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Today, I want to talk to you 
about why you might want to 

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subscribe to the silver 
Disobedience podcast. 

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No matter how old we are today, 
we've never been this age 

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before. 
So what does it mean? 

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Throughout life when we're told 
at your age, how are we supposed

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to act with each year? 
Do we cross some kind of 

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invisible threshold and if so 
does that mean we're supposed to

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change our style and maybe dress
differently? 

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And if that's the case, what 
does it look like every year? 

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Does it keep changing? 
You know, do the rules change, 

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if we have children and what if 
we never have children? 

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What does this mean? 
Would we never act our age then?

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And if the day is declared, when
all the sudden were supposed to 

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act our age, what are the 
behaviors were supposed to 

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tweak? 
Are the changes mandatory are 

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there penalties for? 
Non-compliance is somebody 

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watching? 
Who's the judge? 

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You see it seems to me 
throughout our lives. 

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We're either told to act our age
or we spend all our time 

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worrying about becoming our age 
you know what's up with these 

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cultural issues regarding age 
and aging Why don't we just 

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relax? 
Welcome and embrace the benefits

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of the years. 
We've lived no matter how young 

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or old we are. 
You know, I think the bigger 

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challenge is learning how to 
communicate through each stage 

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of our lives, and that's what I 
focus on. 

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You see, as a business woman, a 
wife, a mom and author who 

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didn't become a who actually 
became a silver model in my 50s,

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you know? 
No, I've always challenged life 

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and I've never been easily 
contented. 

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I've lived with a ferocious 
curiosity and a hunger for 

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knowledge, and it really deep 
desire to try to understand 

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human connections starting with 
myself. 

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And trust me, I'm a whirlwind to
try to figure out but I started 

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with me and that's really what I
write about. 

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Because all of, you know, our 
understandings start with 

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ourselves and it was with this 
understanding and idea that all 

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the things that I dealt with my 
whole life, resulted in a life 

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full of experiences, and created
my personality and made me who I

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am. 
So, in light of all this, I 

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wrote my first silver 
Disobedience blog back in 

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November of 2017. 
And in it, I began questioning 

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Learning a whole range of 
societal beliefs about aging, 

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you know, and especially Life 
After 50 but not just life after

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Fifty because for example you 
know that whole you know you're 

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too old to know what you're 
talking about or you're too 

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young to know what's happening 
is constant and you can flip it 

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either way. 
You could be too young to know 

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what's happening or too old to 
know what's happening. 

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It's all it, every age, we're 
learning, we're knowing, and 

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every age is relevant, and 
brings new new information to 

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any conversation. 
So it's all important every age.

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But, you know, let's get back 
to. 

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Why do people dislike the idea 
of getting older? 

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I mean, I know 17 year olds that
have Peter. 

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Pan complex has already, they're
very worried about getting older

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because there were afraid of all
the responsibilities. 

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They're told it's going to come 
with. 

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And that's True. 
There are a lot of 

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responsibilities with age but 
let's look at a thesaurus that 

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probably really dates me and I 
guess they have online thesaurus

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is too but you know, the 
synonyms for old are ancient 

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decrepit. 
Tired, fossil broken down 

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dilapidated, enfeebled 
exhausted, you know, Antiquated,

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archaic and geriatric. 
You know, I don't know about you

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but those words don't describe 
feelings about myself or really 

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any of the others. 
I know that are in the later 

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half of their 50s or Beyond, you
know, into their 80s and 90s, 

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you know, I don't think they 
were, you know, really reflect 

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us at all. 
In fact, to the contrary, it's 

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the antonyms of old that I hear 
most commonly referenced. 

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So for me, I look at every Year 
of life is a new period. 

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You know, with an unanticipated 
excitement I just want some of 

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the tools to know how to deal 
with all the people. 

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I'm going to be encountering 
with all the emotions on going 

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to be having to deal with and 
process. 

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That's what I really want. 
I want to be able to process 

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perceptions that I'm picking up 
all day long, and know that each

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of my cumulative years, just 
like yours. 

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Every one of Since the day, 
we've been born the day, we're 

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all born, you know, becomes a 
catalyst for us to release 

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energy and it allows us to 
Blossom in new and really 

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unexpected anticipated ways. 
You know, everywhere Year we're 

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growing into new versions of 
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And in some, you know, there was
a great David Bowie quote that 

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where he said, you know, we're 
really just peeling back the 

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layers and becoming who we were 
always supposed to be, you know,

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we were born with that attitude.
We strutted in her diapers and 

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thought we were ER, all that, 
you know, but we lose that over 

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the years, through the 
socialization process, which is 

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something I talk about in this 
blog because socialization is 

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important, but it does have both
positive and negative impacts on

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everybody. 
So to me, I want to talk about 

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shedding shedding the standards 
that no longer have meaning for 

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us, really focusing on Ourselves
first, you know, our wants our 

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needs and desires because when 
we focus on ourselves we can 

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really then see other so much 
more clearly and help them and 

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be good, friends and lovers. 
And, you know, husbands and 

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wives and boyfriends and 
girlfriends. 

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And we can be all that as they 
say, but it starts with really 

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understanding ourselves. 
So I will say, you know, aging 

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isn't easy. 
I'm not going to tell everyone 

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that you all of a sudden starts 
have a love fest with your 

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wrinkles or scars that we picked
up along the way, you know, nor 

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am I going to not going to tell 
you that there aren't personal 

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Health financial, and all kinds 
of other challenges that 

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accompany every years, we age. 
But now having read hundreds of 

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thousands of comments from the 
people who have read, My posts. 

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And I mean, they are truly 
heartfelt and they warm my 

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heart. 
I firmly can declare that most 

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of us have lived long enough to 
get wrinkles one way or another 

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or at least some scarves. 
And we recognize it could have 

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been far worse to not have had 
the opportunity to get those 

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wrinkles or the scars that life 
delivered. 

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The majority of us look at life 
as we're honored and happy to be

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alive. 
All of this plus countless 

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additional conversations and 
observations constructed. 

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The fundamental idea upon which 
I built silver to Speedy ins and

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maybe it perhaps it's that Aging
in essence is the evolving 

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process of getting to know 
ourselves more deeply and with 

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greater Rifts acceptance over 
time. 

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So that evolving process of 
getting to know ourselves more 

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deeply and with greater 
acceptance over time. 

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That's the goal of my podcast. 
My books, my daily blogs and 

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it's remain constant. 
I try to impart practical 

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relatable challenging thoughts, 
once that I'm usually 

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challenging myself with, but I 
just share them with you all for

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your thoughts and musings and 
ideas. 

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So we can all explore our 
connectedness and release many 

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of the feelings of aloneness the
loneliness that we grapple with 

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to one degree or another 
throughout our lives, because we

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think others can't possibly be 
thinking or worrying about the 

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same stuff we are when they sure
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So self are tackling this silver
Disobedience Journey. 

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Well it's been a dream. 
It's been a dream beyond my 

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wildest imaginations and it's 
really thanks to the willingness

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of hundreds of thousands of 
people I know some, as young as 

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age, 13, right up to 103 who 
participate in my daily 

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conversations that I have on my 
website, social media accounts, 

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and Via this podcast. 
So I really want to thank thank 

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you for joining me. 
I hope you subscribe again. 

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I'm Diane gracel, and I'm also 
known as silver Disobedience. 

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And this is the silver to speed 
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