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A while back I came across a 
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You ready for it? 
75% of the time we will spend 

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with our kids in our lifetime 
will be spent by age 12. 

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What that means is that Jennifer
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the remaining 25% that we have 
with our boys. 

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Just take a moment and feel the 
weight of this. 

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Raise your hand if you have a 
kid who's over the age of 1275% 

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of the time you have with them 
is gone. 

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So how should you and I live 
with this reality in mind? 

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I want to welcome those of you 
joining at all of our different 

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campuses, those of you watching 
online inside. 

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And a special shout out to those
of you who are new here. 

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And please, please, please 
before you leave today at all of

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our locations, swing by the New 
Here booth in our lobby because 

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we would love to connect with 
you today. 

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We are in week 3 of A5 week 
sermon series and I need you to 

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hear me so clearly the next two 
weeks, not this one. 

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This one's going to be 
depressing. 

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Turn your neighbor and say 
depressing. 

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The next two weeks are the most 
important sermons of the series.

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One of my favorite preachers, 
Tyler McKenzie, will be back 

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with us and he's going to help 
you unpack and implement listen 

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to this phrase data proven 
principles to help you pass your

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faith on to your kids. 
How many of your of you want 

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your kids to know Jesus when 
they get older? 

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If you didn't raise your hand, 
glad you're here. 

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Hang on if you want your kids to
have what you have in Jesus. 

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Next week Tyler is going to 
unpack data, proven principles 

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to help you pass on your faith 
to your kids. 

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And then this series will be 
finished up by our very own 

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Chuck Hetzler. 
And his message could forever 

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change the spiritual temperature
of your family. 

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And I would love to be here for 
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But I will be leading a team of 
people from our church on a 

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missionary journey of Paul 
through Turkey and Greece. 

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And I will try as much as 
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teachings while we are there 
through Instagram. 

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And you guys know I'm kind of a 
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media. 
I don't get it. 

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Forget my password, it's not my 
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But there's an incredible team 
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And if you are the kind of 
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from your phone and the 
teachings that happened there 

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because it's unreal, whatever 
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Yeah, you guys know it. 
Now want to recap? 

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God designed the family to do 4 
things to prepare the family for

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godliness, to prepare them for 
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prepare them for future roles in
the Kingdom, and to prepare them

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for future roles in society. 
And God gives us two important 

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principles to accomplish this. 
The first is consistency. 

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Deuteronomy chapter 6, verses 5 
through 9. 

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You guys have heard me talk 
about this before. 

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Love the Lord your God with all 
your heart, with all your soul, 

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with all your strength. 
These commandments that I give 

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to you today are to be on your 
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It's a weight that's in your 
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Now look at the consistency. 
Impress them on your children. 

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Talk about them when you sit at 
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road, when you lie down, and 
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This is all the time, every 
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Tie them as symbols on your 
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Bind them on your foreheads, 
write them on the door frames of

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your houses and on your gates 
all the time, every time you and

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I are to consistently be moving 
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God. 
The second principle is to start

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early. 
The first one's consistency. 

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The second one is we start 
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Proverbs 22 verse six start 
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should go and when they are old 
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That means that our consistent 
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start earlier than we think. 
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the world will. 
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before, if you will not lead 
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There is a moment in your life 
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depressing. 
So just kind of hang on for a 

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bit, OK? 
There is a moment in every 

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parent's life where you will 
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time. 
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yeah, I think that happened like
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it. 
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will carry your kids upstairs 
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There will be a moment where you
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time, never to be picked up 
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Remember when you brought him 
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you're just holding it all? 
My goodness, I don't ever. 

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I don't want to put him down. 
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fool needs to start walking 
this, please. 

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You got to. 
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then you pick them up, and you 
put them down, and you pick them

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up and you put them down, and 
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them down. 
And then there's a day where you

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put them down and you never pick
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So this Christmas, after all of 
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after all of the presents, 
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boys up for the last time. 
We should have done it sooner. 

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OK, I was picking they're, 
they're they, they have my DNA. 

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There's a lot of genetic coding 
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There's some mass and I had a 
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and they outweighed my wife and 
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But we gave our boys their last 
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And it was a feat. 
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breathe, you know, and it was 
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We gave him a really special 
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vision over their life and then 
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And when your feet hit the 
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manhood begins. 
Training requires standards and 

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responsibility. 
It means that they need to start

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carrying and feeling the weight 
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There is an appropriate weight 
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There were things we were 
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it became very formal after 
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And hear me, the weight your kid
should carry is heavier than you

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probably think. 
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Jesus, life outside the family, 
life inside their future family,

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life in society, weight must be 
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For instance, if your child is 
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what kind of gift do you want to
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So if you think about your son's
going to marry a girl, what kind

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of gift do you want to give your
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If your daughter is eventually 
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what kind of gift do you want 
her to be to her future husband?

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If your kids are eventually 
going to have kids, what kind of

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gift do you want them to be to 
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If they are going to serve their
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going to need to provide? 
For instance, can your kid cook?

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Manage money, get up on their 
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their laundry, you name it. 
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somebody who can't cook, can't 
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do laundry, can't get up, can't 
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You know what that is? 
That's a rough marriage. 

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So what, you're like, oh, so 
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start dialing stuff up? 
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after it. 
And hear me, chances are, let me

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just let you feel the weight of 
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Chances are one of the areas 
where you are experiencing pain 

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and frustration in your marriage
is either a lack of training in 

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their home growing up or in your
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Training is tough and hard. 
Good it should be. 

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Can I just tell you something? 
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predictors of success is 
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The ability to bounce back in 
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The ability to overcome 
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You and I will never rise to the
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We will sink to our level of 
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So as you are raising your kids,
if you are always doing things 

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for them, if you are always the 
one who's navigating the pain, 

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you are robbing your kids of 
resilience, which is the number 

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one predictor of success. 
Do you want your kids to be 

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successful? 
Yes. 

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How do I make my kids 
successful, not just grow them 

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up in the Lord? 
I need to build in them 

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resilience. 
You cannot get resilience unless

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you go through pain and 
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And so if you have not trained 
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equipped to overcome the 
challenges of life. 

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However, something special 
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Wherever you start training your
kid, the muscles work in other 

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environments. 
So if you can train them to 

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overcome adversity and 
challenges in this area, when 

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they find themselves in a new 
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transfer. 
They go hold on a second. 

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I've been in a spot like this 
before and I can use these 

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muscles, and if you've trained 
them enough, those muscles have 

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been stronger. 
For instance, let me just do it 

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this way. 
Which was harder for you, your 

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first flat tire or your second 
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Everybody goes on the learning 
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But when you get the second flat
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here before right? 
Now, where do you want your kids

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to have their first flat tire? 
On the highway down to Saint 

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Louis to watch a concert that 
they couldn't afford that you 

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paid for? 
Or do you want them to have 

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their first flat tire in your 
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I think you would all choose the
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The problem is there's not a lot
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so you got to make one. 
So while your kids are eating 

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Fruity Pebbles, you go, hey, as 
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Pebbles, we got to go change a 
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Well, that the tires not flat, 
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And if you can't imagine it 
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through it. 
We are, we are changing a flat 

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tire now. 
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changing a flat tire for the 
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after Fruity Pebbles? 
But when you are on Hwy. 61 and 

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semis or and they're calling 
you, is that where you want them

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to experience flat tire numero 
Uno? 

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The same applies to money. 
Cooking a meal, going on a date,

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making a compelling pitch, 
learning how to close a sale, 

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how to vision cast, how to 
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You get the opportunity to train
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they can use those muscles in 
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And if you do everything for 
your kids, you rob them of the 

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resilience and the developmental
opportunities for their muscles 

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to grow, to become the person 
their future family is going to 

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need. 
That means if you don't do this,

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all of their problems in life 
will experience on the side of 

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the road. 
In order to do this, you need 

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clear standards in your home, 
clear expectations in your home,

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and most of our standards, most 
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character more than competency. 
Here's what I mean. 

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You can try hard and still get a
bad grade. 

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You can have a bad day, but you 
can't be disrespectful. 

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You can be frustrated, but you 
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You can be upset, but you can't 
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When our kids were young that 
we, we got them good and upset 

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and they went to slam a door. 
And you know, like when a little

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kid slams the door and it takes 
forever to actually close and 

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it's kind of cute. 
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it in our home, but I hopped on 
it pretty quick and Jennifer was

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giving me good coaching. 
She's like, listen, they're just

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young and silly. 
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She's right. 
But I said the problem is I want

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them to get out of that frame of
reference on slamming doors now 

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because if we don't fix it and 
they become my size and they 

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slam doors, there's not a door 
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I want them to learn how to 
control their anger as young as 

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possible so that way when they 
get older, their family does not

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live in fear. 
My job is to get that out of 

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them. 
You can be upset. 

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You can't be violent. 
And when the standard is not 

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met, we must discipline. 
And discipline should make a 

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memory not create trauma, but it
should make a memory a memory 

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that says I don't ever want to 
do that again. 

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And if your discipline did not 
make that memory, you either 

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need to change your discipline 
or dial up your discipline, 

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because discipline is formative 
and listen to me and discipline 

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is a sign of love. 
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through 12. 
My son, do not despise the 

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Lord's discipline and do not 
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Lord disciplines those he loves 
as a father, the Son he delights

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in. 
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than God, and God disciplines. 
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kids, you do not love your kids,
you do not delight in your kids,

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you are not being the gift that 
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kids. 
To be honest, when I was working

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on the sermon, I got very 
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was going to include this 
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side, I was very nervous about 
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because some of you would take 
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your kids and give them a life 
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deserve. 
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discipline part, but because you
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by the Spirit, you would do 
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So I was very nervous about 
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And there's this other part of 
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awful lot of people who attend 
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Satan has taken a ton of ground 
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disciplining your kids and 
trusting God in this area. 

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When kids are not disciplined in
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behavior, they don't end up 
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And right now, our nation is in 
a crisis. 

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Teachers don't want to teach 
anymore. 

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They want to get away from our 
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behave and our kids do not 
behave because they have not 

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been disciplined. 
Can I? 

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I'm going to sound like an 80 
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putting on, OK, you can do 
whatever you need to do with 

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that. 
Our kids are out of control. 

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And can I just tell you, we did 
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growing up. 
I'm 43, I'm 43. 

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I went to a private Christian 
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6th grade. 
And guess what our school had 

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was full of well behaved kids. 
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Because our principal, his name 
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He went by BA before they knew 
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wooden paddle on his wall with 
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minimize air resistance. 
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rules. 
You get your name on the board. 

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When you act stupid you get a 
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You don't get to go to recess. 
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you go to B as office where he 
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wall and live out his initials. 
I don't know if they ever used 

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it. 
I have no clue. 

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We were just all terrified of 
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They may have only spanked one 
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and then everybody else just 
took care of it. 

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Listen, man, Miss Recess. 
But after that, lock it down. 

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We can't. 
We can't be losing people out 

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here in these streets. 
We got to get to math class. 

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I've never won a math class so 
bad in my life. 

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I need a reset. 
I needed to go from Monday to 

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Tuesday. 
I got to get right with Jesus 

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right now. 
And the reason why that happened

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is because there was a this 
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them to make sure that I was 
raised right. 

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And there was a trust that they 
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parents were making sure that I 
understood that there were 

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consequences attached to my 
behavior. 

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And you might be going, Clayton,
did you just advocate spanking? 

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I did. 
And the only reason I'm doing 

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that is because we're big 
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Proverbs chapter 13, verse 24. 
Watch this. 

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Whoever spares the rod hates 
their children, But the one who 

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loves their children is careful 
to discipline them. 

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I am not saying that everything 
that your kid does deserves A 

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spanking. 
What I'm saying is there should 

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be discipline in your home. 
It should make a memory so that 

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the behavior changes. 
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change, you either need to 
change the discipline or 

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increase the intensity. 
It says careful, careful. 

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Listen to me. 
Do not make a bad day for your 

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kids. 
Not in anger, not in rage, not 

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abusive, not mean spirited 
corrective. 

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One of the most unloving things 
that you can do as a parent is 

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to not discipline your kids. 
Train your kids have standards 

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for your kids because you are 
bound to love them, but their 

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future employer is not. 
And as you are training your 

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kids. 
Watch your words. 

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Proverbs 1821 The tongue has the
power of life and death, and 

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those who love it will eat its 
fruit. 

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You can give life to your kids, 
life to your spouse with your 

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words, and you can also give 
death to your wife and death to 

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your kids with the words that 
you use. 

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It would not be right for me to 
preach the sermon and not tell 

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you that there have been times 
in my home where the words that 

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have come out of my mouth have 
created death. 

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I have said things that will not
be erased from their memory 

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until heaven. 
I know people who are in 

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ministry who are still carrying 
the weight of words that were 

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spoken over them by somebody 
that they don't even respect 

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anymore, but they still carry 
the weight of their words. 

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Your words have power, power of 
life and death. 

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And Satan is so crafty here. 
For instance, when you say you 

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are proud of your kid for the 
result instead of the effort, 

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you rewire their brain. 
When you say I'm so proud of you

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for winning instead of I'm proud
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game, you're rewiring them. 
Be happy for them that they won.

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Rejoice with those who rejoice. 
I'm happy that you won, but I'm 

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proud of who you were in the 
game. 

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If your pride is attached to the
results, your pride has been 

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surrendered to external factors.
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character, it will shape and 
guide your children. 

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This works in your marriage as 
well. 

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There are times when things are 
going to get out of hand and 

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things are not going right in 
are going in the right direction

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in your home and our approach 
typically when things are not 

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right at home to try and solve 
it usually only makes matters 

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worse. 
Your family steps on up a 

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landmine or they find themselves
covered in land mines. 

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And the way we try to navigate 
it only sets them all off. 

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So what I'm going to do for just
a second is I'm going to give 

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Clayton's pro tips to navigating
communication in your marriage. 

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So fellas, look right here, OK? 
I'm going to teach you how to 

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talk to women. 
Ready. 

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OK, this is solid gold. 
Take this home, men. 

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When you are frustrated in your 
home, pro tip cast vision, defer

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time, use your feelings. 
Let me give you an example. 

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Hey Boo, Jennifer's here. 
Hey Boo, I want to find a better

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way to handle this in the 
future. 

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I'd love to talk about it. 
Is there a time later where we 

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can discuss this? 
Because you were kind of 

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stepping on my air hose. 
When you fill in the blank with 

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whatever she did or whatever 
happened, and it hurts and it 

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creates a distance between us 
that I don't want. 

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And I'd really like your help. 
Now, as you heard that you can 

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use any combination of those 
things to get into a 

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conversation that needs to 
happen in your home without 

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assigning a whole bunch of 
blame, without getting super 

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upset. 
You're saying, listen, I want to

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be close to you. 
I need your help. 

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I don't want to feel this 
anymore. 

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I don't want this to keep 
happening. 

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There's times in Jennifer 
Knight's house I'm like, hey, 

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this is getting a little out of 
whack. 

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Let's sit down and let's have a 
look a little. 

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How are we going to get through?
And we'll talk it out. 

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But if you do all of your 
redirection in the anger, in the

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moment, in the frustration, how 
well is that gone for you? 

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But if you can go, all right, 
we're going to endure the pain 

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of right now. 
And then I'm going to circle 

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back and go, hey, I want to 
figure out a better way to do 

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this in the future. 
Fellas. 

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If you were to talk to the 
people at work the way you talk 

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to your wife and your kids, you 
would get fired. 

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Why on earth are you giving the 
people you love the most your 

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very worst? 
Satan is so good at setting 

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landmines, so stop stepping on 
them men. 

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Maybe one of the things we need 
to start doing is praying. 

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The prayer that David prayed in 
Psalm 141, verse three. 

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Set a guard over my mouth. 
Keep watch over the door of my 

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lips. 
I don't want to speak death into

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my wife and my family anymore. 
You are obligated to fix the 

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problem in your home, but 
there's a way to go about fixing

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the problem that is godly 
instead of satanic. 

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Ladies, look right here, I'm 
going to teach you how to talk 

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to men. 
Fellas, you're going to 

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appreciate this. 
Women, when you get ready to 

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address this with your husband. 
Use your feelings, but not in 

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the way you think, OK? 
Your men and your boys in your 

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home crave respect. 
They love to win. 

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They love it. 
And they love it when you make 

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things really clear and really 
obvious. 

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When you say I've told you 10 
times, no, you haven't. 

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All ten of those times, none of 
them was clear and obvious. 

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Women feel the weight of this. 
You will never criticize or 

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complain your husband into being
the man that you want him to be.

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Your criticism and your 
complaining does not work. 

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The good news is you can 
encourage and compliment him 

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into being that man. 
In other words, in your home, 

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your husband will run from 
criticism and he will run into 

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encouragement. 
So if your husband is running 

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from you, it's because you're 
too critical. 

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If he is running to you, it's 
because you're being 

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encouraging. 
I've said this before, men are 

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dogs. 
They just want to wag their tail

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and get a good pet on the head. 
Watch. 

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Got a little. 
Got your husband, your little 

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golden dummy. 
He's yours. 

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He just. 
Oh, my goodness. 

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And if you go stop pooping in 
the yard, stop pooping in the 

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driveway. 
He's like, I I don't know what 

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you want me to do. 
I love it when you poop by the 

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tree. 
I love it. 

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Your dog's like, OK, this is so 
good. 

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I get a big pet when I poop by 
the tree. 

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Yeah. 
Your man's a dog. 

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Don't tell him what you don't 
want him to do nearly as much as

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you appreciate the things that 
you want him to do over and over

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and over again. 
So ladies, before the day is 

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over, try this in your home. 
Trust me. 

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Walk up to your husband big 
eyed, give him a big hug, turn 

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your head sideways and put your 
ear right in his chest. 

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And while you're there, this is 
what you're going to say. 

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I love it when you fill in the 
blank about whatever The thing 

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is that you want him to do over 
and over and over again in your 

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home. 
I love it when you then smack 

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him on the butt. 
OK? 

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And then I'm what? 
I'm done. 

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I love it when you then walk 
away. 

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He will turn he you've got all 
of his attention. 

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And as you're walking away, just
over your shoulder, I'm so glad 

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I married you. 
His whole world just went right 

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now men are going to preach. 
Clayton, preach. 

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Someone's getting saved today. 
I just got a text message. 

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We need some in nine months. 
We're going to need more people 

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in our early childhood 
ministries. 

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Be thinking now about how to 
start serving. 

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Listen to me. 
I'm telling you ladies, ladies, 

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this is the way he craves it. 
You just made him feel 10 feet 

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tall. 
He hasn't done anything yet, but

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he wants to do that thing over 
and over and over again. 

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Let me just recap ladies, give 
him a big hug. 

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Ear right on the chest. 
I love it when you. 

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I'm so glad I married you. 
Your man goes. 

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I want to feel that over and 
over and over and over again. 

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You've made it very clear and 
very simple. 

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Now listen to me. 
I don't want you to think for a 

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second that your men are simple 
men. 

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Nor are they afraid of hardship.
Not at all. 

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Your husband will go golf on his
day off and he's horrible at 

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golf. 
He will shoot a 125. 

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He'll be all over that course. 
But there is one shot that he 

453
00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:35,400
had that felt pure and he wants 
to feel that over and over and 

454
00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:37,800
over again. 
So he will buy launch monitors, 

455
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:40,440
he will go and get lessons, he 
will get new clubs. 

456
00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:45,360
He will do whatever it takes 
just to feel that your husband, 

457
00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:47,600
who's a hunter, listen to me. 
They will go hunting. 

458
00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:50,200
They will work on a food plot. 
They will figure out which way 

459
00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:52,200
the wind's going. 
They will wait for the perfect 

460
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:53,880
shot. 
They'll buy tons of decoys and 

461
00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:56,400
put them everywhere. 
They will track it for hundreds 

462
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:59,000
of yards with almost no blood 
trail. 

463
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:03,720
And the reason they don't do 
that for you is because they 

464
00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:11,400
have no idea what works for you.
0 They have no clue. 

465
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:15,320
They know that when they hit a 
good golf shot, they know that 

466
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:20,080
there is a way to get to that. 
But when it comes to you, you 

467
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:25,760
have not made it clear and 
simple this works. 

468
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:33,280
So listen to me ladies. 
If your husband in six months is

469
00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:37,360
not the man you are hoping him 
to be, I am blaming you ladies 

470
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:41,240
because I just gave you the key 
to unlock them. 

471
00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:45,080
They don't fight for you because
they have no idea what works. 

472
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:49,200
But you start celebrating the 
things you want in your marriage

473
00:31:49,840 --> 00:31:52,360
and you will get it over and 
over and over again. 

474
00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:54,560
Jennifer went on, I've shared 
this before. 

475
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:56,600
She went away for something, I 
don't remember what. 

476
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:58,240
And I was like, what's something
I could do for her? 

477
00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:01,040
And I straightened up like a 
small nook in our house. 

478
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:04,880
She came home probably buying 
more stuff than we'd agreed on. 

479
00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:11,240
And she set it all down. 
And she goes, I oh, I love it 

480
00:32:11,240 --> 00:32:14,640
when you do stuff like that. 
You know what happened to me? 

481
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:18,960
This is my life now. 
This is so now anytime Jennifer 

482
00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:20,880
leaves the house, Oh, do we stop
at nooks? 

483
00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:24,600
Oh, no, no, no, no, no. 
Last time she left, kid you not,

484
00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:27,840
we did all the laundry, all the 
dishes, all the countertops, all

485
00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:30,720
the bathrooms, all the floors. 
And we change sheets and 

486
00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:33,240
whatever goes on top of a bed, 
pillows, pillowcases. 

487
00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:36,360
We did all of those, too. 
And my boys don't want my wife 

488
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:39,760
to leave anymore because when 
she leaves, we work. 

489
00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:42,000
We did the shower. 
We got the scrubber. 

490
00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:44,120
I was calling her. 
Oh, yeah, I was calling her. 

491
00:32:44,200 --> 00:32:46,360
I was calling her. 
Hey, baby, when you clean the 

492
00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:48,920
shower, what's the stuff you 
like us to use? 

493
00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:50,480
She's like, are you cleaning the
shower? 

494
00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:52,080
Oh, yeah, I'm cleaning the 
shower. 

495
00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:57,760
You want to know why she said I 
love it when you and I went. 

496
00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:00,760
That's a target on the wall I 
can hit now. 

497
00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:04,080
She could pit out the house if 
she wanted, go shopping, spend 

498
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:07,280
money, come home to a clean 
house because you know what she 

499
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:11,960
did to me? 
That's what she did and just 

500
00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:18,280
pull me into the boat. 
I'm telling you, ladies, it 

501
00:33:18,280 --> 00:33:20,960
works. 
Make it simple. 

502
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:25,240
But it's not through criticism. 
When Jennifer says please pick 

503
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:27,560
up your stuff, please pick up 
your stuff, please pick up your 

504
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:28,920
stuff. 
None of that works. 

505
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:31,440
None of it. 
It doesn't even register in my 

506
00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:33,960
brain. 
When she goes, oh, I love it 

507
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:35,280
when the countertops cleared 
off. 

508
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:41,520
Oh, OK, figure that out in my 
boys. 

509
00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:46,680
Not too long ago, one of my boys
messed up in the neighborhood 

510
00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:48,200
and he said something he 
shouldn't have said. 

511
00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:54,120
So we found out about it. 
So we hopped in the car as a 

512
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:58,400
family, we went and we went to 
one of the houses. 

513
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:00,960
He went in the house, the 
parents were there, the kids 

514
00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:03,680
were there, and my son had to 
stand there and look at all of 

515
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:08,120
them in the eye and apologize. 
He had to say I'm sorry for what

516
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:11,880
I said, I'm sorry for the 
witness that I was, I'm sorry 

517
00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:15,360
for the friend that I was. 
Then we got back in the car and 

518
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:17,960
we drove to the other house in 
the neighborhood and he got out 

519
00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:20,920
in front of all of his friends 
that were over at that house and

520
00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:23,480
he said, I'm sorry for what I 
said, I'm sorry for my witness, 

521
00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:25,080
and I'm sorry for the kind of 
friend that I was. 

522
00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:27,760
Can I tell you what was 
happening inside of me? 

523
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:34,480
Tears were running down my face 
and we got out of the car and 

524
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:37,440
I'm crying and I look at him and
I go. 

525
00:34:37,440 --> 00:34:44,239
I am so proud of you. 
He went from having his worst 

526
00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:51,120
day to having his best day 
because I showed him that 

527
00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:55,199
matters to me. 
I spoke his language. 

528
00:34:55,440 --> 00:34:59,840
I love it when you are a man of 
God. 

529
00:35:00,880 --> 00:35:06,720
When you are a man of God, you 
will fall, but you will get back

530
00:35:06,720 --> 00:35:09,880
up. 
You will own it, not run from 

531
00:35:09,880 --> 00:35:12,360
it. 
You will apologize for it, not 

532
00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:16,200
excuse it. 
I sent a clear message into his 

533
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,120
brain. 
I love it. 

534
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:23,000
I love it when you repent. 
I love it when you ask for 

535
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:26,400
forgiveness. 
He owned his failure like a man.

536
00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:29,280
Now watch at the four things 
that God designed the family to 

537
00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:30,880
be. 
Prepare the family for 

538
00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:33,800
godliness. 
Prepare them for future roles in

539
00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:37,120
the family, prepare them for 
future roles in the Kingdom of 

540
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:40,360
God, and prepare them for future
roles in society. 

541
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:44,920
How did we do that day? 
Part of being a godly man is 

542
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:49,640
owning your sin. 
I want him to be a husband, a 

543
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:53,760
father, and a friend who 
apologizes for his shortcomings.

544
00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:57,640
I want him to be a man who 
recognizes that his behavior 

545
00:35:57,800 --> 00:36:02,040
reflects on the Kingdom of God. 
I want him to be a man who knows

546
00:36:02,040 --> 00:36:06,080
and understands what it means to
fail and what it means to get up

547
00:36:06,360 --> 00:36:10,960
and chart a path forward. 
Crossing family. 

548
00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:16,440
If you don't set standards in 
your home, the world will. 

549
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:22,200
If you don't set the standard, 
Satan will. 

550
00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:27,680
If you don't train your family, 
the Devil will. 

551
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:33,600
If you don't figure out how to 
communicate and control your 

552
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:39,760
tongue, you will give your 
family death when you could have

553
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:44,000
given them life. 
If you don't try, you can't 

554
00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:47,280
train. 
If you don't have standards, you

555
00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:49,760
can't train. 
If you don't have discipline, 

556
00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:53,280
you can't train. 
If you don't do it consistently,

557
00:36:53,600 --> 00:36:56,480
you can't train. 
If you can't communicate to 

558
00:36:56,480 --> 00:36:59,520
them. 
And look at our Heavenly Father 

559
00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:03,680
as an example. 
His standards are high, So high 

560
00:37:04,480 --> 00:37:08,640
He disciplines and He convicts 
because He loves us. 

561
00:37:09,160 --> 00:37:14,080
He is consistently showing us a 
better way and providing us with

562
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:17,800
the power of the Holy Spirit to 
help us be who we never could 

563
00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:22,000
have been on our own. 
He is consistently communicating

564
00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:25,920
to us through His Word and 
through His Spirit life. 

565
00:37:27,400 --> 00:37:33,200
And the good news is that God 
gives us the power to turn 

566
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:37,960
things around in an instant. 
Hear me. 

567
00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:42,480
Crossing family. 
You can begin to redirect your 

568
00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:47,680
family towards God today. 
You can begin to change the 

569
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:51,680
spiritual temperature in your 
marriage today. 

570
00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:56,120
You can change the spiritual 
direction of your family, and 

571
00:37:56,120 --> 00:37:59,160
you can change it by God's help 
today. 

572
00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:02,560
There's a story in the Bible of 
a man named Lazarus. 

573
00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:06,000
He was one of Jesus's friends 
and he died. 

574
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:10,360
Jesus was long and coming to the
family, and by the time he got 

575
00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:13,000
there, he had been dead for four
days. 

576
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:15,840
And Jesus said roll the stone 
away. 

577
00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:19,960
And his family was like, no, he 
stinks, He's been dead, he's 

578
00:38:19,960 --> 00:38:21,360
dead. 
Well, there's no point. 

579
00:38:21,720 --> 00:38:24,800
Jesus says roll the stone away. 
And they did. 

580
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:27,760
And Jesus said Lazarus come 
forth. 

581
00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:32,680
And guess what Lazarus did? 
He got up from death and walked 

582
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:36,520
out of the grave. 
Hear me, Your parenting is not 

583
00:38:36,520 --> 00:38:42,840
as dead as Lazarus was. 
Your marriage is not as dead as 

584
00:38:42,840 --> 00:38:45,480
Lazarus was. 
Roll the stone away. 

585
00:38:45,960 --> 00:38:48,160
You might be going to Clayton. 
I don't have a lot to give. 

586
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:52,360
I haven't been following Jesus 
for a very long time, and I was 

587
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:55,320
raised by wolves. 
I didn't wasn't raised by people

588
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:57,560
who love the Lord. 
And when it comes time for the 

589
00:38:57,560 --> 00:39:00,600
marriage and parenting, there's 
just not a lot of tools in my 

590
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:03,120
tool belt. 
I don't have a lot to give to 

591
00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:05,720
this marriage. 
I don't have a lot to give to 

592
00:39:05,720 --> 00:39:07,800
this parenting. 
Well just so you know, the 

593
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:11,360
little boy who gave Jesus 5 
loaves and two fish didn't have 

594
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:15,480
a lot to give, but he gave what 
he had to Jesus and by the time 

595
00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:20,080
Jesus was done he had more 
leftovers after feeding 5000 

596
00:39:20,240 --> 00:39:23,240
than when he started with. 
You might be going Clayton. 

597
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:26,840
My situation is dark and 
demonic. 

598
00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:31,160
Yeah, but it is not as dark and 
demonic as the man who had a 

599
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:37,800
legion of demons living in him. 
But hear me, when he saw Jesus, 

600
00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:44,160
he ran to the feet of Jesus, and
when Jesus was done with him, he

601
00:39:44,160 --> 00:39:47,560
was dressed and in his right 
mind. 

602
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:51,640
So crossing family, the issue is
not whether or not Jesus can 

603
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:54,880
change your family, but will you
do the work that he has called 

604
00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:57,400
you to do? 
Will you roll away the stone? 

605
00:39:57,560 --> 00:40:00,840
Will you give him the fish? 
And will you run and fall at the

606
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:03,200
feet of Jesus? 
We're moving to a time of 

607
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:10,800
decision. 
To those of you in here, I wrote

608
00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:13,760
this series in love, and I know 
that there are some of you who 

609
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:16,640
you've never started an intimate
personal relationship with Jesus

610
00:40:16,640 --> 00:40:18,960
Christ. 
And I just want to be winsome 

611
00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:22,120
for a second. 
Galatians chapter 5 talks about 

612
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:25,040
the fruit of the spirit. 
Lovejoy, peace, patience, 

613
00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:27,680
kindness, goodness, 
faithfulness, gentleness, and 

614
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:32,400
self-control. 
And real quick, what kind of 

615
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:34,480
score would you give yourself on
those? 

616
00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:39,440
And before you get too prideful,
what score would your family 

617
00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:42,840
give you? 
And the truth is, you can't have

618
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:46,920
the fullest expression of the 
fruit of the Spirit until you 

619
00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:50,800
have the Spirit. 
And you cannot have the Spirit 

620
00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:55,000
until you are in Christ. 
And so today you might be going,

621
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:58,480
I want a godly direction from my
family, but you can't lead your 

622
00:40:58,480 --> 00:41:00,960
family in a godly direction 
until God is in you. 

623
00:41:02,240 --> 00:41:04,480
And so if you were here today 
and you've never started an 

624
00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:08,080
intimate personal relationship 
with Jesus Christ, one of the 

625
00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:12,320
greatest gifts you can give your
family, it's for you to become 

626
00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:16,320
the person that God created you 
to become in him. 

627
00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:20,600
And so just a few moments will 
the people around you stand and 

628
00:41:20,600 --> 00:41:22,680
sing, and some of them come to 
the steps and pray. 

629
00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:27,560
I want to encourage you to take 
a step not just on behalf of 

630
00:41:27,560 --> 00:41:32,080
you, but on behalf of those who 
are coming after you for you to 

631
00:41:32,080 --> 00:41:35,080
get right with God. 
And in just a second, I want you

632
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:37,120
to walk right over there 
underneath that screen next to 

633
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:40,240
the baptistry, and talk to 
somebody about how you need to 

634
00:41:40,240 --> 00:41:42,240
start the relationship that's 
long overdue. 

635
00:41:42,840 --> 00:41:48,480
Don't waste this moment to the 
rest of you, to those of you who

636
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:51,920
have been following Jesus for a 
while, where is your family 

637
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:59,480
struggling? 
Name it and chart a path to 

638
00:41:59,480 --> 00:42:03,400
redeem it. 
And what I encourage you to do 

639
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:06,000
is the demoniac. 
He ran to the feet of Jesus. 

640
00:42:06,560 --> 00:42:08,720
If you want a picture for what 
it means to be at the feet of 

641
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:11,480
Jesus, it's on your knees in 
prayer. 

642
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:15,840
It's what I want to encourage 
you to do is to get down on your

643
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:21,200
knees and pray over your family,
pray over your marriage. 

644
00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:25,640
I don't know if this is right or
not, but on Thursday what 

645
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:30,600
frustrated me the most is that 
these steps were dominated by 

646
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:37,360
women, not the men. 
And I don't know if there's 

647
00:42:37,360 --> 00:42:41,040
enough there for me to say much 
more than that. 

648
00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:43,240
But I just got to be honest with
you. 

649
00:42:44,040 --> 00:42:47,760
In my house, I don't ever want 
my wife to beat me to the feet 

650
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:51,160
of Jesus. 
And if I'm going to change the 

651
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:53,640
spiritual temperature in my 
home, if I'm going to be the 

652
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:56,840
person that God wants me to be 
from my home, I got to go first.

653
00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:00,200
Don't miss this opportunity. 
Would you stand with me? 

654
00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:05,680
So we can pray, God, There's a 
work that needs to be done, but 

655
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:07,760
it's impossible for us to do it 
on our own. 

656
00:43:08,640 --> 00:43:11,080
So, God, show us where we need 
to repent. 

657
00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:12,880
Show us where we need to get 
right. 

658
00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:15,000
Show us where we need to 
surrender. 

659
00:43:15,200 --> 00:43:17,000
Show us where we need to take 
ground. 

660
00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:20,640
Use this moment, Lord, to 
rewrite things for our family. 

661
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:22,720
Your name I pray. 
Amen.