1 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:05,480 Hi, I'm Diane Grissel. I'm the author of The Silver 2 00:00:05,480 --> 00:00:09,000 Dispedience Playbook, and I'm also known as Silver 3 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:13,560 Dispedience. And today I want to read to you 4 00:00:13,560 --> 00:00:18,240 an excerpt from my book on the difference between selfesteem 5 00:00:18,640 --> 00:00:24,880 versus selfconfidence. There's a lot of talk these days 6 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:29,500 about building selfesteem. We worry about if we've heard it 7 00:00:29,500 --> 00:00:34,380 in our kids or if our own self esteem has been damaged. 8 00:00:36,140 --> 00:00:40,260 Frankly, be more concerned about your self-confidence. 9 00:00:42,100 --> 00:00:47,540 Here's the difference. Self esteem is how positive we 10 00:00:47,540 --> 00:00:51,460 feel about ourselves or our self love. 11 00:00:53,020 --> 00:00:56,860 Self-confidence is built by our actions. 12 00:00:58,570 --> 00:01:01,850 It's built by our willingness to test our abilities to handle 13 00:01:01,850 --> 00:01:07,490 life, people, and the situations that come out us day after day 14 00:01:07,490 --> 00:01:12,050 after day, pushing forward, knowing that we cannot 15 00:01:12,050 --> 00:01:18,570 necessarily predict the outcome. self-confidence is a verb. 16 00:01:19,570 --> 00:01:24,740 It's not static like a noun. It develops from our choices and 17 00:01:24,740 --> 00:01:28,740 actions in situations involving ourselves and others. 18 00:01:30,060 --> 00:01:33,940 self-confidence is the foundation that is necessary for 19 00:01:33,940 --> 00:01:40,820 building self esteem. By our age, we've had countless 20 00:01:40,820 --> 00:01:45,100 challenges that have tested our abilities to cope, overcome, 21 00:01:45,500 --> 00:01:50,900 surmount, and thrive. If we allow ourselves to see our 22 00:01:50,900 --> 00:01:57,520 past history kindly and clearly. We had seen mountains of proof 23 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:03,120 that we've gotten stronger every year and honed immense 24 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:07,880 capabilities for navigating life's challenges that seem to 25 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:13,920 be coming at us rapidly. Self esteem follows 26 00:02:14,080 --> 00:02:17,880 self-confidence. It results from. 27 00:02:18,520 --> 00:02:20,120 That's a little tongue twister there. 28 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:27,320 It results as in self esteem and self-confidence result from 29 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:30,680 knowing that each challenge tested the strength of our 30 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:35,160 self-confidence. The more we're challenged and 31 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:39,160 able to confirm that we have the ability to handle a myriad of 32 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:42,880 experiences, self-confidence builds. 33 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:49,360 Self esteem grows when we can reflect on how we've managed all 34 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:53,630 those challenges, and then we accept the proof that we've 35 00:02:53,630 --> 00:03:00,230 passed a lot of tests. self-confidence should not be 36 00:03:00,230 --> 00:03:07,390 confused with being egotistical. Rather, it's a subtle confidence 37 00:03:07,710 --> 00:03:13,390 that grows from understanding our abilities, realizing that we 38 00:03:13,390 --> 00:03:17,950 have the potential to use our talents and improve upon them, 39 00:03:19,190 --> 00:03:25,390 and knowing we're OK either way because we'll be learning a long 40 00:03:25,390 --> 00:03:32,070 way no matter what happens, Our self-confidence and ultimately 41 00:03:32,070 --> 00:03:35,830 our self esteem. That builds on the personal 42 00:03:35,830 --> 00:03:42,710 knowledge that we've accumulated lots of experience worthy of our 43 00:03:42,870 --> 00:03:48,150 esteem. So that's what I have to say 44 00:03:48,630 --> 00:03:53,540 about the difference between self esteem and self-confidence. 45 00:03:54,380 --> 00:03:56,740 Thank you very much for joining me again. 46 00:03:57,020 --> 00:04:00,540 I'm Diane Grissel. I do these readings from my book 47 00:04:00,940 --> 00:04:03,820 that's available on Amazon, the Silver Dispedians Playbook. 48 00:04:04,220 --> 00:04:05,220 Thank you for tuning in.