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One, welcome everybody to 
another smart money Circle 

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update on Madam. 
Sorry, hang with me today is a 

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very, very special guest. 
I am very excited for today's 

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interview. 
It's Scotch. 

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Marin who is the founder of the 
ultimate Visionary mind.com and 

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he's a noro performance ologist.
The whole point of this show. 

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Smart money, circle is to find 
Timeless advice to help you grow

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and learn and Scott. 
I believe is one of those truly 

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blessed Souls that has a 
brilliant mind. 

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And I'll let him speak for 
himself. 

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Scott, welcome to the show. 
Thanks, so Scott. 

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I was like to begin. 
Can you tell us your story? 

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Which is remarkable and how you 
got to where you are today? 

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Please sure. 
Well, you know, when I grew up 

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as a kid, I always had this idea
in my head or maybe even in my 

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heart that I needed to help 
people make a difference in this

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world and you would have known 
me as a kid because I was the 

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fat kid in my neighborhood. 
And when I say fat, I was really

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heavy and people made fun of me.
Kids tease me. 

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Bully. 
Me, sometimes even the parents, 

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they would say, Things and being
sensitive it hurt. 

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And what happened was, I started
to withdraw from the world and 

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my life became eating and 
watching TV, a lot of bad 

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sitcoms from the 60s and the 
70s. 

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And it was really just this 
Perpetual horrible thing. 

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You know, I would withdraw for 
being teased and I would eat 

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more and more and watch more TV 
than get heavier than BT's more,

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and it got worse, and worse, and
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And so many things. 
Like I remember growing up as a 

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kid and in junior high school, 
ever used to do the president's 

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program on physical fitness. 
Don't even know if they still do

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it anymore. 
I've done that. 

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Yeah, I remember and it was a 
week-long of all kinds of 

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things. 
Like push ups and sit ups and 

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pull ups, none of them, I did 
really well, but the day I hated

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the most, there was one day that
they wait us and in our gym 

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class our gym teacher. 
Thought it was much more 

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efficient to weigh us from the 
lightest to the heaviest kid, 

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and it would be the same thing 
every year. 

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The gym class and all the kids 
have already been weighed in and

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they're all on the one side of 
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And I'm just standing there by 
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And every year, I would wish for
the same thing that some new kid

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would move into my neighborhood,
who was bigger and heavier than 

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me. 
So, they could be the heaviest 

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in the last one, and it be the 
same thing every year to be 

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nobody left in the gym, teacher 
would say, Okay, Marin and 

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anybody else, and there won't be
anybody else, and everybody 

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would just cheer and clap. 
Like it was a big honor to be 

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the heaviest one in the class, 
and I put on this, This big fake

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smile and inside, I was dying 
and I had weigh-in and all kinds

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of things like a happened and 
growing up through life. 

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Just how about getting on an 
airplane and not being able to 

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fit in the seat and having to 
ask the flight attendant for a 

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seatbelt extender. 
And if you don't know what that 

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is, that's the part they used. 
When they show you how the 

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seatbelt works in the airplane, 
even though everybody knows how 

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to do it already and there's 
nothing more embarrassing than 

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have to ring the call button. 
And ask for it. 

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And everybody looks and it's 
embarrassing and I remember 

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being in my early 20s and being 
invited to a New Year's Eve 

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party and I was excited to be 
invited to receive 50 people 

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there. 
And I remember, they just big 

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spread of food and it made a big
plate of food for myself, grab 

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my diet coke, and I remember 
finding this rocking chair was 

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perfectly situated. 
The room where I could sit down 

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and just watch everything. 
And I sat down with my food and 

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Diet Coke. 
And Also in the chair just broke

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not just broke it. 
Just I crushed it was like a 

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scene out of a movie and food 
diet coke and this little short 

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fat guy laying on the floor. 
And in that moment, everybody 

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froze. 
They turned around and looked. 

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And they all started to laugh 
and I guess if I was watching it

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too, would be funny. 
But I never felt so horrible in 

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my life. 
I just wish that was about this 

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big and I can just go hide 
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And again I put on that stupid 
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And I gather as fast as I could.
I spent the rest of my New 

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Year's Eve that day in my 
apartment, that night with my 

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two best friends. 
At this time, a large sausage 

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pizza from a local pizza place 
that I had a tablet because I 

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ate there so much and a frozen 
cheesecake and that little voice

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inside of me, wanting to help 
people and make a difference in 

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this world died. 
And it got to the point where I 

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was so angry. 
And so frustrated, I don't know 

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how many times I had lost 
weight, put it back on, I was 

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frustrated and I finally gave up
I couldn't stand it anymore. 

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The pain was too great and I 
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live so I took an entire bottle 
of sleeping pills an entire 

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bottle of painkillers and I 
remember putting them in a 

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little paper Dixie cup. 
Going into my bathroom and I put

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that Dixie cup on the bathroom 
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And I remember looking at myself
in the mirror and not seeing 

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anything, what was in a lot of 
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And I took all the pills, I took
all the pills. 

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And in that moment I felt two 
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One I felt this huge relief that
my life was going to end and I 

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was to be out of pain but I was 
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It didn't know what was going to
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And I remember sitting in this 
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My almost like my security 
blanket. 

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I would sit in that chair, I'd 
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I eat, I pontificate from that 
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I'd hide from the world in their
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And at some point, I don't 
remember much after that, I 

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passed out, and then something 
miraculous happened. 

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I don't know what, but I took 
enough medication probably to 

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kill an elephant. 
I was at my worst, I'm not a 

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giant. 
I'm 5 foot 6. 

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At that point. 
I weighed 360 pounds. 

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I had a 56 inch waist. 
I was almost as big around as I 

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was Tall and I passed out in 
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And I remember the following 
morning opening my eyes, I never

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went to a hospital and I 
remember seeing the light coming

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through my living room window, 
And I felt this tremendous sense

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of peace. 
I thought I was dead for a 

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moment to be honest with you and
I open my eyes and then I 

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realized that I was alive. 
And I see, no, but I must be 

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here for a reason. 
And in that moment, I began to 

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cry. 
And I felt this tremendous 

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relief, but also something 
happened that I had never felt 

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before I became responsible for 
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I stop blaming everybody else 
for me, being heavy or not, 

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loving me and accepting me or 
not being a successful as I 

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wanted to be. 
I realized that I was the maker 

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of my own mess. 
And I got out of that chair and 

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I said to myself, I want to find
out why, why are there two 

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people inside of me? 
And I'm sure a lot of people can

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relate to this. 
The person inside of me. 

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They wants to be happy healthy 
thin successful love. 

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And yet, every time I try to 
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something else just pulled me 
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Like there was another person 
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Wow, so I began to read, I 
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work and I set my first goal and
my first goal was just to be 

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able to go out in public and not
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the more I read, I realized that
it was the subconscious mind 

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that controlled everything, we 
try to change everything at a 

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conscious level and that usually
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And I started studying things 
like hypnosis The neuro 

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linguistic programming and 
different types of meditation 

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and creative visualization. 
And I started taking their 

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commonalities. 
And I started forming this 

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process which now I called the 
quartic formula for success and 

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I began to change. 
And soon, I was at a normal size

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and weight and then I decided, 
you know, I want so much more. 

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So I create a vision of how I 
wanted my life to be. 

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I mean, there's things I had 
never done because I wasn't 

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physically able to or I was 
afraid to leave the small cage I

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created for myself and my home. 
And as I started changed, people

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started to notice. 
And I was a residential real 

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estate broker that time is 
actually pretty successful and 

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the little voice in my head came
back and says, you know, you 

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needed help people and make a 
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And I kind of shush that voice 
and it kept getting louder and 

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started screaming at me. 
And I said, okay, this is what I

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need to be doing all my life. 
This is how I saw myself as 

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helping people and make a 
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So, I walked away from my real 
estate career and I started 

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working with people and helping 
people and helping them change 

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their lives, whether not just to
lose weight, but yeah, people 

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want to be more successful. 
They want to make more money, 

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there's obstacles and 
challenges. 

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They want to come overcome 
stress, anxiety, Financial 

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abundance. 
And this has been my path really

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for the last 15, 16 years. 
Absolutely remarkable stories. 

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Got, thank you for sharing it. 
So how old were you when you 

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were in that chair looking up 
and you have the aha, I was 

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about 40 years old or over. 
Over 20 years ago. 

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Okay. 
And my path is just evolved and 

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changed. 
It's still changing and 

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evolving. 
Now it's funny. 

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So the two voices in your head, 
have you read my book or not 

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yet? 
I have not read your book yet. 

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So my book, it's about 
psychological analysis. 

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I have a very similar story, had
overcome a lot of childhood 

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stuff adversity and I was 
overweight as well. 

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And I remember that presents a 
challenge and it sucked to put 

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it nicely. 
But, you know, there's a good 

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evil inside of us is smart. 
Dumb side of us are all that 

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stuff. 
So in the book it's the only 

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finance book I know of that has 
cartoons in it. 

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I put tunes and it to illustrate
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So the guy in the big one is a 
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The smart money super here. 
I call them and the other one is

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that dumb money Beast. 
It's almost like a Tasmanian 

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devil inside of us causing us to
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Make emotional decisions, not 
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And the sobriety superhero is 
this designed to help us make 

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logical. 
Rational, emotional decisions 

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not you know sorry not emotional
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Rational decisions May overcome 
the Beast. 

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Yeah, so that's kind of the 
premise of my life's journey 

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even though it's the first time 
we meet and speak. 

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Her, you know, and decent amount
of time. 

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I'm really fascinated with what 
you've learned and almost like 

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what we've learned in parallel 
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So, all right, let's, let's jump
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If we can. 
Yeah, well, you said some, so 

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there's like these two piece 
inside of us and I think what 

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people don't realize, you know, 
we are products of the 

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environment that we grew up in 
whether it's just environment 

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trauma. 
And what happens is, I find 

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there's a commonly work with 
lots of people for lots of 

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things and a lot of it stems 
down to worthiness and a Lot of 

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people don't see themselves 
worthy whether it's making more 

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money or being successful. 
Like I work with a lot of small 

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business and sales people and a 
lot of them come to me with two 

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different issues but they're 
really the same issue. 

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I'll go to sales person that 
they get to a certain income 

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level and they can't get over it
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Stuck or they have huge success.
Make a lot of money and then 

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they crash and burn and then 
they do this, they're up and 

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they're down, then it when it 
gets too low, then they kick 

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back in their gear and it all 
comes back. 

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To worthiness. 
They don't really think they're 

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worthy of what they want and 
desire because it's been 

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programmed into their head and 
we know that our subconscious 

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mind doesn't distinguish real 
not real good or bad, right or 

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wrong. 
So if the picture is, this is 

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how you've always been the 
moment, you try to change it, 

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you're going to get resistance. 
You know some reason was 97 

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percent of people that lose 
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Why the picture up here says 
that you're supposed to be heavy

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if you've been heavy all your 
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So now you go against that 
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What are you doing? 
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convince you not to do it or 
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Why you can't do this anymore? 
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Wow, I have a whole chapter in 
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I call a mental walls when you 
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I love that. 
So okay, let's talk about the 

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Breakthrough, Scott biggest. 
A lot of what you do came. 

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When you realize that you're in 
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change the identity yet that 
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How do you break through? 
How do you change the identity? 

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What is the quadratic formula 
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How does that work? 
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things that you're doing, you 
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what you're doing, it's kind of 
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aware of, is becoming conscious 
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So the quartic format, is this 
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didn't know that I was using. 
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I call them the four hours. 
They are relax release 

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reprogram. 
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relax in a deep relaxed hypnotic
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lot of stress and anxiety. 
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Performance date much the same 
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the zone. 
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to your resources, your skills, 
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imagination, your memory and 
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feelings and habits. 
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time you choose like in your 
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decisions. 
Better problem. 

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Solving skills controlling your 
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we move in The Next Step which 
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We already touched on that all 
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past, stuck in your head. 
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they just suck you right back to
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gotta get rid of this stuff. 
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stuff, you just free up all the 
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seeds of what you want. 
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reprogramming and like I 
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subconscious mind season 
pictures, It doesn't distinguish

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real not real and it doesn't 
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So if you give it a picture of 
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to be with purpose, passion and 
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right now, it'll accept that as 
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towards that picture. 
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this in the program, I work with
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Vision of how they want their 
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her life and then burn it into 
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hypnosis and Some other tools. 
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was I wanted the 175 pounds or 
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lean attractive body that I 
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life. 
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mind using tools like hypnosis 
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mindset. 
Okay. 

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Well, gee, what is a man 175 
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Do how does he eat? 
How does he dress, how does he 

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now you're not attached to the 
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Like well, This didn't work 
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I became really committed to the
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Okay if I do this this is going 
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I'm wake up I'm under 175 pounds
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because I'm inside that way by 
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That's true for everything if 
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business models, you can take 
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you can go all the way back in 
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Bell, and all these other 
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They didn't become successful. 
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Clear Vision of what they wanted
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focused all their energy on it. 
Maybe you want to say became 

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obsessed with it and then it was
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catching up with their internal 
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Just, that's just the way it is.
We see it all the time. 

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You see any great athlete, they 
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to accomplish how they wanted to
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clear picture in their head of 
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focus their attention on him. 
The book, Think and Grow Rich. 

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Yeah, the quintessential book on
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All-time best-selling book 
Napoleon Hill in his complete 

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work of all success. 
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Successful. 
People every night as they were 

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going to sleep, they Envision 
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to accomplish, and then fell 
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sleep, which means they're going
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which is a hypnotic State giving
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subconscious. - mind and then 
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play with it all night long. 
It's very powerful. 

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It's how it works and equality. 
No, talk about focusing your 

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attention on your, what do you 
call your, girl, your chief aim,

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or your definite, major purpose 
in life, turning it over to your

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subconscious mind and then 
turning it over to the infinite 

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intelligence of the universe. 
However you wanted to find it 

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for yourself. 
And then the last are this 

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equation is reinforced. 
You know if you go to the gym 

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workout getting really good 
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You're going Keep going and the 
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subconscious mind. 
So, is creating these new 

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routines. 
We are creatures of habit and 

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routine. 
So, if you create this new 

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routine and then reinforce it 
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norm, and then you start moving 
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It's really pretty simple and 
it's really pretty easy. 

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It's unfortunate that in our 
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handbook on how to use our our 
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So I absolutely love it. 
So actually I'm going to process

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starting a foundation To do just
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And it's one of my passions in 
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Reinventing the wheel. 
So, okay, this is actually 

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brilliant Scott. 
So you did that to yourself when

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you had that shift in your 
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So you did it, you just stumbled
upon it or did you said you 

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studied NLP and hypnosis? 
Well, I started reading books 

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and I noticed commonalities 
which everything to do with the 

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subconscious mind and then I 
spent hundreds Mount probably 

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thousands of hours in classrooms
learning. 

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Um, people I had some really 
incredible Masters. 

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I spent over 100 hours in a 
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learning hypnosis. 
I was able to study NLP with one

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of the creators of enthalpy, 
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And I've studied a lot of things
from the Silva method to all 

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kinds of things and I still like
to learn new things. 

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You never know what you're going
to pick up your and they're so 

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helpful and it helps you push 
your mind and keep pushing your 

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mind and Direction you want to 
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Love it. 
So let's let's go little bit 

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with a success mindset. 
I know you're very success, 

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driven. 
You've obviously turned your 

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life around and hats off to you 
a standing ovation. 

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What I mean from the bottom of 
my heart, what is the success 

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mindset? 
The blueprint that you'd like to

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share with the audience? 
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success is about making small 
adjustments and changes and just

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doing them over and over. 
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people fail Achieving success. 
However you wanted to find 

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success is they create an 
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don't get me wrong, an 
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sword. 
So having the expectation of 

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succeeding is a wonderful thing.
Then what happens is we create 

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an expectation of how that path 
is supposed to go and how long 

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it's supposed to take and that 
is even okay, unless we become 

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married to that expectation and 
then what happens is that 

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expectations really not based on
anything especially if never Had

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that type of success whether to 
losing weight, making more 

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money, whatever it is. 
So your expectations, really not

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based on anything, it just based
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Now, you start driving down that
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Working, you're not getting 
there or it's not happening 

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happening as quickly as it can. 
So, what happens? 

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They quit it. 
Quit it didn't meet the 

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expectations. 
They think what they're doing 

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doesn't work, or they're not 
good enough. 

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When the reality is, if they 
just kept going, they would be 

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fine. 
I see it all the time. 

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People go to a seminar and 
they're expecting this big 

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giant. 
Aha. 

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That's going to transform their 
life in a split second and it 

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doesn't happen. 
Success small incremental 

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changes done. 
Consistently over and over and 

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over create success and people 
don't really think that way and 

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they see little tiny changes. 
And they Don't think it's enough

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again because their expectations
wrong. 

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So I would say the greatest 
thing you can do to be 

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successful. 
Anything you do is to embrace 

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your three best friends. 
And if you can Embrace these 

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three best friends, you'll have 
lifelong success in every of 

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your life and those three best 
friends are patience persistence

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Faith. 
So, patience patience is knowing

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that however long they had 
journey is you're going to stay 

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on it. 
And it's not going to be what 

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you think it's going to be. 
It's just keep plugging away and

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getting there and doing it. 
No matter how long it takes 

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that, you're in it for the Long 
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Persistence. 
We have this idea that we're 

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going to go from point A to 
point B, in a straight line, 

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right? 
I don't know anybody yet that 

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I've met, that that happens. 
There are going to be curves 

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bumps. 
If you live in a place that has 

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winter like I do in Chicago 
potholes in that road to getting

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there, they're all things you 
need to learn to get there. 

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And what happens for many people
talk about resistance in the 

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mind for change, they started 
the journey things start to go. 

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Well, then something happens and
instantly - oh my God, see this 

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doesn't work and then he turned 
around, they run tailback where 

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they were before. 
So persistence is knowing that 

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whatever is going to happen is 
going to happen and you're just 

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going to keep plugging away to 
get knocked down, you get back 

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up. 
Persistence, you just keep going

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and faith. 
If you knew how to get from 

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point A to point B, you would be
there already but you don't. 

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So you take action and you move 
in that direction in. 

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Faith is knowing that, you don't
know, you need to know but you 

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have the faith. 
It every step you take is an 

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open up a new doorway or shows 
you something new and different 

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that's and help you get to 
there. 

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And so faith is knowing, you 
just can take action and you're 

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just going to keep going. 
So if you can Embrace those 

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three things there. 
It's really a very simple 

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formula for Success. 
Yeah. 

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No. 
I've noticed most things in life

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are simple but not easy, like, 
well, I yeah, you got it 

454
00:22:50,900 --> 00:22:52,700
calories in versus calories out 
but most people. 

455
00:22:52,700 --> 00:22:56,100
Right? 
Okay, so it is simple but most 

456
00:22:56,100 --> 00:22:59,000
people just don't want to do it.
They want it now and we look, 

457
00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:00,600
let's face it. 
We live in a world now where 

458
00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:03,000
everything is instant. 
You know why I grew up as a kid 

459
00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:04,400
if you ordered something by 
email. 

460
00:23:04,400 --> 00:23:06,200
If you got it in 30 days, you 
were thrilled. 

461
00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:08,100
Now, it's not on there on day 
two. 

462
00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:09,900
We want to know why it's taking 
so long. 

463
00:23:10,100 --> 00:23:13,300
Yeah, so okay, I absolutely love
that. 

464
00:23:13,300 --> 00:23:16,200
So let's talk about Horse 
correction. 

465
00:23:16,500 --> 00:23:18,200
So I was going to ask you about 
the three best friends I 

466
00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:19,500
listened to your Ted Talk. 
I love that. 

467
00:23:19,500 --> 00:23:21,400
Thank you for bringing that up. 
That was my next question. 

468
00:23:21,700 --> 00:23:25,500
So, when you patience 
persistence and then Faith, what

469
00:23:25,500 --> 00:23:27,700
if you're doing something? 
Quote-unquote wrong? 

470
00:23:27,700 --> 00:23:30,000
And its leading you in the wrong
direction, but you keep doing it

471
00:23:30,000 --> 00:23:34,500
expecting it to change. 
How do you square that where 

472
00:23:34,500 --> 00:23:37,800
you're just as well? 
Well, you can't be married to 

473
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:38,700
the actions. 
You take. 

474
00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:42,400
Okay. 
So you take an action How did it

475
00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:43,500
work? 
Is it working? 

476
00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:45,000
Good. 
Keep going in that direction. 

477
00:23:45,500 --> 00:23:47,900
If it's not working, you make 
adjustments, you know? 

478
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:52,200
It's not enough just to think 
about what you want, you have to

479
00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:54,100
take action. 
Does it have to be the right 

480
00:23:54,100 --> 00:23:56,000
action? 
No, because the moment you take 

481
00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:59,700
action, you get a result. 
Maybe it's the right result or a

482
00:23:59,708 --> 00:24:01,500
result. 
Its leading you down the path to

483
00:24:01,500 --> 00:24:04,200
where you want to go or the 
feedback is. 

484
00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:07,300
We're not, it's not working. 
So you make an adjustment, you 

485
00:24:07,300 --> 00:24:11,700
don't quit. 
It's adjust Keep going, just 

486
00:24:11,700 --> 00:24:15,000
keep going the analogy. 
I use is if I handed you a 

487
00:24:15,000 --> 00:24:17,600
pistol and I say, I want you to 
shoot the Bull's Eye on the 

488
00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:19,900
target. 
What'll happen is most people 

489
00:24:19,900 --> 00:24:22,800
will aim and they'll aim and 
they'll aim and I'll never shoot

490
00:24:22,800 --> 00:24:24,800
the gun because they're trying 
to hit the bullseye on the first

491
00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:27,100
shot and they're probably not 
going to and they want to take 

492
00:24:27,100 --> 00:24:30,100
the perfect shot. 
You can't a highly successful 

493
00:24:30,100 --> 00:24:32,500
person. 
Will aim the gun fire? 

494
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:36,400
See where the bullet goes? 
A just shoot. 

495
00:24:36,500 --> 00:24:40,300
A just shoot until they hit the 
bullseye and that's really It's 

496
00:24:40,300 --> 00:24:42,900
about is action. 
Adjust action, adjust. 

497
00:24:42,900 --> 00:24:45,500
It's not difficult. 
But again, we want to take 

498
00:24:45,500 --> 00:24:47,900
Perfect action and you can't do 
that. 

499
00:24:48,100 --> 00:24:52,000
You just take action. 
If action is movement and 

500
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:56,000
movement creates a results and 
results create success. 

501
00:24:57,100 --> 00:24:59,200
Absolutely, love it. 
So Brilliance almost like over 

502
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,900
analysis leads to paralysis 
where there just to try and over

503
00:25:01,900 --> 00:25:03,300
and over all the time. 
Yeah. 

504
00:25:03,300 --> 00:25:04,600
All the time. 
Wow. 

505
00:25:04,600 --> 00:25:07,400
Okay. 
Let's talk about hypnosis 

506
00:25:07,500 --> 00:25:09,500
please. 
Can you give us an overview on 

507
00:25:09,500 --> 00:25:13,000
how it? 
Well, you know there's a lot of 

508
00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:15,300
whoo. 
The people think about hypnosis 

509
00:25:15,300 --> 00:25:18,600
and the reality is it's a 
natural state of mind that we 

510
00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:21,300
are in and out of all day. 
Long Neuroscience have told us 

511
00:25:21,300 --> 00:25:24,600
that about 85 to 90% of what we 
do during the day are done at a 

512
00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:28,000
subconscious level. 
So people say why I'm not 

513
00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:29,900
hypnotizable. 
I've never been hypnotized. 

514
00:25:29,900 --> 00:25:33,400
Will you are you give some 
examples in your daily life? 

515
00:25:33,700 --> 00:25:37,300
How many people drive to work to
the office or home from work 

516
00:25:37,300 --> 00:25:40,100
every day and half the time? 
They don't remember driving 

517
00:25:40,100 --> 00:25:42,500
there. 
They didn't hit anything and 

518
00:25:42,500 --> 00:25:46,500
they didn't destroy their car. 
They were in a hypnotic state or

519
00:25:46,500 --> 00:25:48,700
you go to a movie theater and 
you watch a movie to three hour 

520
00:25:48,700 --> 00:25:51,100
long movie. 
Now consciously, you know, the 

521
00:25:51,100 --> 00:25:54,400
movies, not real. 
You are emotionally invested in 

522
00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:55,900
the characters and everything is
real. 

523
00:25:55,900 --> 00:25:58,800
You feel their emotions, anger 
sadness joy. 

524
00:25:59,200 --> 00:26:02,200
And then when the movies over 
that three hours seemed like 10 

525
00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:05,000
minutes, time Distortion 
hypnosis. 

526
00:26:05,500 --> 00:26:09,100
So we do very little at a 
conscious level and that's why 

527
00:26:09,100 --> 00:26:12,500
when people try to make change 
either, Doesn't work at all or 

528
00:26:12,500 --> 00:26:16,000
lasts for a very short period of
time because inside their core 

529
00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:19,100
values and beliefs haven't been 
changed. 

530
00:26:19,300 --> 00:26:22,700
And so hypnosis is a tool of 
being able to go into your 

531
00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:26,900
subconscious mind, taking 
conscious control of it and 

532
00:26:26,900 --> 00:26:28,800
changing it. 
And your subconscious mind 

533
00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:30,000
controls more than your 
thoughts. 

534
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:32,900
Your core values and beliefs, it
controls every function and 

535
00:26:32,900 --> 00:26:35,300
aspect of your body. 
The blood coursing through your 

536
00:26:35,300 --> 00:26:37,200
veins and arteries. 
The breath you're taking your 

537
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:39,800
heart beating it controls all 
those things. 

538
00:26:40,300 --> 00:26:43,000
So it's pretty pretty simple. 
And it's just about relaxing 

539
00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:47,300
your mind and going to that 
state of mind and then telling 

540
00:26:47,300 --> 00:26:49,200
your mind what you want. 
It's really that simple. 

541
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:52,600
Wow. 
So what you're saying is an 

542
00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:54,900
example driving to work and 
stopping at a red light and not 

543
00:26:54,900 --> 00:26:57,000
killing anybody. 
You're not consciously doing 

544
00:26:57,000 --> 00:26:58,500
that. 
That's your subconscious even 

545
00:26:58,500 --> 00:27:00,100
though your spaced out think of 
something else. 

546
00:27:00,500 --> 00:27:03,100
So, anytime your spaced out, I 
guess that would mean that 

547
00:27:03,100 --> 00:27:05,400
you're in that hypnotic State. 
It's somewhat a dreaming is a 

548
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:09,000
hypnotic State. 
I mean here, how many times do 

549
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:10,700
you have a bad dream? 
And I have a really bad 

550
00:27:10,900 --> 00:27:15,300
Nightmare and you wake up your 
hearts going, 100 miles an hour.

551
00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:17,800
You're in a cold sweat in the 
first thing says, oh my God, 

552
00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:18,900
thank God. 
It wasn't real. 

553
00:27:19,100 --> 00:27:21,500
Okay. 
But your research, your body's 

554
00:27:21,500 --> 00:27:24,800
response to the picture in your 
head was real because it didn't 

555
00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:26,900
distinguish. 
What was physically real? 

556
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:28,500
Or it was just an internal 
picture. 

557
00:27:29,300 --> 00:27:31,300
It's your subconscious mind and 
that's really what a state of 

558
00:27:31,300 --> 00:27:34,000
hypnosis is. 
If I Define it, it's really 

559
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:36,500
simple. 
It's a mono focused State of 

560
00:27:36,500 --> 00:27:40,000
Mind here. 
Imagine this right now, as we're

561
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:43,100
speaking. 
We are taking in millions upon 

562
00:27:43,100 --> 00:27:47,400
millions of bits of information.
Every second through our five 

563
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:51,900
senses yet, we can only process,
I'll be really generous maybe a 

564
00:27:51,908 --> 00:27:54,200
thousand a minute, so millions 
and millions and millions of 

565
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:58,600
second, maybe 1,000 a minute. 
So what happens is your mind? 

566
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:01,900
Deletes almost all of it most of
its worthless but you keep 

567
00:28:01,900 --> 00:28:05,200
what's valuable to you based on 
your values and beliefs and then

568
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:09,000
we spin them, rationalize them 
and then spit it back out into 

569
00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:12,200
the world. 
So, So now when you go into a 

570
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:15,800
relaxed state of hypnosis, you 
begin to change, how you see 

571
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:19,900
things and you engage, what's 
called your reticular activating

572
00:28:19,900 --> 00:28:22,200
system, that's what 
neuroscientists call your radar.

573
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:24,100
So, all day long in the 
background, you put a new 

574
00:28:24,100 --> 00:28:27,000
picture in your head of what you
want to achieve. 

575
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:29,300
And your subconscious mind is 
running in the background, 

576
00:28:29,300 --> 00:28:33,300
looking for things that can help
you achieve that and then would 

577
00:28:33,300 --> 00:28:35,600
it notices something, bam, and 
instantly brings it to your 

578
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:38,000
conscious Minds attention. 
So, like here's a perfect 

579
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:41,700
example, this you buy a brand 
new car As can say, punch body 

580
00:28:41,700 --> 00:28:43,700
regulars. 
Like, and as you're driving 

581
00:28:43,700 --> 00:28:46,300
home, you notice all these 
brilliant people that bought the

582
00:28:46,300 --> 00:28:48,800
same car. 
You want a different color, but 

583
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:49,800
man, you start noticing your 
car. 

584
00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:52,300
Everywhere you go. 
That's your reticular activating

585
00:28:52,300 --> 00:28:54,200
system. 
The reality is, those cars have 

586
00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:57,200
been there all along, they're 
there every day, but now they're

587
00:28:57,200 --> 00:29:00,900
part of your awareness and so 
engaging your subconscious mind 

588
00:29:00,900 --> 00:29:05,300
and what you wanted to do as a 
tool through, hypnosis allows 

589
00:29:05,300 --> 00:29:07,800
you to change the pictures in 
your head and start driving 

590
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:10,600
towards those pictures because 
really your subconscious Minds 

591
00:29:10,700 --> 00:29:14,400
Whole goal, good or bad. 
It doesn't really care is to 

592
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:17,100
take the strong pictures in your
mind, and try and move them into

593
00:29:17,100 --> 00:29:20,800
the physical world, that simple.
Okay, beautiful. 

594
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:23,900
So, that was my next question 
is, how do you control that 

595
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,000
subconscious mind? 
Is it by doing what you 

596
00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:29,500
mentioned earlier, sleeping at 
night and then planting the 

597
00:29:29,500 --> 00:29:31,800
image of what you want. 
That's a simple way to do it. 

598
00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:34,100
Yes. 
Is you know at night as you're 

599
00:29:34,100 --> 00:29:37,400
going to bed is focus your 
attention on what you want, 

600
00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:40,100
allow yourself to fall asleep to
it and you're giving your mind a

601
00:29:40,100 --> 00:29:43,500
very powerful For message, your 
subconscious mind is up 24 hours

602
00:29:43,500 --> 00:29:44,900
a day. 
It doesn't sleep. 

603
00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:48,100
That's what causes your dreams. 
It's your awareness like, 

604
00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:51,100
especially to see with moms. 
They can be sound asleep and 

605
00:29:51,100 --> 00:29:52,700
they instantly know there's 
something wrong with your child,

606
00:29:52,700 --> 00:29:55,100
was not crying and they wake up 
and they know. 

607
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:57,600
And so it's running all the 
time. 

608
00:29:58,000 --> 00:29:59,800
So if you're giving out, you 
might as well just give it 

609
00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:03,500
something to do, is opposed to 
letting it run willy-nilly and 

610
00:30:03,500 --> 00:30:06,000
doing anything it wants to do, 
give it some Direction. 

611
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:08,200
Let it let it focus on what you 
really want. 

612
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:10,500
I love that instead of focusing 
on what you don't want. 

613
00:30:10,700 --> 00:30:12,300
Which is what most people do, 
all day every day. 

614
00:30:12,300 --> 00:30:13,500
I walk around. 
I don't want this. 

615
00:30:13,500 --> 00:30:15,300
I don't want that guy. 
Okay, got it makes perfect 

616
00:30:15,300 --> 00:30:17,500
sense. 
Okay, let's speak about pain 

617
00:30:17,500 --> 00:30:19,600
because that's obviously a big 
topic for humans. 

618
00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:22,600
How do you heal from pain or 
what are some tactics are 

619
00:30:22,608 --> 00:30:24,200
techniques. 
You recommend about physical 

620
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:28,100
pain, Our Guest, emotional pain,
emotionally and I guess more 

621
00:30:28,100 --> 00:30:30,000
emotional, but physical, I'm 
assuming you go to the doctor 

622
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:31,900
who takes care of you, if you 
break your wrist, you put a cast

623
00:30:31,900 --> 00:30:35,400
on, you'll get better, but I was
more along, emotional 

624
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:38,600
subconscious pain, mental pain, 
spiritual pain, things of that 

625
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:41,800
nature, most of our pain, It's 
from things that happen to us 

626
00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:45,600
from the past their childhood 
traumas or here. 

627
00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:49,100
Here's a perfect example, PTSD 
is a hypnotic State, your 

628
00:30:49,200 --> 00:30:51,300
re-experiencing. 
Something that had already had 

629
00:30:51,300 --> 00:30:54,000
happened in the past your 
re-experiencing of it's 

630
00:30:54,000 --> 00:30:56,800
happening now and it's real in 
your body's producing those same

631
00:30:57,200 --> 00:31:01,400
physical symptoms. 
Yeah, the second are in the 

632
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:04,600
quadric form is releasing is 
going in and releasing those 

633
00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:07,100
things. 
And I believe that a person 

634
00:31:07,100 --> 00:31:09,900
doesn't have to re experience 
negative emotions, feelings, 

635
00:31:09,900 --> 00:31:13,500
pain, or even Trauma to get rid 
of that old stuff, and I've 

636
00:31:13,500 --> 00:31:15,400
worked with hundreds and 
hundreds of people. 

637
00:31:15,700 --> 00:31:19,000
And I pretty much know that to 
be true is it's not it's not 

638
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:22,600
difficult to unload. 
We've been carrying around and 

639
00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:25,600
the reason we carry those things
around is their coping 

640
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:28,500
mechanisms right? 
Maybe at some point in the past 

641
00:31:28,500 --> 00:31:31,700
special is a child when your 
ability to handle and deal with 

642
00:31:31,900 --> 00:31:34,600
the reality of the world is not 
very good because you don't have

643
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:37,200
any experience you did 
something. 

644
00:31:38,100 --> 00:31:42,300
Like you ate too much or same 
thing for a drug addict. 

645
00:31:42,300 --> 00:31:44,900
They got that really amazing 
high and they felt incredible 

646
00:31:44,900 --> 00:31:47,900
and all their problems went away
and now their mind wants to 

647
00:31:47,900 --> 00:31:50,600
re-experience it again. 
So, it starts reinforcing that 

648
00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:53,100
behavior. 
Assuming that it's good, even 

649
00:31:53,100 --> 00:31:56,600
though it's not good, trying to 
recapture that feeling or is 

650
00:31:56,600 --> 00:32:00,500
away is a coping mechanism to 
deal with what you really don't 

651
00:32:00,500 --> 00:32:03,000
want to deal with. 
Interesting. 

652
00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:07,300
So would you say that you said 
it's, you can release that pain 

653
00:32:07,700 --> 00:32:10,100
and what are some ways that 
people can release the pain? 

654
00:32:10,900 --> 00:32:13,400
Well, you know, here. 
I'll give you a simple 

655
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:17,100
technique. 
Okay, is your mind like stories 

656
00:32:17,100 --> 00:32:20,200
are? 
I would say metaphors and this 

657
00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:23,800
is actually I came from Abraham,
Lincoln to a certain extent, you

658
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:27,700
know, Abraham Lincoln is one of 
my big heroes and was after the 

659
00:32:27,708 --> 00:32:31,000
Civil War and a newspaper 
reporter was asking them how he 

660
00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:33,200
stayed. 
So calm, Calm and collected and 

661
00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:35,000
even-tempered. 
And he busted out laughing 

662
00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:38,100
because I'm not that way at all.
But what he would do is when he 

663
00:32:38,100 --> 00:32:41,500
was really angry with somebody, 
or upset or something really, 

664
00:32:41,500 --> 00:32:46,400
really - he would write out the 
most poisonous venomous letter, 

665
00:32:46,500 --> 00:32:51,400
he possibly could to that person
or regarding the situation, And 

666
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:53,600
then he destroyed it. 
Wow, that's it. 

667
00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:55,000
You would never male, never give
it. 

668
00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:59,800
And so, what's happening in that
process, they act, it's a very 

669
00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:02,900
powerful metaphor, the act of 
writing things out, getting it 

670
00:33:02,900 --> 00:33:06,000
out of here, writing it out, 
handwriting it out on a piece of

671
00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:09,200
paper, takes it out of your 
body, and then you need to 

672
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:10,800
destroy it. 
So, what a lot of times I have 

673
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:14,400
my clients do is write out the 
things, they don't like the 

674
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:16,800
things they're angry at and 
write it out, make it as mean 

675
00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:20,500
and horrible as you have to. 
And then after you write it, 

676
00:33:20,500 --> 00:33:21,300
you'll feel better. 
Her. 

677
00:33:21,300 --> 00:33:24,900
But then the next step would be 
to destroy burn. 

678
00:33:24,900 --> 00:33:27,400
One of the most powerful 
metaphors for destruction, in 

679
00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:31,800
your mind is to burn it. 
So either on your grill or in a 

680
00:33:31,800 --> 00:33:35,500
fire pit in a fireplace 
someplace, safe is take that 

681
00:33:35,500 --> 00:33:36,900
piece of paper. 
You wrote with all this 

682
00:33:36,900 --> 00:33:40,600
poisonous stuff on it, Fold It 
Up, start a fire. 

683
00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:43,200
And before you throw in the 
fire, make some kind of ritual 

684
00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:45,300
saying. 
Hey as I throw all this old - 

685
00:33:45,300 --> 00:33:48,700
stuff on my life in the fire, it
is burned up and it is gone from

686
00:33:48,700 --> 00:33:50,800
my life forever. 
However you want to phrase it 

687
00:33:51,100 --> 00:33:53,800
It's a really powerful metaphor 
for getting rid of things. 

688
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:56,200
I've done this in some of the 
workshops I've taught for 

689
00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:58,900
companies is we'll have 
everybody on one of the days, 

690
00:33:58,900 --> 00:34:02,100
right out all their crap, and 
then we'll go out in the back. 

691
00:34:02,100 --> 00:34:05,100
Take a grill or a fire pit, and 
then we'll burn them. 

692
00:34:05,500 --> 00:34:07,400
And it's really, it's a very 
powerful metaphor. 

693
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:09,900
And it's something you can do 
over and over again, and it's 

694
00:34:09,900 --> 00:34:11,500
very helpful. 
It's a very helpful is very 

695
00:34:11,500 --> 00:34:13,199
simple thing that really anybody
can do. 

696
00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:17,300
And that is so powerful. 
Now, do you do any work with the

697
00:34:17,300 --> 00:34:20,000
inner child or healing? 
The inner child is a diversified

698
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:21,800
That's where. 
Yeah. 

699
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:25,400
I mean, you know, one of the 
great things about hypnosis is 

700
00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:28,900
time doesn't exist, okay? 
So I'll give you an example. 

701
00:34:28,900 --> 00:34:30,199
I years ago, I work with this 
guy. 

702
00:34:30,900 --> 00:34:32,900
I was in New York. 
I come to see me first thing. 

703
00:34:32,900 --> 00:34:34,800
He does he sits down in my 
roommate, and he's got bad 

704
00:34:34,800 --> 00:34:36,400
stomach cramps, he has to go to 
the bathroom. 

705
00:34:36,900 --> 00:34:40,000
And the reason he's coming to 
see me is every time you meet 

706
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:42,600
somebody new or he has to do 
something different because he's

707
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:45,000
horrible. 
Horrible stomach, cramps and has

708
00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:48,000
to go to the bathroom and in our
conversation, I noticed there 

709
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:50,699
was a block of time missing from
his childhood, which is usually 

710
00:34:50,699 --> 00:34:54,300
a Sign of trauma. 
It's children have a very very 

711
00:34:54,300 --> 00:34:57,200
limited skills and resources to 
deal with bad things especially 

712
00:34:57,200 --> 00:35:00,100
when they're being dominated by 
somebody bigger like an adult. 

713
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:06,100
So the body's last defense for 
survival is to shut down and 

714
00:35:06,100 --> 00:35:08,400
block it out from your conscious
mind because it's too 

715
00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:10,400
overwhelming to deal with but 
yet it's through affects you. 

716
00:35:11,100 --> 00:35:13,900
So in our first hypnotic 
session, we went back to his 

717
00:35:13,900 --> 00:35:16,000
child. 
He has a brother and his father 

718
00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:19,800
was extremely abusive, his 
father would hit his mother with

719
00:35:19,900 --> 00:35:22,300
with a fist. 
And every time and here's where 

720
00:35:22,300 --> 00:35:25,200
came from every time him and his
brother made a mistake he would 

721
00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:27,200
punch them in the stomach as 
hard as he could. 

722
00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:30,200
So now we know where the stomach
cramps come from, right. 

723
00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:34,600
So what we did is we went down 
the timeline of his life and 

724
00:35:34,600 --> 00:35:37,600
again, past present future all 
coexist. 

725
00:35:38,700 --> 00:35:41,800
In hypnotic State, go down the 
timeline of his life. 

726
00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:43,900
Goes down to a time. 
When he remembers his father 

727
00:35:43,900 --> 00:35:45,700
hitting him really hard in the 
stomach, and it made that 

728
00:35:45,700 --> 00:35:48,600
Lasting Impression. 
Ten years old and right before 

729
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:50,300
his father, is getting ready to 
hit him. 

730
00:35:50,500 --> 00:35:53,200
We freeze the picture. 
Now, he steps into the picture 

731
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:56,200
as an adult grabs. 
His father's hand and stops him 

732
00:35:56,200 --> 00:36:01,000
from doing it, and then Embraces
his 10 year old self, as an old 

733
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:03,400
saying. 
Hey, this is not your fault, 

734
00:36:03,900 --> 00:36:07,400
look at me. 
You're going to be fine, you're 

735
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:09,500
going to be a great, father, 
you're going to have children 

736
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:11,900
and he, and it's a really 
powerful moment, somebody can 

737
00:36:11,900 --> 00:36:14,800
brace themselves as an adult as 
a child. 

738
00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:17,600
And what happens is now, the 
entire timeline of their life 

739
00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:21,300
changes from that moment on it 
moves forward in time to the 

740
00:36:21,300 --> 00:36:23,900
present and it goes away. 
It's really a powerful thing. 

741
00:36:23,900 --> 00:36:27,000
It sounds kind of strange, but 
it really can be a very powerful

742
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:31,800
thing almost like Back to the 
Future when Marty and the 

743
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:34,000
chalkboard with you, all the 
nice very good analogy. 

744
00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:35,200
Yes. 
Yeah, yeah, yeah. 

745
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:36,500
Wow. 
Okay, I love that. 

746
00:36:36,500 --> 00:36:39,500
That is so, so powerful. 
All right, we spoke about your 

747
00:36:39,500 --> 00:36:41,400
best friend's. 
We spoke about hypnosis. 

748
00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:44,400
We spoke about pain. 
Let's talk about pleasure. 

749
00:36:44,500 --> 00:36:46,800
So the pain and pleasure the 
human mind you familiar with 

750
00:36:46,800 --> 00:36:49,400
that the yeah, okay. 
So what are some ways that 

751
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:51,700
pleasure can be good and 
pleasure can be bad? 

752
00:36:52,700 --> 00:36:55,100
Well, I mean, you see that with 
drug addicts and alcoholics 

753
00:36:55,100 --> 00:36:57,600
especially a drug addict, you 
know, they got this ultimate 

754
00:36:57,600 --> 00:37:00,000
high, the first time, they tried
whatever drug they were doing 

755
00:37:00,300 --> 00:37:02,900
and now their minds trying to 
chase it and it doesn't work, 

756
00:37:03,300 --> 00:37:06,800
you know, our mind either drives
towards Pleasure, or away from 

757
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:08,500
Pain. 
And one of the reasons that 

758
00:37:08,500 --> 00:37:12,500
people fail is, they always talk
about what they don't want. 

759
00:37:12,900 --> 00:37:15,400
I don't like they, you know, one
of the exercises that have 

760
00:37:15,700 --> 00:37:18,100
people make a list of things 
they want to accomplish. 

761
00:37:18,300 --> 00:37:20,900
And many times, I get, well, I 
don't want to feel this, I don't

762
00:37:20,900 --> 00:37:21,800
want to do that. 
I go. 

763
00:37:21,900 --> 00:37:24,700
No, because what you're really 
telling your mind is, that's 

764
00:37:24,700 --> 00:37:25,900
what you are, and that's what 
you have. 

765
00:37:25,900 --> 00:37:27,300
And that's what your mind 
focuses on. 

766
00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:31,100
You want to drive towards what 
you want, not away from what you

767
00:37:31,100 --> 00:37:33,800
don't want, and there's like a 
fine line in there. 

768
00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:37,100
Income tax is the perfect thing,
maybe less. 

769
00:37:37,100 --> 00:37:41,700
So now is you know used to see 
people lining up on April 15th 

770
00:37:41,700 --> 00:37:46,400
at the post office to get that 
tax return in by midnight. 

771
00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:48,900
Why they wait to the last minute
because they start thinking 

772
00:37:48,900 --> 00:37:52,100
about their taxes in January and
that's a painful thing. 

773
00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:54,100
So they're mine wants to move 
away from pain. 

774
00:37:54,400 --> 00:37:57,400
Then at some point that switch 
flips over saying, wait a 

775
00:37:57,408 --> 00:37:59,900
minute, it's getting close. 
We got to get this done now 

776
00:37:59,900 --> 00:38:02,700
becomes more painful not to do 
it, which is usually the day or 

777
00:38:02,700 --> 00:38:05,800
two before it's due and then it 
A mad rush to get it done. 

778
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:09,100
So we have to be careful what we
drive towards. 

779
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:11,500
You know, people talk about the 
law of attraction and people 

780
00:38:11,500 --> 00:38:14,400
say, well, it really doesn't 
work, but it works perfectly 

781
00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:17,300
because there's two parts to it.
People say, well, I asked for 

782
00:38:17,300 --> 00:38:20,300
what I wanted, and I didn't get 
it, but you want to allow it to 

783
00:38:20,300 --> 00:38:23,000
happen. 
So people say, I want to make a 

784
00:38:23,000 --> 00:38:24,700
million dollars. 
Great. 

785
00:38:24,700 --> 00:38:27,500
But then, the next one is. 
How many pay my car payment this

786
00:38:27,500 --> 00:38:28,500
month. 
I oh my God. 

787
00:38:28,500 --> 00:38:30,800
I don't have the money for my 
rent, so what? 

788
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:32,900
They're not focused on the 
million dollars to focus on what

789
00:38:32,900 --> 00:38:36,200
they don't have. 
And their mind focuses on that 

790
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:37,900
and they get more of what they 
don't have. 

791
00:38:38,100 --> 00:38:41,300
You know? 
We we are only aware of a small 

792
00:38:41,300 --> 00:38:42,800
percentage of what goes on 
around us. 

793
00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:45,600
Okay. 
So like let's say 10 people 

794
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:48,500
witnessed a car accident if I 
interview all ten people I get 

795
00:38:48,500 --> 00:38:52,300
ten similar stories right? 
A little bit different because 

796
00:38:52,300 --> 00:38:54,100
everybody's perspective is 
different. 

797
00:38:54,300 --> 00:38:57,300
So if you're always focused on 
the negative things in your 

798
00:38:57,300 --> 00:39:00,400
life, that's what your mind is 
looking for to support this. 

799
00:39:00,900 --> 00:39:04,200
Not the things you want. 
In fact, it kind of just passes 

800
00:39:04,300 --> 00:39:06,800
Over those things that you want 
because it doesn't really see 

801
00:39:06,800 --> 00:39:08,700
them, it's only focused on your 
negative stuff. 

802
00:39:09,500 --> 00:39:11,300
Yeah, I'd love that. 
That is so so powerful. 

803
00:39:11,500 --> 00:39:15,000
So okay, let's talk about some 
Timeless lessons. 

804
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:18,200
You've learned along the way in 
life, that you'd like to share 

805
00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:21,100
with the audience Timeless 
lessons. 

806
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:24,100
Well, one is things always have 
it tends to take longer than you

807
00:39:24,100 --> 00:39:26,500
think they do, which we kind of 
touched on that. 

808
00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:33,200
I think the most important thing
is It goes back to persistence. 

809
00:39:33,700 --> 00:39:35,100
You try something and it doesn't
work. 

810
00:39:35,100 --> 00:39:37,400
You just keep going at it again 
and again and again until you 

811
00:39:37,400 --> 00:39:39,800
get what you want that. 
I mean that's that's the formula

812
00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:43,900
for everything. 
But I've also learned that my 

813
00:39:43,900 --> 00:39:47,700
opinions are only my opinions. 
So when I work with a client, 

814
00:39:47,700 --> 00:39:50,600
what they're expressing to me is
coming from them and that 

815
00:39:50,600 --> 00:39:53,600
doesn't mean because I don't 
agree with them that I'm right. 

816
00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:57,000
And I've learned that to accept 
people for how they are. 

817
00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:00,100
Now, how we think they should 
because a lot of the anc's we 

818
00:40:00,100 --> 00:40:04,600
create for ourselves is somebody
does something we don't like and

819
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:08,500
we get mad because we were 
expecting them to react the way 

820
00:40:08,500 --> 00:40:11,700
we would react, right? 
So we are the makers of our own 

821
00:40:11,700 --> 00:40:16,000
angst when we accept people for 
who they are, then it becomes 

822
00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:19,100
easy. 
They have no expectations of 

823
00:40:19,500 --> 00:40:22,300
what you're expecting them to do
and I think a lot of people 

824
00:40:22,300 --> 00:40:24,400
struggle with that. 
They, you know, all. 

825
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:25,800
How could somebody do that to 
me? 

826
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:27,200
I would never do that and maybe 
you never. 

827
00:40:27,300 --> 00:40:30,300
Everwood, but they're not. 
You who is it? 

828
00:40:31,700 --> 00:40:33,200
Almost either Buddha. 
Or Confucius. 

829
00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:37,300
Said that holding on to anger, 
and resentment is like drinking 

830
00:40:37,300 --> 00:40:39,100
poison. 
And expecting the other person 

831
00:40:39,100 --> 00:40:41,900
to die is what we do is we get 
really angry at somebody. 

832
00:40:41,900 --> 00:40:45,100
We hold onto the nagar and their
frustration and they don't even 

833
00:40:45,100 --> 00:40:48,200
know, you're angry with them. 
Nor would they care if you were?

834
00:40:48,500 --> 00:40:50,200
And what are you doing? 
You're robbing yourself of your 

835
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:52,800
happiness and your joy. 
Yeah, and I love that. 

836
00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:57,200
That is so, so powerful. 
What are some Timeless mistakes?

837
00:40:57,400 --> 00:40:58,600
I've learned and how to avoid 
them. 

838
00:40:59,300 --> 00:41:01,400
That people make hi was 
mistakes. 

839
00:41:02,500 --> 00:41:06,100
I would think the hardest thing 
I had to learn and it took me 

840
00:41:06,100 --> 00:41:10,100
the first 40 years of my life is
we kind of touched on her is 

841
00:41:10,100 --> 00:41:13,900
worthiness and I'll many times 
people tie their worthiness to 

842
00:41:13,900 --> 00:41:15,800
something external, especially 
the where we live in now. 

843
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:19,900
Social media, right? 
You know, post a picture people 

844
00:41:19,900 --> 00:41:20,800
like it. 
You feel good. 

845
00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:22,200
If not enough people like you 
feel okay? 

846
00:41:22,200 --> 00:41:24,600
What am I doing wrong? 
Yeah, most people tie their 

847
00:41:24,600 --> 00:41:27,200
warnings to something external, 
once I do this. 

848
00:41:27,300 --> 00:41:29,700
This, I'll be happy. 
Once I do this, I can make my 

849
00:41:29,700 --> 00:41:32,200
hair when I was Heavy. 
I'd say you know, once I lose 

850
00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:34,800
100 pounds people will love me 
and like me once I was under 

851
00:41:34,800 --> 00:41:39,000
pounds, people will accept me 
once I lose 100 pounds people, 

852
00:41:39,100 --> 00:41:42,400
I'll be more successful and what
happens is it's all baloney 

853
00:41:42,700 --> 00:41:45,500
yeah. 
Okay, the reality is really 

854
00:41:45,500 --> 00:41:47,300
asking. 
People listen, if you can 

855
00:41:47,300 --> 00:41:50,000
internalize what I'm going to 
say right now, you become really

856
00:41:50,000 --> 00:41:53,800
powerful is, you are worthy of 
every single thing you want and 

857
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:57,300
desire in life. 
For only one reason you're 

858
00:41:57,300 --> 00:41:59,400
alive. 
The fact you open your eyes 

859
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:02,300
every day and you are breathing 
makes you worthy of everything 

860
00:42:02,300 --> 00:42:04,600
you wanted desire. 
No asterisk after that. 

861
00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:07,200
And when you can internalize 
that concept, you become really 

862
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:10,100
powerful because you don't care 
what people think anymore. 

863
00:42:10,300 --> 00:42:14,000
You can live your life 
authentically and it took me a 

864
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:16,900
long time to realize that that I
don't need anybody else to 

865
00:42:16,900 --> 00:42:19,800
validate myself. 
And I think some people may say 

866
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:22,600
that sounds selfish or 
narcissistic, but it's not. 

867
00:42:23,100 --> 00:42:26,600
You you have what you need 
inside of You and your worthy of

868
00:42:26,600 --> 00:42:29,100
it you want you just have to 
want and desire it and not 

869
00:42:29,100 --> 00:42:30,700
worry. 
What's happening outside of you?

870
00:42:31,100 --> 00:42:33,400
Wow that is so incredibly 
profound and Powerful. 

871
00:42:33,400 --> 00:42:37,000
That is its next level like wow,
okay, everybody rewind that and 

872
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:39,100
listen to it again and again and
take notes and write it down. 

873
00:42:39,100 --> 00:42:40,800
That's really, really, really 
fantastic. 

874
00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:43,500
So what's the best piece of 
advice? 

875
00:42:43,500 --> 00:42:46,200
You'd like to give to your 
former self or to the audience 

876
00:42:48,600 --> 00:42:52,700
if I had to go back in time to 
my younger self I would say, you

877
00:42:52,700 --> 00:42:55,500
know what? 
You're going to be fine. 

878
00:42:56,300 --> 00:42:57,800
Everything's gonna work out, 
fine. 

879
00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:01,800
You're worthy of what you want, 
and the things that are 

880
00:43:01,808 --> 00:43:03,500
happening around. 
You have nothing to do with you.

881
00:43:03,500 --> 00:43:05,700
How people treat you and respond
to you. 

882
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:08,700
Has to do with them, not with 
you. 

883
00:43:08,700 --> 00:43:11,000
Yes, so powerful. 
Well, Scott. 

884
00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:12,500
Thank you so much. 
You've been on Oprah? 

885
00:43:12,500 --> 00:43:14,400
You've got to Howard Stern. 
Now, you've been on the smart 

886
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:16,800
money Circle, so I'm very, very 
happy and blessed. 

887
00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:19,000
And thank you very much. 
This was great. 

888
00:43:19,000 --> 00:43:20,100
I really appreciate having me 
out. 

889
00:43:20,100 --> 00:43:22,500
There was a great conversation. 
Well, thank you so much. 

890
00:43:22,500 --> 00:43:24,600
I'm a I thoroughly enjoyed it. 
Hopefully, we'll have Have you 

891
00:43:24,607 --> 00:43:26,500
back again? 
What is the best way for people 

892
00:43:26,500 --> 00:43:29,400
to get in touch with you? 
You can reach me at my website, 

893
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:34,800
which is www.hyken.com, we 
alternate the Visionary 

894
00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:37,200
mind.com. 
Hey, you know, if you want to 

895
00:43:37,207 --> 00:43:38,900
reach me by phone, people get a 
hold of me. 

896
00:43:38,900 --> 00:43:46,100
It's 847 331, 5848, I love it. 
Thank you so much, Scott, and 

897
00:43:46,100 --> 00:43:47,300
hopefully we'll speak again 
soon. 

898
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:48,500
Thanks for having me.