1 00:00:01,100 --> 00:00:05,100 Hey there, I'm Diane Gusto. Welcome to the silver spleen, 2 00:00:05,100 --> 00:00:09,900 Ian's podcast, excuse me, today. I want to talk about 3 00:00:09,900 --> 00:00:12,800 friendships, you know. There are many types of 4 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:15,900 friendships that people can experience and they're all 5 00:00:15,900 --> 00:00:20,000 important at all very relevant to a well live life, you know, 6 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:23,300 first off their acquaintances. You know, these are the people, 7 00:00:23,300 --> 00:00:26,200 you know, but you don't want necessarily close with. 8 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:29,400 Maybe you see him at the coffee shop occasionally, and you have 9 00:00:29,400 --> 00:00:33,000 a little friendly conversation? Station but you don't usually go 10 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:35,300 very deep. It's more like a polite 11 00:00:35,300 --> 00:00:38,600 acknowledgment of each other then there are the Casual 12 00:00:38,600 --> 00:00:40,100 friends. Maybe these are the people you 13 00:00:40,100 --> 00:00:43,500 see more regularly than the acquaintances and maybe have a 14 00:00:43,500 --> 00:00:46,300 bit more in common with them you know kind of like the person you 15 00:00:46,300 --> 00:00:50,100 might take a yoga class with or go cycling with maybe you don't 16 00:00:50,100 --> 00:00:54,300 confide in them much or with each other and you don't spend 17 00:00:54,300 --> 00:00:58,100 too much time together out of those specific contexts. 18 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:02,200 Then you are your close friends, you know, these are the people 19 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:05,800 with whom, you have a deeper connection, you share personal 20 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:08,400 information, you confide in each other. 21 00:01:08,600 --> 00:01:13,200 You spend time together outside of specific context just because 22 00:01:13,200 --> 00:01:17,000 you want to get together, maybe have a long history or you've 23 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:19,600 gone through significant life events together. 24 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:23,400 Then of course, there are the best friends, you know, these 25 00:01:23,400 --> 00:01:27,300 are the people, you have an, especially strong bond with you 26 00:01:27,300 --> 00:01:32,400 may consider them like family or their your ride and died, buddy, 27 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:36,100 you share a lot in common. You support each other through 28 00:01:36,100 --> 00:01:38,800 thick. And thin then, of course, these 29 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:41,700 days we have online friends. These are the people you meet 30 00:01:41,700 --> 00:01:46,400 and interact with solely online. Now, you probably share a lot of 31 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:49,100 interests, or, maybe hobbies and you communicate with them 32 00:01:49,100 --> 00:01:51,800 through social media. Tia forms or other digital 33 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:55,400 platforms. Then there are work friends. 34 00:01:55,800 --> 00:01:58,900 These are the people that you mainly interact with in a work 35 00:01:58,900 --> 00:02:01,500 setting. You may share professional 36 00:02:01,500 --> 00:02:06,100 interests or goals and have a good working relationship. 37 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:10,600 But you may not necessarily spend a lot of time outside of 38 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:15,200 work with these people. You know, some friends are exit 39 00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:18,200 aleksel and confidence. They listened carefully and 40 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:22,000 offer comfort as we deal with our problems and just the 41 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:25,900 day-to-day aspects of Life. Some of our friends offer 42 00:02:25,900 --> 00:02:28,800 concrete and practical help. Like those are the ones who will 43 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:32,000 help us the car, breaks down, or maybe Cooks a meal, when we're 44 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:35,500 not feeling ill or picks up the kids and drives them to wherever 45 00:02:35,500 --> 00:02:37,700 they need to go. You know, when we're on 46 00:02:37,700 --> 00:02:42,200 available, Some friends. Well, they offer distractions 47 00:02:42,400 --> 00:02:46,100 when we need, these are the ones that might call. 48 00:02:46,100 --> 00:02:48,100 Or meet us just to make us laugh. 49 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:52,200 They give us perspective. What we might not have it in our 50 00:02:52,200 --> 00:02:57,600 sights very clearly. Sometimes we put a lot of 51 00:02:57,600 --> 00:03:02,300 pressure on our friendships. We think in terms of one size 52 00:03:02,300 --> 00:03:08,100 fits all, you know, when in fact that puts pressure on ourselves, 53 00:03:08,100 --> 00:03:10,600 it puts pressure on the relationship, you know? 54 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:13,900 It's hard, but we have to remember that while we're living 55 00:03:13,900 --> 00:03:17,000 our lives and going through all kinds of challenges. 56 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:23,400 So are our friends. So if we can remember, What are 57 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:26,100 friends do? What they do offer when they can 58 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:28,900 were less likely to feel disappointed? 59 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:33,300 When it feels like, they haven't fulfilled our expectations of 60 00:03:33,300 --> 00:03:36,000 the friendship or whatever we needed in the moment. 61 00:03:37,100 --> 00:03:41,600 Friends, come in all forms, and if you have one or two that are 62 00:03:41,600 --> 00:03:45,700 actually fulfilling all your wishes to consider yourself, 63 00:03:45,700 --> 00:03:49,300 exceptionally lucky because it's far away wiser to create a 64 00:03:49,300 --> 00:03:52,800 collective of friends in understand that all are coping 65 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:56,800 with life, just like you are doing, this will help you 66 00:03:56,800 --> 00:04:00,600 appreciate everyone's strengths and generosity when offered 67 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:03,500 thanks for joining me. I'm Diane Rasel. 68 00:04:03,700 --> 00:04:05,700 Also, known as silver disappearance, and this is the 69 00:04:05,700 --> 00:04:07,200 silver to speed and spot. Yes.