Hi, welcome to the Silver Dispedience Podcast.
I'm Diane Gorsel and today I'm going to talk about the power of
creating new friendships at any and every age.
You know, Do you remember when you were a child and you'd meet
other kids and you'd play with them and instantly feel like you
had a new best friend? It wasn't the length of time
that established those friendships.
It was the connection, the energy that you both felt on
meeting and starting to play together that created that magic
and created those magical memories, you know?
Sadly, as our teen years started to descend on us, friendships
well, they became more complicated.
Gossip entered the picture. Later, when we started to date,
relationships became even more puzzling because we tried to
find that partner who would love us for who we were.
In many ways, that is a giant compromise because we're all
unique and we all have different sets of experiences that have
combined to merge the nature and nurture aspects of our complex
personalities. Sometimes for sure, Oh my gosh,
doesn't it all just seem too difficult to relate and try to
connect, you know? Here's an example.
You know, so many people would describe me as outgoing, but I
remember breaking into hives at the night of my 20th year high
school reunion I bought. It was in June and I bought a
turtleneck as AB Plan outfit because I was so worried what
might happen when I walked in that room.
Yet to my amazement, it turned out to be completely
comfortable. It was so relaxing and mellow
and what a fun evening. In fact, everyone seemed to have
mellowed. The conversations were easy and
kind, and as they've reflected on this, I've observed that age
has somehow enabled me, and likely you too, to make new
friendships. If you're open to them, that
resemble those spontaneous friendships.
When we were kids, I connect more easily.
Now the conversations seem to reach a deeper level, much
faster. It's almost sometimes as if I've
known the person for years. You know, gone are the days of
worrying about every single word you know.
This has been replaced with a new sense of valuing
collaborations and a greater appreciation of the wisdom and
the experience that others can bring to my life.
It's marvelous to be at a stage of life where we can be attuned.
We can embrace the connectedness, the oneness that
we can have with others. Time.
We're very attuned to it as we get older, but it starts to
lose, lose its impact in some ways, and love can start to rule
the day. Meeting new people at midlife or
any age, any age we're at, can be a rewarding and fulfilling
experience. So here are some ideas for the
best ways to meet people at any stage of life.
You know, once you're out of, let's say, high school or
college or situations where you are, you know, constantly being
introduced to new people. If you have to go out of your
ways, here are some things to do #1 is pursue your interests.
Start there. You want to engage in activities
and hobbies that you enjoy. Maybe it's a club, taking a
class, participating in some community organization.
If you do that, you will naturally come into, you know,
come into contact and be connecting with like minded
people who share your passions. So right there, you'll already
have a connection. Another thing is you've got to
try to get more social. You've got to try to attend some
social events. Look for events or gatherings
within your community meetings, meet ups, parties, local
networking events, Things that you may be your Community Center
or church or synagogue. Wherever you go, these provide
opportunities for you to meet new people and expand your
networking circle and social circle 3A.
Really good one is volunteer. Find a 'cause that you are
passionate about and volunteer. Look for one that resonates with
what's important. This allows you not only to
contribute to your community, but it also provides a chance
for you to meet others who share your values and interests. #4
could be online communities. You can explore platforms that
you know are for other people within your age range.
There are all kinds of websites and forums where you can connect
with individuals that are a similar stage of life and have
similar interests to you and share common experiences.
And then you can decide, you know, if you want those to be
local networks you get involved with, or if you find enough
connection, you know in that digital way.
Another thing #5, would be taking classes or workshops.
If you sign up for classes or workshops that interest you, it
could be anything. There are so many good to think
classes. There's art, there's cooking,
there's taking a fitness Class, A dance class, maybe a personal
development Class, A hypnosis session.
Something where you some kind of an adult education where you can
develop camaraderie 'cause that's what these foster.
They foster a sense of camaraderie with other people
who are also looking for opportunities to grow, learn,
meet and connect. Six is join support groups.
You know, a lot of people hit an event or a situation in life
where you really need support. It could be that you've decided
not to drink, that you've decided alcohol isn't
constructive in your life. It could be that someone's died
in your life. That's very important to you.
It could be that you're grieving for any number of reasons.
Well, during these phases it's really a great idea to consider
getting involved with a support group.
These groups offer a safe under and an understanding environment
because you are immediately with others that have gone through a
similar experience and are facing similar challenges.
They might not be exactly the same, but you're going to have a
lot of things in common with people you meet in support
groups #7 could be try a professional networking meeting.
Whether you are looking to restart a career or expand your
career, get more involved in your career.
Learn more about your career. There are always networking
opportunities within communities where you can expand your
professional network by attending industry conferences,
seminars, or networking events. Any of these gatherings gives
you give you opportunities to meet new people in your field or
maybe even explore a different career path that you didn't
consider. #8 could be travel or group tours.
So you might want to consider getting involved with a group
tour and sharing travel experiences with others that are
also around your age and interested in meeting and
connecting. And travel tours don't need to
be expensive. I mean, right at the corner, you
know where I am. People hop on a bus and go to,
you know, another city for the day.
And so it doesn't have to be a plane trip, it doesn't have to
be a cruise. But those could be really great
depending on your budget. And during these, go with the
idea that you're going to speak to people and connect so you can
go to new destinations while meeting fellow travellers who
might become your new lifelong friends, making meaningful
connections, building new relationships.
It's going to take some time and effort, but you can be open, you
can choose to be approachable, you can be willing to initiate
conversations. So don't be afraid to step out
of your comfort zone. Embrace new experiences and with
patience and persistence. Before you know it, you'll have
an opportunities to meet interesting individuals and
develop some rewarding relationships.
And when you do, please make sure you let me know how those
are going. I'd love to hear all about it.
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