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Hi, I'm Diane Groussell, and I'm
also known as Silver 

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Disobedience. 
I'm a perception analyst and a 

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hypnotherapist, and I'm the 
president of my company, DGI, 

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and I share all kinds of ideas 
on how you can also live a 

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better life. 
Today I want to talk about how 

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to become a calm presence and a 
conscious participant in life 

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and whatever else you're doing 
in life. 

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A good goal is to become a calm 
presence and a conscious 

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participant in all interactions 
and situations. 

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Now, I'm not going to tell you 
it's easy, but it is doable. 

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So to become a calm presence 
means that we have to possess a 

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state of inner tranquility. 
We have to hold our composure, 

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keep it together, especially in 
challenging or stressful 

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situations. 
So this involves maintaining our

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emotional stability and our 
serenity no matter what's 

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happening, and choosing to not 
react while interacting with 

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others or navigating through any
of life's challenges and 

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circumstances that come at us at
all times from all directions. 

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So being a calm presence is a 
really worthy goal because it 

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can positively influence not 
just yourself but all those 

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around you, as it creates an 
atmosphere of reassurance and 

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stability, and that makes you a 
better leader, communicator and 

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groovier person to hang with. 
Being a conscious participant, 

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that requires that you're going 
to have to be actively engaging 

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in situations, conversations or 
activities. 

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But we have to do this with 
awareness and intention. 

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Intentionality always a word. 
I have a struggle with 

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intentionality. 
This means we have to be fully 

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present, present in the moment. 
We're paying attention to 

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details. 
We're demonstrating our active 

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involvement rather than merely 
going through the motions. 

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Sorry to tell you. 
It probably means putting your 

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cell phone down in your purse, 
in your briefcase, in another 

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room so you're not distracted. 
Because distracted people are 

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not conscious participants. 
Conscious participants are 

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mindful of their actions, their 
choices, and they recognize the 

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impact that they can have on 
themselves and others. 

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And it's a wonderful impact you 
can have when you are a 

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conscious participant. 
Combining these two qualities, 

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being a calm presence, the voice
of reason, and a conscious 

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participant who's fully in the 
moment, well, that means you're 

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being both emotionally composed 
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So this involves approaching 
life with a sense of 

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mindfulness, awareness, and 
thoughtful responsiveness. 

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By embodying these qualities 
personally and professionally at

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home, with friends, family, or 
at work, we build healthier 

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relationships in all aspects of 
our lives, making more informed 

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decisions along the way and 
contributing to a more positive 

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and harmonious environment 
whichever environment we're in. 

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So next, I'd like to share 7 
easy tips. 

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And again, I'm Diane Grisel. 
I'm also known as Silver 

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Dispedience. 
I'm a perception analyst. 

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I'm a hypnotherapist. 
And I've been a I am Aceo of 

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president of a communications 
company. 

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I help people understand the 
gaps in their perceptions. 

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So next what I want to talk 
about is how can you do it 

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yourself? 
OK, how can you develop a calm 

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presence in challenging 
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This can be cultivated. 
It's done through practice and 

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the adoption of certain 
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And once you know those 
strategies, you can start to use

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those techniques to develop your
own calm presence. 

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Here's the first one. 
When you're facing a challenging

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situation, you got to start by 
taking slow, deep breaths. 

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I say this all the time, but we 
all walk around as shallow 

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breathers and there's not a 
single person, if you just say 

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stop and take a deep breath, 
that a zillion things going on 

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in the body and there are a 
zillion things going on in your 

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body at all times that either 
make you feel stressed or 

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relaxed. 
Your that deep breath activates 

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your relaxation response and 
this instantly helps you 

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regulate emotions and reduce 
stress. 

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So the minute you're confronted 
with a stressful situation and 

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you think you're going to lose, 
lose it or you've got to just 

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stop and breathe consciously. 
Say I'm just. 

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I just got to take a breathing 
break a minute and even 3 

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breaths will change you if you 
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You're talking about sometimes 
and a complete attitude shift 

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#2. 
You've got to learn and practice

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mindfulness techniques to train 
your mind to stay present and 

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focused. 
I'm a big believer in breathing.

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If you go onto my website, 
dianegrissel.com in the Silver 

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Dispedience column, you will see
plenty of ideas. 

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In my blogs, I'm always offering
suggestions. 

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Just search mindfulness and 
you'll find all kinds of ways 

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that you can be strengthening 
your approach to life. 

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See now. 
Right now I hear that phone 

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ringing, but I am ignoring it. 
And I hope you can too, because 

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the goal here is to strengthen 
your presence. 

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Remain calm and centered in the 
face of challenges, 

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distractions, disruptions that 
are going to constantly happen 

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throughout our lives at all 
times #3 develop self-awareness.

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You do this by paying attention 
to your thoughts, emotions, 

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physical sensations that all 
come up in challenging 

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situations. 
The more we can recognize 

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patterns of of, let's say, the 
patterns of our reactions or the

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triggers that lead to our sense 
of heightened stress or anxiety,

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the better we become with 
getting closer to our inner 

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calm. 
Because you can become aware and

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with awareness, you can 
consciously choose more calm, 

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positive responses. 
And let me tell you, your 

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response, whether you want to 
own it or not, is a choice. 

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OK, It is a choice because you 
are in charge of what's going on

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in this space above your 
shoulders. 

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OK, This is your space to 
control and you can with 

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practice. 
I'm not telling and I never use 

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the word easy because these 
things aren't easy. 

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They take practice, and 
sometimes it's two steps forward

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and one step back. 
But you can train your brain to 

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reframe, and that's going to 
bring us to #4, which is 

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training yourself to reframe 
challenging situations in a more

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positive or balanced light. 
The tendency is to 

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catastrophize. 
I love that word catastrophize, 

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so I'm saying it twice, 
catastrophize or dwelling in the

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negatives. 
Instead of catastrophizing, try 

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to find potential opportunities,
lessons, alternative viewpoints 

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that can bring a sense of calm 
and clarity to you and 

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ultimately, possibly those 
around you. #5 Prepare for 

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challenging situations. 
You might have to gather 

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information, develop necessary 
skills, and rehearse beforehand.

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The more prepared you feel, the 
more confident and calm you will

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be. 
When facing challenges, which 

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are inevitable because life is a
perseverance and challenge test 

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number six, Prioritize self-care
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There are things you can do that
will help you recharge. 

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Taking care of your physical and
emotional well-being contributes

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to an overall sense of calm and 
resilience. 

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This could be how you eat, 
whether you go to the gym, 

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whether you take time to take a 
walk, whether you spend some 

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time in nature, whether you get 
together with friends and 

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instead of you know, going 
straight down to bang down the 

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cocktails you need for tea. 
It could be anything where you 

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are doing things that take care 
of your physical and emotional 

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well-being. 
Always when you do this, it will

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contribute to your overall sense
of calm and more importantly 

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your resilience. 
That says I can handle this and 

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I can do it again and again, #7 
would be cultivate empathy and 

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compassion. 
This is really important. 

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Empathy and compassion for 
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This means acknowledging pain 
and that we might not get it all

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right the first time, but if you
approach challenging situations 

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with understanding and kindness,
it really helps diffuse tension 

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and creates a more harmonious 
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Now this is not saying with 
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empathetic and still say this 
situation's not for me. 

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There are situations that you 
should remove yourself from 

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where you can be empathetic, but
you don't have to stand there 

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and be the whipping post. 
So you have to determine these 

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things, but you can still be 
empathetic. 

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You can listen, You can give an 
ear and have your own boundaries

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that protect your own mental 
health as well. 

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Developing a calm presence, 
well, it takes some time and 

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practice, so we all have to be 
patient with ourselves. 

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We have to celebrate the small 
victories that we'll have along 

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the way because we will have 
them. 

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Like I said, sometimes it's one 
step, 2 steps forward, one step 

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back, sometimes it's two steps 
back and we feel like we're 

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right where we started. 
But we can keep moving forward 

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with practice and a commitment 
to be better people. 

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Over time, these strategies can 
become more natural. 

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They will become more natural. 
They'll kind of become second 

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nature. 
And people will say, wow, you 

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just seem so much cooler these 
days. 

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They'll be like, yeah, seems 
that way. 

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How cool is that? 
You can cultivate a greater 

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sense of calm in challenging 
situations. 

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My bet's on you. 
I'm Diane Groussell. 

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I'm also known as Silver 
Disobedience. 

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I am a perception analyst. 
I'm a hypnotherapist. 

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I work with companies and 
individuals to help them better 

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understand where there are 
disconnects and what they 

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believe and what others might 
believe and those disconnects 

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and how they impact our personal
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