1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:04,240 Welcome to the official podcast of Rock Hill Baptist Church 2 2 00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:07,480 where we are focused on glorifying God, spreading the 3 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:11,840 gospel, and making disciples of Jesus Christ right here in the 4 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:16,520 heart of Greenville, SC. Each week we bring you a life 5 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:20,600 changing word from our Senior Pastor, Pastor Matthew D Long 6 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:23,760 Junior, or one of our anointed guest speakers. 7 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:27,920 We pray this message strengthens your faith, deepens your 8 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:32,479 understanding, and empowers you to elevate in every area of your 9 00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:35,840 life. Let's join the service already 10 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:46,440 in progress. Fathered in a sense hundreds of 11 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:52,080 of youth around the country and still do. 12 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:56,280 I mean, I say, father, I use it from the definition I've given 13 00:00:56,280 --> 00:01:01,400 to you before of establishing patterns that they, they 14 00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:08,080 literally produce a certain type of individual, not just in 15 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:12,160 Greenville, SC, but literally across this country. 16 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:18,040 And they have tapped into a blueprint that is relevant, that 17 00:01:18,040 --> 00:01:21,360 is necessary for the 21st century. 18 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:24,960 So, if you don't mind, can you give a rousing applause for Mr. 19 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:27,920 Alfius Anderson as he comes in Graces today? 20 00:01:33,320 --> 00:01:36,120 Yes, Sir. Yes, Sir, Yes, Sir. 21 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:41,040 So I hope you got your Bible because I've got Bible for you 22 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:49,200 all day, all day long. But I, I found that sometimes 23 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:50,560 you read Scripture and we mess it up. 24 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:57,040 I mean read it like Tang. Is that really what it says? 25 00:01:57,040 --> 00:02:01,080 Is that what I make it say? And recently I was in 26 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:07,720 Ecclesiastes chapter 6 and I ran across something that really, 27 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:13,080 really, really, really changed my perspective. 28 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:17,520 Matter of fact, read it with me. I want you to read this 29 00:02:18,080 --> 00:02:27,680 Ecclesiastes chapter 6, and let's see, I can do that. 30 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:38,000 You got your bow. OK, let's do verse number. 31 00:02:46,550 --> 00:02:50,670 How about verse #4? I think that's what I want. 32 00:02:53,630 --> 00:02:56,230 That's it. I'm, I'm sorry, Ephesians, 33 00:02:56,510 --> 00:02:59,950 that's Ecclesiastes. Ephesians chapter 6. 34 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:08,640 Is it not looking familiar to you? 35 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:19,480 OK, so as a kid, this this script used to I mean, you let 36 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:24,360 me do something wrong and and then get that Bible out. 37 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:26,760 That's my dad. You know, let's preach. 38 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:31,000 I'm 4th generation PK and he will say, come on, read the 39 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:35,240 Bible. And so before he be with me 40 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:38,800 because it is Father's Day, I'm going to tell the Business Today 41 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:42,640 who I'm going to tell it. He he would he would make me 42 00:03:42,640 --> 00:03:45,240 read the word. I said you will get this word, 43 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:52,960 but you get your butt cut. Read it verse for children. 44 00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:56,360 Obey your parents in the is that what your Bible say? 45 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:00,840 Thank you, mother Spurgeous. Oh yeah, uh huh. 46 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:09,240 Obey your parents in the Lord Colon for this is right and that 47 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:17,040 we right we together we on the OK verse 2 honor thy father 48 00:04:17,040 --> 00:04:24,080 mother, which is the first commandment with promise three 49 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:32,480 that it may be well with thee you and so that you can have 50 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:36,800 long life on the earth. I'm on the edge of my seat like 51 00:04:36,800 --> 00:04:42,120 oh Lord, I'm about to come back get cut today. 52 00:04:43,160 --> 00:04:46,720 Verse 4 is not where we ever went to. 53 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:53,960 We stopped at verse 3. Verse 4 says and ye fathers, 54 00:04:54,840 --> 00:04:59,280 provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the 55 00:04:59,280 --> 00:05:02,320 nurture and admonition of the Lord. 56 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:08,120 Check this out. It's crazy as I was just just 57 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:09,560 doing a little work, a little work. 58 00:05:11,840 --> 00:05:18,120 I was looking up that the Greek for this and when you read 59 00:05:18,120 --> 00:05:21,040 Ephesians chapter 6 verse 4 says and you Father's provoke not 60 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:23,480 your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and 61 00:05:23,480 --> 00:05:26,880 admonition Lord, that that phrase provoked to wrath is one 62 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:29,520 word. It's not 3 words. 63 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:33,880 It is one word. Matter of fact, I'm gonna help 64 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:39,320 you speak in tongues today. That word is pangizio. 65 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:41,520 Help me out. Say I'm sorry. 66 00:05:41,560 --> 00:05:46,560 Paragizio, paragizio. Say it again. 67 00:05:46,560 --> 00:05:54,680 Paragizio, Paragizio, paragizio paragizio paragizio. 68 00:05:57,280 --> 00:06:01,840 Paragizio. Paragizio is comes from 2 words. 69 00:06:01,840 --> 00:06:04,760 The 1st word of the root word is para. 70 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:09,320 Para is a preposition which means from, of, AT, by, besides, 71 00:06:09,320 --> 00:06:11,720 near. And then the second root of the 72 00:06:11,720 --> 00:06:14,960 second-half of that word is or Giza or Giza which means to 73 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:19,320 provoke, to rouse, to anger. When you research this, it 74 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:24,120 really means to pull out from what's hidden. 75 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:29,360 So he says, fathers don't pull out. 76 00:06:29,360 --> 00:06:32,120 What's hidden? Hidden anger. 77 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:39,800 Wow, look at your Bible then. It has some colons, Colon says. 78 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:46,120 We need to expound more on this. He says, but now y'all old 79 00:06:46,120 --> 00:06:47,120 school? Who's in the room? 80 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:52,760 What does the mayor say? Old school? 81 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:56,880 Schoolhouse Rock, Right? Let us know. 82 00:06:57,240 --> 00:07:01,040 Conjunction, Conjunction. What's your function? 83 00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:06,160 Right, right that that butt says, ah, halt. 84 00:07:08,840 --> 00:07:13,120 But bring them up in the nurture. 85 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:21,880 Nurturing is always synonymous with mothering, right in the 86 00:07:21,880 --> 00:07:25,520 nurture and admonition of the Lord. 87 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:30,480 So let me give you the revelation as we get into this 88 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:39,080 conversation. Could it be that in giving a 89 00:07:39,080 --> 00:07:44,040 pattern to sons, sons gender neutral, male and female to 90 00:07:44,040 --> 00:07:49,040 children, that is the responsibility of the father? 91 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:57,880 Not to draw out the anger, but to then instead nurture them and 92 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:02,800 to put them in an environment where they are surrounded by 93 00:08:02,800 --> 00:08:09,200 only the presence of the Lord. Totally different spin on that 94 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:12,640 tax. Totally different. 95 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:19,760 So all my life, always known as that Daddy may not make that son 96 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:23,400 mad. Don't don't make your child 97 00:08:23,400 --> 00:08:27,840 angry. But statistically, we have a 98 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:34,320 generation full of angry kids. Oh, I don't like your mouth. 99 00:08:34,440 --> 00:08:36,679 It's it's too clap too close for me. 100 00:08:36,960 --> 00:08:42,520 You got to talk to me that that we've got mad and angry kids. 101 00:08:43,520 --> 00:08:48,320 And could it be because we've misinterpreted the scripture and 102 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:51,600 we thought that I just was supposed to make you mad? 103 00:08:52,480 --> 00:08:56,560 But really the the text is saying don't constantly pull out 104 00:08:56,560 --> 00:09:00,760 the anger that's in the child. So how do I not do that? 105 00:09:01,520 --> 00:09:05,080 That's why we're here. We do that and how we move the 106 00:09:05,080 --> 00:09:08,040 child. Everybody say the mind, the mind 107 00:09:08,240 --> 00:09:11,720 one more time. Say the mind third time. 108 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:15,040 Come on, say the mind, the mind, the mind, the mind. 109 00:09:15,040 --> 00:09:17,560 That's that's that's what God's come to save. 110 00:09:17,560 --> 00:09:20,680 He's coming to save our soul. Our soul is harbored in the mind 111 00:09:21,480 --> 00:09:25,560 and the mind let this mind be in you, which is also in Christ 112 00:09:25,560 --> 00:09:27,480 Jesus. The mind, the mind. 113 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:32,880 The issue is what happens to the mind? 114 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:40,240 What happens to the mind? We're talking about fathers, 115 00:09:40,240 --> 00:09:49,400 fatherhood, oftentimes we, and again, this is no, no ripe over 116 00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:59,680 wash over, but we talk about poor examples, poor moments, and 117 00:09:59,680 --> 00:10:02,240 it could be because we just don't simply understand the 118 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:06,400 mind. I got a word for you. 119 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:09,600 You ready? Thank you. 120 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:13,320 I appreciate you. It's adult ISM. 121 00:10:16,080 --> 00:10:21,320 Write that one down adult and add ISM at the end. 122 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:27,080 Adult ISM. Adult ISM is something that I 123 00:10:27,080 --> 00:10:33,680 have suffered with because I said as a kid I can't wait to be 124 00:10:33,680 --> 00:10:40,720 an adult because when I'm an adult, I'm going to be the one. 125 00:10:42,680 --> 00:10:46,280 When I'm the adult. Ain't nobody going to tell me 126 00:10:47,640 --> 00:10:55,880 when I'm the adult. And the truth is, I became that 127 00:10:55,880 --> 00:10:58,640 adult. I'm going to be very honest. 128 00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:00,400 Let me give it to you in a second and be very honest. 129 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:06,560 In my work as the director of education, Youth Services, it 130 00:11:06,560 --> 00:11:12,200 has caused me to confront a lot of errors in my thought process, 131 00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:18,160 in my mind, because I thought, because I was the adult, because 132 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:24,640 the authority rested in me, did that mean I was the end all be 133 00:11:24,640 --> 00:11:27,720 all? Praise the Lord, because at the 134 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:33,120 end of the day, before anybody else get a charge, a call, 135 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:35,960 responsibility, it's always the man. 136 00:11:36,920 --> 00:11:39,160 It's stuck. It stops with the buck, stops 137 00:11:39,160 --> 00:11:41,400 with us. Been taught that all my life. 138 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:46,040 Man up right, man up on the job, man up in your homes. 139 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:52,760 Well, I realized that that could have been that could have been 140 00:11:52,760 --> 00:11:55,160 half correct as well. Adultism. 141 00:11:55,160 --> 00:11:56,440 What is that? That's a good question. 142 00:11:57,200 --> 00:12:01,680 Adultism is when you have a prejudice against a younger 143 00:12:01,680 --> 00:12:06,840 person. Let me use another another word 144 00:12:06,840 --> 00:12:12,640 for that, because those big words, it is when you you say, 145 00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:21,800 you demonstrate. You enact only what you think 146 00:12:22,360 --> 00:12:27,360 and approve to be correct and true Adultism. 147 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:32,480 All right, somebody said, this still ain't hitting me. 148 00:12:33,400 --> 00:12:41,080 It's OK. Have you ever heard a child say, 149 00:12:42,240 --> 00:12:47,000 why Mama? Why daddy? 150 00:12:49,840 --> 00:12:54,880 And there's a famous response. It's a part of the adult package 151 00:12:55,640 --> 00:13:00,840 you get you get in the flash card and when you need it, you 152 00:13:00,840 --> 00:13:07,880 know, you just you just go back and you say because I said so. 153 00:13:10,200 --> 00:13:13,160 If it feel good being able to say that too, I ain't going to 154 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:16,600 lie. I ain't got to explain because I 155 00:13:16,680 --> 00:13:19,480 said so. That's adultism. 156 00:13:22,320 --> 00:13:25,120 I know I can't prepare to slay a couple devils. 157 00:13:25,800 --> 00:13:27,040 I did. I knew it was going to be here. 158 00:13:27,880 --> 00:13:31,000 It's adultism. That is when you remove the 159 00:13:31,000 --> 00:13:35,960 voice of a younger individual, the voice that comes from a 160 00:13:36,200 --> 00:13:40,880 heart and a mind that is in development. 161 00:13:42,640 --> 00:13:48,080 So a lot of times kids are asking questions and we refer to 162 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:51,520 adult ISM or we go into the adult ISM because we don't want 163 00:13:51,520 --> 00:13:54,960 to deal with it. What does it do? 164 00:13:55,480 --> 00:14:01,360 It provokes children to anchor. Oh, that's, that is that's 165 00:14:01,360 --> 00:14:03,680 tough. Go back and listen to this 166 00:14:03,680 --> 00:14:07,080 again. Feast on this again. 167 00:14:08,840 --> 00:14:12,080 Because all those moments I was, you know, because I said because 168 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:15,960 I did, I was wrong. Check this out. 169 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:26,120 The brain the brain. The brain of a 2 year old has 170 00:14:26,120 --> 00:14:28,240 twice as many synapses as an adult. 171 00:14:30,000 --> 00:14:33,760 It is constantly living in this emotional state. 172 00:14:43,160 --> 00:14:47,800 You love it, but eventually you get a little tired of him. 173 00:14:52,520 --> 00:14:55,560 Y'all tight on me? I don't know what it take Deacon 174 00:14:55,560 --> 00:14:57,000 has this heat must must be getting you. 175 00:14:59,800 --> 00:15:05,200 It's it's the emotional response that sometimes messes with our 176 00:15:05,200 --> 00:15:09,600 adult ISM not realizing that that 2 year old, that child, 177 00:15:09,600 --> 00:15:15,080 that baby is communicating. Check this out according to its 178 00:15:15,080 --> 00:15:19,600 brain development. Let's go a little bit. 179 00:15:19,720 --> 00:15:26,560 Let's get a little older. All right you, you, you have a 180 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:32,560 an 8 year old 7 year old right. Each I figure out who keep 181 00:15:32,600 --> 00:15:37,760 eating Oh my candy, who keeps messing with the little Debbie's 182 00:15:39,640 --> 00:15:46,720 who is sneaking into my Eminem power right Yeah Oh, I'm sorry. 183 00:15:46,720 --> 00:15:48,040 I almost got some different kids. 184 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:55,720 Well, the the brain of of that 7-8 year old has not just only 185 00:15:55,720 --> 00:15:59,480 been steeped in emotionalism as we would say, but the part of 186 00:15:59,480 --> 00:16:04,800 the brain now realized that it wants instant satisfaction and 187 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:08,200 it is living its life off of dopamine. 188 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:16,760 Do it get get the reward of happiness that you want. 189 00:16:18,480 --> 00:16:22,840 And they are at the stage, but they just want to be happy. 190 00:16:22,840 --> 00:16:25,640 If it's going to make them happy, they're going to do it. 191 00:16:29,720 --> 00:16:34,640 At this stage, they've got the back of their brain from that 192 00:16:34,880 --> 00:16:39,120 brain stem to another part on the side that's developing. 193 00:16:39,840 --> 00:16:41,880 But you know what is not fully developed? 194 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:51,560 That prefrontal frontal lobe, that that part that helps decide 195 00:16:52,120 --> 00:16:57,280 what to do or not to do. And you know what the issue is? 196 00:16:58,400 --> 00:17:04,839 What you say, I didn't hear you, what you say, talk loud to me, 197 00:17:05,119 --> 00:17:11,440 decision making. So the issue becomes you have 198 00:17:11,440 --> 00:17:18,440 your 57 year old brain and you're trying to take your 57 199 00:17:18,440 --> 00:17:24,119 year old brain and and conditioned it to a 8 year old 200 00:17:24,119 --> 00:17:30,440 brain and it doesn't match adultism. 201 00:17:30,440 --> 00:17:36,200 And what happens? We provoke them to anger because 202 00:17:36,200 --> 00:17:38,480 then instead of talking, get out. 203 00:17:39,880 --> 00:17:41,560 God, if you don't get up by my camera. 204 00:17:50,840 --> 00:17:57,280 It's happened to all of us. All right, let me let me get to 205 00:17:57,280 --> 00:18:06,840 my last one and I'm gonna hand it over for real. 1314151617 206 00:18:06,840 --> 00:18:11,640 comes that brains been steeped in emotions. 207 00:18:12,440 --> 00:18:17,080 It's been chasing reward, but now a third part of that brain 208 00:18:17,080 --> 00:18:22,520 really starts developing and this part of the brain has 209 00:18:22,680 --> 00:18:28,000 advanced emotions in and out, inside out. 210 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:30,160 I think it's inside out one. And two, if you've never seen 211 00:18:30,160 --> 00:18:34,400 those movies, great movies to watch to really understand 212 00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:36,120 what's happening in your child's brain. 213 00:18:37,400 --> 00:18:44,040 It's at this moment that child now is not just chasing a high, 214 00:18:46,040 --> 00:18:55,560 that child is also chasing risk that the part of the brain that 215 00:18:55,560 --> 00:18:59,640 says we can do it is always on 100. 216 00:19:00,680 --> 00:19:05,040 So these emotions go from extremely high to extremely low 217 00:19:08,280 --> 00:19:13,640 and our 37 year old brain is trying to rationalize the risk, 218 00:19:14,240 --> 00:19:18,520 the reward and we suck at the recovery. 219 00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:22,640 So what do we do? Provoke them to anger. 220 00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:30,960 And we got we got young kings man at the house who's going 221 00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:34,760 through all these changes, all these changes. 222 00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:41,320 There's a there's research out there that says children between 223 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:52,040 zero to 15 or 16, I believe, are processing based upon your face 224 00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:59,360 how and what to do. But 40% of the time they 225 00:19:59,360 --> 00:20:04,520 misunderstand what your face is saying to ain't that something 226 00:20:06,040 --> 00:20:09,560 they hear you say one thing. And their brain is trying to 227 00:20:09,560 --> 00:20:13,880 process with their eyes what they see on your face. 228 00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:17,240 So no, was this really good? It's really bad. 229 00:20:17,680 --> 00:20:20,520 Are they happy? Are they sad? 230 00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:25,480 And the whole time they have big emotions on the inside. 231 00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:29,680 So I'm going to give my last point and we will really get to 232 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:31,000 this conversation. What do you do? 233 00:20:33,040 --> 00:20:34,960 What you do is you have conversations. 234 00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:41,680 One, one thing that we have struggled with is talking and, 235 00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:44,080 and I, I know you won't, you won't beat the hell out of them. 236 00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:47,200 So all you have is heaven left. That's what my dad would say. 237 00:20:49,240 --> 00:20:55,800 But I would suggest that you would take the time to really 238 00:20:55,800 --> 00:21:03,280 get into their actual brain because that developing brain is 239 00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:07,040 trying to figure out what to do. So you got to help them talk out 240 00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:10,440 what is the thing to do or not to do. 241 00:21:10,880 --> 00:21:14,200 Why did they do it? We struggle with that. 242 00:21:16,440 --> 00:21:18,840 If you can do that, I promise you your child would be a 243 00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:22,240 millionaire. Because the things most children 244 00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:27,560 struggle with is computing and then giving the analytics, the 245 00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:31,240 data, the, the rationale or what they were computing in their 246 00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:35,720 brain. For that reason, I got to tap 247 00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:41,280 into the blueprint, the, the, the guru, the strategist of how 248 00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:46,800 in the world do you get all of these kids who are in all these 249 00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:52,400 different phases of their, their, their brain development 250 00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:55,920 and they follow you. How do you do it? 251 00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:01,400 First of all, you can't just ask me that question. 252 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:05,760 And then 3 minutes ago you just unloaded what you just unloaded. 253 00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:12,040 That was a lot, right? That was a lot because there was 254 00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:18,240 a lot of deductions that now I have some, some bombs going off 255 00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:22,000 in my head because I was that little 8 year old saying why 256 00:22:22,160 --> 00:22:26,240 mommy, why? And so I'm, I'm 43 now and I'm 257 00:22:26,240 --> 00:22:29,560 still saying, why Anybody like me still saying, why? 258 00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:33,960 Like, why do we have this? Why did, why did you do that? 259 00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:37,080 I know many of you guys are saying, why do we have this 260 00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:42,800 president And all God's people said, all right, I know, I know 261 00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:48,800 people just asking God why and it's OK, Everybody says, OK, but 262 00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:51,600 but Pastor, if I may back up, just rewind a little bit. 263 00:22:52,120 --> 00:22:56,800 You said something that I'm dealing with because there's a 264 00:22:56,800 --> 00:23:02,680 scripture that says hope deferred or a dream deferred 265 00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:08,320 makes the heart sick. Hope deferred. 266 00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:11,480 So when I see hope or a dream, anybody have a dream in the 267 00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:12,240 room? Raise your hand. 268 00:23:12,400 --> 00:23:16,760 You know, we're, we're, you know, young and old and so it 269 00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:18,360 hasn't happened yet. Raise your hand. 270 00:23:18,360 --> 00:23:22,600 So that's like a question mark. So what you just said is 271 00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:25,520 interesting. I've never heard it lifted that 272 00:23:25,520 --> 00:23:29,480 way. When we leave students with the 273 00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:32,560 question mark rocking, walking around with the question mark, 274 00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:36,560 we provoke them to anger. And immediately the scripture 275 00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:40,840 came to mind. Is hope deferred makes the heart 276 00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:44,640 sick or perhaps what you just lifted. 277 00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:49,240 So we need to answer the question somebody say answer 278 00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:50,760 the. Questions. 279 00:23:50,760 --> 00:23:53,320 Answer the questions. The hard question, everybody say 280 00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:55,600 answer the questions. Answer the questions. 281 00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,040 And perhaps you get rid of the anger. 282 00:23:58,040 --> 00:24:05,240 OK, perhaps. How do I get kids to? 283 00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:07,960 So I'm still dealing with that. I may talk about that for the 284 00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:11,480 rest of the week. Just notice when you just just 285 00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:16,280 know when you leave a kid, when a kid leaves your presence with 286 00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:24,160 a question mark, perhaps they are going to be angry because 287 00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:28,280 perhaps they may not trust me or trust you because you supposed 288 00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:30,720 to be an adult and you don't have answers. 289 00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:38,720 I'm 6 and you 60. You ain't got a better answer 290 00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:42,000 than that. So they're probably going to 291 00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:47,600 pick up their device and find an answer that's different than 292 00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:53,000 what you would like for them to have in their thinking or in 293 00:24:53,000 --> 00:25:01,560 their mind, in their spirit, in their heart or in their levolve, 294 00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:05,040 not the physical heart, levolve, metaphysical heart. 295 00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:08,480 So just one more time, I just want to lift this up. 296 00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:10,480 Everybody say get answered, get answered. 297 00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:15,280 I mean, I mean, the Bible even encourage us as Christians. 298 00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:17,520 All the Christians in the house make some noise. 299 00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:24,520 All right, yes. So I got my fan too because I'm 300 00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:27,560 I ate good this week. So I get hot when I eat good. 301 00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:31,120 So I know we're fanning. So I just wanted to wake us up. 302 00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:36,680 The Bible even encourages Christians, even if you don't 303 00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:42,640 know all of the details, it says to be ready to give an answer 304 00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:49,760 for the hope that's in you. That's right, a defense and 305 00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:53,320 answer so y'all get answers. What was the question again? 306 00:25:56,080 --> 00:25:59,600 How have you, How have you garnered and gathered all these 307 00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:02,160 youth that follow you as they're going through these 308 00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:10,520 developmental stages? First of all, I do feel like I'm 309 00:26:10,520 --> 00:26:15,600 I'm corny and I may look hip. I don't know if I, if you think 310 00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:20,040 I look hip, I don't listen to hip hop, you know, I don't. 311 00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:22,120 I mean, I grill out, I play golf. 312 00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:27,960 But I think the biggest thing is to be organic. 313 00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:35,960 Organic students can spot a fake, you can fake it on your 314 00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:41,280 face, but they, they, they know that behind that, whatever 315 00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:44,280 you're giving off, it's something deeper that's not 316 00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:50,360 real, Amen. They know when it's an you're 317 00:26:50,360 --> 00:26:57,360 only there for a photo op Amen. And so just be organic. 318 00:26:57,360 --> 00:27:01,480 I mean that if there's more, but one, be consistent. 319 00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:07,640 If I say consistent or consistently organic because the 320 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:14,480 Bible says Jesus is the same when yesterday, today and what 321 00:27:15,120 --> 00:27:19,080 that sounds like consistency to me and because he's consistent. 322 00:27:19,360 --> 00:27:23,040 Guess what we are what attracted to to him. 323 00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:26,520 Jesus is attractive. God is attractive because he's 324 00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:30,160 what he don't flip on on you like your friends. 325 00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:34,640 Amen. He's not finicky Amen and so if 326 00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:38,040 you are consistent, it's attractive. 327 00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:42,640 Pastor is consistent. OK, I think I'm going to 328 00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:44,880 continue to go to the church he leads. 329 00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:52,480 Mr. Alphaeus is always bringing food at rehearsals, like always. 330 00:27:52,520 --> 00:27:57,680 If it's two kids or if it's fifty kids, he's always bringing 331 00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:00,720 food. That's what that's being 332 00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:01,600 consistent. Amen. 333 00:28:02,280 --> 00:28:02,520 Wow. Amen. 334 00:28:02,520 --> 00:28:05,960 Amen. So you said be organic, 335 00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:10,760 consistent, just put it together and be consistently organic. 336 00:28:10,760 --> 00:28:16,080 Consistently organic. That consistently organic 337 00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:27,600 methodology has allowed you to I guess I get in trouble. 338 00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,040 It's, it's my church anyways that the Lord's given me. 339 00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:36,880 It's it's allowed you to have more youth than most churches 340 00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:39,720 right now. How many, how many youth in pure 341 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:45,480 in heart, Pure in heart ensemble, USC Upstate Give us, 342 00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:47,120 give us the stats, give us the stats. 343 00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:53,400 I, I would say so if you, if you're not aware, my wife and I, 344 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:56,840 my wife is here, right here to my right, almost 20 years, clap 345 00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:59,720 your hands for it right here in the yellow. 346 00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:06,040 And so we've been blessed to start a community youth choir. 347 00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:10,760 I am not a pastor, Amen. And we don't have a, our 348 00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:14,280 organization, we don't have a physical building, we don't 349 00:29:14,280 --> 00:29:18,160 have, we don't have tithes coming in every week, Amen. 350 00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:21,800 We have whoever wants to volunteer and help us out. 351 00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:26,440 We're at the mercy of, of, of and it's a good place to be with 352 00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:31,520 the mercy of God's favor and, and, and how he provides for our 353 00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:34,800 vision, Amen. So it is, it is, it's, even 354 00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:37,560 though it's a community organization, a community choir, 355 00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:44,640 it is definitely harder in my opinion, because a church, we 356 00:29:44,640 --> 00:29:49,440 have a, a building, Amen. We have a nice building, we have 357 00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:52,680 TV's everywhere, Amen. In this church, I'm sitting 358 00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:57,320 behind, in front of four TV's. We have a location, we have 359 00:29:57,320 --> 00:30:03,000 givers, we have bodies, Amen. And So what we've been favored 360 00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:05,560 to do is nothing but a miracle, I'm telling you. 361 00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:12,280 But at our our greatest, we had 402 students in one place at one 362 00:30:12,280 --> 00:30:17,800 time. A part of our situation, 402. 363 00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:21,640 Imagine 402 people in your house or in this church right now. 364 00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:25,600 We're putting out chairs, Amen, Amen. 365 00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:31,240 So you that is definitely glamorous, but that's also 366 00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:36,840 liability, Amen. That's also management, Amen. 367 00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:42,600 That's, I mean, and so it is a choir, but what we started is 368 00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:45,040 more than a choir. And we've, we've transitioned 369 00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:49,000 to, to more than just getting students together to sing. 370 00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:52,240 And even in the in the past couple of years, we started a 371 00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:56,280 foundation where we want to do where we've already started to 372 00:30:56,280 --> 00:31:03,480 do cohorts. So we've left the 402 now for 12 373 00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:08,080 because remember what know what Jesus did with the 12 disciples 374 00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:10,720 changed the whole world. Well, how many? 375 00:31:10,720 --> 00:31:13,480 Not 402. How many 12? 376 00:31:13,480 --> 00:31:17,120 Look at somebody say quality. Quality over quantity. 377 00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:22,560 My 11th year USC Upstate, who is now a stellar award nominated 378 00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:24,600 choir. Yep. 379 00:31:26,840 --> 00:31:29,560 And so I'm working with your students and I'm working with 380 00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:33,960 with with freshman in college. So I have to code switch. 381 00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:39,240 So I am definitely consistently or and I'm organic, but I do 382 00:31:39,240 --> 00:31:43,040 meet them where they are. I do something write this down 383 00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:47,800 called OTL. Everybody say OTL, which means I 384 00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:52,400 get on their level. Amen. 385 00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:59,000 I'm 43, how am I able to get do OTL with the six year old I have 386 00:31:59,000 --> 00:32:02,400 to get on their level. Amen. 387 00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:06,000 On their level. Say it. 388 00:32:06,840 --> 00:32:12,160 You know, I'm a musician. Say it on their level, on their 389 00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:14,600 level. And what you lifted is 390 00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:19,640 phenomenal because the prefront frontal cortex is still 391 00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:23,960 developing and and so I'll yield to you. 392 00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:28,200 So when you say on the level, I think you're directly in the 393 00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:31,760 text. And then Ephesians 6 and four 394 00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:34,920 says, Fathers, provoke not your children's of wrath, but bring 395 00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:40,840 them up in the nurture on their level, on their level and 396 00:32:40,840 --> 00:32:44,600 ammunition of the Lord. So you say you get on their 397 00:32:44,600 --> 00:32:47,000 level. What else do you do? 398 00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:51,720 Because these knees get tired. Yep. 399 00:32:52,360 --> 00:32:54,480 It's back. I'm going to give out sometimes 400 00:32:55,520 --> 00:32:59,440 food costs a whole lot of money. That's what Adult ISM says. 401 00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:06,280 Prays a lot. Adults say how? 402 00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:12,880 How do we continue to mold and make that that child, that team, 403 00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:18,240 that young adult, what? Was the question. 404 00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:21,720 Now I'm just kidding and buy you some time. 405 00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:25,640 I mean, obviously you, you, I have my giftings. 406 00:33:25,640 --> 00:33:28,600 I have my genius. I'm I'm, I'm ADD. 407 00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:31,040 I'm anointed, dangerous and discipline. 408 00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:34,040 Get the T-shirt. I got them in the car. 409 00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:37,040 ADDT shirts. Anybody else anointed, dangerous 410 00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:39,120 and discipline. I'm ADD. 411 00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:43,320 Amen. And so, you know, I have my 412 00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:46,600 genius. And so Jethro told Moses to 413 00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:48,400 delegate. If I said delegate, delegate, 414 00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:54,800 you cannot I can't do it all. My wife and I, we can't do it 415 00:33:54,800 --> 00:33:55,440 all. Amen. 416 00:33:55,840 --> 00:34:01,240 And so we delegate, we outsource, we partner and we get 417 00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:06,520 help because the Bible says 1 can do what chase 1000 Come on, 418 00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:10,520 I know y'all, y'all you guys know the Bible here one can do 419 00:34:10,520 --> 00:34:17,719 what chase 1001 can sit loud one the Bible says 1 can chase 1000. 420 00:34:17,719 --> 00:34:21,239 Now you doing something to me, if you, if you, if you're 421 00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,159 managing or you're impacting 1000 people, you're doing 422 00:34:24,159 --> 00:34:25,920 something to me. I think that's worth the 423 00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:27,000 handclap. Amen. 424 00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:31,199 I mean, I mean, we can't ignore that, but it said two can do 425 00:34:31,199 --> 00:34:37,360 what the Bible actually says 1 chases, 2 puts. 426 00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:43,360 It's a difference between chasing and putting. 427 00:34:43,560 --> 00:34:48,520 It seems like with more people you're more in control chasing 428 00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:51,320 seems like you're not in control If I'm chasing you ever chase a 429 00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:54,320 little kid around the around the around the room who's in 430 00:34:54,320 --> 00:34:56,639 control? You think you ain't you pay the 431 00:34:56,639 --> 00:34:59,960 bills, but you chasing 2 year old, you ain't in control. 432 00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:07,880 But you ever see a daddy say and then he go over there didn't say 433 00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:11,200 nothing. He just pointed that's you ain't 434 00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:12,520 control. That's pudding. 435 00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:16,520 One can chase, you're not in control. 436 00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:22,000 But two, you're more in control. I get help, pastor. 437 00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:23,960 We get help. You got to get help. 438 00:35:25,280 --> 00:35:29,200 That's so good. And I say that because the 439 00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:37,640 culture we live in makes us think that we have to do it by 440 00:35:37,640 --> 00:35:46,480 ourselves, right? So I'm the single parent where 441 00:35:46,480 --> 00:35:52,200 the single family is just our church, right? 442 00:35:52,200 --> 00:36:00,320 Since she ended plummeted plug. So he's an author. 443 00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:01,440 Is this the second book or the first one? 444 00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:05,800 2nd? That's the second book. 445 00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:08,160 The latest? The newest, the newest. 446 00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:12,320 One the new car smellish. No, no youth, no church 447 00:36:12,720 --> 00:36:17,240 solutions, right. And and the first book when we 448 00:36:17,240 --> 00:36:21,640 had a meeting and you tell me, have you read the book and you 449 00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:24,760 give all these things to do go and find out this person, that 450 00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:28,600 person, this business, this organization, 30 mile radius all 451 00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:29,520 around you. Do they know you? 452 00:36:29,520 --> 00:36:32,520 Do they you know they know you, you know them. 453 00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:39,160 But then you start talking about building out the team and give 454 00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:44,520 all these solutions that are good for a church to build a 455 00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:49,320 youth group, but also for really a parent or a church in itself 456 00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:53,520 to just build the youth that you need partnership. 457 00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:59,280 But in the partnership, everyone has a specific job in the 458 00:36:59,280 --> 00:37:03,320 partnership that I first of all, thank you. 459 00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:07,600 I needed some help that I can't just bring you on the team 460 00:37:07,640 --> 00:37:08,960 without giving you an assignment. 461 00:37:10,200 --> 00:37:12,200 Talk, talk more about that. Talk more about that. 462 00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:20,240 I mean, statistics, studies say, I mean, a kid does better with a 463 00:37:20,240 --> 00:37:21,920 mom and a dad. Amen. 464 00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:26,240 Amen. Yeah, it does does better, not 465 00:37:26,240 --> 00:37:30,080 impossible, no condemnation. Life happens. 466 00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:35,200 People are still even adults are still under construction. 467 00:37:35,240 --> 00:37:39,160 Amen. But you, you, you know, even but 468 00:37:39,160 --> 00:37:42,400 but then disclaimer, you can have mommy and daddy and you can 469 00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:46,680 still have a student or a kid. That's you know, you know what 470 00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:49,920 I'm trying to say. Hey, man, but but definitely so 471 00:37:49,960 --> 00:37:54,760 that speaks to roles. That speaks to genius, your 472 00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:58,040 genius. It speaks to putting people in 473 00:37:58,040 --> 00:38:01,160 the right place to get it done. Amen. 474 00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:08,240 And knowing the Bible says, know those who what labor, labor 475 00:38:08,240 --> 00:38:10,760 among you? Look at somebody say, do you 476 00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:12,440 know me? Do you know me? 477 00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:17,560 This church is a wonderful church in a great location, one 478 00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:22,520 of the most coveted zip codes in up in the upstate. 479 00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:27,040 You guys are listen, you guys are going somewhere. 480 00:38:27,560 --> 00:38:28,680 I thought somebody was going to clap. 481 00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:33,960 You guys are already somewhere. You guys are going to do 482 00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:36,040 something great. Come on, y'all should clap for 483 00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:38,320 you. I am I'm giving you all props. 484 00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:43,120 Y'all, y'all got it going on. You're doing better than you 485 00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:45,520 think you are. I said you doing better than you 486 00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:55,360 What I said you doing better than you what the right seat. 487 00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:59,160 We have our genius. You have your genius and it's 488 00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:03,760 putting all of that together. I want to say so much, but 489 00:39:03,760 --> 00:39:07,240 there's something called TYM. Let me lift this real quick. 490 00:39:07,240 --> 00:39:13,120 It's Tandem youth ministry. Everybody say TYM, Tandem youth 491 00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:17,480 ministry, Tandem youth ministry. You guys have the location, you 492 00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:19,640 have the location. Another church down the street, 493 00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:22,120 they have the money, they have the bag. 494 00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:25,560 Another church down the street, they have the students, but they 495 00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:28,080 don't have the location and they don't have the bag. 496 00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:33,760 Imagine if we all come together to reach the next generation. 497 00:39:34,720 --> 00:39:37,240 What a time. I'm a musician. 498 00:39:37,240 --> 00:39:42,040 Don't make me get on that organ. What a time, what a time, what a 499 00:39:42,040 --> 00:39:47,040 time, TYM, Who cares who gets the credit? 500 00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:50,800 Everybody said who cares who gets the credit? 501 00:39:52,080 --> 00:39:54,800 There's students that are struggling. 502 00:39:55,240 --> 00:39:59,560 They are in a burning building and it is on fire, I'm telling 503 00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:01,200 you, and it's about to come down. 504 00:40:01,720 --> 00:40:04,320 We got to get them out of the burning building before it comes 505 00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:06,680 down. We don't want to read the 506 00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:11,880 newspaper no more. Anymore with suicide, fight, 507 00:40:12,160 --> 00:40:15,000 shooting, Amen. We can stop this. 508 00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:20,600 We can intercept this. That's right, Drop the ego and 509 00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:25,280 save a life. Get the song, Drop the ego and 510 00:40:25,280 --> 00:40:28,480 save the save a life. Amen, Amen, Amen. 511 00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:32,880 That's why we don't partner pastor, because we want all the 512 00:40:32,880 --> 00:40:35,600 credit. We don't want nobody else to 513 00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:41,320 join us because we want all the credit, Amen, But not this 514 00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:43,440 church, Amen. We're going to lead the way, 515 00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:44,760 Amen. We're leading the way, leading 516 00:40:44,760 --> 00:40:50,720 the way. So so he he didn't ask me to say 517 00:40:50,720 --> 00:40:52,080 this. So you guys trust what your 518 00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:55,840 pastor is doing with these partnerships in these 519 00:40:56,040 --> 00:41:01,240 out-of-the-box things to reach the community, Amen, Amen. 520 00:41:01,760 --> 00:41:04,480 We can, we can, we can, we can have trends. 521 00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:08,560 Say this with me everybody say trends that don't that. 522 00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:12,440 Don't. Bend, a lot of trends are going 523 00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:14,480 to come from this man, man of God. 524 00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:20,600 But you can trendy and not bendy, not bendy because it's 525 00:41:20,600 --> 00:41:23,960 all about the word Amen. But trends for sure. 526 00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:32,480 Trends that don't bend right. And I appreciate all that you 527 00:41:32,480 --> 00:41:39,200 say. How many stellar awards you 528 00:41:39,240 --> 00:41:40,840 have? 2. 529 00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:43,400 Hold on. Put it to me. 530 00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:45,600 Put put, put. We, we, we have two. 531 00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:48,960 Yes, we have two. Amen. 532 00:41:49,320 --> 00:41:54,240 We have two stellar awards, Stellar awards. 533 00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:57,320 I I used to do radio. I did radio for a number of 534 00:41:57,320 --> 00:41:58,400 years. I don't know if you remember 535 00:41:58,400 --> 00:42:01,120 those, those things back in bed, Gospel bat radio. 536 00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:03,680 Sean, man, you all all of that. Yeah, that's right. 537 00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:07,080 Yeah, something Spartanburg. Street and now we're doing 538 00:42:07,080 --> 00:42:08,080 podcast. Now we don't. 539 00:42:08,080 --> 00:42:09,520 Podcast this is this is next level. 540 00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:18,080 Stellar wards I know small accomplishments of course 541 00:42:18,160 --> 00:42:27,400 immediately you said we and that we is inclusive course of your 542 00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:31,320 life. Honest to God, truth is is real. 543 00:42:31,320 --> 00:42:33,000 I should have her up here as well. 544 00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:34,760 I don't know because it's Father's Day. 545 00:42:34,760 --> 00:42:38,160 I just asked you to come up here because you move as one. 546 00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:39,960 Mother's Day was last month is our time. 547 00:42:42,440 --> 00:42:45,520 They travel together like the the, the vlog, all of it's 548 00:42:45,520 --> 00:42:46,280 beautiful. Love it. 549 00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:50,920 We and then also our team, you know, I could, I could, I could 550 00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:57,240 name the Miss Rita's, I could name the Miss Kathy's, the Josh, 551 00:42:57,800 --> 00:43:01,680 the, the incredible musicians because normally kids choirs 552 00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:06,200 don't have the best music. But we, we, we got a, we got a 553 00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:08,960 nice band at times in production. 554 00:43:09,360 --> 00:43:15,200 And so, so when I say we, it is, it's a lot of us. 555 00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:18,120 It's a lot of us. I said that because I wanted you 556 00:43:18,120 --> 00:43:22,440 to really dig into that. The accomplishment that we're 557 00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:27,680 trying to chase for building our children has a lot of people 558 00:43:27,680 --> 00:43:31,360 that standing behind, pushing, putting together. 559 00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:38,800 And when you start looking at the list of who's in the life of 560 00:43:38,800 --> 00:43:45,840 your child, who's in the life of your youth ministry, I think it 561 00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:53,280 requires some mind mapping, mind mappings take idea and you start 562 00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:55,120 just breaking it all the way down. 563 00:43:55,400 --> 00:43:58,640 This is connected to this, this is connected to this and it 564 00:43:58,640 --> 00:44:02,000 yields this. It's going to produce this that 565 00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:08,960 if if I want my child to be you ready more than that NFL star, 566 00:44:10,240 --> 00:44:13,640 more than an NBA player, which they already have slow chance, 567 00:44:13,640 --> 00:44:17,680 slow, slow odds of being. But I but I want them to be that 568 00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:24,760 narrow side scientist, the music producer that I've got to map 569 00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:29,560 out the team. That's what you're saying and 570 00:44:29,560 --> 00:44:35,720 mapping out the team means being involved in my church because 571 00:44:35,720 --> 00:44:39,120 being involved in my church means that community. 572 00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:44,880 Then it's filled with other key components and players so that 573 00:44:44,880 --> 00:44:48,760 my my child isn't just always provoked to wrath, but they're 574 00:44:48,760 --> 00:44:52,440 brought up in the admonition of the Lord, the Lord's plan. 575 00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:56,200 I'd use some other words to talk about the the Spirit of the 576 00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:58,640 Lord, but now what's about the plan of the Lord? 577 00:45:00,600 --> 00:45:03,640 Because that mind's got to eventually have the mind of 578 00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:07,120 Christ. This is my last deep and 579 00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:10,240 revelatory point, and I'm going to let you have all the good 580 00:45:10,240 --> 00:45:13,520 stuff for real. Is that the mind of Christ is so 581 00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:20,960 complex. Everything you see came out the 582 00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:23,960 mind of God. I want you to look around real 583 00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:28,000 quick. Everything you see is a thought, 584 00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:34,360 even yourself is a thought. Amen. 585 00:45:41,180 --> 00:45:43,220 That that is avowed in and of itself to me. 586 00:45:44,300 --> 00:45:48,940 It's a thought that God that gives to me and you to help 587 00:45:48,940 --> 00:45:51,500 unlock each other so that we can expand the thought of God. 588 00:45:51,500 --> 00:45:55,740 They're not going to go there so that we can create, be an 589 00:45:55,740 --> 00:45:59,740 accomplished seller. Awards, Grammys, countless 590 00:45:59,740 --> 00:46:09,240 awards as I close for real what? What do I do when I feel like I 591 00:46:09,240 --> 00:46:13,800 don't know where to start? As the parent, as the church? 592 00:46:15,040 --> 00:46:19,920 How do I get started? Because I've got I got this 593 00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:23,440 child in development or from this church. 594 00:46:23,440 --> 00:46:27,440 I have no youth. Where's my starting point? 595 00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:34,040 Again, 20 seconds ago he just dropped the bomb. 596 00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:38,040 Did y'all just hear that? He said we are here because of a 597 00:46:38,040 --> 00:46:39,000 thought. Amen. 598 00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:41,600 Everybody look around real quick. 599 00:46:41,880 --> 00:46:44,240 I don't want to get in trouble. I want to answer that question 600 00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:48,640 but I have books. I have books for those questions 601 00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:51,320 and so everybody goes home today with a book. 602 00:46:51,320 --> 00:46:58,760 Of course it cost, but you just said, I mean, you just looked at 603 00:46:58,760 --> 00:47:01,280 something about that that is very important. 604 00:47:01,640 --> 00:47:05,840 Did you guys know that this month is men's health month? 605 00:47:07,240 --> 00:47:10,080 It's it's mental health month. Amen. 606 00:47:10,600 --> 00:47:14,160 Everybody say mental health, mental health and, and again, I 607 00:47:14,160 --> 00:47:16,120 know we're doing this a lot today, but look at somebody. 608 00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:20,280 I think this is a secret to really, really changing the 609 00:47:20,280 --> 00:47:22,680 world. We got to pay attention to each 610 00:47:22,680 --> 00:47:25,200 other. And so perhaps if we if, if it's 611 00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:28,360 just not routine and just we're just doing it out of tradition. 612 00:47:29,040 --> 00:47:32,760 When you look at somebody in church, really look at them. 613 00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:40,080 Hey, man, mental health, because mental health is you can't touch 614 00:47:40,080 --> 00:47:41,960 it. I mean, you see what I'm 615 00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:43,840 wearing. I hope I did OK for you guys. 616 00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:48,200 Am I did All right? You know, you can, you can. 617 00:47:48,240 --> 00:47:49,880 How did I do, fellas? How did I do? 618 00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:51,560 Young men? Did I I'm OK. 619 00:47:51,640 --> 00:47:55,720 I usually wear a hat. You can see that you can feel 620 00:47:55,720 --> 00:47:58,440 this, But mental health is metaphysical. 621 00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:02,680 Amen. And so look at somebody say, are 622 00:48:02,680 --> 00:48:06,800 you OK? You know, I mean, if it's a fake 623 00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:09,160 smile, say we need to talk after service. 624 00:48:09,680 --> 00:48:12,920 We're going to, we're going to, we're going to, we're going to a 625 00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:15,760 restaurant, we're going to talk. We're going to figure out what's 626 00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:21,480 going on in your head and you and you're lifting thoughts and 627 00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:27,320 you're lifting how God uses words, which are metaphysical 628 00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:30,560 and words have power, which you just lifted. 629 00:48:30,680 --> 00:48:34,840 And so just take a, just take just 20 seconds in and speak 630 00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:38,200 something in the atmosphere and change the atmosphere, change 631 00:48:38,200 --> 00:48:40,720 your spirit. Go to somebody and say 632 00:48:40,720 --> 00:48:42,640 something. If you want to say something, 633 00:48:43,440 --> 00:48:45,680 you don't even have to give them a $20 bill. 634 00:48:45,680 --> 00:48:48,080 You could give them something that they can't feel, but they 635 00:48:48,080 --> 00:48:50,400 can feel. Come on, do it right now. 636 00:48:50,400 --> 00:48:52,600 Change your atmosphere, change your spirit. 637 00:48:53,160 --> 00:48:56,560 Change this church. Change the trajectory of this 638 00:48:56,560 --> 00:48:59,800 church in the next 20 seconds. Come on, lift up something in 639 00:48:59,800 --> 00:49:03,400 the atmosphere with words. I will be successful. 640 00:49:03,960 --> 00:49:08,040 I am going to live my best life the rest of my days. 641 00:49:08,400 --> 00:49:11,360 I am going to make it. I am going to pay my bills. 642 00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:15,480 I am going to graduate. I am not crazy. 643 00:49:15,600 --> 00:49:19,720 I am going to have peace. Come on, say it. close mouth. 644 00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:22,960 Don't get fed. Say it. 645 00:49:24,040 --> 00:49:26,480 Say something. If you don't know what to say, 646 00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:32,880 turn it into a praise. Give God praise, worship words. 647 00:49:32,880 --> 00:49:39,880 I'm here for you. Yes, I'm here for you. 648 00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:44,440 Come on, lift it up. Look at a family member and say, 649 00:49:44,440 --> 00:49:46,680 I got your back. And you just may. 650 00:49:47,200 --> 00:49:48,880 Look at the smile that comes on their face. 651 00:49:48,880 --> 00:49:51,360 Look at somebody say I got your back, I got your back. 652 00:49:53,120 --> 00:49:58,640 Look how this room is changing. Hope deferred makes the heart 653 00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:03,680 sick. But words, prayer words is 654 00:50:03,680 --> 00:50:05,720 metaphysical. It can really, really change a 655 00:50:05,760 --> 00:50:07,680 thought. I mean, you're saying thought. 656 00:50:07,680 --> 00:50:13,400 That's why Jesus wants us to think you started this. 657 00:50:14,320 --> 00:50:17,400 There's a scripture that's that Jesus said, and I'll end with 658 00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:25,040 this because it's Father's Day. Jesus said in Matthew, knowing 659 00:50:25,760 --> 00:50:34,680 their thoughts, He said why? If I say why? 660 00:50:35,920 --> 00:50:39,720 Jesus said knowing their thoughts, He was he was talking 661 00:50:39,720 --> 00:50:41,680 about a group of people. He knew their thoughts. 662 00:50:41,800 --> 00:50:44,360 Everybody say God knows everybody say God. 663 00:50:44,360 --> 00:50:47,920 I think it's in Matthew 94, Matthew Chapter 9 verse 4. 664 00:50:48,240 --> 00:50:50,320 Knowing their thoughts, He said, why? 665 00:50:50,360 --> 00:50:56,840 Everybody say why when Jesus asked a question, is he asking 666 00:50:56,840 --> 00:51:02,720 that question for us or for him? Well, Mama, say who? 667 00:51:03,160 --> 00:51:09,240 Who made this mess? And it's only you and Mama who 668 00:51:09,240 --> 00:51:17,640 is she asking that question for? Jesus said, why do you entertain 669 00:51:18,640 --> 00:51:22,480 evil thoughts in your in your heart? 670 00:51:24,240 --> 00:51:28,760 Why do you entertain evil thoughts in your heart? 671 00:51:30,680 --> 00:51:33,520 There's like a head thinking and there's a heart thinking. 672 00:51:34,000 --> 00:51:37,240 If you think about something negative too much, it eventually 673 00:51:38,440 --> 00:51:42,280 settle in your heart. So what I really wanted to end 674 00:51:42,280 --> 00:51:48,600 with is Jesus wants us to think about our thinking. 675 00:51:50,360 --> 00:51:56,600 Speaking of prefrontal cortex, Matthew 9/4 is medic. 676 00:51:56,640 --> 00:51:58,280 Write this down. Metacognition. 677 00:51:59,120 --> 00:52:03,200 Metacognition is basically thinking about your thinking. 678 00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:06,520 Very simple, not deep. It's putting your own thoughts 679 00:52:06,560 --> 00:52:10,320 under a surveillance camera and playing it back like you got the 680 00:52:10,320 --> 00:52:13,160 Ring camera. You say, oh, what you're doing 681 00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:15,160 at my house. You ever had to do that, talk to 682 00:52:15,160 --> 00:52:19,080 someone on your Ring camera. But you, you looked at, you 683 00:52:19,080 --> 00:52:23,920 looked at what was on the what think about your thinking. 684 00:52:25,320 --> 00:52:28,880 Play it back. Why do you entertain evil 685 00:52:28,880 --> 00:52:33,440 thoughts in your heart? Let's think more, Amen. 686 00:52:33,880 --> 00:52:40,080 The mind of Christ, the mind of think, think, think, think, 687 00:52:40,440 --> 00:52:42,920 think. So if you want to know how to 688 00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:47,800 transform your youth ministry, get get the book Call Me and go 689 00:52:47,800 --> 00:52:49,520 to the website, our YouTube channel. 690 00:52:51,160 --> 00:52:55,680 But in this church, your pastor, he has a vision, Amen. 691 00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:59,600 Amen. Without a vision, my people do 692 00:52:59,600 --> 00:53:04,720 it. Parish or cast off restraints is 693 00:53:04,720 --> 00:53:07,960 1 translation. Parish or cast off restraints. 694 00:53:08,480 --> 00:53:10,200 Man, I'm I'm enjoying this time with you. 695 00:53:10,920 --> 00:53:12,840 I've enjoyed this time with you. I don't know if that's my 696 00:53:12,840 --> 00:53:14,680 clothes or I'm yielding to you, but. 697 00:53:18,400 --> 00:53:20,920 Thank you. And it actually went exactly 698 00:53:20,920 --> 00:53:23,640 where I I was hoping to go last year. 699 00:53:23,840 --> 00:53:28,480 I was on a on a men's panel, but a lot of great leaders from our 700 00:53:28,720 --> 00:53:34,920 our region and I'm in the closing words was Pastor Dogan 701 00:53:35,040 --> 00:53:37,520 pastor shot the great Pastor Sean Duncan of the Long Branch 702 00:53:37,520 --> 00:53:40,760 Baptist Church and he says pass along. 703 00:53:42,360 --> 00:53:47,800 He says says our boys and our men need to think more. 704 00:53:50,440 --> 00:53:55,960 And that has been sitting with me for the past year that we 705 00:53:55,960 --> 00:54:01,800 are, we've got to continue to develop our brains and get out 706 00:54:01,800 --> 00:54:06,920 of that that teenage mind as adults, as adults and to think, 707 00:54:08,120 --> 00:54:15,280 think it all the way through. So as I close, please don't call 708 00:54:15,280 --> 00:54:18,240 your child a king. And they're not a king. 709 00:54:18,840 --> 00:54:21,120 Don't, don't give them a label before they've earned it. 710 00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:24,880 Don't give them a title. Titles come with responsibility. 711 00:54:26,240 --> 00:54:30,080 And when you call them the man of the house and there's still a 712 00:54:30,080 --> 00:54:33,720 boy, not gonna be the girl, she's the Princess, not the 713 00:54:33,720 --> 00:54:35,600 queen. Because there's there's 714 00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:37,040 responsibility with being a queen. 715 00:54:38,400 --> 00:54:40,400 I don't know if you've ever played chess, but the most 716 00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:45,760 powerful piece on on the chess board is not the king, it's the 717 00:54:45,760 --> 00:54:48,960 queen. The most coveted piece on the 718 00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:53,200 chess board is the king. It's a difference. 719 00:54:53,600 --> 00:54:57,880 Everybody wants to be coveted as the king, but they don't 720 00:54:57,880 --> 00:55:00,360 understand the responsibility of the queen. 721 00:55:01,000 --> 00:55:03,920 So before they become all those things, allow them to go through 722 00:55:03,920 --> 00:55:07,720 the process. We're going to make mistakes as 723 00:55:07,720 --> 00:55:10,160 adults, as pastors, as leaders, as community leaders. 724 00:55:10,160 --> 00:55:15,360 We're going to make mistakes, but we got to own them quickly. 725 00:55:16,240 --> 00:55:18,520 We can't. We can't just kind of like put 726 00:55:18,520 --> 00:55:21,040 underneath the rug. We got to be honest with our 727 00:55:21,040 --> 00:55:23,920 kids. I messed up. 728 00:55:26,200 --> 00:55:30,280 My consequence was wrong. The way I attacked it was wrong. 729 00:55:31,640 --> 00:55:33,720 That's the only way we're going to, and I don't want to use that 730 00:55:33,720 --> 00:55:42,320 word save, but help develop our next generation because youth 731 00:55:42,320 --> 00:55:45,520 voice is important. I'm going to leave with that. 732 00:55:46,760 --> 00:55:51,320 Your child's voice is important. It's our responsibility as a 733 00:55:51,320 --> 00:55:55,680 collective to help shape the volume, the tenor, the tone of 734 00:55:55,680 --> 00:55:58,200 the voice. But the voice is important 735 00:55:59,360 --> 00:56:01,880 because God has charged us to shoot them as arrows. 736 00:56:02,800 --> 00:56:06,280 There are arrows again, thank you so much. 737 00:56:06,360 --> 00:56:10,600 I, I, I can't say this enough how much I Revere the innocence 738 00:56:10,600 --> 00:56:13,840 altogether that our, our city does not. 739 00:56:14,600 --> 00:56:17,680 I'm sorry our region does not send and give you guys enough 740 00:56:17,720 --> 00:56:24,200 honor because of the pioneering work that you do, literally that 741 00:56:24,200 --> 00:56:29,160 you guys forge pathways, countless churches. 742 00:56:29,160 --> 00:56:33,280 You guys are working with countless churches that that you 743 00:56:33,280 --> 00:56:40,880 took from from zero and five to 25 to 50 youth and that's 50 744 00:56:40,880 --> 00:56:43,840 youth becomes a strong church, eventually becomes a strong 745 00:56:43,840 --> 00:56:49,000 community. It makes our world better, and I 746 00:56:49,000 --> 00:56:56,840 am indebted greatly to your family for the gift that you are 747 00:56:56,880 --> 00:56:59,760 not just to me as an individual, to our church. 748 00:57:00,480 --> 00:57:02,120 You've been in our church so many times. 749 00:57:02,200 --> 00:57:05,400 Nobody knew you were here. Thank you. 750 00:57:05,840 --> 00:57:07,560 Thank you one more time. Can you guys put your hands 751 00:57:07,560 --> 00:57:16,440 together? Thank you for tuning in to the 752 00:57:16,440 --> 00:57:18,800 Rock Hill Baptist Church 2 Podcast. 753 00:57:19,520 --> 00:57:22,480 We pray today's message planted something in your spirit and 754 00:57:22,480 --> 00:57:25,960 gave you the strength to keep growing here at the Rock Hill 755 00:57:25,960 --> 00:57:29,120 Baptist Church 2. We're a growing church, and 756 00:57:29,120 --> 00:57:32,560 growth starts with one step. If you're ready to go deeper, 757 00:57:32,760 --> 00:57:39,000 visit us online at www.myrockhill2.org and click 758 00:57:39,000 --> 00:57:42,960 Next Steps to get connected, join a ministry, or give your 759 00:57:42,960 --> 00:57:46,560 life to Christ. Be sure to follow the podcast so 760 00:57:46,560 --> 00:57:50,000 you never miss a message and share this episode with someone 761 00:57:50,000 --> 00:57:53,480 you know is ready to grow too. And remember, no matter what 762 00:57:53,480 --> 00:57:56,320 comes your way, you were built to elevate. 763 00:57:57,000 --> 00:58:01,160 Until next time, walk in purpose, live in power, and grow 764 00:58:01,160 --> 00:58:02,080 in grace.