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Hi, I'm Diane Groussel and I'm 
also known as Silver 

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Disobedience. 
And today the topic for this 

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podcast is how do you decide 
what's most important to you? 

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We all get so many opportunities
with people, work situations, 

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things we might want. 
How do we decide what's most 

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important to each of us 
individually? 

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To start this topic, I want to 
start off with the fact that 

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some things really do matter. 
Things like illness and death, 

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well, those are really big 
matters. 

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Having an income matters, and 
it's very stressful when money 

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seems to be going and flowing in
the wrong direction. 

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But other than these kind of 
things, nothing else really 

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matters. 
And again, before we get into 

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deciding how to determine what 
you think is important, let's 

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just keep going in the topic of 
what's not important. 

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What you neglected to say 
yesterday, or what you did say, 

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How you acted or didn't? 
What you wore. 

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That expression on someone 
else's face. 

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That prize, That job. 
That comment, whether you wore 

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makeup or no makeup. 
Bad hair days. 

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No hair days. 
That parking spot that somebody 

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just took. 
The rude person who didn't let 

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you in when you were driving or 
hold the door. 

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Stepping in. 
Dog poop. 

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Pigeon poop in your hair That 
happens to me. 

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Coughing without covering your 
mouth. 

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Cold callers when you run to the
phone. 

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Poor customer service. 
Slow Internet connections. 

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Annoying people shouting into 
their phones. 

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Celebrity dramas. 
People reading over your 

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shoulder when you're riding on 
the bus or train. 

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Sycophants. 
Complainers stepping on chewing 

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gum. 
Feeling bloated. 

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Extra 5 lbs. 
Delays in traffic. 

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Late trains. 
Airline cancellations. 

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People who don't answer your 
calls. 

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Junk mail. 
Broken dishwashers. 

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Unflushed toilets. 
Politicians. 

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Paper cuts. 
Bad parkers. 

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Acronym text messages that need 
a dictionary to try to figure 

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out what the heck the person's 
trying to tell us. 

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Long waits of traffic lights. 
Slow closing doors, uncut lawns.

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Grocery store lines when you 
only need one thing. 

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Christmas lights in March. 
Weathermen who are right only 

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50% of the time. 
The speed police, Burnt toast, 

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pimples and wrinkles at the same
time? 

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Well, that all doesn't matter. 
As long as you're healthy and 

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alive, that's what matters. 
So how can you really decide 

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what does truly matter to you? 
After all, what matters is a 

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deeply personal and 
introspective process. 

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Here are some steps that might 
help you on this self discovery 

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journey. 
One reflection. 

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If you want to figure out what's
important to you, you have to 

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take some time for introspection
and self reflection. 

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I do this by just setting aside 
some quiet moments where you can

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contemplate thoughts, emotions, 
and experiences. 

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This way you can consider your 
values, your beliefs, and also 

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take a good look at your 
aspirations and how real they 

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are to you and how much you're 
willing to work for them. 

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What brings you joy and 
fulfillment? 

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What makes you feel alive and 
purposeful? 

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Step 2 gets down to 
prioritizing. 

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If you want to know what matters
to you most, make a list of the 

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things, the people, and the 
activity that currently occupy 

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your time and attention. 
Evaluate each of them, every 

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single item on the list, and 
then assess its significance in 

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your life. 
Consider the impact each thing 

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on your list has on your 
well-being, your personal 

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growth, and your long term 
goals. 

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Identify the items that align 
with your values and have a 

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positive influence on your life.
So for example, if I was looking

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at a list and I said, well, I 
spend this much time watching 

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television and hardly any time 
seeing friends, I might want to 

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look at that list and say, how 
can I reprioritize? 

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Because when you look at your 
day and we all only get 24 

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hours, no matter how much it 
seems that other people get so 

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much more done in a day, and 
they do because they prioritize.

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The number three would be to 
really think about 

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experimenting. 
Engage in a variety of 

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experiences so you can explore 
different areas of interest. 

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One of the ways you can you need
to to to determine things that 

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are important to you and where 
your priorities are. 

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You have to have tested a lot of
different things. 

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You might think something you 
know that you like reading, but 

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maybe you've never tried drawing
or dancing or playing. 

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Pickleball is you try new 
things. 

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You will find your uncovering 
hidden passions and discover 

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aspects of yourself that you 
might not have even been aware 

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of. 
By experimenting, risking trying

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new things, you'll gain new 
insight into what resonates with

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you on a much deeper level. #4 
is you really have to clarify 

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your core values. 
To clarify, core values means 

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you spend time reflecting on the
principles and ideals that guide

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your life. 
What principles do you consider 

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non negotiable? 
Like for example a good night's 

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sleep to me is non negotiable. 
I will cut out things to make 

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sure I get a good night's sleep.
What principles do you consider 

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non negotiable? 
What values do you hold dear? 

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Is it important for you to go to
you? 

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You know you're a House of 
worship once a week, or is that 

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not important? 
Only you can discover what your 

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values are and prioritize them. 
And identifying your core 

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values? 
Well, that helps you develop a 

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solid foundation for the 
decision making that you'll want

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to do to align your actions with
what truly matters for you 5 is 

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assessing your relationships. 
You really want to evaluate your

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relationships and the people in 
your life. 

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You want to consider the impact 
they have on your well-being in 

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your personal growth. 
You want to surround yourself 

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with people who support and 
inspire you and those who share 

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your values and inspirations. 
And when you think about 

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prioritizing in the 
relationships in your life, I 

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want to just give you a thought 
to consider. 

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A lot of people get involved in 
relationships that become 

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marriages and they stop 
prioritizing each other. 

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And that is often a reflection 
that people make on their 

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deathbeds. 
They say I wish I told the 

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person I was with that I love 
them more, that I spent more 

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time with them, that I let them 
know they were important to me. 

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So prioritizing the people in 
your life and really thinking 

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about who you want to spend most
time with is an important thing 

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to do. 
That will help you determine 

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what is most important to you 
and how you decide to spend your

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time. 
Number six would be to embrace 

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your authenticity. 
To do this, you really have to 

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be true to yourself, and that 
includes resisting the pressure 

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to conform to societal 
expectations or others, people's

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definition of what matters. 
Only you can embrace your 

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authentic self, and I really 
hate the word authentic. 

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It's so overused. 
But only you can embrace what's 

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really important to you, and you
will know it's important when 

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you find your focus goes in that
direction of what genuinely 

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resonates with you rather than 
chasing external validation or 

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approval. 
So when something's important to

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you, you're not worried about 
who approves of it. 

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You just do it and you make time
for it. 

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Seven is re evaluate how you're 
spending your time regularly. 

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You know you have to remember 
that your priorities are your 

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priorities, and what matters to 
you may revolve may evolve over 

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time. 
Life is dynamic. 

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It's always changing. 
There's always things going on, 

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and it's important to 
periodically assess what your 

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values and principles are so you
can ensure they align with 

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whatever self you are evolving. 
Ultimately, discovering what 

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truly matters to you is an 
ongoing process. 

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It's personal and it takes work.
It requires self reflection, 

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introspection and a willingness 
to constantly explore and 

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experiment. 
You have to be real patient with

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yourself and trust the time and 
a self-awareness. 

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Through those you will gain 
clarity about what holds genuine

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significance in your life. 
And like I said at the beginning

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of this, with that whole long 
list of annoying things, they 

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don't matter. 
They're passing fleeting 

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moments. 
What matters is what you decide 

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is important to you and what you
hold on to. 

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Hold dear to and commit to doing
regularly, often whenever you 

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can, for the greatest 
fulfillment in your life. 

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I'm Diane Grisel. 
I'm also known as Silver 

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Disobedience. 
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