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Welcome back to another episode 
of the Let It Flow podcast. 

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We're so excited. 
We are here with Laura. 

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She was one of our trainers 
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people that we met on our 
coaching Journey. 

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So she's the one that introduced
an LP and certified Us in like 

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and success coaching. 
And I've just always loved her 

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energy. 
Carly. 

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I know you do too. 
Yeah. 

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And very much do I could listen 
Into her talk forever. 

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She has the most relaxing voice.
So, you're in for a treat, here 

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is a little intro to Cara. 
She is a certified master and 

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trainer of NLP, hypnosis EFT and
time techniques. 

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She is certified in somatic 
embodied processing holds. 

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A first-class be a honors degree
in social sciences and Community

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Development and has years of 
experience training and 

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certifying coaches in her 
one-on-one practice. 

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She helps Powerhouse women 
achieve more without all the 

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stress and ID and overwhelm. 
She works with her clients to 

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let go of subconscious blocks, 
and invite more joy, ease and 

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freedom into their lives and 
businesses through nervous 

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system. 
Regulation somatic, practices 

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and subconscious reprogramming. 
She helps her clients release, 

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the shoulds that field raining 
work through internal triggers 

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around worthiness and allow more
of their unfiltered truth and 

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Essence into their work. 
So, welcome Cara. 

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How are you? 
Hey, I'm excited. 

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I'm I've been waiting for this 
day to be on. 

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You guys is podcasts. 
So I'm happy to be here because,

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yeah, it's been like the third 
reschedule. 

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Sorry, I really know it. 
It is all good. 

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We're so excited to have you 
here today to talk about 

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everything that you stand for, 
and it's a lot of embodiment 

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practice, right? 
And we were a part of your 

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sacred. 
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Program, back in this past 
summer, I think and I love that 

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the amount of That happen within
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incredible. 
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I was just so grateful to have 
you guys on especially as I 

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think Alexis you were on at like
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You woke up every Saturday for 
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And now it's so good to hear 
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It really, really helped you. 
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mean, when we will probably get 
into it, Bob you mentioned about

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embodiment because when I first 
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It was very much about what I 
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mindset thing. 
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not separate, they all feed into
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But as I've gone, along my 
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importance of the semantics and 
the body and the nervous system 

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and all those other things and 
how they all work together. 

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So yeah, sacred yes. 
Was all about using your voice 

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and that all comes down to the 
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And the fear that a lot of us 
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truth and to Really connect to 
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that be expressed through us. 
I know, from my story, this has 

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been one of the most difficult 
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challenge that I had was even 
just being able to use my voice 

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and believe that people cared 
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And that there was any value in 
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So that was a journey. 
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work with, who struggle with 
that, they, they experience it 

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in their body and they try to 
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because of something. 
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childhood or early life where 
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And as a result, their body went
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essentially and then it's like 
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That when I use my voice, people
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judged or rejected. 
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were told, you know, just speak 
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Just be your authentic self and 
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always work like that when 
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somatic. 
Rents that is impacting your 

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behavior. 
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along on that and just say one 
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this so many times Cara like 
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was your embodiment flows and 
how powerful those are because I

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think the mindset community in a
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We're beginning to move more 
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Society in general has been so 
we've all been so up in our 

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heads for a couple centuries. 
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at least for sure that half the 
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Revolution and everything it 
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head and so it's taken a while 
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body and I love what you said 
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know something, if your body 
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something still stuck in your 
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know. 
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of the underlying Control of how
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Mmm. 
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And I think I always do the 
example comes to me of when say,

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someone went into the deceive, 
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something and then they come 
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And then a couple weeks later, 
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like you have a limiting belief 
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Just get back in there and swim 
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just look how the Sun is on his,
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No matter how many affirmations 
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as affirmations can be. 
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If they've had that lived 
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that, something isn't safe, then
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within their body, right? 
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are then disconnected and we 
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We are do we live in a 
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Because what always on the go. 
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much just always trying to 
achieve which I always say isn't

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a bad thing but we get into that
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Just how do I make it happen? 
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Almost like how body is a 
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body needs rest or water, or 
it's like that's annoying 

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because it's stopping me from 
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want to do. 
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is going to feed into your 
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that you want to do and also 
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A lot of the shame that 
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mindset can have because, for 
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analogy of the person in the, 
see if we then say you just have

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a limiting belief. 
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it. 
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that can create a lot of blame 
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not understanding that they've 
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So I think, when we start with 
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a great place to start because a
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mindset shifts? 
A lot of things but then it will

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start to bring up a lot of 
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And that's when it's like, okay 
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the things that might be stored 
the energy, the emotions that we

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never process because we always 
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how to Is this our emotions? 
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like there's a little bit more 
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And also a lot less shame of 
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and telling ourselves that we 
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The reason why everything is not
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that we have the power to shift 
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But also, we've got understand 
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being here right now. 
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but understanding that there's 
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experiences that impact your 
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It's just one hardwired for 
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Yeah, there's a lot of messaging
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coaching and manifestation of 
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what you want to attract, which 
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But then if you do have that 
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Shark in the Water, you 
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event, and you're like, okay, 
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forget that that happened. 
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all a mad, like, in Imagination.
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go now but you've been reliving 
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the shark once you've 
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times in your head and that also
builds up in your mind and I can

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see where that gets can bring on
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manifesting what I want because 
I'm holding on to this thing and

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I don't want it anymore but I 
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go. 
And I feel shitty about it and I

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don't even know where to start 
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helplessness feeling of Of, 
where do I go from here? 

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Hmm. 
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And the thing is like, with that
manifestation like I believe we 

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all have the power to, but I 
think that there's just if you 

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do feel like something is 
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it's like what's deeper Beyond? 
Just saying the thing or trying 

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to do all the mindset work, 
there may be something living in

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the body that is asking. 
You to see it. 

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I always say as well, these 
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have even things like, anxiety, 
that feeling is just an energy 

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that trying to tell you 
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So it really is just about 
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Understanding it a bit more and 
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well. 
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put in a bracket as of these are
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high Vibe and high energy and 
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But the more we allow space. 
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emotions, then we don't see them
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and let them do their thing. 
Let them say to us what they 

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need to say, and they will move 
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never let the energy or the 
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So learning how to work with our
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clear, clear, some of that 
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So So that we can manifest the 
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the mindset and a frame of mine,
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Why? 

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Like, you know, we skip to the 
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When we haven't worked through 
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staying stagnant. 
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Well and it's interesting too 
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it kind of really sounds like 
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I was going to say that I loved 
how you were using they when 

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talking about emotions and kind 
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because I wanted the things, I 
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Understand myself, better and 
work through things that come up

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is Detaching myself from the 
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defining who I am or defining my
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ignoring them, that's something,
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like, oh wow, this anxiety is 
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Interesting, what is this about?
What is this telling me our oh 

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wow, that person really pissed 
me off, like, oh my god, when I 

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was in Rome, we were getting a 
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And this guy was just being so 
rude to me. 

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And luckily, you know, I 
speaking of a time that I could 

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kind of, you know, hold my own a
little bit, I was perfectly 

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fine, but he really made me mad 
and I took a minute after that 

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happened and I was like, okay, 
wow, what about that? 

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Really made me frustrated and 
doing that? 

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It allows you in my opinion to 
really notice how you're 

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interacting Actions with people 
like, yeah, he could have been 

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nicer, you know, but it's more 
about your perspective and how 

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you were interacting with your 
world around you, which really 

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can be hard to admit, but it's 
also so empowering so empowering

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and then it gives you the tools 
to like through and I'll pee 

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through embodiment flows through
so many things to use those to 

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grow. 
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Because what am I you said about
feeling frustrated? 

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It's like think about when were 
younger and just how many 

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emotions are just shot down. 
It's like, Just stop, don't be 

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angry. 
Don't cry. 

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Don't this this this and then 
when were adults the reason why 

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we like, for example seeing that
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than you were able to see it and
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Instead of thinking I'm about, 
this is bad and that's what I 

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mean about. 
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on emotions, it's like, I'm 
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This is really bad. 
I'm just an angry person. 

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I need to be more positive, or 
I'm frustrated. 

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This is bad. 
I need to get high. 

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If there's moments where is 
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you to just shift quickly out of
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it's also about once we just see
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just need to have a moment like 
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when we suppress them we 

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actually still live out of them 
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We think that were no longer 
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we're living out of this caged 
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let free and sometimes it's 
about letting it free in the 

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most healthy contained way. 
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frustration, it's like, how can 
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body? 
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embodiment flows, or some sort 
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release. 
You're not going to necessarily 

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punch someone in the face. 
You're going to go and do it in 

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your own time. 
But, you know, that's just an 

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example of not letting it stay 
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Yeah, I think about little kids 
and how naturally they just they

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scream or they cry or they throw
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They don't care. 
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at me though is that we have 
this were born with this innate 

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knowing that we matter like he 
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hungry. 
It matters when he's sad, it 

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matters. 
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we get that taken away from us 
and we no longer believe our 

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need matter. 
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Even to the point where we 
internalize that and we neglect 

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and ignore our own needs because
we some how get programmed to 

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believe that it doesn't matter. 
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when you come into this world 
you just think I'm here for my 

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needs to be met and it's so 
interesting seeing it. 

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My mom was talks about it as 
like babies are like baby of any

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creature is very similar. 
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concept of When everything 
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everything is like, you need 
everything. 

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And then such an example of two,
just like that circle of life 

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and how we in a natural and open
way not how our society has done

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it. 
But it's like that circle of 

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life, you know? 
Like and it's normal and it's 

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how we learn and really create 
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that is just stomped on some How
like you said somewhere along 

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the way and I think it's 
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on where it happens, / culture, 
but it's like, when did that 

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start? 
This question, I have that's 

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been lingering kind of goes 
along with that. 

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And I'd love to ask you cara, 
because before this, I asked you

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your human design and you said 
you're a 46 sacral generator. 

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And it's okay. 
You don't have to know all the 

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details of what that means. 
But the 46 Is the archetype of 

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the influencer and the details 
of that mean that you attract 

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Community naturally. 
That's the for, it's the social 

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and just people being drawn to 
your insights and wanting to ask

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you questions, like, just 
knowing that you have something 

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that they can benefit from and 
they might see you as someone 

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with guidance. 
And then the six Carly has a six

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in her profile and that one 
changes every 30 years. 

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So it actually operates as a 
three through the first 30 years

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of your life where you're Just 
trying a whole bunch of things 

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and learning and it's like, pick
up a hobby. 

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Do I like it? 
Do I not put it down like fail? 

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Pick up, keep going, try and 
learn and so then the four and 

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six interact with like you have 
all of this experience and 

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people are drawn to learn from 
you through that experience. 

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So I'd love to know what was 
kind of your turning point. 

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I think, you know where this 
question is going like, where 

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you found out that? 
I guess these somatic practice 

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has helped so much or that you 
Something to release or what, 

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what happened? 
That got you on to this journey 

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and specifically these 
techniques that you use? 

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Hmm, good question. 
And first of all, I resonate to 

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the whole picking up a hobby, 
dropping it feeling like I'm 

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failing, like, I don't know what
to do with my life. 

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I was like the first hole, 
probably 30 years to be honest 

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of my life. 
I did like hair was really good 

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at, like, camera and hair and 
stuff. 

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Then I went into a deny just 
under so many different things 

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to be honest. 
So yeah, that was, that was a 

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little HD reading there for me. 
I think I got to the point where

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I was trying to fix myself so 
much and it just was like, every

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time, something else came up. 
I was like, I've tried to fix 

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this. 
I've tried to do mindset work, 

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I'm always seeking the answers. 
I'm always looking for a savior 

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and always looking for someone 
to tell me, this is how you are 

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going to be. 
This perfect human because my 

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perfectionism was coming into my
self development. 

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It was like, I need to get to 
this perfect place and then I'll

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be valuable and I will have 
important things to say and 

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people will learn from it. 
Like, you know what you're 

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saying, about the profile. 
I didn't see that in myself at 

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all. 
I'm more. 

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Sorry, as I have to get to a 
certain point like a pedestal 

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that I had everyone else on. 
I was waiting for the day, I got

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there so that I could be 
valuable. 

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And then I actually it was Tori.
Washington, actually she's on 

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Instagram. 
She does a lot of like 

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embodiment stuff around money 
and that's the first time when I

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really started thinking, wow, so
money isn't just about your 

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thoughts about your nervous 
system, your generational 

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trauma, and I thought about my 
generational Trauma from like my

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lineage of how hard my my 
ancestors had to work too, you 

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know. 
How much pain and suffering was 

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in the work and how that can 
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And then the generational 
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that never felt safe. 
I thought. 

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Wow, definitely I can see why I 
would, you know, that might that

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might have impacted me and how I
feel when I go to use my voice 

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or how much I believe, I have to
work so hard to prove myself and

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all of those things. 
And yeah, then I started doing 

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some different flows and things 
like that and I was like, yeah, 

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this is something. 
This gives me something that the

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mindset work alone didn't give 
me. 

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I was at a point I'd done like 
years of mindset work and I was 

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just like, but the thing is, it 
was more about. 

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I was tired of feeling like I am
problematic and I need fixing 

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the big, big thing for me, has 
been on a shaming, my emotions 

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and not seeing them as something
that I need. 

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To fix because it's just so 
freeing doesn't mean we, you 

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know, just I always have this 
conversation with some of my 

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family that don't get it. 
They're always like, you can't 

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just express your emotions in 
every moment and I'm like, 

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that's not what I'm trying to 
say. 

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I'm not saying just Do you just 
do whatever you want. 

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But yeah that's how I got into 
this somatic work and working 

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with my nervous system because 
as well, I was living out of 

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anxiety. 
I would wake up every morning. 

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I Like this pit got feeling in 
my stomach. 

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I would feel like I need to be 
proactive and need to be 

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productive. 
I would feel really guilty when 

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I was resting. 
I'd feel really bad if I wasn't 

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doing things and it became so 
tiring to live out of that hyper

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aroused State. 
And that wasn't just the mind, 

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there was definitely beliefs in 
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But that was because my nervous 
system was constantly in a state

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of hyper arousal. 
And I never knew how to shut 

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down my body stress response. 
It's wind down and down 

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regulate. 
So then I was never regulated so

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I hope that answers your 
question. 

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But yeah, it was through that. 
It was actually also through 

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learning because I'm, I think, 
education can be empowering and 

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itself, not just tools and 
techniques, but understanding 

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something, and then really 
letting that sink in it just 

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gives you the awareness that you
didn't have before and then you 

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start to understand your body a 
bit more and then you're not 

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trying to always Fix things 
through my network, you're 

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trying to listen to your body. 
You'll note like for example, 

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that anxiety is like I notice it
now. 

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I notice it, I see it. 
I feel it. 

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I know where it is in my body, 
whereas before I just try to 

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push through push through the 
exhausted and push through the 

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anxiety. 
So I don't know if there was a 

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specific moment but I think it 
was more through. 

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Yeah, Finding Dory Washington 
and them learning more about the

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nervous system and then I just 
went into a rabbit hole and was 

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like, I love this stuff. 
This is exactly what I've been 

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looking for. 
So generator of you. 

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Yeah, yeah, doing what lights 
you up and I really want to see 

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your whole chart actually 
because some of the things you 

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said in there, I was like, 
that's identity Center. 

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That's the willpower Center. 
I'm like, ooh, I would love to 

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see the whole thing but that 
Sacred Book of reading with you,

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Alexis would love it. 
Carly and I are both going 

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through training right now, so 
he's like eight weeks ahead. 

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Me those. 
Yeah, yeah, I'm obsessed with 

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it. 
Human design has been that 

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rabbit hole for me but that 
sacral, since your generator 

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cycle generator, I know that's 
defined and the, the not sell 

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for the misaligned. 
The move. 

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That is a, my dedicating my 
energy to things that actually 

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matter, or am I like spreading 
it out? 

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Like, do I know when enough is 
enough? 

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And so that's very much what you
described with having that 

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anxiety and just like, not 
knowing, And like overexerting 

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yourself and yeah. 
So very, very interesting. 

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I think with Jenna is, as well 
as in it, that you will know. 

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When something isn't letting you
up, you're supposed to follow 

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the path of your joy, which I 
wasn't doing. 

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And it was depleting me. 
Completely trying to put my 

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energy into things that don't 
don't feel me and then I would 

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just go through life feeling 
just completely drained. 

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So, now, I'm very aware of what 
I say. 

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Yes to What type of like, for 
example, if I'm going to do a 

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program a group program or teach
something it's like, does this 

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like me up? 
Is this something I want to do 

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otherwise at the end of it, I'm 
just going to feel like I poured

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from an empty cup. 
So even listening to what lights

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you up, takes takes you starting
to know yourself a bit more and 

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four. 
Generators. 

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The descriptive terms are like 
glittery, like you think light 

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and bright and magnetic and 
generators are meant to respond 

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to things. 
So you Naturally bring the 

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opportunities to you and being a
46. 

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Like the community that is meant
to hear from. 

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You is just going to come to 
you. 

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And you might not know where 
they come from, they might fall 

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out of the sky. 
They might say hi to 

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supermarket. 
But, like you're drawing these 

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people to you, and they don't 
even know why they're talking to

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you. 
But that you have something that

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is attracting them and then it's
up to you to say yes, no, yes, 

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no. 
And follow that. 

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Hell, yes. 
Because when you're doing things

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that you really love, it gives 
you more energy to keep doing 

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it. 
Yeah, definitely I definitely 

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feel that. 
It's like that. 

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Sacral it like I know when it's 
a no and it's just about me 

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listening to it because 
sometimes I get, I've ignored it

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before and it's never ends up. 
Well, it's like follow that. 

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Sacral got know that you get 
immediately. 

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I get it. 
I sense it. 

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And soon as I ignore it is 
almost like, I forget that. 

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I felt it. 
That's how quick it comes and 

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goes. 
So it's like you have a split 

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second almost to choose Used to 
listen to it, because if I 

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ignore it, I I forget that it 
ever told me know until it's 

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till it's late and I'm like, oh 
yeah, should have listened. 

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Looks what's happening now? 
I'm like oh yeah, I remember my 

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body. 
Telling me something about this.

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It's so funny because no matter 
what type you are in human 

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design. 
I think everyone can agree that 

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you've had an experience where 
something happens in your like I

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knew Ooh it. 
I knew that was a bad idea. 

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I knew that was going to happen 
and that's when you're not 

451
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:25,700
following whatever Authority you
have. 

452
00:25:25,700 --> 00:25:28,400
There's I think seven different 
authorities that somebody could 

453
00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:32,200
have but it's always that 
feeling like ah I should have 

454
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:36,000
listened but yeah sometimes you 
don't and that's okay. 

455
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:38,000
And you're supposed to 
experience those parts to 

456
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:41,900
because that teaches you again 
and brings you back it, expands 

457
00:25:41,900 --> 00:25:44,300
something in you. 
But I think everything that is a

458
00:25:44,300 --> 00:25:48,000
challenge and a regret or 
something that you thought, I 

459
00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:50,400
shouldn't have done that. 
When you look back, Can you 

460
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:54,100
think about what expanded in you
it was meant to be? 

461
00:25:54,300 --> 00:25:58,200
It was meant to expand that 
thing, whatever lesson, whatever

462
00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:00,800
growth you've got from the 
lesson, you wouldn't have got 

463
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:04,500
without it, so then you're like,
okay, the universe still do this

464
00:26:04,500 --> 00:26:08,600
thing regardless? 
Yeah, I relate to that so much. 

465
00:26:08,600 --> 00:26:11,800
Just this past year. 
And I know I speak of my 

466
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:14,500
authority. 
I'm emotional thority in human 

467
00:26:14,500 --> 00:26:19,100
design, and I'm really learning 
how that works for me. 

468
00:26:19,100 --> 00:26:22,200
And For me, I'm seeing it right 
now. 

469
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:29,200
Is like, I am so easily hyped up
and so easily excitable and if I

470
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:34,100
say yes, in that excitement and 
I don't ride out, the kind of 

471
00:26:34,100 --> 00:26:40,100
wave of my emotions. 
Same, even it's like even if it 

472
00:26:40,100 --> 00:26:43,800
would have been the right 
decision, if I don't write it 

473
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:46,600
out through that, I can always 
question, I always questioned it

474
00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:50,700
like oh shoot did I just get 
excited for it and I would say 

475
00:26:50,700 --> 00:26:52,700
like this past year was a little
bit of that. 

476
00:26:52,700 --> 00:26:56,000
Like I don't regret what doing 
the training. 

477
00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:59,300
I don't regret any of it. 
Because I learned so much and I 

478
00:26:59,308 --> 00:27:05,000
know it's coming back around and
I know knowing a tool like NLP, 

479
00:27:05,100 --> 00:27:10,400
is it mean it really truly has 
changed the way that I 

480
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:14,600
communicate with people and also
communicate with myself, but I 

481
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:17,600
really very much like, Alexis at
the beginning of the year you 

482
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:21,000
were here and I think I was 
excited about It it, but it was,

483
00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:23,800
it's my energy. 
I feel like it's kind of fluid 

484
00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:26,800
like that, like, I just kind of 
like, oh, got excited with you. 

485
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:30,600
And then it was like, oh, like 
big and beautiful, and exciting.

486
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:34,300
And I said, yes. 
And I loved it, but then 

487
00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:38,400
actually, I can kind of 
Pinpoint. 

488
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:42,300
When you hosted your sacred? 
Yes, it was the first time that 

489
00:27:42,300 --> 00:27:47,600
I had taken a breath almost. 
And been like, what have I been 

490
00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:50,700
doing this year? 
So far, learning so much 

491
00:27:50,700 --> 00:27:54,000
knowledge is like, you never 
regret gaining knowledge because

492
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:58,600
knowledge is amazing, but I had 
that was when I started 

493
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:04,100
realizing I had been Kind of 
forcing things and forcing 

494
00:28:04,300 --> 00:28:11,900
myself expression into kind of 
like a one little Street and 

495
00:28:11,900 --> 00:28:15,500
that kind of, yeah, I thought 
that was kind of the start, the 

496
00:28:15,500 --> 00:28:19,600
shift of my awareness, a little 
bit, and the last, like, six 

497
00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:23,000
months, especially of last year,
it was kind of like whoa. 

498
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:29,100
And it really made me realize 
that like it's so important to 

499
00:28:29,300 --> 00:28:32,900
take those moments too. 
Breathe and to just be still. 

500
00:28:32,900 --> 00:28:36,900
And I think this also depends on
your design a little bit to, for

501
00:28:36,900 --> 00:28:40,600
me, as an emotional Authority. 
Like it's very important for me 

502
00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:44,400
to be still and for me 
meditation really helps, but for

503
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:47,500
another person, it could be 
something else because I am. 

504
00:28:47,500 --> 00:28:51,400
I'm so easily hyped and so 
easily like, oh yes, what are we

505
00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:52,400
doing? 
What are we doing? 

506
00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:55,500
And then realized, wow, I had 
completely ignored parts of 

507
00:28:55,500 --> 00:28:59,900
myself and there were things in 
my body that were still not 

508
00:29:00,100 --> 00:29:02,400
being addressed. 
Just Mmm. 

509
00:29:03,300 --> 00:29:07,500
What do you do now to what does 
the emotional wave look like as 

510
00:29:07,500 --> 00:29:10,000
in do sleep on it? 
Or what do you have to do to 

511
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:12,700
honestly, I'm still figuring it 
out. 

512
00:29:14,100 --> 00:29:18,900
It's like I mean sometimes big 
decisions we've laughed about 

513
00:29:18,900 --> 00:29:23,500
this Alexis and I but like 
sometimes it can be like up to a

514
00:29:23,500 --> 00:29:27,200
week like I just big things. 
I just really need to sit on 

515
00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:30,500
them and really have that 
natural flow and I'm learning. 

516
00:29:30,600 --> 00:29:36,400
And I had a reading done last 
year and she said for a lot of 

517
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:40,100
emotional authorities, plus I'm 
a manifest and manifest. 

518
00:29:40,100 --> 00:29:42,700
There's also have this like 
natural flow as well when they 

519
00:29:42,700 --> 00:29:45,900
are super creative and like 
inspired and downloading and 

520
00:29:45,900 --> 00:29:50,400
then you have to rest. 
And so the emotional on top of 

521
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:55,400
that she's like sometimes people
find that their cycle is two 

522
00:29:55,400 --> 00:30:00,500
weeks and so I'm really figuring
that out but it's like fine. 

523
00:30:00,700 --> 00:30:06,000
In that level of neutrality, 
where I'm not super attached to 

524
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:12,200
it anymore, like it's still kind
of excites me, but it's not like

525
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:14,900
taking me over if that makes 
sense. 

526
00:30:15,300 --> 00:30:18,700
Mmm, so interesting because as 
everyone has different ways, 

527
00:30:18,700 --> 00:30:22,800
don't man, it is really about 
us, learning our own weight in 

528
00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:25,900
order for us. 
That's going back to when we all

529
00:30:25,900 --> 00:30:28,800
have done it, right. 
We've all just sort education 

530
00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:32,700
all the time and wanted so So 
much information which is great.

531
00:30:32,700 --> 00:30:37,600
But then getting to know 
yourself is a self job. 

532
00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:43,700
Like it's an internal job. 
It's really there is no workbook

533
00:30:43,700 --> 00:30:45,600
that just makes you. 
Oh I know myself. 

534
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:49,200
Now I know that I need to and it
comes from making mistakes, 

535
00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:52,200
quote, unquote, mistakes and 
quote unquote, feeling and doing

536
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:55,300
things that you kind of regret 
for you to realize. 

537
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:59,800
So for you to really go back and
know that How can I do it 

538
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:02,300
differently or how can I follow 
my truth more? 

539
00:31:02,300 --> 00:31:05,800
How can I listen to my gut? 
And my instinct and it's a 

540
00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:08,100
journey. 
Yeah, and I've been telling 

541
00:31:08,100 --> 00:31:11,500
people kind of laughing about 
it, but I'm like, no, seriously,

542
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:15,600
the last few months 
specifically, I'm like, I am in 

543
00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:19,700
self-study. 
I am literally studying myself 

544
00:31:19,700 --> 00:31:24,200
and that is the most invaluable 
Priceless thing that we can do. 

545
00:31:24,500 --> 00:31:28,200
And it's, again, it's not easy, 
and it looks different for 

546
00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:31,300
everybody. 
And having the tools that we've 

547
00:31:31,300 --> 00:31:37,600
all been talking about are so so
important because it can be 

548
00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:42,300
really like you gotta go into 
the kind of the dark depths of 

549
00:31:42,300 --> 00:31:46,800
who you are and work it out that
way, but it's beautiful. 

550
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:50,600
And then you understand so much 
more how you interact with the 

551
00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:53,500
world and interact with choices,
that arise interact with other 

552
00:31:53,500 --> 00:31:57,200
people. 
But yeah, it's hard to do 

553
00:31:57,200 --> 00:32:03,600
because in our society T. 
We are taught to go do it. 

554
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:05,700
Oh, what papers do you have to 
your name? 

555
00:32:05,700 --> 00:32:07,500
What are you doing? 
What are you making? 

556
00:32:07,500 --> 00:32:10,200
Are you like full? 
Well, this questions. 

557
00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:13,000
But truly the most invaluable 
thing is something that nobody 

558
00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:17,400
else can see. 
They can see the after effects 

559
00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:21,200
kind of of it. 
But all of that work inside, you

560
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:23,800
don't others, don't know. 
No one will ever know. 

561
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:27,600
You can maybe understand what a 
person's going through if 

562
00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:29,800
they're in that time as well, if
you've done it as well. 

563
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:35,100
But it's yeah, it can be tough 
but it's so beautiful. 

564
00:32:35,900 --> 00:32:37,700
Yeah. 
And so with it. 

565
00:32:38,300 --> 00:32:43,900
Yes, it really is, there's a 
million different techniques. 

566
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:48,500
And I've been in a learning 
phase the past year and absorb 

567
00:32:48,500 --> 00:32:50,800
so much information. 
I'm constantly reading, I just 

568
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:56,800
opened a workbook on ayurveda as
if I need another topic to dive 

569
00:32:56,800 --> 00:33:00,800
down the rabbit hole on. 
But what What would you suggest 

570
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:04,200
to somebody that's interested in
getting into these somatic 

571
00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:05,900
techniques? 
Maybe they've read a bunch of 

572
00:33:05,908 --> 00:33:09,000
mindset books there in that 
phase of, I'm reading all this 

573
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:10,700
stuff. 
But nothing is happening for me 

574
00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:13,400
and I'm ready to try something 
new. 

575
00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:17,300
Of course, they can work with 
you directly or hire a coach or 

576
00:33:17,300 --> 00:33:20,700
invest themselves in that way. 
But if somebody were just alone 

577
00:33:20,700 --> 00:33:24,500
in their bedroom like me right 
now, what could I do after this 

578
00:33:24,500 --> 00:33:28,100
call, that would be beneficial 
to me or be a good place to 

579
00:33:28,100 --> 00:33:32,400
start. 
Well, I think introducing just 

580
00:33:32,400 --> 00:33:34,800
movement, however, your body 
wants to move. 

581
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:38,900
It could be like feel how you're
feeling if you can not everyone 

582
00:33:38,900 --> 00:33:42,900
can immediately connect to the 
senses of the body because we've

583
00:33:42,900 --> 00:33:44,900
been so disconnected for so 
long. 

584
00:33:45,100 --> 00:33:50,300
But I would say in the most 
loving gentle and non-judgmental

585
00:33:50,300 --> 00:33:55,800
way, just start to. 
I think that means come out for 

586
00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:58,900
me here which is, first of all, 
what are you believing these 

587
00:33:58,900 --> 00:34:02,100
fixing about you? 
Because a lot of times, I guess,

588
00:34:02,100 --> 00:34:05,000
what energy are you going about 
the mindset work from initially,

589
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:07,900
because NLP and everything? 
I love mindset works, I don't 

590
00:34:07,900 --> 00:34:11,000
want it to seem like I don't, 
it's just what energy are you 

591
00:34:11,007 --> 00:34:13,400
going about it from? 
If you feel like you are 

592
00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:18,199
constantly seeking to be fixed, 
really identify that? 

593
00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:21,199
What is it that you're telling 
yourself about yourself that 

594
00:34:21,199 --> 00:34:22,900
needs fixing? 
Because that's always good. 

595
00:34:22,900 --> 00:34:26,800
You're never going to feel like 
you get the answers if you're 

596
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:30,699
always seeking more answers, 
that's why Always going to be 

597
00:34:30,699 --> 00:34:33,800
studying the next course, and 
buying the next thing and did it

598
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:37,900
at, right? 
So as a, as a, you know, these 

599
00:34:37,900 --> 00:34:41,900
things that we do on their own, 
there's nothing wrong with them,

600
00:34:42,100 --> 00:34:44,600
it's more about understanding 
what's driving it. 

601
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:47,699
So if there's a drive that 
you're always going to need 

602
00:34:47,699 --> 00:34:50,699
fixing and who you are is not 
enough, then nothing's ever 

603
00:34:50,699 --> 00:34:53,500
going to be enough, right? 
So start with that because that 

604
00:34:53,500 --> 00:34:56,400
is kind of mindset work. 
Then start to just bring 

605
00:34:56,400 --> 00:34:59,700
awareness to how you feel 
sometimes and then bring in some

606
00:34:59,700 --> 00:35:00,300
more. 
Movement. 

607
00:35:00,300 --> 00:35:03,800
So you're feeling frustrated, 
how would, if that frustration? 

608
00:35:03,900 --> 00:35:06,100
This is the part of and shaming,
right? 

609
00:35:06,300 --> 00:35:11,700
If that frustration, you didn't 
see it as bad, right? 

610
00:35:12,100 --> 00:35:15,100
And you uncensored it, because 
shame sensors. 

611
00:35:15,100 --> 00:35:17,900
Shame says, we can only do this 
in a small way. 

612
00:35:17,900 --> 00:35:20,600
Don't move too much. 
Don't, listen, how would it want

613
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:25,100
to just move through your body 
and just give yourself even 1 

614
00:35:25,100 --> 00:35:29,400
minute 2 minutes, just to let 
whatever your body is feeling. 

615
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:32,100
Do its thing. 
Even if you're feeling like 

616
00:35:32,100 --> 00:35:37,100
stressed or sad, or just let 
that emotion connect to it, and 

617
00:35:37,200 --> 00:35:42,500
move, and bring in some movement
in your life, whether it be 

618
00:35:42,500 --> 00:35:45,700
dancing, or just whatever, I let
your body do its thing for 

619
00:35:45,700 --> 00:35:46,900
about. 
I think that's the place to 

620
00:35:46,900 --> 00:35:50,100
start awareness. 
And then, I would say after that

621
00:35:50,100 --> 00:35:55,100
start to understand a little bit
about the nervous system and 

622
00:35:55,500 --> 00:35:59,700
what your window of tolerances, 
meaning know, once you start to 

623
00:35:59,700 --> 00:36:03,200
learn Learn about it. 
Your capacity is when you meet, 

624
00:36:03,200 --> 00:36:05,400
when you get to the threshold, 
right? 

625
00:36:05,400 --> 00:36:08,500
And then you go into a hyper 
aroused State, you start, you 

626
00:36:08,500 --> 00:36:11,700
know, what's going on. 
So, instead of ignoring it now, 

627
00:36:11,700 --> 00:36:16,800
you know, I'm at my capacity, 
how can I return to safety? 

628
00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:21,800
So it's all about safety, 
bringing in a sense of safety. 

629
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:25,600
So, when you feel that anxiety 
or you feel that you're at your 

630
00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:29,500
threshold reminding yourself. 
That is safe, I'm safe and doing

631
00:36:29,500 --> 00:36:31,200
whatever. 
Ever, you need in that moment to

632
00:36:31,200 --> 00:36:35,400
bring yourself back to a safety,
a feeling of safety, it doesn't,

633
00:36:35,500 --> 00:36:40,300
you know, it takes a little bit 
of practice and it's an ongoing 

634
00:36:40,300 --> 00:36:44,300
thing, but whenever were in 
those hyper arousal States is 

635
00:36:44,300 --> 00:36:47,000
all about, we don't feel safe. 
We feel like we need to get to 

636
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:48,700
that next thing. 
We need to get to that next 

637
00:36:48,700 --> 00:36:51,200
achievement because something 
was like we're running away from

638
00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:53,800
a bear. 
Like we're running to something,

639
00:36:54,600 --> 00:36:56,000
your body needs to know it's 
safe. 

640
00:36:56,600 --> 00:37:01,600
So small things too and you 
don't have to do big massive 

641
00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:06,200
practices it's reminding your 
body incremental, small things 

642
00:37:06,200 --> 00:37:09,100
which increases the window of 
tolerance so that you know. 

643
00:37:09,100 --> 00:37:11,600
Okay. 
Oh I can return to safety. 

644
00:37:12,500 --> 00:37:15,600
I'm not always going to have to 
be in the threshold and on the 

645
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:18,500
edge of my window of Tolerance. 
I can come back to safety. 

646
00:37:19,200 --> 00:37:24,300
Hopewell, what I find so funny 
that people don't talk about 

647
00:37:24,300 --> 00:37:26,200
more is that there's so many 
tools. 

648
00:37:26,300 --> 00:37:28,800
Tools out there. 
And when you're learning about 

649
00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:31,600
that you might want to try them 
all and stack them all up, and 

650
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:33,700
put them all into your morning 
routine, all into your evening 

651
00:37:33,700 --> 00:37:35,000
routine and I want to use 
crystals. 

652
00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:37,200
I need to meditate, I need to do
everything. 

653
00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:40,800
And so many people are doing 
things that they absolutely 

654
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:43,900
hate. 
And I compare this to the gym 

655
00:37:43,900 --> 00:37:47,200
because I found a love of 
weightlifting and that's the 

656
00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:51,200
type of exercise I love and I 
still felt like I need to do the

657
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:53,100
StairMaster everyday. 
I need to run. 

658
00:37:53,300 --> 00:37:57,900
I need to do x y z and That 
would make me hate going to the 

659
00:37:57,908 --> 00:37:59,500
gym. 
So therefore I wouldn't move at 

660
00:37:59,500 --> 00:38:02,000
all because I was trying to 
force myself to do movement that

661
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:06,600
I hate and I think as the same 
advice, I would give to somebody

662
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:09,500
for all of these practices to 
just do what resonates with you 

663
00:38:09,500 --> 00:38:13,100
do what you love and they can 
and will change over time. 

664
00:38:13,400 --> 00:38:17,300
And I personally have not gotten
super into yoga. 

665
00:38:17,300 --> 00:38:20,300
I did, when I was in Italy, I 
loved it with Carly and then I 

666
00:38:20,300 --> 00:38:22,200
came home and I kind of dropped 
off of it again. 

667
00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:25,800
And that's okay, not shaming 
Myself by saying man, I'm a 

668
00:38:25,808 --> 00:38:27,300
failure. 
Because I didn't get up and do 

669
00:38:27,300 --> 00:38:30,700
yoga this morning and I'm 
finding the practices that work 

670
00:38:30,700 --> 00:38:35,100
for me instead of forcing myself
and making myself hate the 

671
00:38:35,100 --> 00:38:38,200
process anyway. 
Like enjoy the journey. 

672
00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:41,500
Yeah, I think that's so key. 
Is she? 

673
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:45,500
Because again, when it comes to 
doing all of these practices, 

674
00:38:45,500 --> 00:38:49,600
were probably doing it from that
need to always achieve and we 

675
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:52,600
bring it into. 
I need to do 10-step, do I need 

676
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:54,900
to do EFT? 
And then I need to do meditation

677
00:38:54,900 --> 00:39:00,400
then yoga, then Pilates. 
And that drive achieve energy 

678
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:02,900
goes into that now, and then 
it's a force. 

679
00:39:03,700 --> 00:39:06,900
So learning your body means you 
start to learn what your body 

680
00:39:06,900 --> 00:39:09,300
likes, what it doesn't like what
helps? 

681
00:39:09,300 --> 00:39:12,400
What doesn't help someone like 
might really like breathwork. 

682
00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:15,500
Someone, might not someone might
not even like meditating because

683
00:39:15,500 --> 00:39:19,600
if you are, if your nervous 
system doesn't feel safe in 

684
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:22,600
Stillness, something like 
meditation can be triggering. 

685
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:25,900
So, it's about again, knowing 
what your nervous system can 

686
00:39:25,900 --> 00:39:28,700
handle. 
Handle what capacity has and 

687
00:39:28,700 --> 00:39:32,200
easing it into different things 
and learning what your body 

688
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:34,500
likes and what it doesn't like. 
So I think that's such a good 

689
00:39:34,500 --> 00:39:38,100
point because the more, if you 
force yourself to do something 

690
00:39:38,100 --> 00:39:40,100
that you don't want to do, 
because you think you should do 

691
00:39:40,100 --> 00:39:42,500
it and it's going to just drain 
you and deplete you again, 

692
00:39:42,900 --> 00:39:46,000
anything when it comes to rest 
and restoration and restoring 

693
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:50,000
your nervous system back to 
safety, it can be anything that 

694
00:39:51,100 --> 00:39:54,000
rejuvenates your mind-body 
resources so that can be going 

695
00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:56,100
for a walk that can be just 
whatever. 

696
00:39:56,300 --> 00:39:57,800
But it doesn't need to be one 
thing. 

697
00:39:57,800 --> 00:40:02,000
It really is about restoring a 
sense of safety and restoring 

698
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:05,100
your mind-body resources. 
However, that looks to you and 

699
00:40:05,100 --> 00:40:09,600
your body trust in your body. 
Literally, sometimes during the 

700
00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:13,000
day, I will just like do 
forward, fold. 

701
00:40:13,100 --> 00:40:16,600
Just like stand up and leaned 
over and put my head towards my 

702
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:22,100
feet, just that alone. 
Sometimes for me can completely 

703
00:40:22,100 --> 00:40:28,800
shift my mood and shift my state
of being and I wanted to say as 

704
00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:35,300
well that some people are made 
to have the same routine for an 

705
00:40:35,300 --> 00:40:38,600
insane amount of time. 
I have found, I am not that 

706
00:40:38,600 --> 00:40:42,500
person. 
And I have realized from me, 

707
00:40:42,500 --> 00:40:47,400
what is so helpful to just block
out time that I know is my time 

708
00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:51,000
to spend on myself and right 
lately, it's been looking like 

709
00:40:51,100 --> 00:40:56,700
meditating but I could not 
meditate three years ago it Yes,

710
00:40:57,200 --> 00:40:58,500
I don't know. 
There's also a bunch of 

711
00:40:58,500 --> 00:41:01,600
different types of meditation 
and that's something I learned 

712
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:03,300
for a while. 
I thought meditation was just 

713
00:41:03,300 --> 00:41:06,600
like, literally the only thing 
way to meditate was to sit 

714
00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:12,900
cross-legged and like, close 
your eyes and just likes it and 

715
00:41:12,900 --> 00:41:16,700
that's a type of meditation to. 
But there's so many different 

716
00:41:16,700 --> 00:41:18,100
tools that have something 
interests. 

717
00:41:18,100 --> 00:41:22,000
You. 
There's probably so many even 

718
00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:26,400
things below that that like the 
Tree. 

719
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:28,500
You know that goes down with the
roots. 

720
00:41:28,500 --> 00:41:31,000
And so for me right now, my 
meditation is looking like using

721
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:34,900
Amala and I just repeat a mantra
and that's so helpful for me 

722
00:41:34,900 --> 00:41:39,200
because I'm also sometimes too 
when you're sitting or even 

723
00:41:39,600 --> 00:41:44,300
doing any exercise or anything 
to help regulate your system, it

724
00:41:44,300 --> 00:41:48,400
can be like, okay when when am I
done like when am I done? 

725
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:52,300
So for me having that like one 
necklace worth of beads and 

726
00:41:52,300 --> 00:41:58,400
Mantra repeats is so helpful. 
And I also think that we make it

727
00:41:58,400 --> 00:42:03,600
so complicated like, yeah, just 
putting on a song, you like and 

728
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:05,800
moving your body. 
Like, that's kind of what I 

729
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:07,800
Envision that embodiment flow 
being. 

730
00:42:08,900 --> 00:42:12,300
And I remember one of the first 
times that I went and was just 

731
00:42:12,300 --> 00:42:16,400
called, I was called to dance in
my room alone to a song, I 

732
00:42:16,408 --> 00:42:18,800
really loved and it was 
fascinating. 

733
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:21,700
This is going to turn into kind 
of a question for you cara but 

734
00:42:21,700 --> 00:42:25,600
it was fascinating how my body 
wanted. 

735
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:30,400
Move and I was completely alone 
but this like Shane came up like

736
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:34,400
embarrassment of like just like 
literally like moving my hips 

737
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:39,700
back and forth and I think so 
many of us and I'm sure men have

738
00:42:39,700 --> 00:42:43,500
it too but I think women 
especially moving that hips 

739
00:42:43,500 --> 00:42:48,900
moving that sacral creative 
Center can be like there's just 

740
00:42:48,900 --> 00:42:53,500
a lot of potential shame around 
that and how would you suggest 

741
00:42:53,500 --> 00:42:59,000
to work through that? 
That is been a big thing for me 

742
00:42:59,800 --> 00:43:03,900
and still is still ongoing even 
with the somatic practices that 

743
00:43:03,900 --> 00:43:05,700
I do. 
When it comes to the sacral and 

744
00:43:05,700 --> 00:43:10,800
that kind of movement, there's 
still that tendency that comes 

745
00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:13,200
up to censor it. 
This is too much. 

746
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:19,300
You know, I think for me 
personally, it came out well for

747
00:43:19,300 --> 00:43:21,400
women. 
Yeah, it really is, there's a 

748
00:43:21,408 --> 00:43:25,400
lot of Shame for me. 
It came from I guess growing up 

749
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:29,600
in like the Jen, that tells you 
that those things are bad and 

750
00:43:29,700 --> 00:43:34,700
sort of can make you feel 
disconnected from your, your 

751
00:43:34,700 --> 00:43:37,700
creative Sexual Energy and all 
of that. 

752
00:43:39,900 --> 00:43:45,900
And as I've been saying it's 
about, just gradually, like 

753
00:43:45,900 --> 00:43:49,200
there is no if you struggle in 
to like, move your hips, that's 

754
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:52,500
okay. 
Just ease into it a little bit. 

755
00:43:52,800 --> 00:43:56,000
And I think this even comes down
to pleasure and how I'm 

756
00:43:56,200 --> 00:43:59,500
Comfortable. 
We are to feel just joy and fun 

757
00:43:59,500 --> 00:44:01,800
and freedom and creative 
expression. 

758
00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:08,000
And I just put for me, one of my
practices to work through that 

759
00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:11,800
was putting on like what you 
said, putting on some music and 

760
00:44:11,800 --> 00:44:15,600
just intentionally moving and 
moving my hips and letting them 

761
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:17,800
do what they do. 
And the more I did that the more

762
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:22,900
relaxed and free, I came with it
but it is just making it almost 

763
00:44:22,900 --> 00:44:26,600
like a practice, not of 
regimented practice that Have to

764
00:44:26,600 --> 00:44:30,800
do but oh get like in the middle
of your day you've had been 

765
00:44:30,800 --> 00:44:33,100
working for a few hours, get out
of move those hips. 

766
00:44:33,100 --> 00:44:37,400
Let like and experience, even 
experienced what's coming up in 

767
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:43,500
your body if there is that shame
and cow, can you move through it

768
00:44:43,500 --> 00:44:47,800
and bring in a little bit more 
of that relaxation and freedom 

769
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:51,300
as you do but I think it comes 
gradually bit by bit. 

770
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:53,800
Oh access you look like you need
to say something. 

771
00:44:54,200 --> 00:45:01,300
No I'm just absorbing Having me 
because I shared a tick tock 

772
00:45:01,400 --> 00:45:05,300
yesterday about a conversation. 
I had with a ten-year-old, 

773
00:45:07,500 --> 00:45:10,900
looked at my Tick Tock and said,
why don't you dance in your 

774
00:45:10,900 --> 00:45:12,900
videos? 
That's it. 

775
00:45:13,100 --> 00:45:14,600
It was just the most obvious 
thing to her. 

776
00:45:14,600 --> 00:45:17,200
She's like, Tick-Tock is for 
dancing and there's a lot of 

777
00:45:17,207 --> 00:45:21,000
dancing on there. 
And there's two things with this

778
00:45:21,000 --> 00:45:26,000
whole conversation that really 
struck me because I said to her 

779
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:28,700
I don't really know. 
I just don't dance. 

780
00:45:28,700 --> 00:45:31,800
I never have danced. 
I grew up with fell. 

781
00:45:31,800 --> 00:45:35,000
People that dance really close 
to their bodies or the dad move 

782
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:38,900
dancing and people jokingly 
making fun of people like you 

783
00:45:38,900 --> 00:45:41,300
can't dance unless you're on the
dance team. 

784
00:45:41,500 --> 00:45:46,400
You can't dance. 
It was it's not a very cultural 

785
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:49,700
thing like in the midwest like I
don't know many people that 

786
00:45:49,800 --> 00:45:52,600
dance naturally. 
There's a countable amount of 

787
00:45:52,600 --> 00:45:56,300
people that I think can that 
just naturally do it and I just 

788
00:45:56,300 --> 00:45:58,000
didn't grow up in a family like 
that. 

789
00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:02,000
So I don't dance on my Tick 
Tock, and I would like to start 

790
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:05,600
now that you're saying this, as 
silly as some of those dances 

791
00:46:05,600 --> 00:46:09,900
are, I feel like that would 
really push my comfort zone and 

792
00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:13,500
another small tent tangent. 
I watch Dancing with the Stars 

793
00:46:13,500 --> 00:46:18,700
this year and I was just so lit 
up by watching them move and 

794
00:46:18,900 --> 00:46:21,000
just kept feeling. 
I wish I could dance that way 

795
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:25,300
and that's kind of a jealousy. 
Mm assign an emotional sign in 

796
00:46:25,300 --> 00:46:30,100
me that that's Think I might 
want to do or try and there's 

797
00:46:30,100 --> 00:46:33,100
really no such thing as bad 
dancing, because dancing is just

798
00:46:33,100 --> 00:46:36,500
movement, and I don't know, 
we've put labels on what good 

799
00:46:36,500 --> 00:46:40,700
and bad dancing is, but I 
definitely know that that is 

800
00:46:40,700 --> 00:46:43,700
uncomfortable for me. 
We have another coaching friend 

801
00:46:43,700 --> 00:46:48,600
who puts dance into all of her 
programs and every time she 

802
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:51,300
starts a call, she plays music 
and makes everybody stand up and

803
00:46:51,300 --> 00:46:53,900
move. 
And I feel really clunky and 

804
00:46:53,900 --> 00:46:56,000
uncomfortable when she makes us 
do. 

805
00:46:56,100 --> 00:46:59,700
Do that and I have that thought 
my head like pin, is this going 

806
00:46:59,700 --> 00:47:02,500
to end when can I stop flailing 
my arms around? 

807
00:47:02,500 --> 00:47:07,100
I don't like it and I just want 
to get more comfortable with it,

808
00:47:07,100 --> 00:47:12,000
but it's funny. 
I just I feel this like laughter

809
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:14,900
because it's such a silly thing 
to make a big deal about. 

810
00:47:14,900 --> 00:47:19,700
But and I think what you said 
that as well as like movement 

811
00:47:19,700 --> 00:47:24,100
and dance can be to set their 
the same thing, but for anyone 

812
00:47:24,100 --> 00:47:26,700
who's like I don't want to do it
because I On Dance. 

813
00:47:26,700 --> 00:47:30,200
It's like starting with movement
because there is no right or 

814
00:47:30,200 --> 00:47:33,700
wrong to movement. 
I don't I don't go on Instagram 

815
00:47:33,700 --> 00:47:37,300
and even though I called myself 
embodiment coach or so my coach 

816
00:47:37,300 --> 00:47:41,700
I don't go on Instagram and do 
that stuff, only because it just

817
00:47:41,700 --> 00:47:45,300
doesn't feel authentic to me to 
be on Instagram, doing that. 

818
00:47:45,300 --> 00:47:51,300
But again, it's like finding 
what is your authentic way to do

819
00:47:51,300 --> 00:47:54,900
it, whether it be that you do 
want to just do it in your room 

820
00:47:54,900 --> 00:47:57,500
and do it in your free time or 
if you do want to do on 

821
00:47:57,500 --> 00:48:02,300
Tick-Tock or whatever it is. 
Yeah, I think we can be so 

822
00:48:02,300 --> 00:48:05,700
uptight can't. 
We just so like everything. 

823
00:48:05,700 --> 00:48:07,400
So serious. 
That's something I always. 

824
00:48:07,400 --> 00:48:11,400
So, again, learning and have 
lamp because I didn't feel like 

825
00:48:11,400 --> 00:48:15,200
fun had a place in my life. 
Like, what is the purpose of 

826
00:48:15,200 --> 00:48:16,700
this? 
Is it going to get me where I 

827
00:48:16,700 --> 00:48:18,700
need to go? 
Is it productive? 

828
00:48:18,700 --> 00:48:20,100
Am I getting anything out of 
this? 

829
00:48:20,300 --> 00:48:25,600
So even that fun element we shut
down so much, and if you find it

830
00:48:25,600 --> 00:48:28,900
fun, Then great, if you don't 
find it, funny you don't want to

831
00:48:28,900 --> 00:48:31,900
be on ticked up doctor but if 
you find it fun and it's like, 

832
00:48:31,900 --> 00:48:36,000
allowing the fun to just be 
expressed a little room, you 

833
00:48:36,000 --> 00:48:39,400
know. 
Yeah, I had a coaching call a 

834
00:48:39,400 --> 00:48:42,300
while back with a friend 
actually. 

835
00:48:42,600 --> 00:48:47,900
And she loves expressing herself
through photography and she does

836
00:48:47,900 --> 00:48:53,800
it now as her side gig loves it,
and during that coaching call 

837
00:48:53,900 --> 00:48:56,600
she about was going to sell ER 
camera. 

838
00:48:56,600 --> 00:49:00,500
She had it prepared to just sell
it because she felt it was a 

839
00:49:00,500 --> 00:49:03,500
waste of time and I kind of dug 
into that. 

840
00:49:03,500 --> 00:49:04,900
I'm like, well what makes it a 
waste of time? 

841
00:49:04,900 --> 00:49:07,600
She goes. 
Well, I'm not a photographer and

842
00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:09,100
I said, you take photos, don't 
you? 

843
00:49:09,700 --> 00:49:12,700
She's like, yeah, well, I guess 
but I'm not a photographer and I

844
00:49:12,700 --> 00:49:15,000
googled the definition of 
photographer for her and I said,

845
00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:18,900
I person who takes photos and 
I'm like, girl, you are a 

846
00:49:18,908 --> 00:49:20,600
photographer and you love doing 
it. 

847
00:49:20,600 --> 00:49:26,600
Why are you selling your camera?
And she said that she had Idea 

848
00:49:26,600 --> 00:49:28,700
in her head that I think a lot 
of us do that. 

849
00:49:28,900 --> 00:49:33,200
If something were doing or a 
hobby isn't making us money, 

850
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:36,400
it's a waste of time. 
I think that's a huge cultural 

851
00:49:36,400 --> 00:49:39,700
thing in the US for sure. 
But then also on social media, 

852
00:49:39,700 --> 00:49:42,100
whoever you follow, everyone's 
making their side gigs and their

853
00:49:42,100 --> 00:49:47,800
personalities into monetary 
achievements and monetary like 

854
00:49:48,200 --> 00:49:51,300
sources, like sources of income 
from what they're doing and 

855
00:49:51,300 --> 00:49:54,800
they're, they're having fun 
doing it, but it's not just a 

856
00:49:54,800 --> 00:49:58,200
hobby for the sake of having A 
hobby and I think that's hard to

857
00:49:58,200 --> 00:50:00,000
find. 
If you ask me what my hobbies 

858
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:00,900
are. 
I don't know. 

859
00:50:01,700 --> 00:50:04,900
I don't really know. 
But I would say yeah I'm the 

860
00:50:04,900 --> 00:50:10,000
same you know for me my fun is 
things that people wouldn't find

861
00:50:10,000 --> 00:50:13,300
fun. 
Like I really enjoy getting a 

862
00:50:13,308 --> 00:50:18,000
massage like to meet one. 
Like I find it fun like to go to

863
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:21,700
the massage face and no one 
needs to force me to go there. 

864
00:50:21,700 --> 00:50:29,200
I'm like I had a really fun 
morning or just sing I sing and 

865
00:50:29,200 --> 00:50:32,300
just things like that, I don't 
have a hobby. 

866
00:50:32,400 --> 00:50:35,200
That would be seen as a hobby. 
Like, I play. 

867
00:50:35,300 --> 00:50:37,500
My sister plays football for us 
up, while you guys call it 

868
00:50:37,500 --> 00:50:40,200
soccer. 
And I'm the only one in the 

869
00:50:40,200 --> 00:50:41,900
family that didn't have 
something like that. 

870
00:50:41,900 --> 00:50:44,400
And I was like, I just don't 
know how to have fun, but my fan

871
00:50:44,400 --> 00:50:47,700
just looked a bit different and 
I think that's okay too. 

872
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:52,200
And when it comes to Hobbies, 
it's even out expanding our 

873
00:50:52,207 --> 00:50:55,700
capacity for fun to see that it 
doesn't always have to have an 

874
00:50:55,700 --> 00:50:59,100
outcome. 
Come or a goal or a purpose for 

875
00:50:59,100 --> 00:51:02,000
it. 
It's literally for the enjoyment

876
00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:05,700
of the self and that in itself 
is a good enough. 

877
00:51:05,700 --> 00:51:08,400
But if you enjoy it, even if 
you're not good at it, if you 

878
00:51:08,400 --> 00:51:13,000
love painting and just do it 
because the energy that it will 

879
00:51:13,000 --> 00:51:16,000
bring will actually probably 
fuel a lot of your creativity 

880
00:51:16,000 --> 00:51:20,100
and other things that feed into 
what you you do anyway. 

881
00:51:20,200 --> 00:51:22,800
And even if it doesn't, you just
had fun. 

882
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:26,700
As I don't think finally 
something we value You at all. 

883
00:51:28,000 --> 00:51:29,900
I love that definition. 
Yeah. 

884
00:51:29,900 --> 00:51:32,300
This is a message that's very 
near and dear to my heart 

885
00:51:32,300 --> 00:51:36,200
because I'm kind of, I'm kind of
the opposite. 

886
00:51:36,200 --> 00:51:40,600
I have like an endless abundance
of hobbies. 

887
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:49,500
I don't know what to do with in 
like my dream for years and 

888
00:51:49,500 --> 00:51:53,000
years and years. 
Since I remember the thought of 

889
00:51:53,000 --> 00:51:56,700
working for someone has always 
just like uh, What. 

890
00:51:56,900 --> 00:52:03,400
Oh, But and I've always, I've 
always envisioned myself turning

891
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:08,100
my hobbies into like a form of 
income. 

892
00:52:08,800 --> 00:52:15,900
And I realized big time this 
year that like I I don't I'm not

893
00:52:15,900 --> 00:52:18,900
saying that that's not possible 
but it's for me. 

894
00:52:18,900 --> 00:52:22,800
Very important for me to really 
be aware of the intention with 

895
00:52:22,800 --> 00:52:27,000
which I do that because I 
realized that I seen this 

896
00:52:27,000 --> 00:52:33,700
pattern of myself when I Turn to
try to monetize things, it just 

897
00:52:33,700 --> 00:52:38,200
kills it. 
And so I realized that my 

898
00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:43,800
intention, my true intention. 
My natural inclination is impact

899
00:52:43,900 --> 00:52:48,200
and whatever I do impact for 
first of all myself, because I 

900
00:52:48,200 --> 00:52:52,900
also think that if we're not 
expressing the truth, for of who

901
00:52:52,900 --> 00:52:56,700
we are for first and foremost 
ourselves, then it's still not 

902
00:52:56,700 --> 00:52:59,300
quite there. 
And then that doing That they'll

903
00:52:59,300 --> 00:53:04,400
naturally impacts others and 
changing that mentality and it 

904
00:53:04,400 --> 00:53:08,300
still comes up in me. 
But making sure that when I go 

905
00:53:08,300 --> 00:53:12,200
and start Church to do something
that my attention is impact in, 

906
00:53:12,200 --> 00:53:17,200
whatever I'm doing, and money is
obviously important, but it's 

907
00:53:17,200 --> 00:53:21,000
not the driving Factor has 
helped me so much but that was 

908
00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:25,400
really hard to admit and I can't
tell everyone that yet like oh 

909
00:53:25,400 --> 00:53:27,900
my God if I were to tell my dad,
that okay. 

910
00:53:29,300 --> 00:53:32,900
Thank you, spoiled brat like 
what we're doing. 

911
00:53:33,400 --> 00:53:38,900
But I mean, I also am so excited
because I've had so many 

912
00:53:38,900 --> 00:53:41,600
conversations like this with 
people in the past couple years.

913
00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:45,900
And I do think that Society is 
changing and we are lucky enough

914
00:53:45,900 --> 00:53:49,300
to be in a society. 
However, many problems it has. 

915
00:53:49,400 --> 00:53:53,300
We are also blessed in the fact 
that there are so many options 

916
00:53:53,300 --> 00:53:57,900
for us today. 
So many ways to, you know, do 

917
00:53:57,900 --> 00:54:02,500
more than just Survive. 
And I think sometimes we can, 

918
00:54:02,500 --> 00:54:05,700
like feel guilty for that and 
feel like we need to. 

919
00:54:05,700 --> 00:54:06,800
I know this is something I've 
gone through. 

920
00:54:06,800 --> 00:54:09,900
I realized like, I, for a while,
had this idea that I needed to 

921
00:54:09,900 --> 00:54:13,800
suffer more to like, make it 
okay, that I had the life I had,

922
00:54:14,200 --> 00:54:17,900
but like, aren't we trying to 
like transcend that and like, 

923
00:54:18,000 --> 00:54:21,200
you know, we don't want to 
suffer, we want nobody to 

924
00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:23,100
suffer. 
So, why do we want ourselves to 

925
00:54:23,100 --> 00:54:27,100
go through challenging and 
situations that aren't fun when 

926
00:54:27,100 --> 00:54:35,200
we don't need Need to do that. 
And I think we feel it's morally

927
00:54:35,200 --> 00:54:41,700
Superior to have had the hard 
life, the hard, Gras, the 

928
00:54:41,700 --> 00:54:44,500
challenge, which obviously some 
people genuinely have. 

929
00:54:46,200 --> 00:54:51,400
But when we, it's about that 
feeling of, I'm only worthy if 

930
00:54:51,400 --> 00:54:54,400
it was really hard and that's 
going to make it really 

931
00:54:54,400 --> 00:54:57,400
difficult to follow the path 
that lights you up and the 

932
00:54:57,400 --> 00:55:02,500
follow the path of Joy because 
if Joy and lighting up is not as

933
00:55:02,900 --> 00:55:06,200
worthy or you're not, you're not
as deserving if that's the path.

934
00:55:06,200 --> 00:55:09,500
Then you're always going to 
subconsciously go for the 

935
00:55:09,500 --> 00:55:12,100
harder. 
Most challenging difficult route

936
00:55:12,100 --> 00:55:14,400
to get there. 
Those are always the stories 

937
00:55:14,400 --> 00:55:15,300
though. 
You know, when you hear 

938
00:55:15,300 --> 00:55:19,100
motivational talks and stuff is 
always how difficult and how 

939
00:55:19,100 --> 00:55:24,500
challenging, and how hard it was
sometimes, motivational talks 

940
00:55:24,500 --> 00:55:28,600
demotivate me, you know, because
I'm like, wow, as much as You'll

941
00:55:28,600 --> 00:55:32,200
be motivational right now. 
I don't want to experience all 

942
00:55:32,200 --> 00:55:37,300
of that in order to get. 
So we just talked about this on 

943
00:55:37,300 --> 00:55:39,600
our last thing. 
I think of it. 

944
00:55:39,700 --> 00:55:43,200
I don't know. 
We just yeah a little bit. 

945
00:55:43,200 --> 00:55:48,000
I that's been a huge theme for 
me and you know, I have been so 

946
00:55:48,000 --> 00:55:51,500
blessed to have had a beautiful 
childhood in like, you know. 

947
00:55:51,500 --> 00:55:54,200
Yeah. 
Pink shit happened in like you 

948
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:58,800
know, wasn't always always 
perfect but I am really Blessed 

949
00:55:58,800 --> 00:56:02,600
with the life. 
I've had so far and I think we 

950
00:56:02,600 --> 00:56:07,400
can get so caught up in like all
the biggest coaches and biggest 

951
00:56:07,400 --> 00:56:09,800
people in this industry. 
I feel like I've had these like,

952
00:56:11,000 --> 00:56:13,800
Wharf, like horrible experiences
that like you. 

953
00:56:13,800 --> 00:56:18,100
No one wants to have happen to 
them, if possible. 

954
00:56:18,200 --> 00:56:20,900
And I'm not saying that they are
telling people to go have those 

955
00:56:20,900 --> 00:56:22,400
experiences. 
Absolutely not. 

956
00:56:22,400 --> 00:56:25,300
But it can make you and this is 
comparison and comparison is 

957
00:56:25,300 --> 00:56:30,900
just a death trap, but It can be
like oh wait what do I have to 

958
00:56:30,900 --> 00:56:32,700
give? 
If I haven't gone through these 

959
00:56:32,700 --> 00:56:35,700
like near-death experiences are 
these like completely 

960
00:56:35,700 --> 00:56:40,100
destruction of my life, like 
what do I have to give? 

961
00:56:40,100 --> 00:56:43,300
And I'm like, oh my God, but 
isn't the point of doing all 

962
00:56:43,300 --> 00:56:46,200
this work? 
You know, so we can get out of 

963
00:56:46,200 --> 00:56:49,900
that cycle so I kids can get out
of that cycle and not have to 

964
00:56:49,900 --> 00:56:53,500
keep suffering. 
Like I hope there is a time 

965
00:56:53,700 --> 00:56:58,200
where coaches are not necessary.
We're all of this therapists and

966
00:56:58,500 --> 00:57:01,100
The men, the work that 
everyone's doing right now, 

967
00:57:01,100 --> 00:57:04,700
which is beautiful, but like I 
hope it's not necessary someday 

968
00:57:05,300 --> 00:57:08,700
because that's the goal, right? 
But sometimes we can get. 

969
00:57:08,700 --> 00:57:10,000
Yeah. 
And that's like, oh, being like,

970
00:57:10,000 --> 00:57:14,400
Oh, I have to suffer more to 
bring value to others and it's 

971
00:57:14,400 --> 00:57:17,000
so stupid. 
How's it going to say? 

972
00:57:17,000 --> 00:57:21,600
Who you bring value to differs 
right by your journey? 

973
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:25,000
Someone's Journey could resonate
with one person who really is, 

974
00:57:25,500 --> 00:57:28,200
you know, going through it the 
way they did and then someone, 

975
00:57:28,300 --> 00:57:32,300
Else's story could relate and 
resonate with someone completely

976
00:57:32,300 --> 00:57:37,000
different and someone who's had 
a life of less suffering could 

977
00:57:37,000 --> 00:57:43,200
have other experiences that you 
know someone else could resonate

978
00:57:43,200 --> 00:57:45,700
with more. 
You see what I'm saying? 

979
00:57:46,900 --> 00:57:48,700
So that was just my little add 
to that. 

980
00:57:49,700 --> 00:57:54,500
True, I wrote something 
yesterday that I'm just amazed 

981
00:57:54,500 --> 00:57:56,100
that it came into this 
conversation. 

982
00:57:56,100 --> 00:58:00,100
I didn't share it yet. 
I wrote it for I'm and then just

983
00:58:00,100 --> 00:58:01,800
didn't feel inspired to press 
post. 

984
00:58:01,800 --> 00:58:05,100
I don't know why and so I closed
my laptop but I meant to bring 

985
00:58:05,100 --> 00:58:09,400
it up here I think. 
But what I wrote was there's no 

986
00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:13,500
trauma that pushed me into my 
spiritual journey or this work. 

987
00:58:13,500 --> 00:58:16,600
No significant event that made 
me say enough is enough, no 

988
00:58:16,600 --> 00:58:19,200
injury, no breakup, no toxic 
workplace. 

989
00:58:19,500 --> 00:58:22,400
I was propelled by the mundane, 
the potential truth that 

990
00:58:22,400 --> 00:58:25,100
wherever I was at was as good as
it was ever going to get 

991
00:58:25,300 --> 00:58:28,000
repeating the same routine 
morning and night weekdays and 

992
00:58:28,300 --> 00:58:31,100
ends in an endless cycle with no
end in sight. 

993
00:58:31,100 --> 00:58:34,000
The idea that life is 
meaningless nothing I do matters

994
00:58:34,000 --> 00:58:37,300
and I'm here to survive and die 
life is pointless and I have no 

995
00:58:37,300 --> 00:58:39,400
purpose. 
This depressive thought was my 

996
00:58:39,400 --> 00:58:43,300
motivation because I knew it was
total BS and I'm here to prove 

997
00:58:43,300 --> 00:58:46,000
it wrong. 
Hmm. 

998
00:58:46,000 --> 00:58:50,200
So thanks yeah. 
And I think so many people will 

999
00:58:50,200 --> 00:58:55,400
resonate with that story you 
know someone who just felt low 

1000
00:58:55,400 --> 00:58:58,000
and didn't have purpose. 
Not. 

1001
00:58:58,400 --> 00:59:01,600
Sara Lee a moment or a 
life-and-death moment. 

1002
00:59:01,600 --> 00:59:04,600
There's people out there that 
will need more experience will 

1003
00:59:04,600 --> 00:59:07,200
have experienced that and 
resonates so deeply. 

1004
00:59:08,300 --> 00:59:10,700
And that in itself is suffering.
It's just in a different way, 

1005
00:59:10,700 --> 00:59:12,300
isn't it? 
Hmm. 

1006
00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:15,300
I feel like I'm vast. 
Majority of people are in the 

1007
00:59:15,300 --> 00:59:18,700
spot that we are. 
Yeah, exactly. 

1008
00:59:18,700 --> 00:59:21,200
I've no I haven't ever heard 
explained like this. 

1009
00:59:21,200 --> 00:59:26,400
So this is really interesting 
for me to hear as well because I

1010
00:59:26,400 --> 00:59:31,400
guess I always Think of struggle
and challenges and Trauma to 

1011
00:59:31,400 --> 00:59:35,100
propel people. 
But then hearing that do are 

1012
00:59:35,100 --> 00:59:38,400
very aware, that that wasn't 
your path. 

1013
00:59:38,400 --> 00:59:42,700
And still, you are very 
passionate about helping other 

1014
00:59:42,700 --> 00:59:45,600
people who may also feel the 
same. 

1015
00:59:46,300 --> 00:59:52,200
I don't think any, and I think 
this comes down as well to the I

1016
00:59:52,200 --> 00:59:56,300
guess like, we think that being 
a certain place in your life 

1017
00:59:56,700 --> 00:59:58,900
means that you will be void of 
Friend. 

1018
00:59:59,100 --> 01:00:02,800
So this is why we'll always 
everyone's trying to strive to 

1019
01:00:02,800 --> 01:00:06,600
make more money or to be at a 
certain place in their life 

1020
01:00:06,600 --> 01:00:10,000
because we believe that we will 
bypass the human emotions once 

1021
01:00:10,000 --> 01:00:11,700
we get there, we'll never feel 
sadness. 

1022
01:00:11,700 --> 01:00:13,000
Will never feel depressed or 
whatever. 

1023
01:00:13,200 --> 01:00:16,300
If that were true, every 
celebrity would be living it up 

1024
01:00:16,300 --> 01:00:19,700
and having great great lives, 
which we know is not the truth, 

1025
01:00:19,700 --> 01:00:22,100
right? 
So, I think doesn't matter where

1026
01:00:22,100 --> 01:00:25,300
you're at in your life, or how 
much money you have or the 

1027
01:00:25,300 --> 01:00:28,200
upbringing that you came from. 
You can still experience. 

1028
01:00:28,300 --> 01:00:33,900
Perience your own, you know, 
experienced challenges and 

1029
01:00:33,900 --> 01:00:39,400
suffering in your own way that 
is still of value and important 

1030
01:00:39,400 --> 01:00:42,900
for people to hear. 
And then there's people that 

1031
01:00:42,900 --> 01:00:45,500
have like, the generational 
trauma and the deep deep trauma,

1032
01:00:45,500 --> 01:00:47,800
as well, which have their their 
Journeys to. 

1033
01:00:49,400 --> 01:00:53,000
But that's just the way I guess.
Life is in a sense, everyone has

1034
01:00:53,000 --> 01:00:56,900
their own different Journeys, 
and well mental, I keep going 

1035
01:00:56,900 --> 01:01:00,800
and get You know, I don't want 
to say better that's not the 

1036
01:01:00,800 --> 01:01:05,500
right word but evolved like the 
spiral higher to, like not stay 

1037
01:01:05,500 --> 01:01:09,700
in the same place and yeah, just
like I said, dance for everyone.

1038
01:01:10,400 --> 01:01:13,800
I like to say that we're here to
expand and see how good it can 

1039
01:01:13,800 --> 01:01:19,500
get, hmm, because we're very 
aware of how bad it can get, but

1040
01:01:19,700 --> 01:01:21,800
people don't normally turn 
around and look at the other 

1041
01:01:21,800 --> 01:01:23,600
direction. 
If it can get that bad, it can 

1042
01:01:23,600 --> 01:01:28,300
also get that good. 
Yeah, is something the one not 

1043
01:01:28,300 --> 01:01:32,100
really taught to think about how
we can have. 

1044
01:01:32,100 --> 01:01:37,100
We can have joy and he's and 
experience life to its full. 

1045
01:01:38,200 --> 01:01:42,100
We don't really who don't really
entertain that thought too much 

1046
01:01:42,100 --> 01:01:46,700
to it. 
No we don't and that's why we're

1047
01:01:46,700 --> 01:01:48,500
here. 
That's why we're here. 

1048
01:01:48,700 --> 01:01:52,900
Hey that's why we do what we do 
letting it flow. 

1049
01:01:53,300 --> 01:01:56,000
Let me flow. 
This has been such a good For 

1050
01:01:56,000 --> 01:01:58,000
seishin, It's Gone on so many 
twists. 

1051
01:01:58,000 --> 01:02:01,300
And turns house is all about 
really I was thinking about like

1052
01:02:01,300 --> 01:02:04,000
am I going on too many different
places here? 

1053
01:02:04,800 --> 01:02:09,500
No we are huge fans of tangents 
because yes you never know what 

1054
01:02:09,500 --> 01:02:12,500
magic is going to come out of it
and I always trust that 

1055
01:02:12,500 --> 01:02:15,300
whoever's listening is going to 
get the message that they're 

1056
01:02:15,300 --> 01:02:19,200
meant to get from it and 
everything is just perfect. 

1057
01:02:19,500 --> 01:02:23,000
So we're so happy that you came 
on and I want to give you a 

1058
01:02:23,000 --> 01:02:25,700
chance to tell us what's going 
on in your world. 

1059
01:02:25,900 --> 01:02:29,400
Everyone can find you and what's
coming up for you because I see 

1060
01:02:29,400 --> 01:02:33,300
that you are going to launch a 
certification program this 

1061
01:02:33,300 --> 01:02:35,400
summer. 
Yes. 

1062
01:02:35,400 --> 01:02:39,100
Finally, this been something 
that's been for so many years. 

1063
01:02:39,100 --> 01:02:42,500
I thought one day I will and 
then I've done different things 

1064
01:02:42,500 --> 01:02:47,500
trained in different 
certifications and now it's time

1065
01:02:47,500 --> 01:02:50,000
to have my own. 
My very own just me. 

1066
01:02:50,000 --> 01:02:55,300
You know, I as you guys know, I,
I actually launched us if it's 

1067
01:02:55,800 --> 01:03:00,200
ation last year with a business 
partner that didn't work out. 

1068
01:03:00,200 --> 01:03:05,700
And now I'm like, I just want 
the essence of me to be essence 

1069
01:03:05,700 --> 01:03:08,400
of that flows into what I'm 
doing. 

1070
01:03:09,100 --> 01:03:13,400
So I'm excited for that because 
I think what I'm going to do in 

1071
01:03:13,400 --> 01:03:15,300
this certification. 
So yes I'm going to be launching

1072
01:03:15,300 --> 01:03:22,100
a certification before summer 
this year 2023 and it's going to

1073
01:03:22,100 --> 01:03:25,700
include some Mattox embodiment 
flows. 

1074
01:03:26,700 --> 01:03:30,700
Working with the nervous system 
NLP because I still love NLP 

1075
01:03:30,700 --> 01:03:34,700
mindset work and all of that and
have some great master classes 

1076
01:03:34,700 --> 01:03:38,200
and things like that. 
But my vision for this 

1077
01:03:38,200 --> 01:03:41,400
certification is that coaches 
leave feeling fully equipped 

1078
01:03:41,400 --> 01:03:44,400
with. 
Not just one set of tools, but a

1079
01:03:44,400 --> 01:03:48,900
vast holistic way of coaching 
and also understanding the 

1080
01:03:48,900 --> 01:03:52,200
foundations of coaching and how 
to be a coach without just the 

1081
01:03:52,200 --> 01:03:55,900
technique, everything that I 
felt. 

1082
01:03:56,000 --> 01:03:59,200
It was missing when I was 
trained. 

1083
01:03:59,600 --> 01:04:04,100
I'm including the certification 
so that when they leave, they 

1084
01:04:04,100 --> 01:04:06,600
have had their own self 
development. 

1085
01:04:06,600 --> 01:04:10,800
They've had done that the inner 
work, but also they understand 

1086
01:04:10,900 --> 01:04:13,700
the fundamentals around the 
mindset, the nervous system, the

1087
01:04:13,700 --> 01:04:17,500
mind-body connection and how to 
work with your client, with all 

1088
01:04:17,500 --> 01:04:21,400
of that. 
So I'm going to bring my whole 

1089
01:04:21,400 --> 01:04:24,200
heart and every part of me to 
the training. 

1090
01:04:24,500 --> 01:04:28,200
So yeah. 
Huh, I can feel it already. 

1091
01:04:29,400 --> 01:04:33,700
I'm like it's day one over here,
so it's absolutely see this. 

1092
01:04:33,700 --> 01:04:36,600
But she's glowing. 
I was going to say your face is 

1093
01:04:36,600 --> 01:04:40,500
lighting up talking about this 
about following, what lights you

1094
01:04:40,500 --> 01:04:44,800
up and that that energy. 
And it's also a symbol to myself

1095
01:04:44,800 --> 01:04:48,400
of saying, yes to myself. 
Not anyone else, you know? 

1096
01:04:48,400 --> 01:04:56,500
Like not fitting into a box just
being me and That was going to 

1097
01:04:56,500 --> 01:04:59,700
be leading as I do this 
certification. 

1098
01:04:59,700 --> 01:05:03,100
So if anyone's listening and 
you've been considering being a 

1099
01:05:03,100 --> 01:05:06,300
coach and you want to learn lots
of amazing tools and techniques 

1100
01:05:06,300 --> 01:05:08,400
and the somatic size of 
everything as well. 

1101
01:05:08,400 --> 01:05:12,100
Then yeah, follow me on 
Instagram is at Kora, Jane 

1102
01:05:12,100 --> 01:05:14,000
Lynch, and of your proud of her 
certification. 

1103
01:05:14,000 --> 01:05:16,500
I'm assuming there's going to be
meditations. 

1104
01:05:16,500 --> 01:05:19,700
And I tell you, they are the 
most relaxing meditations ever. 

1105
01:05:19,700 --> 01:05:23,200
Listen to sit down. 
Take a breath. 

1106
01:05:23,500 --> 01:05:26,000
I don't know what voice comes 
out. 

1107
01:05:26,000 --> 01:05:30,500
When I do the meditation by like
I just go into like this very 

1108
01:05:30,900 --> 01:05:34,700
deep, but Chauncey boys, I 
didn't even know because when I 

1109
01:05:34,707 --> 01:05:37,900
did this at it, the meditations 
on that law certification 

1110
01:05:37,900 --> 01:05:39,600
program. 
So many of the students were 

1111
01:05:39,607 --> 01:05:41,900
like, oh, your voice is so 
relaxing. 

1112
01:05:41,900 --> 01:05:44,600
I'd never really thought about 
it before and could you guys was

1113
01:05:44,600 --> 01:05:47,300
telling me I was like, oh wow. 
Well yeah, I would definitely be

1114
01:05:47,300 --> 01:05:51,600
including meditations in my and 
hypnosis and one of these things

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it's going to Skyrocket with 
your energy and you just being 

1116
01:05:55,500 --> 01:05:59,100
so So lit up by this idea and 
what you're doing, it's you can 

1117
01:05:59,100 --> 01:06:02,500
feel it, like we feel it Carly, 
and I feel it and I'm sure 

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people feel it, just listening 
to you talk about it. 

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So I'm super excited to see how 
it goes. 

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We'll be following. 
Thank you guys, thank you. 

1121
01:06:13,300 --> 01:06:16,700
So if you enjoyed this 
conversation with Cara, please 

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give it a share. 
Tell your friends. 

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01:06:19,300 --> 01:06:22,800
Leave us a rating and review. 
It really does help and we will 

1124
01:06:22,800 --> 01:06:25,600
see you next time. 
Bye. 

1125
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Okay, bye.