Hi, I'm Amy Shepherd. I'm locked and Stewart and
although we have different last names, we're married.
Now, we've been told the secret to a successful marriage is
communication. So we're going to talk it out
every week. Share our challenges, and pet
peeves. Then we're setting each other.
Some goals, some couple goals, couple goals.
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Go through occasionally. We might even get some other
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couple goals, welcome back to episode of the couple goals
podcast. We hope you enjoyed last week's
episode with Mel and Jackson. They're often Nashville at the
moment. Doing some really exciting
things. You see Melanie was at the
Listening Room. I know you're listening room
with Phil & Co we went there when we were there and it's just
basically a venue that you go and listen to songwriters play a
song and talk about the song and then there's probably like four
people. Day.
Yeah. And they each take turns at
doing so and can't wait to maybe do that, when I'm there.
It's quite unique. I've never seen it.
Have you been to anything like that before?
Not here? Maybe.
I mean the closest is like if you're at a country music
festival, they do. Yeah.
But no actual venues where it's like a dedicated venue for
sharing music. Yeah.
It's quite gnarly. It's I really like it because I
find it quite intimate. You can hear what was going on
in the writers life. At that point, when they share
why they wrote the song, Etc. And some of the songs they don't
actually sing themselves, they've given to other artists
and stuff and like how that was a banger.
I didn't realize you wrote it, that's cool.
But well, you know last week or the last time we did, it solo
episode how we pulled these off and twisting them around again.
Someone commented on YouTube and is a you realize you could have
just passed headsets around. It's like yeah I did but I
didn't think about that when you're on the pressure.
So thanks for the feedback. We've done it again though.
Yeah, we have. We've screwed up but that's
what. To be think of it because I'm
like every time I turn it doesn't really matter like
gorgeous, smile. Can you do me one favor and just
quickly double check that we are recording on that camera.
You can I'll hold that for you and I'm just going to talk so
low. So while you're doing that Amy
it's recording. Yeah, awesome.
So we do want to welcome you and we do want to remind you that
next week. June 8th at 7 p.m.
Australian Eastern Standard Time.
No that's just Brisbane time. We have an upcoming live show
which means you can participate live with us.
We're going to be Standing exactly where we're standing.
We're going to have the laptop setup so we can see your
beautiful faces and we're going to be going through the show,
but we're going to be able to have you guys participate.
Share stories, ask us questions as we go which should be fun
because we want to test it out for one.
We want to get to know you guys better and potentially so what
it's like to do a live show in the future.
Yeah. So what time is it 7:00 p.m. and
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Yep. That's we don't wanna have all
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ruining our experience with the past, the people who I got
trolled on Tick-Tock a few weeks.
Yeah. And ever since then I've just
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new recording space, but let's dive into a life recap.
What's been happening? Darling for you.
What has been happening? It's been like June is going to
be absolutely crazy for me but this past couple weeks hasn't
been too crazy. It's been nice.
But I've always, you know, I'm always busy.
I've been doing lots of Shepherd things, we've been doing
tick-tocks twice a week, which is great, as in Tick-Tock lives
twice a week and refine those. Are they fun?
Yeah, they are fun actually. I mean, I I entered it
begrudgingly because I just did like there at 8:00 and that's
when I like to wind down and, you know, we normally that's
when we go and watch Netflix show, but once we got going, it
was actually really fun and it's been a great way to connect to
our audience. So they've been really yeah,
successful little exercise for us.
So, that's what I've been doing. I went to the Tenerife Festival
here in Brisbane, which is sort of the area that we live in, and
they try to give it away, Everyone.
Yeah. What's not quite there, but it's
like and they closed off the main street in Tenerife and it
was chaos, wasn't it? I'll let you roll it in for 10
minutes. You had a thing of Naki there
for me, we walk to the water and then decided, let's get out of
here. We couldn't even get a drink or
anywhere to sit. So just like, like fun.
So, once we had a little feed, we left went back to George's
Place. Yeah, so that was my week.
Really. Hmm.
What have you been up to? You've been a little bit busier.
I had a busy weekend, I did the Spartan Race.
Now, Spartan Race is an obstacle course race and I maybe four
months ago, a few of us, Blokes decided we're going to do it
together. Everyone was like, yep.
And what happens if you don't book, things people tend to
flake and everyone flaked except for me because I booked it
straight away. So I had to do I chose to do.
Sorry. A 5k a 10K in a 21k obstacle
course race and it was hell on Earth.
It was really hard. It's full-on.
Yeah, I had like this, so don't even need to go into details on
that exciting. That's what I did really well.
Yeah, I did really well, which is cool.
So Actually, they have that does transition on from?
The question we got from Ella. Oh yeah.
Is that where you were going? Yeah, I just didn't want you to
miss it because it's a great transition into that.
So lucky the question from Ella and she's a patreon member, I
believe cybela. What's up, Bella?
She wants to know. Lucky what's it like being
married to someone in the music industry and Amy what's it like
being married to a fitness fanatic doing a scissors paper
rock. Who answers?
First? I have scissors Paper.
Rock Scissors, Paper, Rock Scissors, paper rock.
Damn it, you won everyone wins with the scissors.
Again, I got paper always. So look lucky.
Yes, he's a fitness fanatic but he's not like one of those
annoying people who was like weighing his food and measuring
his protein out and all that crap.
Like I don't think I could do with someone like that who was
just like revolved around everything revolved around
Fitness and weighing food and that's what I love about you.
It's more it's a lifestyle doesn't sound like a diet but it
is it's very much like you Train every day but probably like an
hour a day. Yeah, not in the gym constantly
unless you're working. I used to be but you've managed
to find a balance and I appreciate that.
So it's not too bad. Yeah.
And but it's consistent with you, which is why you manage to
people like how do you have a six-pack with that spending all
that time in the gym? And it's because you have been
so consistent over the years and yes you work hard but and I
think it's like really consuming your life.
Mmm, would you have time for other things?
So it's a 10/10. Dating me.
Yeah, cool, perfect. Great question was good.
To get my head blown up there and obviously for me.
What's it like being married to someone in the music industry?
It's it's different. I think.
It would be like a me, answering the same question.
What's it like being married to someone in the fitness industry,
where our hours are a bit different?
We've sort of managed to meet middle of the way potentially.
Yeah, you're not as structured as I am, which is also taking
some getting used to and then obviously, when you do do shows
and stuff, it is late night. But there's, you know, I think
it's awesome because It gives me experience is unnecessarily,
wouldn't seek out myself. So imagine if you would married
to someone who were also works 9 to 5 and it would just be like,
yeah, well, you mean, maybe that would be good if you, but I'm
not a person who enjoys routine too much.
So it I think there's pros and cons, but I think it forces me
to have experiences that I normally wouldn't have.
So, I think that's, you know, and at times that's challenging,
but I think for the most part, it's awesome.
It Yeah, I think. Yeah, I know.
Thanks for the question a lot. Remember, if you have any
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Now it was no way. I would love that I jumped on
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Genevieve. And there wasn't any so come on,
even if it's even if you want to have a crack at introducing us
will play that just for the LOLs LOLs.
Right. Amy Reddit time.
What have I read? Read it this week.
This week stories, a little quirky and it's from a girl
who's 23 dating a 24 year old male.
And the heading is, I thought I got past my boyfriend's cosplay
sexual fantasies, but I don't think I have.
So cosplay is costumed, like dress-ups right?
Yeah, I was Googling it before. So it's on my history.
That's what. Yeah, it's like fantasy Jessa.
So I'm not into cosplay and I think that it's causing Some
issues for me about a year into our relationship, everything was
going perfectly and we had no issues arguments.
Until one day, he was showing me something on his Tick-Tock and
when he opened the search by could see his most recent
session, dude. Credit history, clear your
history. The bottom two searches were of
a cosplay video game character, which I caught a glimpse of
before. Quickly set up and headed from
my view, I didn't full even fully register until I searched
it on my own as filled with ultra sexual videos of girls in
In tight-fitting costumes, who look, nothing like me.
I confronted him about it later that night and he immediately
admitted he was using it to get off when we were apart.
And but he was imagining me in the costume and that it was only
one time, which I personally didn't believe in found out
found to be an excuse Anyway, it's quite long.
So I will paraphrase this, I think yet, he told her, he
wouldn't do it anymore and then she caught him doing again.
And that, obviously upset her. It was a violation of my her
trust and honestly made her sick to think about, because he was
most likely doing it all the time.
Dirty Dog. Dirty, dirty dog.
Yeah, so basically she says, I can't shake the feeling that
he's still looking at. Forms of these sexual videos.
I'm just not just not on Tick Tock when we're getting
intimate. I get in my head that he's
imagining other girls in skimpy, costumes, and I find it hard to
enjoy myself. Because of that, I feel like he
has this fantasy of dating and having sex with a cosplay girl,
and I'm just not that So how would you deal with that?
If I was let's let's roleplay, let's cosplay here.
If I was if that was me How would you address that
situation? Well, I guess it's like how
often is he waking up for not having sex with you.
Like how often are you a part in your relationship?
Yeah. Also, I don't know.
I think like I'm not into cosplay either, so I think it'd
be a bit weird for me as well. It's like discovering someone's
King should have discovered, but also like, it's just fantasy,
you know, it's like he's cheated on you, you know?
Yeah. Like porn.
So. I don't know.
And I think it boils down to whether you're I mean, it does
is worrying because she said it is affecting her in bed, and I
think it does boil down to that like IU.
Is it affecting your relationship in terms of your
sex life or and whether he is engaging in sex with you or
whether he is like trying to sing?
Yeah, trying to, I guess make you be something that you're not
Yeah, that sort of ties into the podcast that we listen to we'll
skip the pitch, Peck pet peeves. We'll come back to that.
I know everyone's excited to hear the buzzer again, but we
stumbled across a podcast this week last week.
Sorry. And it was by Steven Bartlett's
her diary of a CEO and it was discussing sex with your
partner. The number once expert or sex
expert how to have great sex every time.
So obviously that had Land grabs your attention, slinks into the
Reddit story with yeah, yeah. It's sort of some, some key
points around all of that and I found how do you find that
interview? Great actually didn't finish the
whole podcast, I'll be honest. What?
I only had time to listen to half of it, but what I listen
to, I think I got some really great points and probably things
I already knew, but she said it in a way, which was really
interesting the whole discussion with yeah.
Right. And it was cool that there's sex
expert was female because I think More often than not, it's
blokes talking about it. I feel I obviously don't talk to
many women about sex if any except for you.
So hearing it from a female's perspective was pretty cool
because then you sort of get to understand both sides and it was
really cool to see that she wasn't biased.
Yeah, I didn't feel like she was biased about that approach but
tying it back into what you were saying where it's like the
communication thing because When?
Let's talk about the sex drives that she's talking about like
sex drives between Sexes generally.
Once again, not always generally men have a higher sex drive,
yeah, because of testosterone and she was talking a lot about
how it's really easy for a bloke to keep wanting to come back
because when you get your night off, you like boom Sweet.
Let's go again. Not obviously straight away but
more often than not whereas women it's like 20% of them up,
just drop this in the microphone 20% of women.
Can orgasm through penetrate headed to rev sex, which is what
most blokes educated to believe, or watch through porn.
So that was quite eye-opening. I was blown away, You're Blown
Away by that. It's so weird.
Maybe girls just know the something I guess, because we're
girls but everything. She said in this podcast, I was
like, wasn't used to me. Give me.
My team is amazing. Like, Listening to the guy who's
interviewing her and he was like Blown Away by the stat that you
know only 20% of women can orgasm through repetitive
penetrative sideward, isn't it? Yeah anyway but then she just
went into like how like there was there's so much I don't
really feel like people should listen to it will post it in the
patron but it does go into a lot of the psyche of men and women
how they're different and how you should cater to each sex and
basically always need to be In a fit with each other, but also
communication was a big part of it and being honest about what
you're into. Yeah, thanks and all Kinks.
And also, I don't know it. It's a tough one because you
don't in her, the Reddit story situation.
It's like you can't really suppress, someone's no desires
things but also like she shouldn't have to dress up as a
cosplay, know him, and that's where she was sort of
discussing. Like if you don't communicate
that you made. Stand in relationship, that
isn't what you necessarily want because that can lead to
infidelity or other things. Because when people want
something bad enough, they're eventually going to find a way
to get it. And that's why one.
Its she was saying it's important to talk about it and
maybe work out like a compromise and if you're happy with that
and if you can't reach a compromise ation then maybe you
know, she was, she said, so many things that were interesting and
some were for some people and others were well yeah.
Yeah. Maybe the boyfriend might be
into lingerie or something like that.
Yeah, she would be also comfortable with so it's about
finding those boundaries. And yeah, rather than just
shutting it off mic. No, I'm not into that.
Why are you still looking at that?
Yeah. Working out like a common, a
middle ground that you'd both be.
Yeah, happy with. And maybe exploring new things,
if that's yeah. How would you discuss that?
If Yeah, well, if she's boarded up with him a couple of times, I
would just be honest to be like this is starting to make me feel
weird, but I don't feel comfortable.
I feel this way and Rather than like accusing him being like you
broke my trust. You did this by looking at
because blood-borne rather than just like what can we do in our
sex life to maybe spice things up?
Or like with this I'm not really into dressing as a cosplay
artist but what about if we look at some lingerie to cancel that
eBay or go shopping together? Yeah, something like that.
Yeah, that's what I recommend it's.
And the other thing that you touched on was I And it was
really cool hearing about all the hormones and stuff, you hear
about the honeymoon phase, which is that first, let's call it six
months, the relationship where it's just like, you just always
on for each other. And then, as you become more
comfortable with each other, like anything in life that you
see enough or experienced enough, you take it for granted
or may not even be the right way to say it, but you don't notice.
As many things used to it, you used to it.
And she was giving an example with her husband who she'd been
married with. Years or something.
And she was going through a moment where she wasn't finding
him as attractive, and it wasn't because he was an attractive.
It was just because once again she was used to him and she
there when for a dinner one night, and she noticed, all
these women looking at him when he walked into the restaurant,
because she was got that early. And that was for her.
When she was like shit. I've been taking him for granted
like a, which we all do. We feel we take each other for
granted so it's having conversations but also I'm
mindful of how you can work on keeping things whether it's
desirable or like he keep that spark there.
Yeah. Keep it exciting.
And once again it can be things like a just mentioned or what
else would you recommend? So it's a making time for each
other data. Yeah and you know spending time
getting dressed up and yeah doing something.
I think about the stuff you did at the beginning.
I think that's a good place to start because All the stuff that
we did in the beginning to win each other over you.
It's easy to get complacent. Yeah, it's the festival.
The night. We went to date all week, a,
thank you. How did we forget this?
We cut all the clutters. Know, how do you forget this
date night? Yeah, forget about this.
Epic would you tell a story? Yeah, well, lucky obviously had
just this exciting wrote me knows like, I'm taking you on a
date tonight. I'm a barber.
You know, wear something warm but still Don't like dressage in
our yeah, smart casual. I don't wear heels, see what
6:00 or whatever and then was it is that what you were thinking?
Yeah. Because you don't know what's
like I was gonna head inside my head or chopped off and just
feeling like a new woman if we get to talk about your hair
chopping off, okay? And then so I surprised you with
a haircut. You called me your mother no I
said this is out of context. Let's move on.
Then anyway you picked me up from my hair appointment and
took me on a date and I didn't know where we were going and
then lock you is like okay we're going to do one of the first
dates that we did when we never did which was yet a takeaway
pizza and drive up to mount Cooper.
It sounds so lame. But over in Brisbane.
You have done this. Don't, yeah, don't laugh at us.
You've done it. And we just like set there and
watched a movie, a pizza in the back.
Sighs to be a chippy obviously. So, he had the back of my union.
We had a swag in it and will pillows or whatnot.
Yeah. And just chilled out.
Yep. Anyway, so this time I loaded
the cruiser up with pillows, Dune has everything the same
thing. Yeah.
We're going to do this even charge my iPad, which is very
rare, like, charge that up, because we're going to watch
that. Anyway, Amy's Hair ran a little
bit late. So we're hanging out there for a
bit, which was fine and I had the Spartan Race next morning.
So I was like, That night could be compromised here.
Anyway, we went to into the pizza place which was fancy as
and those who are in Brisbane, know La Dolce Vita or something,
whatever it is. Yeah, whatever Milton the Eiffel
Tower. I wouldn't call it fancy as
fuck. No.
But then when we got there, there was a bit of a Vibe.
There's a guy on a accordion, playing covers like, oh, this is
cute. Like that's actually sit down.
Yeah, we'll have a pizza and then maybe we can go up and
watch like an episode. It was just such a hybrid.
Experience. Right?
We were sitting under the Australian version of the Eiffel
Tower eating pizza, eating Italian.
Yeah. Yeah, that was weird.
It was weird. But anyway, yes, by the time
we'd eaten and finish dinner, will I choose to go to the
lookout and both of us? Sort of like, nah.
Let's just go, dog, the idea, and we're watching chimp and by
Iran and Netflix, which is also a big recommendation.
Yeah, so it was a bit sad that we didn't actually do the
exciting the full day. Like we just kind of cut corners
and then we'll She'll I have a bite of my Anna.
Let's just go. It's about it because I saw used
to like, it's fine. Like, that's good.
Yeah, but I guess that's one of those points where it was still
fun though that we had fun because we weren't eating, you
know, we always sort of stand our bubble, so it's good to get
out. So it's still, you know, had
that spontaneity? It was supposed to go to
restaurant. Don't always go to.
So, that was fun. So, there's a little date night,
but highly recommend listening to that podcast and getting your
partner to listen to it again. The number one sex expert.
How to have great sex, every time we will link it in The
Patriot, it's great for people who have been in relationships
for a long time time because yeah, it's important to talk
about all this stuff and we'll probably maybe something that we
dive deep into next week's live one.
Yeah. Maybe see what happens anyway.
Is there anything else you'd like to discuss?
No, I think that's everything for this week.
We're keeping this one quite short because we've got the big
live coming up. Yep.
But Yeah, let's do pet peeves. And then oh yeah, I forgot about
that. Let me hit the pet, peeves.
Gee whiz. Let's see.
Is it this one? All right, pet peeves, goodness.
What did you plan to speak? It's definitely my pet peed
before, but again, lucky gets up far earlier than I do.
Oh yes. I've got the funniest one on
this. And no, you're not going to say
that one, carry-on and I can't get back to sleep this way, like
normally he'll leave and whatever I roll over and go back
to sleep. But I just every time, your
alarm goes off. I need to pee.
I know, I, okay, I gotta go toilet now.
And then when I get into bed, I'm like wide awake.
And I'm gonna hear you having a shower, he opening and closing
things, clanging cups. And I literally don't go to
sleep for another hour. So I go to sleep again.
At 6:00 and sleep for another hour or so.
And it's like, when I wake up, I feel like I've been hit by a
bus. Well, and then again this
morning, you got back into bed. Well, I've been sick.
I was I was very run down. Yeah, I allowed it because it's
so normally I get about six hours, this morning, I had a
shower and then I was sitting on the thing.
I was I just don't feel good. As I'm only going to deliver a
poor experience to my clients, blah blah blah blah.
So Can it jump back into bed till 8:00?
So got up at 4:10. Better better 8:00 doubled my
sleep time, pretty much almost amazing and it feels good, but
it's actually not a pet peeve but it's quite funny.
So normally it because Amy is I still half asleep.
I'm sort of getting ready for the day.
I'll walk her from the bedroom to the toilet and I stand out
the front like security like this.
Anyway, now we've started doing like a little conga line, which
is even funnier. So I'll walk ahead.
She'll just put her hands on my shoulders and I'll direct it in
the bathroom and then director back as well.
So I don't have a pet peeve. Again, I have a pet laughs, a
pet. We would you call it pet moment?
It's funny. Or should I get a pave?
Hmm, happy with that. It's too late.
Now, cool. I'm happy with that.
Anyway, guys, we really, really hope we see you guys on the
live. Next Thursday, the 8th.
You can register just head over to the Instagram, couple goals,
click. On the link.
And I think it's the first one. The treaty says join our live.
Just drop your email address in there.
You'll get all the links Etc, and we'll be able to run this
live with you. Like I said, we don't know.
We've got a bit of a framework, but I'm nervous for it, to be
honest, because I've never really done a live podcast ever.
I think it's gonna be good. As long as people register, jump
on and join us. It's going to be good.
Yeah, awesome over and out. Who see you guys?