1
00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:04,280
It's the Awake Space with Lori 
Rivers, and this week I'm really

2
00:00:04,280 --> 00:00:07,720
excited to talk to you about a 
couple of subjects that 

3
00:00:07,720 --> 00:00:12,360
community members in the Awake 
Space asked me after last week's

4
00:00:12,400 --> 00:00:14,360
podcast. 
So we're going to talk about 

5
00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:17,720
letting go and what that means 
and give you some tips and hints

6
00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:21,520
to do it. 
I didn't get a chance to record 

7
00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:24,440
the guided meditation to 
Centering. 

8
00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:29,200
Will do that this week. 
I have time in the studio coming

9
00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:31,960
up. 
What a week? 

10
00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:37,600
It seemed like every single 
platform I use and pay good 

11
00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:42,920
money for was glitching as 
Mercury rounded out its shadow 

12
00:00:42,920 --> 00:00:46,960
phase. 
Hopefully we see a little more 

13
00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:52,200
ease when it comes to interfaces
and communication and all sorts 

14
00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:54,160
of fun stuff. 
But last week, if you had 

15
00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:59,400
trouble, you were not alone. 
We're going to, again, we're 

16
00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:03,080
going to talk about letting go 
and strategies for that. 

17
00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:07,760
And then we're also going to 
talk about what accountability 

18
00:01:07,760 --> 00:01:11,720
means as we move through April. 
The astrology is really pointing

19
00:01:11,720 --> 00:01:14,680
to accountability and everybody 
points at the bad guy of choice 

20
00:01:14,680 --> 00:01:16,400
and says, aha, they're going to 
get theirs. 

21
00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:20,520
But it means accountability for 
everybody, and that includes us.

22
00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:24,200
And so along with letting go, 
I'm going to give you some tips 

23
00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:28,360
and hints on how to manage 
accountability within without 

24
00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:32,400
shame, blame, or guilt. 
Because I think we have this 

25
00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:36,080
expectation of perfection that 
is unwarranted. 

26
00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:39,720
It's just unwarranted. 
It's unnecessary. 

27
00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:42,840
That is oppressive. 
OK. 

28
00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:46,920
So remember, as precious as you 
are, treat yourself that way. 

29
00:01:47,640 --> 00:01:50,000
So get your tea, get your 
coffee, get your matcha, get 

30
00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:55,480
your H2O, get your bevy of 
choice. 

31
00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:59,160
And whether we're folding the 
laundry, taking a hot girl, hot 

32
00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:03,760
guy walk, walking off the Easter
candy which is on sale now. 

33
00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:09,720
I think taking the kids to 
school or not doing some arts 

34
00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:13,600
and crafts, bacon, something 
yummy, getting out in the 

35
00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:19,080
garden, enjoying a walk, going 
to the gym. 

36
00:02:19,440 --> 00:02:22,080
I don't know how you're getting 
me fit, but you're doing it. 

37
00:02:22,760 --> 00:02:25,560
But whatever we're doing, we're 
going to do it together. 

38
00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:29,480
I don't think it's it this 
month, but you can start getting

39
00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:35,440
your hopes up. 
Oh, guys, it's it's an 

40
00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:38,280
interesting month. 
I don't think you're going to be

41
00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:43,680
overly disappointed with some 
events this month. 

42
00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:47,640
I'm, I'm not going to say it's 
it, OK, I'm not. 

43
00:02:47,640 --> 00:02:50,600
So don't go around telling 
people I said it's it. 

44
00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:54,440
We do have that uncommonly gay 
day on April 23rd. 

45
00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:57,680
It could be a lot of things and 
I think a lot of it will be 

46
00:02:57,680 --> 00:02:59,440
economic. 
I think we're going to see a 

47
00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:01,480
bump in things. 
That could mean the Straits of 

48
00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:05,440
Harmas aren't impaired. 
It could mean that there's, I 

49
00:03:05,440 --> 00:03:06,840
don't think there's going to be 
a ceasefire. 

50
00:03:06,840 --> 00:03:10,920
I think there's going to be a 
cease of action, but we'll see. 

51
00:03:10,920 --> 00:03:13,560
We'll see what happens as we go 
through this month because it's 

52
00:03:13,560 --> 00:03:16,760
really volatile energy. 
But accountability comes for 

53
00:03:16,760 --> 00:03:22,080
everyone. 
So the big the big stuff 

54
00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:28,480
happening this week, Mars's 
sextile Uranus on April 8th. 

55
00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:31,720
It's not that if go ahead if 
you're an astrologer laugh 

56
00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:33,880
because that's almost like an 
astrology too. 

57
00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:40,760
But Mars is making a very 
encouraging aspect and egging on

58
00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:45,120
the chaotic energy of Urinos. 
I do think that might be when we

59
00:03:45,120 --> 00:03:48,520
see some pretty good size 
seismic activity. 

60
00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:51,320
I think it'll be at at this 
point on the 8th. 

61
00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:54,720
It could be offshore in deeper 
water. 

62
00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:58,000
It could be a volcano getting 
ready to form like happened in 

63
00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:01,600
Tonga a couple years back. 
It's that kind of thing. 

64
00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:05,240
I think we'll definitely see 
interesting happenings in the 

65
00:04:05,240 --> 00:04:08,880
Persian Gulf. 
And more trolling. 

66
00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:12,240
Those Lego videos or something 
else, don't you think? 

67
00:04:13,840 --> 00:04:18,160
April 9th Mars ingress is into 
Aries and that's where Mars is 

68
00:04:18,160 --> 00:04:20,519
at home. 
It's going to be quick, active, 

69
00:04:20,519 --> 00:04:24,120
impulsive energy. 
Impulsive doesn't always mean 

70
00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:26,280
bad. 
You can be strategically 

71
00:04:26,280 --> 00:04:28,880
impulsive. 
Pay attention to your guidance, 

72
00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:33,120
but there's this thing I've 
noticed over the past 30 years 

73
00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:37,800
and whenever a planet like Mars 
especially changes signs, we 

74
00:04:37,800 --> 00:04:43,080
really feel that burst of energy
as it leaves the end and the 

75
00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:49,360
maturity of 1 sign and pops in 
new to start off a whole another

76
00:04:50,280 --> 00:04:56,960
series. 
And so as Mars leaves Pisces, I 

77
00:04:56,960 --> 00:05:01,200
think we see like energy that 
feels like a tidal wave. 

78
00:05:01,240 --> 00:05:03,440
You know, it doesn't mean we're 
going to see a tsunami, but it's

79
00:05:03,440 --> 00:05:06,480
a cosmic tsunami. 
Get your surfboard ready. 

80
00:05:09,560 --> 00:05:13,680
And then Mars is going to 
conjunct Neptune and we will see

81
00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:16,960
more naval battles, etcetera. 
I don't think the United States 

82
00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:20,120
is going to have that walk in 
the park like they expected. 

83
00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:26,480
But I also don't expect this 
conflict to last as long as some

84
00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:30,760
people are thinking it might. 
I think we'll see a change of 

85
00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:33,560
mind happen out of the 
administration. 

86
00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:39,800
And there's some interesting 
things that come up after the 

87
00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:43,320
15th. 
So let's see. 

88
00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:45,360
We also have Venus sextile 
Jupiter. 

89
00:05:45,360 --> 00:05:49,440
So this is really good energy as
far as this is. 

90
00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:53,760
This is also economic. 
There's better news than 

91
00:05:53,760 --> 00:05:59,160
expected in currencies, there's 
better news than expected in 

92
00:05:59,160 --> 00:06:01,680
stocks. 
There's there might be some 

93
00:06:01,680 --> 00:06:05,280
headlines that actually boost 
confidence in the economy. 

94
00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:10,640
Could be more hiring again, 
could be food supply is a lot 

95
00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:13,240
more stable than people think. 
It could be things like that. 

96
00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:18,160
April 14th we have Mercury sex 
style Uranus and Mercury moves 

97
00:06:18,160 --> 00:06:21,320
into Aries. 
Now remember, sextiles are like 

98
00:06:21,320 --> 00:06:23,960
cheerleading energy. 
It's very active, supportive 

99
00:06:23,960 --> 00:06:26,840
energy. 
We're going to see big 

100
00:06:26,840 --> 00:06:29,520
communications. 
I think we're going to see like 

101
00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:34,880
a world changing headline or a 
world changing declaration or a 

102
00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:39,640
world changing communication. 
That could be people going to 

103
00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:41,360
the International Court of 
Justice. 

104
00:06:42,920 --> 00:06:45,520
It could be very, very 
fascinating to see how that 

105
00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:49,320
plays out. 
So that's all the changing 

106
00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:55,360
energy we have this week. 
And that's a lot. 

107
00:06:55,680 --> 00:06:58,560
And it can be easy to feel 
overwhelmed. 

108
00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:05,720
It really can. 
But we don't have to allow it to

109
00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:08,000
drive us. 
And I'm going to say even as an 

110
00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:11,000
astrologer, when they can see 
this stuff coming, I understand 

111
00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:14,640
it at a deep level. 
It still impacts me. 

112
00:07:15,120 --> 00:07:17,720
Astrologers are not immune to 
transits. 

113
00:07:17,960 --> 00:07:20,480
So if you're trying to learn 
astrology so you can dodge a 

114
00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:26,040
bullet or two, it's more like as
you gain experience, because 

115
00:07:26,040 --> 00:07:29,400
knowledge isn't power, Knowing 
what to do with the knowledge 

116
00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:32,200
is. 
And with experience, you learn 

117
00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:36,360
how to roll with it. 
You learn how to surf the cosmic

118
00:07:36,360 --> 00:07:39,480
tide. 
It's really not about avoiding 

119
00:07:39,480 --> 00:07:42,720
or dodging anything. 
It's about meeting it with 

120
00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:45,960
understanding. 
And understanding isn't dread. 

121
00:07:46,520 --> 00:07:49,960
And there's been times where I 
look out, I'm like, oh crap, 

122
00:07:49,960 --> 00:07:56,640
that's a big wave, you know, And
when when we look at things that

123
00:07:56,640 --> 00:08:01,080
way, we kind of set our 
perceptions up for a challenge 

124
00:08:01,080 --> 00:08:02,760
that greater than it needs to 
be. 

125
00:08:03,120 --> 00:08:07,320
We we often craft blocks based 
on patterns. 

126
00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:11,680
OK, we often create blocks based
on patterns. 

127
00:08:12,080 --> 00:08:17,520
And I'm not saying you don't 
have real challenges, but and 

128
00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:21,880
how we meet those challenges is 
what matters. 

129
00:08:21,880 --> 00:08:24,560
And don't take away from this, 
I'm telling you to to pull 

130
00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:26,280
yourself up by your bootstraps. 
I'm not. 

131
00:08:26,280 --> 00:08:30,840
Just because I had to doesn't 
mean you have to. 

132
00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:36,919
I would never expect that for 
anybody and nor do I recommend 

133
00:08:36,919 --> 00:08:38,760
it. 
It's not my favorite experience.

134
00:08:39,039 --> 00:08:42,400
That's why I teach what I teach,
so you don't have to go through 

135
00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:48,640
those extreme experiences to get
to where your soul would love 

136
00:08:48,640 --> 00:08:53,240
you to be flourishing. 
OK, so with all this changing 

137
00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:55,880
energy, there's a lot of 
supporting energy, especially 

138
00:08:55,880 --> 00:09:00,240
that Venus sextile Jupiter and 
Mars conjunct Neptune. 

139
00:09:00,240 --> 00:09:04,280
That is like realizing a vision,
a personal vision. 

140
00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:08,560
It's about tuning in and tapping
in and connecting to the things 

141
00:09:08,560 --> 00:09:12,840
that energize you. 
With Venus in Taurus and Jupiter

142
00:09:12,840 --> 00:09:16,600
in Cancer, this is like shake 
your money makers. 

143
00:09:16,640 --> 00:09:21,360
All right, and one day I'll tell
you the joke about my DND 

144
00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:25,160
character. 
Cause anyway, long story, not 

145
00:09:25,160 --> 00:09:31,680
going to digress anyway, so I 
think I'll talk a little bit in 

146
00:09:31,680 --> 00:09:36,080
the next segment about how to 
use that Jupiter sextile or 

147
00:09:36,080 --> 00:09:41,320
venous sextile, Jupiter energy, 
and understand that a lot of our

148
00:09:41,320 --> 00:09:45,760
attitudes around money are based
on religious belief and a 

149
00:09:45,760 --> 00:09:50,160
misunderstanding of what 
capitalism is as an economic 

150
00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:53,760
theory. 
Well, we're not in capitalism at

151
00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:54,960
all. 
It died. 

152
00:09:55,040 --> 00:09:57,680
We have a kleptocracy. 
You know that we've had people, 

153
00:09:57,680 --> 00:10:05,240
the oligarchs, be in control. 
That's not capitalism, OK? 

154
00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:08,720
Capitalism is more of a free 
exchange. 

155
00:10:08,720 --> 00:10:12,560
And it wouldn't matter if that 
capital was a dollar bell, a 

156
00:10:12,560 --> 00:10:18,920
shiny coin, a shimmering rock or
a cool, funky shell. 

157
00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:28,600
It is an exchange. 
And it's easy to say, oh, that 

158
00:10:28,600 --> 00:10:31,200
should be free. 
But it's kind of like I've lived

159
00:10:31,200 --> 00:10:34,480
in in state parks for a long 
time because I was married to a 

160
00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:37,320
State Park Ranger. 
And the general public would 

161
00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:43,480
come in to appreciate nature. 
And they wait off in either wild

162
00:10:43,480 --> 00:10:45,920
forage or pick up rocks off the 
beach. 

163
00:10:46,800 --> 00:10:50,680
And if just one person was doing
that or a small handful of 

164
00:10:50,680 --> 00:10:53,480
people were doing that, that 
would be OK. 

165
00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:57,640
But when there's thousands of 
people going through, you're 

166
00:10:57,640 --> 00:11:04,360
disrupting the ecosystem. 
One of the ways we were able to 

167
00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:08,880
manage resources was through 
regulating goods and exchanges. 

168
00:11:08,880 --> 00:11:12,440
When we deregulated things, that
was the problem. 

169
00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:16,360
And deregulation has nothing to 
do with not having a free 

170
00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:18,080
market. 
Free doesn't mean everything's 

171
00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:23,360
free either. 
Our many wounds are caused by 

172
00:11:23,360 --> 00:11:26,960
social programming, religious 
indoctrination, social 

173
00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:29,840
indoctrination, cultural 
indoctrination. 

174
00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:38,320
And we often have been taught to
believe that it is immoral. 

175
00:11:41,440 --> 00:11:44,520
But if the only people who are 
making money are the people who 

176
00:11:44,520 --> 00:11:49,120
can never feel satisfied, who 
have honestly a massive money 

177
00:11:49,120 --> 00:11:52,360
wound, I'm not saying feel bad 
for him, but you can't be a 

178
00:11:52,360 --> 00:11:55,440
billionaire if you're, if you're
easily satisfied, if you're 

179
00:11:55,440 --> 00:11:59,800
easily pleased. 
And most of the billionaires you

180
00:11:59,800 --> 00:12:03,720
hear about, they're billionaires
on paper, you know, unless they 

181
00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:09,160
own really solid real assets 
like land, commodities, things 

182
00:12:09,160 --> 00:12:13,640
like that, they're stocks. 
If they cashed all of them out, 

183
00:12:13,640 --> 00:12:15,920
they'd sync the market. 
They wouldn't even be able to, 

184
00:12:15,960 --> 00:12:19,680
you know, to sell all the 
holdings they have at one time. 

185
00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:27,720
So equating money with greed has
been the big mistake. 

186
00:12:27,840 --> 00:12:33,640
Even the axiom people say you 
know money is the root of all 

187
00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:35,000
evil. 
That's not the whole quote. 

188
00:12:35,000 --> 00:12:37,800
It is love of money is the root 
of all evil. 

189
00:12:37,800 --> 00:12:41,480
It's OK to sustain yourself. 
It's OK to be comfortable. 

190
00:12:42,120 --> 00:12:45,920
It's OK when you know what your 
enough is and you don't have to 

191
00:12:45,920 --> 00:12:49,800
prove your value. 
So often we're working harder 

192
00:12:50,480 --> 00:12:54,640
and harder for less and less. 
And working hard has nothing to 

193
00:12:54,640 --> 00:12:57,200
do with earning money. 
That's a lie. 

194
00:12:58,040 --> 00:13:04,800
That is a social lie because the
most hard working people, the 

195
00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:08,400
most hard working people are the
poorest people. 

196
00:13:10,320 --> 00:13:14,000
So it's not about hard work 
either, but it is about 

197
00:13:14,000 --> 00:13:17,120
understanding how you feel 
secure, giving yourself a 

198
00:13:17,120 --> 00:13:20,600
framework of understanding how 
to what resourcing yourself 

199
00:13:20,600 --> 00:13:27,920
actually looks like, feels like 
and it renovating your interior 

200
00:13:27,920 --> 00:13:30,880
life. 
So we'll talk about that in the 

201
00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:35,040
next segment because I think 
it's so important. 

202
00:13:35,040 --> 00:13:37,480
That's why I wrote Healing the 
Money wound, your framework to 

203
00:13:37,480 --> 00:13:39,280
rebuilding confidence, value and
wealth. 

204
00:13:39,280 --> 00:13:42,920
It isn't prosperity gospel at 
all. 

205
00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:49,280
In fact, it's a really practical
system that helps you learn how 

206
00:13:49,280 --> 00:13:56,160
to center into yourself, know 
what matters to you because we 

207
00:13:56,160 --> 00:13:57,920
think we know what matters to 
us. 

208
00:13:57,960 --> 00:14:02,200
But so often when I ask, you 
know, how can I support you or 

209
00:14:02,200 --> 00:14:04,720
what do you want out of the 
reading, people sit there like 

210
00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:07,400
deer in the headlights and be 
like, it's hard to know what we 

211
00:14:07,400 --> 00:14:10,280
want when we've been told it's 
bad to want what we want. 

212
00:14:11,680 --> 00:14:16,960
And sometimes it is nice fuzzy, 
cozy jammies and sometimes it is

213
00:14:16,960 --> 00:14:20,600
a nicer house. 
Sometimes it is having somewhere

214
00:14:20,680 --> 00:14:24,040
with adequate plumbing. 
For some, it's having clean air 

215
00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:27,040
and clean water. 
Nothing wrong with that desire. 

216
00:14:27,480 --> 00:14:31,480
So yeah, we'll talk about that 
because I think it's so 

217
00:14:31,480 --> 00:14:35,800
important to understand things 
not from a typology, just like 

218
00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:41,720
with astrology. 
I saw this video on TikTok and 

219
00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:43,240
it, it honestly really pissed me
off. 

220
00:14:43,240 --> 00:14:45,280
And it was for better health, 
OK? 

221
00:14:45,680 --> 00:14:49,920
And it was like, I like being 
put into boxes was what the 

222
00:14:49,920 --> 00:14:53,400
person said. 
You know, I like a horoscope. 

223
00:14:53,400 --> 00:14:57,800
I like a blah, blah, blah. 
I like, you know, an Enneagram. 

224
00:14:57,800 --> 00:15:02,600
I like the Myers break. 
And I'm like, do you really want

225
00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:05,720
to be put in a box as an 
astrologer? 

226
00:15:06,160 --> 00:15:10,640
I've worked for 30 years to show
you're not in a box. 

227
00:15:11,440 --> 00:15:15,360
You know, I, I personally think 
it's lazy to want to live out of

228
00:15:15,600 --> 00:15:19,720
a box. 
Why would you want someone else 

229
00:15:19,720 --> 00:15:26,520
to tell you who you are? 
Why maybe you don't, and I hope 

230
00:15:26,520 --> 00:15:28,000
so. 
If you're listening to my 

231
00:15:28,000 --> 00:15:31,160
podcast, I hope you're not one 
of the ones who wants to be put 

232
00:15:31,160 --> 00:15:35,080
into a box. 
Because astrology is not merely 

233
00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:38,160
A typology. 
It isn't just telling you who 

234
00:15:38,160 --> 00:15:41,600
you are. 
It can show you who you can be 

235
00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:45,920
when you do the work, when you 
do the work. 

236
00:15:45,920 --> 00:15:49,280
And we've got Mercury moving 
into Aries this week and that's 

237
00:15:49,280 --> 00:15:52,120
all about communicating with 
self. 

238
00:15:52,120 --> 00:15:59,320
Communicating your your ideas, 
your personal dogma, seeing 

239
00:15:59,320 --> 00:16:03,840
things through your personal 
lens, being impulsive with your 

240
00:16:03,840 --> 00:16:06,240
thoughts and your language. 
Careful what you say though when

241
00:16:06,240 --> 00:16:10,000
it moves into Aries because it 
may go thought to mouth pretty 

242
00:16:10,000 --> 00:16:14,000
fast and there are consequences 
with that, especially as Mercury

243
00:16:14,000 --> 00:16:18,000
is conjunct to Saturn. 
Oh, actually it's Mercury's not 

244
00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:21,560
conjunct Saturn until the 20th. 
So this week we should be fine 

245
00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:25,240
with our mouths. 
It could be a difficult travel 

246
00:16:25,240 --> 00:16:29,760
week though, so keep your eye 
open for that. 

247
00:16:29,760 --> 00:16:32,040
Mercury doesn't ingress Aries 
until the 14th. 

248
00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:35,680
But anyway, as we move through 
this week, it's important to 

249
00:16:35,680 --> 00:16:40,440
kind of dreaming, get clear, 
learn how to come to center. 

250
00:16:40,440 --> 00:16:45,000
I will get that audio out. 
Grounding will become more 

251
00:16:45,000 --> 00:16:48,760
possible after Uranus pops out 
of Taurus. 

252
00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:54,120
Right now it's in that last bit 
at 29°, really shaking and 

253
00:16:54,120 --> 00:16:57,160
moving things. 
It's going to be, it's going to 

254
00:16:57,160 --> 00:17:03,920
be a wild week. 
It's a good time to learn to let

255
00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:07,640
go of outcomes. 
And I got asked about that in 

256
00:17:07,640 --> 00:17:13,440
the Awake Space community and I 
thought I'd talk about that 

257
00:17:13,440 --> 00:17:16,560
today about how to let go. 
Because let me tell you, as a 

258
00:17:16,560 --> 00:17:22,440
Scorpio rising with a prominent 
Pluto at the top of my chart, 

259
00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:32,040
learning to let go, learning to 
surrender, learning to dream in 

260
00:17:32,200 --> 00:17:37,680
to fashion and reality and allow
for better, you know, allow for 

261
00:17:37,680 --> 00:17:42,960
better. 
That's that's been a walk most 

262
00:17:42,960 --> 00:17:45,640
of my adult life. 
Just letting go of how I think 

263
00:17:45,640 --> 00:17:51,800
things need to go and be open to
what unfolds in front of me. 

264
00:17:51,800 --> 00:17:55,160
And that's not easy. 
We like to control our outcomes.

265
00:17:55,160 --> 00:18:00,120
And I know you get you guys see 
me where I am now. 

266
00:18:00,960 --> 00:18:04,360
I was not always like like this.
Sometimes when I'm condescending

267
00:18:04,360 --> 00:18:09,120
or sarcastic, I I'm actually 
doing it to myself and kind of 

268
00:18:09,120 --> 00:18:14,600
teasing myself because I've been
that person who held on to the 

269
00:18:14,600 --> 00:18:18,000
outcome. 
I've been that person waiting 

270
00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:20,160
for someone else to get their 
karma. 

271
00:18:20,640 --> 00:18:24,560
I've been that person trying to 
prove they were worth something,

272
00:18:25,080 --> 00:18:28,280
trying to make other people 
proud of me because then I might

273
00:18:28,280 --> 00:18:31,920
feel proud of me. 
I've been through all of that. 

274
00:18:32,520 --> 00:18:39,480
I had to see where I carried my 
programming in my baggage, or I 

275
00:18:39,480 --> 00:18:44,600
hadn't deconstructed enough, or 
where I was wanting to be seen 

276
00:18:44,600 --> 00:18:48,400
as the good guy instead of just 
doing the right things. 

277
00:18:48,440 --> 00:18:51,240
It's the right thing to do. 
When I speak on these things, 

278
00:18:51,240 --> 00:18:54,240
it's because I have walked it 
all right? 

279
00:18:54,240 --> 00:18:59,520
I'm not sitting in judgement 
from this pedestal of being, you

280
00:18:59,560 --> 00:19:04,880
know, a paragon of virtue. 
I am anything but, in fact, on 

281
00:19:04,880 --> 00:19:07,880
purpose at this point. 
I don't want to be a paragon of 

282
00:19:07,880 --> 00:19:09,880
virtue. 
I don't want to start a cult. 

283
00:19:10,200 --> 00:19:13,640
I want to empower people. 
Remember, knowledge is in power 

284
00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:18,760
unless you know how to use it. 
So I teach you how to use your 

285
00:19:18,760 --> 00:19:22,640
power. 
So one of the ways we get to use

286
00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:28,040
our power is learning to let go 
of it in a different way, not in

287
00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:32,480
a disempowering way, but letting
go of all the ideas and thought 

288
00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:36,680
forms around it. 
So we'll talk about that next. 

289
00:19:36,680 --> 00:19:39,600
I don't think it's it this 
month, but you can start getting

290
00:19:39,600 --> 00:19:43,640
your hopes up. 
All right, before we talk about 

291
00:19:43,640 --> 00:19:46,560
letting go and using our power 
and letting go of the thought 

292
00:19:46,560 --> 00:19:50,600
forms that hold us back. 
I I forgot we need to do some 

293
00:19:50,600 --> 00:19:55,320
community shout outs. 
So in community news. 

294
00:19:55,320 --> 00:19:59,560
So if you haven't filled out the
survey about your user 

295
00:19:59,560 --> 00:20:04,480
experience with the Patreon app 
or platform, please take the 

296
00:20:04,480 --> 00:20:08,000
survey. 
I will pop it into the post that

297
00:20:08,000 --> 00:20:12,960
I upload the link to Patreon on.
If you have been looking for the

298
00:20:12,960 --> 00:20:17,200
videos of this podcast, if 
you're listening on Spotify or 

299
00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:20,000
Apple, I changed hosts. 
So you're going to have to go 

300
00:20:20,000 --> 00:20:26,240
over to the YouTube or to 
Riverside FM and I'll post the 

301
00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:28,760
link of where you can find us in
the show notes. 

302
00:20:29,120 --> 00:20:34,160
If you want to watch the closed 
captioned videos, if you've been

303
00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:37,000
missing out on those. 
It's April's an interesting 

304
00:20:37,000 --> 00:20:40,440
month and it's a busy month for 
me personally because I'm busy 

305
00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:45,960
revise revising the book. 
So I revised the cover again and

306
00:20:45,960 --> 00:20:48,320
that's a whole long story. 
I'll talk about it in the 

307
00:20:48,320 --> 00:20:52,880
Patreon. 
And then I just finished notes 

308
00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:56,080
on the interior revision. 
It's not a whole lot. 

309
00:20:56,080 --> 00:21:00,520
It's formatting and how I want 
the book to read, like the words

310
00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:03,280
to flow. 
I know, pardon my Venus in 

311
00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:06,200
Gemini. 
I'm picky about that stuff, but 

312
00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:09,400
I'm so excited. 
I mean, how can you not love a 

313
00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:14,200
book that starts out with you 
are not broken, you are not 

314
00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:22,080
broken, you are not broken, you 
adapted and that is how that 

315
00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:27,880
book begins. 
And I teach you how to reinforce

316
00:21:27,880 --> 00:21:32,720
your own personal framework to 
renovate yourself without going 

317
00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:36,840
investigating deep into the 
wounds because that does not 

318
00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:41,960
facilitate healing. 
And honestly kind of exacerbate 

319
00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:43,760
a whim, you know, just like 
picking at it. 

320
00:21:43,840 --> 00:21:46,680
But we'll talk a little bit 
about that more after I walk you

321
00:21:46,680 --> 00:21:51,960
through letting go. 
So our newest supporting members

322
00:21:51,960 --> 00:21:59,160
are Denise, Deborah, Ash, Paddy 
Innovid. 

323
00:21:59,800 --> 00:22:09,640
That's a beautiful name, Innovid
Tiffany Nicole Elyria Amy I'm 

324
00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:13,360
going to change my glasses. 
I do not have my reading glasses

325
00:22:13,360 --> 00:22:17,840
on pardon for the interruption. 
I'm not even I am not even going

326
00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:20,560
to edit it. 
It is solely it is Easter 

327
00:22:20,560 --> 00:22:24,680
Sunday, whether you I got to 
wash these glasses or they don't

328
00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:27,400
help. 
I'm not AI don't really 

329
00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:33,440
celebrate holidays, but my mom 
does and my dad does and my mom 

330
00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:36,160
and I want wore matching 
dresses. 

331
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:41,240
I put a photo up in the Awake 
Space chats, and my mom's going 

332
00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:46,480
to find the picture of her and I
from 1972 when we were really 

333
00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:50,000
similar dresses. 
It's not exact, but it was close

334
00:22:50,000 --> 00:22:53,720
enough that when I saw the 
dresses, I had to grab them. 

335
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:59,080
But anyway, you'll see, I don't 
even like to match, OK, But my 

336
00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:02,840
mom does. 
So all right, back to reading 

337
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:04,040
out. 
Let's see, we've got Amy, 

338
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:12,720
Nicola, Debbie, Cora, Cosmic 
Sound Sessions, Irma, Lucy, 

339
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:23,680
Emily, Marissa, Shabnam. 
Nun, nun. 

340
00:23:24,200 --> 00:23:28,400
GN, GN Nun, nun, nun, nun, nun, 
nun. 

341
00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:31,560
I don't know. 
You guys get creative and I like

342
00:23:31,560 --> 00:23:39,360
it. 
Simpson, B Ava, Christina, 

343
00:23:39,360 --> 00:23:49,840
Sarah, Teresa, MH Kelly, Susie 
Siobhan, Ronica, Marcy, Christy 

344
00:23:50,720 --> 00:23:57,160
Zinn, Jenny. 
Black Cat with AK Kaitlyn, Kate,

345
00:23:57,200 --> 00:24:09,120
OCBMP, Sarah Chantal Z Simply 
Sugar News, Mochi cat, NIV 759 

346
00:24:09,120 --> 00:24:21,000
DP, Frey Noelani Cat Sorry Nat, 
Heather, Dora, Mayerol, Brittany

347
00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:29,040
Lisette, Scarlett, Amethyst, 
Wistful Mauve, Asena and Nicole.

348
00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:31,560
Thank you all for supporting the
podcast. 

349
00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:34,760
Without you, there is no me. 
There is no the Awake space. 

350
00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:39,320
We purposely do not take 
sponsorship at this time. 

351
00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:43,000
I mean, we're open to 
sponsorship, OK? 

352
00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:47,480
We're open to sponsorship. 
I'm not doing ads because I 

353
00:24:47,480 --> 00:24:50,040
can't guarantee whose ads going 
to run on my podcast. 

354
00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:52,360
I don't have that kind of kind 
of control over it. 

355
00:24:52,360 --> 00:24:57,760
And I think the Awake space is 
deserving to be its wild and 

356
00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:01,960
wacky self and not have products
up on it that people are going 

357
00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:05,120
to win with in my audience. 
So you know me. 

358
00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:14,240
They call me Astro Mom, Astro 
Auntie, that be woman who will 

359
00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:17,080
take you down. 
But anyway, I want to thank all 

360
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:18,840
of you, including our free 
members. 

361
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:21,320
And right now, if you're a free 
member, you do have a special 

362
00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:27,360
offer to join with a new account
and save on either the magazine 

363
00:25:27,360 --> 00:25:32,560
tier or the astrology crew tier,
where you get like massive 

364
00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:38,040
amounts of astrology education 
and you can save 40% on annual 

365
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:45,640
subscriptions. 
All right, hey, if you're 

366
00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:48,480
looking for the what's in the 
headline segments, I'm not even 

367
00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:51,120
putting clips up on the social 
media anymore. 

368
00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:54,320
And hear me out before you get 
mad, OK? 

369
00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:57,320
Because I know a lot of you 
listen to the podcast and you 

370
00:25:57,320 --> 00:26:01,760
look forward to those clips on 
on social media, but they're not

371
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:04,400
the whole clip and they're often
out of context. 

372
00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:10,080
And I've just put them in and 
even $5 level gets them, but 

373
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:15,760
they get them on Tuesdays. 
The magazine subscribers get 

374
00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:20,000
them on Mondays ahead of it 
because they come out of the 

375
00:26:20,000 --> 00:26:24,520
magazine. 
And I'm doing that because, and 

376
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:27,720
YouTube's a little bit better 
with nuance, but TikTok isn't. 

377
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:31,840
And I, there's other things I 
want to put on to TikTok. 

378
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:33,840
I'll be making more skates and 
blah, blah. 

379
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:35,400
I've got some content I'm 
planning. 

380
00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:38,440
I just really wanted to finish 
the book first. 

381
00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:41,280
So and I was talking about that 
a little bit earlier. 

382
00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:45,200
We'll wind up the podcast with 
some information that will help 

383
00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:47,960
you navigate this week. 
But first, let's talk about 

384
00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:51,880
letting go of outcomes because 
that's integral to this process.

385
00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:55,080
And instead of beating yourself 
up for I don't do it right, I'm 

386
00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:59,280
not good at it. 
Lori, it's easy for you to say, 

387
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:04,280
bitch, I'm a Scorpio rising, OK?
And I have Pluto in the 10th 

388
00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:06,240
house. 
It's sex style. 

389
00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:11,120
My Mercury and my and my son. 
Please. 

390
00:27:11,120 --> 00:27:15,640
I was the biggest control freak 
on the planet when I was 

391
00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:19,320
younger. 
I had everything planned to the 

392
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:23,000
NTH degree and when the plan 
spun out, so did I. 

393
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:27,240
So learning how to let go 
because the universe put me in 

394
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:30,760
many a situation where things 
were completely out of my 

395
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:34,520
control. 
Not fun. 

396
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:39,360
I that's one of the things that 
led me to astrology is 

397
00:27:39,360 --> 00:27:41,520
psychology wasn't answering my 
questions. 

398
00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:43,080
We didn't know as much about the
brain. 

399
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:45,800
We didn't know about 
neuroplasticity yet, but we 

400
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:50,760
didn't really know about 
neuroplasticity in the popular 

401
00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:56,360
world until around 2007, 2008. 
I mean, if you were ahead of the

402
00:27:56,360 --> 00:28:00,160
curve, you maybe were hearing 
about it. 2005, 2006. 

403
00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:05,400
But neuroplasticity is a 
relatively new concept. 

404
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:08,880
All right. 
And I can't, isn't part of the 

405
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:13,920
process that, that that phrase 
doesn't work? 

406
00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:18,040
And I, everybody has something, 
all right? 

407
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:22,520
Everybody's been through 
something, whether it was 

408
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:28,120
accidental or, you know, on 
purpose, trauma or, or what have

409
00:28:28,120 --> 00:28:31,760
you. 
I am never diminishing what 

410
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:37,240
you've been through, but I have 
been very concerned, especially 

411
00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:40,600
over the last 20 years, about 
where psychology has gone and 

412
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:44,840
overcorrecting into trauma 
informed. 

413
00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:48,960
Because there's a big difference
between how we communicate, OK, 

414
00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:52,680
and how we communicate with 
people who have been through 

415
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:58,040
extreme life events or even the 
big world changes we're going 

416
00:28:58,040 --> 00:29:00,400
through now. 
I mean, we've gone collectively 

417
00:29:00,400 --> 00:29:02,840
through trauma. 
We're currently in collective 

418
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:05,920
trauma, but there's a big 
difference in how we speak with 

419
00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:11,240
one another, communicate with 
one another, and how we enable 

420
00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:13,800
one another. 
And as we're moving into a 

421
00:29:13,800 --> 00:29:17,800
season of accountability coming 
up in just a few short weeks, 

422
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:24,280
just a few short weeks, it's not
just the bad guys, It is all of 

423
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:28,200
us. 
And accountability does not mean

424
00:29:28,480 --> 00:29:30,040
punishment. 
Always. 

425
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:34,320
Accountability means to take 
account, to be like, I did that.

426
00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:38,720
I did that. 
A person I love very much who 

427
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:45,400
who was going through a Saturn 
return, called me up and said I 

428
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:49,680
need some referrals to a mental 
health practitioner because I've

429
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:52,200
realized it's my own shitty 
thinking that put me here. 

430
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:58,040
And I said, wow, that's a really
brave thing to admit. 

431
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:03,040
And you're right to some degree.
And it's not all your shitty 

432
00:30:03,040 --> 00:30:05,400
thinking that got you there. 
There's a lot of circumstantial 

433
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:10,200
things. 
But if we can get a handle on 

434
00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:12,680
our thinking, and I'm not 
talking about just mindset 

435
00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:15,480
because it's, it's a lot bigger 
than mindset. 

436
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:18,960
All those programs that hype you
up with mindset changes and 

437
00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:22,880
affirmations that are empty. 
I'm not saying affirmations 

438
00:30:22,880 --> 00:30:24,680
don't work. 
They do when they're done 

439
00:30:24,680 --> 00:30:30,520
correctly. 
Most times they're not OK, just 

440
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:32,440
most times they're not done 
correctly. 

441
00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:38,120
Learning to take time and take 
pause, which is what we do in 

442
00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:41,680
the work in Lori's test lab. 
And and those videos are meant 

443
00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:43,440
to be done. 
Boom boom. 

444
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:45,480
One day, 2 day, three day, 12 
days. 

445
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:49,960
OK, 12 days. 
And because it's an entire 

446
00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:52,640
process, you're learning. 
You're not there to perfect each

447
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:54,520
step. 
You're there to learn the steps 

448
00:30:54,520 --> 00:30:57,640
so you can do the practice. 
And then it's reiterative, 

449
00:30:57,640 --> 00:31:00,720
meaning it repeats over and over
and over again till you get good

450
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:02,320
at it. 
Like riding a bike or learning 

451
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:07,440
how to write your name or 
learning how to read any basic 

452
00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:09,440
skill. 
And we're not taught these basic

453
00:31:09,440 --> 00:31:11,680
skills. 
We're not. 

454
00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:15,640
People barely talk to their 
kids, let alone read to them. 

455
00:31:16,800 --> 00:31:19,720
And I know we're all overwhelmed
and a little screen time gives 

456
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:22,520
you a minute to go to the 
bathroom and maybe eat a 

457
00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:27,680
sandwich or something, but so 
many people don't even 

458
00:31:27,680 --> 00:31:29,120
communicate. 
So how do you learn how to 

459
00:31:29,120 --> 00:31:31,440
communicate? 
We, we are creatures that must 

460
00:31:31,440 --> 00:31:36,160
communicate with one another and
we are seeing the end result of 

461
00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:40,800
people not having cultivated 
communication skills on a wide 

462
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:45,560
scale in this country and not 
just one side of the aisle. 

463
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:48,800
There's a lot of lack of 
listening skills. 

464
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:53,280
I, I was talking about this when
Saturn was in Aquarius is people

465
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:55,200
needed to develop listening 
skills. 

466
00:31:55,440 --> 00:32:00,040
Not just nodding your head and 
saying, waiting for your chance 

467
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:03,240
to speak, but truly absorbing 
what someone is telling you. 

468
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:07,800
And trust me, as somebody who 
talks for a living, people sure 

469
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:09,560
as hell hear what they want to 
hear. 

470
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:13,480
There's nothing we can do about 
that. 

471
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:18,720
And that's my segue into letting
go of outcomes. 

472
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:23,280
There are outcomes you can 
control when all of the factors 

473
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:27,400
are in your hands. 
But let's say you're guarding 

474
00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:34,320
and it's a really dry year and 
there are water restrictions and

475
00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:36,280
your garden burns and it dries 
up. 

476
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:39,280
That's out of your control. 
It's very stressful, but it's 

477
00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:42,680
also out of your control. 
There are things within your 

478
00:32:42,680 --> 00:32:45,680
control. 
If you have water restrictions 

479
00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:50,560
on the outside, you could bring 
some of the easier to transplant

480
00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:55,560
plants into the house and put 
them in a window where they're 

481
00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:58,600
not going to get like super 
direct sunlight because this is 

482
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:01,360
something they don't tell you 
when it comes to gardening. 

483
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:03,680
When they're talking about 
direct sunlight, they're talking

484
00:33:03,680 --> 00:33:06,480
about the more northern climates
that have a lot of shade. 

485
00:33:06,840 --> 00:33:11,480
And so direct is a little bit 
different in that respect. 

486
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:16,360
But if you're trying to grow 
tomatoes in direct sunlight 

487
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:20,760
somewhere where the sun is very 
intense, you need shade cloth or

488
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:24,920
put them on the porch because 
there's plenty of sunlight that 

489
00:33:24,920 --> 00:33:30,200
comes through there. 
But knowing what you can do and 

490
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:33,520
what you can't do are important.
Hinging all of your hopes and 

491
00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:38,960
your happiness on one particular
person, getting theirs, getting 

492
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:42,120
their comeuppance. 
It's crazy making because you're

493
00:33:42,120 --> 00:33:43,920
probably not going to get the 
outcome you want. 

494
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:47,080
But the same goes for like, if 
you're looking for your dream 

495
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:49,120
job. 
I mean, I is there a dream job? 

496
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:54,080
You can have a calling, you can 
have a job that pays the bills 

497
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:58,960
and do your calling in in time 
that you have or at the job. 

498
00:33:58,960 --> 00:34:01,800
I got asked this beautiful 
question and I'm sorry, I can't 

499
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:07,320
remember who asked it, but they 
were doing Instacart and they 

500
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:13,719
ended up making somebody's day. 
OK, It was, it was, I can't 

501
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:17,600
remember the exact situation, 
but they ended up communicating 

502
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:21,040
with the client because what the
client wanted wasn't in stock. 

503
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:24,800
They reached out, the client got
back to them, they got the 

504
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:27,400
replacement item. 
And when they delivered it, the 

505
00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:31,120
person was visibly relieved, 
like really relieved this 

506
00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:33,760
mattered to them. 
And they said, hey, I want, I 

507
00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:36,880
want to ask, is doing Instacart 
a way of being of service? 

508
00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:39,080
You said be involved locally. 
Does that count? 

509
00:34:39,080 --> 00:34:42,639
I'm like, it does count. 
You don't have to be. 

510
00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:46,239
I mean, please, if you feel like
running for a local office, do 

511
00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:48,800
it. 
But when you're working in 

512
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:51,880
community, community takes all 
shapes and forms. 

513
00:34:52,159 --> 00:34:56,679
I've been given the most 
beautiful wisdom by clerks at 

514
00:34:56,679 --> 00:34:59,200
the checkout at the grocery 
store they gave. 

515
00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:02,080
They were just the instrument 
for the wisdom I needed that 

516
00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:05,800
day. 
Or when my kids were really 

517
00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:08,840
little and we first came back to
America, and America treats 

518
00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:11,720
children and families very 
different than they did in the 

519
00:35:11,720 --> 00:35:14,640
Middle East. 
Their children are precious, OK?

520
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:17,600
Here, they're an inconvenience 
and an annoyance. 

521
00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:20,400
And my kids were just being 
kids, but I was keeping them 

522
00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:23,000
occupied. 
OK, We're playing rocks, paper, 

523
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:25,840
scissors at the table while we 
were waiting for whatever we 

524
00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:30,960
were going to eat. 
And this old lady came up and 

525
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:33,160
God knows what old was because I
was 29. 

526
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:35,560
So she could have been my age, 
but I think she was older. 

527
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:38,160
I think she was more like in her
70s or 80s. 

528
00:35:38,160 --> 00:35:43,920
But to me at 29, she was old and
she stopped by the table and she

529
00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:45,560
she didn't have a smile on her 
face. 

530
00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:47,720
So I was expecting, why did you 
bring kids? 

531
00:35:47,720 --> 00:35:49,640
It wasn't even a night. 
It was like a Denny's. 

532
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:54,120
OK, so it wasn't like a fine 
eating establishment, but she 

533
00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:57,240
came at and then with the 
serious face. 

534
00:35:57,240 --> 00:35:59,280
So she just had a resting bitch 
face like I do. 

535
00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:03,720
And then she put her hand on the
table and she looked me directly

536
00:36:03,720 --> 00:36:06,240
in the eyes and she said, you 
are a wonderful mother. 

537
00:36:07,720 --> 00:36:12,960
You have such good kids. 
And I needed that more than I 

538
00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:21,880
knew to have this elder just 
validate that I was parenting, 

539
00:36:22,520 --> 00:36:25,400
you know, that I was making an 
effort. 

540
00:36:25,960 --> 00:36:30,080
And that's different than being 
like seeking approval. 

541
00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:32,720
It was just sometimes we do need
approval. 

542
00:36:32,720 --> 00:36:36,520
I'm not saying we never need it,
but when that's all we're doing 

543
00:36:36,520 --> 00:36:38,680
is seeking approval and never 
self validating. 

544
00:36:38,680 --> 00:36:42,440
Like I knew I was actively 
parenting to have a witness to 

545
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:50,040
that was really special. 
OK, so again, I'm not saying 

546
00:36:51,320 --> 00:36:56,760
that we don't have struggles, 
and I'm not saying that wouldn't

547
00:36:56,760 --> 00:37:00,280
it be nice if the world wasn't 
the shit show it is, but we were

548
00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:03,000
always going to be going through
massive systemic change. 

549
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:05,440
It would just take different 
flavors. 

550
00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:10,080
We still have climate change and
in fact, it's going to 

551
00:37:10,080 --> 00:37:13,400
accelerate a little bit because 
we have these Dumbo's doing 

552
00:37:13,400 --> 00:37:16,000
things that aren't great for the
environment right now. 

553
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:20,280
That is out of our control. 
What is in our control is 

554
00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:23,360
looking at where we're at and 
what are our current needs. 

555
00:37:24,080 --> 00:37:31,240
OK, How can we be of service? 
well-being kind to one another 

556
00:37:31,240 --> 00:37:35,240
is a big one right now. 
Just smiling. 

557
00:37:35,920 --> 00:37:38,920
Just saying you got it, mom, you
got it, dad. 

558
00:37:40,080 --> 00:37:42,880
Or look at you working hard, you
know, just acknowledging 

559
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:47,480
somebody saying hey, hope you're
having a good day and walking on

560
00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:50,600
being looking somebody in the 
eyes and look, I don't like to 

561
00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:52,760
give eye contact. 
I'm not a fan. 

562
00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:56,760
I'm really not. 
I have mastered the art of 

563
00:37:56,760 --> 00:38:01,720
looking like I'm giving you eye 
contact without giving it, but 

564
00:38:01,720 --> 00:38:05,680
making sure you meet somebody 
and just say, I hope you have a 

565
00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:10,160
really good day. 
It can change the trajectory for

566
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:14,600
someone. 
Those seem inconsequential when 

567
00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:16,760
we're looking at vast world 
problems. 

568
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:22,560
But imagine if all of us did 
something just a little more 

569
00:38:22,560 --> 00:38:26,280
kindly. 
OK, now back to letting go of 

570
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:29,960
outcomes. 
My favorite thing is to ask 

571
00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:32,320
myself questions, kind of coach 
myself through. 

572
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:35,360
It is like, can I change that? 
Can I fix it? 

573
00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:39,080
What is there that I can do? 
And then I make a list of the 

574
00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:42,280
things I can do very 
realistically. 

575
00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:45,240
This is within my power. 
I don't make a list of what 

576
00:38:45,240 --> 00:38:48,720
isn't in my power. 
I just make a list of what is in

577
00:38:48,720 --> 00:38:52,000
my power. 
If it is nothing like this 

578
00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:55,560
situation is bigger than me, 
climate change, what can I do? 

579
00:38:55,560 --> 00:38:58,280
I can mitigate where I live. 
OK, How have I? 

580
00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:03,200
How have I mitigated so far? 
What do I need to do next? 

581
00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:05,760
Like immediately next, not the 
next five years. 

582
00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:08,400
What can I do today, tomorrow, 
the next day? 

583
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:11,320
And we may not know what we need
to do in five years. 

584
00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:13,480
We're going through a really big
time of change. 

585
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:16,960
That's why when people ask me, 
well, what about 2027? 

586
00:39:16,960 --> 00:39:19,520
What about 2028? 
What about 2029? 

587
00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:24,880
Live through this year. 
OK, don't. 

588
00:39:25,720 --> 00:39:28,120
We'll get there. 
Just know that we're in a time 

589
00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:31,560
of enduring change. 
We've got to meet the moment by 

590
00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:35,240
moment by moment. 
So look at what you can do. 

591
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:39,200
This whole my life will never be
the same if I don't get the 

592
00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:42,320
perfect job. 
Have you noticed what's going on

593
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:44,480
in the world? 
Corporations are changing. 

594
00:39:45,240 --> 00:39:49,040
We're going to see private 
equity kind of implode on itself

595
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:52,520
over the next couple of years 
and maybe sooner. 

596
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:57,480
I think there's going to be a 
rehiring spree starting maybe in

597
00:39:57,480 --> 00:40:02,720
May, maybe a little before that 
as companies realize their, you 

598
00:40:02,720 --> 00:40:07,320
know, rush to the their AI gold 
rush is not giving them the 

599
00:40:07,320 --> 00:40:08,960
dividends they were hoping to 
get. 

600
00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:13,240
I don't think AI is going away, 
but I think it is not the 

601
00:40:13,240 --> 00:40:15,080
efficiency tool they thought it 
would be. 

602
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:17,440
We're already starting to see 
evidence of that. 

603
00:40:17,440 --> 00:40:21,680
So some of those people jobs 
will be coming back. 

604
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:23,880
Not all, but some. 
OK. 

605
00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:27,320
I'm not saying be grateful for 
what you've got. 

606
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:31,080
Although it helps to be 
appreciative, Like count your 

607
00:40:31,080 --> 00:40:34,080
blessings. 
Were you able to pay your rent, 

608
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:36,920
woo. 
Could you pay your utilities, 

609
00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:39,720
woo woo. 
Could you buy groceries? 

610
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:42,360
Woo woo. 
Maybe not all on the same 

611
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:44,880
paycheck, but you could do it 
right? 

612
00:40:45,720 --> 00:40:48,400
And if you're better off than 
that, don't feel guilty about 

613
00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:51,080
it. 
Be appreciative of it. 

614
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:53,200
I am so glad I can do all these 
things. 

615
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:57,320
I remember when I couldn't. 
I know I'm freaking out now, but

616
00:40:57,320 --> 00:41:01,160
I remember when I got to the 
very place I'm at and it seemed 

617
00:41:01,160 --> 00:41:06,520
like a miracle or it seemed I 
was so grateful to finally have 

618
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:10,880
gotten to this place. 
That helps. 

619
00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:13,840
It takes pressure off. 
You want to take the pressure 

620
00:41:13,920 --> 00:41:18,280
off. 
Years ago, and I mean years ago,

621
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:23,800
I was in my late 30s and I, I 
was in my last round of seeking 

622
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:31,400
justice and I called lawyer 
after lawyer after lawyer and I 

623
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:35,600
was seeking my revenge and 
getting my pound of flesh. 

624
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:42,040
And it was all deserved, OK? 
And I got to AUS attorney 

625
00:41:42,040 --> 00:41:51,360
general and I explained the 
story and it wasn't just for me,

626
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:54,760
it was for potential other 
victims as well. 

627
00:41:56,600 --> 00:42:05,720
And he very kindly listened. 
He didn't poo poo me. 

628
00:42:06,040 --> 00:42:09,800
He didn't diminish my story. 
In fact, he said I believe you. 

629
00:42:11,680 --> 00:42:18,240
And he said, you know, I've seen
these kind of cases many times. 

630
00:42:19,920 --> 00:42:24,200
They drag on and without 
physical evidence, even though 

631
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:28,640
you're within the statute of 
limitation because they changed 

632
00:42:28,640 --> 00:42:38,120
the laws, You, you won't win. 
And I was like, yeah, I was 

633
00:42:38,120 --> 00:42:41,680
afraid of that. 
And I started to kind of tear up

634
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:44,880
a little bit. 
And he said, how long has this 

635
00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:48,040
taken over your life? 
Like how long have you been 

636
00:42:48,040 --> 00:42:50,680
living with this? 
And I told him, and it was a 

637
00:42:50,680 --> 00:42:57,720
very, very long time. 
And he said, I just want to ask 

638
00:42:57,720 --> 00:43:02,840
you. 
And he said, I just want to ask 

639
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:06,360
you, how much longer do you want
to live with this? 

640
00:43:07,440 --> 00:43:10,520
How much longer do you want it 
to consume you? 

641
00:43:12,840 --> 00:43:14,760
I said, well, I don't want it to
consume me. 

642
00:43:14,760 --> 00:43:20,560
I want to be free. 
And then I said, you know, my my

643
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:24,880
concern is they travel a lot and
they go all these different 

644
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:28,520
places. 
And, and he said, well, we can 

645
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:34,560
take care of that. 
I said, OK, And I got off the 

646
00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:43,520
phone and I cried and I cried. 
I mean, heart wrenching sobs, 

647
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:47,080
hot, big tears to the point 
where you know your eyes are 

648
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:51,520
swollen, a snotty mess on my 
front porch, in my garden 

649
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:55,480
surrounding me. 
And I probably cried for a good 

650
00:43:55,480 --> 00:44:00,040
45 minutes just saying there's 
nothing I can do. 

651
00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:04,040
There's nothing I could do. 
I'm there's nothing I can do. 

652
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:07,480
And there wasn't. 
There wasn't a damn thing I 

653
00:44:07,480 --> 00:44:09,840
could do. 
I'd done everything I could do 

654
00:44:11,120 --> 00:44:15,160
and it was at that point when I 
recognized I have done 

655
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:24,440
everything I can do that it 
switched from powerless to 

656
00:44:24,440 --> 00:44:28,760
empowered and all of a sudden I 
went there is nothing I can do. 

657
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:34,280
I've done everything I can do. 
I've done everything I can do. 

658
00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:40,320
I have done. 
Everything I can do, I have done

659
00:44:40,880 --> 00:44:45,160
everything I can do. 
And all of a sudden I felt this 

660
00:44:45,160 --> 00:44:50,760
like the chains come off that 
that my everything cleared and I

661
00:44:50,800 --> 00:44:58,520
realized the only thing left to 
do was live my life because I 

662
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:03,640
hadn't been. 
I'd been healing and I felt 

663
00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:06,840
robbed of the time that I spent,
you know, that I could have been

664
00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:10,000
doing other things, but I had to
do these deep dives and healing 

665
00:45:10,040 --> 00:45:14,120
really, really intense work. 
And and this was an important 

666
00:45:14,120 --> 00:45:18,400
part of the healing was 
realizing because the more I 

667
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:20,440
thought about it, because he 
kind of asked me that too. 

668
00:45:20,440 --> 00:45:24,960
So let's say you win. 
What does it do for you? 

669
00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:28,840
And he wasn't being, like, 
challenging me. 

670
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:30,440
He wasn't being like, well, what
would it do? 

671
00:45:30,440 --> 00:45:33,120
No, no, no. 
He was soft and caring. 

672
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:39,560
He had empathy. 
And I'll say, I don't know. 

673
00:45:39,560 --> 00:45:42,880
I haven't thought about that. 
So I did think about it. 

674
00:45:44,240 --> 00:45:46,440
And it wouldn't have changed 
anything. 

675
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:49,720
I might have had temporary 
satisfaction, but it wouldn't 

676
00:45:49,720 --> 00:45:52,920
change how I live my life. 
That was up to me. 

677
00:45:52,920 --> 00:46:01,200
That was in my control. 
Because it's not a step to 

678
00:46:01,200 --> 00:46:04,560
healing. 
Healing is fully in your power 

679
00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:10,480
and good resources, right? 
Being able to get good 

680
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:15,000
resources, but the desire to 
heal, finding the resources to 

681
00:46:15,000 --> 00:46:19,400
help yourself heal, the 
resources, you know, researching

682
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:24,000
it, that's in your power. 
You can, you can ask for help. 

683
00:46:24,000 --> 00:46:27,760
You can find other people who've
done it before you who hopefully

684
00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:29,840
blazed a trail to make it easier
for you. 

685
00:46:31,760 --> 00:46:45,480
You know, letting go takes a 
minute and it's letting go of 

686
00:46:45,480 --> 00:46:50,000
the ideas and the thought forms 
of what you think it's going to 

687
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:54,480
give you because you mean just 
be pursuing it because you think

688
00:46:54,480 --> 00:46:58,840
that's what you're supposed to 
do without really having thought

689
00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:03,040
about what does it do for you? 
Does it liberate you? 

690
00:47:03,480 --> 00:47:08,080
Does it empower you? 
What does it help you do? 

691
00:47:09,080 --> 00:47:11,840
Who does it make you as a 
person? 

692
00:47:16,240 --> 00:47:22,560
So as you go about your week 
this week, when you're getting 

693
00:47:22,560 --> 00:47:27,120
upset about things out of your 
control, there's nothing. 

694
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:31,000
You can't stop the bombs. 
You can't make people not say 

695
00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:36,400
stupid shit. 
You can't make people online be 

696
00:47:36,400 --> 00:47:39,200
smarter. 
Because trust me, if you've been

697
00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:44,280
reading the Artemis 2 video 
comments, you could be Dumber by

698
00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:48,440
the end of reading them. 
And I mean most of it. 

699
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:55,080
I'm like, oh God, walk away. 
That's why I've been I've been 

700
00:47:55,080 --> 00:48:02,760
walking away. 
It's really important to really 

701
00:48:02,760 --> 00:48:04,520
pay attention to what you can 
do. 

702
00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:09,600
What can I do? 
I can go to my local store and 

703
00:48:10,240 --> 00:48:12,480
give a local business some 
business. 

704
00:48:12,520 --> 00:48:17,720
I can go say hi to my neighbors.
I can check on a friend who 

705
00:48:17,720 --> 00:48:24,560
hasn't been feeling well. 
I can sit in Journal, I can work

706
00:48:24,560 --> 00:48:28,080
on my resume. 
If I've sent the same resume 20 

707
00:48:28,080 --> 00:48:29,920
times, maybe I need to change it
up. 

708
00:48:30,680 --> 00:48:34,400
If I think I can't survive 
without that dream job, that 

709
00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:38,440
it'll make me less of a person, 
then I'm going to ask myself, 

710
00:48:38,440 --> 00:48:40,440
who will I be if I actually get 
the job? 

711
00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:45,800
If I'm not good enough because I
didn't get it, then who would I 

712
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:52,160
be if I had it? 
Ask yourself that, what does 

713
00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:57,640
that get me? 
Because sometimes we get what we

714
00:48:57,640 --> 00:49:01,800
want and we find out that's not 
what we wanted. 

715
00:49:02,800 --> 00:49:06,000
Drop a comment if that's ever 
happened to you. 

716
00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:08,960
So how do you let go of 
outcomes? 

717
00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:13,000
You self examine what is in my 
power. 

718
00:49:13,480 --> 00:49:16,600
Don't focus on what isn't in 
your power. 

719
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:23,120
Focus on what is OK. 
What can I do right now? 

720
00:49:23,120 --> 00:49:25,880
What can I do today? 
What can I do tomorrow? 

721
00:49:26,160 --> 00:49:30,800
Who am I when this result comes 
in? 

722
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:39,480
Because you know, if it involves
one other person, the total 

723
00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:44,240
outcome is not in your control. 
And you can bully and force and 

724
00:49:44,240 --> 00:49:50,360
nitpick and badger all day long.
And I'm not saying you would, 

725
00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:55,280
but it's not going to make that 
collaboration any easier. 

726
00:49:58,480 --> 00:50:01,520
And if you're not with the right
collaborators to get where you 

727
00:50:01,520 --> 00:50:06,480
want to go, then what would the 
right collaborators be like? 

728
00:50:07,120 --> 00:50:10,120
How would they think? 
How would they take action? 

729
00:50:11,080 --> 00:50:14,040
What would it be like to trust a
cohort to work with? 

730
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:18,760
You know, this is where you want
to answer, ask open-ended 

731
00:50:18,760 --> 00:50:22,440
questions and then maybe journal
a little bit about it. 

732
00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:26,520
Script it out a little bit or 
write down bullet points about 

733
00:50:26,520 --> 00:50:28,920
the things you can do in the 
moment. 

734
00:50:29,480 --> 00:50:33,360
It doesn't mean you won't ever 
feel like things are so big and 

735
00:50:33,360 --> 00:50:37,360
too big and you can't fix it and
you do feel small and you do 

736
00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:39,840
feel powerless. 
We all have those moments. 

737
00:50:39,920 --> 00:50:44,600
I have those moments. 
I am just much quicker at 

738
00:50:44,600 --> 00:50:49,680
turning my attention now. 
It I didn't used to be. 

739
00:50:50,120 --> 00:50:53,400
I used to anguish over world 
events. 

740
00:50:53,720 --> 00:50:58,440
A lot of the current world 
events today stem from issues 

741
00:50:58,440 --> 00:51:03,960
that go way back, even before I 
became aware of them in the 80s 

742
00:51:03,960 --> 00:51:11,480
and 90s. 
We have had ongoing problems, 

743
00:51:11,480 --> 00:51:15,200
ongoing rhetoric, but the 
rhetoric isn't holding as much 

744
00:51:15,200 --> 00:51:17,240
anymore. 
We can celebrate that, celebrate

745
00:51:17,240 --> 00:51:23,720
what is working, celebrate where
people aren't being fooled, and 

746
00:51:23,720 --> 00:51:26,480
that will make all the 
difference. 

747
00:51:29,280 --> 00:51:31,880
All right, I hope that helped. 
If you have more questions about

748
00:51:31,880 --> 00:51:35,680
letting go of outcomes and how 
you do that, let me know. 

749
00:51:36,960 --> 00:51:43,240
Let's do a little money 
framework cock, because it's 

750
00:51:43,240 --> 00:51:46,720
really not about mindset. 
Mindset alone isn't going to fix

751
00:51:46,720 --> 00:51:48,960
it. 
And the reason why is you have 

752
00:51:48,960 --> 00:51:52,040
patterns, right? 
You have patterns and pathways 

753
00:51:52,360 --> 00:51:56,440
that have been created, some in 
childhood, especially in 

754
00:51:56,440 --> 00:51:58,960
childhood before you could 
really cognify it. 

755
00:51:59,760 --> 00:52:03,400
If your parents were always 
worried about the bills or 

756
00:52:03,400 --> 00:52:06,160
whatever, you might have taken 
like bills to be a scary thing 

757
00:52:07,240 --> 00:52:10,760
because that's how you saw your 
parents reacting you. 

758
00:52:10,960 --> 00:52:13,320
It's no blame on your parents 
because they learned it from 

759
00:52:13,320 --> 00:52:15,120
somewhere too. 
OK. 

760
00:52:16,800 --> 00:52:19,040
And you'd be like, I don't know,
my parents were pretty lame. 

761
00:52:19,040 --> 00:52:22,160
Well, we can blame your parents 
if you want, but it goes back 

762
00:52:22,160 --> 00:52:27,280
further than them is my point, 
because our social cultural 

763
00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:33,240
programming is way older than a 
singular generation. 

764
00:52:34,160 --> 00:52:49,520
So I've got my manuscript here. 
I'm not going to lie, I will be 

765
00:52:49,520 --> 00:52:53,280
forever grateful to the book 
designer at Book Baby who fixed 

766
00:52:53,280 --> 00:52:57,560
my chapters. 
That was great. 

767
00:53:02,080 --> 00:53:05,160
So I'm just going to give you a 
little bit of little blurb. 

768
00:53:05,160 --> 00:53:07,880
This book isn't out yet. 
We're still in revisions, 

769
00:53:07,880 --> 00:53:10,760
meaning like we're getting the 
layout right in the cover right.

770
00:53:10,800 --> 00:53:15,320
And if you're in the awake 
space, you'll have first access 

771
00:53:15,720 --> 00:53:18,480
on pre sales and then we'll 
start doing it here at the 

772
00:53:18,480 --> 00:53:22,480
podcast. 
But you, you guys will know I'm 

773
00:53:22,520 --> 00:53:25,200
very excited about this. 
I translated all of the 

774
00:53:25,200 --> 00:53:29,360
astrological information that 
informed me into plain language.

775
00:53:29,360 --> 00:53:31,320
So even if you don't have a 
birth time, you'll be able to 

776
00:53:31,320 --> 00:53:33,080
use this. 
Even if you don't know what day 

777
00:53:33,080 --> 00:53:34,640
you were born, you'll be able to
use this. 

778
00:53:34,640 --> 00:53:50,520
And I'm very, very excited, so. 
I just want you to hear this 

779
00:53:50,520 --> 00:53:52,720
little bit and then we'll talk 
about it. 

780
00:53:53,600 --> 00:53:58,800
Many behavior is not a 
reflection of character, it is a

781
00:53:58,880 --> 00:54:04,800
reflection of learned structure.
So remember, I've been talking 

782
00:54:04,800 --> 00:54:07,160
about renovating ourselves 
because we always talk about 

783
00:54:07,160 --> 00:54:10,640
deconstruction, but 
deconstruction alone leaves a 

784
00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:13,040
vacuum. 
Where do you go next? 

785
00:54:13,400 --> 00:54:17,160
And by the way, our lives are 
like big fixer uppers. 

786
00:54:17,160 --> 00:54:20,280
The renovation is never done. 
The deconstruction keeps that. 

787
00:54:20,280 --> 00:54:21,880
We're going to find one more 
thing. 

788
00:54:21,880 --> 00:54:24,880
There's going to be a hole that 
needs plugging. 

789
00:54:24,880 --> 00:54:27,840
There's going to be wiring that 
needs to be redone. 

790
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:30,520
It's an on. 
The roof needs fixing. 

791
00:54:30,520 --> 00:54:35,240
The basement needs finishing. 
The cupboards need replacing. 

792
00:54:35,240 --> 00:54:38,000
If you've ever worked on a fixer
upper, you know what I'm talking

793
00:54:38,000 --> 00:54:42,000
about. 
So learned structure. 

794
00:54:42,120 --> 00:54:45,000
And so when we can look at it 
without blame, you're not bad 

795
00:54:45,000 --> 00:54:49,160
with money and you're not overly
money driven. 

796
00:54:50,440 --> 00:54:55,880
But if you're constantly running
after it, there's something not 

797
00:54:55,880 --> 00:54:58,240
working quite right in the 
structure. 

798
00:55:01,680 --> 00:55:05,280
And it, it doesn't deny the fact
you've had things happen like 

799
00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:10,080
big losses, economic downturns, 
you know, and again, when we're 

800
00:55:10,080 --> 00:55:15,640
children, we see it through our 
limited experience, OK? 

801
00:55:16,040 --> 00:55:18,880
It doesn't mean we're dumb. 
It means we have limited 

802
00:55:18,880 --> 00:55:23,040
experience. 
And that is what gets in our 

803
00:55:23,040 --> 00:55:26,040
way. 
So instead of trying to identify

804
00:55:26,040 --> 00:55:30,040
the problem, like, I'm bad with 
money because my dad lost his 

805
00:55:30,040 --> 00:55:35,000
job when I was 8 and we just 
spent money when we got it 

806
00:55:35,000 --> 00:55:36,600
because that's just how it 
worked, right? 

807
00:55:36,600 --> 00:55:38,400
Because it was going to go away 
anyway. 

808
00:55:39,800 --> 00:55:42,040
Doing that isn't going to fix 
the problem. 

809
00:55:42,560 --> 00:55:45,840
OK, Knowing the cause of the 
problem does not provide the 

810
00:55:45,840 --> 00:55:49,280
solution. 
Giving yourself a framework to 

811
00:55:49,320 --> 00:55:52,160
stabilize where you're at. 
Because if you're having an 

812
00:55:52,160 --> 00:55:55,720
issue with money right now, 
learning how to stabilize 

813
00:55:55,720 --> 00:56:00,400
yourself from the inside out is 
going to give you a bigger range

814
00:56:00,400 --> 00:56:03,840
of motion than purely 
identifying the cause. 

815
00:56:03,840 --> 00:56:12,400
Because that doesn't fix it. 
And here's what I say to back 

816
00:56:12,400 --> 00:56:15,160
that up. 
Every person develops internal 

817
00:56:15,160 --> 00:56:17,840
systems long before they 
understand what money 

818
00:56:17,840 --> 00:56:20,040
represents. 
OK? 

819
00:56:20,800 --> 00:56:24,760
Those systems are built through 
observation, repetition, and 

820
00:56:24,760 --> 00:56:26,320
adaptation. 
We adapt. 

821
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:30,800
We we have systems that adapt to
our environment. 

822
00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:34,400
That's why with astrology, I'm 
always saying it's a spectrum. 

823
00:56:34,600 --> 00:56:36,680
Yes, the second house is 
resources. 

824
00:56:36,680 --> 00:56:41,280
It's actually love and money, 
not romance, not sex love. 

825
00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:45,480
OK. 
And that's often a resource we 

826
00:56:45,480 --> 00:56:49,440
don't get enough of as children 
or in the way we need it. 

827
00:56:49,720 --> 00:56:53,480
Our parents may be trying to 
provide what they needed, and we

828
00:56:53,480 --> 00:56:57,480
can blame them all day long, but
let me tell you how the 

829
00:56:57,480 --> 00:57:01,240
conversation has improved in the
last 15 years when it comes to 

830
00:57:01,240 --> 00:57:03,960
parenting. 
OK? 

831
00:57:05,240 --> 00:57:09,040
They formed quietly because 
we're talking precognitive 

832
00:57:09,040 --> 00:57:13,080
understanding. 
OK, so you're wearing a baby and

833
00:57:13,080 --> 00:57:19,400
you were picking up your parents
nervousness or worry or they're 

834
00:57:19,400 --> 00:57:25,080
fighting, you know, or their 
avoidance when they were 

835
00:57:25,080 --> 00:57:34,580
stressed. 
OK, so a lot of times what we 

836
00:57:34,580 --> 00:57:37,820
think of as a choice is actually
a pattern. 

837
00:57:38,060 --> 00:57:40,060
Oh, like I'm down on money. 
I got to go hustle. 

838
00:57:40,660 --> 00:57:42,660
That's a pattern. 
That's not a choice. 

839
00:57:43,460 --> 00:57:45,700
I need think I need more 
motivation. 

840
00:57:45,700 --> 00:57:47,940
Maybe you don't need more 
motivation. 

841
00:57:48,260 --> 00:57:52,460
You need to be more clear about 
which would be sustaining to you

842
00:57:52,460 --> 00:57:57,500
because money is usually only a 
small part of that equation. 

843
00:57:58,520 --> 00:58:03,480
I remember in 1999, I was 
finally making headway on 

844
00:58:03,480 --> 00:58:09,800
getting a day job to support my 
two children and myself, and I 

845
00:58:09,800 --> 00:58:13,600
got offered a job at this really
great housing not-for-profit in 

846
00:58:13,600 --> 00:58:17,960
Portland, OR called Central City
Concern and I came in and it was

847
00:58:17,960 --> 00:58:20,600
for an admin position. 
I'd never been an admin before. 

848
00:58:20,600 --> 00:58:24,480
I started a management out of 
college, but nobody believed me 

849
00:58:24,480 --> 00:58:29,000
because I was a girl and I've 
lived all over the world. 

850
00:58:30,920 --> 00:58:36,040
And so I walking in a suit and I
come in looking like an 

851
00:58:36,040 --> 00:58:40,760
executive and I'm trying to 
overqualify myself for this job 

852
00:58:40,920 --> 00:58:43,240
because I don't think I'm going 
to want it right. 

853
00:58:43,240 --> 00:58:47,920
I'm and I'm in the running for a
dream job with a company that 

854
00:58:47,920 --> 00:58:52,680
caught languages and English as 
a second language to business 

855
00:58:52,680 --> 00:58:54,600
people. 
And it could take me all over 

856
00:58:54,600 --> 00:58:56,480
the world again. 
And I was like, oh, I'll be 

857
00:58:56,480 --> 00:58:59,080
making enough money. 
I can hire a mom as helper or 

858
00:58:59,080 --> 00:59:02,920
second pair of hands, take the 
kids, you know. 

859
00:59:03,200 --> 00:59:09,800
Oh, what a great way to be. 
Needless to say, I got home from

860
00:59:09,840 --> 00:59:12,480
overqualifying myself. 
And it's funny, I could feel my 

861
00:59:12,480 --> 00:59:18,880
guidance going like, you know, 
think not in a mean way, like, 

862
00:59:18,880 --> 00:59:21,320
you, dummy, we've thrown you the
right thing. 

863
00:59:21,320 --> 00:59:23,200
And I'm like, yeah, but I don't 
want that. 

864
00:59:23,200 --> 00:59:25,680
Speaking of the outcome, I don't
want that. 

865
00:59:26,840 --> 00:59:31,560
I can't use, like, photocopiers.
And I have like, this blood 

866
00:59:31,560 --> 00:59:35,120
feud. 
If, if I can screw up a business

867
00:59:35,120 --> 00:59:37,920
machine, I will. 
OK, The printer's not going to 

868
00:59:37,920 --> 00:59:39,600
work. 
The photocopier's going to go 

869
00:59:39,600 --> 00:59:41,720
haywire. 
And God forbid, a fax because we

870
00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:45,280
still used faxes. 
I'm like, it's just going to jam

871
00:59:45,280 --> 00:59:52,000
up. 
By the time I got home about an 

872
00:59:52,000 --> 00:59:54,800
hour later, my phone was 
ringing. 

873
00:59:55,800 --> 00:59:58,360
Lori, we love everything about 
you. 

874
00:59:59,360 --> 01:00:04,120
Would you consider taking this 
job if it led to a promotion? 

875
01:00:04,280 --> 01:00:06,080
And it would mean X amount a 
year. 

876
01:00:07,400 --> 01:00:11,280
But we need you to really know 
the organization, so you'd stay 

877
01:00:11,280 --> 01:00:14,600
in the admin position and work 
in lots of departments to really

878
01:00:14,600 --> 01:00:17,680
get to know us. 
And then you'd move into the 

879
01:00:17,680 --> 01:00:21,400
marketing director position that
we'll be meeting in six months 

880
01:00:21,400 --> 01:00:25,320
time. 
That sounded better. 

881
01:00:27,120 --> 01:00:29,960
Remember I was 29, sounded 
better. 

882
01:00:30,960 --> 01:00:35,560
And I, I decided to be honest. 
I said I, I would love to do 

883
01:00:35,560 --> 01:00:40,720
that and I'm honoured. 
But I'm in the running for a job

884
01:00:40,720 --> 01:00:43,880
like that really fits my 
qualifications. 

885
01:00:46,920 --> 01:00:49,880
They're trying to decide between
me and this other person. 

886
01:00:51,280 --> 01:00:55,200
Can I let you know the outcome 
I'm supposed to know tomorrow? 

887
01:00:55,200 --> 01:00:56,600
Oh, absolutely. 
We'll wait for you. 

888
01:00:56,600 --> 01:00:59,680
We created this for you on a 
platter. 

889
01:00:59,880 --> 01:01:03,520
And I'm like, OK, I'll let you 
know if it doesn't work out. 

890
01:01:06,120 --> 01:01:10,720
Hubris and ego. 
And so anyway, Needless to say, 

891
01:01:10,720 --> 01:01:12,960
that's where I ended up working 
because they chose the other 

892
01:01:12,960 --> 01:01:14,880
person. 
And they didn't choose the other

893
01:01:14,880 --> 01:01:17,200
person because they were a guy 
and I was a woman and I had 

894
01:01:17,200 --> 01:01:18,720
kids. 
And they did that. 

895
01:01:18,720 --> 01:01:22,320
No, it was down to skill sets. 
And they were trying to decide 

896
01:01:22,320 --> 01:01:24,360
which set of skill sets to go 
with. 

897
01:01:25,840 --> 01:01:29,280
And they were very transparent. 
And it was a great company too. 

898
01:01:29,280 --> 01:01:30,800
And that would have been a cool 
job. 

899
01:01:31,400 --> 01:01:34,840
Unfortunately, and maybe 
fortunately, given the way the 

900
01:01:34,840 --> 01:01:40,480
world went in the next couple of
years, it all worked out. 

901
01:01:40,600 --> 01:01:44,200
And it was literally the job 
with Central City Concern was 

902
01:01:44,480 --> 01:01:48,200
the best place I've ever worked.
It was a fulfilling job. 

903
01:01:48,200 --> 01:01:50,240
I got to learn how to write 
grants. 

904
01:01:50,960 --> 01:01:55,360
In fact, the first grant I got 
to write was a Ryan White grant 

905
01:01:55,360 --> 01:01:58,560
for people living with AIDS and 
providing housing for. 

906
01:01:58,560 --> 01:02:00,920
And it was a beautiful, special 
project we did. 

907
01:02:02,040 --> 01:02:07,080
It had meaning, it had depth, it
had good benefits, and the only 

908
01:02:07,080 --> 01:02:10,080
thing I was stuck on is it 
didn't make enough money yet, 

909
01:02:10,080 --> 01:02:13,120
but it would be. 
But it was the work environment.

910
01:02:14,880 --> 01:02:18,880
The more it could stabilize me, 
the more my life stabilized. 

911
01:02:19,240 --> 01:02:22,160
Instead of looking at all the 
reasons it things weren't 

912
01:02:22,160 --> 01:02:25,520
working out, I had to look at 
what was working. 

913
01:02:26,200 --> 01:02:30,040
And that's a pretty extreme 
example, but I'm sure you guys 

914
01:02:30,040 --> 01:02:34,320
have stories of things working 
out in unexpected ways because, 

915
01:02:34,640 --> 01:02:37,480
you know, when we try to 
envision this perfect scenario, 

916
01:02:37,480 --> 01:02:39,640
guess what? 
We can't even come close to what

917
01:02:39,640 --> 01:02:43,520
would actually be perfect. 
So there has to be an element of

918
01:02:43,520 --> 01:02:48,120
trust of I know this is working 
out, I just don't know all the 

919
01:02:48,120 --> 01:02:50,880
ways it is. 
That's why when you guys try to 

920
01:02:50,880 --> 01:02:53,160
get me to speak about things, 
they're like, tell us more. 

921
01:02:53,160 --> 01:02:54,880
I'm like, I don't know more. 
I know this. 

922
01:02:56,000 --> 01:02:58,960
If I try to fill that story in 
and it doesn't go the way 

923
01:02:58,960 --> 01:03:01,640
everybody wants it to, then I'm 
the bad guy. 

924
01:03:04,160 --> 01:03:07,560
I try to stop conjecture because
we don't have all the answers. 

925
01:03:07,560 --> 01:03:11,640
We don't have all the 
information we need, so we can 

926
01:03:11,640 --> 01:03:18,640
only work with what we've got. 
So let's talk about what the 

927
01:03:18,640 --> 01:03:22,360
money wound is so you can get a 
little better idea as you're 

928
01:03:22,360 --> 01:03:25,880
moving through this week. 
You might be like, oh, I see, I 

929
01:03:25,880 --> 01:03:28,760
see. 
OK, so I can stabilize a little 

930
01:03:28,760 --> 01:03:30,760
bit better here. 
And trust me, you're going to 

931
01:03:30,760 --> 01:03:33,400
love this. 
But I'm very proud of it. 

932
01:03:34,920 --> 01:03:37,600
There are things I have loved 
about my writing and other 

933
01:03:37,600 --> 01:03:40,760
things, but I've always felt 
they could be better. 

934
01:03:41,360 --> 01:03:45,440
This is the first book I really 
feel like in a long time that it

935
01:03:45,520 --> 01:03:48,680
deserves the cover to be on 
paper. 

936
01:03:49,200 --> 01:03:53,400
So, and it will be. 
So what is the money wound? 

937
01:03:53,560 --> 01:03:56,720
The money wound is a systemic 
learned pattern. 

938
01:03:56,960 --> 01:03:59,440
So it's a pattern. 
And if you can recognize a 

939
01:03:59,440 --> 01:04:02,400
pattern, you can change a 
pattern, OK? 

940
01:04:02,400 --> 01:04:06,920
It organizes how a person 
relates to safety, value, and 

941
01:04:06,920 --> 01:04:10,720
resources. 
So I'm saying money because 

942
01:04:10,720 --> 01:04:14,680
that's how most people associate
your resources and how you 

943
01:04:14,680 --> 01:04:18,000
resource yourself, right? 
But it's bigger than that. 

944
01:04:18,000 --> 01:04:20,040
Notice I mentioned best work 
environment. 

945
01:04:20,040 --> 01:04:24,520
I need a great work environment.
I need people who have a sense 

946
01:04:24,520 --> 01:04:28,360
of humor. 
I need people who care deeply. 

947
01:04:28,360 --> 01:04:31,120
I've always said I work with 
people who give a shit. 

948
01:04:33,880 --> 01:04:36,040
It's not a singular event. 
It's not one time. 

949
01:04:36,040 --> 01:04:38,560
It's not just because your mom 
and dad lost their job or they 

950
01:04:38,560 --> 01:04:43,240
were a single parent or the 
economy tanked. 

951
01:04:43,240 --> 01:04:48,560
It's not a singular event, It's 
not a diagnosis, and it's not a 

952
01:04:48,560 --> 01:04:53,080
personality trait. 
OK, don't buy into popular 

953
01:04:53,080 --> 01:04:56,960
astrology that says, oh, because
I have this placement here, I'm 

954
01:04:56,960 --> 01:05:00,680
always going to be bad at this 
or I'm always going to be good 

955
01:05:00,680 --> 01:05:05,800
at that. 
Those those are fixed 

956
01:05:07,040 --> 01:05:10,680
interpretations that don't 
always serve your highest good. 

957
01:05:10,720 --> 01:05:14,240
It's a spectrum. 
It can be when conditions are 

958
01:05:14,240 --> 01:05:15,680
right. 
I operate like this. 

959
01:05:15,680 --> 01:05:19,280
When conditions are more 
stressful, I do this and we 

960
01:05:19,280 --> 01:05:25,800
cover this. 
OK, The money wound forms during

961
01:05:25,800 --> 01:05:31,160
early experiences, family 
dynamics, cultural messaging, 

962
01:05:31,160 --> 01:05:34,360
economic conditions, and social 
expectations. 

963
01:05:35,240 --> 01:05:37,760
OK. 
It reflects how a person learned

964
01:05:37,760 --> 01:05:41,480
to interpret security and risk 
in the environment they grew up.

965
01:05:45,200 --> 01:05:47,840
And none of us really, truly 
like where some people are a 

966
01:05:47,840 --> 01:05:50,680
little more risk taking than 
others, but most of us like to 

967
01:05:50,680 --> 01:05:52,840
feel secure. 
For some people, they need a lot

968
01:05:52,840 --> 01:05:57,800
of freedom to feel secure, and 
it feels like a risk to be 

969
01:05:57,800 --> 01:06:03,640
locked down, right. 
Long before a child understands 

970
01:06:03,640 --> 01:06:07,160
numbers, income or 
responsibility, their nervous 

971
01:06:07,160 --> 01:06:09,480
system is already noticing 
patterns. 

972
01:06:09,480 --> 01:06:12,400
So it's not even cognitive, it's
just you're picking it up 

973
01:06:12,400 --> 01:06:14,960
because babies are very 
observant. 

974
01:06:14,960 --> 01:06:19,520
They observe through all their 
senses and they're very lunar in

975
01:06:19,520 --> 01:06:22,240
their nature. 
They're in their sensing, 

976
01:06:22,240 --> 01:06:25,840
feeling body. 
They're not cognifying it into 

977
01:06:25,840 --> 01:06:28,640
words yet they know they're 
uncomfortable. 

978
01:06:28,920 --> 01:06:31,040
They know there's tension in the
air. 

979
01:06:31,360 --> 01:06:35,120
They know they, they feel alone.
They want to be held and feel 

980
01:06:35,120 --> 01:06:36,480
secure. 
That's why babies like, they 

981
01:06:36,480 --> 01:06:39,120
like to be held or swaddled, to 
feel secure. 

982
01:06:41,200 --> 01:06:45,240
So, you know, and what they're 
noticing in these patterns is 

983
01:06:45,240 --> 01:06:51,480
who's stressed out, what creates
conflict, what feels unsafe, 

984
01:06:52,040 --> 01:06:54,640
what is rewarded and what is 
avoided. 

985
01:06:55,040 --> 01:06:57,680
These observations are not 
evaluated. 

986
01:06:57,680 --> 01:07:00,200
They're absorbed. 
Babies can't decide what's good,

987
01:07:00,200 --> 01:07:02,920
what's bad, what's a 
misinterpretation, what was a 

988
01:07:02,920 --> 01:07:06,640
misunderstanding that was there 
a resolution. 

989
01:07:06,840 --> 01:07:08,880
They won't know that. 
They know when things are calm 

990
01:07:08,880 --> 01:07:10,480
and secure. 
They know when things are out of

991
01:07:10,480 --> 01:07:16,440
whack. 
And then it gets absorbed and 

992
01:07:16,440 --> 01:07:20,480
the baby then starts making 
choices. 

993
01:07:20,480 --> 01:07:22,840
It's not really a choice, but 
we're going to use that word for

994
01:07:22,840 --> 01:07:26,440
lack of words. 
But there are decisions on 

995
01:07:26,440 --> 01:07:28,680
behavior. 
If I cry, I get picked up. 

996
01:07:31,760 --> 01:07:38,120
If I cry, I'm isolated. 
So I learned not to cry, OK? 

997
01:07:40,440 --> 01:07:44,560
It's not about intelligence, 
it's not about effort, it's not 

998
01:07:44,560 --> 01:07:48,800
about lack of effort, it's not 
about being lazy, it's not about

999
01:07:48,800 --> 01:07:51,880
being anti establishment. 
Almost all of those are social 

1000
01:07:51,880 --> 01:07:55,360
tropes and social programs, 
including the angry young 

1001
01:07:55,360 --> 01:07:59,960
person, the rebellion. 
And you don't have to get 

1002
01:07:59,960 --> 01:08:01,320
conservative when you're older 
either. 

1003
01:08:01,320 --> 01:08:05,520
That's a trope too, right? 
People often assume their 

1004
01:08:05,520 --> 01:08:08,680
financial challenges exist 
because they are careless, 

1005
01:08:08,680 --> 01:08:14,520
unmotivated, or irresponsible or
unlikable, or they're not a team

1006
01:08:14,520 --> 01:08:16,960
player because of all the things
people say. 

1007
01:08:16,960 --> 01:08:18,560
Your manager just could have 
said it to you. 

1008
01:08:19,399 --> 01:08:23,880
Maybe it's true, maybe it's not.
And do you really need to work 

1009
01:08:23,880 --> 01:08:27,279
on a team? 
There's lots of ways to make 

1010
01:08:27,279 --> 01:08:31,399
money. 
There is you're calling and 

1011
01:08:31,399 --> 01:08:34,040
there's resourcing. 
They are different. 

1012
01:08:36,800 --> 01:08:41,319
The it's structure, it's about 
creating the right structures. 

1013
01:08:41,319 --> 01:08:43,439
And sometimes that structure is 
your work environment. 

1014
01:08:43,439 --> 01:08:46,840
Sometimes that structure. 
It's not always down to the 

1015
01:08:46,840 --> 01:08:49,800
dollar amount because again, 
there's lots of ways to bring 

1016
01:08:49,800 --> 01:08:56,000
income in. 
Back before 2008, like 2005, 

1017
01:08:56,000 --> 01:09:01,439
2006, the economy was already 
bad for those who weren't in the

1018
01:09:01,439 --> 01:09:03,720
higher income brackets. 
OK. 

1019
01:09:04,880 --> 01:09:07,680
And we couldn't cut one more 
thing out of our budget. 

1020
01:09:07,720 --> 01:09:10,000
And, and my husband had a stable
job. 

1021
01:09:10,000 --> 01:09:14,560
He worked for the state and he 
was at the highest level he 

1022
01:09:14,560 --> 01:09:19,200
could be without leaving the job
he enjoyed doing. 

1023
01:09:19,479 --> 01:09:23,120
And if he went to a desk job, if
he left the field, he would have

1024
01:09:23,520 --> 01:09:26,600
been miserable. 
But we hadn't seen a job like a 

1025
01:09:26,600 --> 01:09:30,000
COLA in six years. 
And so when people were saying 

1026
01:09:30,000 --> 01:09:32,439
tighten your belt, I was like, 
we don't have any more notches 

1027
01:09:32,439 --> 01:09:33,840
left. 
We're going to get cut in half. 

1028
01:09:34,160 --> 01:09:37,880
So the only other option I had 
was to bring more in. 

1029
01:09:37,880 --> 01:09:40,439
And I was like, well, I don't 
know how to run a business, but 

1030
01:09:40,439 --> 01:09:42,720
I can figure it out. 
It's, you know, even if I'm 

1031
01:09:42,720 --> 01:09:46,040
bringing in 100 more bucks a 
month, 500 more bucks a month, 

1032
01:09:46,960 --> 01:09:56,280
it takes some pressure off. 
So it's important, you know, so 

1033
01:09:56,280 --> 01:09:59,760
a person can be highly capable 
and still feel overwhelmed by 

1034
01:09:59,760 --> 01:10:03,040
financial decisions. 
They can understand budgeting 

1035
01:10:03,040 --> 01:10:05,400
and still avoid looking at their
accounts. 

1036
01:10:05,760 --> 01:10:10,040
They can succeed professionally 
and still feel unsafe charging 

1037
01:10:10,040 --> 01:10:12,720
for their work. 
There's a lot of spiritual 

1038
01:10:12,720 --> 01:10:20,520
teachers, readers, people in the
metaphysical world who are way 

1039
01:10:20,520 --> 01:10:22,640
under charge. 
And then there are those who are

1040
01:10:22,640 --> 01:10:25,320
fakes who wait, overcharge. 
It's so funny. 

1041
01:10:25,320 --> 01:10:33,320
It's Denning Kruger effect. 
The the contradictions aren't 

1042
01:10:33,320 --> 01:10:38,160
failures, they're signals. 
It's information, OK, It's just 

1043
01:10:38,160 --> 01:10:40,040
information. 
It means you need to change up 

1044
01:10:40,040 --> 01:10:43,080
the structure. 
And that's what we do. 

1045
01:10:43,080 --> 01:10:45,240
We learn to switch up the 
structure. 

1046
01:10:45,760 --> 01:10:53,280
So it's important for you to 
build a structure forward. 

1047
01:10:53,280 --> 01:10:56,240
And that structure starts with 
asking yourself just a couple of

1048
01:10:56,240 --> 01:10:58,920
questions. 
When do I feel most secure? 

1049
01:10:58,920 --> 01:11:02,600
And don't say payday because 
payday might be stressful 

1050
01:11:02,600 --> 01:11:05,440
because you're like, oh great, 
now I got to pay bills, right? 

1051
01:11:05,840 --> 01:11:08,440
But when do you really feel most
secure? 

1052
01:11:08,440 --> 01:11:12,320
Is it sitting outside and 
soaking up a beautiful spring 

1053
01:11:12,320 --> 01:11:16,520
day and smelling the flowers? 
Is it knowing that you've done a

1054
01:11:16,520 --> 01:11:20,080
job well done? 
Is it listening to your kids 

1055
01:11:20,520 --> 01:11:25,800
laugh and enjoy full of bellies?
Is it, you know, when do you 

1056
01:11:25,800 --> 01:11:28,800
feel most secure? 
Maybe it's sitting with your 

1057
01:11:28,800 --> 01:11:32,160
honey and holding hands, you 
know, not really even saying 

1058
01:11:32,160 --> 01:11:36,520
anything. 
No TV, the music to sit and kind

1059
01:11:36,520 --> 01:11:40,640
of let the world go by, or maybe
it is laughing together watching

1060
01:11:40,640 --> 01:11:43,320
a movie or telling silly 
stories. 

1061
01:11:43,320 --> 01:11:47,040
When do you feel most secure? 
Focus on that. 

1062
01:11:47,480 --> 01:11:52,720
And that helps change the way 
your brain looks at the world. 

1063
01:11:52,720 --> 01:11:56,320
If you can focus on this is how 
I feel secure instead of Oh my 

1064
01:11:56,320 --> 01:12:00,160
God, I'm not secure. 
I'm not feeling OK. 

1065
01:12:01,560 --> 01:12:06,600
And it's not bypassing to look 
at what does work for you. 

1066
01:12:07,080 --> 01:12:11,360
It is more like, here's my 
here's my foundation from this. 

1067
01:12:11,360 --> 01:12:16,080
Everything grows OK. 
And by paying attention to that,

1068
01:12:16,080 --> 01:12:18,080
it's like fertilizing a garden, 
right? 

1069
01:12:18,080 --> 01:12:22,920
It's giving it the nutrients 
because the more you look at 

1070
01:12:23,040 --> 01:12:26,560
what's scary, what isn't 
working, your fears about 

1071
01:12:26,560 --> 01:12:30,480
hanging on to what you think you
could lose all of that. 

1072
01:12:30,880 --> 01:12:36,440
That is like depleting the soil 
of its vitamins and its minerals

1073
01:12:36,720 --> 01:12:40,000
and all the good stuff, right? 
So you want to, you want to 

1074
01:12:40,000 --> 01:12:45,320
fertilize your stability by 
focusing what you know already 

1075
01:12:45,320 --> 01:12:52,000
does make you feel better. 
OK, so some questions you can 

1076
01:12:52,000 --> 01:12:55,400
ask yourself and, and I have a 
much longer list, but I'm going 

1077
01:12:55,400 --> 01:12:58,480
to give you 3 questions you can 
ask yourself this week. 

1078
01:12:59,000 --> 01:13:03,280
Which five financial behaviors 
in your life feel repetitive or 

1079
01:13:03,280 --> 01:13:06,000
automatic instead of 
intentional? 

1080
01:13:06,960 --> 01:13:09,960
OK, and I'm not talking about 
auto pay bills, OK? 

1081
01:13:11,200 --> 01:13:15,800
I'm talking about like when 
you're spending money or when 

1082
01:13:15,800 --> 01:13:19,920
you're putting money away. 
Is it repetitive, knee jerk, 

1083
01:13:19,920 --> 01:13:23,360
impulsive, something you do 
want, a default setting? 

1084
01:13:23,560 --> 01:13:27,600
Or is it something you've really
considered and decided, Nope, 

1085
01:13:27,600 --> 01:13:38,850
I'm going to do that? 
OK, Where do you notice the 

1086
01:13:38,850 --> 01:13:44,930
difference between what you 
logically know and what you 

1087
01:13:46,210 --> 01:13:53,130
instinctively or reflexively do?
So, you know, I should be doing 

1088
01:13:53,130 --> 01:13:56,880
this, and then you go do this 
other thing reflexively. 

1089
01:13:59,160 --> 01:14:04,200
And then the last question, what
becomes possible? 

1090
01:14:04,200 --> 01:14:07,520
And I really want you to think 
about this one, what becomes 

1091
01:14:07,520 --> 01:14:12,280
possible when you view your 
behavior as a learned structure 

1092
01:14:12,960 --> 01:14:19,560
instead of personal failure? 
Oh, that's a big one. 

1093
01:14:20,240 --> 01:14:24,640
So there's a lot more to it than
that, but this is just to get 

1094
01:14:24,640 --> 01:14:29,200
you started because honestly, I 
think we're going to see like 

1095
01:14:29,200 --> 01:14:32,920
mid-april, we're going to see an
economic whammy and then we're 

1096
01:14:32,920 --> 01:14:36,240
going to see a rise. 
So I do think things will start 

1097
01:14:36,240 --> 01:14:38,800
stabilizing after the end of the
month. 

1098
01:14:40,240 --> 01:14:43,200
There's just some good economic 
news coming in, especially 

1099
01:14:43,200 --> 01:14:46,720
around the 23rd. 
I know everybody wants to it to 

1100
01:14:46,720 --> 01:14:50,000
be it. 
I do not think that is the only 

1101
01:14:50,000 --> 01:14:53,880
possibility. 
It is one of many, many, many, 

1102
01:14:53,880 --> 01:14:56,400
many, many possibilities. 
But I don't think it's the dirt 

1103
01:14:56,400 --> 01:14:59,280
nap. 
I don't. 

1104
01:14:59,280 --> 01:15:02,120
We'll see what happens because 
things just kind of change 

1105
01:15:02,120 --> 01:15:05,960
radically as we move into the 
end of the month and not 

1106
01:15:05,960 --> 01:15:08,280
necessarily radically in a bad 
way. 

1107
01:15:08,280 --> 01:15:12,640
But it's also not like Fantasy 
Island, OK, we're still going to

1108
01:15:12,640 --> 01:15:18,760
have to deal with a mess. 
So focus on what you can do, OK?

1109
01:15:19,800 --> 01:15:22,640
Look at what's in your control 
because the best, you know, we 

1110
01:15:22,640 --> 01:15:25,480
don't just let go. 
If you've ever, if you've ever 

1111
01:15:25,480 --> 01:15:28,360
played on the bars and a lot of 
you younger people haven't, but 

1112
01:15:28,360 --> 01:15:31,240
when I was a kid, we had monkey 
bars, you know, and you'd swing 

1113
01:15:31,240 --> 01:15:33,440
on the monkey bars. 
Some people have old fashioned 

1114
01:15:33,440 --> 01:15:35,760
playgrounds, other people don't 
because they're a liability. 

1115
01:15:36,560 --> 01:15:40,720
But you, you don't swing and let
go with both hands. 

1116
01:15:40,720 --> 01:15:44,480
You you have one that gives you 
propulsion you know you're 

1117
01:15:44,480 --> 01:15:49,000
holding on to when you swing and
you grab the next, you let go to

1118
01:15:49,000 --> 01:15:53,320
use momentum. 
So you're never just one 

1119
01:15:53,320 --> 01:15:57,360
handedly doing this. 
You have your hand, you let go, 

1120
01:15:57,360 --> 01:16:01,440
you move to the next. 
And that's what we're doing, OK.

1121
01:16:01,440 --> 01:16:04,080
If you let go with both hands, 
you fall in, right? 

1122
01:16:04,080 --> 01:16:07,560
So we're not letting go. 
We're we're, we're moving our 

1123
01:16:07,560 --> 01:16:12,240
momentum towards something, OK. 
And that's the best way I can 

1124
01:16:12,240 --> 01:16:15,200
describe it. 
If you have more questions 

1125
01:16:15,200 --> 01:16:18,400
around that, go ahead and ask 
me, especially if you're a 

1126
01:16:18,400 --> 01:16:20,360
supporting patron, feel free to 
ask. 

1127
01:16:20,960 --> 01:16:24,240
Regardless of your level, I 
would love to help people more 

1128
01:16:24,240 --> 01:16:26,200
with this because we're all 
going to need it as we go 

1129
01:16:26,200 --> 01:16:31,560
forward because what was isn't 
coming back, but what will be 

1130
01:16:31,560 --> 01:16:33,640
is, is a little bit in our 
hands. 

1131
01:16:33,640 --> 01:16:36,480
We get to influence those who 
represent us, we get to be 

1132
01:16:36,480 --> 01:16:40,360
involved in local and we get to 
build our lives forward and that

1133
01:16:40,360 --> 01:16:44,360
is in our hands. 
So anyway, I hope you have a 

1134
01:16:44,360 --> 01:16:47,800
beautiful week. 
And remember, just because stuff

1135
01:16:47,800 --> 01:16:52,080
is going on in the news doesn't 
mean you can't have a good day, 

1136
01:16:52,120 --> 01:16:55,240
a good week, a good month, a 
good year. 

1137
01:16:55,240 --> 01:16:59,680
On a personal level, everything 
can work out.