1 00:00:00,880 --> 00:00:02,080 All right, it's called black sheep. 2 00:00:02,960 --> 00:00:07,440 I'm going to break it into three things because all good things 3 00:00:07,440 --> 00:00:09,920 come in three. As my grandmother used to say. 4 00:00:11,640 --> 00:00:14,720 Black sheep is obviously a British term, an English term. 5 00:00:14,840 --> 00:00:17,720 I think it carries abroad who's and Aussie knows what a black 6 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:20,800 sheep is. I asked the German guy yesterday 7 00:00:20,800 --> 00:00:23,320 and he understood it as well. So the black sheep is what I've 8 00:00:23,320 --> 00:00:28,960 always been called in my family. I'm Welsh, so that's a nice 9 00:00:29,480 --> 00:00:33,320 erotic image, but but my sister's the good one. 10 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:37,240 My sister's very good. She's a great mother, married 11 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:43,280 her childhood sweetheart. And she says half jokingly, I 12 00:00:43,280 --> 00:00:45,560 think she says, Tom, you know, you're the, you're the black 13 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:48,240 sheep. And she, she tries to get me to 14 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:50,280 settle down and, you know, do the right thing. 15 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:51,920 And that's fine. I don't blame her for it. 16 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:53,080 But that's where the term comes from. 17 00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:57,640 So I've, I've always been a bit of a black sheep, not doing what 18 00:00:57,640 --> 00:01:03,800 I should, not going down the career path that I should based 19 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:07,320 on what I studied, not doing the right thing in terms of my 20 00:01:07,320 --> 00:01:11,240 school teaching, not in a dodgy way, but my teaching 21 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:12,920 methodologies were always quite bizarre. 22 00:01:13,680 --> 00:01:16,680 I was always monitored by senior management. 23 00:01:16,760 --> 00:01:19,200 My results were always good, above average. 24 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:22,240 So they couldn't throw me out, right. 25 00:01:22,240 --> 00:01:25,000 Because Ofsted inspectors, their school inspectors, they like me 26 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:26,080 because the results were very good. 27 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:30,000 But the senior staff didn't like me because I didn't like 28 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:32,640 meetings like this. You know what, it's like a 29 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:34,440 corporate culture. You have to start the day with a 30 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:38,080 meeting and any excuse for a meeting, any excuse for 31 00:01:38,080 --> 00:01:39,800 training. And some people love it because 32 00:01:39,800 --> 00:01:42,880 training is a great chance to relax and eat free biscuits and 33 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:46,320 go on all these courses. Yeah, but it used to really make 34 00:01:46,320 --> 00:01:47,840 me mad. I was never that person. 35 00:01:47,840 --> 00:01:49,280 I just wanted to get on and do it. 36 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:52,160 So when I started day game, I carried that through. 37 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:58,720 I I saw day game as this renegade naughty thing. 38 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:01,240 All right mate, what do you mean? 39 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:04,160 And day game, you are a black sheep, right? 40 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:08,080 Drop drop this idea that day game's going to go mainstream 41 00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:12,320 because it's not cold approach will never go mainstream. 42 00:02:13,120 --> 00:02:15,960 It will never have positive media acceptance. 43 00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:18,600 So stop trying to change people's minds, right? 44 00:02:19,080 --> 00:02:22,440 You are doing something weird. The weird feeling never goes 45 00:02:22,440 --> 00:02:24,040 away. As all the good day game is now. 46 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:26,640 You always feel a bit weird, especially the first one or two 47 00:02:26,640 --> 00:02:27,160 of the day. Yeah. 48 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:30,840 You're not in where people want you to be in. 49 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:33,760 You're not in the pen. Is that what they call it? 50 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:35,240 On the farm? You're not with the flock. 51 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:39,840 You're not with the herd. So how do most guys meet their 52 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:42,200 partners and their wives? You already know. 53 00:02:42,200 --> 00:02:45,400 It's from work. It's from friend of friend. 54 00:02:46,160 --> 00:02:49,120 It's from now online dating. Plenty of fishmatch.com. 55 00:02:49,400 --> 00:02:51,320 It's from Tinder. Lots of Tinder marriages. 56 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:55,280 Yeah, But the moment you tell people that I met this girl in 57 00:02:55,280 --> 00:02:59,800 Sainsbury's or outside Topshop or whatever, they that's not 58 00:02:59,800 --> 00:03:02,240 allowed, right? You're not playing by the rules. 59 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:04,600 So as soon as I discovered Day Game, I thought, this is great. 60 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:07,240 Yeah. It's like playing the casino at 61 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:10,840 their own game legally, and they're working out this little 62 00:03:10,840 --> 00:03:14,160 hustle. So those of us in here that do 63 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:15,720 Day Game, we know that the hustle works. 64 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:19,120 We also know that people think it's weird people look at you 65 00:03:19,120 --> 00:03:20,840 when you do jump in front of girls. 66 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:23,560 That never goes away. People will always stare at you 67 00:03:24,040 --> 00:03:26,720 if you do it like me. In weird places, cafes and bus 68 00:03:26,720 --> 00:03:30,000 stops, they really look at you, right? 69 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:31,960 And women are often looking at you with a smile because they 70 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:34,440 are, you know, secret society, they like it. 71 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:39,080 Men, they don't like it, right? You know, in a nightclub you're 72 00:03:39,080 --> 00:03:40,840 going to get cock blocked. But in the day there's a very 73 00:03:40,840 --> 00:03:45,240 subtle form of cock blocking, which is guys maybe interrupting 74 00:03:45,240 --> 00:03:48,040 the set, asking you for directions, giving you 75 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:51,520 disapproving looks. I've had white night guys coming 76 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:55,760 up to student sets and trying to save the girl, you know, warning 77 00:03:55,760 --> 00:03:57,760 her about this creepy pick up guy. 78 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:02,080 So yeah, it's just a message that you're not going to be 79 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:04,840 accepted. So if you are a day gamer and 80 00:04:04,840 --> 00:04:08,600 you choose this way to meet women, then you're then you're a 81 00:04:08,600 --> 00:04:11,560 pirate, you're a renegade and you have to embrace it. 82 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:14,200 There's that famous saying you can't be half a gangster, right? 83 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:18,519 You can't kind of half do day game and then try and justify it 84 00:04:18,519 --> 00:04:20,680 to people and make it all clean and PC. 85 00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:22,640 You just have to accept that what you're doing is weird. 86 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:24,880 And it's, I'm telling you this because as soon as you accept 87 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:27,880 it, you can get on with it, right? 88 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:31,160 And that spotlight goes away and the anxiety is understandable. 89 00:04:31,360 --> 00:04:34,920 OK. And you, you, you stop trying to 90 00:04:34,920 --> 00:04:38,480 preach and convert to others. So we're also not following the 91 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:40,120 dating rules. Yeah. 92 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:44,080 If you're still reading men's magazines, I hope you're not. 93 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:47,200 But if you're still buying Men's Health and all that stuff, the 94 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:50,240 advice in those magazines is completely contradictory to what 95 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:53,400 those of us who date a lot know to be true. 96 00:04:54,120 --> 00:04:57,320 So again, this, this freaks out people. 97 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:02,000 It it annoys girls when you're not following them all. 98 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:04,560 And you'll get Flack from your parents. 99 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:07,320 You'll get Flack from certainly married friends. 100 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:10,320 You know, there's this moral kind of high horse. 101 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:12,400 Often they don't mean to do it, but they'll say, you know, oh, 102 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:15,160 Tom, this is this is weird. You should, you should do the do 103 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:18,400 the right thing. You know, you should man up as 104 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:20,360 the older I get, the more of those kind of comments I get. 105 00:05:20,360 --> 00:05:22,680 Yeah, Tom, you really need to do the right thing now. 106 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:24,800 You've had your fun, but enough is enough. 107 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:27,200 You know, you need to you need to get back in the pen, right? 108 00:05:27,520 --> 00:05:30,120 Because we're all in the pen and we want you in the pen because 109 00:05:30,280 --> 00:05:32,560 when you're not in the pen, you're not controllable. 110 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:34,760 And that really upsets a lot of people. 111 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:38,280 And you can understand why married men leave angry YouTube 112 00:05:38,280 --> 00:05:39,640 comments. Most of my angry YouTube 113 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:42,640 comments are from married guys. But I'm not going to get married 114 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:45,520 again and I'm not going to have kids this year. 115 00:05:45,520 --> 00:05:49,320 I'm even, you know, probably going to not cut my Dick off, 116 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:53,360 but cut something else just to, just to save me the constant 117 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:56,760 worry about getting a girl pregnant. 118 00:05:56,760 --> 00:05:58,680 But I've decided I'm not going to get married. 119 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:00,640 I'm not having kids. I'm not going to get a mortgage. 120 00:06:01,680 --> 00:06:03,800 I'm not building up some kind of retirement thing. 121 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:07,680 I don't own property and I'm, I'm not living in one city, 122 00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:10,120 right? That really freaks people out, 123 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:12,280 right? Not forget the boyfriend thing 124 00:06:12,280 --> 00:06:15,080 in the art gallery. When you tell somebody that the 125 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:18,160 man next to you on a on a flight or a train or your mum finds out 126 00:06:18,160 --> 00:06:22,640 or the guy at work finds out that you are no way in the 127 00:06:22,640 --> 00:06:25,760 frame, they freak out and you get big opposition. 128 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:29,440 You get a tirade of questions about, you know, being 129 00:06:29,440 --> 00:06:30,880 irresponsible. What are you doing? 130 00:06:30,880 --> 00:06:32,400 You can't do this because we're all here. 131 00:06:32,400 --> 00:06:36,840 So you should be in here. Yeah, Tom, you should do what 132 00:06:36,840 --> 00:06:37,840 everybody else does. Yeah. 133 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:39,280 You should do what the masses do. 134 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:45,600 And you will, like I said, get called sexist. 135 00:06:45,840 --> 00:06:48,240 You will get called a misogynist. 136 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:50,960 If only you could see my inbox every day. 137 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:53,600 It's funny. The more, the more popular you 138 00:06:53,600 --> 00:06:56,240 get in terms of book sales or whatever, people watching on 139 00:06:56,240 --> 00:06:59,360 YouTube, your hate mail exponentially grows. 140 00:06:59,360 --> 00:07:01,800 And this year it's, it's it's got to crazy proportions. 141 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:05,360 Yeah, I love the hate mail, but it's it's always about this. 142 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:08,360 It's always about this. When they see that you're not in 143 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:11,080 the frame, then they come at you, right? 144 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:15,400 Because I'm not being PC, because you know, you're what, 145 00:07:15,400 --> 00:07:17,760 what do they call it online? You're triggering some girls. 146 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:19,720 I don't know. You're not in the safe space. 147 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:23,520 People will come at you. So I've learned to embrace it. 148 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:27,320 That's what I'm saying. Previously, I, I hid pickup. 149 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:29,760 I was ashamed of pickup. I was ashamed of feeling 150 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:32,480 masculine, of going after pretty young girls, right? 151 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:34,120 People will make you feel ashamed. 152 00:07:34,120 --> 00:07:37,000 But it's weird. The moment I accepted it and 153 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:38,920 said, OK, Tom, you can't be half a gangster. 154 00:07:39,480 --> 00:07:41,960 This is it. Day game is not something I do 155 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:43,720 now. Day game is is what I am. 156 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:46,160 This is my lifestyle. This is my chosen thing. 157 00:07:46,880 --> 00:07:49,760 It's become my career. Then I'm all those niggles go 158 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:53,040 away and you stop feeling sorry about being the black sheep and 159 00:07:53,040 --> 00:07:56,600 apologizing to people and the thing goes away about feeling 160 00:07:56,600 --> 00:08:01,120 too old. So now I go after the last free 161 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:04,440 pickup videos I've got for the product are 319 year olds, 162 00:08:04,880 --> 00:08:07,160 right? And last year I'd have been, I'd 163 00:08:07,160 --> 00:08:09,800 have done it, but I wouldn't have gone after purposefully 164 00:08:10,080 --> 00:08:12,680 college girls in New York, London and Poland. 165 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:16,080 But this year I don't feel bad and I'm not apologising. 166 00:08:16,080 --> 00:08:19,040 And I've realised the girl absolutely loves it. 167 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:21,560 All right. So the moment you embrace this 168 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:23,080 as well, you realise this is cool. 169 00:08:23,160 --> 00:08:27,320 OK, All right. So we've really got to learn 170 00:08:27,360 --> 00:08:31,920 about the dynamics of frame because it's it's helpful with 171 00:08:31,920 --> 00:08:33,840 your day game, it's helpful with your texting, it's obviously 172 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:36,480 helpful on dates. But for those of you in here 173 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:40,039 that decide to do the girlfriend thing for a while, temporary, 174 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:44,920 permanent engaged, move in, married babies, you really 175 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:46,640 fucking need to learn frame, Right. 176 00:08:46,880 --> 00:08:48,600 I don't really need to learn much frame because my 177 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:52,040 relationships last a couple of weeks, maybe a month or two. 178 00:08:52,040 --> 00:08:54,120 But you want to do 30 years with a girl? 179 00:08:55,200 --> 00:08:56,000 Alright, get ready. Yeah. 180 00:08:56,240 --> 00:09:02,320 OK, So frame #1 the message is that it's not combat. 181 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:06,160 It's not angry. So what men misunderstand on the 182 00:09:06,160 --> 00:09:11,240 Internet, when men's rights guys are debating with feminists, the 183 00:09:11,240 --> 00:09:14,160 left is debating with the right. Someone's debating with 184 00:09:14,160 --> 00:09:17,320 somebody, Frame for them is a war, all right? 185 00:09:17,320 --> 00:09:20,160 And guys go, OK, I need to, I need to crush this girl. 186 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:23,800 Yeah, she's such a bitch. And I say she's not a bitch, 187 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:27,840 She's just a bitch with you. Shit, because you're, you're 188 00:09:27,840 --> 00:09:30,320 encouraging this combative thing, right? 189 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:33,000 And the more you Rage Against feminists, the more they'll come 190 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:36,120 back at you, all right? And the more you take shit tests 191 00:09:36,120 --> 00:09:39,560 personally, the more they'll grow, the more you'll lose. 192 00:09:39,560 --> 00:09:42,640 OK, so people with masterful frame, can anybody think of 193 00:09:43,920 --> 00:09:46,600 somebody in the spotlight right now who has masterful frame? 194 00:09:46,600 --> 00:09:51,040 Hugh Grant's frame. Hugh Grant's frame is pretty 195 00:09:51,040 --> 00:09:51,360 good. Trump. 196 00:09:52,480 --> 00:09:54,360 Trump is what everybody's talking about at the moment. 197 00:09:54,640 --> 00:09:56,760 We don't need to talk about whether you like him or not, you 198 00:09:56,760 --> 00:09:58,360 agree with him or not. But we we can talk about his 199 00:09:58,360 --> 00:10:01,680 frame. Russell Brown, Brand lost the 200 00:10:01,680 --> 00:10:04,360 frame for a while, didn't he? And now he's, I think, well, he 201 00:10:04,360 --> 00:10:07,520 got, he tried to be political and his frame was fucked up. 202 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:08,760 And now he's vanished for a while. 203 00:10:08,880 --> 00:10:10,560 But I predict with Brand, he'll be back. 204 00:10:11,160 --> 00:10:12,920 You can't keep an alpha male down, right? 205 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:14,360 He's he's going to be fucking good. 206 00:10:15,040 --> 00:10:18,400 But the Katy Perry thing crushed him when he got married. 207 00:10:18,600 --> 00:10:21,920 He, he lost the frame. Somebody like Gordon Ramsay. 208 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:25,080 Yeah. Who did The Apprentice in 209 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:28,880 Britain? Blood sugar and sugar right so 210 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:31,920 you can watch reruns just watch the bit in the boardroom don't 211 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:35,720 watch the staged trials but watch Alan Sugar dealing with 212 00:10:35,720 --> 00:10:39,840 shit tests from weak men and weird girls yeah watch Trump in 213 00:10:39,840 --> 00:10:42,680 the boardroom watch press conferences, watch people with 214 00:10:42,680 --> 00:10:44,680 good frame. So if you're a day gamer, you 215 00:10:44,680 --> 00:10:50,880 know how to pass a shit test. Who would like to contribute to 216 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:54,120 how to pass a shit test? What are the 2 main PUA methods 217 00:10:54,120 --> 00:10:56,400 we're? Not clear enough of fight and 218 00:10:56,560 --> 00:10:59,320 what affected. Yep, agree and amplify and 219 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:00,880 unaffected. So you have to remember those 220 00:11:00,880 --> 00:11:04,600 two strategies for life, right? So if a girl comes at you or 221 00:11:05,280 --> 00:11:08,800 like I get some journalists come at you, you get an e-mail like 222 00:11:08,920 --> 00:11:12,480 baiting me to reply, asking me to appear on Channel 4, right? 223 00:11:12,480 --> 00:11:15,160 They're really baiting it. And they they're the wolf in 224 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:17,480 sheep's clothing, which we'll talk about later. 225 00:11:17,480 --> 00:11:22,600 But you think, OK, non reactive. So that's usually my strategy. 226 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:26,560 Number one, I don't reply to the e-mail, delete, don't even reply 227 00:11:26,560 --> 00:11:29,720 because as soon as you engage in debate, as you know, with 228 00:11:29,720 --> 00:11:34,320 children or sometimes angry girls, they're in, Right. 229 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:36,080 So then you've got to be ready for combat. 230 00:11:36,360 --> 00:11:39,280 So by simply ignoring it, which is a great club strategy, you 231 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:41,040 know, she says, oh, you got such a gay shirt. 232 00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:43,480 You smile, you turn away. Yeah. 233 00:11:44,600 --> 00:11:46,760 Can't always do it, though. You can't just keep ignoring 234 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:48,640 shit tests on the street, especially not on a date, 235 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:50,880 because she'll ask you what's wrong with you. 236 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:52,400 Yes. So the second strategy, which 237 00:11:52,400 --> 00:11:56,280 Puas love, we should know it, agree and amplify. 238 00:11:57,440 --> 00:12:02,760 And that just means a smile. Make a joke out of it, parody 239 00:12:02,760 --> 00:12:05,520 it, agree ridiculously. OK, so we're going to practice 240 00:12:05,520 --> 00:12:11,360 some of that in a minute. And guys forget that it's not 241 00:12:11,360 --> 00:12:18,040 just the girl trying to take the frame off us, the girl, the girl 242 00:12:18,040 --> 00:12:19,640 is saying, come on, jump through my hoop. 243 00:12:19,680 --> 00:12:23,280 You can think of this as a hoop. You know, any shit test from 244 00:12:23,280 --> 00:12:25,840 anybody, but today we're thinking about girls. 245 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:29,240 So when she says you're too old for me or do you talk? 246 00:12:29,320 --> 00:12:32,120 Do you do this all the time? She's basically saying, come on, 247 00:12:32,520 --> 00:12:35,520 jump through my hoop. So when a Channel 4 reporter 248 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:41,320 says to me, you know, do you believe in, Do you feel 249 00:12:41,320 --> 00:12:43,560 threatened by powerful women? They often say that to me. 250 00:12:44,080 --> 00:12:46,240 Do you feel threatened, Tom, by powerful women? 251 00:12:47,760 --> 00:12:48,600 That's what they're doing. Yeah. 252 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:54,040 So I often don't jump from it. Jump through it. 253 00:12:54,040 --> 00:12:58,800 But don't forget guys forget that I can also make her jump 254 00:12:58,800 --> 00:13:02,040 through my hoop. So frame control with girls is 255 00:13:02,040 --> 00:13:03,760 called. Anybody know? 256 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:08,760 Congruence. Test, it's a test of congruence, 257 00:13:08,800 --> 00:13:12,400 but you are qualifying, right? So when I say to you, how tall 258 00:13:12,400 --> 00:13:14,160 are you? What's it? 259 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:19,840 There you go, I qualified you. So my little strategy is also 260 00:13:20,560 --> 00:13:22,840 the politician strategy. So when they asked me to jump 261 00:13:22,840 --> 00:13:26,200 through their hoop, I say, no, no, you jump through my hoop, 262 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:28,960 right? So you deflect and qualify. 263 00:13:28,960 --> 00:13:30,880 So we're going to do a lot of qualifying with each other. 264 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:32,200 And it's a very, very powerful strategy. 265 00:13:32,200 --> 00:13:33,600 Women love to jump through your hoop. 266 00:13:34,000 --> 00:13:37,040 Women, the famous saying says, don't really want to hold the 267 00:13:37,040 --> 00:13:40,560 frame, right? She snatches it off you like a 268 00:13:40,560 --> 00:13:42,800 little kid, and she's waiting for you to snatch it back. 269 00:13:43,200 --> 00:13:46,160 And if you've got kids or you're a teacher, you've been a 270 00:13:46,160 --> 00:13:51,200 teacher, You'll know that they secretly want you to have the 271 00:13:51,200 --> 00:13:53,240 frame. They're pushing your frame just 272 00:13:53,240 --> 00:13:55,760 to see if you're a man or a mouse, but they really want you 273 00:13:55,760 --> 00:13:58,000 to take it back. So there's a delight in getting 274 00:13:58,000 --> 00:13:59,920 girls to qualify. There's a delight in passing 275 00:13:59,920 --> 00:14:02,200 shit tests. OK, let's start with a girl 276 00:14:02,200 --> 00:14:05,240 first. So I'm the girl and I'm holding 277 00:14:05,240 --> 00:14:07,960 the frame. I'm on the street. 278 00:14:08,080 --> 00:14:11,400 You've just run up to me. What are some of the classic 279 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:16,560 things that a girl says to basically say, come on, justify 280 00:14:16,560 --> 00:14:19,000 yourself, Jump through my hoop. What shit test do you get on the 281 00:14:19,000 --> 00:14:19,840 street? Do you? 282 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:21,360 Always do this with girls on the street. 283 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:22,760 Yeah. OK. 284 00:14:22,800 --> 00:14:25,960 So I'm saying to you, do you always do this? 285 00:14:26,120 --> 00:14:27,320 And what would the good response be? 286 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:29,960 How can you take the frame off me? 287 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:34,960 My usual response is yeah, about 6 times a day. 288 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:37,200 Three times. A day so that's agree and 289 00:14:37,200 --> 00:14:42,400 amplify yeah who uses that one? Do you always chat up girls or 290 00:14:42,440 --> 00:14:44,040 how many girls have you spoken to today? 291 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:49,880 A lot of day gamers go 364. Your number 365, That's a green 292 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:53,840 amplifier. Anybody know a different way to 293 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:56,720 deal with that shit test? What do you use for that? 294 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:58,560 When she accuses you of being a player? 295 00:15:00,680 --> 00:15:04,440 I just say like life is short to see a girl. 296 00:15:04,440 --> 00:15:08,080 I'll go and say hello. Yep, Yep. 297 00:15:08,160 --> 00:15:12,480 So that's non reactive. That's the one I use. 298 00:15:12,480 --> 00:15:15,480 So the girl says to me, do you do this a lot? 299 00:15:15,480 --> 00:15:17,160 Do you always go up and talk to girls? 300 00:15:17,800 --> 00:15:20,280 And I actually ask her to jump through my hoop. 301 00:15:20,280 --> 00:15:23,680 So I say, listen, life's very short. 302 00:15:24,440 --> 00:15:27,400 When you see something you want, you should go for it. 303 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:30,440 Don't you agree? And girls always go. 304 00:15:30,520 --> 00:15:33,320 Yes, in front of you. And I say, yeah, good. 305 00:15:33,320 --> 00:15:34,720 I like that about you. That's good. 306 00:15:35,040 --> 00:15:38,520 OK, So you win the frame. What's another shit test you get 307 00:15:38,520 --> 00:15:39,560 on the street? Come on, deguimans. 308 00:15:39,560 --> 00:15:41,440 I've got a boyfriend. I've got a boyfriend. 309 00:15:41,440 --> 00:15:44,080 Yeah, It's a it's a pretty scary frame when you get that one. 310 00:15:44,160 --> 00:15:47,880 Freaks all my students out 100%. So the interaction's been really 311 00:15:47,880 --> 00:15:49,360 good, you say? Listen, I'd love to take you 312 00:15:49,400 --> 00:15:51,400 out. I have a boyfriend. 313 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:52,640 She's going. Come on. 314 00:15:52,640 --> 00:15:54,560 Doesn't matter. Come out with me anyway. 315 00:15:54,560 --> 00:15:55,640 Oh, that's fucking alpha. That's good. 316 00:15:56,640 --> 00:16:00,040 Be wary of smashing the frame completely, RSD style. 317 00:16:00,040 --> 00:16:02,120 Keep. Your company when we're not. 318 00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:07,040 Together, agree and amplify. He can pull the T, He can take 319 00:16:07,040 --> 00:16:08,160 you to church. That's nice. 320 00:16:08,840 --> 00:16:10,560 He can keep us. He can keep you company. 321 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:14,480 When I'm not there, I say I don't want to be your boyfriend. 322 00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:17,720 Anybody got another one for I've Got a boyfriend? 323 00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:21,200 I have a dog. I have a dog. 324 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:23,040 Yeah. So that's almost non reactive. 325 00:16:23,520 --> 00:16:25,360 You say That's nice. That's nice. 326 00:16:25,600 --> 00:16:27,640 I have fish. Anyway, listen, another time. 327 00:16:27,680 --> 00:16:30,040 I love to da, da, da, da, da da. And you'll be shocked if you 328 00:16:30,040 --> 00:16:32,000 haven't tried it. You'll be shocked that you get 329 00:16:32,920 --> 00:16:35,240 50% of girls giving you the details. 330 00:16:35,640 --> 00:16:36,880 Obviously they don't all come out with you. 331 00:16:36,880 --> 00:16:39,320 Depends on how committed they are and what stage of the 332 00:16:39,320 --> 00:16:40,840 relationship really is. OK. 333 00:16:41,040 --> 00:16:43,320 If she's engaged, it's pretty hard. 334 00:16:44,160 --> 00:16:46,680 Sad statistic that I never really put on YouTube. 335 00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:51,200 I'll probably cut this bit out. Is that more than 50% of the 336 00:16:51,200 --> 00:16:54,360 girls I've laid in five years I've had a boyfriend. 337 00:16:55,240 --> 00:16:58,760 And if she says she's married, you stand almost double the 338 00:16:58,760 --> 00:17:03,520 chance of fucking up. Don't tell that to your friend, 339 00:17:03,520 --> 00:17:04,319 right? It'll make him cry. 340 00:17:06,440 --> 00:17:08,440 This is stuff that society doesn't want to know again. 341 00:17:08,440 --> 00:17:10,720 So if you say this in public, you're going to get a lot of 342 00:17:10,720 --> 00:17:12,920 Flack. I can say it because I don't 343 00:17:12,920 --> 00:17:14,200 have a job. But if you say it, you'll lose 344 00:17:14,200 --> 00:17:17,319 your job, right? I'll see you on Sky News 345 00:17:17,319 --> 00:17:20,400 tomorrow and you'll have lost your job because the moment you 346 00:17:20,400 --> 00:17:22,200 air that in your office, you'll be fired. 347 00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:26,119 Sexist pig, right? I'm just saying don't shoot the 348 00:17:26,119 --> 00:17:28,520 messenger. These are statistics from five 349 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:31,200 years of talking to girls. I'm telling you the truth. 350 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:37,000 All right, OK, I'll give you some shit tests. 351 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:39,880 You might get these on the date. OK, she says. 352 00:17:41,400 --> 00:17:43,720 She says to you, why are you single? 353 00:17:44,280 --> 00:17:47,440 Why aren't you married? Tommy, you're 36 and you're not 354 00:17:47,440 --> 00:17:49,120 married. What the hell is wrong with you? 355 00:17:49,120 --> 00:17:51,160 Why aren't you married? What would you say? 356 00:17:51,160 --> 00:17:52,320 Oh. Girls. 357 00:17:53,120 --> 00:17:55,680 Are trouble good? Agree and amplify ball and 358 00:17:55,720 --> 00:17:57,480 chain. What would I want one of those 359 00:17:57,480 --> 00:17:59,560 for? Whereas you can just laugh it 360 00:17:59,560 --> 00:18:01,880 off, make a joke. Proper alpha male didn't even 361 00:18:01,880 --> 00:18:03,760 listen to your question. So she says to me why aren't you 362 00:18:03,760 --> 00:18:07,520 married? I'll say I'm homosexual or I'll 363 00:18:07,520 --> 00:18:10,640 say I'm very choosy. You know, my boyfriend will get 364 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:12,400 lonely. Just just ridiculous. 365 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:15,440 You never, never say why you're really not married, right? 366 00:18:16,720 --> 00:18:17,960 Right. So the worst thing. 367 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:22,720 But this is what 90% of my students that I listen to do. 368 00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:25,160 She says, you just want me for sex, don't you? 369 00:18:25,760 --> 00:18:29,640 She's really baiting him. And he says no, no, no, no, no, 370 00:18:29,640 --> 00:18:31,840 no, no, no. I'm not that kind of guy. 371 00:18:32,000 --> 00:18:35,240 I will treat you well. I just want to hang out, all 372 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:36,880 right? And then you're fucked. 373 00:18:37,320 --> 00:18:38,920 You went straight through that, right? 374 00:18:39,320 --> 00:18:41,480 That's like making an apology as a politician. 375 00:18:42,040 --> 00:18:44,480 You make an apology as a politician next to you, you're 376 00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:47,920 out, right? So your only strategy is to 377 00:18:48,720 --> 00:18:50,080 agree. But agree. 378 00:18:50,080 --> 00:18:54,080 I call it in street hustle. I say play the play the role, 379 00:18:54,080 --> 00:18:56,760 play the caveman. So I say, listen, I'm a very 380 00:18:56,760 --> 00:19:00,200 simple guy, right? You overestimate me, right? 381 00:19:00,440 --> 00:19:03,520 I am ABC. I've just just got one brain. 2 382 00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:05,160 brains, you know? Big Tom. 383 00:19:05,160 --> 00:19:06,360 Little Tom. Or is it Big Tom? 384 00:19:06,360 --> 00:19:09,240 Little Tom? Yeah, I just like steak. 385 00:19:09,240 --> 00:19:11,160 I like sleeping. I like sex. 386 00:19:11,560 --> 00:19:13,320 You know, I've not been listening to anything you've 387 00:19:13,320 --> 00:19:15,120 been saying. Totally distracted. 388 00:19:15,360 --> 00:19:17,880 I'm an awful boyfriend. Just like a rabbit. 389 00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:20,120 Yeah. If we weren't in this bar, I 390 00:19:20,120 --> 00:19:21,080 would just. But anyway. 391 00:19:22,080 --> 00:19:24,080 And she sits there and two girls this year have gone. 392 00:19:24,080 --> 00:19:28,520 You cocky bastard. Yeah, because you've just taking 393 00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:30,640 a frame and she loves it. She secretly loves it. 394 00:19:30,640 --> 00:19:34,320 She goes Oh my God, he didn't collapse on the final frame. 395 00:19:34,320 --> 00:19:38,080 Yeah, OK, even more fun because you probably know that frame 396 00:19:38,080 --> 00:19:42,000 stuff. I've gotten successful in the 397 00:19:42,000 --> 00:19:46,520 last year with the really focusing on my shit testing of 398 00:19:46,520 --> 00:19:48,840 the girl. And it's a lot of fun because 399 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:51,720 when you realise, oh, I can do it too, Oh, this is cool, you're 400 00:19:51,720 --> 00:19:54,640 like this because it's like ha ha ha, I'm getting a shit test 401 00:19:54,640 --> 00:19:56,920 you love. And in game, that's called 402 00:19:56,920 --> 00:20:00,120 qualification. It only occurred to me last year 403 00:20:00,120 --> 00:20:01,240 that that's exactly the same thing. 404 00:20:01,280 --> 00:20:04,000 So when you go for an interview, let's imagine this was an 405 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:07,320 interview and you're all trying for jobs. 406 00:20:07,320 --> 00:20:10,640 And that's the panel. They are qualifying the shit out 407 00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:12,520 of you guys, right? And you are jumping through 408 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:13,800 their hoop, desperate. Yeah. 409 00:20:14,760 --> 00:20:16,120 You'll do anything to get that job. 410 00:20:16,240 --> 00:20:19,200 So on The Apprentice, you see how desperate they are. 411 00:20:19,520 --> 00:20:23,560 And Sugar's just leaning back. Come on, jump through the frame. 412 00:20:23,720 --> 00:20:24,880 Come to Daddy. Yeah. 413 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:26,360 And he embraces it. So. 414 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:29,720 On the street, you can start qualifying small. 415 00:20:30,200 --> 00:20:33,160 Yeah. And you can't go full on combat 416 00:20:33,200 --> 00:20:35,480 and you can't remember. You can't qualify her until 417 00:20:35,480 --> 00:20:37,400 she's hooked. You should know that rule. 418 00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:39,160 You can't just walk up to a girl and go. 419 00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:41,360 So tell me something interesting about yourself. 420 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:43,640 She'll be like, fuck you, who are you? 421 00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:46,680 But as soon as she's hooked, as soon as I see that she likes me, 422 00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:50,120 I say anyway. So why London? 423 00:20:50,600 --> 00:20:52,600 I don't get it. You could have gone somewhere 424 00:20:52,600 --> 00:20:54,360 sunny. Why London? 425 00:20:54,360 --> 00:20:56,200 I don't get it. See what I'm doing? 426 00:20:56,720 --> 00:20:59,400 She justifies herself. Now, remember, with dog training 427 00:20:59,400 --> 00:21:02,600 and child rearing and teaching, What do you do when someone 428 00:21:02,600 --> 00:21:04,640 jumps through the hoop? When the dog jumps through the 429 00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:08,720 hoop, you reward. You have to praise the father 430 00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:11,280 knows, right? She has to feel like it was 431 00:21:11,280 --> 00:21:14,200 worth jumping through the hoop. So I said, so why do you move to 432 00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:16,160 London then? And she goes, oh, well, 433 00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:18,400 actually, you know, I just love the clubs and the bars and 434 00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:18,880 stuff. Like. 435 00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:19,920 That's good. Yeah. 436 00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:22,320 I like that about you. You know what you want and you 437 00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:23,200 go for it. I like that. 438 00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:26,160 High 5, cheesy old high five. Yeah, it's good, but it works. 439 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:29,240 And she she gets a little tingle because any statement that you 440 00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:34,240 give where you say I like this about girls and she justifies 441 00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:36,560 herself, that's qualifying. So but I usually use that that 442 00:21:36,560 --> 00:21:38,040 one on the date. So on a date, I'll say, do you 443 00:21:38,040 --> 00:21:40,480 know what? I usually like tall girls. 444 00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:44,880 I like girls with good hair. And obviously she starts to 445 00:21:44,880 --> 00:21:47,800 justify. She says, oh, I'm 174 with heels 446 00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:49,560 and oh, I used to have long hair. 447 00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:54,200 I say, yeah, I really like girls that passionate about something. 448 00:21:54,200 --> 00:21:56,640 You know, they have this, like, they're not just cute, you know, 449 00:21:56,640 --> 00:21:58,880 that's from mystery. Yeah, they're cute, but they've 450 00:21:58,880 --> 00:22:00,760 got something interesting about them if you've got something 451 00:22:00,760 --> 00:22:01,880 interesting about you. Yeah. 452 00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:02,840 Yeah, I have. I have. 453 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:05,080 I have. I really like you. 454 00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:07,840 Say that is great. And you'll hear me do this on 455 00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:09,440 there on all the dates I've been recording. 456 00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:11,720 I said, do you know what? When I saw you in the street, I 457 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:13,680 obviously just thought you were hot, you know, because I'm a 458 00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:14,760 guy. One brain, two brain. 459 00:22:15,520 --> 00:22:19,840 But now I'm impressed, you know, don't get a big head, but I'm 460 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:22,560 impressed. That's all from mystery, right? 461 00:22:22,560 --> 00:22:27,320 So I'm holding the frame. I might say to her, even on the 462 00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:29,000 street you could say, sorry, how? 463 00:22:29,480 --> 00:22:31,120 How tall are you? Right. 464 00:22:31,120 --> 00:22:33,320 You don't need to answer. You are ready to jump through 465 00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:35,120 the frame. That's a great little test. 466 00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:38,480 You could say I always go to them. 467 00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:41,840 So hang on, you're pretty, you're interesting. 468 00:22:42,360 --> 00:22:45,200 Why are you single? That's a great one for girls. 469 00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:46,560 Say to girls, why are you single? 470 00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:48,800 You must be one of these crazy cat girls. 471 00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:52,400 You hot but crazy? No, no, no, no, no. 472 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:54,120 The reason I'm single is And she jumps through hoop. 473 00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:54,960 Yeah. And you go. 474 00:22:54,960 --> 00:22:57,880 I like that about you. 2 points. Well done. 2 points don't fuck 475 00:22:57,880 --> 00:22:59,000 it up. Two points good. 476 00:22:59,520 --> 00:23:01,400 Yeah. Qualify rewards. 477 00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:02,960 Qualify rewards. So if you're pretty good at day 478 00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:07,920 game and you've got good shit tests, the last thing you need 479 00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:10,160 to perfect this is what I've been working on myself is 480 00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:13,160 qualifying. So eventually becoming Alan 481 00:23:13,160 --> 00:23:15,680 Sugar, eventually becoming Ramsey in his kitchen, 482 00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:19,720 eventually becoming Putin to his cabinet meeting. 483 00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:22,560 Yeah, he doesn't only pass tests. 484 00:23:23,080 --> 00:23:25,960 He gives tests. You have to really think about 485 00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:26,360 that one. Yeah. 486 00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:29,840 And not many Puas I see, not even good Puas are are good at 487 00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:33,080 qualifying. And it really flips the frame. 488 00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:36,480 It really takes the frame off her to you because you're no 489 00:23:36,480 --> 00:23:39,840 longer the sheep in the pen. You're the farmer with the pen 490 00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:42,080 or the sheepdog gathering the sheep into the pen. 491 00:23:43,360 --> 00:23:46,560 Give girls things to do. Does anybody use that technique? 492 00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:50,520 Bring me this on a date or do this for me or I want you to do 493 00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:51,720 this. Has anybody ever tried that with 494 00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:54,120 a girl? Look, I'll buy the drinks first 495 00:23:54,120 --> 00:23:57,320 round mission for you. All right, Off you go. 496 00:23:57,440 --> 00:24:00,720 Find the two best seats. Make sure it has a candle and 497 00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:02,160 it's dark so I can try and kiss you. 498 00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:05,760 I mean, sorry, off you go. And one girl said to me that was 499 00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:07,960 the best bit of the date, Tom. She said I loved it when you 500 00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:11,080 gave me that little job. All right, I was a school 501 00:24:11,080 --> 00:24:12,880 teacher for many years. And when you give kids a little 502 00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:16,960 job like, right, who wants to sharpen pencils it break, they 503 00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:19,520 love it. The favorite activity was clean 504 00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:22,920 in the classroom, right? You can experiment with when you 505 00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:26,480 give kids nothing to do, when you give them the frame, when 506 00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:28,600 you say to them, So what do you want to do? 507 00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:30,400 They're they're lost. They don't know what to do. 508 00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:34,200 They love it when there's order and girls love it when there's 509 00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:36,720 frame. But the problem is, society's 510 00:24:36,720 --> 00:24:41,400 told us, all these voices have told us that it's it's bad to 511 00:24:42,120 --> 00:24:44,120 snatch the frame off her and make her work. 512 00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:49,400 But once you realise that she loves it, I often say when she's 513 00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:51,760 coming to my house, maybe it's the second day, I'll say, oh, 514 00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:55,880 you're you're Russian. I want you to bring me a Russian 515 00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:57,880 dessert. I want you to make a Russian 516 00:24:57,880 --> 00:24:59,920 dessert. OK, I'll give you the wine, 517 00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:01,520 Right. I'll do the wine, I'll do the 518 00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:03,400 pasta. But you need to make and don't 519 00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:05,520 buy it, otherwise you're not allowed in my house. 520 00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:06,680 Right. You got to make it. 521 00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:07,480 Can you do that? Yeah. 522 00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:09,880 Yeah, Yeah, I can do that. And she spends like 4 hours 523 00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:13,280 shopping, making, buying. She's so excited to come to my 524 00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:15,040 house. And she's like a beaming kid. 525 00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:16,360 I did it. I did it. 526 00:25:16,360 --> 00:25:17,560 I did it. And you reward. 527 00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:18,840 He said. That's fantastic. 528 00:25:19,280 --> 00:25:20,920 You know, when I met you, I just thought you were cute. 529 00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:23,440 But this is good. You're interesting. 530 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:24,200 I like it. Well done. 531 00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:27,040 She's like that. Oh, yes, I did something. 532 00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:28,280 Yeah. So don't feel bad.