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As far as announcements, I don't
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check the classroom. 
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anything two weeks from now, the
National Youth Convention for 

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those who are going, there will 
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Anything going on here that 
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of Thanksgiving, there won't be 
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All right, so to spend time with
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at NYC will be in church. 
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live, I'm sure there. 
So you can go to church and be a

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part of that. 
But there won't be anything 

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going on that Wednesday here at 
the church after this Wednesday.

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Just one more Wednesday with 
criteria for finding the mate 

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and and then we will be in 
connect groups in the month of 

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December. 
And so tonight, next Wednesday 

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will be the last Bible study 
session for this season, will be

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again reverting to connect 
groups in December. 

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And so they'll be information 
stuff coming forth in the 

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connect group page concerning 
those type of things. 

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We will be doing men and women 
connect groups and then teenage 

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connect groups as we did last 
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All right, so just be aware of 
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Also, I'll go on the forecast 
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Would there are calendars, by 
the way, there's calendars on 

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the bulletin board that denotes 
different things that's going 

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on. 
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The church we have this month of
November, December back there on

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the bulletin board that you can 
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yourself of what's taking place.
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supposed to be December the 6th.
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Christmas parties, right? 
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The most wonderful time of year,
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on December the 12th. 
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And then the very next day, the 
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party at 6:30 as well. 
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not going to be on the 
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It's going to be on a Sunday 
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Sunday night before Christmas, 
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That evening service will be our
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a Wednesday. 
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there. 
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one thing I'm trying to write. 
It's back there on the board. 

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You can look at it price 
yourself of that a man and stay,

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stay connected. 
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Genesis chapter 24. 
All right, appreciate everybody 

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affording my wife and I have the
opportunity to get away on the 

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anniversary trip. 
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filled in. 
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involved. 
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the five services so far, 
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listen from start to finish just
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And so I'm about 3 1/2 services 
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the Lord and the singing and 
everything that's taking place 

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around here. 
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to Bishop and the Masons and the
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those ministry teams that have 
helped and others that have 

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helped along the way. 
Genesis chapter #24 in verse 11.

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We started a couple weeks ago, 
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We got through two criteria, all
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And so we're going to delve into
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We're reading here the the 
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Genesis. 
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finding the mate for his 
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Starting verse 11. 
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he made his camels to kneel down
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water. 
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to there is this eldest servant 
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the time that women go out to 
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And he said, O Lord God of my 
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send me goodspeed this day. 
Shew me kindness into my master 

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Abraham. 
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of water, and the daughters of 
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draw water, and let it come to 
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shall say Let down by pitcher, 
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She shall say, drink. 
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also, but the same be she that 
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servant Isaac and thereby shall 
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kindness unto my master Again. 
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mate part number 2. 
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ask the Lord to help us tonight.
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setting tonight that you have to
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would Lord be of a tool of 
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Perhaps for someone that's in 
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God of a single Lord, whether 
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widower or Lord Jesus divorce or
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married before. 
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us God, not just those that are 
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have children and grandchildren.
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guide Lord tabs and footsteps. 
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So Lord Jesus that come to each 
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The lovely name of Jesus Christ 
that I pray Hallelujah and Amen 

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of the church say Amen, Amen. 
God bless you this evening. 

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You may be seated in Jesus name,
all right #2 the person with the

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incompatible spiritual appetite,
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Or continue to date them after 
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had this type of enlightenment. 
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number, verse #12 note that the 
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location. 
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Abraham's relatives, which 
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that he was to go back to his 
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the mate for his son. 
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tee. 
He has went back to the place of

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Haram. 
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the city well is where people 
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notably, it was typically women 
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well. 
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evening time. 
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time that they would come and 
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That's the reason why the 
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meeting the woman at the well 
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it's kind of a peculiar scenario
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when a women would go draw water
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And so the servant is here. 
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prescription of Abraham, but now
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the trial of how he'll know the 
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individual for, for his, his 
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And he kneels down and he's 
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All right. 
He's saying, oh Lord, my master 

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Abraham, I pray thee, send me. 
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He is praying, the servant is 
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And as a matter of fact, you can
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commentaries and people's notes 
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this is the first recorded 
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guidance. 
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detailed for specific guidance 
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think again to again, the fact 
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choosing a mate, being that if 
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was used for very detailed and 
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God, it was then used for the 
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significant other should be for 
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the right one. 
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there, some indicators that he 
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in the right individual. 
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to find the mate should be this 
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specific in your prayer. 
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specific in your prayer. 
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just part of the human fabric is
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to pray for all kinds of things,
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I mean, we'll pray for washing 
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We'll pray for the gas, you 
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could go on maybe a few more 
miles on the fumes that's in the

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tank. 
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we could do it whenever we did 
pass the last gas station. 

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You know, I've seen people pray 
about their careers, about homes

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that they're going to buy. 
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God's will the right thing. 
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their cars. 
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we're praying about health 
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up as far as issues in their 
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over and finances. 
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sometimes not even pray about 
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rest of our life with, huh? 
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should cut the grass today, 
Lord. 

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But we, you know, I'm, I'm, I'm 
not trying to minimize our 

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prayers, but I'm just saying we 
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And then we could leave that 
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God doesn't hear from us about a
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And so, you know, I think it's 
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and I say this, I understand 
there's dysfunction that 

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happens, there's broken homes 
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But from the beginning, he says 
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talking about a man finding a 
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about a bill of divorce. 
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beginning it was not so although
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there could be something that 
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allowance or permission for that
he still emphasized and under 

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score from the beginning. 
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And so that meant then that the 
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that first family that put to 
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perpetual thing till death. 
Do you part all right that that 

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that was the intention of God 
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I'm going to be involved with 
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expected that would last 
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guidance, ask for some guidance 
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And after he asked for guidance,
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He prays for guidance. 
Lord, let let me find the God of

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Abraham. 
Let me find the right individual

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for your son. 
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where he may encounter a godly 
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He's at the well where women's 
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going to draw water. 
He's at the well outside of the 

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city where Abraham said, my 
kindred and my people are that 

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are going to be faithful that 
have had this separation for 

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this many years, set apart unto 
God. 

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So he's not just he's not just 
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himself in a place where there 
is a likelihood of finding a 

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godly mate for Isaac, right? 
So here he is. 

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He's at the, I mean, folks, he's
just right at the divine 

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intersection of finding the 
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Amen. 
And so, you know, we could 

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sometimes be at home and you 
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God, I need a mate and we should
pray at home. 

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And that's fantastic. 
We need to do that. 

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But I think it's not 
impossibility for maybe Mr. so 

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and so to show up at your door 
and ring your doorbell and you 

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open. 
And it's like, this is what I 

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was praying for. 
He, he, he hears. 

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And, and listen, I folks, 
please, I don't want to be, I 

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don't want to be counting off on
people that may be in that 

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position. 
Please, I, please. 

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OK, We can have a little fun, 
right? 

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So I'm not saying that that 
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saying it, it may not happen 
that way. 

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It may not happen that so that 
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And so since that's the case, we
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ourselves in positions where a 
godly make can be found, where a

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godly make can be found. 
He goes to the well, he prays 

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for guidance. 
He goes where there may be some 

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possible prospects for Isaac and
we come to find out that he 

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finds that prospect, but he's in
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that may happen. 
And that's the reason why we 

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incurred. 
Listen, I have no problem if a 

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young person wants to go to a 
rally because there might be 

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someone at the opposite sex 
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That's probably not the only 
reason why they go, but I'm OK 

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if that's one of the reasons why
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I have no problem. 
Someone's going to NYC in a 

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couple weeks because they might 
find a maybe a mate or someone 

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there camp meeting as a result 
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So where McGee, I just don't 
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want him to go? 
Where you want to go? 

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So yeah, absolutely. 
They, they want to visit another

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Apostolic Church while they're 
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Oh yeah. 
And possibly they maybe they're 

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position themself or maybe 
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a answered prayer. 
So we, we can't, we can't just 

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stick our heads in the sands. 
We, we got to pray for guidance,

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but we also need to position 
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Right? 
Amen. 

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And so, yeah, go to the camp 
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go to whatever church function 
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be the intermingling, if you 
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believer, where maybe something 
like that could happen, 

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chemistry could take place or 
whatever, you know, may happen. 

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And so I, you know, I, I have no
problem with it. 

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I think that's important. 
I think they should, I think we 

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should encourage them to do so. 
I'd much rather them go there 

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then, then, then go to the mall 
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around town or Amen. 
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send them, if you're going to 
come to this possible place of, 

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of a church or some type of 
setting like that, you can 

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observe, notice the servant 
could observe how the women 

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interacted with the whale 
because they can see how he can 

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see how vital the whale is to 
them. 

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That place of refreshment, 
that's what the whale was for 

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their life, that place of 
refreshment for their life, how 

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vital it was to them. 
And so whenever you go to these 

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type of settings and you prayed 
for guidance and you position 

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yourself, you can even observe 
how people interact with the 

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whale. 
That's right. 

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Amen. 
Someone say Amen. 

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So he prayed for guidance as the
women came out to draw water. 

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You see that verse #13 he prays 
for guidance as they're coming 

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out to, to, to draw water from 
the well. 

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Important. 
He didn't take notice of them 

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how they looked and then start 
praying. 

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He prayed on their way out to 
the well. 

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He didn't start calculating 
their actions and then pray for 

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guidance. 
He prayed for guidance Spurs. 

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Sometimes we want to pray after 
we've taken inventory that right

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there. 
Now I start praying on that. 

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No, if you do that, if you do 
that, you might be not be open 

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to the guidance that he's really
given because you already got 

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personal. 
You already got personal 

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interest. 
See blonde, blue, you know, 

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blonde headed, blue eyed and 
whatever. 

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Because emotions are strong, 
folks. 

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Human emotions are strong. 
All throughout Scripture we see 

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human emotions so strong, it 
made people go against the will 

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of God. 
Amen. 

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So we can't necessarily always 
trust that that the heart is 

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desperately wicked. 
Who can know it? 

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Jeremiah said, Yeah, all those 
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your heart make me vomit. 
Every little every little saying

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on Facebook, you don't need to 
repost because not all of them 

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is true. 
I'm sure not all biblically 

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true. 
All of your heart. 

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I'll give you a laundry list of 
some people did that. 

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Amen. 
And so here they are. 

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He he no doubt as individuals, 
right? 

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We have our own little we have 
our own little likes or 

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dislikes. 
Or do you have your list? 

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Were you ever single and had 
your list right? 

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I'd like to be like such and 
such height, right? 

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You ever had your list of 
things, of criteria that was in 

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your head, right? 
So sometimes we got to allow God

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to massage your list. 
You know, we got to do that 

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prayer for guidance first. 
You know, he's 6 foot two. 

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I'm not talking about myself, 
but I am 62. 

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He's 6 foot 2. 
This is where, you know, I'm not

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talking about myself. 
His stomach's like a washboard 

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from the ode. 
Not me on air. 

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Blue highs got a set chin. 
I used to say, you know, his 

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phone number has seven digits. 
His annual income has 6. 

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Genesis 2414. 
I want to read it again and let 

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it come to pass. 
This is the servant brain. 

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This this is the test he's 
setting up. 

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And let it come to past in his 
prayer. 

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That the damsel to whom I shall 
say, Let down thy pitcher, I 

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pray thee that I may drink, and 
she shall say, drink, and I will

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give thy camels drink also. 
Let the saying, be she that thou

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has appointed for thy servant 
Isaac, Thereby shall I know that

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thou has she kindness unto my 
master #4. 

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Criteria is this don't 
manipulate result. 

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He's given a specific prayer 
into the Lord, specific prayer 

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into the Lord that if this is 
met and that is met, then I'll 

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know this is the one that is 
appointed and to my servant. 

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Sometimes when we do that and 
what God appoints and what we 

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appoint don't match, we start 
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We start interpreting the 
results. 

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So the servant's prayer in some 
regards is like a fleece. 

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We talk about fleece in the 
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That's like from the story of 
Gideon when he put the fleece on

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the ground, he said, Lord let it
be wet on the fleece, dry on the

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ground. 
The next time he said let it be 

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wet on the ground and dried. 
That if these certain things are

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met. 
All right, if these were met, 

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then I'll know. 
I'll know that this is the one 

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and no one of them. 
One of the things that are met 

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is something that he'll ask for.
He'll ask for a drink. 

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But the other thing that is 
meant is something that he 

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doesn't ask for. 
It's unspoken. 

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She has to be perceptible enough
to meet the need, and that is to

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water his camels. 
He doesn't say. 

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He doesn't say that he's going 
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He's expecting the appointed one
to pick up on that. 

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His camels need watering and 
she's going to offer to do that 

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in addition to what he has asked
of her. 

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If I can say it like this, he's 
looking for someone to go the 

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extra mile. 
Listen, you want somebody that 

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you're going to invite into your
forever relationship that's 

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going to be willing to go the 
extra mile because it's not all 

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honeymoon and it's not all 
kisses and it's not all, you 

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know, dinner's on Friday at some
lavish place and they're opening

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the car door for you. 
It's not them always making your

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lunch and all that stuff. 
There's sometimes it's, it can 

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be quite gross. 
I'm just saying, do you ever 

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care for a loved one whenever 
they're sick and they have no 

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control of themselves? 
You want someone that's going to

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be able to go the extra mile 
when things are messy, when 

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things don't feel so love. 
Amen. 

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You want someone going to be 
able to go the extra mouth. 

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And so this damsel is going to 
give a drink unto the camels 

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without him asking. 
And so notice his prayer. 

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Notice his prayer. 
His prayer is not focusing on 

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her appearance. 
We'll talk about this in a 

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little bit. 
Don't get me wrong, I think you 

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need to be attracted to whoever 
you're going to marry. 

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But you being attracted to them 
and me being attracted to them 

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are two different. 
What's attracted to you may not 

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be attracted to me. 
All right, but he didn't start 

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with the appearance or that she 
was wealthy or that, you know, 

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his five point list of Isaacs 
wasn't any of that. 

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So, so here's this prayer, this,
this lease, and he's asking God 

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to meet this and this his. 
His prayer is different than 

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that of Gideon's where the 
fleece is. 

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Gideon prayed his prayer with 
the fleece because he doubted 

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God. 
God already told him what he was

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going to do. 
He used his fleece because he 

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needed God to reassure himself 
that he meant what he said. 

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That's not the proper way to use
a fleece. 

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Really. 
You shouldn't have to have a 

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fleece to confirm what God said 
is true. 

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All right? 
Israel had 40 years of wondering

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because they couldn't accept God
at his word, OK. 

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And so he's using this really to
to determine a, a result to 

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determine who was appointed. 
All right, look at this. 

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I mean, this is a Sir, we have 
an advantage today. 

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It's not like he had the first 
five books of the Bible or any 

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of the Bible per SE that he's 
going to go through and read and

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glean some type of education or 
direction or had the Proverbs 

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with all of its little tidbits 
of wisdom that he could go to. 

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You don't have that. 
All right, Didn't have any of 

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that. 
All he has is just the two 

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criteria that Abraham gave him. 
But beyond that, he, he needed 

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some God help in this episode. 
Listen, I've got we got the 

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Bible today and we still need 
some God help in this episode. 

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We got just Revelation. 
We still need, we got, we got, 

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you know, Christian counselors, 
all that stuff. 

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We still need. 
Listen, we always will need God 

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help in this issue. 
If this is a covenant that 

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involves God and it does some 
people approach it as a 

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contract, but this is really a 
covenant. 

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And when it's a covenant, it's 
involving God. 

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It's going to involve him, then 
I need his say so in the matter.

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Amen. 
So I want, I want to discover 

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what God wants for me. 
I don't, I don't want to discern

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something different from what 
God wants or, or from what God 

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has revealed in his word. 
No, I want to discover what God 

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wants. 
And so my advisor voice of 

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counsel me personally, here's 
the thing for me personally, my 

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voice is silenced in anybody's 
life the moment they put down 

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this trump card. 
Here's the trump card. 

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Well, I've prayed about it. 
I've prayed about it and Phil 

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XYZ. 
And once they've prayed about it

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XYZ, who am I to say anything 
about your prayer? 

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But have you prayed with a 
conscience that is clear and 

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have prayed according to God's 
will? 

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And was the answer you heard 
from God, or was it the internal

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dwellings of your own heart and 
mind? 

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But once you prayed about it, I 
have no argument. 

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You prayed about it. 
I'm not going to discount your 

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prayer, all right? 
Although there are sometimes I 

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wish it, I could say so, but I 
know it won't do no good because

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there's sometimes I know. 
Here's a good indicator #1 If 

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what your answer a prayer was 
does not conform with what the 

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Word says, alarms. 
Alarms, right? 

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God's going to not tell you 
something different than he's 

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already told you in his room. 
They will coincide. 

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Hand in glove will not be 
something different. 

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It's not like, oh, I'm going to,
you know, amend that God. 

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God doesn't do that, Amen. 
And so the saying, you prayed 

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about it and you got your answer
with that, that's the trump 

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card, Amen. 
One thing for sure, we want to 

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check our answers against His 
word, check what we're feeling 

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against His word verse #15 going
on. 

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I need to lift up my feet and 
put them down. 

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And it came to pass before He 
had done speaking. 

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We're continuing in Genesis 24. 
Before he had done, when he 

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hadn't finished praying yet, 
that behold, Rebecca came out, 

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who was born to Bethuel, son of 
Milta, the wife of Nahor, 

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Abraham's brother, with her 
picture upon her shoulder. 

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Now we understand that the 
writer here of Genesis is 

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supplying a lot of information 
to us in this moment. 

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It's not like that was written 
all over her forehead for the 

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servant to see her ancestry, 
right? 

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All right, so there's a lot 
being supplied for us. 

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Verse #16 And the damsel was 
very fair to look upon. 

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All right. 
Isaac, a virgin. 

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Neither had any man known her, 
And she went down to the well 

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and filled her pitcher and came 
up. 

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So the servant is not quite done
praying. 

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And behold, here is Rebecca 
coming out to the well. 

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All right, this, this is one of 
the kindred of Abraham. 

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Again, the writer is supplying 
that information to us. 

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But here's criterion #5 as as we
wade into it. 

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Don't compromise character for 
comeliness. 

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I'm talking about comeliness. 
I'm talking about appearance. 

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I'm talking about beauty. 
Don't compromise character. 

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It's like, well, they have a few
little character falls, but boy,

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they're a knockout or he's 
handsome. 

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You know, I, I can deal with 
that little thing here because 

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and they float my boat. 
My ship is selling. 

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But don't compromise character 
or comeliness. 

449
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:04,880
Notice the first thing that the 
servant recognized about 

450
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:07,680
Rebecca. 
It's in verse 15, Verse 16, yes,

451
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:12,000
we hear that she was very fair, 
but in verse #15 we understand 

452
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:15,280
that he notices that she has a 
picture on her shoulder. 

453
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:21,600
She's laborious. 
She's laboring here. 

454
00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:25,160
She's going out to draw water. 
Wow, this is starting to. 

455
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:29,280
There's a possibility. 
Lord, you know, my prayer was 

456
00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:30,920
about giving me drink by camel's
drink. 

457
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:35,080
She's got a picture. 
She got a picture that's on her 

458
00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:36,800
shoulder. 
All right. 

459
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:39,800
So her intent no doubt is going 
to be the well. 

460
00:28:39,960 --> 00:28:42,200
All right. 
And so she's going to the well. 

461
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:45,520
And he doesn't, though, at that 
moment, just like, you know, 

462
00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:46,920
stop the press. 
You're the one. 

463
00:28:47,240 --> 00:28:49,040
Yeah, I need to talk to you. 
No, he doesn't. 

464
00:28:49,040 --> 00:28:52,240
He doesn't just, you know, go 
full headlong into it at that 

465
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:54,080
moment. 
He doesn't start that. 

466
00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:55,960
You're not. 
You're the one I've been looking

467
00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:58,040
for for myself. 
No, No, he doesn't say all that.

468
00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:02,160
Then it says secondary to the 
picture being on her shoulder. 

469
00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:06,760
Then he said, and she's very 
fair to look upon and scripture 

470
00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:10,440
includes and the writer includes
that she was a virgin, that she 

471
00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:15,440
was pure. 
Now, please, I said, listen, you

472
00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:18,680
want to marry someone that you 
are physically attracted to, 

473
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:22,480
right? 
That's important. 

474
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:26,920
Don't say it used to be the 
beauty is only skin deep, but 

475
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:31,120
uglies to the bone. 
Or folks, if you're not 

476
00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:35,120
attracted to it, Sister Erica, 
just let that ship sail. 

477
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:40,880
I'm telling you the truth. 
It is in the eyes of the holder.

478
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:45,080
Again, it may not be beautiful. 
You're whoever may not be 

479
00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:49,640
attractive to me, but that's OK.
That's not going to be my future

480
00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:56,200
spouse, huh? 
I married somebody that was 

481
00:29:56,360 --> 00:30:01,040
attractive to me. 
What's beautiful one? 

482
00:30:01,040 --> 00:30:06,120
Maybe not beautiful to another, 
but can I tell all of us, 

483
00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:10,480
everybody saying me that are on 
the peripheral of other people 

484
00:30:10,480 --> 00:30:14,560
trying to find their mate? 
Be careful how you criticize 

485
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:20,880
what somebody else deems as 
beautiful, because I'd hate to 

486
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:23,640
be the voice that's swaying them
away from what God has 

487
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:33,760
appointed. 
All right, cares if they're not 

488
00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:36,400
attracted, if they're attracted,
that person, Hallelujah. 

489
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:39,880
So there's this picture, right? 
It's on Rebecca's shoulder. 

490
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:42,480
So here he is. 
And we might have a possibility 

491
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:46,160
here, you know, and to look at 
the, she has a picture on her 

492
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:50,480
shoulder and hey, she kind of 
Fair, you know, she kind of a 

493
00:30:50,480 --> 00:30:53,560
hot Mama too, you know, walking 
down with that picture on her 

494
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:55,640
shoulder down to the well, I got
to admit. 

495
00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:58,240
All right. 
But that's not the only thing 

496
00:30:58,240 --> 00:30:59,800
that we're interested in here, 
right? 

497
00:30:59,960 --> 00:31:02,040
So there should be physical 
attraction, but that shouldn't 

498
00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:03,760
be the only thing that we're 
interested in. 

499
00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:08,000
Genesis 29 and verse 17, it 
tells the story of two ladies 

500
00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:12,600
that was in Jacob's life, who 
was his two wives. 

501
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:15,560
All right. 
The Bible says in Genesis 2917, 

502
00:31:15,560 --> 00:31:25,800
Leah was tender eyed, but Rachel
was beautiful and well favored. 

503
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:32,600
If I'd say like this, she Rachel
was beautiful, her appearance 

504
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:36,440
and she was well favored. 
She was kind of popular. 

505
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:39,440
She had a popularity. 
She was well favored. 

506
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:44,840
When you start looking at the 
two, Leah and Rachel, right? 

507
00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:49,240
And we know, we know that that 
Leah was the oldest and by the 

508
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:51,920
law it was the oldest that 
should get married before the 

509
00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:54,320
youngest. 
And so whenever Jacob had his 

510
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:57,040
wedding night, and here's Leah 
heavily veiled, the Bible says 

511
00:31:57,040 --> 00:31:59,040
in the morning, it was Leah, 
right? 

512
00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:02,160
He thought he was getting 
Rachel, he got Leah, Amen. 

513
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:06,000
He has children with both, all 
right, but he seemed to have a 

514
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:09,440
love and some type of 
aspiration, Amen, toward Rachel.

515
00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:12,240
However, when we look at the 
two, consider some of these 

516
00:32:12,240 --> 00:32:16,600
things Leah in scripture as you 
watch Leah's story and Rachel's 

517
00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:20,920
story. 
Leah desired Jacob's love. 

518
00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:27,280
Rachel desired what she could 
get as a result of Jacob's love.

519
00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:33,280
Give me children, give me 
children, give me children. 

520
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:39,440
Leah was very calm very soon be 
very resigned to her lot. 

521
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:44,080
Rachel, we see her a lot of 
times, irritable especially. 

522
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:45,360
She didn't get her way 
immediately. 

523
00:32:45,440 --> 00:32:47,520
In Scripture, you can look at 
the stories again. 

524
00:32:47,520 --> 00:32:49,120
I've looked at them, look at 
them again. 

525
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:54,440
Leah outlived Rachel. 
Leah was even tempered. 

526
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:59,000
Rachel had during some crisis, 
kind of flown off the handle a 

527
00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:03,080
little bit here and there. 
Leah was dependable. 

528
00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:09,440
Leah was faithful. 
And Rachel in many respects was,

529
00:33:10,160 --> 00:33:13,280
was inconsistent. 
Just didn't, you know, just 

530
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:15,880
didn't know what side Rachel he 
was going to get that day. 

531
00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:22,760
Leah and her handmaid bore twice
as many children as Rachel and 

532
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:27,440
her handmaid. 
Leah bore Judah, from which came

533
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:32,200
the Messiah. 
Leah bore Levi, from which came 

534
00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:37,520
the Old Testament priesthood. 
Leah was a giver. 

535
00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:44,160
Rachel was more so of a taker. 
Leah, when life was over, was 

536
00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:49,760
buried in the family grave. 
Rachel was entombed to where she

537
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:54,520
died. 
Jacob chose a wife and said I 

538
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:58,120
love, I love, I love Rachel. 
He chose a wife really based 

539
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:03,320
upon appearance and popularity. 
She's beautiful, she's well 

540
00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:08,440
favored, but that doesn't 
harmonize with the words of 

541
00:34:08,440 --> 00:34:13,440
Solomon whenever he wrote 
Proverbs a chapter. 

542
00:34:13,440 --> 00:34:17,120
Yes, I know that sometimes I 
think can be overrated. 

543
00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:21,040
And I say that please graciously
Proverbs 31 like a Proverbs 31 

544
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:24,199
woman. 
You know, if you're always going

545
00:34:24,199 --> 00:34:26,400
to measure yourself by the 
Proverbs 31 woman, you're going 

546
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:32,920
to feel horrible, right? 
A lot of things in Proverbs are 

547
00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:38,600
telling us what is ideal, and 
then there's reality. 

548
00:34:39,560 --> 00:34:42,560
But nonetheless, he's given us a
little tidbit of advice. 

549
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:46,239
And so in the later years of his
life, Solomon even ignored his 

550
00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:50,199
own advice, all right, that he 
gave in Scripture about taking 

551
00:34:50,199 --> 00:34:53,440
strange women and, and as a 
result, they're gods. 

552
00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:56,440
And it changed his heart. 
Women who were popular, all 

553
00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:58,720
right, That they were 
princesses, they were daughters 

554
00:34:58,720 --> 00:35:03,680
of kings and so on and so forth 
and beautiful and lavish people,

555
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:05,400
but void of character, all 
right. 

556
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:09,160
And so, but prior to his mistake
in Proverbs 31, read through 

557
00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:11,480
Proverbs 31. 
I think what's important to look

558
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:15,240
at is that it's littered with 
all type of character traits, 

559
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:19,360
character, if I say character, 
character traits. 

560
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:23,360
And a lot of the popularity that
the problems 31 woman has is 

561
00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:28,120
that which is spoken by her 
husband and her children, her 

562
00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:32,000
husband and her children. 
So we have this long lengthy 

563
00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:34,120
description. 
There's not really much said 

564
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:36,600
about her appearance. 
The Bible talks to us about how 

565
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:38,640
her clothing is strengthened 
honor. 

566
00:35:39,600 --> 00:35:42,800
But in verse 30 of Proverbs 31, 
it says this. 

567
00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:53,160
It says favor is deceitful and 
beauty is vain, but a woman that

568
00:35:53,160 --> 00:36:01,040
feareth the Lord, she shall be 
praised, Favor that popularity, 

569
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:05,120
that that that well, favoredness
that likeliness, beauty that 

570
00:36:05,120 --> 00:36:06,920
appearance. 
He says this is deceitful 

571
00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:09,280
disrespect. 
But a woman that feareth or that

572
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:14,320
is all struck by God shall be 
praised. 

573
00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:17,640
That goes both ways. 
Men or women, you need to find 

574
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:22,880
somebody that has an all, an all
for the Lord. 

575
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:29,840
ALLANAAWE an all for the Lord. 
Look at verse #17 and the 

576
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:32,200
servant, she has the picture on 
the shoulder. 

577
00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:36,400
She's going to the whale. 
And the servant ran to meet her 

578
00:36:36,720 --> 00:36:44,000
and said, Let me, I pray thee, 
drink a little water of thy 

579
00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:48,600
picture. 
And she said, Drink, my Lord, 

580
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:53,880
And she hasted and let down her 
pitcher upon her hand, and gave 

581
00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:56,680
him drink. 
And when she had done giving him

582
00:36:56,800 --> 00:37:02,400
drink, she said, Look, this is 
UN, this is unsolicited. 

583
00:37:02,840 --> 00:37:08,800
She said, I will draw water for 
thy camels also, until they have

584
00:37:08,800 --> 00:37:12,560
done drinking. 
And she hasted and emptied her 

585
00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:15,840
pitcher into the through and ran
again into the well to draw 

586
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:20,320
water, and drew for all his 
camels. 

587
00:37:20,760 --> 00:37:23,480
All right, folks, if you look 
back at verse #10 this spot, he 

588
00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:28,880
had 10 camels. 10 camels. 
So God's answer to the servant's

589
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:31,520
prayer. 
Notice it wasn't in the form of 

590
00:37:31,520 --> 00:37:34,080
a voice. 
It wasn't as though some grand 

591
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:36,320
miracle took place in order for 
him to know. 

592
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:39,920
It's not as though heavens 
opened up or some visible Angel 

593
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:41,720
appeared. 
Except, you know, of course, 

594
00:37:41,720 --> 00:37:46,160
Rebecca, and there's no great 
spiritual demonstration or sign,

595
00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:48,000
you know, flashing through the 
sky. 

596
00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:51,560
There's just a practical 
illustration of someone who's 

597
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:54,760
willing again to go the extra 
mile. 

598
00:37:55,440 --> 00:37:59,840
She went to the well, right? 
And wells in those days were, 

599
00:37:59,960 --> 00:38:04,080
were typically not just even the
drawstring, you know, of a rope 

600
00:38:04,080 --> 00:38:06,280
and a bucket type thing that you
might see in your mind. 

601
00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:10,600
Wells many times had steps that 
led down to where the water was 

602
00:38:11,200 --> 00:38:14,680
and so she she takes these this 
descent down to where the water 

603
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:18,520
was and she comes back out with 
this pitcher full of water. 

604
00:38:18,720 --> 00:38:22,280
He meets her. 
He asked the question she 

605
00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:24,240
hastens. 
It's important in scripture that

606
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:27,760
we see that she hastens and she 
tips it down for him to drink. 

607
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:31,600
He asked for a little water and 
she's like saying drink anything

608
00:38:31,600 --> 00:38:34,520
that I ever read concerning this
is as though he asked for a 

609
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:37,680
little and she's like ready to 
give him beyond what he asked 

610
00:38:37,960 --> 00:38:39,880
right. 
She's like, drink, drink as much

611
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:42,840
as you want, drink until you're 
fully satisfied. 

612
00:38:42,840 --> 00:38:44,760
And she's not hesitating to do 
this. 

613
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:50,960
She's hastening to do this. 
And then to add to it, she 

614
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:54,920
notices something that he 
doesn't even ask and says, you 

615
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:57,000
know, I notice you got 10 camels
there. 

616
00:38:57,000 --> 00:39:00,000
You've been on a journey. 
No doubt I'll water the camels 

617
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:04,920
also. 
Now it wasn't uncommon. 

618
00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:06,760
Please listen. 
It wasn't uncommon in those 

619
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:08,480
days. 
For if a traveler was coming 

620
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:10,520
through and they were at the 
wealthy appointed time when 

621
00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:15,440
women came out for them to offer
or give drink to a traveler, 

622
00:39:15,720 --> 00:39:22,720
that was not uncommon at all. 
But to water their animals, that

623
00:39:22,720 --> 00:39:29,200
wasn't customary. 
She had a sensitivity to a need 

624
00:39:29,360 --> 00:39:41,600
and agreed to meet it. 
She wasn't selfish or 

625
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:47,240
self-serving, she was other 
serving. 

626
00:39:48,360 --> 00:39:53,360
Let me tell you what will cure 
75% or more of marital problems.

627
00:39:54,200 --> 00:40:02,040
Instead of trying to get what 
you want, serve the other one. 

628
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:06,960
And if both entered the picture 
with the mindset to serve each 

629
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:10,000
other, guess what? 
What you want gets met. 

630
00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:14,520
But when you're fighting just 
over your ground of what I want,

631
00:40:14,520 --> 00:40:16,200
he's fighting over what he 
wants. 

632
00:40:16,720 --> 00:40:21,360
Nobody gets what they want or 
need. 

633
00:40:24,760 --> 00:40:27,440
And I'm not saying this now. 
I've been passive for a few 

634
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:28,560
years. 
I've had a lot of people go to 

635
00:40:28,560 --> 00:40:31,080
that office. 
I've had the place we do prepare

636
00:40:31,080 --> 00:40:32,600
and enrich. 
I've had them reach out to me to

637
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:34,840
be a facilitator because I've 
had so many people that I've 

638
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:41,000
used the program for. 
I denied them that is to be a 

639
00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:46,400
facilitator enough people that 
that would cure a lot of issues,

640
00:40:46,880 --> 00:40:49,320
right? 
I want to, I want this and I 

641
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:50,920
want to be loved. 
I want this and I want that and 

642
00:40:50,920 --> 00:40:53,120
I want this and I want that. 
We have this long list of lists.

643
00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:54,680
Well, guess what? 
The other problem person 

644
00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:56,120
probably has some of those 
things too. 

645
00:40:56,840 --> 00:41:04,240
But when you're always fighting 
for yourself, she says I notice 

646
00:41:04,240 --> 00:41:06,920
a need. 
He doesn't even have to ask 

647
00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:09,680
concerning the need. 
She meets the need. 

648
00:41:11,240 --> 00:41:13,040
You want that type of person in 
your life. 

649
00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:17,680
And I please understand, I know 
we can't read minds, all right? 

650
00:41:17,720 --> 00:41:19,880
I know sometimes we got to voice
things in our marriages. 

651
00:41:19,880 --> 00:41:22,320
I understand that totally. 
But you want people that's going

652
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:26,400
to be able to take up some 
initiative right in your 

653
00:41:26,400 --> 00:41:28,640
marriage and within your home 
and your family. 

654
00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:30,840
And so she's going to water all 
teen camels. 

655
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:34,800
At the end of the day, a camel 
may drink 25 to 30 gallons of 

656
00:41:34,800 --> 00:41:36,040
water. 
At the end of the day of 

657
00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:38,440
traveling, they're going to 
drink between 25 to 30 gallons 

658
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:40,880
of water. 
The ancient jars of that day, 

659
00:41:40,880 --> 00:41:44,760
the top of the line, the ancient
jars held more, no more than 3 

660
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:47,680
gallons of water. 
First of all, 25 to 30 gallons 

661
00:41:47,680 --> 00:41:50,760
of water for 10 camels. 
You're talking about 250 to 300 

662
00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:53,880
gallons of water that possibly 
those camels needed. 

663
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:57,200
When you're speaking about the 
ancient jars at the top level 

664
00:41:57,200 --> 00:42:00,200
held no more than 3 gallons, 
You're talk, huh? 

665
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:05,560
You take 3 and put that into 300
gallons of water, you're talking

666
00:42:05,560 --> 00:42:10,520
about maybe 80 to 100 trips. 
Are you going to satisfy the 

667
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:15,680
thirst of those 10 camels? 
She's not selfish. 

668
00:42:17,360 --> 00:42:18,480
Be afraid of so she could shut 
up. 

669
00:42:18,720 --> 00:42:19,880
I'm getting water from my 
family. 

670
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:22,480
I'm going home. 
You know what I'm saying? 

671
00:42:22,760 --> 00:42:25,720
I can't you, you wasn't on my 
gender purpose today. 

672
00:42:25,880 --> 00:42:30,280
You know, meeting you out here, 
Mr. I don't mind, you know, 

673
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:32,240
giving you some drink. 
Forget about your 10 camels. 

674
00:42:32,240 --> 00:42:35,480
No, no, no. 
What she got, she is in a fact, 

675
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:42,720
in a way mirroring Christ. 
He came to be not to serve, not 

676
00:42:42,720 --> 00:42:48,000
to be served, but to serve. 
He became a ransom, the 

677
00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:53,800
scripture says for many, right? 
His whole life was a life of 

678
00:42:54,240 --> 00:42:57,480
sacrifice. 
And so we see them in Ephesians.

679
00:42:57,480 --> 00:43:00,320
We see this constant model 
reminder of Christ and His 

680
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:04,920
church. 
So there is not a self-serving 

681
00:43:04,920 --> 00:43:07,920
mentality, but there is a 
serving the other Christ, 

682
00:43:07,920 --> 00:43:12,320
serving his bride. 
Everybody doing OK. 

683
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:15,200
It's feeling thick in here and I
just got back. 

684
00:43:18,040 --> 00:43:23,520
Amen. 
So she made the offer, She made 

685
00:43:23,520 --> 00:43:25,800
the offer. 
And when she makes the offer, 

686
00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:29,120
being one that draws water, 
listen, she already realizes the

687
00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:33,560
sacrifice. 
She signed up to you hearing me.

688
00:43:34,320 --> 00:43:36,560
She's she's not ignorant. 
She knows about camels. 

689
00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:39,280
She this is the day for all that
livestock, camels drawing what 

690
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:42,360
she knows all about. 
So when she offered she she 

691
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:44,800
signed up for the sacrifice. 
She knew that was going to take 

692
00:43:46,680 --> 00:43:51,320
honey, Oh God help me whenever I
stood up there and I said I do 

693
00:43:51,520 --> 00:43:54,280
folks, it is a lot of people 
prepare for wedding and don't 

694
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:57,560
prepare for the marriage, right.
We spend dollars and we spend 

695
00:43:57,560 --> 00:44:00,440
time and we have rehearsal. 
We have rehearsal for We need to

696
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:03,520
have marriage rehearsals rather 
than wedding rehearsals. 

697
00:44:09,360 --> 00:44:11,400
Huh. 
Because when we stand up here, 

698
00:44:11,560 --> 00:44:13,800
you want to know whenever you 
sign that marriage certificate, 

699
00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:17,400
you want to know that the 
sacrifice that you're signing up

700
00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:24,880
for that do his part and 
sickness and health, all those 

701
00:44:24,880 --> 00:44:28,240
are more than just flowery words
of some traditional vows. 

702
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:32,160
That's real life. 
It's real life. 

703
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:43,960
So character for for her 
character is a vital part of 

704
00:44:43,960 --> 00:44:49,280
becoming the missus Isaac, 
right? 

705
00:44:49,760 --> 00:45:00,880
Character is number six. 
We got a, we're doing OK, but #6

706
00:45:02,720 --> 00:45:06,760
this is one of my favourites 
just because of the way that I 

707
00:45:06,760 --> 00:45:11,120
felt the word it 12 years ago. 
Players are for games, not 

708
00:45:11,120 --> 00:45:16,480
relationships. 
Players are for games, not 

709
00:45:16,840 --> 00:45:24,640
relationships. 
So after seeing her come out 

710
00:45:24,640 --> 00:45:29,760
with a picture on her shoulder, 
that servant promptly ran to 

711
00:45:29,800 --> 00:45:36,480
meet her. 
He ran to meet her. 

712
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:41,440
He didn't. 
He didn't start to touch all the

713
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:45,400
emotional sides of her and lead 
her on. 

714
00:45:50,240 --> 00:45:54,720
He didn't lead her. 
Yeah, I'm kind of, you know, he 

715
00:45:54,720 --> 00:45:58,000
did start. 
He didn't do all the suave male 

716
00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:01,960
stuff that sometimes male do. 
And they mess with the emotions 

717
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:05,640
of a female knowing they're not 
going to commit to her. 

718
00:46:09,120 --> 00:46:13,800
Can I say that again? 
Males hear me online wherever. 

719
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:18,000
Stop playing with the emotions 
of females just because you know

720
00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:24,520
you can lead them in two 
directions you think are 

721
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:28,040
promising that you know are 
never going to go there, but you

722
00:46:28,040 --> 00:46:43,160
just need the attention. 
Because people play stupid 

723
00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:45,440
games. 
They're stupid relationship 

724
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:47,560
games. 
Honey, I'm thirsty. 

725
00:46:50,640 --> 00:46:52,720
She's like, well, you look like 
a tall glass of water to me. 

726
00:46:57,040 --> 00:47:02,120
She offers to supply the drink. 
And then these are the types of 

727
00:47:02,240 --> 00:47:05,520
games that are played today. 
I don't need it. 

728
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:10,840
I'm just telling you, I know 
that seems very archaic, but 

729
00:47:10,840 --> 00:47:12,360
those are the games that people 
are playing. 

730
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:16,560
Guys are leading ladies on 
emotionally to a place and then 

731
00:47:16,560 --> 00:47:21,800
they're like other other fish to
catch other places to go. 

732
00:47:22,040 --> 00:47:26,040
They leave them very intently, 
vivaciously with emotions and 

733
00:47:26,040 --> 00:47:31,640
then just drop them till they 
can go prey on another lady. 

734
00:47:33,120 --> 00:47:35,320
And again, what they really have
issues with, they need 

735
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:39,000
attention. 
They have a problem. 

736
00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:44,320
Oh God. 
I don't know if their mom and 

737
00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:47,080
dad didn't, you know, coddle 
them or nurse them or whatever, 

738
00:47:47,080 --> 00:47:49,080
but they, they're just needing 
some attention. 

739
00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:51,840
And so they're going to find it 
from any available female that 

740
00:47:51,840 --> 00:47:56,520
will fall into their, you know, 
savvy words and attention that 

741
00:47:56,520 --> 00:48:00,320
they give. 
And then women on the other 

742
00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:03,960
hand, they know just how to do 
the right touch, right. 

743
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:07,320
Women, most are driven by 
emotion, but men, they like that

744
00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:10,440
touch. 
Hand on the shoulder and the 

745
00:48:10,440 --> 00:48:14,320
hand on the knee. 
God forbid you move it to the 

746
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:25,320
thigh on the inside, leave them 
just far enough and long enough 

747
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:29,280
to then, you know, you then put 
up the stop sign like, Oh no no,

748
00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:31,640
no no. 
And so you start playing with 

749
00:48:31,640 --> 00:48:36,200
the raging hormones, a physical 
touch of a man. 

750
00:48:40,560 --> 00:48:43,480
Players are for games, not for 
relationships. 

751
00:48:46,720 --> 00:48:50,640
It's hard to get games, folks. 
We're not teenagers. 

752
00:48:51,360 --> 00:48:53,560
If you are teenagers, stop doing
that garbage. 

753
00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:59,680
Well, you know no means yes and 
yes means means no. 

754
00:49:00,880 --> 00:49:05,600
What is that scripture says That
you're yay be yay and your Navy 

755
00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:12,080
nay, Huh. 
You got to be careful. 

756
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:18,680
The Song the Solomon about the 
Shulamite, the beloved, you know

757
00:49:18,680 --> 00:49:22,720
what her cry was three different
times in the Song of Solomon? 

758
00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:27,400
She says stir not up nor awaken 
my love. 

759
00:49:28,280 --> 00:49:30,400
She's not talking about because 
he's asleep. 

760
00:49:31,680 --> 00:49:35,480
She's saying if you're going to 
start in any type of emotional 

761
00:49:35,480 --> 00:49:39,600
or physical relationship with 
him, you could awaken things in 

762
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:43,120
him. 
You can awaken some things in 

763
00:49:43,120 --> 00:49:49,400
him that shouldn't be awakened 
until he's married and that goes

764
00:49:49,400 --> 00:49:51,640
both ways. 
So you're going to stir 

765
00:49:51,640 --> 00:49:53,640
something up in him and awaken 
something in him. 

766
00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:57,960
So don't stir him up. 
No, no, no. 

767
00:49:57,960 --> 00:50:00,640
So Rebecca, Rebecca wasn't 
playing any games either. 

768
00:50:01,280 --> 00:50:03,680
Rebecca, again, she's doing what
she's doing without the 

769
00:50:03,680 --> 00:50:07,960
knowledge of the Servants intent
or what his purpose is, right? 

770
00:50:08,160 --> 00:50:11,000
She wasn't put, she wasn't 
putting on, right? 

771
00:50:11,080 --> 00:50:12,960
Because that happens sometimes. 
You got to watch for it. 

772
00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:16,560
That happens. 
I want to do and be whatever you

773
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:19,920
are interested in me doing and 
being, huh? 

774
00:50:20,680 --> 00:50:22,760
Right. 
Once they figure out what your 

775
00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:26,160
type is, oh, you're the churchy 
type. 

776
00:50:26,760 --> 00:50:30,480
I can, I can, I can fly that 
plane, huh? 

777
00:50:30,840 --> 00:50:34,000
You like kids type? 
I can show attention to 

778
00:50:34,000 --> 00:50:38,800
children, you hear me? 
Right now, they become what they

779
00:50:38,800 --> 00:50:43,480
think that you are looking for, 
huh? 

780
00:50:44,800 --> 00:50:47,960
But Rebecca, she doesn't have 
any knowledge, and she's already

781
00:50:47,960 --> 00:50:51,840
doing what he's looking for. 
Without the knowledge. 

782
00:50:54,120 --> 00:50:55,760
Without the knowledge, everybody
doing all right. 

783
00:50:56,200 --> 00:51:04,120
So be careful for the facades. 
Some people just come to church 

784
00:51:04,120 --> 00:51:06,040
as long as they think they have 
a chance. 

785
00:51:06,040 --> 00:51:09,120
And then whenever the chance is 
gone, you know what usually 

786
00:51:09,120 --> 00:51:10,760
happens? 
They're not there no more. 

787
00:51:11,280 --> 00:51:12,520
It doesn't always have to say 
read McGee. 

788
00:51:12,520 --> 00:51:14,600
I know it. 
I know it doesn't always happen,

789
00:51:15,320 --> 00:51:17,200
but I'm saying why play the 
risk? 

790
00:51:23,920 --> 00:51:26,640
I know what song you like, I'll 
play it on my violin so You Can 

791
00:51:26,640 --> 00:51:31,520
Dance. 
That's just how it goes #7 I'm 

792
00:51:31,520 --> 00:51:34,720
hurrying. 
So again, players are for games,

793
00:51:34,720 --> 00:51:39,760
not for relationships. 
Listen, let's even back up a 

794
00:51:39,760 --> 00:51:41,040
little bit. 
Let me say this. 

795
00:51:42,040 --> 00:51:45,320
If the person you're dating is 
not someone you can see yourself

796
00:51:45,320 --> 00:51:47,400
marrying, you probably shouldn't
even be dating them. 

797
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:56,760
Don't just have someone to have 
someone. 

798
00:52:00,480 --> 00:52:02,640
I don't care. 
I don't care if there's other 

799
00:52:02,640 --> 00:52:05,600
people you know of whatever you 
know. 

800
00:52:05,600 --> 00:52:08,160
Well, they do, and I feel like 
I'm the only one that don't. 

801
00:52:08,320 --> 00:52:10,560
Just don't do that. 
It's going to be more healthy 

802
00:52:10,560 --> 00:52:13,760
for you and for whoever that 
other person is. 

803
00:52:15,280 --> 00:52:18,320
You can have friends, have all 
friends you want, but whenever 

804
00:52:18,320 --> 00:52:20,840
you get into that moment, you 
know, date people that you think

805
00:52:20,840 --> 00:52:27,520
that are maybe a possibility 
that someone you might marry #7 

806
00:52:28,440 --> 00:52:31,680
don't start committing until you
are well informed. 

807
00:52:32,240 --> 00:52:36,760
Oh God. 
I mean like I spent 5 minutes 

808
00:52:37,880 --> 00:52:39,160
and we're starting to look at 
wedding towel. 

809
00:52:41,000 --> 00:52:43,440
You hear what I'm saying? 
You've not even met their 

810
00:52:43,440 --> 00:52:54,320
family. 
Again, gauge how they are before

811
00:52:54,320 --> 00:52:57,120
you show any interest. 
You hear me again? 

812
00:52:57,120 --> 00:53:00,600
You see, that'll save you from 
the just acting for what you're 

813
00:53:00,600 --> 00:53:04,720
interested in. 
Gauge how they are before you 

814
00:53:04,720 --> 00:53:09,200
show any interest. 
Becca's not trying to impress 

815
00:53:09,200 --> 00:53:11,920
him. 
She was just being who she was. 

816
00:53:12,240 --> 00:53:16,600
I'll water your camels also. 
Verse #21 I'm haste this and 

817
00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:18,240
next. 
It's got to be done as we're 

818
00:53:18,240 --> 00:53:21,360
moving on. 
And the man wondering, look at 

819
00:53:21,360 --> 00:53:25,640
this servant. 
The man wondering at her held 

820
00:53:25,640 --> 00:53:31,200
his peace to whit or to know 
whether the Lord had made his 

821
00:53:31,200 --> 00:53:36,560
journey prosperous or not. 
And it came to pass as the 

822
00:53:36,560 --> 00:53:40,440
camels had done drinking. 
You know, after that 80th trip, 

823
00:53:40,440 --> 00:53:44,640
she going down to the well, I 
don't know how long that that 

824
00:53:44,640 --> 00:53:48,160
the man took a golden earring of
half a shekel way and two 

825
00:53:48,160 --> 00:53:51,200
bracelets for her hands of 10 
shekels way of gold. 

826
00:53:52,320 --> 00:53:55,160
So while she's doing all this, 
he doesn't say anything. 

827
00:53:55,600 --> 00:53:57,960
He's like, I got a guy you got 
to meet. 

828
00:53:58,000 --> 00:53:59,800
We got to, you know, we got to 
get this thing. 

829
00:54:00,480 --> 00:54:02,880
He's not saying a word, right? 
She's doing all this stuff. 

830
00:54:02,880 --> 00:54:07,280
He's not saying anything at this
point about the possible marital

831
00:54:07,280 --> 00:54:11,160
relationship, you know, to his 
master's, to his Master's son or

832
00:54:11,160 --> 00:54:12,920
any type of relationship for 
that matter. 

833
00:54:13,640 --> 00:54:15,920
For that matter. 
He doesn't even give her any 

834
00:54:15,920 --> 00:54:21,800
gifts until she fully completes 
what she said she would do. 

835
00:54:26,440 --> 00:54:32,280
He's not buying her a new 
sweater or five purses or, well,

836
00:54:32,280 --> 00:54:36,320
glory. 
I almost feel like a whip pup 

837
00:54:36,320 --> 00:54:37,800
here. 
You know, it's really him. 

838
00:54:42,160 --> 00:54:44,080
But when she's complete 
everything, that's when he comes

839
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:48,040
forth with the gifts. 
When she kept her word, doing 

840
00:54:48,040 --> 00:54:50,360
what she said she would do, 
that's when he came forth with 

841
00:54:50,400 --> 00:54:53,120
all the gifts. 
And the Bible says as she was 

842
00:54:53,120 --> 00:54:57,200
doing it, he's in awe. 
He's wondering he's that's what 

843
00:54:57,200 --> 00:55:03,320
the script says, wondering at 
her and he held his peace so you

844
00:55:03,320 --> 00:55:06,320
you can have that internal 
excitability before it comes out

845
00:55:06,320 --> 00:55:09,160
of your mouth and before it's 
displayed. 

846
00:55:09,360 --> 00:55:11,440
Sometimes we got to be like 
married with Jesus. 

847
00:55:11,440 --> 00:55:16,240
We need to hold some things in 
our heart as we venture into 

848
00:55:16,240 --> 00:55:18,440
relationships. 
Hope some of these things in 

849
00:55:18,440 --> 00:55:21,160
your heart, but notice what he's
in all of. 

850
00:55:21,240 --> 00:55:23,360
He's in all of that diligence. 
He's in all that work. 

851
00:55:23,480 --> 00:55:26,000
It's not that he's in all that 
she's very fair. 

852
00:55:26,160 --> 00:55:28,480
He's in all that. 
She's doing what she said she 

853
00:55:28,680 --> 00:55:34,400
would do, which is sacrifice for
her. 

854
00:55:34,400 --> 00:55:41,120
Genesis 24 and verse 23 and 
said, the servant, whose 

855
00:55:41,120 --> 00:55:45,840
daughter art thou? 
Tell me, I pray thee, is there 

856
00:55:45,840 --> 00:55:48,920
room in my Father's house for us
to lodge in? 

857
00:55:49,560 --> 00:55:52,880
She said to him, I am the 
daughter of Bethuel, the son of 

858
00:55:52,880 --> 00:55:58,440
Milka, which she bare unto 
Nahor. 

859
00:56:02,240 --> 00:56:05,000
You know what he's saying? 
He said I'm not even saying even

860
00:56:05,000 --> 00:56:08,040
at this point, folks, he's not 
saying anything about Isaac and 

861
00:56:08,040 --> 00:56:10,560
this possibility. 
You see that even at this point 

862
00:56:10,560 --> 00:56:14,480
he's not, I don't know, you know
what he's looking at first. 

863
00:56:14,760 --> 00:56:19,080
He's making sure that that quote
UN quote fleece and prayer he 

864
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:23,800
made to God is being met. 
If I ask her to drink, will she 

865
00:56:23,800 --> 00:56:26,480
give me to drink and will she 
also water my camels? 

866
00:56:27,000 --> 00:56:29,400
I'm waiting for the last jar of 
water to come up. 

867
00:56:31,200 --> 00:56:34,280
Some of us midway then jump too 
soon. 

868
00:56:37,760 --> 00:56:41,720
So I'm waiting for the last 
gallon to be brought, last three

869
00:56:41,720 --> 00:56:43,080
gallons. 
I'm waiting for that to be 

870
00:56:43,080 --> 00:56:47,280
brought to see if the fleece, if
the prayer has been answered. 

871
00:56:48,640 --> 00:56:52,800
Why? 
Well #1 He's also waiting 

872
00:56:53,040 --> 00:56:54,320
because he's asked her whose 
daughter. 

873
00:56:54,440 --> 00:57:00,160
He's verifying her ancestry. 
Because Abraham said, let it be 

874
00:57:00,160 --> 00:57:03,200
of my Canon kindred, let it be 
of my people. 

875
00:57:03,280 --> 00:57:09,000
He's verifying her ancestry. 
Is she truly related to Abraham?

876
00:57:09,280 --> 00:57:12,680
I know I'm a no whore. 
I know I'm in the vicinity of 

877
00:57:12,680 --> 00:57:16,680
where the the family lives and 
where they interact and such. 

878
00:57:16,680 --> 00:57:19,880
And I know this girl seems to 
have some respectable traits. 

879
00:57:19,880 --> 00:57:23,240
Someone hear me right now I know
this girl has some respectable 

880
00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:26,520
traits about her, but is she of 
our people? 

881
00:57:31,400 --> 00:57:33,960
Just having respectable traits 
is not enough. 

882
00:57:34,600 --> 00:57:40,880
We go back to criteria #1 don't 
marry and day the unbeliever. 

883
00:57:42,200 --> 00:57:45,000
We go back to criteria number. 
Oh, but they're a good person. 

884
00:57:45,320 --> 00:57:49,040
Cornelius was too, but he still 
needed the Spirit of God. 

885
00:57:54,040 --> 00:57:57,280
Just good trait, good moral, 
good personality, good looks 

886
00:57:57,720 --> 00:58:02,000
good, good work ethic. 
We put all the goods out there, 

887
00:58:02,720 --> 00:58:05,280
right? 
But there's one that's primary. 

888
00:58:06,280 --> 00:58:13,640
Is she a part of the family? 
Is she part of the family #2 

889
00:58:14,080 --> 00:58:17,320
look, what do you ask could win 
lodge? 

890
00:58:17,800 --> 00:58:20,800
Does Does your family have room 
for us to lodge there tonight? 

891
00:58:21,400 --> 00:58:23,600
You know what? 
You know what the the servant is

892
00:58:23,600 --> 00:58:25,960
saying. 
I'd like to meet this lady's 

893
00:58:25,960 --> 00:58:30,440
family. 
I'd like to meet this lady's 

894
00:58:30,440 --> 00:58:35,240
family. 
The old adage, whatever it's 

895
00:58:35,240 --> 00:58:38,960
called, is true. 
You don't just marry Missus or 

896
00:58:38,960 --> 00:58:44,880
Mr. so and so, you marry Mr. or 
Missus so and So's family. 

897
00:58:51,440 --> 00:58:53,400
It might be good to go over for 
a meal. 

898
00:58:54,400 --> 00:58:58,360
I just had a restaurant. 
But at the house, people don't 

899
00:58:58,360 --> 00:59:01,120
always act the same out as they 
do at their own house. 

900
00:59:03,720 --> 00:59:12,000
Well, glory, yeah, I know you 
love so and so, and I know 

901
00:59:12,040 --> 00:59:16,360
they're ticking all the boxes, 
but but what about the family? 

902
00:59:16,360 --> 00:59:20,960
I don't say Amen. 
Song of Solomon, chapter #1 

903
00:59:20,960 --> 00:59:24,840
verse six. 
He says look not upon me. 

904
00:59:25,040 --> 00:59:27,520
This is the Shulamite. 
Look not upon me because I am 

905
00:59:27,520 --> 00:59:31,000
black, because the sun hath 
looked upon me. 

906
00:59:32,240 --> 00:59:35,240
My mother's children were angry 
with me. 

907
00:59:36,400 --> 00:59:38,720
They made me the keeper of the 
vineyards. 

908
00:59:38,920 --> 00:59:42,000
But my own vineyard have I not 
kept? 

909
00:59:42,360 --> 00:59:44,320
She might have said, I've been 
out here in the vineyard, 

910
00:59:44,320 --> 00:59:47,640
working in the vineyard. 
I am darkened by the sun because

911
00:59:47,640 --> 00:59:51,120
I've been laboring. 
Not just not just not my own, 

912
00:59:51,120 --> 00:59:53,600
you know, I bet others. 
I've been kind of shipped out 

913
00:59:53,600 --> 00:59:55,240
here and there. 
That's been hard for me to keep 

914
00:59:55,240 --> 00:59:58,800
my own vineyard. 
And so Solomon, he spies her 

915
00:59:58,800 --> 01:00:01,600
there in a vineyard. 
And so then she starts. 

916
01:00:01,760 --> 01:00:04,240
She starts. 
Sharing with him some of her own

917
01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:07,200
insecurities. 
Don't look up on me because I, 

918
01:00:07,240 --> 01:00:09,560
she has some. 
Don't look up on me because I am

919
01:00:09,560 --> 01:00:10,920
black. 
All right? 

920
01:00:10,920 --> 01:00:13,480
She's talking about her swarthy 
skin, you know, from being out 

921
01:00:13,480 --> 01:00:17,480
there, you know, she's looking, 
she's looking internally and she

922
01:00:17,480 --> 01:00:23,720
has, she feels, though she has 
some flaws #1 Folks, let's get 

923
01:00:23,720 --> 01:00:27,000
real. 
You need to get real and find 

924
01:00:27,160 --> 01:00:31,240
really about this person you're 
going to marry because whenever 

925
01:00:31,240 --> 01:00:33,760
you get married, all of those 
insecurities that they have, 

926
01:00:34,120 --> 01:00:38,480
you're going to have to offset. 
You're going to have to help 

927
01:00:38,480 --> 01:00:45,600
prop up, encourage, validate. 
Are you here? 

928
01:00:46,040 --> 01:00:47,920
Am I just speaking into the wind
tonight? 

929
01:00:48,160 --> 01:00:51,240
This is all true stuff. 
Whatever they got going on in 

930
01:00:51,240 --> 01:00:53,400
their life now becomes a part of
your life. 

931
01:00:53,600 --> 01:00:57,000
Their debt becomes your debt. 
Is anybody here what I'm saying 

932
01:00:57,000 --> 01:00:59,160
right now? 
All of their emotional trauma 

933
01:00:59,160 --> 01:01:01,120
and baggage that becomes a part 
of yours. 

934
01:01:01,280 --> 01:01:04,480
And so are is does your love go 
to the distance that you're 

935
01:01:04,480 --> 01:01:08,320
going to be able to help and 
offset and support? 

936
01:01:14,640 --> 01:01:17,720
And she says, my mother, she 
says my mother's children were 

937
01:01:17,720 --> 01:01:19,840
angry at me. 
So we got some dysfunction in 

938
01:01:19,840 --> 01:01:24,280
the family. 
She's the one that's being sold 

939
01:01:24,280 --> 01:01:26,800
out to these other vineyards. 
Why is she the one and not any 

940
01:01:26,800 --> 01:01:29,640
of the other children? 
And why are her mother's 

941
01:01:29,640 --> 01:01:31,800
children angry with her? 
And if it's her mother's 

942
01:01:31,800 --> 01:01:33,640
children, is she saying she have
a step dad? 

943
01:01:35,160 --> 01:01:38,720
What's going on in all of this? 
You need to know what the family

944
01:01:38,720 --> 01:01:45,120
dynamic. 
Are you saying it's impossible 

945
01:01:45,120 --> 01:01:47,960
then for that? 
No, it can work, but you need to

946
01:01:47,960 --> 01:01:49,760
start asking yourself the 
question. 

947
01:01:53,080 --> 01:01:58,480
You don't need to get halfway 
through year #2 how did it sign 

948
01:01:58,480 --> 01:02:01,800
up for this? 
Well, did you know about it? 

949
01:02:06,840 --> 01:02:11,760
Oh God. 
Solomon, though, loves the 

950
01:02:11,760 --> 01:02:14,640
Shulamite in spite of all those 
things he learns. 

951
01:02:14,960 --> 01:02:17,600
Her own insecurities. 
They own dysfunction her family.

952
01:02:18,320 --> 01:02:20,040
And you know what he eventually 
does? 

953
01:02:20,280 --> 01:02:23,440
He commits to her. 
But he doesn't commit to her off

954
01:02:23,440 --> 01:02:26,960
surface knowledge. 
He commits to her after being 

955
01:02:26,960 --> 01:02:32,680
well informed. 
Commitment after being well 

956
01:02:32,680 --> 01:02:36,920
informed. 
Hold your tongue until you're 

957
01:02:36,920 --> 01:02:40,400
well informed. 
We loosely use the word love. 

958
01:02:41,240 --> 01:02:43,480
People love cars. 
People love how the lawn mower 

959
01:02:43,480 --> 01:02:45,720
cuts their grass. 
People loves a beverage. 

960
01:02:45,720 --> 01:02:48,880
People loves everything so much 
so that love is cheapened. 

961
01:02:49,160 --> 01:02:51,960
Love is what you feel. 
Listen, if love is a feeling, 

962
01:02:52,080 --> 01:02:54,360
you'll be in and out of 
relationships every day of the 

963
01:02:54,360 --> 01:02:56,400
week. 
Love is not a feeling. 

964
01:02:56,400 --> 01:03:02,040
Love is more so a choice. 
I think it is. 

965
01:03:02,120 --> 01:03:04,440
I think it's even Isaac. 
If you read later in the story, 

966
01:03:04,440 --> 01:03:07,960
maybe we'll get to it, that they
bring that that spouse and that 

967
01:03:07,960 --> 01:03:11,040
that that possible eligible 
person to him. 

968
01:03:11,200 --> 01:03:13,280
And the Bible says Isaac loved 
her. 

969
01:03:13,280 --> 01:03:18,200
He hadn't spent Isaac loved her.
What was that a choice? 

970
01:03:18,200 --> 01:03:26,160
We got to close it down, got to 
do something next week. 

971
01:03:26,760 --> 01:03:33,320
And we've been here long enough.
I'm sure someone's thinking he's

972
01:03:33,320 --> 01:03:35,440
well informed about some of her 
personal insecurities. 

973
01:03:35,440 --> 01:03:38,920
He's well informed about some of
the family dynamics and he's 

974
01:03:38,920 --> 01:03:42,800
going to it's going to be his 
beloved and that's OK. 

975
01:03:44,000 --> 01:03:47,080
But there's there's a lot of 
that that you want to know 

976
01:03:47,080 --> 01:03:53,320
upfront or should Love sometimes
is blind. 

977
01:03:54,960 --> 01:03:56,520
You don't pay attention to 
everything. 

978
01:03:57,880 --> 01:03:59,880
Love does this. 
You look at all the positive 

979
01:03:59,880 --> 01:04:02,680
qualities of that individual. 
You don't see the negative, you 

980
01:04:02,680 --> 01:04:04,680
don't see the pitfalls. 
You're looking all the good 

981
01:04:04,680 --> 01:04:06,800
stuff. 
And then when you get married, 

982
01:04:06,800 --> 01:04:08,720
guess what? 
Somewhere along the line of 

983
01:04:08,720 --> 01:04:11,200
shift starts happening. 
You start noticing the pitfalls.

984
01:04:11,880 --> 01:04:14,840
And then that drives the wedge 
between you and the other person

985
01:04:14,840 --> 01:04:17,440
because now that's all you see. 
Before you got married, all you 

986
01:04:17,440 --> 01:04:19,760
saw was the positive. 
After you got married, all you 

987
01:04:19,760 --> 01:04:22,800
see is the pitfalls. 
But you need balance. 

988
01:04:24,120 --> 01:04:26,240
You know what I often, what we 
often do with couples that come 

989
01:04:26,240 --> 01:04:28,960
in and they come into our office
and their marriage is in the 

990
01:04:28,960 --> 01:04:31,800
ruckus and deranged. 
We have counseling sessions and 

991
01:04:31,800 --> 01:04:33,400
stuff. 
Some of the first things I do at

992
01:04:33,400 --> 01:04:35,720
the beginning of every 
counseling session will be this.

993
01:04:36,040 --> 01:04:37,640
I'll ask them some questions 
like this. 

994
01:04:38,200 --> 01:04:40,560
Tell me about how you all first 
met. 

995
01:04:41,240 --> 01:04:45,880
What are you doing, Pastor? 
I'm wanting them to relive that 

996
01:04:45,880 --> 01:04:51,960
positive good scenario of when 
they first met and what they 

997
01:04:52,120 --> 01:04:56,160
felt because they're so 
concentrated on the negativity, 

998
01:04:56,400 --> 01:04:58,560
they forgot about those good 
things. 

999
01:04:58,760 --> 01:05:01,560
And so I almost start every 
counseling session with some 

1000
01:05:01,560 --> 01:05:04,400
type of question that's going to
dredge up some of the best 

1001
01:05:04,400 --> 01:05:08,800
memories that they've had with 
that other person because it's 

1002
01:05:08,800 --> 01:05:15,080
gotten forgotten. 
Don't come sitting on my couch. 

1003
01:05:15,720 --> 01:05:17,720
Come before you get buried and 
sit on my couch. 

1004
01:05:17,720 --> 01:05:23,920
All right, there's hope. 
I hope for every one of us. 

1005
01:05:24,280 --> 01:05:27,640
But I think it's important to 
follow a biblical guideline, 

1006
01:05:28,280 --> 01:05:32,320
right? 
A biblical guideline and say, 

1007
01:05:32,320 --> 01:05:33,760
well, bring them again. 
I didn't do that the first time.

1008
01:05:33,760 --> 01:05:36,120
Well, if this is the second 
time, third, whatever it is, 

1009
01:05:36,640 --> 01:05:40,800
start now. 
Follow the biblical guideline. 

1010
01:05:41,600 --> 01:05:46,000
It will not erase all risk 
because if you just take two 

1011
01:05:46,000 --> 01:05:49,560
individual lives at whatever age
and try to melt them together, 

1012
01:05:50,320 --> 01:05:55,000
folks, there's just stuff that 
will have to be worked through 

1013
01:05:55,480 --> 01:05:58,520
being the best. 
The people have never had XYZ 

1014
01:05:58,560 --> 01:05:59,960
trauma or whatever in their 
life. 

1015
01:06:00,400 --> 01:06:04,520
There's still going to be stuff.
But maybe you can lower the bar 

1016
01:06:04,520 --> 01:06:10,120
a little bit, right? 
Swear it won't be as chaotic AS2

1017
01:06:10,120 --> 01:06:12,440
rushing rivers coming together 
in a tornadic activity. 

1018
01:06:12,440 --> 01:06:16,880
You know, criteria finding the 
mate we got. 

1019
01:06:17,080 --> 01:06:20,160
I don't know what we got to is 
that #8 I'm not sure, Huh? 

1020
01:06:20,160 --> 01:06:22,480
We only got to seven. 
Are you serious? 

1021
01:06:22,680 --> 01:06:26,400
OK, well, I think we got 8 
through then 13 next week. 

1022
01:06:26,960 --> 01:06:31,160
All right, let's pray right now.
Father, I love you, God. 

1023
01:06:31,160 --> 01:06:32,800
I thank you, Lord, that you care
enough. 

1024
01:06:33,240 --> 01:06:37,040
You care enough for humanity. 
You care enough, Lord Jesus, for

1025
01:06:37,040 --> 01:06:41,280
you people, God, that you supply
things in your word in a lot of 

1026
01:06:41,280 --> 01:06:45,000
different areas of our lives, 
God to help us, the Lord Jesus 

1027
01:06:45,000 --> 01:06:49,000
start out, Lord, on a better 
footing and a better standing 

1028
01:06:49,000 --> 01:06:51,520
God perhaps than what we would 
have without it. 

1029
01:06:51,800 --> 01:06:53,160
God. 
I'm thankful Lord, for you being

1030
01:06:53,160 --> 01:06:57,120
mindful of us in that way and 
supplying this Lord Jesus, those

1031
01:06:57,120 --> 01:06:59,960
things help me God to 
internalize them. 

1032
01:07:00,320 --> 01:07:02,560
I pray, O God, today I need your
help. 

1033
01:07:02,920 --> 01:07:07,200
I need your help, Lord, in that 
area of my life, God, before, 

1034
01:07:07,200 --> 01:07:11,040
during and after, Lord Jesus, a 
relationship is starting, has 

1035
01:07:11,040 --> 01:07:13,640
went, Lord, to a marriage. 
I need your help, Lord, all 

1036
01:07:13,640 --> 01:07:16,600
along the way. 
God be that third coward, Lord 

1037
01:07:16,600 --> 01:07:18,640
that is not quickly broken in 
our lives. 

1038
01:07:18,880 --> 01:07:21,840
God, we give you glory, we give 
you praise, and we honor you 

1039
01:07:21,840 --> 01:07:25,280
tonight in the lovely name of 
Jesus Christ that I pray. 

1040
01:07:25,840 --> 01:07:28,120
Amen and Amen of the church say 
Amen. 

1041
01:07:29,720 --> 01:07:32,920
Hallelujah. 
Next Wednesday, we'll do it, 

1042
01:07:33,160 --> 01:07:34,880
we'll do it, we'll finish it. 
Yay, raw. 

1043
01:07:34,880 --> 01:07:38,160
All right, Wednesday after that,
no service here. 

1044
01:07:38,160 --> 01:07:41,520
Thanksgiving week, NYC week, 
then we'll be the Connect groups

1045
01:07:41,520 --> 01:07:44,800
the first Wednesday in December.
Amen. 

1046
01:07:44,880 --> 01:07:47,480
God bless you all. 
We'll be here on Sunday, right 

1047
01:07:47,680 --> 01:07:48,280
to service.