Welcome to the Vibrant Flow podcast.
On this podcast, you will learn the power of your femininity and
be reminded of the fact that you can go from being stuck, rigid
and perfectionistic to being soft, radiant, peaceful, and
pursued and that more is available to you and that God is
good. This is where we reclaim our
feminine essence and start living an abundant life.
I'm your host, Johanna. I'm a women's coach, musician,
wife to my incredible husband, and a Mama to a little baby boy.
It's my joy and privilege to help you realize your full
potential and give you the tools to become a magnetic queen.
Walking in purpose, courage, and faith, you get to experience the
vibrant flow in every area of your life.
So let's begin. I want you to imagine that
someone comes to you. Perhaps it is a friend, a close
one that you really want to support and see them succeed in.
Whatever they feel like they are called to do what they desire to
do, what they are just super excited about.
And then they come to you and say, do you know what?
I really want to learn to play the guitar, or I really want to
learn to play the bassoon or whatever instrument.
I want to learn to play this instrument.
But you know what? I really want to do it without
getting in those 10,000 hours of practice or the practice.
You know, I just, I want to cut the practice in half and just be
really good at it. You know, the 10,000 hours is
just, you know, it's kind of like the 10,000 steps, which
that idea actually originates in Japan and the way Japanese
letters are or how, how it looks with the 10,000 steps.
And anyway, with the 10,000 hours, it's also this idea that
it's really important to get in those 10,000 hours of practice
to actually gain mastery of a skill.
Let's say it is playing an instrument.
Don't get too hung up on the, the number here.
That's that's really not the point.
But someone comes to you and says, you know what, I really
want to learn to do this. I want to play the instrument.
I want to be a like a guitar superstar.
But you know, I just want to maximize my feminine energy and
my magnetism and receptivity so that I don't have to do all the
work. You know, what would you say?
How, how does that like, how does that sound?
How does that land in you? I hope there's something that
you feel that's that's, that's just not lining up because we
can't assume that because we are learning the ways of honoring
the feminine. We're learning the ways and
honoring the femaleness of our biology, that we're learning the
ways of living like a woman, a vibrant woman, instead of trying
to live like a man. That that somehow takes away the
practice and the work that is supposed to be in the equation.
Yes, we say no to the hustle on the grind, the sort of mindless
working productivity for the sake of productivity that that
we used to make ourselves feel worthy.
Because that became a coping mechanism in the past where we
tried to earn acceptance, admiration.
We tried to earn the just the noticing, like even our parents
noticing us, the attention that we craved from those that we
loved, that we perhaps didn't get in the way that we needed.
We say no to that. We understand that that is not
in service to us anymore. We don't blame ourselves for for
the coping mechanisms that we had because they served us for
the time that they did. And now we have self-awareness
and we're stepping out of that and into the vibrant flow out of
rigidity, out of perfectionism, out of fear and out of
insecurity. But is that to say that hey, I
deserve all the success in the world without doing the work?
No, my friend, that is not what it is about.
And with all of the messages that I share about receptivity,
your power and potency and how easy things can get and how much
ease we can experience in the things that feel difficult, that
is attained because we are devoted to the path of practice.
You are devoted. You are moving like devotion in
motion, as we always say, right? So there's no stagnancy, but
there's not also not this sense of entitlement.
And that is the whole point of this episode is to bring
awareness to what this society at large with our instant
gratification culture, what it has created is this expectancy
to see results without the weight, without, you know, the
period of planting and allowing something to grow and watering
it day in, day out you go and you water what you have planted
so that you can see the season and witness the season of
harvest. Instead, what we see is like, I
want now and I should get now and it doesn't matter what it
is. It's like a relationship needs
to work immediately to, you know, be worth your time.
The tender culture. Not saying that there's
something wrong with going in the online dating world,
obviously not, But it's the attitude, the expectancy, the
posture of your heart with which you go into these worlds that
that is the thing that we need to focus on.
And so we have this expectancy that you can just press a button
and just like, you can order food to come in and some, you
know, food Courier is going to appear at your door because you
ordered something from a restaurant or from a grocery
store, which is, yeah, it's handy.
It's great. I mean, we're using it all the
time with a baby now because we don't have time to go to a
grocery store or we would rather use that time differently.
But we need to be really careful of not applying that same
attitude, that same way of relating to us and the world and
our desires that expects results just like that.
Because we're, you know, in the feminine energy, we're
receptive, we're magnetic, whatever.
Yes, all of those things are something that we get to
experience and amplify the joy and the the flow and the ease.
But you, you don't get good at something without the practice,
without the proverbial 10,000 hours of practice.
And I've talked about this like in the imposter syndrome episode
that I have recently did, how we need to adjust our expectations.
Yes, we get to live in hopeful expectation, having this
expectancy to see the good in our lives, to be, you know, just
see the harvest, see the season of harvest.
We have that expectancy, that spiritual posture of always
waiting to see how God works out everything or how works or how
how God works everything out for the good of us, right, Because
we love him. That is the scripture.
That is a promise of scripture. But there is still the element
of practice. And just like you would be
shaking your head and being like, girl, let's talk.
If your friend came to you and said that that they wanted to be
these superstar bassoonist or or guitar player without the
practice that they are just so you know, excited about their
feminine receptivity. And they just think that it's
going to happen without all the work that is required.
The devotion, the coming in, coming into the practice every
day, not with a sense of hustle and grind and the sort of
burning yourself out completely exiting that matrix.
But yes, we are called to be devoted to the work that were
that is currently relevant, meaningful and inspirational in
our lives. So the same goes to or same the
same goes with motherhood with marriage like expecting to have
an amazing relationship. Guess there gets to be this
peace and ease, you know, feeling that it's easy to be in
someone's company, obviously, but but the long term success of
a relationship takes practice, especially in the arena of
communication and how you relate to yourself, what kind of energy
you bringing to the relationship, all of that.
Being a mother, I'm realizing so much of it.
It is just so organic, so beautiful that I get to tune in
and listen. But that also requires practice.
And if I have this entitled attitude that it should just be
easy with no discomfort whatsoever, I would be
constantly so disappointed and frustrated that at some point I
would say I give up it. It's not worth it.
And the same goes with everything.
Say you want to start a blog, say you want to start dancing
some some sort of dancing, you want to take dance lessons.
The same goes with your nervous system recalibration or the the
work quote UN quote that you do with your nervous system so that
you can create more balance, more ease, more regulation into
your system. It's the long game.
It's not snapping your fingers and expecting things to just
work because you are in your feminine energy.
And the same goes with social media.
The same goes with any project that you have, any growth aspect
of your personhood. Having ease in anything is the
result of being devoted to the work, for lack of a better word
here, over time. It's the compound effect of
being faithful to something that you know is worthwhile.
That is what we sometimes need to remind ourselves and not so
that we are just all about wanting to maximize our
magnetism and and receptivity so that we don't have to do the
work. Sometimes this happens without
us realizing that we're sort of getting or falling into this
trap of thinking that we can somehow forego the necessary
processes that mature us. That is part of the maturation
process, the necessary aspects of your journey so that you can
actually come to the season of harvest.
And social media is very easy or makes it very easy to be blinded
by all of the I did this and, and it and it gave me instant
results. And or just seeing the highlight
reels and not seeing the, all the work that is behind someone
and their brand or their social media presence.
Like how many years they've been dedicated to something, to
working on themselves or honing in on their craft and, and
practicing day in and day out, acquiring skills very
intentionally and realizing that, OK, I have this desire,
this fire, this gift, this passion for something.
So I get to get in the work or go in the work.
Speaking today apparently is very hard for me.
Again, going in the work and honoring it coming from a place
of devotion rather than I have to I need to I need to push, you
know, this sort of self sourcing and extracting kind of an
approach to anything which is not what we want.
What we need to do is everyday ask to have our cups be filled,
to honor the things that bring us energy, that energizes, to be
re devoted day in and day out to what is important.
If you're a mother, this is especially relevant to you.
I find that it's humbling and sobering to realize that I
really need my cup to be refilled every single morning
because by the end of the day, I feel like I've run out of steam
very easily. And I am not quitting, I am not
throwing in the towel. But I'm seeking ways to bring in
the joy to re energize me even more.
I'm asking better questions that make my brain look for different
ways of seeing things, you know, giving yourself the assignment
to look for ways to fill your life, your days with joy and
simple pleasures. That's what your mind is going
to do then. And that way I keep myself
devoted to what is important, the work on myself, the work on
my growth, the work on my projects, anything that is
important to me, the professional aspects of where I
really want to see myself as a professional or I'm claiming my
place as a professional, that's also where I am practicing this.
And I invite you to do the same, to leave out the attitude of
entitlement and understanding that you get to be devoted and
it is a gift. And you cannot skip the process
of acquiring skills, increasing self-awareness, bringing in more
of that inner regulation where you're not so quick to throw in
the towel when things get tough. But you know what grounds you,
You know the things that the techniques, the the tools that
help you stick with it. And to go even deeper and
understanding that every season gifts you a bucket load of
insights if you are faithful to the process and you're
constantly asking yourself the question of what is this
particular season in my journey to become, becoming really good
at this thing teaching me. So that's what I wanted to share
today because I don't want you to get blinded by all of the
like, flashy marketing of instant results, the sort of
idea of just gratifying your wishes right away or wanting
success without the work. There was no such thing as an
overnight success. There's always probably deck a
decade or even more of devoted work behind that, behind someone
who is now claimed to be an overnight success in whatever
area. You can think of this in terms
of you being a mother. You can think of this in terms
of being a wife, of being a professional, of any, anything
that you do, the work that you do with your healing and your
passions, your joy, your creativity.
I want you to stick with it. The best strategy is to be
devoted. So devotion over entitlement.
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I appreciate you being here. Thank you for inspiring me on
this journey. I love being in service to you.
I love being in your earbuds, energizing you, and I hope that
you felt this posture of devotion rise up in you today.
So until next time, stay in the vibrant flow.