Hey there, I'm Diane Grisel. And I'm here today with
Charlotte ribbon and this is the silver to speed Ian's podcast.
Let me just start off by saying, silver Disobedience.
Has nothing to do with age. I want to really clarify that.
It's about taking personal responsibility for our choices
and actions and not blaming anybody else.
And owning that we can be the best we can.
We can be all that we want to be at any stage if we commit to
making the choices in that direction.
So with that, as a slight overview, today, we're going to
talk about a question that we've been thrown quite a few times is
halfway houses socialize. Yes.
Have we lost our ability to socialize?
What is going on? You know, a lot of people.
Well, we have a couple of really A crappy years there and we'll
just leave it at that. I don't even like to use the
words or reference them in any way, but Things have gotten off
track with how people socialize. They feel like they're losing
their skills to get out and say hi.
What do you think's going on there?
I mean, I know I've lost mine and I think it's also I think
it's also the motivation behind that.
I think motivation is a huge Factor.
You know, if you can do everything from home, look at
all these jobs people or seem to be wanting that they can just I
work from home and not going to the office anymore.
Personally, I don't understand that.
Well you and I both know that we love coming into work.
Yeah, even if I have a long commute, which I, which I do
often I enjoy the process of that and also being in a
workspace. Yes, I think there are so much
lost. I really, I really worried for,
especially the younger people who believe they can build a
career without ever going into the office.
I know that's the trend right now.
And, you know, maybe I'm Little old.
You know, I won't I won't question that you know, maybe
I'm a little outdated but I don't think so.
You don't have employed, I don't even know, 200, 300 people in my
lifetime and there's it's an intangible to meet people.
You're working with one-on-one regularly.
Everything I think also the energy exchange is really
important especially in everyday life and something.
I know that I've lost besides Is the motivation is really getting
inspired by different people and different opinions and being
okay with having that and being okay, with agreeing to disagree
or, you know, I don't know, I think, I think that's okay.
And I think with all the online dating and all the texting and
dming, and social media, I feel like people socialize in a
different way. Now, You know, going out to
dinner with someone is quite outlandish.
Whereas I know back in the day that was, you know, we did I
mean people get together for coffee and drinks but I don't
think they're longer than an hour or so.
You know I'm used to spending hours upon hours with my people
with my friends and I think that's something that is.
So it'll all relevant point and you know what?
And it dinner doesn't have to be expensive when I first moved to
the city and this is really dating myself but it was Back in
the 80s. I used to have throw dinner
parties and tell everybody to bring something.
I mean, I used to when I did the first ones, I would make a
couple of like tea sandwiches and say, come for tea
sandwiches. Yeah.
And I've done picnics in Central Park, when I was a dancer with
little to no money, we'd all just pitch in with Trader.
Joe's. And we don't just have picnics
in the park in the summer. I definitely feel like that is
lost or we're old. So how do we get it back?
How do we Bring back that socializing Mojo.
That makes you want to get out and meet people and makes you
feel comfortable with it. So I guess I can tell you
firsthand. Yeah, be okay with asking
someone out. No, no, I'm not a girl.
Not or anything. That's how Diane and I met.
I asked her a true he did. Do you want to get coffee?
You want to hang out with you? I think you like me.
Let's say, I think it's totally okay with approaching other
people as well and if they're worried about it, that's cool.
It's true, that's cool. You know, it doesn't make any
difference with someone else's reaction to is it is you know
your Outreach your attempt to connect and communicate.
What's important is that you try Because unless you do try to
have no idea what could happen. And as Charlotte said, it's
funny we did, we were both invited separately to a charity
event to cover it as media personalities and we receive at
the In table and Charlotte kind of popped in like a world.
Winning popped out on her bicycle, with her bicycle helmet
on. And if I didn't between there,
there was like, she seems cool I guess she thought I was okay.
And we, you know, connected, we exchanged numbers and we decided
to get together and we add a cup of coffee and which is always a
safe way to start that first meeting.
Because if it's not like a connection, yeah, you can get up
and walk away but it's so, So important to plan the second one
or you know, a time when you know you don't have to leave in
15 minutes or 30 minutes where you can have that extended time
together, don't you think? Yeah, yeah, I do.
I think keeping also the conversation open ended and one
of the possibilities and yes, we might not have time right now,
but maybe we can take time to be together in the summer, or, I
don't know. I know people travel a lot.
I know everyone's working at home.
I know everybody's always online.
Line, but I think that's, that's what's wrong with the world,
that's what gets depression. That's what gets us stuck in our
ways. I think I seriously believe that
if I hadn't had asked you out, I would be at a loss right now.
And just, and if I hadn't said yes, we even though I thought
wait a second, she's got to be at least 30 years younger than
me. Why is she?
You know, she It's a moment that I'm so glad happened.
Yeah and it's one moment one moment and it's saying yes to
the moment as it arises just being willing to say, I'm going
to try that. And I think that's how to start
socializing. It's that simple just get out
there and just don't be afraid to all somebody out because if
you said no you said no. He said no, I've survived bigger
words than know. Okay, so get out there.
Well, thanks for joining us. I'm Diane we're cell.
I'm Charlotte region. And this is the silver to speed
against podcast. And I think that's how to start
socializing. It's that simple just get out
there and just don't be afraid to all somebody out because if
you said no you said no. He said no, I've survived bigger
words than know. Okay, so get out there.
Well, thanks for joining us. I'm Diane we're cell.
I'm Charlotte region. And this is the silver to speed
against podcast.