastic. 

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You know we don't fucking tell 
very different to is very 

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different. 
Yes, almost Polar Opposites. 

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I feel like every photo is or 
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were just getting more 
disgusting. 

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I think that's really just sums 
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I feel naked. 
No sympathy from me. 

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The hell I don't. 
Expect it. 

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No. 
I I'm not proud of myself, but 

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anyway, let me out last parties 
sucked post. 

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Anyway, the front of the time go
crackling. 

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Let's do it. 
So this is the headline that I 

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read on read it to, I don't even
and I haven't heard the I never 

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actually hit it. 
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this. 
I accidentally cheated on my 

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girlfriend of two years with her
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How do we take that happen as a 
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Well The Story Goes. 
Imagine if not maybe I'll throw 

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that out there. 
But the two days ago I went to a

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bar with my girlfriend whose 
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both front, my friends and her 
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Anyway they got wasted and I'm 
just quite a long. 

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I'm just kind of paraphrase it. 
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I got so wasted and he like went
to the bathroom, he was feeling 

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a bit sick and I just trying to 
sober up and then when he got 

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back, Like, I don't know if you 
people had gone and he was with 

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the girl. 
He just spent time with this 

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girl who he thought was his 
girlfriend for the rest of the 

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night. 
So he couldn't tell them apart. 

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No currently. 
Not that she didn't. 

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He's like they already dressed 
similarly. 

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Similarly and Anyway, he said, 
he was so wasted as well. 

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Like they're all really, really 
drunk, and he was paralytic, and

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then he actually doesn't even 
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But when he woke up, He don't 
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of realized he'd had sex with 
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He saw his phone and he had a 
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that she had left already. 
So, when he went to, but huh. 

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No, she had. 
She had gone home said, I just 

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got in a cab with so and so she 
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I took her home and so that was 
the time that he was like in the

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bathroom and so he put two and 
two together that he had just 

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slept with the wrong girl. 
But how did this sister? 

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He messaged you. 
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I think he had done and he was 
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like what happened. 
She has we slept together, like 

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you would, I thought you were 
into me, and I've been really 

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into you this whole time. 
Please don't tell my sister. 

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How crazy is that? 
What would you don't even know 

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it? 
I don't know if I believe his 

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story. 
How can you not tell your 

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girlfriend and especially when 
you went to the party in? 

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You saw what they were wearing? 
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bullshit or, but if it was true 
and if it was genuine, what 

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would you do? 
I'm fucking high five myself. 

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Lucky. 
No, I would just be shocked. 

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I wouldn't know what to do. 
Like would you tell her you have

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20? 
Situation. 

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Because if you tell her then you
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Well you gonna throw in the 
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your relationship like you you 
really fucked. 

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Well actually the sister should 
have known better if she's she 

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said you were into it. 
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Like that's a bit odd. 
She obviously doesn't care about

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her sister. 
Sure. 

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So don't tell her. 
You would. 

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Yeah, because you have evidence 
from your sister. 

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Don't tell my sister is a small 
dick shit. 

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Sister. 
Who does, how would you break 

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it? 
They would you be like watching 

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a film together and go so about 
Johnny has smells is Willie? 

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Yeah, you break it. 
How do you reckon you? 

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Do it. 
If you had to tell say, for 

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example, you had sex with my 
brother. 

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How would you break it to make? 
Would never, I know. 

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But let's just, let's just play 
this scenario out. 

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I don't know. 
Then your text. 

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Wow, no. 
I would just be like, I think 

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we're gonna break up and you be 
like, that's why? 

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And then also What a messed up 
situation? 

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I'm glad that's not my. 
What are you reading on Reddit? 

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Because both your relationships 
have been about weird sex stuff.

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Yeah, I always obviously try and
pick a story that shocked me and

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to share with you. 
What do you search? 

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How can we find out what you're 
saying, right? 

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Amy Shepherd, kink. 
That's what I'm picking up from 

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that. 
Well that was a good story. 

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Yeah, I Hard to believe it is 
like, you'd have to be dealing 

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with a special kind of person to
make that happen. 

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Hey, I've never been that drunk 
or I don't know what I'm doing, 

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so I have, but even when I have 
he still have little split 

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moments ago. 
Yeah, but you know, sort of like

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just too drunk to care. 
Hmm, I think that's the main 

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thing. 
See you, just hit the nail on 

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the head. 
You're too drunk to care. 

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Just wants to my plow one when 
they compared to that's gross. 

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No, I'm not on board with that. 
I'm just saying that. 

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That's maybe what he thought. 
Hmm, anyway, back to me. 

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So we put up the anonymous 
questions. 

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Yes, we did. 
Yes, we did and I'm some people 

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going on about like, red flags. 
What else did I? 

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What I said to you. 
I said Building a life together.

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Biggest red flags, biggest 
insecurity, so I want to know. 

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Amy, what is your biggest 
insecurity? 

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Hmm. 
Probably my weight. 

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What are you insecure about your
wife? 

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I kept in a little obviously 
done a little work around that 

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now. 
So I'm feeling. 

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Have you been waiting? 
I think it's just something. 

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I'm going to deal with the rest 
of my life. 

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You know, insecurities about my 
weight empty? 

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What does it look like for you? 
What is that? 

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Yeah, I love you ask. 
But what's it like for people 

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who are listening? 
I always like this because we're

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going deep but like when you 
feel insecure about it what 

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specifically is it? 
No, just I think growing up as a

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girl, you this condition to you 
want to have a nice societies, 

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expectation of you. 
And It's hard to live in a world

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where that's so prevalent and 
being skinny, is thin is in and 

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being skinny. 
And it's so annoying that it's 

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back in again because for a 
little while, like, Kirby was 

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kind of cool. 
I like heavy, I'm just happy, I 

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can't help that. 
And I'm not willing to live my 

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life on a diet because I've done
that. 

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It's not. 
You just become like a shit 

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personally. 
Become angry angry boring, no, 

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angry and boring. 
You heard it here first, ladies 

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and gentlemen. 
Yeah. 

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So probably that but, you know, 
I've done a lot of work around 

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my body image and I just have to
work through those bad boy image

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days. 
Yeah, I like it. 

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It's probably my biggest 
insecurity. 

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Yeah, my well but I like it 
Sighs and the thighs butt and 

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thighs. 
What's that old ad where they'd 

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be sweating remember? 
Such a fun. 

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Remember that idea? 
But I saw today Are you two 

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even? 
And you thought I was like yeah 

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and bums Chief green. 
Yeah, I wish I need the lyrics. 

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But anyway funny. 
Yeah. 

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Because you can grow up when you
watch Disney movies. 

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It's like the villains are 
always like that. 

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Me. 
No sir. 

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II, like maybe I have, but I 
also haven't, it's just so like 

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condition that, that like fat is
bad. 

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Yeah, you're bad person. 
If you're fat. 

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And anyway, I could go on and on
about well let's not let's carry

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on red flags. 
Red flags. 

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What are some red flags in a 
relationship? 

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I got up a little late 
registration, a relationship. 

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Biggest insecurity, my biggest 
insecurity. 

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Physical or mental. 
Hmm. 

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Even think about mental. 
Well, I think body image is both

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mental and physical, mostly 
mostly mental. 

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Yeah. 
Okay, so when I say so physical,

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I mean like an appearance thing,
but from a mental it's like not 

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being good enough or something. 
I've got lots of, let me know 

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yours. 
Not been successful. 

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Hmm, you got okay. 
Like you're insecure about not 

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being successful and secure 
that. 

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You might not be successful 
because I think it was 

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successful now. 
Yeah, but the idea of success is

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like a never ever growing But 
ever-changing goal post. 

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So once you achieve one thing 
that you once wanted to send 

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that's now not good enough and 
say don't stop. 

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And fun really bad either. 
Is there going to be lazy? 

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Yeah, you got always going to be
growing I guess. 

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And physically physically. 
I used to care a lot about looks

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like when I was in school but I 
literally don't Yeah. 

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Yeah I think as you get older 
you get I feel like I'm the most

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simple fuck of all time I could 
there would choose it probably 

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Like I'm going bald and had a 
mean cat, you know, it's good. 

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I just don't care about really 
That's good. 

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I'm not trying to make you have.
Not it really have any physical 

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insecurities because I've sort 
of just like a married. 

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Someone giving it away. 
Yeah, I'm done. 

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That's good comfort and all 
right. 

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So a red flags in relationships 
couple therapists share common 

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examples and what they mean, but
let's see if any of these are 

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serious red flags. 
Let's just give the definition 

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quickly. 
Red flags are warning signs that

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there may be unhealthy patterns 
or behaviors between you and 

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your partner. 
Frequent lying. 

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Number one constant, put Downs. 
Number two, And unwillingness to

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compromise number three, mmm a 
tendency to run away from 

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difficult discussions. 
Hmm controlling behavior and 

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excessive jealousy. 
A lack of healthy open 

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communication. 
They don't have any friends. 

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Because they can we can weird 
and controlling and whatnot. 

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I don't show support for you or 
for the relationship. 

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I'd say we're date. 
I know if I would have, I think 

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the biggest red flag is like 
narcissistic behaviors. 

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Yeah. 
Come on. 

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Who's selfish? 
Manipulative you down in a 

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Without You realizing it is 
nagging. 

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Yeah. 
I mean like, grinds down your 

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confidence that they can see the
superior. 

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Yeah. 
And then you feel like so 

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amazing that you can't do life 
without them even though they're

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treated like shit. 
Yeah, you're funny car the other

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day. 
Who's like narcissist Eli. 

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We're talking away from the, my 
friend. 

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This is you re not Nation. 
I can't remember the quote. 

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Now. 
Dammit, bummer. 

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We've got two, guests episodes 
booked in this week. 

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I know badass. 
I am excited for that. 

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Yeah, not really dig in these 
mice are thinking we can go back

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next week. 
We'll be back. 

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But what's your pet peeve? 
I just found the car. 

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Hit it because narcissist alike.
Yeah I hurt you but now you hate

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me so I am the true victim. 
That's funny. 

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Yeah that's good. 
I like that pet. 

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Peeve happy What's your pet? 
Peeve you go first my pet. 

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Peeve currently is your 
traveling so much. 

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I fucking them off it. 
Yep, I'm off it to for all the 

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people that do fly-in fly-out. 
I got a lot of respect for how 

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you make that work. 
I'm off it. 

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Well, it's nice. 
We've spoken about it is nice to

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have time apart. 
But when there's a heap of time 

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apart, you just say it's just 
like every I'm flying like twice

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a week. 
Yeah. 

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Literally appointment three 
points would be cool. 

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Doing great. 
Yeah. 

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But a relationship that's full 
of a cliff. 

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Oh my God is not that dramatic. 
You heard it here first. 

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Add email, I don't know if I 
have a pet peeve this week. 

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They wouldn't be one because I'm
kind of Yeah. 

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What have you done? 
That's annoying. 

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Nothing. 
I've done everything right. 

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You have? 
You can cook dinner last week 

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which I was really, really 
impressed about bangers and mash

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all by yourself. 
Yeah. 

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Okay. 
But okay. 

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No, you can't criticize my deal.
That's the other thing I've got.

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The, the master was actually 
shocked, you didn't cook, you 

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were impatient, because that's 
one of your negative qualities 

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and you didn't cook the 
potatoes. 

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Long enough said they were a 
little, Mash was a bit chunky 

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wasn't. 
Okay. 

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So where does negative qualities
chat come from? 

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That was not part of this 
discussion whatsoever. 

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What is, what is my -? 
What else? 

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Where am I - qualities? 
Let's go where it live on air. 

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I want to hear what my negative 
qualities are just being 

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Patient. 
Yeah. 

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What else? 
Why do you feel? 

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I'm impatient because tell me I 
think. 

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Yeah. 
See quick, tell me yeah, quick 

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quick, because you're a busy man
and you're used to filling your 

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day up. 
So then when you have to wait 

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for something, you're not used 
to it, my puppy. 

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Now you have to pet peeves. 
Well that was yeah the reason 

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why it was lumpy potatoes 
because you didn't Them long 

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enough? 
No. 

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Because you don't have a good 
Masher here. 

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It's not every cook that was 
soggy. 

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Well, that's my pet peeves. 
All right. 

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Well, good news is like, not 
really much you can do about, 

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okay, well I reckon we leave the
building a life together 

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conversation for another time. 
Yeah, did you discuss that? 

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We really expect. 
Discussed we put yeah Wednesday 

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and Thursday. 
Exciting baby. 

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Boom, boom, boom. 
I'm excited. 

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Yeah, I'm pretty pumped. 
Oh we didn't talk about Luke 

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Combs album. 
Coming out. 

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We need to discuss it. 
We don't need to discuss it, but

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I actually sat right where we 
are filming with a bottle of 

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scotch and listen to it from 
someone to song. 

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Number 18, let me tell you I 
haven't listened to such a 

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beautiful. 
I've heard a few of the songs. 

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It's it's close. 
The debate for me personally 

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Morgan. 
Wyland's awesome. 

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But Luke's lyrics You relate to 
them. 

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I love them. 
Yes. 

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And that's it for episode 25 
because I know Amy will get up 

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me for talking about Luke too 
much. 

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So haruki's, that's my pet. 
Peeve lucky, you're more 

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obsessed than like homes in me. 
Hey, hey, hey. 

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Hey, hey, hey.