1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:04,840 I've been hurt by men, but I've been wounded by women. 2 00:00:05,280 --> 00:00:07,080 I used to think I don't like women. 3 00:00:07,240 --> 00:00:09,400 I don't like him at all. I'm not really a woman. 4 00:00:09,400 --> 00:00:11,840 I think like a man. And I was really comfortable 5 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:14,520 with all that until God confronted me and said I 6 00:00:14,520 --> 00:00:17,400 actually love women. I've called you to minister to 7 00:00:17,400 --> 00:00:19,720 women. Can't have you minister out of a 8 00:00:19,720 --> 00:00:23,200 bitterness. And I went on this journey about 9 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:27,800 what did it mean to be a woman? What did it mean to be a 10 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:31,360 daughter of God? The feminist mindset is the most 11 00:00:31,600 --> 00:00:35,720 anti female mindset because it says to women, if you want to be 12 00:00:35,720 --> 00:00:37,880 powerful, you need to act like a man. 13 00:00:38,320 --> 00:00:39,680 But I don't want to act like a man. 14 00:00:40,160 --> 00:00:44,080 I want to act like a woman. I believe that female is 15 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:48,040 something worth fighting for. The fight for female is about 16 00:00:48,040 --> 00:00:53,120 restoring your dignity Take back what it means to act like a 17 00:00:53,120 --> 00:01:03,040 powerful woman. Welcome to the Fight for Female 18 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:05,560 podcast. And you may be wondering why? 19 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:09,880 Why would we even have a podcast called Fight for Female? 20 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:14,040 Well, if you're even a little bit paying attention, you're 21 00:01:14,040 --> 00:01:17,720 seeing that there is a lot of stuff going on in our world 22 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:21,160 right now that is very, very confusing. 23 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:24,640 And I'm going to just take you back a little bit into my 24 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:29,320 personal fight with female. When I realized that I was 25 00:01:29,320 --> 00:01:34,120 getting married and I became a born again Christian, one of the 26 00:01:34,120 --> 00:01:39,720 things I found out really quick was that females did not feel 27 00:01:40,040 --> 00:01:43,760 like they had voice or value in the church. 28 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:47,640 It was very confusing to me. I remember that moment when a 29 00:01:47,640 --> 00:01:51,520 minister got up and said where would we be without women. 30 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:55,200 I thought he was going to say it's amazing and he said we 31 00:01:55,200 --> 00:01:57,800 would be in the garden. Women are the ones that got us 32 00:01:57,800 --> 00:02:01,560 kicked out of the garden. And something inside of me 33 00:02:02,080 --> 00:02:07,680 thought that is never how I sense my father speaking to me. 34 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:13,520 And I went on this journey about what did it mean to be a woman? 35 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:16,080 What did it mean to be a daughter of God? 36 00:02:16,480 --> 00:02:19,560 I didn't always like women. I grew up in a very broken 37 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:26,000 household and I remember seeing women as vulnerable, seeing 38 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:31,080 women as mean. And I saw a lot of different 39 00:02:31,080 --> 00:02:35,960 dynamics between my parents. And I think as a young girl, I 40 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:38,080 felt closer to my dad than to my mom. 41 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:41,680 And at about 7 years of age, my mom had my brother. 42 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:45,480 And I remember there was a moment where she sat me down and 43 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:49,880 she said, listen, you're your dad's and your brother is mine, 44 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:53,640 and you're going to regret for the rest of your life that you 45 00:02:53,640 --> 00:02:57,600 didn't love me more than your dad because I'm not going to be 46 00:02:57,600 --> 00:03:00,360 there for you. And I had this moment of 47 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:05,080 abandonment where I felt so wounded and betrayed by my 48 00:03:05,080 --> 00:03:09,040 mother. I also think that women will 49 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:12,280 tend to actually open up their hearts with one another. 50 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:15,880 And when you've opened up your heart to somebody and you've 51 00:03:15,880 --> 00:03:19,160 been that intimate, they can wound you intimately. 52 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:24,400 I've been hurt by men, but I've been wounded by women. 53 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:29,880 And so I was super excited when I gave birth to four boys. 54 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:32,400 I would tell my husband, I don't like women. 55 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:35,240 I'm not really like those other women. 56 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:37,480 I have a man's brain in a woman's body. 57 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:40,000 And John would say things like, I'm actually not comfortable 58 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:42,320 with that. I used to think I don't like 59 00:03:42,320 --> 00:03:44,920 women, I don't like women, I don't like them at all. 60 00:03:44,920 --> 00:03:47,840 I'm not really a woman. I think like a man I am, I'm 61 00:03:47,840 --> 00:03:49,520 more masculine than I am feminine. 62 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:52,240 And I was really comfortable with all that until God 63 00:03:52,240 --> 00:03:54,360 confronted me and said, I like women. 64 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:58,760 I actually love women. I actually created woman as the 65 00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:00,920 answer to the very first problem. 66 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:04,200 And then I had to sit down and realize that my hatred towards 67 00:04:04,200 --> 00:04:08,760 women was the problem. And God said, all right, we're 68 00:04:08,760 --> 00:04:10,880 going to deal with this wound that you got from your mom. 69 00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:15,280 We're going to deal with this because you're so scared of 70 00:04:15,280 --> 00:04:19,320 having daughters. You've had all sons, but I've 71 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:22,680 called you to minister to women and I can't have you minister 72 00:04:22,680 --> 00:04:25,840 out of a bitterness. So I'm going to speak healing 73 00:04:25,840 --> 00:04:28,400 into your life when it comes to your womanhood. 74 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:29,960 And I was like, how are you going to do that? 75 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:33,400 I, I never had that woman who spoke life and healing and 76 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:35,480 strength into my life. And he said, you're going to 77 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:38,000 write it backwards and everything you wish another 78 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:41,360 woman would have been to you, You just begin to be. 79 00:04:41,720 --> 00:04:46,760 I have found out that the very things I didn't like about women 80 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:51,840 were the things that we were never created to be from the 81 00:04:51,840 --> 00:04:55,320 beginning of time, which actually time began with the 82 00:04:55,320 --> 00:04:58,040 fall. From the beginning of time, 83 00:04:58,360 --> 00:05:03,680 there has been a very special hatred between the woman and the 84 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:05,840 serpent. And it's fascinating to me 85 00:05:05,840 --> 00:05:08,960 because so many people are like, oh wow, what happened here? 86 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:14,280 Well, it's interesting that God is the one who set enmity. 87 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:16,360 Now enmity is an interesting word. 88 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:20,920 It's not used often. Enmity is a hostility that the 89 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:25,320 longer it exists, the greater it grows. 90 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:31,240 Enmity is always in an opposite direction, and the woman and the 91 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:35,920 serpent are in a a state of enmity. 92 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:40,000 And when God said, I'm going to put enmity between the woman and 93 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:44,360 the serpent and the woman's seed and the enemy's seed, he 94 00:05:44,360 --> 00:05:48,280 actually was saying to the woman, guess what, you're going 95 00:05:48,280 --> 00:05:51,280 to be a problem. To the serpent, there should be 96 00:05:51,280 --> 00:05:55,160 no agreement between the woman and the serpent. 97 00:05:55,480 --> 00:05:58,640 And then we Fast forward to Revelations and we find a 98 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:03,320 Revelations 1217. And then the dragon was enraged 99 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:08,640 with the woman and went to make war against her children. 100 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:11,000 This is what we have going on right now. 101 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:16,360 He hates that we carry life. He hates that we birth life. 102 00:06:16,640 --> 00:06:21,600 He hates that we are women. He hates women. 103 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:27,360 He hates men too, but he hates women with a very specific 104 00:06:27,440 --> 00:06:30,400 hatred. And we're watching that hatred 105 00:06:30,680 --> 00:06:32,720 express itself in different ways. 106 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:36,680 We see it in misogyny. We see the hatred of women. 107 00:06:36,840 --> 00:06:41,960 We see it in oppression. But we also see it when women 108 00:06:41,960 --> 00:06:47,120 deny their femininity and actually hate what it means to 109 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:52,480 be a woman and want to be men. I often think that the feminist 110 00:06:52,480 --> 00:06:57,240 mindset is the most anti female mindset because it says to 111 00:06:57,240 --> 00:07:00,360 women, if you want to be powerful you need to act like a 112 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:02,200 man. But I don't want to act like a 113 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:06,840 man, I want to act like a woman. Right now we have a big battle 114 00:07:06,840 --> 00:07:11,000 on the forefront. We have culture sexualizing what 115 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:14,880 it means to be a woman. We've got men dressing up and 116 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:19,200 presenting as women. We've got women supporting the 117 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:23,960 presentation of men as women. We've got the church out there 118 00:07:23,960 --> 00:07:27,280 saying, oh, this is all because the women shouldn't be talking. 119 00:07:27,400 --> 00:07:31,040 We need to silence them. And women are being caught in 120 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:35,960 the in between of silencing and sexualization, and that is a 121 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:39,040 terrible space for us to find ourselves in. 122 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:44,920 I do believe that we are living in a time period where the world 123 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:52,280 needs the voice of woman, that God created woman for a answer 124 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:55,640 to a very, very specific problem. 125 00:07:56,000 --> 00:08:00,960 God said it's not good for man to be alone, but for a while now 126 00:08:01,320 --> 00:08:05,480 women have been acting like men, which puts the men back into a 127 00:08:05,480 --> 00:08:10,680 position of being alone. God gave us authority over 128 00:08:11,080 --> 00:08:16,320 everything but one another. Men do not have authority of 129 00:08:16,320 --> 00:08:20,960 dominion over women, and women don't have dominion over the 130 00:08:20,960 --> 00:08:23,360 men. But what happened with the fall 131 00:08:23,560 --> 00:08:27,520 was the women tried to wrestle with the men, the men tried to 132 00:08:27,520 --> 00:08:32,360 oppress the women, and both of the different genders, male and 133 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:37,480 female, found themselves in positions of weaknesses rather 134 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:43,000 than positions of strength. And I am believing that God is 135 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:47,440 saying I need my daughters to actually rise into the fullness 136 00:08:47,840 --> 00:08:51,600 of what it means to be a daughter of the Most High, what 137 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:54,160 it means to be a mother, what it means to be a wife, what it 138 00:08:54,160 --> 00:08:58,040 means to be a professional woman, what it means to be a 139 00:08:58,040 --> 00:09:02,280 woman and all of our frailty and all of our challenge and all of 140 00:09:02,280 --> 00:09:04,880 our beauty and all of our wonder. 141 00:09:05,120 --> 00:09:07,960 You know, so often, John, I'll look at different couples and 142 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:11,080 it'll seem like 1 is strong and the other one has to be weak. 143 00:09:11,080 --> 00:09:13,320 Or, you know, if the husband is really strong, the woman has to 144 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:16,720 be really passive, or if the woman's really strong, the man 145 00:09:16,720 --> 00:09:20,560 has to be passive. But the truth is God does not 146 00:09:20,560 --> 00:09:25,560 look at it that way. God loves strong men and strong 147 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:29,760 women. God has always created male and 148 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:34,320 female to be a power union. Now when one person is powerful 149 00:09:34,320 --> 00:09:38,200 and the other person is less than, that's not a power union. 150 00:09:38,440 --> 00:09:40,000 That is actually a power struggle. 151 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:42,720 That is one person saying I'm needy. 152 00:09:42,720 --> 00:09:45,960 I don't have anything to bring to this, you know, equation. 153 00:09:45,960 --> 00:09:47,920 So I just need you to fulfill my life. 154 00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:53,720 No, God wants us to both have the God-given authority and 155 00:09:53,720 --> 00:09:58,520 strength that He wove into us from a Genesis mandate. 156 00:09:58,720 --> 00:10:01,720 The reason I'm doing this podcast, The Fight for a Female, 157 00:10:01,720 --> 00:10:04,800 is I want other women to find their voice. 158 00:10:04,960 --> 00:10:10,800 I believe that just as cowardice is contagious, courage is 159 00:10:11,000 --> 00:10:14,040 contagious. And I believe that when you hear 160 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:17,120 other women having hard conversations, you're going to 161 00:10:17,120 --> 00:10:21,760 realize they're not alone. You know, initially I was 162 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:27,000 shocked that so many people became angry when I would even 163 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:32,280 say something like, hey, men are not women, women aren't men, we 164 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:34,360 need women to be women and men to be men. 165 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:39,560 People would jump on me. I remember 1 quote that I posted 166 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:45,400 that said our culture has wrongly equated loving everyone 167 00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:50,040 with approving of everything. It was actually a quote from a 168 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:53,240 book I wrote years back. And people were like, like, 169 00:10:53,240 --> 00:10:55,480 you're a transphobe, you're a bigot. 170 00:10:55,680 --> 00:10:58,520 We can't believe who are you talking about? 171 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:03,640 I was like, what in the world? But we should not be surprised 172 00:11:04,080 --> 00:11:08,440 if we get attacked. As a matter of fact, I I feel 173 00:11:08,880 --> 00:11:11,880 that we need to actually recover our courage. 174 00:11:12,640 --> 00:11:17,640 The more people that find their voice, speak the truth and are 175 00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:21,920 courageous, the more the truth is going to displace the life. 176 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:23,920 But I get it. I get it. 177 00:11:24,320 --> 00:11:27,720 I've had so many people DM me, so many people send me text 178 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:32,760 messages, say I'm so glad you're speaking up, that you're talking 179 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:37,600 about that biological sex is actually a God-given gift and it 180 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:41,960 is woven in our in the womb of wonder. 181 00:11:41,960 --> 00:11:44,760 It's woven within us in our mother's womb. 182 00:11:44,920 --> 00:11:48,600 We're so glad you're saying something, but we don't feel 183 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:54,560 that we should say something. Well, when we have an attack on 184 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:58,640 gender, or I'm just going to almost say it, biological sex, 185 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:04,360 you actually are attacking the image of God because God makes 186 00:12:04,360 --> 00:12:08,040 us in his image, male and female. 187 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:13,400 And when we begin to blend the genders, we begin to unmake what 188 00:12:13,400 --> 00:12:17,240 God made in wonder. So it's scary. 189 00:12:17,720 --> 00:12:22,760 It's scary, but we cannot afford to be cowards. 190 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:26,120 We have to use our voice. We've got to speak up for those 191 00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:29,800 who don't have a voice. And I'm hoping, I'm hoping that 192 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:33,280 in this podcast we'll have conversations that you can 193 00:12:33,280 --> 00:12:36,600 actually recover some courage, get some strategy because we're 194 00:12:36,600 --> 00:12:40,440 not fighting with people. We're fighting with an enemy who 195 00:12:40,440 --> 00:12:44,600 wants to unmake those who are created in God's image. 196 00:12:44,920 --> 00:12:49,320 I want to fight to see women realize what it means to be a 197 00:12:49,400 --> 00:12:53,880 woman, what it means to be a female, to take back the honor. 198 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:58,760 See, woman is our creation name. It is not something we can just 199 00:12:58,920 --> 00:13:00,880 be careless with. It is something that was 200 00:13:00,880 --> 00:13:06,120 God-given and God gave woman as an answer. 201 00:13:06,400 --> 00:13:11,720 So many times we see culture actually elevate women at the 202 00:13:11,720 --> 00:13:17,440 expense of men or elevate men at the expense of women, but God is 203 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:22,920 the one who said men and women together is what is so very, 204 00:13:23,040 --> 00:13:27,560 very good. And so I believe that female is 205 00:13:27,560 --> 00:13:31,080 something worth fighting for. I believe that we have to 206 00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:35,120 recover what we have lost, that we have to recover what we've 207 00:13:35,120 --> 00:13:37,880 laid aside. We've got to recover what the 208 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:41,520 enemy has stolen from us. Because from the beginning of 209 00:13:41,520 --> 00:13:44,640 time till the end of the time, there's been a battle between a 210 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:49,200 serpent that grows into a dragon, between one woman and an 211 00:13:49,200 --> 00:13:52,120 army of women and all of the children of God. 212 00:13:52,360 --> 00:13:55,360 And this is something for the women to fight. 213 00:13:55,600 --> 00:13:59,240 And we better find our voice and fight this battle now because 214 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:03,480 our children are at risk and our communities are at risk. 215 00:14:03,800 --> 00:14:08,120 And it is time that we begin to flourish in what we know to be 216 00:14:08,160 --> 00:14:12,840 true rather than just shrink, afraid that people are going to 217 00:14:12,840 --> 00:14:15,800 say we're being judgmental. So today I have my 218 00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:17,920 daughter-in-law, Christian. But if you're joining me and 219 00:14:17,920 --> 00:14:20,320 we're going to be talking about what it means, what the fight 220 00:14:20,320 --> 00:14:22,840 for female means and why it's important. 221 00:14:22,960 --> 00:14:26,920 Lisa, I just want to thank you for embracing women into your 222 00:14:26,920 --> 00:14:28,480 world. I can only imagine what that's 223 00:14:28,480 --> 00:14:32,640 like going from 4 boys and your husband and your home to having 224 00:14:32,800 --> 00:14:36,840 estrogen around you again. But I want to ask you, you 225 00:14:36,840 --> 00:14:41,720 obviously saw up close how boys play fight, how they fight real 226 00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:46,160 things in the world. What is a good way for women to 227 00:14:46,160 --> 00:14:47,400 fight the things we're up against? 228 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:49,960 Because we know the bad fighting is comparison. 229 00:14:49,960 --> 00:14:52,600 It's isolation. It's like negative self talk. 230 00:14:52,840 --> 00:14:56,000 But I wonder what are the good ways that we can fight the 231 00:14:56,000 --> 00:14:58,160 things we come up against? Well, I mean, you kind of gave 232 00:14:58,160 --> 00:14:59,600 some of the strategies right there. 233 00:14:59,600 --> 00:15:02,680 So to actually eliminate the negative self talk, because I 234 00:15:02,680 --> 00:15:06,080 think whenever you constantly beat yourself up, then you're 235 00:15:06,160 --> 00:15:07,480 you have to tear other people down. 236 00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:09,600 When you feel shamed, you're going to shame. 237 00:15:10,040 --> 00:15:13,120 When you feel blamed, you're like, OK, I'm going to have to 238 00:15:13,120 --> 00:15:16,200 attack other people because I need to to disassociate myself 239 00:15:16,200 --> 00:15:20,320 from this rich pain. I do feel that women could 240 00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:27,000 celebrate one another without not celebrating the men because 241 00:15:27,120 --> 00:15:29,360 I mean, like, we, you know, you and I were talking about the the 242 00:15:29,600 --> 00:15:32,720 the Barbie movie. It's like the Barbies every 243 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:33,600 morning. Hi. 244 00:15:33,600 --> 00:15:36,120 Hi. Yeah, They love each other, they 245 00:15:36,120 --> 00:15:37,880 celebrate each other. They. 246 00:15:38,240 --> 00:15:41,240 All beautiful. And the guys, they're annoying. 247 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:43,200 Did you see the poster? Actually, I saw that. 248 00:15:43,200 --> 00:15:45,360 I didn't. It said she's everything. 249 00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:48,480 He's just kin. Just just kin. 250 00:15:48,520 --> 00:15:49,520 Just kin. I'm like. 251 00:15:49,520 --> 00:15:51,520 Why is that the headline on that? 252 00:15:51,720 --> 00:15:54,400 No, it's not. It's not OK and and I think 253 00:15:54,400 --> 00:16:01,000 again, it's the wrong mindset. I don't love people that are the 254 00:16:01,000 --> 00:16:03,400 same as me. I need iron that's going to 255 00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:07,000 sharpen my iron. And so I like female friendships 256 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:10,120 that are going to challenge me, and I love that my husband 257 00:16:10,120 --> 00:16:12,920 challenges me. He's going to see things in my 258 00:16:12,920 --> 00:16:15,200 life I'm going to completely miss, and other females are 259 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:19,040 going to completely miss. But I do feel like we need to 260 00:16:19,040 --> 00:16:23,760 fight by flourishing. And so much of what I'm seeing 261 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:28,920 is people trying to fight by arguing and, and you know, going 262 00:16:28,920 --> 00:16:33,600 back to this whole idea of like, we're fighting with something 263 00:16:33,920 --> 00:16:37,600 that is unreasonable. So when you're fighting, if you 264 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:41,120 try to reason with something that's unreasonable, I mean, I 265 00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:43,560 mean, what is this? I mean, we are all the sudden 266 00:16:44,400 --> 00:16:47,200 men can be women and women can be men. 267 00:16:47,440 --> 00:16:52,040 Well, that creates all of this confusion in a binary world. 268 00:16:52,360 --> 00:16:56,600 And and women tend to be very like, oh, you know, OK, all 269 00:16:56,600 --> 00:16:58,280 right, if you want to be a woman, OK, I'll let you be a 270 00:16:58,280 --> 00:16:59,480 woman. We can't do that. 271 00:17:00,320 --> 00:17:02,040 We can't do that. Now, that doesn't mean we're 272 00:17:02,040 --> 00:17:04,400 hateful. That doesn't mean we attack 273 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:06,880 people. We're obviously not physically 274 00:17:07,000 --> 00:17:11,240 as strong as men, but it does mean we need to open our mouths 275 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:14,480 with wisdom and kindness and we need to use our voice and we 276 00:17:14,480 --> 00:17:19,440 need to talk about if we remain silent, what happens to the next 277 00:17:19,440 --> 00:17:21,640 generation. I mean, the whole Proverbs 31 278 00:17:21,640 --> 00:17:24,520 woman, if you push aside everything else, which is she 279 00:17:24,520 --> 00:17:29,640 said a lot of great things, but she says to her son, speak up 280 00:17:30,160 --> 00:17:32,400 for those who have lost their voice. 281 00:17:32,440 --> 00:17:36,760 And I feel like right now, by women trying to adopt the 282 00:17:36,760 --> 00:17:39,800 attitude and posture of men, they've lost their voice of 283 00:17:39,840 --> 00:17:41,960 actually what it means to be a woman. 284 00:17:42,840 --> 00:17:45,200 True, true. There's a Chinese proverb and I 285 00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:47,520 want to say it's probably from the Art of War, but they say 286 00:17:47,520 --> 00:17:51,040 that the enemies tactic is to cause confusion and you're 287 00:17:51,040 --> 00:17:52,400 talking. And I'm just seeing we're 288 00:17:52,400 --> 00:17:54,800 fighting so many other things that we're almost turn around. 289 00:17:54,800 --> 00:17:56,200 Like I don't even know what to swing at. 290 00:17:56,200 --> 00:17:59,320 I'm just gonna start swinging at everything and it's just chaos. 291 00:17:59,640 --> 00:18:03,680 And what we've talked about that hurts me the most is when we're 292 00:18:03,680 --> 00:18:07,360 talking about fighting for women in a modern way. 293 00:18:07,440 --> 00:18:10,000 It's like, well, what are who are we fighting for? 294 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:12,720 Because to me it's like, well, a woman can be anything and she 295 00:18:12,720 --> 00:18:14,880 can be this and she doesn't have to have virtue. 296 00:18:14,880 --> 00:18:17,800 I'm like, no, I want to know. And I love listening to you as 297 00:18:17,800 --> 00:18:21,200 you have these conversations. What does a Proverbs 31? 298 00:18:21,200 --> 00:18:23,480 What is a godly woman? What does she look? 299 00:18:23,480 --> 00:18:25,640 Like when I love, there's so much in there. 300 00:18:25,640 --> 00:18:28,720 I mean, I get when I first read, I was like, that is impossible. 301 00:18:28,760 --> 00:18:31,600 Of course she has help. I mean she has I'm I'm like my 302 00:18:31,600 --> 00:18:33,160 husband. If you give me handmaidens, I 303 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:35,840 could be godly too. Like this is very different. 304 00:18:36,120 --> 00:18:40,880 But I feel like that was a breath for the woman to say you 305 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:43,400 can actually consider a field and buy it. 306 00:18:43,800 --> 00:18:49,160 You can actually be a merchant. You can actually laugh at the 307 00:18:49,160 --> 00:18:52,760 future, not live in fear. You can actually be part of 308 00:18:52,760 --> 00:18:56,160 clothing your household in scarlet that that means like she 309 00:18:56,160 --> 00:18:58,880 brings the righteousness of God into her household. 310 00:18:58,880 --> 00:19:03,000 That and I feel like two men, many women are saying, OK, that 311 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:06,160 means godly women totally stay home and homeschool their kids. 312 00:19:06,160 --> 00:19:10,600 Submission only. And, and right or, or I can be a 313 00:19:10,600 --> 00:19:14,120 man and I'm the leader of everything and I'm a boss babe. 314 00:19:14,400 --> 00:19:21,480 And right now, those are really unhealthy extremes. 315 00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:26,200 Now, I'm not against trad wife if the trad wife is like, I love 316 00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:28,800 being home, caring for my children, caring for my 317 00:19:28,800 --> 00:19:32,000 household. I feel like the school system is 318 00:19:32,000 --> 00:19:35,920 not healthy right now in my particular area or I feel like 319 00:19:35,920 --> 00:19:38,080 my children would flourish at home. 320 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:41,840 I really feel like we fight by flourishing first in our 321 00:19:41,840 --> 00:19:45,360 marriages, first in, well, first in our relationship with God, 322 00:19:46,560 --> 00:19:49,880 then in our marriages, if we're married, in our friendships and 323 00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:53,840 community, if we're single. And as our families, we 324 00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:55,520 flourish. And as families flourish, 325 00:19:55,520 --> 00:19:58,800 communities flourish. And right now it's, it's we're 326 00:19:58,800 --> 00:20:02,800 fighting the wrong thing and we need to fight to flourish 327 00:20:02,840 --> 00:20:06,560 because we're, we're vineyards. And right now God is like, Hey, 328 00:20:06,840 --> 00:20:10,480 I'm pruning some stuff, and pruning is an awkward time 329 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:13,160 period. Because you feel naked and I 330 00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:15,760 feel like right now we're in that in between of either going 331 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:18,640 to be a boss babe or I'm going to be a trad wife. 332 00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:21,160 And both of those are extreme and God's like, how about you? 333 00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:25,400 Let me prune you right and bring forth the fruit I created you to 334 00:20:25,400 --> 00:20:27,880 bring forth. And sometimes that's just a very 335 00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:30,800 awkward in between. Yeah, but there's fruit in both 336 00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:33,160 of those. And so that's where we have this 337 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:34,600 division. And again, what we talked about 338 00:20:34,600 --> 00:20:37,440 in the beginning, if we're just, we feel insecure in who we are, 339 00:20:37,480 --> 00:20:40,360 of course it's going to be comparison or scrutiny to some 340 00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:42,720 other woman. But there's fruit in both of 341 00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:44,320 those. There's fruit in being a mother 342 00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:47,120 and being a wife and being someone that takes care of her 343 00:20:47,120 --> 00:20:49,480 home, but then also someone that's career driven, as you're 344 00:20:49,480 --> 00:20:53,160 saying, Proverbs 31, she chooses fine linen, she chooses of the 345 00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:55,240 field. So she has that entrepreneurial 346 00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:58,560 spirit. And I know a lot of the women 347 00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:00,880 listening to this are listening because they love how you've 348 00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:03,840 pioneered that and. I think, I think you can do 349 00:21:03,840 --> 00:21:06,800 both, it just can look different in different seasons. 350 00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:10,920 And I, I think that people try to have it all in one season and 351 00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:12,520 it gets really awkward and uncomfortable. 352 00:21:13,040 --> 00:21:16,200 And then I didn't have this dynamic of while I was doing 353 00:21:16,200 --> 00:21:19,360 awkward and uncomfortable being a content creator. 354 00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:22,680 I mean, I was just going to bed. I wasn't like, OK, how do I post 355 00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:24,920 my day? How do I pull my highlights? 356 00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:29,280 How do I minimize my low lights? I just was before God and just 357 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:33,200 saying, Hey, this is I messed up with this, but I feel really 358 00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:35,200 good about this. I'm going to give myself mercy 359 00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:36,760 on this. I'll do better tomorrow. 360 00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:39,280 I'm going to be slow to speak, quick to listen, slow to. 361 00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:44,040 I mean, I did not have to play to an audience other than God. 362 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:47,360 And I feel like that's very difficult because people are 363 00:21:47,360 --> 00:21:50,240 constantly dividing their time and their attention. 364 00:21:50,480 --> 00:21:54,320 And we have a generation that is more connected to their viral 365 00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:57,680 audience than their actual homes. 366 00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:03,280 And, and again, I believe in in working in whatever God puts 367 00:22:03,360 --> 00:22:05,600 your hand. Like I remember when I first 368 00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:09,560 married John, I stayed home at 1st and I thought, I can only 369 00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:12,600 bake bread for so long. And then I thought, OK, I'm 370 00:22:12,600 --> 00:22:16,120 going to go get a job. And so I worked and then I found 371 00:22:16,120 --> 00:22:21,120 something that I loved and what I'm doing now actually had its 372 00:22:21,120 --> 00:22:24,520 seed and what I started before I ever had children. 373 00:22:24,760 --> 00:22:28,160 And so I don't like telling people that their marriage needs 374 00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:31,520 to look like my marriage or they have to stay home or they have 375 00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:34,040 to work. I feel like every single person 376 00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:37,200 works that out with her husband and with her Lord. 377 00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:43,360 Do you think women today are more confused and and upheaval 378 00:22:43,360 --> 00:22:45,600 about who they are because of that audience factor? 379 00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:49,520 Like because they feel like they have to not become the best but 380 00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:52,360 be the best? Absolutely. 381 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:56,840 I mean they're either they're either exposing their incredibly 382 00:22:56,840 --> 00:23:01,240 brokenness to people who I mean, I don't know, I post you know, 383 00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:05,240 you you did my reel for me today on on Barbie and my husband, I 384 00:23:05,240 --> 00:23:06,400 read to him a couple of the response. 385 00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:08,840 He's like, why are your people so mean? 386 00:23:09,120 --> 00:23:12,720 And I said people have been given permission to come in 387 00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:16,240 other people's worlds and behave in very bad ways. 388 00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:22,040 And I, I, I don't get affected by it because I didn't grow up 389 00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:24,920 in it. But we have a generation that is 390 00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:28,640 growing up in it, becoming mothers in it, becoming wives in 391 00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:31,400 it, becoming entrepreneurs are working in it. 392 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:33,920 And there's constantly hustle, do, do, do. 393 00:23:34,200 --> 00:23:39,200 And I don't think they ever feel like what they did was enough. 394 00:23:39,800 --> 00:23:44,040 And there comes a time when you are fighting for female that you 395 00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:48,480 have to take a deep breath and say, because of Jesus, I'm more 396 00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:50,080 than enough. I'm not enough. 397 00:23:50,120 --> 00:23:52,680 I'm never going to be the best at everything. 398 00:23:52,880 --> 00:23:56,240 But in him I am his daughter. And and again, Christian, it 399 00:23:56,240 --> 00:23:59,320 goes back to our identity is not rooted in our roles. 400 00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:02,440 Our identity is rooted in who we are in Christ. 401 00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:06,320 And a lot of times I hear people say, well, Imago Dei, everybody 402 00:24:06,320 --> 00:24:09,400 is the image of God, but not everybody is a child of God. 403 00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:12,200 And so there is a different intimacy. 404 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:15,680 When you're born again, you're a son and a daughter of the living 405 00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:18,880 God. When you are born, you just 406 00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:22,320 carry the image of God, which is a beautiful, wonderful thing. 407 00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:25,200 And everybody is created in his image, but not everybody is his 408 00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:27,120 child. And I think sometimes the church 409 00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:31,440 gets a little confused on that. Because I love my son and I 410 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:35,280 think he looks like a great image of me and my husband. 411 00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:39,400 But if he just grew up looking like us, but not actually in 412 00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:42,520 stealing our family values, I would know, man, there's just 413 00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:46,160 this intimacy that's longing. I would hope I could rear him in 414 00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:49,040 a way where he's developing. And if, like you're saying, 415 00:24:49,040 --> 00:24:53,160 we're not becoming children of God and letting him influence us 416 00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:56,160 and give us wisdom, we are just going to be on this hamster 417 00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:58,920 wheel of who am I? Why do I not feel like I'm 418 00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:00,440 letting? Everybody define you. 419 00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:02,880 Right. Yeah, I mean, that's, I mean, 420 00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:05,600 here's the thing. You're playing to a, a, a, a 421 00:25:05,600 --> 00:25:09,440 mob, you know, and we just, you know, looking back constantly. 422 00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:13,840 I always look back at, you know, Good Friday, which of course, 423 00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:16,960 you know, is the worst day ever for Jesus. 424 00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:20,480 Good Friday ended a week that began with Hosanna. 425 00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:24,720 I mean, everybody's like, yay, Jesus, palm branches, Hosanna, 426 00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:28,720 Hosanna Cruzanium. And people might say, well, it 427 00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:31,200 wasn't always the same crowd, but it's always a crowd. 428 00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:34,720 So if you look into the crowd for one thing, you're going to 429 00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:36,200 play to the crowd for the next thing. 430 00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:40,520 And so we at the end of the day, Jesus dies for the crowd, but he 431 00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:43,000 doesn't live for the crowd. And I think that is the 432 00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:47,400 difference is we have to be people who will like lay down 433 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:50,440 our life for the benefit of others, but not live our lives 434 00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:54,240 for the for just the opinion and, you know, popularity with 435 00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:55,560 other people, so. Good. 436 00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:57,360 Yeah. And then the Barabbas thing, it 437 00:25:57,360 --> 00:25:59,600 just started with a whisper. It's like, hey, well, instead of 438 00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:01,800 Jesus, we get this murderous guy. 439 00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:05,200 And it is the imagery of. That's how we're influenced 440 00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:07,280 today. Just Satan whispering 1 little 441 00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:09,320 lie of well maybe you're not worth it. 442 00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:13,600 Maybe you are not beautiful, maybe you are unlovable because 443 00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:15,560 your, your parents left, whatever it might be. 444 00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:19,240 I know that, and correct me if I'm wrong, but that's how you 445 00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:22,280 actually started to fight for women because you didn't like 446 00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:25,720 women at first, but as you saw God's heart for them and you 447 00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:30,040 resonated with that, how did that shift go from I'm not going 448 00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:33,760 to preach to women I don't like women to Oh my gosh, I see how 449 00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:36,160 much the enemy has infiltrated God's daughters. 450 00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:39,480 Well, I mentioned that the seed of what I'm doing now actually 451 00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:42,920 started in my job. I became a makeup artist in 452 00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:45,880 Dallas, TX. And when you take the makeup 453 00:26:46,120 --> 00:26:52,520 awful woman in public in Dallas, TX, you see her pain, you see 454 00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:55,440 her insecurities, you see her frailties. 455 00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:59,200 And all of a sudden these women that walked in one way, as I 456 00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:04,720 took their makeup off, they shrunk into just a a shade of 457 00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:06,800 what they had been when they walked in. 458 00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:10,640 And then when I put their faces back on, they felt confident 459 00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:14,560 again. And, and I just had such 460 00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:17,960 compassion when I watched that happening. 461 00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:21,480 I was very young at the time, but I was like, whoa, whoa, 462 00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:24,400 whoa. Women act one way, but they 463 00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:28,120 really are struggling with a lot of the very same things that 464 00:27:28,120 --> 00:27:31,560 most women are wrestling with. They don't feel valued. 465 00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:34,200 They don't feel loved. And again, if you're looking to 466 00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:37,600 other people to define you, you're giving up all your power. 467 00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:41,760 And so as women, we are beautiful because we are created 468 00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:46,440 to be his daughters image of God and daughter of the most high 469 00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:48,320 God. And fighting for female is to 470 00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:52,360 take back the value of those things that are uniquely ours. 471 00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:57,440 Like you know your mother and you're expecting a child. 472 00:27:58,120 --> 00:28:01,080 A man will never be able to carry a baby. 473 00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:05,680 It is one of the most wondrous things that you will ever go 474 00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:10,960 through as a woman. And that is being represented as 475 00:28:10,960 --> 00:28:15,160 children are a hindrance. Pregnancy is just sickness and 476 00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:16,800 you know, you're, you're losing your body. 477 00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:22,120 I mean, there's no beauty that is constantly expressed unless 478 00:28:22,120 --> 00:28:25,840 you're in the Christian realm about what that means to carry a 479 00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:30,680 life and give a life and partner with God in bringing forth life. 480 00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:35,160 Truly, it's been the biggest growth for me and the most 481 00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:39,040 amazing blessing, and I've loved being able to flourish, as you 482 00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:41,680 said, in singleness, in marriage and in motherhood. 483 00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:46,360 For the woman listening that it wants to flourish, how does she 484 00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:50,400 become that godly woman that says, I'm going to put down 485 00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:52,000 gossip and then cut down slander? 486 00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:53,880 I want to rise up to that measure. 487 00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:57,120 What's your advice for walking in that image? 488 00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:02,640 Well, I, as you know, I just planted a garden and it's 489 00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:03,480 beautiful. Thank you. 490 00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:06,360 It's it's a little raised bed. Hopefully we're, we're getting 491 00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:07,560 some freeze. So hopefully it's going to 492 00:29:07,560 --> 00:29:10,760 survive. But when God talks about 493 00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:16,160 something flourishing, he talks about it as a tree planted in 494 00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:20,040 the right environment, planted by the rivers of water, bringing 495 00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:23,320 forth fruit in its season. And so he he's saying it's not 496 00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:25,720 going to flourish in every season, but it's going to 497 00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,800 flourish in its fruit in the right season. 498 00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:33,160 And so as I plant things, I'm creating conditions for them to 499 00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:35,600 flourish. I have the right soil, I've got 500 00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:37,520 watering. I'm going to protect it from 501 00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:41,240 harsh environments. And I think in our relationships 502 00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:46,480 as women, we have the right to edit our lives and make sure 503 00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:49,880 that we are surrounding our lives, our marriage, our 504 00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:54,160 children with what they need to flourish. 505 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:57,400 Like, for example, you know, when John and I moved from 506 00:29:57,400 --> 00:30:01,360 Florida to Colorado, I found myself really wanting some 507 00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:05,440 friends and I had some some women befriend me. 508 00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:09,240 And their favorite thing to do when we all went out was to just 509 00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:14,440 totally rag on their husbands. And I thought, you know, when, 510 00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:16,880 when women are all talking about, oh, men are just jerks, 511 00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:18,520 They're this. And then you kind of feel like, 512 00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:20,480 well, if I don't say my husband's a jerk, I'm gonna 513 00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:22,480 have, I'm gonna have to come up with something or they're going 514 00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:24,280 to kick me out of this group. And so. 515 00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:25,720 I Yeah. Your husband's a jerk. 516 00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:26,840 I've seen him treat you. Yeah. 517 00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:29,360 She's joking my husband's. Amazing. 518 00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:30,800 Oh no. So you can tell your friends 519 00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:32,080 that like no. I agree. 520 00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:34,840 Yeah, No, they're like and, and just, I mean, ridiculous. 521 00:30:35,160 --> 00:30:39,720 And I would, I would think, wait a minute, do I want John to go 522 00:30:39,720 --> 00:30:43,640 out with guys that do this about their wives? 523 00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:49,440 So I had to pull away from relationships that were going to 524 00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:52,320 actually 'cause my marriage not to flourish. 525 00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:55,720 I had to say, those are beautiful women, but they're 526 00:30:55,720 --> 00:30:57,880 dangerous for me right now because I just went through a 527 00:30:57,880 --> 00:30:59,480 transition. I've got young boys. 528 00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:02,800 I've got a husband that travels. I do not need the worst 529 00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:04,160 highlighted in my husband's life. 530 00:31:04,520 --> 00:31:07,960 I need the best. So that would be friendships, 531 00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:11,640 you know, friendships you've got to have friendships that are 532 00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:14,440 your iron, sharpening iron friendships. 533 00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:17,520 Everybody doesn't need a girlfriend that agrees with 534 00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:19,920 them. Some of us need some girlfriends 535 00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:22,720 that call us higher, that say, what are you saying? 536 00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:24,560 What are you thinking? You can't act that way. 537 00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:27,760 What does the word of God say? We need people who will hold our 538 00:31:27,760 --> 00:31:32,680 feet to the fire of God's word. I have friends like that and I'm 539 00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:36,440 going to say this, in our life, we don't have a lot of those 540 00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:39,080 friendships, but we should treasure the ones that we have. 541 00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:41,040 So that's flourishing in our friendships. 542 00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:45,200 And then do what you love, do what you love and do what you 543 00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:49,600 want to do, what you're doing in this season to your best of 544 00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:51,720 ability. Because when we're faithful, 545 00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:53,840 we'll flourish in another season. 546 00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:57,560 And too many women are despising one season. 547 00:31:57,880 --> 00:32:00,920 That is a preparation season expecting they're going to 548 00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:04,080 flourish in the next season. So know this season of your 549 00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:06,840 life, the season of your friendship, the season of your 550 00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:09,240 parenting season of your marriage. 551 00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:13,160 Know that season. Know what causes it to grow and 552 00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:16,440 flourish in that season and don't neglect it in one season 553 00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:17,960 because you're longing for the next season. 554 00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:22,080 So I think women having friends that call them to godliness 555 00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:26,480 bring out their best, not just you go girl, but friends that 556 00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:31,160 are like, you're going to go girl the wrong way unless you 557 00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:34,800 deal with some of this stuff. Because we find so many people 558 00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:38,920 that have risen to high success, entrepreneur women who are 559 00:32:39,120 --> 00:32:42,360 broken marriages, broken relationships with their 560 00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:45,040 children, broken relationship with their friendships, and they 561 00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:47,400 don't feel like they're flourishing even though maybe 562 00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:49,680 they're wealthy when it comes to finances. 563 00:32:49,840 --> 00:32:53,960 So we want women to flourish spirit, soul and body, and we're 564 00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:56,680 going to actually have direct conversations and hard truth 565 00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:59,440 around that. I believe there is a war against 566 00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:03,440 women, and I believe this is a war that God is going to equip 567 00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:06,440 us to win. I believe that the enemy is 568 00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:11,440 fighting everything that is female because he is terrified 569 00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:15,160 that you are going to wake up and discover the woman that God 570 00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:17,800 wove you in your mother's womb to be. 571 00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:22,080 God has His hand on your life for this moment, for this fight, 572 00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:26,960 and we are committed to growing you in godliness and strength. 573 00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:30,080 We are not going to back down from truth, but we're going to 574 00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,120 speak the truth that transforms your life in Jesus name.