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Yeah, complexity. 
We were talking about this 

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yesterday on the awakened man 
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So many of us have been brought 
up just to make things complex 

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and it's, it's particularly 
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think about if we are fathers. 
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but like, particularly if we are
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And so, yes, yesterday I took 
Leo, I picked him up from 

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nursery and I took him clothes 
shopping because, you know, I 

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need to get some new clothes. 
He's growing. 

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And then along when we're going 
shopping, he's like asking me 

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for things. 
Oh, Daddy, can we go to the toy 

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shop? 
And I want, I want, yeah, I want

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new cars. 
And then he wanted a snack and 

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then he wanted to drink. 
He's like, and something we were

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talking about yesterday on the 
way, command call is like when 

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your child wants something. 
So he's like, I want X. 

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And then rather than just saying
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minds goes this like, oh, well, 
if I give him, if I give him X 

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and that can happen. 
And oh, actually, like if I go 

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and spend £50 on that, what I've
got all these other bills coming

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in this month and like, how is 
it the right time to spend that 

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sort of money? 
And like, we just go for all 

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these like different 
complexities in our head rather 

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than just making a simple 
decision, right. 

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And it's, and that's just like a
little example, but yeah, I 

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suppose like I've definitely had
that like growing up and then 

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doing like degrees in 
architecture and technical 

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degrees and so on. 
It's all like the work that I 

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was being qualified in. 
It's all super technical and 

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like to make a decision, get 
like when you're designing a 

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building, it's there's so many 
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And then it's so easy and to 
just take that into your 

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day-to-day lives rather than 
keeping things simple. 

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So it was a great conversation. 
And also what we've which of 

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what I'm going to talk about 
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want to share some insights with
you guys that I've picked up 

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over the last couple of weeks 
within the away command and some

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of you guys are in are in that. 
So we've heard this, some of you

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guys are not, but we've been 
doing a lot of talking around 

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archetypes and core archetypes. 
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we're talking a lot about the 
ego and we're talking a lot 

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about shadow. 
And there was a really, really 

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powerful insight for not just 
myself, but I know a bunch of 

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the guys yesterday on shadow. 
And so we were talking about. 

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So just just so I've got I've 
got like Leo just like chanting 

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in the background about 
breakfast. 

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So just for just for reference, 
archetypes, 44 core archetypes. 

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And this is this is what young 
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the four core. 
There's number one is our ego is

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the persona, right, which is 
essentially this is what we want

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the world to think who we are. 
It's the these are the masks 

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that we put on ourselves. 
This is like mum says you're a 

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good boy, OK? 
And so then you you put a mask 

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on because she says you're a 
good boy around a particular 

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thing. 
Mum says you're a bad boy. 

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You put another mask on for that
particular thing. 

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Society says one thing, your 
teachers say one thing. 

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And we just so we go through 
like we put these masks on, they

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become our ego. 
Bear with me, guys. 

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Leo, Leo, please mate, give me 
10 minutes. 

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You can have breakfast, OK? 
Can you just play with your 

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iPad? 
So there you go. 

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That that's that's our that's 
our ego, right? 

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And we and we and we build these
personas. 

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We build, we build our ego 
because we want the world to 

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like us. 
We want to be accepted. 

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We want to be pleasing. 
OK, Secondly, secondly to that, 

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the, the the other core 
archetype is our shadow, right? 

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This, our shadow is the things 
that we suppress and we and we 

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we essentially put into our 
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So we put into our shadow, 
right. 

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And and then this is what 
colour, this is what happened. 

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This is what will materialize 
is, is that the ego is the 

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things that you are conscious 
of. 

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Like you think about how you act
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Now you are conscious of that. 
So the ego is very much in your 

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conscious. 
The shadow is what you fail to 

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see. 
The shadow is very much in your 

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subconscious. 
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science tells us, research tells
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is in our subconscious. 
So there's loads and loads that 

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are in our shadow, right? 
And then the and then the other 

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parts of the archetypes is your 
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essentially your masculine and 
your feminine. 

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All right, and. 
It's OK, it's OK. 

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He's on my bed, mate. 
All right. 

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Can you? 
I'll tell you what. 

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Can you go and tidy the toys in 
the room please before nursery 

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please go and do that. 
Anima animas, which is masculine

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and feminine. 
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has masculine within her. 
Every man has feminine within 

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him and and vice versa, right? 
And the world teaches us that 

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and the world talks about 
society talks about, you know, 

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men can't be emotional, which is
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Men can't be vulnerable. 
Men shouldn't be vulnerable. 

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Men shouldn't be soft, which is 
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Women shouldn't be warriors. 
They shouldn't, you know, they 

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shouldn't be leaders and so on, 
which is masculine, right? 

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And so then there's we go 
through life and we skew both of

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those dynamics. 
So we start being more masculine

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than we are feminine. 
But to be truly well-rounded and

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to get to the 4th archetype, 
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This is, this is like who you 
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aligned authentic self. 
That's where we want to get to. 

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And to get to that, it's like 
it's the integration of both the

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masculine and the feminine, 
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And having both of those 
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beautifully with each other. 
And it's also very much getting 

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in touch with your shadow and 
understanding your shadow and 

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doing the work on integrating 
the good parts and the bad parts

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of your shadow, right? 
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So most of us will spend the 
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our lives being very egocentric.
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we, when we've become, we've 
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You know, when he's like met 
like older people are like, and 

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they just don't give a fuck. 
You're like that guy does not 

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give a shit. 
He's just outspoken, right? 

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It just just really has stopped 
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He's got over his ego, right. 
So that's that's just like a 

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quick, a quick summary of the 
the archetypes that that young 

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was and he he called these like 
the four core archetypes. 

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And now hundreds, OK, there's 
there's hundreds of archetypes 

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that we go through and that we 
and then we have but the four 

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core. 
Now, what was the the most 

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interesting insight the I picked
up yesterday and I know a lot of

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the other guys picked up, is 
that when we think about our 

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shadow and for you guys that 
have done shadow work or 

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investigated shadow and or 
you've listened to some of the 

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work that we do on the way, can 
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Is that I think that what it is 
absolutely that the thoughts 

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around shadow is that shadow is 
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And the, all the, the only 
things that we put in our shadow

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is the things that we are 
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And they are bad things, anger, 
rage, just like the, the things 

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that we're, we're, we're, we're 
pushing down that we think are 

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bad for society. 
But what Yazin talked about 

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yesterday is that we also, we, 
what we also put in our shadow 

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is the great things we, we can 
also put in our gold, the things

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that make us fucking exquisite, 
the things that make us 

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unbelievable, the things that 
make that that can make us 

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incredible human beings. 
We, we can, we also put that in 

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the shadow. 
So it's so it's not, it's not 

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just putting the things that we 
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Well, essentially like we could,
we could potentially be ashamed 

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of our greatness and put that in
our shadow. 

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And that's like and that plays 
and even and having a focus on 

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that, like where's my fucking 
greatness? 

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What have I actually put into 
the shadow? 

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Because I'm worried about if I 
fulfill my greatness, then what 

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would the world think of me? 
Or like it's like that fear of 

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failure or that also the fear of
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Like the fear of success is way 
bigger than I think many of us 

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probably think it is. 
I don't have a fear of success, 

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but actually maybe you do have a
fear of success in hiding the 

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greatness that you've got and 
suppressing that and not 

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bringing it out into the world. 
And so that was that was a 

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powerful insight for me 
yesterday. 

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And I spoke to a number of guys 
after, after the call, and I 

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actually had never thought about
the shadow hiding my greatness. 

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So I think I just want, yeah, 
just I want to share that with 

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you guys this morning. 
Like, and for you, for you to 

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think about that is like, 
actually like, what are you 

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hiding? 
Like, what do you like? 

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What are you truly showing up 
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You're probably fucking not if 
you're on these calls. 

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You're not. 
Right? 

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And what does that look like? 
Like and and young young said, 

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it's like the you're ignoring 
your gold is way worse than you 

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highlighting your darkness. 
So you're ignoring the gold is 

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way worse than highlighting the 
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One one second men, Leo, homie, 
can you play with that in the 

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bedroom? 
Because it's noisy, man. 

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Play with it in the bedroom, 
please, because it's carpet in 

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there. 
Thanks mate. 

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So young believe that ignoring 
your gold is way worse than 

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highlighting your darkness. 
And this is how like it was 

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described yesterday. 
So imagine an acorn, and you 

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probably heard this analogy 
before that you got your acorn. 

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And that acorn can grow into a 
beautiful tree. 

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But if that acorn is put into a 
little tiny pot, right, a little

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bit of soil and it's not a tiny 
little pot, it's not going to 

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grow into and blossom into a big
fucking tree. 

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It's the same with same with you
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It's the same with me. 
Same, same with everyone here, 

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right? 
It's the, the other analogy is 

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the koi fish, beautiful koi 
fish, but you keep it in a 

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little fish bowl, a little tiny 
fish bowl. 

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It's not going to grow any 
bigger. 

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It's not going to expand. 
Put put the koi fish into a 

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river into into the ocean. 
It's going to expand. 

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It's going to get bigger, right?
Same, same with the acorn planet

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in a field. 
It's going to it's, it's going 

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to grow. 
It's the same. 

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It's exactly the same with us, 
right? 

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We ignore our gold, hide the 
fucking good things about us, 

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right? 
And we will not blossom that 

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that's way more disruptive to us
than uncovering the dark sides 

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of us. 
And I think that's like that can

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be such a fucking big focus is 
our like, let me uncover the 

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dark side. 
Let me uncover all the bad 

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things about me. 
Let me figure out like why I get

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angry so quickly and like why I 
suppress all these emotions. 

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Like, let me figure that out. 
Let me find the darkness and 

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then let's get in touch with the
darkness and that which is, and 

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I've been guilty of of doing 
that. 

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Let me figure out all the dark 
side, all the bad shit. 

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But actually, like, where can we
start to begin to uncover all 

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the gold, all the platinum, all 
the extraordinary, exquisite 

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things about us. 
Then we can then bring that into

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the world. 
So team, that was my, this is my

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share this morning. 
This is what I've been thinking 

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about, what we've been talking 
about on the Awakened Man's 

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quick 16 minutes summary. 
Hours of discussion. 

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Something for you to think about
today, men. 

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There we go. 
Enjoy your days, good to see 

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you.