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Hi. 
I'm Diane gracel also known as 

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silver to Speedy. 
Its welcome to the silver to 

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speed Ian's podcast. 
I'm testing out some new 

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technology today so I hope you 
can bear with me. 

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I just want to start off by 
saying that it's not easy today,

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we're going to be talking about 
trust and the fact that it's not

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easy to trust that things will 
work out the way we hope they 

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might, you know, life regularly 
tests are beliefs in ourselves 

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and the bigger master Lan. 
So if you're currently 

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struggling with trust in any 
way, whether trust in yourself 

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others situations or anything 
else, maybe some of these ideas 

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will help your faith. 
They do help me what I need to 

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regroup, so maybe you two want 
to give them a try. 

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So first, I want you to think 
about taking the practice of 

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being mindful seriously. 
So what does that mean? 

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It means simply stop. 
Like really stopping and taking 

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a few deep breaths. 
So you can see if you can get 

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yourself re grounded in the 
moment. 

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And when we do this, it really 
helps to reduce anxiety about 

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what might be happening in the 
future. 

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So we could try to do this 
together right now. 

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So what you do is you simply 
just stop wherever you are 

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unless you're driving a car and 
nobody wants to get rear-ended 

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but just stop. 
Take a deep breath. 

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And then let it out through your
mouth. 

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And even just doing one of 
those, I know you noticed the 

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change, it does to your whole 
physical being. 

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It changes your Your breathing 
your mental state just by going 

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in through your mouth. 
Any excuse me that was in 

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through your nose and out 
through your mouth just give it 

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a few tries and see how you 
feel. 

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Another thing is, when negative 
thoughts arrive, I want you to 

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try to reframe them in a more 
positive light. 

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So, for example, instead of 
thinking this is never going to 

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work out for me, try thinking I 
don't know how this is going to 

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work out, but I trust that it 
will you know, something like 

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that something so simple. 
Can reframe your thinking and 

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your sense of trust in how the 
world and your life specifically

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is unfolding. 
A next one is instead of 

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worrying about all the things 
that are out of your control in 

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your life. 
Take a moment to think about 

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what you can control. 
So for example, when you have a 

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moment, grab a pen and a paper 
and write out what you can 

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control, so what can you 
control? 

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You can control who you speak. 
With the today, you can control 

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whether you get up and show up, 
you can control what you eat, 

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whether you drink enough water 
throughout the day. 

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There's a zillion things you can
control and taking the time to 

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make a list of what is within 
your control, especially things 

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that That move your life 
forward, positively can really 

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help you feel more in control. 
Of your life, even if there are 

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still factors, you can't 
control. 

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Another thing to think about is 
drawn, your past successes. 

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So, here's something I know 
about you and I say this 

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regularly even though maybe 
we've never met in person and 

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that is, you have succeeded in 
every challenge life has thrown 

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at you today. 
If you didn't, you wouldn't be 

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here listening to my podcast or 
maybe even watching it. 

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So I want you to draw on your 
Past successes by recalling. 

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The times things did work out 
for you and maybe they even 

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worked out. 
Well, remind yourself in detail,

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how you were able to overcome 
past challenges? 

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Because remembering wins that 
you've had in your life, can 

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help rebuild confidence 
regarding your ability to 

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handle, whatever difficult 
situation, you might be facing 

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now. 
Another thing is find those 

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friends or people that you can 
trust, you know, whether it's a 

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friend, a family member, a 
therapist, you know, you need to

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be able to talk about your fears
and concerns. 

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You know, sometimes we think 
that our thoughts running around

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in our head or these very real 
things, the fact is they are 

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just thoughts. 
They become actions, they become

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real when we put them into 
actions but talking About our 

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thoughts. 
You know, we all worry about 

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what's going on in our heads. 
I mean, I'd hate to be judged 

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for what goes on in my head and 
it, you know, I've heard that 

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you have forty thousand thoughts
a day. 

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Well, sometimes I think I double
or triple that so don't worry 

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about what's in your head but it
is good to get it out and talk 

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to someone to you that you can 
feel safe and secure with 

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support systems can help you 
feel less alone, more confident 

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and more confident in your 
ability to handle whatever 

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challenges you're facing. 
Another one is talk to God, you 

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know, God's a controversial 
subject these days. 

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I'm not exactly sure why. 
But I do believe there's some 

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Force, whether you want to call 
it nature, your higher power. 

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God, you're not alone. 
So no that you can ask for 

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strength. 
When you feel that you are going

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it alone, there's other forces 
that can help you get through 

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it. 
And lastly, did I happen to 

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mention take a deep breath. 
That's one of my favorites. 

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Let's stop and take a deep 
breath. 

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Know that you can feel better by
doing those simple actions. 

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Give them a try. 
I'm Diane gracel. 

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I'm also known as silver to 
Speedy and sand. 

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This is the silver two stadiums 
podcast. 

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