1 00:00:01,960 --> 00:00:03,240 What up? Crossing family? 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:08,760 Today we are beginning a four week sermon series on the power 3 00:00:09,120 --> 00:00:11,720 of family. Jerry and I are going to be 4 00:00:11,720 --> 00:00:14,480 taking turns going through this series answering some of the 5 00:00:14,480 --> 00:00:18,360 questions that many of us have rolling around in the back of 6 00:00:18,360 --> 00:00:20,840 our minds. For instance, questions like how 7 00:00:20,840 --> 00:00:23,160 do I train my children in the Lord? 8 00:00:23,160 --> 00:00:26,880 How do I love my children? Well, how do I protect them from 9 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:29,200 the things that are happening all around them? 10 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:34,240 We believe, believe that today is not just another day. 11 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:39,320 We believe that the decisions we make today will indeed influence 12 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:44,640 our tomorrow and their tomorrow. And waiting until tomorrow to 13 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:48,440 make the changes simply will not do. 14 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:52,160 We believe, and we believe that you believe this too, that our 15 00:00:52,160 --> 00:00:55,360 families deserve better. And so we believe that the 16 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:59,600 change should start today and shouldn't wait till tomorrow. 17 00:00:59,600 --> 00:01:02,280 I want to to welcome all of our different locations, those of 18 00:01:02,280 --> 00:01:04,920 you watching online and those of you who are a part of the 19 00:01:04,920 --> 00:01:07,680 crossing inside. And I want to wish a special 20 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:10,240 welcome and would you guys help me welcome all the people that 21 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:12,200 are new here to the crossing this weekend? 22 00:01:12,480 --> 00:01:16,480 We love you. Our goal as a church is to help 23 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:19,560 people find an intimate personal relationship with Jesus Christ. 24 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:22,640 And I have really good news. You can begin that relationship 25 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:24,880 today. Why this series? 26 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:30,480 I'll tell you, perhaps one of the hardest things to do is to 27 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:35,160 raise a godly family. If you were to flip through the 28 00:01:35,160 --> 00:01:37,880 pages of the Bibles, those of you who are doing like a year in 29 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:42,840 the Bible thing, you'll be hard pressed to find a normal, 30 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:48,440 healthy family dynamic. So if your family is jacked up, 31 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:53,920 I got good news for you. So are the people in the Bible. 32 00:01:54,880 --> 00:02:01,440 God designed the family to be a spiritual powerhouse that would 33 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:06,760 launch children fully equipped not just into adulthood, but 34 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:10,680 fully equipped to glorify Him and to love others well. 35 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:16,240 The problem is that since the family has so much power and 36 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:22,600 potential, it has an enemy, Satan, and he attacks it 37 00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:28,360 regularly. Satan desires to create chaos 38 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:30,280 and conflict. Raise your hand if there's ever 39 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:32,840 been chaos in your home. Yeah. 40 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:35,480 Raise your hand if there's ever been conflict. 41 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:37,720 OK, this will be a great series for you. 42 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:41,680 Satan loves anger. Have you ever heard rumors of 43 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:43,080 people getting angry in their home? 44 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:44,000 Raise your hand. You. 45 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:45,240 This isn't. You don't have to identify. 46 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:47,120 The neighbors had their windows open and you just heard it. 47 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:52,680 Resentment. He takes joy in overreaction 48 00:02:52,920 --> 00:02:57,760 over correction, and he lures us into complacency. 49 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:04,120 Your family has an enemy. And just like everything that 50 00:03:04,120 --> 00:03:09,560 God created has a plan and a purpose, God has a plan and a 51 00:03:09,640 --> 00:03:15,520 purpose for your family. Did you know that your family is 52 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:19,280 one of the ways in which God blesses you? 53 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:21,760 You might be going, I don't know if I like that blessing. 54 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:27,800 Psalm 127 says this. Children are a heritage from the 55 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:31,680 Lord, offspring a reward from him. 56 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:35,680 Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in 57 00:03:35,680 --> 00:03:39,520 one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver 58 00:03:39,520 --> 00:03:45,440 is full of them. Much of the Christian life is 59 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:52,400 stewardship of God's blessings. Maturity in Christ is being a 60 00:03:52,400 --> 00:03:56,000 good stewards of the blessings of God. 61 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:59,720 For instance, we are to be good stewards of the gospel, which is 62 00:03:59,720 --> 00:04:03,320 a blessing, and try to make sure that we seek to advance it. 63 00:04:03,720 --> 00:04:06,560 We are to be good stewards of our lives, which are a blessing 64 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:10,520 from God, and we are to use them for the glory of God. 65 00:04:10,920 --> 00:04:14,240 You and I are to be good stewards of our resources, which 66 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:18,440 are a blessing from God, and to steward them for the sake of the 67 00:04:18,440 --> 00:04:22,320 mission. We are to steward our witness so 68 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:25,680 that way other people can find what we have found in Jesus. 69 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:31,320 So when it comes to the blessing in the form of our family, our 70 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:35,320 role is to be a good steward of it. 71 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:40,440 So what does that look like? Proverbs chapter 22 gives us 72 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:45,040 some insight into this. Start children off on the way 73 00:04:45,040 --> 00:04:51,040 they should go, and even when they are old, they will not turn 74 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:53,360 from it. Some of you, you grew up in 75 00:04:53,360 --> 00:04:56,400 church and you remember this being said a different way. 76 00:04:56,800 --> 00:05:00,960 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is older 77 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:04,960 he will not stray from it. Both of these translations are 78 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:10,560 trying to capture the word and unpack the Hebrew word hanak. 79 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:12,880 Turn to your neighbor and say Hanak. 80 00:05:13,760 --> 00:05:19,040 You've learned Hebrew. Hanak means to dedicate to 81 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:22,520 narrow. For instance, hanak is used in 82 00:05:22,520 --> 00:05:25,920 the dedication of a house in Deuteronomy chapter 20, the 83 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:30,400 dedication of a temple in First Kings 8, and the dedication of 84 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:36,360 an altar in Numbers Chapter 7. There is this setting aside this 85 00:05:36,520 --> 00:05:40,360 narrowing of focus. For instance, how many of you, 86 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:45,040 you live in a house or you grew up in a house that had plates? 87 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:49,120 How many of you grew up in a house that had the good plates? 88 00:05:50,320 --> 00:05:53,640 They had been ha knocked. They had been set aside. 89 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:59,280 Recently, my wife bought all new plates for our house and I got 90 00:05:59,280 --> 00:06:01,280 one of the plates out of the cupboard. 91 00:06:01,480 --> 00:06:02,400 What? What is it? 92 00:06:02,400 --> 00:06:05,520 Is it called a cupboard cabinet? Yeah, we got that too. 93 00:06:05,800 --> 00:06:08,400 And we put it on. I put it on the counter and I 94 00:06:08,400 --> 00:06:11,800 began to cut with it. And she says you can't, you 95 00:06:11,800 --> 00:06:16,040 can't cut on that plate. I said, OK, well, which, which, 96 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:18,880 which plate can I can I cut on? She goes none of them. 97 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:24,600 I just just say I'm fat and get me some Styrofoam because this 98 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:27,280 is ridiculous. There's been this setting aside, 99 00:06:27,280 --> 00:06:29,520 you guys have heard me talk about the holy towel in our 100 00:06:29,520 --> 00:06:31,800 house. This towel that Jennifer has set 101 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:33,240 aside. It's the one that hangs either 102 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:38,160 on the oven handle. And that towel, although it has 103 00:06:38,160 --> 00:06:42,680 all the the ability to absorb liquids, it's just for people to 104 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:45,240 look at. Like, we're so poor we decorate 105 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:49,400 with towels and like, a college dorm room, that's what we have. 106 00:06:49,840 --> 00:06:54,640 And recently this week, kid you not, my one of my sons fell into 107 00:06:54,640 --> 00:06:58,160 a pond and had algae and Moss all over his shoes. 108 00:06:58,560 --> 00:07:02,480 And guess which towel he got to use? 109 00:07:04,240 --> 00:07:06,720 Yeah. And he didn't get in nearly as 110 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:11,400 much trouble as I did for cutting on a plate because it's 111 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:14,080 been narrowed. It's been set aside for 112 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:17,200 something special, something divine. 113 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:22,280 We are to hanak our children. We are to set them aside, 114 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:27,120 dedicate them, prepare them for their future responsibilities. 115 00:07:27,120 --> 00:07:30,040 We are to hanak them for adulthood. 116 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:34,400 We are to instruct them into what is right and what is wrong. 117 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:38,400 And did you notice what the text said in the way that they should 118 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:45,880 go, not the way they want to go? I hear a lot of people this, 119 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:48,760 this is a Coach Clayton moment and Coach Clayton doesn't 120 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:51,560 respond to emails. So keep it to yourself. 121 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:56,880 When you complain about the behavior of your kids, you are 122 00:07:56,880 --> 00:08:03,000 saying more about you and your parenting than you are about 123 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:08,560 your kids because your responsibility is to train them 124 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:13,640 in the way that they should go. Your kids are super 125 00:08:13,640 --> 00:08:16,800 disrespectful. That is because you tolerate 126 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:21,040 disrespect. Adults are a gift. 127 00:08:21,280 --> 00:08:23,360 Parents are a gift to their kids. 128 00:08:23,560 --> 00:08:27,320 Because we have perspective, we can think long term. 129 00:08:27,520 --> 00:08:30,960 Kids can't do that. That's why God gave them you. 130 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:34,360 And we are to use this gift of perspective. 131 00:08:34,520 --> 00:08:36,480 We see things that they don't see. 132 00:08:36,640 --> 00:08:41,200 We know what's coming. We know what's at stake, and our 133 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:45,400 job is to prepare them. Now, I'm going to stress you out 134 00:08:45,400 --> 00:08:47,600 for just a second. OK, in love. 135 00:08:47,920 --> 00:08:51,680 So everybody take a deep breath. Here's just some questions that 136 00:08:51,680 --> 00:08:53,120 should be bouncing around in your head. 137 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:57,240 What kind of money manager do I want my kid to be when he gets 138 00:08:57,240 --> 00:08:59,640 older? Do you want my kid to learn how 139 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:03,240 to order less, live on less, show restraint? 140 00:09:03,440 --> 00:09:06,680 How to sacrifice? How to save? 141 00:09:07,400 --> 00:09:10,720 What kind of spouse am I training in my home? 142 00:09:11,520 --> 00:09:13,880 How are they going to speak to their future spouse? 143 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:17,400 It will be very similar to how they speak to you or your 144 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:19,920 spouse. What kind of person are they 145 00:09:19,920 --> 00:09:22,880 going to be around the house? Do they know how to empty the 146 00:09:22,880 --> 00:09:25,920 dishwasher, sort the laundry, know how to make their clothes 147 00:09:25,920 --> 00:09:28,280 match? I have 0 abilities when it comes 148 00:09:28,280 --> 00:09:30,920 to matching clothes. OK, this was not something that 149 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:33,320 I learned from anybody in my I have. 150 00:09:33,560 --> 00:09:36,160 I might as well be color blind. I have no fashion sense. 151 00:09:36,480 --> 00:09:41,760 In fact, you have never seen me in an outfit that I'm 42 that my 152 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:46,080 wife has not picked out and said you can wear that one. 153 00:09:47,040 --> 00:09:49,880 If you don't like this, you can e-mail her at 154 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:55,600 jerry.harris@thecrossing.net. What kind of spouse do you want 155 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:57,800 to raise? Do you want to raise someone who 156 00:09:57,800 --> 00:10:01,120 looks to help around the house? Who looks to sacrifice? 157 00:10:01,360 --> 00:10:07,080 Do you want your kids to know how to apologize because do you 158 00:10:07,080 --> 00:10:09,560 think they're going to have to know how to do that in their 159 00:10:09,560 --> 00:10:12,200 marriage? When are they going to learn 160 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:14,840 that before they have a family or after? 161 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:17,720 What kind of provider do you want your kid to be? 162 00:10:18,720 --> 00:10:21,080 What kind of work ethic do you want them to have? 163 00:10:22,080 --> 00:10:25,520 Do you want them to have any marketable skills? 164 00:10:25,640 --> 00:10:28,200 Can they cook? What would they be like as an 165 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:30,640 employee? Would you hire them? 166 00:10:31,960 --> 00:10:36,400 And if you wouldn't hire them, why would anybody else? 167 00:10:37,280 --> 00:10:41,600 Are they honest? You feel the stress? 168 00:10:41,600 --> 00:10:45,760 You're like, Oh my goodness, we should have started 37 years ago 169 00:10:45,840 --> 00:10:49,520 on this sermon series. So how do I do all of this? 170 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:53,480 If this is a responsibility from God, how do I do this? 171 00:10:53,480 --> 00:10:54,560 And I know there's some of you right now. 172 00:10:54,560 --> 00:10:55,920 You're going, but I don't have kids yet. 173 00:10:56,200 --> 00:11:00,040 You will. And when you do, you are to 174 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:03,240 start them in the way they are to go. 175 00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:07,880 Deuteronomy chapter 6 gives us insight into how God does this 176 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:10,640 Here, O Israel, the Lord, our God. 177 00:11:10,680 --> 00:11:12,520 The Lord is one. I'm going to circle back on that 178 00:11:12,520 --> 00:11:14,720 if I remember it. Love the Lord your God with all 179 00:11:14,720 --> 00:11:16,880 your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. 180 00:11:17,560 --> 00:11:20,880 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your 181 00:11:20,880 --> 00:11:24,640 hearts. Impress them on your children. 182 00:11:25,440 --> 00:11:29,080 Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the 183 00:11:29,080 --> 00:11:33,320 road, when you lie down and when you get up. 184 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:36,560 Tie them as symbols on your hands. 185 00:11:36,760 --> 00:11:40,400 Bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of 186 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:44,120 your houses and on your gates. There are three things to notice 187 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:48,800 here. One the priority, the most 188 00:11:48,800 --> 00:11:53,920 important thing you will ever do is train your children in the 189 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:57,400 Lord. I made a very big commitment 190 00:11:57,640 --> 00:12:03,680 early on before I had kids that if I was in town I was always 191 00:12:03,680 --> 00:12:08,640 going to be the one who took my kids to school for one reason 192 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:13,560 and one reason only. I wanted to everyday pray out 193 00:12:13,560 --> 00:12:19,120 loud over my kids and I have prayed the exact same prayer 194 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:21,760 every day. Here's the prayer if you guys 195 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:24,000 want a cheater prayer for you to have for yourself. 196 00:12:24,320 --> 00:12:27,160 It's going to sound very familiar to all the scripture 197 00:12:27,160 --> 00:12:29,200 that we use here at a church like every month. 198 00:12:29,280 --> 00:12:32,320 Ready, Heavenly Father, I just asked that my kids would grow up 199 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:34,640 to love you with all of their heart, mind, soul, and strength. 200 00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:37,200 That they'd embrace the Great Commission and make disciples of 201 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:39,120 all nations. May they be a leader of others 202 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:41,920 and a follower of you and help them to find a spouse who will 203 00:12:41,920 --> 00:12:44,960 love you and love them well. Do you want to know why I pray 204 00:12:44,960 --> 00:12:48,480 the same prayer and that prayer only it's because it's the only 205 00:12:48,600 --> 00:12:54,480 one I care if he ever answers. I want them to be right with the 206 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:58,640 Lord and committed to the Lord and fall in love with somebody 207 00:12:59,160 --> 00:13:01,280 who is also committed to the Lord. 208 00:13:01,680 --> 00:13:05,160 I have if I'm in town, I travel a lot, but if I'm in town, that 209 00:13:05,160 --> 00:13:08,040 is my job. That is what I do. 210 00:13:08,200 --> 00:13:11,920 I have never met someone to talk to them about Jesus before 8:30 211 00:13:11,920 --> 00:13:16,800 in the morning because my first priority is to my kids. 212 00:13:17,240 --> 00:13:19,920 Your kids are going to learn a lot from you. 213 00:13:22,240 --> 00:13:27,000 Make sure that they learn Jesus. First Timothy chapter 4 verse 8 214 00:13:27,000 --> 00:13:32,160 has this to say for physical training is of some value, but 215 00:13:32,160 --> 00:13:36,120 godliness has value for all things holding promise for both 216 00:13:36,120 --> 00:13:39,080 the present life and the life to come. 217 00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:42,720 I love sports and I love kid sports. 218 00:13:42,720 --> 00:13:45,600 Turn to your neighbor and say Clayton loves kid sports. 219 00:13:47,040 --> 00:13:50,280 If you are a kid sport parent, I love it. 220 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:53,680 I love that you are fully invested in making memories with 221 00:13:53,680 --> 00:13:57,440 your kids in athletic arenas. I love it. 222 00:13:58,520 --> 00:14:05,440 I just need you to know it has value, but not as much value as 223 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:08,920 training your kids in righteousness. 224 00:14:10,000 --> 00:14:12,200 I I'll talk to people on the phone and they'll talk about how 225 00:14:12,200 --> 00:14:16,200 awesome their kid is doing in a particular sport and I love it. 226 00:14:16,720 --> 00:14:20,560 I just would love in the future, like one day I get a phone call 227 00:14:20,560 --> 00:14:23,480 and someone is not bragging about how well their kid did at 228 00:14:23,480 --> 00:14:25,640 a thing. They're bragging that their kid 229 00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:30,520 memorized Scripture, that their kid invited someone to church, 230 00:14:31,200 --> 00:14:35,840 something that has more value. And I'll tell you why Parents 231 00:14:35,840 --> 00:14:39,160 just, you know, Coach Clayton, for just a second, I've done a 232 00:14:39,160 --> 00:14:42,560 lot of marriage counseling, and I've never been in a marriage 233 00:14:42,560 --> 00:14:43,880 counseling. And they were just kind of 234 00:14:43,880 --> 00:14:45,800 talking about how they went through this dark valley. 235 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:49,400 And then he is sitting there and he's like, yeah, things were 236 00:14:49,400 --> 00:14:50,920 just going really bad. And she goes, yeah. 237 00:14:51,960 --> 00:14:57,480 But then things totally turned around because he showed me that 238 00:14:57,480 --> 00:15:00,920 he could hit a curveball. And then I was like, Oh my 239 00:15:00,920 --> 00:15:05,920 goodness, my 42 year old husband can hit a curveball. 240 00:15:06,040 --> 00:15:09,840 We don't have problems anymore. I've never heard that testimony, 241 00:15:10,240 --> 00:15:12,440 not once. I've never been talking to a 242 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:15,320 couple and they're just having a really hard time. 243 00:15:15,320 --> 00:15:18,280 And then he says, listen, we were in free fall as a couple. 244 00:15:18,720 --> 00:15:21,240 But then she started talking to me about how good she was at 245 00:15:21,240 --> 00:15:23,160 volleyball and how she could bump, set, spike it. 246 00:15:23,960 --> 00:15:25,200 And I was like, I guess we're good. 247 00:15:25,800 --> 00:15:29,280 I guess as long as our entire marriage is volleyballs being 248 00:15:29,280 --> 00:15:31,440 thrown at your face, we're going to be fine. 249 00:15:32,440 --> 00:15:38,720 It has some value, but not nearly as much as training 250 00:15:38,720 --> 00:15:42,080 somebody in righteousness. The first one's priority. 251 00:15:42,240 --> 00:15:48,800 The second one is consistency. Consistency. 252 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:52,000 How consistent are you as a parent? 253 00:15:52,960 --> 00:15:55,560 Deuteronomy chapter 6, verse 7 through 9. 254 00:15:55,560 --> 00:15:57,520 Let's look at it again. Look at how they develop 255 00:15:57,520 --> 00:16:00,840 consistency. Impress them on your children. 256 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:05,200 Talk about them when you sit at home, when you walk along the 257 00:16:05,200 --> 00:16:08,440 road, when you lie down, when you get up. 258 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:10,400 Tie them as symbols on your hands. 259 00:16:10,400 --> 00:16:13,760 Bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the door frames of 260 00:16:13,760 --> 00:16:19,080 your houses and on your gates. This is to be a regular 261 00:16:19,240 --> 00:16:23,200 occurrence when you drive around and when you're getting up in 262 00:16:23,200 --> 00:16:25,600 the morning and before they go to bed at night. 263 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:28,600 These are things you are to do over and over again. 264 00:16:28,600 --> 00:16:31,360 You want to know why? Because the only things that you 265 00:16:31,360 --> 00:16:35,800 are good at are the things that you have done over and over and 266 00:16:35,840 --> 00:16:40,280 over again. If you are good at sports, at 267 00:16:40,280 --> 00:16:44,200 instruments, at drama, at finance, if you're mechanically 268 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:49,400 inclined, you got that way because you consistently engaged 269 00:16:49,400 --> 00:16:52,840 in that direction. That means that if you want your 270 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:59,480 kids to be great at life, at adulting, at parenting, at 271 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:04,760 following Jesus, you need to consistently invest. 272 00:17:05,319 --> 00:17:09,000 If I could be honest with you, the area where I struggle the 273 00:17:09,000 --> 00:17:14,680 most as a parent is in the area of consistency. 274 00:17:15,839 --> 00:17:21,760 My kids will go from almost no rules to lots of rules to I'm 275 00:17:21,760 --> 00:17:24,440 not that that much doesn't bother me all that much to this 276 00:17:24,440 --> 00:17:28,319 bothers me a lot to you know you can do this for a little bit 277 00:17:28,319 --> 00:17:29,800 too. You're grounded for a month. 278 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:35,360 The pendulum in my parenting swings way too much. 279 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:37,440 And you know what this does in your kids? 280 00:17:38,520 --> 00:17:43,600 It creates a ton of confusion. What matters to mom and dad 281 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:49,160 today is a lot harder place to learn than what matters to mom 282 00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:53,400 and dad and mom and dad's. If you are not on the same page 283 00:17:53,400 --> 00:17:56,520 in your parenting, you are creating confusion for your 284 00:17:56,520 --> 00:17:59,240 kids. I said I'd circle back to this 285 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:03,280 says here, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is 1. 286 00:18:04,440 --> 00:18:07,000 They are united in what they want for you. 287 00:18:07,440 --> 00:18:10,440 Now you guys have heard me talk a lot about our golden dummy, 288 00:18:11,120 --> 00:18:14,400 Suge. Now Suge is a tremendously 289 00:18:15,000 --> 00:18:17,080 obedient dog. Well, come here, Suge, come 290 00:18:17,080 --> 00:18:21,000 here, come here, bud, come here, come here. 291 00:18:21,440 --> 00:18:25,400 Now listen, you don't, don't. I'll send him home with you. 292 00:18:25,680 --> 00:18:29,720 Listen, if you ever want to know how to get a dog to just 293 00:18:29,720 --> 00:18:32,320 absolutely love you, be the person in the house who hates 294 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:36,040 him because this dog loves me. All right? 295 00:18:36,680 --> 00:18:38,880 Now come here. Nope. 296 00:18:39,000 --> 00:18:40,280 Come here. Come here. 297 00:18:40,360 --> 00:18:42,080 Get up here. No, get up here. 298 00:18:42,840 --> 00:18:44,360 Good boy. Now, Suge. 299 00:18:44,360 --> 00:18:48,120 Oh, my goodness. You do love me place. 300 00:18:50,280 --> 00:18:54,160 Now Suge is a Hey. No. 301 00:19:01,480 --> 00:19:04,360 Suge is a tremendously obedient dog. 302 00:19:04,600 --> 00:19:15,400 Heal Suge. Down tremendously obedient dog. 303 00:19:16,880 --> 00:19:21,920 He does exact down. He does exactly what I want him 304 00:19:21,920 --> 00:19:25,080 to do, for the most part, whenever I want him to. 305 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:30,160 I can go on walks anywhere I don't have my dog pulling me 306 00:19:30,160 --> 00:19:32,480 around on a leash. Sugar will do exactly what I 307 00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:33,480 asked him to do. Place. 308 00:19:35,120 --> 00:19:46,360 Hurry up. Now for as obedient as Suge is, 309 00:19:48,440 --> 00:19:55,280 come here, come here, sit. For as obedient as he is, there 310 00:19:55,280 --> 00:19:59,200 is one behavior we have not been able to fix in our house is that 311 00:19:59,200 --> 00:20:02,480 is if you get anywhere close to my house, he comes running for 312 00:20:02,480 --> 00:20:05,600 the front door. Down, down. 313 00:20:06,760 --> 00:20:10,080 Stay. He will come to the front door 314 00:20:10,080 --> 00:20:17,520 and try to go through the front door and the down and then when 315 00:20:17,520 --> 00:20:21,320 you come in he will jump on you non-stop place. 316 00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:26,040 And do you want to know why Sugar is like this? 317 00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:31,800 Because he got consistent coaching from me in all the 318 00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:37,560 areas that you're down, all the areas of our house except for 319 00:20:37,560 --> 00:20:39,080 this. Because I would come home and 320 00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:42,160 make Suge stay back and be calm, but my kids would come to the 321 00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:43,680 front door. Oh my goodness. 322 00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:44,720 Hi, sugar. Sugar. 323 00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:50,840 And so Suge did not understand what actually matters in our 324 00:20:50,840 --> 00:20:54,920 home. And now he's 3 and we can't 325 00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:59,640 break the cycle. And do you want to know why Suge 326 00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:02,760 is up here? Because Suge is the most 327 00:21:02,760 --> 00:21:10,960 obedient person in my house, because Suge has received the 328 00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:15,840 most consistent parenting and coaching. 329 00:21:16,120 --> 00:21:17,880 Would you guys give Suge a big round of applause? 330 00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:23,040 Get out of here, bud. Go now. 331 00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:25,520 Some of you, you're going, Oh my goodness, we're going to go home 332 00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:29,800 and we're going to be like, kids come to the kitchen table, we're 333 00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:32,080 going for it. And what I would tell you, don't 334 00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:38,320 do that because you'll be swinging the pendulum again #3 335 00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:43,480 parenting is my responsibility, not somebody else's. 336 00:21:44,880 --> 00:21:49,120 Training your kid for the future is not somebody else's job, it's 337 00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:52,920 your job. You don't get to outsource this. 338 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:56,840 Teachers, we love you. We're super thankful for you. 339 00:21:56,960 --> 00:21:58,560 Enjoy your break. You deserve it. 340 00:21:58,880 --> 00:22:02,680 But parents hear me. Teachers are your partner in the 341 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:06,760 development of your kids, not a substitute for it. 342 00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:12,040 Coaches are awesome, wonderful, super thankful for them. 343 00:22:12,600 --> 00:22:18,120 They are a resource, not a substitute for your engagement 344 00:22:18,320 --> 00:22:23,440 and your participation. We have an incredible team of 345 00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:27,120 pastors and staff here at The Crossing and they are a 346 00:22:27,120 --> 00:22:31,160 tremendous asset for the spiritual development of your 347 00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:33,640 kids and helping you on your parenting journey. 348 00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:40,200 But hear me, they are not a substitute for your presence and 349 00:22:40,200 --> 00:22:44,640 your coaching. You will be judged for how you 350 00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:48,200 led your home. We will be judged for how we LED 351 00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:52,440 our home. We will not be judged for how 352 00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:55,640 your kids turned out. You will be. 353 00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:57,800 Now let's put this in perspective. 354 00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:04,200 Churches get about 40 hours a year with your kids and you get 355 00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:06,720 3000. I'm going to show you in a 356 00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:08,560 different graphic that will really stress you out. 357 00:23:09,120 --> 00:23:13,200 We get the black dots, you get the red ones. 358 00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:22,160 Recently, I was convicted about this in a pretty big way because 359 00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:24,240 I was thinking about all the things that my kids have learned 360 00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:26,720 from me. And I was, I made a list and I'm 361 00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:28,720 not going to share all of it, but I mean, my kids learned how 362 00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:31,440 to throw a ball from me, how to dribble, how to ride a bike, how 363 00:23:31,440 --> 00:23:34,120 to swim, how to mow, how to use a leaf blower, how to change 364 00:23:34,120 --> 00:23:37,280 mower blades, how to shoot a layup, how to read a defense, 365 00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:40,080 how to chip near the green. And then I started thinking, 366 00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:46,640 what are things that they really need to learn from me and what 367 00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:50,440 are the things that I want them to only learn from me? 368 00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:53,920 Like, for instance, there's there's people that will teach 369 00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:56,440 my kids, neighbor kids will teach your kids something. 370 00:23:57,200 --> 00:23:59,320 I don't know if I want neighbor kids to teach my kids certain 371 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:00,920 things. I want them to hear that from 372 00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:02,360 me. We are great neighbor kids in my 373 00:24:02,360 --> 00:24:04,080 neighborhood. But there's certain things I'm 374 00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:06,440 like, no, I think I'm going to be first and I'm going to be the 375 00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:08,200 loudest on these particular issues. 376 00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:11,320 And then I said, what is the most important thing that my 377 00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:14,680 kids could ever learn from me? My kids already get prayed for 378 00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:17,280 on a regular basis, but what is something I really need to make 379 00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:19,200 sure that they learn? And this is what I wrote at the 380 00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:22,080 top of the list. I want them to learn how to open 381 00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:25,800 the word of God, read it and obey it. 382 00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:29,440 I want them to learn how to apply it to their lives. 383 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:33,240 Remember, every morning I pray with my kids and I pray over my 384 00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:36,000 kids and I, I take my kids to church pretty regularly. 385 00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:39,360 Sometimes my kids are going to church 156 * a year. 386 00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:41,320 I'm doing a pretty good job on that front. 387 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:45,040 But then I realized I was outsourcing something that was 388 00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:49,600 my responsibility. I prioritize and I fund 389 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:51,760 spiritual experiences for my kids. 390 00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:56,240 But that was me outsourcing instead of participating. 391 00:24:56,560 --> 00:25:00,280 So at the Hensel house, we started a family Bible study 392 00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:02,640 called DBSA Discovery Bible Study. 393 00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:04,600 And I'm just going to tell you kind of what it looks like. 394 00:25:05,440 --> 00:25:09,040 We read a passage of Scripture. I read it, Zane reads it, Maddox 395 00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:10,760 reads it, Jennifer reads it. We read it in different 396 00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:12,680 translations. I'll just so you know, parents, 397 00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:14,560 you're going to love hearing your kids read the Bible. 398 00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:16,280 It's one of the coolest things you'll ever hear. 399 00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:18,960 And then what we do is we just kind of go through what we call 400 00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:24,680 the spec SPEC. So S is a sin to avoid. 401 00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:28,480 I want my kids to get used to reading the Bible, noticing a 402 00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:32,600 bad behavior, a sinful activity, and go, I don't want to do that. 403 00:25:33,120 --> 00:25:37,160 I would much rather my kids get used to seeing sin when it's 404 00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:39,760 across the street than when it's in their own life. 405 00:25:39,760 --> 00:25:41,800 Does that make sense? How many of you would like your 406 00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:44,560 kids to sin less if you didn't raise your hand? 407 00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:48,160 You you got a rough 1 coming. OK, we want our kids to sin 408 00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:50,320 less. How do I teach my kids about 409 00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:52,960 what sin is? Read the Bible. 410 00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:56,240 I want them to have a promise to claim. 411 00:25:57,240 --> 00:25:59,880 I want to have a sin to avoid, but I want them to have promises 412 00:25:59,880 --> 00:26:02,080 to claim. Some of them they can grab onto. 413 00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:05,520 How many of you know that life gets difficult at times? 414 00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:10,080 How many of you have ever had to walk through a a difficult 415 00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:13,440 season? Navigate a dark valley. 416 00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:18,320 When you're in those moments, you are going to reach for 417 00:26:18,320 --> 00:26:23,280 something. I want my kids to reach and 418 00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:28,880 cling to a promise of God. And how can they reach for a 419 00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:34,000 promise of God if they don't know the promises of God? 420 00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:37,280 So I want them to have a sin to avoid and a promise to claim. 421 00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:40,800 I want them to have an example to follow. 422 00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:44,600 They have all kinds of examples. They have coaches, they have 423 00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:47,160 teachers, they have friends. They have all kinds of examples, 424 00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:49,920 all kinds. They have people they watch on 425 00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:51,840 YouTube, they have people they watch on TikTok. 426 00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:53,960 They have tons of examples to follow. 427 00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:56,720 I just want to give them some examples that are following 428 00:26:56,920 --> 00:27:00,000 Jesus. And so I want them to have some 429 00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:06,640 spiritual heroes in the Bible and #4 CA command to obey. 430 00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:14,120 I want my kids to get used to seeing the Word of God, reading 431 00:27:14,120 --> 00:27:18,000 the Word of God, and obeying the Word of God. 432 00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:23,560 Why? Because spiritual maturity is 433 00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:27,760 faith and obedience. And then there's two other 434 00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:30,480 questions we asked. What are you going to do in 435 00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:33,800 light of what we just read? And who do you need to tell? 436 00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:36,480 Because I want my kids to be a follower of Jesus and an 437 00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:38,600 evangelist for Jesus. And if I could tell you 438 00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:43,040 anything, I would say if you have to cut one, cut The Who are 439 00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:45,160 you going to tell? Because sometimes that can 440 00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:47,840 introduce so much anxiety that they don't enjoy the other part, 441 00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:49,000 depending on how they're hard wired. 442 00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:51,240 Now I'm going to tell you something super depressing. 443 00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:55,880 Full disclosure, this we do this. 444 00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:58,640 We haven't been as consistent as I had hoped. 445 00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:01,800 We've probably been doing it about every other week, OK, 446 00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:05,760 because some of you are going, man, I can't wait to go home. 447 00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:07,000 We're going to start this in my home. 448 00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:08,800 I just want you to hear me say this. 449 00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:12,200 This is the hardest hour of my week. 450 00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:17,440 I don't want you thinking that my family gets around the 451 00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:19,720 kitchen table and we start reading our Bible and I love it 452 00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:20,720 when they're reading it and I hear it. 453 00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:22,760 I don't want you thinking that might we get done. 454 00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:26,360 And my kids are like, can we can we just sing an A song right now 455 00:28:26,360 --> 00:28:28,600 as a family? Can we just hold hands? 456 00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:33,320 Pray longer, father, pray longer, Mom, read another verse. 457 00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:38,280 OK, I need you to know that is not how it goes. 458 00:28:39,960 --> 00:28:43,480 There's frustrations. There's moments of tension. 459 00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:47,520 It is the hardest hour of my week. 460 00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:51,680 And do you want to know why? Because it's the hour of the 461 00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:58,200 week that I am under attack. Because it is the one hour a 462 00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:04,920 week I can be completely certain that I am being who God called 463 00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:13,360 me to be in my home. Our goal is not to just make 464 00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:17,280 this another day, but to leverage each and every single 465 00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:21,640 day we have with our kids, with our grandkids, for the Kingdom 466 00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:25,600 of God and for His glory. I'm going to stress you out a 467 00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:32,000 little bit. 75% of the time that you will spend with your kids 468 00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:38,040 will be spent by age 12. Raise your hand if you have a 469 00:29:38,040 --> 00:29:45,600 kid over the age of 12, you are now managing the remaining 25%. 470 00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:55,520 So how you and I start training for godliness today will matter. 471 00:29:56,360 --> 00:30:01,480 And I promise you, one day your kids will thank you in the 472 00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:03,600 future. We're moving to a time of 473 00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:10,960 decision. OK, There are some of you that 474 00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:12,440 are listening this term. You're like, man, this sounds 475 00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:14,840 great, but I need to level a level with you. 476 00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:18,560 If you don't have an intimate personal relationship with Jesus 477 00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:21,280 Christ, you can't give your kids an intimate personal 478 00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:24,960 relationship with Jesus Christ because you can't give what you 479 00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:29,360 don't have. And until your life is 480 00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:32,520 surrendered to Christ, you can't teach your kids how to 481 00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:36,040 surrender. And so there's some of you, 482 00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:39,560 you're going, you know what? I I want to be who God called me 483 00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:40,920 to be. And I want you to hear me say 484 00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:43,040 this. You can't be the parent God 485 00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:46,440 called or created you to be until you have turned your life 486 00:30:46,440 --> 00:30:48,880 over to Him. Impossible. 487 00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:53,520 And so today, some of you, you might need to go. 488 00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:55,800 You know what, I've been putting it off for way too long. 489 00:30:56,800 --> 00:30:59,200 Maybe today the Holy Spirit has prompted you in the middle of 490 00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:00,560 this message to go, You know what? 491 00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:03,560 It's time for me to get my relationship with Jesus Christ, 492 00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:05,680 right? I know there's some of you. 493 00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:10,320 Anytime you start talking about family, you start going, yeah, I 494 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:13,640 had a pretty bad dad. And so when you talk about God 495 00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:16,880 as a father, I'm starting to go that that that's more of a 496 00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:19,240 trigger. That's more trauma than it is 497 00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:23,440 help. And on some level, I want you to 498 00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:24,880 hear me say this. I get it. 499 00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:29,920 Having a bad earthly experience with your dad could definitely 500 00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:35,280 cloud on some level, but I need you to know that your bad dad is 501 00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:39,880 nothing like our good father. When the Bible talks about God, 502 00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:44,680 it says that He is His love endures forever, that He is 503 00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:51,920 gracious and compassionate, slow to anger, that he rescues and 504 00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:57,680 redeems, that He pours out grace and mercy, that He hides us 505 00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:00,920 under His wings. He is our strong tower, our 506 00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:03,680 shelter. He is all of those things on 507 00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:06,000 your behalf, if you will let Him. 508 00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:11,240 So don't let a bad experience with your dad keeping you from 509 00:32:11,240 --> 00:32:14,280 the experience you were designed for with your Heavenly Father. 510 00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:18,640 How many of you, before you got married, you dated a crazy 511 00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,680 person? Yeah. 512 00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:26,360 Yeah. I didn't write off all women. 513 00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:30,720 I just knew I hadn't found the right kind of crazy. 514 00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:40,560 I'm sorry I didn't see Maddox was in here. 515 00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:47,520 Your mom and I kiss. And just because things haven't 516 00:32:47,520 --> 00:32:49,880 gone right here doesn't mean that like all of a sudden you 517 00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:52,040 get to put all of that baggage on God. 518 00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:58,400 God loves you so much that he sent his one and only Son to die 519 00:32:58,400 --> 00:33:00,480 on the cross. And Romans chapter 5, verse 8 520 00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:04,440 says that he made this move on your behalf before you did 521 00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:09,560 anything right. And so today, before you can do 522 00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:13,440 anything else right, you need to come into a right relationship 523 00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:15,440 with Jesus. And so in just a few moments, 524 00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:17,280 the people around you are going to stand and sing and some of 525 00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:18,920 them are going to come to the steps and pray. 526 00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:23,560 And I want to encourage you to talk to somebody maybe right up 527 00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:26,720 there underneath that screen next to the baptistry about how 528 00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:29,560 you can start the relationship with Jesus Christ that you 529 00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:32,080 desperately need to the rest of you in the room. 530 00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:38,200 To those of you who are parents and grandparents, how you and I 531 00:33:38,200 --> 00:33:40,840 leverage our today's will impact their tomorrow. 532 00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:48,560 So I want you to think, pray about what are the changes that 533 00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:51,600 need to be made? I'm not wanting you to go home 534 00:33:51,800 --> 00:33:55,040 and start swinging the pendulum. I actually want you to begin 535 00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:55,720 going. All right. 536 00:33:55,720 --> 00:34:00,160 How do I turn the heat up in my home, in the area of 537 00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:06,560 righteousness, in discipline, in training, turn it up overtime? 538 00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:10,080 Not a huge pendulum swing, but God revealed to me what are the 539 00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:13,560 steps that I need to make today? Maybe you want to come up to the 540 00:34:13,560 --> 00:34:16,719 steps and pray and steal the prayer that I pray over my kids. 541 00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:20,239 Maybe you want to just pray over your spouse or your ex-spouse 542 00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:23,400 and go, how do I lead and leverage the environments that 543 00:34:23,400 --> 00:34:25,320 I'm in for your Kingdom and for your glory? 544 00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:31,159 Would you guys stand with me? God, I know that every person in 545 00:34:31,159 --> 00:34:35,639 here that's a parent or a grandparent carries a heavy 546 00:34:35,639 --> 00:34:40,760 burden. We're trying to do it right, and 547 00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:42,880 rarely do we ever feel like we are. 548 00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:49,199 And so, God, I ask that you would show us the path that you 549 00:34:49,199 --> 00:34:52,440 want us to walk. Show us the things that you want 550 00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:56,440 us to do, and give us the courage and the consistency to 551 00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:59,760 do it. God, help us to be godly 552 00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:04,000 examples, to show them what it's like to do it right. 553 00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:06,560 And God, when we do it wrong, give us the courage and the 554 00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:09,040 humility to own it and apologize for it. 555 00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:16,640 God, stir something up in our hearts to pursue you, to trust 556 00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:18,920 you. In your name I pray. 557 00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:19,720 Amen.