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Hey there. 
I'm Diane Griselle, also known 

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as Silver Disobedience. 
Welcome to my podcast. 

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So today I want to talk about 
the idea of living a normal 

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life. 
You know, there was time, I'm 

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sure for a lot of us that we 
were so excited about the 

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craziness of life. 
And then in some ways we craved 

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what we thought was going to be 
normal. 

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But is there such a thing? 
Let's dive into this for a 

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couple of minutes. 
No, for much of my life, if I 

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was ever asked how's it going, 
my rote response was always the 

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same. 
My go to answer was fine, 

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everything's fine. 
Why did I say it was fine? 

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Certainly things sometimes were 
fine and at other times they 

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certainly weren't. 
But either way, my answer was 

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fine, everything's fine, it's 
all good, how about you? 

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The reason I did this in my 
younger days was because I 

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thought complaining was a weak 
and ugly trait. 

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That's number 12, which is 
probably the bigger one. 

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I was so afraid to admit that 
anything in my life might be 

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anything other than fine, 
because on some way I thought 

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this reflected on me failing. 
You see, the problem with 

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insisting on what we think is 
normality or that all is fine at

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all times when it might actually
be quite otherwise in the 

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moment, is that somehow deep 
down we're feeling very 

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dissatisfied with accepting life
as it is in the particular 

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moment, which is problem full. 
Because problems happen and they

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happen to everyone's lives. 
Don't let social media fully on 

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that. 
Believe me. 

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Everyone's got some problems 
happening, you know, And I think

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the most important thing is to 
realize that having problems, 

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which is quite normal and 
probably the most normal thing 

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about a normal life, is that we 
all have problems. 

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Having problems doesn't mean 
that we're weak, unlucky, less 

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than, or otherwise inadequate 
compared to others. 

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If you believe others to be 
problem free, it's probably 

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because you're comparing your 
inner feelings to the facade of 

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normality that we also often try
to present. 

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And this is really important 
because, you know, I think one 

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of the biggest downsides of 
social media is everybody looks 

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so happy all the time. 
Sometimes I just want to post 

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the pictures, you know, when 
you're like me because that's 

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how you feel and you have those 
moments. 

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And it would help us all if we 
saw a little more of that. 

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But again, everybody wants to 
believe that everyone else's 

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life is going so great, so 
therefore mine must be going 

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great. 
Or if it isn't going great, I 

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can't let anybody know. 
So in reality, let's get back to

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reality here. 
Because believing that you 

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should never have a problem, or 
worse, that your problems are 

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always a sign of weakness. 
Wow, that's painful. 

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That's really painfully 
isolating. 

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That's a terrible thing to do to
yourself. 

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And why is it extra terrible? 
Because you can't really have 

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any conversations in depth if 
you're afraid to acknowledge 

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that sometimes, hey, life bites.
It just bites. 

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Sometimes it bites hard. 
But here it is. 

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It is what it is, and it isn't 
always fine. 

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In fact, sometimes life can be 
immensely painful. 

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So at those times when life is 
normal, which actually means 

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full of trials and challenges, 
here's the good part. 

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It's those trials and challenges
that are part of normal everyday

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life that hold the potential for
us to reach new understandings 

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of our personal capabilities. 
We can embrace these personal 

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challenges and during along the 
way, we can also embrace others 

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and ask for their support. 
This isn't week, it's how humans

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actually show their strength and
fortitude for living. 

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I'm Diane Grisell, this is the 
silver Despedience podcast. 

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I want to thank you very much 
for tuning in and I really hope 

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you hit the subscribe button and
come back for more.