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Welcome to episode 51 up. 
Girl Take the Lead were each 

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week. 
We explore Womanhood and 

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Leadership, woohoo. 
It's our first episode for 2023.

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And we are so excited to have 
you here. 

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Every year. 
We see tons of ads about New 

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Year's resolutions, and a lot of
the times I'm paralyzed, it, 

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they definitely become a big. 
Should this year. 

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I was hearing more and more into
more about intentions and how 

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they were different from 
resolutions. 

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And how goals fit in, I was real
familiar with goals because 

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they're always a part of a 
marketing plan that I've ever 

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done. 
So I I thought we dig in and 

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look together at this, With a 
Little Help from Jay Shetty and 

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his book, think, like a monk 
train. 

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Your mind for peace and purpose 
every day. 

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He has a lot to say about 
intention so I'll bring that 

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research to you today. 
In this episode, you may know 

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Jay Shetty as a social media 
Superstar and hosted the podcast

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on purpose which takes aspects 
of having been a monk Two 

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practical everyday living. 
He spent four summers in India, 

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interning at corporations and 
training. 

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With the international Society 
for Krishna Consciousness, and 

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three years, living a Vedic, 
monk lifestyle, at an ashram in 

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Mumbai. 
India here you go. 

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Thanks for listening. 
So let's start by looking at the

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definitions of in tension and 
resolution Diana. 

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Rob, a psychologist. 
And author says an intention is 

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something you want to manifest 
in your life or some guiding 

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principle that you want to live.
By while resolutions are hard 

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and fast goals that are either 
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Intentions are broader ideas So 
then I started to wonder what is

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the difference between an 
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And here's what I found, a goal 
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the future. 
So then I wondered what's the 

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difference between an intention 
and a goal and I found this a 

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goal describes what you want to 
do in the future. 

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It focuses on external 
accomplishments and is something

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you can clearly check off a list
like go rock climbing or make a 

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successful pie crust and 
intention describes how you want

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to feel its focus is internal on
your relationship with yourself.

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So in my search I found this 
take interesting, resolution 

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seem to ask us to be perfect 
something we can never achieve 

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resolution seem to focus only on
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So in setting an intention you 
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enough. 
So you move forward without 

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having an attachment to the 
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It's more about the journey so 
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resolutions fail then. 
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Many people blame their failure 
to fulfill resolutions on a lack

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of time, resources or motivation
or a loss of passion after 

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starting. 
Only about 16 percent of people 

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are able to follow their 
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The majority give up within 1 to
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these resolutions are repeated 
year after year, some of the 

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resolutions bail. 
Because one We've set 

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unrealistic resolutions to we 
lack accountability 3, there's 

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no tracking or review for. 
There's a lack of planning 

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five-week have self-doubt. 
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unclear. 
So given these pitfalls after 

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looking at intentions, which we 
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Could they be more appealing to 
do for the beginning of the new 

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year? 
So, here's what I found in Jay. 

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Shetty's book in chapter 4 where
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intentions. 
So, here's a quote from that 

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book. 
In our heads, we have an image 

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of an ideal life, our 
relationships, how we spend our 

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time and work, and Leisure, what
we want to achieve Even without 

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the noise of external influences
certain goals, Captivate Us. 

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And we design our lives around, 
achieving them, because we think

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they will make us happy. 
But now we will figure out what 

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drives these Ambitions, whether 
they are likely to make us truly

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happy and whether happiness is 
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So it gives us a story about 
having come out of a class, and 

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he was strolling in the ashram 
with the senior Monk and a few 

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other students. 
And, as they walked, the senior 

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monk mentions, the achievements 
of some of the other monks, they

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pass. 
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can meditate for eight hours. 
Straight a few minutes later. 

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He gestures to another and he 
says, this one fast for seven 

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days in a row further along he 
points. 

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Do you see the man sitting under
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He can recite every verse from 
the scripture impressed. 

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Jay says, I wish I could do 
that, the monk pauses and turns 

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to him, he says, do you wish you
could do that or do you wish you

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could learn? 
Learn to do that. 

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What do you mean he asks and he 
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motivations. 
Do you want to memorize all the 

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scripture? 
Because it's an impressive 

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achievement or do you want the 
experience of having studied it?

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In the first, all you want, is 
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You are curious about what you 
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And Jay said, he says this New 
Concept for me was A New Concept

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for me and it blew my mind and 
reading this, I got to tell you,

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it blew my mind to he goes on to
talk about for motivations from 

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a hindoo philosopher and the 
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Which is being driven by 
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or fear of death. 
The second one is desire seeking

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personal gratification through 
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The third one is Duty motivated 
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the desire to do the right 
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And the last one is love 
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and the urge to help them. so, 
if we take these motivations and

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we look at them, And are honest 
to our with ourselves about what

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our motivations actually are. 
We can then look at and begin to

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question our intentions and see 
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way he suggest we do that is the
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And it takes these for 
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the roots of all intentions. 
You develop your intentions to 

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drive forward. 
So your intention is who you 

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plan to be in order to act with 
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are doing is Meaningful. 
So what I did was I took this as

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an exercise for myself so and 
you can be involved in this 

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because it has to do with the 
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I thought we would use that as 
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You know, because he says that 
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enough, we have to live our 
intentions, it needs to permeate

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our behavior and we need to 
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We need to do behind what we 
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So the why ladder you probably 
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It's asking the question. 
Why fiber six times, let's start

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with this example. 
My intention is to provide you 

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our listener, a unique podcast 
experience, where you feel 

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inspired motivated and learn 
something new about leadership 

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from different generational 
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So the first why, why is that 
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And I could say well the girl 
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because of this unique format. 
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Then I said, well, reaching more
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diverse effective leaders, 
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Generations. 
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More effective leaders can help 
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Learn to enhance their own 
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own, creativity and teamwork. 
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And I thought well maybe by 
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dimensions of leadership, we can
suffer less and Lead others with

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empathy and compassion. 
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Then it was, I'd like to help 
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than like I did in my career. 
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Because that is about me being 
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And feeling useful. 
So, if we look at those, you can

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see that. 
I'm I went back and looked at 

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the four motivations and I 
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love perhaps that's really 
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And one thing he talks about is 
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There's no like 100% good 
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always kind of gets involved in 
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percentages. 
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When you look at my intention 
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Perhaps it's you know 30% and 
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depending how we look at them, 
perhaps that percentage changes.

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So that's one way to look at it.
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our Behavior, we have to live, 
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Wishful, manifestations. 
Like I wish I could do this, or 

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I wish I were a better 
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I were in the top 1% of 
podcasters, all of that stuff 

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because you have to really be 
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And we've brought that up. 
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especially about doing Byron, 
Katie's work, he has a nice way 

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of looking at this. 
So if you take your to-do list 

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to include also, who you need to
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So here's my example, let's say 
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keep researching leadership 
topics about using our five 

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themes that we pointed out in 
the last episode, our voice 

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Observing our emotions learning 
from others developing 

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strategies to listen to 
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And so then the question is, who
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And what came up was, I need to 
be organized in order to 

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research and I need to execute 
plans so that requires 

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organization and also involves 
curiosity and passion. 

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So that's who I need to be to 
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Let's say, I also have on my 
to-do list, which I do is to 

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invite gas that challenge the 
status quo and support women as 

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Leaders. 
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do that? 
I need to be able to seek and 

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accept help from others, 
including men who championed the

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efforts of women. 
So, that was cool to see. 

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And then also on my to-do list, 
I have develop and execute a 

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Content marketing plan, So who 
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I need to suspend whatever I 
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a beginner in personal branding.
So maybe that's helpful to you. 

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I know you probably thought 
resolutions might be looking a 

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lot easier than doing 
intentions, but in order to 

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achieve those things we want to 
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work around that. 
There's another section. 

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I thought in the chapter chapter
4 again of this book that I 

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thought was really helpful and 
it's called seeds and weeds and 

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they can be summarized in this 
Tick-Tock he did one of my 

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favorite meditation practices 
that I do, which is the smallest

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and shortest part of my 
meditation is that I've refined 

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my intention, what I mean by 
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thoughts in my mind that are 
either weeds or seeds. 

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Seeds are ones that I want to 
grow seeds of things that I want

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to plant, because they're full 
of love compassion, empathy. 

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Kindness, And the weeds agreed 
negativity manipulation power 

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control. 
So here's the takeaway about 

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intentions. 
Perhaps resolutions. 

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Haven't worked because they 
haven't been realistic or they 

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weren't internally motivated. 
Perhaps they were shoulds 

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instead of wants And because 
intentions are broader in scope,

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we can do some work around them 
and use the why ladder. 

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So we better understand our 
motivations about who we need to

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be in order to reach our goals 
associated with them. 

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And that's where the real work 
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Shifting ourselves to be 
someone. 

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We need to be So to help you 
along and to enter episode 

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today, I thought it would be 
great to have a little 

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motivation from the movie mr. 
Carter, we're Team accrues 

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recites the poem by Marianne 
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Our deepest fear is not that we 
are inadequate. 

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Our deepest fear is that, we are
powerful beyond measure. 

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It is our light, not our 
darkness, that most frightens 

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us. 
Your playing small does not 

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serve the world. 
There is nothing enlightened 

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about shrinking so that other 
people won't feel insecure 

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around you. 
We were all meant to shine as 

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children, do it's not just in 
some of us, it's in everyone. 

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And as we let our own light 
shine, we unconsciously give 

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other people permission to do 
the same as we are liberated 

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from our own fear. 
Our presence automatically 

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liberates others. 
Thank you for joining us for 

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this episode. 
We hope this kicks off your new 

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year with an approach to 
intentions that might be helpful

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throughout the year. 
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Rebecca gave us in Episode 44, 
and it's all outlined there for 

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you. 
Next week, we'll talk about 

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personal branding, and a key 
component of that storytelling, 

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no matter what our generation. 
We all are a personal brand as a

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marketer for so many years. 
Executing branding was my job 

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and I can outline some of the 
components of personal branding 

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for you. 
Plus our research. 

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What others have to say on the 
topic. 

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I hope you'll join me and talk 
to you soon. 

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Oh. 
And by the way, Coming the week 

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of January 23rd. 
Our podcast will be one year 

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old. 
So stay tuned. 

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As we celebrate our birthday. 
Talk to you later. 

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Thanks for being here.