Hi, I'm Diane Grissel. I'm the author of The Silver
Dispedience Playbook, and I'm also known as Silver
Dispedience. And today I want to read to you
an excerpt from my book on the difference between selfesteem
versus selfconfidence. There's a lot of talk these days
about building selfesteem. We worry about if we've heard it
in our kids or if our own self esteem has been damaged.
Frankly, be more concerned about your self-confidence.
Here's the difference. Self esteem is how positive we
feel about ourselves or our self love.
Self-confidence is built by our actions.
It's built by our willingness to test our abilities to handle
life, people, and the situations that come out us day after day
after day, pushing forward, knowing that we cannot
necessarily predict the outcome. self-confidence is a verb.
It's not static like a noun. It develops from our choices and
actions in situations involving ourselves and others.
self-confidence is the foundation that is necessary for
building self esteem. By our age, we've had countless
challenges that have tested our abilities to cope, overcome,
surmount, and thrive. If we allow ourselves to see our
past history kindly and clearly. We had seen mountains of proof
that we've gotten stronger every year and honed immense
capabilities for navigating life's challenges that seem to
be coming at us rapidly. Self esteem follows
self-confidence. It results from.
That's a little tongue twister there.
It results as in self esteem and self-confidence result from
knowing that each challenge tested the strength of our
self-confidence. The more we're challenged and
able to confirm that we have the ability to handle a myriad of
experiences, self-confidence builds.
Self esteem grows when we can reflect on how we've managed all
those challenges, and then we accept the proof that we've
passed a lot of tests. self-confidence should not be
confused with being egotistical. Rather, it's a subtle confidence
that grows from understanding our abilities, realizing that we
have the potential to use our talents and improve upon them,
and knowing we're OK either way because we'll be learning a long
way no matter what happens, Our self-confidence and ultimately
our self esteem. That builds on the personal
knowledge that we've accumulated lots of experience worthy of our
esteem. So that's what I have to say
about the difference between self esteem and self-confidence.
Thank you very much for joining me again.
I'm Diane Grissel. I do these readings from my book
that's available on Amazon, the Silver Dispedians Playbook.
Thank you for tuning in.