1 00:00:03,800 --> 00:00:06,300 Where you go, how are you doing Crossing Church? 2 00:00:06,300 --> 00:00:09,300 You doing all right. Oh, you can do better than that. 3 00:00:09,300 --> 00:00:11,500 How are you doing? Crossing jerk. 4 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:16,900 Oh, so good to be in the house of the Lord with a people of the 5 00:00:16,900 --> 00:00:18,900 Lord. I don't know how many of you 6 00:00:18,900 --> 00:00:24,200 were here last night, but it was not. 7 00:00:25,300 --> 00:00:28,700 It was incredible. Seeing this place completely 8 00:00:28,700 --> 00:00:32,000 compact people standing there. No sir in this front section 9 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:34,900 here. Oh, it was, if you miss this 10 00:00:34,900 --> 00:00:36,900 not, you got to wait next night of worship. 11 00:00:36,900 --> 00:00:41,300 You need to have that experience because it was a, is an 12 00:00:41,300 --> 00:00:44,200 incredible incredible experience. 13 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:45,900 I want to welcome all of our campuses. 14 00:00:45,900 --> 00:00:48,900 We got a chance to have some of those campuses here. 15 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:53,700 Yes, at 48th Street, all of them represented last night, but we 16 00:00:53,700 --> 00:00:58,100 welcome you today if you're inside online, think thankful 17 00:00:58,100 --> 00:01:01,800 for you as well gods. Is doing incredible things at 18 00:01:01,900 --> 00:01:04,400 and all the tribes, right? All the tribes at all the 19 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:08,200 locations tribes. We're excited about that. 20 00:01:08,500 --> 00:01:12,100 And how many of you did an NCAA bracket? 21 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:14,000 Raise your hand if you did a bracket? 22 00:01:14,300 --> 00:01:19,200 Yeah, a lot of hands up. So I was talking to my son Joey 23 00:01:19,500 --> 00:01:22,300 and he said his small group was doing a bracket. 24 00:01:22,300 --> 00:01:25,600 Yep. And so they've been doing that 25 00:01:25,600 --> 00:01:29,100 and I have a three-year-old grandson. 26 00:01:29,100 --> 00:01:32,300 Alex his One. And they decided to do it with 27 00:01:32,300 --> 00:01:34,400 their three-year-old grandson, as well. 28 00:01:35,100 --> 00:01:37,500 And so, how do you do a bracket if you're a three-year-old? 29 00:01:37,500 --> 00:01:40,400 Well, what they would Mom, and Dad did, was came up with the 30 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:45,100 mascots of all the teams, and then just said, would you rather 31 00:01:45,100 --> 00:01:49,300 have a blue devil or a pig, you know, or would you rather have 32 00:01:49,300 --> 00:01:53,900 a, you know, and he picked his bracket based on mascots and 33 00:01:53,900 --> 00:01:57,000 he's doing better than anybody else in this group better than 34 00:01:57,000 --> 00:01:59,900 me and I'm in the group, you're in the group had a throwaway. 35 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:05,700 The whole thing. Yeah, so so I don't know how 36 00:02:05,700 --> 00:02:07,900 you're doing with your bracket, but I can tell you what, the 37 00:02:07,900 --> 00:02:11,800 series better has been incredible for a lot of people. 38 00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:14,900 Yes. And I, you know, sometimes I'll 39 00:02:14,900 --> 00:02:17,700 hear something when I'm out in the community and someone will 40 00:02:17,700 --> 00:02:21,500 say, hey, it was great or, but I can't tell you how much of that 41 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:24,400 has saturated into all of our communities. 42 00:02:24,400 --> 00:02:27,800 And I'm hearing that from the staff, that it's really. 43 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:29,700 I mean, the things that we're doing the challenges, 44 00:02:29,700 --> 00:02:33,600 everything, You're really making a difference in the lives of 45 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:36,400 families and this week is no different under. 46 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:42,000 It's no different because in some ways it's because we're 47 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:46,200 talking about something that we've never talked about or 48 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:52,600 preached about before and it's a scientific and psychological 49 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:58,400 truth that explains what's going on in a person's brain from 50 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:03,900 birth to adolescence Essence and it's called synaptic pruning. 51 00:03:04,500 --> 00:03:05,900 So you're going to learn about that today. 52 00:03:05,900 --> 00:03:09,200 And I know it sounds kind of highbrow, you know, but it 53 00:03:09,200 --> 00:03:13,100 really isn't and you're going to really appreciate what what you 54 00:03:13,100 --> 00:03:14,400 hear today. And then we're going to be able 55 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:18,200 to apply that to God's word. But before we do that, you know, 56 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:22,500 I'm sharing the stage with my brother Andre and give it up for 57 00:03:22,500 --> 00:03:27,300 Andre Harper up here that you Andre does. 58 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:31,800 He does the student. Here and does a lot of 59 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:36,300 leadership with the student Ministry Crossing wide at all of 60 00:03:36,300 --> 00:03:39,000 our locations. And Alison, and I were 61 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:44,300 traveling, and we are on our way home and she paired the phone to 62 00:03:44,300 --> 00:03:47,500 the radio and the in the car. And so, we're listening to her 63 00:03:47,500 --> 00:03:50,800 play a playlist. And one song came on. 64 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:54,800 She started to cry and, you know, she was having an 65 00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:58,100 emotional moment with that song and we talked about it 66 00:03:58,100 --> 00:04:00,300 afterwards and she goes, you know, last time I remember, Over 67 00:04:00,300 --> 00:04:06,200 here, in that song, I was in Jamaica and it was a quite a 68 00:04:06,200 --> 00:04:09,300 while ago. And she goes, I was on top of a 69 00:04:09,300 --> 00:04:14,100 mountain and I was looking out this Vista values Beauty and the 70 00:04:14,100 --> 00:04:21,100 place and this is back, when Clayton and Jenny were dating 71 00:04:21,700 --> 00:04:27,300 and this was like, the this was like the trip to see what I, you 72 00:04:27,300 --> 00:04:29,700 know, like is this, you know? What's that? 73 00:04:29,700 --> 00:04:34,900 What's that And Kristin and Andre were flirting, that's 74 00:04:34,900 --> 00:04:40,400 right at that time and yeah and she was praying for both of 75 00:04:40,407 --> 00:04:42,600 those couples. I'm telling you my wife's 76 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:48,400 prayers work they work because he's our to successful marriages 77 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:50,500 God's doing incredible great, great things. 78 00:04:50,500 --> 00:04:54,400 And I'm really thankful to have Andre here to share with you. 79 00:04:54,500 --> 00:04:56,300 Or we're going to talk about today. 80 00:04:56,300 --> 00:04:58,500 We can do that together. So Andre, go ahead. 81 00:04:58,500 --> 00:05:01,900 Yeah, thank you. Jerry, it is, Is a huge honor to 82 00:05:01,900 --> 00:05:04,800 be here in front of you and thank Jerry, queued. 83 00:05:04,900 --> 00:05:07,300 We're going to be talking about something called synaptic 84 00:05:07,300 --> 00:05:10,800 pruning and you probably have no idea what that even means. 85 00:05:10,800 --> 00:05:14,400 Just real quick just say synaptic pruning synaptic 86 00:05:14,400 --> 00:05:15,700 pruning. There we go. 87 00:05:15,700 --> 00:05:18,400 And so you might be tempted over the next couple of minutes to 88 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:22,500 think that we were watching some episode of Magic School Bus with 89 00:05:22,500 --> 00:05:24,700 Miss. Fred says, we talked about this 90 00:05:24,700 --> 00:05:28,100 concept, but what we're going to talk about has every bearing to 91 00:05:28,100 --> 00:05:31,600 do with the rest of the sermon, So let me set it up in case you 92 00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:35,500 have no idea what synaptic pruning even is so synaptic 93 00:05:35,500 --> 00:05:40,900 pruning is the process by which the brain removes synapses or 94 00:05:40,900 --> 00:05:45,700 connections between brain cells. And this process helps to remove 95 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:48,800 the rarely used connections with their rarely used. 96 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:54,300 Synapses to ensure that there's enough capacity in the brain for 97 00:05:54,300 --> 00:05:56,900 the more frequently used connections. 98 00:05:57,300 --> 00:06:00,800 And so the number of synapses that you should know this in a 99 00:06:00,800 --> 00:06:03,800 baby or in children is about double. 100 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:09,000 The amount in adults, making it so much easier for babies to 101 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:14,100 rapidly learn as they develop rapidly learn task, which is why 102 00:06:14,300 --> 00:06:18,000 you've probably heard the saying before that babies are like 103 00:06:18,100 --> 00:06:20,500 sponges, right? Because it just soak up. 104 00:06:20,500 --> 00:06:24,200 They absorb so much, you're always learning something new. 105 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:27,200 They're always surprising you. And so the pruning process, like 106 00:06:27,200 --> 00:06:29,800 I said starts when they were baby continues through 107 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:33,500 Adolescence, and, and it continues actually all the way 108 00:06:33,500 --> 00:06:37,100 up to about early 20s. Sometimes late 20s for some 109 00:06:37,100 --> 00:06:42,600 people and this makes the adult brain more able to focus on 110 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:47,500 in-depth tasks and in-depth conversations because there are 111 00:06:47,500 --> 00:06:52,100 fewer connections and changes taking place in their brain. 112 00:06:52,400 --> 00:06:57,700 One way to think about it is to imagine that you move into a new 113 00:06:57,700 --> 00:07:01,900 neighborhood recently and as you in this cul-de-sac, you go on 114 00:07:01,900 --> 00:07:05,800 walks and you start meeting the neighbors, you know, and what 115 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:09,900 happens over time as you spend time with your neighbors, is you 116 00:07:09,900 --> 00:07:15,500 begin to form stronger. Connections with some versus 117 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:19,600 others and then what happens is you start to have some of your 118 00:07:19,600 --> 00:07:24,400 neighbors over for dinner or you have conversations longer or 119 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:28,000 your kids start playing with with their kids, right? 120 00:07:28,200 --> 00:07:32,500 And so soon you're sharing More and more experiences together 121 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:35,500 and what happens to the other neighbors, the ones that you 122 00:07:35,508 --> 00:07:39,000 don't see and talk to us, much. Yes, the relationship the 123 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:42,400 connection dies, there's there's no relationship. 124 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:45,700 Just, you know, a friendly way every once in a while or a 125 00:07:45,700 --> 00:07:48,500 forced or fake interaction at best. 126 00:07:48,900 --> 00:07:52,800 And so this is what's happening in the mind and the brain of a 127 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:57,800 child all the way up into adulthood into their early 20s. 128 00:07:57,900 --> 00:07:59,100 There's a lot of things are dying. 129 00:07:59,100 --> 00:08:01,400 Yeah. And this is Not a small thing 130 00:08:01,400 --> 00:08:05,200 know so you know you might be hearing this and going okay. 131 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:08,700 There's some things that are changing no between the ages of 132 00:08:08,700 --> 00:08:14,500 11 and 17 those adolescents lose 40% of their memory. 133 00:08:16,600 --> 00:08:20,800 I mean that's a scientific fact. They lose 40%. 134 00:08:20,900 --> 00:08:23,700 So you know a lot of you that are here that are adults that 135 00:08:23,700 --> 00:08:27,400 have kids this age you're going I think Mike is lost his mind. 136 00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:34,400 No just 40% of their mind, literally 40 percent of their 137 00:08:34,400 --> 00:08:37,799 money because you really are the total of your memories, right? 138 00:08:38,000 --> 00:08:42,000 That's his makes you who you are and imagine what they're 139 00:08:42,000 --> 00:08:45,900 actually going through in this Miss of this process. 140 00:08:46,800 --> 00:08:49,700 To help us understand that, you know, there's there's some easy 141 00:08:49,700 --> 00:08:52,700 ways to understand that. How many of you seen the movie 142 00:08:52,700 --> 00:08:56,200 Inside Out? Raise your hand allocations. 143 00:08:56,300 --> 00:08:59,500 If you see an inside out. If you haven't, this needs to be 144 00:08:59,500 --> 00:09:01,200 a challenge your challenge. Yeah. 145 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:03,300 This needs to be a challenge at the end of the service. 146 00:09:03,300 --> 00:09:04,900 You can't do anything else to watch. 147 00:09:04,900 --> 00:09:10,500 It just watch inside out. Okay, it's a Disney Pixar movie. 148 00:09:10,500 --> 00:09:13,900 It's seven years old and it's an incredible. 149 00:09:14,900 --> 00:09:18,100 It's actually a movie about About this very thing. 150 00:09:18,100 --> 00:09:20,800 It's about synaptic pruning pruning. 151 00:09:21,100 --> 00:09:23,800 It has talking about the aspects that we have in our human 152 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:29,400 personality and the characters in the movie are joy and sadness 153 00:09:29,400 --> 00:09:36,700 and anger and fear and disgust, and the movie is set up about an 154 00:09:36,700 --> 00:09:40,000 adolescent named Riley. Who's in the process of moving 155 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:44,200 from Minnesota to San Francisco and what that actually is 156 00:09:44,200 --> 00:09:47,100 producing in her brain and you're kind of looking at inside 157 00:09:47,100 --> 00:09:53,300 of her inside of her brain and inside of her reality and how 158 00:09:53,300 --> 00:09:57,700 difficult it is for her. And all these things that are 159 00:09:57,700 --> 00:10:00,900 being pruned and one of the saddest Parts. 160 00:10:00,900 --> 00:10:02,600 Listen. I, if you watch this movie, you 161 00:10:02,600 --> 00:10:06,100 will definitely cry. You will so just be prepared 162 00:10:06,300 --> 00:10:08,700 specially when bing bong with Bing Bong. 163 00:10:08,700 --> 00:10:10,200 Yeah. Well, she's don't tell him that 164 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:15,500 because that does the spoiler. Anyway, anyway, it's powerful 165 00:10:15,500 --> 00:10:21,300 because In the sea, whole sea of these memories and memories are 166 00:10:21,400 --> 00:10:25,000 portrayed as like little orbs or they look like marbles that kind 167 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:27,400 of glow different colors if there are sad memory or a 168 00:10:27,400 --> 00:10:31,200 disgusting memory and they're just they all turn black when 169 00:10:31,200 --> 00:10:34,500 they're gone and they're just they're standing in the sea of 170 00:10:34,500 --> 00:10:37,300 discarded memories. And that really, I mean, that 171 00:10:37,300 --> 00:10:41,500 kind of upsets me because I think of my four kids and how 172 00:10:41,500 --> 00:10:45,600 many of those things when they were little you know, that that 173 00:10:45,600 --> 00:10:48,100 I thought was there were so precious and so powerful, they 174 00:10:48,100 --> 00:10:52,900 get proved I know things are really hard for us to imagine, 175 00:10:52,900 --> 00:10:57,000 imagine that this is the reality that they are going through. 176 00:10:58,200 --> 00:11:02,000 In that in that age range and not only are they going through 177 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:05,500 that, they're going through a hormonal storm. 178 00:11:06,900 --> 00:11:09,700 Now, you think I'm just trying to say that with, I'm kind of 179 00:11:09,700 --> 00:11:12,400 being a little hyperbolic, you know, hormonal storm. 180 00:11:12,600 --> 00:11:16,300 How do you remember a term that was used early in covid-19 181 00:11:16,300 --> 00:11:22,100 called a cytokine storm? Some of you remember that, well, 182 00:11:22,100 --> 00:11:24,500 this is what they were discovering at the beginning of 183 00:11:24,508 --> 00:11:31,100 covid-19, that the when the human body for some people over 184 00:11:31,100 --> 00:11:34,800 other people were different, would have this really powerful 185 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:38,600 reaction to covid-19. Virus and it would create all 186 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:41,600 these antibodies and the antibodies were so powerful 187 00:11:41,800 --> 00:11:45,800 inside their, their body, that it was killing the patient. 188 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:48,700 Some of you may remember that they came up with a thing called 189 00:11:48,700 --> 00:11:53,000 proning where they actually laid a person's stomach down so that 190 00:11:53,000 --> 00:11:54,700 they could actually breathe through it. 191 00:11:54,700 --> 00:11:57,900 And it had to do with this psyching storm, that was 192 00:11:58,000 --> 00:12:02,200 happening in them. Imagine your adolescent, having 193 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:04,800 all of this synaptic pruning losing forty percent of their 194 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:09,100 memory at the same time. I'm going through this hormonal 195 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:11,900 storm. That's a powerful thing to 196 00:12:11,900 --> 00:12:13,200 consider, what they're going through. 197 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:18,000 Andre it is, as you're talking about this, I kept asking myself 198 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:20,800 the question. You know, why would God do that 199 00:12:20,800 --> 00:12:22,700 to us? That like a scene out of a 200 00:12:22,700 --> 00:12:25,000 hormonal storm? This doesn't go on your Bray. 201 00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:29,800 Like there's so much that kids and adolescents go through. 202 00:12:30,700 --> 00:12:34,500 But what's happening is your their prefrontal cortex is 203 00:12:34,500 --> 00:12:38,600 developing and as As the pruning process is happening. 204 00:12:38,600 --> 00:12:42,600 It's happening in here. And what's developing is empathy 205 00:12:43,100 --> 00:12:46,800 that as they go through this phase and become adults to 206 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:51,200 develop empathy, and they're not self-focus or self-centered 207 00:12:51,200 --> 00:12:54,200 anymore, because if you have kids, if you have any experience 208 00:12:54,200 --> 00:12:57,100 with kids, you know, kids can be all about me. 209 00:12:57,100 --> 00:13:00,600 Me me what, or what I want, it's everything focuses and revolves 210 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:03,400 around me. And as they get older, they 211 00:13:03,400 --> 00:13:06,300 start thinking about others which is how we can. 212 00:13:06,600 --> 00:13:11,200 Begin to embrace the, the great commandment to love God, with 213 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:13,800 all your heart, soul, mind, and strength, and love your 214 00:13:13,800 --> 00:13:16,200 neighbors as yourself. That's the only way we can 215 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:19,400 really understand what that really looks like. 216 00:13:19,900 --> 00:13:22,700 And so I keep thinking, this is amazing. 217 00:13:22,700 --> 00:13:26,700 It's amazing how we go through this process so we can get to 218 00:13:26,900 --> 00:13:31,400 know God, more and love him more and love others more. 219 00:13:31,700 --> 00:13:34,900 And here is a verse that sums it up in 1/3. 220 00:13:35,100 --> 00:13:39,800 Psalm 139 verse Teen says, thank you for making me so 221 00:13:39,800 --> 00:13:42,900 wonderfully. Complex, not complicated. 222 00:13:42,900 --> 00:13:45,900 We're not complicated people. We're wonderfully complex. 223 00:13:45,900 --> 00:13:49,400 We are special. We are your workmanship and he 224 00:13:49,400 --> 00:13:54,200 says your workmanship is marvelous how well I know it. 225 00:13:54,700 --> 00:13:58,000 And so what you need to know about how complex and how 226 00:13:58,000 --> 00:14:02,500 wonderful we were made is that during the pruning process, 227 00:14:03,100 --> 00:14:07,900 things that are repeated are strengthened things that are 228 00:14:08,000 --> 00:14:12,300 continue to be be implemented over time gets stronger and 229 00:14:12,300 --> 00:14:15,300 stronger, things that are important to you, become 230 00:14:15,300 --> 00:14:18,200 important, to them, to your kids, to those who you 231 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:22,400 influence. But the opposite is also true. 232 00:14:23,400 --> 00:14:26,400 Now, the things that you don't value the things that you don't 233 00:14:26,400 --> 00:14:30,800 place a high importance on, they won't be adopted by those who 234 00:14:30,800 --> 00:14:33,200 you influence. And so, if you're here, if 235 00:14:33,200 --> 00:14:35,700 you're hearing me, if you have any influence, whether as a 236 00:14:35,708 --> 00:14:39,500 parent, a grandparent Parent and add an uncle in a teacher, a 237 00:14:39,500 --> 00:14:43,200 coach, a mentor. If you have any influence over 238 00:14:43,200 --> 00:14:48,700 some 10 through 18 or 20, you need to know that you are 239 00:14:48,700 --> 00:14:53,700 assisting in the pruning process of their brain and most times 240 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:58,200 you don't even notice it. Did you hear that the biblical 241 00:14:58,200 --> 00:15:02,000 connotations of Psalm 139? That actually God is 242 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:05,700 accomplishing this wonderful thing because marvelous thing. 243 00:15:05,800 --> 00:15:08,600 Yep. And So you're you may think that 244 00:15:08,600 --> 00:15:11,300 well we're not talking about a Biblical concept but more of a 245 00:15:11,300 --> 00:15:14,900 scientific one know it's a Biblical thing God. 246 00:15:15,400 --> 00:15:17,900 Spun us up for this. He's taught us. 247 00:15:17,900 --> 00:15:21,100 This and is it in just in Psalm 139? 248 00:15:21,100 --> 00:15:25,600 Look at Deuteronomy chapter 6, talking about loving God and 249 00:15:25,600 --> 00:15:27,200 loving one. Another says these are the 250 00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:30,700 commands, the decrees and laws, the Lord, your God directed me 251 00:15:30,708 --> 00:15:34,100 to teach you to observe in the land that you are crossing the 252 00:15:34,100 --> 00:15:38,800 Jordan to possess. So, That you your children and 253 00:15:38,800 --> 00:15:42,400 their children after them, they fear the lord your God as long 254 00:15:42,400 --> 00:15:47,000 as you live by keeping all his decrees and commands that I give 255 00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:52,700 you and so that you may enjoy a long life, love the Lord, your 256 00:15:52,700 --> 00:15:56,500 God, with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your 257 00:15:56,500 --> 00:16:02,100 strength, these Commandments, that I give you today are to be 258 00:16:02,200 --> 00:16:05,900 on your hearts now. Look at this. 259 00:16:06,500 --> 00:16:09,700 Was this is where what Andre said about the things that were 260 00:16:09,700 --> 00:16:13,700 repeated are strengthened. It says, impress them on your 261 00:16:13,700 --> 00:16:18,400 children, talk about them. When you sit at home and when 262 00:16:18,400 --> 00:16:23,300 you walk along the road and when you lie down and when you get 263 00:16:23,400 --> 00:16:29,300 up, there's four times a day, every day that these need to be 264 00:16:29,300 --> 00:16:33,500 completely reinforced that helps that memory to be a core memory. 265 00:16:33,500 --> 00:16:37,500 Yes, it doesn't get discarded. It doesn't get And and it 266 00:16:37,500 --> 00:16:40,800 becomes the core of that person's life. 267 00:16:42,000 --> 00:16:43,400 So what does this really look like? 268 00:16:43,400 --> 00:16:48,100 It's as often as you do anything with your kids, as often as you 269 00:16:48,100 --> 00:16:53,300 Mentor, someone in this gen. You need to be intentional about 270 00:16:53,300 --> 00:16:57,000 speaking and living out God's truth. 271 00:16:57,200 --> 00:17:00,400 I can tell you that in my family, with my kids, those 272 00:17:00,400 --> 00:17:03,500 things that have been repeated and repeated, they pay you back, 273 00:17:03,500 --> 00:17:07,500 they pay you back. Incredible dividends as they 274 00:17:07,500 --> 00:17:11,000 grow up and as they start raising their children, you see 275 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:14,099 this? Multi-generational blessing 276 00:17:14,300 --> 00:17:17,400 happening. When those, those core values 277 00:17:17,400 --> 00:17:22,099 are instilled, when you prioritize pursuing an intimate 278 00:17:22,099 --> 00:17:26,800 personal relationship with Jesus Christ over all else, it is 279 00:17:26,800 --> 00:17:30,900 likely that your child or an adolescent that you can 280 00:17:30,900 --> 00:17:36,400 influence will too. But the opposite is also true if 281 00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:40,600 you fight and yell and speak harsh words in front of the kids 282 00:17:40,600 --> 00:17:44,600 or other young people, all those traits will be adopted as well. 283 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:50,300 You see this generation is learning from us. 284 00:17:50,900 --> 00:17:55,500 Adults have the most influence in the lives of this gym. 285 00:17:55,500 --> 00:17:58,700 And you know what? We may not even realize it but 286 00:17:58,700 --> 00:18:00,700 it's the truth. Yeah, we don't realize it. 287 00:18:01,500 --> 00:18:05,300 Another passage that I appreciate and really ties in 288 00:18:05,300 --> 00:18:08,600 what we're talking about. Is Proverbs 22 verse 6. 289 00:18:08,800 --> 00:18:11,600 He says start children off on the way they should go. 290 00:18:12,200 --> 00:18:15,700 And even when they're old, they will not turn from it. 291 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:18,700 Powerful passage profitable for something. 292 00:18:18,700 --> 00:18:21,400 I remember eyes going to VBS is a kid and there's different 293 00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:23,400 versions to this. There's some versions, 294 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:25,900 obviously, that's a start, but there's one that says train up 295 00:18:26,200 --> 00:18:29,700 and I like the idea of training up versus start or teach because 296 00:18:29,700 --> 00:18:34,500 the difference between training up and, and, and training, you 297 00:18:34,500 --> 00:18:37,600 know, like teaching and training is to completely different 298 00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:40,600 concept when I think about this. I think about the Olympics. 299 00:18:40,600 --> 00:18:44,400 Yeah, you know, I grown up. In Jamaica, we're known for our 300 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:48,300 athletes or sprinters to be specific and a bobsled team and 301 00:18:48,300 --> 00:18:49,600 a bobsled team. That's right. 302 00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:52,800 Saying Cool Runnings. All right, you should watch 303 00:18:52,800 --> 00:18:58,400 that, you but but, but the idea of these athletes these 304 00:18:58,400 --> 00:19:02,100 sprinters, if they are serious about making it to the Olympics, 305 00:19:02,100 --> 00:19:05,400 it starts when they're, you know, so small and they're like 306 00:19:05,400 --> 00:19:09,400 four years old and as they continue their working on, on 307 00:19:09,400 --> 00:19:11,400 their speed, they're working on their technique there. 308 00:19:11,700 --> 00:19:15,400 Practicing how to be still in the starting blocks and how to 309 00:19:15,600 --> 00:19:18,700 accelerate and get through that dry phase the to reach that top 310 00:19:18,700 --> 00:19:21,300 end speed. So Usain Bolt's like Usain Bolt. 311 00:19:21,400 --> 00:19:25,700 Yeah, fastest man, ever, and no one will ever top him either, 312 00:19:26,300 --> 00:19:28,900 but that's the idea or talking about is, is training for 313 00:19:28,900 --> 00:19:31,900 something and doing it consistently over time. 314 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:36,300 The same can be said about shooting 100 free throws a day. 315 00:19:36,300 --> 00:19:39,600 You know, one day, you might become the next Steph Curry or 316 00:19:39,600 --> 00:19:41,900 if you continue to, you know, do these Things. 317 00:19:41,900 --> 00:19:43,900 It's muscle memory. It's like riding a bike. 318 00:19:43,900 --> 00:19:47,200 You never forget. And so, if you're a parent, if 319 00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:50,100 you're a caregiver, you're switching from caregiver to 320 00:19:50,100 --> 00:19:55,500 coach and every good coach knows, that drills are vital. 321 00:19:55,500 --> 00:20:00,300 Yes, for game time that you have to drill in over and over the 322 00:20:00,300 --> 00:20:04,600 plays, or the rules, or just different steps in order to 323 00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:08,600 prepare your team, prepare your players for the big game moment. 324 00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:12,200 Prepare them for, what's next. And so that's why Believe 325 00:20:12,200 --> 00:20:14,200 Solomon. What was what he was saying. 326 00:20:14,200 --> 00:20:19,300 Was absolutely right that he was onto something and Proverbs 22. 327 00:20:19,900 --> 00:20:22,700 And what he's saying is don't don't allow don't don't allow 328 00:20:22,700 --> 00:20:26,500 their faith in God. Their relationship with Jesus to 329 00:20:26,500 --> 00:20:30,200 be pruned simply because we weren't intentional with our 330 00:20:30,200 --> 00:20:32,600 time and our influence with them. 331 00:20:32,900 --> 00:20:37,400 See from my experience, it is so much easier to get it right in 332 00:20:37,400 --> 00:20:40,200 the beginning. In the beginning stages, when we 333 00:20:40,208 --> 00:20:43,000 actually have influence and we can help the pruning process 334 00:20:43,000 --> 00:20:47,300 then to fix it later. That's why Solomon, whose the 335 00:20:47,300 --> 00:20:49,100 wisest men. Born of natural. 336 00:20:49,100 --> 00:20:54,400 Birth said, even when they're old, they will not return. 337 00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:59,200 Our will not turn away from it and so, Jerry, synaptic. 338 00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:01,800 Pruning. It's real real, it's real for 339 00:21:01,800 --> 00:21:04,600 kids. It's real for our students, and 340 00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:08,000 they have no control over it. If you're here and you're under 341 00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:10,500 the age of 20, you have no control. 342 00:21:11,100 --> 00:21:13,600 What's going on. You might not even know it's 343 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:17,500 happening, simply because it happens in your subconscious 344 00:21:17,500 --> 00:21:18,400 mind. Yeah. 345 00:21:18,900 --> 00:21:24,200 However, we, the adults in all of our locations are the 346 00:21:24,208 --> 00:21:28,300 determining Factor. We can help shape this 347 00:21:28,300 --> 00:21:31,200 generation. What they value and we can 348 00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:36,200 evaluate by our actions what we've been communicating and 349 00:21:36,200 --> 00:21:40,700 make intentional changes to how we live our lives to that end. 350 00:21:40,700 --> 00:21:43,500 Yeah, it's on. Us, you know, when I was going 351 00:21:43,500 --> 00:21:46,800 through this transition process with with Clayton, where he 352 00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:51,000 became the senior pastor and I'm working for him, I saw a lot of 353 00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:54,000 advice for mentors. I had all over the country and 354 00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:58,800 there was one particular guy, Don Wilson, who was pastoring 355 00:21:58,900 --> 00:22:01,800 the largest Christian Church in the country about 38,000 a 356 00:22:01,808 --> 00:22:04,600 weekend and was talking to him on the phone. 357 00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:07,100 And this is what he said to me as he was coaching me. 358 00:22:07,300 --> 00:22:15,100 He said in the transition Jerry you Older, 100% of the 359 00:22:15,100 --> 00:22:18,800 responsibility. Clayton has 0%. 360 00:22:21,100 --> 00:22:23,400 He had to say that a few times because I'm kind of going that's 361 00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:27,200 not fair, you know, Clayton, these two have some of this 362 00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:32,700 responsibilities as know, that responsibility Falls solely on 363 00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:37,300 you, kids are losing forty percent of their mind. 364 00:22:37,800 --> 00:22:40,000 They're in the middle of a hormonal storm. 365 00:22:40,700 --> 00:22:45,100 The responsibilities on you. It's on you. 366 00:22:45,100 --> 00:22:47,400 You know why? Because your mind has been 367 00:22:47,400 --> 00:22:54,400 pruned and your hormones. Should hopefully hopefully be 368 00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:58,700 under control. So how do we do this? 369 00:22:58,700 --> 00:23:01,800 How do we walk this out? As a practical reality? 370 00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:04,800 I was looking at something that a guy named Tyler MacKenzie's 371 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:08,700 been here. And preach before said gave 15, 372 00:23:08,700 --> 00:23:12,400 really, really good things pertaining to Tech and since 373 00:23:12,400 --> 00:23:16,400 we're on the heels of Clayton preaching on technology and how 374 00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:19,500 that relates, I want to give you some practical ways, Andre, and 375 00:23:19,500 --> 00:23:22,100 I want to give you some practical ways on how those two 376 00:23:22,100 --> 00:23:26,300 things work together in this whole process of synaptic 377 00:23:26,300 --> 00:23:29,000 pruning. And how we Can repeat the right 378 00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:31,400 things and eliminate the wrong thing. 379 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:35,200 So, hold on for these 15 out and they may not all apply. 380 00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:37,500 He's like some of them. You may go, I can do that one. 381 00:23:37,500 --> 00:23:40,800 Yeah but but there's some ideas here that you need to grab a 382 00:23:40,800 --> 00:23:42,400 hold of it. Here's the first one. 383 00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:45,400 How about a 30 day? This is about you guys. 384 00:23:46,100 --> 00:23:50,000 How about a 30-day digital detox? 385 00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:55,600 Thirty days off all technology except what is essential to keep 386 00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:59,000 your job. What if you were to do that? 387 00:23:59,100 --> 00:24:02,900 How would that affect you? I mean it is a technology 388 00:24:02,900 --> 00:24:05,300 cleanse and it would be a good thing. 389 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:09,200 Yeah it wouldn't be or the 111 rule. 390 00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:14,100 It's phone free for one hour. That's a breeze, right? 391 00:24:14,700 --> 00:24:19,500 One hour day and then one day a week also doable. 392 00:24:19,500 --> 00:24:22,600 Yeah. But then one week a year when 393 00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:25,200 you go on vacation with your family what would it look like 394 00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:27,300 for you to just turn your phone off? 395 00:24:27,500 --> 00:24:31,500 Completely and just be present in the moment with those people. 396 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:37,300 Here's number three, how about no screens when you eat How 397 00:24:37,300 --> 00:24:40,000 about you just have like a basket on your table and you 398 00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:42,800 just put them in the basket or or you put them face down. 399 00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:46,200 So you can't see whatever's popping up on the screen that 400 00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:49,900 you're actually present in that moment to have the conversations 401 00:24:50,100 --> 00:24:53,100 that might change the trajectory of an entire life. 402 00:24:53,200 --> 00:24:58,000 Yeah or no screens when you worship when you come to church 403 00:24:58,300 --> 00:25:00,900 don't you know get on the Bible out, bring it out a physical 404 00:25:00,900 --> 00:25:04,400 Bible actually had a 7th. Grade student was talking about 405 00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:06,400 earlier this morning she had her Bible. 406 00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:08,900 She's Planning on opening that when she's back in fuse. 407 00:25:08,900 --> 00:25:11,500 But she's just gonna, you know, open if the physical one, not 408 00:25:11,500 --> 00:25:13,500 not the app because you can get distracted. 409 00:25:13,500 --> 00:25:16,200 So many times when you just start looking at this 410 00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:19,400 notifications popping and next thing you know you're thinking 411 00:25:19,400 --> 00:25:22,100 about something else versus what God wants you to hear in that 412 00:25:22,100 --> 00:25:27,100 moment or no screens that big life events like when you're at 413 00:25:27,100 --> 00:25:31,100 at something where your family is gathering like a Thanksgiving 414 00:25:31,100 --> 00:25:33,800 meal or a wedding or something like that, that you're actually 415 00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:37,300 present in that moment and and your exampling In front of your 416 00:25:37,300 --> 00:25:38,600 kids. Absolutely. 417 00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:41,200 Or what it would look like. If we shape the space around 418 00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:45,500 conversations and not the TV. If you look in your living room 419 00:25:45,500 --> 00:25:48,600 are all the furniture facing towards the television, or is it 420 00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:51,600 facing towards having conversations with the people in 421 00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:57,600 your family or spouse has listen to this access to passwords that 422 00:25:57,600 --> 00:26:01,700 spouses have 100% unfettered access at there's, what they're 423 00:26:01,700 --> 00:26:06,500 all their spouses passwords and that parents have Total Access 424 00:26:06,900 --> 00:26:10,200 All their kids devices. How about that? 425 00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:12,800 When you guys like that? You like that parents. 426 00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:15,800 Argh laughing. Yeah, kids are like stop talking 427 00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:23,200 or what it look like to have screen time limits for everyone. 428 00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:26,400 You know, Clayton refer to this last week that on Sunday, for 429 00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:30,200 many of us who are iPhone users, we get a screen time report and 430 00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:33,200 he was kind of bragging, how his was like down to like seventy 431 00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:35,500 seventy nine percent, which is, which is pretty big. 432 00:26:35,500 --> 00:26:38,800 That's pretty cool. But you can limit access you can 433 00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:43,000 you can set limits for yourself or your family and just say, hey 434 00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:46,300 for 2 hours a day. That's all I can be on my phone 435 00:26:46,300 --> 00:26:48,700 for and that's probably a lot for some people and you start 436 00:26:48,700 --> 00:26:51,900 there and work your way down how about putting your phone on do 437 00:26:51,900 --> 00:26:56,500 not disturb stuff. Phone stays on do not disturb 438 00:26:56,500 --> 00:26:59,400 except for like critical people that and you need to 439 00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:01,300 communicate. You know, you can actually 440 00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:06,600 customize that on your phone. How much that would put you in 441 00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:10,300 the Situation better than if you were always being interrupted. 442 00:27:10,300 --> 00:27:11,900 Yeah, something that goes hand in hand. 443 00:27:11,900 --> 00:27:15,000 With that is to have notification, stay off. 444 00:27:15,700 --> 00:27:19,300 That means you're turned off your notification for any social 445 00:27:19,300 --> 00:27:23,700 media app and any messaging app and just completely turning 446 00:27:23,700 --> 00:27:25,600 those officer. Again, you're not seeing stuff 447 00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:28,600 pop up on your banner on your lock screen and being tempted to 448 00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:29,800 go. See what that is. 449 00:27:29,900 --> 00:27:31,700 Yeah. And dovetailing with that. 450 00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:34,100 How about no social media apps on your phone? 451 00:27:34,700 --> 00:27:36,200 Just having them on your computer. 452 00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:39,200 It's a little Harder to get to write and so you'll have a 453 00:27:39,208 --> 00:27:42,800 little bit of space if you keep those social media apps off your 454 00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:44,900 phone, some you're going to. I don't know about that one. 455 00:27:44,900 --> 00:27:46,300 Right? That's a hard one. 456 00:27:46,300 --> 00:27:49,600 Yeah, here's one that I personally struggle with and 457 00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:52,400 it's don't start the day off on your phone. 458 00:27:53,300 --> 00:27:55,600 Don't let that be the first thing you're looking at to see 459 00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:59,000 if you got a missed call or text or you missed something, or you 460 00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:03,500 want to play a game or watch something on your phone, start 461 00:28:03,500 --> 00:28:06,600 on your knees. Start with a conversation with 462 00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:10,900 One in your family, leave the glowing rectangle for later or 463 00:28:10,900 --> 00:28:14,000 just limit unnecessary, phone usage. 464 00:28:14,100 --> 00:28:17,900 A lot of our usage is completely unnecessary and when we're on 465 00:28:17,900 --> 00:28:20,900 our phones as adults, and our kids are right there. 466 00:28:21,500 --> 00:28:24,200 What they're seeing is that they're being replaced at, 467 00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:28,400 they're not as important to you as the time that you're spending 468 00:28:29,000 --> 00:28:30,800 on the phone. It's like someone cutting in 469 00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:32,900 line. Yeah, for them. 470 00:28:32,900 --> 00:28:36,600 So what if we just eliminate that unnecessary, phone usage? 471 00:28:36,700 --> 00:28:40,400 Each. Here's another one, one screen 472 00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:44,100 at a time rather than having, you know, I know, it might be 473 00:28:44,100 --> 00:28:48,400 convenient sometimes to have kids teens on a device. 474 00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:51,600 That way you can be doing something different odor, look 475 00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:53,600 like to just put all the devices that way. 476 00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:56,100 If there's going to be any device on, it's just one and you 477 00:28:56,200 --> 00:28:59,700 you sent her a moment around that, that one device and make 478 00:28:59,700 --> 00:29:03,200 something intentional. With that time, the last one is 479 00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:06,500 only quality television. And I know that really drops 480 00:29:06,500 --> 00:29:08,400 down On what you're gonna be watching. 481 00:29:08,700 --> 00:29:12,200 But I mean we should consume entertainment for art and 482 00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:16,100 learning and formation and fun, but we need to stay away from 483 00:29:16,100 --> 00:29:18,700 all that gratuitous sex and violence that we see in so many 484 00:29:18,700 --> 00:29:22,700 things that they, you know, it just draws us into the more, the 485 00:29:22,700 --> 00:29:26,000 baser nature of ourselves and we want things that appeal to our 486 00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:27,600 higher nature, right? Yeah. 487 00:29:27,700 --> 00:29:30,900 I hear all of this and I can't help but ask myself the 488 00:29:30,900 --> 00:29:32,200 question. What would it look like? 489 00:29:32,700 --> 00:29:36,000 You know if we started a streak with our kids, what would it 490 00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:38,400 look like if we Decided to, you know, we're going to take a 491 00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:41,200 challenge and we're going to make a streak of it. 492 00:29:41,500 --> 00:29:46,800 And so for you and say when you use that term, I'm from the 70s. 493 00:29:47,700 --> 00:29:51,700 So not not that kind of Street, okay? 494 00:29:51,700 --> 00:29:54,500 Okay, yeah, yeah, clarify, that. Okay. 495 00:29:54,500 --> 00:30:00,200 Do not do any sort of streaking? Well, let me let me clear that 496 00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:03,700 up, but there is a social media app called Snapchat. 497 00:30:03,700 --> 00:30:07,300 And if you are on Snapchat, you know, I'm talking about Is this 498 00:30:07,300 --> 00:30:11,900 phenomenon called call a snap Snap Chat streak we're going to 499 00:30:11,908 --> 00:30:16,500 try to make as many connections with one person daily and if you 500 00:30:16,500 --> 00:30:18,500 miss a day, you break the streak. 501 00:30:18,500 --> 00:30:21,500 And so people boast about how they have a streak of, you know, 502 00:30:21,500 --> 00:30:26,200 over a thousand days with with someone just because they've 503 00:30:26,200 --> 00:30:29,600 continued, either sending one word or a picture or having some 504 00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:31,000 conversation. So, that's this. 505 00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:34,700 The idea of his tree block, everything else out. 506 00:30:35,100 --> 00:30:36,300 Okay. Okay. 507 00:30:36,700 --> 00:30:38,800 All right. What would it look like if you 508 00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:43,600 started a streak to read the Bible with your kids, no matter 509 00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:47,500 what like you just start with with one verse like one verse 510 00:30:47,500 --> 00:30:51,800 today, we're going to do that or or start a prayer streak with 511 00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:55,400 your kids before they leave school or when he first schooler 512 00:30:55,400 --> 00:30:57,800 on their way in the cars are dropping them off. 513 00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:02,400 Like what would it communicate to the brain of that child if we 514 00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:05,100 do stuff like that? Or what have you decided to 515 00:31:05,100 --> 00:31:07,900 always be a part of Body of Christ. 516 00:31:07,900 --> 00:31:11,100 Yeah, even if you're out of town, when you're out of town 517 00:31:11,600 --> 00:31:14,900 for vacation or you're, you're traveling because of a sporting 518 00:31:14,900 --> 00:31:16,500 event. What would it look like if you 519 00:31:16,500 --> 00:31:19,800 prioritize getting online and being a part of the body of 520 00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:23,200 Christ or finding a local church somewhere that's close to you 521 00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:27,100 that you can be a part of again what does that communicate to 522 00:31:27,100 --> 00:31:31,000 the brain of your kids? You know, over the last few 523 00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:35,400 weeks we've been giving you challenges and from the feedback 524 00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:39,400 that we're getting? We can tell that many of you 525 00:31:39,500 --> 00:31:42,400 have embraced the challenges and I've tried them and you're 526 00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:45,300 seeing fruit. You're seeing how it's helping 527 00:31:45,300 --> 00:31:48,200 your family when at home. And so we have a few more 528 00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:52,100 challenges for you. What if you were to start a 529 00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:56,100 Godly habit, start a habit to reinforce a Godly or Christian 530 00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:58,400 value there. So many of them out there, 531 00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:01,500 decide amongst yourself, which one you want to pursue and try 532 00:32:01,500 --> 00:32:04,200 that for 30 days or what it look like. 533 00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:08,400 If you started a prayer streak with In this Jen, mmm, that you 534 00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:12,000 message them in the morning and you say, hey how can I be 535 00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:14,700 praying for you? And you actively pray for those 536 00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:18,700 needs or what would it look like if you decide to start a bible 537 00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:22,200 plan with someone in this Jen you're not just going through 538 00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:24,500 one scripture but you're actually looking at how it 539 00:32:24,500 --> 00:32:27,500 applies to you and how it applies to them and having 540 00:32:27,500 --> 00:32:32,400 deeper conversations about that text or maybe for you, parent is 541 00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:34,900 going to be to have a weekly date night. 542 00:32:34,900 --> 00:32:36,500 Awesome with your kids. Yeah. 543 00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:40,300 You know, spend some quality one-on-one time with them, try 544 00:32:40,300 --> 00:32:44,100 to discover what their love language is, our figure out how 545 00:32:44,100 --> 00:32:46,000 God wired them, how they feel loved. 546 00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:50,100 So that way you can love them exactly how God wired them. 547 00:32:50,500 --> 00:32:53,600 And there's a love language test online that you can fill out as 548 00:32:53,600 --> 00:32:56,100 you get to discover what that looks like. 549 00:32:56,200 --> 00:33:00,100 Or for some of you it's simply find a service project. 550 00:33:00,100 --> 00:33:03,800 Find a service project in your community that you can again 551 00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:06,600 find someone in this gen to serve alongside. 552 00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:10,600 I'd wear maybe it's a need in your at your campus at your 553 00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:13,500 local campus, that you can serve them of the Ministries there. 554 00:33:13,900 --> 00:33:16,000 Again, what would that look like? 555 00:33:17,100 --> 00:33:21,900 I can't help but wonder that us as adults embrace the idea that 556 00:33:21,900 --> 00:33:27,100 we do have influence that we can help cultivate the brains of 557 00:33:27,900 --> 00:33:32,100 this generation. And we decided to be intentional 558 00:33:32,100 --> 00:33:33,700 with their time. Be intentional. 559 00:33:33,700 --> 00:33:37,700 With the example that we are setting how much of a difference 560 00:33:37,700 --> 00:33:41,100 that would make as they continue to go through this prunings 561 00:33:41,100 --> 00:33:43,300 process. As they continue to become young 562 00:33:43,300 --> 00:33:48,300 men and young women, young women of Jesus, how big could that be? 563 00:33:48,900 --> 00:33:52,000 So, we need to think about that as we move into this time of 564 00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:53,000 decision. Amen. 565 00:33:53,200 --> 00:34:00,800 Amen. So just to reiterate to this 566 00:34:00,800 --> 00:34:03,300 service, like I had to do with the 9:00 a.m. service the 567 00:34:03,300 --> 00:34:06,200 challenge today is not to go in your community and go streaking. 568 00:34:08,900 --> 00:34:12,000 I don't want to see any of our people on the news, saying our 569 00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:17,199 Pastor said this but we do want you to take a step A big one. 570 00:34:18,300 --> 00:34:21,000 One of the things that I want you to capture, I want you to 571 00:34:21,199 --> 00:34:25,900 kind of capture this phrase that you can't give what you don't 572 00:34:25,900 --> 00:34:31,199 already have. You can't give to your kids, you 573 00:34:31,199 --> 00:34:34,400 can't give to your family, you can't give to your co-workers, 574 00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:37,100 the people you love what you don't already have. 575 00:34:37,100 --> 00:34:39,699 And so you're like, well, what what is that mean? 576 00:34:40,900 --> 00:34:44,000 If you don't have an intimate personal relationship with Jesus 577 00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:48,100 Christ, you've never stepped into that that walk with him. 578 00:34:48,900 --> 00:34:52,600 You've never said yes to him to make him Lord and savior of your 579 00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:56,199 life, you can't give that to your kids. 580 00:34:56,900 --> 00:34:59,900 You can't give that gift to the people, you love, they won't 581 00:34:59,900 --> 00:35:04,400 experience it from you. They're looking to you then 582 00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:09,900 looking to me. and if you don't have that part, they're going to 583 00:35:09,908 --> 00:35:13,000 look elsewhere. And so, if you've never started 584 00:35:13,000 --> 00:35:15,600 that relationship with him, if you've never accepted him as 585 00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:17,900 Lord and Savior here in this room or online. 586 00:35:17,900 --> 00:35:25,200 Listen, that is the step today. Simply laying down your own 587 00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:30,200 desires. And trust in Jesus and starting 588 00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:33,600 that walk and getting in that Waters today just 9:00 a.m. 589 00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:36,000 service. We had incredible young man. 590 00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:39,900 Who meant he? He had a he could have gone a 591 00:35:39,900 --> 00:35:43,800 couple of different ways. He had a couple different 592 00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:46,700 options growing up. He had a grandparents who share 593 00:35:46,700 --> 00:35:50,100 Jesus with them, and he had a mom and a dad that was was 594 00:35:50,100 --> 00:35:53,200 Muslim. And it took him a while. 595 00:35:54,300 --> 00:35:57,900 But today he put his feet in the sand. 596 00:35:57,900 --> 00:36:02,400 He said, Jesus is the way, the truth and the life, and he 597 00:36:02,408 --> 00:36:07,200 declared that his faith is in Christ and In Christ Alone. 598 00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:12,700 And listen, I'm not talking about religion, I'm not talking 599 00:36:12,700 --> 00:36:16,300 about anything other than a personal relationship with Jesus 600 00:36:16,300 --> 00:36:18,600 and you all every single individual in this room. 601 00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:21,700 Listen, you get to make that decision for yourself. 602 00:36:22,900 --> 00:36:25,300 So, if you want to do that today, it's the very best 603 00:36:25,300 --> 00:36:26,700 decision. You could possibly make. 604 00:36:26,700 --> 00:36:29,100 And in just a little bit we're going to start singing some 605 00:36:29,100 --> 00:36:30,700 songs. And here in this room there's 606 00:36:30,700 --> 00:36:33,500 going to be a pastor by the baptistry that would love to 607 00:36:33,500 --> 00:36:36,800 walk with you and help you. Maybe discern what that next 608 00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:39,500 step for you. Is if it's A water today, we're 609 00:36:39,500 --> 00:36:41,500 ready. If it's online, you just click 610 00:36:41,500 --> 00:36:44,000 that button and I'm ready to start that intimate personal 611 00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:46,900 relationship with Jesus. And let's get on that Journey. 612 00:36:46,900 --> 00:36:52,400 That is the very first step. But it also goes further, you 613 00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:57,400 can't give what you don't have. I mean, if you're if you're 614 00:36:57,400 --> 00:37:00,800 consumed with technology, if you're, if you're consumed with 615 00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:06,100 the world, if you're consumed with sin, your kids are seeing 616 00:37:06,100 --> 00:37:08,600 those things. Your grandkids are seeing those 617 00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:10,300 things. They're seeing what priorities, 618 00:37:10,300 --> 00:37:14,000 you put yourself in the word that I kept hearing today, in 619 00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:15,400 this message. And I heard it. 620 00:37:15,500 --> 00:37:17,800 This is the third time is in being intentional. 621 00:37:18,900 --> 00:37:21,600 Being intentional with your time, being intentional with the 622 00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:26,100 what you do with your actions. There's a lot of steps you could 623 00:37:26,100 --> 00:37:28,200 take today, but here's the thing Church. 624 00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:33,800 You just got to take one and that step may look different for 625 00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:38,100 every single person in here. There may be a challenge that 626 00:37:38,100 --> 00:37:41,400 resonated with your heart with your soul and your spirit, 627 00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:45,200 confirmed the the Holy Spirit confirmed, it inside of you and 628 00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:47,500 just a moment. Maybe you're just like I still 629 00:37:47,500 --> 00:37:51,400 have no idea. There's so much listen as a dad. 630 00:37:53,500 --> 00:37:56,200 I'm sure my daughter's in here right now which makes us human 631 00:37:56,200 --> 00:38:02,400 harder. Because I get to stand up here 632 00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:06,500 and tell you, this is how you should live when I'm also 633 00:38:06,500 --> 00:38:10,700 confronted with it. And it's hard going home with 634 00:38:10,700 --> 00:38:14,000 these challenges is hard. It's tough work. 635 00:38:14,500 --> 00:38:18,700 But when we leaned in and when we take steps, we're trusting 636 00:38:18,700 --> 00:38:22,200 the faithfulness of God and we know we're doing it, not for 637 00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:25,500 ourselves, but we're doing it because of the relationship with 638 00:38:25,500 --> 00:38:28,600 Jesus and we're doing it because of the betterness of this 639 00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:34,000 generation that we are trying to raise up to know when it gets 640 00:38:34,000 --> 00:38:38,600 tough lean in. Take a step and so when just a 641 00:38:38,607 --> 00:38:41,000 little bit in this song Start for you, maybe you just come up 642 00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:44,000 and you just humble yourself before the Lord and you say God, 643 00:38:44,000 --> 00:38:46,600 I don't know where to start. I don't know where to go. 644 00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:49,800 I don't know how to move. What is my step? 645 00:38:51,100 --> 00:38:55,200 He's faithful, he will provide that for you and he'll give you 646 00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:58,700 the tools to take that step because we are a church that 647 00:38:58,700 --> 00:39:00,600 moves. That's what decision time is 648 00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:02,700 about. That is why every single week we 649 00:39:02,700 --> 00:39:07,400 have a moment such like this because we believe you can 650 00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:11,600 either go forward. You can go out the same person 651 00:39:11,600 --> 00:39:15,400 or sometimes you can even go backwards, but our prayers that 652 00:39:15,400 --> 00:39:20,000 we are a church that stink and moves moves closer to Jesus. 653 00:39:20,300 --> 00:39:23,200 So that We can make a bigger difference in this world, so if 654 00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:26,100 you want to be that church man, it starts right here. 655 00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:29,700 Let's get on our knees humble ourselves before God. 656 00:39:29,700 --> 00:39:31,600 And let's move, would you stand with me? 657 00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:35,000 Heavenly Father God, I'm so thankful to be a part of a 658 00:39:35,000 --> 00:39:39,800 church that actively puts their faith in motion that we don't 659 00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:43,100 stand still. We don't stay in the same place, 660 00:39:43,100 --> 00:39:46,000 we don't go backwards. We are a church that moves 661 00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:48,900 forward moves forward with your help. 662 00:39:48,900 --> 00:39:52,200 Your holy spirit is inside of us. 663 00:39:52,500 --> 00:39:56,200 God, I pray that you just move and you make yourself known to 664 00:39:56,200 --> 00:39:58,700 every single person. In this room because every 665 00:39:58,700 --> 00:40:03,400 single individual has a step. They have a step online and God 666 00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:07,900 I pray that in this moment you reveal what it is and we just 667 00:40:07,900 --> 00:40:10,900 take it. God, we trust you. 668 00:40:12,100 --> 00:40:18,200 We love you and God I pray that in every moment along the road 669 00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:24,400 when we get up, when we lie down and we're sitting in our homes, 670 00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:30,400 we take this challenge seriously to impress upon our kids, your 671 00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:34,100 love, and our love for the people around us. 672 00:40:34,100 --> 00:40:37,500 Lord, let us be a church that moves in this moment in Jesus 673 00:40:37,500 --> 00:40:38,900 name. Amen.