1 00:00:10,840 --> 00:00:15,400 Worth the Wait podcast and Just Like That recap, but I want to 2 00:00:15,400 --> 00:00:18,760 preface this by saying, well, we're definitely going to recap 3 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:21,560 the episode of And Just Like That. 4 00:00:21,840 --> 00:00:28,080 This episode calls back one of the most influential Sex and the 5 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:32,240 City episodes, titled A Woman's Right to Shoes. 6 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:34,160 It does, right? It's true. 7 00:00:34,880 --> 00:00:39,160 Episode where Carrie goes to the party and is asked to take her 8 00:00:39,160 --> 00:00:42,000 shoes off and when she goes to get her shoes on before she 9 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:47,360 leaves she finds out that the shoes are gone and so she has to 10 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:49,800 go. The the, the friend, the woman 11 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:53,080 who owns the, owns the place and who was having the party and 12 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:56,000 said, oh, you know, hey, my shoes were stolen and my shoes 13 00:00:56,000 --> 00:00:59,640 are gone and, you know, she needs them replaced. 14 00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:02,560 And so she says OK, and the woman goes to get her checkbook. 15 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:03,840 She's how much? How much are they? 16 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:06,760 Well, doesn't she say like I'll give you 250? 17 00:01:06,760 --> 00:01:12,080 I'll. Give you $200 and she said, you 18 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:15,760 know, we're not responsible for your exorbitant lifestyle. 19 00:01:15,920 --> 00:01:17,680 Yeah. OK, which is true? 20 00:01:17,960 --> 00:01:20,400 Which is true, but not of the people that you invite to your 21 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:22,920 wedding or your baby showers or your Bachelorette parties or all 22 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:25,400 this stuff. But in any case, which is the 23 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:26,920 point? That's the point of the episode. 24 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:29,240 Exactly. And that's why it was so 25 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:32,200 influential. So we will talk about that. 26 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:39,280 But before we do, let's just recap the episode because in the 27 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:43,080 event that people thought that the great writing would 28 00:01:43,080 --> 00:01:46,000 continue, it did not. It did not. 29 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:48,040 It did not. I was disappointed. 30 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:51,640 They have Carrie. No. 31 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:56,520 I thought she owned this place, this building, that's where she 32 00:01:56,520 --> 00:02:02,600 lives, but apparently there's a basement apartment that looks 33 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:04,840 like it hasn't been updated since the 70s. 34 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:09,240 Right that that was. That seemed odd to me as well. 35 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:11,360 Right. That she didn't seem to know 36 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:15,000 that there was somebody going to be living below her, but then 37 00:02:15,440 --> 00:02:19,280 does sort of tracks because Carrie and Details don't have a 38 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:21,840 really strong relationship. Right. 39 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:25,000 I guess I just, I don't know. You would have, yeah. 40 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:27,120 You would have thought like the realtor would have said 41 00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:29,800 something and that and that Carrie would have remembered. 42 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:32,120 And that the realtor is one of her friends. 43 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:35,080 So you really think the realtor would have said something? 44 00:02:35,120 --> 00:02:37,400 Oh, did Zima sell her the place? I didn't remember. 45 00:02:37,760 --> 00:02:41,360 Yes. So he's a famous author from 46 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:45,040 London. So of course we have a London, 47 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:50,880 we have a Samantha tie in and the author moves in underneath 48 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:55,200 Carrie and Carrie walks back and forth and back and forth and 49 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:59,400 back and forth on her hardwood floors with no rugs in her high 50 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:02,360 heel shoes. And you know. 51 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:08,760 That's. That's something that clocked in 52 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:11,320 the very first episode of this season because that's when the 53 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:14,720 season opens, right? And I first of all, was like, 54 00:03:14,840 --> 00:03:18,800 who the fuck is wearing shoes in their house? 55 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:23,040 Much less who's wearing heels in their house. 56 00:03:23,120 --> 00:03:31,240 Right right now, I think that's part of the call back of she 57 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:34,920 goes to this person's party and she's horrified that she's asked 58 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:39,520 to take her shoes off. I feel like he, his approach 59 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:43,440 wasn't great, you know, showing up and being angry about it. 60 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:50,000 But her response where she was basically like, Nah, I'm not 61 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:51,840 going to, I'm not going to take my shoes off. 62 00:03:51,840 --> 00:03:56,280 Girl, listen, you, you've lived here a long time. 63 00:03:56,600 --> 00:04:04,160 You know what it's like. And it's just, it's rude. 64 00:04:04,160 --> 00:04:06,040 It's just rude. Right. 65 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:09,280 It also it it asks absolutely nothing of her. 66 00:04:09,560 --> 00:04:13,920 Right, right. You know, and typical Carrie, 67 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:20,000 who is just so in her own world, is thinking, well, if it doesn't 68 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:25,960 bother me, then who cares? You know, I what I found so 69 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:31,280 fascinating and illogical and also like infuriating about, 70 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:39,360 about this storyline. She she's never able to explain 71 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:44,600 why she is so resistant to the idea of removing her shoes in 72 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:47,040 her apartment. But don't you think it has to 73 00:04:47,040 --> 00:04:51,040 come down to character syndrome? Yes. 74 00:04:51,320 --> 00:04:56,720 Like she's she's walking around all the time as though she's 75 00:04:56,720 --> 00:05:02,040 being perceived, when in fact, hopefully in your own apartment, 76 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:06,400 especially that palatial empty apartment she now has. 77 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:10,680 No one's looking at you. You know, one, no one's looking 78 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:13,560 you. But also she doesn't even have 79 00:05:13,560 --> 00:05:17,040 rugs down. And it just occurred she bought 80 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:19,680 this whole building. So I could see her sort of 81 00:05:19,680 --> 00:05:22,440 feeling like I literally own the place. 82 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:26,160 I could do what I want, you know? 83 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:31,640 And again, it's strange to me that Carrie didn't know that she 84 00:05:31,640 --> 00:05:33,280 was going to have a downstairs neighbor. 85 00:05:35,120 --> 00:05:38,200 So he kind of sucks, and she kind of sucks. 86 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:41,720 And she goes down to him and she brings him this basket, this 87 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:47,320 welcome basket. And he gives her his oh, I 88 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:51,160 bought you something too. And he bought her these old sort 89 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:52,560 of. And she calls them nursing home 90 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:55,720 slippers. And she's just so resistant. 91 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:57,800 Which they're not. They're not. 92 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:01,200 They were cute. Right you I'm swearing those. 93 00:06:01,240 --> 00:06:03,400 Are like what you bought me for Christmas, right? 94 00:06:03,640 --> 00:06:04,360 Right. I love them. 95 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:09,240 I love them. So Carrie's standing there in 96 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:11,320 this apartment and what does this guy do? 97 00:06:11,920 --> 00:06:14,400 He starts smoking a. Pipe, yeah. 98 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:18,840 Sir, we don't do that here anymore. 99 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:20,960 We don't smoke in our apartments. 100 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:23,880 And that's when I went. So he wants to be able to smoke 101 00:06:23,880 --> 00:06:27,320 a pipe in his apartment, but he wants, but he wants her to take 102 00:06:27,320 --> 00:06:29,000 her shoes off. You both suck. 103 00:06:29,560 --> 00:06:36,640 Well, I mean, not only that, but like I said, who the fuck is 104 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:41,200 wearing shoes in their house? Who the fuck goes to New York 105 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:42,920 for quiet? Right. 106 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:46,800 Sir, you have the rest of the world. 107 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:51,720 Right, right. And also like, yeah, like the 108 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:56,880 whole, like both of them are so illogical and require such a 109 00:06:57,160 --> 00:07:01,120 such a suspension of disbelief in this episode that it 110 00:07:01,280 --> 00:07:04,600 frustrates me. Very much so, very much so. 111 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:06,680 I didn't care about either of them. 112 00:07:06,960 --> 00:07:11,000 Hopefully they fell madly madly in love because they're so 113 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:14,440 they're exactly the same. 2 incredibly selfish people. 114 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:16,160 We'll see. It's interesting that you say 115 00:07:16,160 --> 00:07:19,760 that, because I liked Duncan for Seema, actually. 116 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:25,160 I could see that. She's, you know, she's strong 117 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:31,320 enough to put him in his place. He's not around all the time, 118 00:07:31,320 --> 00:07:32,920 which I think is perfect. For her. 119 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:37,120 Right for her, Yeah. And yeah, he's, he's an adult 120 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:38,280 man. Right. 121 00:07:39,080 --> 00:07:43,680 So they end up having, I guess she's out with the with the 122 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:46,160 garden and he's very upset that she's doing something with the 123 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:48,120 garden. She owns the building. 124 00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:52,920 Right, well, he's only upset about it because it's making 125 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:54,880 noise during the day, which is when he sleeps. 126 00:07:54,880 --> 00:07:57,640 Which again, like Sir. Whose fault is that? 127 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:02,560 Right, right, right. That's the thing too, when 128 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:06,160 people have these work schedules and listen, it's not my fault 129 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:09,880 that you work a night shift. However, I'll do what I can to 130 00:08:09,880 --> 00:08:11,520 accommodate. It's just easier. 131 00:08:12,400 --> 00:08:14,720 It's just easier. And if this is like, listen, 132 00:08:14,720 --> 00:08:17,120 especially if somebody's, you know, they're a doctor or 133 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:19,520 whatever, OK, I'll do what I can. 134 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:21,360 You know, that's got to be a brutal schedule. 135 00:08:21,600 --> 00:08:22,760 I will. I'll do what I can. 136 00:08:22,760 --> 00:08:24,440 I don't care who they are. I don't care what they do for 137 00:08:24,440 --> 00:08:26,760 work. I'll try to help because it's 138 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:30,000 just easier. And reason you're not going to 139 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:32,080 stop living. No, I'm not going to stop 140 00:08:32,080 --> 00:08:35,320 living, but. But you would take your shoes 141 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:39,000 off. Right, so Carrie is out in the 142 00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:42,760 garden talking to the hot hot hot Tom Hardy looking gardener, 143 00:08:43,080 --> 00:08:45,280 but I really wish they would start giving him more of a 144 00:08:45,400 --> 00:08:47,720 storyline. Except there's nothing for him 145 00:08:47,720 --> 00:08:51,440 to do because he's not age appropriate for any of our main 146 00:08:51,440 --> 00:08:53,600 characters. But here's the thing though, 147 00:08:53,600 --> 00:08:57,600 he's like late 40s, early 50s in real life. 148 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:00,240 I would say late 40s. OK. 149 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:03,200 So but. Aren't aren't our main 150 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:06,880 characters like late 50s? I think they're early to mid 151 00:09:06,880 --> 00:09:08,080 50s. OK. 152 00:09:10,280 --> 00:09:12,880 Duncan gets very upset at them because they're making noise and 153 00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:18,160 existing and all of a sudden Carrie, hers hears the the the 154 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:21,920 smoke alarm going off in his apartment. 155 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:25,640 So she runs into Duncan's apartment because the smoke 156 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:28,960 alarm is going off and going off going off, and she has to wake 157 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:31,320 him up and he has to take whatever the kettle off the 158 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:36,520 stove and the cloth that he uses to get the kettle catches fire 159 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:40,240 and he drops on the ground. And of course, Carrie stomps it 160 00:09:40,240 --> 00:09:43,800 out with her heels on. Which she wouldn't do. 161 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:48,520 Right, right. Because immediately prior to 162 00:09:48,520 --> 00:09:52,240 that she's absolutely useless. Like instead of turning the 163 00:09:52,240 --> 00:09:56,080 stove off, she yells at him to do it when she is also standing 164 00:09:56,080 --> 00:10:00,160 right there. So she stomps out the the mini 165 00:10:00,160 --> 00:10:05,320 fire on the on the cloth and she goes, boy, you're really noisy. 166 00:10:05,720 --> 00:10:08,440 And all of a sudden the tension disperses. 167 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:11,400 It's broken. And I was like, perfect, fall in 168 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:13,440 love, go somewhere, I don't care, right? 169 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:16,160 You're both terrible. So that's the end of that. 170 00:10:17,000 --> 00:10:19,880 Now let's talk about the fact that it took us 30 years to find 171 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:24,040 out that Carrie and Miranda used to live together. 172 00:10:24,440 --> 00:10:27,440 This is so dumb and again, required such a suspension of 173 00:10:27,440 --> 00:10:31,800 disbelief. I'm overall pretty disheartened 174 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:35,040 with what the writers are doing with Miranda's character. 175 00:10:36,720 --> 00:10:40,200 You're undoing everything we've ever known about Miranda, right? 176 00:10:41,000 --> 00:10:43,240 Like, she's a totally different person, right? 177 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:47,040 And I guess maybe getting sober and getting divorced would do 178 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:48,160 that to you? Maybe? 179 00:10:48,160 --> 00:10:51,080 I don't know. It just feels like they're 180 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:53,200 changing who she is fundamentally. 181 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:55,960 Yes, exactly. And here's what I mean. 182 00:10:58,360 --> 00:11:03,920 Ain't no way Miranda is taking your last banana and not calling 183 00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:08,800 DoorDash like at the same time. It's not that she wouldn't take 184 00:11:08,800 --> 00:11:11,080 your last whatever in the fridge, right? 185 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:13,520 But she sure as hell is replacing it. 186 00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:18,520 Listen, Miranda is that roommate that puts her name on all of 187 00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:19,960 their food. Well, that too. 188 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:22,840 Right. That's who Miranda is, and 189 00:11:22,920 --> 00:11:26,800 that's OK. The idea that Miranda was going 190 00:11:26,800 --> 00:11:33,480 to move in with Carrie and suddenly become this incredibly 191 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:39,000 thoughtless person. And not just thoughtless, but 192 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:42,720 but almost. But right, bumbling, right? 193 00:11:42,720 --> 00:11:49,120 Just like, and they're trying to make it physical comedy for some 194 00:11:49,120 --> 00:11:52,200 reason, right? So there's the scene. 195 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:54,800 Of course, Carrie gets up. I don't have to go to the 196 00:11:54,800 --> 00:11:56,400 bathroom. Maybe it's a middle of the 197 00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:59,080 night. Miranda is walking out the 198 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:02,040 hallway to the bathroom, I guess one of the many bathrooms Carrie 199 00:12:02,040 --> 00:12:04,080 has, and she's completely naked now. 200 00:12:04,160 --> 00:12:11,320 Number one, I love the idea of a woman over 40, a real body 201 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:13,200 showing it. I'm all for it. 202 00:12:13,560 --> 00:12:16,200 And yay for Cynthia Nixon for doing it. 203 00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:19,560 So I liked that aspect of that scene. 204 00:12:20,080 --> 00:12:23,840 What I didn't like was you live with someone. 205 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:30,000 It is just common courtesy. If you were a fucking man, what 206 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:33,400 would we be saying? Yeah, right, that he's creep. 207 00:12:33,680 --> 00:12:35,320 That he's a creep. Yeah. 208 00:12:36,000 --> 00:12:41,160 And that sort of what's it? That's a bit it's a a hypocrisy 209 00:12:41,680 --> 00:12:45,480 of listen, if this were a dude, we would be telling Carrie, get 210 00:12:45,480 --> 00:12:48,480 him out of that house. Well, not only that, but we've, 211 00:12:48,720 --> 00:12:51,280 you know, we've spent so much time with Miranda and we've seen 212 00:12:51,280 --> 00:12:55,200 her in various stages of undress, right? 213 00:12:55,200 --> 00:12:58,960 And we have no reason to believe that Miranda is a naked sleeper. 214 00:13:00,000 --> 00:13:04,960 We've never seen it. She's always been in pajamas, 215 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:07,920 whether it's AT shirt, whatever it is. 216 00:13:09,000 --> 00:13:13,440 Even when she was like had a man over, she was always in like 217 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:16,200 like a like a nightie, a nice slip nightie. 218 00:13:16,440 --> 00:13:20,240 Always, always. When did this happen? 219 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:25,680 When did the movie happen? But I will also say Carrie sees 220 00:13:25,680 --> 00:13:31,000 her naked, has this just gasp. And I will ask again, how did 221 00:13:31,000 --> 00:13:33,280 this woman, how was she a sex columnist? 222 00:13:34,160 --> 00:13:37,880 It it reminded me of walking in on Samantha giving the UPS guy a 223 00:13:37,880 --> 00:13:43,200 blowjob. Yes, yes, she carries such a 224 00:13:43,200 --> 00:13:45,480 prude. I But here's the thing. 225 00:13:46,400 --> 00:13:48,200 I don't know how I would react to that. 226 00:13:48,200 --> 00:13:50,920 I would probably immediately turn away just because that's 227 00:13:50,920 --> 00:13:53,880 how I was raised. But I don't know if I'd be like, 228 00:13:53,880 --> 00:13:55,440 yeah. Right. 229 00:13:55,760 --> 00:13:59,880 Make the person run into the wall in your in your urgency to 230 00:13:59,880 --> 00:14:04,560 avert your eyes. To the boobs that you have, like 231 00:14:04,960 --> 00:14:08,200 have what she has, what is, what is, what's happening here? 232 00:14:08,520 --> 00:14:10,040 Ridiculous. It was. 233 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:13,640 It was stupid. Finally, the other thing that 234 00:14:13,640 --> 00:14:17,120 pissed me off. Miranda sits at the table that 235 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:19,400 Carrie bought because Aiden bought her that stupid, hideous 236 00:14:19,400 --> 00:14:23,360 looking table. And what does Miranda do? 237 00:14:23,360 --> 00:14:29,200 Spread all her work out on it and her laptop on this table, 238 00:14:30,640 --> 00:14:32,520 covering underneath? Nothing. 239 00:14:32,520 --> 00:14:36,480 No concern for scratching it. Nothing. 240 00:14:36,920 --> 00:14:41,360 Well, that actually didn't bother me, because you know your 241 00:14:41,360 --> 00:14:43,960 work papers aren't going to scratch the table, right? 242 00:14:43,960 --> 00:14:46,480 Your laptop might. Probably not. 243 00:14:46,840 --> 00:14:49,120 Probably not. And and even when she spilled 244 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:51,640 the coke, I was like, well, all right, like yeah, that's 245 00:14:51,760 --> 00:14:54,240 irritating. But like if your if your table 246 00:14:54,240 --> 00:14:58,960 can't withstand a coke like. OK, but how about when they're 247 00:14:58,960 --> 00:15:03,120 trying to wipe it up with the papers and the scarf? 248 00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:05,960 Right. Are you new to New York City? 249 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:08,520 Are you new to everything? Are you new to life? 250 00:15:08,920 --> 00:15:11,440 Go in and get a cloth we. Could say the same of Carrie 251 00:15:11,440 --> 00:15:12,800 though. Why don't you have kitchen 252 00:15:12,800 --> 00:15:14,040 towels? Paper towels. 253 00:15:14,080 --> 00:15:18,880 Anything right? Has this never happened to you 254 00:15:18,880 --> 00:15:20,760 before? Right, right. 255 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:25,040 What is a strange and mystical world like that caveman lawyer 256 00:15:25,040 --> 00:15:27,480 she really is? It's if the two of them have 257 00:15:27,480 --> 00:15:33,560 woken up from a 30 year sleep. Yeah, so Miranda moves out. 258 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:37,440 Goodbye now. Why did it take so long? 259 00:15:37,440 --> 00:15:41,200 This is another thing about this episode that pissed me off. 260 00:15:41,200 --> 00:15:45,560 Why did it take so long to get Seema involved in the real 261 00:15:45,560 --> 00:15:51,120 estate situation for Miranda? Carrie's excuse here is is very 262 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:54,680 flimsy. Basically says like oh I don't, 263 00:15:54,680 --> 00:15:56,600 I don't want to. I don't want to mix business 264 00:15:56,600 --> 00:15:58,640 with friendship. First of all, I thought Seema 265 00:15:58,640 --> 00:16:01,680 was everybody's friend. Is she not? 266 00:16:01,760 --> 00:16:03,880 Really doesn't seem that way. It really seems she's just 267 00:16:03,880 --> 00:16:06,880 Carrie's friend. That's fucking weird too. 268 00:16:06,920 --> 00:16:13,440 Right, right. Yeah, I understand. 269 00:16:13,440 --> 00:16:17,160 More so why Lisa Todd Wexler is only Charlotte's friend because 270 00:16:17,160 --> 00:16:20,320 they're mom friends, right? That makes more sense to me. 271 00:16:21,040 --> 00:16:24,280 It doesn't make any sense at all why Seema has not been more 272 00:16:24,280 --> 00:16:27,000 integrated into the group dynamic. 273 00:16:28,760 --> 00:16:30,720 Yeah, I don't know. I don't know about that. 274 00:16:30,720 --> 00:16:33,520 It's almost as if they're afraid to integrate her because they 275 00:16:33,520 --> 00:16:35,720 might get rid of her, right? Which I hope that it. 276 00:16:35,800 --> 00:16:38,400 Also Carrie saying like, oh, I don't, I don't want to mix 277 00:16:38,400 --> 00:16:41,320 friendship with business. Like you're, you're talking to 278 00:16:41,320 --> 00:16:44,200 Miranda, Like Miranda's not going to fuck around with 279 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:46,080 business. Right money. 280 00:16:46,080 --> 00:16:47,520 No, she's not. Going to do anything 281 00:16:47,520 --> 00:16:52,640 embarrassing, right? Yeah, it's a flimsy excuse, and 282 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:59,520 I also think that Seema is way out of Miranda's tax bracket. 283 00:17:00,520 --> 00:17:03,320 Well, at this point, and that's, that's fucking weird too. 284 00:17:03,320 --> 00:17:08,240 Oh, sorry. Like you got no money saved. 285 00:17:08,240 --> 00:17:10,760 Miranda, what happened to your money? 286 00:17:11,319 --> 00:17:14,520 I'm sure she does. I'm sure she does. 287 00:17:14,520 --> 00:17:16,880 Why aren't we using it then to get a place? 288 00:17:17,400 --> 00:17:19,720 I don't know. Don't know. 289 00:17:20,560 --> 00:17:23,640 That's never made sense. Why are you Airbnb ING it? 290 00:17:23,640 --> 00:17:29,560 Why don't you have an apartment? In the restaurant, when the I 291 00:17:29,560 --> 00:17:31,800 think Carrie initiates it, she's talking, yeah, she's talking 292 00:17:31,800 --> 00:17:34,240 about the downstairs neighbor being a problem, right? 293 00:17:34,240 --> 00:17:37,360 Miranda says. Oh, in my Airbnb, the guy across 294 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:40,560 or the person across from me is always blasting heavy metal. 295 00:17:40,560 --> 00:17:42,880 And Carrie says, what's that got to do with me? 296 00:17:43,160 --> 00:17:44,560 Right. Wasn't that great? 297 00:17:44,920 --> 00:17:48,040 Amazing writing that was like the only moment of incredible 298 00:17:48,040 --> 00:17:50,320 writing and. What's that got to do with me 299 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:52,880 now? Charlotte? 300 00:17:53,760 --> 00:17:56,560 Charlotte finally gets a storyline and. 301 00:17:56,680 --> 00:17:57,480 Through Harry. Through. 302 00:17:57,920 --> 00:18:04,680 Harry and we we both kind of commented how last week when he 303 00:18:04,680 --> 00:18:08,000 was having trouble in bed, we were like, OK, you know, that's 304 00:18:08,200 --> 00:18:11,960 he peed himself the week before all right, so we're seeing it's 305 00:18:12,040 --> 00:18:13,840 age. No, it's not age. 306 00:18:14,320 --> 00:18:18,280 It's prostate cancer, and it's very early. 307 00:18:18,480 --> 00:18:24,520 And there's the the he. Said it was like a 90. 8% 308 00:18:24,520 --> 00:18:29,640 survival rate. And of course, Charlotte's 309 00:18:29,640 --> 00:18:31,760 beside herself. But what does he do? 310 00:18:32,360 --> 00:18:34,320 He says. I don't want anybody to know, 311 00:18:34,480 --> 00:18:41,760 not even our kids. Now, this happened to me when my 312 00:18:41,760 --> 00:18:44,400 mother was sick and she was diagnosed stage 4. 313 00:18:44,960 --> 00:18:48,080 The doctor told my father that my mother was stage 4, that she 314 00:18:48,080 --> 00:18:49,880 was dying. My mother never knew. 315 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:52,520 Right. Isn't that crazy? 316 00:18:52,680 --> 00:18:55,080 Insane. Yeah, insane. 317 00:18:56,320 --> 00:18:59,040 But not only did my mother not know, we didn't know. 318 00:18:59,400 --> 00:19:04,120 Yeah. We didn't know until probably 319 00:19:04,120 --> 00:19:06,120 the end I guess. Until it was, yeah. 320 00:19:06,240 --> 00:19:12,880 Until it was obvious. And I can't tell you how 321 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:18,280 resentful I am. Not resentful. 322 00:19:18,600 --> 00:19:20,600 I understand why my father did it. 323 00:19:21,120 --> 00:19:23,960 But I've said this before. My mother hated having her 324 00:19:23,960 --> 00:19:26,360 picture taken. I don't have any pictures of my 325 00:19:26,360 --> 00:19:27,600 mother. I have the oil painting. 326 00:19:27,720 --> 00:19:30,400 That is it. And that bothers me. 327 00:19:31,280 --> 00:19:38,160 So give your kids the opportunity to just do, you know 328 00:19:38,520 --> 00:19:40,200 what I mean? Tell them. 329 00:19:41,000 --> 00:19:46,200 Tell them so that they can, I don't know, spend more time with 330 00:19:46,200 --> 00:19:47,640 you have more. Conversation. 331 00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:48,800 They could behave differently, right? 332 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:52,760 I mean, just there's no question that Lily would be less of a 333 00:19:52,760 --> 00:19:55,000 twat in this episode if she knew. 334 00:19:55,240 --> 00:20:00,280 Right. And it's such an unfair burden 335 00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:04,560 to put on Charlotte, you know? And I really thought they would 336 00:20:04,560 --> 00:20:07,640 have Charlotte tell people, and I was really impressed that they 337 00:20:07,640 --> 00:20:12,440 didn't do that. Because it really shows you how 338 00:20:12,440 --> 00:20:15,960 much Charlotte loves Harry, right? 339 00:20:16,080 --> 00:20:17,640 Like this is what he asked me to do. 340 00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:21,960 And I kept, I would have been first of all, if they said you 341 00:20:21,960 --> 00:20:25,600 can't tell anybody, I'd be like, sorry, that's not going to 342 00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:27,880 happen. It's just, it's not going to 343 00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:32,400 happen like because it is when you are when you're in a 344 00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:36,320 situation like that and it's it your partner's sick. 345 00:20:37,760 --> 00:20:43,160 It is a very, I don't know how to describe this. 346 00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:45,880 You're both going through something, right? 347 00:20:45,880 --> 00:20:52,680 There's a reason why they have groups for parents of kids who 348 00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:58,200 are addicts or spouses of people who are addicts, because those 349 00:20:58,200 --> 00:21:02,880 people need that support, especially if they need to be 350 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:06,480 there for their partner. Burdening somebody with 351 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:12,600 something like this is not just selfish, it's counterintuitive 352 00:21:13,840 --> 00:21:17,440 because. But this is like the only thing 353 00:21:17,440 --> 00:21:20,600 in the episode that didn't require suspension of disbelief, 354 00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:23,280 because this is what men do. Right. 355 00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:26,840 They don't, they don't want anybody to know, right? 356 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:30,240 I mean, I think in a lot of cases they don't even tell their 357 00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:33,680 wives. And I think it, it comes from a 358 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:36,800 place of like, oh, I don't, I don't want my wife to worry. 359 00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:38,400 I don't want things to be different. 360 00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:39,960 I don't want her to act any different, you know? 361 00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:44,960 But like, it's, yeah, really not really not fair and very 362 00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:47,200 counterintuitive. I'm sure they're eventually 363 00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:54,120 going to tell their kids and to tell people, but I just, I felt 364 00:21:54,120 --> 00:21:56,480 really bad for Charlotte because you could see how worried she 365 00:21:56,480 --> 00:21:58,600 was. Of course, even. 366 00:21:58,600 --> 00:22:03,440 Though I believe Harry, I believe that it's 98% survival 367 00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:06,720 and blah blah blah blah, she's still terrified. 368 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:13,040 I did appreciate in this episode, though, that they they 369 00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:20,320 made Lisa Todd Wexley the almost confidant because I feel like if 370 00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:23,760 Charlotte had been, like, out at, you know, the restaurant 371 00:22:24,480 --> 00:22:26,800 with the girls, the usual crew, right? 372 00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:29,840 I feel like Carrie would begin browbeating her like, oh, come 373 00:22:29,840 --> 00:22:31,680 on, tell us. Oh, you're really not going to 374 00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:33,840 tell us how long we've been friends, right? 375 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:36,360 I don't know what Miranda would do at this point because she's a 376 00:22:36,360 --> 00:22:39,600 totally different person. And I feel like Charlotte having 377 00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:44,080 this conversation with another woman who's married makes a lot 378 00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:46,240 of sense because Lisa doesn't push the issue. 379 00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:48,120 Yeah. She just uses the door. 380 00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:51,960 I love Lisa, I love her husband. I wish they would give her more 381 00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:54,360 to do. They're trying. 382 00:22:54,640 --> 00:22:56,200 Right. They're trying. 383 00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:58,240 And I think they do a lot with the little. 384 00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:01,160 I think they do a lot with the little that they give her. 385 00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:04,920 Yeah. She's got a male editor. 386 00:23:05,400 --> 00:23:06,640 I don't know. I don't know where that's going 387 00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:08,440 to go, but please, I I love the guy. 388 00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:09,960 I love Marion. I don't. 389 00:23:10,120 --> 00:23:13,120 Know who say I? I hope he sticks around because 390 00:23:13,120 --> 00:23:17,000 I enjoy his character as well. I think they don't give him any 391 00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:19,840 lines, but they all count. Right. 392 00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:21,800 And the lines he had he was great with. 393 00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:24,440 It's a man's name, too. Right, right. 394 00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:28,960 I did. I liked him. 395 00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:31,960 I like to see them. I mean, obviously I don't want 396 00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:35,720 her cheating on her husband, but you know, OK. 397 00:23:35,840 --> 00:23:38,720 But you know what it did remind me of again, this is funny 398 00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:42,960 because now we can sort of move into the So we have the 399 00:23:42,960 --> 00:23:47,520 introduction of this character Marian in this episode where 400 00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:50,640 Carrie's having the struggle with her shoes, right? 401 00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:53,400 A woman's right to shoes. But when you go back, I went 402 00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:55,560 back and I watched a woman's right to shoes. 403 00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:57,840 And what episode is that? The episode where they 404 00:23:57,840 --> 00:24:00,720 introduced Doctor Robert Leeds Blair Underwood. 405 00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:04,040 And so I was like, oh, that's, that's interesting. 406 00:24:04,280 --> 00:24:05,600 Like that's the. Opportunity too. 407 00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:09,160 Right, right. Sounds so good for Brad. 408 00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:17,480 My God, he was so good. He's so Blair Underwood, I think 409 00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:20,160 is an underrated actor. Oh really? 410 00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:22,320 I just, I love everything he does. 411 00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:26,360 Like we we value him but. Not as much as we should. 412 00:24:26,360 --> 00:24:32,520 I'd like to see him in more stuff, but I loved him in this 413 00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:35,240 role for Doctor Robert Leeds. I loved him. 414 00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:42,520 But this episode, what I loved about it is, you know, Carrie 415 00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:44,240 goes to the party, the shoes get stolen. 416 00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:48,560 The woman is all offended that she has to replace Carrie's $500 417 00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:52,840 shoes. And she's Carrie's. 418 00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:57,720 She's shoe shamed to me, right? Like she shamed this choice that 419 00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:03,480 I made, that I made. And of course, Samantha's like, 420 00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:08,080 fuck her, right? You know, we're supposed to be 421 00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:10,600 putting up with people's kids, which I totally agree with. 422 00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:13,440 I can't tell you when I'm walking the dogs and there'll be 423 00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:16,120 someone behind me and their kid is screaming. 424 00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:19,680 I'm just like, you know, you can't say anything. 425 00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:22,120 But at the same time, like, listen, we all have to coexist 426 00:25:22,120 --> 00:25:24,760 here. Maybe try to do something about 427 00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:26,400 that. I get that you want to do your 428 00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:30,200 gentle parenting thing, but this is that we're outside. 429 00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:33,720 Well, I think that's the excuse for it usually, right? 430 00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:35,720 Yeah. You're outside like New York. 431 00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:37,200 You're going. To make noise. 432 00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:42,640 I mean, that same argument. So Carrie's talking to Charlotte 433 00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:46,720 and she's saying, you know, I did the math on this. 434 00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:50,960 Between Kara's wedding present, shower, present, baby shower, 435 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:55,280 this that, I have spent almost $2500 on her at the destination 436 00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:57,240 wedding. Really. 437 00:25:57,240 --> 00:25:59,560 You're going to have a destination wedding and you 438 00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:03,120 expect people to spend what, 1015 hundred? 439 00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:07,320 Stupid wedding, right? And then if they can't go, are 440 00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:10,680 you going to get offended? You know, why should we be 441 00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:13,280 expected to pay for your exorbitant lifestyle? 442 00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:17,760 I don't know if this is a hot take or if this is just a 2025 443 00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:23,520 take, but a strong belief about destination weddings in 2025 is 444 00:26:23,520 --> 00:26:28,920 that the unspoken expectation is, yeah, don't come. 445 00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:32,040 That's why it's a destination wedding. 446 00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:33,760 They want it to be like 10 people. 447 00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:40,360 Oh, maybe, maybe, I don't know. But the point Carrie was making 448 00:26:40,360 --> 00:26:44,720 was we spent all this money for all of these sort of milestone 449 00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:47,160 events, right? But what does single? 450 00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:49,360 What did single people have? Nothing. 451 00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:51,080 Birthdays, I think, Charlotte points out. 452 00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:54,800 Right. She's like, no, no, what does 453 00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:56,480 she say? Like because that everybody gets 454 00:26:56,480 --> 00:26:58,840 that or something. Yeah, I think she says. 455 00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:03,440 Everybody has one of those. So she what does she do? 456 00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:06,640 She calls Kira and she's like, hey Kira, I just want you to 457 00:27:06,640 --> 00:27:10,280 know I'm getting married to myself and this is where I'm 458 00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:13,520 registered. And Kira was like, OK, let me go 459 00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:16,680 buy those shoes, girl. What? 460 00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:20,440 I just don't understand. First of all, if someone called 461 00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:23,560 me and said I'm getting married to myself and this is my 462 00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:25,640 registry, I would say go fuck yourself. 463 00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:27,600 I'm not buying anything from your registry. 464 00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:31,800 Maybe that makes me a bad person, but I'm not doing this 465 00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:34,120 because you want to go marry yourself. 466 00:27:34,120 --> 00:27:37,040 That's cool. I am I wrong? 467 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:42,520 Am I the drama? Well, if every other preceding 468 00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:44,880 event had happened, then yes, you'd be wrong. 469 00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:49,760 But my take on that was the reason Kira Acme s s is because 470 00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:51,600 she gets the point Carrie is making. 471 00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:53,960 She's like, oh, OK, you're right. 472 00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:57,240 Yeah, you have spent lots of money on me, right? 473 00:27:57,240 --> 00:28:00,560 Celebrating my milestones. Point taken. 474 00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:02,080 I'll replace your shoes. Do. 475 00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:04,640 We really think. That's probably the end of the 476 00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:07,520 friendship regardless. Right, right. 477 00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:11,400 Whether you replace the shoes or not like that's this is probably 478 00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:14,880 the end of that friendship. So I guess you might as well not 479 00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:19,480 replace the shoes. I, I just, I just, I just from 480 00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:24,200 the way she acted, where she was so very much like, you know, 481 00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:28,160 your choices aren't as, aren't as important as mine. 482 00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:30,640 I don't see her changing her mind that quickly. 483 00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:36,560 Well, Irli think you're you're probably right, which is why I 484 00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:38,760 said like, well, you know, it's probably the end of the 485 00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:41,960 friendship regardless. But truly these people probably 486 00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:44,280 wouldn't have still been in touch, right? 487 00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:48,680 Like by the time Kira's kids walking around like past the 488 00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:51,640 toddler stage, like you've lost touch with your single friends. 489 00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:59,400 Yes, yes, have right, right. So she buys the shoes and you 490 00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:02,320 know she gets the card. We hope you and you are very 491 00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:04,400 happy. I don't know. 492 00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,440 I don't know. I just didn't buy that. 493 00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:10,840 I didn't think that Kira would would acquiesce that. 494 00:29:10,840 --> 00:29:13,600 Quickly, but neither would Big. Big never would have married 495 00:29:13,600 --> 00:29:18,040 Kara either. But we, you know, we wanted our 496 00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:22,080 happy endings, Kristen, and we got them on occasion with the 497 00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:26,480 original series. Yes, but it did raise that point 498 00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:31,880 of wait a minute, why aren't our single women's graduating 499 00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:33,960 Business School getting a promotion? 500 00:29:34,040 --> 00:29:35,960 Why aren't those things celebrated? 501 00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:40,280 And it's, it was, it's a reflection of how our society 502 00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:45,000 views marriage and how it's really put on women that 503 00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:49,040 marriage is above all else. Yeah. 504 00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:53,360 Right. So I thought that that episode 505 00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:56,360 really started a conversation I feel like. 506 00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:58,840 It did. And I feel like the conversation 507 00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:04,120 now has evolved into, have you seen this, this genre of TikTok 508 00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:08,320 video that's like my parents reaction to me graduating with 509 00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:10,200 my MBA? And it's like a photo of a 510 00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:12,200 person with like a totally neutral face. 511 00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:16,080 And then the video goes, my parents reaction to my brother 512 00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:18,480 making his bed. And they're like ecstatic. 513 00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:24,560 Have you seen those? Oh God, I but what? 514 00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:25,600 What do you? How do you? 515 00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:29,560 What's the I feel? Like, the connection is, you 516 00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:35,320 know, we keep talking about the male failure epidemic, right? 517 00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:40,360 When men are lagging behind. And all is related to how, like, 518 00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:42,920 we don't celebrate women's achievements because we believe 519 00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:46,960 it's their obligation to achieve in the first place. 520 00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:51,120 Well, you don't think we have that expectation of men? 521 00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:54,880 I mean, I do. Right. 522 00:30:55,200 --> 00:31:01,120 Yeah, I do, right. Society at large maybe also 523 00:31:01,120 --> 00:31:04,200 does, but men don't seem to be holding themselves to the same 524 00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:05,720 standard. True. 525 00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:10,320 Well, I mean, there's got to be a reason they are failing and 526 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:18,160 flailing. OK, so this is a a recap for 527 00:31:18,200 --> 00:31:19,800 Just Like That. We do it every week. 528 00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:24,320 Make sure to subscribe to our Patreon at patreon.com/worth the 529 00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:27,040 Wait show so you can get all the bonus content and the bonus, the 530 00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:29,560 essays and the posts and the advice letters that people write 531 00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:32,560 in. And if you have a question, send 532 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:36,040 them to hello@dataologycoach.com or submit them through my 533 00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:39,200 website, dataologycoach.com. 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