Hey there. I'm Diane Gorsel, also known as
Silver Disobedience. Welcome to my podcast.
So today I want to talk about the idea of living a normal
life. You know, there was time, I'm
sure, for a lot of us that we were so excited about the
craziness of life. And then in some ways we craved
what we thought was going to be normal.
But is there such a thing? Let's dive into this for a
couple of minutes. No, for much of my life, if I
was ever asked how's it going? My rope response was always the
same. My go to answer was fine.
Everything's fine. Why did I say it was fine?
Certainly, things sometimes were fine, and at other times they
certainly weren't. But either way, my answer was
fine. Everything's fine.
It's all good. How about you?
The reason I did this in my younger days was because I
thought complaining was a weak and ugly traitor.
That's number one. Two, which is probably the
bigger one. I was so afraid to admit that
anything in my life might be anything other than fine,
because in some way I thought this reflected on me failing.
You see, the problem with insisting on what we think is
normality, or that all is fine at all times when it might
actually be quite otherwise in the moment, is that somehow,
deep down we're feeling very dissatisfied with accepting life
as it is in the particular moment, which is problem full,
because problems happen and they happen to everyone's lives.
Don't let social media fully on that, believe me, Everyone's got
some problems happening, you know?
And I think the most important thing is to realize that having
problems, which is quite normal. And probably the most normal
thing about a normal life is that we all have problems.
Having problems doesn't mean that we're weak, unlucky, less
than, or otherwise inadequate compared to others.
If you believe others to be problem free, it's probably
because you're comparing your inner feelings to the facade of
normality that we all so often try to present.
And this is really important because, you know, I think one
of the biggest downsides of social media is everybody looks
so happy all the time. Sometimes I just want to post
the pictures, you know, when you're like me, because that's
how you feel and you have those moments.
And it would help us all if we saw a little more of that.
But again, everybody wants to believe that everyone else's
life is going so great, So therefore mine must be going
great. Or if it isn't going great, I
can't let anybody know. So in reality, let's get back to
reality here. Because believing that you
should never have a problem, or worse, that your problems are
always a sign of weakness. Wow, that's painful.
That's really, painfully isolating.
That's a terrible thing to do to yourself.
And why is it extra terrible? Because you can't really have
any conversations in depth if you're afraid to acknowledge
that sometimes, hey, life bites, it just bites, Sometimes it
bites hard. But here it is.
It is what it is, and it isn't always fine.
In fact, sometimes life can be immensely painful.
So at those times when life is normal, which actually means
full of trials and challenges. Here's the good part.
It's those trials and challenges that are part of normal everyday
life that hold the potential for us to reach new understandings
of our personal capabilities. We can embrace these personal
challenges. And during along the way, we can
also embrace others and ask for their support.
This isn't weak. It's how humans actually show
their strength and fortitude for living.
I'm Diane Grissel. This is the Silver Dispedience
Podcast. I want to thank you very much
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