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Hi, welcome to the Silver 
Dispedience Podcast. 

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I'm Diane Gorsel and today I'm 
going to talk about the power of

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creating new friendships at any 
and every age. 

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You know, Do you remember when 
you were a child and you'd meet 

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other kids and you'd play with 
them and instantly feel like you

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had a new best friend? 
It wasn't the length of time 

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that established those 
friendships. 

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It was the connection, the 
energy that you both felt on 

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meeting and starting to play 
together that created that magic

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and created those magical 
memories, you know? 

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Sadly, as our teen years started
to descend on us, friendships 

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well, they became more 
complicated. 

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Gossip entered the picture. 
Later, when we started to date, 

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relationships became even more 
puzzling because we tried to 

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find that partner who would love
us for who we were. 

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In many ways, that is a giant 
compromise because we're all 

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unique and we all have different
sets of experiences that have 

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combined to merge the nature and
nurture aspects of our complex 

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personalities. 
Sometimes for sure, Oh my gosh, 

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doesn't it all just seem too 
difficult to relate and try to 

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connect, you know? 
Here's an example. 

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You know, so many people would 
describe me as outgoing, but I 

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remember breaking into hives at 
the night of my 20th year high 

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school reunion I bought. 
It was in June and I bought a 

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turtleneck as AB Plan outfit 
because I was so worried what 

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might happen when I walked in 
that room. 

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Yet to my amazement, it turned 
out to be completely 

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comfortable. 
It was so relaxing and mellow 

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and what a fun evening. 
In fact, everyone seemed to have

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mellowed. 
The conversations were easy and 

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kind, and as they've reflected 
on this, I've observed that age 

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has somehow enabled me, and 
likely you too, to make new 

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friendships. 
If you're open to them, that 

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resemble those spontaneous 
friendships. 

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When we were kids, I connect 
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Now the conversations seem to 
reach a deeper level, much 

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faster. 
It's almost sometimes as if I've

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known the person for years. 
You know, gone are the days of 

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worrying about every single word
you know. 

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This has been replaced with a 
new sense of valuing 

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collaborations and a greater 
appreciation of the wisdom and 

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the experience that others can 
bring to my life. 

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It's marvelous to be at a stage 
of life where we can be attuned.

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We can embrace the 
connectedness, the oneness that 

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we can have with others. 
Time. 

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We're very attuned to it as we 
get older, but it starts to 

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lose, lose its impact in some 
ways, and love can start to rule

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the day. 
Meeting new people at midlife or

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any age, any age we're at, can 
be a rewarding and fulfilling 

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experience. 
So here are some ideas for the 

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best ways to meet people at any 
stage of life. 

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You know, once you're out of, 
let's say, high school or 

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college or situations where you 
are, you know, constantly being 

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introduced to new people. 
If you have to go out of your 

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ways, here are some things to do
#1 is pursue your interests. 

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Start there. 
You want to engage in activities

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and hobbies that you enjoy. 
Maybe it's a club, taking a 

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class, participating in some 
community organization. 

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If you do that, you will 
naturally come into, you know, 

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come into contact and be 
connecting with like minded 

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people who share your passions. 
So right there, you'll already 

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have a connection. 
Another thing is you've got to 

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try to get more social. 
You've got to try to attend some

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social events. 
Look for events or gatherings 

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within your community meetings, 
meet ups, parties, local 

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networking events, Things that 
you may be your Community Center

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or church or synagogue. 
Wherever you go, these provide 

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opportunities for you to meet 
new people and expand your 

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networking circle and social 
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Really good one is volunteer. 
Find a 'cause that you are 

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passionate about and volunteer. 
Look for one that resonates with

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what's important. 
This allows you not only to 

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contribute to your community, 
but it also provides a chance 

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for you to meet others who share
your values and interests. #4 

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could be online communities. 
You can explore platforms that 

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you know are for other people 
within your age range. 

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There are all kinds of websites 
and forums where you can connect

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with individuals that are a 
similar stage of life and have 

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similar interests to you and 
share common experiences. 

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And then you can decide, you 
know, if you want those to be 

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local networks you get involved 
with, or if you find enough 

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connection, you know in that 
digital way. 

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Another thing #5, would be 
taking classes or workshops. 

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If you sign up for classes or 
workshops that interest you, it 

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could be anything. 
There are so many good to think 

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classes. 
There's art, there's cooking, 

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there's taking a fitness Class, 
A dance class, maybe a personal 

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development Class, A hypnosis 
session. 

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Something where you some kind of
an adult education where you can

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develop camaraderie 'cause 
that's what these foster. 

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They foster a sense of 
camaraderie with other people 

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who are also looking for 
opportunities to grow, learn, 

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meet and connect. 
Six is join support groups. 

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You know, a lot of people hit an
event or a situation in life 

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where you really need support. 
It could be that you've decided 

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not to drink, that you've 
decided alcohol isn't 

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constructive in your life. 
It could be that someone's died 

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in your life. 
That's very important to you. 

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It could be that you're grieving
for any number of reasons. 

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Well, during these phases it's 
really a great idea to consider 

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getting involved with a support 
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These groups offer a safe under 
and an understanding environment

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because you are immediately with
others that have gone through a 

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similar experience and are 
facing similar challenges. 

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They might not be exactly the 
same, but you're going to have a

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lot of things in common with 
people you meet in support 

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groups #7 could be try a 
professional networking meeting.

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Whether you are looking to 
restart a career or expand your 

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career, get more involved in 
your career. 

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Learn more about your career. 
There are always networking 

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opportunities within communities
where you can expand your 

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professional network by 
attending industry conferences, 

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seminars, or networking events. 
Any of these gatherings gives 

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you give you opportunities to 
meet new people in your field or

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maybe even explore a different 
career path that you didn't 

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consider. #8 could be travel or 
group tours. 

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So you might want to consider 
getting involved with a group 

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tour and sharing travel 
experiences with others that are

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also around your age and 
interested in meeting and 

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connecting. 
And travel tours don't need to 

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be expensive. 
I mean, right at the corner, you

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know where I am. 
People hop on a bus and go to, 

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you know, another city for the 
day. 

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And so it doesn't have to be a 
plane trip, it doesn't have to 

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be a cruise. 
But those could be really great 

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depending on your budget. 
And during these, go with the 

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idea that you're going to speak 
to people and connect so you can

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go to new destinations while 
meeting fellow travellers who 

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might become your new lifelong 
friends, making meaningful 

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connections, building new 
relationships. 

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It's going to take some time and
effort, but you can be open, you

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can choose to be approachable, 
you can be willing to initiate 

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conversations. 
So don't be afraid to step out 

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of your comfort zone. 
Embrace new experiences and with

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patience and persistence. 
Before you know it, you'll have 

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an opportunities to meet 
interesting individuals and 

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develop some rewarding 
relationships. 

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And when you do, please make 
sure you let me know how those 

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are going. 
I'd love to hear all about it. 

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You can find the extended 
version of this podcast in 

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written form on my website 
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You can, but again, you can 
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Besides seeing the visual and 
hearing me here, you can also 

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Disobedience again, thank you. 
I'm Diane Grisel, also known as 

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Silver Disobedience. 
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