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I've got a message for you 
called the Valley of Weeping. 

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Weeping. 
Anybody, anybody, like anybody 

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cried before, right? 
Anybody wept and anybody just 

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just come on some of y'all this 
morning I'm tearing up as as, as

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Ike, one of our elders is coming
over to encourage me during 

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worship. 
Look, the Bible has a lot to say

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about weeping and some of you 
think it's a valley and it might

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be, but can we normalize 
weeping? 

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Can we normalize crying and just
say it's, it's a gift from God 

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and there's a purpose for it? 
It's a normal human function, 

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right? 
Like let's not look at it as if 

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it's something wrong or bad. 
Often someone starts crying and 

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right after a tear comes out or 
a quiver in the voice, you know 

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what they say, I'm sorry. 
And I want to look at them and 

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go, why are you sorry? 
Why are you sorry for weeping? 

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Who told you that weeping is 
bad? 

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Who told you that crying is not 
acceptable? 

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Who told you that weeping is a 
weakness? 

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In fact, I see honesty in your 
weeping. 

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I see vulnerability, 
transparency, authenticity, all 

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the things we're trying to build
here at Refuge Church in your 

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weeping. 
Just as rain softens the ground 

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for seed, weeping softens your 
soil for the Lord to do a great 

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and mighty work. 
Is it a valley? 

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It might be. 
You might be in a valley and 

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weeping comes. 
But I want you to see that Jesus

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wept. 
And because Jesus wept, then so 

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can we. 
In fact, when Lazarus was dead. 

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What a poor fella, right? 
Could you imagine being dead and

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seeing heaven? 
Also, I'm going to bring you 

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back, right? 
Wait, wait, wait, are we? 

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Are we sure? 
But Jesus wept before he raised 

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Lazarus. 
Why was he weeping? 

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He knew he was bringing them 
back. 

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He was weeping with Mary and 
Martha who were mourning. 

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And so Jesus felt the mourning 
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Have you ever cried with someone
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You've experienced the overflow 
of their burden. 

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Come on. 
We ought to be sharing burdens, 

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and so we often will weep too. 
Think about Jesus wept. 

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It's the shortest verse in the 
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Jesus, He wept, and so can you. 
See, weeping allows us to loosen

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the compacted soil of our 
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Men, I'm speaking to you. 
We often have this tough, arid 

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facade of ruggedness, and 
sometimes we weep too. 

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And I need to tell you, it's OK.
It's OK to weep. 

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It's OK to feel the feels. 
The problem is that often now 

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you're left to deal with the 
feelings and that's foreign for 

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you. 
But God has something to say to 

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us today. 
Look what he says in Hosea 

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10/12. 
He says break up your unplowed 

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ground for it's time to seek the
world. 

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Some of us today have bad 
experiences in our life that 

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have led to A hardness of soul, 
and we put these walls and these

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barriers up so we don't have to 
deal with or feel the emotions 

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that accompany weeping. 
You hear me? 

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And so we won't weep because we 
know it penetrates the wall 

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that's protecting us instead of 
walking into and through the 

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valley that is coming. 
But if we walk through the 

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valley, that's where Wellness 
and healing comes so that we can

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recover and move forward. 
Will you ask the Lord today, 

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what are you planting or what 
are you desiring to plant? 

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In the softened soil of my soul,
if I could just deal with the 

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emotions and maybe even the 
weeping that comes with it so 

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that I can become stronger and 
my roots can be deeper. 

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See, your valley often is for 
you, the valley, the journey is 

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often for you. 
The struggle is to teach. 

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God did not bring on the problem
that you have, but He sure will 

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leverage that and he's going to 
teach you in it. 

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He has something for you. 
Even better, He has something 

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for others, for what's inside of
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This week I talked to a dear 
friend of mine, our next door 

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neighbor when we lived in 
Seabrook, TX and Bobby 

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Wallenta's beautiful wife Lori 
and their kids, just amazing, 

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amazing family. 
The problem is he's full of 

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cancer. 
He's a young man, young kids and

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and he has 15 tumors throughout 
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And there's been times when he 
calls and says, Steve, I need 

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some prayer. 
And we weep together. 

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And that weeping is what joins 
us and allows us to see the 

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realities and the frailty of 
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But you know what's happened in 
his weeping and in his journey 

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of walking through cancer? 
Oh, his children, they're 

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finding the Lord. 
They're journaling, they're 

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going to camp, they're going to 
student ministries, they're 

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learning about Christ. 
See, look, look, look, listen. 

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Because of one man's struggle, 
his family for generation upon 

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generation upon generation 
continued out can change because

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he said my weeping will change 
the way that we face the 

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problems that we have. 
What are you weeping for today? 

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What is it that's causing you 
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What's your valley moment? 
Today? 

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We're going to drill into the 
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Come on, we all have them. 
There's this reprobate heart, 

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this hardened heart, this 
calloused heart meant I'm going 

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to, I'm going to give it to you 
where you can understand it. 

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You know the calluses on your 
hand that you can take a razor 

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knife to and scrape off and not 
feel a thing come on until you 

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cut too deep. 
And when you cut too deep past 

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that callousness, come on, hear 
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You feel it. 
You feel it deeply. 

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That's where we need to go 
today. 

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We need to cut through the 
callousness of your heart so 

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that we can see the value and 
the sensitivity of the the 

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emotion of weeping. 
First, I want you to see that 

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tears are God's release valve. 
It's the release valve. 

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See, you can only carry so much 
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There's there. 
There is a breaking point for 

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all of you. 
You want to tap out, I'm out. 

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I can't do it anymore. 
Often marriages are like, I tap 

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out, I can't do it anymore, I 
want a divorce and we move away.

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If you'd have tapped out a long 
time ago, you could have solved 

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the problem. 
Likely not always, but likely. 

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See, life will throw you 
unexpected hard times. 

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We know this. 
The psalmist writes. 

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Record my misery, list my tears 
on your scroll. 

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Are they not in your record? 
Look, there are going to be 

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things that have happened to you
that are recorded and seared in 

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your mind, and you will not be 
able to unremember, for you 

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won't be able to forget these 
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My counselor often says forgive 
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Heard me say this before. 
Weep over the loss, the grief, 

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the pain, the anguish. 
Listen from pastoral, 

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psychological and sociological 
perspective, people tend to weep

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most often over some common 
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Can we just list today 7 common 
struggles like these are things 

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that often will bring forth 
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First is the loss of a loved 
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If you lose a loved one and 
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concerned for you. 
Don't apologize when you're 

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weeping and you're feeling the 
emotions of loss and grief too. 

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Broken relationships? 
Oh, they're super hard. 

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Cry over these things. 
Personal failure or shame. 

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Maybe you've tried, maybe you 
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That's not the end. 
That's the beginning of what's 

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coming next. 
You've heard my story on WD40. 

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It's not WD one because it took 
other formulas to get to WD40 

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for it was successful. 
Maybe you just haven't found 

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your successful piece yet #4 
injustice or oppression. 

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Maybe you're falsely accused and
it brings forth this anguish 

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inside of you and you just wish 
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about you. 
Deep loneliness, overwhelming 

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stress or burnout. 
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these are all legitimate reasons
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They're very common, and if 
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someone is telling you not to 
weep over things that are very 

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common to weep over, there's an 
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Often you probably ought to weep
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But the reality is, maybe you've
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weep. 
Come on, some dads say, come on,

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son, real men don't cry. 
I'm going to say, real men seek 

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counsel to get over your dad's 
advice, right? 

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Like, because that's not true. 
Jesus wept. 

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And so why are we saying that 
real men don't cry when the real

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man, the man of man's, the Lord 
of Lords, the King of kings, he 

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cried because of our emotions. 
See, weeping releases all sorts 

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of hormones in your body, and 
God designed us to weep in the 

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valleys. 
He also designed us to weep in 

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the mountaintop. 
You ever cried tears of joy? 

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It's so different, but for some 
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We've got to normalize the whole
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I want you to see that that 
there are different things that 

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happen in our body God designed 
based on how you're crying and 

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how you're weeping. 
Sometimes when you cry, it's a 

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stress hormone relief. 
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emotional tears, they contain 
cortisol and 

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adrenocorticotrophic hormones. 
You don't need to write that 

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down. 
Probably can't spell it ACTH if 

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you want to Google it, right. 
These are chemicals related to 

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stress. 
Come on, everybody have a, a 

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good stress cry. 
Like come on. 

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Like, like, yes, this is 
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I don't know what I want to do. 
And you and you cry it out and 

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you weep with somebody or you 
deal with the Lord and you're 

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just weeping through it. 
And all of a sudden you're like,

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I kind of feel better. 
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Because the hormones in your 
body that God designed came only

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after the weeping happened. 
So like, the healing is in the 

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weeping. 
Don't apologize for it today. 

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What about an endorphin boost? 
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of endorphins like your natural 
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The bonding and the comfort. 
Often when you cry together with

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your spouse, come on, there's 
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Look, it's hormone related like 
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That's why often people feel 
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Are there mood changes? 
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You can't figure it out. 
Your wife cries looking for 

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connection. 
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Now she's crying more. 
But the tears, the reason for 

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the tears and what's happening 
inside the body is changing. 

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When Jesus wept, he was 
connecting with people. 

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Maybe, maybe you need to do 
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What about a a nervous system 
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See it it, it activates the 
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It's the, it's the rest and the 
digest mode. 

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It allows your body to digest 
these chemicals and these 

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hormones and this overflow and 
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resetting. 
Come on. 

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Anybody ever cried because of 
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Oh, come on. 
When my gallbladder acted up and

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went to a level 15, right? 
What's your pain on a scale of 1

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to 10, right? 
It's like, give me a drug and I 

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don't care if it's illegal. 
Like I need some pain. 

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Really. 
I'm just weeping in the 

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hospital. 
They give me Dilaudid and I'm 

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still like, oh, this is 
tolerable now. 

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Just weeping over the pain and 
the anguish. 

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My nervous system is in 
OverDrive. 

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It's your body saying something 
is wrong. 

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Like God designed us so that we 
can seek the attention that we 

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need and so the emergency room 
can triage your pain so you can 

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get the treatment that you 
deserve for your body and that 

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you can walk through. 
It's a spider flight mode. 

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And the last one is emotional 
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Those tears you cry can just 
regulate an intense emotion that

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you're having in your body and 
creates a physical alley. 

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Can somebody say menopause? 
If you're old enough to know, 

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you know, if you're young, too 
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It's OK. 
It creates this emotional 

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homeostasis to where it 
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Come on, ladies. 
Come on man, what can we see 

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this valley of weeping? 
I don't know if this is 

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something churches talk about of
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So I have tissues in different 
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That's why I got one in my 
pockets because I never know 

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when the emotions going to come.
And men, I don't want you 

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apologizing for your rawness and
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weeping. 
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you're afraid, maybe things 
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want them to. 
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It's a valley. 
We're going to say in it. 

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We're going to get nourishment 
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go to the mountaintop. 
It's it's a built in stress 

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relief and it flushes these 
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OverDrive in your body and helps
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Maybe what you need is a good 
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Come on, parents, you've seen 
your kids. 

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They make wrong decisions, they 
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weight of it, and then all of a 
sudden they cry and they hug 

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you. 
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like, are you even the same kid?
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And all of a sudden they're fine
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they're happy because they're 
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Parents can hold on to grudges 
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are often like, what? 
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Well, I'll tell you what 
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They just had an emotional 
release and their bodies feel 

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better. 
They feel relieved from the 

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pain. 
They felt the comfort of a hug 

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or an embrace, and they're ready
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Why are we any different? 
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almost like pressure cookers, 
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built up and you have to release
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Some people like to go to the 
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I don't understand that, but 
whatever. 

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Some people like to go on a 
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Some people like to pray. 
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release, right? 
Journal right #2 Tears can 

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become springs of refreshing. 
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The valley always leads to the 
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It goes up. 
It's great news. 

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Some of you today need some 
refreshing. 

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You need the refreshing from the
Lord. 

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I think we all can use 
refreshing. 

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In fact, it's the synonym of 
refreshing is in our mission 

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statement, bringing Jesus to the
highways and hedges to rescue 

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and replenish. 
Replenish, refreshing a lost and

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broken world. 
So we're doing we're going to 

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refresh, we're going to 
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people overcome their emotions 
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they can become closer to Christ
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him. 
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some newness and often times 
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that you need. 
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through what? 
Look at this, the valley of 

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weeping. 
As they press through the valley

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of weeping, they make it a place
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Will your valley of weeping be a
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reconciliation? 
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comes from. 
Leverage the weeping toward 

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refreshing. 
It's OK. 

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It's OK to weep. 
It's OK to come forward and pray

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and have the emotion. 
You don't need to turn around 

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and go back to your seat with 
tears coming down your face like

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something is wrong with you. 
I would rather you looking at 

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the person thinking something's 
wrong with them, something's 

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wrong with you because they're 
having a release. 

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They're they're, they're 
following Christ. 

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They're going to feel better 
while you're sitting in your 

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chair worried about the 
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You're in the wrong place for 
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Will you help replenish someone 
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Bones? 
Come on. 

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Last week we talked about this. 
Often it just needs some 

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nourishment, and often it comes 
through weeping. 

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Maybe you're missing somebody 
today. 

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Maybe there's somebody that 
you're like, I just missed that 

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person. 
Could be through death, could be

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through relocation, could be an 
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I got Stacey and I, we've moved 
every two to four years for 25 

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years of my military career. 
There's people we miss. 

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There's some we hugged and cried
and say see you later. 

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We got to roll. 
Who are you missing? 

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Look what Second Timothy 14 
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I long to see you again, for I 
remember your tears as we 

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parted. 
And I will be filled with joy 

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when we are together again. 
Let this be an indicator of 

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reconciliation both here on 
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Are you missing a friend? 
You missing somebody that's 

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moved? 
A Co worker that took another 

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job? 
You missing them? 

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What about someone who's left 
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Missing them is their grief. 
Let the Lord work in that and 

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let Him work through that 
because reconciliation is 

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coming. 
It's time for the tears to 

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refresh your memory of what used
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now become something fresh and 
new. 

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We're in a season of newness in 
our worship as we sing songs. 

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We we felt this morning 
something fresh and something 

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new and something different. 
Like the God won't always take 

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you back to where you were, but 
he's going to make it better. 

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In my experience, I, I, I never 
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was. 
I always dream about what can 

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be, and we move toward that. 
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valley of weeping and #3 I think
the most valuable is that God 

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turns weeping into joy. 
And that is such a beautiful 

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place to be. 
Aren't you glad the Valley of 

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Weeping is not the end of the 
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It's like now that you're in 
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anguish and the feeling and the 
chemical and the emotion that's 

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going on in your body is where 
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No, because that turns into joy.
God knew we would weep before we

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were born. 
He knew what she would cry 

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about. 
He knew that you were going to 

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have moments in your life that 
brought you tears. 

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The Bible says in heaven, 
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It'll only be rejoicing. 
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with this. 
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us hope. 
He gives us hope on the other 

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side of our anguish. 
The psalmist writes in chapter 

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30 and verse 5. 
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the night. 
Come on. 

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But joy comes with the morning. 
Sometimes you just need to sleep

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on it. 
Like joy is there you ever had 

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an issue or a problem that was 
worth weeping over in the 

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evening And then you woke up in 
the morning like I don't feel so

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bad anymore. 
Or you are are you go through 

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the process and over time, all 
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I, I think I'm going to be OK 
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Because the Valley of Weeping is
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That's not where we stay. 
God never designed us to stay 

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there. 
The the sad thing for me is that

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some of you decide to wallow in 
the Valley of weeping and you 

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stay there and you've developed 
this negative Nelly that just 

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puts you back into the valley. 
And you start getting too much 

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altitude and you start coming 
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anxiety or your fear or your 
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And you have got to go back into
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And so you create this perpetual
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I'll never measure up. 
I'll never be able to get out of

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this valley. 
My life is because of Mama says 

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shame and guilt are overflowing 
you. 

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The reality is God says, can we 
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And can you feel different about
what's coming? 

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See, when I enter a season of 
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the fact that joy awaits. 
I'm I'm ready for it. 

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It's time to get up. 
It's time to stand up. 

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It's time to expect joy to come.
It's time to expect this 

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freshness, this newness. 
It's like it's, it's like 

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keeping an eye out for the 
Bucky's. 

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Come on, somebody, you've been 
holding it for so long and 

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you're feeling the pain, right? 
And then all of a sudden that 

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clean toilet and the lights are 
shining and you're trying to 

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fight your way through those gas
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You know when everybody fills up
their pumps and then they leave 

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their car to walk? 
Come on, go park your car after 

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you get gas so I can get through
because come on, I've been 

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waiting for this. 
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Come on. 
The joy of a clean toilet and 

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places where they shouldn't be. 
I mean, you're like Hallelujah, 

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praise the Lord. 
Amen. 

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I'll go one way, Stacy goes the 
other way. 

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I say text me when you're ready.
I know it's a little bit weird, 

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probably TMI, but most of the 
time that's what pain is. 

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You don't want anybody to know. 
You just want to recover. 

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Romans 817 through 18. 
It's one of Romans 8. 

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It's one of my favorite chapters
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As if indeed we share in 
sufferings with Him in order 

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that we may also share in His 
glory. 

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I consider that, look, our 
present sufferings are not worth

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comparing with the glory that 
will be revealed in US. 

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Friends, good news, Christ is 
coming. 

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Good news, He's not leaving you 
in your valley. 

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Good news, joy comes in the 
morning. 

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See, Paul is saying to the Roman
Empire, a city filled with power

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and wealth and idolatry and 
persecution, much like modern 

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day America. 
Can you see it? 

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He is saying that if we'll press
through the anguish that there 

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is a day and time coming that 
will be revealed in Christ and 

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made whole and made right, and 
it'll be so joyous. 

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The earthly memories will be 
gone and we'll only see the good

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news. 
Christians, you will suffer, you

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will weep. 
Sad things will happen and tears

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will flow. 
I say let it roll, baby. 

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Work it out. 
Go to the prayer with the Lord. 

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Go to the Lord in prayer. 
I have that moment. 

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That's tough. 
Phone a friend. 

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I need 8 minutes. 
We need to talk, I need to 

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recover. 
Why? 

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Because joy is coming in the 
morning. 

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Knowing that joy is promised 
gives me purpose in the valley, 

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gives me hope for tomorrow. 
It allows me to press in and do 

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the hard work. 
Friends, keep walking through 

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the valley. 
Keep walking through the valley 

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of sorrow and sadness. 
Walk through the shame. 

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Let it go. 
Feel the emotions. 

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Some of you may need to go home 
today and have just some real 

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emotional conversations with 
your family and say we're going 

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to leave it here. 
Call a family meeting if you 

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need to, but it ends today 
because we're going to walk in 

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joy. 
We're going to forgive, we're 

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going to remove the burdens of 
the past, we're going to clean 

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slate, we're going to easy 
button this issue, and we're 

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going to start living like the 
Lord is inside of us today. 

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And if we need to weep, let's 
weep. 

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Why? 
Because healing, physical 

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healing comes in the weeping 
Lord. 

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Today I ask that you allow us to
have safe places in our church, 

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in our home, in our communities 
where it's OK to weep. 

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Lord, when we can't handle the 
burden alone, when you put other

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people in our lives to help us 
walk through the trials and 

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tribulations, there's plenty to 
weep about. 

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It's a twisted world we're 
living in. 

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But God, I'm so grateful that we
have the example of your Son, 

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Jesus Christ, who came on this 
earth and before he rose 

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Lazarus, he wept. 
He knew joy was coming, but he 

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was in the moment and he felt 
what others were feeling and he 

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wept. 
And so, God, can you allow us to

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see that this valley of weeping 
will lead us to joy in the 

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morning. 
In Jesus mighty name we pray. 

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Amen.