Today, I want to talk to you about why you might want to
subscribe to the silver Disobedience podcast.
No matter how old we are today, we've never been this age
before. So what does it mean?
Throughout life when we're told at your age, how are we supposed
to act with each year? Do we cross some kind of
invisible threshold and if so does that mean we're supposed to
change our style and maybe dress differently?
And if that's the case, what does it look like every year?
Does it keep changing? You know, do the rules change,
if we have children and what if we never have children?
What does this mean? Would we never act our age then?
And if the day is declared, when all the sudden were supposed to
act our age, what are the behaviors were supposed to
tweak? Are the changes mandatory are
there penalties for? Non-compliance is somebody
watching? Who's the judge?
You see it seems to me throughout our lives.
We're either told to act our age or we spend all our time
worrying about becoming our age you know what's up with these
cultural issues regarding age and aging Why don't we just
relax? Welcome and embrace the benefits
of the years. We've lived no matter how young
or old we are. You know, I think the bigger
challenge is learning how to communicate through each stage
of our lives, and that's what I focus on.
You see, as a business woman, a wife, a mom and author who
didn't become a who actually became a silver model in my 50s,
you know? No, I've always challenged life
and I've never been easily contented.
I've lived with a ferocious curiosity and a hunger for
knowledge, and it really deep desire to try to understand
human connections starting with myself.
And trust me, I'm a whirlwind to try to figure out but I started
with me and that's really what I write about.
Because all of, you know, our understandings start with
ourselves and it was with this understanding and idea that all
the things that I dealt with my whole life, resulted in a life
full of experiences, and created my personality and made me who I
am. So, in light of all this, I
wrote my first silver Disobedience blog back in
November of 2017. And in it, I began questioning
Learning a whole range of societal beliefs about aging,
you know, and especially Life After 50 but not just life after
Fifty because for example you know that whole you know you're
too old to know what you're talking about or you're too
young to know what's happening is constant and you can flip it
either way. You could be too young to know
what's happening or too old to know what's happening.
It's all it, every age, we're learning, we're knowing, and
every age is relevant, and brings new new information to
any conversation. So it's all important every age.
But, you know, let's get back to.
Why do people dislike the idea of getting older?
I mean, I know 17 year olds that have Peter.
Pan complex has already, they're very worried about getting older
because there were afraid of all the responsibilities.
They're told it's going to come with.
And that's True. There are a lot of
responsibilities with age but let's look at a thesaurus that
probably really dates me and I guess they have online thesaurus
is too but you know, the synonyms for old are ancient
decrepit. Tired, fossil broken down
dilapidated, enfeebled exhausted, you know, Antiquated,
archaic and geriatric. You know, I don't know about you
but those words don't describe feelings about myself or really
any of the others. I know that are in the later
half of their 50s or Beyond, you know, into their 80s and 90s,
you know, I don't think they were, you know, really reflect
us at all. In fact, to the contrary, it's
the antonyms of old that I hear most commonly referenced.
So for me, I look at every Year of life is a new period.
You know, with an unanticipated excitement I just want some of
the tools to know how to deal with all the people.
I'm going to be encountering with all the emotions on going
to be having to deal with and process.
That's what I really want. I want to be able to process
perceptions that I'm picking up all day long, and know that each
of my cumulative years, just like yours.
Every one of Since the day, we've been born the day, we're
all born, you know, becomes a catalyst for us to release
energy and it allows us to Blossom in new and really
unexpected anticipated ways. You know, everywhere Year we're
growing into new versions of ourselves, you know.
And in some, you know, there was a great David Bowie quote that
where he said, you know, we're really just peeling back the
layers and becoming who we were always supposed to be, you know,
we were born with that attitude. We strutted in her diapers and
thought we were ER, all that, you know, but we lose that over
the years, through the socialization process, which is
something I talk about in this blog because socialization is
important, but it does have both positive and negative impacts on
everybody. So to me, I want to talk about
shedding shedding the standards that no longer have meaning for
us, really focusing on Ourselves first, you know, our wants our
needs and desires because when we focus on ourselves we can
really then see other so much more clearly and help them and
be good, friends and lovers. And, you know, husbands and
wives and boyfriends and girlfriends.
And we can be all that as they say, but it starts with really
understanding ourselves. So I will say, you know, aging
isn't easy. I'm not going to tell everyone
that you all of a sudden starts have a love fest with your
wrinkles or scars that we picked up along the way, you know, nor
am I going to not going to tell you that there aren't personal
Health financial, and all kinds of other challenges that
accompany every years, we age. But now having read hundreds of
thousands of comments from the people who have read, My posts.
And I mean, they are truly heartfelt and they warm my
heart. I firmly can declare that most
of us have lived long enough to get wrinkles one way or another
or at least some scarves. And we recognize it could have
been far worse to not have had the opportunity to get those
wrinkles or the scars that life delivered.
The majority of us look at life as we're honored and happy to be
alive. All of this plus countless
additional conversations and observations constructed.
The fundamental idea upon which I built silver to Speedy ins and
maybe it perhaps it's that Aging in essence is the evolving
process of getting to know ourselves more deeply and with
greater Rifts acceptance over time.
So that evolving process of getting to know ourselves more
deeply and with greater acceptance over time.
That's the goal of my podcast. My books, my daily blogs and
it's remain constant. I try to impart practical
relatable challenging thoughts, once that I'm usually
challenging myself with, but I just share them with you all for
your thoughts and musings and ideas.
So we can all explore our connectedness and release many
of the feelings of aloneness the loneliness that we grapple with
to one degree or another throughout our lives, because we
think others can't possibly be thinking or worrying about the
same stuff we are when they sure R.
So self are tackling this silver Disobedience Journey.
Well it's been a dream. It's been a dream beyond my
wildest imaginations and it's really thanks to the willingness
of hundreds of thousands of people I know some, as young as
age, 13, right up to 103 who participate in my daily
conversations that I have on my website, social media accounts,
and Via this podcast. So I really want to thank thank
you for joining me. I hope you subscribe again.
I'm Diane gracel, and I'm also known as silver Disobedience.
And this is the silver to speed Ian's podcast.