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Good moms. 
Let you lick the beaters right 

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after they finished making some 
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Great moms. 
Turn them off first. 

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Daughter asked her mom. 
What do you want for Mother's 

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Day? 
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I'd really like a doctor for a 
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Tell me if these questions sound
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Mom, where's my sock, Mom? 
Where's my outfit for tomorrow? 

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Mom can you make me a sandwich 
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I don't feel good. 
What's wrong with me? 

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Dad. 
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Okay. 
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Dad what's a man? 
Dad said a man is someone who's 

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responsible and cares for their 
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The kid replied one day. 
I hope to be a man, just like 

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Mom. 
One kid said, my dad thinks he 

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wears the pants around the 
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him which ones to put. 
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Some of you can relate with this
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My dad always taught me to share
my toys with my siblings. 

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It wasn't to develop social 
skills or characters because my 

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dad was a cheapskate and didn't 
want to spend 50% or when to cut

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50% out of the cost on spending 
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Here's another one. 
If you've been to the beach 

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recently, do you want to know my
dad's are always tired from a 

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day at the beach? 
It's because they've been 

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exercising all day because every
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bikini they suck in. 
College girl was asked, what is 

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the most influential book? 
Or what book is had the biggest 

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impact on your life? 
She wrote Into the professor, my

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father's checkbook. 
That's that that's been the 

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book. 
Today, we are going to talk 

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about God's design for the 
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And I want to welcome you 
joining from all of our 

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different locations. 
So those of you here at 48th 

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Street, those of you in Macomb, 
Kirksville 929, Pike County, 

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Hannibal Lima, Mount Sterling 
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and to all of you watching 
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Line and inside I also want to 
welcome all of you who are 

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joining us for the first time or
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And I want to encourage you, 
please take advantage of that QR

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code. 
On the seat in front of you. 

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It'll give you a great 
opportunity for you to connect 

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with us on a deeper level. 
My hope today, is that no matter

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where you are in your spiritual 
journey, that you would leave 

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knowing that this church loves 
you and that you can have an 

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intimate personal relationship 
with Jesus Christ. 

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Next week, I have a very special
sermon For you a sermon that I 

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believe will be a gift to every 
relationship that you value. 

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So I can't encourage you enough 
to make sure you come back next 

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week. 
If you want to bring a friend I 

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believe it will be life giving 
to them. 

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But today I want to talk to you 
about God's design for the 

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family and there are some of you
who you think your days of 

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parenting are over. 
And there are others of you who 

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are going. 
I thought my days of parenting 

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would be over. 
You're either raising grandkids 

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or you have kids that will not 
leave the house. 

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There are some of you listening 
to me right now and you're not 

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married. 
Yet, I want you to hear me 

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clearly lean in extra hard. 
You might be thinking this 

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sermon is not for you, but I 
promise this message might be 

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one of the most important 
messages you here, even if 

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you're in high school because 
one day, you are going to have 

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to navigate all of these Waters.
And these principles will help. 

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Help you navigate them. 
Others of you are going to hear 

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this sermon and you're going to 
be going. 

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Nope, your ears are full of lots
of pain, your family is so 

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jacked up. 
So dysfunctional that hearing 

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this message, feels more like 
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Then healing balm. 
I want, you know, my family's 

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jacked up to however, I believe 
that if you stay through this, 

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there are principles that will 
act as Seeds of Hope for all of 

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you re. 
Regardless of your situation 

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even for stepdads and stepmoms. 
For those of you who are 

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navigating divorces or our 
divorce, those of you who are in

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split up families and families 
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For those of you who don't know,
I am a stepdad and I have had to

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learn how to navigate some of 
these principles and navigate 

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some of these Waters. 
And I can tell you that these 

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biblical principles are 
trustworthy and you can build 

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build your life on them. 
And if you are here today and 

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your family is not turning out 
the way you thought and it's not

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turning out the way you had 
hoped and perhaps your marriage,

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and having kids was a lot harder
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I want you to know, you're in 
really good company. 

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Because if you were to read the 
Bible from cover to cover, you 

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know what, you would have a hard
time finding a good family to 

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model your family. 
After most of the stories in the

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Bible that go into deep detail 
end, up being incredibly messed 

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up. 
In fact, oftentimes what 

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scripture reveals to us about 
the families of Bible are more 

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cautionary, tales about what not
Not to do than lessons of what 

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to do. 
Maybe raising a Godly family is 

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one of the hardest things you 
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And part of the reason it's 
incredibly hard to have a great 

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god-honoring family, is because 
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I'm going to keep drilling this 
verse Into the Heart and Soul of

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this church because I want you 
to remember it John, 10:10. 

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The thief comes only to steal 
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This is Jesus talking, but I 
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have life and have it to the 
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In other words, your marriage 
has an enemy, your parenting has

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an enemy, your kids have an 
enemy. 

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So everything that God wants to 
do for you, and in you, in your 

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family, Satan is trying to tear 
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He's trying to steal. 
He's trying to kill. 

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He's trying to destroy. 
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things on planet Earth. 
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I'm willing to wager. that if I 
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your biggest pain, Your biggest 
heartbreak, your greatest 

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sorrow. 
Chances are it has something to 

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do with your family. 
Most people are not going to 

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therapist because the co-workers
were mean and they had a bad 

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boss. 
It's because something happened 

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in their family, a place that 
was supposed to protect them and

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care for them and nurture them 
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Somehow blue them, apart. 
So you have these deep family 

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wounds that you're trying to 
navigate and if Satan can 

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undermine God's plan for the 
family, he can do an 

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Indescribable harm to the 
greater world, but God has a 

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design for the family. 
His intentions are incredibly 

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clear in scripture Genesis 
chapter 2, but for Adam. 

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No suitable. 
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So, the Lord God caused the man 
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And while he was sleeping, he 
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then closed up the place with 
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Then the Lord God made a woman 
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He had taken out of the man, and
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the man said this is now bone of
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She shall be called woman for. 
She was taken out of, man, that 

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is why a man leaves his father 
and mother and is United to his 

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wife. 
And they become one flesh and it

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is out of this Oneness 
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and a wife that children would 
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So not only is it's God's design
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relationship that the children 
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it was also God's design for 
every child to have a mother and

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a father. 
Fathers and mothers, have unique

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expressions of God's identity to
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and the development of a child. 
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different skill, sets, different
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And in that tandem leadership, 
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fuller picture of God's design 
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This is part of the reason why 
we mourn so deeply, the early 

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passing of a father or a mother 
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that child's life. 
That's why there's so much pain 

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for kids in who are navigating 
the pain of divorce. 

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Now hear me today, please please
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I'm going to be talking to over 
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region, and I need you to know 
that I am fully aware that there

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are hundreds, if not thousands 
of divorces represented in our 

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church family. 
I want you to know that I do not

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know the specifics of your 
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You may have had really good 
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You may have had incredible 
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You may have had challenges that
I can't even begin to understand

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and I want you to hear me say, I
am not saying that God can't use

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or redeem. 
The things that have been lost 

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or broken on your child's 
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I just want us all to see God's 
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happens when that design is 
changed. 

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I'm not here to shame. 
I'm here to help. 

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Okay, but God's design doesn't 
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Fine. 
God has an order. 

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And our first priority is 
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We are to be God first people. 
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family, but he also has an order
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operate. 
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priority is supposed to be God, 
look what it says in Mark 

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chapter 12, love the Lord, your 
God with all your heart, all 

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your soul, all your mind. and 
and with all your strength, in 

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other words, your number one 
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be a person who is exclusively 
seeking the will of God and the 

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expansion of his kingdom. 
I need you to hear me. 

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Say this, you can fully live out
your calling from God, right 

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there. 
You do not have to get married 

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to be a great Christian. 
You are not going to get to 

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heaven. 
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standing there. 
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Okay, well, you'll be in the 
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I mean, it's still heaven. 
No, I need you to hear me say 

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this. 
You can be everything that God 

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Marriage is not an upgrade. 
Like you didn't become a more 

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spiritual person. 
Once you found somebody who'd 

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put up with you And some of you 
thought you found somebody who 

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would put up with you. 
Like I don't think I did I think

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I was wrong. 
Okay so we are okay with me 

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taking divorce jokes. 
All right I just want to make 

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sure okay, hear me the Apostle 
Paul who wrote most of the New 

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Testament, guess what? 
Single Not only that in 

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scripture. 
He says, I got to be honest with

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you, I wish more of you would 
choose to be single, so you 

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wouldn't have to spend so much 
time fighting with your wife, 

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taking care of your kids and you
could fully devote yourself to 

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making Jesus famous Second 
thing, I mean, this guy's a 

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pretty big character in the 
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I want to make sure I say his 
name, right? 

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Jesus. 
Never got married. 

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Not once. 
He was just so busy being him. 

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And saving your soul is like, 
I'm not gonna bring a woman into

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this. 
I'm just gonna keep doing what 

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I'm doing. 
So hear me if Jesus can fulfill 

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all of God's calling on his 
life. 

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And Paul can fully honor God 
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It is totally acceptable for you
to go. 

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Yeah, I'm just going to be 
completely single and devoted to

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the Lord. 
Okay. 

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Now there are some of you who 
are going to do. 

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I need someone to do my laundry 
and you are going to go. 

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I need to get a spouse hear me. 
Your first priority is to be to 

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God. 
But if you get married, your 

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second priority becomes your 
spouse. 

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It becomes your second, most 
important relationship. 

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And that is why you need to be 
so careful. 

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And so selective when it comes 
to who you marry and in out of 

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this marriage, comes your 
children and they take third 

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place. 
Look what's on 27th? 

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1:27 says children are a gift 
from the Lord and they are a 

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reward. 
From him. 

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And so you're going, can I 
return the gift? 

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Right? 
Are some of your like I like the

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gift that somebody else has. 
I like the new model that 

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they're coming out with? 
I want one of those. 

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Yeah, I hear you. 
I hear you. 

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I just want you to know this. 
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every kid has challenges, we all
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impacts of that's in our hearts 
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loved and it doesn't matter how 
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You can still have areas of your
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It doesn't matter how much you 
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are. 
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fact that your kids have free 
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I want you to hear me? 
Say this. 

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I tell our staff this all the 
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Look, your kids are not on staff
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church. 
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to a higher standard because 
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to blow them up because your 
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middle of a prayer. 
Just like every other kid is and

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your kids are going to have a 
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have a bad attitude just like 
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And so let your kid be a kid who
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church, instead of an associate 
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Or they're not paid to be here. 
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times. 
We might as well pay them, but 

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functionally, you can mess up a 
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If you start holding them to a 
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letting your kid go through the 
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faith for them. 
Selves, our kids deserve just as

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much grace and love is every 
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church now, do I want to know 
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My kids screws up, you better 
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there to be, like, one form of 
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pastors kid and a different form
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I meant if they're not, some 
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public than others and some kids
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looking. 
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you. 
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repeal early and often, and in 
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out of their system than fake 
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house and then have to deal with
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So in God's design, we see this.
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God, our second priority, if we 
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spouse and our third priority is
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The problem is, sometimes we get
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it looks like this. 
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That's a problem? 
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could end up with the wrong 
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Because you're prioritizing them
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I got to be in this world. 
You've seen this before, 

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somebody has a great 
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then they get eyes for somebody 
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with the Lord. 
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principles for who they're 
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a relationship with somebody 
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This person gets in the number 
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faith but then all of a sudden 
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has two different priorities. 
Two different ways of viewing, 

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the world to different ways of 
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And when you do this, Things get
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whack fast. 
That's why the Bible tells us be

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careful about being unequally 
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He's saying make sure you marry 
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priority list as you do. 
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When you do this, check out what
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You're putting God in a position
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What's been broken inside of 
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Instead of blessing? 
What's been surrendered in your 

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marriage now? 
Listen God. 

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Will hear me? 
Hear me hear me God's. 

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Redemptive power is super 
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better than his Blessing. 
And if you want to give your 

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family a favor, put your family 
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instead of God having to redeem.
The second reason why this is a 

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problem is your spouse makes a 
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They will let you worship them 
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worshipped. 
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becomes a very lousy God. 
And when you put them in that 

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spot, you're putting them in a 
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And then you get mad at them 
because they can't provide the 

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things that you need them to 
provide but they were never 

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equipped to provide you the 
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needed because they are not a 
god But the issue I see the most

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the issue I see people 
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actually this order. 
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So the Bible calls any order 
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has a really cool word for it. 
The word is idolatry. 

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In fact, the very first 
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Commandments, for those of you 
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you shall have no other gods 
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God is saying, I am always in 
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violate that order, You end up 
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does not tolerate it nor does. 
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Furthermore, when God is not 
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be the spouse. 
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You need to be or the spouse 
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Furthermore when God is not 
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first or you put your spouse 
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You need to be the parent. 
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Or the parent that God called 
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effectively shut off the flow of
God's blessing into the lives of

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those. 
You care about the most in that 

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area, when your kids are before 
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resentment in your spouse. 
And perhaps, just because you 

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know, I want to make sure I get 
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when you put your grandkids, 
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Oh, now here's what happens. 
Anytime God is not in the number

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one spot. 
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And I don't know if Becky dress 
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this phrase or if somebody I 
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is brilliant. 
This is what happens. 

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Credit card parenting. 
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parenting is. 
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things and being lazy and your 
parenting and having the right 

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priorities and then you end up 
having to pay it all back later 

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with interest. 
Is there an area right now of 

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your parenting of your marriage 
that you're going on. 

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I am paying interest, I make 
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now the bill has come due. 
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all you can do is credit card 
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We end up spending more money 
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put ourselves in troubling 
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One of the biggest issues inside
of marriage is how to have it 

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navigate your money this leads 
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circumstances or that Financial 
instability eventually, makes it

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hard for our kids to have 
security and increases anxiety 

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in them. 
We end up spending so much to 

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put on them and around them that
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prioritize. 
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Proverbs 13:20 to says a good 
person, leaves an inheritance 

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for their children's children. 
We've become so used to taking 

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them through the aisle and 
getting them, everything that 

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they want because buying it is 
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And then we spend ourselves into
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our schedule that we have made, 
our kids into an idol, that we 

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cannot actually afford to 
worship anymore and then 

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eventually it all catches up to 
us because it's not just in how 

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we spend our money. 
It's how we spend our time, we 

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can become. 
So busy worshipping, our kids 

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that we neglect, our spouse, or 
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And this robs us of a Godly 
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And it robs us of the real 
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going to need to navigate the 
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good Godly family. 
So many of us are so busy 

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worshipping. 
Somebody other than God, that we

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don't have the power of God in 
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challenges that come our way. 
That's why, the very first week 

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of this sermon series, I talked 
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vision for your family, what 
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raise Proverbs 22 verse 6 says, 
train up a child in the way he 

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should go. 
Even when he is old, he will not

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depart from it which leads to 
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We need to be training towards 
Our vision but more importantly 

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towards God's Vision. 
Here's what I mean by that, what

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kind of spouse are you training 
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Have you thought about that that
you are training a potential 

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future spouse for somebody? 
Ladies, what are all the things 

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that your son does that you 
can't stand. 

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Would you like to pass that 
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lady? 
Or do you like to go out, urine 

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spouse training mode? 
Today, we're going to learn how 

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to fold socks. 
Okay, what kind of worker? 

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Are you training your child to 
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So they can be a stable provider
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Is your strategy? 
No work ethic no responsibility 

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till 28 then give them a 
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and go figure it out. 
Or should we be training them? 

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Did you hear me say this? 
Because it is not what you leave

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to them. 
That makes your child great. 

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It is what you leave in them. 
If what you leave to them is 

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more than what you leave in 
them, they will burn through all

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that you leave to them. 
But if you leave so much in 

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them, it won't matter what you 
leave to them, because they will

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have all the tools to make their
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So, what kind of relationship 
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Do you want your kids to have? 
And are you training them? 

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There make no mistakes. 
Every single one of us we are 

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already training, our kids. 
The question is, are we training

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them to be? 
Who God created them and called 

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them to be? 
Because there is a universal 

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parenting relationship 
principle. 

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Maurice caught than taught. 
Your kids are learning how to 

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treat a spouse. 
Because they are watching how 

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you treat yours. 
They are learning what you 

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prioritize and what you neglect.
You don't have to tell them, 

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they know. 
They know if your phone is more 

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important than them, they know 
if your Netflix is more 

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important than them, they know 
if your job is more important 

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than them, they know if you 
cherish your spouse or resent 

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your spouse, when you're in the 
car, they're learning how to 

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treat them, is it okay to talk 
bad about dad when you're 

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driving through McDonald's or 
when you speak about Dad, do you

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speak in uplifting? 
Kind encouraging, thankful 

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tones. 
When you don't like the way 

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things are shaking out in the 
house how you speak about their 

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mother matters when you're 
divorced, I bet it so easy to 

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get in the car because your ex 
stinks and you just want them to

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know how bad their dad is. 
And you forget it is their dad. 

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and then this kid is having to 
choose between two people that 

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he can't help, but love, but the
no longer love and value and 

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treat one another There's a 
challenge that we're going to 

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ask you all to do. 
It's at all of our locations, 

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it's a calendar challenge. 
We are going to sit down with 

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your kids and you're going to 
work through. 

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Where are our priorities? 
Where's God, where's our spouse?

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And where's our kids? 
One of the biggest gifts you can

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give your kids is a loving 
prioritize relationship with 

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their parent. 
Like shut up. 

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I'm kissing your mom for a 
little bit. 

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Letting them know they can say 
all they want. 

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I want them to know that. 
Dad loves Mom. 

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Hey, hold on a second. 
I'm just going to spend five 

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minutes talking to your mom. 
Go do push-ups or something. 

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And while they get frustrated, 
why are you? 

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Because I want them to know. 
Dad loves mom when my kids go to

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bed at night. 
I want them. 

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Knowing mom loves dad. 
But I also want them to know 

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that Dad loves God. 
We are already training, our 

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kids, what's important? 
And the chance of your kid, 

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becoming a professional dancer. 
Or professional Trumpeter. 

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Or a professional baseball 
player are like. but the chance 

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of your kid being a father, a 
mother needing a relationship 

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with Jesus is really stinking 
High. 

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And if we were to go, I am going
to start valuing these bigger 

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things. 
I love playing baseball with my 

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kids, but I'd much rather my kid
be a great dad than a great 

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picture. 
I love watching my kids play 

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basketball. 
I'm a horrible basketball. 

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Coach, we lost like all of our 
games, but one, And you know 

454
00:28:10,500 --> 00:28:13,900
what, okay, chances are my kid 
being a professional basketball 

455
00:28:13,900 --> 00:28:17,000
player. 
Zero chance of my kids not 

456
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:20,100
having the life of singleness 
very high judging, by the way 

457
00:28:20,100 --> 00:28:24,600
their behavior, they are ready 
to be married already and I need

458
00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:29,400
to train them. 
Okay, can I take you on a quick 

459
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:31,900
Journey? 
So I got convicted recently in 

460
00:28:31,900 --> 00:28:35,500
my own parenting because there 
are two issues. 

461
00:28:36,300 --> 00:28:44,200
I love my kids but you don't but
I was navigating how to be proud

462
00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:48,300
of them. 
I'm commanded by God to love my 

463
00:28:48,300 --> 00:28:51,000
kids. 
When we talk about God's love is

464
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:53,900
unconditional, but pride is 
conditional. 

465
00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:57,400
And I was realizing there was 
times I was using the word. 

466
00:28:57,400 --> 00:29:00,100
I was proud of them when I 
really wasn't. 

467
00:29:01,700 --> 00:29:05,500
And then I diluted the power of 
that word because you have to do

468
00:29:05,500 --> 00:29:07,700
something to be proud. 
Now, you don't have to win the 

469
00:29:07,700 --> 00:29:10,400
basketball game, but I can be 
proud of your effort. 

470
00:29:10,500 --> 00:29:14,400
I'm proud of something. 
And my wife gets frustrated 

471
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:17,500
because she doesn't like the way
everybody in my house cleans up 

472
00:29:17,500 --> 00:29:21,400
the house. 
And then when we start to help 

473
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:24,000
clean up the house, my wife is 
also a control freak. 

474
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,300
And she will say, just stop. 
Just stop, just stop. 

475
00:29:27,300 --> 00:29:29,000
Like we'll be halfway through 
loading, the dishwasher, I'll 

476
00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:30,300
just do it myself, it's just 
better. 

477
00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:33,600
And so like, there's this 
constant fight, my wife wants 

478
00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:37,200
our has to be cleaner. 
She wants us to help out and 

479
00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:39,900
every time we help out, she just
wants us to stop. 

480
00:29:39,900 --> 00:29:42,400
So she can do it, right? 
You guys. 

481
00:29:42,700 --> 00:29:48,600
Like, are you guys normal to? 
And so, My wife went away on a 

482
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:53,200
on a little girls trip. 
And so, I was like, okay, how do

483
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:56,600
I train my boys to not be loser 
dads? 

484
00:29:58,700 --> 00:30:01,000
Michael Kay. 
It starts tonight. 

485
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:03,300
Game on boys. 
Come here. 

486
00:30:04,500 --> 00:30:08,400
I have an assignment for you. 
We are going to learn how to 

487
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:12,900
clean a house right now. 
It's a very special Mission. 

488
00:30:13,500 --> 00:30:15,100
This Mission has one goal in 
mind. 

489
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:17,300
Make Mom's smile. 
Do you like it? 

490
00:30:17,308 --> 00:30:19,800
When Mom smiles to you have a 
great smile, you don't want to 

491
00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:21,000
make her not smile. 
Do you? 

492
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:22,600
Do you want to fail your mother 
on? 

493
00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:27,800
What matters. 
Most I bring you here today 

494
00:30:28,900 --> 00:30:31,000
because we have a nation to Cock
this. 

495
00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:33,900
This like kid you, not? 
It's more involved in that, 

496
00:30:33,900 --> 00:30:38,800
okay, I'm a psycho. 
And I said, so before we go to 

497
00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:41,000
bed, we are picking out our 
clothes. 

498
00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:44,100
The night before, we are getting
our towel and we are laying it 

499
00:30:44,100 --> 00:30:45,300
out. 
We are getting our washcloth and

500
00:30:45,300 --> 00:30:47,300
we were laying it out because 
we're going to be clean hensel's

501
00:30:49,100 --> 00:30:50,900
before we go to bed at night. 
We're going to walk through the 

502
00:30:50,900 --> 00:30:51,700
house. 
We're going to make sure that 

503
00:30:51,700 --> 00:30:54,700
everything is the way it's 
supposed to be like, okay. 

504
00:30:56,500 --> 00:31:02,700
You have three minutes. 
They get it and they got pretty 

505
00:31:02,700 --> 00:31:06,100
decent job. 
And I look at them, Uncle I'm so

506
00:31:06,100 --> 00:31:10,300
proud of you and the beam on 
their face was like, yeah, I 

507
00:31:10,300 --> 00:31:15,500
know how to clean a house. 
Now, mom comes home. 

508
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:20,000
I go Mom, watch, boys, you ready
for the test. 

509
00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:24,600
So here's what I do at night, I 
set out a fork, I go over to the

510
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,500
kitchen table and I pull out 
some chairs. 

511
00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:29,700
I grab something random thing 
out of the pantry and I leave it

512
00:31:29,700 --> 00:31:32,600
on the counter and take a couple
blankets and I mess him up 

513
00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:35,600
around the house. 
And I go boys, I'm seeing seven 

514
00:31:35,600 --> 00:31:41,400
things. 
And the test begins now and mom 

515
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:43,000
sitting there in the boys start 
going around. 

516
00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:45,400
Looking okay, this is how a 
chair goes back in. 

517
00:31:46,500 --> 00:31:49,400
Now you guys are laughing but 
you go home and ask your kids to

518
00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:54,300
clean up and see what happens. 
All of us now it's not anywhere.

519
00:31:54,300 --> 00:31:57,200
Close to the way, my wife would 
like it done but now my wife is 

520
00:31:57,200 --> 00:32:01,000
doing the last five percent, not
the first 95%. 

521
00:32:01,500 --> 00:32:04,100
My wife is now able to more 
fully engaging conversations in 

522
00:32:04,100 --> 00:32:06,300
our house because she's not 
frustrated all night long 

523
00:32:06,300 --> 00:32:08,300
because she has to keep clean 
after three chunky. 

524
00:32:08,300 --> 00:32:17,200
Boys and deep in my heart, my 
goal is that I am raising boys 

525
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:19,900
that will cherish the needs of 
their wife. 

526
00:32:20,700 --> 00:32:23,800
I was fine with the way the 
house was, it didn't bother me. 

527
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:26,500
I'm good. 
I mean, I'm not that dirty, but 

528
00:32:26,500 --> 00:32:30,800
I'm just dirtier than her. 
But I want them to look at their

529
00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:34,000
wife and go what her standards 
matter to me. 

530
00:32:35,300 --> 00:32:37,800
And I want to build to look at 
my boys with integrity and say 

531
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:41,900
I'm proud of you. 
We are training our kids. 

532
00:32:42,900 --> 00:32:44,800
Now I have a really good news 
for you. 

533
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:48,900
I told you at the beginning that
your marriage and your parenting

534
00:32:48,900 --> 00:32:54,400
has an enemy He came comes to 
steal and kill and destroy, but 

535
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:59,400
I want you to also know we have 
a tremendous Ally who has come 

536
00:32:59,500 --> 00:33:02,600
to give us life and life to the 
full. 

537
00:33:02,900 --> 00:33:05,400
And so while he is trying to 
steal things and kill things and

538
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:09,300
Destroy things, Jesus is trying 
to come into your life and bring

539
00:33:09,300 --> 00:33:13,300
a full life, an abundant life if
you follow his plan and part of 

540
00:33:13,300 --> 00:33:16,700
his plan is having him first, 
your spouse, second your kids 

541
00:33:16,700 --> 00:33:19,900
third, but it goes so much 
deeper than that, and I want to 

542
00:33:19,900 --> 00:33:21,900
show you what it looks like. 
Like and one of the most 

543
00:33:21,900 --> 00:33:25,200
familiar passages in all of 
scripture, this is what it looks

544
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:28,400
like when Jesus is your ally and
you put things in the right 

545
00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:30,700
order. 
This what it says, the Lord is 

546
00:33:30,700 --> 00:33:36,200
my shepherd, I lack nothing. 
He makes me lie down in Green 

547
00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:39,400
Pastures, he leads me beside 
Quiet Waters. 

548
00:33:39,700 --> 00:33:44,500
He refreshes my soul, he guides 
me along the right path for his 

549
00:33:44,500 --> 00:33:47,200
namesake. 
Even though I walk through the 

550
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:50,800
darkest Valley, I will fear no 
evil for you. 

551
00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:53,100
Are with me, your rod and your 
staff. 

552
00:33:53,100 --> 00:33:56,900
They comfort me. 
You prepare a table before me in

553
00:33:56,900 --> 00:34:00,200
the presence of my enemies. 
You anoint my head with oil my 

554
00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:06,100
cup overflows, surely goodness 
and love will follow me all the 

555
00:34:06,100 --> 00:34:10,100
days of my life and I will dwell
in the house of the Lord 

556
00:34:10,100 --> 00:34:14,000
forever. 
You have an ally and while Satan

557
00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:17,900
wants to steal and kill and 
destroy Jesus is saying, but I 

558
00:34:17,900 --> 00:34:21,300
have a life for you. 
A life that is good and Filling 

559
00:34:21,300 --> 00:34:24,400
for your family, he's saying 
train them and the way they 

560
00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:26,300
should go. 
So when they are older they will

561
00:34:26,300 --> 00:34:28,199
not stray from it. 
No. 

562
00:34:28,199 --> 00:34:30,199
Can I just walk you through the 
Highlight Reel? 

563
00:34:30,199 --> 00:34:33,300
How many of you want your kids 
to grow up with the Lord as 

564
00:34:33,300 --> 00:34:35,300
their Shepherd? 
And if they are they're not 

565
00:34:35,300 --> 00:34:37,600
going to lack nothing. 
How many of you want to raise 

566
00:34:37,600 --> 00:34:40,600
your kids in the Green Pastures 
of God and you want your family 

567
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:42,900
to be able to sit by side this 
Quiet Waters. 

568
00:34:43,199 --> 00:34:45,600
How many you want your kids to 
know and your marriage to know 

569
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:49,100
that God refreshes their soul 
and will nurture and take care 

570
00:34:49,100 --> 00:34:50,800
of them that he will guide them 
all. 

571
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:54,600
Along the right paths, keep 
going, how many of you want to 

572
00:34:54,600 --> 00:34:57,200
know that when you walk through 
the darkest Valley, when the 

573
00:34:57,200 --> 00:34:59,500
storms actually hit your 
marriage, when the tough times 

574
00:34:59,500 --> 00:35:02,900
actually come in your parenting,
that you have an ally that even 

575
00:35:02,900 --> 00:35:05,500
in the darkest of valleys, you 
have nothing to fear. 

576
00:35:06,700 --> 00:35:08,600
When they go out, and they're on
their own, that they have 

577
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:11,500
nothing to fear because they 
have a promise that has rung. 

578
00:35:11,500 --> 00:35:17,200
True for the ages that he is 
with them, that he will Comfort 

579
00:35:17,500 --> 00:35:21,800
them, that you would live in a 
state, where your cup is over 

580
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:27,000
flowing, you are filled with joy
and that ultimately in the wake 

581
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:30,900
of your life goodness and love 
would follow you. 

582
00:35:31,500 --> 00:35:34,500
Follow your marriage, follow 
your parenting, follow your 

583
00:35:34,500 --> 00:35:38,900
kids, follow your grandkids and 
eventually that your family tree

584
00:35:39,100 --> 00:35:41,900
would dwell in the house of the 
Lord forever. 

585
00:35:42,700 --> 00:35:45,800
That is what it looks like to 
have an intimate personal 

586
00:35:45,900 --> 00:35:50,800
relationship with Jesus Christ. 
And you cannot be the person 

587
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:54,700
that God created you to be. 
You cannot be the spouse that 

588
00:35:54,700 --> 00:35:57,900
you want to be. 
You cannot be the parent that 

589
00:35:57,900 --> 00:36:02,400
you want to be and you cannot 
raise the kids that you want to 

590
00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:05,900
race. 
If he is not the center of your 

591
00:36:05,900 --> 00:36:09,400
life, if you do not have an 
intimate, personal relationship 

592
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:11,700
with Jesus Christ, so please 
don't put it off. 

593
00:36:12,100 --> 00:36:20,300
Remember to a time of decision, 
If you are here today, and you 

594
00:36:20,300 --> 00:36:23,100
haven't started an intimate 
personal relationship with Jesus

595
00:36:23,100 --> 00:36:27,000
Christ. 
What I just read is the cliff 

596
00:36:27,000 --> 00:36:28,900
notes version of what that looks
like. 

597
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:33,100
I want you to hear me say it. 
You can start that relationship 

598
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:35,800
today. 
If you were to read through the 

599
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:38,900
pages of scripture, what you'd 
find out is that to begin that 

600
00:36:38,900 --> 00:36:41,000
relationship with Jesus Christ, 
there's a couple things you got 

601
00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:45,000
to get right, one, you got to 
realize that there's a God and 

602
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:48,600
that you're not him. 
You got to realize that Jesus 

603
00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:51,200
died on the cross for your sins 
to pay a price that you couldn't

604
00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:54,900
pay. 
You got to repent of you Livin 

605
00:36:54,900 --> 00:36:57,700
Life on your own terms and 
definitely and never actually 

606
00:36:57,700 --> 00:37:00,000
saying, you know what, I want 
you to be in control, you 

607
00:37:00,000 --> 00:37:03,600
created me, you made me, you 
have a plan and purpose for my 

608
00:37:03,607 --> 00:37:08,600
life and then the Bible almost 
every time talks about people 

609
00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:12,900
who come to, this realization 
become obedient in the area of 

610
00:37:12,900 --> 00:37:15,800
baptism. 
And that when you become 

611
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:19,800
obedient in the area of baptism 
in that baptism, you receive the

612
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:21,900
gift of the Holy Spirit. 
We're God stops. 

613
00:37:21,900 --> 00:37:24,900
Working on you and he starts 
working in you. 

614
00:37:25,100 --> 00:37:29,600
He takes up residence in. 
You, can I be incredibly 

615
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:36,400
practical for a second? 
This past month, don't raise 

616
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:37,900
your hand. 
Please don't raise your hand. 

617
00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:46,100
Did you have a fight with your 
spouse or your kid if you did 

618
00:37:46,100 --> 00:37:49,400
just keep breathing? 
If you didn't, just hold your 

619
00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:58,900
breath. in that moment, where 
you being guided, By the Holy 

620
00:37:58,900 --> 00:38:02,900
Spirit. 
Or you being Guided by your 

621
00:38:02,900 --> 00:38:07,800
emotions. 
Or the words coming out of your 

622
00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:11,500
mouth. 
The healing words of Jesus or 

623
00:38:11,500 --> 00:38:18,500
the hurt of a soured heart. 
The Holy Spirit takes up 

624
00:38:18,500 --> 00:38:24,100
residence. and he bears fruit in
us that in all of these 

625
00:38:24,100 --> 00:38:27,100
situations we can all we're 
still going to struggle with 

626
00:38:27,100 --> 00:38:35,600
sin, but we have power to 
overcome So, you see the 

627
00:38:35,600 --> 00:38:37,000
Highlight Reel of Clayton, 
Hensel. 

628
00:38:38,100 --> 00:38:41,700
And I try to let you know that 
I'm a bit of a turd but it's 

629
00:38:41,700 --> 00:38:46,400
worse than it than I let on. 
And I would say, one of my 

630
00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:53,500
biggest aches. has there been so
many times in my marriage in my 

631
00:38:53,500 --> 00:38:58,900
relationships and even in my 
parenting where I have not given

632
00:38:58,900 --> 00:39:04,300
them a Spirit-filled father, 
I've not given my wife, a 

633
00:39:04,700 --> 00:39:08,600
Spirit-filled husband, I have 
not given my friends, a 

634
00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:16,400
Spirit-filled friend. 
And you don't even have that 

635
00:39:16,400 --> 00:39:18,700
option. 
Until you're in a right 

636
00:39:18,700 --> 00:39:24,300
relationship with Jesus. 
So if you have questions about 

637
00:39:24,300 --> 00:39:27,600
what that is or what that looks 
like, I want to encourage you in

638
00:39:27,607 --> 00:39:29,400
just a few moments the people 
around, you are going to stay in

639
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:31,100
and start singing. 
I'm going to hurt you to go over

640
00:39:31,100 --> 00:39:33,300
to the step are over by the 
baptistry and there's somebody 

641
00:39:33,300 --> 00:39:35,900
there who would love an 
opportunity to talk with you. 

642
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:41,600
To the rest of you in the room. 
I want you to hear me. 

643
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:45,600
Say this. 
We need help in this area. 

644
00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:49,800
We need to do better in this 
area. 

645
00:39:51,600 --> 00:39:53,700
The people that God has placed 
in our lives, whether it's a 

646
00:39:53,707 --> 00:39:56,500
spouse, whether it's a kid, 
whether it's friends, they 

647
00:39:56,500 --> 00:39:59,100
deserve a Spirit-filled 
presence. 

648
00:40:00,700 --> 00:40:04,000
They deserve a Spirit-filled, 
you. 

649
00:40:06,900 --> 00:40:08,100
So, here's what I'm asking you 
to do. 

650
00:40:09,500 --> 00:40:13,500
Make sure that you are or 
reorienting your priority list 

651
00:40:13,500 --> 00:40:18,200
into God's priority list 
husband's right now. 

652
00:40:18,500 --> 00:40:20,900
Gut check is God, first in your 
life? 

653
00:40:20,900 --> 00:40:24,500
Is he a priority? 
If not what needs to change 

654
00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:28,200
after that? 
Is your spouse a priority when 

655
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:31,800
needs to change and then, how 
does that impact your kids 

656
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:33,700
wives? 
Same thing. 

657
00:40:34,300 --> 00:40:36,200
So, here's all. 
I'm asking you to do if you want

658
00:40:36,200 --> 00:40:39,000
to, if you care about your 
marriage or if you're 

659
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:40,900
navigating, A gating the throes 
of a divorce or you've been 

660
00:40:40,900 --> 00:40:42,400
divorced and you can't stand the
person. 

661
00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:45,200
You used to be married to, I'm 
going to ask you to come up, get

662
00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:47,800
down on your knees and pray for 
them taking. 

663
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:51,600
That's my enemy, check this out.
Jesus says, pray for your 

664
00:40:51,600 --> 00:40:54,600
enemies but they're they're 
making my life horrible. 

665
00:40:54,700 --> 00:40:55,900
Pray for those who persecute 
you. 

666
00:40:57,500 --> 00:40:58,800
You're going, but I can't pray 
that prayer. 

667
00:40:58,900 --> 00:41:00,700
Well, good news. 
You don't have to pray that 

668
00:41:00,700 --> 00:41:03,700
Prayer by yourself. 
He will Empower you to pray that

669
00:41:03,700 --> 00:41:05,900
prayer. 
Got out how I'm going to get in 

670
00:41:05,908 --> 00:41:08,500
the car with my kids and because
of what my ex-husband keeps 

671
00:41:08,500 --> 00:41:12,600
doing, Holy Spirit, I need your 
help to honor their father. 

672
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:16,500
Even though I can't stand him, 
pray for your kids. 

673
00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:20,000
Pray for kids is marriage. 
Pray for your grandkids is 

674
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:22,400
marriage. 
Leave a spiritual inheritance at

675
00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:26,200
the steps this weekend, but you 
stand with me, heavenly father. 

676
00:41:26,200 --> 00:41:28,100
Thank you so much for today. 
Thanks for the time. 

677
00:41:28,100 --> 00:41:30,100
We've been able to spend 
together, I pray that you use 

678
00:41:30,100 --> 00:41:34,800
these next few moments to get 
our lives on the right track. 

679
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:38,800
To put us pointed in the right 
direction and then give us the 

680
00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:40,400
power to live it out and your 
name. 

681
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:41,800
I pray. 
Amen. 

682
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:38,800
To put us pointed in the right 
direction and then give us the 

683
00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:40,400
power to live it out and your 
name. 

684
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:41,800
I pray. 
Amen.