1 00:00:04,320 --> 00:00:07,000 Welcome to the Vibrant Flow podcast. 2 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:11,600 On this podcast, you will learn the power of your femininity and 3 00:00:11,600 --> 00:00:15,920 be reminded of the fact that you can go from being stuck, rigid 4 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:20,960 and perfectionistic to being soft, radiant, peaceful, and 5 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:25,720 pursued and that more is available to you and that God is 6 00:00:25,720 --> 00:00:28,680 good. This is where we reclaim our 7 00:00:28,680 --> 00:00:32,280 feminine essence and start living an abundant life. 8 00:00:33,160 --> 00:00:37,240 I'm your host, Johanna. I'm a women's coach, musician, 9 00:00:37,440 --> 00:00:42,080 wife to my incredible husband, and a Mama to a little baby boy. 10 00:00:42,960 --> 00:00:46,520 It's my joy and privilege to help you realize your full 11 00:00:46,520 --> 00:00:51,400 potential and give you the tools to become a magnetic queen. 12 00:00:51,480 --> 00:00:57,200 Walking in purpose, courage, and faith, you get to experience the 13 00:00:57,200 --> 00:01:00,400 vibrant flow in every area of your life. 14 00:01:00,840 --> 00:01:07,360 So let's begin. I want you to imagine that 15 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:10,760 someone comes to you. Perhaps it is a friend, a close 16 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:15,560 one that you really want to support and see them succeed in. 17 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:20,640 Whatever they feel like they are called to do what they desire to 18 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:23,080 do, what they are just super excited about. 19 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:25,760 And then they come to you and say, do you know what? 20 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:30,680 I really want to learn to play the guitar, or I really want to 21 00:01:30,760 --> 00:01:35,720 learn to play the bassoon or whatever instrument. 22 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:38,240 I want to learn to play this instrument. 23 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:40,840 But you know what? I really want to do it without 24 00:01:40,840 --> 00:01:48,080 getting in those 10,000 hours of practice or the practice. 25 00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:53,720 You know, I just, I want to cut the practice in half and just be 26 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:57,640 really good at it. You know, the 10,000 hours is 27 00:01:57,640 --> 00:02:00,960 just, you know, it's kind of like the 10,000 steps, which 28 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:05,480 that idea actually originates in Japan and the way Japanese 29 00:02:05,760 --> 00:02:10,199 letters are or how, how it looks with the 10,000 steps. 30 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:15,040 And anyway, with the 10,000 hours, it's also this idea that 31 00:02:15,040 --> 00:02:18,200 it's really important to get in those 10,000 hours of practice 32 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:22,640 to actually gain mastery of a skill. 33 00:02:22,640 --> 00:02:25,080 Let's say it is playing an instrument. 34 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:28,000 Don't get too hung up on the, the number here. 35 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:29,920 That's that's really not the point. 36 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:32,840 But someone comes to you and says, you know what, I really 37 00:02:32,840 --> 00:02:35,520 want to learn to do this. I want to play the instrument. 38 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:40,080 I want to be a like a guitar superstar. 39 00:02:40,640 --> 00:02:45,360 But you know, I just want to maximize my feminine energy and 40 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:51,000 my magnetism and receptivity so that I don't have to do all the 41 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:54,840 work. You know, what would you say? 42 00:02:56,680 --> 00:02:59,280 How, how does that like, how does that sound? 43 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:05,480 How does that land in you? I hope there's something that 44 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:11,720 you feel that's that's, that's just not lining up because we 45 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:18,240 can't assume that because we are learning the ways of honoring 46 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:20,560 the feminine. We're learning the ways and 47 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:24,400 honoring the femaleness of our biology, that we're learning the 48 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:28,520 ways of living like a woman, a vibrant woman, instead of trying 49 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:33,640 to live like a man. That that somehow takes away the 50 00:03:33,640 --> 00:03:38,000 practice and the work that is supposed to be in the equation. 51 00:03:39,360 --> 00:03:43,960 Yes, we say no to the hustle on the grind, the sort of mindless 52 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:47,960 working productivity for the sake of productivity that that 53 00:03:47,960 --> 00:03:52,600 we used to make ourselves feel worthy. 54 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:57,120 Because that became a coping mechanism in the past where we 55 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:00,680 tried to earn acceptance, admiration. 56 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:09,680 We tried to earn the just the noticing, like even our parents 57 00:04:09,680 --> 00:04:13,920 noticing us, the attention that we craved from those that we 58 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:18,079 loved, that we perhaps didn't get in the way that we needed. 59 00:04:18,440 --> 00:04:21,320 We say no to that. We understand that that is not 60 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:24,440 in service to us anymore. We don't blame ourselves for for 61 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:27,720 the coping mechanisms that we had because they served us for 62 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:30,800 the time that they did. And now we have self-awareness 63 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:34,360 and we're stepping out of that and into the vibrant flow out of 64 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:38,240 rigidity, out of perfectionism, out of fear and out of 65 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:44,040 insecurity. But is that to say that hey, I 66 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:49,440 deserve all the success in the world without doing the work? 67 00:04:50,840 --> 00:04:55,680 No, my friend, that is not what it is about. 68 00:04:56,400 --> 00:05:00,320 And with all of the messages that I share about receptivity, 69 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:07,120 your power and potency and how easy things can get and how much 70 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:14,080 ease we can experience in the things that feel difficult, that 71 00:05:14,080 --> 00:05:20,480 is attained because we are devoted to the path of practice. 72 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:25,440 You are devoted. You are moving like devotion in 73 00:05:25,440 --> 00:05:29,720 motion, as we always say, right? So there's no stagnancy, but 74 00:05:29,720 --> 00:05:34,040 there's not also not this sense of entitlement. 75 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:37,600 And that is the whole point of this episode is to bring 76 00:05:37,600 --> 00:05:45,400 awareness to what this society at large with our instant 77 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:52,480 gratification culture, what it has created is this expectancy 78 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:58,160 to see results without the weight, without, you know, the 79 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:03,520 period of planting and allowing something to grow and watering 80 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:07,400 it day in, day out you go and you water what you have planted 81 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:12,160 so that you can see the season and witness the season of 82 00:06:12,160 --> 00:06:15,720 harvest. Instead, what we see is like, I 83 00:06:15,720 --> 00:06:20,640 want now and I should get now and it doesn't matter what it 84 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:22,840 is. It's like a relationship needs 85 00:06:22,840 --> 00:06:27,560 to work immediately to, you know, be worth your time. 86 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:31,680 The tender culture. Not saying that there's 87 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:34,800 something wrong with going in the online dating world, 88 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:38,920 obviously not, But it's the attitude, the expectancy, the 89 00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:44,120 posture of your heart with which you go into these worlds that 90 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:46,920 that is the thing that we need to focus on. 91 00:06:47,480 --> 00:06:51,440 And so we have this expectancy that you can just press a button 92 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:55,160 and just like, you can order food to come in and some, you 93 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:59,080 know, food Courier is going to appear at your door because you 94 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:01,760 ordered something from a restaurant or from a grocery 95 00:07:01,760 --> 00:07:03,320 store, which is, yeah, it's handy. 96 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:05,840 It's great. I mean, we're using it all the 97 00:07:05,840 --> 00:07:09,880 time with a baby now because we don't have time to go to a 98 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:13,280 grocery store or we would rather use that time differently. 99 00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:19,560 But we need to be really careful of not applying that same 100 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:25,760 attitude, that same way of relating to us and the world and 101 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:30,480 our desires that expects results just like that. 102 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:35,840 Because we're, you know, in the feminine energy, we're 103 00:07:35,840 --> 00:07:37,720 receptive, we're magnetic, whatever. 104 00:07:38,800 --> 00:07:42,560 Yes, all of those things are something that we get to 105 00:07:42,560 --> 00:07:47,840 experience and amplify the joy and the the flow and the ease. 106 00:07:48,840 --> 00:07:54,080 But you, you don't get good at something without the practice, 107 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:58,000 without the proverbial 10,000 hours of practice. 108 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:04,200 And I've talked about this like in the imposter syndrome episode 109 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:09,200 that I have recently did, how we need to adjust our expectations. 110 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:12,920 Yes, we get to live in hopeful expectation, having this 111 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:19,800 expectancy to see the good in our lives, to be, you know, just 112 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:22,240 see the harvest, see the season of harvest. 113 00:08:22,240 --> 00:08:27,360 We have that expectancy, that spiritual posture of always 114 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:34,679 waiting to see how God works out everything or how works or how 115 00:08:35,200 --> 00:08:39,400 how God works everything out for the good of us, right, Because 116 00:08:39,400 --> 00:08:41,080 we love him. That is the scripture. 117 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:46,240 That is a promise of scripture. But there is still the element 118 00:08:46,240 --> 00:08:49,320 of practice. And just like you would be 119 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:52,720 shaking your head and being like, girl, let's talk. 120 00:08:53,560 --> 00:08:58,720 If your friend came to you and said that that they wanted to be 121 00:08:58,960 --> 00:09:06,080 these superstar bassoonist or or guitar player without the 122 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:10,280 practice that they are just so you know, excited about their 123 00:09:10,280 --> 00:09:13,480 feminine receptivity. And they just think that it's 124 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:18,720 going to happen without all the work that is required. 125 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:23,760 The devotion, the coming in, coming into the practice every 126 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:28,200 day, not with a sense of hustle and grind and the sort of 127 00:09:28,200 --> 00:09:32,760 burning yourself out completely exiting that matrix. 128 00:09:33,440 --> 00:09:37,560 But yes, we are called to be devoted to the work that were 129 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:44,520 that is currently relevant, meaningful and inspirational in 130 00:09:44,520 --> 00:09:49,160 our lives. So the same goes to or same the 131 00:09:49,160 --> 00:09:54,480 same goes with motherhood with marriage like expecting to have 132 00:09:54,840 --> 00:09:59,560 an amazing relationship. Guess there gets to be this 133 00:09:59,720 --> 00:10:03,840 peace and ease, you know, feeling that it's easy to be in 134 00:10:03,840 --> 00:10:08,400 someone's company, obviously, but but the long term success of 135 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:13,240 a relationship takes practice, especially in the arena of 136 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:18,520 communication and how you relate to yourself, what kind of energy 137 00:10:18,520 --> 00:10:22,080 you bringing to the relationship, all of that. 138 00:10:22,440 --> 00:10:26,320 Being a mother, I'm realizing so much of it. 139 00:10:26,320 --> 00:10:30,960 It is just so organic, so beautiful that I get to tune in 140 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:35,520 and listen. But that also requires practice. 141 00:10:35,520 --> 00:10:39,480 And if I have this entitled attitude that it should just be 142 00:10:39,480 --> 00:10:45,080 easy with no discomfort whatsoever, I would be 143 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:49,800 constantly so disappointed and frustrated that at some point I 144 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:53,160 would say I give up it. It's not worth it. 145 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:55,240 And the same goes with everything. 146 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:59,480 Say you want to start a blog, say you want to start dancing 147 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:02,760 some some sort of dancing, you want to take dance lessons. 148 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:07,600 The same goes with your nervous system recalibration or the the 149 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:12,000 work quote UN quote that you do with your nervous system so that 150 00:11:12,000 --> 00:11:16,920 you can create more balance, more ease, more regulation into 151 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:20,440 your system. It's the long game. 152 00:11:20,680 --> 00:11:24,920 It's not snapping your fingers and expecting things to just 153 00:11:24,920 --> 00:11:27,400 work because you are in your feminine energy. 154 00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:31,440 And the same goes with social media. 155 00:11:31,440 --> 00:11:36,320 The same goes with any project that you have, any growth aspect 156 00:11:36,320 --> 00:11:43,760 of your personhood. Having ease in anything is the 157 00:11:43,760 --> 00:11:50,880 result of being devoted to the work, for lack of a better word 158 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:56,320 here, over time. It's the compound effect of 159 00:11:56,320 --> 00:12:01,000 being faithful to something that you know is worthwhile. 160 00:12:02,720 --> 00:12:09,000 That is what we sometimes need to remind ourselves and not so 161 00:12:09,000 --> 00:12:12,720 that we are just all about wanting to maximize our 162 00:12:12,720 --> 00:12:17,160 magnetism and and receptivity so that we don't have to do the 163 00:12:17,160 --> 00:12:20,320 work. Sometimes this happens without 164 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:27,400 us realizing that we're sort of getting or falling into this 165 00:12:27,400 --> 00:12:35,120 trap of thinking that we can somehow forego the necessary 166 00:12:35,120 --> 00:12:41,480 processes that mature us. That is part of the maturation 167 00:12:41,480 --> 00:12:47,280 process, the necessary aspects of your journey so that you can 168 00:12:47,280 --> 00:12:50,320 actually come to the season of harvest. 169 00:12:52,840 --> 00:13:00,640 And social media is very easy or makes it very easy to be blinded 170 00:13:01,720 --> 00:13:06,800 by all of the I did this and, and it and it gave me instant 171 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:09,880 results. And or just seeing the highlight 172 00:13:09,880 --> 00:13:14,160 reels and not seeing the, all the work that is behind someone 173 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:17,200 and their brand or their social media presence. 174 00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:21,800 Like how many years they've been dedicated to something, to 175 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:27,120 working on themselves or honing in on their craft and, and 176 00:13:27,720 --> 00:13:32,360 practicing day in and day out, acquiring skills very 177 00:13:32,640 --> 00:13:37,880 intentionally and realizing that, OK, I have this desire, 178 00:13:37,880 --> 00:13:42,400 this fire, this gift, this passion for something. 179 00:13:42,400 --> 00:13:46,680 So I get to get in the work or go in the work. 180 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:51,000 Speaking today apparently is very hard for me. 181 00:13:51,000 --> 00:13:58,600 Again, going in the work and honoring it coming from a place 182 00:13:58,600 --> 00:14:02,880 of devotion rather than I have to I need to I need to push, you 183 00:14:02,880 --> 00:14:07,800 know, this sort of self sourcing and extracting kind of an 184 00:14:08,040 --> 00:14:12,680 approach to anything which is not what we want. 185 00:14:13,680 --> 00:14:21,560 What we need to do is everyday ask to have our cups be filled, 186 00:14:22,400 --> 00:14:29,840 to honor the things that bring us energy, that energizes, to be 187 00:14:29,840 --> 00:14:35,160 re devoted day in and day out to what is important. 188 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:39,200 If you're a mother, this is especially relevant to you. 189 00:14:39,280 --> 00:14:45,280 I find that it's humbling and sobering to realize that I 190 00:14:45,440 --> 00:14:50,960 really need my cup to be refilled every single morning 191 00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:55,600 because by the end of the day, I feel like I've run out of steam 192 00:14:56,720 --> 00:15:03,560 very easily. And I am not quitting, I am not 193 00:15:03,640 --> 00:15:09,640 throwing in the towel. But I'm seeking ways to bring in 194 00:15:09,640 --> 00:15:13,640 the joy to re energize me even more. 195 00:15:14,920 --> 00:15:22,360 I'm asking better questions that make my brain look for different 196 00:15:22,360 --> 00:15:26,760 ways of seeing things, you know, giving yourself the assignment 197 00:15:27,800 --> 00:15:34,360 to look for ways to fill your life, your days with joy and 198 00:15:34,360 --> 00:15:37,760 simple pleasures. That's what your mind is going 199 00:15:37,760 --> 00:15:43,680 to do then. And that way I keep myself 200 00:15:43,680 --> 00:15:48,320 devoted to what is important, the work on myself, the work on 201 00:15:48,320 --> 00:15:53,640 my growth, the work on my projects, anything that is 202 00:15:53,640 --> 00:15:59,600 important to me, the professional aspects of where I 203 00:15:59,600 --> 00:16:02,920 really want to see myself as a professional or I'm claiming my 204 00:16:02,920 --> 00:16:09,560 place as a professional, that's also where I am practicing this. 205 00:16:09,560 --> 00:16:13,920 And I invite you to do the same, to leave out the attitude of 206 00:16:13,920 --> 00:16:20,400 entitlement and understanding that you get to be devoted and 207 00:16:20,400 --> 00:16:25,400 it is a gift. And you cannot skip the process 208 00:16:26,680 --> 00:16:34,920 of acquiring skills, increasing self-awareness, bringing in more 209 00:16:35,360 --> 00:16:42,760 of that inner regulation where you're not so quick to throw in 210 00:16:42,760 --> 00:16:48,760 the towel when things get tough. But you know what grounds you, 211 00:16:48,960 --> 00:16:53,760 You know the things that the techniques, the the tools that 212 00:16:54,040 --> 00:16:58,040 help you stick with it. And to go even deeper and 213 00:16:58,040 --> 00:17:03,240 understanding that every season gifts you a bucket load of 214 00:17:03,240 --> 00:17:08,920 insights if you are faithful to the process and you're 215 00:17:08,920 --> 00:17:13,920 constantly asking yourself the question of what is this 216 00:17:13,920 --> 00:17:18,960 particular season in my journey to become, becoming really good 217 00:17:18,960 --> 00:17:24,200 at this thing teaching me. So that's what I wanted to share 218 00:17:24,200 --> 00:17:30,880 today because I don't want you to get blinded by all of the 219 00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:37,480 like, flashy marketing of instant results, the sort of 220 00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:45,600 idea of just gratifying your wishes right away or wanting 221 00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:51,400 success without the work. There was no such thing as an 222 00:17:51,400 --> 00:17:56,080 overnight success. There's always probably deck a 223 00:17:56,080 --> 00:18:04,000 decade or even more of devoted work behind that, behind someone 224 00:18:04,000 --> 00:18:09,200 who is now claimed to be an overnight success in whatever 225 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:11,760 area. You can think of this in terms 226 00:18:11,760 --> 00:18:14,520 of you being a mother. You can think of this in terms 227 00:18:14,520 --> 00:18:19,960 of being a wife, of being a professional, of any, anything 228 00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:26,280 that you do, the work that you do with your healing and your 229 00:18:26,280 --> 00:18:28,920 passions, your joy, your creativity. 230 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:36,480 I want you to stick with it. The best strategy is to be 231 00:18:36,480 --> 00:18:40,200 devoted. So devotion over entitlement. 232 00:18:40,840 --> 00:18:43,480 That is the message of today. Share this episode with someone. 233 00:18:43,480 --> 00:18:47,760 If you think that more people need to hear this, that more 234 00:18:47,760 --> 00:18:51,400 people need to be part of the vibrant flow and experiencing 235 00:18:51,400 --> 00:18:55,160 it, leave a five star rating in a review that helps so much. 236 00:18:55,160 --> 00:18:59,600 I appreciate you being here. Thank you for inspiring me on 237 00:18:59,600 --> 00:19:02,440 this journey. I love being in service to you. 238 00:19:02,840 --> 00:19:06,920 I love being in your earbuds, energizing you, and I hope that 239 00:19:06,920 --> 00:19:14,600 you felt this posture of devotion rise up in you today. 240 00:19:15,400 --> 00:19:18,160 So until next time, stay in the vibrant flow.