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Hi, I'm Diane Groussell and I'm 
also known as Silver 

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Dispedience. 
Welcome to the Silver 

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Dispedience Podcast. 
Today I want to talk to you 

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about envy, and I'm going to 
address my necklace at the end 

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of this podcast. 
Back in my early 20s, in a 

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conversation with a wise friend 
who's 20 years my senior, I 

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started whining about the life I
didn't have. 

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When I finished, she patiently 
pointed out that envy and 

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jealousy weren't my most 
attractive traits. 

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Then she said Diane, if everyone
in the world put all their 

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troubles in their own suitcase, 
and then they had the 

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opportunity to throw their 
suitcase into the street to grab

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a different one. 
Once all those suitcases started

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popping open from the impact of 
being thrown into that street, 

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we'd all run back as fast as we 
possibly could to grab our 

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original problems back filled in
that suitcase. 

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All these years later, I'm still
not immune to envy, and I'm not 

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sure I'd believe anyone who said
they were. 

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There will likely always be 
something we see that we want, 

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that we imagine that we covet or
dream about, but somebody else 

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seems to have. 
In fact, social media will 

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guarantee this. 
But when I find envy really 

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creeping into my heart, I try to
flip it and see it as an impetus

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to kick start a new plan of 
action. 

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You see, I look at it now as if 
if someone has something that I 

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think I want, I should be 
celebrating. 

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Seeing what another has means 
that whatever it is that I think

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I want, if I'm alive it might be
possible. 

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We both have the same 24 hours 
in a day, so maybe what they 

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have that I want is attainable 
for me as well with a little 

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effort. 
So instead of wasting the time 

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being envious, I try to 
determine what is the pathway 

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I'll need to take to get it. 
But frankly, sometimes if I'm 

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really honest with myself, I 
think about the effort that will

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be necessary to accomplish or 
achieve what I think and see 

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another has accomplished and 
achieved. 

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Sometimes the attraction fades 
because I realize while it might

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be nice, maybe it's not so 
important to me because I'm not 

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prepared to invest the time and 
commitment to make that 

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possible. 
So honesty during moments of 

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envy is very important. 
Steve Jobs had far less time on 

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earth than many of us had to 
date, including me. 

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He died younger than I am during
his earthly visit. 

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He made apple products must 
haves for many. 

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I know I use a lot of them. 
He made gazillions in the 

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process, for himself and for 
other people. 

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Do I envy all that wealth? 
No, not at all. 

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You know, money. 
Having money is better than no 

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money. 
But I'm still alive and full of 

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possibilities. 
So are you. 

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And he's not. 
Unhappiness comes from 

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undervaluing what we have right 
now, this moment, while 

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overvaluing what we think others
have. 

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And sometimes that's because 
we're comparing our insides to 

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what we're seeing on their 
outsides, which, again, it's 

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very easy to have happen with 
social media. 

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But as Thomas Brown said, let 
age, not envy, draw wrinkles on 

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nice skin and cheeks. 
So let me talk about my 

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necklace, because if you want to
expand and think a little bit 

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more about this topic of envy, I
want to tell you very briefly. 

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My favorite book on the topic is
the necklace. 

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It's actually a short story by 
Guille de Molpeson, and you can 

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find it probably online or in a 
bookstore. 

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But it's called the Necklace and
it's about two women and a 

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necklace that's made of. 
Well, I'm not going to tell you 

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what it's made of, but I highly 
recommend you read the book if 

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you want to think a little bit 
more about envy and why. 

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Maybe there's a reason. 
It's one of the seven sins. 

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I'm Diane Grussell. 
I'm also known as Silver 

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Disobedience, and I want to 
thank you for stopping in to 

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listen to this podcast. 
Please subscribe. 

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You can also find me at Silver 
Disobedience dot Rocks my 

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website which has inspirational 
content on a daily new every 

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day. 
Thanks again. 

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Bye bye. 
See you soon.