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19 were about to crank the be 120.
Now, we're still standing. I feel like I was about to say.
Do you remember your 20th? And I feel like I also said that
last episode 20, no reps did say that last time I would just, I
said it was a non-event. Yeah, I literally felt like Déjà
Vu as I was about to say, it's so weird.
No, I'm pretty sure this is episode, 19.
Something that I'm listening till don't remember Emma's 21st,
I do too. What was the day before?
We went to the battery station plan, Ellen Degeneres Show,
which was the day before. Yeah.
The next day, we flew out and
Emma was like Super hungover. I could imagine.
Wow. Anyway, the only nine years ago.
Yeah, Fair Dinkum. So scary time is flying by, as
you know, how are you feeling after the weekend?
That was pretty good. Like, I think that I was
sensible with my drinking. I, although my first champagne
was at like, 7:30 because yeah, got a hair and makeup done and
the hairdresser that you are performing a, I was like, wow,
you are up early? Yeah.
Yeah, so then you're like no she got up an hour earlier than
this. Yeah, I got up at like 5:00 last
place for like the girls weren't even get up that early fast and
they're doing it ahead for lunch.
It's wild, it's pretty funny. So for those who haven't
listened to last week, you had Kathleen's who's our
sister-in-laws hens party. Yeah, she is marrying my brother
and April and and we had George's.
Stag do. Yeah stand.
It was hilarious. The polar It.
Yep, the difference is, oh my goodness.
Would you guys get up to not a great deal?
We went up to cans which was fun, you know, as soon as we got
to the airport, we are went into the lounge.
Got ourselves a few stubbies, will George only just woken up.
So, George had a coffee first and then then it's time.
Was it like midday, what time did you get there?
I think. Yeah, maybe just 11:30.
Yeah, I think George has normally gets up at 10 or 11 so
rolled on in and that was it. We did one activity for the
weekend. We went canyoning.
I think. What is this?
Yeah. So it's like white water rafting
without the rough. So you go down all the Rapids
but then you also I got to like abseil in some parts and then
climb rocks and swim in the lake.
So it's pretty fun. It's pretty wild, it's fun.
When you get put in those Rapids yeah that was one.
They call the washing machine and A lot of the other ones are
pretty extreme. Like, we went down a whole rock,
slide backwards in the, like, what could go wrong?
He literally hold, like, I think George is holding me by the
ankles. I was like the test dummy.
What? It's like, tuck your chin to
your chest, and you just don't even know where you're going.
But, you know, it's going to be, I don't know.
And I you just go like my back's sore as old bugger, exact down.
And just had verse in the water, boys.
And then there's one that was like, gushing water, and when I,
that does not looks gnarly and I Like joking with him.
As I had, we should go down there.
Is that we are oh my God knows that we're not because it's
literally like a waterfall into a big boulder because of the
water is moving so fast. It's spit you out the side and
you get sucked under. But yeah, that's so you don't
realize how strong the water is until that happens.
But what if it had been like heavy, rainfall or something,
what had been heavy. Rainfall, that's why we weren't
allowed to do our bodyboarding think on anyway.
So that was the most extreme we got up to you, but We pretty
much just hung out and drank beers at a lot of McDonald's
which I recommend consumed close to 60 nuggets for the weekend.
What? Yeah I was 16 I had to have a
six-pack I don't now how to 1600 get packed.
Oh my God like everyday got McDonald's or like every yeah.
Oh my God, I'm not proud of it. Why don't you guys go up?
I can't, we did. We went out for lunch but then
we got drunk at lunch and so the first morning let because I am,
and I got up early every day, with only ones had breakfast, we
went to breakfast and on the front page of the cans paper cry
and capital of Australia is can't.
Yeah. And there's probably like one of
the chicks that was on the But can't get a canyoning to her,
she's a nurse and she just said, the amount of stabbings at the
moment is insane in can. Yeah.
So we just thought it'd be best that we avoid the stabbings.
Geez. Yeah, okay.
That was our so that was riddle doesn't right.
Many people want to come to a desert and then we're watching
social media, senior girls all glammed up and custom made
cookies and champagne body had basically girly-girl day.
We got ready. Got a hand makeup done.
Because again, and then we had some Had a glass of champagne
and then went to lunch at Baja which is a incredible, Mexican
restaurant in Brisbane. It is so delicious and we just
had like I said, do you like it more than La Patrona?
They're different. I like them, both I'd say La
Patrona is more. Antic Mexican.
Yeah, I really love. Love and Baja's more like
Tex-Mex. Yeah.
Okay. Anyway, yeah, we just had a
great time chatting and drinking and but yeah, I was kind of
sensible. I switched to vodka sodas.
I had like one champagne one cocktail and then I switched.
Yeah two vodkas which is so boring but just kind of like
because you don't down them as fast and you're like oh this is
heaven. Alicia, so you to get about it.
It's a good thing, you don't down them as for.
Yeah, well that's why I did it and thank God because I woke up
with that a hangover. That's good.
Did you have one of those body armors?
Yeah. I went searching everywhere for
them. So these body armor drinks saved
us in our wedding and they, what's in them?
I don't know. I just said, hey purpose of
vitamin? Yes, it's like eating its
disgusting. It's not the nicest flavor.
No. It's because it's worth.
How have you ever seen a fat before without were too?
It a fight. That's what you would assume.
Why it has an eggy sewerage taste.
I don't know. Farts.
You're eating cheese Louise. Yours middle of the night.
Anyway, I didn't have one at night I want before I started
drinking and then, yeah, I feel pretty good.
We went to after lunch. We just went to a rooftop bar
and then we found this Like disco place in the valley.
I don't go out in the valley, so I don't really know about
accordion Superfly. Yes.
So, we got that early and we were like, we had the whole
dance floor to ourselves, which is great.
And yeah, we like boogieing away.
We're giving away all chokes. You did a split.
I did the splits because the flow is really greased up for
some reason. I just and somehow I did the
splits. Did he directly tore something?
No, didn't hurt. I'm so it did help.
The flow is slippery. I don't get how that it helps
because your muscles still only have the same range at that have
on a non-slip surface unless you tore.
Something that's fine. It's probably the Vodka police
admit it. Oh my God.
And then five other Brides came in five.
Yeah and it was all just like hens parties in this one place
and then a couple of like creeper you dudes, really?
Yeah. Here we just Like so frequently
and they knew where to go. I know we don't like by
themselves. All those are them and they were
just like yeah, they knew where to go but that's so funny.
But did anyone hit on you? Oh, sadly.
That's, I mean, that brings us up to our topic of discussion.
Someone asked us on Instagram. Hmm, they said, why don't we do
do a episode episode on roach eating?
I've never had. Yeah.
You don't you tell you, I've heard of it before but I've
known as micro G. What was it called?
Emotional cheating is what the how I've known about it.
Should I read? Never heard of it?
Should I be able to Google says it is.
Yeah, I've just done the quick. Micro cheating Google and it
says micro cheating. Is the term used to describe
behaviors that aren't traditionally considered true
infidelity but that have some features of infidelity like
dishonesty dishonesty and secrecy.
While in a committed relationship would you like to
see some examples and maybe even some signs?
Yeah, I've got some in front of me here till you've got what do
you got secretly messaging someone but like In a naughty
way, obviously. No.
Well yeah, it depends. What your intentions are?
Yeah. Well with Intel.
Why would you be secretly messaging someone not in a
naughty way? It's not secret.
Yeah, right. Well, it's not like I don't come
home every day and say, this is everyone who I have messaged.
No, yeah, that's not a secret. You know what I mean?
It's like, would you be happy for the purse?
Your partner to look at the conversation.
Oh yeah. Gotcha.
Gotcha, cool. Hit me with another one.
Meeting someone without your partner knowing.
Oh yeah. And obviously, same thing back
to the intent, the intent, and whether it's like, obviously, I
don't, you make, like, 100 people a day.
I don't need to know everything, but if you were to, like meet a
girl, but just as a friend quotation marks, you would want
to hear about it. Yeah.
And if you met a bloke, well, I would want to hear about exactly
why I didn't tell you, that's micro cheating, right?
Yeah. Is it each other examples of it,
what? Well, yeah, it's a fine line
which is what makes it so So interesting.
It's like, oh, did I just micro cheat?
And yeah, because some of these are a bit silly.
Yeah. But what's the silly one that
you've got? Well, I've got what is micro
cheating micro cheating? Versus cheating micro cheating,
versus emotional cheating example, here we go.
Yeah, messaging or texting someone in a flirtatious way.
You don't even send me a flirtatious message anymore.
So I would be pissed. I just long for the day where I
get a flirty message from you. I always liked it today the day,
then that it doesn't, maybe tomorrow.
Well, this point, what about this one?
This Always liking and commenting on someone's photo.
Yeah that's was going to be mine liking or posting a provocative
comment on someone's Instagram provocateurs.
Different always commenting and liking a person's picture.
Yeah. Because again it comes down to
Content, doesn't it? Yeah.
Like it's like Bradley your friend Bradley I lo if I
supposed by him. I like and comment what I mean.
But obviously. That's not bad to be hidden.
Yeah. Mmm.
No. But it's like he's adding value.
Lying about your relationship status online.
That's a big one. Hmm, giving you a phone at all.
This is installing some, when you're single and you aren't
sending someone photos of yourself.
What about this one? Talking about your sex, life,
AKA sexting or sending nude pics to someone else.
That's definitely Michael. Yeah, I think that's macro
cheating. That is big cheat.
It's funny because some people don't consider these things to
be cheating because it's not physical.
Yeah, but I think it's the emotional part is pretty much
what's worse about eating, some people, would ya, Aaron like
open relationships and stuff. Probably coming from a
monogamous. Yes, point of view definitely we
don't swing a damn days so if you're into that that's awesome.
But yeah, when you think about it, the one of the most hurtful
things about physical, Affair is Hawaii, the lying, the deceits,
the emotional, yeah, part of it. And so this I would be pretty be
pissed if you went bam, someone else's.
Well, I would be very angry. Yeah, I mean, the physical
obviously hurts as Well, but I reckon all of it would be a
collection of go fuck yourself. Yes.
And none of this, I would consider micro cheating
cheating. Yes, what do you?
What do you reckon about this? One joining your boss for happy
hour. Behind your partner's back.
It 10. That's very specific.
Yeah. That's very very specific again
intent. It's like well, why are you
doing that? Behind your partner's back?
Yeah, your boss. I don't think going to drink if
you feel. You might be micro cheating on
your significant other consider self reflecting and examining
the intentions behind your actions, only you know how you
feel and what your motives are but it's crucial that you take a
good hard look at yourself and be About whether your act or
whether you acted inappropriately.
Ultimately what matters, the most of the things that directly
impacting you your partner, and your relationship signs that you
may be micro cheating. Include one, you're obsessed
with being online on your phone, social media for the purposes of
giving and receiving attention from people.
You find attractive You present yourself a single online or in
real life. Do you have you posted a photo
about me really recently, probably, if I went on your
Instagram would I see, Amy Shepherd, but I send me on your
profile, let me see. It's been a while, actually,
looking. Oh, my flipping God.
See my point. Hmm.
How how old are you scrolling for?
No, it's not that far. It's this one here. 82 January.
So it's been a. Did I cheat on you?
No. No.
Did you tell me? Here's one from Tamworth. 22nd
of January. Yeah.
But I post about you regularly as well.
So I think, I don't think you're always on mr.
I don't think it's a secret. Lucky that go ahead.
I think you're hiding me from the world.
Yeah, you have been in my stories though.
Let's be real. And in my highlights I've got
wedding day. Yeah.
But that could be an old wedding I can ex wedding.
You know. Oh yeah.
So I just went for a run as well.
Is there anything you wanted to add to Actually, I think we're
on this, right? Yeah, I just couldn't be fact
even when we're in cans, like that the main reason I apply
even even when we're in Cannes, I'm like one thing I enjoy about
you and I say the limb and George's.
I thought one thing we'd enjoy about you and Emma as you're not
caught up in all that gossip drama bitchy high school stuff.
So for me, I was like I couldn't even be bothered to go into the
pub just for the fact that, you know, someone might come up to
even when you're sitting at a table with blows.
I'm like, I just don't even want to have that conversation to say
to someone and people think, maybe think that's weird but
it's got a photo with George. Well, that's different.
But that was that was when we didn't really go out.
We went for that lunch. Anyone said that?
Like, I don't consider you cheated on, no.
Well, I don't and I'm not a, I'm not a bad person.
Like, fuck off. But it's like the other week
when someone put their number in your.
Yeah, and I appreciate that you told me and because if you had a
black text to her Madden that I know people do.
Yeah. I don't know.
These are my comfy. I'm too busy.
Trying to get you to flirt with me, let alone trying for strike
up a new flame. Yeah, but, I mean, what about if
you know, in some people like, take it the wrong way.
Way, like your friendly to someone, and they think that
you're flirting with them. Yeah, I have you had that
happen. I need to be a specific time,
but I'm definitely, but more aware of it than I used to.
And then, the more calm I always try and drop in, like, oh, my
husband is so much more than that because that kind of sets
the tone and the batteries. Because I've noticed, if I don't
say that and I'm in a good conversation with a male,
sometimes they might like wow this girl is really nice.
Secretive and hot. Ha ha.
No, just kidding. But yeah, I think it's kind of,
I don't know. I just tried to throw that in
there. Just to strategic.
Yeah, or just post more about me on Instagram, do you post?
It would be nice actually. It's only creeps flipping Crepes
anyway, I was, I was feeling it today from the Bucks party.
I went for a run. Yeah, and I Post it.
I said I says to everyone I says after a weekend of beers clink,
clink the avoid exercise or do you rip into it?
What do you do? I just try and stick to my
routine. So you rip in my ribbon if I can
Earth but I don't like if I'm feeling really shit, I'm not
gonna like pound yourself myself, but that's your job.
Oh no, I don't know. I felt like I like Sunday.
I had off and normally it's going to be hungover it to
Sunday, so I'm very stoked that so far. 32 people on my
Instagram last 46 minutes have said, hey I rip in and not one
person has said I avoid it. I've got some very fit
followers, ladies and gentlemen, go very fitful.
You always feel better after work out.
If you don't like totally smash self, we can get those
endorphins pumping and it just gets you back on track.
Yeah and because if I have Monday's off like it just Sets
up your week, badly, and mmm, I just like to even if I just get
to the gym and sit on the bike, I'm feeling really bad.
At least I can say that I went to the gym and I think that
it's, yeah, it's just the whole routine thing that makes the
difference. Yeah, you just kind of get a gym
or just go for a walk. Didn't steal anything.
Yeah. Nice.
That was a lovely conversation short and sharp.
All right. Well should we do Pepe's?
We should I feel like I've had this one before, but I'm going
to say it again. Just did it.
Did why is it that every time I clean the house, and it takes
bloody long time to clean this house.
I do recall. When I spoke to you on Sunday,
you did get it cleaner in Sunday.
Okay. Karen.
But because I was just totally overwhelmed and slammed But
normally we don't have a cleaner and I am the cleaner scrubbing,
the toilets yeah, wiping everything down.
And without a without fail, every time I clean the bathroom
you come along and shave your electric razor.
And take a shit, Astro shag shit shower, shave get he's and then
you leave your beard hairs all in the sink.
Even if you are, can we clarify? Are you saying I leave skitty's
end? And shavings in the, in the
bathroom sink, it he's in the toilet and never do that.
And then shaving clippings in the sink.
And even if you wash them down, there's always tiny ones in the
little nooks and crannies are. Do you get around that?
I don't have to get a cloth. Yeah, get the cleaning stuff out
and wipe it down again properly. Alright, that's my pet peeve.
And that's my goal for you. My dear, what's yours?
I forgot my pet peeve, now because I'm already pissed off
from that. I did actually forget it.
What was it? My brain is not firing on all
cylinders. Actually that yes, thank you for
reminding me last night every night.
If we go to bed well regardless of what time and I've definitely
said this but it still has not improved.
It's actually probably gotten worse last night.
I got into bed at 8:45 and I don't think you got in till
9:30. You took so bloody long to get
your face done. Like, I cannot many steps
comprehend. What the fuck you were doing in
that? That long ladies.
Back me up on this one, 45 minutes essential that you using
a retinol. You got all that cleansing that
you're exfoliating that. You're using vitamin C
hydroponic. A dinner, what it does it leads
to micro cheating Why? Because the better, you look,
the more you hit on people. I don't know who your flat
bathroom, but actually, I'm kind of regretting my skincare
routine last night because I had a fake tan and it's all like my
face is all peeling my neck. Yeah.
I was wondering what was going on there hashtags and as take
Faith, 10 left. Mmm.
Well, tomorrow's Valentine's Day.
Yes, it is. Happy Valentine's Day, sometimes
day, every one day. I don't know the boys version of
that is, but why Fred love far and wide but don't micro cheat
reckon. I'll get a flirtatious message
tomorrow everyone if you're lucky right?
What if not next week? It's a week after my birthday.
Shirley well we've got a lovely dinner planned.
We where we going again? We're going somewhere.
Yeah, I kind of remember and we are having a lovely seafood
dinner just going to be nice. And we've got a voucher to use,
which is great. So when does this episode come
out tomorrow? No, as in like for those who are
listening. It's already out.
Obviously. Happy Valentine's Day.
Happy Val's. Yeah.
Remember you don't have to have a partner to spread the love and
joy. Oi.
So, but if you're spreading the love and joy to someone who does
have a partner, they do micro cheeks.
We've learned a lot today. Yeah, busted.
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We've actually had to guess on next week.
I'm really excited so much, it's gonna be interested.
You're going to be a deep conversation or will it be like?
I think you'll be very educational one.
Mmm. Yeah, I'm really excited for us
to be good, but that'll be cool. Depending on how much they want
to delve into. I'm good at getting information
out of people. Okay, they call me the
extractor. Alright.
Alright who everybody who to the roux.
Yeah, I'm really excited for us to be good, but that'll be cool.
Depending on how much they want to delve into.
I'm good at getting information out of people.
Okay, they call me the extractor.
Alright. Alright who everybody who to the
roux.