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Hi there. 
I'm Diane Grissel and I'm also 

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known as Silver Dispedience. 
And I want to wreck a little 

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bit. 
Hi, I'm Diane Grissel and I'm 

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also known take three. 
Hi, I'm Diane Grissel. 

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Welcome to the Silver 
Dispedience Podcast. 

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Today I want to talk about our 
authority figure. 

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And what I mean by that is all 
day long at every stage of our 

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lives, from basically from 2 
years old when we start to learn

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the word no to each year we get 
older, we are making decisions. 

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And often at some point we start
to let others impact those 

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decisions for us. 
And I believe a big benefit of 

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aging or each year we live our 
lives. 

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And it's very important, you 
know that I believe these 

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awarenesses can come at 10 years
old, they can come at 15, they 

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can come at 40 or 80. 
But I believe a big benefit of 

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our years, which equate to 
aging, is that age and 

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experience tend to make us our 
own authority figures. 

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You know, and ideally, we get to
a stage in our lives when gone 

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are the days when we're 
completely vested in what 

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everybody thinks about our every
action. 

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Someday, hopefully, we become 
old and wise enough to decide 

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for ourselves what's right and 
what and that what's not right 

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in our lives. 
So we get to make those choices.

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And this is not to say we stop 
respecting the opinions of 

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others, or that we don't respect
those opinions. 

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Rather, it's more that maybe, 
you know, we can get to a point 

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where we, we make the choice to 
become better at listening to 

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those opinions of others and 
then pulling out what we think 

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might be valid and then more 
comfortably deciding what's best

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for ourselves. 
You know, like this could even 

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include, you know, I don't know 
how people talk about aging. 

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You know, I know people of every
age that are terrified of 

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getting older. 
So let's talk about that a 

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minute because it's an example. 
And hey, I am older. 

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I'm, you know, 63, so I'm a good
example of an old person, you 

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know, depending on who's making 
the judgment. 

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And, you know, people talk 
about, oh, how older is how old 

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people act. 
But with every stereotype, no 

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matter what the stereotype is, 
we have to determine our own 

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truth within the statement. 
Or might I even call it a 

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judgment, because opinions are 
often perceived as judgments 

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from another person. 
You know, let's say I know I 

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said, you know, a couple of 
times, so maybe I am getting a 

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little forgetful, but this 
doesn't mean that forgetfulness 

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is inevitable. 
Yes, we have crammed brains. 

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They're thinking about all kinds
of stuff all day long. 

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So yeah, we do forget a few 
things. 

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But older doesn't mean we're all
going to be retired or sitting 

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in rocking chairs, though some 
of us may continue to rock and 

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really like rock'n'roll, and 
others may have moved on to jazz

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or classical or something else 
we liked that we liked when we 

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were younger or liked when we 
were older. 

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There's no time and place for 
when we decide we like things or

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don't like things. 
These are all ways we let our 

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personalities come out and 
shine. 

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Just like retirement. 
I know people who are retired at

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40 and I know people that are 80
and will never retire. 

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So all these things are 
individual choices. 

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Age at any stage of our life at 
17480 does not mean we're less 

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productive. 
It doesn't mean we're 

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technologically inferior. 
Impossible to teach, you know, 

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it's we. 
We don't. 

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We don't have to be set in our 
ways, or we have it assumed 

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we're set in our ways. 
We always have the capacity to 

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change. 
We can be always working out. 

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We can work out when we're 
younger, we can work out when 

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we're older. 
Maybe the way we do it has to 

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change a little, but we can 
still do it. 

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So they're all different kinds 
of things. 

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And at every stage when we talk 
about authority figures, this 

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doesn't mean that we are unable 
to make decisions without a 

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tribunal of family opinions and 
blah blah blah. 

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That all go into how we're 
thinking about making choices. 

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And I think the reality is that 
each of us gets to individually 

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define at every year of our life
what our life that year is going

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to look like and how we're going
to look back and reflect on it. 

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And just as no two people are 
identical, our perspectives on 

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how to live life at any age 
covers an equally vast spectrum.

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And I believe that each year 
we're picking up experience. 

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And those experiences that can 
happen at any and every stage 

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are the very things that make us
more comfortable with addressing

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the challenges of life, as well 
as looking at ourselves more 

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closely and determining who is 
the real authority figure in our

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life, which is our moral 
compass. 

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We each hold this moral compass,
and we have to decide what our 

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actions are and what how those 
actions will determine the life 

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we ultimately lead. 
So of course we're all going to 

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look to other people for their 
opinions at times. 

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But we also need to know in our 
hearts that once we decide to 

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start opinion seeking, we've 
probably already made our 

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decisions. 
And what we're really looking 

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for is validation of our plans, 
which someone may or may not 

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give us. 
You know, it's up to us to 

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decide what's right and own it. 
That's the big part. 

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You can't turn around and say, 
well, I made this choice, but 

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no, you have to own it. 
So silver disobedience can 

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happen at any age. 
You could be 15, you could be 

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40, you could be 80. 
It's an attitude. 

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It's a stage of taking and 
accepting utmost responsibility 

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for our actions. 
When we no longer want others to

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make our decisions, when we 
start to make them ourselves, we

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need to own the responsibility 
for those choices. 

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So today I'll ask you Are you 
your own authority figure? 

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I look forward to any comments 
you might have about that. 

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I'm Diane Grissel. 
This is the Silver Disobedience 

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Podcast. 
Please subscribe and come see me

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more often. 
Take care. 

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Have a wonderful day.