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Hey there. 
I'm Diane Gorsel, also known as 

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Silver Disobedience. 
Welcome to my podcast. 

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So today I want to talk about 
the idea of living a normal 

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life. 
You know, there was time, I'm 

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sure, for a lot of us that we 
were so excited about the 

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craziness of life. 
And then in some ways we craved 

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what we thought was going to be 
normal. 

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But is there such a thing? 
Let's dive into this for a 

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couple of minutes. 
No, for much of my life, if I 

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was ever asked how's it going? 
My rope response was always the 

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same. 
My go to answer was fine. 

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Everything's fine. 
Why did I say it was fine? 

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Certainly, things sometimes were
fine, and at other times they 

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certainly weren't. 
But either way, my answer was 

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fine. 
Everything's fine. 

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It's all good. 
How about you? 

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The reason I did this in my 
younger days was because I 

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thought complaining was a weak 
and ugly traitor. 

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That's number one. 
Two, which is probably the 

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bigger one. 
I was so afraid to admit that 

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anything in my life might be 
anything other than fine, 

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because in some way I thought 
this reflected on me failing. 

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You see, the problem with 
insisting on what we think is 

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normality, or that all is fine 
at all times when it might 

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actually be quite otherwise in 
the moment, is that somehow, 

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deep down we're feeling very 
dissatisfied with accepting life

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as it is in the particular 
moment, which is problem full, 

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because problems happen and they
happen to everyone's lives. 

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Don't let social media fully on 
that, believe me, Everyone's got

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some problems happening, you 
know? 

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And I think the most important 
thing is to realize that having 

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problems, which is quite normal.
And probably the most normal 

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thing about a normal life is 
that we all have problems. 

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Having problems doesn't mean 
that we're weak, unlucky, less 

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than, or otherwise inadequate 
compared to others. 

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If you believe others to be 
problem free, it's probably 

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because you're comparing your 
inner feelings to the facade of 

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normality that we all so often 
try to present. 

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And this is really important 
because, you know, I think one 

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of the biggest downsides of 
social media is everybody looks 

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so happy all the time. 
Sometimes I just want to post 

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the pictures, you know, when 
you're like me, because that's 

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how you feel and you have those 
moments. 

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And it would help us all if we 
saw a little more of that. 

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But again, everybody wants to 
believe that everyone else's 

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life is going so great, So 
therefore mine must be going 

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great. 
Or if it isn't going great, I 

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can't let anybody know. 
So in reality, let's get back to

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reality here. 
Because believing that you 

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should never have a problem, or 
worse, that your problems are 

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always a sign of weakness. 
Wow, that's painful. 

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That's really, painfully 
isolating. 

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That's a terrible thing to do to
yourself. 

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And why is it extra terrible? 
Because you can't really have 

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any conversations in depth if 
you're afraid to acknowledge 

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that sometimes, hey, life bites,
it just bites, Sometimes it 

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bites hard. 
But here it is. 

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It is what it is, and it isn't 
always fine. 

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In fact, sometimes life can be 
immensely painful. 

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So at those times when life is 
normal, which actually means 

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full of trials and challenges. 
Here's the good part. 

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It's those trials and challenges
that are part of normal everyday

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life that hold the potential for
us to reach new understandings 

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of our personal capabilities. 
We can embrace these personal 

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challenges. 
And during along the way, we can

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also embrace others and ask for 
their support. 

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This isn't weak. 
It's how humans actually show 

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their strength and fortitude for
living. 

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I'm Diane Grissel. 
This is the Silver Dispedience 

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Podcast. 
I want to thank you very much 

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for tuning in and I really hope 
you hit the subscribe button and

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come back for more. 
And you can always go to my 

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website Silver Disobedience Stop
Rocks, where there is daily 

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inspiration in the written form 
and some few amusing pictures 

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that I keep there for 
placeholders. 

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So thank you again. 
Please subscribe again the 

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Silver Dispedience podcast. 
Diane Grissel is me. 

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Take care.