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Hi, I'm Diane Grissel and today 
I'm going to read to you an 

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excerpt from my book The Silver 
Dispedians Playbook. 

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I hope you enjoy it. 
I want to read about reactions. 

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The dictionary defines reaction 
as one an action performed or a 

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feeling experienced in response 
to a situation or an event or 2A

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Person's ability to respond 
physically and mentally to 

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external stimuli 3. 
An adverse psychological 

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response to a substance that has
been breathed in, ingested, or 

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touched. 
Overall, in daily life, I define

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most of my reactions as mental 
re actions. 

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So read that kind of like a 
mental repeat. 

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A reaction is nor often that 
we're reenacting something in 

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our minds. 
Somehow, when I react to people 

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or circumstances, I realize I've
mentally stepped out of the 

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present moment. 
I've moved into my immense 

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headcase filing system. 
Yes, head case, pun intended, 

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and I pulled out some old files 
in nanoseconds. 

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The result is that I'm trying to
connect unrelated memories or 

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feelings about a past moment to 
the present situation. 

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So instead of staying present 
and assessing the current 

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circumstance or person, in my 
mind I'm reacting some other 

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moment and trying to tie it to 
the present one that I'm in now.

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I'm in a state of recall and 
response since this current 

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moment has never happened to any
of us before, whether alone or 

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with others. 
Unless it is one where we are in

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danger, which is rarely the 
case, we don't want to be 

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reacting. 
We want to be wholly present to 

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the individual and the moment at
hand. 

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Not reacting or repeating an 
action in our memory and drawing

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that into the present moment, 
not reacting is the only way we 

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can really see and try to 
understand another person or 

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live fully. 
Now, I'm not telling you I have 

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this down because again, these 
are my meditations and This is 

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why I write. 
This is my book, Silver 

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Dispedians Playbook. 
I'm Diane Grissel. 

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Thanks for tuning in.