1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:04,240 Our progress, girl, I wasn't ready. 2 00:00:04,280 --> 00:00:06,840 That wasn't planned. It just happened. 3 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:10,000 We I actually don't have eye eczema right now. 4 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:12,960 Miracle. A functional health miracle? 5 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:17,280 I'm very excited. So throughout your trip, all of 6 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:21,240 the changes, the environment, the sun, nothing tweaked your 7 00:00:21,240 --> 00:00:22,600 eye eczema. What do you mean? 8 00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:23,640 Like made it work? Yes. 9 00:00:23,640 --> 00:00:24,480 Nothing. It didn't. 10 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:26,760 Listen, off the plane I was a little dry, right? 11 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:29,920 But like to be expected. But like right now, knock on 12 00:00:29,920 --> 00:00:33,080 wood, I don't have it so. Huge. 13 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:35,720 And you went to her one time? One time I've been taking the 14 00:00:35,720 --> 00:00:38,320 powders. Great, all of the potions and 15 00:00:38,320 --> 00:00:40,720 the oceans I love. Doing it, I'm doing it. 16 00:00:41,520 --> 00:00:43,680 This is also a really big week for you and Bear. 17 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:46,160 I'm feeling emotional. Tell me about it. 18 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:50,680 I just like, it's this guilt which is just being a woman in 19 00:00:50,680 --> 00:00:53,480 general and especially added on with motherhood. 20 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:57,280 But because I know he would continue breastfeeding. 21 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:00,360 Listen, it's maybe like 5 minutes in the morning, but like 22 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:02,240 he loves it and like it's his thing. 23 00:01:02,240 --> 00:01:03,560 It's his thing. He loves it. 24 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:05,800 He's like mommy. Give me that. 25 00:01:07,640 --> 00:01:09,920 But no, it's it's time. But This is why I made 26 00:01:09,920 --> 00:01:12,920 appointments. Yep, because if I didn't, I 27 00:01:12,920 --> 00:01:14,960 would just keep going and like I need to. 28 00:01:14,960 --> 00:01:16,960 My hair is like falling out. I blow dried my hair. 29 00:01:16,960 --> 00:01:18,680 I blow dried my own hair today. What? 30 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:21,400 But that's. Everyone says to talk what 31 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:24,560 you're doing. I like she blown her own, blew 32 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:26,720 her own hair. I like wanted to vote on 33 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:30,160 Instagram. I'm like out of touch, out of 34 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:31,480 touch. You're like filtered. 35 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:34,920 No one will balloon. Like me where you post again 36 00:01:34,920 --> 00:01:37,840 that is not something you post but with you guys I will share 37 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:39,840 it with our progress. Girls, we're cool. 38 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:41,920 No judgement here. Or only judgement, whatever way 39 00:01:41,920 --> 00:01:45,480 you see it. OK, so no more breastfeeding. 40 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:48,120 Yeah, and this. Is 2 days yeah you went from 41 00:01:48,240 --> 00:01:53,160 your body being not your own for six and like 1/4 a year or? 42 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:54,880 Six years, three months, but who's counting? 43 00:01:55,040 --> 00:01:57,760 Not me. Out of eight years, might I ask 44 00:01:57,760 --> 00:01:58,960 that's. Crazy, I know. 45 00:01:59,840 --> 00:02:02,520 So you're about to be your own again. 46 00:02:02,680 --> 00:02:04,840 Yeah, that's exciting. I know. 47 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:06,680 I'm very excited. Once I'm on, it's always the 48 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:07,920 build up for everything. For me. 49 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:09,880 That's always the heart of Tory anxiety. 50 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:12,760 OK, that's I have anticipatory. Anticipatory. 51 00:02:12,760 --> 00:02:16,000 There you go. That is a word will not ask you 52 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:18,120 to spell it. You know what I'm going to ask 53 00:02:18,120 --> 00:02:19,600 you to spell? Don't, don't, don't. 54 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:24,560 So yeah, once I'm on the other side of it, once I have like my 55 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:27,400 lip blush on my Botox, my boob appointment. 56 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:30,160 And hide your wife, hide your kids, hide your husband. 57 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:32,400 She's coming out and. Coming out, then I'll feel 58 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,520 better, but like the anticipation for it, it's a lot. 59 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:38,480 I think what I'm going to have them do is like, we'll see if 60 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:41,600 everybody will actually film me, but like film the last morning 61 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:45,200 and ask questions and then like, we'll see. 62 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:46,400 Are you going to pay her? But. 63 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:49,000 As your camera person. I like to give her whatever she 64 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:51,080 wants. She also wants to start a 65 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:52,160 YouTube now. Oh. 66 00:02:52,640 --> 00:02:55,640 My God, she's so young. I know and I'm like you're 7. 67 00:02:57,720 --> 00:03:00,480 Maybe you could do videos and just not post them? 68 00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:03,040 She like wants people and I'm like EVs. 69 00:03:03,640 --> 00:03:05,640 I don't I don't know how to navigate this. 70 00:03:05,640 --> 00:03:07,480 It's like. We'll have a little session, 71 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:09,560 yeah, Family therapy session all together. 72 00:03:09,640 --> 00:03:12,600 Hosted in private, right? Maybe I'm like if you want to 73 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:15,200 practice. She wants like feedback from 74 00:03:15,200 --> 00:03:17,560 people on her videos. I don't think she cares about 75 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:21,720 that, I just think she wants to. Like she is obsessed with one 76 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:23,760 YouTube creator. Like now it's becoming a thing 77 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:26,120 where she just wants to watch. It's not like scrolling. 78 00:03:26,120 --> 00:03:27,480 YouTube. No, it's videos. 79 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:30,160 It's short form. No, it's not short for videos. 80 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:33,800 It's like now it's on Netflix. Like they did so well on YouTube 81 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:35,320 that now they have a Netflix thing but. 82 00:03:35,320 --> 00:03:37,960 It's not Nicki and Vlad, is it? No, it's called. 83 00:03:37,960 --> 00:03:40,520 Nicki and Vlad I. Don't know what it's called but 84 00:03:40,520 --> 00:03:43,880 like this is what she's into now and I'm like I don't like this. 85 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:48,440 I had to delete YouTube off of all of my devices and off of the 86 00:03:48,440 --> 00:03:52,160 TV's because Jackson Maria gives it to him and Jackson's like 87 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:54,200 obsessed with it. And I know YouTube's like I feel 88 00:03:54,200 --> 00:03:55,640 so scared. About it, Well, I said to her, I 89 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:57,600 said you can't watch YouTube. And she's like, ha ha. 90 00:03:57,600 --> 00:04:00,040 It's airing on Netflix Saturday, so I'm like. 91 00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:02,520 Netflix, you are killing us. That's Perry. 92 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:05,400 I'm like, well it's not YouTube so. 93 00:04:05,880 --> 00:04:09,440 So got you at your own game. OK, OK. 94 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:12,800 Wait, how was your trip? My trip was so good we went. 95 00:04:13,480 --> 00:04:16,920 This weekend was the first annual girls trip. 96 00:04:16,920 --> 00:04:19,160 Sometimes it'll be with friends, sometimes it'll just be me and 97 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:20,959 NOLA. But we're going to do an annual 98 00:04:20,959 --> 00:04:24,760 girls trip eventually. I'm trying to like put into her 99 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:27,560 mind that we will do spas once with mommy. 100 00:04:27,560 --> 00:04:30,960 Like, how fun for me and her. Hopefully when she's older, 101 00:04:31,000 --> 00:04:34,880 Yeah, if she likes that stuff. But this time we went to 102 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:37,560 Nashville with my best friend, her daughter. 103 00:04:37,800 --> 00:04:41,080 Her daughter's a year younger, and it was just so much fun. 104 00:04:41,080 --> 00:04:44,080 We went to see Taylor Swift's guitar and Shania Twain's 105 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:47,520 clothes and then. They know who those people were. 106 00:04:47,520 --> 00:04:51,560 Yeah, 'cause like she's obsessed with Taylor Swift and Winnie 107 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:55,080 Winter, her Erin's daughter is like big into music too. 108 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:59,800 Big music family. So we were very much in it. 109 00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:02,440 We also took them to like the Science Museum and we walked 110 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:04,800 everywhere. One day I burned. 111 00:05:04,800 --> 00:05:06,440 I walked 20,000 staff. OK, amazing. 112 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:09,520 So like it was such a great weekend, great food, so fun. 113 00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:12,640 And then I came back, got my period. 114 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:14,560 Aaron got hers 4 days early. Mine was four days late. 115 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:16,560 We got it at the exact same time, which felt really cute and 116 00:05:17,440 --> 00:05:20,640 I thought I was going to die, but I didn't die, which is huge. 117 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:23,480 You normally do die. Die like like bathroom floor, 118 00:05:23,480 --> 00:05:26,040 bathroom floor vomiting. Sometimes I pass out like it's 119 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:30,760 bad, and then I think because of the iron that I'm doing, I think 120 00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:32,640 it's changing. For me and acupuncture. 121 00:05:32,640 --> 00:05:35,000 Too, And acupuncture, too. And some of the Chinese herbs, 122 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:37,440 even though I'm not like doing them as religiously as I should. 123 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:41,240 Sorry, Catherine. And so all of that was amazing. 124 00:05:41,240 --> 00:05:46,080 And then I came back today and I had my spring detox with 125 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:48,800 Alexandra. Oh my goodness. 126 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:50,920 She came over at 10. We went through everything. 127 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:53,720 I threw away all my Tupperware, most of my pots and pans. 128 00:05:53,720 --> 00:05:56,040 Like it was awesome. She's awesome. 129 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:59,680 Her energy is amazing. But this really crazy thing 130 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:01,840 happened. So I'm taking her through each 131 00:06:01,840 --> 00:06:05,120 of the rooms and you know, she can like smell mold and like 132 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:09,360 feel EMF energy. Literally she's like snorting 133 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:14,160 the mold in the bathroom. And I take her into my room. 134 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:18,880 She sits on my bed and she's like, something weird is 135 00:06:18,880 --> 00:06:21,040 happening here and I'm oh God, what's happening? 136 00:06:21,040 --> 00:06:22,280 Wait, can I guess? Yeah. 137 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:23,720 Is it because you have a sleep number bud? 138 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:30,640 No, but she did comment on that because she was like 2 139 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:32,200 mattresses. That's weird. 140 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:34,560 Or she's like, that's funny, that's very European. 141 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:37,240 I was like, it's a sleep number. Mine can go up, go up, whatever. 142 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:38,960 And then, you know, we talked about it, but that's not what 143 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:43,360 happened, she said. Have you ever met your 144 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:46,600 grandfather? And I said no, Both of my 145 00:06:46,600 --> 00:06:49,480 grandparents, my grandfathers died before I was able to meet 146 00:06:49,520 --> 00:06:51,000 them. She goes. 147 00:06:51,120 --> 00:06:53,320 Your grandfather on your mother's side is like, he's 148 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:55,000 here. Oh God, I was like. 149 00:06:55,000 --> 00:07:01,560 What she's like yes and he like wants me to tell you to like be 150 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:03,920 careful of. Stop using Clorox. 151 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:08,000 That would have been be careful, so honored and she was like, 152 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:14,280 he's come to me to tell me that your house is very toxic and you 153 00:07:14,280 --> 00:07:17,120 need to throw away my wait. Sorry, I like, didn't mean to 154 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:19,920 interrupt. Sorry, it's our thing. 155 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:25,240 No, so So what she what he said to her was like, I'm always with 156 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:28,200 you, OK. And just so you like something 157 00:07:28,200 --> 00:07:30,760 about being safe and careful around water. 158 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:32,160 Oh, interesting. And then I was like, Oh my God, 159 00:07:32,160 --> 00:07:34,120 I almost drowned this summer with the kids. 160 00:07:35,080 --> 00:07:38,000 So your moon is next to your Capricorn or something? 161 00:07:38,240 --> 00:07:39,560 Right. So I'm like exaggerating, but I 162 00:07:39,560 --> 00:07:43,400 almost did draft. The kids are fine, Chris saved 163 00:07:43,400 --> 00:07:45,880 them, but. You guys do have a gate around 164 00:07:45,880 --> 00:07:46,800 your? We have a gate. 165 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:48,960 We're very, like, safe. But I thought that was so 166 00:07:48,960 --> 00:07:52,360 interesting because no one ever talks to me about my maternal 167 00:07:52,360 --> 00:07:55,440 grandfather, Joe, ever. I've never heard one person ever 168 00:07:55,440 --> 00:07:58,880 talk to me about him. And she was like, did he die, 169 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:00,800 like, in water? And I was like, no, I think he 170 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:02,280 had a heart attack and fell off a roof. 171 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:04,360 And she's like, OK, so maybe that's something to do with you. 172 00:08:05,280 --> 00:08:07,880 I'm like, oh, my God, this is scary, but also very cool. 173 00:08:08,320 --> 00:08:10,680 And then I was like, do you? Because she's so sensitive to 174 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:13,920 energy and all this stuff. She talks to somebody like a 175 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:17,040 Medium once a week in Boston. Oh wow, it's. 176 00:08:17,160 --> 00:08:19,720 Like once a week. I do once a year and I'm like 177 00:08:19,720 --> 00:08:22,600 OK, I'm good. I can't even get a return text 178 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:24,840 from Tony. I can't even get her to respond 179 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:29,080 to me. So at least I feel like besides 180 00:08:29,080 --> 00:08:31,960 spring detoxing, I also feel like there's a little spirit 181 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:33,080 instead. Of bonus, OK. 182 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:35,360 Totally, totally. And it felt so good. 183 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:37,679 So it was really fun to have her. 184 00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:40,960 It does scare me regarding molds but she's giving me all my all 185 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:45,360 the swaps OK and I feel like I did like a full detox and I OK. 186 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:47,640 Amazing. I did switch plant paper to 187 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:49,080 plant paper. Yes, good. 188 00:08:49,200 --> 00:08:52,800 It is softer and then we were in Palm Heights. 189 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:55,920 They had charm and I'm like. Real lap of luxury. 190 00:08:56,600 --> 00:08:58,400 I love the. Softness, it's just going to be 191 00:08:58,400 --> 00:09:02,240 a little treat now. Only a little formaldehyde for 192 00:09:02,240 --> 00:09:03,520 this post. Can I talk about Palm? 193 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:06,120 Heights I am dying all. I want to do is talk about palm 194 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:07,800 heights. Yeah, no, I checked when you 195 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:10,400 were like you need to come here. I went to see if because I only 196 00:09:10,400 --> 00:09:12,360 booked through Amex because like you get all these you. 197 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:15,080 Have to use my travel agent. But I want to book through Amex 198 00:09:15,080 --> 00:09:17,880 because they are on it. Palm Heights is on Amex, so 199 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:20,680 they'll give me free upgrades like free breakfast. 200 00:09:20,680 --> 00:09:22,240 They give me a free resort credit. 201 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:24,120 Like there's all this stuff that you got if you booked through 202 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:25,440 Amex, so I might as well do that. 203 00:09:25,440 --> 00:09:28,520 She, I mean, it was everything I dreamed. 204 00:09:28,560 --> 00:09:32,480 Of tell me everything. So it's been hyped up and like I 205 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:34,360 would say it's become very popular. 206 00:09:34,360 --> 00:09:35,840 It's on the verge of becoming very. 207 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:37,920 Part because I didn't know about it until you went. 208 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:40,320 So like where is that? Home Heights is in Grand Cayman, 209 00:09:40,440 --> 00:09:42,760 by the way. Graham Cayman is extremely built 210 00:09:42,760 --> 00:09:44,000 up. My first thing to the Uber 211 00:09:44,000 --> 00:09:46,080 driver was like, Oh my God, it's so built up here. 212 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:48,960 Like it look, it's not a city. Like, you know how if you go to 213 00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:51,560 the Caribbean, it like, yeah, feels like a different country. 214 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:53,840 Obviously this did too. But like, the grocery store is 215 00:09:53,840 --> 00:09:56,320 brand new the hospital. Your picture of the grocery 216 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:58,600 store looked it was. I was like, this is nicer than 217 00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:00,400 anything in New York. Not happier. 218 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:03,200 Also not well. Also Palm Heights, the owners, 219 00:10:03,280 --> 00:10:06,440 even though I heard a rumor that it sold same owners as Happier 220 00:10:06,840 --> 00:10:09,120 and the WSA building. What? 221 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:11,400 Yes. So like the woman who is behind 222 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:14,480 it aesthetically, her name is Gabrielle Gabriella, something 223 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:16,120 like that. Beyond chic. 224 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:18,080 Curated everything. Whoa. 225 00:10:18,120 --> 00:10:21,320 And she did happier, too. I think it's like whatever 226 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:24,240 company, some I don't know, I don't know the like insurance 227 00:10:24,240 --> 00:10:25,640 and outs. Wow, that's so cool. 228 00:10:25,640 --> 00:10:29,040 So Gran came in, it's on the beach, it's a boutique hotel. 229 00:10:29,040 --> 00:10:31,680 OK, she feels small, not like the. 230 00:10:31,840 --> 00:10:33,720 Like, I really could go downstairs by herself. 231 00:10:33,720 --> 00:10:35,520 I didn't care. She went to like, she went to 232 00:10:35,520 --> 00:10:37,680 her friend's room and then came to dinner by herself, like. 233 00:10:37,840 --> 00:10:41,040 If she felt friends. I've never stayed at a resort 234 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:43,880 that's more that have more kids. By the way, I never go to a kid 235 00:10:43,880 --> 00:10:46,080 centered resort. That's just like not how I 236 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:49,400 operate. So this was kid friendly, not 237 00:10:49,400 --> 00:10:53,040 kid centered for adults and children, family friendly. 238 00:10:53,480 --> 00:10:55,760 Everyone had kids, all the kids played together. 239 00:10:55,760 --> 00:10:58,240 It felt like everyone was taking care of each other's kids in a 240 00:10:58,240 --> 00:11:00,200 way. Like Everly went to the pool 241 00:11:00,200 --> 00:11:02,320 with friends and like a nanny was there with them. 242 00:11:02,320 --> 00:11:05,440 Or like I went paddle boarding and like a kid I didn't know 243 00:11:05,440 --> 00:11:08,360 jumped on my paddle board with me and Ford board was out on a 244 00:11:08,360 --> 00:11:10,120 boat. Like you got your 4th kid. 245 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:12,560 Yeah, it was just like. So magical. 246 00:11:12,560 --> 00:11:14,800 The food is fantastic. It's health focused. 247 00:11:14,800 --> 00:11:16,680 I got a lymphatic drainage was that I was there. 248 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:19,680 Took a Pilates reformer class. The reformer class like it was. 249 00:11:19,680 --> 00:11:22,600 Just everything I could ever want in a vacation. 250 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:25,800 OK, so maybe this is like something we do with like our 251 00:11:25,800 --> 00:11:29,440 whole family, like Alex, Susan, like the others, the cousins. 252 00:11:29,440 --> 00:11:32,440 It feels like a really fun and. You don't have to leave the 253 00:11:32,440 --> 00:11:34,080 resort. I mean you can't right? 254 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:37,160 Paddle boarding every morning. The beach is literally like 255 00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:41,400 stepped off. Your room amazing as a Pisces 256 00:11:41,480 --> 00:11:44,040 and as a mermaid. How did it feel to be so close 257 00:11:44,040 --> 00:11:45,680 to your home? I was like, I need to move to 258 00:11:45,680 --> 00:11:48,200 Florida. Oh my God, said no New Yorker 259 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:49,680 ever since. Every New Yorker. 260 00:11:49,920 --> 00:11:53,440 Was like waking up and watching the beach or the waves and then 261 00:11:53,440 --> 00:11:56,440 like the sounds going paddle boarding in the morning, the 262 00:11:56,440 --> 00:11:59,440 kids playing in the pool, the kids playing on the beach. 263 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:02,200 It was just like everything. Yeah. 264 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:05,080 Flight Bear got LVP, Least valuable player. 265 00:12:05,960 --> 00:12:08,080 We rank them. Who got MVP? 266 00:12:08,560 --> 00:12:13,280 Me, OK, because I'm the mom, you know, on the flight. 267 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:15,520 I remember looking at Jim. I'm like, how much longer? 268 00:12:15,520 --> 00:12:17,640 He's like, we've been on the flight for 20 minutes. 269 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:19,080 Oh my God. Yeah, it was so. 270 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:21,160 It was so bad. Why was he a nightmare? 271 00:12:21,360 --> 00:12:24,440 He's just at that age. OK, it was just wanted to move. 272 00:12:24,440 --> 00:12:26,440 Talk doesn't care about scream, right? 273 00:12:26,440 --> 00:12:28,080 Nothing. I stood up in the aisle like 274 00:12:28,080 --> 00:12:29,520 bouncing him for two hours, right? 275 00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:30,960 OK, cool. How long was the flight? 276 00:12:31,520 --> 00:12:34,880 Like almost 4 hours there. Oh, that's one hour too long. 277 00:12:34,880 --> 00:12:36,520 Yep. Yep, because you can go to 278 00:12:36,520 --> 00:12:39,080 Mexico for in three. You can. 279 00:12:39,640 --> 00:12:42,240 Oh, but still I would. We tried to look for Christmas a 280 00:12:42,240 --> 00:12:45,640 little out of our boujets. A little out of our boujets. 281 00:12:45,680 --> 00:12:48,000 Expensive. So I think I'm going to go, I'm 282 00:12:48,000 --> 00:12:49,880 going to either book for my birthday in February or for 283 00:12:49,880 --> 00:12:52,280 spring break next year, like next month or something, just so 284 00:12:52,280 --> 00:12:53,440 I know you have that. Yeah. 285 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:55,360 Beautiful. I think we're going to, I'm 286 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:59,120 going to try, but you have to pick times that are appropriate. 287 00:12:59,240 --> 00:13:03,160 It was quite blue jets, blue jets, blue jets. 288 00:13:03,160 --> 00:13:05,520 Thank you. I'm gonna say budget. 289 00:13:05,520 --> 00:13:08,560 Let's like make it fancy. Totally Andrew, but I do feel 290 00:13:08,560 --> 00:13:11,640 resting. Crushed and like I was excited 291 00:13:11,640 --> 00:13:13,120 to come back and like get back to. 292 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:14,640 Like a schedule. Yeah. 293 00:13:14,720 --> 00:13:18,000 Yeah, exactly. So that actually leads us into 294 00:13:18,000 --> 00:13:19,240 what I wanted to chit chat about today. 295 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:21,520 But as you can see, no notes. No notes. 296 00:13:21,520 --> 00:13:22,440 Easy breezy. Wait. 297 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:24,680 I need to share one thing. Please you can share more than 298 00:13:24,680 --> 00:13:26,480 one. So obviously I'm like on 299 00:13:26,480 --> 00:13:29,760 vacation and I'm posting, right? Because like, that's just what I 300 00:13:29,760 --> 00:13:31,360 do, right? I feel good. 301 00:13:31,360 --> 00:13:34,800 I'm like, you know, posting a butt pic in a carousel. 302 00:13:34,800 --> 00:13:37,080 Like is that the main one? Someone comments? 303 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:40,360 Really. No one else thinks that it's 304 00:13:40,360 --> 00:13:46,520 really sad to put up an ass pic. I'm like a fake account and so 305 00:13:46,520 --> 00:13:49,680 at first I was like, I'm gonna acknowledge just on my stories 306 00:13:49,680 --> 00:13:52,000 and then. Hold on, you posted a butt a 307 00:13:52,000 --> 00:13:52,960 picture of you. OK, I'm. 308 00:13:53,000 --> 00:13:55,520 In a pink I'm in a pink swimsuit. 309 00:13:55,520 --> 00:13:58,520 Yeah, but one piece. A one piece and like later in 310 00:13:58,520 --> 00:14:01,280 the carousel, I was like, my butt looks good, Jim, take a 311 00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:03,040 picture of me. I'm just gonna move around. 312 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:05,080 I'm like that looks great. I'm gonna post it. 313 00:14:05,640 --> 00:14:07,800 Really. No one else thinks it's really 314 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:12,120 sad to put up an ass pic. OK, first of all, first of all. 315 00:14:12,320 --> 00:14:15,520 We should do a segment where we read your stupid responses from 316 00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:17,720 people. I didn't even well I posted on 317 00:14:17,720 --> 00:14:19,680 my story and then I was like, I'm not going to acknowledge 318 00:14:19,680 --> 00:14:21,280 this. Let me just bring it to the pod 319 00:14:21,280 --> 00:14:24,120 Totally. First of all, I am not. 320 00:14:24,120 --> 00:14:27,520 I'm like body positive. Like wait until I get my boobs 321 00:14:27,520 --> 00:14:28,360 done. I. 322 00:14:29,040 --> 00:14:31,000 Block them anyway so it doesn't matter. 323 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:34,560 But like first of all, so prude and like I'm not telling anyone 324 00:14:34,560 --> 00:14:37,160 to show their ass. Also, I grew up with a naked 325 00:14:37,160 --> 00:14:38,360 mom, right? Same. 326 00:14:38,360 --> 00:14:40,600 I grew up with a naked mom. Wait same? 327 00:14:40,800 --> 00:14:42,520 Why did our moms walk around naked? 328 00:14:42,520 --> 00:14:45,440 I I mean I'm a naked mom now. I am not a naked mom. 329 00:14:45,440 --> 00:14:46,680 Oh. You're like not naked in front 330 00:14:46,680 --> 00:14:48,720 of the kids. Well, I have to be careful 331 00:14:48,720 --> 00:14:51,720 because sometimes when my butt's out, Jackson will like try to 332 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:53,120 motorboat my butt. OK. 333 00:14:53,120 --> 00:14:54,680 No, no. Like I have to run away and 334 00:14:54,840 --> 00:14:57,880 Jingle and he runs, so I have to keep sure I have to make sure 335 00:14:57,880 --> 00:15:00,480 that I keep my like privates covered around him. 336 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:05,000 OK but even with NOLA I like found myself like putting. 337 00:15:05,080 --> 00:15:07,400 I wanted to sleep naked, but I found myself putting clothes on. 338 00:15:07,680 --> 00:15:09,680 Oh, interesting. But my mom always walked around 339 00:15:09,680 --> 00:15:11,920 and get It freaked me out. I was like put something on my. 340 00:15:11,920 --> 00:15:14,240 Mom was always naked. Did you like it or no? 341 00:15:14,240 --> 00:15:16,720 No, because I'm like all my friends saw her so embarrassed. 342 00:15:16,720 --> 00:15:19,240 All my friends saw her Teds and her tits are like the size of my 343 00:15:19,240 --> 00:15:23,600 head, you know what I mean? Like everyone saw my mom's Teds. 344 00:15:23,600 --> 00:15:27,000 It was like a thing. And now you're this mom. 345 00:15:27,120 --> 00:15:29,480 But I'm no, I'm not that. I'm not like naked in front of 346 00:15:29,480 --> 00:15:32,480 friends. Chris, but I use I'm going over 347 00:15:32,480 --> 00:15:35,000 to magazine. No, no one wants to see my boobs 348 00:15:35,000 --> 00:15:37,480 right now, but I do sleep with my top off and stuff. 349 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:40,080 But like I just always grew up with like naked's not a thing. 350 00:15:40,080 --> 00:15:42,240 I'm not like afraid to be naked. I'm not, no. 351 00:15:42,320 --> 00:15:43,680 You worried about? Always I've. 352 00:15:43,760 --> 00:15:46,880 Always really thought you. I remember you and our other 353 00:15:46,880 --> 00:15:50,000 friend would tan topless in LA. Yeah, I'd be like, what are you 354 00:15:50,000 --> 00:15:51,520 doing? I think we'd be at parties and 355 00:15:51,520 --> 00:15:53,520 people would have their top off and it'd definitely be me and 356 00:15:53,520 --> 00:15:54,600 her. Yeah, exactly. 357 00:15:54,600 --> 00:15:56,160 And I'm like, can you guys put your poster on? 358 00:15:56,160 --> 00:15:59,440 Like it's weirding me out. Like, no, like, sorry, said it. 359 00:15:59,440 --> 00:16:01,160 Oh my God. I. 360 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:04,080 Forgot about. That I did not. 361 00:16:04,320 --> 00:16:05,200 It is so. Funny. 362 00:16:06,200 --> 00:16:08,440 So I just thought that comment was hysterical and like, get 363 00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:11,400 over it. But it's crazy that somebody is 364 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:14,800 going to take the time go through your carousel. 365 00:16:14,800 --> 00:16:16,280 From a fake account? From a fake account. 366 00:16:16,320 --> 00:16:17,880 Even follow me. That's crazy. 367 00:16:17,880 --> 00:16:20,520 It's like somebody you know. You think so? 368 00:16:20,560 --> 00:16:21,560 I do. I would. 369 00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:25,080 Love to like. If it's a fake account and they 370 00:16:25,080 --> 00:16:30,240 take the time to point out this one obscured nuanced photo and a 371 00:16:30,240 --> 00:16:32,720 carousel, like you must be obsessed with Maddie. 372 00:16:32,800 --> 00:16:34,120 Like, are you obsessed with Maddie? 373 00:16:34,160 --> 00:16:36,880 Look at my butt and then be like an ass pic. 374 00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:38,640 Yes, and. Then to comment on it. 375 00:16:38,640 --> 00:16:40,120 That's why I feel like it's somebody you know. 376 00:16:40,120 --> 00:16:41,480 Leave her alone. You guys are stupid. 377 00:16:42,120 --> 00:16:43,960 I got your back. I just thought it was funny but 378 00:16:43,960 --> 00:16:45,520 now I want to post more ass pics. 379 00:16:45,520 --> 00:16:48,320 You should you. Do now as you should. 380 00:16:48,320 --> 00:16:51,560 I go, babe, do you think it's bad that I posted an aspect? 381 00:16:51,640 --> 00:16:53,720 Because I think people also think that, like, Jim has such a 382 00:16:53,720 --> 00:16:56,920 professional job, then I should like, conform to that. 383 00:16:56,920 --> 00:17:02,160 And I'm like, not my problem. Also this is 2026 yeah like you 384 00:17:02,160 --> 00:17:06,280 did not have your ass out and even if you did also 2026 like 385 00:17:06,960 --> 00:17:10,599 that is a perfectly normal non sexual I'm. 386 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:14,599 Showing the inside of my page. Literally like no birth canal 387 00:17:14,599 --> 00:17:16,400 photo. Like, we're good. 388 00:17:16,960 --> 00:17:20,760 I also think, like, it's an aesthetic piece, like that photo 389 00:17:20,760 --> 00:17:23,280 that I'm thinking I love the IT was like an aesthetic photo. 390 00:17:23,280 --> 00:17:25,200 It wasn't just like, of your ass. 391 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:27,240 Yeah. So like people just don't have 392 00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:28,680 taste. And also like, we don't have to 393 00:17:28,680 --> 00:17:30,120 sexualize everything. We don't. 394 00:17:30,120 --> 00:17:32,600 Sometimes it can just be like a cute vibe. 395 00:17:32,600 --> 00:17:34,560 Yeah, exactly. Like, I'm sorry that you're 396 00:17:34,560 --> 00:17:36,080 turned on by her ass. I get it. 397 00:17:36,080 --> 00:17:37,360 But like, you don't have to comment. 398 00:17:37,360 --> 00:17:39,720 Embarrassing for you. Yes, exactly. 399 00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:43,440 OK good. So I'm glad that vacation was 400 00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:46,120 refreshing. I thought that we could talk 401 00:17:46,120 --> 00:17:50,480 about today the importance of mental breaks, especially like 402 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:54,160 vacations, like physical, physically moving your location 403 00:17:54,160 --> 00:17:57,720 out of what your day-to-day routine is like. 404 00:17:57,720 --> 00:18:00,960 The one thing that really sticks out to me is that when you're 405 00:18:00,960 --> 00:18:03,360 living your life, you're like, in it, you know, like you're 406 00:18:03,360 --> 00:18:06,360 fully in it. You can't necessarily see what's 407 00:18:06,360 --> 00:18:08,880 working great, what's broken, because everything becomes 408 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:10,920 habitual, everything becomes normal. 409 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:14,800 But when you step outside and you like, go away and you get to 410 00:18:14,800 --> 00:18:17,920 like, kind of take a break from the day-to-day, you can re enter 411 00:18:17,920 --> 00:18:20,280 your life with this, like, new lens. 412 00:18:20,280 --> 00:18:22,360 Yeah. I agree with you fully. 413 00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:24,080 Right. Like I don't know if this has 414 00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:27,040 ever happened to you, but like I used to get like vacation 415 00:18:27,040 --> 00:18:28,560 depression. Did you afterwards? 416 00:18:28,560 --> 00:18:30,120 Yes, well, that's when I hated my life, right? 417 00:18:30,400 --> 00:18:32,600 OK, exactly. So I used to get vacation 418 00:18:32,600 --> 00:18:37,320 depression when I would come back and didn't want to return 419 00:18:37,320 --> 00:18:40,240 to this reality. Now that we've worked on our 420 00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:42,360 lives and we like where our lives are and things feel really 421 00:18:42,360 --> 00:18:47,240 stable, I think coming back from vacation is almost like a fresh 422 00:18:47,240 --> 00:18:49,600 start. I agree with you 100%. 423 00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:53,440 Right, I loved that I got to come and this is just like me in 424 00:18:53,440 --> 00:18:55,280 a nutshell. But like I love travel so I 425 00:18:55,280 --> 00:18:58,120 loved that I got and cleaning and like organizing. 426 00:18:58,120 --> 00:19:00,120 I just don't like to do it myself because of my mom. 427 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:04,800 Anyway, long story, I literally got to go on this trip and then 428 00:19:04,800 --> 00:19:07,640 come back and with Alexandra like purge my house. 429 00:19:07,640 --> 00:19:12,240 The combination of those things feels like literally the deepest 430 00:19:12,240 --> 00:19:14,200 spring cleaning I could ever. Yeah, that feels so nice. 431 00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:17,680 So nice like brand new perspective change things around 432 00:19:17,680 --> 00:19:21,440 the apartment get new sheets maybe a new towel you know like 433 00:19:21,440 --> 00:19:24,760 just like judge it's. Funny though that you say like 434 00:19:24,760 --> 00:19:27,680 coming back from vacation because I remember when Jim and 435 00:19:27,680 --> 00:19:30,760 I first started dating, we were going away all the time. 436 00:19:31,240 --> 00:19:34,640 And I remember like the pit in my stomach being like, Oh my, 437 00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:36,960 like before I lived with him and when I was working so much. 438 00:19:36,960 --> 00:19:40,880 Living with me, I mean, you have a pit of your stomach returning 439 00:19:40,880 --> 00:19:44,640 to our stomach. We're in a rocky place, OK, But 440 00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:46,640 like I would come back and I'd be like, Oh my God, I can't 441 00:19:46,640 --> 00:19:48,120 believe. Like I have to go back to my 442 00:19:48,120 --> 00:19:50,680 reality where now I'm like, oh, I'm going to miss it. 443 00:19:50,680 --> 00:19:52,560 But like, OK, I'm going to go back and I'm going to feel 444 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:54,800 refreshed. And we don't travel as much as I 445 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:57,280 would like to now just to say season of life. 446 00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:03,160 But like I came back and what you to I can't talk right now. 447 00:20:03,200 --> 00:20:04,840 You're doing a great job sweetie, Keep going. 448 00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:09,480 I'm trying, but like move the lips up and down and have words 449 00:20:09,480 --> 00:20:12,320 and sounds come out. Red leather, yellow leather. 450 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:15,240 No, but like what you were saying, a fresh start. 451 00:20:15,240 --> 00:20:16,720 I came back. I'm like, OK, I'm going to get 452 00:20:16,720 --> 00:20:18,760 back on my meditation practice. There you go. 453 00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:20,960 And also I want to start journal speak. 454 00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:23,320 But I was so nervous too, because one creator that I 455 00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:26,120 follow who might I add, doesn't have kids. 456 00:20:26,120 --> 00:20:28,120 So I feel like. We talk about journal speak 457 00:20:28,120 --> 00:20:30,240 because I don't think. I'm not well versed in it. 458 00:20:30,240 --> 00:20:30,960 OK, that's fine. I don't. 459 00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:33,600 Even know, but basically journal speak is you write, you 460 00:20:33,600 --> 00:20:36,480 externalize, you write for 20 minutes like your deepest 461 00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:38,920 darkest thoughts or like whatever comes out, you don't 462 00:20:38,920 --> 00:20:40,960 reread the sheets. You just throw the sheets out 463 00:20:41,320 --> 00:20:44,480 And so like you're just getting it out onto the piece of paper. 464 00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:47,040 20 minutes to me is not possible. 465 00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:51,760 So I saw a mom who I follow post on sub stack like I'm a mom of 466 00:20:51,760 --> 00:20:53,120 three. I love journal speak. 467 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:55,080 I'm doing 2 minutes here, 2 minutes there. 468 00:20:55,160 --> 00:20:59,640 It's when it fits into my life. I love that I can start because 469 00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:02,680 I felt like if I can't do it for 20 minutes and this one person 470 00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:05,560 is saying like you have to do 20 minutes, that felt like a 471 00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:06,680 little. Or boxed in. 472 00:21:06,680 --> 00:21:09,160 Yes and I'm like that's not possible for me so I'm going to 473 00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:10,520 do it. I did it for 5 minutes today. 474 00:21:10,560 --> 00:21:12,560 Oh my God. I just put a timer on and like 475 00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:13,920 did it. So I'm going to start my 476 00:21:13,920 --> 00:21:17,080 meditation and journal speak and like after vacation that like 477 00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:19,000 started to. Restart. 478 00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:21,280 Yes, totally. And I can't even tell you how 479 00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:23,520 many times I've come back from a vacation and started something 480 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:25,560 like that, like my vibration plate, my skin care routine, 481 00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:28,640 whatever it is. When you come back into your 482 00:21:28,640 --> 00:21:32,600 normal routine, if you're away from it for so long, you get to 483 00:21:32,600 --> 00:21:33,640 have a refresh. Yeah. 484 00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:35,120 And that's. One of really good. 485 00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:38,240 Things about going away, but if you can't like go away 486 00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:40,400 physically, right? Like if you don't have the money 487 00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:43,760 or you can't take the time off from work or your family's 488 00:21:43,760 --> 00:21:47,360 keeping you here. Even creating a vacation day for 489 00:21:47,360 --> 00:21:50,400 yourself where you do things that you would normally do on 490 00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:54,520 vacation, sleeping in late, you know, take a sick day, maybe 491 00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:57,920 bring your kids to school, but then have six hours where you 492 00:21:57,920 --> 00:21:59,640 literally pretend you're on vacation. 493 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:02,160 It helps. Just to get out of your normal 494 00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:03,320 routine. To get out of the normal 495 00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:05,640 routine, to get out of the day-to-day. 496 00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:08,680 What do I have to do next? Because we don't, especially 497 00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:12,760 living in New York, we don't stop and chill. 498 00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:15,800 We go from zero to 100 and back to 0, right? 499 00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:17,280 We're rushing, rushing, rushing all day. 500 00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:19,160 And then we slam on the brakes when we get home. 501 00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:21,320 We maybe take a shower or do something, and then we get back 502 00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:22,800 into bed and we do it all over again. 503 00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:27,600 Vacation allows you to kind of slow down that that transition 504 00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:31,160 from zero to 100. But if you can't go on vacation, 505 00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:34,280 you can slow that down, that transition for yourself in small 506 00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:35,200 pockets. Yeah. 507 00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:38,680 The other reason that I think it's so important is that your 508 00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:41,360 nervous system, there's something called oxidative 509 00:22:41,360 --> 00:22:43,320 stress. And oxidative stress is when you 510 00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:48,320 are exposed over long periods of time to small elements that that 511 00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:50,360 stress you out, right? You may not notice it, right? 512 00:22:50,360 --> 00:22:53,000 For you, it's the olive tree that's always here, right? 513 00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:56,200 Like it's just. Behind me, Remy. 514 00:22:57,440 --> 00:23:01,720 Remy. Right, it's like the olive I'd. 515 00:23:01,840 --> 00:23:05,080 Rather it be on her side. She's the tree girl. 516 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:10,480 That's why this episode is helpful. 517 00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:14,400 Got to shit Remy. I should not remove that tree. 518 00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:24,280 I shouldn't have even mentioned. Ohh, you didn't tell. 519 00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:30,320 Me, I've just been watching. No, we, we should have. 520 00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:33,600 Honestly incredible. So. 521 00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:37,160 She's so breezy. She's gonna. 522 00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:40,920 For those of you just listening, for those of you just listening, 523 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:45,640 there's a stupid fucking olive fake tree behind me that I hate. 524 00:23:46,080 --> 00:23:50,800 This has been the thing that really gets her every time. 525 00:23:51,360 --> 00:23:54,760 And Remy, our producer, is so good at making sure it's not in. 526 00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:58,800 Remy, are you doing this to get back at me or something? 527 00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:03,600 But anyway, like I was saying about oxidative stress that 528 00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:09,720 Madison is clearly exhibiting right now, it's over long 529 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:13,520 periods of time, small doses that keep you kind of elevated. 530 00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:18,280 Yeah, makes sense. Makes sense. 531 00:24:18,360 --> 00:24:21,760 And you're. Gonna get, you're gonna get. 532 00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:27,880 You won't care about me. Yeah, she's better now. 533 00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:32,560 She's better. Just leave it. 534 00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:38,120 Just leave it there. OK, Oh guys, I'm sorry for any 535 00:24:38,120 --> 00:24:43,960 of you who are not watching the tree just felt Anyway, so, so 536 00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:49,800 breaks and vacations are so important because it allows for 537 00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:53,080 the oxidative stress to just kind of get calmed down, right? 538 00:24:53,320 --> 00:24:56,160 And you don't necessarily recognize stress. 539 00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:59,640 Your body is under because you you assimilate, you get to 540 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:01,800 homeostasis. And like this is my like 541 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:03,120 standard. Yeah. 542 00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:05,800 And you're kind of just. Always there. 543 00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:08,320 Always upset about the olive tree, you know what I mean? 544 00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:10,640 Aesthetics. Just like you know. 545 00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:15,720 It's really that's why I think if you don't, I don't. 546 00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,920 You mentioned this earlier, but like Jim was like working on 547 00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:25,480 that trip, right. And I do feel Jim, what are you 548 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:27,520 doing in the sun? Get dressed inside. 549 00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:32,400 Don't you have a call to take? Sorry, Jim, I'm so sorry, honey, 550 00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:37,040 but I the the reason I think it's important is because like 551 00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:40,760 to think about this, right is like Jim does need if you want 552 00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:43,480 him to keep operating. No, I know, but like he it just 553 00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:45,200 is what it is right now, so I can't like. 554 00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:48,000 This poor man needs a break. No, I know, but I can't. 555 00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:52,600 I can't pity party him. No, no one thinks you do but. 556 00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:58,000 Like no, if it even for that self I like I can't like give in 557 00:25:58,000 --> 00:25:59,280 to that. You know what I just need to be 558 00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:00,960 like you're doing great. Honey, keep it up. 559 00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:01,680 You're doing great. You need a. 560 00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,320 Coffee you need to sleep at work? 561 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,920 I'll bring you a pillow. But yeah, just. 562 00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:09,520 A season. It's just a season. 563 00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:11,200 It's a little bit of a long season, My makeup. 564 00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:12,440 All over, you're OK. You've been. 565 00:26:12,480 --> 00:26:16,520 Crying hilariously so. So, so, yeah. 566 00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:19,880 So the importance of breaks, even if you can't go to, say, 567 00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:25,600 Palm Heights, you can go take a day trip to the Rockaways, put 568 00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:29,600 your feet in the ocean, sit on the beach for no a few hours. 569 00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:32,760 Can I also say something like coming back from this trip, I 570 00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:36,200 was coming back feeling better than I did going where, like 571 00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:38,960 some very good sign. Yeah, some people go away and 572 00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:41,120 they like when I go to Vegas, I'm going to come back a dead 573 00:26:41,120 --> 00:26:42,680 person. So like that to me doesn't 574 00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:44,120 count. That's not a restorative 575 00:26:44,120 --> 00:26:46,360 vacation. No, it's going to like be a fun. 576 00:26:46,360 --> 00:26:47,480 There's a few different categories. 577 00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:48,760 I'm glad you brought this up right. 578 00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:53,760 There is a trip which is usually something where you know you're 579 00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:56,920 going to have to have some output. 580 00:26:57,320 --> 00:27:02,320 It may be a work trip, it may be a you know you're going to like 581 00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:03,200 touring. Yes. 582 00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:05,200 Exactly. You're going for cultural 583 00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:09,280 experiences or to get like tile for your, you know, fireplace, 584 00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:11,320 whatever. That's like a trip. 585 00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:16,480 Then there's a vacation where you go to truly do whatever it 586 00:27:16,480 --> 00:27:19,120 is you want to do. There's no preset plan, so to 587 00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,760 say, OK, then there's a relocation, which if you have 588 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:23,400 children, that's what it is. That's what that. 589 00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:26,480 Is even though this felt like relocation but vacation. 590 00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:29,360 Oh, that's a good, good thing. And but what makes that shift 591 00:27:29,360 --> 00:27:31,120 for you? What was it about this trip that 592 00:27:31,120 --> 00:27:32,920 made it feel less like a relocation? 593 00:27:33,040 --> 00:27:35,160 Well, the two big kids being older, Yeah. 594 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:37,160 And then hiring a babysitter for Bear. 595 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:39,520 OK, so like having having help there. 596 00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:40,320 Yeah. Really. 597 00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:43,120 Her name was Mordell. And I love her so much and. 598 00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:46,040 Like the meat? Mordell is that meat? 599 00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:50,080 I think there's. Like a yeah. 600 00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:56,520 No meat or Italian. Speaking of Italian, I just want 601 00:27:56,520 --> 00:28:00,240 to say Mr. Greco, Papa Greco, I listened to your voice memo to 602 00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:03,840 me and I just, it made me so happy and healed all of my daddy 603 00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:07,520 wounds, Dad. If you're even listening. 604 00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:11,920 You're even listening to that. I wanted to make him a 605 00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:13,560 statement. I love that you're like Speaking 606 00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:16,280 of Italian. He's like my the hottest Italian 607 00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:18,080 I know. Thanks. 608 00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:22,000 Man, sorry, man, you're the hottest Italian woman. 609 00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:26,240 OK, So, yeah, so there's a trip, there's a vacation, there's a 610 00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:28,600 relocation. And then I think there's like a 611 00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:30,880 spiral. This is like something that I 612 00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:34,080 have coined, but like, if you want to get messy. 613 00:28:34,120 --> 00:28:35,880 Yeah. Because at our age. 614 00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:37,320 Those are my least favorite trips. 615 00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:41,120 We'll see OK at this. We haven't done a spiral 616 00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:43,640 together. We haven't, which scares me as 617 00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:45,280 it should. But like, my Vegas is going to 618 00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:47,880 be a spiral, yes. Those are actually not 619 00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:50,920 restorative at all. They actually put more pressure 620 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:52,920 on your nervous system and on your body. 621 00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:56,320 And so usually when I have one of those trips, I need a 622 00:28:56,320 --> 00:28:57,960 vacation. From that, yeah. 623 00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:01,320 So like if I have a spiral for like a Bachelorette or something 624 00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:06,160 else, I will try to make Monday or Tuesday or something the next 625 00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:09,840 day when I get back lighter because the reintegration is 626 00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:11,600 brutal. Yeah, it's not going to be fun, 627 00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:13,920 but it will be fun in the moment it. 628 00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:15,560 Will be fun in the moment. And then I'm gonna come home and 629 00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:17,280 Jim's gonna be like, here are your three children. 630 00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:19,200 That you wanted. Yeah, you got it. 631 00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:23,200 But those, all of those I think are important, right? 632 00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:26,520 Like having a trip when you're, when you have like a purposeful 633 00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:28,880 intention, like sometimes like, I wanna go to Egypt, right? 634 00:29:28,880 --> 00:29:31,800 Like, that's gonna be a trip. I'm gonna be like moving around, 635 00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:33,640 seeing everything. Totally incredible. 636 00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:38,200 Those are important to open up your mind and to see the world 637 00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:40,640 from a different perspective of culture, right. 638 00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:44,160 And then I think vacations are so important as a nervous system 639 00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:47,920 reset and bonding. You can bond too on trips, but I 640 00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:50,880 do think it's a little bit different where cuz you're 641 00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:53,760 constantly being distracted by memories as opposed to making 642 00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:57,280 your own, right? Like on a vacation, you're like, 643 00:29:57,280 --> 00:30:00,160 it's like silly things like dance parties or like having, 644 00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:03,000 you know, sugar for breakfast or just like these silly things 645 00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:06,320 where I was like, you're making a memory of like the, you know, 646 00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:09,520 pyramids, which is crazy and cool, but it's not necessarily 647 00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:11,960 about bonding. There was one time when Jim and 648 00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:14,760 I went to Paris, I think this is before the kids or say that 649 00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:17,000 George sank and there was like this weird. 650 00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:21,080 I think it was a gay couple or it was like a guy Dom in charge 651 00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:23,480 of a younger guy. It was very weird, OK, They kept 652 00:30:23,480 --> 00:30:26,520 trying to force him to eat food and he would say eat more. 653 00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:30,240 It gives you energies. And so now Jim and I say that to 654 00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:32,280 each other literally all the time. 655 00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:34,840 That's a memory. Eat this, it gives you energies. 656 00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:38,800 I need more contacts. OK, Were you sitting We. 657 00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:42,040 Were sitting at the breakfast bar area. 658 00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:45,320 OK, and they were also sitting next to you, the old guy eating 659 00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:47,320 too. It was like an older muscular 660 00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:51,000 guy and then like it's felt like younger, something like that. 661 00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:54,120 And he's like eat. It gives you energies and so 662 00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:57,240 like it is one of our favorite scenes ever. 663 00:30:57,240 --> 00:30:59,440 No, I kind of love it. Put it on a T-shirt. 664 00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:01,560 Let's make some merch. Episode. 665 00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:06,560 Every episode. Until we have merge and I'll 666 00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:08,880 change it to we'll put it on a T-shirt. 667 00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:12,440 Okay, that's hilarious. So it's like little things like 668 00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:13,720 that. Little things like that. 669 00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:17,560 And then the relocation, I think is really important when you 670 00:31:17,560 --> 00:31:20,320 have little kids because I know Chris said this when we had 671 00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:22,640 kids. He said, I'm not traveling with 672 00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:25,240 children until they can carry their own shit, OK. 673 00:31:25,280 --> 00:31:27,360 And I looked at him and I said, no, you're not. 674 00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:29,240 Yeah. Because we want our children to 675 00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:31,880 be flexible. We want our children to be easy. 676 00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:34,680 And you have to start early. And I know this scares parents, 677 00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:36,800 and I know you were really scared to travel with Everly. 678 00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:39,000 Yeah, well, because I had postpartum fucked up. 679 00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:41,840 Exactly. I think that was a nuanced 680 00:31:41,840 --> 00:31:45,600 situation. But for example, I traveled with 681 00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:48,640 NOLA when she was, I took her to California, to Disney when she 682 00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:51,840 was like, I want to say four months, OK. 683 00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:55,960 And Jackson, because he was in COVID, he didn't get to travel 684 00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:59,720 as much early. But the minute we were going, 685 00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:02,880 Chris's mom was taking during Cobra, was taking us to 686 00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:05,800 California. So he got to be in the air. 687 00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:07,840 And yeah, you know, on a plane when he was small. 688 00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:11,520 But now, like on a flight like Jackson is like, Bing, bang, 689 00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:13,160 boom, easy peasy. No problem. 690 00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:15,240 Yeah. But I feel like also like it's 691 00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:17,640 so easy. See, bears, just at the age, 692 00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:20,040 like, I don't care how much you travel when your baby's 15 693 00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:21,880 months old, they're going to suck with us. 694 00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:25,560 I will say that like there is studies shown that like 695 00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:29,600 flexibility in children like having your kids sleep outside 696 00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:33,360 in a noisy area, having your kid be uncomfortable on a plane, 697 00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:36,920 like there bear will be a more flexible child for having. 698 00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:38,760 Well, I'm not sure if he's invited next time. 699 00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:42,160 I told that to watch. I told that to Ford. 700 00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:44,880 I was like, Ford, I don't know if Bear's coming on the next 701 00:32:44,880 --> 00:32:46,800 vacation. He started crying. 702 00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:49,040 And then I was like, Oh my God, that's so sweet. 703 00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:51,840 And then I started crying. And then Ford's like, you're 704 00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:54,800 joking, right? I'm like, yeah, sure, was 705 00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:58,160 definitely joking. Paw Patrol, here you go. 706 00:32:59,040 --> 00:33:02,400 But he's not invited it. Was so sweet that Ford loves his 707 00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:06,160 brother so much. That's so cute. 708 00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:10,920 But yeah, so like the the relocation with kids, even if 709 00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:14,000 you're scared, I think doing small trips with your kids does 710 00:33:14,000 --> 00:33:17,640 allow them to like be more flexible, see things early on 711 00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:19,800 allows you to be more flexible when you're in it. 712 00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:21,720 It might be hard, but then you look back and you're like, oh, 713 00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:25,280 I'm so happy I did that. 100%, we took a road trip when the 714 00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:28,760 kids were both small to North Carolina, Outer Banks and like, 715 00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:32,280 that trip was for all intensive purposes, hard. 716 00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:35,400 Yeah, I look back at those photos and both the whole 717 00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:37,280 family, all of us will look back at those photos and be like, 718 00:33:37,280 --> 00:33:39,000 that was one of our like favorite trips so far. 719 00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:42,400 Because like, it's. So much family time, so much 720 00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:45,800 like, you know, we have Airbnb cooking, bringing our lunch to 721 00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:48,200 the beach, like very like wholesome fun. 722 00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:52,120 And I love that my kids were like sleeping in sand in their 723 00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:54,440 beds and like happy to do so, right? 724 00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:58,640 So the relocation is important. And then what was the oh, and 725 00:33:58,640 --> 00:34:00,560 the spiral? And I think the spiral allows 726 00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:02,880 you to stay connected to your younger version of yourself, 727 00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:05,600 right? The the the version of you that 728 00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:08,480 you kind of forget about when you ask the day-to-day stuff, 729 00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:11,880 the mundane, the colonics and the parenting and the, you know, 730 00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:15,199 taxes and all that stuff. You forget that you're also so 731 00:34:15,199 --> 00:34:17,520 much fucking. I know, and you have to be 732 00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:18,800 reminded. I know that's true. 733 00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:20,360 So I'm glad you're going to Vegas. 734 00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:22,000 I know I want to do like a scavenger hunt. 735 00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:27,199 What like. I saw people like, I can't wait 736 00:34:27,199 --> 00:34:29,199 to go gamble. I can't wait to get drunk, I 737 00:34:29,199 --> 00:34:30,400 can't wait to go to a strip club. 738 00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:33,560 You're like a scavenger hunt. You have to go ride the back of 739 00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:36,120 a six foot five man and you know what I mean? 740 00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:38,880 Like Jack, like daddy. You have to get a photo doing 741 00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:41,120 that. OK so like what I did for like 742 00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:42,520 to. Find like a hot couple and have 743 00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:46,000 them kiss you. Literally I did this when I was 744 00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:49,000 rushing A sorority hell night for Alpha Faye. 745 00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:50,840 Alpha Faye? Sorry I stopped paying my dues. 746 00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:54,639 We had to pay. Dues forever. 747 00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:58,520 If you want to stay in the association, I think so. 748 00:34:58,600 --> 00:34:59,760 I actually don't even fucking know. 749 00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:01,800 I, I like when I left college, I was like, I'm done with that. 750 00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:08,960 I for our hell night, we had to do a scavenger hunt, exactly 751 00:35:08,960 --> 00:35:11,240 what you're talking about. And one of the things we had to 752 00:35:11,240 --> 00:35:14,840 do was go into Wendy's and in Binghamton, where I went to 753 00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:17,040 school, like that's where everyone hung out. 754 00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:19,360 You know, there's like Texas Roadhouse and a Wendy's. 755 00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:25,000 It's always crowded is my point. And you had to, I had to run and 756 00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:27,080 get on the counter. I like, I don't remember 757 00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:28,640 anything from college. This is like the only thing I 758 00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:33,600 remember and yell. I got porked by Wendy being 759 00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:35,680 filmed. Everyone's staring at you and 760 00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:37,040 then got off. Obviously they're like, we're 761 00:35:37,040 --> 00:35:39,000 going to call the cops. You're like the 4th girl to come 762 00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:41,640 in here and do this because it's like every like you're in groups 763 00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:43,760 with your pledge class. No one pays attention because 764 00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:46,440 they're just like you idiots. Just saw that. 765 00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:49,080 Literally they're like get off, get off. 766 00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:52,960 It's It was ridiculous, but that does sound like a fun. 767 00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:56,400 Jack is just so offensive, so like anything I do with him is 768 00:35:56,400 --> 00:35:57,600 fun. Are you going to make the 769 00:35:57,600 --> 00:35:59,280 scavenger? Hunt I don't know, I might ask 770 00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:01,440 chat or. Oh yeah, that's chat do. 771 00:36:01,560 --> 00:36:03,680 It you know. Yeah, and you're going to make 772 00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:05,000 all of your friends do it with you. 773 00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:07,080 Well, I'm not going to by myself. 774 00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:10,800 Please do it by yourself. They might be like, Madison, 775 00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:13,680 this is the dumbest idea ever. But like I think, but like I 776 00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:15,600 don't drink, so I'm like, what else can we do? 777 00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:17,280 You're like, you guys want to play Scrabble. 778 00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:18,400 What do you guys want to do next? 779 00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:23,640 Monopoly in Vegas. But you should take can with you 780 00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:26,520 and like some. Yeah, Well, gummies or like, 781 00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:27,600 mushrooms or something. Yeah. 782 00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:28,680 I'll figure it out. It'll be fun. 783 00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:30,400 You'll have a great time. Plus Hilary Duff. 784 00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:31,760 I know it's going to be so. Jealous. 785 00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:34,120 Did you sell that ticket? Oh, I don't know. 786 00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:36,480 I'm going to ask Jack. Jack. 787 00:36:37,080 --> 00:36:39,280 Jack, can I come? Now is your time to meet 788 00:36:39,280 --> 00:36:42,160 Whitney. We're going to be great, honey. 789 00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:42,760 We're going to. Be great. 790 00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:43,960 We're going to think he's so weird. 791 00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:46,720 I love weird people. He will. 792 00:36:46,720 --> 00:36:48,600 Offend you in some way? I hope so. 793 00:36:48,600 --> 00:36:50,000 He's gay. He's just a pot store. 794 00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:53,560 If he my husband is also a pot star, that's his name in our 795 00:36:53,560 --> 00:36:55,400 group. Will Jack made me cry the last 796 00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:58,880 vacation in Miami? No, I'm not this. 797 00:36:58,920 --> 00:37:01,360 Story, come on. But it was so bad. 798 00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:05,320 Did you spiral on that trip? It was just like I was pumping 4 799 00:37:05,320 --> 00:37:08,440 times a day and like I didn't want to stay out. 800 00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:11,280 What her tits have been through. And I was like, I just want to 801 00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:13,720 go to bed. And you were grandma. 802 00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:15,400 I was grandma, so it wasn't us so. 803 00:37:15,440 --> 00:37:17,120 He called you out for being a grandma. 804 00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:20,280 No, it was something else. He was blackout drunk but then 805 00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:22,600 tried to blame Margaret and Margaret's Like I said nothing 806 00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:25,040 and then I'm like, you made me cry. 807 00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:29,520 So yeah, my gods, been through a slice of pizza at me once and it 808 00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:32,800 hit my wall in the apartment and there was like an oil stain, a 809 00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:34,840 triangle. And I was like, look what you 810 00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:36,600 did. And he historically cried. 811 00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:38,160 So I made my gate. Okay. 812 00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:41,240 Yeah, I can give you some stuff to give back to him. 813 00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:47,640 I think again, like taking breaks from your day-to-day, 814 00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:50,920 even something as small like this isn't a vacation by any 815 00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:52,680 means. But even as small as like taking 816 00:37:52,680 --> 00:37:55,800 a different route home, like walking a different way, slowing 817 00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:58,920 down, looking in the stores, looking what's new? 818 00:37:58,920 --> 00:38:01,720 Sometimes if I'm Uptown, I'll like, walk through Central Park 819 00:38:01,720 --> 00:38:03,400 instead of, like, taking a subway and walking. 820 00:38:03,400 --> 00:38:04,600 Yeah. So I get what you're saying it. 821 00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:08,160 Rewires your brain momentarily for a newer approach to 822 00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:10,600 something right? And I also think it derails your 823 00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:14,440 brain from auto pilot. So you're not just thinking 824 00:38:14,440 --> 00:38:18,160 about a stream of consciousness and walking, meandering the way 825 00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:19,560 home. You have to think about where 826 00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:22,440 you are and where you're going. So it brings you more present in 827 00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:24,240 the moment. So like if you're having 828 00:38:24,240 --> 00:38:27,880 anxiety, even I'll tell clients like if you're walking home or 829 00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:31,240 going home and you have anxiety from your day, go a different 830 00:38:31,240 --> 00:38:33,400 way. Start walking with your non 831 00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:37,160 dominant foot, OK, Hold your phone, your non dominant hand. 832 00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:42,760 Make your brain focus on other things that it need, like it 833 00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:46,440 need not stressful, but just things that take it offline. 834 00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:47,400 Totally. I like that. 835 00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:49,160 And it's just simple. So simple. 836 00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:51,280 Yeah, so simple. And it really will help. 837 00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:56,480 And then lastly, this again might not sound like a vacation, 838 00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:59,880 but it does do to your brain what a vacation does. 839 00:38:59,880 --> 00:39:02,000 Two things. Getting off your phone. 840 00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:05,560 I know. And meditating, Yeah, both of 841 00:39:05,560 --> 00:39:08,400 those things give you a little mental vacation. 842 00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:12,640 And I will say, like my friend Erin, who I went to Nashville 843 00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:15,840 with, she has got such an incredible meditation practice. 844 00:39:15,840 --> 00:39:17,720 Does she? That's, Oh my God, she does TM. 845 00:39:17,720 --> 00:39:18,760 I also AM. TBM. 846 00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:20,480 Oh no. Yeah, TM, Transcendental 847 00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:21,320 Meditation. OK. 848 00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:23,200 You have to go through a foundation. 849 00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:27,840 You get a chance, like a, a phrase that's personalized to 850 00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:28,280 you. OK. 851 00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:30,080 I have one that's given in secret. 852 00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:31,720 OK. I forgot what mine was. 853 00:39:31,720 --> 00:39:33,600 And I had to, like, go through all of these hoops to, like, 854 00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:35,120 find the woman. Oh, wow. 855 00:39:35,120 --> 00:39:36,880 She's now in, like, California. I had to call her. 856 00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:38,040 It was like this whole thing. But it was cute. 857 00:39:38,040 --> 00:39:39,280 We got to catch up. It's nice. 858 00:39:40,000 --> 00:39:42,840 Aaron's trained in it, and I'm trained in it as well. 859 00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:46,440 And she will meditate in the, she's a big high-powered tax 860 00:39:46,440 --> 00:39:47,920 attorney. So she will literally do this in 861 00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:50,520 the middle of her day. And it, like, gives her renewed 862 00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:52,400 energy for the rat second-half of her day. 863 00:39:52,400 --> 00:39:55,120 Like, it's almost like a nap. Yeah, people say that. 864 00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:57,240 Yeah. So truly, like, you don't need 865 00:39:57,240 --> 00:40:00,200 to spend thousands of dollars to go on vacation. 866 00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:03,320 You can get a mental vacation. Anyway, and I told this and I 867 00:40:03,320 --> 00:40:06,080 showed this before, but like I have been off my meditation game 868 00:40:06,080 --> 00:40:09,600 and like when I am me too by the way, when I am like rigid or 869 00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:12,120 serious in my practices, that's when my life changes. 870 00:40:12,120 --> 00:40:15,360 Yes, it's and like distance and habit, you are your habits. 871 00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:16,880 Yes, and like I've been off of it. 872 00:40:16,880 --> 00:40:19,960 So like coming back today, I was like, all right, I'm meditating, 873 00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:22,400 I'm doing my journal. Like this is just how it's going 874 00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:25,760 to be everyday going forward. Also I just need to get through 875 00:40:25,760 --> 00:40:27,920 the pit because I cannot stop fucking watching it. 876 00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:30,760 I got to. I got to start back where I left 877 00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:32,520 off. So I can catch up. 878 00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:35,000 I went to 9:45 last night because I'm like Oh my God, this 879 00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:36,440 episode I have I. Have not know. 880 00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:37,520 Are you ready to go clubbing again? 881 00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:39,280 I have not known you to stay up that late. 882 00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:42,440 But I just need to like now just binge it so I could just be done 883 00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:44,560 and then I can like get back to my normal life because I'm so 884 00:40:44,560 --> 00:40:47,040 obsessed with it. OK, I you're like inspiring me. 885 00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:49,080 Tomorrow I'm going to get back to the pet. 886 00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:52,800 It was fantastic. I have taken a full social 887 00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:55,360 media, not social media. Bravo detox. 888 00:40:55,560 --> 00:40:57,800 Are there anything to catch me? Up No, I haven't been watching 889 00:40:57,800 --> 00:40:59,160 Bravo because I've been watching the pet. 890 00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:02,520 I know I'm I'm not OK. I don't know what's going on. 891 00:41:03,200 --> 00:41:05,840 I think I just needed to grow some brain cells. 892 00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:07,120 Sure. Did you see this? 893 00:41:07,160 --> 00:41:09,160 Did you see you? Watching medical. 894 00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:12,080 Drama you like? You like like true crime 895 00:41:12,080 --> 00:41:13,760 Obsessed. I like medical. 896 00:41:13,840 --> 00:41:16,920 I like medical too, but I love. Like but I can take that nervous 897 00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:18,120 system. Got it. 898 00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:21,640 I can't take true crime because I was going to bed last night. 899 00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:23,680 I'm like, OK, I really should meditate but it's 9.5. 900 00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:25,240 I have to go to sleep like I was like. 901 00:41:25,240 --> 00:41:26,760 Wired. You were wired from that. 902 00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:28,320 What happens if you watch True crime? 903 00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:30,760 I don't it like scares me. It's like a different kind of 904 00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:31,840 feeling. Oh, wow. 905 00:41:31,920 --> 00:41:33,280 Yeah. I don't like, I never like scary 906 00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:35,760 movies growing up. OK, just like so that's yeah, 907 00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:39,120 just like rocks you. I'm obsessed, obsessed with true 908 00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:41,080 crime. Honestly could almost turn this 909 00:41:41,080 --> 00:41:42,920 podcast into a true crime podcast where you. 910 00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:44,160 Didn't find another. Host. 911 00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:45,160 Never. Never. 912 00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:46,920 Wait, did you see the city casting though? 913 00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:48,000 Yes. In the. 914 00:41:48,040 --> 00:41:50,840 City in the city. Yes, I saw the trailer. 915 00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:54,240 Yes, I don't know. OK, tell me more. 916 00:41:54,280 --> 00:41:55,760 No, I have. No, I have nothing more than 917 00:41:55,760 --> 00:41:57,440 like. That's how I felt about Bailey 918 00:41:57,440 --> 00:41:59,320 and the other girl. And you're like, give them time. 919 00:41:59,320 --> 00:42:01,000 And now I like Bailey. Yeah, I like Bailey. 920 00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:03,000 They don't show Levi a lot. Is that her name? 921 00:42:03,000 --> 00:42:04,160 I don't even know her name. OK. 922 00:42:04,160 --> 00:42:06,800 No, but like, it's just like men. 923 00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:09,200 So you don't like the male casting? 924 00:42:09,320 --> 00:42:13,320 I just feel like it's such a specific type, like Kyle's good, 925 00:42:13,320 --> 00:42:16,120 Carl's good, Wes's, whatever. He but he's good, he's. 926 00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:18,000 Good on there. Even Jesse's. 927 00:42:18,560 --> 00:42:22,960 I just don't know, Like married men, do you know, Like it just 928 00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:24,400 feels. Total. 929 00:42:24,400 --> 00:42:26,160 We'll see. But like with housewives, it 930 00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:28,040 feels, I don't know, I'm just with. 931 00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:31,960 Housewives with housewives, the husbands are like, not even in 932 00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:33,120 it. It's not about them. 933 00:42:33,120 --> 00:42:34,720 Yeah, this is more focused, I think. 934 00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:37,240 I think that's why it's. Giving me a little bit of an 935 00:42:37,240 --> 00:42:39,040 icky. When does it come out Soon? 936 00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:40,840 April 14th. I don't know soon. 937 00:42:41,360 --> 00:42:43,160 OK, I see. The only thing I saw was that 938 00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:46,760 Amanda was like, I'm going to go back to posting, and I thought 939 00:42:46,760 --> 00:42:49,080 she was going to go back to posting like brand deals because 940 00:42:49,080 --> 00:42:52,280 that's how she makes her money. Yeah, but it was only to post a 941 00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:55,120 picture of her and West. Did she post a picture of her? 942 00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:56,920 She posted. They were out. 943 00:42:56,920 --> 00:42:58,120 No, I don't think she posted that. 944 00:42:58,120 --> 00:43:01,160 I think other people but. She posted at that location like 945 00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:04,000 her picture was them was at the place that they were together, 946 00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:06,160 which is like just a wild. Choice What do What do you think 947 00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:07,600 about Bethenny Frankel's take on it? 948 00:43:07,600 --> 00:43:09,000 Like they're two consenting adults. 949 00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:11,320 Yeah, I saw that. I agree. 950 00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:14,640 Yeah, that's true. I also like there was maybe her 951 00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:17,440 or someone else was going off on this like phrase girl code. 952 00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:19,760 Like what the fuck is that? Like why are we even holding 953 00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:21,320 people to be standards, blah blah. 954 00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:24,600 I think it's two things. One, it's like, I think all the 955 00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:28,680 women can feel watching this. They can feel how much pain that 956 00:43:28,680 --> 00:43:31,560 would cause them. And I think that that's the 957 00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:33,680 personalization part of watching this. 958 00:43:33,680 --> 00:43:35,840 It's like, Oh my God, how could you do that to a friend of 959 00:43:35,840 --> 00:43:38,240 yours? I think Bethany's perspective is 960 00:43:38,240 --> 00:43:41,920 so important because she was on reality TV, So I think she's 961 00:43:41,920 --> 00:43:44,880 coming from the perspective of like, I don't want to like break 962 00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:47,200 the news to you guys, but like, they might not have been as 963 00:43:47,200 --> 00:43:48,880 close as we all thought they were. 964 00:43:48,880 --> 00:43:49,960 I. Don't think people on these 965 00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:51,760 shows really are as close as we think. 966 00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:52,960 They are. That's true. 967 00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:55,240 That's probably true. I think you get closer, like 968 00:43:55,240 --> 00:43:57,640 Kyle Richards is friends with Sutton and all of those people 969 00:43:57,640 --> 00:43:59,600 on houses because they've been filming for so long. 970 00:43:59,720 --> 00:44:01,960 But she wasn't friends with Sutton beforehand, right? 971 00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:04,560 So I think that's definitely part of this. 972 00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:08,320 And I think Bethany's right. From that perspective, they are 973 00:44:08,320 --> 00:44:10,640 two consenting adults. I think the flip side to that 974 00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:15,800 argument is you are being watched by thousands of people 975 00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:17,560 all the time. Your actions are being judged 976 00:44:17,560 --> 00:44:19,680 and scrutinized. You're entitled to do what you 977 00:44:19,680 --> 00:44:22,080 want, but know know what you're signing. 978 00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:23,040 Up for you? Live in a. 979 00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:25,520 You live in a bubble, you live in a glass house, whatever it 980 00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:27,520 is. And I, I do think that 981 00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:30,360 everyone's going to have their own take on like the morality of 982 00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:34,040 it. I don't think in retrospect I do 983 00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:38,120 feel strongly about how much hate Amanda is getting versus 984 00:44:38,280 --> 00:44:39,320 West. Like why? 985 00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:42,480 Why is not the vitriol the same? Like W is a piece of shit for 986 00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:45,880 doing this to all the girls and he's getting more followers and 987 00:44:45,880 --> 00:44:49,280 she's getting bullied. That's that to me kills the 988 00:44:49,280 --> 00:44:50,200 whole situation. I know. 989 00:44:50,400 --> 00:44:53,600 Yeah, I hate that, but did you see Sierra host? 990 00:44:53,600 --> 00:44:56,000 The interview. Yeah, she looked great. 991 00:44:56,000 --> 00:44:59,040 She gave a little jab. I'm just, I'm excited to see her 992 00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:00,360 glow out. Then I just want to focus on 993 00:45:00,360 --> 00:45:01,720 that. I wonder if she'll do Summer 994 00:45:01,720 --> 00:45:02,920 House again. We'll find out I. 995 00:45:02,920 --> 00:45:04,240 Wonder. Yeah, we'll see. 996 00:45:04,520 --> 00:45:06,920 I honestly for. Paige leaving has worked out 997 00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:09,440 wonders for her. Totally, totally. 998 00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:14,120 I'm waiting for them to have her on the progress on the The 999 00:45:14,120 --> 00:45:16,440 Giggly Squad. I'm waiting for that, for that 1000 00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:18,160 episode. I don't know if they will, 1001 00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:21,200 because I don't even know if they're allowed to, actually. 1002 00:45:22,120 --> 00:45:24,280 Because of, Yeah. Because of just like what? 1003 00:45:24,280 --> 00:45:26,000 What contract? Yeah, totally. 1004 00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:27,200 What's the word? All right. 1005 00:45:27,200 --> 00:45:28,600 What do we want to talk about to finish out? 1006 00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:31,120 This maybe what we're in progress with. 1007 00:45:31,120 --> 00:45:34,800 OK, you want to start. Yeah, I'm in progress with 1008 00:45:34,800 --> 00:45:37,160 definitely getting my health back. 1009 00:45:37,160 --> 00:45:39,400 I'm feeling better or less brain fog. 1010 00:45:39,400 --> 00:45:43,160 I'm feeling good about my energy levels, my sleep, my OR. 1011 00:45:43,160 --> 00:45:45,040 I bought my OR ring. I got an OR ring from my 1012 00:45:45,040 --> 00:45:46,160 friends, a new one. OK. 1013 00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:48,680 I've been wearing it and like it's been helping me kind of 1014 00:45:48,840 --> 00:45:55,200 stay regular, which I love. And I am in progress with kind 1015 00:45:55,200 --> 00:45:59,360 of spring cleaning and getting all of the toxic stuff that I 1016 00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:02,560 had in my house out and slowly replacing it with healthier 1017 00:46:02,600 --> 00:46:03,640 options. OK, Museum. 1018 00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:06,280 Yeah, what about you? I just want to be better about 1019 00:46:06,280 --> 00:46:09,280 my meditation practice. The journal speak. 1020 00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:13,280 I want to go to bed by 9:15. OK, you've been 30 minutes over 1021 00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:16,520 and it's not binging the pits. And what else? 1022 00:46:16,520 --> 00:46:20,280 I guess this week is just going to be like, emotional and yeah, 1023 00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:22,760 the end of an era for me. Honestly. 1024 00:46:22,760 --> 00:46:24,320 And then beginning of a new chapter. 1025 00:46:24,320 --> 00:46:28,440 Yeah, your hot mom era. I I feel like, and this is maybe 1026 00:46:28,440 --> 00:46:30,600 I shouldn't say this out loud because I might jinx it but I do 1027 00:46:30,600 --> 00:46:33,000 feel like thing like my life is going to change this year. 1028 00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:35,840 I don't know why, I just like. New apartment done breath. 1029 00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:39,600 Yes, like they just, and I don't mean like I'm going to like all 1030 00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:41,320 of a sudden like I'm going to be. 1031 00:46:41,360 --> 00:46:44,560 Move anywhere. Or like be famous and inherit 1032 00:46:44,560 --> 00:46:47,520 $1,000,000 Like nothing on like that scale. 1033 00:46:47,520 --> 00:46:49,320 Who knows, but I just like, I don't know. 1034 00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:52,640 I feel good about this year. Oh, I forgot to tell you what, I 1035 00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:55,960 had a dream you were on TV. Oh, I literally had a dream you 1036 00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:57,840 were on a reality. Did I have a double chin like I 1037 00:46:57,840 --> 00:46:59,240 have now? Definitely not great. 1038 00:47:01,080 --> 00:47:04,600 I was a friend of yours, but like not, I couldn't be on 1039 00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:05,840 camera. I was freaking out. 1040 00:47:05,840 --> 00:47:08,280 I was sweating. You, you, you said can't 1041 00:47:08,280 --> 00:47:10,040 remember this and you're like, this happened. 1042 00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:13,720 She does that. I'm going to talk at her 1043 00:47:13,760 --> 00:47:16,880 therapist. Just give her a few and she'll 1044 00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:18,960 like break in. Does anyone have a drug? 1045 00:47:20,280 --> 00:47:22,360 Anyone have something to give her a drug? 1046 00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:26,400 Any drug, really. Anything she'll take it, it'll 1047 00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:29,000 be fine. But I had a dream about you in 1048 00:47:29,000 --> 00:47:31,320 Nashville and I, I was like, honestly, I think that's 1049 00:47:31,320 --> 00:47:33,080 happening for you. I don't think I'm going to be on 1050 00:47:33,080 --> 00:47:33,960 TV. No, no, no, I don't. 1051 00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:37,920 I feel like I don't, I'm not, but yeah, I think you are for 1052 00:47:37,920 --> 00:47:39,600 sure. Well, wouldn't for what? 1053 00:47:39,800 --> 00:47:43,160 Don't know as a friend of. All right, guys. 1054 00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:49,120 Well, thank you for listening. Follow Share Rates. 1055 00:47:49,200 --> 00:47:54,440 OK, you did it, you did it and I will see you guys next time when 1056 00:47:54,440 --> 00:47:57,880 I am not breastfeeding anymore and when my lips are blushed. 1057 00:47:57,880 --> 00:48:00,400 Blushed and lovely. All right, bye guys. 1058 00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:01,120 Have a good day. Happy. 1059 00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:01,480 Spring.