1 00:00:05,900 --> 00:00:10,400 Welcome back to another episode of the Let It Flow podcast. 2 00:00:10,700 --> 00:00:15,600 Wait, I am so excited for this episode. 3 00:00:15,600 --> 00:00:17,100 I believe this is our 10th episode. 4 00:00:17,100 --> 00:00:20,200 Actually use it freely and already. 5 00:00:20,200 --> 00:00:24,600 I know. And we are sharing 10 believes 6 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:26,400 that. We are accepting as our own at 7 00:00:26,400 --> 00:00:29,600 this moment that are changing our reality and allowing us to 8 00:00:29,600 --> 00:00:33,200 show up The world in the best way that we can and they've been 9 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:37,500 helpful to us over the past year year-and-a-half and now, some of 10 00:00:37,500 --> 00:00:40,700 these I've had longer than others, but that's the cool 11 00:00:40,700 --> 00:00:46,300 thing about beliefs and values. And all of them, they can 12 00:00:46,300 --> 00:00:51,500 change, they can change and your relationship, your relationship 13 00:00:51,500 --> 00:00:54,100 with them changes. There's a couple in here that 14 00:00:54,100 --> 00:00:59,400 I've had for quite a few years, but as I evolve and grow as a 15 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:01,600 person I learned more about myself. 16 00:01:02,100 --> 00:01:05,700 It's amazing to see how different my relationship with 17 00:01:05,700 --> 00:01:09,500 these beliefs are like how I read into them or how I view the 18 00:01:09,500 --> 00:01:12,500 world through them. Let's kick it off right away 19 00:01:12,500 --> 00:01:14,700 partly I would love for you to go first. 20 00:01:14,900 --> 00:01:18,200 Okay well I think I just want to start. 21 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:20,000 We've talked about it on here before. 22 00:01:20,300 --> 00:01:24,900 This is almost like the backbone of some of my beliefs that have 23 00:01:24,900 --> 00:01:27,500 shifted my mindset about who I am as a person. 24 00:01:27,500 --> 00:01:31,700 What I'm here to do an Express and that Is there is no such 25 00:01:31,700 --> 00:01:36,400 thing as failure. Only feedback which we first 26 00:01:36,900 --> 00:01:38,100 heard. It said this way. 27 00:01:38,100 --> 00:01:41,900 I think I can say we because we both studied new linguistic 28 00:01:41,900 --> 00:01:47,600 programming and that's a presupposition resolves isshin. 29 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:50,600 Yes, please deposition of an RPG is there's no such thing as 30 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:56,000 failure, only fit feedback and to, I guess, describe this a bit 31 00:01:56,000 --> 00:02:02,700 more is yes, we can. Quote fail things we can try and 32 00:02:02,700 --> 00:02:04,900 find out. Oops that doesn't work like that 33 00:02:04,900 --> 00:02:08,199 for me or oh that was maybe not the best thing for me. 34 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:12,000 But what that really is is feedback to teach you more about 35 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:16,400 yourself and the world and then again you gain so much from 36 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:19,600 those things. No, I absolutely agree with that 37 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:25,000 one and it's helped me push through and try so many new 38 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:28,500 things that I might have talked myself out of before because 39 00:02:29,200 --> 00:02:33,700 once you stop By identifying with failure and see it as 40 00:02:33,700 --> 00:02:37,600 learning and feedback that relationship, just changes so 41 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:40,900 much between what you do and who you are because you choose to 42 00:02:40,900 --> 00:02:43,600 identify with it. So, the biggest reason people 43 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:46,600 don't try things for fear of failure is because that they 44 00:02:46,600 --> 00:02:50,400 feel, they are a failure when things don't work, when in 45 00:02:50,400 --> 00:02:54,700 reality, you just try things and you decide whether it's a 46 00:02:54,708 --> 00:02:57,400 failure or not. And that's also something to 47 00:02:57,400 --> 00:03:00,800 realize that there's some things that I've done That I've met be 48 00:03:00,800 --> 00:03:02,700 considered a failure like design school. 49 00:03:02,700 --> 00:03:06,300 There's so many projects that I absolutely hated, but then other 50 00:03:06,300 --> 00:03:08,600 classmates would complement it and be like, I loved what you 51 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:10,800 did in this project, but I saw it as a failure. 52 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:14,600 So, Phil use also subjective. It's so subjective. 53 00:03:14,600 --> 00:03:19,900 And I also think that any person listening to, this could look 54 00:03:19,900 --> 00:03:22,700 back on their life and see times where they failed. 55 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:26,900 But if you take a moment, to change your perspective on it, 56 00:03:26,900 --> 00:03:32,100 and really look inside the experience, It's probably we can 57 00:03:32,100 --> 00:03:36,600 all find that we learned and evolved the most through those 58 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:39,600 things and reminding myself that all the time. 59 00:03:39,600 --> 00:03:43,300 I mean I am a person who tries so may we both are we're both 60 00:03:43,300 --> 00:03:47,100 like kind of the dryers, the researchers kind of that we got 61 00:03:47,100 --> 00:03:51,600 that energy going on and I love trying things and at that same 62 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:56,600 time everything I try. It's like we put an ultimatum on 63 00:03:56,800 --> 00:03:58,700 on our life or on our experiences. 64 00:03:58,700 --> 00:04:02,100 Like if this doesn't go Exactly how I plan it. 65 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:05,900 Then I failed. And it's just so goofy, because 66 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:11,500 how do we learn but not through trying, and seeing what happens. 67 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:14,500 I'm moving on to number 2 because each one of these could 68 00:04:14,500 --> 00:04:15,800 be an hour-long. Exactly. 69 00:04:17,000 --> 00:04:21,800 So, number two, everything is as it should be. 70 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:25,200 I repeat this all the time to myself. 71 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:28,100 Anytime, I wish things were different, or I find myself 72 00:04:28,100 --> 00:04:29,900 thinking that I should have done things differently. 73 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:35,100 Currently reflecting on the past or thinking about the future and 74 00:04:35,100 --> 00:04:38,300 feeling that anxiety. Creep in, I take a minute and 75 00:04:38,300 --> 00:04:43,500 reflect on this phrase because I truly believe that life is 76 00:04:43,500 --> 00:04:48,000 unfolding as it's supposed to and everything is in perfect 77 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:50,100 timing. That one is really close to me 78 00:04:50,100 --> 00:04:52,900 and the one that I say, the most often, it brings me the most 79 00:04:52,900 --> 00:04:54,800 peace. It's so powerful. 80 00:04:54,800 --> 00:04:58,400 And it's a really beautiful Mantra, kind of to remind 81 00:04:58,400 --> 00:04:59,900 yourself to be in the present moment. 82 00:05:00,100 --> 00:05:02,200 As well. I remember reading I think it 83 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:06,800 was the artist way and she said, this line about when she was 84 00:05:06,800 --> 00:05:09,100 going through this big transform, a transformative 85 00:05:09,100 --> 00:05:12,100 process in her life. The one thing that kept her 86 00:05:12,100 --> 00:05:15,500 going was being in the present moment because in the present 87 00:05:15,500 --> 00:05:20,400 moment at any moment, everything's okay, because 88 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:23,800 you're just here and it's the mind that gets all up in there 89 00:05:23,800 --> 00:05:26,400 and starts to worry and freak out, then we're like, I'm not, 90 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:28,400 okay? But like you're here, it's okay. 91 00:05:29,600 --> 00:05:31,700 Yeah. Yeah, that kind of runs into 92 00:05:31,700 --> 00:05:35,300 there's a few of these that go together in my mind, the 93 00:05:35,300 --> 00:05:38,600 everything is, as it should be. And then you said The Power of 94 00:05:38,600 --> 00:05:41,700 Now, like, literally the book. If you haven't read this book, 95 00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:44,100 you need to go by the power of now. 96 00:05:44,300 --> 00:05:47,000 It is incredible and I would recommend it to every human 97 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:51,400 being on the planet. But I also wrote down be present 98 00:05:51,600 --> 00:05:53,400 as another one. And that really goes into 99 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:58,000 everything is as it should be. And just accepting. 100 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:01,100 What is this is like a whole bundle of Things that all Loop 101 00:06:01,100 --> 00:06:04,000 together in my mind that I wrote down separately but I think they 102 00:06:04,008 --> 00:06:06,600 can all be referenced here. But everything is as it should 103 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:09,400 be. And if your present and accept 104 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:13,800 what is, there's nothing to be wanted. 105 00:06:14,100 --> 00:06:18,900 And anytime I'm feeling that anxiety, creep up, I bring 106 00:06:18,900 --> 00:06:22,500 myself back to the present. Personally, by really 107 00:06:22,500 --> 00:06:26,300 identifying what is happening? Like I am speaking into a 108 00:06:26,300 --> 00:06:29,800 microphone to Carly recording a podcast sitting in a chair. 109 00:06:29,900 --> 00:06:33,200 Chair in my bedroom. Every thing is fine. 110 00:06:33,200 --> 00:06:34,100 I am safe. I am. 111 00:06:34,100 --> 00:06:36,300 Okay. And that's how I bring myself 112 00:06:36,300 --> 00:06:38,300 back. Yeah, and just connecting with 113 00:06:38,300 --> 00:06:40,400 like, what your physical body is doing. 114 00:06:40,400 --> 00:06:45,400 Is such a simple tool that we all have at every moment because 115 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:50,300 we are all inside this body, okay? 116 00:06:50,300 --> 00:06:52,700 That section was kind of like, two, three, four, five, six, 117 00:06:52,700 --> 00:06:55,300 seven, but Carly. What is number three for you? 118 00:06:55,700 --> 00:06:59,800 Okay, number three, oh, I have so many too. 119 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:05,100 But I think I want to go with is kind of a cliche thing that we 120 00:07:05,100 --> 00:07:08,200 hear around everywhere. But I want to like, add to it a 121 00:07:08,207 --> 00:07:14,000 little bit that energy speaks so much louder than words. 122 00:07:14,500 --> 00:07:16,800 I don't know if this is like a belief or just like a way of 123 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:21,300 being, I don't know, but I feel like the a lot of people speak 124 00:07:21,300 --> 00:07:24,500 about this in terms of interaction interactions with 125 00:07:24,500 --> 00:07:27,700 people. And you know, you can read that. 126 00:07:28,100 --> 00:07:29,800 I'm sure we can all remember time. 127 00:07:29,900 --> 00:07:32,800 I swear we've had a wonderful conversation with somebody. 128 00:07:33,100 --> 00:07:35,700 It was really sweet really good but then we can walk away just 129 00:07:35,700 --> 00:07:39,600 feeling kind of like, mmm, my energy doesn't really Vibe with 130 00:07:39,600 --> 00:07:42,600 that person's energy, so that's an example. 131 00:07:42,600 --> 00:07:45,800 But I also want to talk about this in terms of like 132 00:07:45,800 --> 00:07:50,800 manifestation and just like creating your life and energy 133 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:57,200 and in which you are doing these things speaks way, more loudly 134 00:07:57,200 --> 00:07:59,800 than any words, you're saying, or any journals things. 135 00:07:59,900 --> 00:08:04,000 You're writing and that kind of goes in line with just like 136 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:09,600 learning more about yourself and being just like, so, totally and 137 00:08:09,600 --> 00:08:11,400 completely honest with where you're at. 138 00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:15,800 Because the biggest thing I hear with manifestation is, well, I'm 139 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:17,800 saying this, I'm doing all the things I'm doing it, doing doing 140 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:20,400 doing it but either it's not coming or the wrong thing. 141 00:08:20,400 --> 00:08:25,500 Comes, the wrong thing comes to me and it's just an example of 142 00:08:25,500 --> 00:08:28,700 how Maybe that's not really for you. 143 00:08:29,200 --> 00:08:31,800 You know. Maybe you're not ready for it or 144 00:08:31,900 --> 00:08:34,600 the exact perfect thing came to you. 145 00:08:34,700 --> 00:08:38,700 To allow you to grow and evolve even further. 146 00:08:39,200 --> 00:08:45,300 So in an LP, we learned that your body protects itself and 147 00:08:45,300 --> 00:08:48,100 your nervous system may or may not be able to handle that 148 00:08:48,100 --> 00:08:52,300 manifestation. For example, if you are used to 149 00:08:52,300 --> 00:08:54,900 having ten dollars in your bank account, let's make it really 150 00:08:54,900 --> 00:08:56,100 extreme. Ten dollars in your bank 151 00:08:56,100 --> 00:08:57,800 account. Count in your manifesting the 152 00:08:57,800 --> 00:09:00,700 million. If you were to get that money 153 00:09:00,700 --> 00:09:03,500 handed to you, you would have no clue how to handle it. 154 00:09:03,500 --> 00:09:05,200 You wouldn't know what to do with it. 155 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:08,300 Your body would freak out, your nervous system would go into 156 00:09:08,300 --> 00:09:11,900 shock, and that's for any type of manifestation. 157 00:09:11,900 --> 00:09:15,400 If it's out of the level that you really believe that you can 158 00:09:15,400 --> 00:09:18,700 have and you get it, that's why so many people win the lottery 159 00:09:18,700 --> 00:09:22,000 and completely blow all the money, because it's everything 160 00:09:22,000 --> 00:09:25,100 they wished for. And then they don't believe that 161 00:09:25,100 --> 00:09:27,900 they deserve it or can have And then poof it's gone. 162 00:09:28,900 --> 00:09:33,400 Yo okay, number four, I think this is really important and I 163 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:37,500 am more recently accepting this and it's something that I knew 164 00:09:37,500 --> 00:09:39,800 to be true but not something that I ever put into words. 165 00:09:39,900 --> 00:09:44,000 And I actually heard Samantha daily, say, it on a real the 166 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:46,600 other day. And I was like, yes. 167 00:09:46,600 --> 00:09:49,600 I know this to be true, but I really need to start embodying 168 00:09:49,600 --> 00:09:53,300 it. And number four is the action 169 00:09:53,300 --> 00:09:56,100 you resist. The most is the one that will 170 00:09:56,300 --> 00:09:59,800 Propel you to your next level and I freaking a man. 171 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:05,800 And this one means a lot to me and kind of ties into that never 172 00:10:05,800 --> 00:10:10,500 failure always feedback because when you're afraid of failing or 173 00:10:10,500 --> 00:10:13,800 you're afraid of something that's in the future, like that 174 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:18,300 may or may not happen in like, we resist it so much and usually 175 00:10:18,300 --> 00:10:20,700 that thing, you're scared of the most, is the step you need to 176 00:10:20,700 --> 00:10:23,200 take. And so I've been experimenting 177 00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:28,000 with letting that lead me for Deciding where to live that has 178 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:31,700 been something the past entire year and a half of travel. 179 00:10:31,700 --> 00:10:33,800 I've been thinking, where do I want to live? 180 00:10:34,500 --> 00:10:38,200 And when it comes down to it, I can choose anywhere. 181 00:10:38,800 --> 00:10:42,000 It doesn't really matter because what matters is who I am in the 182 00:10:42,000 --> 00:10:43,500 place, it doesn't matter the place. 183 00:10:43,900 --> 00:10:49,800 And my fear around that was feeling stuck in feeling like 184 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:52,300 I'm being held back by whatever place I choose. 185 00:10:52,300 --> 00:10:55,900 I was projecting that potential future onto any place. 186 00:10:55,900 --> 00:10:58,200 I looked Stat and so no. Place was good for me. 187 00:10:58,500 --> 00:11:02,300 And that made me really scared to move and so I would say that 188 00:11:02,600 --> 00:11:07,000 I've probably been resisting. I've been actually, okay, 189 00:11:07,100 --> 00:11:10,200 dropping the probably I have been resisting choosing a place 190 00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:15,800 and moving for, at least the past six months before that 191 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:18,000 everything was serving me. I was really happy in the place 192 00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:20,300 that I was at. I've been at home, thankful for 193 00:11:20,300 --> 00:11:24,100 the support of my family while I work on my business and figure 194 00:11:24,100 --> 00:11:27,900 out what I want to do. But I could have left earlier, 195 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:32,000 and I felt that big resistance to making that decision. 196 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:36,400 And when I saw that real like, thank you, Sam for sharing that, 197 00:11:36,400 --> 00:11:41,400 because that day, I went and found an apartment and 198 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:44,800 spontaneously decided that I'm moving back to Minneapolis, 199 00:11:44,800 --> 00:11:49,000 which is exciting. I haven't said that anywhere 200 00:11:49,100 --> 00:11:53,200 publicly yet my friends and family are starting to know and 201 00:11:53,300 --> 00:11:55,500 we're all like, oh my gosh, I didn't know and I was like, I 202 00:11:55,508 --> 00:11:57,800 didn't know either. ER because I've been resisting 203 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:01,900 it for so long but I just know that this next chapter is going 204 00:12:01,900 --> 00:12:06,000 to be great because I am resist. I was resisting it with all of 205 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:09,100 my might and so that's where I know that the next phase is at 206 00:12:09,100 --> 00:12:12,800 and so letting that resistance lead you is so powerful. 207 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:18,000 I'm completely completely agree. Which this also if we can move 208 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:20,000 on to the next one. Yes. 209 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:23,400 Have one to go with this number five. 210 00:12:23,900 --> 00:12:28,600 Number five, this has been Something that I am still 211 00:12:29,300 --> 00:12:33,800 reminding myself of every single moment of every single day, but 212 00:12:33,800 --> 00:12:41,500 that nobody especially, not me is ever stuck in a decision 213 00:12:41,500 --> 00:12:48,700 forever. and I the amount of things that I have, Not even not 214 00:12:48,700 --> 00:12:51,600 done. Just like stayed on the fence 215 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:53,900 you know and never made any decision. 216 00:12:54,700 --> 00:12:58,500 It's been because of this because I for some reason I 217 00:12:58,500 --> 00:13:01,400 think the way we're taught growing up to is like you have 218 00:13:01,400 --> 00:13:04,300 this path and you keep going on it and then you just, you know, 219 00:13:04,300 --> 00:13:08,500 you're on it for life. I was another thing I wrote 220 00:13:08,500 --> 00:13:12,100 down, as much as I wish sometimes sometimes that that 221 00:13:12,100 --> 00:13:15,400 could be me and I could be fulfilled by that. 222 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:18,800 I'm not but it's so Oh interesting because that has 223 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:22,100 stopped me from moving forward, in many ways just as fear of 224 00:13:22,100 --> 00:13:24,300 making a choice in being stuck in it forever. 225 00:13:25,500 --> 00:13:29,700 And this also, okay with the continent that contradiction of 226 00:13:29,700 --> 00:13:32,500 like wishing I could have that wishing that could make me 227 00:13:33,100 --> 00:13:35,300 fulfilled and be that kind of simple. 228 00:13:35,300 --> 00:13:38,000 Obviously everyone has their own challenges in their own unique 229 00:13:38,000 --> 00:13:46,400 ways, but that ship that one realization, that I there was a 230 00:13:46,400 --> 00:13:50,800 part of me that desired that and a part of me that was like, oh 231 00:13:50,800 --> 00:13:54,500 no, I don't want to be stuck in any choice ever that showed me 232 00:13:54,500 --> 00:13:58,500 so much about My inner contradictions as a human and we 233 00:13:58,500 --> 00:14:00,400 all have them. Some people, I think have them 234 00:14:00,400 --> 00:14:02,900 more than others. In fact, in my human design one 235 00:14:02,900 --> 00:14:07,800 of the biggest themes for my challenge is conflict. 236 00:14:08,800 --> 00:14:12,500 So like inner conflict out of comp dealing with conflict, but 237 00:14:12,700 --> 00:14:16,200 that has kind of brought me to the biggest lesson that the 238 00:14:16,200 --> 00:14:21,900 inner contradictions in ourselves are the fight against 239 00:14:21,900 --> 00:14:26,100 our own knowing in are being like our natural just Just, we 240 00:14:26,100 --> 00:14:31,300 are who we are and we're here to do US versus conditioning and 241 00:14:31,300 --> 00:14:33,900 what we're taught in society. I have started to really look 242 00:14:33,900 --> 00:14:36,900 into where I feel conflict in me and it's like, I know what's 243 00:14:36,900 --> 00:14:40,200 right for me. But the contradiction of that, 244 00:14:40,200 --> 00:14:44,300 that I'm feeling is literally all of those outside, voices, 245 00:14:44,300 --> 00:14:47,400 and conditioning, and society, and all the things that aren't 246 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:51,900 me fighting against it and that has been a humongous 247 00:14:51,900 --> 00:14:55,500 realization, and I'm still working through so many Many 248 00:14:55,500 --> 00:14:57,500 things and we'll be working through these things throughout 249 00:14:57,500 --> 00:14:59,100 our whole life on different levels. 250 00:14:59,100 --> 00:15:02,500 But that's been a really interesting thing. 251 00:15:03,100 --> 00:15:06,800 Number six, that goes with some of what you said in there. 252 00:15:07,600 --> 00:15:13,200 I said you are not your emotions or your thoughts and ever since 253 00:15:13,200 --> 00:15:17,800 I learned to see them as separate I have become a much 254 00:15:17,800 --> 00:15:24,900 more calm level-headed person to be around and Carly's laughing. 255 00:15:25,300 --> 00:15:28,000 She's known me for so long she's seen everything. 256 00:15:28,900 --> 00:15:34,900 Oh yes, I practice this every single day just acknowledging. 257 00:15:35,100 --> 00:15:38,700 What I'm feeling and separating myself from it. 258 00:15:38,700 --> 00:15:43,300 I give the example of inside out, if you've seen that Disney 259 00:15:43,300 --> 00:15:46,200 movie, where every emotion is a different character inside of 260 00:15:46,200 --> 00:15:49,000 the person's head, it's literally like that. 261 00:15:49,300 --> 00:15:52,400 And when you can start living that way and see them as 262 00:15:52,400 --> 00:15:55,100 individual friends, like your anger is your friend, your jaw. 263 00:15:55,300 --> 00:15:57,200 See as your friend happiness, joy and peace. 264 00:15:57,200 --> 00:16:01,000 Are your friends, and we see those as friends, but being able 265 00:16:01,000 --> 00:16:04,100 to see the more negative emotions as friends and take 266 00:16:04,100 --> 00:16:07,300 their messages rather than letting it affect your entire 267 00:16:07,300 --> 00:16:10,000 body. And nervous system has helped me 268 00:16:10,300 --> 00:16:15,800 so much. I used to be so socially anxious 269 00:16:16,100 --> 00:16:20,300 and I don't think most people would know that about me because 270 00:16:20,300 --> 00:16:24,500 I've always been the extroverted Party friend throughout school. 271 00:16:24,500 --> 00:16:29,800 And I always just had this future anxiety of what could 272 00:16:29,800 --> 00:16:32,300 possibly happen, and I was afraid of something. 273 00:16:32,300 --> 00:16:35,200 I just never questioned it. And so I let my body get tensed 274 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:39,400 up and I would feel nauseous and I would overthink, and I would 275 00:16:39,400 --> 00:16:44,600 spiral, I wouldn't sleep well, and now I'm able to almost have 276 00:16:44,600 --> 00:16:48,500 a direct conversation with the emotion or with the thought 277 00:16:48,500 --> 00:16:49,800 because usually they're tied together. 278 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:51,400 You like you're thinking about something that's bringing up 279 00:16:51,400 --> 00:16:55,000 this emotion and yada yada. They're, they're tied together. 280 00:16:55,900 --> 00:17:01,600 and I'm able to think through it with a More Level head and be 281 00:17:01,600 --> 00:17:04,700 like, is this true? Where am I making assumptions? 282 00:17:05,400 --> 00:17:07,300 Am I like what am I spiraling about? 283 00:17:07,300 --> 00:17:10,700 And just be able to take a more objective stance at it and 284 00:17:10,900 --> 00:17:15,200 release the emotion. And in 2023, I think I wrote one 285 00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:21,300 of my words down as peace and I just want my body to be as 286 00:17:21,300 --> 00:17:24,400 peaceful as possible because that's also better for my health 287 00:17:24,500 --> 00:17:27,000 overall. Yeah, this. 288 00:17:28,300 --> 00:17:30,500 So you are not your emotions or thoughts. 289 00:17:30,500 --> 00:17:33,700 That's what that one was and they are wonderful, wonderful 290 00:17:33,700 --> 00:17:35,700 tools. Yes, yes. 291 00:17:35,700 --> 00:17:40,100 It reminds me not to get on to this tangent but I just finished 292 00:17:40,100 --> 00:17:42,700 the surrender experiment by Michael Singer. 293 00:17:42,800 --> 00:17:47,600 I believe a few weeks ago and Haze point of Awakening. 294 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:53,000 Which I also loved reading about that because I think fool, this 295 00:17:53,000 --> 00:17:55,300 could be a whole another thing. But I think a lot of the people 296 00:17:55,300 --> 00:17:59,400 we here, About and see and coaches talking about their 297 00:17:59,400 --> 00:18:02,500 Journey, their Awakening journey and where they gained all of 298 00:18:02,500 --> 00:18:07,200 their wisdom from has been through these like horrible like 299 00:18:07,200 --> 00:18:12,000 difficult challenging, sometimes like near-death experiences 300 00:18:12,300 --> 00:18:15,400 experiences where they've had to completely disintegrate their 301 00:18:15,400 --> 00:18:18,700 whole lives and start over which there's so much value in that 302 00:18:18,700 --> 00:18:22,400 not saying that, but I have had down about my own wisdom. 303 00:18:22,400 --> 00:18:25,900 That's come through me because I have been so fortunate. 304 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:31,400 It to have, we know relatively simple life, if I'm being 305 00:18:31,400 --> 00:18:33,100 honest. And I've been so fortunate with 306 00:18:33,100 --> 00:18:36,000 other things in my life and and so but sometimes we can get in 307 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:37,800 our head about, like, why I haven't had something horrible 308 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:39,600 happened to me. So like what do I have to give? 309 00:18:39,600 --> 00:18:44,500 Which is a ridiculous thought, but he is Awakening experience, 310 00:18:44,500 --> 00:18:48,000 he was literally sitting on the couch was watching a commercial 311 00:18:48,500 --> 00:18:52,300 and all of a sudden he just noticed, whoa, there's a voice 312 00:18:52,300 --> 00:18:54,900 in my head, that's commenting about my preferences about this 313 00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:57,000 commercial. Like, whoa. 314 00:18:57,000 --> 00:18:58,100 What? What is that? 315 00:18:58,100 --> 00:19:01,200 I'm actually aware of this voice. 316 00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:05,700 This is what is separate from me and that was his Awakening and 317 00:19:05,700 --> 00:19:08,000 it brought him on this whole path of being like how the hell 318 00:19:08,000 --> 00:19:11,800 do I shut this voice up? Which then changed also his 319 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:14,400 perspective on that. But that was just it made me 320 00:19:14,400 --> 00:19:16,700 think of that because it's an example of how like you can 321 00:19:16,700 --> 00:19:20,700 literally observe your thoughts separate from you and that's 322 00:19:21,400 --> 00:19:26,200 freaking incredible. Okay, so number seven is kind of 323 00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:32,100 also a branch off of that one. And it's pretty intense, not 324 00:19:32,100 --> 00:19:36,000 gonna lie, but it since it's changed the way I think of a lot 325 00:19:36,000 --> 00:19:40,100 of things and it's in so many yogic teachings and mindset and 326 00:19:40,100 --> 00:19:44,000 everything, you probably heard it before, but the fact that 327 00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:49,200 suffering is a choice pain is not pain, is something we go 328 00:19:49,200 --> 00:19:54,600 through and it's not fun at all. But Suffering aspect in this 329 00:19:54,600 --> 00:20:01,100 sense is when you when we as humans get stuck in the story of 330 00:20:01,100 --> 00:20:04,600 what we experience as pain and we relive it and relive it and 331 00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:11,300 we don't, we don't do the work if you will to really heal from 332 00:20:11,300 --> 00:20:15,700 it, that is suffering. And I have realized so many 333 00:20:15,700 --> 00:20:19,500 times like even little things sometimes where I'm just like 334 00:20:19,700 --> 00:20:22,200 going on and on in my head and I'm spiraling and I'm like this 335 00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:25,200 is a type of suffering. Like I am causing myself to 336 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:30,700 suffer by allowing my my logical brain to not shut up about it 337 00:20:30,700 --> 00:20:32,900 and to keep just going and going and going. 338 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:38,600 And it's really powerful to realize a huge amount of 339 00:20:38,600 --> 00:20:41,500 responsibility that you have to be really willing to take. 340 00:20:43,000 --> 00:20:47,000 Yeah it is a lot of responsibility to take and our 341 00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:50,400 egos, don't like that because the ego likes to be the victim 342 00:20:50,900 --> 00:20:54,900 and in Reading loving what Is I will continue to bring up this 343 00:20:54,900 --> 00:21:01,500 book by Byron Katie and yet I am obsessed with it and she talks 344 00:21:01,500 --> 00:21:06,700 about this in her four questions that you asked. 345 00:21:06,700 --> 00:21:10,600 So a little bit about this book and how she goes about things, 346 00:21:10,700 --> 00:21:14,400 it's judge your neighbor. Like the most horrible thoughts, 347 00:21:14,400 --> 00:21:18,400 you have about another person, write it down, ask her for 348 00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:20,500 questions, and then turn it around. 349 00:21:20,900 --> 00:21:24,800 And a lot of the people she talked to You had these horrible 350 00:21:24,800 --> 00:21:28,000 events happen to them, some of them physically horrible, some 351 00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:30,500 of them emotionally abusive, some of them, like just 352 00:21:30,500 --> 00:21:33,600 childhood trauma, some of them marriage disputes, like all 353 00:21:33,600 --> 00:21:39,200 across the board and a lot of the conversations got down to 354 00:21:40,100 --> 00:21:42,700 when you turn it around. And this is not victim-blaming, 355 00:21:43,200 --> 00:21:46,000 this is turning it around to set yourself free. 356 00:21:46,500 --> 00:21:51,300 So, like Carly said, The more you play this event over in your 357 00:21:51,300 --> 00:21:54,400 head, you are abusing your Yourself, you are hurting 358 00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:57,300 yourself over and over the event only happened once. 359 00:21:57,900 --> 00:22:00,900 So in a way that event was kind to you it taught you something 360 00:22:00,900 --> 00:22:03,700 and you're being hurtful to yourself by playing this over 361 00:22:03,700 --> 00:22:06,000 and over and allowing that suffering to continue. 362 00:22:06,300 --> 00:22:10,300 And once you can see the lesson in what happened, rather than 363 00:22:11,100 --> 00:22:14,000 playing it again, just to experience being the victim and 364 00:22:14,008 --> 00:22:17,200 experience that pain again. And again, and again, that 365 00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:19,500 allows you a whole new level of freedom. 366 00:22:20,600 --> 00:22:24,200 Okay. Number 8, the world is what you 367 00:22:24,200 --> 00:22:31,400 believe it to be. Oh yeah, this one is it just has 368 00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:36,500 to do with everything. Like I just think of the news 369 00:22:36,500 --> 00:22:40,700 and how much - news there is because negativity cells and 370 00:22:40,700 --> 00:22:43,700 hate cells and fear cells. And so we're constantly 371 00:22:43,700 --> 00:22:47,800 surrounded by clickbait things that are negative and so 372 00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:49,700 therefore people believe the world too. 373 00:22:49,900 --> 00:22:54,700 B- they believe the world to be so dangerous and you have to be 374 00:22:54,700 --> 00:22:58,600 on guard all the time and I just don't choose to see the world 375 00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:04,200 that way, the world is what it is and you're giving yourself 376 00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:07,200 your own suffering by believing it should be anything other than 377 00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:10,500 what it is. And I choose to believe that 378 00:23:10,500 --> 00:23:14,200 most people are kind. And in my experience, most 379 00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:18,300 people are kind if I believe that there is an ax-wielding 380 00:23:18,300 --> 00:23:21,900 murderer around every corner I am going to feel stressed out. 381 00:23:21,900 --> 00:23:24,000 I would not travel the way I did. 382 00:23:24,200 --> 00:23:28,300 I have family and friends that watched like Dateline and they 383 00:23:28,300 --> 00:23:32,200 watch murder shows and I just don't consume that content 384 00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:36,300 because I just I know that the world is what I believe it to be 385 00:23:36,300 --> 00:23:39,500 and it's going to be a reflection of the things that I 386 00:23:39,500 --> 00:23:41,600 consume in believe inside my head. 387 00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:45,200 And so, if I choose to see danger, there will be danger, I 388 00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:47,400 will Attract it. That's manifestation that it's 389 00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:50,600 fine. And it's really and Everything 390 00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:54,600 spirals from there. Yeah, I basically wrote that to 391 00:23:54,700 --> 00:23:56,700 as like, our perspective is everything. 392 00:23:56,900 --> 00:23:59,800 So right along with that and I just had a thought, come to me, 393 00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:03,900 we kind of talked about this, the Bia in our last episode 394 00:24:03,900 --> 00:24:07,500 about how you know we all know this by now I hope and if you 395 00:24:07,500 --> 00:24:11,900 don't here's news for you Instagram and social media, it's 396 00:24:11,900 --> 00:24:15,600 a highlight reel even even people like, you know, there's 397 00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:18,400 been more people that are really working to be more authentic and 398 00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:21,700 showing kind of the whole range of life. 399 00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:27,900 But mostly it's the good stuff or even like, tailored bad stuff 400 00:24:27,900 --> 00:24:31,800 because or I was going to say, it can be a low light real. 401 00:24:31,900 --> 00:24:34,000 That's literally literally what the news is. 402 00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:37,100 That's literally what exactly all of that is. 403 00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:41,600 Like, we either have social media that we actually have 404 00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:46,000 command over as users of social media, and that's tends to be 405 00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:49,900 more positive in the sense. That like, you know, people 406 00:24:49,900 --> 00:24:52,400 usually are trying to spread good messages, maybe not. 407 00:24:52,500 --> 00:24:54,500 Commenters. But let me know posting that 408 00:24:54,500 --> 00:24:57,500 also depends on how you use social media and if you are 409 00:24:57,500 --> 00:25:00,300 interacting with that - clickbait you're going to get 410 00:25:00,300 --> 00:25:02,800 more of it. That's actually a good like 411 00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:06,400 experiment. Go on your socials and do a skim 412 00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:08,900 right now how much of it makes me feel good and how much of it 413 00:25:08,900 --> 00:25:10,300 makes you feel like absolute shit? 414 00:25:10,700 --> 00:25:14,200 Yeah, block unfollow mute those people, and fill your feed with 415 00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:17,400 lemon inspire you that we have fill it with love, fill it with 416 00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:21,200 people that prove to you that the world has kindness in it and 417 00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:24,200 I trust you your Will change, especially if you're spending so 418 00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:26,600 much time on it. Absolutely. 419 00:25:26,900 --> 00:25:29,600 But I guess like the point in, it depends to like, because 420 00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:31,200 there might be some people listening that have a lot of 421 00:25:31,208 --> 00:25:33,000 negative stuff come up in their feed. 422 00:25:33,300 --> 00:25:36,200 I've take their mind as you have to, I actually been wanting to 423 00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:39,100 redo it again, but so I have a lot of positivity, my feet, 424 00:25:39,100 --> 00:25:41,900 which is amazing. But then, it's like an example 425 00:25:41,900 --> 00:25:45,200 of the Polar polarity of our life right now, because we can 426 00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:49,100 tailor that to be positive. And then anytime we get on the 427 00:25:49,100 --> 00:25:56,700 media, It's the exact opposite. So it's like, okay, wait, what? 428 00:25:56,700 --> 00:25:59,200 What's going on here, what's real? 429 00:26:00,500 --> 00:26:01,900 It. What's real is, what's outside 430 00:26:01,900 --> 00:26:06,000 your window and I you interact with the world. 431 00:26:06,700 --> 00:26:11,100 I find myself doing that every once in awhile on purpose, if 432 00:26:11,100 --> 00:26:15,600 I'm scrolling on social media and I'm feeling like, I need to 433 00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:18,800 keep up with other people. If I'm on that positivity streak 434 00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:22,300 and I'm just not feeling great or if I'm seeing the news 435 00:26:22,300 --> 00:26:25,800 articles, and there's a lot of sadness and heaviness around. 436 00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:28,700 I take a minute to stop and physically look outside my 437 00:26:28,700 --> 00:26:30,900 window. And right now, I'm looking at a 438 00:26:30,908 --> 00:26:34,900 pasture where I Can See For Miles and absolutely nothing. 439 00:26:35,500 --> 00:26:38,900 And I just physically, remind myself that what is happening 440 00:26:38,900 --> 00:26:40,400 on. These screens is not happening 441 00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:43,300 to me. It's not happening in my world 442 00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:47,200 and I choose to bring it into my world or not. 443 00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:50,900 Yeah, well that's a beautiful tool to actually like in a 444 00:26:50,900 --> 00:26:54,900 positive way really help people because if you can understand 445 00:26:54,900 --> 00:27:00,100 that like I am safe and I am secure and I am happy, you know. 446 00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:03,800 We can give so much better help to others that are in situations 447 00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:08,500 that are not good. Because if it's like, If we're 448 00:27:08,500 --> 00:27:11,500 full of anxiety about life. And we go to try to help people 449 00:27:11,500 --> 00:27:16,400 who were like, truly living in, like a not good situation. 450 00:27:16,900 --> 00:27:21,900 Yes, you help in your actions. But like we said, before, energy 451 00:27:21,900 --> 00:27:25,800 speak so much louder than words and actions, so it can just be 452 00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:30,600 more, even more powerful for us to go and help people who are in 453 00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:33,700 situations, that are not ideal with this. 454 00:27:33,700 --> 00:27:38,500 Knowing that like, I am safe. I am whole, I Loved and be able 455 00:27:38,500 --> 00:27:40,700 to share that energy with people. 456 00:27:41,300 --> 00:27:45,700 Then that is so powerful. Yeah, and there's a little 457 00:27:45,700 --> 00:27:48,200 subtopic to this one that I want to toss in there. 458 00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:51,300 So we're still on the world is what you believe it to be. 459 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:55,600 But a little subtext there, what you consume matters. 460 00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:57,800 So because we talked about social media a little bit there 461 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:02,600 and I've just noticed that so much cutting out, certain things 462 00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:06,900 that I used to watch certain TV shows that I don't watch anymore 463 00:28:06,900 --> 00:28:12,300 because Is your mind your subconscious mind does not know 464 00:28:12,300 --> 00:28:15,100 what is real life and what is television, it doesn't make that 465 00:28:15,100 --> 00:28:17,600 distinction. An example of that would be if 466 00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:21,000 you've ever seen a horror movie and you feel scared like 467 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:23,300 somebody's getting chased and you feel like you're getting 468 00:28:23,300 --> 00:28:26,500 chased and you feel that panic and that stress, your body is 469 00:28:26,500 --> 00:28:29,500 creating those that reaction inside of you as if it's 470 00:28:29,500 --> 00:28:33,000 happening to you. And it holds onto that and then 471 00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:35,400 say, you have a nightmare about it later and you get stressed 472 00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:37,400 out in your sleep, like whatever you can. 473 00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:40,700 Woman really does affect you in that way. 474 00:28:40,700 --> 00:28:45,400 And so that's just a scientific side note for anybody that is 475 00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:49,400 unaware of that, that your body reacts as if all of these things 476 00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:51,500 are happening to you. So if you are consuming that 477 00:28:51,500 --> 00:28:55,600 much negativity or watching the news, I'm not going to bring up 478 00:28:55,600 --> 00:29:00,000 any articles but just seeing the headlines any on any given day 479 00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:04,100 and you're absorbing that I always am blown away giving. 480 00:29:04,100 --> 00:29:06,200 I have watched some of these movies and I'm like, damn that 481 00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:10,200 was a good movie but But the fact that we get so off on 482 00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:15,800 watching war movies, blows my mind like, we want horse to end, 483 00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:18,100 don't we? We want, we don't want people to 484 00:29:18,100 --> 00:29:21,900 die like that, right? Like why are we paying the big 485 00:29:21,900 --> 00:29:25,500 bucks to watch films? That are literally reproductions 486 00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:29,700 of war or like new created stories of War? 487 00:29:30,300 --> 00:29:31,800 I don't know. That's really side note, but 488 00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:35,300 like that. But what was my mind and what we 489 00:29:35,300 --> 00:29:37,900 give attention to blows? Zup. 490 00:29:37,900 --> 00:29:42,300 And we create me just see the past two years, like the more 491 00:29:42,300 --> 00:29:47,300 media attention, everything got the worst, everything got when 492 00:29:47,300 --> 00:29:48,600 we're not even going to get into that. 493 00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:51,400 But it's proof that where attention goes, energy flows. 494 00:29:51,500 --> 00:29:54,500 I mean, sorry, this one section has probably five different 495 00:29:54,500 --> 00:29:57,500 thoughts and beliefs in it. So take what you will episode on 496 00:29:57,500 --> 00:30:00,500 this? Yeah. 497 00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:02,600 Okay, let's move on. Number 9. 498 00:30:03,700 --> 00:30:06,500 I have one as a complete different perfect. 499 00:30:07,700 --> 00:30:10,900 Let's put it in our, we're both getting very passionate. 500 00:30:10,900 --> 00:30:14,800 They're like, oh my God, this is so funny to me because this is 501 00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:18,300 something I was really sharing. When I was full-on like I'm 502 00:30:18,300 --> 00:30:21,300 going to become a coach and it's still a message that's near and 503 00:30:21,300 --> 00:30:23,600 dear to my heart but it and it's been coaching me. 504 00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:28,000 Lately the past few months, but that is that I'm going to see 505 00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:30,800 my. But I mean, all of you are my 506 00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:33,700 creative ideas that come are not random. 507 00:30:34,100 --> 00:30:37,800 Like, they come to me for a reason and all of your ideas and 508 00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:40,800 what you're drawn to your passions, your interest. 509 00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:46,700 They're not random and I really truly believe that especially 510 00:30:46,700 --> 00:30:51,400 with the state of the world. Like we we are so lucky to be 511 00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:54,900 alive in the world today. I mean, there's a lot of A lot 512 00:30:54,900 --> 00:30:59,000 of shitty stuff going on, I'll give you that, but there's also 513 00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:02,700 a lot of incredible things happening that you can choose to 514 00:31:02,700 --> 00:31:05,900 focus on more enough, not totally ignore the bad because 515 00:31:05,900 --> 00:31:07,600 like that's not how we do things. 516 00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:11,000 We want to focus acknowledge and then work through. 517 00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:15,600 But when we have creative ideas, it's the universe. 518 00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:20,100 Like, I truly believe that the Universe being like go Express, 519 00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:24,500 create your ideas are here because you and you alone can 520 00:31:24,700 --> 00:31:29,000 Ask them and create them like you and we're all here and we're 521 00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:32,600 all designed to do exactly what were meant to do. 522 00:31:33,100 --> 00:31:36,300 I have that written down. Yeah, another way you did. 523 00:31:36,700 --> 00:31:41,200 I said your bundle of interests and experiences is 100% unique 524 00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:44,300 to you and help you fulfill your purpose. 525 00:31:45,100 --> 00:31:48,700 And yes, that's not saying that you have one particular purpose. 526 00:31:48,700 --> 00:31:50,800 I'll say this over and over to that. 527 00:31:51,500 --> 00:31:54,300 If we've learned anything through human design, it's that 528 00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:57,400 You do have a purpose on this Earth but it can manifest in 529 00:31:57,400 --> 00:32:00,500 many different ways. For example, if you are here to 530 00:32:00,500 --> 00:32:04,400 teach and guide that can look like many different types of 531 00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:08,100 jobs, you can teach and guide in many different ways on different 532 00:32:08,100 --> 00:32:11,800 platforms and yeah. So there's not just one thing 533 00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:14,900 that you're searching for, and something that's caught like 534 00:32:14,900 --> 00:32:18,400 helped me gain, and it's currently coffee me, gain more, 535 00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:23,400 peace of mind and just like, okay, I trust where I'm going is 536 00:32:23,400 --> 00:32:26,600 even before that. That we can say, all of our 537 00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:32,100 purpose is the same in the sense that we are all here to express 538 00:32:32,700 --> 00:32:36,600 ourselves outwardly. That is the purpose. 539 00:32:36,600 --> 00:32:39,400 So when we feel ourselves holding back or like, being 540 00:32:39,400 --> 00:32:42,300 scared to do something, out of fear of judgment, or fear of 541 00:32:42,300 --> 00:32:45,500 failure, or even fear of success, because I realized a 542 00:32:45,500 --> 00:32:48,200 lot of my fear is actually fear of success because and I'm like, 543 00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:50,700 oh shit curly you have to like take responsibility for your own 544 00:32:50,700 --> 00:32:55,400 life. All we have to do is follow what 545 00:32:55,400 --> 00:33:00,000 is within us and that sounds so cheesy and cliche but it's true. 546 00:33:00,900 --> 00:33:04,100 This kind of goes in with what you said, I'm like, sneaking all 547 00:33:04,100 --> 00:33:07,000 these in here. Cuz I can't not share on say now 548 00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:13,200 I know, but it's been like ten AKA 30 mustn't, take it 10 plus 549 00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:17,800 20 more, the world is your playground. 550 00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:24,400 This is something that has changed my perspective on life 551 00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:29,600 entirely, and traveling alone, and going to national parks and 552 00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:34,800 going on a hike and literally using the Earth as a player. 553 00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:37,500 Do something fun, something to explore, see what's around the 554 00:33:37,500 --> 00:33:40,100 corner. And when you're on that life 555 00:33:40,300 --> 00:33:44,100 mission, to authentically, express yourself as we are all 556 00:33:44,100 --> 00:33:48,200 here to do our purpose and mission is to just experience 557 00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:52,700 life on this planet. And I am challenging myself to 558 00:33:52,700 --> 00:33:54,500 figure out how many different ways I can do that. 559 00:33:54,500 --> 00:33:56,300 How many different things can I do? 560 00:33:56,600 --> 00:33:59,200 What can I experience? And how can I share that with 561 00:33:59,200 --> 00:34:01,200 people? And I love hearing other 562 00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:05,400 people's stories too, but the world is Literally your 563 00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:08,699 playground and the world is your oyster. 564 00:34:08,699 --> 00:34:12,900 The world is your oyster, but do you remember being little? 565 00:34:12,900 --> 00:34:15,900 And just thinking of all when I'm an adult and I don't have to 566 00:34:15,900 --> 00:34:20,000 ask my parents for permission, I'm gonna go do XYZ and being so 567 00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:24,500 excited about it. And then now we're what sitting 568 00:34:24,500 --> 00:34:27,800 in a house on a couch watching Netflix, letting other people 569 00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:32,600 live, the cool stories and that makes me physically heavy to 570 00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:36,000 even think about like we are Sitting there waiting for 571 00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:39,500 permission that we're not even asking though, I like form 572 00:34:39,500 --> 00:34:42,199 ourselves. It's so it's so weird. 573 00:34:42,199 --> 00:34:44,699 Yeah, from ourselves from society, from our family, from 574 00:34:44,699 --> 00:34:47,699 our friends, which is so ironic, because when we were younger, 575 00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:50,300 the last thing we want is permission, we want to just go 576 00:34:50,300 --> 00:34:53,500 do whatever the hell we want to, no matter if we get in trouble 577 00:34:53,500 --> 00:34:57,800 or not and we just don't care. And then talking about my sister 578 00:34:57,800 --> 00:35:03,100 and she was so funny as a little kid because she would ask. 579 00:35:03,100 --> 00:35:07,400 And then if the answer was No, she would do herself, she would 580 00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:10,600 do it anyway I need some more of that energy in my life. 581 00:35:11,500 --> 00:35:14,000 Yeah. So thinking with the mind of a 582 00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:17,400 seven-year-old can be helpful sometimes and especially have 583 00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:19,700 the knowledge of an adult because she got herself sent 584 00:35:19,700 --> 00:35:24,100 herself into some Tricky situations. 585 00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:30,900 I guess this is helpful for me when I'm facing a choice and my 586 00:35:30,900 --> 00:35:35,100 mind is getting all up in the details just to pull it back to 587 00:35:35,100 --> 00:35:39,300 does this sound fun? Yeah, well I enjoy this 588 00:35:39,300 --> 00:35:41,700 experience. Yes or no. 589 00:35:41,700 --> 00:35:45,700 And going with it that was a tangent on that one. 590 00:35:46,200 --> 00:35:48,300 Yeah, it's a good one now. Carly's gonna share. 591 00:35:48,300 --> 00:35:50,500 Number 10. Okay, I think this will be a 592 00:35:50,508 --> 00:35:54,800 good one to kind of Tidy up and close the conversation. 593 00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:58,600 But this is something that's really spoke to me the last. 594 00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:05,300 And then within the last 6 months now, probably is the time 595 00:36:05,300 --> 00:36:08,300 to go. It Alone is done. 596 00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:15,500 Like, I think for me, I can say I grew up And I picturing myself 597 00:36:15,900 --> 00:36:20,300 doing being like a badass bitch doing all the things being on my 598 00:36:20,300 --> 00:36:23,600 own doing my own thing and it's not that I can't do my own 599 00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:26,500 thing. I want to do my own thing but I 600 00:36:26,500 --> 00:36:30,600 realized like I don't also want to do it alone like it's time 601 00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:35,500 for us to all just come together and create these beautiful 602 00:36:35,500 --> 00:36:39,500 things that are all pieces of each other's expression. 603 00:36:39,500 --> 00:36:43,400 It's like all pieces of the puzzle and yeah just like we 604 00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:45,900 are. Aren't meant to do it alone. 605 00:36:46,300 --> 00:36:50,200 When you start diving into, I want to say this work but the 606 00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:51,900 work is yourself. When you start expressing 607 00:36:51,900 --> 00:36:54,600 yourself and living more true to you. 608 00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:59,300 That impacts everyone around you and draws the community that is 609 00:36:59,300 --> 00:37:01,800 meant for you, that that will work. 610 00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:04,600 Best with you living out your authentic purpose. 611 00:37:05,300 --> 00:37:08,300 It just impacts everyone, it impacts the whole environment. 612 00:37:08,500 --> 00:37:12,100 It's like the this solo work has to do with your own self study 613 00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:14,700 but like that is not even All the work because of what you 614 00:37:14,707 --> 00:37:16,200 just said. I'm just going to kind of say in 615 00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:21,300 a different way. It's like our willingness to 616 00:37:21,500 --> 00:37:26,900 study ourselves and then Express Our Truth within us outwardly. 617 00:37:27,500 --> 00:37:30,600 Gives permission for all the people around you to do the 618 00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,300 same. And I think that is one of the 619 00:37:33,300 --> 00:37:36,900 biggest gifts, we can give Humanity, which is a gift that 620 00:37:36,900 --> 00:37:39,800 you give yourself first, and then that just naturally 621 00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:44,500 expresses itself outward. And I think that's, Beautiful. 622 00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:47,200 Mhm. And something to look out for 623 00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:50,700 that I've experienced. And then I've also through 624 00:37:50,700 --> 00:37:53,800 following other coaches and other people sharing their 625 00:37:53,800 --> 00:37:56,300 Journeys. I've seen that it's kind of a 626 00:37:56,300 --> 00:38:00,700 phase that you go through when you start diving into this and 627 00:38:00,700 --> 00:38:05,300 realizing your own potential and how great life can be that you 628 00:38:05,308 --> 00:38:06,900 want everyone else to feel it to you. 629 00:38:07,300 --> 00:38:11,800 And you can feel weird, like you're like you're separate 630 00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:13,600 suddenly from your family or your friends. 631 00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:17,000 Are you suddenly can't relate on the same things or you're not 632 00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:19,900 commiserating like you used to and you want everyone else to 633 00:38:19,900 --> 00:38:24,600 just feel what you feel, but the more you work on yourself and 634 00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:28,300 keep to yourself and just show up in that way, the more 635 00:38:28,300 --> 00:38:32,900 impactful it will be on them instead of forcing, or trying to 636 00:38:32,900 --> 00:38:34,900 explain what you're doing, and how great it is, and why they 637 00:38:34,900 --> 00:38:37,400 should do it too. Because I all happens in their 638 00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:41,300 own time and they will come ask you, it does, because it's like 639 00:38:41,300 --> 00:38:44,900 they see a change and that's So much more powerful than being 640 00:38:44,900 --> 00:38:46,900 told change. I mean, have you ever been told 641 00:38:46,900 --> 00:38:50,000 to do something? My instant, my initial instant 642 00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:54,700 reaction is like, okay no. But yeah I think another words 643 00:38:54,700 --> 00:38:58,600 to say what you just said to you is like I think this is a huge 644 00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:02,300 conversation. I've had with many people but we 645 00:39:02,300 --> 00:39:06,200 can when were exposed to something so beautiful the truth 646 00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:09,000 of ourselves and you know that different perspective on the 647 00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:13,700 world and all that stuff are like any training that shows you 648 00:39:13,700 --> 00:39:16,100 like I've even been careful about human design because I 649 00:39:16,100 --> 00:39:18,900 freaking love it but I realize I can overwhelm somebody so 650 00:39:18,900 --> 00:39:22,000 quickly. That's kind of like spiritual 651 00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:24,500 activism. Is super prevalent right now or 652 00:39:24,500 --> 00:39:27,700 like the preaching is or the like, yeah, I want to tell 653 00:39:27,700 --> 00:39:31,700 everybody about it and I've caught myself doing it so many 654 00:39:31,700 --> 00:39:36,600 times as I'm sure you have to Alexis, but it really is. 655 00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:41,200 Does the opposite it complete complete opposite of what we 656 00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:43,900 want? What we are in tension is, you 657 00:39:43,900 --> 00:39:45,500 know? And that's just something. 658 00:39:45,500 --> 00:39:48,400 Yeah, I like that. You said that because definitely 659 00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:52,200 something too. Watch out for mhm. 660 00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:56,700 And if you've listened to this whole episode and heard the 661 00:39:56,700 --> 00:39:59,800 beliefs that we've shared, this does not mean that you have to 662 00:39:59,800 --> 00:40:04,400 take them, you get to decide what works for you. 663 00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:07,900 If you heard something we said and your body is buzzing with 664 00:40:07,900 --> 00:40:09,000 that. Hell yes. 665 00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:11,900 Like I understand this, this resonates with me that feeling. 666 00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:15,300 By all means take it. If we said something in your, 667 00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:19,500 you feel that contraction in your body and you're like, I 668 00:40:19,500 --> 00:40:21,800 don't know. No, like really doesn't work for 669 00:40:21,800 --> 00:40:25,400 me. Go leave it, let it go, let it 670 00:40:25,400 --> 00:40:28,800 flow, throw it out the window. It might come back, you never 671 00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:29,700 know. Where am I now? 672 00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:33,500 What am I not your mind and you just need to do you? 673 00:40:35,100 --> 00:40:38,700 Yeah. But with anything in life, if it 674 00:40:38,700 --> 00:40:42,300 Vibes with you, take it, if it doesn't, leave it, it literally 675 00:40:42,300 --> 00:40:45,700 means nothing unless you make it mean something sure. 676 00:40:46,200 --> 00:40:48,500 No pressure. And if we're going to spiral, I 677 00:40:48,500 --> 00:40:50,500 also said you can't. Up. 678 00:40:50,700 --> 00:40:52,200 There's no such thing as coincidence. 679 00:40:52,300 --> 00:40:54,600 Nothing is personal. You can do hard things and your 680 00:40:54,600 --> 00:40:58,300 voice matters and you're wet. Your voice matters. 681 00:40:58,500 --> 00:41:02,700 Oh, I heard something. Hey, I thought you said your 682 00:41:02,700 --> 00:41:05,000 boyfriend matters, like subconscious. 683 00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:06,400 Are you trying to tell me something? 684 00:41:06,900 --> 00:41:08,700 What do you mean? Why have I been ignoring you? 685 00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:14,500 I think I speak for both of us. When I say that human design has 686 00:41:14,500 --> 00:41:17,900 had a huge impact. We didn't bring up any beliefs 687 00:41:17,900 --> 00:41:19,800 or shifts in this about human design. 688 00:41:19,900 --> 00:41:23,100 And because not everybody has accessed that yet, but you sure 689 00:41:23,100 --> 00:41:26,100 can. If you DM us, yeah, we would 690 00:41:26,100 --> 00:41:29,700 love to teach you about it. But I think I speak for both of 691 00:41:29,700 --> 00:41:30,900 us. When I say that learning to 692 00:41:30,900 --> 00:41:35,700 follow our human design strategy and authority and understanding 693 00:41:35,700 --> 00:41:41,500 the questions to ask are open centers and our chart have been 694 00:41:41,600 --> 00:41:48,300 so helpful, understanding the easiest and most fluid way for 695 00:41:48,300 --> 00:41:51,000 you to move through your life, with your Strategy and Authority 696 00:41:51,000 --> 00:41:56,800 is game-changing. Hmm I feel so much more relaxed 697 00:41:56,800 --> 00:42:00,800 just knowing that I have a method for operating in life and 698 00:42:00,800 --> 00:42:03,700 every single decision I'm like I know what I'm going to do. 699 00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:08,500 I'm still figuring it out well also for me I am in the middle 700 00:42:08,500 --> 00:42:12,400 of decision right now that I'm like oh this is a good test 3 701 00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:14,600 test maybe we'll talk about it on the next episode. 702 00:42:14,600 --> 00:42:16,300 We will because you have to decide. 703 00:42:16,700 --> 00:42:20,300 Hmm. So everyone tune in for the next 704 00:42:20,300 --> 00:42:23,800 solo episode that we have in a couple weeks because their 705 00:42:23,800 --> 00:42:26,100 hangers Cliffhangers. Yeah, let's start leaving 706 00:42:26,100 --> 00:42:30,800 Cliffhangers about a real life, but if you enjoyed this episode, 707 00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:33,700 please as always give us a rating and review it really 708 00:42:33,700 --> 00:42:38,800 helps this podcast, get spread through the algorithm of 709 00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:43,500 technology to the people that maybe would like to hear it and 710 00:42:43,800 --> 00:42:47,600 grow as a community brings in more friends and yeah. 711 00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:50,500 The more the merrier. Here's another really awful. 712 00:42:50,500 --> 00:42:52,300 Closing ending. Okay, thanks.