1 00:00:06,960 --> 00:00:13,640 Open your Bibles to Colossians chapter 3, and we're reading 2 00:00:13,640 --> 00:00:21,840 from verse 20 because we did 18 and 19 on Sunday. 3 00:00:23,240 --> 00:00:27,320 And I pray for you to follow the devotions because I'm finishing 4 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:33,040 off Colossians in our devotion. So tomorrow's devotion is about 5 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:39,280 bond servants from it's from verse 22 on to chapter 4, verse 6 00:00:39,280 --> 00:00:41,800 one. And then we'll follow on and 7 00:00:41,800 --> 00:00:45,720 finish Colossians. And on Sunday morning we begin 8 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:51,080 the Book of Revelation raising God's children. 9 00:00:51,480 --> 00:00:54,920 We live in a world today where kids seem lost, don't they? 10 00:00:56,760 --> 00:01:02,760 Kids are violent, kids are lost, kids are taking their own lives, 11 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:12,520 families are breaking down, and for many a young, young child, 12 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:20,760 they live without hope. The first institution God 13 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:26,880 founded on earth was the home in Genesis 127 it says so God 14 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:31,720 created man in his own image in the image of God created he him 15 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:37,160 male and female created he then and God bless them. 16 00:01:37,480 --> 00:01:40,000 God said to them, be fruitful, multiply. 17 00:01:42,040 --> 00:01:46,520 And then in chapter 2 of Genesis verse 24 it says therefore shall 18 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:51,160 a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto 19 00:01:51,160 --> 00:01:54,440 his wife, and they shall be 1 flesh, the creation of a family. 20 00:01:57,120 --> 00:02:01,800 Children need their dads and mums. 21 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:07,560 They need their mum and dad to love them and to protect them 22 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:15,480 and they need their dad and their mum to help them and they 23 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:21,320 need the father and the mother to spend time with them. 24 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:27,760 But above all that, they need you, if you're a parent here 25 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:32,680 tonight, to help them to know God, that's the most important 26 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:35,800 thing. You as a mother or a father, 27 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:41,120 that's your most important role. Matters not if they get to the 28 00:02:41,120 --> 00:02:43,920 end of their life and they won an Olympic medals, or they're 29 00:02:43,920 --> 00:02:48,880 the best at this, or they've achieved that because the world 30 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:56,000 doesn't satisfy and neither would I be satisfied unless our 31 00:02:56,000 --> 00:03:03,040 children and our grandchildren know Jesus Christ as their Lord 32 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:07,960 and Saviour. They need to learn how to live 33 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:13,880 for God, They need to learn to love His Word, and they need to 34 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:16,320 grow and have a passion to serve Him. 35 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:19,720 And they need mom and dad to show them. 36 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:26,760 And God has given dads and moms this amazing responsibility. 37 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:31,040 It's their responsibility. It's not the schools, it's not 38 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:37,960 the church, not the government. It's the role of a mother and a 39 00:03:37,960 --> 00:03:41,920 father. Your children have rights as 40 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:46,000 well as responsibilities, have the right to be born. 41 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:49,600 Isn't that something that's just tragic today? 42 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:54,080 The right to be born into a dedicated Christian home. 43 00:03:54,080 --> 00:03:58,680 That's that's what they should have, where they'll be raised in 44 00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:00,560 the nurture and admonition of the Lord. 45 00:04:00,840 --> 00:04:06,040 Ephesians chapter 6 verse 4 says that I have the right to have 46 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:10,640 godly parents who will teach them the word of God and and 47 00:04:10,640 --> 00:04:16,160 discipline them in love. In Colossians 3 verse 17, it 48 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:18,519 says whatever you do, it's the foundation. 49 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:24,360 Whatever you do in Word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord 50 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:27,360 Jesus. Nothing, nothing all covers 51 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:30,360 everything. Giving thanks to God. 52 00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:32,840 That's how you should do it. That's the attitude we're to 53 00:04:32,840 --> 00:04:36,600 have the Father through him, through Jesus Christ. 54 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:42,760 And you know, Eminem says his famous song One Shot. 55 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:50,160 Mom and dad have one go at this. They have one shot. 56 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:56,480 And time can be your most wondrous treasure, or it can be 57 00:04:56,480 --> 00:05:01,680 your most ruthless of enemies. But this time and how it will be 58 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:06,400 spent in your life as a mother or father will depend entirely 59 00:05:06,400 --> 00:05:09,920 on how you treat it. You runtime. 60 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:16,160 You seize time, what you do with it, how you use it and how you 61 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:21,120 lose it and how you abuse it. And tonight in God's Word, God 62 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:25,240 teaches men and women how to be mothers and fathers and 63 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:29,880 children, how to be obedient. Because God wants us to raise 64 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:33,440 his children, He's loaned them to us his way. 65 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:40,560 Colossians 3 verse 20 says children obey your parents in 66 00:05:41,240 --> 00:05:43,920 all things. Why? 67 00:05:44,560 --> 00:05:47,520 But this is well pleasing to the Lord. 68 00:05:49,280 --> 00:05:52,600 What does a child here? What age do we stop well and you 69 00:05:52,600 --> 00:05:56,480 know you're no longer a child little in the courts of the 70 00:05:56,480 --> 00:05:58,440 land. It's the age of 18. 71 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:05,000 You go through children's court and then after that you go into 72 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:09,960 the adult section. But how far do we go before you 73 00:06:09,960 --> 00:06:13,920 stop being a child? In the Bible, Paul uses the 74 00:06:13,920 --> 00:06:19,280 Greek word teknon for children here, and it's a general year 75 00:06:19,280 --> 00:06:23,160 word used for a child and offspring, and it can be any 76 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:24,000 age. Actually. 77 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:28,520 What it basically means in this context is that it's a general 78 00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:32,640 word for anybody who is still under parental guidance. 79 00:06:34,960 --> 00:06:38,800 They're still in the home and your parents are still 80 00:06:38,800 --> 00:06:42,400 responsible for you. So what's God's word for 81 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:44,280 children? This is you know, kids need to 82 00:06:44,280 --> 00:06:47,760 know this is this is the verse. We have the verse for husbands. 83 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:51,160 We have the verse for for wives for what's God say to kids? 84 00:06:51,160 --> 00:06:52,480 You know, God speaks to children. 85 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:58,320 He says children obey your parents. 86 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:03,200 How in all things. Why for this is well pleasing 87 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:08,240 unto the Lord. Yes, children have rights, but 88 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:12,960 they also have responsibilities even as a child, and that 89 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:16,440 foremost responsibility is to obey mother and father. 90 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:22,520 There is only one command in the entire Bible given to children 91 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:25,880 or young people living in their home with their parents that 92 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:27,840 says obey your parents and everything. 93 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:33,680 The very fall of humanity and we see Australia collapsing in this 94 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:36,760 way. Society as we know it is when 95 00:07:36,760 --> 00:07:41,280 the family falls apart right in the middle of some of the most 96 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:45,000 tragic of all scriptures contained in the Bible is this 97 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:49,280 very matter, that of when a society has been given over by 98 00:07:49,280 --> 00:07:53,120 God to its own wicked desires and thinking. 99 00:07:53,120 --> 00:08:00,200 The book of Romans, let me read God's word to you and wait for 100 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:03,960 the most tragic of words in relation to family, the home. 101 00:08:04,960 --> 00:08:09,240 In this passage, Romans chapter one verse 28 says since they 102 00:08:09,240 --> 00:08:13,040 thought it foolish to acknowledge God, he abandoned 103 00:08:13,040 --> 00:08:15,640 them. God says, OK, that's a terrible 104 00:08:15,640 --> 00:08:17,560 thing. He gave them over. 105 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:20,720 The old King James says he gave them over to their reprobate 106 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:24,280 minds. He said OK, we're done. 107 00:08:25,480 --> 00:08:29,400 Wow. He abandoned them to their 108 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:32,919 foolish thinking and let them do things that should never be 109 00:08:32,919 --> 00:08:36,400 done. Their lives became full of every 110 00:08:36,400 --> 00:08:40,520 kind of wickedness, sin, greed, hate, envy, murder, quarrelling, 111 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:43,120 deception, malicious behaviour and gossip. 112 00:08:43,799 --> 00:08:47,280 They are backstabbers, haters of God, insolent, proud and 113 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:50,640 boastful. They invent new ways of sinning 114 00:08:51,120 --> 00:08:54,760 and then it says this and they disobey their parents. 115 00:08:55,240 --> 00:08:59,240 Wow, it's kind of like you have this grand, grand scene and it 116 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:02,480 says and also they don't obey their mum and dad. 117 00:09:03,440 --> 00:09:09,640 That's I find that fascinating. God says it is well pleasing to 118 00:09:09,640 --> 00:09:14,120 obey your parents. The word obey means to hear when 119 00:09:14,120 --> 00:09:18,360 under authority. It means to listen to a command. 120 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:22,120 It means to be obedient, to submit to well. 121 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:26,920 Pleasing means acceptable. It is the first commandment in 122 00:09:26,920 --> 00:09:30,880 the Bible with a promise. Ephesians 6 Three, that it may 123 00:09:30,880 --> 00:09:34,080 be well with you and you may live long on the earth. 124 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:38,000 There's an attachment to it, to obeying your mother and father. 125 00:09:39,000 --> 00:09:44,200 That being, it will affect how well and how long a child may 126 00:09:44,200 --> 00:09:47,680 live well. How can that be well? 127 00:09:47,680 --> 00:09:52,200 A child who obeys their parents will regularly be warned from 128 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:54,960 harm's way. Don't do this. 129 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:57,480 Be be careful of that. Who are you going with? 130 00:09:57,840 --> 00:10:00,560 Where are you staying? What's going on there? 131 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:02,640 Who? Who's, who's running it? 132 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:08,480 An obedient child will be spared the bad habits and bad company 133 00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:11,040 that could bring danger and harm upon them. 134 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:17,240 The child who does not learn to obey his or her parents is not 135 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:20,200 likely to grow up obeying any authority. 136 00:10:21,440 --> 00:10:27,400 He or she will defy their teacher, the police, their 137 00:10:27,400 --> 00:10:33,040 employers, and anyone else who tries to exercise authority over 138 00:10:33,040 --> 00:10:37,000 them. Proverbs 410 says, Hear my son 139 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:41,400 and receive my sayings, and the years of your life will be many. 140 00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:46,560 Wow. Proverbs 1027 says the fear of 141 00:10:46,560 --> 00:10:52,840 the Lord prolongs days, but the years of the wicked will be 142 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:56,360 shortened. Proverbs 30 verse 17. 143 00:10:56,600 --> 00:11:00,280 The eye that mocks his father and scorns obedience to his 144 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:02,480 mother. The Ravens of the valley will 145 00:11:02,480 --> 00:11:05,240 pick it out, and the young eagles will eat it. 146 00:11:05,560 --> 00:11:12,280 Whilst we may outgrow the call to obey our parents, we never 147 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:15,760 outgrow the obligation. Here's the other part to honour 148 00:11:15,760 --> 00:11:19,480 them. That's what the Bible says, it's 149 00:11:19,480 --> 00:11:22,800 a command. Honour your father and mother. 150 00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:31,080 So God speaks to parents, verse 21, he says fathers. 151 00:11:32,280 --> 00:11:34,680 Now some people say yes, it's mother's as well and it is. 152 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:40,160 But I, I want to note you to note here particularly who is 153 00:11:40,160 --> 00:11:43,280 ultimately responsible when you go to a store or something's 154 00:11:43,280 --> 00:11:46,760 gone wrong and the person that's serving you says, well, I, I 155 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:48,280 can't fix that. What do you say? 156 00:11:48,280 --> 00:11:51,520 I want to speak to the manager and if that doesn't sort out, 157 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:53,240 what do you say? I want to speak to the owner. 158 00:11:54,280 --> 00:11:58,680 Well, God right from the get go in the raising of the family, 159 00:11:58,680 --> 00:12:06,760 says Fathers. Fathers spotlight, Do not 160 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:09,200 provoke your children unless they become discouraged. 161 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:17,320 God holds fathers responsible. Man's way of raising children is 162 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:21,720 not God's way. You may think your child is the 163 00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:26,200 exception. Every parent or every school 164 00:12:26,200 --> 00:12:30,840 teacher that's in our church and every police officer and anyone 165 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:34,280 that's had children go against their authority will have had 166 00:12:34,280 --> 00:12:37,120 face. That parent says not mine, no, 167 00:12:37,680 --> 00:12:43,480 my son, my daughter. And you may think your child is 168 00:12:43,480 --> 00:12:45,360 an exception. I know the Bible says, but my 169 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:49,280 son, my daughter, it doesn't fit her. 170 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:53,720 Listen, your child is not the exception. 171 00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:57,040 God's rule doesn't go. God's word doesn't go. 172 00:12:57,080 --> 00:13:02,080 Oh, except for you, except for your son, except for your 173 00:13:02,080 --> 00:13:07,720 daughter, no child is an exception to the Word of God. 174 00:13:08,560 --> 00:13:11,120 The last century. Listen for a moment to the 175 00:13:11,120 --> 00:13:16,400 different and diverse ways the world has sought and directed us 176 00:13:16,400 --> 00:13:20,240 to try and raise their children. Fellow called John Watson came 177 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:23,680 out very famous and child teaching and people followed 178 00:13:23,680 --> 00:13:27,120 him. He taught rigid authoritarian 179 00:13:27,680 --> 00:13:30,400 parenting. He espoused that the child is 180 00:13:30,400 --> 00:13:34,120 not to be cuddled or loved for fear of creating dependency upon 181 00:13:34,120 --> 00:13:36,640 the parents. So the worst thing you could do 182 00:13:36,640 --> 00:13:39,040 was to hug your kids and love them because they will become 183 00:13:39,280 --> 00:13:43,280 too dependent upon you. This produced outward conformity 184 00:13:43,720 --> 00:13:47,160 and inward hostility. It was the 1950s and 60s. 185 00:13:49,040 --> 00:13:54,520 Then came Benjamin Spock, not from Lost in Space or Star Trek. 186 00:13:55,640 --> 00:13:59,000 Benjamin Spock, he said the number one thing and he was 187 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:01,280 famous. I remember listening over and 188 00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:03,360 over and over. His name's espoused. 189 00:14:04,040 --> 00:14:07,000 You have to love your kids. Just love them. 190 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:08,760 That's it. Make sure above all that you 191 00:14:08,760 --> 00:14:10,440 don't let your kids get frustrated. 192 00:14:10,880 --> 00:14:12,920 Don't make them do anything they don't want to do. 193 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:19,240 That was disastrous and produce a generation of self control 194 00:14:19,240 --> 00:14:22,160 demanding people and that's you and I here today. 195 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:27,120 And if a following in Spock's tracks came a fellow called Eric 196 00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:30,320 Byrne. He said, look, just settle 197 00:14:30,320 --> 00:14:34,400 everybody. He's the I'm OK, you're OK 198 00:14:34,400 --> 00:14:37,520 approach friends. Just make your mind up on the 199 00:14:37,520 --> 00:14:39,720 spot. Do what seems best at the time. 200 00:14:39,880 --> 00:14:43,080 It's called situational ethics. What's true for me now is not 201 00:14:43,080 --> 00:14:45,480 true for you. You know, it's just where we're 202 00:14:45,480 --> 00:14:47,800 at. There's no absolute standard. 203 00:14:47,800 --> 00:14:50,640 There are no absolutes of what's right or wrong. 204 00:14:50,840 --> 00:14:53,160 If your son wants to do it, that's that's OK for him to do 205 00:14:53,160 --> 00:14:54,880 it. And schools developed out of 206 00:14:54,880 --> 00:14:57,440 that where kids could go there and just they don't, they don't, 207 00:14:57,440 --> 00:15:01,800 they just please themselves and produce a generation of 208 00:15:01,800 --> 00:15:07,600 confusion and apathy. Also with us today in our 209 00:15:07,600 --> 00:15:11,880 generation and more recently following on in the 80s and the 210 00:15:11,880 --> 00:15:15,680 90's, the new age self esteem philosophy of teaching your 211 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:19,120 child to listen to the, to the God within who you are. 212 00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:23,040 The key to 1's future is high self esteem. 213 00:15:23,240 --> 00:15:26,360 And that seems to be the the magic bullet for everything, 214 00:15:26,360 --> 00:15:28,240 isn't it? It's self esteem that's the 215 00:15:28,240 --> 00:15:30,960 problem. And so these children are to 216 00:15:30,960 --> 00:15:33,280 never hear any negative messages. 217 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:36,080 And so, you know, we have football teams playing and they 218 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:38,360 don't keep the scores. The kids do. 219 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:41,000 But officially there's no scores. 220 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:46,120 You run in a race and you come 48th, you get a ribbon just like 221 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:49,400 the kid that come forth first. But there's no, well, no, we 222 00:15:49,400 --> 00:15:51,680 don't have, it's not, you know, there's no competition, there's 223 00:15:51,680 --> 00:15:53,840 no scores, there's no winners, there's no losers. 224 00:15:54,640 --> 00:15:58,240 It's participation. They give your child any 225 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:01,440 negative feedback whatsoever. Just build them up over and 226 00:16:01,440 --> 00:16:04,480 over. Man's way of raising children is 227 00:16:04,480 --> 00:16:09,360 not God's way. Haggai chapter one, verse 5 says 228 00:16:09,640 --> 00:16:13,560 now Therefore, thus says the Lord of hosts, consider your 229 00:16:13,560 --> 00:16:17,440 ways tonight as we opened God's Word. 230 00:16:17,680 --> 00:16:20,600 Will you consider your ways If you're a parent? 231 00:16:22,120 --> 00:16:26,040 Will you allow God's Word to shine and wash over the way in 232 00:16:26,040 --> 00:16:28,800 which you are currently raising your children? 233 00:16:30,040 --> 00:16:32,720 Will you be open to the possibility you may be raising 234 00:16:32,720 --> 00:16:36,400 your children your way and not God's way? 235 00:16:37,440 --> 00:16:39,840 Because every mum and dad says they know best? 236 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:45,760 In Psalm 119, verse 59 says I thought about my ways, David 237 00:16:45,760 --> 00:16:49,120 says, and then I turn my feet to your testimonies. 238 00:16:50,720 --> 00:16:53,520 God's way of raising children is in His word. 239 00:16:54,240 --> 00:16:57,760 Actually that's what the Bible is all about, God raising his 240 00:16:57,760 --> 00:17:00,600 children, God raising you and I, God raising me. 241 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:03,680 When we look at God's way of raising children, we get a a 242 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:06,800 solid idea of how we supposed to be raising our children. 243 00:17:06,960 --> 00:17:09,720 And God has a family as well. He calls it his church. 244 00:17:11,599 --> 00:17:16,640 In Deuteronomy chapter 6 verse one, the Lord spoke to the 245 00:17:16,640 --> 00:17:19,079 children of Israel. He says now this is the 246 00:17:19,160 --> 00:17:21,640 commandment. No suggestions. 247 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:24,839 And these are the statutes and judgments which the Lord your 248 00:17:24,839 --> 00:17:29,000 God has commanded to teach you, that you may observe them in the 249 00:17:29,000 --> 00:17:30,960 land which you're crossing over to possess. 250 00:17:31,280 --> 00:17:35,000 That you may fear the Lord your God first to give you all His 251 00:17:35,000 --> 00:17:37,960 statutes and His commandments which I command you, you and 252 00:17:37,960 --> 00:17:40,800 your son and your grandson all the days of your life. 253 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:43,440 Notice he's spoken about the fear of the Lord. 254 00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:45,000 This is the commandments. And then he brings in the 255 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:49,400 family, you and your son and your grandson, all the days of 256 00:17:49,400 --> 00:17:53,000 your life, that your days may be prolonged. 257 00:17:53,000 --> 00:17:56,960 There's that. There's that added same 258 00:17:57,200 --> 00:18:00,240 happening here in Deuteronomy 6/1, as in Colossians, as in 259 00:18:00,240 --> 00:18:10,500 Ephesians. The first foundation in raising 260 00:18:10,500 --> 00:18:15,180 your children God's way is fear. You go fear. 261 00:18:15,580 --> 00:18:18,740 Come on, How archaic, how wrong is that? 262 00:18:18,820 --> 00:18:20,260 That's not true. I'm sorry. 263 00:18:20,460 --> 00:18:22,020 We're just thinking what the Bible says. 264 00:18:22,940 --> 00:18:25,160 Fear. There are a lot of people today 265 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:27,280 who would tell you that the foundation to raising your 266 00:18:27,280 --> 00:18:31,640 children is love. Sounds good, doesn't it? 267 00:18:32,360 --> 00:18:33,880 That's why the world is in such a mess. 268 00:18:34,280 --> 00:18:37,800 Sounds good, but don't work. That's the place you have to 269 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:39,800 start. You have to love your children. 270 00:18:40,200 --> 00:18:42,400 They say they need to know that they love. 271 00:18:42,440 --> 00:18:46,280 Yes. Hear me carefully tonight as I 272 00:18:46,280 --> 00:18:50,160 tell you that that is not what the Bible teaches is the 273 00:18:50,160 --> 00:18:53,080 foundation of raising children. It comes. 274 00:18:54,560 --> 00:18:58,400 The Bible says that fear is the foundation of raising, raising 275 00:18:58,400 --> 00:19:02,240 children, God's way. How's that for what God does to 276 00:19:02,240 --> 00:19:05,640 establish his role as a parent? He starts with fear. 277 00:19:08,000 --> 00:19:10,960 It's because we had this bad image of God. 278 00:19:10,960 --> 00:19:13,440 We think of the God of the Old Testament as, don't we? 279 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:15,680 Well, the God of the Old Testament, he was so harsh. 280 00:19:16,160 --> 00:19:21,720 Thankfully, Jesus came. It's the same one, same grace is 281 00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:23,440 in the Old Testament. Think of Noah. 282 00:19:25,320 --> 00:19:29,360 Don't start getting your cultural thinking and your way 283 00:19:29,360 --> 00:19:31,360 saying no that don't work that way. 284 00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:35,640 Listen to what the Bible says. Change your mind and hear what 285 00:19:35,640 --> 00:19:38,840 the Bible says. The Bible says that fear is the 286 00:19:38,840 --> 00:19:40,600 foundation of raising God's children. 287 00:19:43,280 --> 00:19:46,440 God starts with fear and the Lord your God commanded 288 00:19:46,440 --> 00:19:50,880 Deuteronomy verse 2 that you might fear. 6 verse 2, the Lord 289 00:19:50,880 --> 00:19:54,160 your God, first thing he said, what is this fear? 290 00:19:54,160 --> 00:19:57,280 That's what we need to define. What is the fear of God? 291 00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:02,360 It's to Revere. It's to respect. 292 00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:08,640 It's to and as you think about a godly father and mother, it's to 293 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:16,920 Revere and to respect. It means the fear of God. 294 00:20:17,920 --> 00:20:21,920 The problem is we find that concept uncomfortable, so we 295 00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:24,680 have sought to redefine it. We got to help God out. 296 00:20:24,680 --> 00:20:27,440 God, we know what you said here, but you know, world's changed. 297 00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:29,240 We're different now. No, you're not. 298 00:20:30,360 --> 00:20:32,080 Bible doesn't change. God hasn't changed. 299 00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:34,320 Neither has his ways for raising children. 300 00:20:35,120 --> 00:20:40,160 Psalm 111 verse 10 says the fear of the Lord is the beginning 301 00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:45,360 wisdom. Proverbs 17 the fear of the Lord 302 00:20:45,360 --> 00:20:49,800 is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and 303 00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:52,080 instruction. The fear of the Lord and the 304 00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:54,520 fear of mum and dad is the beginning of wisdom. 305 00:20:57,600 --> 00:21:00,120 Proverbs 910 says the fear of the Lord is the beginning of 306 00:21:00,120 --> 00:21:03,200 wisdom and the knowledge of the Holy One understanding. 307 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:05,520 And I see it all too often today. 308 00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:11,000 Kids have No Fear, no awe, no respect of mother and father. 309 00:21:11,000 --> 00:21:17,600 I see in churches to actually be fearful of God if I don't do 310 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:23,920 what God wants me to do is this is where God starts with all of 311 00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:26,920 his children from the call of Moses. 312 00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:31,200 God wanted Moses to lead 2 to nearly three and a half million 313 00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:33,280 people out of Egypt into the promised land. 314 00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:39,360 So God, arrange to meet with Moses, remember, does he just 315 00:21:39,360 --> 00:21:41,320 have a general discussion on the matter? 316 00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:45,240 You know, Moses, come over here, let's a brainstorm, let's you 317 00:21:45,240 --> 00:21:48,880 know how to best work this out. Now Moses is shepherding his 318 00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:52,320 sheep when he comes across a Bush burning wildly in the 319 00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:54,960 wilderness. Exodus 36. 320 00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:57,400 Moreover, he said, I am the God of your father. 321 00:21:57,400 --> 00:22:01,800 Moses speaks to God, speaks to Moses, the God of Abraham, the 322 00:22:01,800 --> 00:22:03,720 God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob. 323 00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:07,400 What did Moses do? Hey man, cool. 324 00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:12,000 Great to see you. No, it says Moses hid his face 325 00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,400 for he was afraid to look upon God. 326 00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:18,480 God is holy and righteous. And just remember what happened 327 00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:21,520 to the apostle Paul. He was on the road. 328 00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:24,680 He was known as Saul at that time, riding a donkey on the 329 00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:29,240 road to Damascus. Acts Chapter 9, verse 6. 330 00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:34,160 He's knocked off his donkey. A light appears and Jesus 331 00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:40,320 reveals himself to him. And since says so, he trembling 332 00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:44,280 and astonished Saul. Trembling and astonished said, 333 00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:49,720 Lord, what do you want me to do? The foundation of all training 334 00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:55,400 with children is fear. Every child needs to begin with 335 00:22:55,400 --> 00:23:00,920 a healthy fear of mum and dad. A healthy fear of mum and dad. 336 00:23:01,120 --> 00:23:05,120 The keyword is healthy, a genuine awareness that bad 337 00:23:05,120 --> 00:23:08,360 choices lead to painful consequences. 338 00:23:09,120 --> 00:23:13,480 It's love and action wrapped up in a beautiful Pearl called 339 00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:16,320 respect. I'm going to obey because I 340 00:23:16,320 --> 00:23:20,720 respect and love my mum and dad and also I know that if I slip 341 00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:25,880 up then there'll be judgement. This is that fear. 342 00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:29,800 When they are old enough to choose wrong, they are old 343 00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:34,000 enough to Start learning that bad choices lead to painful 344 00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:38,840 consequences. When a child does right, fear is 345 00:23:38,840 --> 00:23:41,920 a general awareness of the need to keep doing right. 346 00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:46,880 When a child does wrong, fear is a fearful sense of impending 347 00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:49,240 consequence. That's missing today, isn't it? 348 00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:53,680 Well, how big should the consequence be? 349 00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:57,840 The consequence should be bigger than the pleasure of the sin. 350 00:23:59,120 --> 00:24:02,960 A preschooler who won't pick up his or her toys, or year three 351 00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:06,240 who talks back to Mum Man, that's just that should never 352 00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:07,840 happen. Talk back. 353 00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:12,040 Or year eight who lies about where they're going on a Friday 354 00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:14,560 evening. Or year 12 who won't meet the 355 00:24:14,560 --> 00:24:18,680 curfew of their parents. Every time a child comes against 356 00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:23,440 your authority as a mother or a father, every time it's a test, 357 00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:30,000 it's a battle, it's a challenge, it's against your authority. 358 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,520 And here's the deal. As a parent, it's against your 359 00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:37,280 authority as a as a parent. And God has placed you as the 360 00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:41,480 authority, as the parent. And then it is as they defy you, 361 00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:46,160 they're defying the order of God, the authority of God that 362 00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:49,600 he has put over in that family in your home every time. 363 00:24:50,120 --> 00:24:52,840 It's not just here, it's it's here. 364 00:24:53,320 --> 00:24:55,720 Think about that. That's where that's where we we 365 00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:59,480 miss, we miss out. What's going on when your child 366 00:24:59,480 --> 00:25:04,080 resists the clear established guidelines and goes against your 367 00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:06,280 authority. Here's the questions I want to 368 00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:09,840 ask you. Do they know what will happen or 369 00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:12,000 do you just say stuff and never happens? 370 00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:16,920 Doesn't happen mum. She just says it 6 * 7 times and 371 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:20,960 then she just let it go every time and without file. 372 00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:25,880 Consistency is the key. Consistency between husband and 373 00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:28,880 wife, mother and father. Can't have one weak, can't have 374 00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:32,280 one strong. They both be got to be ruling 375 00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:36,640 the same authority. Keeping your word to deal with 376 00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:40,040 what is wrong is the key. If you said something and 377 00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:43,120 they've gone against it and you do nothing about it, you might 378 00:25:43,120 --> 00:25:45,320 as well just let them go and please themselves. 379 00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:50,000 Because you are. You're not loving them, you're 380 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:56,160 mistreating them. This is the essence of biblical 381 00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:58,800 philosophy of parenting in the foundation of fear. 382 00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:03,800 But child rearing is incomplete with fear alone, just as a 383 00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:07,360 building is incomplete just with the foundation alone. 384 00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:13,800 Deuteronomy Because faith, sorry fear leads to Part 2 obedience. 385 00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:19,280 Deuteronomy 6 two, that you may fear the Lord your God to keep 386 00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:22,120 all his statutes and his commandments, which I command 387 00:26:22,120 --> 00:26:25,160 you, you and your son and your grandson, all the days of your 388 00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:27,080 life. Your days may be prolonged. 389 00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:31,000 Therefore here, O Israel, be careful is the obedience to 390 00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:33,320 observe that it may be well with you. 391 00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:36,280 God is laying down the parameters. 392 00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:40,720 Fear is being established as the child learns what the parent 393 00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:45,560 will do if the rules are broken. All through scripture we see God 394 00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:48,920 doing this. Fear leads to obedience in 395 00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:52,200 Exodus 20, heading to the promised land after being freed 396 00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:55,760 from Egypt. God says we're not going any 397 00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:58,240 further until we get some things in writing. 398 00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:03,960 It's been all verbal up to now. So Moses goes up on the top of 399 00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:06,920 Mount Sinai, comes back down the mountain. 400 00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:10,680 He's got 2 tablets containing the 10 commandments, the rules. 401 00:27:12,320 --> 00:27:15,720 Moses lays it out what God wants and does not want. 402 00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:19,440 You shall, you shall not. What happens next? 403 00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:23,880 Does God speak with a soft voice and tell them, oh, hi guys. 404 00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:27,640 Hope these things that Moses is bringing down to you aren't too 405 00:27:27,640 --> 00:27:30,200 harsh. Hope they're they're now they're 406 00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:33,240 just the guide. We'll work it out. 407 00:27:34,120 --> 00:27:36,080 Let's have some discussion groups. 408 00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:39,760 Let's work through these things. We can talk this through. 409 00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:44,840 And no, he doesn't do that. That's why I'm not in the Bible 410 00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:47,120 study where it's. What do you think this passage 411 00:27:47,120 --> 00:27:49,000 means? All I think it means is that now 412 00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:54,600 the Bible only has 1 meaning. People today are always learning 413 00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:57,120 and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. 414 00:27:57,920 --> 00:27:59,760 So God puts on a show, doesn't he? 415 00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:02,120 What's happening on the mountain? 416 00:28:03,360 --> 00:28:06,600 There's fire and Thunder and if anyone touches the man, what's 417 00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:07,800 going to happen? They die. 418 00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:13,320 He's putting emphasis on what I'm writing. 419 00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:18,000 You better do it. I say what I mean. 420 00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:21,720 God says what he means. Every parent needs to be able to 421 00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:25,480 emphasise to the children. Don't mess with dad or mum. 422 00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:28,880 If you see a child talking back to mum, talking back to dad, 423 00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:31,040 they should be, hey, that ain't happening. 424 00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:33,920 Stop. It's not happening. 425 00:28:34,600 --> 00:28:40,560 It's not on. I hear kids talk to their mums 426 00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:43,200 and dads terribly. I'm trying to talk to some mums 427 00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:45,520 and dads at different times. Kids come in and I just take 428 00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:48,800 over. I'm going, well, you run the 429 00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,240 house. I'll just wander off and talk 430 00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:55,120 over here with someone else. Then because the kid or kids are 431 00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:59,960 running the family don't mess with mum and dad. 432 00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:04,840 Well, we know about this. Everything went smoothly after 433 00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:08,760 Moses brought down the tablets. No, they rebelled and they 434 00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:10,920 rebelled. And God would repeat the 435 00:29:10,920 --> 00:29:14,800 process, wouldn't he? Rules established, consequences 436 00:29:14,800 --> 00:29:17,560 given, understood to establish healthy fear. 437 00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:19,840 And what would happen? They'd rebel. 438 00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:22,640 Judgement will come again. Rebellion occurs. 439 00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:26,240 God steps in. Rules are reviewed, Consequences 440 00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:28,880 are given. Things go good for a while. 441 00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:31,640 It sounds a little monotonous. What happened in the Old 442 00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:32,960 Testament? Don't you ever read God? 443 00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:34,920 Why are the children? Isn't I just keep doing stuff 444 00:29:34,920 --> 00:29:37,760 like this? Here's the deal. 445 00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:41,800 If you're not up for 18 years of that, I hope you're not a 446 00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:45,760 parent. This can even be sometimes on an 447 00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:48,280 hourly basis. You've said something, they 448 00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:50,280 break it. OK, here we go again. 449 00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:52,680 I told you what to do. This was the consequences. 450 00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:54,880 Do it again. Told you what to do. 451 00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:58,040 Here's the consequences. Rules are established. 452 00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:01,160 Consequences are explained. Things are good for a while. 453 00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:05,960 Rebellion occurs. That's parenting and parenting 454 00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:09,200 begins with fear and two leads to obedience. 455 00:30:09,360 --> 00:30:13,560 James Dobson says this great words by James Dobson when you 456 00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:20,200 encounter your child's will win and when decisively or you've 457 00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:27,640 lost and that kid runs the home foundation is fear leads to 458 00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:31,320 obedience and obedience leads to blessing. 459 00:30:32,600 --> 00:30:35,200 When God's children do the things he has asked them to do 460 00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:39,520 it leads to to blessing. God said do this that your days 461 00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,320 may be prolonged then it may be well with you. 462 00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:46,120 He went on to say verse 3 that you may multiply greatly as the 463 00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:49,320 Lord has promised a land flowing of milk and honey, but you got 464 00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:52,640 to do the other things first. That's a picture of blessing and 465 00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:57,360 prosperity when we understand that we are really better off 466 00:30:57,360 --> 00:31:00,960 following what God commands us. That at the end of every 467 00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:05,600 obedience is blessing. Note that that's that's how how 468 00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:09,280 it works. And we understand that at the 469 00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:12,480 end of every disobedience there is heartache. 470 00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:15,480 This is where families have gone wrong. 471 00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:17,680 This is where churches have fallen short. 472 00:31:18,040 --> 00:31:20,360 Our children need to understand that principle. 473 00:31:20,800 --> 00:31:24,160 God calling his children to repent, just like a parent 474 00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:27,400 admonishing their child. Come now, let us reason 475 00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:30,800 together. Parents, so often you need to 476 00:31:30,800 --> 00:31:33,000 just make it plain and simple for your kids. 477 00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:35,920 If you do this, then this will happen. 478 00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:37,560 But if you do this, then this will happen. 479 00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:40,440 Obedience leaves the blessing. This is God's way. 480 00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:42,400 But Keith, where's the love in all this? 481 00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:46,480 That's next. Fathers, provoke not your 482 00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:48,600 children to anger lest they be discouraged. 483 00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:53,440 But don't get it out of order or you mess up really bad. 484 00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:56,600 It's not your ways, not your thoughts, but Gods. 485 00:31:57,000 --> 00:32:01,760 When your compassion for your child overrules what is right or 486 00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:04,200 wrong, you are injuring your child. 487 00:32:04,280 --> 00:32:07,720 You are mistreating your child. You think you're loving, but you 488 00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:11,320 really aren't. Now God and Deuteronomy 6 brings 489 00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:14,920 out the love part, verse 4. If you do all these things, then 490 00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:17,040 you shall. Here's the next step after fear, 491 00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:19,760 obedience, blessing. Here is well, the Lord our God. 492 00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:22,000 The Lord is 1. You shall love the Lord your God 493 00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:23,960 with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your 494 00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:26,800 strength. The love of the child will 495 00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:29,880 flourish and they will really love their mum and dad and 496 00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:32,720 honour them. The problem is that parents want 497 00:32:32,720 --> 00:32:37,000 that too soon. Too many parents take their own 498 00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:41,000 insecurity and try to have their needs for love and affirmation 499 00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:44,440 met from their children and to have them met, met them meet 500 00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:47,760 their needs. That God's, He's the one to meet 501 00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:51,640 your needs, the Lord God. God is love. 502 00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:59,320 It's wrong, it's sad, and it's provoking when you have your 503 00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:04,200 child meet your needs, trying to get your child who is not 504 00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:07,640 equipped to do such a thing as a sure way to destroy your child. 505 00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:11,280 And you're not establishing any example of how to live under 506 00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:13,720 Almighty God. And a child who will not live 507 00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:17,280 under the authority of their parents will not live under the 508 00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:21,360 authority of God. Note that read the book of 509 00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:23,840 Judges. When children lose the fear of 510 00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:26,640 God and will not do what God commands and begins to do what 511 00:33:26,640 --> 00:33:32,880 they think in and of themselves, trouble blessings lead to a love 512 00:33:32,880 --> 00:33:36,680 relationship. When John 418 there is No Fear 513 00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:38,720 in love. Well Keith, isn't that contrary? 514 00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:42,480 No, you're missing the point. But perfect love casts out fear 515 00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:46,640 because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been 516 00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:51,920 made perfect in love. Now as an adult, I have grown in 517 00:33:51,920 --> 00:33:57,000 my relationship with God, from a fear relationship to now a love 518 00:33:57,000 --> 00:34:00,240 relationship. But I'm thankful that my 519 00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:03,920 relationship with the Lord was built on a foundation of fear. 520 00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:06,360 When I got saved, why was I saved? 521 00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:11,920 I fear feared going to hell, fear damnation, feared living in 522 00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:16,000 my sin. God would judge me. 523 00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:20,000 The Bible said that. And if I decided to live 524 00:34:20,000 --> 00:34:23,920 foolishly today, my relationship will be torn back to the very 525 00:34:23,920 --> 00:34:28,080 foundation of fear. Be warned, do not tread lightly 526 00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:31,320 on the grace of God. So let's wrap it up because of 527 00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:35,560 time. Fear leads to obedience. 528 00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:41,239 Obedience leads to blessing. Blessing to a growing love 529 00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:43,840 relationship. You continue to grow the more 530 00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:46,880 and more. My relationship with my father 531 00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:53,320 was terrible as as a kid he was a World War 2R double AF in the 532 00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:57,640 R double AF World War Two. We were years apart in age but 533 00:34:57,640 --> 00:35:03,680 when I became a Christian and I saw my look my father as as as 534 00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:09,600 Christ sees him. God changed my heart and I love 535 00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:13,720 my dad so much so I realised how much he had tried his best 536 00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:18,960 commit to God's way. So many kids today are angry. 537 00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:21,000 Who at? You know who they're angry at? 538 00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:22,720 At their parents. You know why? 539 00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:25,920 Because they have shown them no discipline to them. 540 00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:28,720 I don't care. I'm a dad, mum, they don't care 541 00:35:28,720 --> 00:35:30,840 where I am. They're angry against them, 542 00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:34,320 which is a sign of a lack of love. 543 00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:39,640 The parents have provoked them. It's never too late to start 544 00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:43,400 God's way of parenting. Consistent, age appropriate 545 00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:47,360 discipline. Let me wrap it for our words, 546 00:35:47,360 --> 00:35:50,880 for discipline for parents raising children God's way. 547 00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:54,680 First one is the rod, ages 2 to 8. 548 00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:59,840 It's only for rebellion and never for mistakes, never for 549 00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:03,920 immaturity, only for rebellion. Don't miss this important 550 00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:06,160 parenting. Proverbs 2215. 551 00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:08,720 Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child. 552 00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:11,200 The rod of correction will drive it far from him. 553 00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:15,080 Proverbs 1324. He who spares his rod, Bible 554 00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:21,400 says, hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him 555 00:36:23,240 --> 00:36:24,480 promptly. Early. 556 00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:28,440 The kid won't pick up his toys as the kid who won't come home 557 00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:30,960 on time as the kid who you fill in the blanks. 558 00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:33,960 You don't want to be pulling your hair out over an 18 year 559 00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:37,360 old because you didn't do early what you did heard today. 560 00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:40,760 Second one is reproof. Ages 6 to 12. 561 00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:43,920 Proverbs 2915. The writer and rebuke give 562 00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:47,120 wisdom, but a child left to himself bring shame to his 563 00:36:47,120 --> 00:36:48,560 mother. What's reproof? 564 00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:51,560 Reproof is strong and in your face rebuke. 565 00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:57,280 Hey, that's not happening. It's admonishing. 566 00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:00,440 Well, I'll never speak crossly to my kids. 567 00:37:05,640 --> 00:37:09,840 It's the strong don't. You're protecting your child. 568 00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:16,240 Third, removal of freedom, age 10 plus you've been raising your 569 00:37:16,240 --> 00:37:18,760 kids God's way. Not so tough. 570 00:37:19,160 --> 00:37:21,480 But if you haven't, this is going to be World War Three for 571 00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:22,720 you. You're going out tonight. 572 00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:24,480 You're not going. You're not going there. 573 00:37:25,320 --> 00:37:26,920 How long? As long as necessary. 574 00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:28,920 Sorry you didn't do this. So you're not going to football. 575 00:37:29,080 --> 00:37:31,120 Football. Forget about playing football. 576 00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:34,720 It's not happening. You have to win, parents. 577 00:37:35,600 --> 00:37:37,360 If you don't win, your children are going to lose. 578 00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:43,760 The last one is responsibility. Back in the time of Christ, 579 00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:47,480 people 15 to 18 were married and raising children of their own. 580 00:37:48,240 --> 00:37:51,320 That a lot of responsibility. Today we have kids that age who 581 00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:55,160 think their only deal in life is to have a good time and to test 582 00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:58,200 mum and dad's boundaries. How do we deal with this? 583 00:37:58,720 --> 00:38:02,400 Put your kids to work, give them responsibilities, make them 584 00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:06,160 accountable, work around the house, get a job, fill their 585 00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:08,880 days and hours. Don't protect your kids from 586 00:38:08,880 --> 00:38:11,200 those consequences of their own choice. 587 00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:15,680 They make a mistake, let them bear the consequences of that. 588 00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:19,560 Otherwise you're going to be that person that turns up at 589 00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:25,200 school and says, oh, I've done my son's homework, how good is 590 00:38:25,200 --> 00:38:29,960 that kid going to be? Well, here, I'm sorry, officer, 591 00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:32,240 I'm here. I'll pay his bail. 592 00:38:36,240 --> 00:38:40,320 Adult life awaits. You'll be in court then, and not 593 00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:42,280 before the principal, before the magistrate. 594 00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:45,160 And communicate unconditional love. 595 00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:49,440 I'll always love you. I need to hear that. 596 00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:52,320 I'll always love you. I'll always be your father. 597 00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:57,720 I'll always be your mother. 0 Tolerance for these things in a 598 00:38:57,720 --> 00:39:03,000 Christian home is this. Can't discipline an anger, no 599 00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:07,600 physical injury of any kind, no comments that belittle or shame 600 00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:11,920 or provoke fear, obedience, blessing and love. 601 00:39:11,920 --> 00:39:15,160 Father, I thank you for your word and I pray for the children 602 00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:19,240 of this church. I pray for the mums and dads 603 00:39:19,240 --> 00:39:22,000 that they will follow your word and not the ways of the world 604 00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:25,640 and that they will raise up godly children who will love 605 00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:29,560 them and respect them and that they also will love and respect 606 00:39:29,560 --> 00:39:33,320 you. Father, I pray for Christ to be 607 00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:36,120 the authority of every home and every marriage. 608 00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:41,400 Lord we pray and ask this in Jesus name and everyone said 609 00:39:42,000 --> 00:39:43,000 Amen and Amen.