1 00:00:01,600 --> 00:00:05,200 Man, I don't know about you, but I am so glad I decided to come 2 00:00:05,200 --> 00:00:09,500 to church today, man. It's been good, I tell you what, 3 00:00:09,500 --> 00:00:11,900 I am, just so thankful. We get to spend some time 4 00:00:11,900 --> 00:00:13,600 together. I want to welcome those of you 5 00:00:13,607 --> 00:00:16,100 joining here and all of our different locations. 6 00:00:16,100 --> 00:00:19,200 Those of you who are part of the crossing inside, special 7 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:21,200 shout-out to those of you who are watching The Crossing 8 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:23,600 online. Cool story. 9 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:26,000 Last week, we're preaching on circles are where the be the 10 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:27,400 village shirt. Lot of you guys went and bought 11 00:00:27,400 --> 00:00:29,600 some sweatshirts and shirts that link still available if you want 12 00:00:29,600 --> 00:00:35,100 to buy some But a person who lives in a different state was 13 00:00:35,100 --> 00:00:38,400 watching our services online, heard about that Ministry. 14 00:00:38,700 --> 00:00:40,700 They've been setting aside a pile of cash and looking for 15 00:00:40,700 --> 00:00:43,200 something to do with it on Thursday before, I went to 16 00:00:43,200 --> 00:00:45,700 preach, I got a call from the lady who works in our office. 17 00:00:45,700 --> 00:00:48,600 Who runs the not-for-profit. She had some out-of-town check 18 00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:50,800 from a guy saying, hey, we just believe in what you're doing. 19 00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:52,900 We want to support you. So those of you were part of a 20 00:00:52,908 --> 00:00:55,300 Crossing online. How cool are you guys? 21 00:00:55,500 --> 00:00:59,000 And we're so thankful that we get to do ministry with you, And 22 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:02,400 I know a lot of you are getting ready to start watching services 23 00:01:02,400 --> 00:01:03,900 online from the Lake of the Ozarks. 24 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:08,300 I know that's about to happen, and I want you to know that if 25 00:01:08,300 --> 00:01:13,200 you want someone to preach that sermon live, You like someone 26 00:01:13,200 --> 00:01:17,500 Dockside, you know, Jesus did a lot of ministry on the shores of 27 00:01:17,500 --> 00:01:21,700 a lake, and if you want help, I'll come and I can even baptize 28 00:01:21,700 --> 00:01:24,100 you in that water. Okay, I'll do will do live. 29 00:01:24,100 --> 00:01:26,700 Sermons will take the service live from your living room. 30 00:01:26,700 --> 00:01:28,900 Your Lakeside living room, nice Windows. 31 00:01:28,900 --> 00:01:33,000 That's what I'm going for now. We've been in a sermon series 32 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:36,500 called better, how to win at home because we believe that 33 00:01:36,500 --> 00:01:40,600 everyone wants to win at home, and we started off the sermon 34 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:42,100 series. The core belief that we have 35 00:01:42,100 --> 00:01:44,800 here at the Crossing which is that we believe that God can 36 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:49,100 redeem anything and everything and that includes your family 37 00:01:49,300 --> 00:01:53,200 and we talked about can Suki that sometimes the broken 38 00:01:53,200 --> 00:01:56,100 pieces, the pieces that we want to throw away and discard that 39 00:01:56,100 --> 00:01:59,600 we think no longer have any value in any use that if they're 40 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:03,700 placed in God's hands that his golden finger of redemption can 41 00:02:03,700 --> 00:02:07,100 put things back together in a way, that is beautiful and 42 00:02:07,100 --> 00:02:09,800 breathtaking. And that, when he's done the end 43 00:02:09,800 --> 00:02:13,400 product can Really sometimes end up looking better than what the 44 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:16,700 original product looked like. And we believe that God can do 45 00:02:16,700 --> 00:02:20,300 that in your life, in your relationships, and in your 46 00:02:20,300 --> 00:02:22,600 family. But we believe that in order for 47 00:02:22,600 --> 00:02:25,500 your family to have the best chance of success, you need to 48 00:02:25,500 --> 00:02:28,000 have a strong foundation and that there is no better 49 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:31,300 Foundation than Jesus Christ. No matter what the world throws 50 00:02:31,300 --> 00:02:33,800 at you. If your life, your family, your 51 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:38,600 marriage are rooted in God and his word and you trust your put 52 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:40,800 your life on that Solid Rock, you will not? 53 00:02:40,900 --> 00:02:44,200 Be shaken or destroyed. And then we talked about how we 54 00:02:44,200 --> 00:02:48,800 are wired, generally around gender, and generally around our 55 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:53,000 emotions and then we encourage you guys to go on date night 56 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:55,100 challenging if you guys haven't done that yet, you should 57 00:02:55,100 --> 00:02:56,800 definitely do that. And I'll give you a link in a 58 00:02:56,808 --> 00:02:59,000 second where you can get some of those challenges but hearing the 59 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:02,800 stories of how the conversations happen inside of those marriages 60 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:05,400 and what they learned about each other and how it shaped the way 61 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:08,600 that they're operating is just a tremendous gift that you gave 62 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:13,100 yourself and your kids and your Sure kids and then last week we 63 00:03:13,100 --> 00:03:16,800 talked about parenting and how we're all on a journey, a 64 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:21,200 journey from control to consultant and that the way that 65 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:25,600 God equipped us to navigate that transition is through circles. 66 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:29,100 And we agree that everyone needs a better Circle that a better 67 00:03:29,100 --> 00:03:31,700 Circle makes for a better experience and that every Circle 68 00:03:31,700 --> 00:03:33,900 needs to challenge us. And we talked about one of the 69 00:03:33,908 --> 00:03:36,700 shifts that we're making here at the Crossing and that we're no 70 00:03:36,700 --> 00:03:39,900 longer calling our 02:18 Ministries next-gen. 71 00:03:40,100 --> 00:03:43,100 We're going to start I'm them this gin because they're not 72 00:03:43,100 --> 00:03:45,800 next there. Now we don't want them to just 73 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:49,600 be Leaders of Tomorrow. We want them to be leaders of 74 00:03:49,700 --> 00:03:53,500 today and we asked you guys all to take time to write. 75 00:03:53,500 --> 00:03:57,400 Thank you cards to the circle, makers and circle, fillers in 76 00:03:57,400 --> 00:03:59,800 your life. And we also talked about this 77 00:03:59,800 --> 00:04:03,700 boardroom and I hope you guys will use this in your own life 78 00:04:04,100 --> 00:04:06,700 that in the boredom of your life, you have 8 to 12 seats and 79 00:04:06,700 --> 00:04:09,700 you have to ask yourself who are the people that are sitting in 80 00:04:09,700 --> 00:04:12,800 the boardroom of my life. Life now because whoever you put 81 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:16,500 around this table in your life, it's going to impact your 82 00:04:16,500 --> 00:04:19,000 marriage, it's going to impact your parenting, it's going to 83 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:21,899 impact your physical health, your emotional health, your 84 00:04:21,899 --> 00:04:25,100 Spiritual Development, your finances, who you put in your 85 00:04:25,100 --> 00:04:28,400 circle and in the circle of your kids is life matters. 86 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:29,500 Now, some of you are going to, man. 87 00:04:29,500 --> 00:04:31,600 I feel like I've missed a lot because you're traveling, you 88 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:33,800 have something going on. So I want you to know, if you're 89 00:04:33,800 --> 00:04:36,900 wanting to get access to some of the tools, the resources, and 90 00:04:36,900 --> 00:04:40,700 even some of the messages, you can go to this website. 91 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:43,000 Down here or you can do the phone thing. 92 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:46,400 The crossing dotnet / family, where you can get access to 93 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:49,000 everything that we've been doing in the sermon series. 94 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:52,000 So if you know, for you, or if you're like me and I that family 95 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:54,100 had their windows open yesterday and I think they need this 96 00:04:54,100 --> 00:04:57,000 sermon because my neighbor might be good. 97 00:04:57,000 --> 00:05:02,000 Yeah, you could send it. Okay, now today we're going to 98 00:05:02,008 --> 00:05:04,200 talk about glowing rectangles, everybody said glowing 99 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:08,600 rectangles, Now, before I get into this message, a couple 100 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:10,900 things one, there's going to be a part of you during the 101 00:05:10,907 --> 00:05:15,900 semester that you might think that I am like your right wing 102 00:05:15,900 --> 00:05:21,700 champion and that like you know, I'm you know, going way too old 103 00:05:21,700 --> 00:05:23,600 school and I just need, you know upfront. 104 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:25,100 Nope that's not what I'm actually trying to do. 105 00:05:25,100 --> 00:05:30,200 I'm going to try and put you in a position where you can make an 106 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:34,700 informed decision about how to lead yourself and your family. 107 00:05:34,700 --> 00:05:37,100 And I'm going to put your in the Receipt, you're the expert. 108 00:05:37,400 --> 00:05:39,400 What I want to do is I want to make sure you're at least giving 109 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:42,300 yourself the opportunity to have the conversations. 110 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:45,200 And in order to do that, I want to kind of talk to you today 111 00:05:45,200 --> 00:05:49,900 with a pastoral voice. And, you know, we can use a lot 112 00:05:49,900 --> 00:05:53,000 of different voices. You know, we can sometimes talk 113 00:05:53,500 --> 00:05:57,100 from a leadership voice and cast a compelling vision and paint a 114 00:05:57,100 --> 00:06:00,000 clearer picture of how we're going to get to our future and 115 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:02,700 that's all well and good. And and we can sometimes, you 116 00:06:02,700 --> 00:06:05,100 know, we can have kind of a counselor voice and help us 117 00:06:05,100 --> 00:06:07,700 navigate eight through some of the emotions or we can be a 118 00:06:07,707 --> 00:06:11,200 teacher and help us understand something more fully today. 119 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:14,300 I really want to kind of speak to you with a pastoral heart and 120 00:06:14,300 --> 00:06:16,500 you kind of have to give me permission to do that because 121 00:06:16,500 --> 00:06:19,600 you know, you get to decide how much of you know of your pastor. 122 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:23,000 I get to be your not but let me explain what I'm getting at. 123 00:06:23,500 --> 00:06:27,100 When the Bible talks about pastors, it usually uses the 124 00:06:27,100 --> 00:06:30,900 imagery of a shepherd. That a good. 125 00:06:30,900 --> 00:06:34,200 Pastor is a Good Shepherd. In a Shepherd, does a really 126 00:06:34,200 --> 00:06:36,000 good job of taking care of his sheep? 127 00:06:36,600 --> 00:06:39,700 And so, what a Shepherd supposed to do is go, hey sheep, look at 128 00:06:39,700 --> 00:06:41,200 that water. That's some really good water. 129 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:43,900 You should drink that water, and look at that grass. 130 00:06:43,900 --> 00:06:48,000 That is some really good grass. You should eat that grass and 131 00:06:48,000 --> 00:06:51,000 that that's a wolf. Wolves bite. 132 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:53,000 You shouldn't go anywhere close to that thing. 133 00:06:53,500 --> 00:06:56,300 And those are thistles and you know, the way God Made You, you 134 00:06:56,300 --> 00:06:58,800 got a lot of wool on you if you get in those thistles. 135 00:06:58,900 --> 00:07:02,000 You're going to get hung up and stuck and that's poop and we 136 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:05,200 don't eat poop. Okay, that's that's what that's 137 00:07:05,200 --> 00:07:07,700 what a Shepherd does. And so what I want to do today 138 00:07:07,700 --> 00:07:10,500 is I want to kind of talk to you the Pastoral heart and go. 139 00:07:10,508 --> 00:07:16,200 Hey guys, those are thistles, those are wolves, and I wouldn't 140 00:07:16,200 --> 00:07:19,500 eat that. And you listen, you make the 141 00:07:19,500 --> 00:07:23,500 decision but I feel like I have an obligation to spend a little 142 00:07:23,500 --> 00:07:26,000 bit of time, talking about something that I think is, 143 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:29,100 impacting us all, we're all aware of it, but maybe, We're 144 00:07:29,100 --> 00:07:33,000 not necessarily taking the steps that we need to take to address 145 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:37,100 it. Here we go. 146 00:07:37,800 --> 00:07:40,400 When I was growing up, we had choices. 147 00:07:41,500 --> 00:07:44,000 Everything was a different conversation. 148 00:07:44,900 --> 00:07:49,500 We had a phone in our house. And then what we did is some of 149 00:07:49,500 --> 00:07:52,500 you. We had friends who they went out 150 00:07:52,500 --> 00:07:57,100 and spent money on like the 150 foot long cord, that could go 151 00:07:57,100 --> 00:08:00,600 from the kitchen down the hall into their daughter's room into 152 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:02,800 the bathroom and into her walk-in closet. 153 00:08:02,800 --> 00:08:04,900 And this thing just spun all the way anybody. 154 00:08:04,900 --> 00:08:06,200 How many of you guys have that phone? 155 00:08:06,500 --> 00:08:10,000 Oh yeah, okay, yeah, and then some of us, some of you grew up 156 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:13,800 a little rich. You had call waiting. 157 00:08:15,100 --> 00:08:17,200 You're on the phone. One moment, please. 158 00:08:18,500 --> 00:08:21,800 Hello. Yes, he is here but I'm on the 159 00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:24,900 other line, right? Yeah. 160 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:29,400 Okay. Some of you you came from like 161 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:33,700 super rich people and at Christmas like, you got your own 162 00:08:33,700 --> 00:08:36,700 phone line at the house, like, you had a separate line. 163 00:08:37,600 --> 00:08:40,700 You guys were total Ballers and like you would give like after 164 00:08:40,700 --> 00:08:43,600 Christmas, you give somebody your number, like I still 165 00:08:43,600 --> 00:08:48,100 remember Nikki's phone number. Oh 58-37, 20 585, Sarah orts. 166 00:08:48,500 --> 00:08:51,000 372 7631. This is back. 167 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:54,100 When you actually remembered people's phone numbers, like, 168 00:08:54,100 --> 00:08:57,700 you knew Pizza Hut, like you knew Papa, John's like you knew 169 00:08:57,700 --> 00:08:59,900 him, you called him up and I like, what's up, man? 170 00:08:59,900 --> 00:09:02,300 They just knew your voice. Well, I guess. 171 00:09:02,300 --> 00:09:04,700 Same thing saying, yeah, I want, you know, I want to pepperonis 172 00:09:04,700 --> 00:09:06,900 on with the stuff Crescent, you know, where to deliver it 173 00:09:06,900 --> 00:09:10,800 because you know who this is, That's How okay, yeah, this is 174 00:09:10,900 --> 00:09:13,000 it's a whole different world. Some of you like, tell me more 175 00:09:13,100 --> 00:09:18,600 okay, like we were so young in the cell phone game That my 176 00:09:18,600 --> 00:09:22,000 dad's phone number is nine one of his phone numbers is nine 177 00:09:22,000 --> 00:09:24,400 thousand. One of them is two thousand and 178 00:09:24,400 --> 00:09:27,800 one of them is 9,500, that's how early we were to the cell phone 179 00:09:27,800 --> 00:09:28,700 game. Okay? 180 00:09:29,100 --> 00:09:32,300 Now, before I before, the cell phone game came, there was 181 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:36,800 though the wireless phone. Remember when you got one of 182 00:09:36,800 --> 00:09:38,700 those, no wires had the big long. 183 00:09:38,700 --> 00:09:42,500 Antennae that when you're my height get stuck in the ceiling 184 00:09:42,500 --> 00:09:43,900 fan. Okay. 185 00:09:44,200 --> 00:09:45,900 Here's walking through there. I can't hear you. 186 00:09:45,900 --> 00:09:48,700 Okay? And it was huge member Have that 187 00:09:48,700 --> 00:09:50,800 thing and you put it on and like wrapped all the way around your 188 00:09:50,808 --> 00:09:52,900 face. You need a spotter when you're 189 00:09:52,900 --> 00:09:54,600 walking around with it. Okay. 190 00:09:55,100 --> 00:09:57,700 And so whether or not you were going to get one of those was a 191 00:09:57,700 --> 00:09:59,800 big deal because it was a big investment. 192 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:02,300 Then there was a discussion of whether or not we got the TV in 193 00:10:02,500 --> 00:10:06,400 my room. And there's a discussion about 194 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:11,000 whether or not we were going to get cable, fun fact, my parents 195 00:10:11,100 --> 00:10:15,800 have never had cable. They have watched whatever was 196 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:20,200 free their whole lives. If they wanted to watch a game 197 00:10:20,200 --> 00:10:22,400 that was going to be on cable kid, you not? 198 00:10:22,500 --> 00:10:26,500 They would rent a hotel room. Because I had came with cable 199 00:10:26,900 --> 00:10:30,100 but no joke, or they just hang out in the lobby at a hotel. 200 00:10:30,300 --> 00:10:33,300 Like we're just like, okay, this is how it is part of that was 201 00:10:33,300 --> 00:10:36,200 because of the finances and part of it was because some of the 202 00:10:36,200 --> 00:10:38,800 programming that was on cable, late at night, wasn't 203 00:10:38,800 --> 00:10:41,500 necessarily suitable for the spiritual development of a 204 00:10:41,508 --> 00:10:47,100 family. Then there was a discussion 205 00:10:47,100 --> 00:10:49,800 about whether or not we were going to have a gaming device. 206 00:10:52,700 --> 00:10:54,700 There was going to be the you know, can I have the Nintendo? 207 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:56,600 No, Super Nintendo. Nope. 208 00:10:57,100 --> 00:10:59,900 Can I have the Sega Genesis? Yeah, Street Fighter. 209 00:10:59,900 --> 00:11:03,300 No couldn't have that either. In fact, I did not get a gaming 210 00:11:03,300 --> 00:11:06,000 device until I was a junior in college and I paid for it with 211 00:11:06,000 --> 00:11:09,700 my own money. A lot of my friends had game 212 00:11:09,700 --> 00:11:11,700 boys so they can play Tetris in the car ride. 213 00:11:13,100 --> 00:11:17,600 Yeah, I didn't get that either. Then and this is going to make 214 00:11:17,600 --> 00:11:19,300 some of you go. How old is Clayton? 215 00:11:19,300 --> 00:11:25,100 Listen, I am very young and attractive, okay, I was a 216 00:11:25,100 --> 00:11:28,700 freshman in high school when I logged onto the internet for the 217 00:11:28,700 --> 00:11:34,300 first time, I remember the it loading slowly as I looked up 218 00:11:34,300 --> 00:11:36,700 stock prices, you're like Clayton, you're a freshman 219 00:11:36,700 --> 00:11:40,500 looking up stock prices. Yes, suckers I was wish out 220 00:11:40,500 --> 00:11:44,000 about Google. Okay, and I mean, this was back 221 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:46,900 when Ask Jeeves was where you hung out, okay? 222 00:11:47,500 --> 00:11:50,700 And I remember it loading and back then, you couldn't we got 223 00:11:50,700 --> 00:11:54,200 internet at my parents house and you bought it by the minute. 224 00:11:55,500 --> 00:11:59,100 We bought like a an hour of internet for the whole month. 225 00:12:00,000 --> 00:12:06,700 Spend it wisely kids, and you spent 28 of it loading, right? 226 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:11,900 And you couldn't sneak onto the internet at your house. you 227 00:12:11,900 --> 00:12:17,900 know, if you know Right? You couldn't you couldn't just 228 00:12:17,900 --> 00:12:21,800 be online. They like everybody's waking up 229 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:25,200 thinking that there's a tornado know that I'm just pulling up 230 00:12:25,200 --> 00:12:29,600 Yahoo that's what I'm doing. Okay, you guys have been there. 231 00:12:30,200 --> 00:12:34,700 Now we give our kids a phone and we're giving them all of this 232 00:12:34,700 --> 00:12:36,500 and more. They're getting a phone, a 233 00:12:36,508 --> 00:12:39,000 messaging device. The internet VCR. 234 00:12:39,100 --> 00:12:41,000 Some of your like VCR tell you ask her parents. 235 00:12:41,000 --> 00:12:44,400 It's super cool email and a gaming device. 236 00:12:45,400 --> 00:12:49,600 There was a time when our kids were isolated from the craziness 237 00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:52,700 that we saw on the east coast and the West Coast. 238 00:12:53,700 --> 00:12:56,200 Some of the things that we saw and heard is Dan. 239 00:12:56,200 --> 00:13:02,700 Rather reported in the evening news, our kids were kept from if 240 00:13:02,700 --> 00:13:05,800 they wanted to see something explicit content, you had to go 241 00:13:05,800 --> 00:13:08,600 into the video store and you had to go to the very back and you 242 00:13:08,600 --> 00:13:11,100 had to go into a room that was off-limits to anybody who wasn't 243 00:13:11,100 --> 00:13:13,600 over the age of 18. And there was a video camera 244 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:15,000 there to make sure that nobody went in there. 245 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:16,400 That wasn't supposed to go in there. 246 00:13:16,600 --> 00:13:19,500 If you wanted to get us other kinds of content, you had to go 247 00:13:19,500 --> 00:13:22,200 to the gas station and you add to ask the lady who was working 248 00:13:22,200 --> 00:13:25,500 at the register to reach behind the register and grab something, 249 00:13:25,500 --> 00:13:28,000 and you had to call it by name. And then she picked it up and it 250 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:31,000 came in a black thing and they put it on the tip you had to ask 251 00:13:31,000 --> 00:13:33,700 for it. And now all the things that we 252 00:13:33,700 --> 00:13:36,900 used to be able to protect our kids from are now sent to them 253 00:13:36,900 --> 00:13:42,500 on their phone, Jesus uses a perfect illustration of what 254 00:13:42,500 --> 00:13:45,100 it's like trying to lead through change and this is what he says. 255 00:13:45,100 --> 00:13:49,400 In Matthew chapter 9, no one sews a patch of unshrunk cloth 256 00:13:49,400 --> 00:13:51,500 on an old garment. For the patch will pull away 257 00:13:51,500 --> 00:13:53,700 from the Garment making the tear worse. 258 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:58,300 Neither do people pour new wine into Old wineskins? 259 00:13:59,100 --> 00:14:04,200 If they do the Skins will burst and the wine will run out and 260 00:14:04,200 --> 00:14:09,700 the wineskins will be ruined. No, they pour new wine into new 261 00:14:09,700 --> 00:14:13,400 wineskins and both are preserved. 262 00:14:14,200 --> 00:14:17,000 The goal of this sermon is to make sure that things don't 263 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:21,100 burst things aren't ruined but that you and your family are 264 00:14:21,100 --> 00:14:24,100 preserved. In other words, the new patch of 265 00:14:24,100 --> 00:14:27,700 Technology will not work with the parenting styles that you 266 00:14:27,700 --> 00:14:32,900 inherited from your parents. The newness of Technology will 267 00:14:32,900 --> 00:14:37,900 burst our old parenting techniques and there is too much 268 00:14:37,900 --> 00:14:41,000 that is changed and there is too much at stake. 269 00:14:41,700 --> 00:14:45,900 We need new methods while our desires can be the same and our 270 00:14:45,900 --> 00:14:49,700 principles may be the same our method and our approach. 271 00:14:49,800 --> 00:14:55,700 Must be drastically, different and Kingdom focused. 272 00:14:56,700 --> 00:14:59,600 God gives us a cheat code on how to live the life that we were 273 00:14:59,600 --> 00:15:02,200 designed to live. You can find the cheat code and 274 00:15:02,200 --> 00:15:06,100 Proverbs chapter 4 he says above all else preeminent. 275 00:15:06,100 --> 00:15:10,700 Number one, Numero Uno. Get this thing right above all 276 00:15:10,700 --> 00:15:16,900 else, guard your heart. The most important thing for you 277 00:15:16,900 --> 00:15:21,400 to do, is to guard your heart. Why, why is this important? 278 00:15:21,400 --> 00:15:28,000 He tells us for everything, you do flows from it. 279 00:15:29,600 --> 00:15:36,100 We must be committed to guarding our hearts and the hearts of our 280 00:15:36,100 --> 00:15:40,100 kids. And I hear regularly parents 281 00:15:40,100 --> 00:15:43,400 talking about the frustration that they have with social media 282 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:46,500 and the impact that it is having on their kids and they have 283 00:15:46,500 --> 00:15:51,100 plenty to be frustrated by the link between social media and 284 00:15:51,100 --> 00:15:55,700 depression is staggering with some studies, showing a 66% 285 00:15:57,400 --> 00:16:00,500 increase. Hear that? 286 00:16:01,900 --> 00:16:06,100 but since the introduction of the smartphone between 8th grade 287 00:16:06,100 --> 00:16:10,800 and 12th grade between that subset of people among girls in 288 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:14,200 that age category, the suicide rate for girls has gone up by 289 00:16:14,200 --> 00:16:21,000 65% The studies are completely conclusive. 290 00:16:21,900 --> 00:16:25,000 The more time you spend on Instagram, the more you will 291 00:16:25,000 --> 00:16:31,200 struggle with anxiety. Kids with smartphones who get to 292 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:34,900 take them to bed are getting one less hour of sleep than parents 293 00:16:34,900 --> 00:16:37,200 who make their kids turn in their phones before they go to 294 00:16:37,200 --> 00:16:39,400 bed. And that one hour is robbing 295 00:16:39,400 --> 00:16:42,400 them of the time that they need for the brain to restore and 296 00:16:42,400 --> 00:16:46,300 develop and be healthy, which means it makes it harder for 297 00:16:46,300 --> 00:16:48,600 them to learn which makes it harder for them to pass. 298 00:16:48,900 --> 00:16:51,500 Get good grades in school which makes it harder for them to 299 00:16:51,500 --> 00:16:54,400 compete in the marketplace long term, which will long-term have 300 00:16:54,400 --> 00:16:57,100 economic impact negatively for them. 301 00:16:57,600 --> 00:17:01,300 Also changes the way that their brain is a healed. 302 00:17:01,300 --> 00:17:04,500 So that way, they have a harder time relating to people the next 303 00:17:04,500 --> 00:17:06,400 day, which means that they're gonna have a harder time 304 00:17:06,400 --> 00:17:09,900 relating with you, their parent. Which means that that an extra 305 00:17:09,900 --> 00:17:12,700 hour of sleep is actually putting more tension on a 306 00:17:12,708 --> 00:17:16,700 relationship that already has. A lot of tension. 307 00:17:17,700 --> 00:17:20,099 And as you try to navigate from control to consultant, you're 308 00:17:20,099 --> 00:17:22,599 doing it with the kid. That's not actually in a proper 309 00:17:22,599 --> 00:17:25,599 place to be able to receive coaching and consultation. 310 00:17:28,099 --> 00:17:33,100 Everybody say five. Five years ago. 311 00:17:35,500 --> 00:17:39,200 Sixty-two percent of teenagers say they have received a nude 312 00:17:39,200 --> 00:17:43,000 image on their phone. That was five years ago. 313 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:50,100 Five years ago, forty percent say they have sent one. 314 00:17:51,800 --> 00:17:54,000 I know why Miss in the sermon. You guys are all going. 315 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:56,200 Not my kid, but I can promise you. 316 00:17:56,200 --> 00:17:58,000 There is not another church somewhere. 317 00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:00,300 Where all of them. We're going. 318 00:18:00,300 --> 00:18:03,700 I guess it's all of us. This is real. 319 00:18:09,300 --> 00:18:12,100 Furthermore, you're having to fight an algorithm. 320 00:18:13,100 --> 00:18:15,500 And this algorithm is hard to fight because the algorithm is 321 00:18:15,500 --> 00:18:18,900 smarter than you. It is designed to keep your 322 00:18:18,900 --> 00:18:23,500 attention and keep your focus. Everything about it is designed 323 00:18:23,500 --> 00:18:24,900 to keep things moving. Have you noticed that when 324 00:18:24,900 --> 00:18:27,000 you're scrolling through Netflix, it already starts 325 00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:29,600 playing the video. When you pull up YouTube on your 326 00:18:29,600 --> 00:18:31,900 phone, do you notice how to automatically go straight to the 327 00:18:31,900 --> 00:18:35,600 shorts sometimes because it just wants to suck you in. 328 00:18:37,500 --> 00:18:41,000 The whole purpose is for you to spend a little bit more time 329 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:44,400 looking, and it notices, what you look at, it notices, what 330 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:48,600 you cook on it, notices, how long you pause over certain 331 00:18:48,600 --> 00:18:53,700 content and certain articles, it notices, how long you linger. 332 00:18:53,700 --> 00:18:58,100 Even if you don't click on it it notices how long you watch it 333 00:18:58,100 --> 00:19:04,100 without even the sound being on? And then it begins to send you 334 00:19:04,100 --> 00:19:09,900 more and more similar content. Recently a pastor on Twitter you 335 00:19:09,900 --> 00:19:14,800 know from like a pretty proudful standpoint says parents, keep 336 00:19:14,800 --> 00:19:18,000 all your kids off a tick tock because my Tick Tock feed is 337 00:19:18,000 --> 00:19:22,100 nothing but girls who aren't dressed appropriately dancing. 338 00:19:23,100 --> 00:19:25,100 Like, there's some comments in the one person wrote. 339 00:19:25,100 --> 00:19:26,600 Hey, dude. It's an algorithm. 340 00:19:27,900 --> 00:19:30,200 The reason why your feet looks like that is because that's what 341 00:19:30,200 --> 00:19:37,100 you look at it. That's what happens is the 342 00:19:37,100 --> 00:19:40,000 algorithm creates a world in which you think that everybody 343 00:19:40,000 --> 00:19:42,100 believes exactly what you believe in. 344 00:19:42,100 --> 00:19:44,100 Everybody is seeing exactly what you see. 345 00:19:44,100 --> 00:19:46,400 If you notice how many people get caught up in a conspiracy 346 00:19:46,400 --> 00:19:49,600 theory because you read one article from crazy people and 347 00:19:49,600 --> 00:19:51,700 the algorithm says, oh, you like crazy things. 348 00:19:51,800 --> 00:19:54,800 I'll send you more crazy things and you see more and more crazy 349 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:58,300 things than eventually you see everybody who's crazy as normal 350 00:19:58,300 --> 00:20:00,900 because that's all you, see? And then when somebody else 351 00:20:00,900 --> 00:20:03,900 tries to talk to you about how crazy you are, all you can do is 352 00:20:03,900 --> 00:20:06,500 see the Front of you that you've known your whole life as the 353 00:20:06,500 --> 00:20:09,400 crazy person and the people you trust are the people you've 354 00:20:09,400 --> 00:20:12,000 never met. Online. 355 00:20:15,400 --> 00:20:19,200 Parents, what happens in the algorithm is, your daughter is 356 00:20:19,200 --> 00:20:22,200 having a bad day. She doesn't feel as pretty as 357 00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:25,200 she normally does. And so, she hops on and for some 358 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:28,100 reason because she's just kind of down and having kind of a 359 00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:30,800 challenging day. She gravitates to somebody else 360 00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:34,000 who's having a difficult day and so she clicks on that video and 361 00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:35,900 she watches that video. And that video is talks about a 362 00:20:35,908 --> 00:20:38,900 girl who's struggling with her body image and well, the longer 363 00:20:38,900 --> 00:20:41,000 your daughter watches that thing on body image. 364 00:20:41,000 --> 00:20:43,800 The algorithm goes, this girl likes to watch content about 365 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:45,100 girls who struggle with body image. 366 00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:47,900 And so it starts, populating her feed with more and more girls 367 00:20:47,900 --> 00:20:49,400 who are struggling with, how they look. 368 00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:52,900 And then all of a sudden, your precious little girl who you see 369 00:20:52,900 --> 00:20:56,200 as absolutely beautiful and who is radiant by every standard and 370 00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:59,100 all of a sudden she's realizing that my goodness look at all 371 00:20:59,100 --> 00:21:03,000 these girls looks like everybody has a problem with the way that 372 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:05,200 their body looks and if those girls have a problem with the 373 00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:08,200 way that their body looks and their body looks better than 374 00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:11,200 mine, maybe I should have a problem with the way that my 375 00:21:11,200 --> 00:21:15,000 body looks because my body doesn't look as good as theirs. 376 00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:17,400 There's an overtime. Your daughter starts to 377 00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:21,300 experience depression thoughts of self-harm or maybe begins to 378 00:21:21,300 --> 00:21:23,400 wrestle with anorexia or bulimia. 379 00:21:26,300 --> 00:21:29,600 Parents who have sons. Your son is trying to figure out 380 00:21:29,608 --> 00:21:32,100 how to navigate his emotions in his hormones and there's no 381 00:21:32,100 --> 00:21:33,900 doubt about it. He likes the sight of pretty 382 00:21:33,900 --> 00:21:36,500 girls and from what I've been told the internet's full of 383 00:21:36,500 --> 00:21:39,800 pictures of women and so he finds himself online and he sees 384 00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:42,600 a picture of a pretty girl and then he sees another picture of 385 00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:45,300 a pretty girl in the algorithm goes whoever's on this device 386 00:21:45,300 --> 00:21:47,900 really likes pictures of pretty girls and then it notices which 387 00:21:47,900 --> 00:21:49,900 kind of pictures he stays out longer and which kind of 388 00:21:49,908 --> 00:21:51,900 pictures. Do you think your son would stay 389 00:21:51,900 --> 00:21:54,600 at and look at longer and all of a sudden you're innocent child, 390 00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:58,100 he wants one day to have a great and compelling relationship with 391 00:21:58,100 --> 00:21:59,200 his wife. There's all of a sudden 392 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:02,000 bombarded by just pictures of pretty girls in overtime. 393 00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:06,300 It erodes his desire to love and care and nurture and overtime. 394 00:22:06,300 --> 00:22:10,200 It teaches him to objectify, women, as a way for him, to get 395 00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:13,600 take care of his desires instead of a way for him to serve and 396 00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:22,600 love and care. This is how kids end up 397 00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:26,100 experimenting sexually and how they end up experimenting with 398 00:22:26,100 --> 00:22:29,000 drugs. This is how kids end up eating 399 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:33,000 Tide Pods I know that sounds crazy. 400 00:22:33,100 --> 00:22:35,800 There was a time when I laughed a ton about like the whole tide 401 00:22:35,800 --> 00:22:39,200 pod crais because I'm like, like they know, it's so bright. 402 00:22:40,700 --> 00:22:42,900 And I mean, this weekend is I was doing laundry humblebrag. 403 00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:48,000 My house. We have Tide Pods And I'll be 404 00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:49,900 darned if they haven't made those things impossible to get 405 00:22:49,900 --> 00:22:52,700 out of the bag. And I'm sitting there thinking 406 00:22:52,700 --> 00:22:56,600 like how did this happen? Listen it wasn't from absent 407 00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:58,900 parents, it wasn't from bad parents. 408 00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:02,600 They're those kids who are eating Tide Pods, their parents 409 00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:06,400 look, just like you and me. It was that those kids is feeds. 410 00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:09,100 Got filled with the world of people who are eating detergent 411 00:23:09,100 --> 00:23:12,400 and getting popular for it and the kids were like, I guess I 412 00:23:12,408 --> 00:23:15,000 could probably try and eat one too. 413 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:19,200 Look what it says in Ephesians 5. 414 00:23:19,700 --> 00:23:23,900 Be very careful then how you live not as unwise but as wise 415 00:23:24,100 --> 00:23:26,900 making the most of every opportunity because the days are 416 00:23:26,900 --> 00:23:31,700 evil. Parents, be careful, be wise, 417 00:23:32,000 --> 00:23:34,900 make the most of every opportunity because the days are 418 00:23:34,900 --> 00:23:36,600 evil as Christians. We have a choice. 419 00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:40,600 We can either reject receive, or redeem technology. 420 00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:43,100 Some of you may choose right now to reject it and go, you know 421 00:23:43,100 --> 00:23:44,300 what, the we're not going to be doing it. 422 00:23:44,300 --> 00:23:47,300 We're tapping out, or Of you might say, you know what, not 423 00:23:47,300 --> 00:23:50,100 now maybe later we'll have that discussion but we're not going 424 00:23:50,100 --> 00:23:52,800 to be having that happen. Now I hear a lot of parents, get 425 00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:55,300 frustrated saying that their kids are always on their phone. 426 00:23:55,300 --> 00:23:57,700 And inside, I always want to say, you know, you can take it 427 00:23:57,700 --> 00:24:02,900 away, right? Like like you can you can take 428 00:24:02,900 --> 00:24:05,800 it away. Are you can get a phone that 429 00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:08,500 just talks and texts and that's it. 430 00:24:08,500 --> 00:24:10,500 So you know that they got to where they were supposed to go 431 00:24:10,500 --> 00:24:12,600 safely and when they need to reach out to you and get in 432 00:24:12,608 --> 00:24:15,300 touch with you, they can you could buy the Light phone. 433 00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:18,200 This is a phone that was put together by a group of guys that 434 00:24:18,200 --> 00:24:20,800 were at Google and they got charged to develop a new app and 435 00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:22,900 what they realized is the world doesn't need another app, it 436 00:24:22,900 --> 00:24:26,200 needs a phone that doesn't have apps and so they created this 437 00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:30,000 like yeah, here you go kid. You know, when you get cold call 438 00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:35,600 me, I'll pick you up. Hear me some of your kids. 439 00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:38,500 Some of your kids are going to wrestle with anxiety, 440 00:24:38,700 --> 00:24:42,600 depression, self-harm low, self-esteem, explicit, content, 441 00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:45,200 and Suicidal Thoughts. Because of their use of 442 00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:50,900 technology and social media. And some of you might need to 443 00:24:50,908 --> 00:24:54,000 make a tough call today, in order to have a better future 444 00:24:54,100 --> 00:24:57,600 with your kids. Tomorrow, most of us are way 445 00:24:57,600 --> 00:25:01,900 more educated about alcohol and its effects on our kids than we 446 00:25:01,900 --> 00:25:04,400 are about social media. And I'm telling you, social 447 00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:07,400 media and Technology are going to have a much more profound 448 00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:09,800 impact on your kid than a Jack and Coke ever will. 449 00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:14,800 Some of your kids are listening to me right now and you're going 450 00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:18,900 of all the services for us to come to God. 451 00:25:18,900 --> 00:25:23,300 Why do you hate me? Can I come here? 452 00:25:24,900 --> 00:25:29,100 I need you to hear me say this. We are for you. 453 00:25:30,700 --> 00:25:34,600 And I am telling you that there is a life for you to live an 454 00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:37,000 experience that is infinitely better than anything. 455 00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:41,400 You can watch on a device and I know it's hard. 456 00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:46,200 Okay I appreciate I appreciate that. 457 00:25:46,900 --> 00:25:53,800 Just remember who clapped We're going to have to love our kids 458 00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:56,700 through this. Because it has become an 459 00:25:56,700 --> 00:26:00,700 addiction that they're going to have to be freed from and some 460 00:26:00,700 --> 00:26:02,500 of them are going there. Freaking out right now like what 461 00:26:02,500 --> 00:26:06,200 our mom and dad are going to do after church, and you need to 462 00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:09,000 lovingly help them through because you let them get there. 463 00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:14,600 You let them get hooked. Now, so you can reject it, you 464 00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:16,800 can receive it go. Hey, social media is good. 465 00:26:17,100 --> 00:26:20,700 I want to know how my grandma is doing on Facebook and I want to 466 00:26:20,700 --> 00:26:22,800 know how my aunt's doing and look. 467 00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:25,800 How good she is at making cakes. She's so good. 468 00:26:25,900 --> 00:26:29,000 And youyou need that information in your life and some of you 469 00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:30,400 want to know how to change a tire. 470 00:26:30,500 --> 00:26:33,700 And so you want, YouTube, okay, you're going to receive it, but 471 00:26:33,700 --> 00:26:35,900 you're not going to spend all your time on it and there might 472 00:26:35,900 --> 00:26:37,800 be some of you are going. You know what, I want to redeem 473 00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:39,800 it. I want to be a force for good. 474 00:26:39,900 --> 00:26:43,400 I want to go out there and and Encouraging content to uplift 475 00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:44,800 people. I want to be a light in a dark 476 00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:48,700 place, and you can do that too. And I mean, like, for me, I try 477 00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:50,500 carefully not to be on it too much. 478 00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:53,800 I don't even answer my messages. There's a team of people here 479 00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:55,700 that do it because I try not to be on it that much. 480 00:26:55,700 --> 00:26:59,600 Because if I get on and I might not I might not get out, right? 481 00:26:59,700 --> 00:27:02,300 Some of your like oh yeah Clayton we get eat each other, 482 00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:05,300 we can redeem it. We can we can choose to just 483 00:27:05,300 --> 00:27:07,700 post and maybe you know not spend a whole lot of time 484 00:27:07,900 --> 00:27:10,800 scrolling as much but the other challenge that we're facing with 485 00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:13,200 technology. Is how it affects our time 486 00:27:13,500 --> 00:27:17,300 because it will, it will it creates a Time trap and the 487 00:27:17,300 --> 00:27:20,500 algorithm is specifically designed to steal your time in 488 00:27:20,500 --> 00:27:22,600 the beginning of the year. I preached a sermon about 489 00:27:22,700 --> 00:27:24,800 sometimes when it comes to starting a relationship with 490 00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:27,100 Jesus Christ, it just takes time. 491 00:27:27,200 --> 00:27:29,900 And one of the most important factors that you need as a 492 00:27:29,908 --> 00:27:32,700 parent with your kids to help raise them in a way that honors, 493 00:27:32,700 --> 00:27:37,200 the Lord is you need time. And I heard this a while back, I 494 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:38,800 don't know who to give this credit for. 495 00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:40,800 I'm going to walk you through these things because I've never 496 00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:42,900 been able to forget. But I need you to know that I 497 00:27:42,908 --> 00:27:44,700 didn't come up with it but I don't know who to give credit 498 00:27:44,700 --> 00:27:46,400 to. Okay, so I don't want you going 499 00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:48,300 man. Clayton is really getting smart. 500 00:27:48,300 --> 00:27:50,000 Nope. This is not me. 501 00:27:50,100 --> 00:27:55,600 Okay, look at this. Time overtime is history and if 502 00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:58,400 you lose time, you don't have history and you're going to need 503 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,200 history with your kids. As you try to become a 504 00:28:00,208 --> 00:28:03,400 consultant in their future. Love over time. 505 00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:05,400 That's how your child gets worth. 506 00:28:05,700 --> 00:28:08,300 And if you'd lose time with your kids, they're not going to have 507 00:28:08,300 --> 00:28:10,100 a sense of their worth. They're not gonna be able to see 508 00:28:10,100 --> 00:28:12,600 themselves through God's eyes, and they're not gonna be able to 509 00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:15,300 see themselves through your eyes and listen to me. 510 00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:18,900 Love overtime is the most is the most powerful. 511 00:28:19,700 --> 00:28:23,000 It's more powerful consistently than it ever is in grandiose 512 00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:25,300 moments. You see those people who spend 513 00:28:25,300 --> 00:28:28,300 big money on weddings and big money on honeymoons and big 514 00:28:28,300 --> 00:28:30,900 money on cars and big money on a cool experience. 515 00:28:30,900 --> 00:28:33,200 Listen, if you can do that. Cool, great. 516 00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:36,600 But listen to me. Those grandiose moments are not 517 00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:39,800 more powerful than regular time with your mom and dad. 518 00:28:40,700 --> 00:28:42,900 Like, daily time with your mom and dad. 519 00:28:44,100 --> 00:28:48,200 That's where you're going to win inconsistency in every day, 520 00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:51,400 every week, every month, making strategic Investments to show 521 00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:53,400 them, your love. That's more powerful than 522 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:57,300 anything you could ever purchase words over time. 523 00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:00,600 That's Direction. And if you lose time, you're not 524 00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:03,000 gonna be able to guide them. When you're no longer in control 525 00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:06,300 stories over time, that's perspective. 526 00:29:06,500 --> 00:29:09,300 This is how you get your kids to see the bigger picture and 527 00:29:09,300 --> 00:29:12,200 they'll see your words. As if you don't have time, 528 00:29:12,300 --> 00:29:13,800 they're going to see your words as controlling. 529 00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:18,300 Instead of wise counsel. Tribe over time. 530 00:29:18,500 --> 00:29:21,900 That's belonging. The word we would use here at 531 00:29:21,900 --> 00:29:27,200 the Crossing is circles circles over time as belonging the 532 00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:29,800 longer they have with the better Circle, the greater sense of 533 00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:33,100 belonging that they will have those spend more time being 534 00:29:33,100 --> 00:29:36,400 accepted by you than trying to be accepted by nameless. 535 00:29:36,600 --> 00:29:40,500 Faceless people online, a child with a strong sense of belonging 536 00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:43,500 will not spend all their time trying to fit in because they 537 00:29:43,500 --> 00:29:46,700 already have a significant place in their own Circle. 538 00:29:47,900 --> 00:29:52,800 And fun overtime is connection and if you don't have time with 539 00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:55,600 your kids you will not have fun with your kids. 540 00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:58,700 We were working on, rehabbing our 02:18 Ministries, we met 541 00:29:58,700 --> 00:30:01,300 with leaders, all across the country and one of the things 542 00:30:01,300 --> 00:30:03,700 that one of the leaders we met with said, was brilliant, we 543 00:30:03,700 --> 00:30:08,200 couldn't shake it. He said, fun is the language of 544 00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:12,300 kids. Have you ever noticed that the 545 00:30:12,300 --> 00:30:16,400 younger child is, the more they laugh and play and then you look 546 00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:25,200 at you, right? If you want to speak kids, you 547 00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:27,500 need to learn to speak fun. Serious question. 548 00:30:27,700 --> 00:30:31,100 When was the last time you had like, so much fun with your kid 549 00:30:31,500 --> 00:30:34,300 that your head was like back, your throat was completely 550 00:30:34,300 --> 00:30:39,500 exposed your stomach hurt. Your sides were like, wow, It's 551 00:30:39,500 --> 00:30:42,100 in those fun moments that we have connections with our kids, 552 00:30:42,100 --> 00:30:44,500 that's when we speak their language and we need to make 553 00:30:44,500 --> 00:30:49,000 time for memories, lots and lots of memories, some of them 554 00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:52,100 planned in some of them spontaneous, I need you to hear 555 00:30:52,100 --> 00:30:56,900 me say this, my wife went on a girls trip with the women in my 556 00:30:56,900 --> 00:30:58,600 family this week because it was spring break. 557 00:30:58,800 --> 00:31:05,000 Okay. And so I was, I was at home with 558 00:31:05,000 --> 00:31:09,600 the boys and I wrote this sermon on Monday and Tuesday. 559 00:31:10,500 --> 00:31:13,200 And I had them spend the days on their iPad so I could write this 560 00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:18,400 message. I need you to, I'm coming to you 561 00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:23,800 as one of you. So on Wednesday, I loaded them 562 00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:26,300 up and I took them up to my parents house is about an hour 563 00:31:26,300 --> 00:31:28,600 away. I bought it you know 12-pack of 564 00:31:28,608 --> 00:31:31,600 Mountain Dew, grabbing another guy who works on staff and his 565 00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:34,000 two dogs which are Border Collies and we have the one of 566 00:31:34,008 --> 00:31:35,700 those ugly goldendoodles. And so they thought it was a 567 00:31:35,708 --> 00:31:37,000 sheep. And so they basically just 568 00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:40,900 hurted my dog for hours because I loved it. 569 00:31:40,900 --> 00:31:43,800 I was like watching, I was like, yeah, make him run. 570 00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:46,500 Okay, it didn't cost us too much. 571 00:31:46,500 --> 00:31:48,800 I mean, we had to drive an hour, which was, you know, like 800 572 00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:52,600 bucks in gas, but for the most part, like pretty Double and 573 00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:54,100 I'll guess listen to what we did. 574 00:31:54,100 --> 00:31:56,200 We drink Mountain Dew. We watched our dog, getting 575 00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:58,100 hurted. We rode four-wheelers and we 576 00:31:58,100 --> 00:32:00,300 just walked in the woods and you two thought. 577 00:32:00,300 --> 00:32:02,500 My boys were walking on the surface of the Moon. 578 00:32:05,700 --> 00:32:07,200 They thought they were Lewis and Clark. 579 00:32:11,300 --> 00:32:13,300 Not once. Did they ask for their iPad? 580 00:32:18,300 --> 00:32:21,200 Here's the problem. I did math this week. 581 00:32:23,200 --> 00:32:25,400 From the time, your kid enters into kindergarten all the way 582 00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:27,000 until they graduate from high school. 583 00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:35,600 You have 4745 days with them. That's what you have. 584 00:32:37,300 --> 00:32:41,900 It's it. That's 113,000, 8:00. 585 00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:48,500 Of that time. You're going to spend if you're 586 00:32:48,500 --> 00:32:50,400 lucky, they're going to sleep eight hours a day. 587 00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:55,300 Some of you with young kids, God bless you, it's coming one of 588 00:32:55,300 --> 00:32:57,000 these days, they'll be teenagers and you won't be able to get 589 00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:59,000 them out of bed till 11 a.m. on a Saturday. 590 00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:01,300 They'll learn to sleep, God bless them. 591 00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:05,400 If you sleep 8 hours a day which is what your doctor recommends, 592 00:33:06,700 --> 00:33:09,400 1/3 of the remaining time you have with your kids is gone. 593 00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:13,900 If you're a parent and you love your kids and you love the Lord 594 00:33:13,900 --> 00:33:16,900 and you're capable, you're going to do the honorable thing and 595 00:33:16,900 --> 00:33:19,300 you're going to go get a job and you're going to work hard to 596 00:33:19,308 --> 00:33:22,300 provide for them and make sure that they have a chance to have 597 00:33:22,300 --> 00:33:25,300 their needs met. And so, you're going to spend 598 00:33:25,300 --> 00:33:28,700 thirty two hundred and fifty days at work 26,000 hours. 599 00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:33,100 If you divide all that by 24, you're going to spend 1083 total 600 00:33:33,100 --> 00:33:36,000 days at work. That is 1/4. 601 00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:42,400 You've lost 1/3 to sleep. You've lost 1/4 to work. 602 00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:50,800 This is all you have left. That's it. 2081 24-hour time 603 00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:57,600 periods with your kids. The average person spends 5 604 00:33:57,600 --> 00:34:00,700 hours a day on their phone. Those of you who have iPhones 605 00:34:00,700 --> 00:34:02,900 during this message, you've received your iPhone report. 606 00:34:02,900 --> 00:34:04,300 You know, I'm preaching the gospel. 607 00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:10,900 The average American spends five hours a day on their phone over 608 00:34:10,900 --> 00:34:14,000 the next 13 years. They're going to spend 988 days 609 00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:17,199 on their phone. They're going to spend half of 610 00:34:17,199 --> 00:34:20,900 the remaining time they have left with their kids on their 611 00:34:21,900 --> 00:34:27,000 phone. remember, when you were clapping about kids getting off 612 00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:30,400 their phone, they want you to get off yours. 613 00:34:32,500 --> 00:34:34,699 Like you're clapping like, man. My kidneys to put the phone 614 00:34:34,699 --> 00:34:38,900 down. Yeah, this is what adults are 615 00:34:38,900 --> 00:34:41,100 spending not kids, kids is worse. 616 00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:44,100 But why would they put their phone down? 617 00:34:46,100 --> 00:34:52,199 if you're not putting, give them an alternative, this guy, This 618 00:34:52,199 --> 00:34:57,200 guy right here. Oh, this little guy, these 17 619 00:34:57,200 --> 00:34:59,800 days. Well the average person at our 620 00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:02,800 church comes to church, 1.8 times a month, which means 621 00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:05,000 they're going to come 21.6 weekends a year. 622 00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:07,100 If you were to be here for an hour and a half, which means 623 00:35:07,100 --> 00:35:09,900 you'd be here, 15 minutes early and stay 15 minutes late. 624 00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:16,100 And I know you That ain't you? We're going to get 17 days with 625 00:35:16,100 --> 00:35:20,900 your kid. 17. Total. 626 00:35:20,900 --> 00:35:22,700 Why do you think? We push Camp so hard? 627 00:35:23,500 --> 00:35:27,100 Because it's a force multiplier in the spiritual development of 628 00:35:27,100 --> 00:35:29,700 your kid's life? We're not asking you to send 629 00:35:29,700 --> 00:35:33,300 your kid to camp for us. We're begging you to send your 630 00:35:33,300 --> 00:35:36,000 kid to camp on behalf of your kid. 631 00:35:39,700 --> 00:35:43,400 Because we only get 17 days. And then our people here at our 632 00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:47,100 church are good. They're not that good. 633 00:35:48,900 --> 00:35:52,100 Because they're going to spend fifty eight more times on their 634 00:35:52,100 --> 00:35:54,300 phone, they're going to be discipled by this. 635 00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:59,600 And you think we're going to try and fix it with 17 days against 636 00:36:00,100 --> 00:36:03,300 988 and look how much time you have with them. 637 00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:08,500 I can barely lift this thing. We're given half of it to our 638 00:36:08,500 --> 00:36:11,900 phones. Is that how you want it to be? 639 00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:17,700 Look at this verse in First Corinthians, I have the right to 640 00:36:17,700 --> 00:36:20,400 do anything. You all have a right to 641 00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:22,100 technology. You all have a right to social 642 00:36:22,100 --> 00:36:23,400 media. You have a right to it. 643 00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:26,700 All you say, but not everything is beneficial. 644 00:36:27,500 --> 00:36:30,300 I have the right to do anything but not everything is 645 00:36:30,300 --> 00:36:34,200 constructive. No one should seek their own 646 00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:36,600 good but the good of others, I want some of you to ask 647 00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:38,700 yourself. This question is this beneficial 648 00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:41,700 is this constructive? And is this good for my family? 649 00:36:42,500 --> 00:36:45,100 Here's what I want you to do at all of our locations, I have two 650 00:36:45,100 --> 00:36:48,400 challenges for you. One I want you to attend the 651 00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:50,900 tech class that we're offering at are different locations 652 00:36:51,500 --> 00:36:54,700 because there are tools that we want to put in your tool belt to 653 00:36:54,700 --> 00:36:57,700 help you navigate your kids usage of Technology. 654 00:36:58,500 --> 00:37:01,500 Okay, you get to make the decision of how you want to do 655 00:37:01,500 --> 00:37:03,800 it but we if you're going to use it we at least want you to be 656 00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:06,600 informed. So you know, how to navigate it. 657 00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:09,400 And our people have been working on this because we love you and 658 00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:12,100 we're for you and we want you to win at home. 659 00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:16,100 Second thing, here's the challenge, this week, at least 660 00:37:16,100 --> 00:37:20,000 two nights, everybody say, at least, at least two nights are 661 00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:22,500 like, if you're going to leave our church leave after you do 662 00:37:22,500 --> 00:37:26,900 this, okay, two nights this week from six to eight. 663 00:37:27,700 --> 00:37:29,900 I want you to turn your phone off. 664 00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:36,300 All of them turn your TV's off. All of it, no devices. 665 00:37:37,900 --> 00:37:40,200 You like well, what if Grandma dies she ain't going to call you 666 00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:47,500 anyway. Like right now, I got me. 667 00:37:47,500 --> 00:37:49,300 I'm never. I mean, if you're getting calls 668 00:37:49,300 --> 00:37:53,000 from dead people, you know, call me. 669 00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:58,100 Okay, listen, there's gonna be a day where Grandpa or Grandma or 670 00:37:58,100 --> 00:38:00,500 something bad is going to happen, but you are not listen 671 00:38:00,500 --> 00:38:01,700 to me. You are not leaving your phone 672 00:38:01,700 --> 00:38:04,600 off for all of those things. Like some of your like I'm an ER 673 00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:06,100 doctor. Yeah, you have a pager which is 674 00:38:06,100 --> 00:38:08,300 weird that you make all that money and you still Rock a pager 675 00:38:08,300 --> 00:38:10,900 but cool some of your like, what's a pager? 676 00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:12,400 Yeah. That's what I'm getting at. 677 00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:17,700 Look at me two hours, you're not going to solve any of it and two 678 00:38:17,700 --> 00:38:19,300 hours, you can pick up the pieces. 679 00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:24,700 You've all been on planes. And you've made it to hours 680 00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:27,400 without your phone ringing and guess what? 681 00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:30,500 The world just kept on spinning because you're not that 682 00:38:30,500 --> 00:38:33,600 important. You just need to recognize that 683 00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:36,200 turn it off. What are we going to do for two 684 00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:37,000 hours? Clayton? 685 00:38:37,300 --> 00:38:39,500 Check it out. It's going to sound crazy. 686 00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:45,400 Cook a meal. It might not be that delicious. 687 00:38:46,300 --> 00:38:51,800 Eat it. Anyway with your kids, go for a 688 00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:55,700 walk. Throw a ball. 689 00:38:56,500 --> 00:39:03,800 Play a board game. Make a memory at least twice 690 00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:06,900 this week and at the end of the week, I want you to ask yourself 691 00:39:06,900 --> 00:39:14,400 this question, was it better? And you already know I'm right. 692 00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:20,300 You already going. This is I can't wait make 693 00:39:20,300 --> 00:39:23,400 spaghetti and wear white shirts and make it into a Color Run. 694 00:39:25,100 --> 00:39:29,200 You make a memory and don't stop halfway through it to Post 695 00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:32,400 online and brag about how cool your spaghetti shirts are. 696 00:39:33,200 --> 00:39:36,400 Just be in the moment and stop trying to be a celebrity, just 697 00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:42,400 be a mom, just be a dad. Go on a walk and do something 698 00:39:42,400 --> 00:39:51,000 silly to a neighbor laugh. like, Some of your like why I'm 699 00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:54,800 single, what should I do? But your phone down. 700 00:39:56,100 --> 00:40:01,700 Go grab a meal, read your Bible, find someone who you want to be 701 00:40:01,700 --> 00:40:04,200 like and take him out to eat and just talk to him. 702 00:40:04,500 --> 00:40:07,500 Find someone that you want to invest in and spend time with 703 00:40:07,500 --> 00:40:10,600 them. Stop trying to escape all the 704 00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:13,200 time and Technology. Here's what's happening. 705 00:40:13,800 --> 00:40:16,800 We are slowly over time being convinced that our life is not 706 00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:18,700 worth living. And the best thing we can do 707 00:40:18,700 --> 00:40:22,000 with our life is to watch other people live their lives online. 708 00:40:23,700 --> 00:40:26,200 And what you're saying is that you don't think your life has 709 00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:29,500 value and purpose and meaning and significance because you 710 00:40:29,500 --> 00:40:33,200 don't have anything to contribute and add and change. 711 00:40:36,500 --> 00:40:40,500 We are watching other people. Instead of living the life that 712 00:40:40,500 --> 00:40:44,600 God breathed into us. We are watching what God 713 00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:47,400 breathed into others. Instead of offering our piece of 714 00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:51,500 the contribution, you might not think your life was worth all 715 00:40:51,500 --> 00:40:52,900 that much. But I need you to know. 716 00:40:52,900 --> 00:40:54,800 It was worth enough that God sent his son. 717 00:40:56,100 --> 00:41:00,100 In fact, he was willing to send his son to die so that way you 718 00:41:00,100 --> 00:41:03,900 could live. You might be looking at your 719 00:41:03,900 --> 00:41:05,500 life going. I don't have that much to offer. 720 00:41:05,500 --> 00:41:08,600 I need you to know. It was enough that God sent his 721 00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:13,500 son to offer on your behalf. Stop wasting the life that God 722 00:41:13,500 --> 00:41:16,300 is trying to redeem. I want you to think about that, 723 00:41:16,300 --> 00:41:17,600 as we're moving to a time of decision. 724 00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:27,800 It's been weird, a lot of old people really like this sermon. 725 00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:35,100 I had someone on Thursday night, come up to me with tears, in his 726 00:41:35,100 --> 00:41:39,900 eyes saying that whole sermon reminded me of my dad who every 727 00:41:39,900 --> 00:41:41,900 time when he came home for work, he would take me out in the 728 00:41:41,900 --> 00:41:44,600 backyard and he would throw the ball back and forth with me and 729 00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:47,200 it wasn't long before. All the kids in the neighborhood 730 00:41:47,200 --> 00:41:49,900 were in my backyard. And I got a little frustrated, 731 00:41:49,900 --> 00:41:52,800 all my friends came over to play, catch with my dad and 732 00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:56,100 little, I didn't realize that. I was the lucky one, who had a 733 00:41:56,107 --> 00:41:57,800 dad, who would spend time with his kid. 734 00:41:58,900 --> 00:42:01,300 And all the other kids in my neighborhood, were just hungry 735 00:42:01,500 --> 00:42:08,200 for someone to invest in them. And I know there's plenty of 736 00:42:08,207 --> 00:42:10,500 dads in this room who are frustrated with what you're 737 00:42:10,508 --> 00:42:12,400 seeing in the world. And I'm wondering, you're 738 00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:14,400 frustrated what you see in your neighborhood. 739 00:42:14,400 --> 00:42:16,200 And I'm wondering if anything would be different. 740 00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:19,100 If instead of complaining about it, you got you went to Dick's 741 00:42:19,100 --> 00:42:20,700 and you bought a new glove today. 742 00:42:23,100 --> 00:42:24,900 And you went home and you just said, alright, well, we're going 743 00:42:24,900 --> 00:42:27,900 to play catch. Until your arm hurts? 744 00:42:27,900 --> 00:42:31,700 Or my arm hurts, you're not making memories watching a 745 00:42:31,707 --> 00:42:35,000 movie. Do something with them. 746 00:42:35,300 --> 00:42:38,000 Mom's, I wonder what would happen if you were to, like, 747 00:42:38,000 --> 00:42:40,900 open up your home, and let some kids come in and hang out and 748 00:42:40,900 --> 00:42:44,000 laugh with them and sit around the table, and tell stories, and 749 00:42:44,100 --> 00:42:49,400 tell jokes, and make mac and cheese just spend time with 750 00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:53,700 them. I don't know, parents are some 751 00:42:53,700 --> 00:42:58,000 of you in here that I'm writing this sermon, I get done with it, 752 00:42:58,000 --> 00:43:00,800 I preaching on Thursday, I'm watching the NCAA tournament 753 00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:04,500 late on Friday night and a commercial comes on by Duracell 754 00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:07,100 and they're telling you which brand you should pick and 755 00:43:07,100 --> 00:43:08,200 they're going. Because if you pick the wrong 756 00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:12,000 one then it flashes to a kid in the car screaming because you 757 00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:16,000 don't want your battery to die. Because of the battery dies, 758 00:43:16,000 --> 00:43:17,700 you're going to have to interact with your kid. 759 00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:23,400 You're choosing which battery you want based on whether or not 760 00:43:23,400 --> 00:43:24,900 you have to interact with your kid. 761 00:43:25,700 --> 00:43:28,200 And by in here, old enough to remember, when it was the car 762 00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:30,500 rides that you actually got to ask that questions. 763 00:43:31,100 --> 00:43:33,100 It was when Mom would tell you stories. 764 00:43:33,900 --> 00:43:36,300 And what do we do? God forbid, we get in the car 765 00:43:36,300 --> 00:43:38,200 and go somewhere without something to turn on. 766 00:43:38,900 --> 00:43:43,000 And we are going to wake up one day and they will be gone and we 767 00:43:43,008 --> 00:43:46,600 will want them to know that God loves them and he cares for them 768 00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:50,400 and that he believes in that they can do great things but 769 00:43:50,400 --> 00:43:55,500 they We'll never hear it. Because they'll never hear it 770 00:43:55,500 --> 00:43:58,900 from us. Here's what I'm asking you to 771 00:43:58,900 --> 00:44:00,700 do. I'm asking you to take these two 772 00:44:00,700 --> 00:44:02,800 challenges parents. I'm asking you to come up here. 773 00:44:02,800 --> 00:44:06,400 Get down on your knees and pray that God will bring about 774 00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:10,000 clarity about how you are supposed to proceed and we need 775 00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:15,300 to proceed in humility, parents. If you're going home thinking 776 00:44:15,300 --> 00:44:17,700 your kids, the problem. Chances are your kid, doesn't 777 00:44:17,700 --> 00:44:20,400 have a job. They didn't buy it, you gave it 778 00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:22,500 to them. Thinking you were cool and you 779 00:44:22,500 --> 00:44:25,900 like yours just as much as they like, there's we're going to 780 00:44:25,908 --> 00:44:28,200 have to leave through this one with a lot of humility. 781 00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:32,200 But I think deep down inside, I know you want it. 782 00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:35,600 You want a different family, you want to win. 783 00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:40,000 Well, it's start that. To the rest of you in this room, 784 00:44:40,700 --> 00:44:42,400 you're going man. What is up with this church? 785 00:44:42,400 --> 00:44:44,800 Listen, hear me. We're going to get back to it, 786 00:44:44,800 --> 00:44:46,700 trust me. But we needed to just pause and 787 00:44:46,700 --> 00:44:48,700 spend some serious time. Helping people went home. 788 00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:51,500 But the core belief that our church is that anybody can have 789 00:44:51,500 --> 00:44:53,900 an intimate personal relationship with Jesus Christ. 790 00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:56,700 You heard me say that the end of my message, your life has 791 00:44:56,700 --> 00:45:00,100 purpose and value. Not only did God create you, he 792 00:45:00,100 --> 00:45:02,900 sent his son to redeem you. And if you've been coming to 793 00:45:02,900 --> 00:45:04,800 this church for a really long time and you've never started 794 00:45:04,800 --> 00:45:07,800 that relationship, we'd like to help you answer some of the 795 00:45:07,808 --> 00:45:10,600 questions you I have about how to start it then it just a few 796 00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:12,300 moments me and somebody else we're gonna be right over by 797 00:45:12,300 --> 00:45:14,700 that baptistry. And we would love to talk to you 798 00:45:14,700 --> 00:45:17,200 about what that looks like because we believe that will be 799 00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:19,400 one of the best decisions I've ever made. 800 00:45:19,500 --> 00:45:23,400 Would you guys stand with me? God, use this moment right now, 801 00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:25,400 in a powerful way to bring about a change. 802 00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:29,400 That only, you can bring got as we get down on our knees as we 803 00:45:30,000 --> 00:45:33,300 pray to, you gotta meet us here, meet us in a profound way. 804 00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:36,500 I'm asking you to heal and redeem and restore things that 805 00:45:36,500 --> 00:45:40,000 are broken in our home. And draw those who are far away 806 00:45:40,000 --> 00:45:41,300 clothes, you know, my praying.